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[Lisa] Previously on "Before the 90 Days."

[Trisha speaking]

Oh, what?

I may not be able to give you everything you want,

but everything you need, you don't have to worry about.

Do you think that I'm enough for you?

That's what I need to feel, that I'm enough for her.

I really do want this to work.

[Trisha speaking]

[Rick speaking]

I just want the for your daughter, and I was hoping

I could get your blessing to marry her.

Well, Forrest, you have my blessing.

I'm really looking forward

to meeting your parents tomorrow.

I feel like Sheena hasn't been 100% honest with me.

Even though her family needs her help with money,

what I've seen,

the way they live, it's not the same as what

I've been hearing for the last seven years.

So I'm really worried that

tomorrow my mother is going to basically flip out.

[sighs]

We had that argument, and you called my sister,

and you were a little bit unhinged.

[Annalyn] I mean, you're upset with me...

[Jovon] I mean, Anna, I love you, but you are a handful.

Here we go again. [sighs]

[Birkan speaking]

He's just my friend, and he's not trying to make me

cut you out.

[Birkan speaking]

I am shocked that Birkan decides to walk out on me.

It absolutely feels like a side of him

that I haven't seen yet and I really don't like.

[Birkan speaking]

[Daniel speaking]

If your uncle does not give you the blessing, does that

mean that we are not getting married?

I have to try to impress his uncle,

but what kind of questions are gonna be asked?

I'm worried I may have to reveal things that I'm not

ready to reveal. I don't wanna lose Daniel.

[upbeat music playing]

[Forrest sighs]

[Forrest] Yesterday, I arrived at Sheena's family home

in the province.

And even though the family accepted me,

what I've learned is just...

leaving me confused and -- and bothered.

First off, I believed that the entire time I was coming

here to save Sheena from horrific, evil monsters.

And it turns out her family has this nice, beautiful home

and are just normal, caring people.

So last night, I tried to talk to Sheena.

You have to be honest with me.

You described your family as almost like terrible monsters

that were stealing from you.

Are -- are they just -- are they just -- is this an act for me?

No, they're not an act. They're great people.

But they're not really great people

if they're mistreating their daughter.

[Sheena speaking]

[Forrest] Boom.

I -- I wish her answers were more...

you know, answers and not more like dodging around.

Now I'm left with more questions than

what I started with.

I feel like I know bits and pieces of the most

important parts of the story, but there's still many other

things that need to be uncovered.

Uh, I do believe my mom is gonna show up and she's gonna see

the nice place.

She's gonna see this...this, and she's gonna say,

"Why did you need the money in the first place?"

And she's going to express herself

and say exactly what's on her mind.

I'm kind of relieved that my mom is coming 'cause she can

get the third perspective and see what's really going on.

[singsong] Coffee time, gotta get my coffee time, coffee time.

[normally] Sheena's family seems to be under the impression that

she's going to financially support them going forward.

So I still wanna tell Sheena's family that we are

cutting them off.

And hopefully, my mom and Dev can back me and kind of just

get past the big hurdle that is impending.

That's a strong cup of joe right there.

OK, Sheen. They should be here any second.

-[Sheena] OK. -Come on, babe.

-OK. -[Forrest] Yeah.

[exhales]

-Are you nervous, baby? -Yeah, so nervous.

[Molly] Oh, yes, moment of truth.

Oh, oh, boy.

Wow, hey, guys.

[Sheena] Wow, hi, Mom, hi, Dev.

-Mm-hmm. -[Molly] This is so beautiful here.

-[Sheena] Well, thank you. -[Dev] Wow.

[Molly] Wow.

Right off the bat, alarm bells are going off in my head.

[Sheena] My family is out right now. So come here, guys.

I'll give you a tour.

-Here's the garden stuff. -[Molly] Man.

Sheena's told me that her family runs this

struggling bed-and-breakfast.

So I'm expecting something kind of quaint and rough

around the edges.

We had different kinds of plants here.

We have fruit-bearing trees, red palm orchids.

[Molly] Huh.

[Sheena] I don't know this plant, but this is very rare

to have flowers. -[Molly] Oh.

My first reaction, holy [bleep].

-[Dev speaking] -[Sheena] Yes?

Actually, before when it got this place, it doesn't

have anything. -[Molly] So you guys did all of this?

[Sheena] Yes, from the scratch.

Sheena's expecting me to believe that if they don't take

her money, that they're gonna starve.

I mean, they're living better than Forrest and I back

in the United States.

This is not adding up at all.

[Sheena speaking]

[Molly] Oh!

[Sheena speaking]

[Molly] Well, would you look at that?

So when do I get to meet your family, Sheena?

At dinner?

[Sheena speaking]

[Molly] OK.

I'm definitely going to tell Sheena's family every single

thing that Sheena has told me, this whole story

of the past seven years.

And then I wanna see how they react.

I wanna see if they're gonna be shocked or if they're

part of it or whatever.

-Yeah, thank you for giving me the grand tour. -[Sheena] Yeah.

-[Molly] It's just beautiful. -[Dev] Yeah.

Tonight, I will get the truth from Sheena.

I think I'm just gonna go put my legs up for a bit

until dinner.

