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This programme contains some strong language and scenes of a sexual nature

I'm assuming you're here for the workshop? Oh, yes.

Hi. If not, we're all in for a little surprise.

THEY LAUGH

So, you can close your eyes and take a few breaths in and out.

And now, you can bring both of your hands over top of your vulva,

making, kind of, a pussy hug.

I'm going to come around... and be a little lube fairy.

Then slowly, we can start going hand over hand,

bottom of the vulva to the top.

Yes, I know, this is a female masturbation clause.

It's safe to say my first.

How did I get here?

Well, there's so much to know about the world of sex.

If this was inside of me, this is not big.

So, it's almost like it's this.

But I want to start with female sexuality -

how women think, act, and feel around sex.

I'm not used to using vibrators, like, internally.

It's more like, clit.

Why do some of us still feel shame about sex?

The idea that women have less sexual desire than men is just wrong.

And how can we pleasure-seekers get our hands on more orgasms?

ALL: Three, two, one, go!

Strap on and get ready for some eye-opening stuff.

SENSUAL MOANING

OFF-CAMERA: Is that good, yeah? Yeah.

Take one. Mark.

Are women as horny as men? I am horny.

I don't know. SHE LAUGHS

I do think that women are less able and are less accepted

to speak about how horny they are.

I think female sexual desire's definitely been repressed.

I know from my own love life just how sexual women can be.

So, you'd think that in the 21st century,

men and women should be having equally satisfying sex lives.

Right?

Well, prepare for a shock.

When it comes to the orgasm, there is a definite gender gap.

Scientists say that 95% of straight men

orgasm during intercourse,

but only 65% of straight women do.

KETTLE WHISTLES

To be honest, I think that sounds way too high.

Most of my straight female friends say it's probably

more like 15 or 20%.

Lesbians and queer women definitely seem to have it better.

WHISTLING INCREASES Ohh, God.

BREATHING QUICKENS

This sad state of affairs is called the "orgasm gap".

And, for the benefit of people with vaginas and clits,

I want to know how to close it.

Wish me luck.

OK, let's start with the basics.

How do we experience orgasms?

What's the big deal about them?

And are female ones different from male ones?

I'm off to a lab in Germany to find out -

and I volunteered for the wildest experiment.

We are about to go into a university hospital,

where I am going to...masturbate.

Yep, I'm here to have an orgasm - and donate it to science.

Husband-and-wife team Johannes Fuss and Sarah Biedermann

study the chemical changes in our brains when we come.

Of course they do.

We realise that there's not much going on in

the whole field of sex research.

Er, so there is lots of neuroscience, lots of people

doing neuroscience in the field,

but there's not so much exploring sexuality.

We're assessing neurobiological

factors like chemicals in the brain,

and how does the body react to sexual stimuli?

And how would you go about doing that, team?

Well, I'm about to discover.

Oh, it is pleasant.

There's a bed!

It's like a hotel room.

I will leave the room, and then, I would ask you to masturbate

for at least ten minutes.

At least - that's a nice amount of time.

THEY CHUCKLE

If you take longer, that's no problem.

So... I'm not looking at you, cos I'm scared. Perfect.

You don't need to be. I'm bad at blood.

Before I get down to business,

I need to give a blood sample.

It's coming out.

La-la-la-la-la-la-la.

Once I climax, Sarah and Johannes will take the second sample

to see what's changed in my blood.

Cara, when you climax, you will just blow the whistle.

Aw, yay. I should always have that whistle.

I will give this to you. Thank you.

And I will come in, take blood very quickly.

Shall I - can I let myself settle a minute, or should I just be,

like, orgasm, blow whistle?

It would be good if you start masturbating now.

And in case I need extra help - sex toys.

Talk about German efficiency.

KETTLE WHISTLES

I have had some weird sexual experiences,

but this is definitely up there.

WHISTLE BLOWS

So...I will take the blood now. Oh, my God!

Did you have a good time?

Yeah...I had a great time.

