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[Interviewer] All right.

[Interviewer] Well, welcome so much,
uh, to, uh, how women orgasm, Lauren.

[Interviewer] We're super happy
to have you here, obviously.

I'm happy to be here.

I'm originally from New Jersey.

True Jersey girl.

I started, uh, in the Adult industry…

uh, ten years ago.

So 2013, I started out in Florida…

as amateur pro and then I was a cam model.

And then after two and a half years,
I moved to LA.

And I think that was 2015,
and I started with mainstream porn.

I've been…

doing it ever since.

Um, actually, I went
to a college in New Jersey.

I was a dance major…

so I was technically, uh, I was…

trained in modern…

but throughout… my whole, um…

life, I was trained for 15 years

and I wanted to be a professional dancer.

And, uh, currently…

And… I got my degree.

I was a professional dancer for, um…

a backu--, I was a backup dancer
for a Tina Turner impersonator

for about five years.

On top of working
with two modern companies,

I was also a dance teacher for, uh…

a studio.

I was nationally certified.

I also…
worked at a preschool at one point.

I was a massage therapist at one point.

I… was a nanny for
a couple of years for four kids.

And, uh…

what got me into…

doing Adult was…

I was working multiple jobs
trying to survive my arts.

And, uh, I was talking
to one of my dancer friends

who actually was a student of mine.

And as we, like…

she actually was a backup dancer with me.

I got, uh, we got the job together.

And I was, like,
"I'm losing the love of my arts.

I don't know if I can do this anymore."

I didn't wanna hate…

hate it.

And she was, like, "Lauren,
you'd be great as a pornstar."

And I was, like…

"Hmm."

[laughing]

I'd…

she knew me so well.

I was very open sexually…

uh, when it came to how I lived.

Um, like, people would come up to me
and wanna talk to about sex.

I actually sold sex toys at one point.

And I thought that sex
should be a more natural thing

and we should be able to be
open about it and talk about it

and it should be fine.

And so… I used, uh, the internet…

to figure out where do I start?

And one of the questions was
can I have sex in front of people?

'Cause I had never had sex
in front of people.

So as my re--, like…

research went…

I found out about the swinging community…

and I was, like, "Oh, what is this?"

And I was, there was a swinging club
in Atlantic City called Roleplay Lounge.

And I was, like…

"This is where I'm gonna find out
if I can, I can do it."

So I drove to Atlantic City…

and, by myself…

[laughing]

and went there…

and they showed me the ropes.

They said how everything went.

And I was, like,
"Oh, this is really cool."

Um, all the different terms,
I was considered a unicorn…

uh, 'cause I was a single female.

And I was, like, "Alright,
let's just see how it goes."

And they were very big with consent.

So she said if anyone,
if I said no to anybody

and no one respect my boundaries,

I was supposed to come
to them… right away.

They were very strict about it.

And… I ended up having sex
with three couples that night.

Now I'll just let you know
when it comes to swinging…

uh, it's not just like you have,
like, you have sex and that's it.

It's actually usually a crowd watching,
like, a big crowd is watching,

So on a New Year's Day, exactly,
I packed up my car and drove to

the 16 hours of Florida by myself.

And then that's, then now we're here.

[chuckles]

I'm pretty open about this
and I think it's good to be open.

Um, as a child, I had certain trauma
in my life which took away my voice.

And I didn't know how to vocalize myself.

And I was trying to figure out
a way to do that, and… dance…

was a way for me to, uh, vocalize…

uh, myself through movement.

And if you actually really think
about the history of the language itself…

movement…

and using our bodies
is actually the first language

of how we used to communicate.

So for me, it helped, um, release any…

um, I guess…

unsolved issues that I had…

and it helped me be able
to express things that I…

at that time didn't know how to express,
'cause I was still developing,

and still trying to find who I am.

And I chose modern…

because…

I don't like to form to society very well.

And I've been like that
since I was born, basically.

Uh… uh, modern was invented…

uh, for people that
were basically rebelling

because ballet is
very classical, very uplifting.

It's very structured…

and they didn't want that.

So they took away the shoes.

Everything is more
inverted and contraction

and using the movement… grounded.

And I loved it because you could take…

very simple movement like walking.

Stuff that we forget about everyday…

that we do all the time…

and you can make it into arts.

So that was kind of how I got into it,
and, like, my, uh, Bob Fosse is a huge…

where he tried ballet,
but he's completely…

of dance… and basically created
his own type of style.

And even, like, uh, Margot Fonteyn…

actually was on a,
uh, traditional ballerina.

She didn't have the extension.

She was actually a little
on the shorter side and she showed…

how you can manipulate the art
to what your body is

and not just form to something.

