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[music]

FEMALE SINGER: ♪ Don't you
wish to think about it? ♪

♪ In here to please somebody

♪ I'm around and undercover

♪ Here comes trouble now

♪ And in my wicked ways

♪ I'll get you
into trouble now ♪

♪ It's just so hard to behave

♪ Got to see
another round now ♪

♪ I'm the one
your mama told you ♪

♪ Avoid that one stranger

♪ The risk you can't afford,
and here comes trouble now ♪

♪ Turnin' it up all night

♪ Got you feelin' all right

♪ Turnin' it up all night

♪ Got you feelin' all right

♪ Get you into trouble now

[music]

Describing my sex life.

My sex life is me

making other people's dreams
come true.

Pretty active.

I probably fall
somewhere in between

one night stands
and long-term relationships.

I would describe my sex life

as extremely important to me,
consistent.

- Choosy.
- Our sex life is new

and very exciting right now.

Active, colorful,

a little bland sometimes.

I haven't gotten properly laid
since, mm,

April of last year.

My sex life is a mom sex life.

So it's quiet,
it's hurry-hurry,

and it's
"Did-you-lock-the-door?"

Consistent.

Yeah. Active.

Yeah. I'm very happy with it.

I decided to bury
some love crystals on a hike,

but it was a little too strong.

And now it's sea of dick,

and I can't even come up
for air.

- I'm Solomon.
- I'm Alison.

- I'm Ettie.
- I'm Erin.

- I'm Ryan.
- Alex. And this...

- And this...
- And this...

And this is my motherfucking
sex life.

That's like Valerie Cherish
in "The Comeback."

[laughs]

[music]

GENEVIEVE: The Skirt Club
is a private member's club

for women only.

It's intended for bi-curious,
bisexual women,

or straight women looking
for first-time experience,

would like to explore
part of themselves

like not quite got to know
just yet.

You're emboldened
by your new experience.

There's some air of confidence
around you.

You've accomplished
what you secretly desired

and it feels liberating.

- Wow.
- Oh, my gosh.

You did good.
Fuck, this is amazing.

Wow.

I think this is gonna be
our best venue ever.

Ever.

Should we check down this way?

People who are, like,
gonna come and, like,

get ready and get their makeup,
like, had, like,

to touch their makeup up.
- Yeah.

This might be a good room
for that.

When I started Skirt Club,
you know,

one of the main drivers
was that I, as a woman,

had bought a ticket
for my boyfriend

to attend a sex party,
a Swingers Club.

It was co-ed,
it was mixed couples.

- Gorgeous through here.
- Oh, check this out.

There's a couch
in the bathroom.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

- Oh, my God.
- GENEVIEVE: And...

it was his birthday present.
We went there together.

Yet when I arrived, you know,

I was kind of manhandled
a little bit,

treated, um, like most women
are in society--

grabbed by the arms,
slapped on the bottom.

How many do you think
we could fit in this?

- Four.
- Let's go for six.

- Maybe a five or...
- [laughs]

I couldn't understand how,
if I have paid

for the ticket to be there,

why I was been treated
like a second citizen.

That--That first
sparked my interest in,

I guess pulling things over
to the other side,

the female side.

I wanted to experiment
with how a--a party

in that scenario would look
without men attending,

if women would behave
differently.

And I can tell you,
yes, they do.

[music]

TOPANGA: This could be
a cute place to, like,

close all, like,
close all of these

and then put the blankets here.

- GENEVIEVE: Yeah.
- And maybe a few on the floor.

Right. I mean, it's a pay--
a perfect spot for perching.

- Yeah. Perfect spot for that.
- You know--

you know
what I'm talking about.

Pussy perch?

- Yes.
- Let's do it.

- It's the Pussy Perch.
- GENEVIEVE: I, actually.

TOPANGA: Exactly. Yeah.

- GENEVIEVE: Okay.
- Mm-hmm.

Skirt Club has completely
changed my life.

You know how I feel
about grand pianos.

[laughter]

TOPANGA: I do.
I really do.

When I first started,
I was dating a guy.

Our relationship
was kind of ending,

and I just wasn't feeling
sexually fulfilled.

I think we do have
some first-timers

and I think this is a lovely
venue for them to be at,

just because they're gonna
be able to feel

like so luxurious
and well taken care of

because it's just so lux.
- GENEVIEVE: Mm-hmm.

It'll just feel
like home almost.

- Yeah.
- Like a big, sexy home.

I am an openly bisexual woman

and when it comes
to the day-to-day,

like, typically gay bars
are for men.

So even if you're a woman
in a gay bar,

you don't know
if that other woman

is gonna want to--
want to be hit on.

So we don't want to--
want to cross any boundaries.

So I literally Googled
"lesbian sex party,"

and Skirt Club was the first
thing that came up.

I decided to be a member,

and it was
like opening the door

into a whole other world.

Like, wow. This is breaking on
through to the other side.

GENEVIEVE: You know,
I really--I think

it's like 70%
of our guest list

is, uh, first-timers
for this event.

TOPANGA: Mm-hmm.

- Which isn't unusual.
- No.

But it's, you know, our duty

to help them feel relaxed
and comfortable and...

- Yeah.
- ...make new friends quickly.

So--
- Mm-hmm.

...this is the right place
to do that.

