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Communication Of Love by CLR Theory

SEAGULLS SQUAWK, DOG BARKS

# I missed the mark there

# I broke your heart there

# And when I did it I felt a little lost myself

# So what's the point then

# In being a mess when

# Seeing you smiling is the best part of every weekend?

# Ooh, catching all your kisses

# Ooh, holding you in places

# I don't wanna miss this

# Cos I have got a headache just from looking at you

# I have got a headache just from looking at... #

DOORBELL RINGS

I'll get it, then.

Hello.

Steve.

Wasn't expecting you to be here.

Ah, no, I'm just back for the week.

Why are you... Why are you here?

Oh, Steve!

Oh, it's nice to see you.

Well, come on in.

Oh, okey-dokey, aye.

What?

He offered to help me with the garden.

So he just had to help today, did he, my ex-boyfriend?

He has been offering for weeks and this is his day off.

Oh, I bet.

Cognitive behavioural therapy, or CBT, is a talking therapy

that can help us change the way we think and behave.

The first step is building an awareness of our own thoughts.

Let me just write down some of the steps we'll be taking.

Look...

..I didn't know her mum didn't know.

How could you not know?

Because she never told me.

So that bit isn't my fault.

It's not exactly ideal, is it?

When you think of all the ways that you tell your mum

about your sexuality...

We look to distinguish the difference between facts

and assumptions.

But I... I'm trying to listen.

By consciously... Please. ..and consistently challenging

our thoughts, we are in essence trying to change the way we think.

And if we can change how we think, we can change how we behave.

You will all be familiar with CBT from your meetings

with your social workers -

though it's important to say CBT is not a one size fits all,

so be patient with finding what works for you.

And I encourage you to be supportive of each other in this process.

Now, previously, we've worked

on identifying our individual triggers

and ways we can tell we are getting angry.

Keep those in mind for each of you as we go through this next exercise.

If you feel provoked,

it's important to establish what you're assuming about the situation.

You know, you don't have to do this.

It only takes an afternoon.

And your folks were always so lovely to me, so...

Sometimes I worry you're too nice.

Me too.

I haven't, erm...

..seen you since I had the...

No, I...

I'm sorry you had to do that.

Yeah.

I never... I never said anything to your mum.

Thanks.

I'm not sure she'd...

..approve.

Yeah.

I still think part of her wishes that we were still...

You know?

Yeah, I know.

Here.

Ta.

I don't know if you've heard, but I've met someone.

And...

Oh, she's lovely, aye.

And I'm working at the golf course now.

Assistant manager.Mm.

That's nice.

Are you all right? You don't...

..seem yourself.

Yeah, I'm all right.

I think. I just...

You know, I think it was a really brave thing you did.

Deciding not to keep the baby.

It takes a lot of guts.

To know what you have to do, and do it.

You think?

Aye.

I think you're probably braver than you realise.

Thanks.

That's a nice thing to say.

And since when have you started drinking tea?

Oh, no, I don't, but your mum never takes no for an answer, so...

..I just pour it in the lavender when she's gone.

Theo?

Theo, wait, please.

Please, look. I'm...

I'm sorry. I've messed up.

I wasn't thinking through what I was...

What was happening.

I couldn't be more sorry.

You know, you should listen.

Some of the stuff that she's saying in there makes a lot of sense.

I am listening. Were you?

Cos I kept looking over

and all you were doing was staring at your phone.

Well, I've got a lot on my mind.

Pal, we all do.

I'm busy applying for college, looking for jobs

and walking my neighbour's dog - not that you'd know, cos you never ask.

I think you're cool, Jade.

But I think I've realised that I want to be around people

who are at least trying.

DOOR OPENS AND CLOSES

That's Steve away, is it?

I can't do this.

This... This whole ignoring of what happened last night.

And then today, Steve.

Steve?

Please, say something.

You kept it from me.

I kept it from basically everybody.

I didn't think you'd be this upset.

You made a fool of me.

How is this about you?

Because you're my daughter.

Yeah, well, you're my mother.

And I've enough to deal with.

We all have.

Have you told Dad?

Of course I did.

We don't keep things from each other.

Oh, and before you start saying it, we're not, you know...

..bigoted.

Oh, really? So it's fine when it's anybody else,

but not when it's your daughter?

You're just not who I thought you were.

Yeah, well, neither are you.

Oh, didn't realise you were home.

Oh, you wouldn't believe work today.

Everybody's chipping in for Kirsty's leaving gift,

but no-one can decide what to get her.

I said a bottle of wine,

but apparently that's not fancy enough, so...

You still there?

What's wrong?

Love, what's wrong?

I'm sorry, Mum.

For what?

I just treat you like shit, I treat everyone like shit.

I just get so wrapped up in myself and angry.

I'm just sorry.

Oh... No, you...

..don't have to be so hard on yourself.

It's been a tricky few years for all of us.

But that programme is the start of something changing.

Mm. It's not too late.

It's never too late to turn things around.

I hope you're right.

I know I'm right.

Do you think you can help me fix everything?

Because I don't know how.