Mas-vacation. SHE EXHALES

Run, Johannes, run!

That blood contains all the secrets of my climax.

How many orgasms did you have? Just one - really long one.

Luckily, this man can pipette like a pro..

..and is back with the results before I can say "uber-gasm".

Hello. Hi, welcome back. Oh, my gosh.

OK, so come on, guys.

Tell me, what did you find? What's in there?

Now we processed your blood,

and we found that it produced endocannabinoids.

Endocannabinoids are potent chemicals.

They're important to reduce anxiety, to increase euphoria,

and to have pleasurable sex.

So, endocannabinoids are basically your body's own version of cannabis.

Cannabis - that's what it sounded like.

Yeah, exactly. Wow.

That's why I felt dopey.

Is it like cannabis? Yeah.

Your body is producing its own cannabis-like substance.

Wow. And it makes you, kind of, high after masturbation.

Makes sense.

You can thank endocannabinoids for the high we get after exercise.

They're produced by enzymes throughout the body, and are closely

involved in our reward systems.

In other words, they give us feel-good feelings.

Does that happen to everyone? Yeah, we know from research,

roughly 80% of people had such an increase of

endocannabinoids after orgasm.

Is it men and women, both have the same? Yeah.

In sex - or as I'm now going to call it, "sexercise" -

endocannabinoids rise by up to 44%, spiking at orgasm.

We think that's why sex feels so good.

I feel fantastic.

Thank you, guys.

Thank you for participating. Heroes of sex. Whoo.

"Heroes of sex." THEY LAUGH

Wow!

Orgasms produce endocannabinoids.

That is hot news.

And even better - Sarah and Johannes have discovered that both males

and females can hit these great sexual highs.

Which means we women should be getting just as much

pleasure as men, right?

So, why aren't we?

For me, the earliest ideas I ever got taught about sex

were that, you know...

..man plus woman, dick plus vagina equals orgasm.

I don't want to go into, like, the art of making a woman come,

but like, for fuck sake, it's just a lot more complicated

and a lot more fun.

I do feel that generality, men are not equipped with the right

tools to be able to handle women, especially sexually.

I mean, I get it.

It's a lot more complicated for a woman to have to tell you, you know,

"You're not doing it right.

"You have to sit down and listen to what I say."

Yeah, it's an ego-killer, which most men can't handle.

Look, I might be unfairly dissing some of the men folk here,

but maybe the orgasm gap exists because we're all a bit hazy on,

you know, the physical details.

So, am I missing anything?

Let's get the 101 on the power packed in our pants.

I know sexpert Marieke Dewitte will

love to get into the juicy details.

So, let's start off with a casual question.

Is there any difference between the male and the female orgasm?

Why is the gap so big?

We know that men and women do not differ in their capacity

to reach orgasm, to experience pleasure.

But only a few women, less than 30%,

can actually climax via penetration.

And that's often where it goes wrong.

We don't get the right sexual simulation.

The clitoris is our female sex organ, not the vagina.

The vagina's a birth channel.

That's where... Drop the mic right there!

Yeah, exactly. I mean, it's much less sensitive than the clitoris -

which is a good thing, because otherwise giving childbirth

would be horrifying. Oh, my God! It would mean the end of humanity.

So, the idea that women have less sexual desire than men

is just wrong.

It's just, they don't get the right sexual stimulation.

Physically, the duration of an orgasm is really short.

It takes about 20-25 seconds in women,

and about 5-25 seconds in men.

And in general, it takes longer for women to reach orgasm.

For some women, actually, if you continue to simulate them,

they also continue to climax.

And so, that's why women can have multiple orgasms.

The clitoris is actually a small penis. Yes.

It includes the glands and a forehead,

it gets swollen during arousal.

So, in a way, women have on the inside what men have on the outside.

Most women know that the clitoris obviously needs to be stimulated,

or do they just think that penetrative sex is the one

that is going to make them...?

Well, we mainly have sex in a way that fits the male sexual script.

