1 00:00:01,501 --> 00:00:03,628 Previously on "90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way." 2 00:00:03,628 --> 00:00:06,339 Chloe, Chloe! 3 00:00:06,464 --> 00:00:07,841 Aw! 4 00:00:10,677 --> 00:00:13,013 We did it. Well, I did it. 5 00:00:15,765 --> 00:00:16,850 Ooh! 6 00:00:16,975 --> 00:00:18,560 I'm so happy Chloe's back in Aruba. 7 00:00:18,685 --> 00:00:21,187 What scares me is that Chloe is spoiled. 8 00:00:21,187 --> 00:00:23,148 I need to find my other silk pillowcase 9 00:00:23,148 --> 00:00:25,191 'cause I know I had another one. 10 00:00:25,316 --> 00:00:27,444 Makes me think, like, "Hey, is she really ready for this?" 11 00:00:29,279 --> 00:00:30,655 I'm so stressed it's even brought 12 00:00:30,655 --> 00:00:32,574 a massive pimple out of my nose. 13 00:00:32,699 --> 00:00:33,867 Don't worry, honey. 14 00:00:33,867 --> 00:00:36,536 I'll still hug you and make love to you, even if you have 15 00:00:36,536 --> 00:00:38,913 a giant spot on your face. - You'll still love me. 16 00:00:39,039 --> 00:00:41,875 I'm about to change my whole life, because Matthew's 17 00:00:41,875 --> 00:00:43,877 the connection I've been waiting for. 18 00:00:43,877 --> 00:00:47,881 But I'm not going to sugarcoat what a sacrifice it is to leave 19 00:00:48,006 --> 00:00:50,341 my baby behind. 20 00:00:52,677 --> 00:00:55,055 Madelein thinks I'm coming in two days. 21 00:00:55,055 --> 00:00:58,099 Uh, but I've changed my flight, so I'm flying out tonight. 22 00:00:58,224 --> 00:01:00,643 The wedding is in just over three weeks, 23 00:01:00,643 --> 00:01:02,395 and 's getting real. 24 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:05,482 We've been fighting because of money challenges, 25 00:01:05,482 --> 00:01:07,442 and she blocked me. 26 00:01:07,567 --> 00:01:08,568 Ouch. 27 00:01:08,568 --> 00:01:09,736 It'd be absolutely heartbreaking 28 00:01:09,861 --> 00:01:11,404 if it-- if it fails. 29 00:01:11,404 --> 00:01:14,074 I know you're struggling with money and that, 30 00:01:14,074 --> 00:01:15,867 so I've just got you a little... 31 00:01:15,867 --> 00:01:18,036 - I love you, Dad. - I love you so much. 32 00:01:19,996 --> 00:01:21,414 Let's go, let's go. 33 00:01:21,539 --> 00:01:24,793 Anthony said to my face that he feels that he is 34 00:01:24,918 --> 00:01:25,919 the solo parent. 35 00:01:25,919 --> 00:01:28,588 That's just like a dagger in my heart. 36 00:01:28,588 --> 00:01:30,215 Here's Mommy and Papi. 37 00:01:31,716 --> 00:01:33,551 Hello, we're here, we made it! 38 00:01:35,428 --> 00:01:38,598 I cannot be like, "Yeah, Marseille, I love it 39 00:01:38,598 --> 00:01:40,100 so much." No, I don't. 40 00:01:46,106 --> 00:01:47,899 Manon, no. 41 00:01:47,899 --> 00:01:49,400 I don't know what the am I gonna do. 42 00:02:13,466 --> 00:02:18,263 I just landed a day early to surprise Madelein. 43 00:02:18,263 --> 00:02:21,015 Madelein and I haven't spoken, 44 00:02:21,141 --> 00:02:24,477 so I'm a little nervous about what I'm walking into. 45 00:02:25,937 --> 00:02:27,021 I don't know if she's still 46 00:02:27,147 --> 00:02:28,356 super upset with me. 47 00:02:28,481 --> 00:02:31,025 I don't know if she's gonna be happy to see me. 48 00:02:31,151 --> 00:02:32,360 There's a lot going on. 49 00:02:34,070 --> 00:02:38,158 The last time I decided to surprise a past girlfriend 50 00:02:38,158 --> 00:02:40,118 of mine, I showed up to her apartment, 51 00:02:40,118 --> 00:02:41,953 walked up the stairs, 52 00:02:41,953 --> 00:02:47,292 and I saw her cuddling in bed with her ex-boyfriend. 53 00:02:55,633 --> 00:02:57,343 We are just a few weeks from the wedding, 54 00:02:57,468 --> 00:03:02,223 and since Madelein and I have been fighting over finances, 55 00:03:02,348 --> 00:03:04,309 I thought it would be a big deal 56 00:03:04,309 --> 00:03:06,394 to surprise her and start 57 00:03:06,519 --> 00:03:08,688 the rest of our lives off on a really good note. 58 00:03:08,688 --> 00:03:11,858 So I hope that this surprise goes a lot better 59 00:03:11,858 --> 00:03:13,359 than the last one. 60 00:03:35,381 --> 00:03:37,425 I love this work. 61 00:03:37,550 --> 00:03:42,639 I love hair, makeup, and helping people feel beautiful. 62 00:05:49,557 --> 00:05:51,017 I hate that. 63 00:06:10,036 --> 00:06:11,037 I think she's gonna see 64 00:06:11,162 --> 00:06:13,831 the flowers and forget about everything. 65 00:06:13,831 --> 00:06:18,086 Say, "Oh, my God, I can't believe you're here. 66 00:06:18,211 --> 00:06:20,505 I love you." 67 00:06:20,505 --> 00:06:22,882 I think that's how it's gonna go. 68 00:06:23,007 --> 00:06:25,927 But I've been known to be wrong sometimes, 69 00:06:26,052 --> 00:06:27,929 so we'll see. 70 00:06:50,076 --> 00:06:52,453 I really need this surprise to go well. 71 00:06:52,578 --> 00:06:54,747 To be honest, I'm not feeling confident 72 00:06:54,872 --> 00:06:56,541 about anything right now. 73 00:06:58,709 --> 00:07:00,670 I've given up almost everything. 74 00:07:00,670 --> 00:07:03,631 I've quit my job. I'm scared about my money. 