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**

So do you guys have a safe word? Lucy No.

He's consented to pretty much

whatever I want to do,

of course, beyond, like, killing him,

which I would never do.

[ Whip cracking ]

[ Groans ]

**

Karley: Ugh. Life is so hard.

Between meeting my blog deadlines

and performing my gender,

I barely have time to get anything done.

Sometimes I wish I had someone who would clean my apartment,

change my tampons

and, like, drop to their knees and be my human bench

whenever I got tired, you know?

God, I need a lifestyle slave.

I've heard that it's actually a thing,

but who on this flat Earth would want that job,

and am I bitch for wanting one?

And, more importantly, is there an app for that?

**

Back in my mid-20s,

I moonlit as a dominatrix for a couple of years.

For me, this basically meant

that Wall Street bros would pay me

to pee on them in a dungeon for, like, an hour,

but it never extended beyond that into my actual life.

But I have a friend.

She goes by the name Mistress Lucy Sweetkill,

and she's a full-time professional dominatrix,

but her relationships with her submissives

get very personal,

far more than anything I've ever experienced.

Some of them even serve her on a 24/7 basis.

In the BDSM community,

this is what's known as a lifestyle slave,

and I want to find out more about

what this dynamic has to offer

for both parties involved.

Karley: So you have clients

who pay you to session with in a dungeon,

and then you also have lifestyle slaves

who are people who, like, follow you around,

carry your handbag, and, like, TBD.

My business is filled with a lot of clients

who just want to be submissive

in a specific session in a paid time,

and then that's all.

And then a lifestyle

wants to actually do it more 24/7.

They serve me on a day-to-day.

Some are great at cooking.

Some are great at technology.

So they're, like, unpaid, sex-slave interns.

[ Laughs ]

Um...yeah.

They're definitely unpaid.

[ Laughs ]

But the exchange is different.

They provide support in my life,

and I support them through this journey

of connecting to their submission

and connecting to their sexuality

that only a dominant in their life

can help them do.

**

Hello.

Hi, Pups.

Leave your bag over there.

Shoes off.

**

Let's put your collar on.

**

Karley: So how did you meet Pain Puppy?

Lucy: Pain Puppy was a client in the dungeon.

I kind of saw something in him

that you know, was like,

"This person is much more submissive than he realizes."

And then, from there,

we organically had the conversation of, like,

"Do you want to try something a little more 24/7?"

Lucy: Why don't you make me some tea, actually, too?

Fill it halfway only, though.

Which flavor would you like?

Your not watching the water.

That's not halfway.

Do you know what halfway means?

I watched.

If I looked at it, would it be halfway? Yes.

Would you like to look?

This is the line it can only go to.

Go pour some of it out.

**

So do you have sex with Puppy?

No. [ Laughs ]

It's sexual in nature,

but it's not penetrative sex.

There is no, you know, oral, vaginal penetration --

none of that.

So what do you get out of this dynamic?

Well, the obvious thing is I get support.

But, for me, it's a very deep personal enjoyment.

There are people out there

who feel like they're outside of their skin,

but when they're with me,

they feel they're most whole.

Make sure, like, Mrs. Hazel is put in his cage.

I want it all clean.

Karley: So, basically, she gets all the perks

of having a manservant.

Jealous.

But what about the other side.

I need to know.

What can you get out of doing someone's bitch work?

**

All right, I need you to do a few things for me.

I put them in your slave tasks,

but I need you to go grab the laundry.

**

* Dun, dun, da-da

So this is Lucy's laundry, yeah?

I'm doing the laundry for her job,

which is, like, from her dungeon.

Oh, you're literally cleaning the robes.

Yes. [ Laughs ]

Is there anything gross in there?

I don't know where they've been.

Do you enjoy doing chores for her?

Maybe not in the idea that most people have.

Like, most people probably think

that I enjoy, like, cleaning and stuff.

It's more of, like, supporting her and her business.

I'm part of Team Lucy.

So you don't get a boner from doing laundry?

I wish.

I wish it was that easy.

Do you have sexual interactions

with people outside of your relationship with Lucy?

Not very often anymore

just because of my whole chastity device.

[ Crickets chirp ]

Can you explain what it means to be in chastity

because I think some people/partially me

have no idea what that means.

It's...hmm.

It's a tube you put your penis in,

and then it locks on,

and then it prevents you from getting erect,

and, also, you can't really touch yourself or have sex.

My vagina, like, hurts thinking about that.

So does mine.

[ Laughs ]

So what makes a good lifestyle slave?

Depends on the person, I guess.

So, for me, I'm, like, handyman.

I'm good at cleaning now,

because I've been cleaning her dungeon

for, like, a year and a half.

