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Why can't I say that's right?
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Saying no is empowering,
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but it can be one of the hardest things for a lot of people to do.
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So let's tackle the challenges,
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which are the reasons why people typically say no,
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and then we're gonna get into some tips.
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So reasons why people usually say no.
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First, people pleasing.
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It's the urge to make everybody else happy,
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which is going to lead to over commitment.
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You're gonna burn yourself out.
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And remember, you don't have to be everybody's go to.
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Fear of rejection is next.
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Worrying that somebody or saying no
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is gonna lead to some type of conflict
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or you're gonna lose friends over it.
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But your true friends are gonna respect your boundaries.
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Overthinking, that was my big one.
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That was so hard for me to get over.
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Analyzing every single angle is going to paralyze you.
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Keep it simple. Remember your time is valuable.
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Guilt trips. Specifically
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guilt tripping yourself. Feeling guilty for saying no.
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That's such a weight that you're putting on yourself.
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And you just need to remember that your needs matter
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just as anybody else's does.
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Social pressure is next, which is feeling obligated to fit in.
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And that's gonna make you push yourself to say yes,
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even when you don't want to.
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How about breaking the mold instead?
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Now let's get into tips for saying no.
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Practicing assertiveness. Use I statements.
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I cannot take this on right now.
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Next, be honest.
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Share your reasons. Briefly,
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but do not over explain.
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I need to focus on my mental health and stopping there.
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Eventually you'll build up or you'll just say no.
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People will respect it and you won't feel the need to over explain.
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And that's totally fine. Role playing.
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Don't laugh, but this works.
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Practice with a friend or get in front of a mirror.
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The more you rehearse this,
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the easier it's going to be for you.
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Next, have a backup plan.
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Like just what is your go to reasoning or excuse,
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if you wanna call it that. Right?
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Just in case you feel really pressured in the moment.
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Next, reflecting on your values.
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Remind yourself why saying no is important for your well being.
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Cause remember, if you're saying no to somebody else,
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you're saying yes to you. If you're saying yes to them.
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When you want to say no, you're saying no to yourself.
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Saying no is not selfish. It's necessary at times.
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Your time, your mental health,
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everything deserves as much respect as anybody else's does.
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So thank you for tuning in and watching this.
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If there was something in this video that resonated with you,
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don't forget to like, share,
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and follow for more insights.
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And when you're really ready to dive deep,
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reach out for a personalized coaching plan.
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And definitely go check out my other resources. The link is in the bio.
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