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Yours
actually came out good.
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Yours came out nice.
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I was like, "Um--"
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I was
surprised yours came out...
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Oh...
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Lemme see, turn?
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You do have to dye
your hair, though.
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Mm-hm.
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-I see a lotta...
-White?
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Yeah, you're
salt 'n' pepper now.
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Hello
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-Hi, Orna!
-Hey.
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You're gonna
ask us how are we, right?
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How are you?
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Um...
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Well, we finally
had sex.
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upbeat theme music
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-You did?!
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We did, yeah, we
took your advice.
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-Great!
-Yeah.
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Yeah, you lit some
fire up our butt.
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That wasn't even, like, advice;
it didn't feel like advice.
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-It's like "Go do it now."
-That was a prescription.
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Yeah, yeah, literally.
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"Like, you
need to go, like...
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Like, when you leave here, you
need to just go home and pack
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your bags."
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So I think I did the hardest
thing I could ever
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have done.
I felt like I sold my--
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-Oh, she did.
-My soul to the Devil.
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Okay.
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-I called my mother--
-Wow.
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And I asked her to come stay
at our house with her mom--
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Yeah, that a big move.
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So that we could do
this, like we can go away.
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Very interesting.
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That I called
her, right?
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That the whole session
started with your moms.
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I mean, I don't know
yet what to make of it,
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but it's interesting.
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That's how
it all started.
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That's, like, a
big step for me--
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Yes.
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-To, you know--
-Very big.
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'Cause I was just
like, "Crap."
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-Mm-hm.
-So we went away.
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It was, like,
beautiful mountain views,
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and it just felt
so calming for me.
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Yeah.
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And I was just like, "Oh...
Let's see if she'll wake up."
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She was like, "Honey,"
and I was like, "Oh, okay."
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We got
into it real quick.
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But, you know, this is
what I was hoping for, right?
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That you would
allow yourselves to,
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like, get over this
kind of phobic block,
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and first, just connect.
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-Mm-hm.
-Yeah.
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We were enjoying ourselves,
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but we were probably,
like, in our heads.
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Mm-hm.
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You know,
because subconsciously,
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that was, like, in
the back of my mind--
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Mm-hm.
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Like, "Oh my God, is this
gonna be good enough for her?"
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Mm-hm.
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Like, I tried to stay, like,
in the moment, and I did.
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No, you were.
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I did, I was in the
moment, I was present.
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And it was good.
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I did tell her we've had...
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to me, more...
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just, like, eventful sex.
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Mm-hm.
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But I understood it
just needed to be done.
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Right.
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It just needed to be--
the bandaid needed to be
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ripped off.
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I think I was also trying to
get emotionally into it and I
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couldn't get
emotionally into it.
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Mm-hm.
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Which was slightly
frustrating for me.
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Yeah, but then you're
putting so much pressure--
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Both of you are
putting so much pressure.
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I mean, slowly,
slowly, small steps, like...
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Yeah.
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But the
emotional aspect of it...
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I'm disconnected.
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-Mm-hm.
-And...
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it had nothing to do with her.
She's-- it was-- it was all me.
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Yeah.
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Where I'm like-- I don't have
the emotional connection to it.
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Have you ever?
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-I don't think I have.
-Mm-hm.
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I think it's just always--
and I think it's always just
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been an activity.
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-Yeah.
-It's like it-- there's a goal--
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You need something that's
outside of you, in a way.
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Yeah!
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Like, even though I
have all these desires,
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there's no emotional
connection to these desires.
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Mm-hm.
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My emotional
connection is with her,
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and I just need to find a way
to mesh the emotion and the
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activity and just...
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all be her.
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That makes a lot of sense,
but there's a lot more that you
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could be doing with each other
that will help you to reconnect.
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Okay, so...
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what are you talking about?
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I'm talking about, like,
just exploring each other,
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how it feels.
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I mean, I don't know, focus on
a particular sensation and just
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stay there, and connect...there.
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-Hm.
-We could try.
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-Just be present.
-Yeah.
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Hm.
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Can I send you some literature?
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Yeah!
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Absolutely, 'cause my
wheels are turning right now.
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I will send you a
book, maybe even two.
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Okay.
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-Are you blushing?
-I'm not.
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Yes, you...
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I'm not, but I just like
the energy we have right now,
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so...
