Original subtitles

Previously on "Before the 90 Days."

[shouts]

[chuckles] Trish!

[both giggle]

-I'm here, baby. -I can't believe it.

I really believe that she's the one.

I love you so, so, so much.

I know that I've been very suspicious of Trish.

After the ghosting incident.

But right now, all I wanna focus on is our bond.

Surprise! [chuckles]

Ooh, damn! [laughs loudly]

What?

[giggles]

My boyfriend is just a charmer.

He is a famous singer and rapper in Belize.

But my aunt hears a lot of rumors.

They actually just did a big concert.

And I was getting messages that she was at the concert

and that they left together.

I hope that Stig and I prove everybody wrong, but

there's definitely a part of me that wonders

if what my aunt is saying is true.

Birkan is absolutely, like, the hot main character,

straight out of a romance novel.

I'm ready to take the next step with him,

but I think my best friend, Michael,

has feelings for me that are more than just friendship.

You want my time and attention as though I am your girlfriend,

but it can't go both ways.

[Michael speaking]

[sobs]

I want a man who wants to be a man.

I want a man who wants to make me a priority.

[cries]

[Forrest] I'm headed to the Philippines today,

but last night,

Sheena tells me she has been giving all her money

to her parents this entire time.

I am not happy,

and I don't feel like I can trust her.

[Sheena] And I would have the most painful heartbreak in my life.

[tense music intensifies]

♪ It's a beautiful day ♪

♪♪

[Laura] I hate packing.

I feel like I'm gonna forget something.

So yeah, I don't like that. I'm like super nervous.

Did not expect to be this nervous.

I've never gone on a trip for this long.

I've never flown over the ocean.

I've never left the continent.

But I am leaving for Türkiye today.

I am so incredibly excited to finally be on my way to meet

what could be the love of my life.

I've been talking about doing this for so long,

for so many months.

And now that it's here,

I'm way more nervous than I thought I was going to be.

The situation with Michael is giving me a little bit

more anxiety, too.

When I confronted Michael, I really was...

trying to give him a chance, so I could have a clear head

before going to Türkiye to meet Birkan.

But Michael does not seem like he's ever going to come

to terms with his feelings and his emotions.

And that's not fair to me.

So I'm ready to take the next step with someone else.

Michael and I have a really great friendship.

We do a lot of things together.

We spend a lot of time together.

And I know that that is not really common to have that kind

of male-female friendship in other cultures,

other religions.

And so that's scary to feel like I might possibly have

to choose between somebody who's my best friend and somebody

who could be the love of my life.

[knocking]

It's open.

-Hey, how are you? -Hey.

-Good, how are you? -Oh, hi, Laura.

[Ellen] Are you excited?

Yeah, a little terrified, actually.

Yeah, I know. I bet.

-Hi. -Hey.

I'm terrified for you.

My parents offered to take me to the airport,

which is really nice.

But my relationship has felt a little bit strained

with my parents since I started dating Birkan.

They are very conservative and very Catholic.

And Birkan is not at all

who they would expect to see me end up with.

So I've tried not to talk about it with them very much.

You ready for your big adventure?

[Laura] So excited.

♪♪

I can't believe today's the day.

I appreciate you guys taking me to the airport.

I know it's a little bit of a drive.

Well, I wanted you to feel supported,

but I'm not in favor of all this.

I can't believe you would go clear to Türkiye and meet a guy

you never met, who is a Muslim.

It's not even in my wheelhouse to think that that would ever

have been something that was possible.

You know what I'm saying?

It seems irresponsible to me.

But it's not like I'm going in

completely blind

or without the same concerns and questions.

The age thing is the single biggest concern that I have.

I mean, how old's he, Laura?

He's 20 years younger than I am.

Oh, my God. Laura, are you serious?

I think I got hair on my chin older than that.

-Don't make jokes. -Holy mackerel!

That's not funny.

What is he thinking? What the --

[Laura] What is he thinking? I'm awesome.

What the heck is he thinking?

I think he's thinking I'm awesome.

No, I think he's thinking he wants a ticket to America.

That's what I think he's thinking.

Were you ever suspicious?

Like, "Gee, he's a young man talking to an older woman

and saying all the right things."

Has he told you he loved you?

-Yeah. -OK.

'Cause red flag. Because he doesn't love you.

That's not what love is.

You haven't even met this guy yet.

You've had a conversation with an unknown entity.

Right now, it's not love.

It's some infatuation or some...

to me, I will not be convinced it's nothing but...

that guy wants out of Türkiye.

I don't --

Like I said, it's a concern.

-I agree. -A concern?

It's more like ten giant red flags.

My word in Heaven.

You actually think that there's a possibility

that this could work

and this could be a lifelong commitment?

-Yeah, I do. -You do?

If I didn't think that there was a possibility,

I wouldn't be getting on a plane and flying to Türkiye.

Oh, my -- I'm --

Oh, my God.

[Laura] I feel blindsided.

I knew that they didn't really approve.

I just didn't know that they felt this strongly.

I just, honey, I disagree with the whole thing.

All of it.

I wanna be happy for you.

But I can't.

[Laura] I'm already so overwhelmed.

I'm feeling every emotion possible.

And for my mom to unleash all of these concerns on me

at this point,

it is just messing with my head.

It keeps me awake at night, thinking about you going

over there and doing all that.

Don't sell yourself short.

Don't ever settle.

♪♪

♪ I got a funny feeling Ain't nobody gonna understand ♪

♪ No trouble in the alley and..♪

[Lisa] We have to make a pit stop.

[Faith] Why?

Because your mother is picking out condoms.

-[sighs] -[giggle]

[Lisa] Are you sure you don't wanna come in with me?

Yeah, yeah. No.