75 00:07:03,756 --> 00:07:06,384 I'm scared about my investments, 76 00:07:06,384 --> 00:07:10,138 and, most importantly, my relationship with Madelein. 77 00:07:10,263 --> 00:07:13,599 If she isn't happy to see me, what the heck am I doing here? 78 00:07:44,672 --> 00:07:46,841 We just arrived to Marseille 79 00:07:46,966 --> 00:07:49,343 and to my parents' house. 80 00:07:49,469 --> 00:07:51,137 There you go, buddy. 81 00:07:51,137 --> 00:07:54,765 And honestly, staying at their house is just 82 00:07:54,765 --> 00:07:57,894 surreal, yeah, it's surreal. 83 00:08:09,447 --> 00:08:10,490 Mwah! 84 00:08:10,615 --> 00:08:11,866 Anthony! 85 00:08:11,991 --> 00:08:13,326 Hi, Marie. 86 00:08:15,828 --> 00:08:19,790 I'm exhausted after the whole trip that just, like, happened, 87 00:08:19,790 --> 00:08:22,502 so I just wanna go to bed. 88 00:08:22,502 --> 00:08:25,087 I'm feeling super grateful to be moving in 89 00:08:25,087 --> 00:08:27,006 with Manon's parents just so that we have 90 00:08:27,006 --> 00:08:29,342 a place to stay without paying rent. 91 00:08:32,136 --> 00:08:36,974 I love seeing my son having a lot of fun with my parents. 92 00:08:40,144 --> 00:08:42,146 You know, it's really nice. 93 00:08:42,146 --> 00:08:45,775 But this is not actually the house I grew up in. 94 00:08:45,775 --> 00:08:49,070 Like, my parents just sized down to less space 95 00:08:49,195 --> 00:08:50,696 for just the both of them. 96 00:08:50,821 --> 00:08:54,033 So the house is a... 97 00:08:54,033 --> 00:08:55,952 Ouch! 98 00:08:55,952 --> 00:08:56,953 OK. 99 00:09:07,964 --> 00:09:09,674 There's only one wall 100 00:09:09,674 --> 00:09:11,717 between my bedroom and their bedroom. 101 00:09:11,717 --> 00:09:14,637 There's no intimacy. There's no privacy. 102 00:09:14,637 --> 00:09:16,931 There's no space. 103 00:09:17,056 --> 00:09:17,932 Oh, my God. 104 00:09:21,060 --> 00:09:23,896 - It's not your space. - Yeah, no. 105 00:09:26,107 --> 00:09:27,275 OK. 106 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:28,526 Can you go get Ben? 107 00:09:28,526 --> 00:09:30,695 I don't know if he's gonna wanna come up. 108 00:09:30,695 --> 00:09:32,738 Say... 109 00:09:39,787 --> 00:09:42,248 Yeah. 110 00:09:48,087 --> 00:09:50,298 It was a long day. 111 00:09:50,423 --> 00:09:53,050 - Yeah, and I'm just exhausted. - - Yeah. 112 00:09:53,050 --> 00:09:56,929 I loved seeing everyone, but I'm-- I'm just-- I'm just tired. 113 00:09:57,054 --> 00:09:59,765 - You know, it's a lot. - Yeah. 114 00:09:59,890 --> 00:10:00,933 But, uh... 115 00:10:03,269 --> 00:10:05,104 OK, so 116 00:10:05,229 --> 00:10:06,856 the conversation in the car. 117 00:10:06,856 --> 00:10:08,691 What you said, the solo parenting, 118 00:10:08,691 --> 00:10:11,861 you know it hurt me. I'm not forgetting. 119 00:10:11,861 --> 00:10:14,363 - I shouldn't have said it. - Thank you. 120 00:10:14,363 --> 00:10:16,407 I will not be here 121 00:10:16,407 --> 00:10:20,620 if I don't agree with I need to spend more time with Ben. 122 00:10:20,745 --> 00:10:22,788 We need to spend more time together. 123 00:10:22,913 --> 00:10:25,499 I'm moving here for us. 124 00:10:27,501 --> 00:10:28,753 I know. 125 00:10:28,753 --> 00:10:29,837 I was just saying that 126 00:10:29,962 --> 00:10:32,340 what we were doing before you quit your job, 127 00:10:32,465 --> 00:10:34,925 I was doing the brunt of childcare. 128 00:10:34,925 --> 00:10:36,594 Yeah, but why? Because we talked about it. 129 00:10:36,594 --> 00:10:38,262 - I understand, but that's what... - I was the sole provider. 130 00:10:38,262 --> 00:10:39,722 - OK, but that's... - That's why I could not be 131 00:10:39,722 --> 00:10:41,265 the parent, that doesn't make sense. 132 00:10:41,265 --> 00:10:43,100 But that's where-- that's where my comment came from. 133 00:10:45,061 --> 00:10:47,980 It's been a super long day. I'm very exhausted. 134 00:10:47,980 --> 00:10:51,317 And a lot of these arguments, she'll say to me, 135 00:10:51,317 --> 00:10:53,611 "Oh, that really hurt me. I don't like that. 136 00:10:53,611 --> 00:10:54,862 I'm gonna remember that." 137 00:10:54,987 --> 00:10:56,906 But I'm sitting here, hearing all these hurtful things, 138 00:10:56,906 --> 00:10:59,492 and I never sit there and say, "Well, I'm hurt. 139 00:10:59,617 --> 00:11:00,826 I'm gonna remember that." 140 00:11:00,826 --> 00:11:03,996 'Cause I feel like that's almost escalating things further. 141 00:11:03,996 --> 00:11:06,624 I'm just expressing how I'm feeling, 142 00:11:06,624 --> 00:11:08,834 and she's invalidating the way I feel 143 00:11:08,834 --> 00:11:11,170 because it's not what she wants to hear. 144 00:11:12,588 --> 00:11:15,132 I need you to be more, like, aware of, like, 145 00:11:15,132 --> 00:11:17,009 how you talk to me. 146 00:11:17,009 --> 00:11:21,347 You always use the fact that you're the primary caretaker 147 00:11:21,347 --> 00:11:24,183 to actually, like, 148 00:11:24,308 --> 00:11:26,435 shut me off. - That's... 149 00:11:26,435 --> 00:11:27,853 I feel like that's not valid. 