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Before the 90 Days...

I'm willing to try anything

to get our sex life
back on track.

- How's everything going?
- We're having some
arguments and stuff.

Did you ever bring up
the prenup to her again?

I haven't. No.

Even though our relationship
has become
a bit complicated...

Hi, baby!

...I still believe
that Jasmine and I can
work anything out.

Oh, baby! God.

I met a woman
from Vietnam
on a dating app.

And I'm actually coming
to see her for the first time.

And I'm very interested
in hiring a private eye.

My main concern is,
is she really divorced?

And is she still
on the dating app?

Okay.

Wow, okay.

Look, she's here
in Romania.

The bedroom is too far away.

Did you hear what he said?

Yeah.

I've been waiting for this
for so long

but I feel guilty

for even being
in a relationship
with Razvan,

you know, because of
my late husband, Jason.

Carmella has not been
honest with you
about who she is.

The person you've been
messaging with

is a man named Christian.

We have a recording
of Christian.

I can play it for you.
We also have a message,
I can show that to you.

I don't think I can
do it right now.

So you have some closure.

♪ You know you're so sexy ♪

♪ You know you're so fine ♪

♪ Bet you like to
chihuahua all night ♪

You're taking too long
with my coffee.

You're a barista today.

It's my first morning
in Romania

and waking up with Razvan

after months of only being
able to see him on the phone,

it feels amazing,
but also is a little strange.

This is the first time
being with a man
since my husband passed away

and I am used to just

my kids running in
and waking me up
in the morning,

like, mommy,
make us breakfast.

Come on,
what are we doing?
Like, you know.

So it's a little strange
but also too, like,
it's kind of nice

just to wake up peaceful,
you know, next to the person
that you love.

A lot of people.

Stop it.

I just wear socks.
I like to wear socks
all the time.

Oh, my God.

What?

She starts sucking my neck.

It was hard for me--

Well, go to the bathroom
with your box of tissues.

That is not good.

Okay.

Okay, good.

'Cause you stink.
I didn't want to tell you.

Oh my gosh.

This is good. Without socks.

Get ready.

No.

That's not a good
cowboy voice.

So we are ready.

Does it look like I'm ready?

Oh.

Um...

I mean, I love you
and I feel like
I feel happy.

I mean, kind of,
but, like, I don't know.

Like, if I didn't want to kiss
you or felt, like, so terrible
about, like, I wouldn't have.

Like, was it strange for you?

I do. You're sweet.

I do feel like
I connected with Razvan
last night,

but it's still
really hard for me.

I'm nervous and kind of scared

but it's difficult
to talk with Razvan
about my emotions,

because it's supposed to be
a fun, exciting trip,

and I don't want to
bring down the mood.

Mmm-hmm.

When you are with someone
and they pass away,
it's kind of like,

I don't know.
I don't want to say it's,
like, I'm, like, cheating

but, like, I have,
you know, a sense of guilt,
like, is this okay?

There's just so many things
going through me right now,

that I don't even know
what emotions they are.

I love you.

Holy Mary,
Mother of God,

pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Oh, my Jesus,
forgive us our sins.

Save us from
the fires of hell.

Glory Be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit.

Our Father, Who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy name.

My name is Meisha.
I'm 43 years old
from Blaine, Minnesota.

I work full time
for the Catholic Church

as the director
of pastoral care,

helping people
connect with God
in their final moments.

Give us this day
our daily bread

For many years, I worked
as an on-air journalist.

And in many ways,
I lived a very glamorous life.

Blessed art thou amongst women

and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.

I was not raised
with any religion.

But over a decade ago,
I had a pretty profound
spiritual awakening.

While I was vacuuming
my living room,

I had a vision
of two huge suns

suspended out of the sky
in front of my window.

And the first thing
that I thought was,

am I having a heart attack?

I was terrified.

And I started to slink
down to the ground,

almost as if something
was pushing me down.

And there was a voice
that was seared into my mind

that told me to pray.

And then I was lead
to the Bible.

So I read it straight through
to the very last paragraph
of Revelation.

And that led me to the steps
of the Roman Catholic Church.

- Amen.
- Amen.

And now,
we pray for no traffic.

Long before my conversion,

I fell in love with
a foreign exchange student
in high school,

and ultimately, that led me
to move out to Sweden.

I was married to him
when I was 22 years old.

Unfortunately,
the marriage did not last

but we have
two beautiful daughters,
Marie and Svea

and they're the most precious
thing in the world,
so it was worth it.

After my divorce,
I had a full social life.

I was the fun party girl
at the bar
and going out all the time.

I had a lot of friends
and it was a blast.

Oh my gosh, this dress.

Okay, so this is one
that I wore to an event

for the sexiest singles
in Philadelphia.

It shows, like,
a lot of, like, side boob.

Back then,
I was always meeting people
and I would go on dates.

Usually they were handsome men
who were really,
really successful

and when they took you
out on a date,
they would really do it up.

One in particular,
he got a helicopter.