[Lisa laughs] Yeah.

♪ I'm gonna do it once Do it twice ♪

♪ Take the cake, not just a slice ♪

♪ I got a funny feeling Ain't nobody gonna understand ♪

[Faith] What did you tell me earlier?

You're how old?

And you said you were an adult?

I'm an adult.

You don't need my help picking out [bleep] condoms.

My name is Lisa.

I'm 52 years old,

and I live in King of Prussia, Pennsylvania.

I thought you would feel better knowing that your mother's

taking precautions.

I mean, he did say he was a playboy, so...

I said a lot of women seem to like him.

No, you said he used to play the field a lot.

Is that not a playboy?

Playboy's somebody who's like a gigolo.

-He didn't say... -No!

...he went out with a lot of women.

Gigolo and playboys are way different.

-Gigolos are male hooker. -No, that's not.

That's what a gigolo is.

A pimp is the one who takes out female hookers

and gets the money. -OK.

I live with my daughter, Faith, or Faith lives with me.

We live with each other.

And she is the apple of my eye.

We talk about everything,

whether it's a topic of sex

and...masturbating

to dirty dishes in the sink

and who's gonna do the laundry tomorrow.

I don't know what I'm looking for.

What if I buy the wrong one?

How do I know what size it is?

Has he ever told you in inch?

Well, I guess it wouldn't be.

In kilometers?

No.

I have never used a condom before.

[laughs]

I have been married five times.

Husband number one, I was young, I was dumb,

and it led to an annulment.

Husband number two, he was my very best friend,

and it led to my daughter, Faith.

But after a few years,

I realized he made a better friend than he made a husband.

Husband number three, he was actually my favorite

of all of them. He was a really good guy.

So why did I leave him?

I realized I was a lesbian.

And for the past 21 years, I've been with women only.

♪ Let's go with the flow ♪

♪ Relax and watch what happens ♪

[Lisa] Women are nice and curvy and soft.

And I've had one wife, and then I've had another wife.

But neither of them worked out.

But I forgot about men, to be quite honest with you.

I wasn't even thinking that I'd be interested in a man

after 21 years.

But sure enough, Daniel came along and...

Yeah, Daniel came along.

[Lisa] He is 39 years old,

and he lives in Owerri, Nigeria.

He's not built like a woman in any sense of the way,

shape, or form, so I don't know what it is.

He messaged me on social media.

We didn't know each other from Adam or Eve.

So at first, I thought, this is a scam artist.

I said, "I'm not talking to you.

You're not real."

But he kept trying to talk to me.

And you know what? He is a smooth operator.

He says the sweetest, most charming things

I've ever heard.

[Laura] I just fell in love with him.

He is so sweet, it hurts my teeth like a bad candy bar.

I love you, Lisa, and I will continue to love you.

Daniel says I'm exquisite, and I'm beautiful

and gorgeous daily.

And he [bleep] better, because this damn thing is itchy

as all hell, and it's uncomfortable.

Can I take it off?

[groans]

[quirky music plays]

Oh, my God, it feels so much better.

One of my exes had me cut off my hair really, really short,

and I miss my long hair so much,

so I wear wigs.

Daniel saw me in my natural hair first,

and then he saw me in my wigs, and he was like, "Damn."

So now I wear wigs every day,

and I plan on wearing my wig the whole time

when I go visit Daniel in Nigeria

in less than a week.

-OK, here goes nothing. -Try a flavored one.

-You might like it. -No, I'm not getting flavored.

-Maybe ribbed. -No, I don't know.

Growing up with Mom was a roller coaster.

My mom is somebody who's always fallen in love so quickly,

at least what she thinks is love.

She's been through a lot of relationships.

We've moved so many places.

I've been to 15 different schools,

if that tells you something.

Part of me is surprised she's switching over to men

after 21 years.

I didn't see this one coming.

[Lisa] Oh, gosh.

Oh, it's a very small selection.

[sighs]

Oh, there's different sizes. Holy crap.

Daniel and I, we've had video sex.

We've sent pictures to each other,

and I am attracted to Daniel.

But the idea of laying with a man

after 21 years,

I can't even think about it.

They have different body parts than women.

The smells, the tastes, the feels, the cleanup.

I mean, I remember 21 years ago just walking to the bathroom

to have to take care of myself and still dripping.

That's disgusting. You don't have that with women.

It's a whole different ballgame.

Oh, I'm gonna be sick.

Um, sir?

If you have a moment,

could I ask you a question, please?

-How can I help you? -So embarrassing.

I'm sorry.

This is my first time I'm buying condoms.

-OK. -They have to be latex-free.

-OK. -I'm allergic to latex.

I'm...[sighs]

Oh, gosh.

When it says thinnest, does that mean that

you feel more like it's a natural skin on it? -Yeah.

It's just, it doesn't feel like there's plastic going in you,

or...I'm sorry, I'm crying. -No, you're good.

I'm just really, really embarrassed.

No, no, it's good.

I'm buying the condoms myself because I'm worried

that I'll get there and there won't be a latex-free condom.

But this is incredibly overwhelming

and emotional for me.

This is not just about the embarrassment

over the condoms.

All I can think about is Daniel and how he has no idea

that I lived my life as a lesbian for 21 years.

Thank you so much.

-Yeah, no problem. -I appreciate it.

A couple of months ago, I wanted to test the waters

to see if I could come out with my whole truth.

And I told him in the past I had a fling with a woman.

Daniel said to me, how could I do that to myself?

How could I do that to God?

God doesn't believe in same sexes being together.

And he was disgusted.

There you go.

-Thank you. -Yeah, no problem.

-Enjoy the rest of your day. -Gonna hide them in my purse.

