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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:23,397 --> 00:00:25,870 O God I need you too. 2 00:00:26,622 --> 00:00:29,566 I want to see your face. 3 00:00:29,997 --> 00:00:33,013 It is this love I have 4 00:00:33,434 --> 00:00:36,349 It makes me search for you. 5 00:00:38,427 --> 00:00:41,144 I need you to listen, 6 00:00:41,867 --> 00:00:44,730 I need you to answer. 7 00:00:45,513 --> 00:00:48,176 I need you to listen, 8 00:00:48,329 --> 00:00:52,255 I need you to answer. 9 00:00:53,753 --> 00:00:59,765 Do not avoid my eyes or let me anger you. 10 00:01:00,212 --> 00:01:03,265 Do not toss me aside. 11 00:01:03,666 --> 00:01:07,118 O God, do not drop me. 12 00:02:34,804 --> 00:02:37,091 Alright you two. That's enough. 13 00:02:42,177 --> 00:02:43,416 I like her. 14 00:02:43,417 --> 00:02:45,398 I think she likes you. 15 00:02:45,433 --> 00:02:46,780 What tells you that Mum? 16 00:02:49,890 --> 00:02:51,244 Here you go Mum. 17 00:02:59,245 --> 00:03:00,895 This is such a nice day. 18 00:03:00,930 --> 00:03:02,188 Who knows this? 19 00:03:02,391 --> 00:03:03,884 May those who love you, 20 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:07,230 be like the sun when it rises in its strength. 21 00:03:07,408 --> 00:03:09,528 Corinthians? Judges 5:31. 22 00:03:11,734 --> 00:03:13,681 So grandma, how old are you again? 23 00:03:13,717 --> 00:03:14,967 Never mind. 24 00:03:15,577 --> 00:03:19,742 You know you shouldn't ask for the age... 25 00:03:20,572 --> 00:03:22,142 That's very nice! 26 00:03:23,983 --> 00:03:26,400 Save some for me, will you? 27 00:03:29,110 --> 00:03:30,378 That's very nice! 28 00:03:30,413 --> 00:03:31,941 Who's that from? 29 00:03:32,243 --> 00:03:33,516 From you and Mary! 30 00:03:34,551 --> 00:03:35,803 Well correct! 31 00:03:36,111 --> 00:03:37,759 I was just testing. 32 00:03:38,633 --> 00:03:41,731 Remember Mum? We were at the mall 33 00:03:41,744 --> 00:03:43,529 and you said you liked that. 34 00:03:43,564 --> 00:03:45,958 So I went back and I got it for you. 35 00:03:45,993 --> 00:03:48,813 Nancy honey, get me my purse. 36 00:03:48,848 --> 00:03:52,622 Why am I always the one harrased to get the purse? 37 00:03:52,656 --> 00:03:55,456 Youngest Griffith girl's the purse mule. 38 00:03:55,492 --> 00:03:57,489 O Grandma. Open mine. 39 00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:00,238 Why do I have to be the purse mule? 40 00:04:00,273 --> 00:04:01,524 Ok. Fine. 41 00:04:04,770 --> 00:04:06,412 Yes, I think it suits me. 42 00:04:06,448 --> 00:04:08,076 What do you guys think? 43 00:04:08,112 --> 00:04:10,714 Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick. 44 00:04:10,749 --> 00:04:13,139 Beautiful! O Ed stop it. 45 00:04:13,169 --> 00:04:14,864 Why? What's wrong Mum? 46 00:04:14,933 --> 00:04:16,268 It's disgusting. 47 00:04:16,467 --> 00:04:21,067 If you ask me, queers should all be lined up and shot. 48 00:04:21,491 --> 00:04:23,836 Didn't you say that last year about the Giants? 49 00:04:23,872 --> 00:04:25,122 What did you say? 50 00:04:26,549 --> 00:04:27,799 Never mind. 51 00:04:28,193 --> 00:04:29,444 What is this? 52 00:04:30,859 --> 00:04:34,571 It's a journal. Like a diary. I don't need any more stuff. 53 00:04:38,738 --> 00:04:39,989 Mum!! 54 00:04:40,407 --> 00:04:41,964 - What? - I'll go. 55 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,542 It's a good thing we didn't get you the pen. 56 00:04:44,578 --> 00:04:46,302 You can't take it personal. 57 00:04:46,764 --> 00:04:47,906 It's grandma. 58 00:04:47,907 --> 00:04:51,514 You know the rules. Sh'es mean sometimes. Then we get a free pass to make fun of her. 59 00:04:51,550 --> 00:04:53,344 Bobby, she picks at me. 60 00:04:53,909 --> 00:04:56,628 Nobody ever picks on you. You're the favorite. 61 00:04:58,738 --> 00:05:00,679 So what's it like to be perfect? 62 00:05:01,244 --> 00:05:02,495 I'm perfect? 63 00:05:02,937 --> 00:05:04,377 You think I'm perfect? 64 00:05:04,413 --> 00:05:09,621 Have you looked in a mirror lately? You're Charlie's next angel, ok? 65 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:11,867 Can I have it? 66 00:05:12,934 --> 00:05:15,309 You don't want it. Well, I'm taking it. 67 00:05:15,310 --> 00:05:17,043 I'm gonna fill this up in a week. 68 00:05:18,818 --> 00:05:23,175 Come on. Let's go celebrate grandmas' 39-39 birthday. 69 00:05:33,832 --> 00:05:35,244 I am ready. 70 00:05:36,077 --> 00:05:37,328 What? 71 00:05:37,555 --> 00:05:39,021 I wanna go further. 72 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:44,613 Is... Is something wrong? I thought you'd want to... 73 00:05:45,237 --> 00:05:48,452 Here? I mean, this isn't really what I had in mind. 74 00:05:48,486 --> 00:05:49,977 It doesn't have to be here. 75 00:05:51,833 --> 00:05:53,604 I should go. I have to get up early tomorrow. 76 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:54,893 Is something wrong? 77 00:05:55,601 --> 00:05:57,511 I don't think this is gonna work. 78 00:05:57,546 --> 00:05:59,279 I think we should break up. 79 00:06:00,337 --> 00:06:04,612 I thought you liked me... I came to meet your family. 80 00:06:04,941 --> 00:06:06,992 I just don't want to get that serious. 81 00:06:07,246 --> 00:06:09,532 Well, it doesn't have to be serious, ok? 82 00:06:10,716 --> 00:06:12,171 It's not you, it's me. 83 00:06:12,913 --> 00:06:14,165 I'm sorry. 84 00:06:52,130 --> 00:06:54,242 Hey. You wanna watch with me? 85 00:06:54,899 --> 00:06:56,814 I'm tired. Oh come on! 86 00:06:56,815 --> 00:06:59,940 Who else can I get to watch an old black and white movie? 87 00:06:59,975 --> 00:07:03,890 You know if it's not John Wayne, your dad's not interested. 88 00:07:03,925 --> 00:07:05,348 It's really scary. 89 00:07:08,491 --> 00:07:11,097 You know this scene's famous? Really? 90 00:07:11,098 --> 00:07:13,599 You know they got that glass of milk to glow? 91 00:07:13,635 --> 00:07:14,506 How? 92 00:07:14,507 --> 00:07:16,604 Well Hitchcock put a lightbulb inside 93 00:07:16,618 --> 00:07:19,428 the glass so the audience would know the milk was poisonous. 94 00:07:19,453 --> 00:07:20,702 No kidding. 95 00:07:20,962 --> 00:07:22,213 That's clever. 96 00:07:22,805 --> 00:07:24,289 How do you know that? 97 00:07:24,324 --> 00:07:25,869 Cause I'm brilliant. 98 00:07:27,541 --> 00:07:30,149 You are brilliant! Take it away; I'm eating too much. 99 00:07:31,033 --> 00:07:33,267 I think there's something wrong with me. 100 00:07:33,483 --> 00:07:34,943 That's for sure. 101 00:07:37,712 --> 00:07:40,656 What you think Mum would do if she found out one of us was a psychoptath? 102 00:07:40,692 --> 00:07:42,538 What you mean "if"? 103 00:07:44,632 --> 00:07:46,493 You know she's always saying... 104 00:07:46,528 --> 00:07:49,574 the whole family's gonna be together in the afterlife? 105 00:07:49,610 --> 00:07:50,861 Well... 106 00:07:51,452 --> 00:07:53,727 What if one of us is a sinner? 107 00:07:54,272 --> 00:07:57,020 Have you sinned with Michelle ? I promise I won't tell. 108 00:07:57,021 --> 00:07:58,271 It's not that. 109 00:07:59,363 --> 00:08:02,196 I'm just... thinking about stuff, you know? 110 00:08:02,231 --> 00:08:03,482 You think too much. 111 00:08:04,420 --> 00:08:07,876 It's dangerous. That's why I avoid it at all cost. 112 00:08:08,117 --> 00:08:09,163 Yeah? 113 00:08:11,526 --> 00:08:13,951 I'm glad we talked. 114 00:08:14,608 --> 00:08:16,965 Seriously, something... something wrong? 115 00:08:17,001 --> 00:08:18,252 No. 116 00:08:19,749 --> 00:08:24,267 Relax, cause I'm your big bro. I'm just looking out for you. 117 00:08:50,744 --> 00:08:53,115 What's up Bobby? Ready to go? 118 00:08:56,021 --> 00:08:58,081 Hey Bobby. Cheryl. 119 00:08:59,802 --> 00:09:02,305 She's not your type. Too much eye shadow. 120 00:09:02,306 --> 00:09:04,678 What's wrong with Michelle? 121 00:09:06,236 --> 00:09:07,488 We broke up. 122 00:09:07,569 --> 00:09:09,449 Talk to you guys later. 123 00:09:12,810 --> 00:09:14,396 Not telling the truth... 124 00:09:15,342 --> 00:09:18,515 sometimes I feel like I'm at the edge of a cliff, 125 00:09:18,550 --> 00:09:21,526 looking down at the crashing surf with nowhere to go but down. 126 00:09:21,561 --> 00:09:25,530 I used to have these fun dreams when I was so free. 127 00:09:25,565 --> 00:09:27,388 But now, as I fly, 128 00:09:27,424 --> 00:09:28,675 I'm afraid. 129 00:09:29,523 --> 00:09:32,301 They are telephone lines and electrical wires. 130 00:09:32,857 --> 00:09:35,515 How painful it would be to run into one. 131 00:09:36,646 --> 00:09:39,818 I wonder if I'll ever be free again. 132 00:10:35,167 --> 00:10:36,419 Hello? 133 00:10:48,239 --> 00:10:51,852 Bobby? Bobby? Hey! Bobby? 134 00:10:51,853 --> 00:10:53,942 What did you do? Ha? 135 00:10:54,560 --> 00:10:58,045 Did you take these? Answer me! No! Is that the truth? 136 00:10:58,046 --> 00:11:00,797 I couldn't do it, ok? Get off me. 137 00:11:02,647 --> 00:11:04,649 I wanted to but I couldn't. 138 00:11:10,365 --> 00:11:11,995 What's wrong with you? 139 00:11:12,047 --> 00:11:13,928 Why I couldn't do it? 140 00:11:16,170 --> 00:11:17,676 Because it's a sin. 141 00:11:20,257 --> 00:11:22,774 Bobby, what are you talking about? 142 00:11:24,221 --> 00:11:27,764 I didn't wanna go to hell, but... I am. 143 00:11:27,869 --> 00:11:29,432 Cause this is worse. 144 00:11:29,797 --> 00:11:33,375 Bobby, you're scaring me. What's going on? 145 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,106 You'd all hate me. 146 00:11:36,451 --> 00:11:39,694 I know it. I know that if you guys knew the truth, you'd hate me. 147 00:11:39,728 --> 00:11:42,101 No. Whatever it is... 148 00:11:42,127 --> 00:11:43,960 we'll tell Mum... No! 149 00:11:44,401 --> 00:11:47,258 No. Mum wouldn't understand. OK? She can't know. 150 00:11:47,294 --> 00:11:49,907 Then you have to tell me right now. 151 00:11:54,231 --> 00:11:55,896 I'm not like you Ed. 152 00:11:55,963 --> 00:11:57,214 So what? 153 00:11:57,814 --> 00:11:59,140 I keep trying. 154 00:11:59,176 --> 00:12:04,287 I keep telling myself that one day I'm gonna wake up and it's gonna be different. But it's not. 155 00:12:05,747 --> 00:12:07,101 I don't dream... 