I'm enjoying it.
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-Mm-hm.
-I'm staying present, so...
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cool funky music
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Let's talk
about India and Dale.
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I'm looking for a language
of how to help expand the
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conversation with them.
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Can I
just ask a question?
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Has your whiteness
been named with them?
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In what way?
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Did they ever
challenge you about it?
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No.
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I want them to.
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-Mm.
-How?
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I think it would
be inquiring deeper about
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that difference.
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Yeah.
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Because I think they're
showing themselves but...
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I'm-- there's
obviously more layers to them.
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Like, she tells the story about
getting into an argument about
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Sandra Bland, and I kept
thinking about how she feels so
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much pressure to live
up to Dale's standards.
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Mm-hm.
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I feel like there's a way
Dale wants to silence her.
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Mm-hm.
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Because of his own internal...
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-Insecurities.
-Yeah.
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That is that
internalized racism.
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Mm-hm.
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Like, if they were
able to describe that...
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Right.
But how do you get there?
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I think
asking how it felt.
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Mm-hm.
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And you could even
be like, "I know,
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like, I'm a white therapist,
but could you help me understand
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what this feels like
from your perspective?"
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Mm-hm.
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It was a tough week...
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starting from
leaving the last session.
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Mm-hm.
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We got into a heated
discussion about it.
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About this
christening party?
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Yeah.
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I feel like he is the only
person that walked out of
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that situation...
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uneasy.
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I'm not saying that
what happened is okay,
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but it does happen, you know?
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Mm-hm.
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He has
somewhere, at some point,
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disconnected from
almost all emotions,
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because it's not
just angry emotions.
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I feel like when I'm trying to
connect with him being silly or
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overly happy or--
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-Mm-hm.
-It's always too much.
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He never taps in.
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It's not that I
don't have emotions.
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I've cried plenty of
times in front of India, I've...
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Mm-hm.
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But how many times
have we cried together?
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-Um...
-It's the connectivity.
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-Interesting.
-You know?
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We haven't-- I don't
think we've had anything
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really where...
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it's like we needed to
cry together over it.
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I mean...
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the birth of a child.
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Mm-hm.
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There are times that I'm
trying to connect with you,
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and I feel like
I'm-- the bar is missed.
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Okay, okay.
I-- I get that.
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-Emotionally.
-Yeah.
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But do you
recognize something in that?
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No, no,
yeah, absolutely.
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I mean, I think the
industry that I'm in,
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when I started
out in real estate,
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I would get-- sometimes, I
would get so high off of maybe
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something happening, and then
it turns out it doesn't happen.
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Mm-hm.
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And then, you have to pick
yourself up and be able to work
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again, you know?
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So I've trained
myself to, you know,
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kind of be just kind
of even-keel and--
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You've probably trained
yourself to be even-keeled
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about...
other things, too, emotionally.
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Mm-hm.
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And maybe when you see a
lot more going on in India,
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more feelings...
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Mm-hm.
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Some kind of
alarm goes off in you.
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Yeah.
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Definitely.
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What if you asked
yourself "I seem to be alarmed.
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Am I jealous?
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Have I had to...
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cut things off?"
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Yeah, for sure, it's
not-- it's not jealousy.
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Um...
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I wouldn't be completely...
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-Yeah!
-Convinced.
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Well, I do admire the fact
that she can act freely with
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her emotions.
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Mm-hm, yes.
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I think, also, for
me, being a Black man,
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that's a little bit different.
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Right.
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I'm not allowed, in
society, to just....be...
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be mad.
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Mm-hm.
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You know, hell, there are
nights that I take Lincoln,
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our dog, out for a walk, and
I'm not even allowed to be cold.
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If I put my hoodie on and
I'm walking next to someone--
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Right.
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Immediately, they'll stop and
wait for me to pass, you know?
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-Mm-hm.
-I'm just cold.
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-Right.
-You know?
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But--
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I don't wanna get too
much into that but--
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You can get into that.
I mean...
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why not?
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It matters.
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It--
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It's a luxury that I don't have.
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Mm-hm.
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And regardless of--
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But even with that, did
you see what just happened?
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Yeah.
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There are a lot of moments like
this where I'm almost like...
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"Are we sharing the same
Black experience?"
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-Yeah.
-Well, of course we are.
