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Previously on "90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way."

Chloe, Chloe!

Aw!

We did it. Well, I did it.

Ooh!

I'm so happy Chloe's back in Aruba.

What scares me is that Chloe is spoiled.

I need to find my other silk pillowcase

'cause I know I had another one.

Makes me think, like, "Hey, is she really ready for this?"

I'm so stressed it's even brought

a massive pimple out of my nose.

Don't worry, honey.

I'll still hug you and make love to you, even if you have

a giant spot on your face. - You'll still love me.

I'm about to change my whole life, because Matthew's

the connection I've been waiting for.

But I'm not going to sugarcoat what a sacrifice it is to leave

my baby behind.

Madelein thinks I'm coming in two days.

Uh, but I've changed my flight, so I'm flying out tonight.

The wedding is in just over three weeks,

and 's getting real.

We've been fighting because of money challenges,

and she blocked me.

Ouch.

It'd be absolutely heartbreaking

if it-- if it fails.

I know you're struggling with money and that,

so I've just got you a little...

- I love you, Dad. - I love you so much.

Let's go, let's go.

Anthony said to my face that he feels that he is

the solo parent.

That's just like a dagger in my heart.

Here's Mommy and Papi.

Hello, we're here, we made it!

I cannot be like, "Yeah, Marseille, I love it

so much." No, I don't.

Manon, no.

I don't know what the am I gonna do.

I just landed a day early to surprise Madelein.

Madelein and I haven't spoken,

so I'm a little nervous about what I'm walking into.

I don't know if she's still

super upset with me.

I don't know if she's gonna be happy to see me.

There's a lot going on.

The last time I decided to surprise a past girlfriend

of mine, I showed up to her apartment,

walked up the stairs,

and I saw her cuddling in bed with her ex-boyfriend.

We are just a few weeks from the wedding,

and since Madelein and I have been fighting over finances,

I thought it would be a big deal

to surprise her and start

the rest of our lives off on a really good note.

So I hope that this surprise goes a lot better

than the last one.

I love this work.

I love hair, makeup, and helping people feel beautiful.

I hate that.

I think she's gonna see

the flowers and forget about everything.

Say, "Oh, my God, I can't believe you're here.

I love you."

I think that's how it's gonna go.

But I've been known to be wrong sometimes,

so we'll see.

I really need this surprise to go well.

To be honest, I'm not feeling confident

about anything right now.

I've given up almost everything.

I've quit my job. I'm scared about my money.

I'm scared about my investments,

and, most importantly, my relationship with Madelein.

If she isn't happy to see me, what the heck am I doing here?

We just arrived to Marseille

and to my parents' house.

There you go, buddy.

And honestly, staying at their house is just

surreal, yeah, it's surreal.

Mwah!

Anthony!

Hi, Marie.

I'm exhausted after the whole trip that just, like, happened,

so I just wanna go to bed.

I'm feeling super grateful to be moving in

with Manon's parents just so that we have

a place to stay without paying rent.

I love seeing my son having a lot of fun with my parents.

You know, it's really nice.

But this is not actually the house I grew up in.

Like, my parents just sized down to less space

for just the both of them.

So the house is a...

Ouch!

OK.

There's only one wall

between my bedroom and their bedroom.

There's no intimacy. There's no privacy.

There's no space.

Oh, my God.

- It's not your space. - Yeah, no.

OK.

Can you go get Ben?

I don't know if he's gonna wanna come up.

Say...

Yeah.

It was a long day.

- Yeah, and I'm just exhausted. - - Yeah.

I loved seeing everyone, but I'm-- I'm just-- I'm just tired.

- You know, it's a lot. - Yeah.

But, uh...

OK, so

the conversation in the car.

What you said, the solo parenting,

you know it hurt me. I'm not forgetting.

- I shouldn't have said it. - Thank you.

I will not be here

if I don't agree with I need to spend more time with Ben.

We need to spend more time together.

I'm moving here for us.

