All language subtitles for Married.At.First.Sight.S17E05.1080p.WEB.h264-EDITH[eztv.re]_track3_eng

- You look phenomenal.
- Thank you.

- Eight bold singles took
a leap of faith

in order to find love.

They married
as complete strangers.

[cheers and applause]

- ♪ Hey, hey, hey

♪ Ready, set, let’s go

- Last time,
our couples spent

their first official night
as husband and wife.

♪ Step into my world

♪ Hey, hey, hey

- Becca and Austin.

- I had an exploratory surgery.

It turned into a diagnosis
of endometriosis.

And in past relationships,

I have felt like
a burden to them.

- That sucks that you, like,
had to go through that.

I’m not like that.

Should--should be good.

- No, gonna be perfect.
It’s great.

- [laughs]

♪ Step into my world

- Lauren and Orion.

- Just as, like,
a rule of thumb,

I would just--if he’s
working, just give him

like 10 minutes afterwards.

- Like now that
I have these heads up,

I think it’ll be good
for us moving forward

because I’m an overthinker.

- She is one of
those individuals

that sometimes she does
get in her head a lot.

- Get lost sometimes?
- Yeah.

Sometimes you may
have to reel her in.

- That can be
something you all can

work on navigating together.

- Emily and Brennan.

- Fun one piece.

I don’t really know
how it goes on yet.

We’ll probably get to,
like, figure each other out

in, like, the bedroom more.

I did pack all my
bachelorette props,

fuzzy handcuffs, lingerie.

I did not bring the whip.

I think it’s just
too aggressive.

- Clare and Cameron.

- Guys in the past who don’t
express that they care.

To me,
that’s very, very hurtful.

Inside, I do want
the physical affection.

It would be nice
to feel cared for.

- Sure.

[pop music]

- ♪ No rules, just do,
do what I wanna ♪

- And tonight, the couples
look to grow closer

as the honeymoon begins.

- Wild sides out.

[laughter]

- This is the type
of relationship

I’ve always wanted.

I’m just hoping I don’t puke.

- ♪ Get it, girl

♪ Get it, girl

- You’re just very sweet.

- Aw, thank you.

- And I like you a lot.

- Is this conversation
uncomfortable for you?

- No.
No, it’s not.

- No? OK.

I’m actually glad
we had this talk.

I don’t know
how you feel about it.

- I’m a little heated.

[dramatic music]

- I’m sorry that
it’s turned into, like,

the big deal that it is.

- I feel like you have to be
willing to go through--

put yourself out--I mean,
you think that things that

you deserve just come upon you?

You don’t have
to work for them?

- So you’re trying
to make what you said

or what came up seem--

- Less offensive
than what it was?

- It seemed like
you tried to minimize.

[dramatic music]

- ♪ It’s all or nothing

- This is
"Married At First Sight."

- ♪ There’s no other way

♪

♪ It’s all or nothing

[lively music]

♪

- I don’t know how to say that.

A few days ago,
Austin was a stranger.

And now
we’re on our honeymoon,

but I’m feeling excited.

I think it’ll be awesome
to be able to actually talk,

get to know each other,

figure out, like,
what his life is like.

And I’m ready to see what
our marriage has in store.

- What are you guys really
excited to do in Mexico?

Because this is some people’s--
- Hot air balloon.

- First time, right?

- We’re not going on
a hot air balloon.

- We need to do, like,
something really,

like, just physically--

something physical.
- Yeah.

- Something physical?
- Yeah.

- That is the point of the
honeymoon after all, Lauren.

- What?

- To do something physical.

[laughter]

- Can I take it more
like, hike, swim?

- Yeah, I agree.
- Yeah.

- Sex.

- I mean, this is
the first time we’re all,

like, living with each other.

- This is like--this is
like a sample of like--

- I know.

It’s like, will I get
really annoyed?

Maybe.
[laughter]

- I think--

I think it’s a strong maybe.

[laughter]

- Uh-oh.

We’ll be--it’ll be OK.

- I feel really lucky,
honestly.

I know it’s kind of early,
but I already feel, like,

physically attracted to him.

He’s really considerate.

So I’m pretty happy right now.

- It’s been great, honestly.

So I’m really enjoying
this time

and getting to know you
has really been a pleasure.

- Aw.
- Yeah.

- I would say that, for me, it
has exceeded my expectations.

- Oh, yeah.

- And I’m very happy.

I mean, it could have gone
way worse, but you’re OK.

[laughter]

- OK.

- I wanted to let you into,
you know, OK.

All right.

- Just got to keep you
on your toes, you know?

- That’s totally fair.

Yeah.

I mean, I think
we vibe pretty well.

And so far, so good.

So...

- I feel like Cameron and I
are very different people.

- Uh-oh.

- And that’s not a bad thing.

No, no, no--hey, listen.

That’s not a bad thing.

I think it works
to our advantage.

And I think that
we have a lot of learning

to do about each other,
but I’m excited to get to know

Cameron more on this honeymoon.

- I think I’ve probably not
been the easiest person to be

around, and I can be a lot.

And Clare is taking it
like a champ.

[laughter]

- Thank you.
- OK, what...

- What about you guys?
- About you two?

- Twinsies.

- We nailed it.

- Done.

- No issues.
- Move on.

- Really?
- I feel like--

- Just like that?

- I just always imagined,
like, just this, like, blob.

And then, like, when I
actually saw him, I was like--

- Oh, a hairy blob.
[laughter]

- Nice.

- Hearing Austin talk about
his relationship with Becca,

it’s making me
a little jealous.

I’m not sure exactly why
Clare and I are progressing

slower than the other couples,
but it does

make me curious as to maybe
why Clare and I are struggling

to engage intimately.

- Is sex on the table
for any of you guys?

- There is a specific thing
I’m looking for,

which maybe
it’s the same thing.

But I’m looking for the spark.

- Yeah.

- Something--that
thing that happens,

you know, in the first
few dates sometimes.

You know, and I want--

I want that to happen
on our honeymoon.

I think that there’s--

I hope that there’s
a moment in our future

where we maybe even
without necessarily having

to communicate it, we feel it.

And then it’s on the table.

- Right--
- And then--

- But with zero pressure
involved.

- Bingo.

But once that feeling
that it’s on the table,

then it’s something, like,
we can be like, OK,

is this something we’re doing
right now or not, right?

- Right.

- Once you know
it’s on the table--

- There’s a...
- Then...

- There’s a...
- That’s how I feel.

- There’s a--there’s
a moment of chemistry

where it’s like,
you’re like, oh, wait.

There’s something--oh,
this might be about to get--

[laughter]

- Facial expressions.

- I would rather wait
until like the intimacy

is just so built.

Like, we have that initial
foundation of trust

and intimacy,
and we’re at the point where

we literally want to rip
each other’s clothes off.

- Mm-hmm.

- Like, that’s what
I want to get to.

- Yeah.
Yeah.

Well, this will
just be the longest

foreplay any of us ever--

- Exactly.

It’s kind of fun.

- Yeah, I love foreplay.

- Yeah.

♪

[upbeat music]

- ♪ Lead the way in
the starlight in the morning ♪

♪ Put your hands in the air

- It’s our first day,
and it’s raining.

- So exciting.

- But we’ll make anything fun.

- Sure will.

- Cameron likes to sleep in,
and I’m an early riser.

I’m hungry.
I’m a breakfast girl.

And so I’m like, he can
wake up any minute now.

- I’m excited for today.