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Because I know you are
going through what Black men go
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through, but you
don't tap into that,
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you don't talk about that, so...
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Can I ask you...
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India, you said earlier that
it's different to speak to
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someone who's other
than to each other.
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Do you feel, as a
person of color,
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a lot of
discomfort to talk to me?
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I feel like I have to...
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dress it up a bit--
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-Mm-hm.
-For you.
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-Mm-hm.
-Um...
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Dress it up so I
will understand?
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Or dress it up so I will not...
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Yeah, dress it up
so you'll understand.
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Mm-hm.
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You
know, from our scope.
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Mm-hm.
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Because there is still the
layer of "I'm speaking to a
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white woman right now, I need
to address it in a certain way."
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-Yeah.
-But I wanna face it head-on.
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Mm-hm.
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I wanna talk to you,
the white person, about it.
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Yeah.
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'Cause this is how
we move forward--
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-Absolutely.
-This is how we get better.
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Mm-hm.
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We just have to face
the traumatic emotions head-on.
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Right, strong
feelings like...anger.
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Yeah, right!
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And I think the difference
between the two of us is he
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doesn't-- you know, he does
not want to acknowledge his
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emotions.
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Mm-hm.
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He-- he talks
about it briefly but,
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you know, it's
balled up, move on.
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No, I've shared
with you, you know,
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the beginning stages of me
starting a business and what
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that was like being a Black man.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I had people coming to
my office -- that was set up in
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an office building --
asking me if I'm running a scam.
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As feel as though I can either
let it get me upset and bog me
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down, or I can push
through and make things happen.
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I choose to push through
and make things happen.
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But there's some way that
you deal with the emotional
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implications of whatever
we're talking about differently.
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Yeah.
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And I think India is suggesting
that you do some kind of
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dissociation there, that you
cut yourself off from that.
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I-- I'm a li-- I--
I'm always torn between that,
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because it's like...
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you know, what am I
supposed to do with that,
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you know?
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Mm-hm.
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It's like I'm here trying to
just make a living for myself.
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What am I supposed
to do with that?
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Yeah.
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I'm sorry.
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Why are you sorry?
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Well, the way I see it
sometimes is that even the
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acknowledgment is so taxing.
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So...
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I don't know, sometimes
I choose just not to...
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not to give validation to it...
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and just...
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But I just wanna understand;
so when you say-- when you allow
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yourself more
contact with feelings...
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Mm-hm.
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And you say, "What am I
supposed to do with this?."..
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what happens
between the two of you?
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Is there somewhere for that
to go between the two of you?
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Mm...
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Well, I mean, well--
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I would ask the question "What
is she supposed to do with it?"
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-Yeah.
-You know?
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It's-- it's...
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Obviously, I have
shared with her,
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but I don't
necessarily want a--
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But do you get upset?
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-In that moment?
-Mm-hm.
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-Uh, no, no, not really.
-He's just very matter-of-fact.
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-No.
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Because...
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first of all, that is, like, a
great burden to carry on your
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own, and even if you
dissociate from it,
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it's still there--
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-Yeah.
-Weighing on you.
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Yeah.
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So there's plenty of things
that happen when you share it
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with another person
and you feel understood.
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-Mm-hm.
-It has this kind of...
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miraculous...
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power to transform very
difficult feelings to something
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that becomes useful.
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Yeah.
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And help the two of you
deepen what you have together.
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-Mm.
-Yeah.
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And it's-- and it's exactly what
I yearn for from her at times:
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to be more vulnerable.
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-Mm-hm.
-Yeah.
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Yeah.
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mellow folk music
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So I wanted
to go back to gender.
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I feel like there's this pattern
with these men that are not as
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expressive, and they
attach themselves to very
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expressive women.
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Mm-hm.
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And they develop this
somewhat-parasitic relationship
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with these women...
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Mm-hm.
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To keep doing that
kind of work for them.
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Mm.
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And I find that
with, like, Josh and Molly.
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Mm.
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It's like constantly
putting this kind of
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gas nozzle into her--
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He's
actually feeding off her.
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Yes.
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And constantly inviting
her to emote towards him,
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whether by aggression
or love or demands or...
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But how about if we think about
it as a child -- a baby boy --
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and a mother, and the
baby needs to feed.
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So in that sense, it's
not parasitic, it's survival.
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Mm-hm.