[man laughs]

I plan on telling Daniel the truth in person

because I am not ashamed of who I am,

but I'm terrified to tell him

because of how he responded to the fling.

I'm terrified.

I'm worried that he's gonna say that this is a mistake

and walk away,

and I'm gonna be left heartbroken.

OK, that's over and done with.

Thank God!

[nervous laughter]

[speaking In Belizean Kriol]

[Stig] I was a player for most of my life.

Now, I actually want a family.

I want somebody to be here for me.

[6ixFrass speaking]

[Stig speaking]

[6ixFrass speaking]

[Sheena speaking]

[Forrest speaking]

[Molly speaking]

[Dev speaking]

[Forrest speaking]

[Aviva speaking]

I'm rushing to my next gate right now.

I don't wanna miss my flight.

It's a good thing that I've been keeping up in the gym

because I am having to run to my connecting flight to Belize

to meet my boyfriend Stig for the first time.

Stig, you better be worth it

because running through the airport

is really embarrassing.

Stig's a famous musician in Belize,

and the women there love him.

So, the last thing I wanna do is --

But I don't really have a choice right now.

Four minutes.

Just getting to my gate.

I made it with perfect timing. Thank the Lord.

Next stop, Belize.

After waiting for so long, I'm super nervous to meet Stig,

but I cannot wait to get my hands on him

and start a future together.

My second plane to Belize.

♪ I'm coming for you, baby ♪

♪ I'm coming for you, baby ♪

[music playing]

[Stig] Listen!

Everyone... [speaks in Belizean Kriol]

Ladies... [speaks in Belizean Kriol]

-[hip-hop music plays] -[sings in Belizean Kriol]

[audience cheers]

[music stops]

[audience shouting]

What's up? I am Earlyn Dwayne.

I go by Stig Da Artist.

[Stig speaking]

I love what I do. I love music.

I love singing for the ladies, them.

And the girls, you know, they can get pretty wild

at my show.

There's this one time, this girl was literally trying

to get in my pants. She was front stage.

I'm like, "Yo, chill."

But if that's what my music gives them,

that kind of joy, then [bleep] I'm doing the right job.

♪ I can't take you off my mind ♪

About 10 years ago, I put out my first song,

my first music video.

I recorded every single day in the studio.

I grew my fan base,

and now I'm at the highest level of Belize

as an artist.

So everybody recognized me, and I am very grateful

for the love and support that I get here.

♪ There can only be one ♪

♪ One you, one man, one soul, one love ♪

[Stig] I'm very proud of what I've become,

but I couldn't have done it by myself.

[Stig speaking]

And I know they're always looking out for me.

-[Richie] What, here? -Cheers, yeah?

[all speak in Belizean Kriol]

-[Perf speaks] -Yo!

[all speak in Belizean Kriol]

[giggling]

[speaks in Belizean Kriol]

[mocking]

Listen, my friends, they could joke around as much

as they want and tease me, but I'm very serious

about my girlfriend Aviva.

Two years ago, I started talking to Aviva

on social media.

At first, we were both in a relationship...

But one of the most attractive things about Aviva

is her personality.

And that's why I feel like she's the person I wanna

spend the rest of my life with.

[Richie speaks]

[Stig] I don't know.

[tense music plays]

[all laugh]

I mean...

[speaking Belizean Kriol]

[Stig speaking]

I mean, she's, you know, like...

[Perf speaks]

Yee haw!

[speaks Belizean Kriol]

[all laugh]

[speaks in Belizean Kriol]

[Perf speaks]

[Stig speaks]

[Stig] Uh-huh.

[boys laugh]

Yeah, but...

[Stig] A lot of my relations in the past have failed

because of this very issue.

You know, I was a player for most of my life.

Now, I actually want a family.

I want somebody I can go home to at night,

and they're there to listen to me,

to be there for me.

I hope Aviva can be that person

and that I can be a faithful partner.

You guys are gonna love Aviva.

You know, I love her.

So let's see how it goes.

God damn!

[Forrest speaking]

[singing in Filipino]

[city traffic noises]

[Sheena speaks in Filipino]

[laughs nervously]

I'm on my way to the airport now.

He rented a bigger apartment where we can all stay together.

So I'm carrying quite a few bags.

[speaks in Filipino]

I'm really quite nervous, and I don't know to react.

Or not.

So...

[anticipatory music plays]

[Molly speaks]

[Molly] Forrest, this sure is a long way

to come traveling for a girl.

Yeah.

[Sheena speaks]

[anticipatory music plays]

After 30 hours of being on an airplane,

I finally made it to the Philippines.

I'm feeling ecstatic.

I feel like I drank, like, six energy drinks.

[giggles]

Remember his phone...

[Molly speaks]

[Forrest] Always, Mom?

[Dev speaks]

[Forrest speaks]

[Molly speaks]

[Sheena speaks]

[speaks in Filipino]

[Molly speaks]

[Forrest speaks]

[Molly speaks]

[Sheena] Oh, my God.

[Dev & Molly speak]

[singing]

[Caribbean music plays]

I'm starting to fall more in love with Trish, but I think

it's important that we're completely transparent

with each other.

I wanted to touch bases with you about...

[Trisha speaks]

[Rick speaks]

You're so beautiful in the morning, babe.

[both giggle]

[singing in foreign language]

[Trisha speaks]

[both giggle]

So was it everything you expected it to be?

Even more.

Yesterday night, we had sex two times.

[Rick chuckles]

He's older, and I didn't think, like, he can do

all of the stuff he did to me.

Like, for the second round, it was...

Oh, my God.

Mmm!

[both laugh]

-[Trisha] You good? -Yeah.

We're here.

-Wow, so this is the market. -Yeah.

I only gave Trish a little sample of what I could do.

I have some more tricks up my sleeve.