I love an adventure, so--

- Right? Yeah.
- I’m excited

for what we got going tonight.

- We get to give ourselves
some time to go look for it.

- Yeah.

- Oh, not bad.

- No.

It looks like it’s
clearing--clearing up.

- It’s still a little cloudy.

- There’s--there’s some blue.

[upbeat music]

♪

- I like that we’re both,
like, monsters in the morning,

but, like, happy monsters.

[laughter]

Austin’s morning
noises are that

of a pterodactyl that mated
with a newborn corgi puppy.

[screeching]

- [laughing]

Hey, yeah.

That was [bleep] it.

That was--you nailed it.

That was 100%, right?

- And then you talk
to yourself a little bit,

and then you just roll
over and you’re like--

[gurgling]

Austin and I are
equal parts weird.

Like I didn’t really
ask for weird,

I don’t think,
from the experts.

But the expert said, you need
this, which they were right,

because I’m also that weird.

- You like papaya?

- A-pa-pa-ya?

- Papaya.

- A-pa-pa-ya! A-pa-pa-pa-ya!

- All right, howler monkey.

- Whoa, that papaya
tastes savory.

- One thing that is kind of
cool about our relationship

is we’re a good balance
of silly and serious.

And after only knowing
each other for a few days,

it’s insane.

It’s so weird that
I might have met someone

who is the one.

Aliens, are they real?

- Yeah.
- Yeah.

I totally believe that there
are other living entities

in our grand universe.

- Yeah.

There’s no way that
we are the only dumb ones

who are doing this [bleep].

There are other life forces
eating fruit

in a tub somewhere.

Or maybe not,
maybe we’re the dumb ones.

[laughter]

- ♪ Can you handle this

♪ Don’t say
I didn’t warn you ♪

♪ Can you handle this

♪ It might be too much
for you ♪

- Mm. Pain.

- So you didn’t fall
this morning, correct?

- No--
- OK.

- It was last night.

- Oh, wait.
Really?

- Yeah.

Last night,
while we’re in the shower,

I left the shower
to go get more towels.

And when I took a turn,
I took a tumble.

You didn’t hear the big kaboom?

[laughter]

We did take, like, the PG-13
shower, mostly naked.

The shower was good,
until I slipped

and, like, broke my hand.

But that was the most
unclothed we’ve been

because we’re just
not there yet.

We haven’t had the sex talk.

So, like, taking it slow
while still being together.

I was like, oh,
that was graceful.

[laughter]

Just gonna go walk this off.

- Wow.

So you woke up,
and it still hurts?

- Mm-hmm.
- That’s sucks.

Got to ice it.

- I didn’t want to tell
you because I didn’t

want to be a little bitch.

And then I was like,
you know, I’ll be fine.

And then I couldn’t feel
my hand this morning,

and then it was time
to make sure it was OK.

- Drama in paradise.

Well, cheers
to being committed.

[laughs]
- Cheers.

[upbeat music]

- This coffee is so good.

I’m so happy.
How’s your drink?

- Good.

- Food’s good.

- Mm-hmm.

- In the morning, I cook eggs--

eggs and cheese with
a little peanut butter toast.

- Oh.

- Would you like that?
- Mm-hmm.

I don’t really love
peanut butter though.

I like jelly on toast.

- So jelly on yours?

- Mm-hmm, strawberry.

- OK, I think I can do that.

- It’s kind of like
what Costco has.

It’s like what I eat too.

- So I’ll cook breakfast,
you cook dinner?

- Mm-hmm.
- Perfect.

It’s gonna be nice.

- I want that.
Like, I need a routine.

I need a better balance.

- I’m so good at that.

- Great.

I have a bad work-life
balance right now,

but I want to get better.

- You’re just so busy.
- Yeah.

But also, I haven’t really had
to stop for anyone, you know?

It’s hard for me
to shut off my laptop

because there’s money
to be made, you know?

- Are you still hungry
to make more money?

- I am.

- I never want you to, like,
lose that drive like that.

- Yeah.
- Like that’s our flame.

You know what I mean?

Like my mom’s worked
for 30 years doing--

- Yeah, I’m not--

- I don’t think
I have it in me to,

like, not work a little bit.

- Like I want to just build,
like, our legacy,

build something that,
like, we’re very proud of.

- And I think it just
comes down to being,

like--having, like, drive
and a good work ethic.

I just feel like money
always follows that.

- Yeah.

- And, like, I’m successful.

I know you’re successful.

And, like, I think
it’s important to be

on the same page that we’re
gonna, like, keep that up.

- Agreed.

- Power couple.

- Power couple, it’s got
a nice ring to it, huh?

- It does.

- For me, my--

like, I’ve worked
this hard because

I want to be able to provide
the best life for our family.

So I want someone
who understands the grind

because I’ve just been storing,
stashing, stashing.

- I don’t like math.

I don’t really get it.

- Yeah.

- I’m bad at budgeting.

I just like to do
what I want when I want

and, like, have
the money to do it.

- Have like a--

- I like traveling, go out,
eat where I want.

I would like my money
to go farther...

- Yeah.

- In, like, a lot
of different ways.

But I don’t really know where
my money goes, to be honest.

[tense music]

- I’m very big on living
below our means.

Do you feel--
- That’s how you should do.

- Do you feel that way too?

- I feel like I believe that,

but I can do better
at living that way.

♪

- I got to look into this, see
what’s going on over there.

Where all that money is going,
we’ll find out real quick.

- [chuckles]

- Audit--auditor Brennan
over here, all of a sudden.

- Room for growth for me.

Openness, though, for you
to take the reins on this.

- I have no issues with that.

[laughter]

- ♪ Why do you come

♪ Why do you go away

- We just had
a yummy breakfast.

We’re ready to take on the day.

We’re both caffeinated.

Um...

I’ve been up for hours.

I’m gonna need a nap
pretty soon.

And you got the swim trunks.

- Togs.

- Or do these match, or no?

- Not on purpose.

- No, they don’t--no,
they don’t match, though.

These are
two different patterns.

No, that’s a good--
good look.

- Oh, yeah.

- Oh, wow.
- Now that--

- You look like--

- That is a boy who is
ready to paddleboard.

- [laughs]
I don’t even know what to say.

I mean, you’ve even got
the shoes and everything.

- Yes.
I told you, water shoes.

- Yeah.

- No, it looks great.

- It fit all in my--in my--
in my little suitcase

that apparently no one believes
that I can bring anything in.

So last night,
Clare and I, we had

a good discussion about
physical touch and intimacy.

And I’m--honestly, I think
I might be a little more

confused because, personally,

I didn’t get a clear
understanding

of what she wants.

- You look like a dad.

[laughs]

- Well, I am a husband.
- Right.

- I mean, that’s close.
That’s one step.

- It’s just looks
like you should

have, like, three
kiddos falling

behind you for some reason.

- I’d be the coolest dad in--

- That outfit is...
- The whole wide world.

Thank you very much.

- It’s very interesting

- It’s very important to me
to get an energy

of comfort and safety
from the woman I’m with,

and I usually make
the first move.

But she keeps making jokes

about my lack
of fashion sense.

And in this moment,
my feeling is

that she doesn’t feel
comfortable enough

with me yet.

So I’m waiting.

- You ready?

- It’s pretty--pretty
rough out there.

I hope we’re not
going out there.

- It’s a little choppy.

OK, let’s go.

[upbeat music]

- This is gonna be fun.

- I know. I’m excited.

All right.

- Here you go.

