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-Looking back now, I did love you. -No, you didn't.

I swear to you, I did love you.

I just miss you in general.

Never say never.

-Do we have a future together? -No.

Hey.

Yes, told my Mum and my Dad.

Wow.

Oh, God.

-Have you ever faked an orgasm with me? -No.

-Lie. -Have you? You have.

I never had to.

That's what I like to hear. Oh, yeah.

You told the truth.

Damn. Hell, yeah.

She is telling the truth.

Thank you.

That's the truth. Boom, boom.

-Give us the truth. -Give us the truth.

-Do you regret rejecting me? -No.

-She's still lying. -How do you know?

Ask her, are you in love with me?

I'm so sorry.

I properly love you.

Tell the truth.

I'd say I love you.

I love you.

The truth is scary, and a lot of people avoid...

...having honest conversations in their relationships.

If you just have honest conversations, You could solve your problems.

The people coming to me are either ex-couples...

...current Couples, or people that are in brand new relationships.

They all need answers.

I'll make sure that they have the most honest...

...conversation of their lives.

When I love someone, and I fall in love with someone, I love them.

I'm here with Kath.

Every time we're single...

...we're drawn to each other like two magnets.

Like, we'll sleep together and we'll wake up the next day...

...like nothing's happened.

Our latest development is we made a pact...

...that if we want to sleep with someone else...

...we'll tell each other first.

I don't know what it is, I'm as confused myself.

Kath, first question.

How do you feel about talking today?

Nervous.

Yeah, nervous.

True.

Sometimes the truth is scary.

-Very. -Yeah.

-Very scary. -Yeah.

How do you feel about today's conversation?

Very, very nervous, but excited at the same time.

Good, good answer. OK.

What mark out of 10 would you give my looks today?

Gotta be a 10.

Lie.

-She says it's gotta be a 10. -Oh, I did, yeah.

Not "it is a 10", "it's gotta be..."

It has to be because she wants to make you feel good.

Give him the honest mark.

-He's good. -No sugar coating.

What mark out of 10 would you give him for his looks today.

Nine.

Truth.

Yeah.

Why didn't you say nine the first time?

I don't know.

Because you wanted to make him feel good.

-Yeah. -That's...

...make him feel good, yeah.

...that's why people lie.

People lie for certain reasons.

I don't want to make you feel bad, or I don't want to look bad.

-Yeah. -Good. Next question, Kath.

What's your sexual fantasy?

I'd like to have sex on my car bonnet.

I haven't done that.

I definitely would like to do that.

What kind of car do you drive?

-I drive a Vauxhall Corsa... -Oh, OK.

Which is very good on fuel.

Next question.

Wow!

Have you ever faked an orgasm?

-No. -No, I'd be surprised if you said yes.

-I always tell you if I don't orgasm. -Yes.

-True. -Yeah.

Steve is probably one of the most amazing people I've ever met.

I don't really have any interest in sleeping with anyone else.

I'd love to have a future with Steve.

I could see me and Steve getting married and eventually having kids.

If we're exclusive, are we in a relationship?

I literally only had one previous female relationship and I haven't had any since.

Everyone loves Danica.

Everyone loves her, like, they always say she was so good for me.

I do want to see if me and her dating again and starting afresh would work out.

When we see each other the sparks are always still there.

There's so much chemistry between us.

On a scale of one to 10, how hot do I look today?

I give you about a 20.

Thank you.

That was truthful. Next question, please, Danica. Thank you.

What was the first thing that attracted you to me?

Your eyes.

They're sexy.

Say that the eyes are the window to the soul.

-Right? -Yeah.

I can see your soul through your eyes.

Next question.

Describe my kissing technique.

Mesmerising.

Thanks.

Our relationship progressed from the first date quite quickly, I would say.

I was literally just staring at her for ages.

The chemistry then or the attraction to was like, it was pretty much like, wow.

Am I good in bed?

Hell, yeah!

That's the truth.

Why did you say, "Hell, yeah?"

-She's the best I've had, so... -Wow!

