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[Nigel] Previously on "90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way."

[Matilda] I love you too, babe.

I've missed her for two years, and it's surreal.

If you had money to move, why did you ask me then?

Actually, I didn't say that.

I have no idea when it will be the right time to tell her that

I'm moving to Ghana permanently.

I just know that it is most certainly

not right this instant.

[Andi] So who's all coming to the party?

[Nigel] Oh, you know, just a bunch of friends.

Is the girl that you were trying to go camping with

gonna be there?

Maybe.

Right before I was moving to Australia,

Nigel planned to camp with this girl.

And it feels like there's a little bit of secrecy

around it.

I am in Nigel's car right now in front of camping girl's house.

He just pulls up and expects me to be cool about it.

There's something about this that does not feel good.

And I'm gonna find out what it is.

Isn't this amazing?

[Vittorio in Italian and English]

Watch out, watch out.

I am not where I thought I was going to live.

What else could you be hiding from me?

You are being not very grateful for what I show to you.

[Jessy] I am a city girl. He tricked me to come in here.

My mind is racing, and now I'm second guessing

if I made the right decision.

So what if this starts to become too much for me?

I'm just a bit concerned because Ally has told me that

everything that she's doing, she's been doing it on her own.

And she could maybe be better off without you.

John is kind of just adding a bit of burden

to her life right now.

[Jonathan] Yeah, that was pretty [bleep] up.

[Ally and Jonathan speaking]

[Ally] Leaving our relationship?

[Jonathan] Leaving all this.

[singing in Italian]

-Bambina, look, you see this house on the left? -[Jessy] Uh-huh.

[Vittorio] That used to be my family house, you see?

-[Jessy] Oh, wow. -[Vittorio] Right there.

Gorgeous.

[singing in Italian]

So the thing about the motorcycle,

you have to go with me, lean when I lean, OK?

But not too much, otherwise you pull the bike,

fall, OK?

-Don't stay -- -[Jessy] Then go slow.

It's my second day in Italy,

and while Vittorio didn't tell me

that we're gonna be living in West Bubble [bleep],

I really do love Vittorio, and I wanna make this work.

So I'm trying to be a good sport.

[in Italian]

Open up, watch out of the hair.

-Ah. -Tight?

[Jessy] This is crushing my weave.

I've never been on a motorcycle before.

I was not allowed growing up.

So it's my first motorcycle ride.

And on top of that, I know Vittorio likes to go fast.

And I'm nervous.

[Vittorio] It's gonna be fine.

That being said, I'll do anything to get closer

to civilization, even if that means getting

on a motorcycle down this hill.

[Vittorio] Like you're riding the horse.

[Jessy] Where can I put my feet on this?

-[Vittorio] There, no, like that. -[Jessy] Aye, aye.

-Hold on to me, hold on to me. -[Jessy speaking]

Go slow.

[Vittorio] We go slow, yeah, yeah, yeah, we go slow.

[in Italian and English]

...don't be dramatic.

-Look how slow. -[Jessy] You're going way too fast.

[in Italian and English]

...you want me to -- we go faster walking.

You want to walk?

[Jessy] I wanna take an Uber.

[Vittorio in Italian]

Vittorio is taking me to his bougie tennis club to meet

some of his friends. I'm very nervous.

I hope I make a good impression.

-Oh. -Hey, hey, hey, hey.

Stop it.

No, no, no! Stop it!

Hey, watch it.

[Vittorio] Here we are.

Just two days ago, I was taking the 6 train, going to work,

hanging out with friends.

And now I'm living in Tuscany, riding a motorcycle to

a members-only tennis club.

Wild.

-It was not too bad, eh? -Not too bad.

I went slow for you, specifically.

Are my eyelashes still on?

[in Italian]

Watch out here.

Oh-ho-ho.

[Fabio and Marco in Italian]

-Nice to meet you, guys, Jessy. -[Marco] Nice to meet you.

-Hi, Jessy. -Hi.

-Jessy. -Nice to meet you, Jessy.

Nice to meet you, guys.

[in Italian]

[in English]

-Eh, I know. -[Fabio] We are jealous now.

[Vittorio] I bring her to you to meet her because she's so special.

[Fabio speaking]

I changed and now I'm in a serious relationship

with a serious girl. And I bring her at the tennis.

-You're settling down now. -[Vittorio] I know.

-It's amazing. -[Vittorio] I know, I am.

I am.

So this is part of the new life she will have.

Fabio, we'll talk later.

She didn't wear white, unfortunately.

No, he didn't tell me the memo,

so I have on a different color. -No, I tell her, I tell her.

Here we start again. I tell her, I tell her.

Oh, you guys look nice, though.

[Vittorio speaking]

[Jessy] I feel out of place.

It seems very competitive, very, like, professional.

My version of tennis and Vittorio's version

of tennis are very different.

[in Italian and English] ...we go play now...

[Marco and Fabio] Yes.

-Let's do it. -Let's go, let's go, let's go.

Let's go.

He's trained his whole life, and I can count the times

on one hand that I've played tennis.

[Vittorio] The only thing next time, white.

You did not tell me white.

[in Italian and English] I did, I did...

You guys all look cool and wearing all white.

[in Italian and English] ...no, you'll be fine.

I think my outfit is so cute, I don't wanna hear it.

I've never played doubles before.

[Vittorio in Italian and English] ...it's gonna be fine.

-Warm up. -[Vittorio] Here?

-Also, let's do to warm up, OK. -[Jessy in Italian]

Yes, she needs -- she already got scared, you know.

-[Jessy] OK. -[Vittorio in Italian]

[Jessy] Was that good?

I hit it back.

♪ Come out and play ♪

[Fabio speaking in English]

Jump on the feet. Oh Dio.

OK, OK, OK.

[in Italian and English] ...it's not baseball.

-Just, swish, soft, soft. -[Jessy] OK.

OK, go this side, go this side, go this side.

Yeah, maybe it's better this side, maybe it's better,

it's better, OK?

I'm already on edge because I'm meeting his friends

for the first time.

I already feel weird that I'm wearing the wrong color.

And on top of it all, I have Vittorio in my ear.

[in Italian and English] You got it?...

[in Italian and English] ...go, go, go.