If it were up to me, I'd just stay at the hotel all day.

But this is our first day in Madagascar together,

and Trish wants to take me to explore her city.

-What's that, fried fish right there? -[Trisha] Yeah.

This is so different from anywhere I've ever been

in my life.

[Trisha laughs]

Today, I want to show him everything around

in Antananarivo.

[Rick] The butcher shop right here, huh?

[Trisha] Mm-hmm.

And they just leave the meat out like this

without refrigeration?

Yeah.

Ooh, pig face!

-Yeah. -Oh, my God!

What is that, baby? What is that?

[Trisha] That's...

-That's the stomach? -The stomach -- yeah, yeah.

And then is this also, like, intestines or what?

Yes.

I think I see a heart over there.

[Trisha] Yeah, that's it.

[Rick] Oh, my God.

I'm feeling like Trish deceived me.

I mean, this is our first date.

All this raw meat is gonna mess up the sexy vibes

we had going this morning.

So this is all the leftover stuff

that people usually don't eat? -Yes, yeah.

No, don't say that.

In my culture, we eat everything.

We don't waste something in the cow.

[Rick] Oh, my God!

Even the feet, the head, intestine,

the heart, liver, everything.

Rick, it's just food. Relax!

Baby, I know that's not a brain right there!

It's a brain, yeah.

-[Rick] Oh, Lord. -[Trish] Yeah, why?

-And would you eat that? -Of course.

Well, baby, don't put that in no stew that you cooked

for me. Please don't!

[cars honking]

[Trish] Woo!

Oh, wow. What a view.

[Trish speaks]

[Rick] Wow.

-I can see the whole island. -Yeah.

Oh, my God.

[singing in Malagasy]

[percussive music plays]

[Trisha laughs]

[Trisha sings along]

[Rick] Yeah!

Yay!

Hey! Hey, baby, [indistinct]!

I know how to tap dance, but this is not tap dancing.

This is something foreign to me.

I've never seen this style of dance before.

But I'm realizing that there's a lot that I don't know

about Trish just from talking to her over the phone.

Like, she's an amazing dancer.

I didn't know she had that in her.

-[Rick] All right! -[shouting]

Woo-hoo, woo-hoo!

Every minute, I'm starting to fall more in love with Trish,

but I think it's important I get to know her better,

and they we're completely transparent with each other.

[Rick] Wow! That was something.

Was that your traditional dance?

-[Trisha] You like it? -[Rick] Oh, it's beautiful.

[Trisha speaks]

Rofa? Ah, Rova.

Oh. OK, now where's the palace?

-It's there. -Oh, that's the palace.

[Rick speaks]

Oh, I'm tired, even.

This is so beautiful, baby.

I'm having such a great time with you.

But, um, you know, there's some things that I want to talk

to you about.

So I wanted to

touch bases with you about what exactly you were doing

for those five days and...

why you weren't in contact with me.

I already told you, like,

you want me to explain to you everything happened?

You know that all of these things that you're telling me,

you know, kind of sounds unbelievable

in a way.

I would like you to be open and honest with me right now.

I promise I will tell you everything,

but promise me that you won't get mad.

[tense music plays]

You sent him money, right?

Is that not part of a romance scam?

My mom and I have been having a lot of hard times

right now, financially.

She's in so much debt.

I think this topic needs to be over,

because this is ridiculous.

♪ I'm gonna put the fire on the flames ♪

♪ Add a little heat to the sun ♪

[Lisa] Now we got entertainment.

Uh-oh.

And we got fire!

♪ What we gonna do? Gonna bring that heat ♪

♪ What we gonna do? Gonna bring that heat ♪

♪ Tell the competition... ♪

[Juna] Oh, go for it, Faith.

♪ What we gonna do? Gonna bring that heat ♪

[Lisa] Oh! No!

[Faith] I can do it.

-Oh! -That was so close!

[indistinct]

-[laughing] -Oh, my dear God!

-[indistinct] -[Lisa] Let me try.

-That was -- -That was way over my head.

That was on you.

-That was on you. -[chef] Oh, yeah, for sure.

[shouting]

I'll give you a good one.

Caught it like a baseball.

Oh, my God.

That looks delicious.

What kind of food do they have in Nigeria?

Well, Daniel has showed me pictures of some of his meals.

He's always eating rice.

Is it like a fried rice thingy thing?

[Lisa] I don't know.

I have no clue what their food is.

Where are you going again?

I am heading to Africa, to Nigeria.

Wow. Why?

I am going to meet a man that I have not met in person yet

for the very first time. -Oh, my goodness.

-[Lisa laughs] -Wow, congratulations.

-Good for you. -Thank you.

-Yeah, no problem. -Thank you.

-That's some risk taking. -But it's crazy!

-Yeah, might be a little crazy. -Is it not crazy?

I would agree.

But you know, the heart wants what the heart wants.

-So go for it, I say. -[Lisa] Thank you.

I'm leaving to Nigeria to meet Daniel for the first time

in just a few days.

I can't believe I'm doing this. I must be insane.

I really must be.

I'm very, very nervous.

So I wanted to take the edge off by having a night out

with my daughter Faith and my friend Juna.

-[wooing] -Oh, my!

There's a volcano. Here it comes.

-[metallic thuds] -Choo-choo!

Oh, choo-choo train.

Woo!

Juna is my very best friend.

I swear to God, if she was a lesbian,

Gina would be my ideal woman.

Gina knows the ringer I've been through in past relationships.

And she is supportive of Daniel.

[Faith indistinct]

-I'm gonna hold you to it. -What?

That this is my happily ever after?

My issue is she's saying it's the last one,

which she's said every other time,

which we know. -Right.

He's always talking sweet to me.

He's always trying so hard to do things.

