All language subtitles for HowWomenOrgasm - Lexi Luna Perverzija.com

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I always feel like I'm gonna hit it.

[Bree] I know, it's, we,
we'll take a moment

[Bree] to make sure that we get
all our angles right.

[Bree] Looking good in the camera, all set.

[Bree] Thank you so much
for being here, Lexi.

-[Bree] We really appreciate you taking
-Thanks for having me.

[Bree] part in, in this series.

[Lexi] I'm from the Midwest,
as many of my fans know,

and I grew up in a very normal little town.

And, um, I just always was very like,

intelligent and I did stay to myself.

I kinda didn't have a lot of like
girlfriends or guy friends,

but I did always have more guy friends
than girlfriends.

And just, um, just small family,

so it's just easy to grow
up in the Midwest like that.

Um, had aspirations of me being
an accountant or a teacher,

which is like, 'it' in the Midwest.

So neither one of those
turned out to work,

so here we are.

[giggles]

I was actually approached on
a social media platform

called fetlife.com.

Very familiar to a lot of my
fetish friends,

to where I kind of started exploring and
learning about my fetish side and my kinks

and interests and more just to
my general sexuality

when I took a teaching job in Florida,

I found a great place called
the Woodshed in Florida

and it was so nice and everybody
was so welcoming,

and I got to learn a lot of things
about safely, sanely,

and consensually playing
in the kink world.

It was a time where I was
developing my kink interest.

So it was like the perfect time to learn

about how to do everything
in the right way.

And I think that that really was probably

my best education when it comes to
being on a set like this for example,

where, you know, learning how

to advocate for yourself as
a fetish bottom

or even a fetish top sometimes is hard to,

to be able to tell somebody else

in the middle of something how
to kind of stop that flow.

And it just, it really has helped
me on set to advocate for myself,

and in all of my life

I noticed that at the doctor's office,

I advocate for myself more more.

So really, it just kind of opened my eyes

and I, I learned a lot of different topics
at the woodshed.

Uh, they had a lot of classes and a lot
of things that interested me

and me being a more
education-minded person,

I really flocked to that

and just was able to learn so much
about different types of play

and how to do it.

Both as a bottom and as a top.

And, and we got to experiment
and experience it in a safe environment,

and it really just solidified how much
I liked that community

and these people who the rest of society
considered freaks, right?

And now here I am feeling right at home

and like, finally, I found my people
that I couldn't find when I was younger.

Yeah, I don't necessarily remember
the very first time,

but I remember like around the first,

like, exploration of my vagina, mostly my clit.

That was like my jam back then.

[giggles]

Well, cause I didn't, you know,

like putting fingers inside
you is like very weird for a girl.

Like, if you've never experience that,

it's just like, you know, putting your
fingers in a hole is different.

[giggles]

And it just was something
that I never really thought about

and the, the clitoral stimulation

was just so good that I didn't really need
to think about anything else at the time.

It was always like
kind of over the panties.

A little bit of like this kind of motion.

Not really like a rubbing up and down,

because like, you know, you gotta think when

you're first like, touching yourself
and exploring your body.

Everything is super sensitive.

Nothing's been manipulated before.

So it's like, you're just experiencing
it all for the first time

and like the lightest touch can do it.

You're like, and you cum.

[giggles]

Which is the fun part about being young,

and, um, and exploring and
all that kind of stuff.

It was definitely more like a hand thing.

I didn't have the toothbrush or
the vibrating things that came later.

[chuckles]

As I started to use more tools
to masturbate.

Um, I actually did one
of those sex parties,

where they have like
a bunch of different toys

and they tell you to like, touch it
to the tip of your nose

because it's like the most sensitive spot
aside from your clit,

and I'm like, is it?

I do remember the gap because
at the beginning it was just like,

almost like a, it,

like it tickles feels good, but it didn't

like, like, I don't feel like
we can tickle ourselves.

But it was almost like that same feeling

that if somebody else was doing it,
I'd be rolling on the floor laughing.

But because I was doing it,
it actually felt good.

And then, a long time
after that was when...

I kind of started playing with
an electric toothbrush.

Actually, no, it was an electric razor
first which is very dangerous.

But, [laughs]

but like, the handle vibrated to like,
try to make the hair stand up.

I don't, I don't know, but I took
the top off and I just used the handle.

[Bree] I was gonna ask you,
did you turn it?

Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, we took the blades off.

But I'm not, I'm not that wild.

I hosted the party.

[laughing]

You know, the girl comes in
and she's got bags of sex toys

and they're all like for display

and she's got
different things to sample.

Like there were lubes and
different creams

and perfumes and pheromone things
and all that kind of stuff.

And she basically just
lays things out on a table

and then, like, tells you that,

you could try and turn on
and manipulate anything you want

and that the tip of the nose trick

where there- she's like, this is

the most sensitive place
right next to your clit.

And I was like, I don't feel any,

like, I don't know.

You know, you don't know
what strength you need.

What- because it's not the same
as the tip of your nose.

I'm just here to tell anybody
who has been informed of that.