Just look at the ball and hit.

Make me look good in front of them.

You're not training me to be the next Serena Williams.

Like, we are just trying to have fun.

In Italy, our teacher never tell us you did a great job

because they want to put you the mentality that you can

always do better. -You're like an onion.

I feel like there's many layers to him, and I'm still peeling

back these layers of this onion.

And at the same time, onions make me cry.

[in Italian and English] ...you, Jessy, you!

Tie your hair Jessy after, not during the game.

-What is this? -Can I take five?

How do I say time-out?

[in English]

Let them bounce.

[Jessy] Like, shut the [bleep] up.

I lift the racket. He has something to say.

[Vittorio speaking]

He's yelling at me.

[Vittorio in Italian]

Oy, oy, oy.

He's making fun of me. He's mocking me.

You are afraid of the ball. You need improvement.

He's honestly embarrassing me in front of all of his friends.

[in Italian and English] ...you close, close!

Vittorio needs to chill.

Every time the net. Every time.

[Megan speaking]

[Jonathan] It's not fair to have to sit there and listen to

that stupid...

Because Ally can't keep [bleep] to herself.

[Ally speaking]

[Megan] Yeah.

Yeah.

[Jonathan speaking]

[Ally] He said I shouldn't have shared with you.

But you need to vent to someone.

-Yeah. -I think you did not do anything wrong here, in my opinion.

I do see what you mean by he's a sweet talker.

He defends himself a lot.

And by defending himself, he likes to attack me.

And that's OK. You can attack me.

That's your opinion.

I'm secure enough to know that

I'm just a friend helping my friend.

And this is what my purpose is as your friend.

I'm sorry that I told my friend about our problem.

But I mean, it's the truth. And the truth hurts sometimes.

And I don't know why when I say it, he doesn't hear it.

But when my friend says it, he hears it.

Am I too soft? Am I too gentle when I speak?

Does he just not take me seriously?

Am I not dominant enough?

No, it's OK, of course, I mean...

-[Ally] Alright, bye. -[Megan] Bye, bye.

-Text me when you're home. -OK.

I feel like an extreme betrayal of trust.

If one of my friends were coming at her like this,

I would tell them to shut the [bleep] up immediately.

That [bleep] would stop.

[Ally speaking]

I don't mind her talking about her feelings

and what she's going through, but the details of my life,

you know, the things that I'm not exactly proud of,

I really don't need that shared with other people.

It's just not -- it's not right,

and it doesn't make a relationship good.

I didn't even know what she was gonna say.

I told her, maybe instead of co-signing on your bull[bleep]

because you're pregnant

and you're dealing with a lot of emotions and hormones,

maybe stick up for the father of your child.

Who the [bleep] is she?

It's not right.

Trying to make me look like a [bleep] loser or something.

I don't know what it is, man.

I've accomplished so much in my life.

I don't even know what she's doing here.

-At least she's here. -[Jonathan] Oh, [bleep].

She went -- she goes to three [bleep] OBGYN appointments.

-And like next thing you know... -[Ally] It's not just three.

Still, at least she's more present than you are.

That's fine. Let her be present.

I'm tired of this [bleep].

I try really really hard, and all I get told is

you're lazy, you're complacent, you're this, you're that.

Try walking in my shoes.

Why don't you just take some accountability?

[bleep] your accountability.

That's all I do is take accountability.

I've got children at home, and I've got a father at home,

and you act like I'm giving up nothing.

I'm not even telling you to give up.

Yes, you are.

You're telling me to give up everything.

Just move out here.

-[bleep] everybody else, right?

-[Ally] I am not. -Yes, you are.

I'm saying, like, at least just prioritize this

current situation right now. -What do you think I'm doing?

You know what? Maybe I should step aside

from your life since you have like everyone else's problems to

deal with because I feel like

I am too much when I should be your [bleep] priority.

-You are my priority, but you are also too much. -I don't feel like it.

You are way too [bleep] much sometimes,

I've told you this before.

Then what the [bleep] are we doing together?

I don't know.

The visa process really isn't in my control.

It's not so much --

I'm already pissing everybody else off.

Why not add Mr. Arc and Miss Mary to that list?

Sold, $5,000. Congratulations.

I'm Michelle, and I flip cars for a living.

My love life has always been a mess, but when I met Felix,

I thought he was the best man I've ever met.

[Henry] Why are you going back there again?

[Michelle] I don't know what's real unless I go.

[song in foreign language]

[Matilda speaking]

♪♪

[Niles speaking]

Finding out that Matilda rented an apartment and didn't tell me

anything about it, that's a shock to my system.

I know her heart's in the right place,

but on stuff like this,

she needs to be 100% honest with me.

[Matilda speaking]

This is not how I envisioned my first day in Ghana to be.

And now we have to go to Mr. Arc and pretend like

everything is just hunky-dory.

-Hey. -[Niles] Hi, Dad.

Hey, hey, hey, hey.

How you doing, Mom?

[indistinct]

[Niles] Hi, Dad.

I'm doing good, Dad.

[Mr. Arc speaking]

[Matilda] I'm fine.

[Mr. Arc] Uh-huh.

Uh-huh.

[Matilda speaking]

[Mr. Arc] Niles.

[Niles] Yes, sir.

[Mr. Arc speaking]

Yes, you did.

What items do I have to bring exactly?

I will make sure to get what I need.

Hey.

[Matilda speaking]

[Mr. Arc speaking]

Gonna have to bring it tomorrow then.

[Mr. Arc speaking]

Yes, sir.

Oof, I really fumbled the bag here.

I got caught up to arguing with Matilda,

and I completely forgot to get the gifts for Mr. Arc.

I'm already pissing everybody else off.

Why not add Mr. Arc and Miss Mary to that list?

And I'm about to make it worse.

OK, so, um,

I'm just gonna ask, you know, um...

you invited me to stay here.

I just learned that Matilda got an apartment of her own.

So I wanted to let you know that I would like to sleep

in her place that she got.

You can understand that as a husband, I would want to

spend time with my wife,

right?

-We understand. -OK, you understand.

[Mr. Arc speaking]

So the visa process is a little longer

than I told you it would be.

That was not smart of me to say five months, I'll admit that.