- Awesome, thank you.

- You’re welcome.

Are we nervous?

- It’s a little windy.

So that’s--that’s what’s
kind of making me nervous.

But...
- But there’s no rain...

- At the same...
- So we should be OK.

- Time, if I fall, I fall.

And that is--that
is what it is.

Nice.

- And I’m gonna push you on.

- Ah!

All right, we’re going.
Later, Cameron.

- Bye.

- You’re gonna the middle.

The middle of the--

- See you back at the room.

- OK.

- Wait, where am I going?
- Ready?

- Ready.

- You’re up.

- This is a very good
place to start.

I think, you know,
we’re both having fun,

and we actually are, like--
enjoy each other’s presence.

- ♪ Underneath is
where she’s hiding ♪

♪ But you’re fighting

- We’re learning,
how do we ignite the spark?

How do we make it grow?

- ♪ If she don’t know it

♪ Then she can’t fake it

♪ And I’m not gonna make her
take something that I’ve got ♪

- I think, you know, we’re
making those baby steps.

They’re not huge steps.

They’re not massive steps,
but they’re baby steps.

That was fun.

Cameron, taking his
sweet, sweet, sweet time.

- ♪ Let’s get away, holiday

♪ Warm breeze, salty air

- It’s our first
vacation together.

- Yeah.

It’s been crazy.

Do you want to get warmer?

- Yes.

- Yes, OK.

- Away from the wind.

- Yeah, be a little warmer.

Oh, this is actually
even better.

- Is it?

- Yeah, this is nice.

- Oh, yeah.

I like this. OK.

First night, how you feel?
First day--

- First day?
I feel good today.

- Yeah.

- I feel good today.
You know--

- Yesterday was a lot.

- Yesterday was
definitely a lot,

kind of just all the traveling.

And then we’re still
very new to each other.

- We’re not strangers.

- We’re not strangers.
No, we got past that.

- We passed the stranger--
stranger danger.

- But, you know, I do want
to make sure that you do feel

safe through all of this--
safe, comfortable.

It’s kind of my biggest
priority right now

and then getting to know you.

- I appreciate that.

- Yeah.

- Hearing him say that,
it kind of just

makes me feel really excited
because one thing

my mom stressed is that

she wanted me to be with
a strong man

that made me feel safe.

And once I feel safe
enough to be vulnerable,

safe enough to just be
my authentic self with him,

that will make me feel loved
and supported by him.

And we can just go
deeper from there.

- You know, I do have to say.

I really enjoyed
our conversation

last night at the aqua bar.

Yeah.

- We touched on
a lot of things.

You know, only one kid.

- One kid.

- One kid,
but open for adoption.

- Open for adoption.

- Open for adoption,
which, I think,

is honestly really amazing
because there’s a lot of kids

out there who, you know,
they don’t have--

they don’t have things.

You know, and I don’t know.

You know, being someone who
gives, someone who likes to--

- Like, we’re good providers.
- Yeah.

Yeah.

- We’re givers.

I could tell that
off--based upon you

and things that I’ve seen.

So I think--one, I think
when that time comes,

we would make great parents.

And it would be great
to, you know,

just keep our options open...

- Sure.

- Outside of natural
births...

- Right.

- With adoption, you know?

- OK.

Well, you know, I think
you’d make a great mother.

And honestly, you know,
I say that confidently,

you know, knowing you
for as short as I have.

- Right?

- But no,
just you’re very warm.

You have a very warm aura
about you, you know?

And I don’t know.

As a kid, I definitely
needed that growing up.

So, you know, just that alone,

I know that you’re--you’re just
years ahead of anybody else.

- Thanks.

I think, for me,
like, when we have

these kind of conversations
about the future,

it gives me a little bit more
reassurance, like, in the now.

- Gotcha.

- And I get that
we don’t need to,

like, plan everything out--

- Right. But it’s...

- But it’s--
- Nice to hear.

- Yeah.
- OK.

It’s nice to hear.

It’s very comforting
to talk about the future

and what that holds
because I am

looking for everlasting love.

So, you know,
I think it is really

amazing how well we got matched
together by the experts.

Honestly, as feelings are
growing, the chemistry,

it really does just,
you know--just

start to build more and more.

It’s nice to feel nice,
to feel seen, to feel heard.

And that’s why
I’m enjoying this so much.

That’s why I’m enjoying you
so much.

- I’m glad you feel that way.

I think we both had like--

what’s the word?

Maybe, like, underwhelming
relationships in the past,

or just not fulfilling.

- They just kind
of fizzled out.

- Fizz--that’s
actually the exact

word I’ve used in the past.

And I think if we just,
like, continue

to make it a habit
of getting to know

who Lauren and Orion are
today at this moment,

there can’t be a fizzle.

- I would definitely boast
about my marriage

to anybody, which like, you
know, we don’t have a problem.

And if we do,
we figure it out together.

- Yeah.

You know, I think we’re pretty
good at this marriage thing.

- I think so too.
Yeah.

- ♪ ’Cause everything
that I could dream ♪

♪ Will turn into
an island fling ♪

[upbeat music]

♪

- That was fun.
What did do you think?

- I liked it very much.

- Yeah, I felt like
your balance surprised me.

- Oh, thank you.

- Neither of us fell.

- Nice job.
- Love that.

- You were fast.

I couldn’t keep up.

This was my first time
paddle boarding.

And, you know, to--to be able
to do that with you, I think,

has, like, a whole
extra element to it.

I think we got to see
at least a little bit

of a different side
of each other,

which I think any of that,
for me, personally, is good.

- I could not agree more.

- The more I get to know
the fun side of Clare,

the more I feel
comfortable advancing

my physical connection
with Clare.

I do find her attractive,
and I do like her.

And I hope moving forward that
we can just be more relaxed

around each other,
and I hope that

that will lead to more
opportunity

for physical intimacy.

Well, I think we--

we bonded against our common
enemy, the wind and the water.

- I agree.

- Now--now we--

- But also, about the fact
that we were having fun.

- Yeah.

- We bonded on that as well.

- Yeah.

I had a lot of fun.

How are you feeling?

- I’m feeling good.

Yeah, no, I think that

it’s a beautiful setting.

And I think, how can you not
have just a great time?

And that’s what we’re doing.
- Yeah.

- So I’m feeling--
- Yeah.

- I’m feeling great.

- Yeah.

What--what do you--

what do you want to know?

You want to get to know me?
- [laughs]

Just anything?

- I don’t know.
- What do I want to know?

- So you--you’re still
in school--like you’re--

I don’t want to say
still in school like

it’s a bad thing, but you’re...
- Yeah.

- Still in school?

- I’m in my last year

of my master’s program.

- Yeah, and you’re--
you fix bikes, correct?

- Yeah.

I mean, I didn’t do
my master’s in bike fixing.

- Right.

- Do you ever get,
like, bored of that?

- I mean, I--

- I feel like that gets
very repetitive.

- I mean, every--

every fracture is different.

It’s kind of like a surgeon.

Like, do surgeons get bored?

I mean, I guess at some point.

But, like, every--

- Yeah, right.

So every bike is different?

- Every single one, the way
they break is different.

- Yeah.
You love your job?

- Yeah, I do. I do.

Like for--for a lot
of people in Boulder,

their bikes are, like--
they’re their lives.

Like it’s their--it’s
their entire social network.

It’s like if they don’t
have their bicycle,

their mental health starts
to decline, you know?

- Right.

- Like the stories
that we heard of,

like, people in
lockdown and all that.