So this is like a job for you, essentially.

You look at it as, she's your employer.

It's part employment, part life coach-y,

and, in return, I get a mistress.

Karley: What was Pain Puppy like when you first met him?

He was very shy.

So is slave training sort of like a makeover?

Yeah, I would say, in certain ways.

And with Pups, we talked about

how he didn't really have friends,

so we worked on all of that.

I set up a schedule.

I controlled his calendar.

We worked on him working out.

You know, he took a wine course for eight weeks.

He took some Japanese classes.

And through all those things, he gained friends.

He's kind of changed his outlook.

Wow.

I met Lucy, maybe, at a bottom point in my life.

I was really depressed, you know.

I didn't like my body image back then.

When I met her, I was 200,

and then, now, I fluctuate between 160 and 170,

but it's muscle now and not flubber.

That's a huge change. Mm-hmm.

Wow. Congratulations. Thank you.

It's definitely been, you know,

a struggle to get here,

but she's taught me a lot about myself.

Karley: So Puppy gets, kind of, a life makeover.

That's cool.

But isn't he exhausted

from slaving around the Earth all day?

It seems like a big price to pay

for a workout regimen and a spanking.

[ Smacking ]

You're a weirdo. I'm a weirdo.

You're a pervert. I'm a pervert.

-This will cut skin. -Nice.

**

**

Karley: These days, thanks to "Fifty Shades of Grey,"

everyone knows about the pleasures

of tying someone to your bed and torturing them, obviously.

But who wants that kind of abuse

to extend into their everyday life?

Huh.

I wonder what the average enlightened New Yorker

has to say about the prospect of being

in a full-time master-slave relationship?

Are you guys all familiar with

the BDSM term "lifestyle slave?"

Yes. I'm not, but okay.

Actually -- yes. Yeah.

Vaguely, yeah.

Uh, kind of, yeah, generally.

Like, I have the Internet at home, so...

A lifestyle what?

Like, what is that to you?

You being with another individual partner

and doing whatever that they want to do to you.

That's exactly right. Yeah.

You didn't know that?

Now that I know,

that's gonna be a hard "no" from me.

[ Laughs ] There ain't nobody locking me up.

Would you be interested in having

sort of, like, a full-time sex intern?

Yeah. That'd be sick.

Would you want to have a lifestyle slave?

No, I don't think I would.

Does that appeal to you? Hell, no.

I think I could do it to someone else.

And what about you?

Would you rather be the submissive or the dominant?

The dominant. [ Laughs ]

I'm not about to get hit.

Yeah.

Karley: While many people seem open to bossing someone around,

most seem vaguely traumatized

by the idea of being enslaved 24/7.

Is there something inherently tragic

about a person wanting to be abused?

Deep thoughts.

I need to consult with an actual smart person

to get a better understanding

of why someone would sign up to be a literal slave.

The term slave is such an intense word to use

in association with your sexuality or lifestyle.

Absolutely.

Slave is a very loaded, very intense word.

In some ways, though, I think it is appropriate

for the level of intensity

that this kind of lifestyle involves.

And I'm sure, for a lot of people,

that loadedness is part of the appeal.

Why would someone want to do someone else's chores, though?

Like, what is the impetus of being a lifestyle slave?

It comes down to

our human need to be taken care of

and to take care of other people.

And, so, for some, that kind of gets taken

to one extreme or the other,

having a lot more of one of those needs

and a lot less of the other need.

So, are these relationships exploitative?

People do have this notion that it's exploitative,

that the dominant gets everything they want,

and then the submissive,

all they do is just give, give, give, right?

But at the same time,

there's a lot of responsibility

in a dominant taking over

the reins of somebody else's life.

They are responsible for what this person eats.

Do they smoke? Do they drink?

Do they have other partners or not?

And for the submissive, there is something appealing

about wanting to kind of not have control,

not be responsible.

There is a certain level of freedom in that.

**

So I'm outside to the grocery store.

I'm about to meet Pups

and Shine, who's Lucy's other lifestyle slave.

Lucy says she often send her subs

out on sort of lifestyle slave team-building exercises...

Man: You're welcome.

Pain Puppy: Let's shop.

...like, shop for groceries, for example.

So now that I understand that each person

gets something unique from this relationship,

it will be interesting to see how everyone gets along.

Are they, like, one happy little perverted family?

What's on the list that Lucy gave you?

Okay.

So last night, she requested, uh,

chips, salsa, guacamole,

strawberries, blueberries, pineapple.

Okay, so you guys, like, know her eating habits

and what she doesn't like?

I have a total list going on.

**

May I do something?