Like, stuff like that.
It was really, really cool.

But post conversion,

things got real lonely,
real fast.

The things that I was
interested in doing
were starting to change.

All I could talk about
was the Bible
and going to church

and I could just feel
people kind of go,
that's too much.

And I understood it.

But it felt very lonely.

I felt super lost and isolated

until I started
talking to someone
across the world.

He is the most
incredible human being
that I have ever met.

Everything was just
so in sync.

Our heart, our soul, our mind.

I'm absolutely in love
with the man.

My name is Nicola
and I am 46 years old.

I live with my mom.

We live in Israel,
in a city called Nahariyya.

Living with my mom,
it's very hard.

She don't hear good.

You live with your parents
until you get married.

I live a simple life,
devoting myself to the lord.

Glory Be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit.

I become devout Catholic

not because my mom or my dad,

they didn't go to the church.

It's because my grandmother.

My grandmother
always taught me
about praying the rosary,

going to mass,
since I was, like,
six, seven years old.

My normal day is
I wake up in the morning,
I pray to God

and then I work
on my Catholic website.

Israel contains
only 2% Catholic.

There's not a lot of option
for someone like me
to find a partner.

I pray to God.

I trust you. You will send me
the right woman
at the right time.

I never believed that I will
have any relationship

with a divorced woman
from America

but you know, when you
give your life to Jesus,
and you trust him,

God do things
that you don't expect.

When I saw Meisha
in social media
seven years ago,

she was very lost.

So I sent her a message.

And he said
something to the effect of,

you don't know me
but this is the most important
thing in your life.

I had already had
my conversion experience

in my living room
at that point,

but I was still
newborn baby learning
about my faith

and his message hit me
at the exact right moment
when I needed to hear it.

That's God.

So when Meisha respond,

Nicola, I need Jesus more
in my life

and you will be my Jesus boy,
this is where the connection start.

He was just filling
me with all this historical
and theological knowledge.

And with Nicola's support,

I found the courage
to leave my television career

and devote myself full-time
to my faith,

which definitely brought
Nicola and I closer together.

And slowly, slowly,
we started to laugh

and say what we like
in the phone.

And then we started to talk
every day for maybe 10 hours.

I even didn't go to sleep.

It took us years
to admit to one another

that we had feelings
for each other.

Between that and COVID,
it's been seven years
that we've never met,

but all of that's
about to change.

I am getting ready to fly
almost 7,000 miles
to Israel

to finally meet Nicola
in person.

And I'm hoping
that by the end of the trip,
Nicola and I are engaged.

- Have you ever
been here before?
- Never.

- It's cute.
- Super cute.

Yeah.

But I know
that my friends and family

definitely have
their reservations

about my relationship
with Nicola.

Thank you so much.

Enjoy. Let me know
if there's anything else
I can do.

Thank you.

You're leaving
in how many days?

Three. I'll be there
for two weeks.

I'm so excited to meet him
face to face.

So you're not worried
that he's a virgin?

but it is a big part
of a relationship
and certainly a marriage.

I know.

I know.

Because of his faith,
Nicola is celibate
until marriage

and so that leaves him
a 46-year-old virgin.

While I so admire
his convictions,

at the same time,
it makes me worried

knowing that I need
certain things like affection.

A lot of affection.

Obviously, there's
no sex before marriage.

So when I get there,
I have to just see how he is

with just even
just basic affection.

Meisha's situation,
it all seems crazy.

She went through this
spiritual awakening,

as she likes to call it,

and now she wants to
get engaged

to this extremely devout,
conservative, Catholic man.

There was a few times
where we talked to Nicola
on FaceTime

and he seems nice.

I know they're both Catholic,

but they're just so different.

It's hard to understand
what she sees in him.

Well, has he even been
in a long-term relationship?

He has had a girlfriend

but it was many,
many years ago.

I'm just saying,
that's concerning.

Nicola's dating life has been
virtually non-existent.

I struggle with that
a little bit

because when you have
different relationships,

you learn a little bit
each time.

But if you don't have
a lot of relationships,

I wonder if there's so much
that you don't know

about how to nurture
a relationship

simply because you haven't had
those experiences.

I just think that two weeks
is not enough time
to get engaged.

Why can't you just wait
until he can come over here?

Let him get to know
the kids and the family.
See if it's a good fit.

Even if I went over there
multiple times
to try to figure it out,

and he came over here

I don't think I'm
ever going to walk away
and go,

I have all my answers now.

I think all I can do
is follow my heart.

I can understand
Taylor's concerns

because if all goes well
on this trip,

Nicola and I
definitely plan on
applying for the K-1 visa,

which means that we won't have
much time together in person
before getting married.

And since we're both
practicing Catholics,
divorce is not an option.

So that can be a little scary.

But I truly believe
that Nicola is the man
that I'm supposed to be with.

I love him,
so I have to trust God.

Well, I hope you know
what you're doing.

Oh, baby!

I love all these
tropical mountains, ocean.

Yeah, look at those... landscape.