[Sheena speaking]

[indistinct chatter]

[car horn honks]

[Daniel speaking]

You can. Show me.

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] I know.

[Daniel speaking]

OK -- on the side?

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] You look beautiful.

Oh, la, la.

♪ [singing in French] ♪

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] The inner one is shorter?

OK.

[Lisa] Daniel and I are going today to meet his uncle and get

a blessing so we can get married.

And -- and I'm nervous.

I don't know the traditions, I don't know the culture,

and I don't know what his uncle is gonna ask me.

I'm scared I'm not gonna get the blessing

and Daniel will blame me.

[Lisa] But I kneel with it first.

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] Sorry.

[both chuckle]

Daniel wants me to have traditional attire

to meet his uncle.

And I'm expected to learn how to put it on myself.

I think I'm gonna look like a clown.

I can't hear anything because the hair tie is like plastic

and it's rattling in my ears, but he's telling me this is

Igbo traditional attire, and this is what I must wear.

So this is gonna be pretty interesting.

Maybe my bangs should be back.

[laughs]

I don't mean to laugh, honey.

I just, I can't.

[laughs]

Alright, let me try again.

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] It doesn't look too bad.

Alright, can you help me?

I didn't have a mirror.

Where was my mirror to watch her?

I had my head, and I was holding it.

You must help me.

[Daniel speaking]

You have to make it taut or it's gonna fall off.

[laughs]

You got this.

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] OK, how do I look?

That's good...

♪♪

[Lisa] I'm nervous.

I'm very nervous.

Because I am.

This is -- this -- this is a big deal.

I want to impress him.

-Impress my uncle? -Yes, I want to give a good...

a -- I want to put my best foot forward.

I'm scared [bleep]less.

And you're not telling me anything except to kneel

in front of him.

I don't know what he's gonna ask me.

-I'll do my best. -My uncle --

I know, but what you're considering a lie and what

I consider your lie might be two different things.

I'm from America.

My culture is different than yours.

I want to show him that I am willing to go above and beyond

to be a good...

Igbo wife.

[chuckles]

-Igbo... -Igbo wife.

[Daniel chuckles]

Yeah.

[Laura speaking]

I do not think this is an ideal time to meet

Memo and Tugba.

But part of me really wants to ask them questions,

because there's a lot more I need to learn about Birkan.

Tell me something interesting about Birkan.

[Mehmet and Tugba speaking Turkish]

[dramatic chord strike]

[upbeat music playing]

♪ [singing in Tagalog] ♪

I've been in the Philippines for a couple of days now,

and me and Annalyn are on our way-overdue honeymoon.

It's a strange feeling to have all these firsts

with me and my wife after three years of being married.

First time sleeping together, first time eating together,

first time waking up beside each other together.

And then we had our first in-person fight.

So right now, it seems like I'm in the doghouse.

OK, she made her side of the bed.

Anna!

Last night things got a little bit tense because

I told Anna not to call my sister and vent about our issues

in our marriage.

Last night during our couple's massage, I am trying so hard

to show him a good time, trying to be romantic, but he's always

trying to find ways to criticize me.

I would rather Anna come to me about our issues

in our marriage.

Why can't I reach out to his sister?

She's my family, too.

So why can't I confide to her

when he can confide to any bitch?

[sighs] What?

Are you gonna brush your teeth or are you just gonna

look at me?

[Jovon] I mean, Anna, are we gonna talk?

-[Annalyn] Talk about what? -I mean, about last night.

I mean, I apologize for, you know, bringing that up

at the wrong time.

I wanna enjoy the trip. Can -- can we do that?

OK.

Alright, we're good? OK, a hug, it's alright.

I'm happy that he apologized, but that doesn't mean

all is good.

Last night, it wasn't just really about him

criticizing me. It's way deeper than that.

It's about him doing things that's giving me trust issues.

Now that I'm in person with my husband, there are things

that I question about him.

I notice that it's beautiful out today.

-[Annalyn] Yeah. -[Jovon] You wanna head to the beach?

-Yes. -[Jovon] OK.

[Annalyn] But I don't wanna waste this moment, especially this is

the last day of our honeymoon.

[Jovon] What's going on over there? Uh, kayaking?

[Annalyn] Yeah. And this one is like a bicycle.

-[Jovon] Yeah, we definitely... -[Annalyn] This one is so cool.

[Jovon] We definitely gonna do these.

We're interested in renting this.

[Jovon] OK.

Have you been in one of these before?

No.

-[Annalyn] Are you excited? -[Jovon] I'm excited.

Alright.

Whoo-hoo! Bye-bye.

[Annalyn] Whoo-hoo...

Yeah.

[Annalyn and Jovon speaking]

[Annalyn] Yeah.

[Jovon] The aqua-bike is a little bit uncomfortable because

I'm so tall. I couldn't...

-You have long legs. -Yeah.

Yeah.

They're not built for people over six foot.

Maybe Jet Skis next time.

-Thank you. -Oh, my God, that was so fun.

-Cheers. -Cheers.

-[Jovon] It's pretty good. -[Annalyn] Huh, mh-hmm.

So you know, this is the last day of our honeymoon.

Mm-hmm.

So we're about to go back home really soon,

and you're gonna meet my mom.

