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I had an idea of what I thought evil was.

I always thought evil was, like, people

that committed crimes against children,

rapists, and things like that.

People think evil has a face, but it

doesn't. It comes in all shapes, forms,

sizes, colors, genders. And

you you can't tell. It's walking amongst

us. Be

mindful ofWho you let into your

space?Who you let into your life?

Sometimes there are blatant signs, and

sometimes people put their mask on

and masquerade, and you don't know until

they take it off.

Karim was masterful at keeping secrets

and keeping his lies in order.

What he did to me and other women

was just reckless and diabolical.

I did not see him coming. He's not gonna

understand the carnage he left behind.

He's a sociopath. He just didn't

care as long as he got what he wanted.

And that's evil.

Me and Kareem met up at a local hospital

we were working at. We were both security

officers. I was responsible for training

him. My first impression of Kareem

was he was friendly.

Charming. He He really talked a lot.

To me, our conversations were harmless. I

mean, it's two co-workers talking to each

other about life and about my

children and them talking about school.

I've been debating going to nursing

school, actually. Really?Yeah, I mean, I

think you should do what you would be

really good at. At

the time, I had an ex-boyfriend that was

stalking me. My ex would sometimes come

to the hospital. where we worked.

Me and Kareem were standing outside, and

my ex drove right up to where we were

standing. Terita! What are you

doing here?You won't answer the phone.

'Cause I don't want to talk to you. And

Kareem's like, Get away from here. She

doesn't want to talk to you anymore. Now

you're trespassing. I think it's best

you go. This ain't none of your business.

And he basically told him, You can go

voluntarily or involuntarily. You can

either leave now, or you can leave when

the police show up. Zarita.

Oh, he left. I didn't feel like I needed

protecting, but the fact that he went the

extra mile to do it, I thought it was

sweet, and I thought it came from a

genuine place. Thanks. I appreciate it.

Bro, we got each other's backs.

Now, in hindsight, I feel like that

He had an agenda. I think that was part

of his plan, too, to make me feel safe.

But he's a wolf in sheep's clothing

because behind that facade, he had

ill intentions. He was approaching me

like predator to prey.

I didn't know where things were going,

but we just knew we were attracted to

each other. It was, like, an intense

attraction. The

first time we had sex, he was like, It's

your choice. We can use a condom or not.

Your protection?

No, I didn't bring any. I

have some. He was more than willing to

not wear a condom. He just told me it

didn't matter to him. I mean, I'm fine if

we don't use one, but if you want to, we

can. And I told him, No, you need to put

on a condom. I'd rather be safe. Okay.

Knowing what I know now, it makes me

angry. He knew what he

was doing was wrong. He knew he had HIV

before he met me.

Right from the beginning, you were

willing to expose me to that. Him

saying a condom or no condom, if

something did happen, he could say, Oh,

you made the choice to not use the

condom. I gave you a choice. You saying

it's optional. He didn't even make an

effort to protect me from him. He was

gambling with my health. He was gambling

with my life. He didn't care. He

liked to take risks. I don't think he

thought about his health or mine.

He just wanted to have sex with me.

We started spending more time together,

and I told him, I don't want anything

just casual. We should be in a

relationship. He

said, I don't use condoms when I'm in

relationships. So he's like, If we're

gonna be in a relationship, I don't want

to use condoms. I said, well, we need

to get tested, and until we're tested,

we're gonna use condoms. Kareem agreed to

go get himself tested, and, um, we

waited to sleep together again until

everybody's results were wrecked.

Hey, you. Guess

what?The STD tests

are basic. Chlamydia, gonorrhea,

trichomoniasis, then you have to ask and

give them permissionfor the HIV

test. So I got tested for all that. I got

my results back. Karim was supposed to go

get the same test I was getting. When my

results came back, everything was fine.

What about yours?Oh, oh.

Yeah, right.

I showed him my papers. But

when he took his test, he only showed me

the STD papers. He didn't show me a test

for HIV. What about the HIV

test?Why is that not on here?

I asked him, where's the printout for

your HIV test?And he said, oh, they

said I didn't need to have a printout.

They would contact me if anything was

wrong, which sounded

familiar to me. I felt like I was pretty

street smart and I could recognize when

somebody was trying to BS me. But you

know, some doctors like, oh, we don't

call you. Everything's fine. No news is

good news, which is what I figured

happened with him. I never got a phone

call, so I guess it's all good.

But I wholeheartedly believe that he did

not get tested for HIV 'cause he knew the

answer already.