How do we explain to the family that

the visa process really isn't in my control?

It's not so much --

That gave me a jolt when you raised your voice.

That gave me a jolt.

[Matilda and Mr. Arc speaking]

I'm not happy.

[Matilda speaking]

[Mr. Arc speaking]

[Mr. Arc] They can do it.

[tense music plays]

That's pretty serious, actually.

I knew schnapps had some serious cultural and spiritual

significance, but this is really freaking horrible.

I feel sick to my stomach, I really do.

Excuse me if I grow silent, I'm just really letting that

gravity sink in there.

I just uprooted my whole entire life in America to move here to

Ghana to finally be with my wife.

[Niles] If the hold up on Matilda's visa process was

enough to annul the marriage,

it's gonna be a disaster when they find out the truth.

[Mr. Arc speaking]

[Matilda speaking]

[Niles] No, this is pretty freaking heavy.

This is, um...

This is not easy news to receive, Mat.

When I was there, him and his father, they robbed me.

-What? -[Michelle] I woke up in the morning.

My whole living room and kitchen was empty.

Everything was gone, from blender to juicer

to my carpets to, you name it, it was gone.

He told me, his dad told him to do it.

It's like he has control. He's brainwashed him.

♪ Umm, umm, ummm ♪

♪ Umm, umm, ummm ♪

♪ Hey ♪

[vocalizing]

♪ Have you heard about me ♪

♪ Don't think you're gonna believe ♪

♪ What your eyes see ♪

[Michelle] Fixed it.

I told you, man. I knew it was the radiator.

♪ Tell me what you want ♪

♪ 'Cause baby, we're living lost tonight ♪

♪ Do you want to go for a ride ♪

[auctioneer] And good morning, ladies and gentlemen.

Welcome to the auction sale.

And here we go with lot number 112.

[Michelle] Yeah, that's a nice one.

[auctioneer] Excellent interior, excellent body condition.

AC is working and cold.

I'm Michelle. I'm 40 years old.

I live in Dallas, Texas, and I flip cars for a living.

Well, let's have an auction.

$500 now, can I get a thousand dollars?

[auctioneer jargon]

...36, 37...

[auctioneer jargon continues]

...now four.

Four!

I'm a hustler. I like to get money.

I like it fast, you know? I like to go, go, go.

Go! $5,500.

[Michelle] I flip cars with my best friend, Henry.

We've been doing it for about 11 years now.

We're like brothers and sisters.

We're always there for each other no matter what.

[auctioneer] Sold $6,000.

I love car auctions because it gives you an adrenaline rush

and it makes you hyped. It motivates you.

♪ Gonna feel my fire, baby ♪

[auctioneer] Tote bag. Gentlemen, here we go.

When you do an auction, sometimes, I ain't gonna lie,

you're in that competition and you really want that car.

You'll go over your budget. [bleep], I ain't gonna lie.

-You will [bleep] up. -[auctioneer] $4,500.

[indistinct jargon] ...45.

45, now 47 and half.

Now I'm gonna get 47, now $5,000.

$5,000. Now $5,500.

[indistinct]

$5,500, I have... sold $5000. Congratulations.

But when you do win it and you beat someone, it's a sickness.

I don't know, something ain't right

because I always want to win.

That's a good one, man.

-[Henry] Yes, you did a good job. -[Michelle] Yeah.

I'm an entrepreneur.

I flip cars. I flip electronics.

I would fix furniture up and flip it.

Whatever it took, I got it.

Henry, how much profit you think we'll make?

-Maybe probably like... -[Michelle] Double?

-1,800? -Stop being cheap.

I'm not being cheap.

[Michelle] I had a rough childhood.

We didn't come from a lot of money, so I worked really hard

to get where I'm at today.

When I was 17, I bought a mobile home.

I got my own little $500 car,

and I just kept flipping from there.

I had my daughter, Kiera, at 20 years old.

I was left to raise her on my own.

And I worked nonstop different jobs so that I could give Kiera

the best life, because she's my everything.

[Henry speaking]

It'll be all right. We will wash the car.

Then we will sell the car before Friday, OK?

Yeah.

I really want it sold before I go to Ghana.

[Michelle] Henry!

I fell in love with Felix. That's why.

Yeah. I'm telling you.

I -- Henry, you know me. I never have trusted anyone

from the rip.

I trusted this dude from day one.

He was so different.

My love life has always been a mess.

I have the worst taste in men.

That's probably why I've stayed single.

A year and a half ago, I was flying to Nigeria to meet Henry

for vacation.

But I had a layover in Ghana, and this cute,

good-looking bartender started talking to me.

When I met Felix, I thought he was the best man

I've ever met.

And after a few weeks of messaging with him,

things started getting flirty over text and video calls.

It got romantic.

I was a little hesitant because I had just got out of a bad

relationship, but I knew I had to see him again.

So I thought, my daughter's 20 now, she's doing her own thing,

so let me do my own thing too.

I was only supposed to stay in Ghana for two weeks,

but me and Felix were so happy, we fell in love,

and I ended up staying for nine months.

He was so good to me. I was good to him.

We have fun. We laugh.

We lost weight together.

He was so different from anyone I've ever known.

You know, it's like, oh, he's taking me to church.

His daddy's a preacher.

And I'm like, damn, he makes me better.

Love you.

[Michelle] So in a week, I'm moving across the world.

I have to go back to Ghana, because I cannot do this

long distance anymore. I miss Felix.

You know, for you to make up your mind to leave

our business, to live there,

that says a lot. -[Michelle] No, I really love him.

I don't think we've ever met anyone like him.

Well, I wish you all the best.

I wish you all the best. Good luck.

♪ My car is better than yours ♪

♪ Yours is only got three doors ♪

[Michelle] Hold it.

I don't want it to break the window.

[Henry speaking]

This is way easier.

[Michelle] You like that slow tool?

Use this one, Henry, here.

[Henry] I have a lot of things to do here.

I can't believe that you're moving.

[Michelle] I love it. It's cool.

And you know I love Africa, Ghana, Nigeria.

You know what I mean? It's like my home.

When I first went to Ghana, I fell in love with Felix,

but I also fell in love with Ghana.

