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Our daddies are our mirrors
that we reflect back on
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when we decide
about what type of man we deserve
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and how they see
us for the rest of our lives.
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I knew that girls needed a way
to connect with their fathers.
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"Let's have a dance," one girl shouted.
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One girl said, "My dad can't come
to the dance because he's in jail."
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And one girl suggested, "Why don't we
just take the dance in the jail?"
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"Are you crazy?"
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One thing that I have learned
from over a decade of working with girls
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is that they already know what they need.
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The wisdom lives inside of them.
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One, two, three,
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there's some over there,
four, five, six, seven.
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I got... I got so many fish.
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I don't know what to name them yet,
but I know I'mma... I'mma name that,
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that gold one, I'mma name it "Goldie."
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My cousin taught me my one,
two, three, four, five, six time tables,
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but she didn't teach me
my ten time tables,
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and I know all my ten time tables.
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I'm the smartest one in my class.
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My dad is the third-strongest dad I know.
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He's 30. His birthday's coming.
My dad's birthday's coming up.
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My dad likes rapping,
and I'm... and I'm rapping with him too.
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He had... He made up... he made a cool song.
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"Sure You're Right." Like in the song...
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♪ Sure you're, sure, sure, you're right ♪
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You miss him?
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When... when he says he loves me,
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I say, I'mma say, "I love him more."
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He's coming home in seven more years.
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Yeah, I think so too, mama.
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First it was nine years,
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and then the police took away two,
and then it was seven.
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So, it wasn't nine or eight years,
it was seven.
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Mm-hmm.
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Seven is a very close number to one,
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but it's going to take a long time
because it's in years.
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I wish it was...
I wish my dad was home already.
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I know.
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Me too.
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I miss him too.
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Ten times 18 is 180.
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Ten times 19 is 190.
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I figured out it wasn't six years.
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It was probably seven years
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'cause when I talked to him, and he said
he's coming out in seven years,
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I was five still.
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He's in D.C. jail.
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Let me get under.
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Ten times 17 is 170.
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Ten times 18 is 180.
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Ten times 19 is 190.
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...six, seven, eight, nine, ten.
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Ten! Then comes...
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11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16,
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17, 18, 19, 20,
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21, 22, 23, 24, 25...
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Bre has separation anxiety.
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They was here when they came and got him.
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Thirty men with guns, but she was asleep.
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They just, you know,
let her sleep while they took him out.
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And then she just woke up for school
that day, and she was just like, you know,
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"Where is Daddy?"
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And I just told her
that he wasn't here right now.
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And later on,
I told her where he really is,
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but she still have
a hard time understanding.
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You remember
when it was raining so bad?
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I remember that.
Do you remember that?
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Remember when we found
the butterfly?
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Yeah, you know,
the caterpillars grow into a butterfly...
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This call
is from a federal prison.
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Aubrey was like, she had a dream.
I'm like, "What was the dream?"
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She had a dream that I was in jail.
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Every morning I'd take her to school.
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One morning I wasn't there
to take her to school.
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That was the morning I was arrested.
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I wish I would have slept
with her that night.
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You can sit anywhere in the circle.
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Part of the reasoning
behind us doing this work
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is because, for you guys,
it's a golden opportunity
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to see your children,
to interface with them,
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to see your daughters
and spend time with them.
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But I'm gonna be very honest
with you guys.
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It's gonna be an emotional rollercoaster,
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'cause you're gonna be on a high
when that dance happens,
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and as that clock ticks closer
to the ending time,
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you go through your own range of emotions.
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I want to remind you
I'm not a teacher at all.
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I'm a dad just like you guys are.
So we're gonna learn together.
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We're gonna grow together
over these next ten weeks,
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but we're gonna talk about
some very intentional things,
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um, along this journey of fatherhood
and along this journey of self-discovery.
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We're gonna spend a lot of time together,
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so, I want to do something
to kind of break the ice.
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- What's your name, brother?
- My name's Keith Sweptson.
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- Okay. You say S-W-E-P-T-S-O-N?
- T-S-O-N.
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- Yeah.
- Okay.
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All right, Keith, what's your nickname?
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They call me Block
when I was playing, you know, football.
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'Cause you know, my head big,
I had a big head, so they called me Block.
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Drop it on.
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Yeah. All the females in my family
call me "Moo-Moo", but...
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- Okay. Okay.
- I'm gonna roll with the Moo.
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In jail, they also call me, um,
Kung Fu or Karate Joe.
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Karate Joe. Okay. Okay.
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That's my name around my neighborhood.
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Well, my name is Scooby,
but my second name was Ruthless Bitch.
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Um, okay, brother, what's your name?
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- Murdock.
- "Murdock"?
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Okay. M-U-R-D-O-Q or M-U-R-D-O-C-K?
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- C-K.
- Okay.
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And how you get that?
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- Long story.
- Okay.
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- We wanna hear it.
- Long story. Okay.
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- Is it a positive nickname?
- It was murder...
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It was a murder at first, then...
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- Murdock.
- ...then Murdock.
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We will spend a lot of time together
talking about fatherhood
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{\an8}over the next few weeks.
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{\an8}So whether we are physically there or not,
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whether we are actively engaged
on a daily basis, weekly basis,
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monthly basis,
or not able to, we are still fathers.
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What do you think
fathers miss out on if they leave?
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Everything. Shit.
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Everything.
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- Mm-hmm. Yeah. That's right.
- You missing a lot.
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You know, we don't often think about
how memories are formed for our kids.
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Like, where their memories come from,
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um, and what memories are stored
with them for a long time,
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so this is a... a great opportunity
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for guys who have not seen their daughters
in a while
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or just... just to connect and bond.
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Um, a big part of this is just a snapshot
into what your future life will look like
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because you'll be on the outside,
no matter what your sentence is.
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The goal is to stay out.
I know everybody's goal is to stay out.
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I don't think anybody here is saying,
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"Man, I can't wait to get out
so I can come back here again."
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I told both of my daughters' mothers
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that I'm not going to be a father
like how my father was,
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but I keep getting locked up.
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I got to be there for them,
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and I keep being
in and out their lives.
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That... that hurt inside of them girls,
it... it... it...
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It show. They act a certain type of way
when you ain't there.
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Right.
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And you just... you kind of hit the nail
on the head. Murdock, what you got?
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My daughter,
at the age right now where she's ten.
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When I started messing with her mother,
I was 15, and her mother was 13.
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Okay.
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And we had her when I was 16,
and her mother was 14.
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- Wow, okay.
- So...
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You've grown up
with having children.
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- Exactly.
- Yeah.
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My child's mother,
her father wasn't in her life.
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He was locked... He... he's still in jail.
Yeah, he been in for a long time.
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And I think that if she would've...
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I don't think she... we would have been
messing with each other like that
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'cause we was at an age
where it's though, you know, kids like,
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"Who? Her father over there?
Shit. I ain't goin' over there."
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- Right.
- You see? "Hell nah."
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- It's a different approach you had.
- Yeah, exactly.
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So that's how I want my daughter
to feel about me.
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Like, with my friends, I'm macho.
With my girl, I'm a lover boy.
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With my kids, I'm the hero.
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You see what I'm saying?
I turn on different for different people.
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So with my kids,
I just want them to know I'm the hero.
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I want to be in my daughter's life
because I want her to not fear,
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but have it in her head, "I'm not about
to mess with no boys. My father's crazy."
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Hello?
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Yeah, hello.
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I definitely can't wait
for the father-daughter dance
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on June the first.
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- Yeah.
- Yeah. What's going on down there?
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I can't wait for you to come home.
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I will tell him
that I'm sick of seeing myself cry
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because the stuff that you do,
and it wasn't my decision.
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It was your decision to make and not mine.
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So next... when you get out of jail,
and the next time you go back in jail,
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I'm not gonna even shed one single tear.
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Done shedding tears
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because he wanna keep doing bad stuff
that he shouldn't be doing.
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It's not okay.
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It's affecting me.
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Mostly me.
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Never a day in my life will ever...
ever will I be a mother.
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You can give me a million dollars,
still not gonna be a mother.
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I don't care how much money you give me.
I'm not gonna be a mother.
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I can have a husband.
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I can have a husband.
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I'll get married at 35.
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And if I do have kids,
I'm having kids at 45.
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Why are you so annoying?
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- Mom, why are you so annoying?
- You're boring.
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- Boring.
- I'm your daughter.
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- You're my...
- You is my mother.
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- No, I'm not.
- Yes, you are.
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You adopted.
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So, no.
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Lemme stop.
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- How was your day?
- Bomb.
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- You said "bomb."
- Mm-hmm.
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- You had fun?
- How was your week?
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It was cool. I made it through.
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She's just so cranky.
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And when my dad was home,
she was so nice and stuff.
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Now something done got into her.
It's like a devil inside her.
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Crybaby.
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- You gotta wait.
- What?
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That's it. Go ahead.
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- Dad's not around, so I'm dad.
- Go ahead.
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Pick her up.
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- Mom, that's from my school.
- Yes?
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What?
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- Somebody got shot right there.
- They said six people?
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Six people.
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- I'm glad there wasn't no school today.
- Five adults and one juvenile.
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Santana was actually born
when I was in prison,
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when I was over here.
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First time I ever seen her up close,
it was on a jail visit over here.
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I had to see her through a glass.
I couldn't even touch her.
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Couldn't kiss her, couldn't hold her,
couldn't play, couldn't do nothing.
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And then my first time ever touching her,
Santana was about one.
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So, my first time hugging my daughter,
when she hugged me and squeezed me tight,
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it was a feeling that I'll never forget,
and that was about ten years ago.
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And I... and I, still to this day,
I can remember it like it was yesterday.
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Mm-hmm.
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Being out there, I just kind of,
like, took a lot of things for granted.
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You know what I'm saying? Especially,
like, you know, uh, time with my children.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Um, being in here, you know,
just having 15 minutes on the phone,
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which they might only want to talk to you
for two, you know what I'm saying.
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Versus being out there, being able to sit
them on your lap, you know.
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Mm-hmm.
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You need to be consistent
in your kids' life, daily life.
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Um, some parents, mothers,
236
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don't allow their kids
to talk to their, um, father
237
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for whatever reason,
and you ain't got no control over it.
238
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- Back to that gatekeeper concept.
- Yeah.
239
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When you communicate
with your children's mother,
240
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sometimes it's difficult to communicate
through whatever hurt is present.
241
00:19:04,143 --> 00:19:06,770
The hurt that you may feel
over circumstances,
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hurt she may feel over past circumstances,
regrets we have, and it's hard.
243
00:19:15,612 --> 00:19:20,617
I came into Ja'Ana's life five...
She was, like, three,
244
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because her mother never told me about it.
245
00:19:22,995 --> 00:19:24,538
And I was incarcerated at the time.
246
00:19:24,621 --> 00:19:27,624
I think I came home, though,
probably when she was one,
247
00:19:27,708 --> 00:19:29,960
you know,
and I ain't seen her in three years.
248
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Yeah, three years.
249
00:19:32,171 --> 00:19:34,506
But I called like two, three times.
250
00:19:34,590 --> 00:19:37,843
She... I ain't getting in contact with her,
which I was mad about,
251
00:19:37,926 --> 00:19:40,512
just 'cause I wanted
to tell her happy birthday.
252
00:19:40,596 --> 00:19:44,892
Um, Father's Day I called,
I ain't get in contact with 'em.
253
00:19:45,392 --> 00:19:48,228
Um, no,
I haven't even talked to her since.
254
00:19:48,854 --> 00:19:52,858
But people say they saw the pictures
and stuff like that from her birthday.
255
00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:55,277
And stuff, but, you know.
256
00:19:55,360 --> 00:19:58,322
I... I...
my time will come when I talk to her.
257
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Yeah.
258
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♪ Happy birthday, dear Ja'Ana ♪
259
00:20:04,828 --> 00:20:08,373
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
260
00:20:11,710 --> 00:20:14,046
♪ Real ass bitch
Give a... about a nigga ♪
261
00:20:14,129 --> 00:20:16,423
♪ Big Birkin bag, hold five, six figures ♪
262
00:20:16,506 --> 00:20:18,592
♪ Stripes on my ass
So he call this pussy Tigger ♪
263
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♪ Same group of... ♪
264
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Hell nah!
265
00:20:37,736 --> 00:20:42,824
I would love to see my father,
but my mom don't like me going to jail,
266
00:20:42,908 --> 00:20:45,160
seeing my father behind bars.
267
00:20:46,161 --> 00:20:48,247
You wanna tell me your song in a minute?
268
00:20:48,330 --> 00:20:50,165
You wanna tell me your song in a minute?
269
00:20:50,249 --> 00:20:51,500
I already got your song.
270
00:20:53,919 --> 00:20:56,880
Everything was important to him
except for Ja'Ana,
271
00:20:56,964 --> 00:21:00,008
so I was like, "I'm not doing that."
272
00:21:00,092 --> 00:21:03,262
Why do you wanna bond with her
while you're incarcerated,
273
00:21:03,345 --> 00:21:05,305
when all this time you had out here
274
00:21:05,389 --> 00:21:07,509
and you didn't even really wanna
be bothered with her?
275
00:21:08,058 --> 00:21:11,645
Uh-uh. Just 'cause you're outside
doesn't mean you can throw stuff anywhere.
276
00:21:11,728 --> 00:21:13,730
We still have
to clean up behind ourselves.
277
00:21:13,814 --> 00:21:17,150
So, if you're drinking or eating
something, put it in the trash can.
278
00:21:17,234 --> 00:21:18,514
You ain't gotta go in the house.
279
00:21:18,568 --> 00:21:21,029
There's two there,
two right there, and two right there.
280
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- Do everybody understand?
- Yes.
281
00:21:23,407 --> 00:21:26,743
When you hurt her, you're hurting me
because you're not here to hold her,
282
00:21:26,827 --> 00:21:28,996
to try to console her, and talk to her.
283
00:21:29,079 --> 00:21:32,916
So, since you don't see that,
and you don't feel that,
284
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:36,003
and you think it's okay,
well, don't call then.
285
00:21:36,086 --> 00:21:38,463
Don't come around. Just leave us alone.
286
00:21:45,887 --> 00:21:50,183
I don't even remember his face.
I don't remember nothing about my father.
287
00:21:51,727 --> 00:21:52,936
Nothing at all.
288
00:22:26,053 --> 00:22:27,804
A lot of us is just like...
289
00:22:27,888 --> 00:22:31,683
For generations and generations,
just content with nothing.
290
00:22:32,476 --> 00:22:33,727
You know what I'm saying?
291
00:22:33,810 --> 00:22:35,937
When you was talking about values,
and I come in here,
292
00:22:36,021 --> 00:22:39,358
I be thinking about the value of,
"I don't have nothing out there."