150 00:11:27,978 --> 00:11:30,439 Every day, I tell you how much you're a good dad, 151 00:11:30,439 --> 00:11:31,982 how much I'm happy to be with you, 152 00:11:31,982 --> 00:11:34,026 how much I'm grateful to have someone like you. 153 00:11:34,026 --> 00:11:36,862 I try to, like, show how much I love you by touching you, 154 00:11:36,862 --> 00:11:39,657 kissing like, I'll do my best. 155 00:11:39,657 --> 00:11:41,075 OK. 156 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:42,660 Well, I'm doing my best. 157 00:11:42,660 --> 00:11:44,078 You're doing your best as being a dad. 158 00:11:44,203 --> 00:11:45,746 You're an amazing dad. 159 00:11:45,871 --> 00:11:47,456 Well, right now, you're not a husband to me. 160 00:11:47,456 --> 00:11:48,749 And look at how you are with me. 161 00:11:48,874 --> 00:11:51,377 I'm just expecting you to be a loving man. 162 00:11:51,502 --> 00:11:54,004 Show me your love. I'm your wife, kiss me,. 163 00:11:54,004 --> 00:11:57,383 Like, this is expectation. This should be natural. 164 00:12:04,682 --> 00:12:06,559 Our marriage needs saving. 165 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,562 I miss my husband. 166 00:12:09,687 --> 00:12:11,689 We moved to France because we want to deal 167 00:12:11,689 --> 00:12:12,982 with these issues. 168 00:12:12,982 --> 00:12:18,779 So Anthony needs to understand that it's not just the balance 169 00:12:18,904 --> 00:12:21,365 as a mom and a dad, it's the balance also 170 00:12:21,365 --> 00:12:23,576 as a wife and husband. 171 00:12:23,701 --> 00:12:25,703 You also have to nurture your wife. 172 00:12:27,580 --> 00:12:29,999 If Anthony and I, we are not on the same page, 173 00:12:29,999 --> 00:12:32,418 I really don't know if this move 174 00:12:32,418 --> 00:12:34,503 is actually going to be worth doing. 175 00:12:41,635 --> 00:12:43,429 I need to at least eat first. 176 00:12:43,554 --> 00:12:45,514 Can you think you can manage making boiled eggs? 177 00:12:45,514 --> 00:12:46,599 Ugh. 178 00:12:48,267 --> 00:12:49,935 No, I don't like the noise. 179 00:12:49,935 --> 00:12:52,271 It's very, very ridiculous to me that Chloe is afraid 180 00:12:52,271 --> 00:12:53,647 to turn on the stove. 181 00:12:53,773 --> 00:12:55,941 She thinks she's gonna blow up the house or something. 182 00:12:55,941 --> 00:12:58,277 I just don't wanna burn myself. 183 00:13:01,739 --> 00:13:05,493 I was really hoping for a better reaction than this. 184 00:13:05,618 --> 00:13:06,702 You're not happy I'm here? 185 00:13:15,669 --> 00:13:18,380 ♪ I wanna love I wanna tease ♪ 186 00:13:18,506 --> 00:13:19,882 ♪ I wanna hear you say ♪ 187 00:13:20,007 --> 00:13:22,259 ♪ Johnny, please, please, please ♪ 188 00:13:22,384 --> 00:13:26,472 ♪ I'll be candy To a girl like you ♪ 189 00:13:26,472 --> 00:13:28,140 ♪ A girl like you ♪ 190 00:13:36,398 --> 00:13:40,945 ♪ I'll be candy to a girl like you ♪ 191 00:13:41,070 --> 00:13:45,783 ♪ A girl like you, A girl like you ♪ 192 00:13:45,908 --> 00:13:49,119 It feels good to be back in Aruba. 193 00:13:50,996 --> 00:13:53,958 The last time I was here was about a month ago, 194 00:13:54,083 --> 00:13:55,167 so Jonathan and I 195 00:13:55,167 --> 00:13:57,878 were very excited to see each other. 196 00:14:00,548 --> 00:14:03,676 My first night was great, but I was exhausted, 197 00:14:03,676 --> 00:14:07,763 and I literally went to bed 'cause I was just too tired. 198 00:14:07,763 --> 00:14:10,766 I just give him the eyes of, like, if you touch me, 199 00:14:10,891 --> 00:14:12,268 I'm literally swinging. 200 00:14:12,393 --> 00:14:16,438 Like, that was my mood yesterday. 201 00:14:16,438 --> 00:14:17,940 You'd be so proud of me right now. 202 00:14:18,065 --> 00:14:20,067 Yeah. You finally woke up? 203 00:14:20,067 --> 00:14:21,443 No. Even better. 204 00:14:21,443 --> 00:14:24,071 - Even better? - I unpacked an entire bag. 205 00:14:24,071 --> 00:14:26,615 Not this one, definitely not that one-- the small one. 206 00:14:26,740 --> 00:14:29,285 Yeah, the small one, OK. Baby steps. 207 00:14:29,410 --> 00:14:31,787 - But I-- I unpacked the entire thing. - - So proud of you. 208 00:14:31,912 --> 00:14:33,414 Yeah, alright. 209 00:14:33,414 --> 00:14:35,958 So what's the plan, Stan? 210 00:14:35,958 --> 00:14:39,128 - I took a couple days off work, so... - To spend with me? 211 00:14:39,128 --> 00:14:40,254 Yeah, so we can go out. 212 00:14:40,254 --> 00:14:42,715 Wanna go to your favorite beach? 213 00:14:42,715 --> 00:14:45,509 Yeah, Manchebo. 214 00:14:45,634 --> 00:14:47,928 I-- I could be there every day and do nothing and I'd be happy. 215 00:14:49,430 --> 00:14:51,390 I need to at least eat first. 216 00:14:51,390 --> 00:14:53,434 Do you think you can manage making boiled eggs? 217 00:14:57,062 --> 00:14:59,481 - You can do it. - I mean, I know I can. 218 00:15:01,317 --> 00:15:03,444 I don't know how to use the stove, 219 00:15:03,444 --> 00:15:06,322 because any time we've wanted to eat, 220 00:15:06,322 --> 00:15:09,325 I took us out to breakfast, lunch, or dinner. 