For a long time, sex has been studied from

a biological perspective.

And biologists study sex as reproduction.

So, we know a lot about the penis and so on because that's important.

That's the one that's giving the juice. Exactly.

I mean, if we think about the female orgasm,

and the female sexual response,

there's so much yet we don't know.

Because we constantly have this male gaze, looking at sexuality.

Totally. But it's also about focusing on

your own sexual pleasure.

And that's also something that is difficult for women because, yeah,

we are socialised to prioritise the pleasure of the partner.

Until just a few decades ago,

people generally thought the clitoris was this tiny,

tricky-to-access button.

Hard to stimulate, and way less of a big deal than the penis.

Nearly 30 years after the moon landings...

NEIL ARMSTRONG: That's one small step for man.

..the clitoris was finally, comprehensively mapped

in 1998 - by a woman.

And what a revelation that was.

It's roughly ten centimetres long,

and the tip is more densely packed with nerves than the penis.

Its only known function is to provide pleasure.

So, forget big dicks - big clits is where it's at.

Clitoris - it exists.

Find it, use it, keep it close.

So, let's celebrate the clit and give it the recognition it deserves.

Meet New Yorker Sophia,

who is on what she calls a "cliteracy" campaign.

Cliteracy is my attempt to blast the clitoris into public awareness.

Using large scale, using text, using neon.

It all began when she found out that her grandma, a mother of five,

had never once had an orgasm.

People with clits are having not a lot of orgasms,

whether it's their clits being externally excised,

or it's being shamed.

The clit has this ability for an incredible amount of pleasure,

and it's not getting that.

So, I just was like, "Someone needs to call bullshit on this".

The tip of the clitoris is called the glans.

It's the bit you can see from the outside,

and it's super sensitive.

It's also the pathway to the rest of the complex,

but beautiful clitoral structure.

I put a lot of attention into how I design the glans,

because I feel like that's the most important part.

I mean, it feels good, it's beautiful, and also,

we're taught not to see and not to look closely at it.

And so, there's very few depictions of it that are actually specific -

that's usually just, sort of, like, this round, sort of, blob.

But if you actually look closely at the glans, it is a shape.

And it's also very diverse, person-to-person.

All this knowledge about the mysterious clit

is just blowing my mind.

It's about time I saw it in all its glory.

This is the Land of Clits.

The Land of Clits!

My focus is drawn straight to the beauty.

So, these are these porcelain sculptures that I made that are

all about honouring this part of the body that is often so shamed.

And I just think everyone should be in awe of how amazing clits are.

But also, like, being drawn to the glans.

This part activates, and then, everything else engorges.

This is all erectile. These are bulbs of erectile tissue.

Yeah, so these are the glands that obviously swell, right?

Yes, exactly. And what are these?

Basically the same amount of erectile tissue as a penis.

Also, we wake up with morning wood -

we don't even have words for clit erection.

Isn't that crazy? That's true.

Like, when you wake up wet but you call it,

you wake up with morning wood? You still call it the same thing?

I think we should make new words.

No, but if this was inside of me - this is not that big, obviously not.

Right. But it's, like, half the size of this, right?

Yeah, so it's almost like it's this orientation. Yes, right.

Which is a really funny way to - but just so we understand,

because it's so confusing.

It's never drawn in any of the anatomies we see right.

I will always draw penises on things as a joke,

cos I just think it's funny, and I'm also really bad at drawing.

But it's so true, I would never just think to draw a vagina, you know?

It's ridiculous, I'm just, like, drawing a penis coming.

Woohoo, that's funny - it's not.

Well, that's cos we're taught to think penises are hilarious...

Hilarious. ..and, like, cool.

Clit is just like "Oh, you can't find it, ha-ha-ha." Ha-ha-ha.

You know, having sex with other women where I just realised, like,

how much more sensitive women are than they think they are.

When you take your time and you are super slow, and super soft,

you see how much more nerves there are than a penis.

Like, it's a beautiful organ. Exactly.