We don't just have sex, we make love.

-Big difference. -Yeah.

Do you still fancy me?

Yes.

Do you still fancy me?

Of course I do.

What do you miss most about me?

I miss waking up next to you.

You know that I miss you because I've been bugging you like, recently.

...because you haven't really been like, showing me any attention.

Next question.

What was the last lie you told me?

That I'm cool with being just friends with you.

-Do you love me? -Yes.

You know I love you.

Do you love me as much now as you did at the beginning?

More.

-Are you in love with me? -Yes.

You know when you just lock eyes with somebody, and you're like...

...oh, he's a bit of all right.

Me and Can first met, we were laughing, dancing...

...singing, like, in a massive group.

And I'm jumping in his Snapchat, and he's like...

...and then after I'm like, oh, send me that, send me that...

...and he's like, oh, well, I need to get your number then.

We are just like soulmates but I just want to know where he sees us.

Like, future, what he really thinks...

...because we've not had that in-depth conversation.

What one word would you use to describe me?

Essex.

Loud, bubbly, fun, fake tan.

Hair, that is my type, Essex.

-All right, honest answer. -Cool.

Ooh, it's upside down.

Am I a good boyfriend?

No. No, I'm joking.

Whoa! Is she lying?

-Do you think he's a good boyfriend? -Yeah.

I think you are a good boyfriend.

You have your little bit of immaturity side that we all know about...

...but genuinely, I mean, you are a good boyfriend.

-You're there, you listen to me. -Cool.

-Yeah. -That's a truthful answer.

-Yeah, I'm happy with that. -Truthful answer.

And sort of sometimes the answers become obvious to go, "Well, you know..."

"...she wouldn't be with me if I wasn't a good boyfriend, so..."

-...but we like to hear it, though, yes? -Yeah, of course, yeah.

OK.

I was actually asking myself this question this morning.

Am I better with or without a tan?

I like your tan, but sometimes I feel like it's too much.

So I think half a tan.

-You're better with half a tan. -Which half?

How can I be half tanned?

No, a bit less orange.

Are you saying I'm orange?

No, you're not too orange.

-Am I orange? -I don't think she's orange.

She's not orange, but it would be better, she would be better with a lighter tan.

Alright, boss.

So, and you've got it, Can.

-Oh, my God, what? -Do you think I'm well hung?

Now, how do I answer this?

-Right, OK. -You answer it yes or no.

I'm going to answer it like this.

It's about the motion of the ocean.

-You're not well hung. -No.

I've got no problems there. That's fine.

-That's what counts, good. -Enough is enough, yeah, really.

Who is the smartest, me or you? This is the easy question.

Oh, my God!

Yeah. There are some elements, like geography...

...just little things that I don't get, like...

...you did teach me that a rhinoceros is not a rhinosaurus, remember?

You talking about a rhinoceros then?

I suppose you're just pronouncing it differently.

Yeah, 'cause I didn't think...

-...it was called a rhinoceros. -Rhinoceros, right.

So the moral of the story is you're smarter in some ways...

...but not in all ways, because...

...I have 10 years' more experience than you...

...so I'm more, like, life experience.

When I first met her...

I didn't know her age 'cause she does look a lot younger than she is.

I thought she was 21, 22, which is my average...

...average age of my exes.

I thought OK, she is a lot older, what, is it, is it possible to work?

Do you wish I was younger?

Yeah, I'm not going to lie.

I do, I do think...

...it just makes things easier, you know, we'll be...

...we'll be rolling at the same age.

For example, getting married, having kids, moving out...

...like, together, growing up together.

My friends have a lot of banter with me about our age gap relationship.

They think it's funny, but we do have a lot of banter between us...

...and I say things to them, they say it to me.

They do mention a lot how she's old enough to be my Mum and she's a milf,

...because she has a daughter and stuff like that.

But I take that as a compliment.

What do your parents think about our age gap?

Right.

I don't even know if they know.

-I've never had this conversation. -I know we haven't had this conversation.

They do know, yeah, they know.

And?