The fresh fruit, the coconut water

on every block. I felt healthier every day.

I loved the sunshine, the beach.

And I was like, damn, this is where I want to be.

So I got an apartment. I paid for two years.

Felix moved in.

And I thought I'd be with Felix for the rest of my life.

But then things changed.

My only concern is his family keep begging us for money.

Like his dad will call and just ask for money and tell me,

don't tell Felix about it.

Or he'll text me, hey, I need 1,500 cedis.

Like he texted me that like a month ago.

-Isn't that weird? -Yeah.

[Michelle] And I told Felix, I'm not doing that no more.

I'm done.

-Be honest to me, OK? -OK.

Be honest to me.

[Michelle] Maybe like $6,000 or so.

Wow.

All right, Henry, I don't want to talk about that part

'cause whatever it is, what it is, but I don't do it no more.

And I know I should never have done it.

But this time I go, things will be different.

'Cause he's a good guy. When I first met him,

his family was not involved

and he was my best friend. And like, we were so in love.

Yeah.

A few months after I lived there, his family became

very involved in our relationship.

The dad has really made me feel uncomfortable.

He'll come over to the house.

He'll ask about all of our personal issues,

and he'll always ask me for money behind Felix's back.

I started to worry that maybe his dad had a plan to scam me.

It's just his family.

If he could get away from the dad, he'll be a good guy.

You know what I'm saying?

But the dad is obsessed with me.

-Do you get it? -[Henry] Yeah.

[Michelle] His dad got to know if I'm in the shower.

-His dad got to know if I'm eating. -Why?

[Michelle] His dad got to know if I woke up.

Or he'll ask about me and Felix's sex life.

-Isn't that weird? -[Henry] But why?

That's so weird. But why?

[Michelle] Would a dad ask the woman about the sex life?

-Is that normal for Africa? -[Henry] Shouldn't be, it's not normal, no.

[Michelle] Let me tell you this.

You know what's crazy?

When I was there, him and his father emptied

the whole apartment. They robbed me.

What?

[Michelle] I woke up at 3:30 in the morning.

My -- my door -- my bedroom -- I opened the bedroom door.

My whole living room and kitchen was empty.

One night we got into an argument and I said,

"I want to leave tomorrow," and I went into the bedroom

and I locked the bedroom door.

At first, I heard people talking.

I thought it was just him and like

his friend or something.

But when I came out, my house was empty.

Everything was gone from blender to juicer to my carpets

to, you name it, it was gone.

I got into my car, drove to the sister's house,

and he told me that it was his dad.

His dad told him to do it.

And the dad was playing a little, he says,

"prank," but it wasn't a prank

because the dad was saying, "Hush, hush.

You should have told her it was a robber."

That [bleep] crazy as hell, I know.

But a part of my heart wants to believe that Felix is innocent

and it's the father controlling him.

It could be.

After Felix's little prank, I told Felix,

I'm leaving Ghana, I'm done.

He went into my purse, he took my passport,

and he ran. So I couldn't leave.

The next day, I got my passport back,

and I booked a flight, and I came back to the USA.

Hey, but I don't think it's him.

It's the dad controlling him, Henry.

It's the dad.

I do feel like I've been taken advantage of, right?

But I don't know if it's the father,

it's both of them? It's like

he has control. He's brainwashed him.

[Michelle] Even though it was a big disaster when I left,

Felix was like, "I promise you could trust me now.

I won't do any wrong again." And he was sorry,

and he loved me. So I gave him another chance.

[Henry speaking]

[Michelle] Henry, I have to go because I love him.

And if you love somebody, you would try.

You came here because you were in love, right?

I don't know what's real unless I go.

A lot of people would walk away by now, especially because

Felix and I have been fighting like cats and dogs.

But I truly believe Felix's dad is behind all of our problems.

I still love Felix, and I just don't want to give up.

But he's got to stand up to that man.

[Henry speaking]

You stayed with a lover, and there was the camping trip,

and then last night you took me to her house to meet her.

And I thought you were on the same page.

My friend Azrael is the most recent sort of part-time lover.

I feel Andi's making a much bigger deal out of this

than it needs to be.

Would you say there are feelings between you?

♪ Thought it would be easy to love you, to love me ♪

So...yesterday started out really great.

And then at the end of the day, he's like,

"OK, we've got one more stop."

Completely sprung that on me.

I had no idea that that's whose house we were at.

I didn't wanna really hash it out last night,

but he is throwing a welcome-to-the-neighborhood

party for me tonight, which is really sweet, and I love that.

A lot of people are gonna be here.

She is gonna be here.

So we need to have this conversation so it's not

on my mind when I'm talking to her

because I don't want any awkwardness.

Since I've been here, Nigel's making me feel

secure in the relationship.

But then last night, Nigel and I were running

a bunch of errands, and then at the end of

the night, we parked the car at Camping Girl's house.

And Nigel says, "Let's go in and meet her."

It was only a few days ago,

I realized that Nigel and this girl have been

spending a lot of time together.

I moved to Australia to be with him, and I feel like

there's a relationship forming with somebody else,

and it's kind of freaking me out.

-Hey, Nige. -[Nigel] Hey, babe.

-[Andi] How's it going? -Good.

[Andi] I'm glad you got the truck back here.

I was worried.

I saw you spinning out a little bit.

-Yep, I'm gonna turn that into the stage. -Cool.

Mm-hmm, cool.

I wanted to chat with you about something for

the party tonight. -There's no time.

There's definitely time.

-So can you just? -[Nigel] I'm listening.

OK, just.

OK.

Last night made me feel a little uncomfortable.

[Nigel] Well, the whole point of you potentially getting

to meet her last night was that

you guys might be able to break the ice

and get to know each other before the party,

and there's all these other people here.

And, you know, I didn't want it to be awkward for you.

And I thought you were on the same page, so I'm sorry.

You can't just expect me to be on the same page

when you don't even bring it up.

Springing it on me in the moment after we already had...

It wasn't a spring, though. I didn't try

and spring it on you. I thought you knew.

I thought we were on the same page.

Why would you think that I know

if you didn't say it to me?

Because I said, "This is what we're doing.

"We have to go here, here, here, here, and then

we're going to drop in on my friend's house."