221 00:15:09,450 --> 00:15:11,660 So really, there's no use of the stove, 222 00:15:11,785 --> 00:15:14,997 because we're not even home ever to use it. 223 00:15:15,122 --> 00:15:17,166 - Do I have to use a lighter? - No. 224 00:15:18,584 --> 00:15:20,836 I just don't think... 225 00:15:20,961 --> 00:15:22,671 I believe in you. 226 00:15:22,796 --> 00:15:24,089 Ugh. 227 00:15:24,089 --> 00:15:26,091 Go ahead. I'll get the beach stuff ready. 228 00:15:26,091 --> 00:15:29,219 OK. Any else? 229 00:15:29,345 --> 00:15:31,972 No, I'm-- I'm more than capable of making eggs and other things 230 00:15:31,972 --> 00:15:37,061 that a stove requires, but, um, it's gas. 231 00:15:37,186 --> 00:15:39,897 Gas stove or propane stove, whatever it is. 232 00:15:40,022 --> 00:15:42,358 To me, a stove is very appealing when it's, like, 233 00:15:42,483 --> 00:15:46,862 flat and electric, and controlled. 234 00:15:46,862 --> 00:15:48,280 That's probably what my problem is. 235 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:50,616 It's, like, a flame I can't control. 236 00:15:50,616 --> 00:15:52,910 Like, if it wants to light something on fire, like... 237 00:15:54,828 --> 00:15:55,829 what am I gonna do? 238 00:15:58,999 --> 00:16:00,709 No, I don't like the noise. See what I mean? 239 00:16:00,834 --> 00:16:02,586 Like, it's just gas coming out. 240 00:16:04,380 --> 00:16:06,632 Jonathan, I'm afraid. 241 00:16:06,632 --> 00:16:08,801 I'm scared of the stove. 242 00:16:09,885 --> 00:16:11,387 I just don't wanna burn myself. 243 00:16:11,387 --> 00:16:13,180 Is this on fire, too? Oh, that's hot. 244 00:16:13,180 --> 00:16:15,140 What the is that? 245 00:16:18,644 --> 00:16:20,771 Is it supposed to be smoking? 246 00:16:20,896 --> 00:16:22,064 Oh, it's the little incense thing. 247 00:16:24,233 --> 00:16:27,236 I can't-- I can't do it. I'm literally afraid. 248 00:16:29,989 --> 00:16:31,115 - Oh, man. - Wait. 249 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:32,950 - Coming, coming. - Help me. 250 00:16:33,075 --> 00:16:35,619 Please, if you start it once, I'll restart it. 251 00:16:35,744 --> 00:16:37,746 Let me put the eggs in. 252 00:16:37,871 --> 00:16:40,708 I love sometimes how naive Chloe can be, but, you know, 253 00:16:40,708 --> 00:16:43,419 it's very, very ridiculous to me that Chloe is afraid 254 00:16:43,419 --> 00:16:44,712 to turn on the stove. 255 00:16:44,712 --> 00:16:47,673 She thinks she's gonna blow up the house or something. 256 00:16:47,673 --> 00:16:49,425 All you have to do is just press it down, 257 00:16:49,425 --> 00:16:51,260 twist just a little bit. You feel the click? 258 00:16:51,260 --> 00:16:52,469 Bring it back. 259 00:16:52,594 --> 00:16:55,514 I feel like she's like this because she's always had 260 00:16:55,514 --> 00:16:56,849 everything done for her. 261 00:16:56,849 --> 00:16:59,601 But now we're living together, and I can't have her have 262 00:16:59,601 --> 00:17:01,562 this vacation mode all the time. 263 00:17:01,562 --> 00:17:04,231 I'm not expecting to come home every day and having 264 00:17:04,231 --> 00:17:07,067 a full-cooked meal, but, you know, she needs to know 265 00:17:07,067 --> 00:17:08,610 how to cook dinner. 266 00:17:08,610 --> 00:17:09,987 OK, here I go, ready? 267 00:17:10,112 --> 00:17:11,447 - Press it down. - This is a big deal. 268 00:17:13,240 --> 00:17:14,283 Oh! 269 00:17:14,283 --> 00:17:16,410 - Good. - Ready? Watch this. 270 00:17:16,410 --> 00:17:19,038 - Oh, wow, wow! - Yeah. 271 00:17:19,038 --> 00:17:21,290 Now we wait for seven to eight minutes. 272 00:17:21,415 --> 00:17:22,875 It's good that, you know, you can start 273 00:17:22,875 --> 00:17:25,377 learning how to use the stove, and then we can have more 274 00:17:25,377 --> 00:17:28,130 breakfasts together, things like that, so we don't 275 00:17:28,130 --> 00:17:30,090 have to go out all the time and save time, 276 00:17:30,090 --> 00:17:32,718 save money, you know. 277 00:17:32,718 --> 00:17:35,179 When Chloe visits me, short term, like, we go out 278 00:17:35,304 --> 00:17:37,806 every night, and we can't do that. 279 00:17:37,931 --> 00:17:41,560 Like, we really have to focus on stability. 280 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:43,729 Like, I really need her to understand, like, 281 00:17:43,729 --> 00:17:47,316 I need a family, I need something 282 00:17:47,316 --> 00:17:50,986 to keep moving forward. 283 00:17:51,111 --> 00:17:52,946 Now that I know, I'm not going to be at home playing 284 00:17:52,946 --> 00:17:57,242 with the stove all night. - That's not the idea. 285 00:17:57,242 --> 00:17:58,327 No, it's totally fine. 286 00:17:58,452 --> 00:17:59,536 It's just gonna take forever. 287 00:17:59,661 --> 00:18:01,038 Yeah. 288 00:18:01,163 --> 00:18:02,164 Don't worry. 289 00:18:03,332 --> 00:18:05,334 I'm hungry. It's been seven minutes. 290 00:18:05,334 --> 00:18:06,835 I don't know. We didn't even set a timer. 291 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:08,462 - It hasn't even boiled yet. - Damn it. 292 00:18:12,341 --> 00:18:15,677 ♪ Don't let her See me breaking ♪ 293 00:18:15,677 --> 00:18:19,348 ♪ Don't let her See me cry ♪ 294 00:18:19,473 --> 00:18:21,517 Hazel. 