That was the first of many lies he

told. That started off like a domino

effect. He told this one lie, and now he

has to keep lying. So you want to skip

dinner and go straight to the bed, or...

Okay. Settle down. He didn't

care about my health. He didn't care

about... My children, he couldn't have,

'cause he absolutely knew that he could

pass the virus to someone.

But I trusted him. I got on birth control

pills, and we never used condoms again. I

thought that I was being responsible.

Every time he slept with me without a

condom was a chance that he was giving me

HIV.

One of my co-workers seemed to have an

attitude about me and him getting closer.

I just thought she was, like, a woman

scorned, or she was jealous.

Aww. Look at you two. Aren't y'all so

cute?One

morning, she came through the door to the

security office. She said, Hey, Corinne,

where's your wife?How's she doing?How's

the missus these days?Why

don't you just shut up?He

raised his voice and was like, Why are

you always messing with us?Why don't you

just mind your business and stop and stop

acting like a a bitch?What did you just

call me?You heard me. It

alarmed me at that time because I had

never seen him act that way. I had never

heard him be disrespectful to a woman.

I'm thinking this is just one of her

shenanigans that she's been pulling. But

I still asked him, like, Why would she

say that particular thing?

What is she talking about?

It's nothing. It's nothing. Didn't sound

like nothing. He told me that he was with

his ex-fiancee for five years, and

we applied for a marriage license, but we

didn't get married. She called off the

engagement. Excuse me?

I wanted to tell you I just didn't know

how you reacted. I felt like it was

believable because I've been to his

house. I didn't see anything

female. In his house, it looked

like a bachelorette, and the fact that we

were together so much, and I felt like if

he had a wife, she would be calling,

like, Why are you not coming home and

stuff?At this point, you really think I'm

married?I just really felt like

that coworker was really just messing

with us, and the explanation he gave to

me made sense. Come on. We got to

clock in for work. Now I know that

he was lying, andThat was

only one small life. There was much

bigger ones waiting for me.

My mother knew I was dating Karim because

my son told her. So the natural next

step was to introduce him to my mom.

She really liked him. They got

close to a point where they had each

other's numbers. And then the

first time I brought up not having met

his family was Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving. I'm out of here. Take

care of you, too. Thanksgiving came, and

I was like, you know, what are you doing?

Can I meet your mom?Can I come over?The

kids and I don't have plans, so I

was thinking

maybe you would like us to join you?

He said no. I don't think that's a good

idea. So, you've met my mom, you've met

my kids. I haven't met anyone from your

family. You haven't even brought up the

subject. Why am I bringing it up in your

night?Why not?

And his explanation was, They

still talk to my ex-fiancee. They're

still attached to her. Even though we

broke up, she's still in contact with

them. And my mom has made the statement,

Don't bring anybody around me unless

you're engaged. Look, trust me, you don't

want to meet my mom right now. It won't

go well. The explanation you gave

me seemed reasonable just based on the

time frame we had been together. I mean,

we hadn't even been together a whole

year. She had been in his life for five

years, so I could understand that. I

don't want to think that you're trying to

hide me. Come on. You know what it's

not like that. You got plenty of time to

meet them. But...

Christmas 2013, it was another

opportunity for the families to get

together. It was the same thing, you

know, nobody else from the outside. It's

just family. So at that point, I just

stopped asking. When I look

back on it and I know what was really

behind the scenes, it was masterful.

I now know Kareem's mother knew that he

had HIV.

And I believe Karim didn't want me to

interact with any of his family so he

could keep his secrets.

Karim had an insatiable appetite for sex.

He wanted it all the time,

every day, multiple times a day.

One time, we were in bed, about to go to

sleep, and we were just talking like we

always did.

What?I want to leave my

mark. He said to me, I

just want to leave an impression on you.

I want to leave an impression on your

life, even if we break up. I want to make

sure you never forget me. I just melted

like butter. I felt like I found the

person that I could be with

long-term. He

made me really happy. I really loved him.

When I think back, those words haunt me

because he he did leave an impression on

my life. He'll forever have a place

in my life that I can't get rid of.

What did he mean by that comment?

I went over it over and over in my mind

what he actually meant by that statement.

I'm gonna leave an imprint on your life,

even if we don't work out.

He did exactly what he said he was gonna

do. It could have been the first time or

the tenth time, but if you keep sleeping

with somebody with HIV, eventually you're

gonna get it.