293
00:22:40,025 --> 00:22:43,362
It's not normal for a 25,
26-year-old to have nothing,
294
00:22:43,445 --> 00:22:45,280
but it's normal out there right now.
295
00:22:45,364 --> 00:22:46,698
That's not normal.
296
00:22:47,282 --> 00:22:50,535
Us being in here,
me seeing you brothers here like this?
297
00:22:50,619 --> 00:22:52,079
This shit is not normal.
298
00:22:52,162 --> 00:22:53,580
This shit is not acceptable.
299
00:22:53,663 --> 00:22:54,956
It goes back to, like,
300
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:58,293
just because a lot of people does it,
doesn't make it normal.
301
00:22:58,377 --> 00:23:00,128
Just because you see a lot of people,
302
00:23:00,212 --> 00:23:03,298
let's go 200 years ago,
a lot of brothers was in shackles.
303
00:23:03,382 --> 00:23:05,384
Kept happening over again,
getting whipped.
304
00:23:05,467 --> 00:23:08,345
That shit wasn't normal
just because they kept doing it to us.
305
00:23:08,428 --> 00:23:11,473
This is no different
than that shit 200 years ago.
306
00:23:11,556 --> 00:23:13,558
Hell with patriotism
307
00:23:13,642 --> 00:23:16,645
because they want this
to seem normal for all of us.
308
00:23:16,728 --> 00:23:17,562
Right.
309
00:23:17,646 --> 00:23:21,274
They want this shit. Them saying,
"Hey, it happens so often to you guys."
310
00:23:21,358 --> 00:23:22,984
"It's... it's not that bad."
311
00:23:23,068 --> 00:23:25,529
It's... it's... it's a state.
312
00:23:25,612 --> 00:23:27,406
That ain't right, man.
313
00:23:27,489 --> 00:23:31,243
You know, I don't have anything against
anyone who thinks this shit is okay.
314
00:23:31,326 --> 00:23:34,329
I keep coming back and forth,
and I can't judge nobody,
315
00:23:34,413 --> 00:23:38,125
but the fact that I don't know
what my grandson looks like?
316
00:23:38,208 --> 00:23:39,209
Mm-hmm.
317
00:23:39,292 --> 00:23:43,088
That shit hurts me, man.
I wanna hit my head on the wall.
318
00:23:43,755 --> 00:23:44,923
It's not normal.
319
00:23:45,006 --> 00:23:47,300
However,
have you all ever heard the phrase
320
00:23:47,384 --> 00:23:50,429
"That if you don't define yourself,
the world will define you"?
321
00:23:50,512 --> 00:23:51,346
Yeah.
322
00:23:51,430 --> 00:23:54,933
Do you know
that just by us being in this room today,
323
00:23:55,016 --> 00:23:57,811
there's a negative statistic waiting
for you?
324
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,897
They assign you a number
when you come in here,
325
00:24:00,981 --> 00:24:04,317
and you know that number like you know
your own social security number, right?
326
00:24:05,569 --> 00:24:07,821
All of these trappings are definitions
for you
327
00:24:07,904 --> 00:24:11,116
based upon your actions being defined
328
00:24:11,741 --> 00:24:13,452
and fitting some stereotype.
329
00:24:14,035 --> 00:24:16,538
But in this world,
we have to define ourselves.
330
00:24:16,621 --> 00:24:18,915
We aren't taught how to love ourselves.
331
00:24:18,999 --> 00:24:21,334
- We're taught to have pride in ourselves.
- Yeah.
332
00:24:21,418 --> 00:24:23,837
We are taught
what we should stand up for,
333
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,797
what we should allow from the world,
334
00:24:25,881 --> 00:24:29,759
but very often, self-love is a lesson
that escapes all of us.
335
00:24:29,843 --> 00:24:33,221
And I have learned through the years,
and I'm still learning
336
00:24:33,305 --> 00:24:36,641
that I have to keep
my love of self in perspective,
337
00:24:36,725 --> 00:24:39,853
as I open myself up to love other people.
338
00:24:40,604 --> 00:24:41,855
Unconditionally.
339
00:24:45,066 --> 00:24:47,611
The whole time, I've been thinking about
340
00:24:47,694 --> 00:24:50,530
when I signed up
and what I really signed up for,
341
00:24:50,614 --> 00:24:52,532
and what it turned out to be for me.
342
00:24:52,616 --> 00:24:53,992
I'mma just be honest.
343
00:24:54,075 --> 00:24:56,620
When it first was presented to me
on my unit,
344
00:24:56,703 --> 00:24:59,247
it was just presented as a dance.
345
00:24:59,331 --> 00:25:02,834
So I looked at it as just, like,
another way of getting an extra visit.
346
00:25:02,918 --> 00:25:05,253
- I'mma just be honest. Right?
- Mm-hmm.
347
00:25:05,337 --> 00:25:10,217
I didn't expect any classes on parenting
or sitting in groups,
348
00:25:10,300 --> 00:25:14,346
and I actually learned a lot of stuff,
and hearing a lot of stuff,
349
00:25:14,429 --> 00:25:19,142
it helped me be able to communicate better
in my absence, right?
350
00:25:19,851 --> 00:25:20,685
Yeah.
351
00:25:20,769 --> 00:25:23,063
Some people,
that's the most we ever talk in here
352
00:25:23,146 --> 00:25:25,815
or... or... or feel comfortable talking
to somebody,
353
00:25:25,899 --> 00:25:29,110
so it... it... it means more
than y'all think it do.
354
00:25:29,194 --> 00:25:32,489
Just for us to sit right here
and congregate with other men
355
00:25:32,572 --> 00:25:35,033
and share our ideas
and how we feel about our family.
356
00:25:35,784 --> 00:25:38,620
Well, I appreciate
being able to be in that space.
357
00:25:39,829 --> 00:25:41,289
Who... who started this?
358
00:25:41,790 --> 00:25:44,668
So, the dance...
this particular dance, okay,
359
00:25:44,751 --> 00:25:47,462
is a, um, lady named Angela Patton.
360
00:25:47,546 --> 00:25:50,215
In, uh... lives in Richmond, Virginia.
361
00:25:50,298 --> 00:25:53,510
And she's always had a passion
for work with Black girls.
362
00:25:53,593 --> 00:25:57,264
Preparing them for life.
Teaching them about loving themselves.
363
00:25:57,347 --> 00:26:00,475
About projecting into
the grown women they want to be.
364
00:26:00,559 --> 00:26:02,894
- My girl power
- My girl power
365
00:26:02,978 --> 00:26:04,771
- My girl power
- My girl power
366
00:26:04,854 --> 00:26:06,773
- My girl power
- My girl power
367
00:26:06,856 --> 00:26:09,943
- It looks like strength
- It looks like strength
368
00:26:10,026 --> 00:26:11,861
- My girl power
- My girl power
369
00:26:11,945 --> 00:26:13,530
- My girl power
- My girl power
370
00:26:13,613 --> 00:26:15,740
- My girl power
- My girl power
371
00:26:15,824 --> 00:26:18,827
- It looks so amazing
- It looks so amazing
372
00:26:18,910 --> 00:26:20,870
- Our girl power
- Our girl power
373
00:26:20,954 --> 00:26:22,622
- Our girl power
- Our girl power
374
00:26:22,706 --> 00:26:24,291
- Our girl power
- Our girl power
375
00:26:24,374 --> 00:26:26,167
- Our girl power
- My girl power
376
00:26:26,251 --> 00:26:28,003
- My girl power
- My girl power
377
00:26:28,086 --> 00:26:31,256
{\an8}- It looks like me
- It looks like me
378
00:26:44,352 --> 00:26:47,731
That's what power is
when we're talking about girl power.
379
00:26:48,273 --> 00:26:50,900
We're not talking about
making a man feel less.
380
00:26:50,984 --> 00:26:54,696
We're talking about being creative
and just trying something new
381
00:26:54,779 --> 00:26:59,159
and being impactful in a way
that we never thought about before.
382
00:27:00,493 --> 00:27:03,913
And that's the great thing
about having young people at the table.
383
00:27:13,757 --> 00:27:18,386
These girls just needed a way
to invite their fathers
384
00:27:18,470 --> 00:27:21,723
into their lives on their own terms.
385
00:27:35,737 --> 00:27:39,824
And it really started with, like, circles
like what you're all experiencing today.
386
00:27:39,908 --> 00:27:41,910
Hearing their challenges.
387
00:27:42,410 --> 00:27:45,789
And at first, it started out
being pretty angry at you all.
388
00:27:45,872 --> 00:27:48,541
They were, like, not happy, you know,
389
00:27:48,625 --> 00:27:53,672
but once they started to dig deeper,
they realized that a lot of it
390
00:27:53,755 --> 00:27:56,299
was coming from
what someone else told them.
391
00:27:56,883 --> 00:27:58,968
It wasn't even their own experiences.
392
00:27:59,594 --> 00:28:02,555
It was just like,
"Oh, we don't need him in the home."
393
00:28:03,056 --> 00:28:04,808
"I'm your mama and your dad."
394
00:28:05,558 --> 00:28:10,814
Those conversations made them
become angry with you, so the girls said,
395
00:28:10,897 --> 00:28:15,026
"Well, I feel that
the fathers need to be celebrated."
396
00:28:15,694 --> 00:28:19,572
We don't ever take time to say,
"My dad is great."
397
00:28:19,656 --> 00:28:21,533
"My dad is showing up."
398
00:28:21,616 --> 00:28:23,618
"My dad is consistent."
399
00:28:24,411 --> 00:28:27,914
But some girls in the room
experienced just that,
400
00:28:27,997 --> 00:28:31,167
so the girls wrote a letter
to the sheriff and just said,
401
00:28:31,251 --> 00:28:34,170
"Well, we're gonna ask
if we can take a dance in the jail."
402
00:28:35,213 --> 00:28:38,133
And he said, "No one has ever
403
00:28:39,300 --> 00:28:42,887
requested something
as powerful as this moment."
404
00:28:42,971 --> 00:28:46,141
"Absolutely. I would not say no to you."
405
00:28:46,224 --> 00:28:48,017
I want you to remember that.
406
00:28:48,101 --> 00:28:52,105
That this came from innocent minds
of little girls who are saying
407
00:28:52,188 --> 00:28:54,315
that they want to be with you.
408
00:28:54,399 --> 00:28:56,067
They want to share with you.
409
00:28:56,151 --> 00:29:00,029
They want you to show up.
They want to count on you.
410
00:29:05,118 --> 00:29:07,454
This is about healing
our families.
411
00:29:07,537 --> 00:29:09,622
This is about strengthening our families.
412
00:29:09,706 --> 00:29:12,709
'Cause we know
when our families are intact,
413
00:29:12,792 --> 00:29:14,294
that our community thrives.
414
00:29:18,465 --> 00:29:19,883
Yes, question.
415
00:29:19,966 --> 00:29:22,552
This is called
the "father-daughter dance."
416
00:29:23,094 --> 00:29:25,138
What if I don't know how to dance?
417
00:29:26,848 --> 00:29:31,311
If you have skills like rappin',
you gotta use them.
418
00:29:31,394 --> 00:29:35,899
If you can do a split or a flip,
just put down your skills
419
00:29:35,982 --> 00:29:38,526
'cause there's a moment for you to shine,
420
00:29:38,610 --> 00:29:40,695
so your daughters can know
what they're working with.
421
00:29:41,946 --> 00:29:43,281
I have a plan for you.
422
00:29:44,157 --> 00:29:47,827
'Cause we getting recorded, is it possible
to get haircuts before we come over?
423
00:29:47,911 --> 00:29:51,498
I can guarantee that one.
Haircuts and you'll have suits and ties
424
00:29:51,581 --> 00:29:53,124
and shoes and undershirts,
425
00:29:53,208 --> 00:29:56,044
so for that moment in time,
you guys will not be,
426
00:29:56,669 --> 00:29:58,463
um, Inmate So-And-So, right?
427
00:29:58,546 --> 00:30:00,048
That's not the... that's the goal.
428
00:30:00,131 --> 00:30:03,301
So, the mom come too, with the dance?
429
00:30:03,384 --> 00:30:08,014
The moms will be present in the building,
but they won't be at the actual dance.
430
00:30:08,097 --> 00:30:11,059
Um, the time is literally just
for you guys and your daughter.
431
00:30:11,142 --> 00:30:13,436
We wanna make sure
the moms don't get into it.
432
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,271
Anyone can change their mind at any time,
433
00:30:15,355 --> 00:30:19,150
so don't have any arguments with Mom
in the next couple of weeks.
434
00:30:19,776 --> 00:30:23,696
We will not be in any contact
with the child's mother?
435
00:30:24,781 --> 00:30:27,700
- At all?
- No. Is there an issue...
436
00:30:27,784 --> 00:30:30,328
- No, no, that's not an issue.
- Okay. No.
437
00:30:30,411 --> 00:30:32,539
'Cause I know my... my daughter, she might...
438
00:30:32,622 --> 00:30:36,251
She ain't seen me in a long time,
so I know she going...
439
00:30:36,334 --> 00:30:37,895
- How old is she?
- She's five.
440
00:30:37,919 --> 00:30:40,129
- Probably looking for her.
- She gonna be looking.
441
00:30:40,213 --> 00:30:43,174
She gonna be more comfortable
with her mother being there.
442
00:30:43,258 --> 00:30:46,553
Just making sure. Anybody else have
that concern, so I can try and address it?
443
00:30:46,636 --> 00:30:48,638
Is it possible we can get a pre-meet?
444
00:30:48,721 --> 00:30:50,890
Is it because
you haven't seen her in years?
445
00:30:50,974 --> 00:30:52,433
I've been gone for two years.
446
00:30:52,517 --> 00:30:54,237
So, you've never had a touch visit, only...
447
00:30:54,269 --> 00:30:55,728
I don't want her to be scared.
448
00:30:55,812 --> 00:30:59,274
If I could get a show of hands
so I can see how great that need is
449
00:30:59,357 --> 00:31:03,278
of people who actually haven't been
connected with their daughters
450
00:31:03,361 --> 00:31:05,321
and may have a similar fear?
451
00:31:46,821 --> 00:31:50,825
Now they got the visits
on a TV screen.
452
00:31:53,745 --> 00:31:55,914
My child and my child's mother can be
453
00:31:55,997 --> 00:31:58,458
somewhere totally different
in the jail building.
454
00:32:01,294 --> 00:32:04,797
They on the screen too, on the phone,
and I'm on the phone on a screen.
455
00:32:06,716 --> 00:32:08,760
And I don't... I don't like that.
456
00:32:30,198 --> 00:32:31,198
Say "hi!"
457
00:32:34,369 --> 00:32:35,369
Say "hi."
458
00:32:35,703 --> 00:32:36,537
All right.