I know.

I was just saying that

what we were doing before you quit your job,

I was doing the brunt of childcare.

Yeah, but why? Because we talked about it.

- I understand, but that's what... - I was the sole provider.

- OK, but that's... - That's why I could not be

the parent, that doesn't make sense.

But that's where-- that's where my comment came from.

It's been a super long day. I'm very exhausted.

And a lot of these arguments, she'll say to me,

"Oh, that really hurt me. I don't like that.

I'm gonna remember that."

But I'm sitting here, hearing all these hurtful things,

and I never sit there and say, "Well, I'm hurt.

I'm gonna remember that."

'Cause I feel like that's almost escalating things further.

I'm just expressing how I'm feeling,

and she's invalidating the way I feel

because it's not what she wants to hear.

I need you to be more, like, aware of, like,

how you talk to me.

You always use the fact that you're the primary caretaker

to actually, like,

shut me off. - That's...

I feel like that's not valid.

Every day, I tell you how much you're a good dad,

how much I'm happy to be with you,

how much I'm grateful to have someone like you.

I try to, like, show how much I love you by touching you,

kissing like, I'll do my best.

OK.

Well, I'm doing my best.

You're doing your best as being a dad.

You're an amazing dad.

Well, right now, you're not a husband to me.

And look at how you are with me.

I'm just expecting you to be a loving man.

Show me your love. I'm your wife, kiss me,.

Like, this is expectation. This should be natural.

Our marriage needs saving.

I miss my husband.

We moved to France because we want to deal

with these issues.

So Anthony needs to understand that it's not just the balance

as a mom and a dad, it's the balance also

as a wife and husband.

You also have to nurture your wife.

If Anthony and I, we are not on the same page,

I really don't know if this move

is actually going to be worth doing.

I need to at least eat first.

Can you think you can manage making boiled eggs?

Ugh.

No, I don't like the noise.

It's very, very ridiculous to me that Chloe is afraid

to turn on the stove.

She thinks she's gonna blow up the house or something.

I just don't wanna burn myself.

I was really hoping for a better reaction than this.

You're not happy I'm here?

♪ I wanna love I wanna tease ♪

♪ I wanna hear you say ♪

♪ Johnny, please, please, please ♪

♪ I'll be candy To a girl like you ♪

♪ A girl like you ♪

♪ I'll be candy to a girl like you ♪

♪ A girl like you, A girl like you ♪

It feels good to be back in Aruba.

The last time I was here was about a month ago,

so Jonathan and I

were very excited to see each other.

My first night was great, but I was exhausted,

and I literally went to bed 'cause I was just too tired.

I just give him the eyes of, like, if you touch me,

I'm literally swinging.

Like, that was my mood yesterday.

You'd be so proud of me right now.

Yeah. You finally woke up?

No. Even better.

- Even better? - I unpacked an entire bag.

Not this one, definitely not that one-- the small one.

Yeah, the small one, OK. Baby steps.

- But I-- I unpacked the entire thing. - - So proud of you.

Yeah, alright.

So what's the plan, Stan?

- I took a couple days off work, so... - To spend with me?

Yeah, so we can go out.

Wanna go to your favorite beach?

Yeah, Manchebo.

I-- I could be there every day and do nothing and I'd be happy.

I need to at least eat first.

Do you think you can manage making boiled eggs?

- You can do it. - I mean, I know I can.

I don't know how to use the stove,

because any time we've wanted to eat,

I took us out to breakfast, lunch, or dinner.

So really, there's no use of the stove,

because we're not even home ever to use it.

- Do I have to use a lighter? - No.

I just don't think...

I believe in you.

Ugh.

Go ahead. I'll get the beach stuff ready.

OK. Any else?

No, I'm-- I'm more than capable of making eggs and other things

that a stove requires, but, um, it's gas.

Gas stove or propane stove, whatever it is.

To me, a stove is very appealing when it's, like,

flat and electric, and controlled.