295 00:18:21,642 --> 00:18:24,186 Are you ready to go meet your new parents? 296 00:18:35,155 --> 00:18:37,491 Come here. 297 00:18:37,491 --> 00:18:40,702 Today is the day I'm saying goodbye to Hazel 298 00:18:40,702 --> 00:18:43,747 and I've been thinking about this moment for weeks 299 00:18:43,872 --> 00:18:46,416 and how I would feel about it. 300 00:18:46,542 --> 00:18:49,002 Every time I think about it, I start to cry, 301 00:18:49,002 --> 00:18:50,838 and then I hug her really closely, 302 00:18:50,838 --> 00:18:54,007 and I tell her how much I love her. 303 00:18:55,676 --> 00:18:57,970 Come in! 304 00:18:57,970 --> 00:19:00,055 - Hey, guys, how are you? - Hello! 305 00:19:00,180 --> 00:19:03,517 Oh, my gosh. She's so sweet. 306 00:19:03,517 --> 00:19:05,394 Hi, Greta, hi, Hazel. 307 00:19:05,394 --> 00:19:06,603 I love her, oh, my God. 308 00:19:08,021 --> 00:19:11,191 I just can't believe the day is finally here. 309 00:19:11,191 --> 00:19:13,068 I feel really sad about saying goodbye to her, 310 00:19:13,068 --> 00:19:15,696 especially because I don't think she fully understands 311 00:19:15,696 --> 00:19:16,989 what's going on. 312 00:19:16,989 --> 00:19:20,242 Hazel is extremely emotionally sensitive, 313 00:19:20,367 --> 00:19:24,163 and she is someone who has gone through a lot in life. 314 00:19:24,163 --> 00:19:27,624 She lived outside, and she had kittens. 315 00:19:27,749 --> 00:19:29,334 She looks kinda tired. How you doing, Hazel? 316 00:19:29,334 --> 00:19:31,086 I think she's exhausted. 317 00:19:31,086 --> 00:19:33,755 It's destroying me to leave Hazel behind, 318 00:19:33,755 --> 00:19:36,466 but moving her across the pond to a small house 319 00:19:36,592 --> 00:19:40,429 with other animals wouldn't be fair to her. 320 00:19:40,554 --> 00:19:43,849 She likes to be held all the time, 321 00:19:43,849 --> 00:19:49,938 and she likes to fall asleep in your arms, and, um. 322 00:19:50,063 --> 00:19:53,942 Just, like, as many hugs as you can offer, she'll take. 323 00:19:53,942 --> 00:19:57,321 We feel lucky to get to help look after her. 324 00:19:57,446 --> 00:19:59,489 Yeah, just thank you so much. 325 00:19:59,615 --> 00:20:02,618 If you guys wanna get her stuff, I'll bring her out to you guys. 326 00:20:09,917 --> 00:20:11,710 I know. 327 00:20:11,710 --> 00:20:13,795 I know. 328 00:20:13,921 --> 00:20:15,589 Shh, it's OK. 329 00:20:18,175 --> 00:20:21,303 I think I would want Hazel to know if I could tell her 330 00:20:21,428 --> 00:20:22,429 what I was feeling. 331 00:20:22,429 --> 00:20:24,598 Well, I do tell her, but if she could understand. 332 00:20:24,598 --> 00:20:28,143 I would just want her to know that I love her unconditionally. 333 00:20:28,143 --> 00:20:31,271 Um, and I'm, like, really, really grateful for her. 334 00:20:31,271 --> 00:20:35,651 Thank you for helping heal my heart a little bit. 335 00:20:36,735 --> 00:20:38,820 Thank you for all the smiles and laughs. 336 00:20:40,155 --> 00:20:41,949 You literally made my days, 337 00:20:41,949 --> 00:20:43,450 like, a thousand times more special. 338 00:20:44,826 --> 00:20:48,664 Saying goodbye to Hazel feels like my heart 339 00:20:48,789 --> 00:20:51,667 is being ripped from my chest. 340 00:21:04,346 --> 00:21:07,182 OK. Bye, honey. 341 00:21:07,182 --> 00:21:11,561 At the same time, I am moving to the UK to be with Matthew, 342 00:21:11,687 --> 00:21:13,188 the love of my life. 343 00:21:13,188 --> 00:21:15,190 He's the only person that has understood me 344 00:21:15,315 --> 00:21:17,234 the way Hazel does. 345 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:21,863 I really hope that Matthew and I can get our own place soon 346 00:21:21,989 --> 00:21:25,242 so me and Hazel can reunite. 347 00:21:25,367 --> 00:21:27,494 Bye, Hazel. 348 00:21:30,706 --> 00:21:32,708 Probably when I go to sleep tonight and I realize 349 00:21:32,833 --> 00:21:37,087 she's not there, that's gonna 350 00:21:37,212 --> 00:21:39,381 be the most heart-wrenching part. 351 00:21:46,346 --> 00:21:48,056 Hopefully it's worth it. 352 00:22:00,235 --> 00:22:01,403 We agreed on a budget. 353 00:22:30,515 --> 00:22:32,726 So you happy I'm here? 354 00:22:32,851 --> 00:22:34,853 - No. - No? 355 00:22:42,110 --> 00:22:44,821 OK. 356 00:22:44,821 --> 00:22:47,532 Oh,. 357 00:22:47,657 --> 00:22:50,577 I know she's not talking to me, but I was really hoping 358 00:22:50,702 --> 00:22:53,455 for a better reaction than this. 359 00:22:53,455 --> 00:22:54,623 You're not happy I'm here? 360 00:22:57,459 --> 00:22:59,252 Mnh-mnh. 361 00:22:59,378 --> 00:23:00,629 OK. 362 00:23:24,027 --> 00:23:25,237 I don't like surprises 363 00:23:25,362 --> 00:23:27,114 at all, at all, at all, at all. 364 00:23:27,239 --> 00:23:29,908 But really, when I see him, I really forget 365 00:23:30,033 --> 00:23:32,119 about why I was mad to him. 366 00:23:41,211 --> 00:23:42,295 But no more surprises. 