I'm shocked.

You've been so adamant with moving on...

...that I've just assumed that you're OK...

...with us being just friends.

I'm OK with it, but cool with it, like, yay, no.

Had I had it my way, it wouldn't have been this way.

That's the truth, she's telling the truth.

Let's do the next question.

How serious were you about me?

Very serious, from, from day one.

I didn't even look at another girl.

You had all of me.

Truthful answer.

-Were you jealous of my ex? -Yes.

True.

Why?

Because she had your attention still, and I wanted all of it.

OK.

I definitely felt in, in the middle of everything...

...because it was just like, I was just trying to keep...

...a friendship with my ex and then...

...I was trying to make things work with Danica...

...but I didn't want to get rid of both of them...

...so it was like, back and forth and hearing...

...you know, Danica speak about my ex and hearing my ex speak about Danica...

...and I'm just like, literally caught in the middle.

It's ridiculous.

Did you ever cheat on me?

My Mum's like, "Oh, what are you going to do with a 30-year-old woman?"

They are not entirely happy about it, actually.

But that's because they're parents...

-...and I can relate to that... -That's because they're parents, yeah.

...anyway because I'm a Mum as well...

-...so that's a fair enough answer. -That's the truth, yeah.

Do you think I am too young to know what love is?

That's a good question.

Well, I have had that much more experience in terms of...

...like, relationships, so I know where I'm coming from.

So let's answer the question, yes or no, now.

Do you think he knows what love is?

Not entirely.

So it's no?

I think he's a bit of both.

I don't think I can answer it a full yes or no.

-OK. -Because you don't know.

Do you love her?

Yeah, a lot. A lot, I do.

I just loved... I just look at you and I am happy...

...you do make me happy...

-...and I love that, I love that. -You do say that a lot.

-Yeah, well, it's true. -He does, he does, and I believe him.

-So you do believe him. -Yeah.

OK.

How soon do you want to get married and have kids?

At the moment, because of my age and as a student,

I am not ready at the moment.

If I do have a child and get married...

...it will be between five to 10 years...

...and I know we haven't actually spoken...

-...about anything like this... -No.

-That's why you're here. -That's why we're here.

But if I see myself capable of running a family...

...then I will happily get married and have a kid.

See, that's a mature answer.

That's what I love about him.

He has a mature sense of, like, direction.

Five to 10 years down the road...

...when he's settled and able to support a wife and have children...

...would make you 35 to 40 years old.

How do you feel about being potentially a 35 to 40-year-old bride?

That's fine. I look 10 years younger, babe.

So obviously, if you do the maths, I'm better at maths now...

...if you do the maths...

...when I'm 40, I'm going to look 30.

When you're 90, you'll look 80. It's great.

So to be honest, age don't matter, does it?

-Exactly. -It doesn't matter.

-Age is here. -It's all in the mind.

Exactly.

Today has opened up my eyes a little bit more, actually, and I think him too.

-That's all you're getting, though. -OK.

I have told her the truth and she knows now.

And I'm glad that she does understand it.

Did you ever cheat on me?

Yes.

With who?

My ex.

Yeah?

When?

Like... a few days before we break up.

I did it...

...because I still want to know if I still have feelings for her...

And...

...after it happened...

That's when I like...

I realised that I don't.

I'm not in love with her or don't want to be with her...

I don't want anything with her.

I ignored my instincts.

I ignored what I really knew...

...because I wanted to believe in you.

I want to believe in us.

I did polygraphed her and Susan did...

...confessed that she had...

...an intimate with her ex.

She was honest with me that it was only time...

...that she has been unfaithful to you.

If that make a difference.

I am so sorry that I did that.

Can you ever trust me again?

I don't know.

The door's still open when you answer, "I don't know."

How many people have you slept with since me?

-Four. -Bullshit.

Probably about 15. I've really calmed down.

Three or four.

-He's telling the truth. -Damn it.

Did you meet the girls round the pawn shop?

Is that why it's only 15?

If we're exclusive, are we in a relationship?

No.