Yes.

It's a real
hands-on experience.

[laughter]

It's important for women
to understand

it's okay to explore
your sexual pleasure.

I personally believe knowing
what is your true desire

is part of our journey
as human beings.

And so we all have
a unique sexual self.

It takes time to get
to know what that actually is.

So having a safe place
to explore it is important,

especially for women

who don't normally find
safe places.

[music]

LAUREN: I really feel
like I've, you know,

I've met like the one
I'm gonna spend my life with.

But at this age
and this point in my life,

I just know that I have to be
accepted as I am.

It's nonnegotiable.

I have to have a man
and a woman.

I have to have both.

[music]

LAUREN: Some people
have that perception

that being with a woman
is cheating,

and then other guys
just feel like, oh,

anything you do with a woman
isn't cheating.

Like, it's sexier.
It's a turn-on for them.

And then so you just,

you don't know
what you're gonna get.

But I'm not gonna be
with someone

who thinks that this is just
like a, I don't know,

an extravagant thing
that I need.

This is just who I am.

Like, there's things
that I need

and things that I want
and this is a part of that.

[music]

I'm a mother, I'm an author,

and I'm a bisexual woman.

Currently, I'm in
a monogamous relationship.

He meets all those sort
of traditional needs

I have from a man
and what it feels like

to be a woman with a man.

But yet, the desire
to be with a woman is--

it's an authentic part
of myself.

Even my own partner
didn't really know

what to make of it
when we met.

He just--He had no context

to understand me
being attracted to a woman.

I'll never forget when he
first saw me with a woman,

just like touching a woman
or kissing a woman,

and he said, "Wow.

Like, you like women
the way I like women."

I'm like, "Yeah."

So I'm hoping
that our monogamy

can also include me having
a relationship with a woman.

It's "Walk On the Wild Side,"
the event.

So I think it has to be--

I think it has to be this one.

And I think...

it has to be...

I think it's gonna be this.

Skirts are sexy
and sort of wild.

I think I have to wear a skirt.

It's better than pants
because, you know,

easy access.

I mean, I'd love to meet
someone at Skirt Club

to have a--
a sexual partnership

and--and emotional
partnership.

And, you know, there's times
where I'm with my partner

and I imagine
I have two girlfriends

and--and then
there's other times

where I imagine there's,
you know,

a woman that just
joins us in the bedroom.

And at other times
I imagine there's a woman

that can join us
in our life in some way.

And I don't know how it's
all gonna come together

but I knew it's gonna
come together.

So keys we're giving
to women

that coming to Skirt Club
for the first time.

So that the other woman
can see

who is first-timer
and who's not

and maybe they can start
a nice conversation

or share a nice story
with each other,

like a--like a pick-up line.

"Oh, it's your first time,
huh?"

GENEVIEVE:
What still drives me

is that Monday morning
after an event,

guaranteed there'll be at least
one email from a woman

to tell me how much
her life has changed.

It's amazing
that we can provide that.

[music]

Imagining what it's like
for a first-timer

attending an event,

she's obviously very nervous,

really unsure about
how this evening might go.

Leaves the house,
maybe slightly trembling,

and makes her way
to the event.

She's wondering
who she'll meet,

if she can make friends
quickly.

So many questions

and so many different paths
it could take you.

Arriving at the venue,
I'm pretty sure

she'll reconsider
actually attending.

She'll ring the doorbell.

And probably feel
somewhat relieved

to see a smiling face

and many women there
to greet her.

And then making friends
for the first time,

women who think similar to you
that you've never met.

[chatter]

- Hi.
- I'm Lauren.

- Hi, I'm Romie.
- Nice to meet you, Romie.

Nice to meet you, yes.

And Romie has made
all her jewelry.

Ooh, that's fantastic.

[music]

- I'm Bella.
- Hi, Bella. I'm Lauren.

- Lauren, yeah.
- Nice to meet you.

I'm in that place where
I've had a lot of experiences

and I know who I am.

I have this great partnership
and looking for people

that fit in
and work in my life.

And that, uh,
just an authentic expression

of who I am
and what I'm looking for.

Yeah, I heard about it from,
uh, a client, actually.

She was telling me about it.

The thing I think
is safe about Skirt Club

is the fact that,
when women come in,

they feel a part of something.

They feel connected
to the women around them.

And I've tried to date
lesbian women,

and they're always like,
"You're bi.

- Like, no thanks." And--
- Yeah. Oh, my gosh.

They're like,
"Stay far away from me."

- Yeah.
- "You're bisexual."

Yeah. Oh, I should show you
some of the chats.

It's like an inquisition,
sort of.

They're like, "So how many
women have you dated?"

And like,
"Were any of them serious?"

And, you know,
I'm like, "Wow.

This is already--
it's not feeling very fun."

- Yeah, so like, yeah.
- Okay.

SEREN: You go to a party
where there are men involved,

and it's like the women are
kind of like on their arms

and they're in their dresses,
and they almost, like,

need to impress each other
and they need to impress

the men around them.

And they're not as free
with what they do

or they don't--
they don't fully embrace

playing with one another

because they're conscious
of the men around them,

um, and that kind of
male gaze.

STEPHANIE: I think Skirt Club
is such a safe place

because it is highly vetted

for the people that are coming

and it's people that are all
here for the same reason.