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But she's trying to
get things from him, too.
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Yes.
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And they're both
stuck in a paradox;
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she's asked to be
the needy one who,
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at the same time, provides...
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and he, he needs-- he
needs, but he cannot...
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say it.
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Yes.
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And this dynamic
drives her crazy.
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Mm.
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I got, for our family,
like, a calendar -- a whiteboard
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calendar -- so that we
can really keep track,
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'cause everyone's schedules
is getting kinda crazy.
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Mm-hm.
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And so,
everyone is a color, okay?
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Nice.
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So I said,
"Magnolia, pick your color.
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Vienna, pick your
color," and then I said,
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"Josh, pick your color.
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You can be any color."
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"I don't know,
should I be green?"
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00:16:03,629 --> 00:16:05,214
-This is Josh speaking?
-Yes.
401
00:16:05,256 --> 00:16:07,800
"I don't know, should I be blue?
402
00:16:07,842 --> 00:16:09,844
This is hard; it's hard
for me to pick a color,"
403
00:16:09,886 --> 00:16:13,181
and I said, "I just need you to
pick a color so that I can do
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00:16:13,222 --> 00:16:16,017
what I need to do
for our family."
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00:16:16,058 --> 00:16:18,644
And then he said, "Fine, green."
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00:16:18,686 --> 00:16:21,606
And then, he excused
himself to go downstairs.
407
00:16:21,647 --> 00:16:22,482
Mm-hm.
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00:16:22,523 --> 00:16:23,816
And I went
downstairs and I said,
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00:16:23,858 --> 00:16:24,817
"Are you okay?"
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00:16:24,859 --> 00:16:27,236
And he said, "I just-- I
just needed a moment."
411
00:16:27,278 --> 00:16:29,655
-Mm-hm.
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00:16:29,697 --> 00:16:31,240
You're
laughing...?
413
00:16:31,282 --> 00:16:33,493
It's-- it's a
fucking dry eraser color.
414
00:16:33,534 --> 00:16:34,994
Well, no, I
actually think I said,
415
00:16:35,036 --> 00:16:36,996
"I don't care,
whatever color you want"
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00:16:37,038 --> 00:16:38,664
I think is what I said.
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00:16:38,706 --> 00:16:40,500
And you were like, "No,
I want you to choose,"
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00:16:40,541 --> 00:16:41,834
and then I was like, "Uh..."
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00:16:41,876 --> 00:16:43,628
Because I don't wanna-- that's
extra work for me that I don't
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00:16:43,669 --> 00:16:44,921
wanna have to do.
421
00:16:44,962 --> 00:16:46,506
"Green or purple.
I'm thinking green or purple."
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00:16:46,547 --> 00:16:48,007
He should just...
423
00:16:48,049 --> 00:16:50,510
But it's hard to
choose between green and purple.
424
00:16:50,551 --> 00:16:53,679
Why...can't...you...
425
00:16:53,721 --> 00:16:56,724
make...a choice?
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00:16:56,766 --> 00:16:59,352
Why?!
427
00:17:00,770 --> 00:17:02,647
I mean, look where it got
us when you couldn't make a
428
00:17:02,688 --> 00:17:06,984
decision about whether we should
have a third child or not.
429
00:17:09,278 --> 00:17:11,822
Can you-- I mean, we can
go back to the markers,
430
00:17:11,864 --> 00:17:15,076
but can you fill me in on this?
431
00:17:15,117 --> 00:17:19,539
We talked about if we should
have a third child or not.
432
00:17:19,580 --> 00:17:21,499
Mm-hm.
Who was saying what?
433
00:17:21,541 --> 00:17:24,043
I was
saying I wanted to.
434
00:17:24,085 --> 00:17:29,090
He was ambivalent but, as
we've talked about it further,
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was afraid to tell me no,
436
00:17:34,554 --> 00:17:39,308
or afraid to say "We need
more time to think about it."
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00:17:39,350 --> 00:17:42,562
He just didn't make a choice.
438
00:17:42,603 --> 00:17:47,400
Wait, what-- what's-- tell
me your version of the story.
439
00:17:47,525 --> 00:17:51,404
Well, this is in-- this also
is when I-- this is the-- when I
440
00:17:51,445 --> 00:17:54,907
first got emotionally involved
with this person about eight
441
00:17:54,949 --> 00:17:56,576
years ago.