I'm not ready for a relationship yet.

Wow.

She didn't have to say a word.

I just looked at her face.

I don't wanna hurt you.

The moment you say, "I'm in a relationship"...

...you've got to talk more.

You've got to phone call each other...

...you've got to put specific time to see each other...

...and it can ruin things.

Have you stuck to our agreement...

-...not to sleep with anyone? -Yeah, yeah, yes, yes.

-I haven't slept with anyone. -Oh, I'd be angry if you said no.

No, I, I haven't slept with anybody.

That's the truth, he has not slept with anyone...

...he's not had intercourse with anyone.

What about anything else?

Yeah, I've kissed somebody.

Wow.

Never thought you'd do that.

-Was it just a kiss? -Yes, it was just a kiss.

Wow.

It was just a kiss, that I can prove to you.

When I asked Steven, did you have any other sexual physical contact with her...

...besides kissing and touching, he answered, no.

As you can see, there's no significant reaction...

...which in a polygraph means he's telling the truth.

Yup.

Can you ever trust me again?

I don't know.

The door is still open when you answer, "I don't know."

So you haven't shut the door.

People make mistakes.

I've made mistakes in my past.

-Yeah. -You know?

I'm not, I'm not a saint.

So, you know, it's unfair to judge you like that.

I don't think you're a bad person.

It's a good, honest answer.

Do you think you can fall in love with me again?

Yes.

Told you you were gonna get the truth today.

-Truth, the whole truth and nothing... -That's been a long time coming.

...but the truth.

After you.

I feel like after today and seeing how she's reacted...

...and how I've reacted as well.

My feelings for her are so strong, like, I know that I love her so much.

With relationships nowadays, it's a little bit awkward...

...because of social media.

Text messages can be misread.

It causes such a massive, like, drama, you don't need it.

I first met Alana on Tinder.

We've gone on a date before, it's now been six months...

...and we still haven't arranged a second date.

I think we need to find out why and where we stand.

Please have a seat.

-Welcome. -Hi..

How hot do I look today?

Stunning, to be fair. I'll give you a 10 out of 10.

-Thanks. -Truth, truth.

You look 10 out of 10 as well.

-Truthful and a good compliment... -I'll take that, yeah.

...right, yeah?

Oh, God.

What's your favourite sexual position?

I don't know, anything where the guy's dominant, I'd say.

-Truthful answer. -In fact, dominant woman...

-...that's just a bit weird. -You still haven't said a position.

-Missionary. -Yeah, but missionary's just standard.

Venture out.

I'm not the sort of guy that sort of like...

...doggy and like, oh, yeah, typical lad banter, yeah...

...more lads' holiday, high fiving his mate.

-Yeah. -I'm not about that.

What's your favourite position?

Well, I would probably say doggy, actually.

-Oh, really? -Yeah.

Oh, God.

Oh, God.

Of all of your first dates, where does ours rank?

It was a good date.

Like, it wasn't bad at all, like, I had a really good time.

Lot of potential here.

Yeah, I really enjoyed the first date, like, I really wanna see him again.

And we were meant to meet, like...

...a week after but at the very last minute, he cancelled on me.

And then we've had like, another date, like...

...a few days after, and he cancelled on me, like, an hour before again.

So then I was just like, oh, right...

...that's it, like, you've lost your chance.

Like, I'm not gonna just wait around for you.

He's tried to do the second date about like...

...probably like, 20 times.

-Do you think I'm a player? -Yeah.

-True. -Yeah, I do.

You just kind of give off that kind of vibe.

Definitely wrong there, definitely wrong.

Well.

Not a player, 100 percent.

Since our last date, how many people have you had sexual contact with?

Three. Two or three.

Truthful.

Nice.

I've slept with two people.

So I'm not that bad after all, am I?

-No, it's close, it's... -I'm not that bad.

Basically, I treat girls with respect.

A lot of my mates say, oh, you're too nice.

So I always sort of like, get walked all over by different girls.

So now I've got to the point now where I'm not going to change as a person.

Do you know what I mean? I'm, I'm always going to be me so...