They're here because they're
curious about their sexuality

and they want to be in a place

where other women
are accepting of that.

So that's something
I really enjoy about Skirt Club

is it--it's fun
to just get to know women

that have that same thing
that you do and are--

have a genuine interest
and pursue it.

Well, cheers to us.

- Cheers to ladies.
- Cheers, yes.

GENEVIEVE:
Welcome to Skirt Club LA.

A delight to see you
all here looking wild.

- Wow.
- Woo.

There's some real claws
out tonight.

Many of you have been before,
but I'd love to know

who is here
for the first time tonight.

Yes.

[cheering]

Can I see your little keys
dangling in the air?

- Yeah.
- Yes.

Where will you put
that key tonight

when you get home?

Will you keep it
somewhere safe?

Will you
hang it on your bedpost

to remind you
of what a wonderful time

you will have shortly?

[laughter]

Because you ain't seen
nothing yet.

[laughter]

Exploration is everything.

The people you will meet,

you won't normally in bars
or with your friends.

[music]

[cheering]

[music]

They're gonna meet people
from all parts of life,

different circles,
different professions.

People you don't
normally cross into.

Um, but you'll be bonded
by one thing,

this desire to explore
your sexuality for yourself.

[music]

That, I think,
is the most important thing

of Skirt Club.

Now, what happens after that,
you know,

is that sexy time
and two people get naked,

and all that kind of stuff.

I do believe
that's what 80% have come for.

[laughs] So, um, yeah,

there's opportunity
for everything.

Uh, I have my Skirt Club
sisters right here.

Um, but they've been with me
through the tests of time

from all over the world.
- Oh.

You're not there
with a partner,

you're not there with someone

who, um, you're concerned

about what they think of you,

what they think
of what you're going to do,

what you're not going to do.

[music]

For your own pleasure,

most importantly,
you know, it's--

I feel like it's
a judgment-free zone

because everyone's there
to get everyone off.

[woman laughs]

Salt, tequila, lime
in that order.

You're going to lick the salt
slowly from her thigh.

Mm-hmm.

You're going to down the shot,

and then you're going to kiss
the lime

from her mouth.
- Ooh.

Whoever has the lime at the end
is the winner.

- Mm-hmm.
- Simple rules.

Everybody please count with me
on the count of 3.

3, 2, 1.

Go!

[cheering]

Go, go, go, go! Oh!

[cheering]

And slowly does it.

[cheering]

LAUREN: It's surprising
how magical it is

to be with only women.

I realize that I never
experienced that,

and, yeah,

I think maybe I've been
aware of women in the room

and sort of felt
that connection.

But to have a space
where it's just women

and women
who are really comfortable

with their bisexuality

feels really beautiful.

I know this is kind of--
I'm starving.

I think this is really good.

[screaming]
[laughter]

- Ready?
- Come on, get down.

How do we do three?

[laughter]

[laughs] Sorry.
- Quick.

The thing I like the most
about Skirt Club

is the energy
of the sort of matrix holders.

There has to be a certain
energy and certain people

to catalyze and create
the sexuality of the space,

or else you just have a bunch
of, like, fearful women

who are afraid
to make the first move.

Are you all ready?

3, 2, 1. Go!
- Whoo!

[cheering]

That was impressive.

[cheering, shouting]

[music]

Things feel so different now,

and you finally begin
to understand who you truly are.

You understand
that you are unique,

that your sexual self is
still a journey to discover,

but that
you are on that journey.

[music]

LAUREN: You're so pretty.

[woman laughs]

Such a pretty
Orange County girl.

This is so, like, rippable,

like, I just want
to rip it off of you.

It is torn a little bit.

So teasing.

- [laughs]
- So unfair.

You're so smart,
and you talk, you talk.

I was--I was, uh...

I just want
to rip it off of you.

- Yeah.
- Mm-hmm.

You're such a pretty woman.

- You are.
- You are.

- You are.
- No, you are.

[music]

LAUREN: There are so many
beautiful women

that you sort of are like,
"Which one should I approach?"

But I did connect with a woman,
and that was pretty amazing,

and, you know, it--it's
a mixed bag at the same time

because I'm looking
for connection.

Like, I'm looking for,
"Do you want to do this again?"

Not like, "Oh,
I just want to hook up

and then, uh,
cross that off my list."

Want to go get another drink
or wander around?

I mean, I have this--
right here.

Yeah, wander around
a little bit, like...

Yeah, yeah, I know.
I'm gonna go do that, too.

And I'm gonna go see you,
and I hope I find you again.

I don't know.
We'll see, you know.

Bisexual women, they're--
I think they're challenging

to pin down in relationship.

But I have to say
that, being here,

they've created a space
that just--

that takes you into your sexy.

So, uh, it's a very special
environment.

I plan on going to more
Skirt Club parties

and exploring it more,
for sure.

[music]

Skirt Club
has helped normalize

bisexuality for women,
full stop.

Uh, we have made a dent

in how people perceive women

who date both boys and girls,

and, um, I'm proud of that.

To just be themselves,
their authentic selves.

It's their human right.

They should be able to express

without feeling ashamed
or concerned

that people
won't approve of them.

In the name of equality,

it's time to stand up

and just be free
to be yourself.