He just makes me feel so good and so wonderful.

[Faith] It's a good thing that he's treating you well,

but that's part of what concerns me.

The love bomb right away, it's part of a romance scam.

They go for single, and I don't mean to sound rude,

older women who have been hurt

and who are desperately looking for somebody

and want someone to give them

all the compliments, all the love.

First off --

hold on.

Do I look like an old, vulnerable,

searching-for-somebody woman on the internet?

No, I was minding my own business,

not looking for anybody.

But you sent him money, right?

Is that not part of a romance scam,

sending money?

Even though I live paycheck-to-paycheck,

I send Daniel money almost every two weeks.

Daniel works in construction.

He makes very little money, and he lives in a very poor

area of Nigeria.

I give Daniel money for food.

I have bought him clothes.

I give him money for fuel, for electricity.

Daniel has come straight out and asked for money

around two, maybe three times.

But I give Daniel money more for myself because I want

to feel that he's safe, and I want to feel that he's secure.

[Faith] All I know is within the first two months,

you sent $2,000, total.

And that was two months ago.

So how much more is it now?

[Lisa] I don't know.

How did he do it before he met you?

Does he not have a job?

Yes, he has a job.

But lately he's been sick and he's missed work

because of the malaria and other things that he has caught.

That's not a red flag to you?

He meets you and now all of a sudden he's getting sick

all the time?

[Faith] My mom and I have been having a lot of hard times

right now, financially.

She borrows from June a lot.

She's in so much debt

and it has me feeling more on edge.

You were telling me that Juna gave you money

to help us with bills.

She has, haven't you?

So she's been giving you...

How much in debt now are we?

You already know I hate

that you're asking for money all the time.

But it hasn't been the amount that it has been.

It's still bad.

Daniel seems to be a really, really nice person.

I see how happy she is, so...

I have given her money to send to him,

and I gave Lisa the money for the visa to go to Nigeria.

I do have some concerns,

because if he's scamming her,

then he's scamming me.

This was between Juna, me, and Daniel.

It had nothing to do with you and me and your bills.

It had to do with Juna and I and Daniel.

And you're still not seeing any red flags about this?

Juna has talked to him.

Does he seem like he's a real bad man from texting?

No, he doesn't, but, you know,

texting and talking are different things.

There's no point in me trying to talk to you about anything.

That's fine, because I know things that are inside and out

more than you do, because you're not

in the relationship.

And this may be the worst thing the best relationship

I've ever had.

This has all been an emotional wreck,

and we have not had one positive conversation together.

And it's breaking my heart as much as it's breaking yours,

and I think this topic needs to be over,

because this is ridiculous.

[Faith] I'm done.

I'm done...

I'm done.

[emotional music plays]

[Faith sobs]

[Stig speaks]

That mean you have one partner.

Need to make some changes in my lifestyle.

[anticipatory music plays]

[clears throat]

[Aviva speaks]

♪ Now it's getting warm in here ♪

♪ As the beat beat crack into the atmosphere ♪

♪ Come on, let's switch gears and the power stir and go ♪

♪ Let's go ♪

[Stig] So today, my girl is coming.

I want to give her a Belizean welcome.

Beautiful flowers for a beautiful lady.

Today, I'm meeting my girlfriend Aviva

for the very first time in person.

Aviva's probably thinking that we're going back to my city,

to my apartment, but she don't know that we have a nice

hotel room in Belize City

because I want a nice little romantic stay tonight.

I have butterflies. I feel like a kid again.

This might be the start of the rest of my life...

One burner. That mean you have one partner.

But I need to make some changes in my life and my lifestyle.

♪ I just wanna hide in the covers with you ♪

♪ With you, with you With you ♪

-[Stig speaks] -[driver] Yes, sir.

[Stig] All right.

♪ I promise I'm not gonna move ♪

[Stig speaks]

Minutes away from picking you up.

[Aviva speaks]

So nervous.

After two years of talking and six months of dating,

I'm finally meeting Stig for the first time.

We're here. We made it.

I am super, super nervous, and it's making me nauseous.

Oh, the flight just landed. I'm ready.

[speaking Belizean Kriol]

[Aviva speaks]

OK, I'm going to the bathroom to freshen up.

I'm super nervous.

I know he's outside waiting.

I just want to make sure that he sees me

and he's attracted to me.

I'm so tired.

And it's stressing me out.

I know he's around beautiful women all the time.

And deep down, there's things I'm worried about.

My biggest fear is that I'm going

to go in with this big loving heart,

and it's just gonna get crushed.

Here we go.

This is what I've been preparing myself for.

Oh...

[soft music plays]

[Stig speaks]

[Aviva speaks]

[laughs] Ah!

[anticipatory music plays]

[both giggle]

[Aviva] Hi!

I am.

-Thank you. -Looking more beautiful in person.

No.

[giggles]

She's a good kisser. You know, it felt good.

Mm-hmm.

It felt natural. It felt good.

It did. You're getting red?

-You're blushing. -No.

You're blushing. I love it.

[Stig speaks]

I know.

-You're very beautiful. -Thank you.

-You look really good, too. -I'm so happy.

And I'm super happy.

Love that booty.

[speaks in Belizean Kriol]

Aviva got a fat ass.

I had no idea.

I know she's been in the gym a lot, but what?

I like it.

[both giggle]

It was like, mm-hmm.

OK, well, I brought you Chinese food

since you asked, and...

[Stig] No way!

Don't eat that. Don't eat that.

Please don't. Just throw it away.

You did say that if I bring it to you, you'd marry me, so...

I mean, I brought it. I brought it.

It's here. It's a little...

I bet. I'm a man of my word.

Ask anybody. Ask about me.

OK, OK.

-Mm-hmm. -Let's go.