367 00:24:18,498 --> 00:24:20,292 - You like the flowers? - Yeah 368 00:24:27,048 --> 00:24:28,592 You know, I... You blocked me. 369 00:25:14,930 --> 00:25:17,891 OK. Well, how much is? 370 00:25:20,060 --> 00:25:22,312 - Mm... - We agreed on a budget 371 00:25:22,312 --> 00:25:25,106 that was adjusted up. 372 00:25:25,106 --> 00:25:26,816 And then now it's adjusted up again. 373 00:25:26,816 --> 00:25:29,027 You're not telling me how much more we have to pay. 374 00:25:35,742 --> 00:25:37,410 So we'll meet her tonight. 375 00:25:37,536 --> 00:25:39,120 We'll talk about it, we'll figure it out. 376 00:25:39,120 --> 00:25:41,289 Everything's gonna be OK. 377 00:25:48,797 --> 00:25:51,466 Obviously, having a meeting with Madelein's wedding planner 378 00:25:51,466 --> 00:25:55,220 is not what I had planned for my first night in Colombia, 379 00:25:55,345 --> 00:25:59,975 but leaving my job has definitely made me 380 00:25:59,975 --> 00:26:01,476 be a lot more frugal. 381 00:26:01,476 --> 00:26:03,478 So I do have a lot of questions. 382 00:26:03,478 --> 00:26:05,897 There are a ton of financial discrepancies 383 00:26:06,022 --> 00:26:09,526 that I need to look into, but I don't know who's to blame, 384 00:26:09,526 --> 00:26:11,820 the wedding planner or Madelein. 385 00:26:13,905 --> 00:26:15,490 I know it's not me. 386 00:26:19,661 --> 00:26:20,662 Let's get out of here. 387 00:26:24,082 --> 00:26:25,417 I could not sleep, 388 00:26:25,417 --> 00:26:27,586 because I feel I'm never good enough. 389 00:26:27,586 --> 00:26:29,546 I'm here in France to save our marriage. 390 00:26:29,546 --> 00:26:32,632 I have a lot to work on, and she has a lot to work on. 391 00:27:02,412 --> 00:27:04,748 Oh, I know. 392 00:27:04,873 --> 00:27:06,333 Yeah... 393 00:27:12,047 --> 00:27:15,425 I am very grateful for a place to stay. 394 00:27:15,550 --> 00:27:19,721 Very grateful, but it's definitely way too small. 395 00:27:19,721 --> 00:27:22,057 And as you can see, , 396 00:27:22,057 --> 00:27:25,393 I don't know where I'm gonna put my clothes, 397 00:27:25,393 --> 00:27:27,896 except on the floor or in the baby bed. 398 00:27:28,021 --> 00:27:30,649 And then Ben is gonna sleep with me, I guess. 399 00:27:31,983 --> 00:27:34,110 I mean, I slept more than she did. 400 00:27:34,235 --> 00:27:35,570 Uh, he likes to sleep in the bed. 401 00:27:35,570 --> 00:27:38,198 And yesterday, he's sideways, 402 00:27:38,198 --> 00:27:40,992 so I'm curled up on the bottom of the bed. 403 00:27:40,992 --> 00:27:43,453 And he's not giving her enough space on the side, 404 00:27:43,578 --> 00:27:45,080 so she's on the edge. 405 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:49,334 Uh, so I don't even think she got any sleep last night. 406 00:27:51,127 --> 00:27:52,337 It feels-- 407 00:27:52,337 --> 00:27:55,590 it feels good to be back home because of the family. 408 00:27:55,715 --> 00:27:58,593 Actually, I had, like, a realization yesterday 409 00:27:58,718 --> 00:28:02,597 when I saw my mom being so happy with Ben. 410 00:28:08,019 --> 00:28:10,313 And she bought so many little gifts for him, 411 00:28:10,438 --> 00:28:12,232 which is so much. It feels good. 412 00:28:27,414 --> 00:28:29,165 I have to do some stuff in the garage. 413 00:28:29,290 --> 00:28:30,875 OK. 414 00:28:30,875 --> 00:28:34,337 Whoa. 415 00:28:46,766 --> 00:28:49,269 I could not sleep, so we kept on talking. 416 00:28:49,269 --> 00:28:51,521 I said, "You know, by being this way, you're kind of, like, 417 00:28:51,646 --> 00:28:55,024 pushing me away, because I feel I'm never good enough." 418 00:28:55,150 --> 00:28:57,360 I was feeling like I'm failing as a mom. 419 00:28:57,485 --> 00:29:01,156 I was exhausted 'cause I had a very busy long day. 420 00:29:01,281 --> 00:29:04,492 He apologized, which I appreciated it. 421 00:29:04,492 --> 00:29:06,619 And I know I do have a lot of things to get done 422 00:29:06,619 --> 00:29:08,246 and work on-- I know. 423 00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:13,168 He doesn't want me to ask anymore. 424 00:29:13,293 --> 00:29:15,712 He wants me to say, "I'll do this." 425 00:29:15,837 --> 00:29:18,423 "OK, I hear you, I hear you. 426 00:29:18,423 --> 00:29:21,301 I'm sorry if I haven't done as much as you wanted me to do." 427 00:29:22,761 --> 00:29:25,180 So I apologize to Anthony. 428 00:29:26,681 --> 00:29:28,016 I feel a little bit better, 429 00:29:28,016 --> 00:29:30,393 we-- we're now on the same page. 430 00:29:30,518 --> 00:29:33,188 Like, I know I need to be more attentive and affectionate 431 00:29:33,313 --> 00:29:35,106 and show her how much I do love her, 432 00:29:35,106 --> 00:29:36,691 'cause I do tremendously. 433 00:29:36,816 --> 00:29:39,319 We've always been Anthony and Manon, 434 00:29:39,319 --> 00:29:42,655 glued with each other. We were such a big team. 435 00:29:42,655 --> 00:29:44,574 We were in that place before. 436 00:29:44,699 --> 00:29:47,035 So we just need to go back to it. 437 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,497 Let's just work on it for real and start acting on it. 438 00:29:50,497 --> 00:29:53,208 I think moving forward is important 'cause I'm here 439 00:29:53,208 --> 00:29:55,210 in France to save our marriage. 