[music]

Have I ever experimented
with anal play

is like asking a gay man
"Do you like brunch?"

Like, it's the most obvious
question in the world.

Of course.
- Some things are off limits.

I don't do anything in my ass.

However, I do enjoy
giving a little peg.

It's amazing.

I mean, I've pegged
three men in a day

before noon sometimes.

We haven't fully dabbled
in anal sex yet.

I feel like
that's the final frontier.

[laughter]

Well, I am a big fan of...

back door--[chuckles]--sex,

and he is not really
into that.

And I'm like,
"But you should try."

I think I will never, like,
you know, it scares me.

You'd be very surprised

of how many men
loved to be pegged.

I fucked a man in Waco
in the ass.

It almost made me wish
I had a real dick, almost.

It's just as fun
to strap it on.

Every animal does it
from the back, you know,

like, maybe, like, dolphins
or something

don't do it that way,
but, like, yeah.

They have sex like we do.
- The exception.

Well, it's true.
They're very smart.

Yeah, but, uh, yeah,
it's cultural thing.

I guess that's
the whole thing about it.

Can you get over that there
might be poop somewhere

far up there that might be
coming down

or it becoming poop.

The most important thing
that I want Americans

to embrace about sexuality
is loosen up.

Loosen the fuck up
and have some fun

and, like, put something up
your butt in a weird way

and, like, laugh about it
and take a picture of it

and send it to your friends.

And just have fun
because it's just sex.

[music]

Hello, everyone.

My name is
Professor Rain DeGrey

and I am your resident
butt expert.

I am here today
to talk about butt stuff.

That's right.

Butts, we all have one.

Those glorious globes,

the junk in the trunk,

that delightful posterior.

A payload of pleasure
that we are all sitting on

and most people
are afraid to explore.

Now, I know
what you're thinking.

I can hear you
thinking it right now.

"But Rain, I'm scared
to put something in my butt.

What if it hurts?

What if it's messy?"

You're worried your neighbors
are gonna judge you.

First off,
what you stick in your butt

is nobody's business
other than you

and the person
who's helping you

put things in your butt.

Humans have been sticking
things up their butt

for as long as we've been
on the planet.

We've just gotten better at it.

The toys have gotten better,

the lube has gotten better.

With the proper amount of care
and foresight,

anal doesn't have to hurt.

It doesn't have to be messy,

unless you're into
that sort of thing.

No judgment. I'm not German.

Join me today

on an exploration
of butt stuff.

By the time I'm done with you,

you, too, can be safely
and enjoyably

exploring the wonders of anal.

[music]

INDIANA: [giggles]

The first time I saw Evan,

he was on stage playing
with his bands.

Evan is this confident force

who's like got a look
and he's intriguing.

So I was like,
"You never want to date me.

I'm pretty plain."

At least in my, I don't know,
in my opinion, but, yeah.

I don't think so, no.

[vocalizing]

We got to get lyrics
right there.

Yeah. I went up and I said hi
to you after I got off

the stage that night.
- Mm-hmm.

I really wanted
to get to know you

in any kind of capacity
at that point.

[guitar plays]

EVAN: One of the things
I love about this relationship

is that we are extremely in tune

to each other's emotions,
needs.

INDIANA:
We have this magnificent

physical connection.

We're on the same level.
- It's so passionate.

- Yeah.
- Yeah.

I can say literally
anything to her

and it's not gonna be
responded to

with any kind of backlash
or anything like that.

Just open arms and like,
"Okay, let's talk."

[guitar music plays]

INDIANA: When it comes to sex,

my experience with anal play
or anal sex

has just been very minimal.

I've wanted to try that.

I've wanted to pursue that
in a way that's pleasurable

but, like, safe.

♪ And I'll drive you

♪ Crazy

♪ Yeah, I'll drive you wild

[laughter]

- I love you.
- I love you.

When I think about Evan
and I engaging in anal sex

and I'm on the receiving end,

it does bring this level of like
a little bit of anxiety.

I trust you.

But it does make me
a little nervous

because I know how big you are.

- Makes me nervous.
- Yeah.

Yeah.

It's awkward to ask
about sexuality.

And I am always so proud
of any couple

that reaches out to me
for coaching.

I like that you and I
are taking this step to,

like, have that opportunity
to talk to an expert.

- I do.
- The two main issues

people have when it comes
to anal play

is it being messy
and it being painful.

Both of those issues
are very easily addressed

with a little bit
of preparation.

We want to be able
to do this safely

while still maintaining
like, you know,

that sexual energy and...

explore new things with you.

It's gonna be
a really good step

in a direction
we've talked about

but haven't had
the opportunity to do.

Far as like me
entering somebody,

I haven't really known anybody
I ever felt confident with

or been confident in myself
enough to engage in that.

We have the opportunity
now to kind of change that,

I think, a little bit.

- Mm-hmm.
- So I'm excited about that.

- Yeah. Me, too.
- Oh, you missed.

[laughs]

[music]

Our body is the finest toy
we will ever be given.

And most people are afraid
to play with it.

[laughs]

As an advice columnist,

people get worried
about being judged

and they're like,
"Well, I'm gonna ignore

that part of me."

[music]

People are fascinated
by anal play

for a multitude of reasons.