459
00:32:40,041 --> 00:32:43,294
I just gotta put some more money on.
I gotta get some more credit.
460
00:32:44,003 --> 00:32:46,798
So I can see
my last two messages he wrote me.
461
00:32:46,881 --> 00:32:51,886
{\an8}Ten credits is five dollars.
Send pictures is, like, two credits.
462
00:32:52,845 --> 00:32:55,765
Plus, they charge you a fee.
Of course, you know.
463
00:32:56,474 --> 00:33:00,561
They'll charge you a fee. "Visitations."
I'm trying to learn that now.
464
00:33:02,897 --> 00:33:05,858
Um, well, for a month,
it's basically way cheaper,
465
00:33:05,942 --> 00:33:10,446
'cause it's only 32 dollars,
plus the tax that they add on.
466
00:33:10,530 --> 00:33:15,952
Um, daily, it's, like, different prices,
$7.99, probably $4.99 a visit.
467
00:33:16,035 --> 00:33:20,039
Um, for probably one visit a day,
'cause you could pay as you go.
468
00:33:24,585 --> 00:33:25,753
Let me see.
469
00:33:25,837 --> 00:33:26,837
Hey!
470
00:33:28,047 --> 00:33:29,173
Yep.
471
00:34:05,293 --> 00:34:06,544
Raspberry pebble.
472
00:34:06,627 --> 00:34:08,467
Let me show you this.
473
00:34:09,839 --> 00:34:12,508
Go, Dad! You showing off, huh?
474
00:34:14,469 --> 00:34:15,928
Yeah, that's my baby.
475
00:34:17,430 --> 00:34:19,140
I miss him being here.
476
00:34:21,559 --> 00:34:25,146
It don't feel like home.
Like, it don't feel right.
477
00:34:27,940 --> 00:34:30,151
It just don't feel right, like...
478
00:34:31,861 --> 00:34:36,657
I don't know. I come in here,
sometimes, wanting to talk to him,
479
00:34:36,741 --> 00:34:41,037
tell him about my day,
and I remember he's not here.
480
00:34:47,293 --> 00:34:50,505
They should give us more time
on the phone. 15 minutes,
481
00:34:50,588 --> 00:34:52,673
when he's gonna be in there
for how long?
482
00:34:53,216 --> 00:34:54,342
That's crazy.
483
00:34:57,637 --> 00:34:59,722
I'm just getting older and, like,
484
00:35:00,306 --> 00:35:03,601
soon I'll be, like, leaving school,
graduating, stuff like that.
485
00:35:03,684 --> 00:35:07,730
I'm just scared he, like, won't be here
to see the memories and stuff.
486
00:35:09,398 --> 00:35:10,398
So...
487
00:35:15,363 --> 00:35:20,827
She's academically challenged
because she struggles on focusing,
488
00:35:21,452 --> 00:35:23,955
and I'm sure she got
1,000 things on her mind,
489
00:35:24,747 --> 00:35:30,419
but, um, it done led to Raziah saying
that she don't wanna be here no more.
490
00:35:31,295 --> 00:35:34,090
The other day, she went up on the rooftop...
491
00:35:38,052 --> 00:35:41,681
she went on the rooftop,
and she was thinking about jumping off.
492
00:35:42,723 --> 00:35:46,435
And that's the second time
she talked that way to me.
493
00:35:47,186 --> 00:35:52,984
And I... You know, I'm doin' so much
to be there, you know.
494
00:35:53,693 --> 00:35:56,404
It would be so hard if I lost her,
you know.
495
00:35:56,487 --> 00:35:58,906
You don't know how much you love,
you know.
496
00:35:59,907 --> 00:36:03,744
You know, "That wouldn't help your dad.
You'll break his heart."
497
00:36:04,871 --> 00:36:06,998
He already suffering enough, you know.
498
00:36:16,174 --> 00:36:17,592
A year tomorrow.
499
00:36:19,260 --> 00:36:22,096
Last time I touched my baby
was a year ago.
500
00:36:23,639 --> 00:36:26,350
Yeah, I'm gonna really enjoy this moment.
501
00:36:42,116 --> 00:36:44,619
Hey, where my mama gonna sit at?
502
00:36:45,578 --> 00:36:47,663
Where my mommy gonna sit at?
503
00:36:47,747 --> 00:36:50,166
I want Aubrey to sit with me!
504
00:36:56,881 --> 00:37:00,259
This will probably be
my 12th or 13th dance in a, um, jail
505
00:37:00,343 --> 00:37:01,928
for girls and their fathers,
506
00:37:02,011 --> 00:37:06,766
and mothers are always hesitant
to participate.
507
00:37:06,849 --> 00:37:10,770
Um, sometimes they're hesitant to even
allow their daughters to go for it,
508
00:37:10,853 --> 00:37:14,023
and I understand that it is challenging.
509
00:37:14,106 --> 00:37:17,735
We get it,
but we can't just be in that space, right?
510
00:37:17,818 --> 00:37:18,986
We can't be stuck,
511
00:37:19,070 --> 00:37:23,115
so this is really to let you know that
we're here for you and your daughters.
512
00:37:23,199 --> 00:37:25,576
We love you, and we celebrate you.
513
00:37:28,996 --> 00:37:33,668
Forgiving is one of
the hardest things for us to do as humans.
514
00:37:34,460 --> 00:37:38,673
And so I am clear that this is probably
one of the hardest decisions
515
00:37:38,756 --> 00:37:41,175
that you moms had to make today.
516
00:37:41,676 --> 00:37:45,388
{\an8}So, moms, thank you
for getting out of the way.
517
00:37:47,223 --> 00:37:50,726
When you go to this dance,
what are you looking forward to?
518
00:37:50,810 --> 00:37:52,895
- Honesty.
- Honesty.
519
00:37:52,979 --> 00:37:53,980
And bonding.
520
00:37:54,647 --> 00:37:58,276
And that's hard for someone
to tell you you're in the way,
521
00:37:58,359 --> 00:38:01,696
when you're the one showing up every day,
doing all of the work.
522
00:38:02,613 --> 00:38:03,613
Thank you.
523
00:38:04,407 --> 00:38:06,242
- You wrote that?
- Thank you.
524
00:38:08,869 --> 00:38:11,622
So those of you who were like,
"I don't wanna do this thing,"
525
00:38:11,706 --> 00:38:15,418
but now, hopefully,
you are feeling that it was valuable,
526
00:38:15,501 --> 00:38:19,630
and that you are now
in a sister circle of your own.
527
00:38:19,714 --> 00:38:21,173
That was the point.
528
00:38:21,257 --> 00:38:26,387
It was to take care of you too
because you are absolutely amazing,
529
00:38:26,470 --> 00:38:29,557
and somebody needed to tell you, okay?
530
00:38:31,475 --> 00:38:33,978
And now we're ready
to get them fabulous.
531
00:38:34,061 --> 00:38:37,440
We're ready to dance. This is a dance.
532
00:38:37,523 --> 00:38:39,775
- Now let's dance!
- I love that!
533
00:38:57,251 --> 00:39:01,297
Boy, I been on my P's and Q's.
"Yeah, baby, you know I love you."
534
00:39:01,380 --> 00:39:03,174
You know, gotta play it cool.
535
00:39:03,257 --> 00:39:06,010
"Bring my baby June first
so I can see my sugarfoot,
536
00:39:06,093 --> 00:39:08,137
and everything's good." That's all.
537
00:39:12,224 --> 00:39:14,560
My daughter got her dance moves
because of me.
538
00:39:14,643 --> 00:39:16,354
- Yeah.
- ‘Bout none of that.
539
00:39:16,937 --> 00:39:21,233
She likes to dance because of me.
She used to dance to all my music.
540
00:39:22,902 --> 00:39:25,154
She geekin'. She can't wait to see me.
541
00:39:25,237 --> 00:39:26,864
Yeah, man. Mine is too.
542
00:39:29,116 --> 00:39:32,286
It's happy. Like, it brings out
a lot of happiness, like, when...
543
00:39:32,370 --> 00:39:37,166
Just to be able to,
you know, dance and connect.
544
00:39:37,249 --> 00:39:41,379
'Cause the connection, like,
it gives a person, like...
545
00:39:41,462 --> 00:39:42,838
Just to let you know that...
546
00:39:43,381 --> 00:39:45,674
Just, you know,
the bond like me and my daughter have.
547
00:39:45,758 --> 00:39:49,387
We like to dance, so I just know
this gonna mean a lot to her.
548
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:56,185
She helped me with my music.
549
00:39:56,268 --> 00:39:59,522
I know when a song is not good
'cause she won't dance to it.
550
00:40:04,902 --> 00:40:09,115
Memories I had from when she was
just one to five is just,
551
00:40:09,198 --> 00:40:10,408
it was beautiful.
552
00:40:11,450 --> 00:40:15,162
Now, she had to take a break
with just me being gone.
553
00:40:19,834 --> 00:40:23,796
I just tell her, like,
"Daddy made some bad decisions." You know?
554
00:40:23,879 --> 00:40:27,716
And, you know, "People make mistakes
and this was what daddy made, a mistake,
555
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,845
and it's not your fault
that I'm gone away."
556
00:40:37,476 --> 00:40:40,271
Everything she do is just...
she want to be perfect at it.
557
00:40:40,354 --> 00:40:43,774
Her certificates and stuff.
Like, that's one thing I always told her.
558
00:40:43,858 --> 00:40:47,778
"I want to see the whole wall filled."
And that's what she been doing.
559
00:40:47,862 --> 00:40:50,865
"Daddy, I got a new certificate.
Daddy, I got more certificates."
560
00:40:50,948 --> 00:40:52,700
"I got five. I got six."
561
00:40:52,783 --> 00:40:55,494
It's like, "They can't fit in
a living room no more, Daddy."
562
00:40:55,578 --> 00:40:57,371
"I gotta put them all in my room."
563
00:41:08,966 --> 00:41:12,636
I was smart like her,
but I was just brought up different.
564
00:41:13,596 --> 00:41:18,517
And the environment that I grew up in
was real rough, so, you know.
565
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:20,769
I just was like...
566
00:41:20,853 --> 00:41:23,022
Everything I wanted to be,
she is right now.
567
00:41:23,105 --> 00:41:24,732
Like, everything I wanted to do,
568
00:41:25,691 --> 00:41:28,777
she's showing me that,
you know what I'm saying?
569
00:41:46,170 --> 00:41:49,131
I never thought it would be like this.
My mother was incarcerated.
570
00:41:49,215 --> 00:41:52,343
I tried to duck the way how she came,
what she went through.
571
00:41:52,426 --> 00:41:54,303
She did a big ten years.
572
00:41:54,386 --> 00:41:57,139
I tried to not go through that.
I got a daughter. I was like,
573
00:41:57,223 --> 00:42:00,059
"I'm not gonna have my daughter
go through what I've been through."
574
00:42:00,142 --> 00:42:04,188
But it's like, my daughter going through
the same thing that I've been through.
575
00:42:04,271 --> 00:42:06,065
I've heard several brothers
here share
576
00:42:06,148 --> 00:42:09,527
that because this was
my circumstances when I was a kid,
577
00:42:09,610 --> 00:42:11,403
I would not do certain things.
578
00:42:11,487 --> 00:42:14,907
Even if I'm in this predicament right now,
I'm going to make sure I'm here.
579
00:42:16,408 --> 00:42:21,080
Um, when I was young, I was like 14, 15,
580
00:42:21,580 --> 00:42:24,750
and I had a, um...
a meeting with my probation officer,
581
00:42:24,833 --> 00:42:26,418
my juvenile probation officer,
582
00:42:27,211 --> 00:42:30,798
and she asked... she asked me,
did I love my father?
583
00:42:30,881 --> 00:42:33,467
You know? We ain't never really did that.
584
00:42:34,218 --> 00:42:37,429
And I'm like, "Yeah, I love my father."
You know what I'm saying?
585
00:42:37,513 --> 00:42:40,182
So, my father was like,
"Yeah, I love... Kenneth know I love him."
586
00:42:40,266 --> 00:42:41,684
You know what I'm saying?
587
00:42:41,767 --> 00:42:44,353
So, she was like, "Tell him you love him."
588
00:42:44,436 --> 00:42:46,564
My father was like,
"We don't do that in our family."
589
00:42:46,647 --> 00:42:49,233
"Kenneth know... he know I love him."
590
00:42:49,316 --> 00:42:50,568
You know what I'm saying?
591
00:42:50,651 --> 00:42:55,781
So, at that point, I really didn't know
how to express myself, so I shut down.
592
00:42:55,864 --> 00:42:58,534
Then, I'm feeling like,
"I wasn't supposed to say it."
593
00:42:58,617 --> 00:43:01,453
"My father ain't say it.
I wasn't supposed to say it."
594
00:43:01,537 --> 00:43:04,373
So, I shut down.
I don't wanna answer no more questions.
595
00:43:04,456 --> 00:43:07,418
And unfortunately, like,
three days later, my father got killed.
596
00:43:07,501 --> 00:43:10,004
- Oh wow.
- You know what I'm saying? So, um...
597
00:43:11,297 --> 00:43:16,510
He never got a chance to do it,
and that's something that stuck with me.
598
00:43:17,094 --> 00:43:19,805
What you brought up
is something that's so important.
599
00:43:19,888 --> 00:43:24,184
There's a theory out there about
something called "the father wound."
600
00:43:24,768 --> 00:43:26,729
We go through these wounds that occur,
601
00:43:26,812 --> 00:43:30,566
these gaps that are left,
or these holes that are made in us
602
00:43:30,649 --> 00:43:36,488
from mother being absent, a mother wound,
from father being absent, a father wound,
603
00:43:36,572 --> 00:43:39,158
or both parents being absent,
a parental wound
604
00:43:39,241 --> 00:43:41,493
that we don't even know is there
at the time.
605
00:43:42,411 --> 00:43:48,459
The father wound is very often described
as the pain that a child...
606
00:43:49,126 --> 00:43:50,586
Because we are children, right?
607
00:43:50,669 --> 00:43:52,671
We all have parents,
whether we knew them or not.
608
00:43:52,755 --> 00:43:56,383
We are somebody's child,
whether we knew our parents or not, right?
609
00:43:56,467 --> 00:44:00,638
The absence of a father
often leaves a wound.
610
00:44:02,097 --> 00:44:05,893
We don't realize the pain we leave
in a... where the vacuum is.
611
00:44:05,976 --> 00:44:08,520
Nature will do everything it can
to fill the holes.
612
00:44:08,604 --> 00:44:10,189
They find other ways to compensate
613
00:44:10,272 --> 00:44:15,235
until they're confronted by the thing
that they hold responsible for that wound.
614
00:44:29,458 --> 00:44:33,087
I had one nightmare.
My mom and my dad, they left me.