156 00:12:07,498 --> 00:12:09,251 about girls, like you do. 157 00:12:11,700 --> 00:12:13,411 I dream about guys. 158 00:12:16,555 --> 00:12:18,995 You're gay?! See? 159 00:12:18,996 --> 00:12:21,341 You even say it like you hate me. 160 00:12:21,890 --> 00:12:24,244 Bob, gimme a break. I don't know what to do! 161 00:12:24,591 --> 00:12:27,879 -We'll tell Mum and dad. -No! No. 162 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,485 They can help, Bobby. They always want us to come to them. 163 00:12:30,521 --> 00:12:33,443 They can help. I can't! Ok? 164 00:12:34,455 --> 00:12:36,781 And you're not gonna say anything either. 165 00:12:36,816 --> 00:12:38,067 Promise me. 166 00:12:38,676 --> 00:12:41,152 Promise me you're not gonna say anything. 167 00:12:43,621 --> 00:12:44,872 Ed, promise! 168 00:12:44,947 --> 00:12:46,197 Ok. 169 00:12:47,229 --> 00:12:48,481 I promise. 170 00:12:53,315 --> 00:12:56,098 Mum, if there was something wrong with one of your kids, you always 171 00:12:56,121 --> 00:12:58,712 said that we should come to you... 172 00:12:58,739 --> 00:13:00,169 What did you do? 173 00:13:00,231 --> 00:13:02,022 It's not me, it's Bobby. 174 00:13:02,508 --> 00:13:03,758 What is it? 175 00:13:05,876 --> 00:13:08,124 I didn't want to tell you but he was... 176 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:11,643 in such a bad shape, I'm really worried about him. 177 00:13:12,103 --> 00:13:13,352 He thinks... 178 00:13:14,866 --> 00:13:16,636 he might be homosexual. 179 00:13:17,988 --> 00:13:19,343 He's not. 180 00:13:21,652 --> 00:13:25,723 He didn't want me to tell you. He was gonna take a bunch of aspirins. 181 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:27,532 Ok? 182 00:13:28,034 --> 00:13:29,954 You know... he trusted me, you can't go too hard on him. 183 00:13:29,979 --> 00:13:31,885 Ok, good. It's good. 184 00:13:32,043 --> 00:13:34,320 I'm glad you told me. 185 00:13:34,356 --> 00:13:37,019 There's no doubt in my mind that God can handle this. 186 00:13:37,054 --> 00:13:38,583 He'll help us. 187 00:13:38,983 --> 00:13:40,621 He'll heal Bobby. 188 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:44,384 In order for all of us to be together in the kingdom of heaven, 189 00:13:44,418 --> 00:13:45,946 we cannot stray. 190 00:13:45,988 --> 00:13:47,503 We can't sin like that. 191 00:13:47,537 --> 00:13:49,104 That is a terrible sin. 192 00:13:49,139 --> 00:13:51,017 The bible calls it an abomination. 193 00:13:51,052 --> 00:13:55,150 In Leviticus, if a man lies with another man, 194 00:13:55,186 --> 00:13:58,948 they should both be put to death. 195 00:13:58,963 --> 00:14:01,034 I will not raise my family not being together in the next life. 196 00:14:01,038 --> 00:14:02,828 Mary. Can we please worry about this life before we worry about the next life? 197 00:14:02,832 --> 00:14:04,834 Hey. What's going on? 198 00:14:05,560 --> 00:14:08,734 Isn't there a problem you need to tell us about? 199 00:14:09,361 --> 00:14:11,693 -No... -Bobby 200 00:14:11,764 --> 00:14:15,582 If there is something wrong, you need to share it with your family. 201 00:14:15,618 --> 00:14:17,091 How could you? 202 00:14:17,471 --> 00:14:18,947 - Bobby... - I'm gonna kill you! 203 00:14:18,948 --> 00:14:20,514 No! Ok, ok. Enough! 204 00:14:20,973 --> 00:14:23,546 I was worried about you! 205 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:25,766 I trusted you! Calm down! 206 00:14:26,293 --> 00:14:28,689 Hey, Ed. Go find some room. 207 00:14:30,362 --> 00:14:33,055 Bobby, we're your family. We can get through this. 208 00:14:33,056 --> 00:14:35,764 I know that if we trust in God, we can get through this. 209 00:14:35,798 --> 00:14:37,633 It's curable with his help. 210 00:14:37,634 --> 00:14:40,199 I'm sorry. I can't help it. 211 00:14:40,230 --> 00:14:42,741 I don't even want it Mum! What do I do? 212 00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:44,614 Bobby, you're not gay. 213 00:14:45,992 --> 00:14:47,401 You're probably just... 214 00:14:47,422 --> 00:14:51,162 you haven't met a girl that you're really attracted to. 215 00:14:51,198 --> 00:14:52,450 Please... 216 00:14:52,700 --> 00:14:54,741 Mum, please don't tell anyone please... 217 00:14:54,776 --> 00:14:58,228 - Mum, please don't tell anyone. - It's all right. 218 00:14:58,262 --> 00:14:59,735 It's gonna be fine. 219 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:09,892 I was worried about you. 220 00:15:10,442 --> 00:15:11,969 What was I supposed to do? 221 00:15:13,476 --> 00:15:14,830 I'm out of here. 222 00:15:18,056 --> 00:15:21,179 Thank you again for joining us I'm pastor Raymond 223 00:15:21,369 --> 00:15:24,673 and we'll take another call, this is from Melissa in Concord. 224 00:15:25,061 --> 00:15:27,531 Thank you reverend, I'm a little nervous 225 00:15:27,566 --> 00:15:30,154 My sister made a terrible mistake 226 00:15:30,190 --> 00:15:31,546 she sinned... 227 00:15:32,992 --> 00:15:37,622 I advise you to live according to your new life in the holy spirit 228 00:15:37,658 --> 00:15:39,294 Then you won't be doing... 229 00:15:39,691 --> 00:15:42,557 what your sinful nature craves. 230 00:15:42,592 --> 00:15:45,394 When the holy spirit controls your life, 231 00:15:45,430 --> 00:15:49,446 it will produce love, joy and kindness, 232 00:15:49,534 --> 00:15:50,993 goodness and self-control. 233 00:15:51,013 --> 00:15:54,045 Does everyone have to know? We're your family. 234 00:15:54,513 --> 00:15:55,973 We love you. 235 00:15:56,987 --> 00:15:59,050 I am pure of hearts. I am of god's goodness. 236 00:16:15,499 --> 00:16:17,440 We still love you, Bobby. 237 00:16:17,916 --> 00:16:20,817 Yes, thanks. Can I get some privacy? 238 00:16:27,931 --> 00:16:29,182 Hi Mary! 239 00:16:34,551 --> 00:16:37,220 Everything you always wanted to know about sex 240 00:16:39,288 --> 00:16:43,201 If a homosexual who wants to renounce to homosexuality... 241 00:16:43,347 --> 00:16:47,199 finds a psychiastrist who knows how to cure homosexuality... 242 00:16:47,335 --> 00:16:49,705 he has every chance of becoming... 243 00:16:49,740 --> 00:16:52,467 a happy well adjusted heterosexual. 244 00:17:04,148 --> 00:17:05,564 Do you hear any voices? 245 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:08,369 No. 246 00:17:10,103 --> 00:17:12,761 Do you ever hear any ringing sounds? 247 00:17:13,203 --> 00:17:14,454 No. 248 00:17:15,405 --> 00:17:16,656 Is that the phone? 249 00:17:22,667 --> 00:17:24,185 It was a joke. 250 00:17:28,752 --> 00:17:30,937 So you think you're a homosexual? 251 00:17:34,310 --> 00:17:36,936 Bobby, how many girls have you been with? 252 00:17:36,972 --> 00:17:39,230 I don't know. Two. 253 00:17:40,143 --> 00:17:42,507 Had sexual relations with? 254 00:17:46,337 --> 00:17:48,683 Then how do you know for sure? 255 00:17:49,533 --> 00:17:50,784 I just... 256 00:17:51,323 --> 00:17:53,135 have these feelings, you know? 257 00:17:53,170 --> 00:17:56,369 I don't mean you know. I mean... 258 00:17:56,900 --> 00:17:58,661 I have these feelings. 259 00:18:01,087 --> 00:18:03,333 Do you want to be homosexual? 260 00:18:09,262 --> 00:18:11,849 I just wanna be close with my family again. 261 00:18:11,883 --> 00:18:15,589 I feel like I slipped up and now I can't... get back. 262 00:18:15,590 --> 00:18:20,726 I'm not gonna be able to help you... if you don't answer my questions. 263 00:18:23,257 --> 00:18:25,077 No, I don't wanna be this way. 264 00:18:26,666 --> 00:18:30,759 I'm gonna talk with your mother alone for a minute, ok? 265 00:18:34,532 --> 00:18:36,180 She wants to talk to you. 266 00:18:41,056 --> 00:18:43,118 He can be cured. Right? 267 00:18:45,951 --> 00:18:48,847 He has to be willing to really put the work in. 268 00:18:48,882 --> 00:18:50,939 O, he is. I know he is. 269 00:18:50,940 --> 00:18:54,173 And I think it would be good, it would be important to have your husband come 270 00:18:54,192 --> 00:18:57,092 join us in therapy. 271 00:18:58,448 --> 00:18:59,700 Right... 272 00:19:00,644 --> 00:19:01,894 How did it go? 273 00:19:04,556 --> 00:19:07,861 She said we should spend some more time together. 274 00:19:08,094 --> 00:19:09,667 Maybe the two of you could spend 275 00:19:09,701 --> 00:19:12,150 some quality time together. 276 00:19:12,742 --> 00:19:13,992 Yes, sure. 277 00:19:19,718 --> 00:19:21,740 That's all she said for 60$ an hour? 278 00:19:21,776 --> 00:19:24,974 She also wants the 3 of us to go to a few sessions together. 279 00:19:25,010 --> 00:19:26,966 What? So it's our fault? 280 00:19:27,167 --> 00:19:29,370 No no... I don't know about it but it's fine if he goes. 281 00:19:29,406 --> 00:19:32,763 Bob, I want you to be a part of this. I can't do it alone, ok? 282 00:19:32,799 --> 00:19:36,667 I read that homosexuals have sex in public bathrooms, 283 00:19:36,702 --> 00:19:38,374 and that they recruit children. 284 00:19:39,546 --> 00:19:41,099 What are you saying? 285 00:19:41,728 --> 00:19:45,176 Do you think Bobby was recruited? Come on Mary, you're going overboard. 286 00:19:45,211 --> 00:19:49,350 You got to do something about this. I won't lose him. 287 00:19:53,496 --> 00:19:56,984 Dear lord, we ask that you keep Bobby safe from temptation. 288 00:19:57,046 --> 00:19:59,225 Please help him return to a pure heart. 289 00:19:59,262 --> 00:20:00,821 Do you think this will heal me? 290 00:20:00,858 --> 00:20:03,249 You have to trust the God will heal you. 291 00:20:03,442 --> 00:20:06,298 And that Satan will try to discourage you. 292 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:07,796 Do you trust in god? 293 00:20:08,585 --> 00:20:09,835 Yeah. 294 00:20:10,424 --> 00:20:12,066 Now let me go to sleep. 295 00:20:17,911 --> 00:20:19,913 When temptation is all around you, 296 00:20:20,330 --> 00:20:23,858 faith is not enough. It requires discipline 297 00:20:24,195 --> 00:20:26,074 Not just mental, but physical. 298 00:20:26,287 --> 00:20:28,886 Who would like to share their story? 299 00:20:30,963 --> 00:20:33,026 I used to be so unhappy. 300 00:20:33,341 --> 00:20:36,160 I stayed out all night, I talked back to my mother. 