But there's something I want to talk about.

OK.

That was about my sister.

[Annalyn speaking]

I need to make sure that

you keep your promise.

Remember what you promised me when you were on the phone

before you came down here.

That you're not gonna talk to her again.

Yeah.

-But I need you to show me that you keep your promise. -OK.

-OK. -[Annalyn] So...

OK.

You OK?

-[Jovon] Yeah. -Are you nervous?

...if he cheats, it's OK

as long as he provides.

It really scares me a little bit.

[suspenseful music playing]

Just gonna leave me?

You're just gonna leave me in a hut in a village?

[Birkan speaking]

I don't care about Michal.

You don't care about a lot, do you?

[Birkan] No.

Birkan's plan for us today was to make evil eye beads

and then go meet his friends Memo and Tugba.

But I'm just

really unsure of everything right now.

After keeping some pretty big secrets from me, Birkan has

a lot of balls to try to tell me

who I can and can't be friends with.

I -- I knew that Birkan had a lot of issues with my relationship

with Michal, but to tell me he wants me to cut

my best friend out of my life?

This is a whole new controlling side of him,

and it's really concerning to me.

You left me sitting in a hut alone.

[Birkan] Because I don't like him?

Actually, I have nothing in common with him, OK?

You both care about me. You have that in common.

But you always said you trust me.

[Birkan] Yeah.

You'll have to trust me on this, because...

And so you think he has some sort of...

intention that's other than just being my friend?

-Yeah, exactly. -I don't agree.

[Birkan] OK.

[Laura] So we're gonna go meet your friends, and I wanna do that.

I would like for you to give me that same respect.

So could you at least at some point be open to meeting him

or calling him?

[Laura] I'm not trying to push your will, I'm trying to make

you see the, like, the hypocrisy in it,

because otherwise it feels like you just get to determine

who's important in our lives, in our lives.

[Birkan] OK, I don't wanna talk about this discussion anymore, so...

I do not think this is an ideal time to meet Memo and Tugba.

But part of me really wants to take the opportunity to meet

them, to ask them questions.

Especially since the last few days have proven that there's

a lot more I need to learn about Birkan.

♪ [singing in Turkish] ♪

[speaking Turkish]

[Birkan] So this is my usual table. Maybe we should sit here.

[Laura] OK. You know everyone.

[Birkan] Yeah, I know.

[Mehmet speaking Turkish]

[Laura] It's so good to meet you.

I'm Laura. Nice to meet you.

-Hi, I'm Laura. Nice to meet you. -[Mehmet] Nice to meet you.

[Tugba speaking Turkish]

[Birkan speaking]

-I will translate. -[Laura] Yeah.

You guys are gonna mix up and -- and...

And I'm gonna ask lots of questions about you.

OK.

-It's not a... -[Birkan] Yeah, it is a threat.

-It is not a threat. -[Birkan] OK.

[both speaking Turkish]

How long have you known Birkan?

[all speaking Turkish]

Three years.

Three years.

[speaking Turkish]

Thank you, sir.

Thank you.

[speaking Turkish]

[Laura and Birkan speaking]

-Now this is my life, actually. -[Laura] Oh.

[Birkan speaking]

This is something for relaxing. It's like medication.

I have my tea, I have my shisha, I will be fine.

While it's fun to see this side of Birkan hanging out

with his friends, it's also kind of eye-opening.

He knew everyone when we walked in.

He has a regular table.

And now I'm hearing that

he comes here literally to smoke shisha every day.

I mean, he just told me about

this massive amount of debt that he has.

I feel like he should be doing

something more productive with his time.

Tell me something interesting about Birkan.

[speaking Turkish]

[Birkan speaking]

Oh, nice job!

[speaking Turkish]

[speaking Turkish]

[Birkan speaking]

But I also like the dark parts and the protective nature.

[Birkan speaking Turkish]

It's a good combination.

[Mehmet and Tugba speaking Turkish]

[Laura] What?

I can't put a time frame on that.

I'm 52 years old, getting up there in age, so I don't think

I'm ready to have another child.

What do you want?

Oh, my mouth is watering, ooh!

[Forrest] I don't know which version of my mom I'm going to get.

Am I going to get the nice, sweet mom, or am I gonna get

hard-nose, rock-hard, battle, battle, battle, battle?

[Molly] I wanna talk about Sheena.

There's been quite a bit of confusion.

♪ [singing in Malagasy] ♪

Yeah.

Oh...

Oh, it's illegal, OK.

Today, we're taking a boat to Nosy Kumba

to see some lemurs.

This is something that I've been looking forward to,

because I think that Madagascar is the only

place that you can find lemurs.

Also, for a long time, that's the only thing I knew

about Madagascar from the movie.

So I'm really excited to see them in person.

[Trisha] Oh, oh, oh, look.

[playful music playing]

[Trisha] So cute!

-Look at the black one. -There's three of them.

So do they ever come down?

Yeah, they run like this everywhere.

[Rick] And what do they eat?

[Trisha] Whatever they see, the fruits, like that,

they eat all day. -[Rick] Oh, really? Huh.

These lemurs.

They're cute and they're strange at the same time.

To me, they act similar to monkeys, but they're not

as human as, like, monkeys are.