Let me get that one for you.

Thank you.

I definitely feel a spark right away.

I couldn't have asked for a better first kiss.

It was a very magical moment.

He definitely smelled better than the Chinese food

I was carrying.

[Aviva speaks]

-I'm going to eat it. -You'll get sick.

-We're throwing it away. -Don't don't -- yeah.

It's going. It's going.

It's gone.

This thing is just making me feel really special.

And I know I only just got here, but it just seems like

the rumors Aunt Spring brought up that he hasn't been

exclusive with just me seem a little silly and not true.

-You're actually here. -I know.

[Stig speaks]

[Aviva speaks]

[both giggle]

[Birkan] Laura is coming to Türkiye.

And it makes me feel excited.

Also, I feel nauseous because I'm freaking out.

[speaking Turkish]

I know that's something that I should tell her,

but I don't know how she's going to react.

-Bye. -Thank you.

-Well...take care. -I will.

-[Eileen speaks] -[Terry] Be sure to write.

[Laura speaks]

Don't cry.

Just be safe, OK?

I'm about to head to Türkiye so I can meet Birkan in person

for the very first time.

And I'm trying not to think about all of the things

that my parents were saying.

-All right. -[Laura] Love you.

-Bye. -Bye.

♪ Who are you ♪

♪ Singing as I stare from afar ♪

There's an absolute possibility this is going to blow up

in my face, and everyone that was naysaying against it

will tell me that they told me so.

But I feel like life is a series of calculated risks.

And if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,

then what am I willing to take a risk for?

♪ Now you're look is calling my name ♪

♪ It's a similar sensation Similar sensation ♪

I have about 13 hours until I get to meet

the love of my life.

And I need to decompress from just all of the negative energy

from the car ride with my parents with a good,

smutty book, with some really steamy moments.

[Birkan speaks]

It's what I love about Nietzsche.

He was the part of the reason I wanted to find the light.

...and my knee collapsed with other one's knee...

But I still play football for fun.

You know, I love the game.

One shot.

After I ruptured my ACL,

it was just end of everything, you know?

Everything I dream of, now I rebuild it from the bottom.

And what's helping me the most is finding Laura, actually.

It was destiny.

I met Laura in Snapchat.

We started talking and joking around.

She was so supportive, so optimistic.

She made me believe that dreaming is OK.

That's the point that I realized

she was perfect for me.

I am in the dark, yes, but I can see the sun.

It is about third or fourth weeks,

I told her I love her.

And now Laura is coming to Türkiye.

[speaking Turkish]

I'm not close with my family,

so they are the closest people I have.

-[speaking Turkish] -[giggling]

[Memo speaks]

[all giggle]

[speaking Turkish]

[speaking Turkish]

[Birkan] When my football career is over.

I opened up a couple of businesses.

Eventually, everything has failed,

and I couldn't find the proper job.

She knows that I have some troubles,

but she doesn't know how much.

I know that's something that I should tell her,

but I don't know how she's going to react.

[speaking Turkish]

[Tugba speaks]

[Birkan speaks]

[Birkan] I don't feel good about Michael at all.

I don't buy it.

I'm not comfortable with this friendship she has.

And if she doesn't cut Michael out of her life,

I don't know this relationship is going to work.

I'm supposed to be your confidant.

I thought that you were with somebody else.

Now that we're face-to-face, I feel like I can see the truth

in her eyes.

Oh, man. I'm scared now.

[Faith] I'm done.

I'm done.

[dramatic music plays]

I can't -- I can't.

[Lisa] Now I'm worried about her.

I don't know what to do at this point,

because it always ends up being a fight.

[Faith] Every time I've tried to voice my opinion,

she doesn't wanna talk about it.

She doesn't wanna hear me.

Or she tells me I'm not allowed to feel that way.

[Lisa] Let's see if we can find her.

See if we can fix this.

[Lisa] Faith, let me talk to you for a minute.

-I really don't want to. -[Lisa] No.

Look at me. Look at me.

Please, look at me.

I love Daniel and I know that you're worried

that I'm in another bad relationship

and things are gonna go sour

and you're trying to save me from that.

But I don't want you to feel like you're being second choice.

I will always choose you before somebody else.

Look at me, I will.

You said do not marry Daniel while I'm in Nigeria.

I promise you with the bottom of my heart,

I am not marrying Daniel while I'm in Nigeria.

I'm not.

Just give me the opportunity to do this.

If you break this promise...

I'm not going to break this promise.

If you break this promise, again,

I can't do this anymore.

No, 'cause that would be toxic,

and I'm not a toxic person anymore, OK?

So just please, give me a hug.

I really need some space right now.

OK, I'll do that.

[Lisa] This was an awful lot for her today.

I have been in so many relationships and moved around

so much on this poor child when she was little.

But at that time, I was searching for who I was.

I want to show her that this is different.

I'm a grown-up.

I'm not this young mom

who is trying to take care of a young child

and have a relationship after relationship.

I want my happily-ever-after.

I want this to be forever.

And Faith doesn't see that yet.

Can I talk to you for a minute?

I'm trying to understand your feelings

and I'm trying to not fight about it.

Is your biggest fear that I'm gonna marry him

without you knowing him

and that I'm gonna choose him over you?

[Faith] You never listen.

I'm telling you to think about us first.

Listen, I understand your point of view.

I'm listening to you

and I'm going there to get to know him better.

I'm going there to see if we are compatible.

I'm not going there just to run off and get married.

I'm listening to your concerns

and I am gonna voice them.

I promise you I will, OK?

Can I have a hug now?

OK, come here. I love you.

I will start listening better.

I'm proud of everything you do.

You are wonderful and kind-hearted

and loving and sweet

and caring and you have been good to your mother regardless

of what I've put you through and I'm proud of you

and I will listen to you more, OK?