That's probably what my problem is.

It's, like, a flame I can't control.

Like, if it wants to light something on fire, like...

what am I gonna do?

No, I don't like the noise. See what I mean?

Like, it's just gas coming out.

Jonathan, I'm afraid.

I'm scared of the stove.

I just don't wanna burn myself.

Is this on fire, too? Oh, that's hot.

What the is that?

Is it supposed to be smoking?

Oh, it's the little incense thing.

I can't-- I can't do it. I'm literally afraid.

- Oh, man. - Wait.

- Coming, coming. - Help me.

Please, if you start it once, I'll restart it.

Let me put the eggs in.

I love sometimes how naive Chloe can be, but, you know,

it's very, very ridiculous to me that Chloe is afraid

to turn on the stove.

She thinks she's gonna blow up the house or something.

All you have to do is just press it down,

twist just a little bit. You feel the click?

Bring it back.

I feel like she's like this because she's always had

everything done for her.

But now we're living together, and I can't have her have

this vacation mode all the time.

I'm not expecting to come home every day and having

a full-cooked meal, but, you know, she needs to know

how to cook dinner.

OK, here I go, ready?

- Press it down. - This is a big deal.

Oh!

- Good. - Ready? Watch this.

- Oh, wow, wow! - Yeah.

Now we wait for seven to eight minutes.

It's good that, you know, you can start

learning how to use the stove, and then we can have more

breakfasts together, things like that, so we don't

have to go out all the time and save time,

save money, you know.

When Chloe visits me, short term, like, we go out

every night, and we can't do that.

Like, we really have to focus on stability.

Like, I really need her to understand, like,

I need a family, I need something

to keep moving forward.

Now that I know, I'm not going to be at home playing

with the stove all night. - That's not the idea.

No, it's totally fine.

It's just gonna take forever.

Yeah.

Don't worry.

I'm hungry. It's been seven minutes.

I don't know. We didn't even set a timer.

- It hasn't even boiled yet. - Damn it.

♪ Don't let her See me breaking ♪

♪ Don't let her See me cry ♪

Hazel.

Are you ready to go meet your new parents?

Come here.

Today is the day I'm saying goodbye to Hazel

and I've been thinking about this moment for weeks

and how I would feel about it.

Every time I think about it, I start to cry,

and then I hug her really closely,

and I tell her how much I love her.

Come in!

- Hey, guys, how are you? - Hello!

Oh, my gosh. She's so sweet.

Hi, Greta, hi, Hazel.

I love her, oh, my God.

I just can't believe the day is finally here.

I feel really sad about saying goodbye to her,

especially because I don't think she fully understands

what's going on.

Hazel is extremely emotionally sensitive,

and she is someone who has gone through a lot in life.

She lived outside, and she had kittens.

She looks kinda tired. How you doing, Hazel?

I think she's exhausted.

It's destroying me to leave Hazel behind,

but moving her across the pond to a small house

with other animals wouldn't be fair to her.

She likes to be held all the time,

and she likes to fall asleep in your arms, and, um.

Just, like, as many hugs as you can offer, she'll take.

We feel lucky to get to help look after her.

Yeah, just thank you so much.

If you guys wanna get her stuff, I'll bring her out to you guys.

I know.

I know.

Shh, it's OK.

I think I would want Hazel to know if I could tell her

what I was feeling.

Well, I do tell her, but if she could understand.

I would just want her to know that I love her unconditionally.

Um, and I'm, like, really, really grateful for her.

Thank you for helping heal my heart a little bit.

Thank you for all the smiles and laughs.

You literally made my days,

like, a thousand times more special.

Saying goodbye to Hazel feels like my heart

is being ripped from my chest.

OK. Bye, honey.

At the same time, I am moving to the UK to be with Matthew,

the love of my life.

He's the only person that has understood me

the way Hazel does.

I really hope that Matthew and I can get our own place soon

so me and Hazel can reunite.