I mean, my son, he's 19 months old, and he will never not know

what a clit is - and I'm very proud about that.

You know what I'm saying? Yes!

This ignorance about the female body

is one big reason why women are lagging behind men

in the pleasure stakes.

But there's another cultural reason, too -

decades, if not centuries of prudish and patriarchal attitudes.

We look back at times when we all used to wear corsets and

showing an ankle was something of a female like, you know, flirting.

But obviously, it's come a long way since then.

I still have always felt, like, a lot of shame about being a woman.

Shame about my vagina.

You know, just from being a young girl and never feeling

like I was as good as a man.

For too long, women have been made to feel bad about

both their bodies and sex.

In many countries worldwide,

talking about female sexuality is still taboo -

including here in Lebanon.

There is definitely one thing that unites all Arab countries -

and it's the culture of shame that surrounds being in a female body.

It's very, very deeply embedded.

Women grew up with such a fear around sex.

Sura and Hala have agreed to speak to us -

as long as we hide their identities.

We always say, like, women are expected to be very sexually

attractive, but not sexually active.

You're not the one in control of your own body.

Who gets to call the shots?

Society does. Culture does.

And so, that causes women to totally disassociate from their own bodies.

These two women are bringing much-needed change,

by starting a sexual wellness brand called Mauj.

Who is reading...the video chart?

Openly encouraging female pleasure without getting shut down

is a massive challenge.

So, Mauj created a video series where women send in their most

intimate stories, which are read out by volunteers called Hikawatiers.

So, hikawati means "storyteller" in Arabic.

This was typically a role that only men used to play in society.

So, we came up with the idea of flipping hikawati into the feminine.

We really wanted to find a way to start to share women's stories,

when it came to everything related to their body -

sexuality, masturbation, and sexual pleasure.

If they speak up, there's a risk that their families might hurt them.

I've always been an advocate for women's rights.

This was an opportunity for me

to publicly speak up about a cause I believe in.

It's harder for them to hear stories that celebrate pleasure and orgasm.

There's still this shame of, like,

"I don't necessarily want to be associated with that".

They're still not yet at the level of public discourse

as easy as some of the stories around pain.

Mauj is dedicated to helping de-stigmatize female sexuality.

It's very difficult to find

pleasure products in the Arab world.

I just wanted to buy vibrator, couldn't buy a vibrator.

They have created a new intimate pleasure product

that's small and discrete.

What's really special about Deem is that it is the first product

that's designed by and for Arab women.

But breaking taboos can be risky,

so being discreet is incredibly important.

We wanted Deem to be accessible and available to every kind of woman.

Even a woman who was practising her religious belief of not engaging

in any penetration before marriage.

We get asked a lot why our first product is a pleasure product.

And our answer is,

"Because what's more taboo than female pleasure"?

Taboos around female sexuality

exist in many more places across the world.

And that, lovely people, is holding women back.

I'm in Japan, where it's actually against the law

to show female genitalia.

Step up radical artist Rokudenashiko -

or should that be, paddle up?

In 2014, she decided to challenge Japanese censorship around

female sexuality by creating a canoe modelled on her own vulva...

..as you do.

Hello! Hello. Nice to meet you. Konnichiwa, nice to meet you.

Konnichiwa. Thank you so much.

So...oh! That's so cool.

Oh, my gosh.

I mean, I really want to row in the vagina canoe, though.

Rokudenashiko also has been rocking the boat with

her vaginal miniatures.

Is this a real mould of a vagina?

My vagina. That's your vagina!

Now I understand, yes.

Why did you start making vagina?

Crazy. Crazy. Crazy!

But it wasn't much of a laugh when Rokudenashiko was arrested

for breaking Japan's obscenity laws.

Luckily, she didn't have to go to prison -

but had to pay a pretty hefty fine of nearly $4,000.

You're very inspiring.

I think what you're doing is amazing.

Yay!

Let's disrupt the patriarchy! Whoo! OK, cool.