-My friend's house? -[Nigel] Yeah, yeah.

I thought you knew what was happening.

Believe me, if you had said her name, I would have known.

My friend Azrael, or as Andi liked to call her,

Camping Girl, is my most recent sort of part-time lover.

I feel Andi's making a much bigger deal out of this

than it needs to be.

It's not like anything we've done has ever broken

any of my non-monogamy agreement with Andi.

[bleep] off.

I've been thinking about this since before I even came here.

What's kind of making me feel a little weird is that I kind

of realized that there are a few through-lines with

one person.

There was this text message that you mentioned that

you stayed with a lover, and then there was

the camping trip, and then last night

you took me to her house to meet her.

It's starting to feel like there are feelings there.

Because before the camping trip,

slept together, camping trip,

planned a whole weekend to be with each other.

-And she's -- -You keep saying camping trip like we've just planned

a camping trip. -[Andi] The festival.

-I was performing at a festival and I was given a plus-one. -Yeah.

It's not like I planned a camping trip

and decided to invite her. -[Andi] Yeah, but it wasn't like --

but it wasn't like bring your tent and you can be my plus-one

and come in for free, it was -- -She did bring her tent.

She stayed in her own tent.

-This won't happen. -Because I told you to tell her to bring a tent.

But she wasn't gonna sleep in her own tent, was she?

Of course not.

Because she's my part-time lover.

We were gonna sleep together.

-[Andi] Yeah. -As is within our agreement.

OK, that's my question.

Like, does that feel like

it's completely within our arrangement?

-[Nigel] Yeah. -Like camping for a whole weekend in your camper, right?

You guys were gonna stay in the same place, brush teeth

in the same place, get ready for bed in the same place.

-For a week. -For like two nights. Two nights.

Do you feel like that was within our agreement?

Yeah.

Yeah, because our agreement was to not have, like, ongoing

serious relationships.

After that weekend, I'm not gonna see her,

like, sexually until who knows, right?

But then you went out to get ready for your party,

and she came with you, correct?

-Yeah, she offered to help. -[Andi] She offered to help.

I had to go take a lot of gear out to the site, so it was

great to have a second set of hands. -Yeah.

Yeah, and you guys slept in the same bed.

But nothing happened,

because we respect each other's boundaries.

She's very respectful of my boundaries with you.

Did you want something to happen?

No.

Did she want something to happen?

No -- in another situation, sure.

But because that was the situation,

nothing happened.

Would you say there are feelings between you?

[Nigel] I like her as a friend and as a person.

She's a great person. Yeah.

[Andi] The way that Nigel is getting defensive, it's making me feel

like he actually has feelings for this girl.

And he's not gonna want to give that up

and be monogamous with me.

And it feels like he's not really prioritizing my feelings

once again.

So meeting Azrael tonight is a big test for our relationship

and where it's going.

I was hoping to tell Mat about the move as soon as possible.

So I'll do this thing called buttering her up.

The most valuable thing I can ever give you...

the establishing maxims that I live by.

The way you're acting like is embarrassing me,

you're trolling me in front of your friends.

-Oh my God, Jess. -I feel like an idiot.

Because at this point, you look like a clown.

-[Jessy] Man, [bleep] off. -[bleep] what?

Where do you go?

♪ [indistinct], you show me love and you never fake it ♪

♪ You never complain, baby baby, you got me hissing ♪

♪ The things that I do, you never complain ♪

♪ Stoop to conquer, you made me sober ♪

♪ My selfish nature is gone, it's over ♪

♪ Baby baby, you got me hissing ♪

♪ The things that I do, you never complain ♪

[Niles speaking]

Today sucked.

Sucked more in the history of days,

probably in the history of sucking.

You know, fighting with Mat,

the idea that my marriage could be over,

disappointing Mr. Arc.

You know, the whole trifecta of disappointment.

I should have known that

nothing ever goes as I envision it.

Not looking good here.

Oh, OK, wow.

This actually is pretty nice.

You made a good choice there, Mat.

It looks like an improvement from where you were last living.

I'm not gonna lie.

You did good, Mat.

You did good.

There's a smile. She's smiling.

She's trying not to smile, but I see it happening.

I know you're tired, but if you just want a bed --

don't see me anymore tonight, please, please don't banish me

to the couch.

[Matilda speaking]

I -- you know how it is.

[Niles] I will.

I was hoping to tell Mat about the move as soon as possible.

There's no way in hell that's happening right now.

I'm not gonna make things worse.

So would you all like to see the gifts?

-I want to see it. -OK.

I do have other surprises for her.

So I'll do this thing called buttering her up.

I hear that when a wife is mad at a husband,

that's what you do.

First, do you remember this?

Do you remember that?

Yes.

[Niles] Well, I have

a matching laptop to go with it.

[Niles] Yeah.

[Matilda speaking]

[Niles] Oh, it gets better.

The most valuable thing I can ever give you,

that I will ever give our children.

What do you see, Mat?

And the establishing maxims that I live by.

So those 20 maxims I sent you, did you ever read them?

No.

OK, so maxim number one, never do something in anger.

Next.

Slow is right, right is fast.

And as for number nine, failure is not an option.

It is mandatory and required to learn.

Number 15. Number 19.

Now, number 20 is pick your battles, so to speak.

OK.

You want me to learn this thing?

I do want you to learn these. Learn them.

Read them. You know why?

90% of your problems will go away.

[Matilda speaking]

[Niles] Squishy, squishy, squishy, squishy,

squishy, squishy, squishy. -I love you, OK?

[Niles] OK, I love my wife too.

God bless you.

Matilda is much happier now that I've given her the gifts.

And wow, that easily, huh?

Hey, [indistinct], go take a shower

then come to bed and sleep.

-I'm stinky, aren't I? -[Matilda] Mm-hmm.

I figured.

I need to tell her at some point that I'm not going back

to America.

That can wait.

I want to keep this mood going for a little bit longer.

We've got some time to catch up on.

Today has been a day, hasn't it?

I know. Two years.

It's been two whole years.

[Matilda] I love you.

[Niles] I love you more.

♪ Don't wanna love what complicated ♪

♪ Don't wanna face the things you hated ♪

[Vittorio] Over the net. Over.