301 00:20:36,301 --> 00:20:39,366 Since coming here and accepting Jesus as my savior, 302 00:20:39,402 --> 00:20:40,654 I've changed.. 303 00:20:40,768 --> 00:20:43,073 My Mum and I are like best friends now. 304 00:20:43,108 --> 00:20:44,643 That's great Kerry. 305 00:20:46,167 --> 00:20:48,069 The power of prayer and hard work. 306 00:20:48,105 --> 00:20:50,122 Bobby what about you? How are you coming along? 307 00:20:54,130 --> 00:20:55,380 Good... 308 00:20:55,563 --> 00:20:58,225 Well, you feel better. Don't you? I can see it in your eyes. 309 00:20:58,261 --> 00:21:01,228 Your hard works' paid off. Hasn't it? 310 00:21:01,416 --> 00:21:02,667 Yeah... 311 00:21:03,345 --> 00:21:04,866 Let's sing, shall we? 312 00:21:05,502 --> 00:21:09,189 313 00:21:09,791 --> 00:21:13,281 314 00:21:14,137 --> 00:21:19,923 315 00:21:22,090 --> 00:21:25,709 316 00:21:26,408 --> 00:21:29,850 317 00:21:32,934 --> 00:21:36,234 318 00:21:38,745 --> 00:21:41,931 Nothing I do seems to make a difference. 319 00:21:41,949 --> 00:21:45,659 I try to act like them but it feels impossible. 320 00:21:45,798 --> 00:21:47,777 It's an awful feeling to believe you can 321 00:21:47,779 --> 00:21:50,271 be headed straight for the fires of hell. 322 00:21:50,731 --> 00:21:54,432 Even worse is everyone telling you how simple the solution is. 323 00:21:54,610 --> 00:21:57,774 They don't know what it is to be in my shoes. 324 00:21:57,883 --> 00:21:59,806 I'm running, I'm not eating junk food. 325 00:22:00,258 --> 00:22:01,508 Good, good! 326 00:22:02,790 --> 00:22:06,081 Yeah, that's good but... I don't know the point of it. 327 00:22:06,116 --> 00:22:09,902 I mean, my face has cleared up but everything else feels the same. 328 00:22:09,937 --> 00:22:13,869 Well you have to stick with it. Do you like the people in your group? 329 00:22:13,919 --> 00:22:16,342 They're ok. This one girl, she... 330 00:22:16,343 --> 00:22:18,271 You know, I hope you're taking this seriously. 331 00:22:18,307 --> 00:22:21,632 I mean that I hope you are trying with all your might. 332 00:22:21,668 --> 00:22:23,696 I cannot lose you to this. 333 00:22:23,731 --> 00:22:24,983 You won't. 334 00:22:28,983 --> 00:22:30,234 Have faith! 335 00:22:35,247 --> 00:22:36,897 Well this is gonna be fun. 336 00:22:37,366 --> 00:22:42,894 When was the last time all the Griffith men went hiking together? 337 00:22:42,929 --> 00:22:44,181 So how's school? 338 00:22:47,287 --> 00:22:48,536 Good. 339 00:23:01,426 --> 00:23:03,428 You thought about your plans? 340 00:23:04,491 --> 00:23:06,011 Well college... 341 00:23:06,946 --> 00:23:09,253 No, I mean... life plans. 342 00:23:10,564 --> 00:23:12,735 Well, I'm still thinking of becoming a writer. 343 00:23:12,771 --> 00:23:15,835 Listen Bobby, you always had a strong imagination. 344 00:23:15,836 --> 00:23:19,418 and we've always been alright with that. But you're getting to the age where you're gonna have to get practical. 345 00:23:19,453 --> 00:23:20,876 Alright, dreams... 346 00:23:20,926 --> 00:23:23,922 they're great when you're young, but... they don't really have... 347 00:23:24,947 --> 00:23:27,070 really have a place in the real world. 348 00:23:30,498 --> 00:23:31,750 Yeah. 349 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,958 You hear what I'm saying to you? 350 00:23:34,974 --> 00:23:37,635 -Yeah. -Alright, alright. Le'ts go, let's move. Alright. 351 00:23:44,162 --> 00:23:45,413 How did it go? 352 00:23:47,446 --> 00:23:48,905 I'm "healed". 353 00:23:51,979 --> 00:23:53,336 It was fine. 354 00:23:54,276 --> 00:23:55,735 Did you two talk? 355 00:23:56,525 --> 00:23:57,778 Yeah, we talked. 356 00:23:58,987 --> 00:24:00,661 What did you talk about? 357 00:24:01,602 --> 00:24:02,956 Mary, it was fine. 358 00:24:03,347 --> 00:24:05,294 No, but this is important. 359 00:24:05,329 --> 00:24:06,979 This could make him or break him. 360 00:24:07,015 --> 00:24:10,195 I did the best I could. Is that alright with you? 361 00:24:16,064 --> 00:24:18,834 A lot of times, confusions like Bobby's 362 00:24:18,847 --> 00:24:23,558 can be caused by a distant father or an overbearing mother. 363 00:24:24,831 --> 00:24:27,288 Well, I had both but I'm fine. 364 00:24:28,958 --> 00:24:30,423 -Bob? -Yes? 365 00:24:30,424 --> 00:24:32,253 You need to participate in this. 366 00:24:33,210 --> 00:24:36,181 I'm right here Mary. I'm in the room. 367 00:24:37,281 --> 00:24:40,708 I think... I've been a very good father. 368 00:24:40,725 --> 00:24:43,660 And maybe you don't know this but Bobby. I mean he was never into... 369 00:24:43,678 --> 00:24:46,234 stuff that his brother and other boys were into. He's just not interested. 370 00:24:48,736 --> 00:24:50,583 So I'm not gonna force him. 371 00:24:55,595 --> 00:24:57,353 Hi Bobby I'm Sheila. 372 00:25:02,792 --> 00:25:04,302 Mum, who's that? 373 00:25:06,179 --> 00:25:09,404 Sheila is a student in my Sunday school class. 374 00:25:09,995 --> 00:25:11,466 You got me a date? 375 00:25:11,501 --> 00:25:14,946 You need to go out with lots of girls. And your dad thinks so too. 376 00:25:14,981 --> 00:25:17,141 Can I at least pick my own? 377 00:25:19,591 --> 00:25:21,359 I donnot think that you are. 378 00:25:22,221 --> 00:25:23,471 Have fun. 379 00:25:23,658 --> 00:25:25,662 You look nifty. Do you want a brownie for energy? 380 00:25:25,936 --> 00:25:27,746 -No -Take them up! No?! 381 00:25:32,197 --> 00:25:34,122 Hello. Who's this? 382 00:25:34,123 --> 00:25:36,510 That's my brother Ed. -Hi. -Hi, I'm Sheila. 383 00:25:36,511 --> 00:25:38,312 -Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you too. 384 00:25:38,313 --> 00:25:39,563 Hi. 385 00:25:40,247 --> 00:25:42,999 -Are you up to see my friends? -Yeah! 386 00:25:47,307 --> 00:25:49,704 So you're never gonna talk to me again? 387 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:52,460 ??? 388 00:25:54,541 --> 00:25:56,381 What if she wants me to kiss her goodnight? 389 00:25:56,416 --> 00:25:57,889 Tell her you're gay. 390 00:26:20,666 --> 00:26:22,020 Watch out fag. 391 00:26:40,328 --> 00:26:42,098 Did you tell your friends? 392 00:26:42,933 --> 00:26:45,752 Bobby, that's not my friend. You told everyone I'm gay? 393 00:26:45,786 --> 00:26:47,908 I haven't told anyone. Stop being so paranoid. 394 00:26:47,944 --> 00:26:49,433 You all hate me for it. 395 00:26:49,468 --> 00:26:52,707 I know you don't think I see it but I do. 396 00:26:52,844 --> 00:26:54,187 I gotta go. 397 00:26:54,223 --> 00:26:55,473 Bobby... 398 00:27:03,031 --> 00:27:04,594 It's 3 in the morning! 399 00:27:07,410 --> 00:27:10,110 Sorry I lost track of time. Where were you? 400 00:27:13,605 --> 00:27:14,856 Bobby... 401 00:27:16,111 --> 00:27:18,890 You weren't with homosexuals, were you? 402 00:27:20,590 --> 00:27:25,106 This is not you. This is temptation working its ways. 403 00:27:25,141 --> 00:27:29,040 You have to pray harder if you're going to get well. 404 00:27:29,698 --> 00:27:31,054 Good night, Mum. 405 00:27:32,649 --> 00:27:34,830 Pray for forgiveness right away. 406 00:27:35,063 --> 00:27:40,635 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. Matthew 21:22 407 00:27:56,027 --> 00:27:57,821 It was fine, girls. But I gotta go. 408 00:27:57,855 --> 00:27:59,107 Ok. 409 00:28:00,087 --> 00:28:01,338 Bobby! Hey! 410 00:28:03,664 --> 00:28:04,788 Where's Joy? 411 00:28:04,789 --> 00:28:08,735 She's at work so she asked me to pick you up. 412 00:28:08,770 --> 00:28:10,021 You're welcome. 413 00:28:10,665 --> 00:28:12,485 - What's with you? - What? 414 00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,542 You think I didn't notice that? You don't want your friends to see me. 415 00:28:14,544 --> 00:28:16,681 Some people wouldn't understand. 416 00:28:16,716 --> 00:28:18,286 And now it's so obvious... 417 00:28:18,322 --> 00:28:19,912 What did you tell them? 418 00:28:20,336 --> 00:28:22,449 Well look the way you're wearing. 419 00:28:22,595 --> 00:28:26,666 And I told you time after time not to do that thing with your arm. 420 00:28:26,701 --> 00:28:29,956 Makes you look like a girl and you continue to do it. 421 00:28:29,991 --> 00:28:33,615 - I'm always dressed this way. - No, you haven't. It's gotten worse. 422 00:28:33,651 --> 00:28:36,103 Why you're doing this? I'm trying to help you. 423 00:28:36,138 --> 00:28:38,795 No, you're not. You're trying to help YOU! 424 00:28:38,810 --> 00:28:41,126 It's not about me. It's about what people think about you. 425 00:28:41,161 --> 00:28:43,802 Imagine if they thought your son was some big queer. 426 00:28:43,838 --> 00:28:46,260 What's wrong with you? Stop that! 427 00:28:47,387 --> 00:28:50,916 Nite Mum. Great. Le'ts go home! 428 00:28:50,917 --> 00:28:52,643 - I'm walking. - No! 429 00:28:52,873 --> 00:28:54,229 Where are you going? 430 00:30:01,413 --> 00:30:03,405 I've never seen you around here before. 431 00:30:04,682 --> 00:30:06,189 You are really beautiful. 432 00:30:12,502 --> 00:30:13,752 I gotta go. 433 00:30:13,825 --> 00:30:15,180 Can I call you? 434 00:30:19,619 --> 00:30:20,871 No. 435 00:30:28,489 --> 00:30:31,837 Metropolitan Community Church celebrates gay pride. 436 00:30:31,851 --> 00:30:33,609 All are welcome 437 00:30:37,878 --> 00:30:39,129 Bobby... 438 00:30:40,212 --> 00:30:42,912 Don't worry. I was at church. 439 00:30:51,273 --> 00:30:52,524 Hi Cousin 440 00:30:52,785 --> 00:30:55,651 I have a name. It's gorgeous cousin. 441 00:30:57,602 --> 00:31:01,083 So, how long you're here for? Just a day, I'm driving home tonight. 442 00:31:01,147 --> 00:31:05,067 I came to see my dad. But I couldn't resist stopping by. 443 00:31:05,529 --> 00:31:08,374 Maybe it's not a choice. Maybe I just can't help it. 444 00:31:08,410 --> 00:31:10,805 So you say that stealing's not a choice. 445 00:31:10,841 --> 00:31:14,196 What? Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious. 446 00:31:14,231 --> 00:31:15,773 Joy's right Bobby. 447 00:31:15,808 --> 00:31:18,922 The bible says: Men committed shameless acts with men 448 00:31:18,937 --> 00:31:22,560 and received in their own's person the due penalty for their error. 