442
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I think at that time, I was very
confused about a lot of things,
443
00:18:01,247 --> 00:18:02,748
and...
444
00:18:02,790 --> 00:18:07,295
I've always
worried about keeping...
445
00:18:07,336 --> 00:18:09,297
you happy.
446
00:18:09,338 --> 00:18:11,757
I think probably at the time, I
knew it was something that was
447
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important to you, so it
didn't feel like my...
448
00:18:17,972 --> 00:18:22,727
qu-- question mark about
it was stronger than how you
449
00:18:22,768 --> 00:18:24,103
were feeling.
450
00:18:28,357 --> 00:18:32,903
The one thing that I have asked
for in our marriage that I have
451
00:18:32,945 --> 00:18:36,115
said will make me happy...
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00:18:36,157 --> 00:18:41,203
is to talk with me about what
he wants or what he thinks,
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00:18:41,662 --> 00:18:45,124
so that we can do
things together.
454
00:18:45,166 --> 00:18:48,377
I just want him to
include me in his questions.
455
00:18:48,419 --> 00:18:50,588
I don't need him
to make a decision.
456
00:18:50,630 --> 00:18:53,382
I just wanna be included.
457
00:18:53,424 --> 00:18:57,053
But what you're asking for
happens to be both difficult for
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Josh but also--
459
00:18:58,679 --> 00:19:00,389
But then he should-- then he
shouldn't have stayed in this
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00:19:00,431 --> 00:19:02,725
marriage in the first place,
because I've been asking for it
461
00:19:02,767 --> 00:19:04,101
from the beginning!
462
00:19:04,143 --> 00:19:05,561
Right, but the
solution to that,
463
00:19:05,603 --> 00:19:07,521
in your mind, is for Josh to--
464
00:19:07,563 --> 00:19:08,731
I don't know
what the solution is!
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00:19:08,773 --> 00:19:10,358
I need he-- I want he--
466
00:19:10,399 --> 00:19:11,567
I'm trying to talk to you.
467
00:19:11,609 --> 00:19:12,943
Okay.
468
00:19:12,985 --> 00:19:15,029
Okay.
469
00:19:15,196 --> 00:19:19,575
So you have a very clear,
intense idea about what you
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00:19:19,617 --> 00:19:24,664
need, which is to say you want
there not to be kind of a side
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00:19:24,955 --> 00:19:27,792
stream where Josh
lives separately,
472
00:19:27,833 --> 00:19:32,838
maybe in a somewhat-vague state,
while trying to make you happy.
473
00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,385
But the solution is not
simply getting what you need.
474
00:19:37,426 --> 00:19:38,844
Mm-hm.
475
00:19:38,886 --> 00:19:42,640
The solution has partially to
do with you understanding how
476
00:19:42,682 --> 00:19:45,476
the intensity of your ask...
477
00:19:45,518 --> 00:19:49,480
if affecting the feel
between the two of you.
478
00:19:49,522 --> 00:19:53,025
But when will it
become a conversation of
479
00:19:53,067 --> 00:19:54,652
"Okay, well...
480
00:19:54,694 --> 00:19:57,863
but you have to look at the
way that Molly engages in
481
00:19:57,905 --> 00:20:00,032
conversation or what
she needs," you know?
482
00:20:00,074 --> 00:20:03,035
I just feel like...
483
00:20:03,077 --> 00:20:08,124
Meaning that you're being asked
to adjust to Josh's rhythm...
484
00:20:08,165 --> 00:20:09,834
Yes!
485
00:20:09,875 --> 00:20:12,336
But you don't feel
like Josh is getting any kind of
486
00:20:12,378 --> 00:20:15,756
pressure to adjust to yours?
487
00:20:15,798 --> 00:20:17,717
Yes!
488
00:20:17,758 --> 00:20:22,388
I do not know if Josh feels this
feeling that he needs to make
489
00:20:22,430 --> 00:20:25,891
changes, and the
unfortunate thing is the way
490
00:20:25,933 --> 00:20:28,352
that I have chosen...
491
00:20:28,394 --> 00:20:32,898
to scream and yell at him that
he needs to do some fucking work
492
00:20:32,940 --> 00:20:36,068
himself has been by
having my own relationships
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00:20:36,110 --> 00:20:37,570
with other people.