You understand?

[Jessy in Spanish]

[in English] It's just a game.

This is really getting frustrating, for real.

[Vittorio] You need to take a break?

[Jessy] You need a break, I feel like.

[Vittorio] I get into it. This is my game.

Adrenaline.

[Jessy] I say we get our stuff and get a drink, yeah?

[in Italian and English] Yes...best idea of the day.

♪ Keep emotions in and they gotta break up ♪

♪ Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa ♪

♪ Hit me with the arrows, treat me like a black rose ♪

-[Jessy] OK. -Slow down.

[in Italian and English] ...come on.

What's the problem? Why you looking me like that?

Anyway, let's get something. What do you want?

I'll have a cappuccino.

[in Italian]

It's 8 PM.

We're in Italy, I tell you, after 11 AM you cannot

order a cappuccino.

Who made these rules?

Who made Italy? Italy.

Tradition spritzer.

OK, Hugo Spritz, Hugo Spritz.

So is he always like this? As a friend, he's always

screaming and shouting like this?

-Yes, a lot. -He shouts a lot.

-[Jessy] Ah, all the time. -[both] He shouts a lot.

[Vittorio] I shout a lot because I'm passionate, you know that.

Start drinking because you talk too much.

I talk too much.

So have you guys seen Vittorio in a serious relationship

before or?

Actually, it's surprising for us.

He was like a playboy.

[Jessy] Ah, he was a Playboy. Uh-uh.

[Vittorio]...you stop there.

You don't need to tell all the details.

So are you over, like, this Playboy life?

Of course. We are here

because I'm convinced in you,

and I'm dedicated to you. -[Jessy] Hm.

[Marco] Vittorio.

[both in Italian]

OK.

[Jessy] What did he say?

Ah, no, he just asked me about, about the shot we did

in the tennis. -No, he didn't.

-Oh yes, he did. -[Jessy] That's not what I understood.

You don't understand Italian. You don't study the book.

[Jessy] Ah, he said something else.

OK, you don't have to be a dick.

-I'm just saying -- -I gave her this book of Italian, she did page four.

-[Jessy]Why are you trolling me in front of your friends? -[Vittorio] I'm not.

I'm just saying I wanted to know what he asked you.

You don't have to lie.

Sometimes it's good to lie in a relationship because

sometime you don't need to tell everything, you don't need

to overshare. -[Jessy] That's weird.

No, you just sometime you omit

certain things. It's normal.

Do you lie to your girlfriend? I hope not.

He told me he lived in the city of Florence, and then I get to

the house and it's country with chickens and there's like

a horse [bleep] all over the road.

We are at a tennis club, you speak properly,

not this type of language.

No, you weren't speaking properly on the court.

You don't hear me saying nothing.

[Vittorio] No, I never said a curse word.

So, first, I'm not wearing the right outfit.

-You're not wearing -- -I'm not talking properly, what else?

And you ordered a freaking cappuccino at 8 PM.

OK, can I talk to you in private, please?

Now you want to talk in private?

Yeah, yeah.

OK, let's go to talk in private.

The fact that he is talking to me this way,

especially in front of his friends.

I want to flip right now.

If we're a couple and we're together in public,

like, you should try to make me look good and uplift me.

I'm already in a new country, in a place where

I don't understand the language.

I'm meeting your friends for the first time.

I'm not that good at tennis.

Like, the way you're acting like is embarrassing me.

-You're trolling me in front of your friends. -Oh my God, Jess.

I feel like an idiot.

They know me here. I have a reputation.

If I bring somebody new, I want you not to make me look bad.

Because I have an image that I need to respect.

I don't care about your image.

-[Vittorio] Oh, yo, yo. -Like, this is what

you're not getting through your head.

-I don't care about your image. -You don't care about the image?

[Jessy] Like, you should care about me and how I feel.

Who cares if I wanna order a damn cappuccino

at nine o'clock, eight o'clock?

Who cares if I'm not wearing the right colors, who cares?

[Vittorio] But you said -- Jessy, Jessy, Jessy.

You always go your way. Go full, go full.

And you don't wait and pause. Wait and pause.

Whatever.

It's like you're talking to a wall.

-I'm ready to go, so. -No, no, but Jessy, no, no.

-Now we stay and talk. -I don't wanna talk.

I'm cold, I'm tired, it's been a long day.

And now what do you want? You wanna order the cappuccino?

-Have the cappuccino then. -No, stop.

No, because at this point, I let you have what you want.

-You look like a clown. -[Jessy] Men, [bleep] off.

[bleep] what? Where do you go?

How are you gonna get home?

Jessy!

You don't even have the pants and stuff.

[Jessy] And then I look like a clown. You look like a [bleep] clown.

-Like, who the [bleep] are you talking to? -[Vittorio] But, Jessy, we left

all the stuff there. -[Jessy] That's what I mean.

-[Vittorio] Jessy, we left all. -[Jessy] I'm going to the bathroom, stop talking to me.

-[Vittorio] We left all the stuff there. -[Jessy] Stop talking to me.

[Vittorio]...you behave like a children.

Like you are a children. Like you are what?

How many years old? Like six years old.

-[Jessy] You're too much. -[Vittorio] You see, [in Italian].

-Too much of what? Too much of what? -[Jessy] Bye.

[Vittorio]...don't even close. You don't even know how to...

-You without me... -[Jessy] Vittorio, shut the [bleep] up.

This is too much. I'm already overstimulated.

This is a lot. Like, it's freezing.

I'm in a freaking new country. I'm still freaking jet lagged.

I don't know what time it is. Like, too much.

OK, go do your bathroom. Good luck getting home.

Walk home, then. You walk home.

[Jessy] Yeah, [bleep] this, it's too much.

[Vittorio in Italian]

[Jessy] [bleep] pee on the toilet seat.

Like, my God.

My dad is a preacher man...

[Samuel] OK.

[Ally] I sometimes question if I should be with John.

I feel like it's just easier if I did things on my own

without John. I think we should just...

[singing in foreign language]

Oh, it's normal, because they are your parents.

[Samuel speaking foreign language]

[Samuel speaking]

[Felix speaking]

My dad is a preacher man...