I'm hoping that Gino
will put more effort

into having sex
during this trip.

Do you still
in the back of your mind
think that she is real?

No, I've never done that.

You want to try?
See what comes up?

It's pretty cold.
It's not windy.

Yeah, it's kinda chilly.

- Somebody made a trail
right there.
- Right.

Be careful,
you don't want to roll.

Today, I'm meeting up
with my sister, Lashanti.

It's been a really hard
couple of days

because the producers
are telling me that

my girlfriend, Carmella,
is actually a man
named Christian

and that he had been
catfishing me
for the past four years.

They played some audio
of his voice

and I couldn't even listen
to the whole thing.

It was just too painful.

- Kind of far.
- I know, so small.

So, how do you feel
about everything?

Uh, honestly,
I'm still trying to, like,
process everything,

'cause I know it's been
a few days,

but it's still kind of, like,
it's still fresh on my mind,

especially, like,
the voice message
and stuff, like...

Do you still
in the back of your mind
think that she is real?

A little bit,

There is someone
behind these messages

that I have
a deep connection with.

And I do think
that it could be
a big misunderstanding

just because how deep
the connection was,

but I don't know
where to go from here.

Did you ever reverse search
the pictures
that she sent you?

No, I've never done that.

You want to try?
See what comes up?

That's a good idea.

I suggested that we
reverse image search,

because usually, when you
put somebody's picture
in the search engine,

all the social media
that they have pops up.

It's weird that he didn't
already search her pictures
himself anyway,

because that's the first thing
I woulda did.

I know Tyray's feeling hurt.
I know he's embarrassed,

but I just want him
to move forward.

- I'll send you
a picture of her then.
- Okay.

Okay. Got it.

I'm gonna try both of these.

That's weird.
Nothing popped up
for that one.

Let's try another one.

No search results.

I'm gonna try this one.

Still no.

I don't even know
where this person found
these pictures.

It's kinda good that
we didn't find anything.

Honestly,
I feel relieved

when Lashanti doesn't find
anything about Carmella

'cause I'm, like,
maybe Carmella is real,

and maybe, you know,

what the producer was told
was... wasn't true.

Maybe her boyfriend
found out about us talking

and they wanted to end
our relationship, who knows?

Either way, I need to get
some more information

about exactly what's going on

so I can try
to figure this out.

Is there something that you
know that we don't know?

I don't know anything,
honestly, like,

besides that.

But there might be another way
to find out more about her.

Um, so, um...

...the producer was
telling me they do have
a message from her.

- Like a text?
- Yeah.

What did it say?

I don't know.

I think I'll see the message,
it might be easier

than hearing an actual voice.

Okay.

Um, "Hi.

Wow.

I'm, like,
even more confused now.

Because it's, like,
it's saying two things, like,

I can't be with him,
but then at the same time,

I love him,
so it's just, like...

I don't know.

There has to be some truth
to something in there, so...

So you feel like
this person loves you?

They're saying
the right things,
that's for sure.

I don't think
Lashanti knows

how deep my relationship
is with Carmella.

There was just so much
between us, even over texts.

Having this person say
they love me, you know,
it meant a lot.

I don't know
what you're thinking.

I don't even know how I feel,

but honestly, I...
I want more answers.

You don't think
you want to block her?

I'm gonna give it
a few more days.

I mean, after
reading that email,

it's kinda clear what's
happening here.

I just don't know why it's not
getting through to Tyray.

My biggest fear
is that if the person
messaged him,

he will respond.

Thinking that whatever excuse
they tell him is the truth,

and that he'll
just take no trip,

he'll keep giving them
all his money, I don't know.

If he doesn't come to terms
with what's happening,

I feel like he can get
his heart broke even worse.

And I can't sit back
and let them happen
to my brother again.

- Just a scammer,
scamming people.
- Mm.

That's the end of it.

Maybe.

I just need a little
bit of time.

This is my second
home right now.

Oh, baby!

Yeah, I love
all these mountains.

Um, you know, and ocean.

- Look, baby.
- Oh, hmm?

Yeah, look at
those landscapes...

- Big mountains in Panama!
- Yeah...

I'm super excited
to be back in Panama

'cause I get to see
Jasmine again.

It's been months since
we've been together.

And this trip is likely
the last time I'm in Panama

before we get
our K-1 visa approved

and Jasmine comes to the USA,

so it's kind of a big deal,

big trip for me and her
to get our bond back together.

Why are you
looking at me like that?

You're looking at me crazy.

Yeah, I'm excited.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I'm so happy to have my baby
here in Panama again.

Finally together.

And I cannot think
of a better love nest

for the next three weeks.

Welcome home,
my angel!

Oh, my god. Whoa!

Paradise.

- Ta-da!
- So nice.

Wow!

I'm crossing
my fingers Gino will
love this place

as much as I love it.

Liz, oh, my god. How are you?

- How's it going?
- Lovely.

- So good to see you.
- Mm!

Yes.

- Oh, Coco!
- Coco!