449 00:31:22,797 --> 00:31:24,399 You just won't change, will you? 450 00:31:24,413 --> 00:31:26,150 I can't erase what's in the bible. 451 00:31:26,185 --> 00:31:30,879 Personnally, I think people should be able to love whoever they want. 452 00:31:34,946 --> 00:31:36,793 Did I mention how good lunch is? 453 00:31:37,037 --> 00:31:39,505 Even animals know what to do it with. 454 00:31:40,847 --> 00:31:42,623 Actually, our dog does it with a pillow... 455 00:31:42,658 --> 00:31:46,101 Can we please find something different to discuss? 456 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,467 Ed, why don't you tell us about college? 457 00:31:49,503 --> 00:31:51,944 I dropped school last week. 458 00:31:52,891 --> 00:31:54,142 You what? 459 00:31:56,504 --> 00:31:58,986 Well, what about college? I'm not going. 460 00:32:00,546 --> 00:32:01,795 Great! 461 00:32:02,442 --> 00:32:03,695 What's next? 462 00:32:04,313 --> 00:32:06,133 You wanna ruin your life? 463 00:32:06,162 --> 00:32:08,274 Yeah well it's my life to ruin. 464 00:32:14,347 --> 00:32:16,937 Is it like this at every meal? 465 00:32:17,099 --> 00:32:18,454 Pretty much. 466 00:32:19,549 --> 00:32:22,570 You should come up and visit me in Portland. It's so great! 467 00:32:22,606 --> 00:32:24,226 I used to envy you.. 468 00:32:25,325 --> 00:32:27,154 When I came here with Mum and Dad, 469 00:32:27,155 --> 00:32:29,254 I always wished your parents were my parents. 470 00:32:29,268 --> 00:32:31,339 You all seemed so close. 471 00:32:31,374 --> 00:32:32,730 Well that's over with. 472 00:32:33,919 --> 00:32:35,578 I think they love the sinners. Not the sin. 473 00:32:35,613 --> 00:32:38,701 They should love the son no matter what the sin. 474 00:32:38,702 --> 00:32:39,954 Hey that's good. 475 00:32:40,114 --> 00:32:42,588 I'm gonna start my own bible. 476 00:32:50,087 --> 00:32:51,719 Think about coming to Portland? 477 00:32:55,472 --> 00:32:57,913 Hi Mrs. Griffith! Is Bobby here? 478 00:33:00,806 --> 00:33:04,243 Bobby! You know it's enough you go God knows where at night. 479 00:33:04,277 --> 00:33:07,292 But now you're bringing these deviants into my house. 480 00:33:07,327 --> 00:33:09,594 It's my house too. And they're my friends. 481 00:33:09,595 --> 00:33:11,462 Is that what that boy is? 482 00:33:11,497 --> 00:33:13,571 Is it a sin to have friends now too Mum? 483 00:33:13,607 --> 00:33:16,413 We have a good time, ok? We go to the rocky chore together. 484 00:33:16,414 --> 00:33:19,774 Does it mean we're all gonna get strucked down? They're gay, aren't they? 485 00:33:20,451 --> 00:33:22,731 I thought you were getting better. When? 486 00:33:22,732 --> 00:33:25,737 When I was miserable? That looked like I was getting better? 487 00:33:25,772 --> 00:33:27,862 You're right Mum! I'm doomed just to roast in hell! 488 00:33:27,877 --> 00:33:29,955 Don't say that. That's what your bible says! 489 00:33:29,990 --> 00:33:32,058 The bible also says a person can change. 490 00:33:32,093 --> 00:33:33,998 I tried Mum. I can't! 491 00:33:34,612 --> 00:33:36,700 Why do you keep choosing this? 492 00:33:36,734 --> 00:33:38,689 Why would I choose this? 493 00:33:38,725 --> 00:33:40,553 Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me? 494 00:33:40,587 --> 00:33:43,653 No we love you. Can't you see that's why we're doing this? 495 00:33:43,689 --> 00:33:46,272 Really Mum? Is that what love feels like? 496 00:33:51,743 --> 00:33:53,339 Have fun in Portland. 497 00:33:54,821 --> 00:33:56,640 Here's an issue for your vacation. 498 00:33:56,758 --> 00:33:59,198 I hope you like it. 499 00:34:01,255 --> 00:34:03,924 Promise me you'll write and call all the time? 500 00:34:04,233 --> 00:34:05,692 It's two months. 501 00:34:07,648 --> 00:34:08,983 Drive carefully. 502 00:34:09,019 --> 00:34:10,693 Don't worry Madam. 503 00:34:12,339 --> 00:34:14,766 You call me when you get to Portland. 504 00:34:15,356 --> 00:34:18,184 I had this engraved with your initials. 505 00:34:31,367 --> 00:34:32,722 I love you guys. 506 00:34:39,306 --> 00:34:40,557 Bye Bobby. 507 00:34:52,046 --> 00:34:55,091 Already I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek. 508 00:34:55,125 --> 00:34:56,615 This feels like a new life. 509 00:34:57,035 --> 00:34:58,286 A new day. 510 00:34:58,359 --> 00:35:01,786 I'm gonna be a success in every way I can. 511 00:35:01,822 --> 00:35:03,504 It's my goal to achieve, 512 00:35:03,540 --> 00:35:05,127 a sense of pride, 513 00:35:05,163 --> 00:35:07,119 and worth as a human being. 514 00:35:17,324 --> 00:35:18,681 Gorgeous cousin. 515 00:35:24,207 --> 00:35:25,684 Welcome to Portland! 516 00:35:43,463 --> 00:35:46,835 Trust me... You don't find clubs like this back home. 517 00:35:46,871 --> 00:35:48,124 I'll see. 518 00:36:00,138 --> 00:36:02,025 Welcome to London House cousin. 519 00:36:02,059 --> 00:36:03,311 This is amazing! 520 00:36:03,509 --> 00:36:04,864 Let's go boogie. 521 00:36:27,028 --> 00:36:29,396 David! Janette! 522 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,531 This is my cousin Bobby. 523 00:36:35,590 --> 00:36:38,258 Nice to finally meet you Bobby! 524 00:37:10,351 --> 00:37:14,789 So Janette tells me your Mum wants to cure you of your gayness. 525 00:37:14,824 --> 00:37:16,075 Yeah, well... 526 00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,153 My parents don't really understand it. 527 00:37:18,189 --> 00:37:21,161 Do yours? They didn't first. 528 00:37:21,162 --> 00:37:23,573 But, they eventually came around. 529 00:37:23,609 --> 00:37:25,626 How did you get them to change? 530 00:37:26,114 --> 00:37:30,850 Well, one day, I told them «Accept me as I am, or forget me!» 531 00:37:33,050 --> 00:37:36,153 I know my Mum means well but I don't know if she'll ever accept me. 532 00:37:36,864 --> 00:37:39,319 Just don't stop trying. 533 00:37:41,435 --> 00:37:43,376 Now that you know 534 00:37:50,655 --> 00:37:54,391 What every parent should know about homosexuality 535 00:38:22,944 --> 00:38:24,714 Have a great trip. 536 00:38:25,896 --> 00:38:28,008 Don't let her get to you. 537 00:38:28,357 --> 00:38:30,762 And don't be afraid to stand up to her. 538 00:38:43,328 --> 00:38:44,683 Too much flew by fast. 539 00:38:50,712 --> 00:38:52,776 I'll call you when I get home. 540 00:38:53,229 --> 00:38:54,625 You'd better. 541 00:38:59,037 --> 00:39:00,488 Well. Look who's home. 542 00:39:00,524 --> 00:39:02,458 -Hey Dad. -Hey, come here, come here. 543 00:39:03,872 --> 00:39:06,106 Just in time for dinner. Come on in. 544 00:39:07,146 --> 00:39:08,677 That's funny. 545 00:39:09,274 --> 00:39:11,503 So how was Portland? Yeah... 546 00:39:11,702 --> 00:39:13,727 Portland was great. Good! 547 00:39:13,728 --> 00:39:17,600 I'm thinking of maybe moving there for a little bit. 548 00:39:17,621 --> 00:39:19,989 Moving there? I met someone... 549 00:39:24,806 --> 00:39:26,053 A guy. 550 00:39:29,718 --> 00:39:30,968 Girls... 551 00:39:31,377 --> 00:39:33,319 Give me a hand with this. 552 00:39:35,574 --> 00:39:37,744 We're supposed to pretend we didn't hear that? 553 00:39:37,779 --> 00:39:39,031 Yes. 554 00:39:39,176 --> 00:39:40,428 Bobby... 555 00:39:40,794 --> 00:39:43,340 This might not have been the right time. 556 00:39:43,376 --> 00:39:44,627 I know. 557 00:39:44,642 --> 00:39:45,894 I'm sorry.. 558 00:39:50,622 --> 00:39:53,258 You should start thinking about college for next fall. 559 00:39:53,294 --> 00:39:54,787 You need to get your GED first. 560 00:39:54,822 --> 00:39:57,804 I mean... it's ok to take some time off but... 561 00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:00,373 Did you hear me? I don't wanna know. 562 00:40:00,374 --> 00:40:04,243 I want you to know. His name's David. 563 00:40:04,244 --> 00:40:09,007 We always start at the beginning every time and if we're not getting any more different let's just not go there. 564 00:40:09,043 --> 00:40:11,652 When I'm with him, it feels so... 565 00:40:11,779 --> 00:40:13,030 good! 566 00:40:13,515 --> 00:40:15,077 He treats me well... 567 00:40:15,248 --> 00:40:17,432 he's funny and he's smart... 568 00:40:17,435 --> 00:40:20,314 Stop. I mean it. I don't wanna hear it. And you know I don't. 569 00:40:20,349 --> 00:40:24,517 I spent the last year listening to you and you're gonna listen to me for once. 570 00:40:24,553 --> 00:40:26,901 It feels good when I'm with David. 571 00:40:26,937 --> 00:40:30,569 But if he touches me in public, or God forbids, kisses me, 572 00:40:32,039 --> 00:40:33,395 I pull away. 573 00:40:34,023 --> 00:40:36,245 I feel ashame. Because you know it's wrong. 574 00:40:36,281 --> 00:40:39,763 -Because YOU told me it's wrong. -It's not me. It's the bible. 575 00:40:39,798 --> 00:40:41,616 It's not the bible. It's you! 576 00:40:42,128 --> 00:40:43,775 Why can't you admit that? 577 00:40:43,983 --> 00:40:47,004 Why can't you admit that you can't stand what I am? 578 00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,348 What you've become! 579 00:40:48,384 --> 00:40:49,738 What I am! 580 00:40:50,917 --> 00:40:54,591 I'm sorry. I'm not the perfect little Bobby you always wanted. 581 00:40:54,627 --> 00:40:57,076 But I can't keep apologizing for it Mum. 582 00:40:57,111 --> 00:40:59,173 Accept me as I am or forget it. 583 00:40:59,207 --> 00:41:01,041 I won't have a gay son. 584 00:41:02,925 --> 00:41:05,040 Then Mum you don't have a son. 585 00:41:05,462 --> 00:41:06,714 Fine. 586 00:41:14,664 --> 00:41:15,916 Bobby... 587 00:41:27,289 --> 00:41:29,826 Did you really think she'd change, Bobby? 588 00:41:33,170 --> 00:41:34,526 She meant it. 589 00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:38,408 She meant that. 590 00:41:42,091 --> 00:41:44,558 I really want you to be happy. 591 00:41:46,168 --> 00:41:49,271 And I'm sure that guy's really nice. 592 00:41:49,999 --> 00:41:52,990 No matter what. She'll never accept it. 593 00:41:53,738 --> 00:41:57,774 It's gonna be a lonely life because he'll never be welcome here. 594 00:41:57,809 --> 00:42:01,058 And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything. 595 00:42:10,948 --> 00:42:14,577 Don't worry about Mum too much. She'll come around. 