I was sleeping with the enemy. I was

suspicious of everybody else but him.

And And the chaos was laying right next

to me.

Last time I felt normal was April or

May 2014.

The next couple of days after that, I

thought I had the flu, 'cause I had a

high fever, body aches, you know,

congestion. I just felt horrible.

And that was-- I felt like that for about

a week and a half. two weeks, maybe

longer than the flu should last. That's

when I started going to the doctor.

Kareem would come with me to the doctor's

visits. Actually, he invited himself. He

was like, If you don't mind, I'd like to

come too, 'cause I I want to know what

you know. He was acting like he was

concerned, but I think he was trying

to keep a watchful eye. Same symptoms, huh

It took them so long to find out what was

wrong with me. Even the doctor was

scratching his head like, I don't i don't

know what's going on. Well,

this this doesn't look like the flu.

Your labs don't don't look good. I don't

know what's happening. Well, what do you

think it is?The blood work is

concerning.

And the doctor was like, I'm gonna send

you to a nutritionist.

And Karim was like, see, I've been

telling you, you need to get on your

nutrition and stuff. And he was like,

doc, I tried to tell her she needs to eat

healthier. All you need to do is exercise

and eat right. He was

playing the role that he thought he

should. I want you to talk to a

specialist. In the meantime, I'll run

some more tests and we'll see what we

find. In retrospect, I think he was just

keeping a watchful eye to see exactly

what was going on with my health or if

they said anything about HIV or anything.

He was going to the doctor's appointments

to see what his next move should be. He

probably knew he was making me sick. He

was, like, hoping that I got better. I

want you to get better. I hope we find

out soon what's causing this.

Karim watched me get sick and never said

a thing.

I was progressively getting worse. I

started getting this condition, like

these blotches on my skin

and it would just burn.

Then I started losing my hair, losing

more weight. I wore a beanie all the

time. At one point I was so sick I

couldn't bathe myself. I don't know

what's wrong with me. I had got down to

135 and I looked like death. It was

scary because I didn't know what was

going on. I went to the

doctor and he said your labs look really

bad. I don't like the looks of this.

These are our signs of HIV.

That was the first time HIV was ever

mentioned, but I didn't think that's what

it was, because we both got tested,

and it was negative. That's

impossible. He asked me if he could

run an HIV test, and I told him, Sure.

You're wasting your time. Go ahead. I

still want to make sure. Okay, I don't...

think that's gonna change anything,

but... Kareem was with me, and he was

like, Don't cry. Everything's gonna be

okay. He sat there with a straight face,

and, Babe, it's not HIV. It's gotta be

something else. It can't be that. Why

would it be HIV?We got tested. And I was

like, I know. Like, I said, Well, let him

run the test. I mean, we don't have

anything to hide.

He didn't even flinch. I'm sure when they

figure it out... He'll call us and

they'll let us know. He didn't look

worried. He didn't get

fidgety. He was just sitting there with

his arm around me, and he said, Babe,

everything's gonna be okay. We're gonna

find out what's going on. I was

near death, and he knew that. And at

any point in time, he could have said,

Uh, maybe it's

this. So can you check for this

rather than watch me deteriorate?Let'sgo.

It was cruel for him to watch me suffer.

He'd rather me get sick and die than

tell me the truth.

When I went home after that doctor's

visit, I was pretty confident that I did

not have HIV. We went back to

my house and we started researching

What type of cancers we thought it might

be.

Maybe it's lung cancer or leukemia or

something. But we were kind of going back

and forth about the possibilities.

And then he just started like, I don't

know what it is. He was like, I hope the

doctor can find out what's going on.

Well, we know it's not HIV. He

always acted like he was concerned and

his actions matched his words. So I had

no reason to think he was lying about

anything. Maybe this one.

Yeah, maybe.

Now I know he knew or had an idea

what was going on. Lymphoma?

No, no, no, no, no, noHe probably still

thought that he could get away with it or

finesse me into believing whatever lie he

was gonna tell me at that point.

We're gonna get through it, okay?

Kareem claimed to love me. Which I

think is BS because you can't watch

somebody suffer and claim that you love

them. I was dying and he

knew something was very wrong and he

still said nothing. He watched me

suffer.

The next Thursday, I was in the ICU.

I had been running a fever for three days

and I kept throwing up. I felt like I

was dying. So I went to the hospital,

and they told me everything that was

wrong with me. What is it?

The doctors came in, and they said, Mrs.