They look like...

squirrel monkeys.

-Ah, another! -Oh, wow.

There's one right next to us.

Hey, man.

What's that noise you're making, baby?

-[Trisha] That's their...yeah. -[Rick] Is that their language?

[clicking noise from throat]

I can't do that.

[snorting]

-No! -I sound more like a pig.

[imitates lemur]

[speaking Malagasy]

Is it monkey or what do you say?

[both speaking Malagasy]

[in English] Yes. You see?

Oh, he's looking around.

[Rick speaking]

Come on, let's get one together.

-Yeah, the kids will love this. -[Trisha] Yeah.

My boys, I miss them.

But it'll be worth it if I can bring a step-mommy home.

[Trisha] Yeah...

[Rick] I envision that we could have this family unit,

just the four of us.

I mean, I love kids, but, like, right now,

I'm not in a position to have another child.

What's the issue?

[Rick] Well, it's...

I know it's a hard time, but I know what it is.

I know.

...like my dad going to work,

and only them and me was in the house.

Oh, Trish, I'm -- I'm not ready to make that decision right now.

At this point in my life, I don't think I'm ready to --

to have another child.

I'm 52 years old,

and I'm -- I'm getting up there in age.

So, uh, having another child is gonna be like starting

all over again.

And it's -- it's -- it's -- it's hard enough as it is dealing

with -- with my two little ones.

And I haven't even told her about what --

what I did in Colombia.

She might not even want a child with me

after she finds that out.

What do you want?

I mean, I'm not totally closing the door on --

on the idea of having a child.

So how long you'll be -- you'll decide it?

Like, "OK, now I wanna have kids?"

I can't put a time frame on that.

I wish he would stop making excuses and tell me what

he really wants.

I need to know, and it's very important, and not only for me,

but for my family.

In my culture, it's very important to have

kids, and it's not a question.

I'm going to take Rick to my hometown

in a few days, and I'm worried.

If he decided he does not wanna have kids anymore,

I'm not sure if I will be able to stay with him.

I had heard that you guys had been, um, taking

all of Sheena's earnings.

She told us if she didn't give the money to you guys,

that you would threaten her and mistreat her.

You forced her.

[Steve speaking]

[music playing]

[Katrina speaking in Tagalog]

[Steve] OK!

Wow.

It's not very ripe.

[Sheena] Hello, hello.

-Hello, hello. -[Sheena] Hello.

-This is my mom, Molly, and my dad, Dev. -[Steve] Nice to meet you.

-Hello, so very nice to meet you, sir. -[Sheena] There's Dev.

-Hello, good to meet you. -I'm Steve!

-Steve? Dev. -Dave?

-Dev. -It's Dev.

-Ah, Dev? OK. -Yeah, OK.

Hi, I'm Molly. So very nice to meet you.

-It's a pleasure. -Nice to meet you.

I'm Katrina.

-[Molly] It's great meet you. -Good to meet you, Katrina.

[Forrest] Hey, hey, pops.

How's it going?

[Sheena] So Mom, we're just trying to show you on how

we make jackfruit.

-[Molly] That is a knife. -[Sheena] Yeah.

[Forrest] Tonight, I'm worried

about, you know, everything that's gonna happen.

[Katrina] Anyone wanna try?

[Molly] Oh, I sure do. Oh, thank you.

I don't know which version of my mom I'm going to get.

Am I gonna get the nice, sweet mom who loves and cares

everybody, or am I gonna get hard-nosed, rock-hard,

battle, battle, battle, battle?

-Well, wanna go sit down for a while? -Oh, yeah, that'd be great.

Yeah, that'd be great, yeah.

[Forrest] But at the same time, I'm starting to get kind of

tired and overwhelmed with learning new things

every single time about Sheena.

So I'm hoping that we can get the truth all out on the table.

-Oh, look at that. -So these are banana leaves.

[Katrina speaking]

-[Sheena] Yeah. -And, no, so no plates, just the banana leaves

-[Molly] Yes! -Yes.

-And all -- all the food. -All the natural stuff.

[Molly] Yes, yes, it's wonderful.

A boodle fight is like a traditional Filipino culture

of everyone to eat in one whole giant leaf.

So it's like this.

They have to do like this in a line.

[Dev] Oh.

I just thought Molly would really enjoy this because she's

interested in learning about my culture, especially when it

comes to food.

-Ooh, my mouth is watering, ooh! -[Sheena] We'll just put two, put...

I hope that the boodle fight

is the only fight that would happen tonight.

-Next batch. -[Forrest] Next batch, the whole thing?

-[Sheena] Seafood. -[Molly] Ooh, shrimp.

Oh, my gosh.

-[Molly] Those look delicious. -[Sheena] Mussels.

The big fish goes in the middle.

[Molly] Yes.

My first impression of Sheena's family was

they're hospitable. They're very welcoming.

I mean, I've never quite seen a spread as nice as this.

Usually, make a rice ball first, just pick around, then...

Scoop it with your mouth. Shove it with your mouth.

-Shove it up. -Shove it up.

-[Sheena] There you go, shove it up. -Shove it all up.

Mm!

[Molly] That be told...

That does not line up at all from what I heard

about them from Sheena.