- Daddy's here!
- Oh, my god.

- Look at him.
- Yeah.

How excited.

Coco, relax.

And this is the main bedroom.

- Where all the action... Yes.
- Oh, wow.

And one of the most
amazing, like, things,

the balcony.

- Yeah.
- Wow!

Look at this! This is crazy!

What a view.

And this island is artificial,
like, they created it.

- It's just for filthy rich
people in Panama.
- Oh, really?

Those aren't my neighbors, no.

Now you see what
I wanted so badly.

Well, it's...

It's, like,
breathtaking, right?

Is it worth $3,000?
That's the question.

Of course it is.

To me, it's a very
reasonable price.

Because you said
that the visa's gonna be
approved anytime soon.

So it's... it's not, like,
I'm gonna stay here forever.

Right.

When I first met Jasmine,

she wasn't into, um,

you know,
more luxurious things.

She... she got by
on a lot less.

But her taste in luxurious
lifestyle is becoming...

...more and more important
to her, it seems.

And when she comes
to Michigan, you know,

I don't know if I'm gonna
be able to offer her

the lifestyle
she's looking for.

It could lead to
disappointment for her.

You know, and it's not...

it's not, you know...

It worries me.

So you like the place, right?

Oh, yeah, of course,
it's beautiful!

But we have to live
based on our budget.

You wanna try the bed
to see how, like, you like it?

I don't have to try it
right now, if that's what
you're asking.

Um...

Let's try the bed.

- Hmm?
- Let's try the bed
to see if you like it.

Okay, let's see.

I know that Gino's always
thinking about saving money

and spending money, you know,

but this is not
the right moment to be
talking about that,

not the first night
we're together.

Baby.

- Oh.
- Let me take
off your shoes.

Oh, okay.

Oh, my gosh.

I can't even remember
when was the last time
I have sex with Gino.

In a relationship,
sex is super important.

So I'm hoping that Gino
will put more effort

into having sex
during this trip.

Oh, my god!

Look at me.

Okay.

I'm just trying to enjoy
the feel... enjoy the bed,
the comfort.

Feel how comfortable it is.

I know Jasmine feels
that there's not enough

sex in our relationship.

Don't get me wrong,
sex is important,

I'm not saying it's not.

It's important to me too.

So enjoy the bed
and enjoy me too.

Oh, my glasses.

So put them there.

Let me... Don't find
excuses again.

It's always the same [bleep].

But after seeing
her spending habits,

and how she's being
a little pushy with me
to get what she wants,

it's not making me feel good
about our future together.

And that affects
my sexual desire.

Baby!

Oh, my god...

Do you want me?

Huh?

Stop asking me that.

My behavior
is completely normal.

Like, any other girl,
you know, fiancee,

will do after not
seeing her man.

Okay...

I'm not surprised,
but I'm disappointed that
he's pushing me away.

That's not how you treat
the person that you love.

I found out she's
communicating with my dad.

Talking a lot of
to turn him against me.

Oh, my God!

I'm very afraid for Riley.

That's very manipulative.

It's a big red flag.

The foundation of
any relationship

is trust and honesty.

Your foundation has
super cracks in it.

Packing up.

It's like, it's like
Tetris in here.

With the packing.

Just know how
to fold very well.

I thank the army for that.

I'm leaving
for Vietnam today,

and I cannot believe
I'm about to spend time,

in person, with Violet.

It's crazy. It's been two
years in the making.

And I'm nervous, I'm excited,

I'm worried, all in one.

Violet's birthday
is actually today.

So I got her pearls.

After talking to the PI,

I still feel a little
worried, apprehensive,

but I truly care about Violet,

and I really wanna
make this work.

So the PI is still
an option that I'm gonna,

you know, keep in
my back pocket.

But my hope is when
I get to Vietnam,

Violet and I can
have a discussion

and she can address
all my concerns,

where I don't have
to hire a PI.

All right,
let's get it.

- What up, yo?
- What up?

- I got stuff.
- You need help?

Nah, you ain't
gonna be able to help.

- You're weak!
- Good. get in the car.

Well, you could...

Alexa is
my buddy buddy,

so she's watching Mila for me,

my pup, my little girl,
while I'm in Vietnam,

and she's gonna give me
a ride to the airport.

I'm really going
to Vietnam, huh?

Yes, you are.

You think she's gonna show up?

That would be nice.

- After I flew 8,000
miles, you know!
- I mean...

It'd be nice to see
the person at the airport
that I came to see!

- I mean, I'm gonna
tell you something.
- Okay.

So I found out, like,
she's been communicating
with my dad.

Because she was upset,

talking a lot of [bleep],
to turn him against me,

so there's, like, 150 text
messages that she sent,

trying to make it like
I'm such a piece of garbage.

Oh, my God!

Don't you think that
that's a little bit

manipulative, on her part?

- Yeah...
- And a huge red flag.

Yeah, but I just
wanna get over there,

to find out what
I need to find out.

So I might hire a PI.