All right.

I understand where Faith is coming from,

and I understand that she has been down this road

with past relationships over and over again.

I hold her opinion deeply in my heart,

but I think Daniel's different. I think he's the real deal.

I think he's a very precious man who is very rare,

and I would be a fool not to go after him.

Can we go home now?

[Aviva] Ooh!

-Welcome, welcome. -OK!

Stig is everything I thought he would be.

He looks super good.

There is definitely some chemistry,

but it's a bit scary.

I mean, I definitely wanna respect your lifestyle,

and I don't want to be super jealous or crazy,

but I hope that you haven't been seeing other people.

[Forrest speaks]

You got this. You're a man.

Sheena and I have been waiting seven years

to meet up with each other,

and I'm hoping my mom will not fight with Sheena.

I just don't know how to feel on this whole situation.

-Yeah. -[Molly] There's still some things

that have to be discussed before we can proceed.

[Sheena cries]

[Stig speaks]

No way!

[both giggle]

I love it!

-[Stig] Uh-huh. -[Aviva] Woo!

[Aviva speaks]

[giggles]

-Can I take a picture of it? -[Stig] Yeah, sure.

[shutter]

♪ Lovely lovely girl ♪

♪ You know you can change the world ♪

So where are we going?

I don't even know where we're going.

I don't know.

-I don't know. -You don't know?

-No, I don't. -Yes, you do.

Hey, driver, you know where we're going?

The driver's just taking us?

He don't know where we're going either.

-Oh, whatever. -So I don't know.

But I can tell you, though,

we're going to spend the night in Belize City at a hotel.

Tomorrow...

[Aviva] OK.

[Stig] Some new songs.

-I'm excited to perform those. -[Aviva] Excited.

-Hopefully I kill it, you know? -OK.

A lot of people are gonna be there?

Yep. Are you ready to be there?

-Are you ready for that? -I'm nervous.

-Do you want me there even? -Of course, I want you there.

OK.

I know Stig can't stop working while I'm here.

I would never ask him to do that.

But I'm really shocked to hear that I'm seeing Stig perform

already in just a couple of days.

[Stig speaks]

[both giggle]

I've been a little bit nervous about having to watch him

on stage with girls

and having him interact with fans in front of me.

And now I'm going to be thrusted into it right away.

And it's a bit scary.

-Ooh! OK! -Welcome, welcome.

-I'll leave these here for now. -This is nice!

This is super nice. OK.

Since you said that you love the flower,

I got you some more flowers.

-Oh, those are so pretty. -Something beautiful.

-Thank you. -This was to show you

that you're my one and only.

-OK. -And this is

to show some gratitude that you're here.

Oh, thank you. I like them.

-They're so pretty. -Check them out.

Stig is everything I thought he would be.

He looks super good.

There is definitely some chemistry.

What are you gonna do with those?

[Stig speaks]

We've been touching each other,

kissing each other, so I hope the night continues on...

sexually.

-Let's get comfy. -That sounds good to me.

[Stig] I'm attracted to her even more in person.

But I'm a gentleman.

I'm not going to just push up on her

and try to get some the first night.

We'll see how it goes.

I'm gonna let it play out the way it should play.

Now, get more comfy.

So...

What is it? Is it a rose?

-You could get it here. -Only if you get "Aviva."

There.

[Aviva] Same.

Mm-hmm.

Unless you make me leave you.

Oh.

What would make you want to leave me?

Ooh, that's a good question.

[Stig] If you, um,

you can't understand what I do for work

and how I, you know,

my lifestyle because of what I do and who I am.

Yeah, I mean, I definitely wanna respect your lifestyle,

and I don't wanna be super jealous.

Or crazy, like,

but I also wanna be, like, respected, too.

Just, like,

I hope that you haven't been seeing other people,

'cause I feel like we've been talking seriously, but...

Why are you rolling your eyes like that?

-I don't know, 'cause, like... -You don't trust me?

Oh, you don't trust me?

I mean, I know your lifestyle.

There's a lot of beautiful women around you, always, so...

They're not you, though.

OK, Mr. Charming.

Ooh!

OK.

[kissing]

I do have one more thing for you that's not

spilled Chinese food. -OK.

[Aviva] Yeah.

Stig makes me feel really comfortable.

He just knows the exact right thing to say.

And Stig and I just feel right together.

It's just a spark, a connection,

a happiness, all... wrapped together with a bow.

I don't know how to explain it.

-Hi. -Hi.

[Stig speaks]

Wow, hey!

-Uh-huh. -OK.

[giggling]

Yes, man. That is it.

She's finest [bleep].

-[Aviva giggles] -[Stig speaks]

[Stig] Aviva just might be the one.

But I don't think she understands the extent

of my lifestyle as a performer.

Sometimes girls go on stage, dance on me.

You know, girls be in my DMs. Some pretty girls.

I don't know if she can handle all that.

She said she will, but we'll see.

-[Aviva giggles] -[Stig] Mmm-hmm.

Mmm, mmm, mmm!

[Forrest] All right.

♪ I woke up in time ♪

♪ If I ruled the world ♪

[Sheena speaks]

[Molly] All right, here we go.

I actually have to go freshen up in the bathroom.

-Go ahead. -Oh, man, I got to find it.

I'll see you in a minute.

[Forrest] This way.

[Molly speaks]

I just don't know how to feel on this whole situation.

Yeah.

It's just, I mean, I think that I have these ideas of

what I want to say because emotions get there,

the feelings get there.

[Dev] Settle down, Molly. Settle down.

[Forrest speaks]

You got this. You got this.

You're a man. Keep moving forward.

[Forrest] My mom did not take kindly to Sheena lying

about the money again.