615
00:44:36,006 --> 00:44:40,010
They were saying how they never
coming back, and they just had to go.
616
00:44:44,682 --> 00:44:47,601
I woke up crying on that one
because it really, like, shook me.
617
00:44:47,685 --> 00:44:50,854
I was really scared, and I was just sad.
618
00:44:54,066 --> 00:44:55,984
And my dreams go black.
619
00:45:37,192 --> 00:45:41,321
When I'm mad, nobody likes me.
They wish they never met me.
620
00:45:48,203 --> 00:45:50,372
Kind of don't act like myself now.
621
00:45:52,541 --> 00:45:55,335
The feeling hurts really bad,
622
00:45:55,419 --> 00:46:00,424
and it starts to make me scream
and kick everything and punch, like,
623
00:46:00,507 --> 00:46:02,342
it's just not okay.
624
00:46:13,771 --> 00:46:16,523
I use BEST every single time I dance.
625
00:46:16,607 --> 00:46:20,652
Even when I dance by myself,
and I gather back together.
626
00:46:23,739 --> 00:46:26,492
Body, energy, space, and time.
627
00:46:27,826 --> 00:46:34,166
"Body" is like when you're not stiff
and you're just smooth with it.
628
00:46:36,376 --> 00:46:39,588
"Energy" means you got to be pumped up.
629
00:46:40,214 --> 00:46:42,674
"Space" means you need to be spread out.
630
00:46:42,758 --> 00:46:45,385
"Time" is, like,
631
00:46:47,054 --> 00:46:52,100
we need to, like,
be quicker with it, not so slow.
632
00:47:13,580 --> 00:47:18,710
One of the things that the dance
does is it really tackles every emotion.
633
00:47:18,794 --> 00:47:22,005
And, you know, I can see a girl
not wanting to take off her dress
634
00:47:22,089 --> 00:47:24,550
for a couple of more hours
when she gets home
635
00:47:24,633 --> 00:47:26,426
'cause her dad got to touch that.
636
00:47:26,510 --> 00:47:29,750
He's not gonna want to get out of the suit
because it was touched by his daughter.
637
00:47:29,805 --> 00:47:31,223
That's how powerful it is
638
00:47:31,306 --> 00:47:35,435
that you want to kind of remain
in that space as long as you can.
639
00:47:38,730 --> 00:47:41,024
The power of touch
is so meaningful.
640
00:47:41,733 --> 00:47:46,864
When children are removed
from touching their parent,
641
00:47:46,947 --> 00:47:50,659
seeing their parent,
hearing their parent's voice,
642
00:47:51,493 --> 00:47:55,831
they doubt the possibility
of surviving in the world.
643
00:47:57,791 --> 00:48:02,129
The baby is aware of the human connection
644
00:48:02,212 --> 00:48:05,883
and responds to being protected and loved.
645
00:48:05,966 --> 00:48:09,553
The baby yearns for touch.
646
00:48:12,055 --> 00:48:16,393
And as we get older,
we continue to yearn from that,
647
00:48:16,476 --> 00:48:19,021
and it heals so many wounds.
648
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,525
Even when sometimes
those wounds sting, you're like,
649
00:48:23,609 --> 00:48:28,572
"Wow, it probably would have been
a more open wound for a longer time
650
00:48:28,655 --> 00:48:30,365
if I didn't take care of it."
651
00:48:40,626 --> 00:48:42,878
So, you're a little scared
about the dance?
652
00:48:42,961 --> 00:48:44,963
But the other girls
are going to be there too.
653
00:48:45,047 --> 00:48:46,924
Yeah, they saw their fathers.
654
00:48:47,007 --> 00:48:49,593
- Scared to see your dad?
- Yeah, because of his face.
655
00:48:49,676 --> 00:48:52,554
Why? What's wrong with his face?
You think your father's ugly?
656
00:48:52,638 --> 00:48:56,808
No. I... I just... He'll probably look like,
uh, he probably looks different.
657
00:48:56,892 --> 00:49:00,270
Like, I don't remember him.
I don't remember father at all.
658
00:49:00,771 --> 00:49:03,565
I don't remember his face or none of that.
659
00:49:03,649 --> 00:49:05,609
You're ready
to see him though, right?
660
00:49:07,110 --> 00:49:09,196
- You're ready to get in that limo?
- Yep.
661
00:49:09,279 --> 00:49:11,073
- I should get in the limo with you.
- Nope.
662
00:49:13,325 --> 00:49:16,995
That's mean. You and the other girls
are gonna get a limo too, right?
663
00:49:17,079 --> 00:49:20,874
Yep, and y'all parents not, so y'all
gonna stay y'all butts right there.
664
00:49:20,958 --> 00:49:24,544
I don't care 'cause I don't...
I'm not pressed to go to see your dad.
665
00:49:24,628 --> 00:49:27,464
You don't got to. I could be pressed.
666
00:49:27,547 --> 00:49:30,217
So, that's cute.
That's a cute little hairdo.
667
00:49:32,302 --> 00:49:33,971
What song you playing tonight?
668
00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:38,642
♪ It's over now ♪
669
00:49:39,434 --> 00:49:44,106
♪ It's over now ♪
670
00:49:44,773 --> 00:49:48,151
- ♪ I feel like I can make it ♪
- ♪ I feel like I can make it ♪
671
00:49:48,235 --> 00:49:52,239
- ♪ The storm is over now ♪
- ♪ The storm is over now ♪
672
00:49:55,367 --> 00:49:59,746
♪ It's over now ♪
673
00:50:00,455 --> 00:50:05,168
♪ It's over now ♪
674
00:50:05,752 --> 00:50:08,964
♪ I feel like I can make it ♪
675
00:50:09,047 --> 00:50:11,717
♪ The storm is over now ♪
676
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:20,434
Ready for
the father-daughter dance?
677
00:50:20,517 --> 00:50:21,351
Yeah.
678
00:50:21,435 --> 00:50:24,855
All right. 'Cause our father-daughter
dance is really, at the end of the day,
679
00:50:24,938 --> 00:50:31,820
about you connecting, strengthening,
bonding, learning about each other.
680
00:50:31,903 --> 00:50:35,490
So, you need to continue to show up
'cause she wants you.
681
00:50:35,574 --> 00:50:38,243
And guess what?
She gonna show up for you on Saturday,
682
00:50:38,827 --> 00:50:41,872
looking beautiful and ready to dance.
683
00:50:41,955 --> 00:50:45,333
I think some of the girls
already showed us their moves. All right?
684
00:50:45,417 --> 00:50:49,296
And this is all my girls' plan
that they want to be with you.
685
00:50:49,379 --> 00:50:52,841
They want to share with you.
They want you to show up.
686
00:50:52,924 --> 00:50:55,093
They want to count on you.
687
00:50:56,261 --> 00:50:57,846
They want to count on you.
688
00:50:57,929 --> 00:51:02,684
That is one thing that I definitely can
say as a Black woman that is,
689
00:51:02,768 --> 00:51:05,103
I'm gonna tell you my age, 48 years old,
690
00:51:05,187 --> 00:51:08,732
that I have been able
to count on my father since day one.
691
00:51:08,815 --> 00:51:14,279
And it means everything and every decision
that I have ever made in my life.
692
00:51:15,614 --> 00:51:18,116
My father, I'm gonna give him a shout-out,
693
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:19,993
shined up all y'all shoes yesterday.
694
00:51:20,077 --> 00:51:23,288
'Cause ain't nobody can shine shoes
like an 80-year-old man.
695
00:51:23,830 --> 00:51:26,249
They said, "You gotta get
these shoes shined, Angela."
696
00:51:26,333 --> 00:51:29,211
"Who gonna do them?"
I was like, "My dad." Right?
697
00:51:29,294 --> 00:51:32,297
So, just to let you know,
I'm still counting on him.
698
00:51:33,048 --> 00:51:36,635
Okay? Even to help you,
I'm counting on my daddy.
699
00:51:36,718 --> 00:51:39,429
- That's how important fatherhood is.
- Mm-hmm.
700
00:51:40,180 --> 00:51:43,558
Ready? Together. Bring this one around.
701
00:51:44,768 --> 00:51:45,894
Bring this one up.
702
00:51:48,188 --> 00:51:51,024
Bring it down to your right side.
703
00:51:52,859 --> 00:51:54,739
- We're there, right?
- Yeah.
704
00:51:55,862 --> 00:51:57,447
Bring it back around.
705
00:51:59,366 --> 00:52:00,659
Bring it back around.
706
00:52:03,411 --> 00:52:05,497
What color is my dad gonna wear?
707
00:52:06,206 --> 00:52:08,583
When I don't see my dad that makes me mad,
708
00:52:08,667 --> 00:52:10,210
and it makes me want to miss him,
709
00:52:10,293 --> 00:52:13,755
but now I'm getting happier
because I'm gonna see him.
710
00:52:14,506 --> 00:52:16,800
I'm so nervous.
711
00:52:17,676 --> 00:52:18,718
It's... it's...
712
00:52:18,802 --> 00:52:20,804
How many is a week?
713
00:52:22,305 --> 00:52:24,307
I... I don't like weeks.
714
00:52:42,951 --> 00:52:48,582
♪ Come with me, my love ♪
715
00:52:48,665 --> 00:52:54,087
♪ To the sea, the sea of love ♪
716
00:52:54,171 --> 00:53:00,594
♪ I want to tell you how much I love you ♪
717
00:53:05,557 --> 00:53:11,021
♪ Do you remember when we met? ♪
718
00:53:11,104 --> 00:53:16,568
♪ That's the day I knew you were my pet ♪
719
00:53:17,068 --> 00:53:23,825
♪ I want to tell you how much I love you ♪
720
00:53:28,413 --> 00:53:33,543
♪ Come with me ♪
721
00:53:34,127 --> 00:53:39,174
♪ To the sea ♪
722
00:53:39,841 --> 00:53:44,763
♪ Of love ♪
723
00:53:45,347 --> 00:53:50,894
♪ Do you remember when we met? ♪
724
00:53:50,977 --> 00:53:56,316
♪ That's the day I knew you were my pet ♪
725
00:53:56,399 --> 00:53:57,609
♪ I want to... ♪
726
00:53:57,692 --> 00:53:59,861
I like it.
727
00:54:09,329 --> 00:54:10,830
What's up with my hair?
728
00:54:12,249 --> 00:54:13,500
I'm scared.
729
00:54:16,211 --> 00:54:18,880
Oh my God, I'm scared.
730
00:54:19,923 --> 00:54:22,008
I don't think my dad remembers me.
731
00:54:23,218 --> 00:54:26,513
- I never visit my father.
- So, you haven't seen him in a long time?
732
00:54:26,596 --> 00:54:28,098
That's why I'm scared.
733
00:54:29,724 --> 00:54:30,767
You can't hide.
734
00:54:32,018 --> 00:54:33,103
You got one.
735
00:54:41,569 --> 00:54:44,155
I want to see my father.
Where's my father?
736
00:54:50,870 --> 00:54:51,870
I don't know.
737
00:54:53,540 --> 00:54:55,458
Follow me. It's up here.
738
00:55:16,521 --> 00:55:19,041
Yeah, I'm nervous.
I'm gonna let her get the table first
739
00:55:19,107 --> 00:55:22,068
because I know
she sure have a lot to talk about.
740
00:55:24,154 --> 00:55:27,824
I can't get into competition.
All my dances still in the '90s, man.
741
00:55:27,907 --> 00:55:31,161
You gotta bring them out, man.
Show them what's up.
742
00:55:33,163 --> 00:55:34,164
That's all. Yeah.
743
00:55:35,790 --> 00:55:39,586
I ain't never went to the prom.
I don't know about none of y'all.
744
00:56:29,344 --> 00:56:31,596
Look, y'all. Y'all can see the, um...
745
00:56:31,679 --> 00:56:34,766
Look, y'all. Y'all can see the, um...
What's it called? The...
746
00:56:35,392 --> 00:56:37,060
- What's it called?
- Jail cells.
747
00:56:37,143 --> 00:56:38,686
- No.
- Jail?
748
00:56:38,770 --> 00:56:39,979
- The gym?
- No.
749
00:56:40,063 --> 00:56:42,440
- You don't want to see that.
- What?
750
00:56:42,524 --> 00:56:45,944
The jail cells. She said
she wanted to see how the jail cells look.
751
00:56:59,457 --> 00:57:01,543
Don't her legs look like a lady?
752
00:57:02,919 --> 00:57:04,796
For a, um, jail.
753
00:57:07,424 --> 00:57:10,176
I think... I think...
I think my father shot somebody.
754
00:57:10,260 --> 00:57:12,971
I don't know what my father did.
I'mma ask him though.
755
00:57:13,054 --> 00:57:16,349
- I'm gonna be like, "Why are you in jail?"
- I really know what he did.
756
00:57:16,433 --> 00:57:19,227
- Don't tell my mother 'cause...
- I swear to God.
757
00:57:19,769 --> 00:57:20,603
Hey.
758
00:57:28,445 --> 00:57:31,948
♪ One, two, three, four, five ♪
759
00:57:32,031 --> 00:57:35,285
♪ Once I caught a fish alive ♪
760
00:57:35,368 --> 00:57:37,688
That's our fathers?
Is that our dads in the hallway?
761
00:57:37,745 --> 00:57:38,830
And I'm the...
762
00:58:38,097 --> 00:58:41,476
- I miss you.
- I miss you too.
763
00:58:41,559 --> 00:58:43,937
- Yeah?
- I miss you too.
764
00:58:44,020 --> 00:58:47,440
Yeah. I love you, baby. You happy?
765
00:58:47,524 --> 00:58:49,150
- Mm-hmm.
- A kiss on the cheek.
766
00:58:49,651 --> 00:58:52,320
I love you. I like your hair.
767
00:58:57,700 --> 00:59:00,245
- You have a bald head just like Papa.
- Yeah.
768
00:59:11,798 --> 00:59:12,882
Daddy!
769
00:59:46,708 --> 00:59:47,875
I miss you.
770
00:59:57,677 --> 00:59:58,677
'Sup?
771
01:00:00,054 --> 01:00:02,181
What's up, y'all?
772
01:00:02,265 --> 01:00:03,433
You all right?
773
01:00:06,894 --> 01:00:10,356
It's all right.
It's okay. It's okay.
774
01:00:28,499 --> 01:00:31,127
I. Love. My. Dad!
775
01:00:31,711 --> 01:00:33,129
I missed you.
776
01:00:39,969 --> 01:00:41,387
{\an8}I love y'all.
777
01:00:41,471 --> 01:00:42,471
{\an8}It's okay.
778
01:00:43,765 --> 01:00:46,351
It's all right. It's okay.
779
01:00:46,434 --> 01:00:47,935
Y'all look so beautiful.