Anderson, I know your doctor ran an HIV

test, and he said, We also ran

an HIV test, and you-- which I already

told you that you have HIV.

And I was like, No. And I'm

like, Do you have the right patient?Must

made a mistake. Unfortunately, yes,

ma'am. We ran several tests. And then

I found out other illnesses I had in the

ICU. I had nephritis, which

is inflammation of the liver. I

had hepatitis, which is inflammation of

my kidneys. I had a UTI. I had

severe anemia. My hair was gone, my

nails were gone. I had lost 65

pounds. My blood sugars were out

of whack. I had pancreatitis.

and gallstones. Kamaran was responsible

for everything but my diabetes.

Everything was our direct chain reaction

of the HIV. They told me a

month or less, and I would've been gone.

I would've died. We should discuss

treatment options. Not right now. They

said, Do you have any questions?I was

like, No, get out of my room. Just get

out. Then I called Kamaran. I was like,

You need to get here, and you need to get

here right now. He said, What's wrong?I'm

like,Just get up here right now. I'm

in the ICU. I knew he had it, 'cause he

was the only one that I slept with, so

there was no question that he gave it to

me. Just hurry

up. I just was anxious for him to get

there, 'cause I wanted answers. I

never thought he gave it to me on

purpose. I thought he cheated on me. But

it it made me want to kill him, like,

literally kill him.

When he walked in, I said, Who did you

cheat on me with?And he was like,

What?I said, Kareem, I have HIV. Who did

you cheat on me with?Who is

she?What are you talking about?

What?HIV?I was like, It's not cancer.

It's HIV. So who did you cheat on me with?

And he's like, I've never cheated. And

I was like, Stop lying. Stop lying to

me. Look, we're past that now. I'm in the

ICU, and I'm basically dying from

HIV, so-- and you gave it to me, so where

did you get it from?What did you do to me?

You son of a bitch.

If you cheated on me or you lied about

your test, he was like, No, I took that

test. It was negative. So you cheated on

me. I didn't sleep with anyone.

I said, This is not making sense. It's

either one or the other. Which one is it?

You say you didn't lie about your test,

so you had to cheat. That was the first

time that he did not have all theanswers.

Oh, my God. I don't know what happened.

He was leaning over like this and stuff,

trying to conjure up some tears,

reacting the way he thought he should

react by, you know, kneeling over and

making the faces like he was crying, but

there was, like, one tear.

Now I think about it as comical that he

was trying so hard to get those tears

out. And they weren't there.

That's why I think he's a sociopath.

He has no conscience or humanity. I think

that's all something he--

emotions he learned to fake.

I was like, Something about this is not

right. I don't know what it is, but he's

lying to me, and I've never thought he

lied to me. Just get

out. Get the hell out!

I don't want to look at you. I was like,

I don't want to hear any more lies. Just

get out of my room. Felt like I went into

a grieving period, and he was just

making it worse, so I didn't want to talk

to him. I blocked his number. When he

would come to my house, I didn't answer

the door. I just kept telling him I

didn't want to talk to him. But I

honestly thought that he cheated on me.

It never crossed my mind that he would

lie about that test.

I was depressed. I was heartbroken. I

didn't know if I was going to live or

die. And I was just like, this is

a bad dream. Like, this can't be

happening.

How did my life get to this point?A month

ago, I was-- I was fine. I was happy. How

did I get here?I'm going to get AIDS and

die a horrible death.

I blamed myself, like, I should have saw

something. I should have saw some red

flags. Where were they?How did I miss

them?I couldn't fight through this. I

fought through a lot, but this broke me.

It broke me into little pieces.

And so I took an overdose

of insulin. I

passed out, and the next thing I remember

is my mom was like, Get up, get up.

She said she knocked on the door because

she saw my my car outside, but I didn't

answer, so she used her key to come in,

and she found me on the floor.

So that's how she wound up calling the

ambulance.

Where am I?Back at the

hospital. I was like, Mom, why

did you save me?I was trying to die.

Why did you save me?Why don't you just

leave me there?I don't want to be here

anymore. Don't say that.

My dad told me, God has a purpose for

you. You're here for a reason, and you

have a purpose that you have not

yet found yet, but he's preparing you for

something. And I started thinking. I was

like, What purpose could I possibly have?

I know you don't think you can get

through this, but but you will.

Um, that's me and baby Caden.

He was a day old.

