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Can you hold back a little?

May I?

Thank you.

Berivan? Dilan?

Yes!

What are you shouting about?

Give me a drag.

You're dancing like it's your own wedding.

She's getting ready for it.

At your wedding I won't leave the dance floor for a moment.

- I'm looking forward to that. - But seriously now,

- did you see her belly? - Stop it, you're at her wedding.

- And you're gossiping about her. - I said the same thing to her.

Gossiping? She is actually pregnant.

But she is wearing the red ribbon around her waist.

That's why they got married so quickly.

It doesn't only signify that she is a virgin.

They're only doing it so that everyone thinks

that she hasn't already "done it".

And I heard she got a note from her doctor...

- saying that she's still a virgin. - Really?

How stressful.

But she's only been doing it with her husband, hasn't she?

What a stupid question.

Do you think, Dilan was watching with a candle in her hand?

Honestly, if she did it with her husband before the wedding,

I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I would never do that, it's much too dangerous.

Have you already done it with Nasim? Be honest.

Why are you always asking me? No. We want to wait.

- It's important to him. - A truly honourable man.

- I know other types of guys. - Clearly, you do.

- Yeah. - I'm going back inside.

We'll be right after you.

We all move in a web of social relationships.

From an early age, this network, consisting of parents,

siblings and friends, has shaped our behaviour, our attitudes

and has finally led to what we consider to be our sense of self - our ego.

And our ego means a lot to us.

Have you questions on this matter?

All right. Then we'll proceed. The next component is the application.

Mr Ceylan, what do you want to do later in life?

Import export.

Just kidding. I want to be a cook.

The first step to your goal is to really want it.

This depends on your mentality, and also your physicality.

I have picked out a few job offers for you.

If each one of you kindly chooses one and then,

in the next few days, we will conduct some interviews.

And for those who are thinking about doing their A-levels after our class,

I have some information here as well.

But Mrs Zahaye, I would prefer to prepare myself for a job

that I really want to do and have chosen myself.

- And there is no such job for me here. - But a lot of people have to do a job

because they are forced to do it and not because they have chosen it.

Besides, not all people have the same opportunities.

You are making a very important point.

They're talking about equal opportunities.

That's a reality that we have to take into account. You're right.

- What are you doing here? - What do you mean, what am I doing here?

Get in and don't stand at the car as if you were a whore.

- I have to go to Nihal. - Again.

She's really exploiting you.

Come on, I'll drive you.

- So, what's going on? - How was it?

You're not picking me up now to find out how my class was?

- I would like to know. - As always, boring.

It's no use anyway.

Maybe I'll catch up on my A-levels afterwards.

You can always start at our beauty salon.

I'm no pussy waxer.

Then don't. So watch out. You saw that guy at the wedding,

With the beautiful curls. We were talking about him.

- Yes, I think so. - So?

Yes, the Afghan.

Afghan? He's a Kurd, Elaha! What would I want with an Afghan?

- You can't smoke in here. - Since when?

Since my father smelled the smoke.

Listen. He's been looking at me all evening.

I could tell he wanted to talk to me.

- Are you actually listening to me? - Yes.

So I want to meet him. I need you to do me a favour.

- An alibi? - I'll only stay away for one night.

A whole night is really risky. What if your mother calls?

- Don't answer. - What if she comes over?

She won't.

Okay.

Fuck it. I don't need an alibi.

- Why? I'll do it. - Never mind. I'll do it.

I can see, you are totally judging me.

- Not at all. You would lie for me too. - Fuck that. I'm a young woman

who doesn't have to hide the fact that she's seeing a guy.

What are all these emancipated women to think of me?

I represent the void!

Well, say all that to your mother.

- Are you going to do it? - I told you I would. Go now.

Hello.

I'm at the dry cleaners.

Where else would I be?

Yes she is here, too.

Why do you want talk to her?

Hang on.

Here, my mother wants to talk to you.

Hello. Good.

She is staying until closing time.

Yes, very hot.

How are you?

- Hey, honey. - Hey.

- Who's she talking to on the phone? - With my mother.

You got to finally buy yourself a washing machine.

I'm not your free dry cleaner. Besides, I can't do it today.

- You can do your brother a favour. - I've been doing that for months.

- But Elaha can do it. - I've got a lot to do too.

What's wrong with you women?

All right, Elaha, you do that, please.

Thank you my darling, I'll call you later.

When you're married, you'll have to train him in really well.

Otherwise he'll walk all over you.

All right, I'll go ahead again.

Yes.

"Women, Life, Freedom..."

My boy, eat something for once.

You're drinking until you've no appetite anymore.

- You're going to be a real colaholic. - He already is.

- No, I'm not. - But you are!

Leave the boy and turn off this video.

Can someone bring me pickled vine leaves tomorrow?