...I just need to find the right one.

When dating, who should pay the bill?

I feel like if a guy asks a girl on a date...

...then they're kind of setting them self up to pay...

...but the girl should still offer.

-No, I... -But if you're both, like...

"Oh, shall we go do something?"

Then I feel like it should be, like, an equal thing.

As a genuine guy, I think that it should be...

-...the guy that pays. -Maybe on the first date a guy.

A guy... Not just first date.

I'd say through dating...

...the guy should be the one that sort of makes the effort.

Yeah, but the girl can't, like, just expect.

She has to offer.

That's a good thing because there's a lot of guys today...

...that are like, "Well, she works and, well, she should pay half."

That's a very noble, chivalrous and, like, a proper English gentleman.

-Yeah. -Good.

Who's cancelled more dates?

-Oh, I've probably cancelled more dates. -Yeah.

But that was only because you cancelled dates initially...

...so I was like, no, I can't be bothered.

Between you two, 20 dates have been cancelled.

-I know. -Wow.

Together you've been playing games of, well, he blew me off...

...so I'm going to blow him off, and he blew me, and...

That, now that is exactly what I was on about.

That was the stage where I wasn't sure and then I said, like...

...my head's not really in the right place...

...for anything and, like...

...I don't want to start going on dates with someone if I don't feel like...

I'm going to completely be in it.

Trying to almost protect you even though I probably...

...seemed like I was being horrible.

No, that's fair enough.

Do you want to go a second date?

For God's sake...

Yeah, I would go on a second date.

Give me two high fives.

I, like, came here with one opinion on him, that...

...and he's kind of proven that that opinion...

...isn't exactly what I thought it was.

I'm definitely pleased that I've come today...

...and me and can definitely move forward and go on another date.

If it wasn't for the help from Dan...

...basically, I don't think we'd ever have got to the bottom of it.

So I'm really grateful for today.

I think when you get love right, it can be amazing and beautiful.

I think it's just really hard to find.

Neil is very brash, he's very impulsive.

He was a bit like, rough and ready and I just found that really hot and exciting.

I'd never met anyone like that before.

I'll always love Neil.

I feel like we've never had closure...

...in the sense that we've never really talked about the break up.

All right, gentlemen. Who's going to ask the first question?

Who gets more male attention, you or me?

Absolutely you.

I know it sounds ridiculous but like, this look that's appealing to gay men...

...dark hair, bit laddish, bit boyish...

...and I would say you get a lot more attention.

OK.

What is it?

Who is better at giving blow jobs?

Oh, God.

You, probably.

I'm not that great.

-I wouldn't say. -You were lazier, but when you actually...

...Christmas and birthdays, it was nice.

-Right, yeah, OK. Thanks for that. -Special occasions?

Yes, steak and blow job day.

Horrendous.

How many people have you slept with since me?

I think it's probably about three.

Four.

Maybe, maybe two more but I didn't sleep with them.

-Rudies. -Rudies.

All right, next question.

Was it just a kiss at Gay Pride?

Yes.

We were at Manchester Pride...

...drinking, and he was, when he gets drunk, he gets a bit like...

...you're boring, I just want to dance and be free, and run off into the night.

And I was like, yeah, that's fine, how exciting, great, kind of thing.

Went home, and then literally, 5:00 in the morning...

...my doorbell starts ringing...

...and I go down and open the door, and he's like...

...I'm really, really sorry but I'm, I've kissed someone else.

Always had an inkling there was a little bit more.

-He's not telling the truth. -Is he not?

No, I am telling the truth...

...that it was just a kiss.

-Can I ask you a question? -Please.

-When I kissed you, what do you feel? -Well, I don't know.

You don't have to finish, I know what it makes you feel like.

It's like when we have sex, it's not just with someone random...

...and even when we kiss, it's special to me.

And we care about each other so much...

...but I think we're both scared to go any further...

...because one, we don't want to lose that friendship.

Because so many do when they get together, and what we have already is quite golden.

If I kiss you, I let feelings in.