780
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:57,487
- I'm saying jail's not a place to be.
- It's not a place to be?
781
01:00:57,570 --> 01:00:58,446
Mm-hmm.
782
01:00:59,530 --> 01:01:01,949
I didn't even know
that was you coming through.
783
01:01:02,033 --> 01:01:04,452
Your hair was just so pretty, I think...
784
01:01:04,535 --> 01:01:06,162
You didn't know who I was?
785
01:01:06,245 --> 01:01:08,045
I didn't.
You had your hair blown out.
786
01:01:08,081 --> 01:01:10,375
I didn't know that was you
'cause it's looking different.
787
01:01:10,458 --> 01:01:12,001
Like, you see Daddy bald head.
788
01:01:12,085 --> 01:01:14,962
But I knew who you were,
so I just ran to you.
789
01:01:15,046 --> 01:01:16,046
Yeah.
790
01:01:16,673 --> 01:01:18,091
If I run to you...
791
01:01:18,174 --> 01:01:21,177
If I look different,
and I don't look like Aubrey,
792
01:01:21,260 --> 01:01:23,513
and I run to you, I'm Aubrey.
793
01:01:24,180 --> 01:01:25,014
Okay.
794
01:01:25,098 --> 01:01:28,351
You're going straight to the red carpet,
then to the same table.
795
01:01:28,434 --> 01:01:32,021
...Mr. Keith Sweptson
and Miss Aubrey Smith!
796
01:01:32,730 --> 01:01:34,440
- Hey...
- Come on up here!
797
01:01:34,941 --> 01:01:35,942
Look around.
798
01:01:39,696 --> 01:01:42,091
- All right, girlfriend.
- Look at the camera.
799
01:01:42,115 --> 01:01:44,992
Show us your walk.
Show us the runway walk. Oh!
800
01:01:45,076 --> 01:01:46,828
Show your model walk.
801
01:01:46,911 --> 01:01:48,287
That's right, girl.
802
01:01:48,371 --> 01:01:50,081
Yeah, there you go.
803
01:01:50,164 --> 01:01:52,083
You got your model walk. Spin around.
804
01:01:52,166 --> 01:01:55,253
She's got some bounce
in her step. Oh my!
805
01:01:56,963 --> 01:01:59,674
- Look at the camera.
- What a pretty dress.
806
01:01:59,757 --> 01:02:04,053
Coming up next is a lucky dad
because he's got two angels on his arm.
807
01:02:04,887 --> 01:02:05,763
Right now?
808
01:02:05,847 --> 01:02:07,640
- Yeah.
- Yeah, Dad.
809
01:02:07,724 --> 01:02:08,808
Yeah.
810
01:02:08,891 --> 01:02:10,852
Turn around and face the same way.
811
01:02:10,935 --> 01:02:12,353
- I...
- Shut up.
812
01:02:12,437 --> 01:02:13,271
Yeah.
813
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:16,983
And new pictures.
Coulda get some pictures.
814
01:02:19,736 --> 01:02:21,529
All right. Nice job.
815
01:02:32,790 --> 01:02:35,168
Not flash. That one was flash.
816
01:02:36,252 --> 01:02:38,671
Hold on. You can do this one, okay?
817
01:02:43,968 --> 01:02:46,846
It doesn't work when you...
No, they don't work.
818
01:02:46,929 --> 01:02:48,514
The flash ain't on.
819
01:02:48,598 --> 01:02:50,641
You gotta... you gotta wind it.
820
01:02:57,106 --> 01:02:59,901
This pink matches my color.
821
01:03:02,487 --> 01:03:05,740
So, what you doing at school?
You going to the dances?
822
01:03:05,823 --> 01:03:07,533
Is this a prom dance?
823
01:03:07,617 --> 01:03:09,952
We're learning about a new song, like...
824
01:03:11,704 --> 01:03:13,748
♪ We are family ♪
825
01:03:14,373 --> 01:03:16,709
♪ Come on everybody with... ♪
826
01:03:16,793 --> 01:03:17,627
Sing.
827
01:03:18,878 --> 01:03:20,963
I don't know how to say it.
828
01:03:21,047 --> 01:03:24,675
It's okay. It's okay. Don't give up.
I tell you, "Don't give up."
829
01:03:24,759 --> 01:03:26,737
- You always keep trying.
- The song goes...
830
01:03:26,761 --> 01:03:28,387
♪ We are family ♪
831
01:03:28,471 --> 01:03:30,431
- Know that, Daddy?
- What's that? Monday?
832
01:03:30,473 --> 01:03:36,562
Uh-huh. So, make the "M" in sign language,
and then face it to you in a circle.
833
01:03:36,646 --> 01:03:37,855
Oh, that's Monday.
834
01:03:37,939 --> 01:03:40,942
Make the "T" in sign language
and do the same.
835
01:03:41,025 --> 01:03:42,026
Tuesday?
836
01:03:42,109 --> 01:03:44,445
Mm-hmm. Do the "W" sign language.
837
01:03:45,071 --> 01:03:46,447
- And...
- Wednesday?
838
01:03:46,531 --> 01:03:51,869
Now, it's Sunday,
you put hands up and hands down, so...
839
01:03:53,162 --> 01:03:57,083
Sunday. What's today? Saturday. So, it's...
840
01:03:57,166 --> 01:03:59,293
- So, today is this day.
- Yeah.
841
01:04:00,211 --> 01:04:01,295
Over here.
842
01:04:02,255 --> 01:04:04,090
Yours not hard enough. Look.
843
01:04:05,258 --> 01:04:06,258
Oh, yeah?
844
01:04:10,513 --> 01:04:13,057
- Damn.
- I'm the biggest person in this room.
845
01:04:13,641 --> 01:04:15,476
- Stop lying.
- I'm the biggest person.
846
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:17,800
- No, you're not.
- Do you want me to stand up?
847
01:04:18,813 --> 01:04:21,732
What, you want me
to show everybody? Aight, aight?
848
01:04:23,609 --> 01:04:24,986
You embarrassing.
849
01:04:32,285 --> 01:04:33,285
Man...
850
01:04:37,498 --> 01:04:40,698
- Dad, you gotta write something in it.
- I ain't gotta write it right now, do I?
851
01:04:40,751 --> 01:04:44,005
- Yeah. I need my pen.
- I can't keep the pen. I'm playing...
852
01:04:44,088 --> 01:04:46,757
All right, come on. He's writing in there.
853
01:04:46,841 --> 01:04:49,361
- He's writing something to you.
- Yeah, girl.
854
01:04:49,927 --> 01:04:52,430
You need to write a lot.
You need to fill them out.
855
01:04:52,513 --> 01:04:54,515
- This whole thing?
- No, just the one page.
856
01:04:54,599 --> 01:04:56,535
- I ain't about to write this whole page.
- You is.
857
01:04:56,559 --> 01:04:57,560
- I'm not.
- You are.
858
01:04:57,643 --> 01:04:59,621
- I'll 'bout to show you.
- I'm about to fight you.
859
01:04:59,645 --> 01:05:01,063
- I'm about to show you.
- Okay.
860
01:05:40,144 --> 01:05:41,812
"XOXO, Dad."
861
01:05:42,396 --> 01:05:44,231
"Dad." Put "Dad."
862
01:05:45,149 --> 01:05:46,275
Put "Dad!"
863
01:05:50,029 --> 01:05:53,991
- Can we take two pictures?
- "Can we take two pictures," she said.
864
01:05:57,828 --> 01:06:00,308
{\an8}- All right, y'all ready?
- I like pink glasses.
865
01:06:12,259 --> 01:06:15,137
Ten... ten times seven is 70.
866
01:06:15,221 --> 01:06:17,598
Ten times eight is 80.
Ten times nine is 90.
867
01:06:17,682 --> 01:06:21,727
Ten times ten is 100.
Ten times eleven is 110. Ten...
868
01:06:22,520 --> 01:06:23,854
I can't... I can go up...
869
01:06:23,938 --> 01:06:28,901
I remember one day
I went up all the way to ten times 40.
870
01:06:28,985 --> 01:06:30,361
You smarter than me.
871
01:06:30,444 --> 01:06:33,990
Ten times 100 is 1,000.
872
01:06:35,533 --> 01:06:39,412
High five. That's what I'm talking about.
You ahead of the class, baby.
873
01:06:39,495 --> 01:06:41,831
I'm... I'm the smartest one in my classroom.
874
01:06:41,914 --> 01:06:43,082
Stay like that.
875
01:06:43,749 --> 01:06:46,085
So, what is this whole big building?
876
01:06:47,003 --> 01:06:50,548
Um, it's, uh, It's like a gym.
It's where we come play basketball.
877
01:06:50,631 --> 01:06:52,174
Y'all could play basketball?
878
01:06:52,258 --> 01:06:54,593
Yeah. Yep.
879
01:06:54,677 --> 01:06:58,848
Like y'all go to the gym at school.
That's how it be.
880
01:06:59,515 --> 01:07:03,936
We go outside and play basketball,
or we come in the gym.
881
01:07:04,020 --> 01:07:05,312
When you get out?
882
01:07:05,896 --> 01:07:09,150
Um, I don't know. I'm hopin' I...
883
01:07:09,233 --> 01:07:11,902
I'm supposed to go to court July 16th.
884
01:07:11,986 --> 01:07:14,546
You said you were supposed
to go to court last Monday...
885
01:07:14,572 --> 01:07:16,449
I know, but they pushed it off.
886
01:07:16,532 --> 01:07:19,035
They pushed it...
I was supposed to go May the 7th.
887
01:07:19,118 --> 01:07:20,411
They pushed it off.
888
01:07:26,542 --> 01:07:28,753
Want Daddy to talk to you about, um,
889
01:07:29,754 --> 01:07:32,381
you know, Daddy be gone for how many
890
01:07:33,591 --> 01:07:34,884
- birthdays...
- Seven.
891
01:07:34,967 --> 01:07:38,512
- Seven or eight? Seven or eight?
- Seven.
892
01:07:38,596 --> 01:07:43,350
I want it to be seven too.
If I be good, I come home in seven, okay?
893
01:07:44,351 --> 01:07:45,561
Gotta stay good.
894
01:07:46,103 --> 01:07:48,564
- Come home at what?
- Hopefully, seven.
895
01:07:48,647 --> 01:07:51,859
When you are a teenager,
daddy be back home.
896
01:07:51,942 --> 01:07:55,362
- I'm gonna be... I'm gonna be 12.
- 12... 12 or 13.
897
01:07:55,446 --> 01:07:57,740
- Twelve.
- I know. I wanna it to be twelve too.
898
01:07:57,823 --> 01:08:01,660
It's still gonna go fast, Bre.
I know you want me to come back fast.
899
01:08:02,328 --> 01:08:04,914
Okay. We're about
to make this dance happen.
900
01:08:05,706 --> 01:08:07,626
- Three...
- We're gonna make this happen.
901
01:08:07,666 --> 01:08:10,753
- ...two...
- Then we'll get y'all with the daughters.
902
01:08:10,836 --> 01:08:12,213
- ...one.
- Yes.
903
01:08:15,591 --> 01:08:19,929
Turn and face one
of your daughters or your daughter.
904
01:08:21,013 --> 01:08:22,157
Oh, I love it. I love it. I love it.
905
01:08:22,181 --> 01:08:23,182
Yes.
906
01:08:23,265 --> 01:08:24,725
May I have this dance?
907
01:08:25,976 --> 01:08:28,395
- Yes.
- Okay. We'll wait.
908
01:08:29,313 --> 01:08:32,066
Gentlemen,
"May I have this dance?"
909
01:08:32,149 --> 01:08:34,485
- May I have this dance?
- May I have this dance?
910
01:08:34,568 --> 01:08:36,153
Ladies, "With pleasure."
911
01:08:36,237 --> 01:08:38,364
- With pleasure.
- With pleasure.
912
01:08:39,323 --> 01:08:41,742
- May I have this dance?
- No.
913
01:08:42,701 --> 01:08:45,496
I got told "no." It's over with.
914
01:08:45,579 --> 01:08:48,249
- Now with music.
- So, can I go sit down?
915
01:08:48,332 --> 01:08:51,710
Six, please begin. You go.
916
01:08:51,794 --> 01:08:52,628
Yeah.
917
01:08:52,711 --> 01:08:56,257
Look! Everybody doing it!
You don't wanna dance? Aight, then.
918
01:08:56,757 --> 01:08:58,384
I'm gonna go sit down.
919
01:09:00,719 --> 01:09:03,973
Five, six, merengue, go!
920
01:09:04,598 --> 01:09:07,101
Yes, march in place!
921
01:09:07,726 --> 01:09:11,188
Yes! Yes!
922
01:09:11,272 --> 01:09:14,150
I love it! I love it!
I love it! I love it!
923
01:09:15,651 --> 01:09:18,112
Yes! All right.
924
01:09:18,195 --> 01:09:20,197
- I told you I'm Mexican.
- No, you're not.
925
01:09:21,282 --> 01:09:22,116
Yes!
926
01:09:22,199 --> 01:09:24,535
It's wrong. You don't really...
927
01:09:24,618 --> 01:09:27,121
She don't make me think that you start it.
928
01:09:27,204 --> 01:09:29,123
I think she be startin' it sometimes.
929
01:09:29,206 --> 01:09:31,458
And I think she just want something
to fight about,
930
01:09:31,542 --> 01:09:33,377
and I think the same about you.
931
01:09:33,460 --> 01:09:35,629
- It's okay.
- Y'all shouldn't do that.
932
01:09:35,713 --> 01:09:36,873
You ain't gotta worry.
933
01:09:36,922 --> 01:09:38,465
Say what song?
934
01:09:40,718 --> 01:09:42,078
Whoop that move right here.
935
01:09:42,136 --> 01:09:47,808
Whoop it, whoop it
936
01:09:47,892 --> 01:09:52,438
Nothin', nothin'
937
01:09:52,521 --> 01:09:54,690
Let me see who leg stanky right there!
938
01:09:55,191 --> 01:09:56,859
Okay, that Stanky leg!
939
01:09:58,277 --> 01:10:01,488
Hey, yo' leg need some lotion,
and yo' leg needs some lotion.
940
01:10:03,282 --> 01:10:05,201
Yo' leg need two Benadryl!
941
01:10:07,828 --> 01:10:10,539
Your leg needs some rope
to pull it back up and down.
942
01:10:10,623 --> 01:10:12,583
Put some more into that thang! C'mon!
943
01:10:15,377 --> 01:10:17,588
You gotta make a face when you do it!
944
01:10:21,842 --> 01:10:23,510
Come on, at the same time!
945
01:10:24,720 --> 01:10:27,890
Give 'em something!
Give 'em something! Give 'em something!
946
01:10:27,973 --> 01:10:30,684
This right here, y'all! This is y'all.