He looked like a little-- a little peanut

wrapped in a blanket, so I started

calling him Peanut. When I first found

out I was pregnant, I didn't know how to

feel about the baby. First person

I called was Kareem, and he said, You

have to get rid of it. I don't want to

have a baby like this. I was like, I

don't want to have HIV like this, but...

Here we are. I I let Kareem

know whether he accepted it or not, I was

gonna go through with the pregnancy

anyway. But the doctor told me

if I kept taking my HIV medication, there

was only a 5% chance that I would pass

HIV to my unborn child.

They tested him right after birth, and it

was negative.

I felt like it was a miracle, and I

didn't know why I wasGiven that

miracle, but I was just thankful. I

had been waiting and waiting and waiting

for somebody to wheel me to go to see

him. This was a happy day for

me. You know, a lot of sadness. He was

some happiness. It took a lot from

both of us for him to get here. That's

the day I said, you know, no, I'm going

to live. I chose life that day.

I can't do it. I can't kill myself.

I immediately called his mother and told

her everything.

I wanted her to know what was going on.

Hi, my name is Sarita. I'm I'm

sure you have no idea who I am. I told

her my name and I said I've been dating

Karim. And I have HIV.

And she said, What?And she started

crying. And she said, Have you talked to

his wife?He's

married?That was a surprise to me.

After I found out he was married, I went

on social media and found her.

And I sent her a message and told her

everything that was going on.

A week after I started communicating with

Kareem's wife, I found out that she was

HIV positive too.

She told me that he had given it to her,

and he had never taken any medication.

That was like an aha moment. This is my

purpose. This is why I was infected.

The purpose was to stop him from

infecting other women.

But it was too late. I

didn't realize how many other women he

had infected.

This is my social media post when I

announced to everyone I was

HIV positive and who gave it to me.

If I die, this this is going to be my

dying declaration. I have to tell people

what happened. After all he's done to

turn my life upside down, I'm here to

testify that evil can look like anything.

Karim is going around like he's OK. He's

an attractive man and very charming. He

is not letting people know his current

situation. I have no reason to lie. I

was faithful. He's the only one I've been

with for two years. I'm saying

all this just to warn people to be

careful who you let in your life. Really

get to know someone before taking risk. I

thought I was in a happy relationship,

and four words turned that all around.

You are HIV positive.

When I wrote this, I went to sleep, and

when I woke up, I had a million, like,

notifications from people.

Immediately, my phone went ding, ding,

ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, going off.

I was finding out that he was in these

singles groups.

Some of his friends would say he's in

these dating groups, and, you know,

he's dating someone down the way, and

he's not being honest.

And other women saying, you know, Is this

true?Was I slept with him a couple months

ago or whatever?

I opened up Pandora's box, and I started

to build a timeline.

People were like, Wait, when did you get

diagnosed?Because I was with him,

andA lot of the time, it was before me.

His wife told me she tested positive in

2009.

And then I got an anonymous message from

someone from the county clinic.

They said he had tested positive in 2010,

and he never came back for any medicine.

I immediately blew my top. By the

time I was involved in a relationship

with Kareem, he had already been giving

women HIV for five years.

I didn't want to believe it, but it made

too much sense. This is why he didn't

act surprised.

I was devastated all over again, 'cause

now I'm like, Maybe he

didn't cheat on me, but the alternative

is much worse. It's much worse.

You You tried to kill me.

Kareem knew every time he slept with me

without a condom was a chance that he was

giving me HIV.

I hated his guts.

I wished death on him every day. Every

second of every day, I was thinking, Why

is he still breathing?Why is he still

wacking around?Why is he able to enjoy

himself?Why has anybody killed him?

It made me mad that he was alive.

To the point where it's like, if nobody

else is gonna kill him, I'm gonna do it.

So I would just sit up and think about

ways about forensics and things I've seen

on TV and what is the easiest way

I can get away with it.

But me hating him didn't do

anything to him. It was hurting me,

'cause it was turning me into a person

that I didn't want to be.

So I had a colleague at the hospital we

worked at that was a police officer, and

he told me, It's a crime to intentionally

infect someone with HIV.

When When he gave me that information, it

gave me hope. There's another

outlet than shooting him. There is a way

to get him without getting myself locked

up.

I called the police and told them I

wanted to file a report, and they turned

my case over to the Special Victims Unit.

I gave the police all the information I

had collected. I was on, like, a

crusade to get him. I have

medical records, text messages.