And just, like, knowing--

like, knowing that their only
escape was that they could,

like, go outside and do the...
- Right, which is...

- One thing that they loved.
- Nice that you offer that.

I think that’s really cool.
- I mean...

- That’s very cool.
- It’s important to me.

It’s--I care about the
engineering and the materials,

but the people side of it
is just as important.

- For sure.

And I think that’s something
we bond on too is, like,

I think some people are OK
in a job that they don’t love,

because whether it makes them
money or whatever.

And it is, for me, it’s,
like, that’s not what matters.

It’s the fact that you enjoy
doing what you do...

- Yeah.
- You know?

I respect that.

♪

[salsa music]

♪

- I’m gonna brush
my teeth...

- OK.
- Real quick.

- I’m gonna finish my make--

I’m almost done.

Actually, I got to lay
my edges down.

- Can I watch you
put your edges down?

- Did you say
put my edges down?

- No, just watch, just watch.

- But what did you call it?
- Edges?

- But what did you say?

Say the whole thing.

- Can I watch you
put your edges down?

- Lay, I’m gonna lay...
- Oh.

- The edges.

- Lay your edges.

- Yes, you can definitely
watch me lay my edges.

Gel, brush...

- OK.

- Comb.

- Nice.

- So first,
comb the little naps out.

[laughs]
That’s what that sound is.

Take a little gel.

I really like a little
sideburn action.

- Mm-hmm.

- So I always ask
my braiders, like,

leave a little hair out
on the side,

so I can get a nice little
swoopity-swoop.

- Usually getting ready
for, like, pow-wows,

getting in regalia
and things like that,

I think my mom and Bronte,
they spent

about two hours doing hair.

Yeah, just pulling it tight...

- Just making sure it, like...
- Getting it braided.

- Looks perfect...
- Mm-hmm.

- At least enough.

- Yeah.

- And they have long hair.

So I bet it does take
two hours.

This is why we call it laying
the edges down, just to,

like, make sure--
- Oh, and it helps...

- Yeah.
- Lay it down?

- Yeah, just to...
- OK

- Help it lay down.
- Yeah.

- There’s no right
or wrong way to tie it,

just as long as
it’s tight around.

- I think it is really amazing
that she’s able to, you know,

just let me in on her culture.

Everything I could learn about
that, you know, and the ways

that I can show support,
you know,

for her background and her even
familial traditions, you know?

I’m there for it.

- You smell good.

I want to smell good too.

- I will say that.

You have smelled phenomenal.

- Thank you.

I appreciate that.

It’s all for you, baby.

[upbeat music]

- ♪ It’s all you, girl

♪ Watch you move

♪ You’re so cool, girl

♪ You’re so cool

- The boat.
- The boat.

- The boat!

I’m on a boat.

Hi.
- Hello.

How are you?
- Good, and you?

both: Good.

- Mighty nice.

- It’s just like the weather.

- Aw, you’re so cute.

- You’re so cute.

[laughter]

[soft guitar music]

♪

- A little pelican.

- That’s not a pelican.

You put your hand here.

- Put where?

- There.
- There?

- I want to grab it.
- Oh, OK,

in case we hit turbulence?

[laughter]

- Something that
I’ve learned about you

which I was pleasantly
surprised about

is how equally sensitive
and goofy you are.

You’re very good at, like,
being in tune with, like,

when I need something
and then, like,

being affectionate with
the way that you give me that.

Whether it be, like, picking up
my suitcase or, like,

doing any little thing.

- Aw, the little things.

- I need to be
reassured often...

- OK.

- For my overthinking mind.

- Am I good at doing that
or do I need to get better?

- You’ve already gotten better.
- Oh, OK. Great.

- Yeah, like, I feel
like sometimes

I have to look at you
and say, I’m feeling this way.

Please tell me otherwise.

Then you do.

- I don’t think that’s
getting better, but--

- I think it is.

- OK.

- And I’m learning--

I’m learning how great
of a guy you are.

I already knew that,
but it’s nice to like--

- It’s a long journey.

Sometimes it takes
time to get there.

- It’s nice to, like,
witness what

all of your friends
and family have said

and, like, see that it’s true.

- Aw.

I think one thing
I’ve learned is,

like, how strong of a person
you are and how,

like, capable--

after, like, you shared,
you know, your details

about your surgery and your
health issues, like, you know,

I feel like a lot of people
don’t see how it affects you.

And I think that’s purposeful.

And you’re, like, strong enough
to, like, keep your composure

and so, like, in tune
with yourself enough to,

like, actually enjoy a moment,
whether you’re in pain or not.

And I, like--

I really admire that.

I think that’s--
that’s incredible.

- That means a lot that
you see that because it’s

so hard to share that...
- Well, you’re also--

- Moment.
- Yeah, of course. Yeah.

- I don’t share that side of me
with a lot of people,

and I don’t share
when I’m in pain

or what I’ve gone through
with everyone.

For him to be ingesting it
and, like,

interpreting it in that way
rather than a negative

is amazing.

We’re learning a lot.

- Learning a lot.

Excited to keep--
keep learning.

- Taking notes.

Can I kiss you?

- Yes.

- Austin makes me feel seen
and appreciated,

and I want to do this
every day.

- ♪ Give it all that I have

♪ No holding me back

- Not get married
to a stranger every day,

just be with him
on a honeymoon every day.

- ♪ The whole world
is watching ♪

♪ And I need
to show them who I am ♪

- I wouldn’t want to be
doing this with anybody else.

- ♪ Because I’m a believer

♪ And I won’t stop
until the end of the road ♪

♪ Yeah, unstoppable

[upbeat music]

- ♪ Hey, yeah

♪ You’re dancing for me

♪ Look, see

♪ You’re smiling for me

- Oh, it’s nice.
- Yeah.

- Cool.

- You want to sit over here?

- This is nice.

- How many shots do you think
we’re gonna get?

- Probably a lot.

- I’m, like, nervous.

I’ve never have mezcal.

So this is gonna be
quite interesting.

- Buenas tardes.
- Buenas tardes.

- Oh, wow.

- How are you?

It’s mezcal el viejo.

- OK.
- OK.

- Are we supposed to drink
the whole thing?

- Yes.
- Oh.

[glasses clinking]

- Salud.

- Uh-oh.

[salsa music]

Mmm.

- OK.

Maybe we take a little
break from this.

- Hey, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no.

You’re gonna do all of these.

- Cheers.

[glasses clinking]

♪

Mmm. Not bad.

♪

Delicious.

What is that, brownie?

- [laughs]

- It’s so good.

Oh, look, there’s more.

OK.

- I’m gonna do yours and see
if I cry after, like today.

- I don’t cry.

That was sweat.

- [laughs]

- God.
- Wild sides out.

[laughter]

- And cheers.
All right, ready?

We got to do
the whole fancy thing.

I know it’s a little--
all right, hold on.

I’m gonna come in here.

- ♪ It all starts
with one spark ♪

♪ Let your colors shine
right from the heart ♪

- This is the type of
relationship I’ve always

wanted, just getting
to try new experiences

that I’ve never done before.

And I’m just hoping
I don’t puke.

[laughs]

- Where are you from,
Long Island?

- Mm-hmm.

- I’m from Long Island.

I’m in New York.
I like pizza.

- Yeah.

[laughter]

- Were you a partier
in college?

- I wouldn’t say I’m a partier,
but, like, I had fun.

- I was a huge partier.

- Huge?
- Yeah.