[Lauren] Uh, yes.

I remember the first time that I, uh…

[chuckles]

masturbated and how I was kind of hooked.

I, I definitely was on the,
let's just say younger side.

And…

uh, I had a nice
tube television with cable…

[chuckles]

and you remember those channels
that had, like, the white noise?

Um, I was…

flipping through channels
and the white noise popped up,

and then all of a sudden,
the Spice Channel popped up.

And I was, like…

"Oh, my god. What is that?"

[laughing]

And… it would…

you would see an image for, like…

momentarily and then it would go to,
back to snow and then we'd see an image

and go back to snow.

And I was, like, "Wow! They look like…

they're having a lot of fun.

It looks really good."

And I kind of just, that's kind of…

how I was introduced
with masturbation was…

"Oh, what is that?"

And I kind of just,
from there went there, and…

uh… I don't know any of the stars
that were in it at that time,

because remember, it was
a very blurry picture 'cause it was just,

like, you could see…

certain things, and I was,
like, "Oh, my god!"

And then it would go away, but that was
probably one of my first experiences…

with masturbation, and…

being, like, "Oh…

that looks interesting."

I feel like I got myself to the O-moment
'cause when I first started masturbating,

it was all focused on my clit.

So all I knew was clit stimulation.

Um, I don't think I actually got
into penetrating myself until, like…

after I started having sex with somebody.

But, uh, all I knew was that
my hand worked really well…

and I was in it to wi--, in it to win it.

Uh, and I would get myself, I, I think I…

masturbate in bed.

I used to masturbate in the shower…

and, like, anytime like today,
if my toys die, I know I have my hands.

It takes a little bit longer, but…

it's there, so yeah. I…

I feel like I ma--, I orgasmed right away,
like, it was something I felt,

I, I loved it and I know
it felt really good,

and to this day
I feel that same sensation.

So, like, yeah.

I feel, like…

I was in it to win it.

Every… anything that would
feel good I will say, "Yes."

I think people forget…

that women are very sensual…

and, uh,…

it takes us a while…

to get…

to an orgasm, and…

uh…

I think a lot of people…

forget as well that most women
don't know how to orgasm, or can't orgasm,

and that's, uh, like…

you know, we're just…

good at pretending.

[chuckles]

So, um, I feel like people…

think that girls can orgasm just like, uh…

like men…

but it's…

very, very different and it needs
to be considered different

and how to approach everyone differently.

Uh…

I'm a freak.

[chuckles]

It's, it's definitely, like, expanded.

Like I wasn't…

I wasn't vanilla, like…

what we call, like, BDSM and Kink…

and S and M.

I was already doing,
but there was no label.

I was just what I liked.

I always liked rough sex.

I always like to be choked.

I always like to be… bound.

Like, I remember when I was moving
to my, a new apartment…

and I forgot I left my restraints

underneath my mattress
and my folks found it.

[chuckles] I was, like…

"Whoops."

[chuckles]

And, um, but I've always, uh,
I remember the first time I tried anal.

I, like, I've always been into,
like, different things…

and it now just expanded…

on the sensations that I like.

My body changes…

every day, every month.

And I go through…

different obsessions of what I like.

I went with an obsession at one point…

where I wouldn't have sex at all
unless there was a camera

'cause it just, the thrill of it
was super awesome, like, I loved…

being that inner whore of mine, and…

uh…

so I just…

I go through different stuff.

[Interviewer] What's the current obsession?

-[Interviewer] I'm curious.
-The G-spot.

[chuckles]

I want to be able…

to find every girl's G-spot.

Like, I wanna be able
to be, like, "I got you, boo."

And go in for the kill.

Um, I actually know where mine is
and I'll actually adjust the hand

'cause I know exactly.

But if it's too rough, I won't get there.

It has to be, like…

just enough 'cause if it's too rough,
it actually starts hurting.

I've asked them…

if they can guide me
to their G-spot because…

it feels different
and it's always in a different area.

I feel like it's, like, in an area…

but not in, uh, the same area.

And it's not a certain feeling,
like, "Oh, it's a spongy thing."

I'm, like…

"Dude, I've, like, I know
what my vagina feels like."

I, I, it's…

it's definitely something I'm s--,
still trying to accomplish.

I masturbate at least once a day.

Unless, like, even if
I'm on set depending if, like,

I didn't get off that day, like…

sometimes, like, depending on
how everything's going…

I might not get off.

I try to as much as possible…

-[Interviewer] Do you have a set routine?
-but…

Um…

I just grab my toy…

No.

Um, I do.

I have my, I like my Hitachi.

That's my favorite.

I have…

five different ones so that

when every time I took
a different traveling toy…

I, uh, like, a different bag,
that toy is already in it.