God, the flavors that just come through.

Mm, mm.

I was under the impression that they were these money-grubbing,

cruel people that pretty much locked Sheena away and wouldn't

let her out, only to go to work and then to hand

over her check.

That's what I was led to believe.

I just wanna say this -- this meal that you prepared is

just incredible. I'm just so grateful.

And you have created such a beautiful home, I must say.

Thank you, thank you.

[Molly] It must have been so expensive.

But, um, I was actually quite surprised to see how...

how it really is.

I expected something very different.

But you guys made us feel very, very welcome,

and I appreciate that so much.

Uh, so I wanted to ask, um, are you guys OK with Sheena

moving to the United States?

Oh, OK, that's interesting.

[Steve] Yes, but, uh, yesterday,

Forrest made it clear that, uh...

-So... -[Molly] Actually, let's put Forrest's finances to the side,

and I wanna talk about Sheena.

There's been quite a bit of confusion,

and I had -- I, um, had heard

that you guys had been, um, taking

the -- all of Sheena's earnings.

And she, uh, told us that...

um, if she didn't give

the money to you guys, that you would

threaten her and be cruel to her and mistreat her.

That you forced her.

No, did you say that?

[Lisa speaking]

[Modestus speaking]

I have not always been a very good Christian.

[tense music playing]

My dog?

-Mm-hmm. -Mm.

I was ready to find something to prove that

I can't trust him.

And instead, I found a bunch of cute photos of his dog...

and photos of me that I sent him.

Actually, lots of photos of me.

I'm realizing that maybe I should

cut him some slack, but I guess I'm still learning how

to trust him.

Well, for now, I don't see any red flag, honestly.

You know, I told you I was gonna stop

talking to that person.

And I did.

I mean, did you think I wasn't telling the truth?

I think...I never know.

[scoffs]

-So... -Well, now you know.

It's a little bit offensive that she feel like she needs

to look through my phone in order to feel comfortable.

Anna's supposed to trust me regardless.

She's actually supposed to trust me before,

you know, we got married, you know?

But at the same time, I watch a lot of relationship podcasts,

and one of the hosts, he sometimes makes good points

about a little paranoia is healthy.

I mean, most women only act right

when they feel like they could be replaced.

So I'm not saying go out and cheat.

But a little bit of paranoia, a little bit of fear is healthy.

Are we good?

I do want to trust you, but I'm not gonna lie.

Uh, I'm not still, like, 100%.

[Jovon] Mm-hmm.

[Annalyn speaking]

I don't care.

I mean, Anna [sighs] just look at it this way.

I mean, I passed all your tests.

-For now. -[Jovon] OK, for now.

-For now. -[Jovon] For now.

Do you wanna go through my luggage up in the rooms?

-Yes, I will. -[Jovon] Alright.

-I'm just kidding. -Not that I'm aware of.

I'm just --

[music playing]

As soon as I go in, do I kneel down before him?

-OK, then...OK. -[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] I am in a very uncomfortable situation.

I'm sitting next to the man I love,

and he doesn't know [bleep] about me.

He doesn't know that I'm still married.

He has no idea I've only been with women for 21 years.

And right now, I'm feeling scared because I don't wanna lie

to his uncle, but I don't wanna tell him

any of my secrets.

I want us to have this blessing more than anything

in the world. I want to be with Daniel.

We're gonna do this.

If he doesn't give me the blessing,

I will have fierce words.

[tense music playing]

[Daniel speaking]

[Modestus speaking]

[Modestus speaking Igbo]

[Daniel speaking]

Nervous, Uncle. I'm very nervous today.

[Modestus speaking]

I am a Native American. I am part Irish also.

I come from a mother who gave me up for adoption

at a very young age.

I have a family that adopted me, and they took very good

care of me.

I am a hard worker.

I make sure I take care of my household.

I make sure when Daniel needs money, that I take care

of his household.

[Modestus speaking]

[Lisa] I am a practicing Christian.

I have not always been a very good Christian,

but Daniel makes me into a better woman.

He makes me into a stronger Christian.

I do drink, very...

not a lot, but I do drink some, yes.

[Modestus speaking]

[Lisa] I do not smoke.

I have smoked in the past. I have given it up.

[tense music playing]

[speaking Turkish]

[Birkan] Laura is already worried about...

[speaking Turkish]

[Laura] Wait, what did she say?

[Mehmet and Tugba speaking Turkish]

[tense music playing]

[Laura] What?

[speaking Turkish]

[Birkan speaking]

[speaking Turkish]

[Laura] But what?

[speaking Turkish]

[Mehmet speaking Turkish]

[Laura] What is she saying?

[Birkan speaking Turkish]

[in English] I don't like pressure, I hate it.

It's like "Birkan, don't do that, Birkan, don't do this," I hate that.

[Laura] Good to know.

This is really awkward because the three of them are just

having this conversation in Turkish and nobody is

translating for me or filling in any of the gaps.

This definitely feels kind of off and a little shady.

I'm already feeling unsure.

And now I definitely think it's possible that he's hiding

something else that his friends know about.

And for whatever reason, no one's telling me.

And I don't like that.

♪ [singing in Malagasy] ♪

[Rick speaking]

-Is that the blanket we're laying on? -Yeah...