440 00:29:55,335 --> 00:29:57,420 I have a lot to work on, and she has a lot to work on. 441 00:29:57,545 --> 00:30:00,048 And I think if we both work on it with-- 442 00:30:00,173 --> 00:30:02,592 like, determination and, like motivation, 443 00:30:02,717 --> 00:30:04,135 we'll be in a good place. 444 00:30:18,733 --> 00:30:20,318 Goodbye, Norman. 445 00:30:20,318 --> 00:30:22,487 ♪ I don't know What I don't know ♪ 446 00:30:22,487 --> 00:30:26,741 ♪ But you better stay ready, Keep your eyes on the road ♪ 447 00:30:26,866 --> 00:30:28,409 How are you doing this evening? 448 00:30:28,409 --> 00:30:30,662 I am good. 449 00:30:30,662 --> 00:30:34,582 I am moving to England to be with my fiancé. 450 00:30:34,707 --> 00:30:36,417 - Oh, really? - Yeah. 451 00:30:36,543 --> 00:30:39,546 - That's a big step. - Yeah. 452 00:30:41,798 --> 00:30:44,259 Have y'all already set a date or have y'all talked about that? 453 00:30:44,384 --> 00:30:45,552 For the wedding? 454 00:30:45,552 --> 00:30:47,595 - Mh-hmm. - No, we haven't. 455 00:30:47,595 --> 00:30:51,808 We have never live together. We've only visited each other. 456 00:30:51,933 --> 00:30:55,562 So I'm not really comfortable setting a wedding date 457 00:30:55,562 --> 00:30:57,939 until we have lived together. 458 00:30:58,064 --> 00:30:59,607 Living with someone's way different than just 459 00:30:59,607 --> 00:31:02,151 visiting somebody. - It's different, right, exactly. 460 00:31:02,277 --> 00:31:05,822 ♪ When I was young, I had it all planned out ♪ 461 00:31:05,947 --> 00:31:07,782 ♪ Then, something big was down the road ♪ 462 00:31:07,907 --> 00:31:10,285 - Alright. - - It was so nice meeting you. 463 00:31:10,410 --> 00:31:11,953 It was very nice meeting you. 464 00:31:12,078 --> 00:31:17,041 ♪ That's when you said, "Hey, my love ♪ 465 00:31:17,041 --> 00:31:19,127 ♪ We're nowhere near the end" ♪ 466 00:31:19,127 --> 00:31:21,004 Now that I'm leaving for the UK, 467 00:31:21,129 --> 00:31:23,131 I'm getting more and more nervous. 468 00:31:23,256 --> 00:31:25,383 - Bye. - Bye, have good travels. 469 00:31:25,383 --> 00:31:29,554 Because I'm going from living alone with my cat 470 00:31:29,554 --> 00:31:33,224 to living with my fiancé and his parents. 471 00:31:36,269 --> 00:31:37,604 It's been hard being apart, 472 00:31:37,604 --> 00:31:39,647 but I can't wait to see Matthew again 473 00:31:39,647 --> 00:31:44,277 and feel that spark and finally start my life 474 00:31:44,277 --> 00:31:46,154 with the person that I love. 475 00:31:46,154 --> 00:31:47,906 ♪ Hey ♪ 476 00:31:47,906 --> 00:31:49,365 ♪ Yeah ♪ 477 00:31:49,490 --> 00:31:51,492 ♪ Oh, no, you ain't seen Nothing yet ♪ 478 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:00,960 I sent over $4 million. 479 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,630 Don't come here to say you already sent me more money 480 00:32:03,630 --> 00:32:05,173 when you don't. 481 00:32:12,263 --> 00:32:14,307 ♪ La, la, la, la, la, la, la ♪ 482 00:32:39,916 --> 00:32:41,125 OK, I'm exhausted. 483 00:32:41,125 --> 00:32:43,670 I need to take a shower and wake up, baby. 484 00:32:43,795 --> 00:32:46,381 Luke arrive early, 485 00:32:46,381 --> 00:32:50,969 and he come to surprise me, and I really feel so happy. 486 00:32:51,094 --> 00:32:53,054 Hello. 487 00:32:53,054 --> 00:32:55,014 Hi. 488 00:32:55,139 --> 00:32:57,642 I have a meeting with my wedding planner today, 489 00:32:57,767 --> 00:33:00,395 so it's so good Luke is here, 490 00:33:00,395 --> 00:33:06,025 because we are very behind in payments in our wedding. 491 00:33:06,150 --> 00:33:07,986 Come here, come on. 492 00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,516 What's the plan? When's she coming? 493 00:33:38,516 --> 00:33:41,185 I think she's almost here. 494 00:33:41,310 --> 00:33:42,770 Lots to talk about, huh? 495 00:33:42,770 --> 00:33:45,189 I'll get it. 496 00:34:33,738 --> 00:34:35,239 Oh. 497 00:34:48,252 --> 00:34:50,588 Madelein and I went back and forth on the budget 498 00:34:50,588 --> 00:34:53,424 for the wedding for quite some time. 499 00:34:53,549 --> 00:34:58,262 And we finally agreed on a budget of $12,000. 500 00:34:58,387 --> 00:35:02,016 Compared to US prices, it's a bargain. 501 00:35:02,016 --> 00:35:04,936 And I thought it was paid for. 502 00:35:05,061 --> 00:35:07,980 So hearing that there's an outstanding balance 503 00:35:08,106 --> 00:35:10,775 is pissing me off. 504 00:35:24,622 --> 00:35:27,125 This conversation made me be stressful. 505 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:30,711 Makes you stressed? 506 00:35:32,463 --> 00:35:35,466 There's not really any accountability 507 00:35:35,591 --> 00:35:37,969 or bookkeeping that's been happening. 