596 00:42:14,612 --> 00:42:16,639 I'm not gonna hold my breath. 597 00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:19,529 Here you go. 598 00:42:21,396 --> 00:42:23,037 The parachute pants! 599 00:42:25,741 --> 00:42:26,992 Thanks. 600 00:42:29,792 --> 00:42:33,440 I'll send you my first novel when I write it. 601 00:42:36,252 --> 00:42:37,503 Bye Buck-Tooth! 602 00:42:38,814 --> 00:42:40,168 Take care, ok? 603 00:42:42,018 --> 00:42:43,374 Drive safe. 604 00:43:39,878 --> 00:43:43,007 ... most of the new cases up to 5 a day seem to be settled in the homosexual community... 605 00:43:44,720 --> 00:43:48,675 The AIDS becoming known as «the gay disease». 606 00:44:02,359 --> 00:44:03,611 Well... 607 00:44:03,655 --> 00:44:07,216 your Mum went alot for your birthday. 608 00:44:07,252 --> 00:44:11,770 No card. A sweater and "AIDS - The Wrath of God". 609 00:44:12,107 --> 00:44:13,359 Whoah. 610 00:44:13,877 --> 00:44:15,333 Happy birthday! 611 00:44:15,392 --> 00:44:18,625 You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby. 612 00:44:18,661 --> 00:44:20,074 She's not gonna change. 613 00:44:20,256 --> 00:44:23,985 Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us. 614 00:44:24,021 --> 00:44:26,037 I'm just not in the «all of us» anymore. 615 00:44:27,066 --> 00:44:29,834 Can't get that throughout my head. 616 00:44:32,886 --> 00:44:34,136 There's David. 617 00:44:35,187 --> 00:44:36,542 Talk to you later. 618 00:44:47,359 --> 00:44:50,511 You sure this is ok? They're gonna love you. 619 00:44:54,158 --> 00:44:55,409 Let's go. 620 00:44:55,787 --> 00:44:58,204 Dad, do you have to tell that story? 621 00:44:58,240 --> 00:44:59,974 Hey, I felt I had to. 622 00:45:00,009 --> 00:45:04,830 Yes. And I've got about a dozen more where that came from if you're interested. 623 00:45:04,865 --> 00:45:06,245 Oh, oh no thanks. 624 00:45:07,753 --> 00:45:10,478 So Bobby... tell us more about you. 625 00:45:10,513 --> 00:45:12,385 You grew up in Walnut Creek, right? 626 00:45:12,419 --> 00:45:14,987 David says you're very close to your family. Yeah. 627 00:45:14,988 --> 00:45:18,687 So how are your parents with you being gay? 628 00:45:18,722 --> 00:45:19,974 Not good. 629 00:45:20,533 --> 00:45:24,328 Well... Maybe it's hard for them at first. 630 00:45:24,329 --> 00:45:29,238 They'll come around. You seem like a wonderful young man. I'm sure they love you. 631 00:45:29,304 --> 00:45:32,641 Hey! - Cheers to that! - Cheers to that! 632 00:45:32,676 --> 00:45:34,529 It's great to meet you Bobby. 633 00:45:34,864 --> 00:45:36,788 So how did you guys meet? 634 00:45:36,823 --> 00:45:38,298 You know Janette?... 635 00:45:42,927 --> 00:45:44,178 It's a sin. 636 00:45:44,225 --> 00:45:45,475 It's not natural. 637 00:45:49,012 --> 00:45:53,309 He'll never be welcome here. Why do you keep choosing this? 638 00:45:53,345 --> 00:45:55,019 Sometimes I hurt so bad... 639 00:45:55,670 --> 00:45:57,501 And I'm scared and I'm alone. 640 00:45:58,576 --> 00:46:01,395 I'm sure they love you. 641 00:46:01,668 --> 00:46:02,973 I'm damned. 642 00:46:07,024 --> 00:46:10,354 I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sand. 643 00:46:10,389 --> 00:46:11,906 A bottomless pool. 644 00:46:13,012 --> 00:46:16,270 I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever. 645 00:46:29,148 --> 00:46:31,629 You've reached David. 646 00:46:31,646 --> 00:46:34,340 I'm not here right now but if you leave a message after the beep, I'll get right back to you. 647 00:46:34,376 --> 00:46:35,625 Have a good one... 648 00:46:37,362 --> 00:46:38,938 Hey David it's Bobby. 649 00:46:41,659 --> 00:46:43,244 I thought you'd be there. 650 00:46:44,546 --> 00:46:45,796 Look I'm... 651 00:46:46,973 --> 00:46:49,260 I really need someone to talk to and I was hoping you'd be there. 652 00:46:49,277 --> 00:46:51,366 Please, 653 00:46:54,963 --> 00:46:57,396 dear lord, 654 00:46:57,752 --> 00:47:01,220 continue to convict Bobby's heart off sin. 655 00:47:18,882 --> 00:47:20,549 That he may find his way 656 00:47:20,892 --> 00:47:22,358 The way of purity, 657 00:47:22,489 --> 00:47:23,948 the way of the righteous. 658 00:48:08,457 --> 00:48:09,707 It's a sin. 659 00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,010 It's not natural. 660 00:49:01,695 --> 00:49:03,916 I won't have a gay son. 661 00:49:13,725 --> 00:49:15,019 You're gonna be late for school. 662 00:49:15,053 --> 00:49:16,561 You're the one who slept in. 663 00:49:16,597 --> 00:49:19,364 Ok, then we're both gonna be late for school. 664 00:49:19,399 --> 00:49:21,532 Meet you in the car. 665 00:49:21,717 --> 00:49:22,968 - OK! - Hello? 666 00:49:25,078 --> 00:49:26,664 Janette, what's wrong? 667 00:49:30,777 --> 00:49:32,026 No... 668 00:49:33,251 --> 00:49:35,434 What's wrong? No... 669 00:49:35,832 --> 00:49:37,993 What's wrong? Nancy, get out of here! 670 00:49:38,624 --> 00:49:39,875 Dad! 671 00:49:41,023 --> 00:49:42,272 Daddy... 672 00:49:45,240 --> 00:49:46,492 Hello. 673 00:49:47,766 --> 00:49:49,018 Hi. Hi, Janette... 674 00:49:50,674 --> 00:49:55,617 Mary, you've been called up front and he said to bring your purse. 675 00:49:55,675 --> 00:49:57,569 Probably one of the kids that needs money again. 676 00:49:59,636 --> 00:50:01,810 I need a break anyway. Bye. 677 00:50:24,338 --> 00:50:25,589 What is it? 678 00:50:28,412 --> 00:50:29,871 Bobby killed himself. 679 00:50:34,535 --> 00:50:36,181 He jumped off a bridge. 680 00:50:37,275 --> 00:50:38,526 He... He's gone. 681 00:50:44,125 --> 00:50:45,374 Help me! 682 00:50:50,019 --> 00:50:51,268 Help me!! 683 00:50:51,890 --> 00:50:54,418 My son is dead! Let me out! 684 00:50:55,036 --> 00:50:56,391 Let me out! 685 00:50:56,711 --> 00:50:59,237 My son is dead! Let me out! 686 00:51:10,214 --> 00:51:12,267 Joy, slow down. What's wrong? 687 00:52:12,820 --> 00:52:14,071 Thank you. 688 00:52:29,015 --> 00:52:32,109 Death of a loved one is always tragic 689 00:52:32,145 --> 00:52:35,758 But the death of a young person can be particularly painful. 690 00:52:35,794 --> 00:52:39,143 Because that person had his whole life ahead of him. 691 00:52:39,178 --> 00:52:41,085 Bobby was only 20 years old. 692 00:52:41,358 --> 00:52:43,773 We'll never know who he could have been. 693 00:52:43,792 --> 00:52:45,962 Or what he could have accomplished. 694 00:52:45,998 --> 00:52:49,075 Bobby was a good young man but he was lost. 695 00:52:50,457 --> 00:52:53,591 By giving into temptation, he strayed. 696 00:52:54,508 --> 00:52:56,594 Then desillusioned, 697 00:52:58,303 --> 00:53:00,537 he chose to end his life. 698 00:53:01,223 --> 00:53:03,945 Now we know to condemn the sin, 699 00:53:03,981 --> 00:53:05,335 not the sinner, 700 00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:09,209 it was this sin that Bobby succombed to. 701 00:53:10,377 --> 00:53:12,510 It led to his unhappiness. 702 00:53:12,843 --> 00:53:14,093 And it led him 703 00:53:14,841 --> 00:53:17,186 to take his own life. 704 00:53:18,468 --> 00:53:20,729 As goodness begets goodness, 705 00:53:20,764 --> 00:53:23,146 so does sin begets sin. 706 00:53:24,049 --> 00:53:26,017 They're ok with this? 707 00:53:54,053 --> 00:53:55,777 They're running low on sandwiches. 708 00:53:55,812 --> 00:53:58,820 Mum, do you think Bobby got salvation? 709 00:53:58,856 --> 00:54:00,107 I don't know. 710 00:54:00,451 --> 00:54:02,149 Suicide is a sin. 711 00:54:02,366 --> 00:54:05,874 But maybe God knows that Bobby wasn't in his right mind?. 712 00:54:05,910 --> 00:54:08,812 I mean... 713 00:54:08,834 --> 00:54:10,897 Why would God allow Booby to go to hell if it was in his power to cure him? 714 00:54:10,932 --> 00:54:12,390 I don't know Mary! 715 00:54:12,911 --> 00:54:14,266 Clear yourself together. 716 00:54:15,060 --> 00:54:18,618 People are unconfortable enough. 717 00:54:25,884 --> 00:54:27,239 Thank for coming. 718 00:54:28,263 --> 00:54:30,386 I'm so sorry for your loss. 719 00:54:36,975 --> 00:54:38,925 Mrs Griffith. Mr. Griffith.. 720 00:54:40,267 --> 00:54:41,623 I'm David. 721 00:54:42,473 --> 00:54:43,984 I was a friend of Bobby's. 722 00:54:46,700 --> 00:54:49,308 I wanna offer my condolences. 723 00:55:05,733 --> 00:55:07,773 He was an amazing young man. 724 00:55:15,189 --> 00:55:16,440 I'm so sorry. 725 00:55:39,241 --> 00:55:40,493 Aunt Mary... 726 00:55:41,084 --> 00:55:42,783 David is a good person. 727 00:55:43,051 --> 00:55:45,163 All of Bobby's friends were. 728 00:55:45,987 --> 00:55:48,761 When Bobby was here, he was under control. 729 00:55:48,797 --> 00:55:51,644 Then he moves to Portland and someone puts all these ideas into his head. 730 00:55:51,679 --> 00:55:54,362 It wasn't like that. David cared for Bobby. 731 00:55:54,397 --> 00:55:57,234 We're his family. We know how to help me, 732 00:55:57,269 --> 00:55:59,099 he wanted to change, to be closer to god. 733 00:55:59,134 --> 00:56:00,394 To be closer to YOU! 734 00:56:00,429 --> 00:56:04,668 Then he went further and further into that life style and he couldn't get out. 735 00:56:04,703 --> 00:56:07,487 Do you believe everything they tell you in church? 736 00:56:07,523 --> 00:56:09,867 I know you and uncle Bob meant with that serment... 737 00:56:09,902 --> 00:56:12,582 Bobby knew the repercussions about homosexual lifestyle. 738 00:56:12,618 --> 00:56:15,632 Bobby was good, descent and kind. 739 00:56:16,553 --> 00:56:21,662 Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up there and condemned him, and you let him. 740 00:56:21,698 --> 00:56:24,408 Bobby did everything he could to make himself acceptable to you. 741 00:56:24,444 --> 00:56:28,936 He was so good, and bright, and funny. He should be praised. 742 00:56:30,372 --> 00:56:33,376 I'm sorry you can't see it that way. 743 00:56:33,419 --> 00:56:35,169 Maybe you should go. 744 00:56:35,830 --> 00:56:37,081 Fine. 745 00:56:37,790 --> 00:56:40,733 I left Bobby's things in his room. 746 00:57:28,905 --> 00:57:30,156 Bobby! 747 00:57:30,319 --> 00:57:31,569 Hey Mum! 748 00:57:32,711 --> 00:57:34,885 Don't you ever do that again! 