I mean, it's kind of -- ooh!

That would have been better.

-The splash pad would have definitely been better. -I'm not kidding.

-Is this where we're gonna eat? -[Trisha] Yeah.

-[Rick] Wow. -[Trisha] Fried fish.

-They put some garlic... -And what -- what --

and ginger and a little salt. -Oh, OK, that's what I was gonna ask.

And that's what they're stirring in now?

-Yeah, yeah, they... -With the ginger and the salt?

...they mix it up like this.

Got some nice big ones in here, babe.

[Trisha] Mm-hmm.

[Rick] So whatever you catch is on the menu.

[Trisha] Yeah.

[both speaking Malagasy]

-You wanna try? -Try what?

-How to cook it. -[Rick] I don't know+ anything about...

[Trisha] You've never do that?

-Nah, I've never been fishing either... -Oh!

...so I've never dealt with, you know, live fish.

[Trisha] I'm gonna teach you, and when you are

in my hometown, you can do the same

thing to impress my family like you know how to do it.

I mean, that sounds like kind of a good idea, you know?

[Trisha speaking]

[speaking Malagasy]

[Rick] You used to squatting like this for long periods of time?

Yeah.

What's your problem, Rick? You don't even help.

I'm -- I'm old.

I'm not used to being in this type of position

for long periods of time.

-In my home, you will sit on the ground. -[Rick] Ooh.

-Like this. -I'm a city boy, baby.

-You -- you're a village girl. -You wanna sit on a chair?

If there's a chair available, yeah.

-That'd be nice. -[Trisha] What?

[Rick] So what can I expect when I meet your family?

They will ask you some questions.

-"Who are you?" -[Rick] OK.

"What do you want from my daughter?"

OK.

I know that this is a big step.

[Trisha] Yeah.

How old is your dad?

[Trisha speaking]

You haven't told your dad my age?

No.

Oh, Trish.

[Trisha] My dad would say,

"Oh, you have to choose then..." between you and my dad.

It's really important to my family.

I'm being put in -- in such a disadvantage.

She hasn't given her family any information about me.

They don't know my age.

They don't know that I've been married, have kids,

nothing at all.

I'm just getting thrown into the lion's den.

They really want Trish to have a baby,

and that's the part that I'm most worried about.

'Cause at this point, I don't know if I'm ready to...

make that decision.

I just wanna go in there and -- and be as open and honest

as I can.

And, you know, show them that I'm a -- I'm a good person,

that I'm a loving father,

and that...

I'm here for their daughter and I'm gonna treat her well

and do the best that I can to make you happy.

I mean, hopefully that's enough for him to -- to accept me.

I -- I know that this -- this trip is very important.

I know that I need to meet her family, get to know them,

and -- and get to know more about Trish through her family.

But I feel even worse about not telling Trish about

spending time with my ex in Colombia.

I have to tell Trish before we meet her family,

and, um, I just don't know how she's gonna take it.

[server speaking]

[Jovon] I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.

Most Americans will find that very weird.

This is just a very delicious dessert.

It's not like an execution.

[Modestus speaking]

[Daniel speaking]

♪ [singing in Tagalog] ♪

-[Jovon] It's a nice night. -[Annalyn] Yep.

♪ [singing in Tagalog] ♪

[Jovon] You hear those waves?

Yeah, I do.

It seemed like they're louder at night.

Oh! My shoes.

[Jovon] Ah, [bleep].

-Did they break? -They break.

Oh, [bleep].

♪ [singing in Tagalog] ♪

[Annalyn] Well, you can be my Prince Charming and carry me.

In your dress?

[sighs] Like, oh, if you don't want to, that's fine, I can...

I mean, I want to, but it's like you're in a dress, though.

-Well, just so... -What?

You're the most unromantic guy I've ever met.

[Jovon] OK.

Tonight is the last night of our honeymoon, and I'm glad

that we were able to work through some trust issues,

because after this,

we're going to Cavite, where Annalyn lives.

And while I'm there, we're gonna have our vow renewal

with her family and friends, and hopefully that'll be good.

[Annalyn speaking]

-[Jovon] You sure? -[Annalyn] Yeah.

I'm not really unhappy that our honeymoon is ending because

I think the real test for us is day-to-day life.

Are we able to live in the same space for long periods of time

without trying to kill one another?

You know, we'll see.

Hey...

-[server speaking] -They have a Halo-Halo set up.

[Jovon] OK.

OK.

Halo-Halo is a popular Filipino dessert.

Halo-Halo in English means mix-mix.

So you have to mix all the ingredients together

with the milk and ice.

[Jovon] It doesn't count unless I put the cheese in it.

-No, cheese and corn, OK? -[Jovon] OK.

This is just a very delicious dessert.

It's not like an execution.

I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.

Most Americans will find that very weird.

I'm not forcing you to do something you don't like.

However, I wish you will be more open-minded that when

I suggest something, you will try it at least once.

Just once.

I mean, I try almost anything just once, but...

cheese and corn and ice cream and jelly? Really?

But I'm willing to accept the challenge.

-Mm. -Yeah.

-So cold. -[Jovon] Is it?

We're too enjoying it, though.