Why are you shaking your head?

If you feel the need

to have to have
a PI follow her,

there's an issue!

- No, that's not true.
- No.

- Really?
- So, if you know me,

I need to over-stand,
not understand,

I need to over-stand stuff.

- I know, but I also know...
- Yeah.

- ...that the foundation
of any relationship...
- Mm-hmm?

...has to be trust
and honesty.

- Yeah.
- And right now,
your foundation

has super cracks in it.

Yes, but
I wanna be with her.

- I'm going there to fight
for this, you know?
- Okay...

So it's about getting all
the information possible

- to make an informed decision.
- Okay...

I just really,
really hope you get
the answers you seek.

I think I will get
the answers I seek.

Holy crap.

- Thank you.
- Aw...

- You take care,
okay? Be safe.
- I will. Safe drive.

Bye!

I'm very afraid for Riley.

Because Violet
going to his dad,

that's very manipulative.

To me, it's a big red flag.

But once he opens
his heart to someone,

he protects that person,

even though that person
may not be deserving
of his protection.

But, you know what?
I'm still supportive
of his decision.

And if that's what
he needs to do,

then that's what
he needs to do.

Check-in is
over here? Okay.

This is scary.

I'm about to take a flight,

over a ocean, or two,

and I'm going to meet a person

that I've only spoken
to on an app.

I don't know what
to expect when I finally
meet her when I land.

This is it.

We're getting on
the plane now.

Clearly, we have a lot
of things to work through,

but I'm hoping,

with every ounce of being,

that we can connect
and be on that next level,

because if things work out,

I'm ready to spend
the rest of my life with her.

I've always wanted
to have my own family,

and I'm really ready
to become a husband
and a step-father.

So this trip could
change my life forever.

My mom will say,
"Why you want to marry
divorced woman?"

I know her reaction
can be very bad.

"Dada died."

I don't know if
I should have come here.

I know, but...

Razvan doesn't
fully understand.

It's hard to be in the moment
and enjoy things

because I feel guilty
for leaving my kids.

Like, what if I...

Be careful.

After seven years,

talking in the phone,

all the day, not sleeping,

my sweetheart, Meisha,

is coming from Minnesota
in a few days,

and I cannot explain to you

how much I am excited
to see her, you know?

But today, I am going fishing.

This is the spot that
my dad used to go fish.

And his dad was a fisherman.

His grandfather
was a fisherman.

Fishing is in my blood.

But my best friend Wasim,

he is my rosary warrior.

So he's the only person
that I can talk about my
personal life.

The only relationship I had,
it was 16 years ago.

And it wasn't very
serious relationship.

So I am still a virgin,

and I would never sleep with
a woman until I get married.

or 46, or 65,

I have to be a virgin,
and celibate,

until I get married
to the right woman.

I don't, I don't
like that Meisha slept with
somebody else before,

but the Bible telling you,

that when Jesus
come into your life,

you become a new creature.

Your past does not
matter anymore.

So I must look at Meisha
now in a new way.

She's a virgin.

Because the Holy Spirit
enter her life,

and change her,
from inside, to outsides.

My mom, she think
I'm talking with some woman.

You know, when I'm in my room.

But she don't know
that this woman is real.

She just think
she is a friend.

If in doubt, my mom
is not devout Catholic.

People in the Middle East
wanted to marry a virgin.

That's how the tradition here.

I know her reaction
can be very bad.

Family is very important here.

And I, a little bit
concerned that my mom

will not accept Meisha,
'cause of who she is.

It is my first full day
with Razvan in Romania

and he is taking me to see
what is called Old Town.

Thank you.

I really want us to have
a good time

but I'm a little thrown off
by something
that just happened.

Like, oh my gosh.
Why would Jr. say that?

We were talking for one second
and he was like,

"Dada died."

Right before we left
Razvan's apartment,

my son, Jr., called

and he asked to talk
with Razvan

and then out of nowhere,

Jr. says, "Oh, my dada died."

Him and Razvan
talk about it a little bit

And then I tell him

even though his dad died,

he's still all around

and he's like,
"I already know that."
And then he ran away.

And, so, it kind of
caught me off-guard,

I don't know why he
said that to Razvan, um,

I don't know.

It just
makes me feel, like, sad

and makes me feel like
I don't know if I should have
come here or not,

you know?

I know,
but a chance for us
versus, like,

my children's well-being.

Like, I don't want to, like,
hurt them.

Yeah.

What if I...
leave early?

Would you be, like, upset?

If I leave to go back
to see my kids
'cause they're hurt?

- Like and...
- Yeah?

For you.

What about for my kids?

I know Amanda's kids
have been through a lot

and I do understand
that it's hard for her

being away from her kids.

I'm really trying to
empathize with her feelings.

And I'm trying my best
to make her feel better.

I want to show her
we can focus on this
moment between us.

Okay.

No.

It's hard to be in the moment
and enjoy things

because I am
a little bit distracted.

I feel guilty
for leaving my kids.