That is a myth and you gotta try it
directly on the clit

and that is the only place
that it feels like it's on the clit.

[giggles]

So, so for anybody out
there who's been misinformed.

So, yeah, um, after kind of exploring

and learning about all the different toys
that some were just like,

that's way too much like the rabbits
that like, vibrate, a jackhammer.

And then there's like a little
rabbit piece that goes like this.

And I'm like, I don't even know where
all those parts are supposed to go.

So I'm just gonna skip out on that one.

I got this pretty little purple

and I liked it because you could kind of
see like the mechanics inside of it.

So it's almost like
a little see through.

It was like a pretty little purple thing
that was like this

and then it had like a little,
like a tiny little hook.

And let me tell you,
this thing had two speeds.

It was hard and hardest.

And there was nothing in between,

so you are like- And I'm thinking like,
this is small enough,

I'm supposed to put this inside myself

because it has this little hook
and that was like for the G-spot.

Mind you, I have no idea where this is
at the time that I'm playing with the toy.

So I'm just kind of vibrating
it over my panties

and the vibration is so intense.

It is stronger than any of the magic wands

or anything else that I have ever tried.

And this thing rocked my world.

Gosh, I think I masturbated
for like three hours.

I would do it for a little bit and then
I would stop and then I'd like go back to it

and then just like, just be hanging out
with myself,

just vibrating my... and I don't know
that if I came or if I didn't cum or

what was going on,
if I came every time.

But I don't remember like a distinct,
like, uh, this must be an orgasm...

time, until probably three
or four years later where

I was like, really like,

"Oh, inside vibration, not good,
over top vibration, very good."

[giggles]

That it's shameful that
we are a vessel for carrying life.

And that is our only purpose in life.

Um, you know,
it's just one of those things that

when you think about the political
climate and all the other things,

the other pieces that impact people
and not just women,

but you know, like all those things
when you hear in the media...

conversations about women's bodies

that don't necessarily always
include the women.

It just is very... disheartening
and very disingenuous

for the people who are, you know,

doing that kind of advocacy
work if you can call it that.

Uh, but really just the misconception that
there is anything to be ashamed of.

Shame is the control.

Fear is the control.

Like, that's how women
have been controlled for centuries.

And unfortunately,
it's hard to get the message out,

and it's hard to feel it yourself.

I remember when I first started performing

and I had to literally like, think of
myself as the character that I was playing

and feel like this isn't me doing this,

this is that character.

And at the beginning, it was
just a way to calm my nerves.

Now it's a way to really excel at
being that character

because I don't find it's disingenuous
to act like something else

and to be, you know, in front of a camera
and to just like, do your thing.

And that is really kind of what helped
me open up my eyes to role playing.

I always was like, "Oh,
I could never talk during sex."

You know, because
you don't think about it

as something that is,

because it's such an intimate experience.

Like, you're almost always
just closing your eyes

because you're so maybe
embarrassed, ashamed, afraid.

Like, what are they gonna think?

What am I gonna think? Am I gonna like it?

Are they gonna- You know,
there's so much going on that,

it, it's, it's hard to,

to just let go and just be there.

And I feel that like practicing, you know,

moaning and just be
doing it more and more.

It just made me feel so much more
empowered to take control

and to speak about things during sex that
didn't have to do with pleasing the man

or like, moaning for him or whatever else.

It was always just like,
"Oh, no, I like this."

And because I'm already used to
using my voice in that scenario

because I'm already
starting to do little whispers and moans

and like trying to, training myself to
talk during that day time of intimacy.

It just kind of made it easier to, to
point out things I like or don't like.

And to just quickly be like,
oh, right here.

And then move on with the other.

Like, it doesn't have to be like
a stop all action kind of thing.

So, really, there are just
so many different levels.

And I feel like the misconception is that
there is one right way to have sex.

And there just isn't,
that everybody is different.

Every two bodies are going
to fit together differently.

Yeah. So I really fell into this community
in such a nice way.

I was just ending a relationship.

It was long term and I was looking for
something different, and I just kind of

started typing in fetish things
into a search bar

and I ended up on fetlife.com.

It felt like, you know, a place where
I could explore kinky interests,

maybe meet some people in real life

and maybe even see some kink play
that was unlike anything I had seen before

or experienced before.

And finding this little
community of people

where I didn't feel judged or ostracized
or anything like that.

Everybody was so like, "Oh, what
kind of impact play do you like?"

And, "Oh, what kind of, you know,
what kinds of things are you into?"

And it was just so much more of an
exploratory learning about you than it was,

"What do you like
so I can judge you for it."

Right?

And that is the thing that really,
I don't see a lot of in that community.

And everybody in the world
has something that they know

that they are like,

I'm keeping this to myself because people
are gonna think this is weird.

And, you know, I'm no different than that.

So it was just one of those things where
I've really kind of found the right group

of people at the right time who appealed
to my desire to learn at the moment,

and my desire to explore
my sexual interest

and to push myself and push my boundaries.