- Uh-oh.

- I feel like I went
to a big party school.

It’s hard to.

It’s all in the past...

ish.

- Open up.

- I’m a married woman now.

- A married woman.

- But still fun.

Very important.

- I feel like we balance
each other out.

- Yeah, like,
we’re similar, but we do

have our own personalities.

It works with each other.

Like I’m really emotional.

- Sometimes I get sappy.

- Oh, you have emotions?

- Sap.
- Sap.

- Yeah.

- Where does sap--
like down here?

- It’s like pride to the left
next to the dessert section,

if I’m being honest.

[light music]

I feel like I’ve known you
for a long time.

And it’s just really nice
to, like, hang out with you,

honestly.

It just kind of
feels like we’re

picking up where we left off.
- Mm-hmm.

- You know?

- Mm-hmm.

We’re very similar.

- The same values,
which is, like, pretty cool,

the real important stuff.

All this time, like,
dating, I thought,

like, am I just different?

Like, I feel like
I can say something,

and you wouldn’t,
like, judge me for it.

I feel like you would be
like, yeah.

- Hell, yeah.

- Is that scary for you?

- It’s not scary.

It’s just, like, crazy.

Like I’ve just never
met anyone like--

like me, let alone,
like, someone I like.

You know?

- ♪ Feeling so anxious
and nervous ♪

♪ But I know that
you will be worth it ♪

♪ More than I ever dreamed

♪ I guess this is happening

- I’m gonna take
another shot.

Do you want one?
- Yeah.

Cheers.

Where have you been
my whole life?

- I don’t know.
[glasses clinking]

- ♪ Tonight,
this feeling so sweet ♪

♪ This rhythm
taking over me, oh ♪

- You want me
to get on that side?

- Yeah, you want to try this?
- Yeah.

- All right.

I think we should
both sit down--

- Like both sit down
at the same time.

- At the same time.
- Oh, [bleep].

- And--
- Ooh.

- Oh, look at that.

- Yeah, you went for it.
You got it.

- Oh, sh--

- I got to give you
some more room.

- Oh, no. Oh, no.

- You good? [laughs]

- Yeah.
Yeah, I’m good.

I’m good.
I’m good.

- OK.
You got enough room?

- [sighs]

- Hammocks are relaxing.

- You know, I could
probably just hang out

here for the rest of the day.

- Oh, thank you so much.

- Thank you.

Cheers.

- Cheers.

- I still, like, wake up
and think like this [bleep]

is crazy, that we did this.
- All the time. All the time.

- But it’s also, like, going
so well that I’m like--

- It feels really natural.

- But we’re still crazy
as [bleep] for doing this.

- Yeah.

- I mean, but I wouldn’t
want to do it...

- Cheers to crazy.
- With anyone else.

- Aw, thanks, babe.

Cheers to crazy.

- Mm-hmm.

- Thanks.
- Aw.

- What did we book?

Oh, we did Mexican food
for dinner.

- Yeah, Mexican food.

I’m a big foodie, honestly.

- I really love
that you can cook.

I haven’t had too many
partners that cook well.

- Ooh, OK.

So you believe in gender roles
in the house?

- Yeah.

I think there’s room
for flexible gender roles

too, especially as it
talks--as it pertains

to, like, household stuff.
- Right, of course.

- Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So, like, do I think I should
be in the kitchen cooking?

No, like, all the time.

Do I want to cook
for my man though?

- But you should know
how to cook.

- Yeah.

I think every adult
should know how to cook.

But also, like, do I also,
like, stereotypically, like,

want to cook for my man?

Yes, I do.

And things like that, I’m
like, yeah, I still want to do.

Like I still want
to be a wife to you.

- Mm-hmm.

And I still want
to be a husband.

- Yeah, like how
we talked about,

like, financial roles
in the house.

- Yeah.
Yeah.

- I feel like, yeah,
you should be the provider.

- The 60-40, 70-30.

- No, you said 80-20.

I think I like that number.
- No--I--

- But no, we can stick...
- No, no, no.

- At 70-30.
- I did, because...

no, and I said 80-20 because
that is naturally how I like...

- How you are.
- To be.

- I love that.
- Yeah.

- I love that.

- It can take a little bit
to get there.

It is something that
I want to give you, though.

- Yeah?
- Mm-hmm.

- I do get the vibes
that, OK,

you want to provide
for the household

and be, like,
the man of the house.

And I appreciate that because
that’s what I’m looking for.

But with that being said,
I also want to give.

I don’t want you
to feel the burden

and the weight of household
financial duties alone.

- Right.

- I very much want you
to feel like we’re

a partnership in this.
- Absolutely

- So--
- Yeah, we’re a team in this.

- Yeah.

Well, we’ll figure
that out as we go.

- Of course.

- But I’m glad that
we talked about that

because it was on my mind.

But I know when
it comes to money--

- It can be touchy
for a lot of people.

- Especially men...
- Sure, yeah.

- To be honest.

And that’s why
I wanted you to like...

- Yeah.
- Bring that up on your time.

- Honestly,
that’s why I initiated it.

- Yeah. I was like--
- That’s why...

- Because I was not--
- I initiated it.

- I was not going to initiate

the money conversation at all.

I don’t feel comfortable
doing that with men.

I just prefer y’all to do that.

You to do that.

- Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

- So, like, what’s your,
like, manscaping, like,

below and above the waist like?

I just got to know--
- OK.

- Just so I know
what to prepare for.

- Well--
- Is it a jungle?

- No, I was gonna say
it’s nothing prehistoric.

- Is it a forest?

- It’s nothing prehistoric.

It’s nothing prehistoric.

You know, I keep it low.
- OK.

- I keep it soft.

- How do you keep it soft?

- So for Christmas,

I got something
from my brother.

It was called Manscape.

It was, like, a whole kit.

So I get, like,
aftershave for my nuts...

[laughter]

Things like that.

- We’re adults.

- You know. Yeah. Yeah.

You know, I’m just--
I don’t know.

I take care of myself.
- So it’s soft?

- Yeah.
I take care of myself.

- OK. So you keep it low.

- Yeah.
- OK.

I like low over no, honestly.
- Yeah.

I keep it low, not bald.

- For men, I like low over no.

- Yeah, low, not bold.

- Your eyelashes
are really pretty.

- Thank you.

- They’re real sexy like.

- Ooh.
- Mm, mm. [laughs]

[soft music]

- ♪ I don’t know
what you put on me ♪

♪ You got me going crazy

♪ Don’t know
what you put upon me ♪

♪ On me

♪ You got me so in love

♪ I want to play it rough

♪ I’m gonna turn it up

♪

- ♪ Loving you
like you’re mine ♪

♪ Giving you everything
I’ve got ♪

♪ I’m gonna change your life

- Gonna eat so much food.
- Steak.

- And then we’re not
gonna fit in our clothes.

- These hot, sexy clothes.

- Ooh!

We cute!

- Ooh!

- He’s cute.

I’ll keep him.

- ♪ Look me in your eyes

♪ ’Cause I’ve been loving you
like you’re mine ♪

- Should I grab
your chair for you?

- No.
- Oh, that’d be nice.

- [bleep] the patriarchy.
[laughs]

- [laughs] OK.

[laughter]

You got it.

- Just kidding.

Do you want me to pull
your chair out for you?

- I don’t think
it works like that.

- I’m just kidding.

Do you want to know
what the best view is?

Your face.
- I was gonna say.

This one right here?

- Just your face.