Today, I'm going to make my own vagina art.

Step one - whip up some clay.

I can see why you have nice arms now.

It might seem like a little bit of fun, but making a pussy mould will

let me look at my vagina properly, in detail, for the first time.

Yay.

See you later.

What?

Surely you didn't think I was going to show you that bit?

Do you want me to hold it? Oh, my God.

Stop looking at it! CAT MEOWS

What? I get really nervous.

My vagina.

Awwww!

Very pretty.

It's do-o-one! SHE GASPS

So, I've made the mould - with help, of course.

It was successful, I hope.

There was a bit of cracking, but, you know.

Now, for a little vajazzling.

Yeah, I never thought I would do this...for sure.

Maybe we all need to spend a bit of face-time with our vaginas,

like Rokudenashiko, to learn to love them more.

Oh, my God, this is so fun. I'm so glad I did this.

It's really sweet. I love it.

I feel really proud of what I made.

So, want to know which plaster masterpiece is mine?

Is it the moon landing,

Sandy bottom beach scene?

Or the golf course?

Hole in one!

Sorry to let you down, but you're never going to know.

I admire Rokudenashiko's openness - but my privates stay private.

So, what does that say about me?

I feel like as a model, as, er, someone who sells their image,

my vagina is the one private thing I have that.

That's the thing that I decide who sees it, when, how, why.

But like, thank you so much for all that you've...

Oh thank you, so much. No, but for you've done.

I'm going to tell people about your art and spread

the message of vagina positivity.

So much fun! I, like, had so much fun with my vagina today.

I mean, this job really suits me perfectly, cos honestly,

the things that I get to do are just so...me!

SHE GIGGLES

Best time ever.

She's trying to spread a selfless message of people -

and women, specifically - to love themselves from something

that is put so much shame on.

And that is seen as a criminal offence?

It's mind-blowing.

Women's shame around sex is so deep-rooted,

and that's led to massive differences in the way men

and women learn about sexual pleasure growing up.

One of my earliest memories is masturbating.

But I didn't know it was anything sexual.

It just was, like, this feels good.

Why would I not touch there to feel better about life?

Like, it just made sense.

But I do think that there's just a lot more fear about talking

about women touching themselves.

But just because I think men, kind of, can go around and be, like,

"Yeah, I just came nine times today, bro, I can't even walk!"

You're like, "Sick!"

But I touch myself and they're like, "Oh, ew, that's gross."

It's about time we equalled out on this and stopped feeling

embarrassed about it all.

We deserve as much fun as men.

So, I'm on my way to...

wait for it - a group masturbation class.

Oh, only in New York.

I mean, at this point, why not?

A masturbation class is more of like a yoga class for your bits.

RECORD SCRATCH

Sitting in a room full of women...

Like, you know, I won't lie, I've sat next to my friend

and masturbated next to each other. But that's about it.

Terrified.

Hi!

I'm assuming you're here for the workshop. Oh, yes.

Hi. If not, we're all in for a little surprise.

THEY LAUGH

This is like my house. Oh, really? LAUGHTER CONTINUES

LAUGHTER CONTINUES Is anyone nervous? Yeah.

I'm very curious, and if there's anything I can learn and, like,

feel less shame about having a vagina, erm, that would be great.

OK, so how many of you have been masturbating the same way since

you were, like, seven, or whenever you started masturbating?

Definitely. The same ways?

Yeah, doing the same thing like, you know, humping your pillow,

humping your hand. Oh!

I only once have really, like, spent like an hour, like,

really making love to myself, like, touching every part of my body.

Like, I cried.

See, that's the thing, it's like, nothing is weird,

or nothing is abnormal. No.

And because if you know your button, oh, my God, you know your thing.

That's amazing to have -

and maybe there's more buttons to figure out, too.

We're trying to find different pathways to pleasure.

This is my vulva, but not my actual vulva -

because it's eerily symmetrical and bright red.