And [indistinct] the Holy Spirit, [indistinct] now

and forevermore. Amen.

God bless you for coming.

So I stay in line.

[singing in foreign language]

[Samuel speaking]

Well, it's not really good, but she's coming, yeah.

I just spoke to her, and we had like a fight.

OK, OK.

I spoke to her this morning concerning her jealousy.

-Her jealousy. -Oh, very bad. Very bad character.

Her jealousy. Like I always tell you,

I always tell her.

I always try to calm her down.

But you know, Americans, like, when they are

angry, it's bad. -[Samuel] Yeah.

[Felix] It's bad. I know it's bad.

-It's not good. -[Felix] Yeah, I know, I know.

Today, we had a fight because we are having trust issues.

I took off my location going from one or two places

to do something for myself.

She wants me to be there for her 24/7.

If she calls me, I should pick the call.

She wants to... I'm like, "No, I'm a man."

I can't sit in the house because of you wanting to talk to me.

Things escalated. I said mean things to her.

She said mean things to me.

And then we had a little misunderstanding.

[Samuel speaking]

Yeah, yeah, yeah...

-Yeah. -[Felix speaking]

-Yeah. -[Felix speaking]

It's not too much.

[Felix speaking]

[Samuel] OK.

[Felix speaking]

So...

[Jonathan] You are way too [bleep] much sometimes,

and I've told you this before.

Then what the [bleep] are we doing together?

I don't know. I don't know.

I guarantee if you went through what I went through...

And to look over at the person that you're doing it all for

and realize that they're the reason.

It's just [bleep].

I thought we were doing the right thing, trying to

start a family and live a good life and raise a baby together.

But apparently,

it can't happen unless everything is done

exactly the way you want.

Is that what you want?

Just some dopey guy that you get to order around?

-I don't understand. -I don't get any credit for my life experience,

my age, my wisdom.

You know?

I'm just a guy that's willing to share his life with you.

Why isn't that good enough?

It has been hard communicating the stress and anxiety that

I feel from our situation, because he gets

overwhelmed easily.

I just don't want to hurt him, right?

But at the same time, I don't think it's fair for me to take

on all of the actual problems that we have

in our relationship,

especially knowing that I'm pregnant and tired

and emotional and stressed already.

It's just exhausting.

[Jonathan] I mean, you think I'm just overreacting?

Honestly, I'm just like really, really tired.

And I feel like, I don't know, I don't want to say anything

that I might regret.

I think we should just

sleep it off.

John and I have never, like, officially broken up.

But I do sometimes question if I should be with John.

Because that way, like, I don't

have to like deal with someone else's problems.

Like, I'm just dealing with my own problems.

And I feel like it's just easier, like, if I did things

on my own without John.

[Jonathan speaking]

I spent it with you, so already starting

really good.

I could get back used to this.

[singing in foreign language]

[Matilda speaking]

[Niles] Good morning, squishy mommy.

Getting my first night back here,

feeling settled in a lot better than I thought I would.

I spent it with you, so already starting really good.

[Matilda] OK.

I told you I could get back used to this.

So today we're going to be with my family, right?

Yes.

[Matilda speaking]

Call your dad and let me call my mom.

Then let them know that my husband is here to see them.

Alright.

You know, I like to stretch.

Last night sparks definitely flew, but it turns out

when you're tired, your body will pull the plug on you.

So, you know, we got started, we did not finish.

But not only that, I do have a lot on my mind right now,

including how

my entire future in Ghana could be in jeopardy.

All right.

It's all right, Mat. I know I have a morning routine.

[Matilda] My night was pretty good.

-Let's go. -Let's get it.

Oh, today is gonna be a day.

Yesterday, dad told me that if Matilda's family wants to,

they can give back the original schnapps,

and my marriage could be over.

But I've already left everything behind.

And they think this is just a visit.

So something inside me is just bracing myself.

So, um, I don't see a sign for speed limits, but they expect

you to go a certain speed, right?

Oh.

[car honking]

[Matilda speaking foreign language]

I see road rage is also a thing here.

-[Matilda] Mm-hmm. -I see.

I would hate for this to go horribly, horribly wrong.

[Niles] OK.

[Matilda] We are here.

Yeah, we are.

Yeah, we're -- we're here.

[exhales heavily]

What do you think they're gonna say to me?

I need to take some calming breaths.

[Matilda speaking]

[Emma speaking]

I call it the honky-tonk cabaret.

-[Emma] Whoo! -Yeah.

Every time somebody new comes in, I'm thinking, is it her?

Is it her?

I look over, and I see Nigel go inside.

And it's kind of freaking me out.

Beautiful.

It probably is, but we don't really think it's a good idea.

My wife's not going to see this show, is she?

I could definitely not be in a non-monogamous relationship.

I would be killed.

She would beat the [bleep] out of me.

[Nigel speaking]

-Right? -Oh, man.

[Andi] Do we have enough people coming...

-[Nigel] Yeah, I reckon. -[Andi] Cool.

♪ You got it, I need it, so bring it ♪

♪ What you waiting for ♪

♪ Do it baby, come and give me more ♪

[Andi speaking]

[Nigel] Hey mate, how you doing?

Yeah! Yay!

Hello, you're new!

I'm really excited about the party tonight and meeting

a lot of Nigel's friends.

Trumpet player.

Awesome. Andi Jane.

-Good to meet you. -Good to meet you.

But I'm feeling a lot of anxiety about meeting Azrael

for the first time.

Hello, pretty lady.

-Hi. -Ray, nice to meet you.

Ray? Nice to meet you, Andi.

How's it going?

-Marie. -[Andi] Marie.

And I'm just feeling really anxious for the moment

when we actually meet for the first time.

Hi. What's your name?

-Emma. -[Andi] Emma! Andi Jane.

-Oh, you made it. -[friend #1] I made it.

Hello.

First, it's just a whole wash of new people and just kind of

some social anxiety in general.

Nice to see you, oh!

[Andi] But every time somebody new comes in, I'm thinking,

is it her? Is it her?

Is it her? Hello!

Hi! I'm Andi.

-I'm Carol, Tony's wife. -Oh my gosh, hello!

Nice to meet you. What's your name?