Not the ones in the small tins, mind, but the ones in the big plastic containers.

- After school, I'm at the heritage group. - And I will be at the vocational centre!

- You can go there afterwards. - You too.

- You're just hanging around there anyway. - That's not true. We do plenty of things.

- Like what? - Like how to apply for a job really well.

Also I might want to do my A-levels afterwards or something.

Why don't you help your father filling out his applications?

He didn't say anything. Of course I can help him.

You really want to do A-levels?

- Good evening. - Good evening.

- I'll get the vine leaves tomorrow. - But the big ones, right?

- I'm glad you're here. - Thank you very much.

Elaha can also help you with your applications.

I'm pretty good. We practice this kind of thing in class all day.

Let's see...

That tastes good. Delicious, thank you very much.

Turn off the alarm clock!

Hey!

Turn off the fucking alarm clock!

I'm going to work now. Take your brother to the bus.

Mama, please! Either you knock...

or make sure that the doors in this house can be locked.

Sami, we have to go downstairs.

And stop drinking cola early in the morning!

Come on.

- Are you still tired? - A bit.

We have to hurry up a little, or the bus will leave without you.

Will you put your hands together?

Hold them tight.

Hello.

My name is Elaha Barcin, I am 22 years old.

I have a mini-job in a dry cleaner's

and in my free time I do lots with my family and friends.

Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Yes, a younger sister and a younger brother.

And how do you think your brother and sister would describe you?

That I am helpful,

maybe a bit stubborn sometimes, but also as a happy person.

And would you consider yourself happy?

Good question...

I think we are only unhappy because we don't know that we're happy.

And when you realise that, you will be happy at the same time.

- Why are you shaking your head? - I don't know, because

- what I'm saying is stupid. - What's stupid about it?

On the contrary. I think what you said is beautiful.

I liked it too.

Okay, we'll take a ten minute break.

Then we'll look at your video application, Mr. Ceylan.

- I have to go now. - Why?

- Appointment. - What kind of appointment?

- An important one. - This here is important too.

I know, but I'm not lying, I really have an appointment.

All right, then.

Okay. Thank you.

Ms. Barcin, have you already thought about the A-levels?

No, but I have to go now. See you tomorrow.

Ms. Barcin?

You can come now, please. I'll take that.

It's a matter of reconstructing a new hymen

from the remaining tissue of the old one.

Actually you shouldn't think of the hymen as skin,

but rather as a ring of mucous membrane that is at the edge of the vagina.

I would first have the mucous membrane anaesthetised with a spray.

In the next step, the finest instruments are used

to suture the mucosal margin

and the elastic border of the vaginal opening will be reconstructed.

To be quite frank with you -

medically speaking the so-called hymen is superfluous.

Virginity is not a medical term,

but a socio-cultural construct.

There are women who from birth have no hymen.

And how much does all this cost?

Between 2500 and 3000 euros.

It depends on how much tissue is left.

If there is nothing left, then we have to build

a completely new structure.

But we also offer financing. Then you can pay in instalments.

When is the wedding?

In nine weeks.

The procedure must be performed at least seven weeks before

sexual intercourse is to take place. You should bear that in mind.

No need to be worried, he won't do anything to you. Come on.

Hello.

Have you got another new flatmate?

- I don't think he likes me. - Come on, he's glad you're here.

Hello. Hello.

- How long has Chilli been with you? - Three weeks.

The people at the shelter said that up to now he has probably

spent all his life chained up.

Very sad. But you couldn't tell.

You could. He's very nervous.

He needs a lot of exercise now.

We go to the forest a lot.

Let's eat.

Yes?

I'm with Berivan.

Yeah. Coming soon.

Yes. See you.

Hey Berivan! Listen...

If my mother calls, don't answer.

And if you get an anonymous call don't answer it either.

It will be my mother.

Just don't answer it, I'll explain later.

Okay, bye.

Is it official?

Now I know what that means.

See nothing, hear nothing, say nothing.

Well done!

What have you been doing in there all this time?

You can only do two things in there,

lift weights and get in trouble all the time.

And what did you do?

I was reading.

Don't you sometimes feel lonely, so all alone?

I don't understand the question.

It's your turn.

I've known you for almost one year

and I have never seen you with another person.

Sometimes I think you only exist in my imagination.

People only give you a headache.

And when you do need them they're not there for you.

So, I'd rather be alone,

with no-one to fuck with my head.

I couldn't do that.

No matter how much my family or friends "f..." with my head...

I could never live without them.

- Hello. - Hello.

Good evening, Helin.

Elaha, good evening.

Where have you been?

- At my class. - And after that?

With Berivan, I already told you on the phone.

- Why didn't you go straight home? - I had to help her.

- With what? - With the parlour.