She sent text messages to Sheena that made her

really upset and hurt.

So, I'm hoping that my mom will not fight with Sheena.

-Woo! -Hey, Mom.

Sheena and I have been waiting seven years to meet up

with each other, and I just want everything to go smoothly.

You look good. Let's get this mixed up a little bit.

Here, let me get this little... There you go.

-You look good. -Thank you.

-Are you ready? -Yeah, I'm ready.

This is your moment, OK?

[Sheena speaks]

-[Forrest] Let's do this thing. -[Molly] Here it comes.

You got this. You will do fine.

You tell her hello. You say...

Well, just do whatever you feel.

-[Forrest] OK. -[Dev] Go for it, Forrest.

[Molly] You got this. Go, Forrest, go.

[Forrest speaks]

[anticipatory music plays]

[Forrest speaks]

[Sheena sobbing]

[both cry]

Meeting you and getting to be with you finally is my world.

My everything.

It feels like heaven.

[giggles] It's the best I have ever felt.

[Sheena speaks]

[Forrest] Kissing you...

oh, it was ecstatic.

She has some really good, like, perfume or something on.

[Forrest] Oh!

Oh, I'm loving it right now.

-I think I got it all over me. -Oh, really?

-Yeah. -[both giggle]

I got Mom and Dad here, too, with us.

I want us to be a big family.

[both cry and giggle]

[Dev speaks]

Oh, boy.

Seeing Sheena cry, seeing Forrest cry,

and then the big trigger was just Dev,

and then that was the waterworks.

You're all right, Sheena. You're OK, OK?

[Sheena cries]

I don't cry very often.

[Sheena speaks]

Well, I thank you for apologizing,

but let's make this a happy moment, all right?

-Yes, all right. -Because we're --

We're gonna be, today is a happy day.

-We are all together, right? -Yes, yes.

I'm so glad to see you guys. It's been like a family.

We're a family now. We're a family.

[Sheena cries]

[Forrest] You're with family now, Sheen.

Seeing her face-to-face with him,

face-to-face with me,

this whole thing is just so overwhelming.

[Forrest and Sheena speak]

[Forrest speaks]

Oh, really?

[both giggle]

But apology aside, there's still some things

that have to be discussed and talked about

before we can proceed.

That's just how I see it.

I would call you, you would press decline,

and then I wouldn't hear back for hours.

[sighs]

During the time that Trish ghosted me

for those five days,

I made the biggest mistake of my life.

[tense music plays]

[Trisha] I promise I will tell you everything,

but promise me that you won't get mad.

OK, I can promise you that I won't get mad,

but I can't promise that it won't hurt me.

-Right, yeah, you told me about that. -Yeah.

And you said that he blamed you?

Yeah, he blames me. Like...

Oh, man. I'm scared now.

After my ex-boyfriend got robbed...

...and the guy at the hospital, we paying for his food

and paying for everything he needs.

But why didn't you tell me that?

I mean, I would call you, call you.

You would press "decline."

-I didn't press decline. -Or you would just not pick up.

I didn't pick up.

And I would text you, and then I wouldn't hear back

for hours.

I thought that you were with somebody else.

I was nervous and really upset. -I'm not just anybody.

I'm supposed to be your confidant.

We have to work together.

Maybe just say, "That's not true.

I don't believe. Maybe she just wants money."

Maybe you will

judge me. But yeah, I was wrong.

I'm really, really sorry to hurt you so much.

But it's different now, because I see you.

I see who you are.

So I can share, like, everything happens to my life.

You OK?

Um...

I'm OK.

I completely understand what you're saying now.

Thank you so much for...

for explaining everything to me.

I just didn't know what to do, baby.

What she was telling me before just wasn't adding up

in that moment.

But now that we're face to face,

I feel like I can see the truth in her eyes.

And I feel a little bit guilty for not trusting her.

Here she is going through all these things.

And instead of being there for her,

I made the biggest mistake of my life.

During the time that Trish ghosted me

for those five days,

I talked to my ex from Colombia.

And she said, you know,

"Why don't you come down here? I'm missing you."

And so...

you know, I decided to book a trip

and go spend time with her.

Even though Trish started talking to me again,

in my heart, I believed that she cheated on me.

And so I still went to Colombia.

My ex stayed with me for the week.

We were acting as a couple once again.

We had sex all the time, the whole time.

Multiple times a day, every day.

I feel bad for that.

So I know that I need to tell her.

But I'm extremely scared that it'll be something that

she can't forgive me for.

And it might be the end of us.

[Lisa] Next time on "Before the 90 Days."

This is it?

I can't believe I'm about to meet him.

I'm really proud of the progress that I've made, but...

If I am nervous Birkan won't be as attracted to me

in person.

[Laura] Oh, my God. Here we go.

[Daniel speaks]

[speaking in Igbo]

We hear you're going to the Philippines.

Yes, I'm going to see my wife.

I've never even met my wife here.

This will be actually our first meet.

Oh, OK.

Me and Anna, we've been married two years.

[Anna] He said that?

No, we have been in a relationship for six years.

And married for almost three years.

Did you guys do the old nooky nooky?

[Forrest speaks]

This isn't the right time or place.

Yeah.

[tense music plays]

Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.

Let's not forget,

she was giving all of her money to her parents

instead of saving for their future.

You haven't given me a direct answer

as to why you lied?

The pieces aren't lining up.

[Sheena cries]

[Emma] I don't like that we were fighting yesterday,

but there's something else I wanted to talk to you about

that I didn't tell you yet.

What? What is this? What's happened?

I really want to tell Ziad about my last engagement

because I think it's the only way that we could move forward.

[Ziad speaks]

[Emma] I don't know what I'm gonna do.

[sob]