So, there's something I call, erm, "the pussy sandwich" -

and that's when you're going to take, like, the outer and inner

labia between your index finger and your thumb.

The chop-sticking of the clitoris is when you're going to take, like,

an inverted piece sign, and it's going to go on the inner labia.

So, knuckling is something that's going to look like drumming,

but it's going to be with our knuckles.

And we can do that, kind of, around the inner labia.

This one is called the "motorcycle revs".

So, your two middle fingers - so your middle finger and ring -

will be inside of the vagina.

Then you're going to rev the motorcycle.

There's one that we're going to go back to a lot and change it up.

And that's going from the bottom of the vulva to the top.

Oh, it looks really nice with my pants.

It really goes well. Yeah. THEY LAUGH

I'm going to get so self-conscious cos in my mind, I'm like,

all I want is the lights to be off.

Can you close your eyes? Or my face to be covered - yes.

Despite the safe space, I still feel so uncomfortable.

I've decided to wear a mask.

So, you can close your eyes and take a few breaths in and out.

And now, you can bring both of your hands over top of your vulva,

making, kind of, a pussy hug.

I'm going to come around and be a little lube fairy.

If you want some, you can put your hand out.

And then, slowly, we can start going hand over hand,

bottom of the vulva to the top.

And now, we're going to make a pussy sandwich.

And if you're using one hand, what is your other hand doing?

Is it on another part of your vulva?

Just take the very tip of one finger,

doesn't matter which finger it is,

and put the tip at the entry of your vagina and make tiny little circles.

And what this is doing is it's, kind of,

letting the vagina salivate, letting it get ready,

instead of just shoving your way in there.

Just try to tease your hole,

and just tease yourself a little bit.

Masturbation is just another healthy part of our life.

And there's so much that we can gain from it that actually don't

really have anything to do with pleasure or orgasm.

It can be stress, it could be to relieve cramps or a headache.

And as soon as we start removing that stigma,

the dirtiness and shame, the more we can start enjoying

the actual benefits of masturbation,

instead of trying to assign a morality to what it means.

I love just, like, leaving my finger there

and, like, feeling my pussy, kind of, as the octopus.

That's what you want.

You want the pussy to, like, want that finger in and welcome it in.

You can slide that internally, and you can let that just go around

the clock, and then, just revving that motorcycle.

So, very slowly.

This is very fast for me, by the way.

Oh, yeah, well, this is a kind of speed class.

I torture myself - yeah, no, I like it, though.

I'm like, fuck, dude!

Look, I revved, chopsticked, and sandwiched for a full-on hour,

and it was kind of sexy - but it also felt weird for me.

And what I definitely didn't do was orgasm.

Yet somehow, I feel utterly changed.

It is a very brave thing to come to a class and masturbate

with a group of strangers.

What was that like?

It's the bravest thing I've ever done.

I liked the normalising aspect.

I like it that we were all just laying here.

It was just much more exploratory.

It felt very safe.

I've never masturbated in front of anyone ever,

apart from when I did it in a bed with my friend.

Can't believe I did it, to be honest.

But...

..I haven't actually used my hand, like, to touch myself in so long.

Because again, that whole - I always feel really, like,

so much shame around my vagina, being like,

"Oh, my vagina's not like other girls I've slept with".

Yeah, and you did, like, you masturbated in front of people,

and you survived.

It's like, "Oh, that's nice, but that's actually quite soft.

"Oh, my God, I feel great. I feel nice. Yeah.

So, thank you. Absolutely.

You know, take what you learned here, go home, be by yourself,

be in an area that's comfortable for you and continue to explore,

and do these things.

I think I'm learning a lot from everyone I've met so far, for sure.

It's making me be a lot more open in my own personal life.

In my mind the, most important thing about life is connections

with other humans.

And I just haven't even begun to have conversations like this

with enough people.

But we can just learn so much from each other.

CREW LAUGHS Sexuality! Yes.

A huge part of the orgasm gap

is that women have been conditioned to act and feel a certain way.

But I do think things are changing.