508 00:35:38,094 --> 00:35:40,638 Every time Madelein and I talk about the wedding it's, 509 00:35:40,763 --> 00:35:44,100 "Oh, we're gonna get this," and, "Oh, we're gonna get 510 00:35:44,100 --> 00:35:46,394 a helicopter ride for only me." 511 00:35:46,394 --> 00:35:48,729 So part of me is frustrated 512 00:35:48,729 --> 00:35:52,984 that there's items that keep getting added to the list. 513 00:35:52,984 --> 00:35:56,362 And before I give Madelein any more money, 514 00:35:56,487 --> 00:35:58,781 I would like to better understand 515 00:35:58,781 --> 00:36:02,869 where the money I sent actually went. 516 00:36:02,994 --> 00:36:04,537 I wanna see the receipts. 517 00:36:07,331 --> 00:36:08,708 OK. 518 00:36:08,833 --> 00:36:10,710 OK, I'm ready. 519 00:37:03,221 --> 00:37:04,680 No. 520 00:37:10,811 --> 00:37:11,938 Hmm. 521 00:37:12,063 --> 00:37:14,565 I know exactly how much I sent Madelein and when I did, 522 00:37:14,690 --> 00:37:17,151 because I knew this would happen and I wrote it down. 523 00:37:17,151 --> 00:37:19,654 - We can look at the bank account transactions. - Yeah, we can't. 524 00:37:19,654 --> 00:37:21,656 Sure, perfect, I already have. 525 00:37:21,656 --> 00:37:26,327 I'm not trying to accuse my fiancé of mismanaging money, 526 00:37:26,327 --> 00:37:29,247 but she seems to have a track record 527 00:37:29,372 --> 00:37:31,165 of me sending money 528 00:37:31,165 --> 00:37:34,252 that's supposed to be used for something, 529 00:37:34,252 --> 00:37:36,504 and then it gets used for something else, 530 00:37:36,504 --> 00:37:39,131 like shopping. 531 00:37:39,257 --> 00:37:41,259 Who gets? 532 00:37:41,384 --> 00:37:43,552 This guy. 533 00:37:43,552 --> 00:37:47,139 In early December, I sent over $4 million 534 00:37:47,265 --> 00:37:49,308 because she said that you asked for... 535 00:37:57,233 --> 00:37:59,568 Maybe I should have helped you be organized. 536 00:37:59,568 --> 00:38:02,071 Like, we need to add everything up, 537 00:38:02,071 --> 00:38:04,532 figure out what was spent, what was paid for, what's left. 538 00:38:04,532 --> 00:38:07,743 - I mean... - Luke, are you so, so rude? 539 00:38:07,743 --> 00:38:09,870 - I don't mean to be rude. - Like, are you so rude? 540 00:38:09,870 --> 00:38:11,122 Because... 541 00:38:22,967 --> 00:38:26,220 You say I don't pay nothing money to her. 542 00:38:28,806 --> 00:38:32,018 He sent me that money for the rent 543 00:38:32,143 --> 00:38:35,104 and just one million for my dress. 544 00:38:35,104 --> 00:38:36,981 And I have all the receipt. 545 00:38:37,106 --> 00:38:39,150 Like, he's crazy. 546 00:38:44,780 --> 00:38:47,491 Don't come here to say you already sent me more money 547 00:38:47,491 --> 00:38:48,576 when you don't. 548 00:38:50,453 --> 00:38:52,580 - Be real, man. - OK. 549 00:38:56,250 --> 00:38:58,294 That is my biggest problem with him. 550 00:38:58,294 --> 00:39:01,839 He never know where he take the money. 551 00:39:17,980 --> 00:39:20,441 We clearly miscommunicated about what we paid 552 00:39:20,441 --> 00:39:22,193 the wedding planner. 553 00:39:22,318 --> 00:39:25,696 But I only have $3,000, and $3,000 554 00:39:25,821 --> 00:39:28,115 goes a long way in Colombia. 555 00:39:28,115 --> 00:39:31,118 She needs to figure out how to do this with this 556 00:39:31,118 --> 00:39:34,455 current budget, that's it. 557 00:39:34,455 --> 00:39:36,707 I'll just be frank. 558 00:39:36,707 --> 00:39:38,167 I have $3,000. 559 00:39:48,135 --> 00:39:50,888 We have 3,000 US dollars to spend. 560 00:40:37,852 --> 00:40:40,813 Next time on "90 Day Fiancé, The other Way." 561 00:40:40,938 --> 00:40:42,606 - Hi, darling. - Hi! 562 00:40:42,731 --> 00:40:44,733 I'm really excited to see Matthew. 563 00:40:44,733 --> 00:40:46,944 I haven't seen him in six months. 564 00:40:47,069 --> 00:40:48,487 - Hey, sweetie. - Oh. 565 00:40:48,612 --> 00:40:52,366 I can tell it was a long journey because you stink. 566 00:40:52,366 --> 00:40:54,577 You're welcome. 567 00:40:54,577 --> 00:40:56,454 Is this where I put my stuff in these drawers? 568 00:40:56,579 --> 00:40:58,622 Uh, yeah, everything with a G on it. 569 00:40:58,747 --> 00:40:59,957 But there's stuff in there. 570 00:40:59,957 --> 00:41:01,375 Oh, God, really? 571 00:41:01,375 --> 00:41:03,461 It doesn't even seem like he was expecting me 572 00:41:03,461 --> 00:41:05,463 to arrive here. 573 00:41:05,463 --> 00:41:08,048 I just don't know why all this wasn't done beforehand. 574 00:41:23,647 --> 00:41:26,108 I definitely worry that Manon dwelling on the past 575 00:41:26,108 --> 00:41:29,278 is gonna make her family less interested in helping us. 576 00:41:31,822 --> 00:41:33,741 You have to understand, I work in hospitality, Chloe. 577 00:41:33,741 --> 00:41:35,659 I have to be nice to people. 578 00:41:35,784 --> 00:41:40,748 His sole purpose on his job is to entertain young drunk girls. 579 00:41:40,748 --> 00:41:42,208 I know you wanna put on a show. 580 00:41:42,333 --> 00:41:45,794 Leave girls and dental floss out of it. 581 00:41:51,258 --> 00:41:54,887 I don't spend a lot of time around his extended family. 582 00:41:57,515 --> 00:41:58,682 Hey! 583 00:42:04,855 --> 00:42:07,483 Still having a problem with our age gap? 584 00:42:26,335 --> 00:42:27,378 I've had a real... 585 00:42:29,004 --> 00:42:31,006 I don't-- I don't know what you want, Madelein.