Bye, Hazel.

Probably when I go to sleep tonight and I realize

she's not there, that's gonna

be the most heart-wrenching part.

Hopefully it's worth it.

We agreed on a budget.

So you happy I'm here?

- No. - No?

OK.

Oh,.

I know she's not talking to me, but I was really hoping

for a better reaction than this.

You're not happy I'm here?

Mnh-mnh.

OK.

I don't like surprises

at all, at all, at all, at all.

But really, when I see him, I really forget

about why I was mad to him.

But no more surprises.

- You like the flowers? - Yeah

You know, I... You blocked me.

OK. Well, how much is?

- Mm... - We agreed on a budget

that was adjusted up.

And then now it's adjusted up again.

You're not telling me how much more we have to pay.

So we'll meet her tonight.

We'll talk about it, we'll figure it out.

Everything's gonna be OK.

Obviously, having a meeting with Madelein's wedding planner

is not what I had planned for my first night in Colombia,

but leaving my job has definitely made me

be a lot more frugal.

So I do have a lot of questions.

There are a ton of financial discrepancies

that I need to look into, but I don't know who's to blame,

the wedding planner or Madelein.

I know it's not me.

Let's get out of here.

I could not sleep,

because I feel I'm never good enough.

I'm here in France to save our marriage.

I have a lot to work on, and she has a lot to work on.

Oh, I know.

Yeah...

I am very grateful for a place to stay.

Very grateful, but it's definitely way too small.

And as you can see, ,

I don't know where I'm gonna put my clothes,

except on the floor or in the baby bed.

And then Ben is gonna sleep with me, I guess.

I mean, I slept more than she did.

Uh, he likes to sleep in the bed.

And yesterday, he's sideways,

so I'm curled up on the bottom of the bed.

And he's not giving her enough space on the side,

so she's on the edge.

Uh, so I don't even think she got any sleep last night.

It feels--

it feels good to be back home because of the family.

Actually, I had, like, a realization yesterday

when I saw my mom being so happy with Ben.

And she bought so many little gifts for him,

which is so much. It feels good.

I have to do some stuff in the garage.

OK.

Whoa.

I could not sleep, so we kept on talking.

I said, "You know, by being this way, you're kind of, like,

pushing me away, because I feel I'm never good enough."

I was feeling like I'm failing as a mom.

I was exhausted 'cause I had a very busy long day.

He apologized, which I appreciated it.

And I know I do have a lot of things to get done

and work on-- I know.

He doesn't want me to ask anymore.

He wants me to say, "I'll do this."

"OK, I hear you, I hear you.

I'm sorry if I haven't done as much as you wanted me to do."

So I apologize to Anthony.

I feel a little bit better,

we-- we're now on the same page.

Like, I know I need to be more attentive and affectionate

and show her how much I do love her,

'cause I do tremendously.

We've always been Anthony and Manon,

glued with each other. We were such a big team.

We were in that place before.

So we just need to go back to it.

Let's just work on it for real and start acting on it.

I think moving forward is important 'cause I'm here

in France to save our marriage.

I have a lot to work on, and she has a lot to work on.

And I think if we both work on it with--

like, determination and, like motivation,

we'll be in a good place.

Goodbye, Norman.

♪ I don't know What I don't know ♪

♪ But you better stay ready, Keep your eyes on the road ♪

How are you doing this evening?

I am good.

I am moving to England to be with my fiancé.

- Oh, really? - Yeah.

- That's a big step. - Yeah.

Have y'all already set a date or have y'all talked about that?

For the wedding?

- Mh-hmm. - No, we haven't.

We have never live together. We've only visited each other.

So I'm not really comfortable setting a wedding date

until we have lived together.

Living with someone's way different than just

visiting somebody. - It's different, right, exactly.

♪ When I was young, I had it all planned out ♪

♪ Then, something big was down the road ♪

- Alright. - - It was so nice meeting you.

It was very nice meeting you.