But I need to see
if this is the right guy

to bring into my kids' lives,

to, you know,
have a future with.

But what's so hard is
Razvan doesn't
fully understand.

Losing their dad,

they still have
all these feelings and...

I don't know.
I've, like...

There's nothing really...
there's no, like guide book

to get you through this.
You just have to

do your best.
And it's so important for me

to keep them in that place.

Like, I don't want...

them to

be hurt again.

Baby, all I want
is to peel this.

Sit there
and peel this potato, okay?

Jasmine tries to
order me around sometimes

and it just frustrates me.

If you don't
have a cutting board,
I can't do it.

Thank you for the help, Gino.

I'm not cooking
without the proper equipment.

Where are you going?

Baby?

Yeah?

It's very
disappointing that Gino
just got here,

and he's already showing
me zero interest,

on having, you know,
any kind of

intimacy with me.

But while he has been napping,

I had some extra
time to think.

Baby, I'm sorry.
Can we start again?

Let's reset.

I'm sorry if I made
you feel uncomfortable.

I understand that
your personality is very
different from mine.

- Okay.
- Yeah?

I might be hurt,
but the reality is that

my man is here
for three weeks,

so we don't have to fix
everything on the first night.

It's very important that we
start off on the right foot.

So let's start fresh and new,

I'm gonna cook dinner.

How does that sound?

- Sounds good.
- Okay.

So give me kiss?

Okay.

Let's go make dinner.

Okay.

I don't know if
Jasmine understands that

when I turn her down,

it doesn't mean
I'm not attracted to her.

It's just, sex is not
the most important thing
on my mind tonight.

Um, there's more
important stuff.

Look at this.

Meatballs.

- Oh, nice.
- Yeah, but they
are plant-based,

and you will see
that they taste--

- I like meat, though.
- Exactly the same
as meat meat.

- You know?
- Oh, you're kidding.

So, you're gonna
help me peel the potatoes.

I don't know
where anything's at.

So what
are you looking for?

I'm looking for,
like, a peeler, or the...

Oh, I haven't seen a peeler,
but we do have a knife.

So that's
why I'm telling you--

How are we gonna cook,

with not having
the right tool?

Baby, take it.

Uh...

- Where's the cutting board?
- Here.

Use this as a cutting board.

- Hmm...
- Baby, please.

We can't cook,

um, without
the proper equipment.

Just start,
just, baby.

All I want is to peel this.

Sit there and peel
this potato, okay?

So one instruction at a time.

- Peel the potato.
- All right. I heard you.

Okay, perfect.

We just don't
have the equipment that
I would normally--

Yeah, baby, this is
the fifth time you said it.

But you're not
performing a surgery,

you're just peeling a potato.

It's not easy to peel
potatoes with a giant knife.

Jasmine tries to order me
around sometimes.

And it just frustrates me.

I am not a pushover,

and I am not gonna let
Jasmine push me around.

Do you mind hurrying up?

Because the water
is about to boil.

Good.

And you have to peel a carrot.

Baby, hurry up.

No, no no. I'm not peeling
with that knife anymore.

I need a peeler.

You know how you do it?

- Do it like this...
- I'm not using...
I'm not gonna.

Now, the beet.

What about it?

Peel it.

With what?

With a knife!

No, I need, no,
I need a cutting board.

I will not do it on a plate.

I need, if you don't
have a cutting board,
I can't do it.

Listen, that's the way
it is when I move

- to a new apartment
that is furnished.
- Right.

Sometimes they have, like,

a lot of stuff,
sometimes they--

But we can't cook until you
get the proper equipment.

You don't have
a cutting board--

You don't have a peeler
or a cutting board.

Well, I'm not cooking without
the proper equipment.

- Thank you for the help, Gino.
- Yeah.

All right, um.

Where are you going?

Baby?

I had that annulment meeting.

It was actually
really intense. Like...

These people are gonna
determine forever

the rest of my future.

Even though I have been
legally divorced,

in the eyes of God,
I am still
not allowed to remarry

unless I am granted
an annulment.

Are you my baby?

Are you
my sweet pumpkin?

In a few days,
I am flying over to Israel

to meet my boyfriend, Nicola,

in person for
the very first time,

and I am beyond excited.

This is the same brand as...

You'll like him.
He's gonna protect you,
'cause he's sweet.

I'm a bit nervous
as to what it's gonna be like

when we're together in person.

Even though we're both
very devout Catholics,

we have lived very different
lives up until this point,

so that could
complicate things.

Hi!

Hi, sweetie pie.

Did you see who had just
came to visit you? Look.

- Oh...
- Your little baby!

- Oh my god, Meisha.
- Stop.

Stop!

- No...
- It is your baby.
Get used to it.

Nicola!

- It's a cat!
- You're being very
overdramatic about a cat.

- Okay...
- Hey, but listen.

Do you remember
I told you I had that
annulment meeting...

- Yes.
- ...at the archdiocese?

The interview
itself, was actually, like,

really intense, like,

these people are gonna
determine forever

the rest of my future.