If I let, if I let feelings in, I'm scared with you...

...because I don't want to lose you out of my life.

I just think we've pushed the feelings, like, away.

Like, they're buried underground.

-Yeah, but they're really... -And they have been for...

...really, really, really buried, yeah.

You have a diamond in your hand, my friend.

Don't lose it while you search for pebbles.

What's my most annoying habit?

Other than breathing?

Picking your nose.

You talk too much.

I'm not going to accept that.

You don't clean up.

-You're just a whinge bag. -Oh, yes.

Now you've got it.

-Was it just a kiss at Gay Pride? -Yes.

So when I asked him...

...besides a kiss...

...did you have any other sexual physical contact that day.

You're going to see that we have a significant...

...reaction indicative of deception.

-So... -You might as well just spill it now.

It was a kiss but what I told you was a...

-Watered down version. -...a watered down version.

But why did you want to stay with me after that, then?

Because it was a mistake.

It was an absolute mistake.

Whenever he was going out drinking...

...I would always be paranoid after that...

...that he was going to go and kiss someone else, or

...do something and I just, I never really could get past it...

...which I guess was my issue.

I probably should have, if, when I said I was going to stay with him.

But that just caused so many problems for us after that.

-But you never got with anyone else? -No, no.

-No. -I didn't.

-Did you? -No.

-Did you ever kiss anybody else? -No.

-I did polygraph you both, didn't I? -Yeah.

I 1,000 and 50 hundred million percent didn't.

OK. Let me get now to Lloyd's results.

He answered no and if you watch...

...you'll see that significant reaction once again.

The only thing I was thinking of that after we'd broken up...

...when I was in New Zealand, I did kiss someone.

You've got to take responsibility for that now, like I did...

-...and say sorry. -Yeah, but we weren't together.

You hadn't informed me that we wasn't together.

Yes, I had, Neil.

We did say that we were going to take time apart...

...and see if we'd changed as people, that's what, how we left it.

Don't know about that.

What do you regret most in our relationship?

Kissing that lad.

True.

Last question.

A free question.

-Shall we go for a pint? -Yeah.

Oh, good, there we go.

I never for one second felt that he'd ever done anything like that behind my back.

But you can't hold on to the past, you've got to move on.

I was thinking, obviously, we hadn't officially broken up...

...when I kissed someone else, and I am sorry for that.

We work really well together right now as friends.

Who knows what'll happen one day in the future?

-You can get the pints in tonight. Eh? -Yeah, OK.

As a sorry...

You're not kids any more.

You know what happens if perhaps you don't let your feelings out?

You might lose her because she might go into another relationship.

You have one last question.

What question do you want to ask Kath?

Yeah, will, will you be with me?

Yes.

True.

Come here.

I do love you.

-I want to give you a cuddle. -Yeah.

-Can I give him a cuddle? -You can give him whatever you want.

All of the couples are leaving...

...having had the most honest conversation of their lives.

They can now take the next step in their relationship with clarity.

That conversation has needed to happen for so many years...

...and it's great to finally get it all out.

I kept with you, I don't want to go with anyone else for the rest of my life.

-I mean that. -Yeah.

I'm in a relationship.

Yeah, with someone...

...who was right in front of me for seven years.

I was very confused with my feelings for Danica.

I just felt like, you know, I liked her but did I like her enough?

But we never had serious conversations before today.

It's helped me understand her more as a person.

Now I can say that maybe there's a chance...

...me and her could just move forward.

It's weird because I've never felt this way with anyone before.

I love her to bits.

After all that with Charley and Dan, it was... it was great.

I've learned a lot, I think the relationship has progressed.

I think we've both taken something away from this, which is great.

I 100 percent believe now that the friendship's the most important thing.

-You can get the pints in tonight. -OK.

The conversation's definitely been a long time coming.

Like I said, there were so many times where...

...I'd love to have just phoned her and said...

"Look, what is actually going on?" but the thing is...

...like, without today it probably would have never happened.

We're all afraid of the truth, but we need it in our relationships.