- Don't lie to me. - I am not.

Elaha, I don't have the energy to argue with you today.

- Neither have I. - Me neither.

I'm going upstairs.

Did you bring the vine leaves with you?

- I can go back out again. - No. I'll do it tomorrow myself.

- Sorry Mama. - Come on.

In a minute!

- Let me in! - In a moment!

- Let me in! - Stop it!

- Then let me in, you nutter! - Stop!

- This is my room too! - Stop it. It hurts!

Stop!

- What did I say? - Let go of me!

Why can't you wait?!

I'll be so glad when you finally leave!

Me too! Believe me!

These damn doors!

- I'm going now. - Yes, bye.

What's up, Elaha?

I just wanted to ask you something.

Can I do some more hours here?

You want extra hours?

My mother is the only one working.

We have so many expenses because of the wedding.

And I'd like to help her out a little bit with money.

- I would like to help, but... - I know you're struggling yourself.

But it would really help at home.

Then I'll give you a few more shifts.

- But really only temporarily. - Thank you.

But can you please not tell my mother?

You know her. She's too proud for that.

- Hey! - Hey, all good?

Yeah. Everything's fine. I brought you the towels.

By the way, Nihal said next time you'll have to take care of it yourselves.

Go put it away in the back. I'll be right there.

I bring you the towels and he wants me to put them away?

He's also your husband.

Not yet.

- What are you doing here? - Gaming.

What have you got there that's so tasty?

You're not talking to me anymore?

No.

- Did Nasim pick you up? - Of course I did.

The poor guy was bored at home.

Kiddo, I want revenge.

Yes, because of course you were only thinking of him.

Please no smoking when he's here.

We have found a wedding hall.

Across the street from that Indian.

Where Hatice got married?

Yes, exactly.

That's a gym!

Where are you going to put over 200 people?

We're having a viewing tomorrow...

for a really really good flat. Mehmet arranged that.

Yes, now you're happy.

I can't promise that we won't get married in a gym.

But I'll make sure we will move into a really good flat. Promised.

- Nasim! - I'm coming!

- Good morning. - Good morning.

My name is Elaha Barcin. I had a consultation the day before yesterday

for a hymen reconstruction.

I would like to have the procedure and pay for it in instalments.

Ah, I see.

We will need a copy of your identity card,

your salary slips from the last three months

and a deposit of 500 Euro.

Well, I have a mini-job,

but I haven't been working there for three months yet.

No problem. We'll just need a second borrower

who has a regular income.

- What do you mean? - Someone to vouch for you.

The second loanee will have to complete the form.

- Nobody can vouch for me. - Any relative?

Friends? Boyfriend?

No.

I'm sorry, but without a guarantor we can't let you pay in instalments.

But I can pay the instalments.

Just take the documents

and take your time to think about the guarantee.

Maybe you can think of someone else?

It doesn't matter if you greet your boss with "Good day Mr Meier"

- or "Good day Mr Andreas Meier". - No, I don't think so.

- Why? - "Good day Mr Meier" sounds normal.

"Andreas Meier" is too formal. Who talks like that?

It doesn't matter how you address your boss,

it doesn't matter for the job.

It does! Then you come across as uptight.

It has nothing to do with how you address your boss.

Did you ever have a job interview?

You have no idea at all!

Hello, good afternoon. I saw on your website,

that you restore hymens.

Not anymore...

Okay. Thank you.

Good afternoon. I have a question. You offer hymen reconstruction.

Is it possible to pay in instalments?

Great. And does someone have to vouch for me?

I have a mini-job.

That's what I thought.

Thanks anyway.

- Is everything all right? - Yes, everything is fine.

I'm just so busy because of the wedding.

- You're getting married? - Yes.

I thought you already knew from the others.

No, I'm hearing it from you first time.

That's a big step you're taking.

I'm fine with it.

You're still so young.

My mother was 17 when she got married.

That was a different time.

What do your parents think?

Nothing. They're happy.

- Should I help you? - Yes.

So annoying. I always have to take the whole thing off.

- Like this? - Yes.

- Thank you. - My pleasure.

Well... Elaha!

I think you'll like this dress.

It's a bit heavy. But it will look wonderful on you.

It's very beautiful indeed.

- It's really beautiful. - Wait, I want to see it too.

Look at the sleeves...

Totally cool. Really beautiful.

- Go and try it on. - It'll look really good on you.

Why are you looking like that? Go and try this on now.

How do you like the dress?

- It's totally my colour! - But definitely not your size!

I'll wear it on your birthday anyway.

Okay guys, I'm going to try it on.

Do you want me to help you? It is really heavy.

I'm fine, thank you.

Take your clothes off and I'll come.

You must be excited.

Actually, no. I don't realise it yet.

How did you two meet?