And when you go through
your whole life with

"That's dirty, butts
are embarrassing," fart jokes,

like, you get so much stigma
attached around that.

So you take something
that's forbidden,

you take something that is
a little harder to acquire,

and it's also simultaneously
very pleasurable.

That's the trifecta
of awesome.

Rain seems like she's gonna be
a wealth of knowledge,

and, uh, I know
I'm gonna have a good time.

I hope that this is positive
for you.

Yeah, I'm sure it will be.

I mean, I've been sticking
a finger up my ass

since I was like 13, so...
- [laughs]

EVAN: When I was younger
and I was first

starting to pleasure myself,

I'd be in the shower for,
you know, a couple of hours,

and I would--I would stick
a finger up my ass,

and it felt really good.

And then I immediately
felt ashamed of myself.

Shame.

[laughs]

Anal and butt play
and stuff like that

is such a vulnerable place
to be in.

You know, growing up
in this society as a man,

I'm expected to not have
anything done to me.

I was a man growing up
in a very conservative town

with very conservative parents.

Literally, Dad said,
"Don't ever be a cocksucker."

Anybody who is, you know,

exhibiting any kind of
homosexual tendencies

was immediately shot down
and shamed.

I feel kind of, I guess,
not sad for you,

but I--I've always felt
like it wasn't really fair

that you haven't had
the ability

to experience
something sexually

that you'd like to because
it's just more taboo for men.

It's being talked about
a lot now

with the buzzword
toxic masculinity,

saying, "Oh, you can't
be this and be a man."

The most manly thing
that I've come up with

that you can do is not listen
to other people

that are trying to tell you
how to be who you are.

So if that means
sticking a finger up my ass

and being proud of it,
then so be it.

If that means she's sticking
a finger up my ass

and I'm proud of it,
so be it.

- It's gonna be fun.
- Mm-hmm.

I glad I got my ass waxed.

[laughter]

Ooh, that's hot.

Oh, whoa,
you're getting in there.

- Yep.
- Oh, whew.

[laughs] Oh, ow.

I have--That's something
I've never seen before.

[music]

INDIANA: I'm so excited.

It's a pleasure
to meet both of you.

- Yeah.
- Who's excited?

I think we're both
really excited.

- Yes. Butt stuff.
- Yes.

-I'm excited for both of you.
- Yeah.

I'd be honored to give
and receive in this--

in this situation,
at least learn more about it.

Normally when you're
hooking up with someone,

you don't have to put
that much thought into it.

You can show up
and you're good to go.

Anal is an activity

that requires a little bit
more preparation.

You have to think about it.

You have to have
some foresight,

and you have to get
some supplies.

But in my opinion,

that preparation
is totally worth it

because the payoff
is so enjoyable.

When it comes to anal play,

the step that I'd like
to cover,

step 1--
how to clean the butt.

[music]

When you start to do anal,

you don't want to be
figuring out

how your colon works
in the middle of sexy time.

- [laughs]
- Salvador Dali

said something like--
I believe the line was,

"Pussies are bullshit,
and--and butts are honest."

[water shower dripping]

We're anatomically designed

to have pleasure from the ass,

male or female.

It feels good.
There's nerve endings there.

There's the prostate there.

If you're a female,
through the wall of the anus

you can hit the G-spot.

It feels good.

Now, some people
really get into enema play.

[laughs]

And they will do milk enemas,
they'll do coffee enemas.

- Yeah, I've heard about that.
- They will clean themselves.

I just use water,
and I'm good to go.

Hey. Oh, I like those.

RAIN: Take the time
to figure out

what is the process you need
to clean out your colon.

It's all about relaxing.

It literally is a mindset

where you're having
to retrain your brain.

If you have a clean ass
and you are relaxed,

anal's
a pretty feasible thing.

What is your opinion on,
uh, on graduating plugs?

- I'm a huge advocate for it.
- Okay.

I think
they're an excellent idea.

Something like this.

- Whoo, boy.
- And you're like, that's--

I admire people
who want to tackle this.

And there are people--
"It's not me."

- However, this is possible.
- Mm-hmm.

The truth is the average length
of a vagina

is 3 to 5 inches.

And when it's aroused,

it can get up
to 5 to 7 inches.

The interesting thing
about the ass is

you have, like,
22 feet of colon.

I've seen people
do squat thrusts

over a traffic safety cone.

You can get some size
up there.

If you get that ass
opened up and relaxed,

I have succeeded
in double-fisting a man's ass.

I have never managed

to double-fist
a woman's pussy.

Everybody's body
is different.

Your ass can be trained.

And the more that you go
on that journey

and the more you figure out
how your ass works

and the more relaxed you get,

generally the larger
you can get.

One of my pet peeves

is I hate seeing people

get sex education from porn.
- Mm-hmm.

Because it's completely

unrealistic.
- Yes.

You cannot look at porn

and think that's
how people are doing it.

I don't look at the Olympics

and wonder why I can't do
a five-point barrel jump

and land
and not shatter my legs.

If you're gonna look
at a porn film

and then go home
and try and duplicate it,

and you're like, "I-I can't--

I can't fit it all in me."

Porn is as realistic
as Tom Cruise movies.

The model has been
sitting on a plug

for an extended period of time.
- BOTH: Mm-hmm.

And they've put lube
inside the hole.