947
01:10:33,229 --> 01:10:35,773
♪ Electric heartbeat ♪
948
01:10:35,856 --> 01:10:38,609
Let's go dads!
Let's go daughters! Hey!
949
01:10:39,568 --> 01:10:40,568
Come on with it!
950
01:10:41,445 --> 01:10:44,782
Hey! Hey! Hey! Hey! Hey!
951
01:10:45,908 --> 01:10:47,785
Come on! Hey!
952
01:10:47,868 --> 01:10:51,121
Have a good time!
Have a good time! Hey!
953
01:10:51,205 --> 01:10:52,373
Have a good time!
954
01:10:55,626 --> 01:10:56,835
Hey.
955
01:10:56,919 --> 01:10:58,671
Now put your hands in the air!
956
01:10:58,754 --> 01:11:01,131
Hey! Hey! Hey! Hey!
957
01:11:02,383 --> 01:11:03,217
Watch this!
958
01:11:03,300 --> 01:11:05,678
Everybody sing this song! Hey! Hey!
959
01:11:05,761 --> 01:11:08,389
Get my... get my foot! Get my foot!
960
01:11:08,472 --> 01:11:10,057
Sing it! Come on, sing it!
961
01:11:11,100 --> 01:11:17,564
♪ Before I let you go ♪
962
01:11:20,859 --> 01:11:23,904
♪ I never, never, never, never ♪
963
01:11:23,988 --> 01:11:28,325
♪ Never, never, never, never, let you go
Before I go ♪
964
01:11:29,827 --> 01:11:31,912
You win, girl!
965
01:11:31,996 --> 01:11:33,723
- Do it one more time.
- What's that?
966
01:11:33,747 --> 01:11:35,624
- Huh?
- Pick me up one more time.
967
01:11:35,708 --> 01:11:38,388
You want me to pick you up one more time?
Daddy hot. Daddy sweating.
968
01:11:38,419 --> 01:11:39,670
One more time.
969
01:11:39,753 --> 01:11:42,923
- We go get some napkins?
- One more time. Just one.
970
01:11:45,217 --> 01:11:47,261
Give y'allselves
a round of applause.
971
01:11:47,344 --> 01:11:49,305
- Clap, clap, clap, clap.
- Clap!
972
01:11:49,388 --> 01:11:52,683
All right. We need everybody
in a circle here.
973
01:11:53,267 --> 01:11:55,269
Lovely girls, give them some love.
974
01:11:57,896 --> 01:11:59,023
Everybody here?
975
01:11:59,815 --> 01:12:03,485
You have a boutonniere,
which was given to you
976
01:12:03,569 --> 01:12:06,572
as a token of your commitment
to your daughter.
977
01:12:06,655 --> 01:12:10,951
What I want you to do is to detach
that boutonniere from your sleeve
978
01:12:12,161 --> 01:12:14,163
and when you give it to your daughter,
979
01:12:14,246 --> 01:12:17,541
I want you to tell her
what you commit to her.
980
01:12:19,001 --> 01:12:20,711
Daddy coming home.
981
01:12:22,296 --> 01:12:25,341
Okay, but are we gonna go back
to our tables?
982
01:12:27,509 --> 01:12:31,638
When you're ready,
take your time, share your promise.
983
01:12:31,722 --> 01:12:33,974
We're not gonna be able
to visit you anymore?
984
01:12:34,058 --> 01:12:36,310
Yeah, you can still visit me.
Why do you say that?
985
01:12:36,393 --> 01:12:37,936
But where are you going?
986
01:12:38,020 --> 01:12:41,315
You're talking about when I go?
I'm probably going to New Jersey.
987
01:12:41,398 --> 01:12:43,400
So we gotta drive
all the way out to New Jersey?
988
01:12:43,484 --> 01:12:44,735
- Do you want to?
- Yes.
989
01:12:44,818 --> 01:12:46,320
- Why?
- Because.
990
01:12:46,403 --> 01:12:48,614
Aight. You gonna come see me, then?
991
01:12:48,697 --> 01:12:50,074
We gotta drive them little buses.
992
01:12:50,157 --> 01:12:51,867
- You know what this mean?
- No.
993
01:12:51,950 --> 01:12:55,579
This mean I gotta make a promise to you.
Want me to tell you my promise?
994
01:12:55,662 --> 01:12:56,663
Mm-hmm.
995
01:12:56,747 --> 01:12:58,916
I promise to never leave you again.
996
01:12:58,999 --> 01:13:01,502
- Okay.
- You don't want that, do you?
997
01:13:01,585 --> 01:13:03,420
You want me to stay in your life forever?
998
01:13:04,546 --> 01:13:06,173
So, you gonna keep that forever?
999
01:13:07,341 --> 01:13:08,341
You sure?
1000
01:13:09,927 --> 01:13:12,096
- Who love you more than Daddy?
- Nobody.
1001
01:13:12,179 --> 01:13:14,431
Can we talk a little bit more
at the table?
1002
01:13:15,391 --> 01:13:18,936
We gonna sit here for a second.
Stand here and talk to Daddy.
1003
01:13:19,019 --> 01:13:20,646
Okay? Connection.
1004
01:13:23,148 --> 01:13:25,275
I don't wanna let you go.
1005
01:13:25,359 --> 01:13:27,569
I don't wanna
let you go neither, baby.
1006
01:13:27,653 --> 01:13:29,363
But we need to.
1007
01:13:31,031 --> 01:13:34,910
I ain't gonna be gone forever.
Daddy's still gonna be here, okay?
1008
01:13:35,744 --> 01:13:36,745
Okay.
1009
01:13:36,829 --> 01:13:42,251
I'm stressing my brain 'cause Daddy needs
to start thinking positive.
1010
01:13:42,334 --> 01:13:44,336
- Think...
- That big old head.
1011
01:13:45,129 --> 01:13:49,675
- Think, "I am," in your brain.
- Yes.
1012
01:13:49,758 --> 01:13:53,011
Brain. Think, think, think.
1013
01:13:54,763 --> 01:13:58,976
Come here. Pull it together.
It's all right. Pull it together.
1014
01:13:59,059 --> 01:14:01,478
I ain't got but 14 months left. All right?
1015
01:14:01,562 --> 01:14:03,105
- Yeah.
- I'm depending on you.
1016
01:14:03,939 --> 01:14:04,939
Look at me.
1017
01:14:04,982 --> 01:14:06,275
I'm depending on you.
1018
01:14:08,235 --> 01:14:10,446
Go get me some certificates,
all right?
1019
01:14:10,529 --> 01:14:14,074
You gotta keep doing good.
The more you be good, Daddy be good.
1020
01:14:14,158 --> 01:14:20,122
So, if you be good more,
you gonna come home less than seven years?
1021
01:14:20,205 --> 01:14:21,205
I hope so.
1022
01:14:22,416 --> 01:14:23,416
We gotta wait.
1023
01:14:25,502 --> 01:14:26,502
You livin'?
1024
01:14:27,463 --> 01:14:28,922
Right up here.
1025
01:14:36,430 --> 01:14:37,430
I'm sorry.
1026
01:14:41,810 --> 01:14:42,978
I'm really sorry.
1027
01:14:44,730 --> 01:14:45,730
I promise.
1028
01:14:48,192 --> 01:14:49,234
And I promise
1029
01:14:50,527 --> 01:14:52,279
that my change starts here.
1030
01:14:53,655 --> 01:14:55,199
My change starts here.
1031
01:14:56,200 --> 01:14:57,493
Before I get out.
1032
01:14:59,411 --> 01:15:01,914
I give you this
for protecting our promise.
1033
01:15:01,997 --> 01:15:03,499
I love you.
1034
01:15:09,796 --> 01:15:12,633
I had way too much fun
watching you.
1035
01:15:13,592 --> 01:15:18,055
- I'mma cry myself to sleep.
- You gonna cry yourself to sleep?
1036
01:15:18,138 --> 01:15:20,432
Make sure they happy tears
'cause Daddy gonna be home.
1037
01:15:22,267 --> 01:15:24,102
Y'all gotta stay strong.
1038
01:15:25,771 --> 01:15:27,397
Y'all gotta stay strong, all right?
1039
01:15:27,481 --> 01:15:28,398
Okay.
1040
01:15:28,482 --> 01:15:29,900
...is always with you,
1041
01:15:31,151 --> 01:15:36,198
and you get to carry that with you always.
1042
01:15:36,281 --> 01:15:37,281
Let's go.
1043
01:15:38,534 --> 01:15:40,118
I'mma miss you.
1044
01:15:40,202 --> 01:15:41,537
I'll miss you too.
1045
01:15:46,708 --> 01:15:49,044
I don't wanna let you go!
1046
01:15:53,257 --> 01:15:54,091
I'm gonna be okay.
1047
01:15:54,174 --> 01:15:58,053
Take three deep breaths,
and then we gonna say, "See you later."
1048
01:15:58,136 --> 01:15:59,012
Huh?
1049
01:15:59,096 --> 01:16:02,432
Take three deep breaths,
and then we'll say, "See you later."
1050
01:16:04,351 --> 01:16:05,811
I'mma see you later!
1051
01:16:05,894 --> 01:16:08,230
If you say "bye,"
it means you're never seeing them again.
1052
01:16:08,313 --> 01:16:09,189
- So promise.
- Right.
1053
01:16:09,273 --> 01:16:12,067
I promise you I will not say "bye."
See you later, okay?
1054
01:16:12,150 --> 01:16:13,569
- Okay.
- Don't say "bye."
1055
01:16:17,406 --> 01:16:18,406
I love you.
1056
01:16:20,659 --> 01:16:22,035
I'll see you later, okay?
1057
01:16:22,119 --> 01:16:23,579
- Okay.
- I love you.
1058
01:16:23,662 --> 01:16:25,247
I love you too.
1059
01:16:26,373 --> 01:16:27,499
Bre.
1060
01:16:29,793 --> 01:16:33,213
I'mma tell you
I'mma always be here.
1061
01:16:35,048 --> 01:16:36,967
I'mma always be here for you.
1062
01:16:39,428 --> 01:16:41,179
Yeah, I know it's hard.
1063
01:16:41,263 --> 01:16:42,973
- Love you, baby.
- Mm-hmm.
1064
01:16:44,224 --> 01:16:46,351
See you later, Bre.
Love you, baby.
1065
01:16:47,144 --> 01:16:47,978
Love you, Bre.
1066
01:16:48,061 --> 01:16:50,772
It's going to be all right.
Trust me.
1067
01:16:52,816 --> 01:16:54,401
I'm gonna miss my dad.
1068
01:16:54,484 --> 01:16:57,112
Are you okay? All right.
1069
01:17:01,116 --> 01:17:02,116
Okay.
1070
01:17:04,119 --> 01:17:06,204
Brothers,
can we get in a circle again?
1071
01:17:08,624 --> 01:17:10,667
Remember, we talked about this, right?
1072
01:17:10,751 --> 01:17:14,755
It's gonna be a roller coaster up,
and we always know it's a hill that comes.
1073
01:17:16,965 --> 01:17:21,219
One thing for sure is the fact
that regardless of where you end up,
1074
01:17:21,303 --> 01:17:24,723
regardless of where you go,
regardless of the choices you make here,
1075
01:17:24,806 --> 01:17:28,685
I think today is testimony to the fact
that you know these babies need you.
1076
01:17:30,020 --> 01:17:31,688
Stand on your commitment to them.
1077
01:17:32,481 --> 01:17:34,608
They need y'all to stand for them,
1078
01:17:34,691 --> 01:17:36,611
whether it's gonna be two weeks
when you see 'em,
1079
01:17:36,652 --> 01:17:38,570
whether it'll be 20 years
when you see 'em.
1080
01:17:38,654 --> 01:17:41,907
Whether it'll be a visitation
or whether it'll be a level.
1081
01:17:41,990 --> 01:17:44,326
They need you. They need you.
1082
01:17:44,409 --> 01:17:47,329
Don't you ever question
the fact that they need you.
1083
01:17:48,955 --> 01:17:49,956
This is for life.
1084
01:17:51,458 --> 01:17:53,168
You their fathers for life.
1085
01:18:00,592 --> 01:18:02,969
Let that pain you feel
be part of that fuel.
1086
01:18:03,804 --> 01:18:05,764
Your babies are forgiving and supportive,
1087
01:18:05,847 --> 01:18:08,308
but you gotta keep
your hearts turned towards them.
1088
01:18:10,227 --> 01:18:11,812
Man, yeah, man.
1089
01:18:11,895 --> 01:18:14,648
Well, I loved seeing y'all
hanging with y'all daughters.
1090
01:18:14,731 --> 01:18:17,943
Mine wasn't able to get here,
but after seeing all of y'all
1091
01:18:18,026 --> 01:18:21,154
bein' able to appreciate y'all children,
man, made my day.
1092
01:18:21,238 --> 01:18:25,367
So, my daughter was here in my heart,
but she wasn't here with me.
1093
01:18:25,450 --> 01:18:26,993
I'm proud of y'all, boys.
1094
01:18:27,077 --> 01:18:29,037
All of y'all are gonna
be home soon to y'all kids.
1095
01:18:29,079 --> 01:18:31,665
Mo, just pray.
Don't you ever give up praying, Slim.
1096
01:18:31,748 --> 01:18:33,125
No matter what religion you is,
1097
01:18:33,208 --> 01:18:35,043
don't you give up praying.
'Cause guess what?
1098
01:18:35,127 --> 01:18:36,878
God knows y'all kids need you home,
1099
01:18:36,962 --> 01:18:39,756
so He gonna get you home
as long you trust and believe.
1100
01:18:39,840 --> 01:18:43,510
Whether you gotta come back on appeal
or whatever, man, y'all gonna get there.
1101
01:18:43,593 --> 01:18:45,513
And when you get there, son,
you stay there, man.
1102
01:18:45,554 --> 01:18:47,973
Like he said,
the streets don't want us, man.
1103
01:18:48,056 --> 01:18:51,309
We here 'cause we thought they did, Mo.
They don't love us. Our kids love us.
1104
01:18:51,393 --> 01:18:54,271
They need us, homes.
I love all y'all much, man.
1105
01:18:54,354 --> 01:18:56,189
- And respect, man.
- Indeed.
1106
01:18:56,690 --> 01:18:58,400
- We love you too.
- Indeed.