Your face, my face.

We haven’t even known
each other that long,

and I just think
you’re just very sweet.

- Aw, thank you.

- And I like you a lot.

- Aw, I like you too.

♪

- What were you like as a kid?

- Wild, a handful.

- That’s what your mom said.

- [laughs] You grew up
in the suburbs of Chicago?

- Mm-hmm.

I grew up pretty privileged,
just, like,

upper middle class,
great school system.

I had a great group of friends.

A little wild as a high
schooler and middle schooler.

But, um--but, yeah,
I feel like just a relatively

pretty normal childhood.

Yes, thank you.

- Ooh, I’m excited.

- Yum.

How about you?

- Yes, I grew up in Boulder,
and my life is pretty,

like, normal and boring.
- Mm-hmm.

- I didn’t have a sibling,
so, like,

that time growing up, I was,
like, stuck at my--my house...

- Mm-hmm.

- And, like, bored.

- Were you ever jealous
of, like, your friends

who grew up with siblings?

- No, I wasn’t jealous.

I didn’t mind being
an only child.

I think, like, it--

I think, like,
if I were to have kids,

I would want to have two.

- Mm-hmm.

- Do you have, like,
a number of kids you want

to, like, aim for or not or--

- I feel like I’ve imagined
my life either way,

with or without kids.

- OK.

- But I think largely,
the decision lies in, like,

what my partner wants,
not because I don’t know

what I want, but because,
like, truly, either way,

I would be so happy.

Because if I didn’t
have kids, like,

it would allow me to, like,
foster kids or, you know,

serve my community in ways that
you can’t when you have kids.

- Yeah.
- But...

- Yeah.

- If you were to want kids,
that would be fun.

- [laughs]
Yeah, I want to have kids.

- [laughs]

- I want to have kids.

- I’m gonna throw up.
- You think I was wild?

- Mm-hmm.

- That kid would be
something--our kids

are gonna be something else.

[laughter]

- When do you want two kids?

- Maybe like
a three-year spread.

I’ve got, like, a lot of
other things I want to do--

- Yeah.

- Before I have kids.
- Same.

- Like date you.

[laughs]

- ♪ Don’t want out

♪ Feeling love, feeling love

♪ And you’re all
that you got ♪

- Cheers.

- Ah, to not falling in.

- Good for us.

When I--there could have
been several moments.

[chuckles] Oh, thank you.

That looks delish.

- Do you want me
to put it here?

- Yeah.

Thank you.

- Thank you.
Perfect.

Thank you.

- Appreciate that.

- Ooh.

Ooh, this is soft.
- [laughs]

- How does it feel to be on
a date with me, your husband?

- I’m having fun.

[upbeat music]

- Um...

I think we can
kind of, you know,

use this dinner as the start
point for a fun night.

- Mm-hmm, yeah.

I know I’m having a good time
when I’m laughing a lot.

- Mm.

- That’s when
it’s like, OK, she--

she’s having a good time.

- Well, you laugh
all the time around me.

- Yeah, ’cause I think
you’re goofy, in a good way.

- Mm.
- No, not--no, goofy is--

- I didn’t know goofy--

I didn’t know goofy
was in a bad way.

- Oh, OK, good.

I don’t know, because I think
some people hear goofy,

and they’re like--

which I--I said, like,
I appreciate a goofy--

I asked for a goofy person
because I feel like my job,

I can get really serious
sometimes because it is

a very serious thing, right?

- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

- It’s people’s health.

It’s their--their minds,

and so I take that
very seriously.

And sometimes I lose sight of,
like, the fun parts of things.

- Yeah.
- You know?

- Yeah.

- Have you gone to therapy?

- As a kid, not as--

- Yeah.

- Not as an adult, yeah.

- Do you feel like
you could benefit or, like--

I mean, obviously,
it’s something that is--

it’s very important to me.
- Yeah.

- You know?
- Yeah.

- I understand therapy.

I think it would be difficult
for anyone to say earnestly

that, like, therapy
wouldn’t--couldn’t do

something good for them.

- Right.

- But, you know, the--

the reason I think
that would stop people

is they’re unfamiliar,
so they don’t know

how much good it would do.
- Right.

- Or they think that
there’s some stigma to it.

- But what about you?

- I think it’s good.
- Yeah.

- Yeah.
- But why don’t you go?

- It’s just not right now
in my life

something that I want to do.

Things that I need find me
when I need them.

It’s not--I’m not saying
that that’s a--

I’m not saying that that is
the right way to go about life,

but I feel like things that
you might call interventions

or however you
want to define it--

- Mm-hmm.

- If it’s therapy
or something else...

- Right.

- My experience is that I find

that intervention,
that specific intervention,

when I need it.

- I totally look at life
differently,

but I respect that.

- Mm-hmm.

- I feel like you have to be
willing to go through--

put yourself out there.

I mean, you think that
things that you deserve

just come upon you?

You don’t have
to work for them?

That’s what I’m hearing.

- I think yes.

- That’s what you’re saying.

- To answer your question
more directly, yes,

but I would change the--
- I disagree.

- But I would change
the words.

- OK.

- Everyone is presented
with opportunity.

- Mm-hmm.

- The question is, do you--

do you take--
do you take advantage

of the opportunity that...
- Mm-hmm.

- Has been offered to you?

So I’m--I’m the person
who when the door opens,

I walk through it.
- Mm-hmm.

But I think that’s such
a privileged way of thinking.

- Why?

- Because it’s like saying,
OK, yeah, if it comes to me,

I will--
you don’t have to work for--

hard for what you have.

- I had to be there.

- Right.

- I had to be
where the door was.

- But what if you had to work
to be--to get to the door?

I think we just view things
very, very differently

is what I’m hearing.

- You’re saying that
to find the opportunity...

- Mm-hmm.

- You have to have drive?

- You do.

- You--you find more
doors with drive.

- Mm-hmm.

- But people who have no drive
have opportunity--

- So would you say
you have no drive?

- Of course not.

- Well, I don’t know.

You’re telling me
things just come to you.

And it’s like, I have
no drive in order to--

- Things come to everybody.

♪

- I’m learning that we are
very different people

who have very different
viewpoints,

who have very different
personalities.

But that doesn’t mean
that we can’t find

some common things, you know.

Um, I think it’s very cool that

we can have healthy
discussions and have them

not feel like an argument.

You know?

- Yes.

I think we’re very similar
people with very different

viewpoints and perspectives,
which I actually think

is really interesting.

And I think can be
very, very complementary

and beneficial
to a relationship.

- Yeah.

- I mean, you don’t want
to be dating, like,

someone who’s identical to you.
- Right.

I mean, we’ll figure it out
at some point.

It’s just--it’s a lot
to take in right now.

[dramatic music]

- [singing in Spanish]

♪

- Dude, I love this so much.

It’s been so long since
I’ve just had this, like,

wave of love.

- I feel like you just need
to go on vacation.

- I know.

Well, like, just--

I don’t know.
- Happy.

- Yeah.

- And it’s so nice, like,
disconnecting, and just--

I just feel like
we’re so, like, present.

Don’t you think?

- You think that’s
gonna change when

we get back to civilization?

- Yeah, a bit.

- I think we’ll
still be able to,

like, focus on what
matters, which is us.

- I feel like so, like,
blah, lovey-dovey,

like, happy saying it.

But, like, I really couldn’t
have imagined it, like,

going as great as it has.

- Yeah.

- I could have hoped
for, like, something

to be like natural
and, like, fun.