What, like lube's not sexy?

Lube is sexy.

Use the fucking lube.

[laughter]

Use more lube.

We need to normalize
using lube.

Oh, that's cold.
[laughs]

- It's all right.
- Oh, boy.

We'll leave that
in the sunlight.

Once you take mess off
the table,

what's the other thing
that people are worried about?

- Pain.
- The pain.

Pain.
- Definitely.

The most important tip

that I can possibly
give anybody--

breathe and relax.

The more tense you are
and the more stressed you are,

the higher your chances

that you're not gonna
have a fun time.

Find your Zen about anal.

Breathe and relax.

So how do we avoid pain?

We avoid pain
by romancing the butthole.

You need to woo the butthole.

[laughs]

How is it for you?

- It's nice.
- Really?

I feel you're reacting to it.

And, I mean, obviously
this feels great physically.

[gasps]

I don't know how far into it
we're gonna get.

It's not just
about the anal sex,

it's about the pleasure
all around.

Do either of you
have any questions for me?

I have so many questions.
Um...

- Bring them.
- All right.

It's one of the misconceptions
that I know

that are out there--
men will go to,

I guess,
jackhammer their partner.

Is in and out
the thing that we do here,

is it just in
or is it just slowly or--

I always describe
the sphincter

as the bouncer
for a very exclusive club.

[music]

The hardest part
is the initial insertion.

- Mm-hmm.
- Geez, that feels--

I mean, it's good.

It's just strange.

[gasps]

- Yeah.
- But nice.

Nice, strange--Oh, boy.

Baby, don't go all the way
back out.

Once you've gotten
past that bouncer,

you're good to go.

Oh, it's cold.

Nothing has prepared me
for how cold that is.

Oh.

Where you undock and redock,

undock and redock

is where you're increasing
your chances of damage.

I always advocate
that once you're in,

you're just sliding
back and forth with it.

- Mm-hmm.
- I always describe anal

as a five-course meal.

Lube has happened,

prior stretching has happened,

cleaning has happened.

You can't just bust in
willy-nilly

and hope it all works out.

Well, you can,

but that's
a much higher chance

of things going wrong.

You have to prepare for it

to ensure that things
do not go wrong.

Oh, stay relaxed.

I'm trying.

Lots of breathing.

Yeah.

Do you trust me?
- I trust you.

If we get to the point
where I'm comfortable enough

to actually receive you,

and that's 8 1/2 inches,

and that's a lot.

Like you try to tell me,
push up.

And push.

Oh.

If we're able
to get to that point,

I think that that's possible,

and I'd like that
to be the case.

But if it's not,
that's okay, too.

I'm more in this to have
another avenue of pleasure,

and it doesn't necessarily
have to be, you know,

to the point of orgasm.

[laughs] How was that?

- I-I like it.
- Yeah?

It's gonna take
maybe some time.

Of course.

Before I could do that again.

Yeah, nervous butthole.

It does do that. I do.

I counsel people all the time.

Just start off with a finger.

If you just take your finger
on the outside

and you just start
knocking on the door,

"Oh. Oh, hold on a minute.

That's actually
kind of marvelous."

Hey, baby,
I really want to try.

In the context
of doing things,

analing, and then to a man?

That is a whole power dynamic

that I am still kind of
wrapping my head around.

I don't ever try
to get inside an ass

until I've managed
to get all three fingers in.

When you get
all three fingers in,

stop, wait.

- Do you believe in me?
- I do.

- I believe in you.
- I trust you.

You can actually feel
as the ass starts to relax

and realize it doesn't have
anything to be scared of.

- Mm-hmm.
- Male or female,

when you can feel the ass
start to relax,

that's when I like to make
a little "come hither" motion.

- Mm-hmm.
- Coochy, coochy-coo.

Come here, you. Come here.

And whether the prostate
or the G-spot,

they're going to respond
to that.

[laughs] It does tickle.

I told you it tickles.

- Yeah.
- You were warned.

There's a lot
of responsibility,

and I feel the weight of that,

but it's a very powerful
feeling

to have that, yeah.

- Oh, whoa. [laughs]
- [laughs]

Oh, I felt that.
All right. Um...

This is that?
This is the come hither.

I'll stop.
- All right.

I do think that anal play would
be able to give me an orgasm.

The male G-spot
or the prostate is in there.

I'm very aware of it.

It's much better.
I can feel you tense.

The advice that I would
give any couple

that hired me for coaching
is communicate,

negotiate, own your awesome.

Let go
of the fear and the guilt

and the anxiety.

Explore your body.

Find out what works for you.

There's only one thing
left to do, my friends.

Go forth and fuck.

Thank you so much.

It's been a pleasure.
- My pleasure.

- Lovely meeting you.
-Thank you. Thank you.

You're very feisty.
I like it.

- You go first.
- All right.

[laughs]

You don't have to do anal.

It's not the mark
of a cool kid.

You should never be pressured

to doing something
you don't enjoy.

But sometimes,

the things that we enjoy
sneak up on us.

There's so much pleasure
associated with your body,

and I just want to have more
people access that pleasure.

It's a noble cause
through the power of butt sex.

INDIANA: I'm just excited
to have, like,

another tool in our tool belt.
- EVAN: Mm-hmm.

Just another thing
that we can do

to help each other achieve

some amount of pleasure
and passion.

