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how to manipulate people for good

so this is a series I'm doing as a psychologist

and again we're saying for good

and one of the ways that we can help people change

is to actually focus on ourselves

so what I mean by this

is that people don't change for people that they don't respect

uh people are more likely to change for somebody that they respect

they value and they admire

we tend to take the opinions of people we respect

a lot more seriously than the opinions of people we don't respect

so one of the ways that you can ensure others follow you

is to make sure that you focus on yourself

on building up your own interests successes

meeting your own goals having your own life

and not over relying on the admiration or um

approval of other people because this is not something we tend to respect

so we tend to respect people that have an inner confidence

and don't need to seek external approval from others

and so if you wanna influence others

it's actually a lot more effective to change yourself

because changing other people is really hard

and if it wasn't I wouldn't have a job