♪ That's when you said, "Hey, my love ♪

♪ We're nowhere near the end" ♪

Now that I'm leaving for the UK,

I'm getting more and more nervous.

- Bye. - Bye, have good travels.

Because I'm going from living alone with my cat

to living with my fiancé and his parents.

It's been hard being apart,

but I can't wait to see Matthew again

and feel that spark and finally start my life

with the person that I love.

♪ Hey ♪

♪ Yeah ♪

♪ Oh, no, you ain't seen Nothing yet ♪

I sent over $4 million.

Don't come here to say you already sent me more money

when you don't.

♪ La, la, la, la, la, la, la ♪

OK, I'm exhausted.

I need to take a shower and wake up, baby.

Luke arrive early,

and he come to surprise me, and I really feel so happy.

Hello.

Hi.

I have a meeting with my wedding planner today,

so it's so good Luke is here,

because we are very behind in payments in our wedding.

Come here, come on.

What's the plan? When's she coming?

I think she's almost here.

Lots to talk about, huh?

I'll get it.

Oh.

Madelein and I went back and forth on the budget

for the wedding for quite some time.

And we finally agreed on a budget of $12,000.

Compared to US prices, it's a bargain.

And I thought it was paid for.

So hearing that there's an outstanding balance

is pissing me off.

This conversation made me be stressful.

Makes you stressed?

There's not really any accountability

or bookkeeping that's been happening.

Every time Madelein and I talk about the wedding it's,

"Oh, we're gonna get this," and, "Oh, we're gonna get

a helicopter ride for only me."

So part of me is frustrated

that there's items that keep getting added to the list.

And before I give Madelein any more money,

I would like to better understand

where the money I sent actually went.

I wanna see the receipts.

OK.

OK, I'm ready.

No.

Hmm.

I know exactly how much I sent Madelein and when I did,

because I knew this would happen and I wrote it down.

- We can look at the bank account transactions. - Yeah, we can't.

Sure, perfect, I already have.

I'm not trying to accuse my fiancé of mismanaging money,

but she seems to have a track record

of me sending money

that's supposed to be used for something,

and then it gets used for something else,

like shopping.

Who gets?

This guy.

In early December, I sent over $4 million

because she said that you asked for...

Maybe I should have helped you be organized.

Like, we need to add everything up,

figure out what was spent, what was paid for, what's left.

- I mean... - Luke, are you so, so rude?

- I don't mean to be rude. - Like, are you so rude?

Because...

You say I don't pay nothing money to her.

He sent me that money for the rent

and just one million for my dress.

And I have all the receipt.

Like, he's crazy.

Don't come here to say you already sent me more money

when you don't.

- Be real, man. - OK.

That is my biggest problem with him.

He never know where he take the money.

We clearly miscommunicated about what we paid

the wedding planner.

But I only have $3,000, and $3,000

goes a long way in Colombia.

She needs to figure out how to do this with this

current budget, that's it.

I'll just be frank.

I have $3,000.

We have 3,000 US dollars to spend.

Next time on "90 Day Fiancé, The other Way."

- Hi, darling. - Hi!

I'm really excited to see Matthew.

I haven't seen him in six months.

- Hey, sweetie. - Oh.

I can tell it was a long journey because you stink.

You're welcome.

Is this where I put my stuff in these drawers?

Uh, yeah, everything with a G on it.

But there's stuff in there.

Oh, God, really?

It doesn't even seem like he was expecting me

to arrive here.

I just don't know why all this wasn't done beforehand.

I definitely worry that Manon dwelling on the past

is gonna make her family less interested in helping us.

You have to understand, I work in hospitality, Chloe.

I have to be nice to people.

His sole purpose on his job is to entertain young drunk girls.

I know you wanna put on a show.

Leave girls and dental floss out of it.

I don't spend a lot of time around his extended family.

Hey!

Still having a problem with our age gap?

I've had a real...

I don't-- I don't know what you want, Madelein.