- I feel the same.

Like, it’s just--

I’m just enjoying it,
and I’m very happy with, like,

how things are progressing.

And I just learn more
and more about you,

and it just makes you more
and more comfortable and more

and more attracted to you.

So I just want to carry on
this momentum...

- Mm-hmm.

- And just, like,
see where we go.

- What about sex?

- What about it?

- Like, do you think,
like, you’re there with me?

- I think we’re building on it.

Like, we’re getting more
and more, like, touchy.

And, like, I think,
because we’re,

like, building our emotional,
like, I think that’s just--

the physical is
coming naturally,

which is really nice.

How do you feel about it?

- I am willing
to just take your lead.

- I appreciate that.

- Yeah.

- Obviously, sex
is super important.

But--
- Mm-hmm.

- Like, past relationships,
it’s kind of, like,

changed the dynamic
of the relationship.

So I think we have the luxury
now where we can really focus

on the things that matter--
- Yeah.

- Versus focusing on
that which could cloud.

- So where’s the link?

Feel it out.

- I’ve never
focused on building

the emotional connection first.

- Yeah, I really
haven’t either.

- But apparently, if you
do that first and then--

- Great.

- Focus on the physical,
it’s, like, that much better.

So I’m excited to see
how that works.

- ♪ You make it easy,
fun for you ♪

♪ Looking at me like
what should we do? ♪

♪ You make it so easy

♪ You make it so easy

- Is that a mermaid?

- I have sensitive elbows.

- [laughs]

- Can’t touch the water--
whoa, in my trunks.

- Are you serious?

- [laughs]

- Oh, he keeps getting taller.

- I know.
It’s weird.

- You have sensitive elbows?

- Here’s your water. [laughs]

What are you doing on
the bar all sexy like?

- I’m modeling.
- Yes.

Love it.

- No.

I’m too cold.

- So you thought the bar was
a good place to stay warm.

[soft music]

- Yeah, I did.

- Good.

- Thanks for making me laugh.

- No problemo.

- The bar goddess.

- [chuckles] The bar goddess.

- I’m sorry that
I’m not feeling

well enough to get in the pool
and make out with you.

- It’s OK.

We can make out here.

Then we’ll go in the hot tub.

[laughter]

I totally understand.

I mean,
you’ve just had surgery.

And, like, the water’s
not exactly warm,

and I appreciate you
being here with me.

- I just feel bad.

- Don’t feel bad.
- I know.

- It’s OK.

It’s your health.

That’s the most
important thing.

♪

It’s awesome that we can
just, like, have fun

no matter what
circumstance we’re in.

I think marriage is about being
there for that other person

and sacrificing
your needs for them.

I am more than willing to do
that and excited to do that.

Yeah. You good?

I’m good. We good?

♪

- ♪ Beachside with
my toes in the sand ♪

♪ Like I’m on vacation
forever ♪

- You getting hot?

- Yeah, I’m just gonna sit out
for a second.

- It is toasty.

- Yeah.

And it’s like, it’s not, like,
cool air when you get out,

really.
- Mm-hmm.

- So it’s just,
like, hot, warm.

- Yeah. This is, like,

a happy medium
I’m feeling right now.

- And I’m drinking...
- Right now?

- I don’t usually drink
in my bathtubs.

- Yeah, no, it definitely
kicks it in--kicks in a lot

faster in the hot tub.

♪

So what is--

what’s one thing you want
to find out about me

before this honeymoon ends?

- Before the honeymoon ends?

- Mm-hmm.

- I got a question.

- OK.

- You ready?

- Maybe.

[chuckles]

- Do you use the N word?

- No.

- Have you ever?
- I have.

- Yeah, like, in your--
- Ignorantly.

- Younger years?
- Ignorantly...

- Yeah.

- And singing along
with songs.

- Can I punch you
for my ancestors?

- Absolutely, yes.
Thank you.

- All right.
- You could--

- All right, we’re good now.

- Probably do that
a lot, honestly.

- We’re good now.

- Yeah, no, I mean,
you know, I was definitely,

you know, an ignorant kid--
- Mm-hmm.

- You know,
not knowing stuff.

And I’ve had, you know,
some of my own community,

you know, talk to me,
mostly my mom--

- Mm-hmm.

- Was just like, hey, you
know, don’t joke about that.

And so it was really just a big
learning process growing up.

- No, I think that that is OK
because I’ve used terms that--

when I was younger
that I didn’t even know

were derogatory.

- Redskin?
- No.

I don’t think I’ve ever
used that language.

But, like--
- Yeah.

- But, no,
I’ve actually never--

I don’t even know what
"redskin" means, honestly.

Oh, I do.

I just looked at your face.

[tense music]

I didn’t--I didn’t.
- That was a little rough.

- I’m sorry.
That was a little--

I’m sorry.
- That was rough.

- That was rough?
- A little bit, yeah.

- Yeah? I’m sorry.
- Yeah, a little bit.

- I’m actually just
looking at the fact

that you’re sunburned
right now around your nose.

But still, I--
- Sure.

- Shouldn’t have said that.

But I just actually never even

knew what that meant.

I’m sorry.

- Do you want to know
what it means?

- If you want to,
you can explain it.

- If you’d like to know,
I’ll tell you.

- Yeah.

- So where the term
came from is,

you know,
when colonization started,

you know, what was more
valuable than gold to them

was the scalp of an Indian.

- Mm.
- And so for that,

when you scalp--
- I see it.

- That’s where that...

- That’s disgusting.

- Yep.
- That’s absolutely disgusting,

and I’m sorry that I even--

like, I wasn’t making
the joke, necessarily.

But I’m sorry I even, like,
fed into that hurt for you

and that pain for you
and your community.

- [chuckles] I don’t know.

You know, things like that,
it’s just--

that’s not a joke.

- You want to punch me
from your ancestors?

- No.

- So how do you decide
whether you feel offended

or like it was a joke?

Or is there no line?

It’s just always offended?

- It’s--it’s on the delivery.

You can hear ignorance,
you know, when it does come up.

And that’s kind of
what happened, you know,

when we were headed
to the airport.

You know, jokes came out.

- We do got to be careful
in Cancún.

So, like, we just--

- That’s what I hear.

- We can’t go too
off the reservation.

- Not the reserva--[laughs]
- No, you’re fine.

You’re good.
- Wow.

- But it’s OK.

I can hear ignorance,
and you’re fine.

- Ooh.
- You’re fine.

I understand ignorance,

and I’ll call it
for what it is.

But also, like, just be ready
for someone to say something.

- I think for me, like,
as a Black woman in America,

the--we’re, like,
the butt of jokes a lot.

So I’ve just developed
a tough skin.

And I’m just like, sometimes
[bleep] is just funny.

Sometimes it’s funny.
- Sure.

- Sometimes it is offensive.

I think it’s just that
we’ve been able to find

so much humor within our pain.
- Sure.

- And I think that’s, like,
maybe a difference with us.

- You know, growing up, you
know, what came from my elders

and my Mom was just
you don’t say that, you know?

And you just don’t do it
because, I mean,

I don’t know--because
it minimizes who you are.

And then, you know,
making a joke out of the pain,

I would say
my cultural background

has a very different approach.

- It’s just different, I guess.
I think it’s just different.

- Yeah?
- Yeah.

- Um, what do you think
the difference is?

- Like, yes, we are minorities,
but we came from

two totally different
backgrounds.

- Sure.
- Our cultures are different.