1107
01:19:51,995 --> 01:19:53,705
♪ I see you in the dark ♪
1108
01:19:55,707 --> 01:20:00,253
♪ 'Cause I've been where you are ♪
1109
01:20:03,173 --> 01:20:05,383
♪ You're too scared to show me love ♪
1110
01:20:07,427 --> 01:20:12,182
♪ 'Cause you're too fresh with the scars ♪
1111
01:20:14,976 --> 01:20:20,982
♪ I found my love and I
I don't wanna lose it again ♪
1112
01:20:24,945 --> 01:20:27,948
♪ No, I don't wanna lose you now ♪
1113
01:20:28,031 --> 01:20:30,784
♪ No, I don't wanna lose you now ♪
1114
01:20:30,867 --> 01:20:33,495
♪ No, I don't wanna lose you now ♪
1115
01:20:33,578 --> 01:20:36,331
♪ No, I don't wanna lose you now ♪
1116
01:20:36,414 --> 01:20:38,667
♪ No, I don't wanna lose you now ♪
1117
01:20:39,251 --> 01:20:41,002
So we're gonna do some unpacking today
1118
01:20:41,086 --> 01:20:45,632
and talk about what happened,
what's gonna happen, and all that stuff.
1119
01:20:45,715 --> 01:20:47,843
Anybody got anything new they wanna share?
1120
01:20:47,926 --> 01:20:50,303
Any thoughts
before we start getting into it?
1121
01:20:52,764 --> 01:20:53,764
Crickets.
1122
01:20:56,476 --> 01:20:57,936
Okay, um...
1123
01:20:59,145 --> 01:21:01,022
So, let's go back to the dance.
1124
01:21:04,276 --> 01:21:06,403
It was... It was... It... It hurt.
1125
01:21:07,445 --> 01:21:12,701
I... I got back to my cell
and... and... and cried, you know? And...
1126
01:21:13,952 --> 01:21:19,791
Just trying to picture her in my mind
right there in front of me, talking to me,
1127
01:21:19,875 --> 01:21:23,712
so I could get back in happy spirits
'cause that was like...
1128
01:21:24,337 --> 01:21:25,213
Her hair...
1129
01:21:25,297 --> 01:21:27,090
Just, looking like she was right there
1130
01:21:27,173 --> 01:21:29,634
and she was in... in front of me, like...
1131
01:21:32,304 --> 01:21:34,514
Yeah, it was tough, um...
1132
01:21:36,725 --> 01:21:39,895
The worst part was when I had
to get on my knee and talk to 'em.
1133
01:21:44,733 --> 01:21:48,111
Like, I couldn't really look at 'em
because they was crying so hard.
1134
01:21:48,612 --> 01:21:49,946
Like, you know...
1135
01:21:51,698 --> 01:21:53,700
I apologized to them, though.
1136
01:21:55,452 --> 01:21:56,452
It helped.
1137
01:21:58,288 --> 01:21:59,706
It helped to get it out.
1138
01:22:00,415 --> 01:22:02,834
You cry for the people you love, so...
1139
01:22:08,506 --> 01:22:11,051
Getting glossy-eyed now.
1140
01:22:15,263 --> 01:22:18,308
I don't hide things from my children.
1141
01:22:18,391 --> 01:22:19,517
- You know?
- Right.
1142
01:22:19,601 --> 01:22:21,937
They know what's up.
They know what's going on.
1143
01:22:22,020 --> 01:22:25,106
And, um, you know, I'm Daddy for real.
1144
01:22:25,190 --> 01:22:27,776
So, the dark-skinned one,
that's my niece...
1145
01:22:27,859 --> 01:22:29,235
- Okay.
- Right?
1146
01:22:29,319 --> 01:22:31,571
But her father been locked up
since she was two.
1147
01:22:31,655 --> 01:22:33,865
- Okay.
- So, she's really my daughter.
1148
01:22:33,949 --> 01:22:35,533
- Indeed.
- And, um...
1149
01:22:37,619 --> 01:22:43,458
the bonds that I build with my children,
it's, like, it's big, it's really big.
1150
01:22:44,626 --> 01:22:47,671
And, uh, she gave me
some real encouraging words, man.
1151
01:22:47,754 --> 01:22:51,257
She was like, "Dad, don't worry about it.
You'll be home in bit. I got you."
1152
01:22:52,634 --> 01:22:55,053
- You see how they lift us back up?
- That was cool.
1153
01:22:55,136 --> 01:22:58,431
We think we being strong for them,
and they pour back into us,
1154
01:22:58,515 --> 01:23:01,810
but that's the exact reason
why you don't give up on them.
1155
01:23:01,893 --> 01:23:02,893
Right.
1156
01:23:04,062 --> 01:23:06,314
We all say like, "We gotta get home, man."
1157
01:23:06,398 --> 01:23:08,692
"We can't come back,"
and all this and all that,
1158
01:23:08,775 --> 01:23:13,196
but that's the day I actually felt
like I can't come back to prison no more.
1159
01:23:13,822 --> 01:23:16,241
Like, I never felt it.
You know what I'm saying?
1160
01:23:16,324 --> 01:23:21,913
That hurt, so I don't even wanna come back
just because of how I felt that day.
1161
01:23:46,229 --> 01:23:50,692
Earth takes one year
to circle around Sun.
1162
01:23:55,071 --> 01:23:59,784
So... so one year... So it will stop,
and one year later it will go,
1163
01:23:59,868 --> 01:24:01,453
and it will keep going.
1164
01:24:07,834 --> 01:24:09,002
It will keep going,
1165
01:24:09,919 --> 01:24:11,296
and it will never stop.
1166
01:24:13,465 --> 01:24:18,386
One, two, three, four, five,
1167
01:24:18,470 --> 01:24:21,723
six, seven, and I see my dad.
1168
01:24:52,712 --> 01:24:53,546
No.
1169
01:24:56,007 --> 01:24:58,343
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
1170
01:24:58,426 --> 01:24:59,677
No.
1171
01:24:59,761 --> 01:25:01,572
I don't want no music.
1172
01:25:01,596 --> 01:25:02,931
No music.
1173
01:25:03,014 --> 01:25:04,557
- No music.
- Nope.
1174
01:25:05,433 --> 01:25:08,269
- Just regular happy birthday.
- Nope.
1175
01:25:12,023 --> 01:25:14,567
I think he's gonna call you
on Saturday.
1176
01:25:15,693 --> 01:25:18,822
But you could send him a message
in the email if you like.
1177
01:26:38,443 --> 01:26:39,611
Hey, Bre!
1178
01:26:40,987 --> 01:26:41,988
Can you hear me?
1179
01:26:43,031 --> 01:26:46,284
- Fifty-three. Sixty.
- The phone is in and out.
1180
01:26:47,243 --> 01:26:48,453
- Baby?
- Four.
1181
01:26:48,536 --> 01:26:49,972
This call
is from a federal prison.
1182
01:26:49,996 --> 01:26:51,080
Fifty...
1183
01:26:51,164 --> 01:26:53,875
You see, you know
how to answer the phone when Daddy call?
1184
01:26:53,958 --> 01:26:54,959
Yep.
1185
01:26:55,752 --> 01:26:58,630
So, make sure when Daddy call,
when you see Daddy calling,
1186
01:26:58,713 --> 01:27:01,466
put that...
put that game down and answer the phone.
1187
01:27:02,550 --> 01:27:03,550
Okay.
1188
01:27:05,970 --> 01:27:08,306
I wish you was coming home right now.
1189
01:27:08,932 --> 01:27:10,808
I wish I can too, baby.
1190
01:27:38,920 --> 01:27:41,965
I got her these jeans from Zara.
1191
01:27:42,882 --> 01:27:43,882
Um...
1192
01:27:45,176 --> 01:27:46,176
She, um...
1193
01:27:46,886 --> 01:27:51,182
Skinny jeans anyways, so,
and they stretch, so...
1194
01:27:51,975 --> 01:27:55,228
I try to get her... get her these ones.
1195
01:27:56,604 --> 01:28:01,025
And hopefully, she fit 'em,
she should be able to fit these.
1196
01:28:01,109 --> 01:28:07,031
And I got her
a Kenneth Cole leather jacket.
1197
01:28:17,083 --> 01:28:18,668
You have a job yet?
1198
01:28:18,751 --> 01:28:22,463
Well, I have to get my ID.
I had one waiting.
1199
01:28:23,381 --> 01:28:24,799
Uh, what kinda job?
1200
01:28:24,882 --> 01:28:27,927
Working at the receiving home
with some juveniles.
1201
01:28:34,309 --> 01:28:35,768
Are you changing?
1202
01:28:35,852 --> 01:28:37,603
- Am I changing?
- Yeah, like...
1203
01:28:37,687 --> 01:28:39,147
Yeah. Far as what?
1204
01:28:39,230 --> 01:28:40,898
- Like...
- I change every day.
1205
01:28:40,982 --> 01:28:42,817
No, not... Oh my goodness.
1206
01:28:43,609 --> 01:28:45,111
Like, personality-wise.
1207
01:28:45,194 --> 01:28:47,905
That's what I'm talking about.
I change every day.
1208
01:28:49,115 --> 01:28:51,284
- Okay.
- I don't stay the same.
1209
01:28:51,367 --> 01:28:54,078
I change every day,
every second, every minute.
1210
01:28:57,999 --> 01:28:58,999
Yeah.
1211
01:29:02,003 --> 01:29:03,463
Wow. Oh my gosh.
1212
01:29:03,546 --> 01:29:05,465
Like, this is my dad.
1213
01:29:08,468 --> 01:29:11,346
We could talk about
our future together,
1214
01:29:11,429 --> 01:29:13,598
but now I gotta earn your trust back
1215
01:29:13,681 --> 01:29:16,559
'cause you've been gone for so long.
1216
01:29:50,593 --> 01:29:52,512
I always think about that dance.
1217
01:29:52,595 --> 01:29:54,639
When I can touch him it's like...
1218
01:29:55,681 --> 01:29:58,142
it's like nothing else on Earth.
1219
01:29:59,977 --> 01:30:02,355
When I first got in there,
I first saw him,
1220
01:30:02,438 --> 01:30:05,149
I was like,
"Oh my God. Dad looks so nice."
1221
01:30:05,233 --> 01:30:06,609
You started crying ASAP.
1222
01:30:06,692 --> 01:30:09,112
Yeah, it was like,
"I can't even believe this."
1223
01:30:09,195 --> 01:30:10,321
Like, here right now!
1224
01:30:10,405 --> 01:30:13,408
Like, "Dad, you're, like,
right here right now. Like, let's go."
1225
01:30:13,491 --> 01:30:15,326
- Let's go.
- "Forget this dance. Let's go."
1226
01:30:15,410 --> 01:30:16,744
Yeah, get you outta here.
1227
01:30:16,828 --> 01:30:21,207
Then, there wasn't any dancing.
Just took pictures.
1228
01:30:21,791 --> 01:30:23,376
- Mm-hmm.
- It was nice.
1229
01:30:23,459 --> 01:30:25,795
They should have sung Beyoncé, "Freedom."
1230
01:30:26,379 --> 01:30:29,590
♪ Freedom, freedom, I can't move ♪
1231
01:30:29,674 --> 01:30:31,717
♪ Freedom, cut me loose ♪
1232
01:30:31,801 --> 01:30:35,430
♪ Say, freedom, freedom, where are you? ♪
1233
01:30:35,513 --> 01:30:38,193
- ♪ Hey, 'cause I need freedom too ♪
- ♪ 'Cause I need freedom too ♪
1234
01:30:38,266 --> 01:30:41,060
♪ I break chains all by myself ♪
1235
01:30:41,144 --> 01:30:44,355
♪ Won't let my freedom rot in hell ♪
1236
01:30:44,439 --> 01:30:47,108
♪ Hey! I'mma keep it running ♪
1237
01:30:47,191 --> 01:30:49,986
♪ 'Cause a winner
Don't quit on themselves ♪
1238
01:30:50,069 --> 01:30:50,987
Hey!
1239
01:30:53,156 --> 01:30:57,076
I always think about that dance,
and I always go back to that day.
1240
01:30:57,160 --> 01:31:00,037
It always helps me out. It helps me cope.
1241
01:31:02,665 --> 01:31:05,209
It made me feel motivated, like,
1242
01:31:06,210 --> 01:31:07,336
"He gonna be home soon,
1243
01:31:07,420 --> 01:31:10,047
so you can't let him
come home disappointed."
1244
01:31:10,131 --> 01:31:11,799
"Gotta stand your ground."
1245
01:31:18,723 --> 01:31:20,558
Raziah Brooks.
1246
01:31:29,150 --> 01:31:32,069
I wish he was here now.
He wish he was here too.
1247
01:31:32,153 --> 01:31:34,197
But I did this for us.
1248
01:31:34,280 --> 01:31:37,283
And when he come home,
he gonna see it, so it's okay.
1249
01:31:38,159 --> 01:31:41,662
I got this for him, though.
I got this for him.
1250
01:31:43,831 --> 01:31:45,041
Free my heart.
1251
01:31:45,917 --> 01:31:47,043
Free my dad.
1252
01:31:47,752 --> 01:31:51,756
'Cause, you know, his daughter did it!
1253
01:31:51,839 --> 01:31:54,509
His firstborn did it! You know?
1254
01:31:55,635 --> 01:31:58,679
You know
his firstborn gonna do it every time.
1255
01:31:58,763 --> 01:31:59,847
Period.
1256
01:32:06,312 --> 01:32:08,105
He just, like, popped up.
1257
01:32:08,898 --> 01:32:11,651
He came home around four
in the morning. I was sleeping.
1258
01:32:11,734 --> 01:32:15,279
He just woke me out my sleep.
I thought it was still a dream and then,
1259
01:32:15,780 --> 01:32:19,659
I was just like, "Oh, this is for real."
1260
01:32:26,165 --> 01:32:30,336
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
1261
01:32:31,003 --> 01:32:35,341
♪ Happy birthday, dear 'Tana ♪
1262
01:32:36,175 --> 01:32:39,136
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
1263
01:32:39,220 --> 01:32:41,114
- How old are you?
- Make a wish.
1264
01:32:41,138 --> 01:32:43,224
- Thirteen!
- All right, make your wish.
1265
01:32:43,307 --> 01:32:44,307
Don't blow...
1266
01:32:48,479 --> 01:32:52,233
- Yeah!
- Yay!
1267
01:32:52,733 --> 01:32:54,151
Thirteen.
1268
01:32:56,279 --> 01:32:58,281
All right. Go ahead, go ahead.
1269
01:33:03,578 --> 01:33:07,039
The father-daughter dance, it... it...
it was different, it was different,
1270
01:33:07,123 --> 01:33:09,584
like I said,
'cause it's no touch visits in jail,
1271
01:33:09,667 --> 01:33:13,462
so for me to be able to hug my daughter
and play fight with her.
1272
01:33:13,546 --> 01:33:15,923
You know, she likes play fighting,
but for me to do that,
1273
01:33:16,007 --> 01:33:18,509
like I said, it was definitely amazing.
1274
01:33:18,593 --> 01:33:21,846
I wasn't... For... for that six hours,
I wasn't incarcerated.