Like, that was
a weird feeling.

Even though I have
been legally divorced
for over a decade,

in the eyes of God,

I am still not
allowed to remarry

unless I am granted
an annulment.

In order to get an annulment,

there is special criteria
that the church looks at

to make sure that
first marriage

was not a valid marriage.

I've started the process,

but there is no guarantee
that it will be approved.

Like, you do
kind of say to yourself,
like, what if they said,

"Nope. We're not
granting the annulment."

Like, what that would
mean for me and you.

Yeah, I know.

Yeah, I know,
and it would just be weird,

because you couldn't really--

- Well, keep praying for us.
- Yes.

I'm trying
to stay positive,

that everything
is going to work out

the way that
I believe it should,

but if I don't get
this annulment,

then I'm not sure
what's gonna happen.

The only way that Nicola
and I can be together,

is to get the K-1 visa,

for Nicola to come to the US,

and for us to get married.

If we can't do that, then,

I don't think realistically,
we have a future.

That makes you
look like a sailor.

You think a sailor wore this?

This, I thought
you guys would think
it is super cute.

That's, yeah.
Okay, bring that.

Right now I live
with my daughters,

Morea, who is 19,

and my younger daughter
Svea, who is 17.

How about this one?

No. I...
I just don't like it!

Why? This is so cute!

- Why?
- I just don't
like the pattern.

My daughters and I
have certainly been
through a lot.

Not only with my divorce,

with their father, but also

because of my
spiritual awakening,

that's quite a transformation

for them to watch their
mother go through.

And now, this whole
experience with Nicola.

So it's very important
for me to know

that I have their support
before going to Israel.

They're all
in the yes pile.

'Cause I don't agree.

It's really exciting that
you guys finally get to meet.

Yes.

And if I did get engaged...

I think it'd
be really weird.

Thinking about a guy coming
in here and living with us.

And we haven't even met him.

We have no idea
what he's like.

Like, we've talked
on the phone, for,
like, a minute.

- Mm-hmm.
- So...

I think my mom
and Nicola getting engaged

would be, you know,
really nice for both of them.

You know, they both
believe in the same thing,
they're very similar.

It's just always
a concern, of, like,

he's never met
any of us in person.

Every time I've talked to him,
it's been pretty awkward.

He's always praying for us,

he's always, you know,
telling us about God.

And that's pretty much
all we talk about.

So I don't feel like we've
really gotten to know him.

Something that
makes me a little worried

is, like, how Catholic he is.

Yeah.

Would we be, like, judged,

for, you know,
the things we do?

- Mm-hmm.
- Like, what if
me and Svea, like,

get a boyfriend, and,

you know, would that
ever be an issue?

I wish I could say, like,

well, not everything
will turn into

a mini-sermon about what
God thinks about that.

But I can't,
'cause I don't know.

'Cause I don't think me or
Svea would wanna live

with someone who's
constantly, like, judging,

- you know?
- Mmm-hmm.

Nicola is extraordinarily
rooted in his faith.

So is your mother, but he has
been rooted his whole life,

so he's very strong.

But he won't be
our real parent,

and I think of how
we live our lives

is nothing that he can
really control.

I think that's something that,
you know,

you should ask about
when you're there

before deciding that you
wanna spend

- the rest of your life
with him.
- Yeah.

I believe that God has
given me a love

that I've been searching
for in Nicola.

But my biggest love
is my daughters.

So he's going to have
to accept my daughters

for exactly who they are,

even if they are not as
devout as he or I right now.

And I do worry that
that might be really
hard for him,

and that would spell
real worry for him and I.

First stop, LA,

I'm finally heading
to Vietnam

to meet Violet in person.

And I've been waiting
so long for this trip,
and I'm excited.

This is Tony.

I met Tony when we were
waiting for our flight.

We're gonna be
on the same flight.

Tony, where are you going?

Hi, I'm going to Thailand.

Look at that. We get to meet
the most interesting people

while waiting for our flight.

I never travelled
this far for a woman

but I think that Violet
is worth it,

and I really believe that
we could be a family.

I'm coming to see you, baby.
I'm coming see you.

But I'm also strong woman.

Have a great day, Violet.

Just letting you know
I'm thinking about you.

Talk to you later,
okay, baby girl?

Bye.

We should have a toast

for a beautiful future together.

So...

I really want
to ask you something.

What?

Stop it, no.

Wait a minute!

Let's see it.
Show me now.

It's kind of like...

It's just like...

Mmm-hmm.

What is it?

It looks like something,
like, from a movie.

Yes.

Okay. To what?

I love you.

What?

Tell me something silly.

Stop that. No. No.

I knew it was the key.

But I don't think I will be
back in Romania for some time,

so I don't need a key.

You'll what?

For what?

Why didn't you ever tell me
that you scheduled this?

I want it to be a surprise.

We always talk about me
coming there,

and to get my papers,
and be together.

So, it's everything
is good

No...

That's not realistic.