Is it just an one-or-off type of thing? It has two speeds.

OK. Fast, and faster.

So, it's, like, it's just really, like... Yes. OK.

We'll plug it in after this, I'll show you.

Penda N'Diaye gives women from Black communities as safe space to

explore sexual liberation,

away from a world where they are often sexualized by the media.

I think, for Black women specifically, a lot of the stigmas

are just old stereotypes.

We kind of have the Jezebel, who's the more, like, promiscuous,

or that you're aggressive, or that you're sexually deviant.

And I think a lot of it has to do with just our anatomy

and natural curvature.

Penda wants to break down these stereotypes by inspiring

a confidence she feels comes naturally to white women, -

by unlearning shame and celebrating Black female pleasure.

So, much as I love a bit of sex talk,

I'm respectfully sitting this one out.

Black woman particularly are undergoing this incredible

revolution right now, and I think sexual identity is

a huge part of that revolution.

Knowing what feels good, and not accepting anything less.

Today, the women are giving their inside stories on some homework

Penda set to test drive a bunch of new sex toys.

Sales have grown massively worldwide,

and are now estimated to be worth a whopping £25 billion.

The UK is one of the largest markets for sex toys in Europe.

Thanks to minority entrepreneurs,

the industry is beginning to better represent women of colour.

Once you understand the capacity of your pleasure, you can use that

to inform who we are, and not silencing ourselves.

So, I'm really glad that all of you all are joining me in this journey

of pleasure and feeling good,

and you are down for the sex toys that are here.

SHE CHUCKLES

My mom gave me my first vibrator for Christmas.

She's like, "OK, I don't need to know what you're doing,

"who you're doing it with, just as long as you're getting it in."

What's been challenging, honestly, is just having conversations with

a lot of women who have never had orgasms.

Sometimes I'm still like, "Wow".

And if you thought you didn't need a sex toy, well, listen and learn.

I'm Sade. Hi, everyone. Hey.

This is Sade's first sex toy experience. Yeah.

THEY CHEER You've popped the cherry.

How do your partners feel about bringing toys into the room?

I was always, in my mind, thinking that men may find it

a little intimidating.

It's something so powerful, about being able to please yourself,

er, without anyone else. Right.

First time using it, I was like,

"Damn, this feels so much more, like, easier".

And it felt like I had a little bit more control over my orgasms.

So, now I know what it is I need.

Whereas, I think, before, so often of my sex experience relied on men.

Today, I got liberated.

It felt really freeing to have that type of discourse, erm,

amongst women that look like me, and that remind me of myself.

I'm Leeza.

For me, it's exploring different types of toys with my partner,

and then, even going shopping for toys with my partner

to create that ease.

I had the double trouble.

THEY LAUGH

And for me, it was a nice, big sigh and a squirt.

And I got to do it with my partner, and, you know, he would hold it

and I was able to have, like, three orgasms, like,

back-to-back-to-back. Yes!

Growing up as B black girl, being told not to do things,

you know, we're being limited.

Sexual pleasure is for ultimate freedom.

It's no secret I do love a sex toy.

Because honestly, if you're waiting for someone else to give you a hand,

it can all be a bit touch-and-go.

Love you guys so much.

Well, what an education this has been.

And it's left me wondering what real sexual equality

might look like for women.

Is there actually a place with no orgasm gap?

No shame?

And where everyone understands the key to female pleasure?

Well, tonight, I'm going to find out.

Perfect.

I'm off to a women-only sex club

to see what happens when people are free to explore their raw sexuality

with no inhibitions - and perhaps, more importantly, no men.

Remember, we have lots of newbies tonight. Yes.

Always at least over 80% of our guests are first-timers.

So, keep your eyes peeled for anyone who looks a little bit unsure.

I'm nervous as hell -

so I've asked my friend Eleanor to join me.

When we were even talking about it, she was like,

"Yeah, I'd be so down for, like,

"watching women get off with each other".

But I would be a bit more awkward.