749 00:57:35,572 --> 00:57:37,349 I knew it wasn't true. 750 00:57:37,385 --> 00:57:39,834 I knew God would bring you back to me. 751 00:57:39,868 --> 00:57:41,949 Mum, you worry too much. 752 00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:21,842 I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sands. 753 00:58:21,876 --> 00:58:23,367 A bottomless pool. 754 00:58:23,504 --> 00:58:27,385 I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever. 755 00:58:27,420 --> 00:58:28,922 Noone understands me. 756 00:58:29,447 --> 00:58:32,163 Noone in this house can accept my side of the story. 757 00:58:32,199 --> 00:58:35,019 I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with pity. 758 00:58:35,055 --> 00:58:37,729 I can't never let anyone find out I'm not straight. 759 00:58:37,765 --> 00:58:39,509 It would be so humiliating... 760 00:58:39,766 --> 00:58:41,401 My friends would hate me. 761 00:58:41,437 --> 00:58:42,877 and my family... 762 00:58:42,913 --> 00:58:43,750 Mum. 763 00:58:43,751 --> 00:58:45,279 I've overheard them. 764 00:58:45,505 --> 00:58:46,757 Thank you. 765 00:58:46,966 --> 00:58:48,644 They've said that they hate gays. 766 00:58:48,679 --> 00:58:50,758 And even God hates gays. 767 00:58:51,838 --> 00:58:56,025 It really scares me when they talk that way because now they are talking about me. 768 00:58:56,060 --> 00:58:57,938 I don't wanna choose sin. 769 00:58:57,974 --> 00:58:59,225 I don't. 770 00:58:59,661 --> 00:59:02,466 I'm so mad and frustrated god... 771 00:59:02,501 --> 00:59:05,176 I seem to be at the end of the road. 772 00:59:05,196 --> 00:59:07,140 Why do you remain silent? 773 00:59:08,631 --> 00:59:09,883 May 30th. 774 00:59:10,048 --> 00:59:12,231 Memorial Day Barbecue. 775 00:59:12,294 --> 00:59:13,546 Had fun. 776 00:59:13,838 --> 00:59:16,127 Mum was sweet and funny self. 777 00:59:16,163 --> 00:59:17,773 Like the old Mum... 778 00:59:18,115 --> 00:59:20,845 For a second it felt like the old days. 779 00:59:20,879 --> 00:59:23,157 She smiled at something I said, 780 00:59:23,193 --> 00:59:25,686 and I saw on her eyes that for a second she forgot what she really thinks of me. 781 00:59:28,299 --> 00:59:30,429 The anger never erupts. 782 00:59:30,464 --> 00:59:35,402 My timid nature would never allow a full fledged thunderstorm to occur. 783 00:59:35,436 --> 00:59:37,464 But it's there, on the horizon. 784 00:59:38,255 --> 00:59:41,887 I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with such pity. 785 00:59:41,923 --> 00:59:43,750 He can't help me though. 786 00:59:43,752 --> 00:59:47,064 Because I've chosen sin over righteousness. 787 01:00:13,797 --> 01:00:15,047 Excuse me. 788 01:00:15,403 --> 01:00:16,655 You alright Ed? 789 01:00:16,804 --> 01:00:20,312 Oh yeah, I'm fantastic. I think we all are. Isn't that obvious? 790 01:00:20,348 --> 01:00:23,366 Ed. We have to deal with this as a family. 791 01:00:23,630 --> 01:00:26,794 That was your answer for Bobby too but it didn't work. 792 01:00:26,830 --> 01:00:28,080 Damned! 793 01:00:29,059 --> 01:00:30,310 I'll go. I'll go. 794 01:00:30,482 --> 01:00:31,732 Excuse me. 795 01:00:36,835 --> 01:00:38,086 Come, Nancy. 796 01:01:07,598 --> 01:01:10,833 You wanna get out of here, maybe go for a beer? 797 01:01:18,779 --> 01:01:21,477 Did he even think about what he would do to us? 798 01:01:22,966 --> 01:01:24,491 He could have called... 799 01:01:25,186 --> 01:01:26,437 or something but... 800 01:01:27,726 --> 01:01:29,974 not just screw us, right? Ed... 801 01:01:29,975 --> 01:01:33,695 Nothing no! No goodbye, no note, nothing. Just... 802 01:01:38,380 --> 01:01:39,734 I'm sorry Bobby. 803 01:01:41,010 --> 01:01:42,261 I'm sorry. 804 01:01:43,915 --> 01:01:45,313 Are you happy now? 805 01:01:45,589 --> 01:01:46,945 I'm sorry Bobby. 806 01:01:47,781 --> 01:01:49,178 Are you happy now? 807 01:01:50,047 --> 01:01:51,298 Ed... 808 01:01:53,598 --> 01:01:55,095 It's not your fault. 809 01:02:09,742 --> 01:02:12,098 There must be other Bobbys out there. 810 01:02:13,509 --> 01:02:17,510 Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives. 811 01:02:18,618 --> 01:02:20,612 Does the church reach out to them? 812 01:02:23,099 --> 01:02:25,272 They are other churches that do that. 813 01:02:26,435 --> 01:02:31,792 Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you how sorry he is for your loss. 814 01:02:32,304 --> 01:02:35,000 We can come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your f... 815 01:02:35,003 --> 01:02:36,857 You don't understand, are you... 816 01:02:40,870 --> 01:02:42,799 I don't know what to do. 817 01:02:44,413 --> 01:02:47,597 I need to make peace with this and I can't. 818 01:02:49,532 --> 01:02:53,818 The lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire. 819 01:02:55,553 --> 01:02:57,833 Bobby... sinned! 820 01:02:57,834 --> 01:02:59,696 But he was pure of heart. 821 01:03:00,613 --> 01:03:03,162 He'd never knowingly hurt anyone. 822 01:03:05,544 --> 01:03:06,795 Is that enough? 823 01:03:13,170 --> 01:03:14,422 Is it? 824 01:03:19,707 --> 01:03:20,959 Dear god, 825 01:03:21,504 --> 01:03:24,738 my relationship to you leaves something to be desired. 826 01:03:25,826 --> 01:03:27,438 I have never asked of you, 827 01:03:27,591 --> 01:03:29,715 only given, as I was told. 828 01:03:30,191 --> 01:03:32,970 Your holy spirit has taught me so much... 829 01:03:33,172 --> 01:03:35,758 But now there's more I need to know. 830 01:03:42,996 --> 01:03:44,247 Hey! 831 01:03:49,106 --> 01:03:50,357 I can't. 832 01:03:53,506 --> 01:03:54,758 Ok. 833 01:04:03,370 --> 01:04:05,424 I think I'm gonna sleep in the living room. 834 01:04:52,977 --> 01:04:54,227 Reverend? 835 01:04:54,504 --> 01:04:55,753 Mary Griffith. 836 01:04:55,758 --> 01:04:57,382 Nice to have you with us, Mary. 837 01:04:57,418 --> 01:04:58,669 The bible... 838 01:04:59,382 --> 01:05:03,540 it says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death. Do you believe that? 839 01:05:03,576 --> 01:05:06,976 There are other interpretations of the bible, Mrs Griffith. 840 01:05:07,158 --> 01:05:08,389 My son... 841 01:05:08,390 --> 01:05:09,641 was gay... 842 01:05:09,759 --> 01:05:11,009 and he killed himself. 843 01:05:12,560 --> 01:05:14,970 Is there an other interpretation of that? 844 01:05:17,430 --> 01:05:18,681 I'm sorry. 845 01:05:23,139 --> 01:05:24,777 What was his name? 846 01:05:26,479 --> 01:05:27,732 Bobby. 847 01:05:28,179 --> 01:05:29,431 Bobby Griffith. 848 01:05:32,031 --> 01:05:33,996 I saw him here a couple of times. 849 01:05:34,030 --> 01:05:35,282 My Bobby? 850 01:05:35,823 --> 01:05:38,238 He always sat way in the back. 851 01:05:38,726 --> 01:05:40,253 He stopped coming. 852 01:05:41,512 --> 01:05:42,763 I am so sorry. 853 01:05:43,076 --> 01:05:45,898 You must be... I need answers. 854 01:05:46,175 --> 01:05:48,175 I need to know where he is. 855 01:05:48,569 --> 01:05:51,582 Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin? 856 01:05:51,949 --> 01:05:53,586 Leviticus, 18:22 says: 857 01:05:54,524 --> 01:05:58,157 «If a man lies with another man, it is an abomination.» 858 01:05:58,192 --> 01:06:02,246 An abomination, in that time, didn't mean sin. It meant unclean. 859 01:06:02,281 --> 01:06:06,171 Leviticus also goes on to say eating shellfish is an abomination. 860 01:06:06,206 --> 01:06:08,048 Or mixing fabrics... 861 01:06:08,084 --> 01:06:09,544 Leviticus 20:13 862 01:06:10,065 --> 01:06:13,104 «If a man lies with another man, they both should be put to death.» 863 01:06:13,139 --> 01:06:15,867 And then he says the same thing about an adultere, 864 01:06:15,890 --> 01:06:18,682 or a child that disobeys their parents. 865 01:06:18,822 --> 01:06:22,109 And we certainly don't interpret that scripture litteraly. 866 01:06:22,144 --> 01:06:23,464 In Deuteronomy 22, 867 01:06:23,475 --> 01:06:25,875 «If a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day, 868 01:06:25,911 --> 01:06:29,919 she should be taken to her father's house and stoned to death.» 869 01:06:30,306 --> 01:06:33,593 So what do you tell people who come here? 870 01:06:33,702 --> 01:06:34,953 Gay people... 871 01:06:35,799 --> 01:06:37,984 That homosexuality is ok? 872 01:06:38,020 --> 01:06:40,589 That it is permissible in god's eyes? 873 01:06:40,625 --> 01:06:42,600 I tell them what I believe to be the truth: 874 01:06:42,636 --> 01:06:44,418 that God loves them as they are. 875 01:06:45,340 --> 01:06:47,212 God's vengeance is great. 876 01:06:47,248 --> 01:06:49,031 So is his compassion. 877 01:06:49,142 --> 01:06:52,864 You shouldn't teach them that homoseuxality is ok. 878 01:06:52,900 --> 01:06:54,785 That's not what the bible says. 879 01:06:55,128 --> 01:06:56,836 It just confuses them more. 880 01:06:57,042 --> 01:07:00,368 Mrs Griffith, if you'd like to come back during the week and talk, 881 01:07:00,404 --> 01:07:03,295 my door is open, but not to be blamed. 882 01:07:03,702 --> 01:07:04,954 ok? 883 01:07:42,817 --> 01:07:44,108 I think that we got 884 01:07:44,142 --> 01:07:45,394 a pretty good one, 885 01:07:45,755 --> 01:07:47,006 nice and full. 886 01:07:47,948 --> 01:07:50,468 A couple of balls like your dear old dad. 887 01:07:50,504 --> 01:07:51,754 Or grandma... 888 01:07:54,765 --> 01:07:56,017 Yeah... 889 01:07:56,723 --> 01:07:59,198 Mum, can we hang this one on the tree? 890 01:08:00,942 --> 01:08:02,357 I remember when he made this. 891 01:08:06,350 --> 01:08:07,601 Second grade. 892 01:08:08,350 --> 01:08:10,228 Mrs Towns' class, I think. 893 01:08:10,714 --> 01:08:13,071 He was so proud of himself. 894 01:08:15,698 --> 01:08:17,113 Where do you want to put it? 895 01:08:18,368 --> 01:08:21,021 Up high. So he can look out. 896 01:08:28,021 --> 01:08:29,272 Hey, they work. 897 01:08:33,875 --> 01:08:35,523 I'm gonna go check on my cookies. 898 01:09:00,084 --> 01:09:02,509 I found the passage you talked about. 899 01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:04,034 About stoning to death 900 01:09:04,070 --> 01:09:05,322 Deuteronomy, 22. 901 01:09:06,201 --> 01:09:08,545 But what about Sodom and Gommorah? 