He saw Elaha at a wedding

and the next day he and his parents were at her door.

She didn't want to at first, but I told her he was good-looking,

has his own shop and is a compatriot.

- The shop belongs to his cousin. - No matter,

still jackpot for her and her family. Why wait?

I just set them up. Remember?

No matter if you're a compatriot or not, the main thing is you love each other.

Elaha, how far along are you?

Have you finished?

Enter the street into the GPS.

You know what would be really nice?

If all three of us wore the same red ribbon.

First you Elaha, then you pass it on. Depending on which one of us

- gets married earlier. - Elaha and I could do that. But you...

- I don't know. You must know. - What are you trying to say?

Theoretically, you have already done it. It would be hypocritical if you pretend.

Doing it from behind to stay a virgin from the front, you've already done it once.

I've only done it once! And I told you that in confidence,

- now you're using it against me. - Elaha, did I say anything against her?

- You're about to walk! - Hurry up, Nasim is waiting.

Why are you so aggressive now? I've just told the truth.

Your truth sucks.

Here we have the living room. It's the biggest room in the flat

and is...

on the south side.

Nice view.

Sunny too.

Elaha?

Sorry.

I was just checking to see if the door could be locked.

So you can hide from your husband?

Of course all the doors can be locked.

- How big is the room? - 22 to 25 square metres in total...

Do you have a floor plan?

No. It's still in the car. I'll get it.

- It's okay. - No. I don't want you to say afterwards

that Bülent didn't do a good job.

What do you think?

I don't know.

I think you'd have to put a lot of work into it.

I would like to tell you something.

I...

have been ashamed to tell you because I was afraid...

Elaha!

Are you coming?

The flat's a real dump for the price.

What's the matter?

Are you marrying me 'cause you love me? Or do you love me 'cause you're marrying me?

I'm marrying you 'cause you are a faithful,

beautiful, decent, kind, honest girl.

And you can cook better than any Kurdish mother! That's why.

And what if I am a girl who is not always faithful, decent or honest?

You mean a slut?

What's the matter? Because I said slut or what?

Elaha. I didn't mean you.

You said what is an indecent, unfaithful and...

- ...dishonest girl. - Right, dishonest girl. Then I said slut.

Isn't that right?

I've got the floor plan. Now we can pick up where we left off,

or Bathrooms?

Elaha?

Were you begging Nihal for money?

What?

You told Nihal

that we don't have money for the wedding

and that's why you have to work more hours.

Yes, I have...

Why do you tell lies?

Why are you causing us embarrassment?

What will she think of us now?

I know

you must be angry at me,

maybe you hate me right now.

But my darling,

you know

that everything you do gets back to us.

I'd rather drown

than cry out for help.

You've damaged your hymen and you're looking for a quick and cheap solution

for your problem? We at VirginLife have the solution.

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you can now keep your virginity on your wedding night.

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- Hello. - Hello, good afternoon.

I'd like to pick up my shirts.

One moment please, I'll be right back with you.

Yes.

We've got it now. Here, that's for you.

- Thank you very much. - No problem. Have a nice day.

- Bye. - Bye.

You can take the back, I'm going now.

- Where to? - Closing time.

The thing with the extra hours has been taken care of.

Did your parents win the lottery or what?

No.

And thank you for talking to my mother!

It just slipped out.

Here you go. Can I help you?

Do you perhaps have...

One second...

Can I buy this?

Let me see.

We don't have it in stock but I could order it for you, of course.

- How long will that take then? - It's ready for collection in three days.

- Would you like to order it? - Yes, two please.

Two times...

This is the collection slip.

Anything else?

No. Thank you. Bye.

Goodbye.

Hello?

Elaha?

Elaha?

What is this?

I did the shopping.

I'm making Biryani for you today.

We have to go upstairs for a moment. Helin's husband has died.

Can't you go by yourself?

Please. And I'll cook dinner.

You come with me! What will they think?

Your sister is already there.

Put on something black!

My sympathies.

Where have you been?

You are most welcome. Your presence honours us.

I saw him before he got picked up.

What did he look like?

He looked dead, not like asleep,

but also not disgusting.

Did you ask your mother about the birthday?

Not here.

What a fate!

He has survived the war, death and flight,

and then cancer takes him. Poor man.

Now the family has to send his body back home.

His sons can take care of that.

Right. They are all healthy.

They can take care of it.

Can I go to Dilan's tomorrow evening? It's her birthday.

That's why you cooked.

Dilan can come here too.

can't ask her to come here when it's her birthday.

You'll have to stay at home.

Please.

What is it now?

What is it now?!

Get up!

What is it now?

Leave the table, I said!

She's just worried.

I know.

- Damage to the herd... - ...is disgrace for the shepherd.

Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday dear Dilan.

Happy birthday to you!