1275
01:33:21,929 --> 01:33:25,516
My mind was literally with my daughter.
I wasn't thinking about nothing.
1276
01:33:25,600 --> 01:33:30,104
Like, when it was time for her to go,
I was... I was... I was confused.
1277
01:33:30,187 --> 01:33:32,773
When it was time for the dance,
I was confused, like,
1278
01:33:32,857 --> 01:33:36,277
"Damn, wait a minute.
I'm not going home with my daughter?"
1279
01:33:36,360 --> 01:33:40,323
Yeah, so it was definitely amazing.
It was definitely amazing.
1280
01:33:42,867 --> 01:33:46,704
Throughout my whole life,
I never stayed out of prison
1281
01:33:46,787 --> 01:33:49,624
for more than, I wanna say, six months.
1282
01:33:50,291 --> 01:33:53,794
It's like, I come home,
it wasn't... it ain't take me six months,
1283
01:33:53,878 --> 01:33:55,796
I was already locked up again.
1284
01:33:56,380 --> 01:33:59,508
And me just being able to spend time
with my daughter while I was locked up
1285
01:33:59,592 --> 01:34:01,636
when they did the dance...
1286
01:34:01,719 --> 01:34:05,264
It's... it's... it's going on four years,
and I haven't been rearrested,
1287
01:34:05,806 --> 01:34:10,519
so I would definitely say, you know,
it was a definitely a life-changer for me.
1288
01:34:12,313 --> 01:34:15,024
- What is it? What's the F-word?
- F-U.
1289
01:34:15,107 --> 01:34:16,987
- Let me hear you say it.
- No!
1290
01:34:17,068 --> 01:34:19,195
Why not? You say it any other time.
1291
01:34:19,278 --> 01:34:22,239
You say it when I'm not around.
You might as well go ahead and say it.
1292
01:34:22,323 --> 01:34:24,158
Nuh-uh. Atrocious.
1293
01:34:24,241 --> 01:34:26,452
You know...
you know Cardi B got a twin sister?
1294
01:34:27,078 --> 01:34:29,997
She... she work out a lot.
Her twin sister work out a lot.
1295
01:34:30,081 --> 01:34:33,167
Cardi B's twin sister.
Her name is, uh, Cardi O.
1296
01:34:35,086 --> 01:34:38,172
For real, stop! Daddy, stop!
1297
01:34:38,255 --> 01:34:39,757
That's enough. That's enough.
1298
01:34:39,840 --> 01:34:41,234
- That's it?
- That's enough.
1299
01:34:41,258 --> 01:34:44,220
Aight. I ain't gonna...
You right. You right.
1300
01:34:44,303 --> 01:34:45,137
This way.
1301
01:34:47,056 --> 01:34:48,933
Move! What? Move.
1302
01:34:49,725 --> 01:34:51,161
- Come on.
- Hey. Come here.
1303
01:34:51,185 --> 01:34:53,437
Chicken ready. Stop running. Stop running.
1304
01:34:54,105 --> 01:34:56,190
You want some fish, Mimi? Want some...
1305
01:34:56,273 --> 01:34:59,318
You're gonna hold your plate. You're
gonna waste your food. Want some fish?
1306
01:35:01,696 --> 01:35:04,573
- She's not getting it.
- She gonna grab. You gotta push it back.
1307
01:35:04,657 --> 01:35:07,618
We need the booster for her
so we can put the car seat in there.
1308
01:35:07,702 --> 01:35:09,870
You better not grab nothing over here.
1309
01:35:12,456 --> 01:35:15,376
He's doing actually well.
Like, he's doing it.
1310
01:35:15,459 --> 01:35:19,422
Like, he's actually doing
what we was talking about.
1311
01:35:20,715 --> 01:35:22,925
Eat yo' food.
You got all that food right there.
1312
01:35:23,008 --> 01:35:28,347
You got fish, fries, macaroni,
fried rice, broccoli, and, um...
1313
01:35:29,515 --> 01:35:31,934
Yeah, I was... I'm just happy.
1314
01:36:01,088 --> 01:36:05,509
Bre, can you get up now,
so we can start to get ready?
1315
01:36:07,928 --> 01:36:08,928
Bre?
1316
01:36:11,182 --> 01:36:12,182
Bre?
1317
01:36:12,850 --> 01:36:13,850
No!
1318
01:36:18,689 --> 01:36:19,689
You up?
1319
01:36:20,524 --> 01:36:21,524
You sure?
1320
01:36:23,527 --> 01:36:24,527
You sure?
1321
01:36:26,030 --> 01:36:27,740
Are you sure?
1322
01:36:56,185 --> 01:36:57,520
Where you headed?
1323
01:36:57,603 --> 01:37:00,815
- Uh, to visitations.
- Where at?
1324
01:37:00,898 --> 01:37:03,359
Um, USP...
1325
01:37:03,442 --> 01:37:05,319
USP medium or the low?
1326
01:37:05,402 --> 01:37:06,402
Medium.
1327
01:37:06,445 --> 01:37:08,906
Okay, I need to check all...
scan all over you.
1328
01:37:27,466 --> 01:37:29,885
When I came out,
she really didn't recognize me.
1329
01:37:41,021 --> 01:37:43,065
There was plexiglass between us.
1330
01:37:45,818 --> 01:37:47,403
Couldn't hear... I couldn't hear.
1331
01:37:49,238 --> 01:37:50,656
She wouldn't open up to me.
1332
01:37:53,993 --> 01:37:56,704
I thought it was like,
oh, she was upset with me.
1333
01:38:02,376 --> 01:38:04,503
It got to me a lot, you know?
1334
01:38:05,546 --> 01:38:07,089
I... I thought it would be better.
1335
01:38:30,613 --> 01:38:32,823
I would like to touch her,
so it could reset.
1336
01:38:42,166 --> 01:38:44,877
When she asked to leave,
I was just like, "Oh..."
1337
01:38:47,588 --> 01:38:49,423
It was, like, very hard on me.
1338
01:38:59,934 --> 01:39:02,937
Yeah, I can hear you now.
I can hear you way better now.
1339
01:39:03,854 --> 01:39:04,854
Okay.
1340
01:39:05,439 --> 01:39:08,067
Did you ever get...
You finally got something to eat?
1341
01:39:08,150 --> 01:39:09,150
Mm-hmm.
1342
01:39:10,694 --> 01:39:11,612
Okay.
1343
01:39:11,695 --> 01:39:13,489
We... we went to Applebee's.
1344
01:39:14,573 --> 01:39:16,784
- Huh?
- We went to Applebee's!
1345
01:39:18,118 --> 01:39:19,118
Yeah.
1346
01:39:19,828 --> 01:39:21,914
I tried calling you. I tried calling you.
1347
01:39:21,997 --> 01:39:24,184
You didn't answer,
so I figured you probably was eating.
1348
01:39:24,208 --> 01:39:26,168
My phone was in the car. I think.
1349
01:39:27,753 --> 01:39:28,753
Okay.
1350
01:39:30,673 --> 01:39:32,716
- You had a good visit on Daddy?
- Mm-hmm.
1351
01:39:32,800 --> 01:39:34,680
Could've been better.
I can't wait to touch you.
1352
01:39:34,718 --> 01:39:35,970
Glad to see you.
1353
01:39:36,053 --> 01:39:37,721
Glad to see you some more.
1354
01:39:38,389 --> 01:39:39,389
Mm-hmm.
1355
01:39:42,768 --> 01:39:45,813
Hey, I was just talking about you.
1356
01:39:46,438 --> 01:39:48,691
Daddy misses you. I talk about you.
1357
01:39:49,900 --> 01:39:50,900
Okay.
1358
01:39:52,736 --> 01:39:55,489
I brag about how smart you are.
1359
01:39:58,242 --> 01:39:59,242
Okay.
1360
01:40:01,036 --> 01:40:02,036
Okay.
1361
01:40:02,621 --> 01:40:03,872
Y'all almost home?
1362
01:40:07,751 --> 01:40:08,877
- Hello?
- Yeah?
1363
01:40:10,129 --> 01:40:11,463
Y'all almost home?
1364
01:40:14,800 --> 01:40:17,511
We're probably
still a couple more hours away.
1365
01:40:21,682 --> 01:40:24,393
If I don't call you sometime soon,
like in a couple of days,
1366
01:40:24,476 --> 01:40:26,645
I'll have to call you after the 22nd.
1367
01:40:26,729 --> 01:40:27,729
Okay.
1368
01:40:29,023 --> 01:40:31,525
- I'm collecting my minutes now.
- Okay.
1369
01:40:34,111 --> 01:40:35,487
- You there?
- Yes.
1370
01:40:36,947 --> 01:40:39,450
I'm about to call Grandma,
to check on Grandma.
1371
01:40:39,533 --> 01:40:40,367
Okay.
1372
01:40:41,869 --> 01:40:43,704
- Love you.
- Love you too.
1373
01:40:45,622 --> 01:40:46,749
Love you more.
1374
01:40:47,291 --> 01:40:48,333
Love you more.
1375
01:40:49,460 --> 01:40:50,460
All right.
1376
01:40:52,171 --> 01:40:53,171
Be good.
1377
01:40:53,756 --> 01:40:54,798
Okay. You too.
1378
01:40:55,966 --> 01:40:56,966
Yeah.
1379
01:41:18,030 --> 01:41:20,783
♪ That's all right, that's all right ♪
1380
01:41:20,866 --> 01:41:25,704
♪ That's all right, that's all right ♪
1381
01:41:25,788 --> 01:41:30,501
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1382
01:41:30,584 --> 01:41:32,628
♪ That's all right ♪
1383
01:41:32,711 --> 01:41:36,924
♪ My, my mama, how you walkin' low ♪
1384
01:41:37,007 --> 01:41:41,512
♪ Your feet may slip
But your soul ain′t gone ♪
1385
01:41:41,595 --> 01:41:46,058
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1386
01:41:46,141 --> 01:41:48,185
♪ That's all right ♪
1387
01:41:48,268 --> 01:41:52,731
♪ That's all right, that's all right ♪
1388
01:41:52,815 --> 01:41:56,860
♪ That's all right, that's all right ♪
1389
01:41:56,944 --> 01:42:01,365
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1390
01:42:01,448 --> 01:42:03,200
♪ That's all right ♪
1391
01:42:03,700 --> 01:42:07,621
♪ Hush, little baby, don't you cry ♪
1392
01:42:07,704 --> 01:42:12,251
♪ You know your mother been born to die ♪
1393
01:42:12,334 --> 01:42:16,797
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1394
01:42:16,880 --> 01:42:18,507
♪ That's all right ♪
1395
01:42:19,049 --> 01:42:22,761
♪ That's all right, that's all right ♪
1396
01:42:22,845 --> 01:42:27,141
♪ It'll be all right, it'll be all right ♪
1397
01:42:27,683 --> 01:42:31,979
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1398
01:42:32,062 --> 01:42:33,939
♪ That's all right ♪
1399
01:42:34,022 --> 01:42:38,277
♪ Jacob laugh so long and tall ♪
1400
01:42:38,360 --> 01:42:42,489
♪ You ain't gonna feel it
You're sure to fall ♪
1401
01:42:42,573 --> 01:42:46,869
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1402
01:42:46,952 --> 01:42:48,829
♪ That's all right ♪
1403
01:42:49,705 --> 01:42:53,500
♪ My, my mama, how you walkin' low ♪
1404
01:42:53,584 --> 01:42:58,046
♪ Your feet may slip
But your soul ain′t gone ♪
1405
01:42:58,130 --> 01:43:02,759
♪ Since my soul
Got a seat up in the kingdom ♪
1406
01:43:02,843 --> 01:43:04,845
♪ That's all right ♪
1407
01:43:20,611 --> 01:43:22,404
I wanna dedicate this song
1408
01:43:25,532 --> 01:43:27,868
To the most wonderful person that I know
1409
01:43:31,872 --> 01:43:34,958
She filled my life with joy and happiness
1410
01:43:38,545 --> 01:43:40,714
And I have her love wherever I go
1411
01:43:41,965 --> 01:43:44,676
I wanna tell her
How I feel about her tonight, listen
1412
01:43:46,970 --> 01:43:51,808
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1413
01:43:51,892 --> 01:43:55,520
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1414
01:44:00,067 --> 01:44:04,905
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1415
01:44:04,988 --> 01:44:08,617
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1416
01:44:12,996 --> 01:44:19,586
♪ It ain't no love, ain't no love, no ♪
1417
01:44:19,670 --> 01:44:22,339
♪ Like my baby's love ♪
1418
01:44:26,176 --> 01:44:29,680
♪ You bring me so much joy and happiness ♪
1419
01:44:31,348 --> 01:44:35,769
♪ Ooh, like it rains from above ♪
1420
01:44:37,688 --> 01:44:39,439
♪ Oh, baby ♪
1421
01:44:39,523 --> 01:44:44,361
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1422
01:44:44,444 --> 01:44:48,073
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1423
01:44:52,536 --> 01:44:57,374
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1424
01:44:57,457 --> 01:45:01,086
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1425
01:45:05,382 --> 01:45:07,718
♪ I don't need much money ♪
1426
01:45:10,220 --> 01:45:12,806
♪ I don't need no big fine car ♪
1427
01:45:16,893 --> 01:45:20,397
♪ Other temptations
Don't bother me no more ♪
1428
01:45:23,191 --> 01:45:26,194
♪ 'Cause you're my only pride and joy ♪
1429
01:45:28,196 --> 01:45:29,990
♪ Yeah, baby ♪
1430
01:45:31,700 --> 01:45:36,538
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1431
01:45:36,621 --> 01:45:40,250
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1432
01:45:40,334 --> 01:45:43,128
♪ My baby, my baby, my baby ♪
1433
01:45:44,713 --> 01:45:49,551
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1434
01:45:49,634 --> 01:45:53,263
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1435
01:45:57,559 --> 01:45:59,644
♪ I don't need no doctor ♪
1436
01:46:02,481 --> 01:46:05,108
♪ Whenever I'm in pain ♪
1437
01:46:08,904 --> 01:46:12,240
♪ You cool my scorching fever ♪
1438
01:46:15,452 --> 01:46:18,622
♪ Simply by calling my name ♪
1439
01:46:20,415 --> 01:46:22,751
♪ Hey, hey, yeah ♪
1440
01:46:23,710 --> 01:46:28,548
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1441
01:46:28,632 --> 01:46:32,094
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1442
01:46:36,556 --> 01:46:41,395
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1443
01:46:41,478 --> 01:46:44,898
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
1444
01:46:44,981 --> 01:46:46,983
♪ Let me say it one more time ♪
1445
01:46:49,277 --> 01:46:54,116
♪ You're the sweetest thing ♪
1446
01:46:54,199 --> 01:46:57,828
♪ On this side of heaven ♪
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