Like, I have to see.

I need to consider talking
with Junior and Leo,

like, letting them know,
like, "Oh, how would you feel

if Razvan would
come here to visit?"

I have to think of my kids.

And I think it's just
way too soon.

I don't know.

When Razvan says that
he wants to come to America,

it seems insane to me.

And I think it's just
way too soon.

Like, there's just too much
I have to figure out.

And, you know, it seems like
he was disappointed.

But I'm trying my best
to make him understand

that it's about my kids

and their feelings.

And that's my job as a mom
to do what's best for them

and put my feelings, you know,
behind theirs.

Maybe when you go there

you can tell them
a little bit, you know,

that we are together.

I don't think you fully,
like, understand

what it's like to be a widow
of two children.

Meeting someone
in another country,

introducing that guy
to her young children.

It's their feelings,
how they feel about it.

I know her kids
come first, but...

I don't know.

I understand.
I totally understand, but...

First of all...

...you don't even know
how they feel about me.

Okay, I can tell you that
they would not be okay

with you coming
right after I leave here

and, like, staying
in our house.

Like, are you telling me that
"I'm not willing to wait

and be by your side
to make sure your children

and are okay with it"
for one year?

You know, what would
be really hard,

like, you coming
into their lives,

and then, like,
us not working out.

And then it's, like, another
guy, like, that just left,

you know, like their dad.

I'm just saying, like, how
would that make them feel?

So, it's so much more fragile.

I came here to Romania

to meet the man of my dreams.

The man that I want
to have a future with.

But also it's a very
delicate situation,

and I want to be certain

about the relationship
before my kids are involved.

I can't take any risks
on that.

I really wanted to cook
a goddamn vegan food for you!

Don't raise your voice.

It's so frustrating because
you don't listen when I speak.

I'm just trying
to cook for you, Gino.

Jasmine needs to understand
that she can't
walk all over me.

I just wanna
make him happy
but I can't.

I really wanted to cook
a goddamn vegan food for you!

Don't raise your voice.

It's so frustrating because
you don't listen when I speak.

I'm just trying to cook
for you, Gino.

I understand that
but I'm not gonna cook

without the proper equipment.

Just because I asked you
to peel a few potatoes.

Like, what is wrong
with that?

I'm just frustrated
because, you know, um,

I just don't think that, uh,

she was understanding me.

Jasmine doesn't listen to me.

A lot of times when I try
to speak to her,

like, it goes in one ear
and out the other,
kind of thing.

I don't wanna upset her,

but Jasmine needs
to understand that

she can't walk all over me,

and I'm gonna stand up
for myself.

I mean, it hurts me
that he treats me bad,

but at the same time
it hurts me that he's hurt

because I don't know how
his freaking mind works.

And maybe he's suffering.

And I feel bad
that he got angry.

Like, I really tried
to take care of everything,

and I thought that this
was gonna be fun, you know.

We were gonna enjoy.

We were gonna be
at this moment

happily eating our food.

Why are you crying
like that?

Because you're mad at me.

I'm not mad at you.
I didn't say I was mad.

I mean, I just like to have
the proper equipment,

you know, to cook.

Like, sometimes in my house
we didn't have things,

and we figured out
how to solve it.

That's the way I am.
My mind works differently.

I am not saying that
it's not important,

but for me it's not
a big deal.

But now I know that
for you it is.

And I'm sorry.

You don't have to be sorry.

So do you wanna order food?

Hmm, uh, well,

not really. I mean...

I traveled today, so I think
I'm gonna go to sleep.

Okay, my angel,
let me put you to bed.

- Okay?
- Okay.

- Your sleeping hat?
- Yeah.

I know Jasmine,
you know, loves me, um,

very much and I do love her
very much,

but today didn't go
like I hoped

so I'm looking forward
to a good sleep, because

I haven't had any time
to relax or anything

so that could be part of it.

Do you want me
to lay with you,

or do you want me to go out

- and wait until
you're sleeping?
- Yeah.

Just let me sleep.

Okay, okay.

I don't know how
tomorrow he's gonna feel.

But we cannot keep
wasting our time like this.

I really wanted to collect
good memories

and have a better outlook

of how our lives living
together as a married couple

is gonna look like
in the United States.

Next time on
Before the 90 Days...

People would describe me
as the life of the party
for sure.

Whoo!

But I'm really looking for
somebody that I wanna

spend the rest
of my life with.

And I think with Cleo,
I may have found that.

But she is really different
from women that
I've dated in the past.

I find it really rude

that Razvan is talking
to this guy.

Obviously about me.

What did he say

because I heard my name
a few times.

I just arrived in Vietnam

and that chemistry
that I was feeling
with Violet,

it's real and...
I'm just so happy.

So, what are we
doing tomorrow?

You kidding me?

You think I flew for two days

to come here and not see you?

No.

I wanted to talk to you
about signing a prenup.

If there is
a [bleep] prenup,

I'm not gonna marry you.

Just forget it.

you. [bleep] you.