Happy birthday, Gossip Girl!

I'm just kidding. Sami wants to wish you all the best.

All the best!

- She told me to say thank you. - You're welcome.

Why Berivan's salon? I thought at your place.

I see... okay.

Okay. See you later then.

Are you really going away?

My darling, your sister doesn't give up so easily.

Hey Elaha. How are you?

You can go in.

Hey. How are you?

Good, good. How are you?

Also good. Shall we call each other by our first names? I'm Stella.

Okay.

- How's the wedding going? - So you know...

You know, Stella...

There are so many people coming and most of them I probably not even know.

Actually, I haven't been to a wedding for ages.

I'd be happy to invite you, Ms. Zahaye. I mean, Stella.

That's nice of you.

Have you thought about what you're going to do after the class,

which doesn't go on much longer.

Elaha, why do you want to get married?

I know what you're thinking. But it is not true.

Marriage is my decision. Maybe you had a bad experience

- and now you think... - I have never been married.

But I was once in a similar situation to you.

I don't think so.

Maybe you're right.

I'm going to give you my number anyway.

Feel free to call if there's anything wrong.

Even if you don't believe me, but really everything's fine.

Thank you.

Calm down.

You can be glad, that there are people around.

You like handing out parking tickets.

Nothing else to do in life, right?

He's not allowed to stop here...

What's the matter?

Always these troublemakers in my shop.

Can you do me a favour? My parents won't let me go...

to Dilan's for her birthday.

What are you going to do?

- Just go for a drink. - Where?

We don't know yet, but...

we just want to make a toast with the girls.

- And you want me to talk to your parents? - Please. They'll listen to you.

Okay.

Once a week...

She acts as if she has jurisdiction here.

- Just calm down. - Then you know what you're doing wrong.

Lady, please, just listen to me for a second.

He was standing right here...

He won't do it again. Let him finish...

- The problem is... - It'll take a minute.

...like someone says he'd do that every week...

Okay, your father says you can go, but only if I go with you.

- Well, do you want to go now or what? - No, just tell him, I'm in.

Okay, thanks.

I'm going now.

- So you are going after all. - Papa, let me go.

Didn't she die last week?

No, it was just an intrigue.

She is back again

and wants to fight for him.

When you go, please take the soup for Dilan with you.

Bye, mom.

Dilan! Stop it.

What's the matter? You have no idea. That smells really good.

- It stinks like a whorehouse in here. - Like you know what it smells like there.

Where did you get that package all of a sudden?

I ordered it for tonight

and had it delivered to the studio so my parents wouldn't get it.

You know how it goes.

And? What do you say?

- To be honest, you look a bit "slutty". - To you, everyone looks like a slut.

Left your hijab at home or what?

Stop it. It's my birthday.

Besides, it is discriminatory for women who want...

- Please don't do politics now! - Aren't they too small?

But they look cool, don't they?

Stop it! Have you gone crazy?!

You still have to take the tag off your dress, silly!

I think my breasts are much too big for this dress.

Or the dress is too small for your breasts.

In ten years you'll be able to play soccer with your tits.

Funny. Talking about a joke.

Why do young Kurds always have a little moustache?

I don't know. Just say.

So they can get into the disco with their Mother's ID.

- I don't have a beard. - Gillette always works.

- Do you have your IDs? - Yes.

Almost forgot. Here, my mother had an allotment at work.

- Happy birthday. - This won't fit in my bag.

- Give it to me later. - Take them now or I'll throw them away.

Okay, here they come.

- What? - Who are they?

Chill out. They're cool. This is the Kurd from the wedding I told you about.

Berivan!

- Hi. - Hey.

Hey.

Elaha.

Best wishes.

- You've been to that club, haven't you? - Yes.

Usually. Lots of students.

So few Kanaks.

But today it's Orient Beats.

Mega awesome. Hopefully a good DJ.

The best DJ is standing next to me.

- You're DJing too? - Yes.

Where?

We need to get off at the next one, right?

I'm really happy that you're here, guys. It's gonna be really nice.

Yes, I think there's a kiosk around the corner.

Yeah, I'll come with you for a while.

Okay, I'll just tell them.

Elaha, we're going to quickly get some cigs, okay?

- Where are you going? - We'll be right back.

- What did she want now? - She wants to get cigarettes.

Do you know this?

- Is that real? - Yes, my cousin sent it to me.

It's not real after all. I can see it's fake.

- How can you tell? - The cut. Everything.

The car belongs to Mehmet.

I'll go and get Berivan.

Shit.

Berivan?

Berivan!

Berivan!

Berivan!

What is it?

- Mehmet is here. - What?

I don't know. His car is here. Just come with me.

- What, his car is here? - I haven't a clue.

- He just appeared all of a sudden. - Now, calm down. This is...