[Annalyn] Enjoy it!

-So we just mix it, right? -[Annalyn] Mm-hmm.

Alright.

Mm.

Oh, my God.

Do you realize this is our first Halo-Halo together?

-Yes. -[Annalyn] Really nice.

[Jovon] Fill that glass with some water.

I mean, Anna, this is -- there's a lot going on in here.

Mm-hmm.

-But it is good, though. -[server] Excuse me, ma'am, sir.

-Do you need anything else? -Ah, yeah.

Sure, ma'am.

[Annalyn] We're on a honeymoon.

OK. Is that OK?

Yes, ma'am.

-And one, two, three. -[camera shutter clicks]

-There you go, ma'am. -Thank you.

[server] I hope you enjoy your Halo-Halo, ma'am, sir.

[Annalyn] Look at that. Yeah.

[Jovon] Oh, yeah. That's a good photo.

I don't think so, but OK.

[Jovon] What's wrong?

You know, the face that you're giving me, you look miserable.

You know I don't mean to, though.

-But I don't believe you. -You don't believe me?

This is your thing,

whining and being unromantic. -[Jovon] No.

I mean, how am I unromantic, though?

Like the faces that I make?

Yeah, and then, you know, you -- how you say things.

-OK. -For example...

I said "Hey boo, you know what it is?"

You're like, "Oh, yeah."

-And then you just move on. -Oh.

And, like, "Wow..."

[Jovon] I mean, Anna, I work 15 hours a day, so.

It's kind of a luxury that you can,

you know, keep up with days like that.

Because you're just sitting at home.

I don't have that luxury, and I'm just so drained

all the time.

Some other people are working too,

but they don't do that.

They still have time to be sweet to their wives.

Well, I'm sorry.

Maybe I'm just not a good husband.

It's frustrating because for me, this is love.

I'm showing up, I'm providing.

I mean, I thought that meant something.

But Anna, seeing it through the female lens, she has this

perception built up in her head that I have to be

just over-the-top romance for her, living in a fantasy. I don't know.

My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.

I always make sure that my partner knows

that I find him attractive.

But just because you are supposed to provide and protect

Like, you can't show vulnerability.

You're still a human being.

I am afraid that Jovon is never going to understand me

and my needs.

He hears me, but he doesn't really listen.

[Jovon] I just want you to have just more understanding,

'cause what I do is not easy. I mean, is that not romantic?

Like, making sure your lights is on because, you know,

you're at home and then I'm working.

-I'm getting tired of this. -Yeah.

Every time you do something for me,

you throw it to my face.

'Cause you have to remind me that you're the man.

That's what man does.

I'm not trying to, Ana, I --

I'm just trying to get you to understand, like, what I do is

just not easy, and I can't remember everything, you know?

Anna, why are you so emotional?

Something you will never understand, 'cause you don't have that.

[Jovon] Well, I mean, I'm sorry, Anna.

Seems like I can't do anything right around you, so.

From now on, I don't want you to give me anything anymore.

Well, why did you say that, Sheena?

Your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship

and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.

[exhales heavily]

[sobs]

She told us if she didn't give the money to you guys,

that you would mistreat her.

No...

She said that you guys mistreated her if you didn't

give her the money, that you were... -I don't know how mistreated.

Well, that you, um, that you called her names and you threatened

to throw her out and make her homeless?

What? No.

-No. -[crying]

You sure you didn't say anything that would

have been... -[Steve] Me? No. We...

[Molly] Well, why did you say that, Sheena?

[crying]

Why do you feel like you have to lie all the time?

I want to admit that I lied...

It is absolutely insane that Sheena would lie about

her family in the first place.

It makes no sense.

And the hysterical theatrics aren't helping at all

to clear any of this up.

[Sheena crying]

I'm just disappointed that we got told that we were

kind of abusing you.

[Molly] I'm...

I just don't understand why

she would tell us stories that

she's given every penny to you guys, and...

[Molly] Really?

[Katrina speaking]

Sheena, I'm really kind of surprised.

Here I thought they were mistreating you,

and taking all your money,

and finding out that they were just borrowing it it's a --

it's a way different story than everything you told me.

No, I -- I'm sorry.

And I don't wanna lose you...

But now I -- I'm feeling even worse because your lies are just

taking our perfect, happy relationship and just

like throwing it in the trash can.

I haven't told you the right things because I'm worried that

you might give up on me.

[inhales, exhales heavily]

Sheena, breathe.

I -- I -- I know that you've been trying hard.

I don't approve of the stories and keeping everything hidden

from everybody. -Yes, yes.

That's not something that was cool.

But for years, you've been fighting for yourself

and sort of...

unfortunately, got all mixed up.

We -- we knew that she was trying to save up for a visa,

but we didn't know how would she even acquire that.

She doesn't tell us what's the process.

-We -- we're not gonna guess it. -Yeah, it's a miscommunication.

She wasn't really telling us the real truth, you know?

The -- the -- what's really happening.

[Forrest] Sheen...

you need to make sure to say, "I'm never gonna lie

to anybody again, and I -- I will be open with everybody."

[Sheena] To everyone,

I promise...

I would never lie again for whatever I said to you guys.