[Andi] Zalia.

-Yeah. -[Andi] Maria.

Awesome, nice to meet you. Yeah, welcome to the party.

Lesly, nice to meet you.

Calm down, Andi.

I feel like anxious.

My body is tense, so I need to

lower my vibration a little bit.

Yeah.

[Nigel] I don't know how it's gonna go when Andi meets Azrael.

She might really weird her out. I hope not.

I think Azrael's gonna be cool.

She's been honoring of our boundaries and it's been

healthy and it's been good from our end.

So if Andi has any problem here, really it comes down to

some, probably some insecurity on Andi's end.

It's good, it's real fun.

Let's see if we can get some spinning going.

-Yeah. -[Emma] What do you do for work?

I'm a musician, so yeah, I'm playing a show.

-So that's a full time job, yeah? -[Andi] Yes.

-I'm glad you guys came, yeah. -[friend #2] Yeah, thank you for inviting us.

[Emma] What kind of music?

I call it the Honky Tonk Cabaret, yeah.

So it's a variety, there's a little country,

it's a little jazzy, bluegrassy sometimes.

-We did. -[friend #2] We did, yeah.

-We can do that. -[friend #2] Ah, OK, yeah.

-[friend #3] What was your name, love? -Azrael.

[friend #3] Azrael.

I'm chatting with somebody and I overhear her name.

And I look over and I realize that, oh, this is Azrael.

I had no idea what she looked like,

had never seen a picture of her.

So I didn't know what to expect at all.

She looks totally different than me.

She's shorter than me.

She's got festival clothes, long hair with blue in it.

You know, cute girl.

[Nigel] There's food inside.

You been inside yet? Come in.

[Andi] I'm having conflicting thoughts about it.

I'm like, do I want to not like her

so she's not a threat at all?

Do I want to like her, but then if I like her,

does that mean Nigel really likes her?

Like, all of these things are going through my mind.

Where'd Nigel go?

Then I see Nigel and Azrael walk up the stairs together

and go inside, and it's kind of freaking me out.

[Nigel] I'll show you where the drinks are.

I feel like I'm spinning out a little bit.

I mean, we just talked about how I'm insecure about this,

that I'm having jealousy.

It's like a heritage.

[Andi] Do you care about my feelings, or is it just all about you?

It's making me feel like he's just really not very committed

to me in this relationship.

You realize how stupid is this?

You just got here, you don't even --

So now my feelings are stupid.

Vittorio's being very arrogant.

He's being just very different and not like the humble,

kind Vittorio that I fell in love with.

[Vittorio in Italian]

[bleep] you, like...

[Vittorio in Italian]

[Jessy] Man, [bleep] this, it's too much.

Tennis is so important for me because it's not just a sport,

it's a social status.

And I want Jessy to also be part of that.

Having this disagreement at the tennis club with Jessy is

very embarrassing for me.

[all in Italian]

[Vittorio] Jessy.

Jessy?

What are you doing?

I already told you, like, you really, like,

you, talking to you, like, you do not listen,

and you explode.

And I honestly feel embarrassed tonight, like,

how you treated me in front of your friends.

Like, you were, like, really making fun of me.

It was not funny.

...if you have a problem with me, we can talk

about it at home in private, but in a social setting,

when we are with friends, I also need you not to go out

and leave like that, don't say goodbye to my friends.

And for me, social engagement, social situation

are so important.

In Italy, we say, "You wash the dirty clothes

at home," so we wash this dirty argument at home.

[Jessy] I don't wanna ride back with you, I really don't.

Like, you really, like, rubbed me the wrong way tonight, so.

Jessy, it's 15 minutes, it's close.

If you let me go faster, we go home faster.

No, I already don't feel comfortable on the motorcycle

and I don't wanna go fast.

And I'm not a fan of you right now,

so I'll just see you at home.

OK, [in Italian], what? You go home like that?

Like this? I don't --

Jessy, [in Italian].

Jessy...

[Jessy] No, I do not want to go home with you.

Like, just respect that.

Like, this is a boundary of mine, and you got to

respect that. I'll see you at home.

-But, Jessy, you... -That's it, stop, like, pressuring.

But you realize how stupid is this?

You just got here, you don't even...

So now my feelings are stupid?

[Vittorio] You don't even have the address to go home.

Can I go with you guys?

Jessy, Jessy, Jessy, Jessy!

[Vittorio in Italian]

Stop, too much.

You're making a scene in front of everybody.

[in Italian]

[Jessy] You're the one that's [bleep] screaming like [bleep].

My people think Vittorio's so cute and all this stuff.

That's really how he is.

Annoying as [bleep].

What's really setting me off right now is that Vittorio's

being very arrogant.

It's so disrespectful to speak to your woman like that.

And it just goes to show how childish he is.

Like, he literally is, like, throwing a temper tantrum

right now.

He's being just very different and not like the humble,

kind Vittorio that I fell in love with.

Second night here, and she already like this.

[in Italian]

[bleep] you, like.

Like, that's toxic, for real.

Next time on "90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way."

-To not making it weird. -Yeah, exactly.

We have definitely shared a connection and some intimacy.

[Andi] I'm gonna go freshen up my drink.

-[friend #4] OK. -I'll be back.

There's no way that there's not real feelings

for this person.

To partners in crime then.

Partners in crime.

I've always felt like your sister has been kind of distant

towards me in the past.

...that she don't learn French.

I know your sister can speak a little English.

[speaking French]

[Michelle] I'm pissed.

I wanna know if somebody's there with you.

[Felix speaking]

[Michelle] All my friends told me to spy on him.

I pay them money, like I'm a hustler.

You can pay for whatever you want in the streets.

Somebody's there. I know somebody's there.

Don't [bleep] lie.

You keep lying to me and I don't wanna talk to you anymore.

[Niles] I'm trying to fight for my marriage,

and there's also this massive secret

about me staying here in Ghana.

I'm giving up so much for you. What are you giving up for me?

Oh my God, because you lied to me.

-Shut the [bleep] up. Shut the [bleep] up. -[Jessy] We're not gonna --

Do not talk to me like that.

He's tripping.

I cannot believe he speaks to people like that.

This is not the man that

I moved to a different country for.