It doesn't mean anything.

- How am I meant to explain it to Nasim? - Wait a minute. Let's get there first.

Until we arrive with a strange man?

- Have you seen his car? - Yes. And I know him very well.

Just wait. He can't do anything to us.

- Hello. - Hello.

- What's up? - It's all good, brother.

- What are you doing here? - What are you doing here?

It's her birthday. We just wanted to celebrate.

- Does Nasim know you are here? - Does your mother know you're here?

- How are you talking, girl? - How are you talking?!

- Don't get cheeky, Berivan. - What's the problem?

Is it bad that we are here?

Brother, what's the problem?

Why shouldn't the girls be allowed to celebrate?

You are here too.

- There are a lot of sluts around here. - What are you getting at?

- Are you going to be party sluts now? - Fuck you.

- You - No. No!

You're being serious! Are you really going to hit a woman or what?

Brother, calm down.

He's out of his mind.

He's lucky that you held me back.

Some birthday...

I'm sure they'll say they saw us.

- You're disgusting. - What's the matter? I'm hungry.

When it comes to food, you can show attitude.

- Earlier you couldn't open your mouth. - What was that between you and that guy?

- We were just getting cigarettes. - Oh yeah...

What 'oh yeah'"? You're out of your mind.

You're crazy! And stop talking to me like that.

- Then stop saying shit like that. - She didn't say anything.

Believe me, she'll say it that I've been "doing it" with that guy.

- Why would I do something like that? - Because you're just a gossip!

No wonder everyone calls you the 'gossip girl".

You don't want to know what people are saying about you.

Stop arguing with each other.

And even if you fucked that guy... so what?

- I didn't. - So what if you did, who cares?

No, it does matter.

Sometimes I wish we had German vaginas.

Everything about us is Kurdish.

Our vaginas are Kurdish, our tits are Kurdish,

- even our sweat is Kurdish! - Honestly, the origin of our vaginas

doesn't matter. If they're Bosnian, German or Polish vaginas.

The fucking patriarchy makes no difference.

Get in the car!

Get in the car!

- Come. - Only Elaha!

- I can't leave them here alone! - Get in, I said!

Don't overdo it!

Please drive slowly!

How do I look in front of my friends now?

Like a cunt!

I don't know where my fiancée is hanging out!

The others are spitting in my face! Is that what you want?!

Come on, spit in my face! Come on!

Get out!

What the fuck are you doing?

Spit on me. I said, spit on me!

- Spit on me! - You're out of your mind!

Did you fuck anyone there?

Did you fuck anyone?!

Excuse me.

Elaha, sorry.

I didn't mean to.

Listen, the antiseptic was not supplied.

Somehow he didn't have the entire quantity. That...

- Do you want me to take care of it? - Yes.

Good afternoon. Here you go.

I have something on order.

Alright, let's have a look. Hold on.

So there we have it.

It comes to Euro 111 exactly.

That's right.

- Do you want me to bag it? - No. That's fine, thank you.

In the packet you will find detailed instructions for use.

- Okay, thank you. - All the best.

Ouch!

I really didn't want to ditch you yesterday.

It's all right now. Did your parents find out?

- No, he didn't say anything. - I think he really loves you.

Yes, but not that much, that I could tell him everything.

Why should you, Elaha?

There are some things women should keep to themselves.

By the way, his sister was here and had her nails done.

- Nihal? - Yes. On my mother's life,

when she entered the shop and I looked into her eyes

- I knew she was on a mission. - What mission?

I don't know. She was acting like a best friend...

- She's very good at that. - ...and asked me indirectly

if you had a boyfriend before Nasim and if you're in contact with other boys etc.

And what did you say?

The truth, what else.

That you were a total slut and even had contact with a jailbird.

Just kidding. I didn't even answer her questions.

Please pull now.

Is he still in your class?

No, he hasn't been for a long time. He's doing something with animals now.

- Are you still in touch? - No.

- Who are you? - That's Oskar.

I've only had him for a few days.

He was found tied to a park bench.

He was really messed up, poor guy. Completely malnourished, one broken leg.

- And what about... - Chilli, you mean.

Luckily he found a home.

I need to use the restroom for a moment.

Okay.

What is life's greatest disaster?

- Is that a question for me? - Yes.

To bring children into the world.

Who or what would you have been like to be?

To remain unborn.

Are you a do-gooder?

I can't make the world a better place, because it is not good.

I can only try not to make it worse.

- Your present state of mind? - It doesn't say that in there.

Yes, it does.

No!

Let's go to bed.

- Are you sure? - Please go on.

- Have you ever? - Yes, go on.

Stop it!

Is everything okay?

I don't want it like this either.

I'm going now.

- Have I done something wrong? - No, I did something wrong.

What's the matter?