902 01:09:08,554 --> 01:09:12,624 God punishes the sin of homosexuality. How do you explain that? 903 01:09:12,658 --> 01:09:14,442 It's nice to see you too, Mary. 904 01:09:15,892 --> 01:09:17,141 What's this for? 905 01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:18,847 It's a roomish sale. 906 01:09:19,294 --> 01:09:21,417 All gay people have roomish too. 907 01:09:22,397 --> 01:09:25,165 So... What about Sodom and Gommorah? 908 01:09:26,064 --> 01:09:28,443 Many scholars think this sin was greed 909 01:09:28,461 --> 01:09:30,287 and not homosexuality. 910 01:09:30,323 --> 01:09:32,273 And it wasn't labeled homosexuality 911 01:09:32,274 --> 01:09:34,210 until years after it was written. 912 01:09:34,246 --> 01:09:38,568 Do you have answers for all these things just to justify being that way? 913 01:09:38,604 --> 01:09:41,131 You have answers to justify that it's wrong. 914 01:09:41,165 --> 01:09:43,193 I guess we're in an impass here. 915 01:09:44,607 --> 01:09:48,769 So you think it's ok to interpret the bible any way you want? 916 01:09:48,805 --> 01:09:53,754 No, of course not. But the bible was written and interpreted my mortal men. 917 01:09:53,790 --> 01:09:58,594 And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time and what they lived. 918 01:09:59,028 --> 01:10:03,001 So you feel completely free to question it? 919 01:10:03,012 --> 01:10:05,468 Because... I think it's blasphemous. 920 01:10:05,925 --> 01:10:08,572 I don't think God minds questions. 921 01:10:08,702 --> 01:10:12,200 He might not be thrilled with all our answers. 922 01:10:12,235 --> 01:10:15,858 I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all. 923 01:10:15,893 --> 01:10:18,253 I've never questioned my faith. I... 924 01:10:18,288 --> 01:10:20,252 I've never had reasons to. 925 01:10:20,287 --> 01:10:21,981 Sometimes to question it... 926 01:10:22,017 --> 01:10:24,752 helps you find a deeper faith. 927 01:10:26,536 --> 01:10:28,406 Bobby stopped coming here. 928 01:10:29,945 --> 01:10:31,644 I think the reason was... 929 01:10:32,103 --> 01:10:35,984 he couldn't never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love. 930 01:10:39,625 --> 01:10:41,201 And we didn't help. 931 01:10:42,276 --> 01:10:43,526 Mary... 932 01:10:44,247 --> 01:10:46,405 Have you ever heard about P-FLAG? 933 01:10:46,441 --> 01:10:50,584 It's a national organisation. It's «Parents and friend of lesbians and gays». 934 01:10:50,618 --> 01:10:52,642 No, that's not for me. They can help. 935 01:10:52,794 --> 01:10:55,784 You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this. 936 01:10:55,788 --> 01:10:56,839 Bye reverend. 937 01:10:56,840 --> 01:10:59,488 No. There's a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert. 938 01:10:59,491 --> 01:11:00,743 You'll love her. 939 01:11:00,799 --> 01:11:03,264 She has a gay son in his 30s. 940 01:11:03,464 --> 01:11:06,375 I just had a few questions. I don't need anything else. 941 01:11:06,410 --> 01:11:07,719 Just in case. 942 01:11:14,219 --> 01:11:16,628 It's true. There's a passage that says if children are 943 01:11:16,651 --> 01:11:19,750 disobedient they should be put to death. 944 01:11:19,786 --> 01:11:23,127 And I mean noone interprets that litteraly. 945 01:11:23,506 --> 01:11:25,315 What I'm saying is... 946 01:11:25,648 --> 01:11:28,609 if the church no longer interprets that litteraly, 947 01:11:28,645 --> 01:11:31,617 maybe homosexuality is also on that list. 948 01:11:31,653 --> 01:11:32,900 Well, maybe. 949 01:11:33,838 --> 01:11:35,777 Well, don't you think that's important? 950 01:11:36,382 --> 01:11:39,356 Mary, I wasn't that keen with the first interpretation of the bible. 951 01:11:39,392 --> 01:11:42,493 Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven. 952 01:11:42,529 --> 01:11:44,941 Yeah, well, he's not here. Right? 953 01:11:44,942 --> 01:11:47,221 Why isn't that enough for you? 954 01:11:47,256 --> 01:11:48,809 Is it enough for you?! 955 01:11:50,457 --> 01:11:53,428 Does it make it any better? Everything you're doing? 956 01:11:53,463 --> 01:11:55,126 What do you want me to do? 957 01:11:55,766 --> 01:11:58,698 Just forget about him? I can't do that. Maybe you can. 958 01:11:58,734 --> 01:12:01,457 I don't wont to forget about him, Mary. 959 01:12:01,459 --> 01:12:03,832 I want to remember him. Then I want to move on. But I can't! 960 01:12:03,861 --> 01:12:05,112 Nobody can... 961 01:12:05,531 --> 01:12:08,062 Just walk away. Like you always do. You never deal with anything. 962 01:12:08,860 --> 01:12:10,112 Oh, I see... 963 01:12:10,406 --> 01:12:12,259 Maybe if I did, Bobby would still be alive today? 964 01:12:12,269 --> 01:12:14,971 Is that what you're saying? Is that what you think? 965 01:12:17,140 --> 01:12:18,601 You can answer me! 966 01:12:25,190 --> 01:12:26,481 Listen Mary... 967 01:12:26,972 --> 01:12:29,087 we both made mistakes. We all made mistakes. But it's done, he's gone. 968 01:12:29,123 --> 01:12:32,386 We're not gonna bring him back. 969 01:12:32,422 --> 01:12:33,672 I know that!!! 970 01:12:34,610 --> 01:12:36,663 Don't you know I know that?! 971 01:12:59,160 --> 01:13:01,068 Mary? I'm Betty. 972 01:13:01,069 --> 01:13:02,602 Hello. Betty Lambert. 973 01:13:02,603 --> 01:13:04,486 I'm so glad you called. 974 01:13:04,522 --> 01:13:05,771 Please, come in. 975 01:13:06,884 --> 01:13:10,486 Reverend Whitsell told me what happened to Bobby. 976 01:13:10,522 --> 01:13:15,209 I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that... 977 01:13:15,280 --> 01:13:16,745 How long has it been? 978 01:13:19,094 --> 01:13:20,345 Six months... 979 01:13:20,443 --> 01:13:22,263 Six months and a few days. 980 01:13:25,078 --> 01:13:28,257 Our son was 14 when he came out to us. 981 01:13:28,293 --> 01:13:30,421 Isn't that a little young? 982 01:13:32,360 --> 01:13:33,886 I knew before then. 983 01:13:34,850 --> 01:13:37,509 We, mothers, we always know. Don't we? 984 01:13:38,354 --> 01:13:40,129 And you were ok with it? 985 01:13:40,165 --> 01:13:41,417 Oh god, no. 986 01:13:42,210 --> 01:13:48,173 I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks «Oh Goodie»! 987 01:13:50,449 --> 01:13:54,957 «Goodie» wasn't the first word that came to my mind. 988 01:13:55,762 --> 01:13:57,014 Mary... 989 01:13:57,611 --> 01:14:00,956 Why don't you come to a P-FLAG meeting with me? 990 01:14:01,057 --> 01:14:02,309 No, I'm... 991 01:14:02,890 --> 01:14:05,114 I'm not good at talking in groups. 992 01:14:05,638 --> 01:14:06,932 So don't talk. 993 01:14:07,904 --> 01:14:09,368 Just come and listen. 994 01:14:10,515 --> 01:14:14,246 I think you'll be shocked 995 01:14:14,261 --> 01:14:17,759 at how many people think they were the All-American-Family. 996 01:14:17,882 --> 01:14:19,133 I'll think about it. 997 01:14:24,309 --> 01:14:27,284 Eric was taunted in shcool all the time. 998 01:14:28,791 --> 01:14:31,051 Mary, you came. I can't stay long. 999 01:14:31,052 --> 01:14:32,323 That's great. Come on in. 1000 01:14:32,324 --> 01:14:35,409 I was so furious, I went to the principal. 1001 01:14:35,445 --> 01:14:38,868 But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it. 1002 01:14:39,418 --> 01:14:41,247 I was shocked by that. 1003 01:14:41,735 --> 01:14:44,343 I called them fruits, and ferries. 1004 01:14:44,965 --> 01:14:46,216 I didn't know. 1005 01:14:46,545 --> 01:14:49,723 It took me a long time to accept my Sam. 1006 01:14:50,588 --> 01:14:52,174 I think I alway knew. 1007 01:14:52,387 --> 01:14:57,291 I mean... He asked for a pink Lacoste shirt for his birthday. 1008 01:14:57,528 --> 01:14:59,298 He was always different. 1009 01:14:59,752 --> 01:15:01,631 So he tells me he's gay... 1010 01:15:01,935 --> 01:15:04,481 What do I do? I take him hunting. 1011 01:15:04,574 --> 01:15:07,745 There he is in his pink Lacoste shirt, he saw a deer 1012 01:15:07,782 --> 01:15:10,202 and yaled «Run, Bambi, run» 1013 01:15:11,130 --> 01:15:14,243 I always knew I could love my son 1014 01:15:14,277 --> 01:15:17,831 I never thought I could accept him. For who he is. 1015 01:15:18,670 --> 01:15:23,305 Well, when Gil told me she was gay. I insisted she see a psychiastrist. 1016 01:15:23,341 --> 01:15:26,904 But when that man suggested shock therapy, 1017 01:15:28,181 --> 01:15:32,226 I looked at my baby and, the hurt in her eyes. 1018 01:15:32,989 --> 01:15:34,658 I thought «This is crazy!» 1019 01:15:34,694 --> 01:15:37,017 Ah, hello reverend! Please, come sit down. 1020 01:15:37,018 --> 01:15:38,996 Hi guys! Hi reverend! 1021 01:15:38,997 --> 01:15:41,042 Glad to see you're all here tonight. 1022 01:15:41,078 --> 01:15:42,348 As you may know, 1023 01:15:42,349 --> 01:15:46,307 reverend Whitsell is a pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church, 1024 01:15:46,343 --> 01:15:50,717 and he's proposing a gay freedom day to the Walnut Creek city council. 1025 01:15:51,405 --> 01:15:54,327 The city council vote happens in about a month. 1026 01:15:54,363 --> 01:15:57,481 and I would love all your support. 1027 01:16:14,073 --> 01:16:15,324 Mary! 1028 01:16:51,519 --> 01:16:52,769 Mary? 1029 01:16:53,959 --> 01:16:56,537 Mary, what are you doing out here? 1030 01:16:57,195 --> 01:17:01,054 You're soak. Come inside. I didn't know where else to go. 1031 01:17:07,430 --> 01:17:08,955 I was sitting there, 1032 01:17:09,449 --> 01:17:11,461 listening to all their stories. 1033 01:17:12,450 --> 01:17:13,699 About how they... 1034 01:17:14,230 --> 01:17:15,828 always just knew... 1035 01:17:16,378 --> 01:17:18,854 their kid was different. 1036 01:17:20,499 --> 01:17:23,026 And then I had this dream tonight... 1037 01:17:23,919 --> 01:17:25,436 Bobby was a baby. 1038 01:17:32,394 --> 01:17:35,483 My son was always different. 1039 01:17:39,188 --> 01:17:41,784 His difference began at conception. 1040 01:17:44,474 --> 01:17:45,724 I knew that. 1041 01:17:46,832 --> 01:17:48,084 I felt it. 1042 01:17:49,999 --> 01:17:51,251 I know now... 1043 01:17:51,816 --> 01:17:53,928 why God didn't heal Bobby 1044 01:17:55,956 --> 01:17:57,689 He didn't heal him because... 1045 01:18:00,181 --> 01:18:03,292 there was nothing wrong with him. 1046 01:18:05,155 --> 01:18:06,403 I did this! 1047 01:18:08,287 --> 01:18:10,178 I killed my son! 1048 01:18:10,215 --> 01:18:12,875 You did not kill your son. Bobby killed himself. 