There was that one three-way with another girl and another guy,

but that was really it.

That was my one brush.

My most-straight friend. Yeah.

Financial adviser Genevieve set up Skirt Club in 2014

to host sex parties for women.

It now has 18,000 members in cities all over the world.

Nice to meet you darling. How you doing? This is Eleanor.

Pleasure! How you doing? Nice to meet you. Genevieve.

Welcome to Skirt Club.

Consent is a huge thing. Great.

And remember, like you, a lot of women are here for

the first time, so they're nervous.

OK. They may not have ever kissed a woman before.

Some women here are straight, some gay, some bi, some pan -

but all are curious and definitely horny.

What's your name? I'm Bella.

I'm a first-timer here. Yeah? Welcome.

OK, sexy sirens.

Welcome to Skirt Club.

THEY HOWL

We believe in the power of the feminine here.

So, Skirt Club is a safe space for you to explore all of your desires.

We're going to take good care of you.

Here, your pleasure is paramount.

In fact, it's the key to the Gates of Heaven.

If you do feel uncomfortable, I'm the Consent Fairy,

so come and find me.

THEY LAUGH

Please make sure to be safe.

Have conscious communication with each other.

If it's not a "hell yes", it's a "no".

I so appreciate the fact every single person who's turned up

is gorgeous in every single way, shape, or form.

We're all here for the same purpose - to enjoy each other.

THEY CHEER

So, good people, this is just a little taste of what

sexual liberation for women can look like!

And I think I'm going to like this.

I've always known that I've been bisexual.

I am married, I have a family.

But there's a part of me that... needs more.

And I have the position right now to have both.

And it's amazing.

It makes me feel powerful.

I've never felt that before.

And as the evening hots up, well, so do I.

Three, two, one!

Go!

This is tequila shots - Skirt Club-style.

It's a lot of fun.

SHE GIGGLES

If other women, like, do this together, that's an amazing thing.

It makes you feel super, super safe.

I think people are here to enjoy themselves,

lift each other up, appreciate each other.

I feel, like, really, truly, like free.

It's been such a transformation for me,

cos I come from this really conservative background.

You know, where, like... yeah, long skirts and, like,

really crazy Catholic.

And Skirt Club really gave me the opportunity to express myself.

Well, one of my fantasies for sure is to have sex

with several women at once.

You know, like 5-6 women laying on a bed and, you know,

going down on each other.

That's definitely amazing.

You don't have to be a lesbian, you don't have to be anything.

You can just do whatever you want.

You could be bi-curious, you could be married,

you could be - it doesn't matter. There's no label on it.

So, Skirt Club opens the door.

Girls are generally so focused on pleasuring the male.

Here is all about, like, girls and their pleasure

and their right to own that.

What happened next?

Well, I'm going to let that be the only mystery left in this show.

What I've learned about female sexuality is there is

so much left we need to learn.

I honestly think that most people know more about space than

the inner workings of the female orgasm.

I had to come face-to-face with my own vagina,

had an orgasm for science,

and attempted to masturbate in a room full of strangers -

which I never thought I would do.

What this has made me feel is that we need to fight for equality

and pleasure more than ever.

We deserve equal pleasure. We deserve orgasms!

Who doesn't want that?

There is all this pleasure right there,

and it's still left unexplored.

Having a clitoris is a superpower.

So, let's become superheroes and shout it from the rooftops.

Vaginas!

There's so much more to come on Planet Sex.

So, I'm a trans man.

She's my wife. He's our boyfriend.

Welcome to our sex lab.

Can you read my mind through my vagina?

What brings you to orgasm?

LAUGHTER Play with my balls.

In my own life, I definitely had a lot of internalised

homophobia and shame.

Finding community is super vital.

You can be you.

Free.

Are you going to cry? Mm-mm. OK.

LAUGHTER Just checking.

I'm just living off this queer energy.

The most important thing about life is connections with other humans.

We don't talk enough about how we can help each other.

So, let's talk about it.