Please forget what just happened. This was just a shitty idea.

And you're noticing just now!

- What was that just now? - Nothing, forget it. A stupid thing.

- I don't know, it didn't work anyway. - What didn't work?

- Let me pass. - What didn't work?

I won't let you go before you don't tell me what's going on.

Do you know why I always come here?

Because here I have the freedom to decide for myself when I can leave.

Hello, this is Elaha. I hope I'm not disturbing you.

I just wanted to ask if we could talk today?

Yes, I know where that is.

Okay, see you in a minute.

Elaha?

- Hello. - Hello.

- Hello. Lana. Nice to meet you. - Elaha. Yes, me too.

Okay, I'll go and get the car.

Shall we sit down?

- It's nice here. - Yes.

- You can come with me some day. - I don't know how to swim.

I see.

- Are you all right? - Yes.

No.

I don't know.

You must think badly of me now, do you?

I don't know what I'm supposed to think.

It's a total rip-off anyway.

I'd like to go to the doctor but...

I can't afford it.

Why are you doing this to yourself?

Why don't you just go away?

I could never do that to my family. Especially not to my mother.

What would happen if you told her the truth?

I don't even want to think about it.

She loves me very much, I would embarrass her.

- Elaha, is that love? - You don't know her at all.

That's why I'm asking if your mother would still love you,

if you told her the truth?

Can you help me, yes or no?

If you don't want to help me then why don't you tell me right away.

Elaha?

Elaha!

- I have to go. - Just a minute.

- I want to apologise. - That's all right.

Let's go to my office and talk in peace.

I don't want to talk. I have to go now.

Wait, please.

- I called a Counselling Centre. - I don't need counselling!

They would also pay for the operation you need.

The address is on it. If you want, I'll come with you.

- It's okay. - Okay.

Thank you.

- Ms. Barcin? - Yes.

I am Dr. Abay. If you would like to come with me now.

Sit down.

Why do you want to do the procedure?

I messed up...

- I made a mistake. - What kind of mistake?

- You know what I mean. - No, what do you mean by mistake?

What mistake do you think you made?

I have...

I want to tell you something, I say to all the girls

who are sitting where you are now.

You had sex because that's what you wanted at that moment.

That's the most natural thing in the world.

Your future husband has had other women, hasn't he?

Why is it normal for him and not for you? Why is he allowed to and not you?

Because I am a woman.

There are desperate young girls coming here.

They are all afraid of being cast out of the community.

And for what?

For a thin piece of tissue that not even every woman has.

For us it's not just a piece of tissue.

I love my family, my traditions.

I just don't always agree with the rules.

We can operate on you here free of charge,

but I want you to take at least a few days

to really think about what this surgery would mean to you.

Okay?

Okay.

Why don't you write

that you've been working in Iraq as a plant manager for years?

That doesn't matter.

They need someone who has work experience in a German company,

because the qualifications aren't the same.

But how are you supposed to get experience in a German company

if you don't get the chance to work there?

I don't know.

They'll end up telling me yet again: "We like you...

but unfortunately my hands are tied".

They'll say something like that.

At least they like me.

Sometimes I feel like a blind man

who needs a walking stick

to get around.

I really don't know what to do.

Here, you should try this on now. Mom got it for you.

- I'll try it on later. - You're supposed to try it on now.

It looks very nice.

Don't. What are you doing, Elaha?

Mom, you shouldn't have bought me anything new. It must have been expensive.

The main thing is that you look beautiful at the party tomorrow.

Also I got my holiday pay.

Look, it's beautiful. For your new flat.

We haven't even found a flat yet.

Then you have to keep on looking.

Elaha, I'm sure you'll find a great flat.

Don't worry.

- Did you buy this new? - Ja.

If you ever get married, then you'll get this too.

Who said anything about my going to get married?

Sami!

Sami! What's the matter?

Why are you going away?

I'm just moving into another flat, sweetheart. I'm not leaving.

I would never leave.

Nice that you're here. Are you all right?

Elaha, what are you standing there for. Come here.

- Good day. - Good day.

I'm going to the kitchen.

Are you all right, my girl?

A daughter like Elaha replaces every son.

- Thank you very much. - God save her.

Thank you.

- I'm going to mama's. - Do that.

- Hello. - Hello.

- Have you seen Berivan yet? - No, but Nasim is already here.

- Can you put that back there? - Of course.

Elaha, stay with us for a moment.

Stay with us for a moment, my dear and let the others serve.

We would like to discuss something with you.

My child,

we would like you to see a doctor before the wedding.

Why?

The doctor will examine you,

to determine whether you are still a virgin.

What?

I do not like it either,

but you know how it is with us.

No, I don't know! What is it like with you?

Mama, can't you say something?

You don't have anything to fear, do you?