Like, it's just there and then I have one
at home that's in my dresser…

[chuckles] right there.

Um…

but for me it's about,
I actually don't watch porn.

Um, I used to before I did porn,
but I really did it then too.

I actually…

and this is actua--, no one really
knows this, so i--, so it's new.

It's, like, uh, I read erotic literature…

when I need to get off…

'cause I, like…

and my stuff is extremely taboo.

Um, when I read certain things, it's, uh…

I like fore sex.

I think that's hot.

And, um, I like…

uh, stepdaddy and daddy stuff.

And there's certain keywords
that get me off.

So I love to be filled up.

So anything of, like, cumming in my pussy…

uh, anything of slut…

uh, like, any--, anything
where it's, like, a used…

type where you're, I'm being used as,
like a, like a toy and stuff like that…

and anything that's, like, a little taboo.

So, like…

uh, the phrase, like,
"Cum for me, my slut."

I like that.

"Cum for daddy."

Um…

"I'm gonna, I'm gonna cum in your pussy."

Like stuff like that.

For some reason being, like…

that way…

is just hot for me.

I love it.

[Interviewer] Why do you think that is?

Um, I mostly, like, have daddy issues.

[chuckles]

Um… but I think…

I like it because, uh, i--,
it was one of the things…

I feel like we like certain things…

depending on the person obviously,
uh, to help deal with trauma

that we've probably have had in our past.

So for me, like, when, uh,
with porn and BDSM and kinks

and all the S and M help me…

deal with my trauma therapeutically.

So most likely, yes.

I probably have daddy issues.

But the way of being, uh… forced…

um, to… kind of, uh, I don't wanna, like…

make anyone feel uncomfortable.

So, but let's just say fore sex.

Um, stuff like that is,
um, probably at one point,

uh, back in my past,
I have had that experience

and it helps me gain that control.

And… I feel like that's
the best way is to be able,

for me when it came to my trauma…

I didn't wanna give
them control of my life.

I wanted to take my life.

And I feel like taking that
and doing it away,

that makes me feel good.

Takes away whatever
they took away from me.

It gives it back to me.

So I think that's why I like it.

But I don't know.

It also feels really good
for someone to, like…

when a guy is about to cum…

and they're, like, ramming you…

and then you can feel
their dick getting really hard

and it kind of, and they do that
one big pound, and they burst,

feels so amazing, so…

it's just a hand in hand event, and the…

the thera--…

the therapeutic side
and then the feeling side.

Uh, one step at a time.

Uh…

people don't wanna learn about themselves
because society has manipulated us…

that… that's taboo, that's not right.

And I think it's okay.

I have a lot of couples
that are fans of mine…

where the girl wants to try anal.

And I always…

what I always tell them is,
like, "Do it yourself first."

Right? It's just like having sex, like…

I'm hoping I, let's just say,
I hope that a lot of girls

experience their bodies and, and, and…

like…

get to experience how it is to get to,
like, what is there in your pussy

and what feels good…

um, before a guy would, because how, like,

you should know your body
more than a guy does

'cause a guy I feel, like,
doesn't really know much,

especially, I shouldn't even say a guy.

I don't wanna genderize.

The partner…

'cause… me going with another girl,
I don't know her body.

So it's nice to be able to know,
you to know your body, so that you can,

uh, communicate that
for them to know your body.

Uh, so it's just take time, you know?

Like, personal time.

We all need, like,
personal time that should be,

like, make yourself feel good.

Let out some, like…

you know, chemical release
in that brain, like…

looking at my pussy trying
to be, like, "What is this?"

Like, "What is there?"

And stuff like that.

Like, it's all internal,
so I have to, like…

like, see what it is.

Um, I think it's okay to be curious,
and all different types of stuff.

There is no…

you know, sky is the limit…

and I think when it comes to your body
and wanting to experience stuff,

you should feel comfortable
with yourself first…

so that you can be comfortable
with somebody else.

[Interviewer] Well, thank
you so much, Lauren,

[Interviewer] for being so comfortable
with yourself and sharing…

[Interviewer] all this great advice.

-Totally.
-Um, what we're gonna do now is,

[Interviewer] is maybe show
a little bit of what we talked about.

[Interviewer] So thank you so much.

-Thank you.
-We can have you hop on off the, the,

-All right. I'm gonna try to.
-[Interviewer] the chair.

Ready?

[Interviewer] There we go.

-Which?
-All right. You can come on over this way.

[Interviewer] Awesome.

[Interviewer] All right.

[Interviewer] And cut, guys.

[moaning softly]

[heavy breathing]

[moaning]

[music]

[giggles]