- Yeah.
- And I think it's gonna be

really beneficial in that way.

[laughter]

I trust you, I trust some
of the knowledge we've gained,

and I trust that we'll continue
that journey as we see fit.

Bottom line, end of the day,

all I want to do
is love this woman.

- Oh.
- In every way possible.

Mm. You're my favorite person.

Oh, you're my person.

See? I told you.

It's not so bad.

Now that you're a little
bit more...

opened up to the concept,

I want you to go forth

and stick something
up your butt.

That's your homework
assignment.

Enjoy.

[music]

I think about sex
all the time.

I've been thinking about it
this whole time.

Uh, well, not with you,

but, uh, you know, I'm a guy.

You know, I think about sex
all the time.

From the moment I wake up,

all I can think about is ass.

Literally, that's what keeps me
hungry throughout the day.

Yeah, I did think about
having sex when I was married,

but it was more like
how can I get out of it.

I am a bit of pervert
in my head.

I think about sex a lot
throughout the day.

It's like there's like a devil
on my shoulder

that's just like,
"Sex, sex, sex."

Sex thoughts are kind of
just filtered

and woven in between
everyday life.

Is it healthy? I think so.

I'm currently single,

and I sometimes feel like
a 14-year-old boy some days.

I'm totally distracted
in my head.

We're humans.
We're sexual creatures,

so it's throughout the day.

Everything is sort of
sexual to me.

That's just the concept
in my life.

I'm thinking about it
right now.

I think I think about sex

even when I'm not thinking
about sex, you know?

Like, sex is just the thing.

Like, it is literally
the reason I'm alive.

I think about it all the time.

I'm, like, grateful
for fucking.

[music]

SOVEREIGN:
I think that I want to do

some girl-girl content again.

RAE: Wait, wait,
more forward. Yeah.

Here we go.

Oh, that's really good.

Look at--
Look in each other's eyes.

Ream me out from behind
like a real fucking champion.

[laughter]

RAE: There we go.

Now both of you
just look at me.

Don't have too much fun, fun.

Are you ready to fuck?

ALL: Yes.

SOVEREIGN: I think the bed
should be like in the center.

RAE: Yeah. That's what I was
thinking, too, actually.

I kind of go rogue
during a scene,

so there's a chance that,
if things are going well there,

I might just like fuck you
in that chair.

You know what I mean?

Like, sometimes the scene
just works like that.

When I started
in the porn industry,

it was at a time
when social media

was really starting
to pop off.

My space was--was really big,
and social media

was really starting
to pick up steam--Twitter.

It was the very beginning
of when we were seeing

that social media could really
transform someone's life

and could really get them
to reach through self-promotion

like their own audience.

I can make out with you there

but I'm gonna take you
to the chair,

go down on you,
like eat your pussy.

You can come.

And then I'll get up,
take you by the hand,

walk you over the bed,
and then we'll do

the more
conventional sex stuff.

Oh, take me by the hand?

Porn has gone
through a huge shift

in the nine years
that I've been in the industry.

The girl next door

with an internet connection
and a social media profile

were able to build up
their own websites,

create pay sites,
and start making money.

It really did start
to transform

the industry as a whole.

So then, after we bang,

we want it to end

with kind of like
cuddling like--

- Yeah, just like that...
- Very sweet.

I've always known, I think,
since a very young age,

you know, I wasn't gonna be
just at a desk

could do a 9-to-5
every day.

I just knew I was gonna do
something different.

I did a lot of different
types of scenes

for several years.

I just felt so empowered
by this feeling of like,

well, I can do this,
so why the fuck not?

Things have changed,
obviously, with--

SOVEREIGN: Yeah.

...things kind of being
more in our hands now.

When I first start doing porn,

I had so many agents

and managers ask me,

"Can you be more
of a dumb whore on Twitter?"

They--And I was like,
"I can't. I literally can't.

I can't maintain that."
- PHOENIX: Yeah.

Every single day,
all day long.

And they want you
to come off "available"

and not talk about
your personal life.

Yeah. And then I was like,
"I can't do that."

And just be a dumb
available slut.

For so long
there were gatekeepers

that said models
must look like this.

They must be 5'11"

and between 105
and 115 pounds.

Before, you know,
when shooting studio porn,

when you suggested,
"What if we do it like this?"

Like, "Yeah, no."

And you just learned
just stop making suggestions

and just stop.
Do you know what I mean?

Now these new platforms
were allowing,

uh, self-motivated,
uh, content creators

to put their own product
out there,

and what they were proving
was that

there was absolutely an audience
that would buy it.

Because of the advancements
in technology

and sort of edited--
and by technology,

I just mean like
editing software,

I can shoot--
my iPhone can shoot in 4K

if I want it to, right?
- The cameras on this?

- Yeah.
- Are crazy.

It's made it fun again.

Yeah, because you're creating
your own content.

- Yes.
- Now, you're not under like--

you're not under any contract,

and, like, I think that's--
- And it's not like--

it's not like
I couldn't tell my agent,

"No, I don't want to do
that scene,"

but I feel like now,
there's so much more--

- But with all the scene--
- ...agency with ourselves

where it's like, hey,
I can just hit you up

and be like, "Hey, do you
want to bang? Let's film it."