No, she has nothing to fear.

Elaha?

So here you are.

Come and give me a hand.

What did your dear mother-in-law want from you?

- Not here. - Now say!

They're completely crazy.

- They want to check you out downstairs? - How do you know that?

- Nihal told me. - Why didn't you tell me?

I'm not a product that needs to be checked before use to see if it's still new.

I know, I didn't think that they'd behave so crassly,

but what can you do?

It's just one appointment with the doctor, then the stress will be over.

I hope they have all found a place.

I would like to extend a warm welcome to all families

and especially thank our women

who have made this celebration possible.

Our thanks also goes to the Saman family

for their generous donation to the association.

And now our choir will sing a song

and you are invited to sing along.

- Are you ready? - We are ready.

One, two, three, four.

Stand still!

Come back inside.

Elaha, what's the matter?

Ask your mother!

I swear, my parents want this. You know I trust you.

- What did you tell them about me? - Nothing! Nothing at all.

Now stop it. Come back inside.

- Did your sister talk shit about me? - I don't know why they want this.

Please, come back inside.

Elaha, don't do this to me now and come back inside.

Come back in.

- I'm watching TV now! - No, no. I'll go first.

But I sang today and earned this!

Hold still.

You sang very badly.

Stop saying things like that to your sister.

Stop arguing with each other.

Mama,

I don't want to go to the doctor to prove something to these people.

Yes, I know,

they should just trust us. But what are we supposed to do?

What if I'm no longer a girl?

Do you want to put me in the grave?

No, mom.

But what if I don't have my honour between my legs any more?

Then I would rather wish you were dead!

Go and fetch your sister.

Elaha, can I come in?

All the best, Ms. Barcin.

I don't know.

I'm not going to let you get married with your nails chewed off.

Do you remember Micky from the same year?

- The one with the face like a mole? - The snot-eater?

No, that was Steffi.

The one who did the same kind of shit as you.

We even laughed at her. Remember?

- What are you getting at? - Why do you do shit like that?

I was hoping that maybe my mother would stop...

You're not a crazy person like Micky.

I wonder what she's doing today. We should organise a class reunion.

I'd be really interested to know what they're all up to.

I only know Hatice. She married that Albanian guy

she was with at school. A real tosser.

Hey!

Give me one.

I've been standing at the till a real long time.

Nasim is waiting for you outside.

Is he playing watchdog now or what?

No, he's not playing watchdog.

We were supposed to have dinner together.

Well then.

Do you know what the others in our class are doing?

- Hatice has this... - Albanian. Yes, I know.

Really strange guy. I always see him in front of the gambling hall.

It's weird, even though they're married.

Him hanging around there all the time? I didn't expect that.

Totally absurd. Every weekend. I see him there with his friends.

- What are you doing here? - I wanted to see you.

Come on, I'll walk you home.

The invitation cards.

My parents have already sent most of them.

Nice.

- This is the woman from the class. - What does she want?

I don't know, she probably wants to know why I'm not coming.

- You don't have to go there anymore. - Depends on what my plan is...

I have a lot of plans too.

I finally want my own shop and not be dependent on my cousin

and earn some real money.

My own house,

family,

kids.

But I need you to back me up on this.

I'll give you all the freedom you want.

I just want you to listen to me.

Yes.

Hello Elaha.

Hello.

- Your colleague said you were here. - I was going to call you back.

It's all right.

Why don't you come to the class anymore?

- Did I do something wrong? - No.

I'm grateful to you, that you helped me with the...

you know.

- But I want to just forget about it. - Is it so easy to forget?

What are you doing here? Am I supposed to feel ashamed or feel guilty?

Shall we go for a little walk?

You know, Elaha, you don't have to do anything.

I just want to know how you really feel.

I don't know how I feel. I'm all...

I'm all at sea. I don't...

Somehow I am not quite sure...

- A lot of things don't fit together. - So you think the surgery was wrong?

No, I didn't say that.

You always act like you know, what's going on inside me.

I know what's going on inside me.

There was a moment in my life when others ruled over me

and I didn't have the courage to fight back.

It almost broke me.

Until I asked myself the right question.

And what would that be?

Are you the woman you want to be?

What do you do after work?

Come here!

I saw an old film once...

There's a scene in a birch forest.

There's no dog.

but the woman and the man walking through the birch forest

are surrounded by an infinite number of trees.

And what happens there?

The two go from tree to tree

and get to know each other.

At the beginning the woman is rather reserved.

I'm sure she has her reasons.

I don't know. Actually he's very nice to her.

Okay.

And then what do they do?

At some point the woman stops next to a tree.

And the man suddenly embraces her from behind.

Come on.

But really.

And how does the scene end?

They part again, unfortunately.

But first they come to a ditch over which the woman wants to jump.