Tell me what you need to put him

away. I was trying to get all the people

I found on board so we could get him

together. I told them I'm not the only

one that he gave it to. There's other

women. I've already found 12. I've been

messaging the other women. The officer

asked, Would they be willing to give me a

statement?Do you think you can get any of

them to come forward?I said everybody

said no. I tried. They They don't

want to talk. Does this mean that you

can't arrest him?Not necessarily.

Right now, it's your word against his. I

often wondered what my purpose was. Why

am I here?I kept asking, Why

me?Why me?Well, my conclusion was that it

had to be me. I had to be broken

to be put back together stronger so I can

bring him to justice.

Nobody else wanted to come forward.

That's why it had to be me. I feel like I

was chosen. Whatever it

takes, he has to be stopped.

I was prepared to be

waiting years, but it was a matter of

months before he was arrested.

This was a good day. This is Garim's

mugshot.

The SP youth detective said we have a

warrant for his arrest and we're going to

be serving it to him in the morning.

So I called Kareem the next morning and I

was like, enjoy your last hours of

freedom. He was like, what

are you talking about now?I was like, the

police are coming for you. And I

wish I could be there. And he was like,

you always talking negative. And I just

hung up on him. That was 8:00. He was

arrested at 9.

I think he was very surprised when he got

arrested. He got arrested at his job

while he was on duty. So that

probably hurt him more than anything for

people to see him being arrested. I

was happy when I saw this. I was

wondering, what is he thinking right now?

And that's what I think of when I

see this, is what is he thinking right

here?There's no smiling or anything

in this picture. That

was his last day as a free man. So that

makes me happy.

Yeah, I like this picture.

The last time I saw Kareem was after he

got sentenced, and I went one time

to the county jail tofinally

get some answers. I

asked him, Why did you do this to me?I

just want to know why. And he

said, Would you have been with me if I

told you?And I said, If

you had no wife, and you had been honest

with me, and you were the person that you

portrayed yourself to be, yes. That

doesn't answer my question. One of my

questions to Kareem was, Why did you try

to kill me?I want to know why you wanted

me dead. Did you intentionally go

into our relationship knowing that you

were gonna infect me with HIV and why?

And he doesn't like that. I never tried

to kill you. I said,

Well, I almost died, and you sat there

and watched. I didn't want you to die.

No, I didn't. My intention was not to

kill you. I love you. I was like,

So... Your intentions were not to kill

me, but once you saw me getting sick, why

didn't you say anything?'Cause I didn't

think I was the one making you sick.

Nobody else got sick. And I was like,

this this is a bunch of B.S. Like, I was

getting madder the more I talked to him.

He said, Why are you so mad?I didn't

rape you. He said, You know, you could've

told me to put on a condom at any time. I

didn't rape you. I don't know why you get

so upset anyway. When he said, I didn't

rape you, I said, Yeah, but you raped my

life. My world

is changed. You took my

choice. You didn't take my body, but you

took my choice away. I think sometimes he

did it for fun. It was about power. And

rape is about power. I got

to be left.

I have not seen or spoken to him since

that day. My son doesn't see him. My son

doesn't speak to him. There's no

difference between a rapist and Kareem,

'cause Kareem doesn't... take

women's bodies, but he takes their

choices.

Karim was definitely a wolf in sheep's

clothing.

I was told by the detective that they

found that his most active year, meaning

the year that he infected the most women,

was 2015.

Who knows how many women he infected or

how many women died?Or almost

died and he doesn't care.

I know of 12 women that he's

infected. I do believe there's more.

He's evil. He's diabolical,

reckless, careless, negligent.

All those things, all those things rolled

into one. He has

no empathy. He can't have any empathy

'cause he did it over and over. He

didn't have any cares in the world about

how it would affect women or their

families or children or anything like

that. He didn't take into account any of

the carnage he would leave behind. He was

just going to get what he wanted and to

hell with everybody else.

But I'm not going to let that define my

life. I wanted to, like, bust

up the stigma around HIV

and what it looks like. It happened

to me. This is what happened, and I'm

still here. If you have

HIV, you can go into an undetectable

status, which is the goal. It means you

have so little of the virus in your

system that it can't be measured by any

test. And once you're undetectable, you

can't transfer HIV to anyone.

So I've been undetectable for years now.

Through my research, I've found a lot of

stories like mine and people just.

Throw those stories to the side 'cause

they assumed the person was being

reckless. When it's happening to everyday

people, hopefully I can inspire

somebody else to go get tested or

be more careful in in vetting their

partner. You can't catch

everything. You might run across the

current, but most people

are not like that.