Our cultures, the way
we came about in this country

is very different.

Like, you all were here.

We were brought here
against our will.

And so I feel like
there’s just,

like, those subtle differences
in our culture.

- Yeah.
I don’t know.

- Is it uncomfortable?
- Huh?

- Is this conversation
uncomfortable for you?

- No, no, it’s not.
- No?

OK.

- Yeah.

- I’m actually glad
we had this talk.

I’m glad.
- Yeah.

- I don’t know
how you feel, but--

- I’m a little heated.

[tense music]

- I’m not heated,
but I do find some difference

in how you handled me,
a Black woman,

and how you handled
a joke from a white man.

♪

I do find a little difference
in your demeanor with me.

And, like,
your shoulders are tense.

You’re, like, clearly heated.
- Sure.

- And on the bus, it was just
like, oh, he’s just ignorant.

- Well, there’s
a difference between

reservation and redskin.

♪

- That’s also fair.

That is also fair.

But I think in this moment,
I wasn’t, like,

calling you that.
- But--

- I think there needs to be
some clarity here, though.

- In what?

- In what just happened
because you’re still tense.

- How so?
- And you say you’re heated.

- Well, I mean,
I’m, like, chilling right now.

- Well, you say you’re heated.

But you say you’re heated.
- Well, I was, yeah.

- So I’m like,
well, why are you--

- Because, you know,
there were--you know,

you started to make
comparisons.

And, you know,
the way I read that is

you’re trying to make
what you said

or what came up seem--

- Less offensive
than what it was?

- It seemed like
you tried to minimize.

- So I can see why you think
I’m trying to minimize,

but I think I’m just trying
to figure out what’s OK to say

in this relationship.

- I would just
stay away from it.

- Or--
- You know I mean?

- Yes--
- Cracking jokes

about each other’s background
and culture,

I mean,
I wouldn’t deem that OK.

I wouldn’t do that to you.

- And that’s why I--

OK. No, that’s fair.

- Right?
- Yeah.

- There is a massive amount
of pride, you know,

in who I am
and where I come from.

- And I see that,
and I respect that.

- I would never want you
to feel heated in the way

that I did because I said
something I wasn’t aware of.

- OK.
- Would you agree with that?

- Yeah.
- OK.

- I do.

♪

[lively music]

♪

- You a little hungover?

- Um, maybe.

- Just a little vom?
- [laughs]

- A little vomit?

- No, no, no.

- You gonna be able
to eat this food?

Hi.

- Hello.

- Thank you.

Yum.
- Thank you.

- Your drink is coming too.

- Perfect.
- Thank you.

♪

Does it bother you
that I don’t drink?

- Mm-mm.

Not even a little bit.

- Nice.

- As long as, like, it doesn’t
bother you that I drink.

- No, I was ordering things
for you.

- Oh, were you?
Yeah, that’s right.

You were.
- I got you.

- Aw, so supportive.

[laughs]
- Yeah.

Ready to get you wasted.

- In your experience
with, like, past exes,

were they too
different from you?

- Definitely a lot of guys
that I’ve dated

have avoidant conflict styles.

When a conflict arises...
- Yeah.

- They just act...
- Don’t know how to.

- Like it doesn’t exist...

- Yeah.

- Which was difficult.
And so in that way,

for me, I definitely need
someone who’s similar.

How about you?

Have exes been opposite?

- Yeah.

I mean, I think, like,
dating has showed me

I was, like,
attracted to people

who were different than me.

- In what ways?

- Like, I love creative
women, which, like, you are.

But a lot of, like,
creative types

are introverted
and, like, quiet.

I need someone who can, like,
keep up with me socially.

And it’s nice when you have
a partner who, like, wants

to do those things with you.

- Do you feel like I’m that?

- Yeah, absolutely.

- Nice.

- Great match.

I don’t think I could have
asked for a better one.

- 10 out of 10,
would recommend.

- 10 out of 10--

our new life till death.

- Do you think about death?

- No.

I don’t think about death.
I don’t know.

I feel like a lot of people
are, like, scared to die.

- Mm-hmm.

- I’m not.

- Same.

- I just think, like,
it’ll happen when it happens,

and that’s fine.

One thing that might
worry me about death

is, like, if I have a family.

- Mm.

- ’Cause, like, right now,
it’s me, right?

And, like, you.

And, like, it would be
really sad if I died.

But, like, no one relies on me.

- Yeah.

- Does any part
of that worry you?

- Uh-uh, nope.

But I used to have, like,
really, really, really

bad anxiety, like,
to the point where

I couldn’t get on a plane.

I couldn’t go to
the grocery store alone, like--

- Wow, you’ve come a long way.
- Yeah.

And so, like, now that
I’ve overcome that,

I feel like I missed out
on, like, so much

of life that I’m like,
let’s go.

- Let’s go.

- I’ve always had anxiety.

And I’ve just done a lot
of work of finally learning

how to manage it, maintain it,
be open and honest about it,

and also enjoy
whatever’s happening,

and just deal with things
as they come.

So I was thinking, would you be
interested in kayaking?

- Yeah.

You want to go kayaking?

- Yeah.

- Yeah, that sounds great.
I’d love to do that.

- I don’t know how much
I’ll be able to do.

But worst-case scenario,
we just sit in boats

and look at each other.

- That sounds great.

- Well, kayak.

- Yeah, that’s a boat.

- Well, is a raft a boat?

- I think anything
that floats is a boat.

- I float.
- Then you’re a boat.

[laughter]

- Do you float?

- I motorboat.

[laughter]

- I was waiting.

Let’s go.
- Let’s go.

♪

All right, quick, get in.

- OK, where do I sit?

[screams]

- All right, all right.
All right.

- Where do I sit?

Which way is my feet?

- Put your butt down.
Sit.

- Yes, sir.
- Sit up to your knees.

Sit up here.
Sit up here.

- Why?
I’m already sitting.

♪

[screams]

[laughter]

♪

Out to sea.

- What a wave.

- Where are we going?

Can we just run away now?

[screams]

[mellow music]

A pelican.

That’s probably the closest
I’ve ever been to a pelican.

- ♪ ’Cause I’m alive

♪ Everything
that I could dream ♪

- OK, easy does it.

Easy does it.

♪

Being out on the water
with Austin

is like having a sea creature
that, like, takes over.

But it’s fun.

♪

So it feels like
you get all those jitters

and those butterflies.

But then, at the same time,
it also feels like

we’ve been together
for, like, four years.

So we’re like,
yeah, we got this.

- There’s a wave.
Here it is.

It’s coming.
It’s coming.

Here we go.

- A little wave.

We won!

[screams]

- Whoo!

- We got this.

This feels right.

♪

- You float my boat.

- Aw.

You float my boat.

- [singing in Spanish]

- Next time, the honeymoon
continues to heat up.

♪

- Attagirl.

Good job.

Emily is flyboarding
with, you know, a hurt wrist.

And it’s just nothing,
you know, knocks her down.

- She has my back.

It’s incredible.

- If we continue
to let that happen,

it would be a very
disastrous situation.

- Yeah.

- Trust, for me, is one of
the biggest things I look for.

And I feel like you’re really
starting to earn my trust.

- So I’m not in the circle yet.

- I don’t want
to discourage them

from thinking that
their relationships

are right and good just because
they don’t have what we have.

- But by extinguishing
your own candle,

you don’t light someone else’s.

- How do you feel that
I had sex two months ago?

- Being honest, uh,

it kind of took sex
off the table for me.

♪