I regret for doing everything. I'll do my best

to be much more open up to you guys.

[Forrest] It hurts to find out that for the last seven years,

Sheena had, you know,

lied about everything with her family

and the money situation.

I thought she had more -- more faith in me.

But I'm glad that everything is out of the open now.

And I hope that we can finally work towards our future.

I think I'm gonna jump in here.

So you mentioned that you're borrowing the money, right?

[Steve] Yes.

-[Forrest] So... -[indistinct]

...how long would it take to provide, you know, if she

asked for her money back?

You haven't given us, asked us for a certain amount.

-So we don't -- we don't know. -I -- I'd say about maybe $4,000.

[crickets chirping]

[Steve speaking]

[both speaking Tagalog]

[speaking English]

[speaking Tagalog]

[Forrest] If -- if she came and said, "Hey, I can't keep, you know,

giving you guys loan," would you guys not be taking the loan?

I -- I think if it's, uh...

But I -- I just wish that she talked to us

and explained it to us more.

[Forrest] See, after all these years, Sheen, we could have just came

and did this, instead of going and, you know, making stories,

putting things round about.

I know, and I'm sorry, I lie because I fear of losing him.

Sheen, you're going to lose me if you don't --

-Stop lying. -You gotta be honest with us.

[Sheena] Yes, yes.

I'm relieved that the truth is out.

But I'm afraid that Forrest is taking everything he heard

tonight at -- at face value.

Now it's just to the point where I gotta just say,

"You need to think about

"what -- what's happening in this relationship

that all she's doing is lying."

Maybe someday she'll come down the road and tell us some other secret

that we don't know that will tear the relationship apart.

I don't trust her as far as I could throw her,

but time will tell.

I'm -- I'm so guilt-ridden.

I just want to be open and honest and see if he'll

take me for who I am.

[tense music playing]

[Lisa] What the [bleep] is happening?

I am...

shocked by the question.

I don't know what to say about it.

My sexuality being called an aberration hurts me a lot.

I am who I am.

And I'm not ashamed of it at all.

And I just wanna be honest and tell the truth.

But I'm struggling inside with what's right and what's not

right and what I wanna do and what I don't wanna do.

It's -- it's an inner battle.

I have been with a woman before, yes, sir.

[Lisa] No, sir.

It was a fling. It was one time.

I think everybody says a fib once in a while.

That doesn't make it right.

I have lied in the past, but I am not a liar.

I am not a liar, Uncle.

[Modestus speaking]

Why is your uncle asking me if I partake in lesbianism?

Why would he ask me that?

Yeah, yeah, you told him everything.

You told him everything.

That wasn't for you to tell anybody.

That was between us.

Yes.

You're wrong.

I don't care if it's the Pope of the Catholic Church.

You don't tell anybody.

I'm not insulting anybody. I'm telling you,

you don't tell people certain things.

[Daniel speaking]

You don't even tell me what you've already spoken

to your uncle about, I asked...

I asked you what kind of questions he's gonna ask me,

and you're like, "I don't know, I don't know."

And you --

You don't want me to know,

but you want him to know everything.

Yes. Oh, my God.

Yes, Uncle.

[both speaking Igbo]

[speaking English]

[Daniel speaking]

Thank you, Uncle.

[speaking Igbo]

I am thrilled I have the blessing.

But I feel guilty as all hell

'cause he kept bringing up the fact,

"Are you a liar? We do not lie -- we do not."

And -- and that's making me feel guilty because I am lying.

[speaking Igbo]

[speaking English]

Amen.

[Lisa] I want to be with Daniel, but I have the secret

that I've been with women for the past 21 years.

I have the secret that I'm married still to a woman.

But it's 21 years. It's not a mistake.

It's who I am.

And I'm so scared he's not going to understand that.

[Modestus speaking]

I'm -- I'm so guilt-ridden 'cause I love this man.

And I just wanna be open and honest and get this

over with and see if he'll take me for who I am.

But and it's getting harder and harder as the time goes on.

I don't know how I'm gonna tell him.

[Forrest] Next time on "Before the 90 Days."

[Laura] We're on this surprise romantic getaway,

but I'm honestly having mixed feelings about it.

I'm worried he's hiding more secrets.

Can you tell me where your debt came from?

[Birkan speaking]

[Laura] Yeah.

Do you realize everything you said about me since I got

here has been negative?

It makes me feel like we're never gonna get married,

we're never gonna get engaged.

This whole trip was a waste of my time.

I'm just at my breaking point.

I deserve some answers.

Am I the girl that you wanna be with?

[Lisa speaking]

I have to take it off.

Oh, my God.

I've been keeping my wig on

because I know Daniel loves me

with my long hair.

I have no idea what he's gonna think.

But if he's gonna marry me, he has to get used to it.

Hey.

All I hear is, like, you just constantly complaining

about me all the time.

I mean, you tell me I'm a downer.

You tell me I'm not romantic.

Sometimes I feel like I'm stepping on landmines,

and I don't know how to navigate around the landmines.

I mean, Anna,

do you regret, like, marrying me?

Baby, there's something I've been keeping from you.

Explain yourself.

-[Trisha] Shut up, Rick. -[Rick] It was a mistake.

[Trisha] Jesus.