[ Laughs ]

Do you guys fight over who gets to carry her stuff?

I do like carrying her stuff, anyone's stuff.

I love it.

**

So do you guys

ever get competitive with each other?

Yeah. No.

Yeah, Pups. Not with Shine.

Some of my favorite times

have been with Puppy and her --

together, all three of us playing.

It's just like, oh, my god, so powerful. Why do you like that?

Because of the connection, you know,

of taking her pain together.

Oh. That's nice.

And speaking of pain...

Pain Puppy: [ Laughs ]

...whoa, this is solid pain.

-Hi. -Hi.

Lucy: Nice stuff.

They're talking about you, obviously.

Lucy: Yeah. Let's see if this --

This doesn't look good.

Put your jacket down. All right.

Thank you.

Karley: Do you feel like there is

still a lingering stigma?

I definitely think there's still a stigma,

but I've hid parts of myself long enough,

and all I feel is upset at myself.

BDSM is not for everyone,

but I find the most caring, compassionate,

and open-minded people

come from the BDSM community

because everybody's weirdness

is positive, you know?

You're a weirdo. I'm a weirdo.

You're a pervert. I'm a pervert, you know.

Let's do this.

Karley: Wow.

Sharing pork rinds and strawberries

with these leather-clad perverts got me thinking.

Maybe lifestyle slaves are just like us...

[ Whip cracks ] Pain Puppy: [ Groans ]

Karley: ...except for, maybe, a few minor differences.

[ Groans ]

**

Karley: I'm here at a dungeon in Chelsea

about to go meet Lucy and Puppy

to watch one of their BDSM play sessions.

**

And I think what's gonna happen is that,

essentially, she's just going to whip him

into a state of transcendence,

but I guess I'm gonna find out.

**

Lucy: So I have, you know, some hoods and gags.

I love latex,

so I'm wearing one of my catsuits.

It looks good. Thank you.

My two favorite whips with me,

and this one is what we call a single-tail whip,

and this is a mini bullwhip.

So this is really painful? Yes.

It's one of the most painful. This will cut the skin.

Nice.

Okay, so, where is Puppy, anyway?

He's in the bathroom getting ready.

Pups, come out.

Karley: Hey. Hello.

Nice undies. Thank you.

It's my favorite color -- pink.

Lucy: You want to show her what they say?

Karley: Oh, my God. That's amazing.

They have matching tops, too.

**

So do you guys have a safe word? No.

That's part of our consensual non-consent.

He's consented to pretty much

whatever I want to do,

of course, beyond, like, killing him.

Which I would never do. [ Laughs ]

Would you ever consent to that, like, ahead of time?

Would that be something that, like, would happen? That's my limit.

[ Laughs ]

So he's shining your latex now.

Yeah. Spray more.

Don't rub it in too hard, though.

Latex takes a lot of maintenance.

As a rubber fetishist,

this is definitely his treat right now,

before it gets painful.

Karley: Having been a dominatrix myself,

seeing someone be bullwhipped is old news,

but it's harder to imagine

torturing someone you see everyday

as opposed to beating up a random.

It'll be interesting to see how this feels different.

All right, I'm going to go soft first.

And then maybe every third or fourth one

is gonna be a little bit harder.

Mm-hmm?

One.

**

Two.

[ Whip cracks ]

[ Groans ]

Three.

I like to aim for the nipple

because I am nasty like that.

[ Whip cracks ] [ Groans ]

-Ooh. -Good job, Pups.

Look at that.

Is your spit getting everywhere?

Swallow.

We're gonna hear what noises come out of you

without a gag.

[ Whip cracks ]

[ Grunts ]

**

Mm. Good boy.

I just think they're so beautiful,

these, you know, signs of devotion.

Pups, turn to the side and show Karley.

Yeah. Yeah. That's all from today?

That thing is not joking.

And I like to work on my backhand.

[ Whip cracks ] [ Groans ]

[ Inhales sharply ] [ Giggles ]

[ Whip cracks ] [ Grunts ]

Good boy.

What was that like?

It hits that spot,

and I will get to what I'm looking for eventually.

You seem really calm, actually. Yeah.

I'm fine right now.

I can't really say things right now. Yeah.

[ Laughter ]

Your mind goes somewhere else in a subspace,

and you're just feeling.

Is there a sexual component to this for you?

Like, are you -- This is not sexual?

In the same way it's mental for her, it's mental for me.

This isn't my sex.

This is my endorphin rush.

We've done a powerful session before,

where I was whipping him,

and I was going through some --

so really emotional things myself, personally,

and while he was, you know, definitely crying and releasing

from the things he needed to get out of him,

I was as well, you know.