1049 01:18:13,314 --> 01:18:15,144 How could God forgive me? 1050 01:18:17,168 --> 01:18:19,059 How could Bobby forgive me? 1051 01:18:20,023 --> 01:18:21,704 God has already done the forgiving. 1052 01:18:22,017 --> 01:18:24,594 You have to forgive yourself. 1053 01:18:26,196 --> 01:18:27,551 I'm so sorry! 1054 01:18:30,619 --> 01:18:32,971 I'm so sorry! 1055 01:18:42,829 --> 01:18:44,080 Dear god. 1056 01:18:44,315 --> 01:18:47,722 Give us something we can live with 1057 01:18:47,739 --> 01:18:51,672 and pass on to others whose lives will never be the same because of a loved one's death. 1058 01:18:52,333 --> 01:18:54,714 I did not decide on brown eyes for myself. 1059 01:18:55,748 --> 01:18:59,274 And I now realize that Bobby didn't decide to be gay. 1060 01:19:00,058 --> 01:19:01,680 If you say in your word 1061 01:19:01,716 --> 01:19:04,795 that it is evil and wicked to be born with no arms, 1062 01:19:05,075 --> 01:19:07,310 and a child is born with no arms, 1063 01:19:08,142 --> 01:19:10,316 What is that child to think? 1064 01:19:16,710 --> 01:19:19,612 Our first order business is a proposal for 1065 01:19:19,613 --> 01:19:22,668 a gay freedeom day in Walnut Creek. 1066 01:19:22,703 --> 01:19:24,023 Attention, please. 1067 01:19:24,305 --> 01:19:26,366 We have a select group to debate the issue. 1068 01:19:26,401 --> 01:19:27,454 I don't see her. 1069 01:19:27,455 --> 01:19:30,041 ...it's reverend Whitsell. 1070 01:19:30,320 --> 01:19:31,572 For one day, 1071 01:19:32,363 --> 01:19:36,413 for one day, people can celebrate their difference rather than feel shame. 1072 01:19:36,448 --> 01:19:38,182 They should be ashame! 1073 01:19:40,231 --> 01:19:44,541 There are so many other people who need our time and our attention. 1074 01:19:44,576 --> 01:19:46,552 Why are we wasting it on this? 1075 01:19:46,621 --> 01:19:49,903 Alright, alright. Let's have some order here please. 1076 01:19:49,938 --> 01:19:53,368 They spit in the face of decency and morality. 1077 01:19:55,198 --> 01:20:00,794 We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart. 1078 01:20:01,090 --> 01:20:02,419 Right? 1079 01:20:07,382 --> 01:20:10,981 I heard he tries to run for the Human Relations commission, 1080 01:20:11,021 --> 01:20:14,257 they picked that limped Whitsell instead. 1081 01:20:14,381 --> 01:20:16,151 They sent him a letter. 1082 01:20:16,259 --> 01:20:18,107 I said, 'We sing hymns at our church'. 1083 01:20:18,143 --> 01:20:20,248 What do you do with the hymns at your church? 1084 01:20:20,283 --> 01:20:22,803 So unless anyone else has anything else to add, 1085 01:20:22,839 --> 01:20:25,468 we'll adjourn to make our decision. 1086 01:20:25,504 --> 01:20:26,755 Mary? 1087 01:20:27,601 --> 01:20:28,851 Hey Dad! 1088 01:20:29,629 --> 01:20:30,881 Dad, get in here! 1089 01:20:31,489 --> 01:20:33,651 Dad hurry up! Mum's on TV. 1090 01:20:33,722 --> 01:20:35,890 Homosexuality is a sin. 1091 01:20:37,451 --> 01:20:40,534 Homosexuals are dommed to spend eternity in hell. 1092 01:20:41,915 --> 01:20:43,374 If they wanted to change, 1093 01:20:43,726 --> 01:20:46,799 they could be healed of their evil ways. 1094 01:20:46,834 --> 01:20:48,863 If they would turn away from temptation, 1095 01:20:49,463 --> 01:20:51,525 they could be normal again. 1096 01:20:51,601 --> 01:20:54,769 If only they would try and try harder, 1097 01:20:54,804 --> 01:20:56,438 if it doesn't work. 1098 01:20:56,489 --> 01:20:59,497 These are all the things I said to my son Bobby 1099 01:20:59,512 --> 01:21:01,446 when I found out he was gay. 1100 01:21:01,481 --> 01:21:05,106 When he told me he was homosexual, my world fell apart. 1101 01:21:05,770 --> 01:21:07,392 I did everything I could 1102 01:21:07,739 --> 01:21:09,681 to cure him of his sickness. 1103 01:21:10,887 --> 01:21:12,899 8 months ago, my son... 1104 01:21:12,934 --> 01:21:15,133 jumped off a bridge and killed himself. 1105 01:21:16,812 --> 01:21:18,929 I deeply regret my lack of knowledge 1106 01:21:18,951 --> 01:21:21,639 about gay and lesbian people 1107 01:21:21,675 --> 01:21:26,228 I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slender. 1108 01:21:27,638 --> 01:21:31,229 If I had investigated, beyond what I was told, 1109 01:21:31,309 --> 01:21:34,712 if I had just, listened to my son, 1110 01:21:36,152 --> 01:21:38,445 when he poured his heart out to me... 1111 01:21:38,986 --> 01:21:41,342 I would not be standing here today with you 1112 01:21:41,675 --> 01:21:43,438 filled with regrets. 1113 01:21:43,651 --> 01:21:44,806 I believe 1114 01:21:44,807 --> 01:21:48,696 that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. 1115 01:21:48,732 --> 01:21:49,998 In god's eyes 1116 01:21:50,034 --> 01:21:52,757 kindness and love are what it's all about. 1117 01:21:53,113 --> 01:21:58,288 I didn't know that each time that I echoed eternal damnation for gay people... 1118 01:21:58,336 --> 01:22:01,048 each time I referred to Bobby as 1119 01:22:01,063 --> 01:22:04,488 sick and perverted and a danger to our children... 1120 01:22:04,890 --> 01:22:06,356 his self-esteem, 1121 01:22:06,898 --> 01:22:10,193 his sense of worth, were being destroyed. 1122 01:22:10,509 --> 01:22:11,864 and finally, 1123 01:22:11,897 --> 01:22:15,738 his spirit broke beyond repair. 1124 01:22:16,755 --> 01:22:22,386 It was not god's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass 1125 01:22:23,440 --> 01:22:25,240 and jumped directly into the path 1126 01:22:25,275 --> 01:22:29,544 of an 18 wheel truck which killed him instantly. 1127 01:22:30,418 --> 01:22:32,992 Bobby's death 1128 01:22:32,993 --> 01:22:37,442 was the direct result of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay. 1129 01:22:39,704 --> 01:22:41,412 He wanted to be a writer. 1130 01:22:43,536 --> 01:22:48,659 His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him but they were. 1131 01:22:49,470 --> 01:22:50,721 They are children 1132 01:22:51,207 --> 01:22:52,459 like Bobby, 1133 01:22:53,132 --> 01:22:55,326 sitting in your congreggations, 1134 01:22:56,393 --> 01:22:57,973 unknown to you, 1135 01:22:58,006 --> 01:22:59,654 they will be listening, 1136 01:22:59,752 --> 01:23:01,702 as you echo «Amen». 1137 01:23:03,785 --> 01:23:06,847 And that will soon silence their prayers. 1138 01:23:07,780 --> 01:23:09,296 Their prayers to god, 1139 01:23:09,331 --> 01:23:10,687 for understanding, 1140 01:23:10,839 --> 01:23:12,193 and acceptance, 1141 01:23:12,308 --> 01:23:13,862 and for your love. 1142 01:23:15,802 --> 01:23:17,670 But your hatred, and fear, 1143 01:23:18,605 --> 01:23:22,738 and ignorance of the word «gay» will silence those prayers 1144 01:23:24,131 --> 01:23:25,382 So... 1145 01:23:27,717 --> 01:23:29,427 before you echo «Amen» 1146 01:23:29,811 --> 01:23:32,337 in your home and place of worship. 1147 01:23:32,844 --> 01:23:34,095 Think! 1148 01:23:34,181 --> 01:23:35,745 Think and remember. 1149 01:23:36,532 --> 01:23:38,352 A child is listening. 1150 01:23:44,360 --> 01:23:45,612 Oh, Mum... 1151 01:23:52,140 --> 01:23:53,728 Should be good. 1152 01:24:06,145 --> 01:24:07,396 He lost. 1153 01:24:08,033 --> 01:24:09,905 They voted the order install. 1154 01:24:09,940 --> 01:24:13,079 Well, he'll try again next year, right? 1155 01:24:13,912 --> 01:24:15,968 So, we're really going to San Francisco? 1156 01:24:16,003 --> 01:24:17,543 I think we have to. 1157 01:24:17,578 --> 01:24:19,657 I don't think that's a choice. 1158 01:24:20,492 --> 01:24:21,745 Well... 1159 01:24:21,964 --> 01:24:23,213 that's ironic. 1160 01:24:25,572 --> 01:24:26,824 Ok. 1161 01:24:36,620 --> 01:24:38,915 Are we late? Just in time! 1162 01:24:40,071 --> 01:24:41,564 Jacky, is this everyone? 1163 01:24:41,599 --> 01:24:42,953 Oh! honey, no... 1164 01:24:43,215 --> 01:24:44,466 Come with me. 1165 01:24:44,512 --> 01:24:46,178 We have a special place for you. 1166 01:24:46,214 --> 01:24:47,463 Ok . 1167 01:25:32,401 --> 01:25:35,038 To all the Bobby and Janes out there... 1168 01:25:35,118 --> 01:25:39,516 I say these words to you as I would with my own precious children. 1169 01:25:39,552 --> 01:25:41,606 Please don't give up hope on life. 1170 01:25:41,641 --> 01:25:42,893 Or yourselves. 1171 01:25:43,506 --> 01:25:45,451 You're very special to me. 1172 01:25:45,486 --> 01:25:48,136 I'm working very hard to make this world 1173 01:25:48,137 --> 01:25:50,846 a better and safer place for you to live in. 1174 01:25:50,882 --> 01:25:53,566 Promise me you'll keep trying. 1175 01:25:53,663 --> 01:25:55,482 Bobby gave up on love. 1176 01:25:55,540 --> 01:25:57,364 I hope you won't. 1177 01:25:57,399 --> 01:25:59,484 You're always in my gods. 1178 01:26:01,901 --> 01:26:03,953 My name is Bobby Griffith. 1179 01:26:04,360 --> 01:26:06,562 I write this in hope that one day, 1180 01:26:06,596 --> 01:26:08,028 many years from now, 1181 01:26:08,393 --> 01:26:09,909 I would be able to go back 1182 01:26:09,945 --> 01:26:11,782 and remember what my life was like, 1183 01:26:11,817 --> 01:26:14,476 when I was a young and confused adolescent, 1184 01:26:14,512 --> 01:26:18,600 desperately trying to understand myself in the world I live in 1185 01:26:18,636 --> 01:26:20,653 The other reason I write this, 1186 01:26:20,689 --> 01:26:22,870 so long after I died, 1187 01:26:22,906 --> 01:26:25,819 others may have a chance to read about me, 1188 01:26:25,854 --> 01:26:28,982 and see what my life as a young person was like. 1189 01:27:35,882 --> 01:27:38,991 On December 6th 1995, Mary Griffith testified before 1190 01:27:39,010 --> 01:27:42,035 members of the Congress of the United States. 1191 01:27:42,063 --> 01:27:45,706 Her tireless work protecting the rights of gay and lesbian youth 1192 01:27:45,721 --> 01:27:48,838 has established her as a major force in the fight for human rights. 1193 01:27:50,499 --> 01:27:53,627 Before you echo "Amen" in your home or place of worship, 1194 01:27:53,644 --> 01:27:56,722 think and remember. A child is listening. - Mary Griffith. 1195 01:27:59,193 --> 01:28:04,574 In loving memory of Bobby Griffith and Leroy Aarons 86857