494
00:20:37,611 --> 00:20:39,905
It's like my way of screaming
at the top of my lungs!
495
00:20:41,782 --> 00:20:44,410
But the fact that you think
that I haven't done anything,
496
00:20:44,452 --> 00:20:46,912
that I haven't done any
work or grown at all,
497
00:20:46,954 --> 00:20:48,247
first of all--
498
00:20:48,289 --> 00:20:50,958
But I have asked
repeatedly the same thing,
499
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,837
and it ha-- and every single
time we get to sit on a couch,
500
00:20:54,879 --> 00:20:58,799
and I need to understand who you
are and how you're sensitive and
501
00:20:58,841 --> 00:21:00,342
this and that--
502
00:21:00,384 --> 00:21:01,969
That's not-- that's not true.
That's not a fair statement.
503
00:21:02,011 --> 00:21:03,721
Can I interrupt?
504
00:21:03,763 --> 00:21:05,931
Because what I feel like I'm
doing with the two of you right
505
00:21:05,973 --> 00:21:10,770
now is actually putting
pressure on Josh to...
506
00:21:11,020 --> 00:21:14,523
articulate yourself much more
clearly and to understand how
507
00:21:14,565 --> 00:21:17,401
you're...
508
00:21:17,443 --> 00:21:21,781
thriving by
relying on Molly's...
509
00:21:21,822 --> 00:21:22,782
intensity.
510
00:21:22,823 --> 00:21:24,950
I guarantee you he
does not see it that way,
511
00:21:24,992 --> 00:21:27,953
and until you just said that,
he did not realize that you were
512
00:21:27,995 --> 00:21:29,830
putting pressure on
him to think that.
513
00:21:29,872 --> 00:21:31,123
I guarantee you.
514
00:21:31,165 --> 00:21:33,959
He is thinking,
"Okay, she understands me,
515
00:21:34,001 --> 00:21:36,253
she really sees
my authentic self,
516
00:21:36,295 --> 00:21:38,964
and my authentic
self is who I am,
517
00:21:39,006 --> 00:21:42,468
and to change that
would be unauthentic!
518
00:21:42,510 --> 00:21:44,970
She's not asking me to
look at that and change it,
519
00:21:45,012 --> 00:21:46,847
she's really
understanding it, and now,
520
00:21:46,889 --> 00:21:49,266
I get to say, 'See?
This is who I am.
521
00:21:49,308 --> 00:21:51,602
It's hard for me to make choices
or blah-blah-blah-blah-blah,'
522
00:21:51,644 --> 00:21:55,022
and I'm not supposed to
not be my authentic self."
523
00:21:55,064 --> 00:21:58,067
Guarantee it.
524
00:22:00,069 --> 00:22:02,655
Would you like
to...respond to that?
525
00:22:02,696 --> 00:22:04,406
Is that what's going on?
526
00:22:04,448 --> 00:22:06,158
No.
527
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:10,162
No, it seemed very clear to me
at the beginning that you were
528
00:22:10,204 --> 00:22:14,250
pressuring-- asking Molly not to
talk and continuing to ask me to
529
00:22:14,291 --> 00:22:17,002
go to-- to...
530
00:22:17,044 --> 00:22:18,838
try and figure out
what was going on.
531
00:22:18,879 --> 00:22:20,840
Granted, this is something
that happened eight years ago,
532
00:22:20,881 --> 00:22:22,842
and since then...
533
00:22:22,883 --> 00:22:24,969
we've made a lot of
tough choices together,
534
00:22:25,010 --> 00:22:26,887
as a couple.
535
00:22:26,929 --> 00:22:28,389
Together, we've made choices.
536
00:22:28,430 --> 00:22:32,017
Josh, I was in a relationship
for five years with someone
537
00:22:32,059 --> 00:22:36,063
else, and a year and a half ago,
I was in a relationship with an
538
00:22:36,105 --> 00:22:39,483
ex-girlfriend.
539
00:22:40,067 --> 00:22:43,279
I am still screaming.
540
00:22:45,072 --> 00:22:48,242
Yeah, but fuck that, and
fuck that to say that, like...
541
00:22:48,284 --> 00:22:51,036
I mean, the way you're just
saying it is like if I had done
542
00:22:51,078 --> 00:22:52,872
something, you wouldn't
have done those things.