For me, the best part about it

is being able to engage
directly with the fans.

- Yeah.
- The data that we now have

in our hands has really
empowered us

to be our own business owners

and to figure out
not necessarily

how to make the content
that will sell the best,

but how to find the audience

that is looking for the content
that we want to make.

Technology, analytics,
big data

has told me exactly
who's buying my content.

It's fantastic.

If the Mad Men of the '60s

knew that there was gonna be
a platform

where a person
could put out their products,

directly engage
with their audience,

tailor it, check market trends,

and have access to analytics,

they would have
shit themselves.

It's gonna be one scene,
but what--

like, what do you want shot?
- Yeah, I want to shoot, like,

through, like, minimal cuts,

unless we absolutely need to--
- Yeah.

..baby wipe or lube
or whatever.

All right.
So you just want it one,

like, you know, one whole...

More on the fluid side.

Do you want it more
focused on, like,

your face or your genitals
or, like--

- SOVEREIGN: Face.
- RAE: I'll have one version--

- SOVEREIGN: Reactions.
- ...like wide shots

and stuff like that?
I'm one of maybe

just a handful of known

femme-identifying photographers

in adult industry, I believe.

A lot of mainstream porn

don't hire
female camera people.

It's really hard
to be recognized

as a queer woman of color
in any industry, really,

so I feel like--

it feels nice to be
recognized for my work.

Like, going off the mood board
that you sent,

like, you want this to be
like shot, like,

really contrasted?

I love being shot by women

because they just understand
things that men don't.

When you're being shot
by a woman,

she understands that,

oh, that's an uncomfortable
pose to hold.

So someone lie Rae
that actually takes the time

and cares, she understands.

I kind of like the idea
of maybe doing something

where we start with maybe you,

focusing on you
and maybe we could--

if we have like a hand mirror
or something

that we could have,
you start putting on lipstick

or something like that.
- Oh, yeah.

And then I can, like,
come in

and sort of start helping you.

I could not feel more confident
about how this is gonna go.

SOVEREIGN: Yeah.

[music]

What if we put this chair
over there

and this is like the fuck chair.

SOVEREIGN: Just say the fuck--
Just say the fuck chair.

It's the fuck chair.

I'm always happy to help
a friend have an orgasm.

That's why I'm here.
I'm here to make her come.

Where are you gonna take me?

I'm gonna take you
to the fuck chair.

I'm gonna eat your pussy,
make you come,

and then I'm gonna
take you by the hand

and do you over the bed
and shove your face in my ass,

and then you're gonna
make me come.

And then we'll be done.

PHOENIX: It sounds good.

[giggles]

I could go back to an agent
and shoot for other studios,

but I don't have to.

I don't have to rely
on what work comes to me.

I can choose
what I want to put out there,

and the people
that want to follow me,

the people that want to see me

or the--the diehards

that have been following me
since 2009,

they're like, "Hey, are you
gonna put out more content?"

or "When are you
gonna do this?"

They're gonna be there,
no matter what.

I'm always still a little
nervous before a scene,

even when it's someone that
I've worked with a dozen times,

because there's always
this element, right?

Like, you still also just
don't--never know

what's gonna happen.

It rather put out something
more I'm really turned on.

RAE: Pretty girl shots.

Both of you look at me.

I'm into it creatively.

Fuck, yes.

And it just all feels good.

RAE: All right, everybody,
ready to bang away?

- I--I think so.
- If you're not there...

You're gonna have these
titties in your face.

Nowadays, girls will absolutely
call themselves entrepreneurs

before they even call
themselves porn stars,

which I think is amazing.
- RAE: It's the right shot.

PHOENIX: That's exactly
what I was--Here we go.

So what do is something
called content trade,

which means that we pool
our resources...

So just establishing,
we're walking this way.

Just do what you're doing.

...to make
one piece of content,

and then we each put it
on our own platforms.

And so that's a way
that we're able to cut costs,

because then we don't have
to pay each other.

[music]

So, um, if you could angle
a little bit more this way

because as--your--
your head is shadowing hers.

PHOENIX: There's a very
authentic intimacy there

because we're attracted
to each other.

Having that established trust

and that connection

really just heats
everything up so much.

[moans]

Can I get a shot of you walk--

taking her over here?

No one else
was really in the room,

even though they were.

There's that part of me,
the exhibitionist side,

that's like,
"Yeah, everybody's here."

But there's definitely
that, like, little part of me

that's, like,
being into being watched

is what led to me
wanting to get into porn

in the first place.

- [moaning]
- [gasping]

Ohh! [gasping]

[laughter]

I'm glad that we did our own
approach to this scene.

I like that it was just
so sensual,

very soft, and it's just
like it's electric.

I really want to do
like a minute clip

to force something
in your ass.

- Oh, yeah.
- How long have women

been trying to just
be seen as equal

or get equal opportunity?

It's so much more exciting

to have an all-woman crew,

but also have people
with the right vision,

the right style to really
complement my style.

Yay, we shot a porno.
High-five.

- Whoo!
- We made a porn, huh?

High-five.

♪ I'm so glad
you don't ask questions ♪

♪ And you're not paranoid

♪ Don't stay out late

♪ Wondering

♪ If I'm off with other boys

♪ But I've been having dreams

♪ About other strange men...