And there was that back-and-forth of, like,

that I needed that release, too.

**

You know, I'm gonna put him in a body bag,

and it's almost like a place for him

to sort of decompress,

like a sensory deprivation tank,

and just let it mentally, like, let him float.

**

Karley: Watching them,

it was very clear that they both really enjoyed

the roles that they were playing

and that they have a genuine chemistry.

A more traditional couple would use sex

as a way to achieve a state of intimacy and vulnerability,

and it just felt like

they were using pain to achieve the same thing.

I realize that it's counterintuitive

to leave a scene where someone is being beaten until they bleed

and say that it was a sweet moment,

but it did genuinely feel that way.

And ultimately, she looked really hot,

which is probably the most important thing.

And I should probably get myself some latex.

Karley: Would you be okay with sort of, like,

cleaning my vibrators?

[ Ding! ]

**

**

Karley: After spending time with Lucy and Puppy,

I've realized that each side

gets something special from this dynamic.

They perfectly cater to each other's kinks and needs.

So, it turns out,

there's nothing bitchy about wanting a lifestyle slave,

because let's be honest --

Being a mistress sounds like a full-time job.

Clearly, I need to find a submissive

who I truly connect to.

And so I've put out a casting call

for my own lifestyle slave.

**

Hi.

Hello.

Why are you interested

in being my lifestyle slave?

When I first started having sex,

I realized, like, very, very quickly

that vanilla sex was just not my cup of tea.

**

Hi.

Do you think that you're qualified

to be my lifestyle slave?

**

Do you find me attractive?

**

Hey. -Hi.

Sadley -- where'd you get that name?

It was given to me by my mistress.

So you have another mistress? Yes.

Are you slutty? Yes.

[ Laughs ] Same.

I'm looking for someone

who is really great at being a human bench

because I like to wear high heels,

so, when I'm walking around the city,

sometimes I get really tired, My feet hurt. Me too, yeah.

I need someone who's just gonna be like,

"Get down on all fours," and I can sit on your back.

You can certainly sit and rest yourself on my body.

If it helps you, it makes me feel good.

How squeamish are you?

Like, would you be okay with, sort of, like,

cleaning my vibrators

or, like, picking up sort of used condoms,

like, next to my bed?

Are you good at shaving my bikini line?

I'm not even good at that.

I enjoy going down on women.

Have you ever gone down on a girl

when she had her period?

No. Okay.

That was unrelated, but I was just wondering.

No. It's fine.

What turns you on sexually?

Being slapped and spanked,

spit on. Oh, really?

I love to be spanked.

**

Karley: They were all promising candidates,

but there was just something about this one guy.

Did you have some kind of "aha" moment

where you were like,

"Oh, this is exactly the role

that I've always wanted to play"?

There was a moment that I was instructed

to untie a knot for my mistress.

The urgency to untie this knot

became more and more intense,

and it was really at that moment

that it really clicked on me

that there was more than just -- just fun to this.

I have a need to please,

to give of myself to someone,

and that makes me feel needed,

and it gives me purpose.

So being a submissive seems like

it's been very therapeutic for you?

Absolutely.

That's cool.

Yeah. I kind of like it, myself.

Can you tell me what your kinks are?

I enjoy being whipped intensely and hard.

So you want me to whip you intensely and hard?

Yes, please, mistress.

I feel like we're really gonna get along.

I'd love that.

This is great.

What position do you like to be spanked in?

Uh, for ease, I suppose,

if I put my hands on the chairs

and place my buttocks in your general direction.

Okay. Let's try.

**

[ Smacks ]

You like that? I did like that. Thank you, mistress.

[ Smacks ]

On a pain scale from 1 to 10,

how bad was that?

About a 6.

You can go way more hard, yes, mistress.

[ Smacking ]

How was that?

Thank you, mistress.

**

Thank you. Thank you, mistress.

I really enjoyed that. Did you?

Yeah, you made me feel really good.

I'm glad because it made me feel good, too.

Karley: After hanging out with a dominatrix

and her devoted lifestyle slaves,

I've realized that all day, every day, dom-sub partnerships

can be just as versatile and transformative

as vanilla relationships.

Sure, the dom gets her chores done,

but the slaves get

the acceptance and discipline they crave,

because, really, we all just want to be loved

for the freaks that we are, right?

Relationships come in all different shapes,

sizes, and perversions,

whether you only sleep with one person for life

or you sleep in a cage.

The moral of the story is,

there's someone out there for everyone.

And, as for me, well, it turns out

my submissive Prince Charming actually does exist,

and I don't even have to feel like a...about it.

[ Ting! ]

Whip you later, sluts.

[ Whip cracks ]

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