543
00:22:52,913 --> 00:22:55,082
That's not
what I'm saying!
544
00:22:55,124 --> 00:22:57,042
And that some--
and that somehow,
545
00:22:57,084 --> 00:22:58,419
if I had just
gotten it right--
546
00:22:58,460 --> 00:22:59,712
No!
I'm not--
547
00:22:59,753 --> 00:23:00,880
You wouldn't have
done those things.
548
00:23:00,921 --> 00:23:01,922
That's exactly
what it sounds like!
549
00:23:01,964 --> 00:23:03,215
It's not about
getting it right!
550
00:23:03,257 --> 00:23:04,675
There's not a right--
551
00:23:04,717 --> 00:23:06,677
"I'm screaming at you to do
what I'm asking you to do.
552
00:23:06,719 --> 00:23:08,053
Do it the way I
want you to do it,
553
00:23:08,095 --> 00:23:08,596
I've be screaming--"
554
00:23:08,637 --> 00:23:10,222
What am I
asking you to do?
555
00:23:10,264 --> 00:23:12,516
Really?
Is this really an interrogation?
556
00:23:12,558 --> 00:23:13,893
-Is that how we're gonna do it?
-No, Josh!
557
00:23:13,934 --> 00:23:15,060
I'm not--
558
00:23:15,102 --> 00:23:16,729
Where you're leading me down
the path to get me to the--
559
00:23:16,770 --> 00:23:18,898
-I'm not interrogating you--
-Answer that you're hoping for?
560
00:23:18,939 --> 00:23:20,232
No, I'm not
interrogating you--
561
00:23:20,274 --> 00:23:22,234
It feels like
it, it feels like it.
562
00:23:22,276 --> 00:23:26,488
I'm trying to see if you can
repeat what I have been asking
563
00:23:26,530 --> 00:23:29,074
for years.
564
00:23:29,116 --> 00:23:31,744
I could have been more present,
I could have talked to you more
565
00:23:31,785 --> 00:23:33,704
about all the things
that I was feeling,
566
00:23:33,746 --> 00:23:35,748
about the questions
I was having, about--
567
00:23:35,789 --> 00:23:38,751
So why isn't
that happening now?
568
00:23:38,792 --> 00:23:42,129
It...is...happening...now!
569
00:23:42,171 --> 00:23:45,466
It hasn't happened
for the past week.
570
00:23:45,507 --> 00:23:48,469
But we've been talking
so much more deeply about
571
00:23:48,510 --> 00:23:50,262
everything for...
572
00:23:50,304 --> 00:23:51,764
It-- it is happening!
573
00:23:51,805 --> 00:23:54,934
What do you mean
it's not happening?!
574
00:23:57,770 --> 00:24:01,106
I am, like, so bothered right
now that you're sitting there
575
00:24:01,148 --> 00:24:03,734
like that with
this attitude that,
576
00:24:03,776 --> 00:24:07,279
like, I am being ridiculous
and that I'm interrogating you,
577
00:24:07,321 --> 00:24:10,950
when all I am saying to
you is I don't think...
578
00:24:10,991 --> 00:24:12,284
that you have been doing...
579
00:24:12,326 --> 00:24:16,163
the work that you say you have!
580
00:24:22,002 --> 00:24:23,921
Okay, we're gonna
have to stop 'cause we've run
581
00:24:23,963 --> 00:24:25,965
out of time.
582
00:24:26,006 --> 00:24:28,092
And hopefully, we
can pick up from here.
583
00:24:28,133 --> 00:24:30,970
Yeah.
584
00:24:31,011 --> 00:24:32,972
"after it all
blew over" by otta
585
00:24:38,018 --> 00:24:39,770
Thank you.
586
00:24:39,812 --> 00:24:41,605
Thank you.
587
00:24:41,647 --> 00:24:45,693
After it all blew over
588
00:24:50,239 --> 00:24:55,285
After it all blew over
589
00:25:02,209 --> 00:25:06,964
After it all blew over
590
00:25:13,679 --> 00:25:18,684
After it all blew over
591
00:25:25,566 --> 00:25:30,612
After it all blew over
592
00:25:37,077 --> 00:25:42,082
After it all blew over
593
00:25:49,256 --> 00:25:54,053
After it all blew over
594
00:26:01,268 --> 00:26:06,023
After it all blew over
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