And so once I started doing these classes

and, and discovering that, like,

"Oh, like, it's totally acceptable
to ask for what you want."

And it's totally acceptable too.

In the middle of getting what
you want, not want it anymore.

And, and that it's fluid and that those
kinds of things

aren't anything to be ashamed of.

That it's just an adjustment.

But if you don't say anything,

you'll never be fully satisfied
with what,

with the experience that you, you have

because it truly wasn't what you wanted

and you didn't let it evolve over time.

The thing that I really enjoyed in,
in kink was,

I was a heavy impact bottom.

I did anything and everything
to get a bruise on my ass.

I loved it. I loved the impact.

I loved just like the feeling of it.

I love the bruising afterward, the
process, the aftercare, all of it.

Every part of it was just like,
mm, yes, all of this.

I loved to bottom for that.

I never topped it.

I never really was like, into a sexual
gratification or a personal gratification

in the topping in that aspect.

There was too much potential
to hurt someone

that I couldn't fully fall into it

and I didn't want
to not be paying attention enough.

So I was always just too worried about

the bottom in that aspect
that I couldn't...

give the care that was needed
at the time that it was needed.

So that was one place where
I only dabbled in the bottom.

So that was just really fun to help
other people experience new things

and help them learn it in a safe,
sane and consensual way

and to also get to kind of
perform a little bit.

So that's all parts of me as well.

Yeah. So that was the whole, the,
the FetLife experience

and like learning and,

and figuring out what works for
me and what fetishes I have.

And that was actually the first time
before I ever entered porn

that somebody was like, you know,
you could make money off of your feet.

And I was like, why?

Right? Because I just didn't get it.

I didn't understand the foot fetish.

And every time I would go to an event
at the woodshed,

all the guys would always wanna
massage my feet,

rub my feet, do whatever.

And I was like, this is great, right?

I'm getting my feet rubbed.

And now I'm like, "Oh my gosh, what...

"What were they doing?"

You know, like, and, and thinking back on
the guy who was, who told me

I should make money off of my feet

was like, very interesting at a time
where I didn't under-

I was on the cusp of being in the industry

and actually making money off my feet.

I just didn't, it just didn't register
how that would possibly work

and how these videos would possibly work.

And I think about it now and I'm like,

gosh, if only I had started then.

[giggles]

The number one thing to prioritize
my sexual wellness

is really just paying attention to my body

and not stretching it,
not pushing it to the limits

and just letting myself feel like,
"Oh, is something going on?"

"I feel like something is going on", and
then listening to myself,

paying attention to signs and
signals that your body is giving you

because, you know,
if you just look inward, you'll find,

you'll find the truth of what's happening.

And you know, just keeping, making sure
to keep sugar away from the vagina.

And it's, when you think about it like,

oh, strawberries and chocolate
is so sexy in bed,

but then there's sugar
and then there's problems

and you know, and it's very shameful.

Again, we come back
to the shame of being...

a woman and exploring your body
and being sexual.

And then when it's like
you've had this sexy experience

and then you get like this
shameful experience of having to go

and get medication and resolve
the problem that the sugar caused.

And you know, just like,
it tears you down,

it makes you not want to be sexual

and it just kind of takes away a
piece of your womanhood as well.

So just prioritizing that is so important.

And researching before you take any,
all the antibiotics and the constant.

Because one causes another, causes a third

and it's just, it can be a mess.

So finding something that works
for your body

might not be the same thing
that works for everybody.

That is a loaded question.

[giggles]

So, because I'm a performer and because

I am actively shooting for companies,

I'm doing cam shows, I'm performing
for fans, all those different pieces.

I really don't masturbate.

I don't, uh, I feel like sometimes like
male talent where I'm like,

I only have so many orgasms in me.

Like, I can't give you more than this.

So that is the tricky part.

I would say I'm probably,
I get off the most on cam

because it's just like a constant.

Everybody wants to control the toy.

Everybody wants to make me cum.

It's a, it's a cumming environment.

Everybody else is cuming, you know?

So it just feels like it's an easy time

to just like go one after the other.

And because I'm there by myself and I can
put myself in any position that I want.

I just grab my favorite
toy and I go for it.

Um, so that's really the routine,
it's more like...

it's more like I'm cumming for work, but...

it still counts because I still
get that all the benefits of cumming.

[Bree] I was gonna say
it's a great perk of the job.

-Yeah.
-[Bree] Not everybody can say that.

Oh, you know, I can't think about
anything, because it's too distracting.

Like, I'm a very much a physical
sensation kind of person.

Like, I don't need a visual.

I don't need the storyline.

I'm the one that fast forwards
all the porn.

[giggling]

That's me.

Um, so, I don't really need
to think about anything.

For me, it's just like, okay,
hit the, hit the right spot

and then wait a few seconds and then like,
it's, we're getting there.

So, uh, really no mental images.

No, I never really masturbated to porn.

I never really got off on photos.

I can appreciate like a hot guy
with his rippling abs

and thinking like
a Nathan Bronson, right?

So like, I can appreciate that
on a magazine cover,

but like, it doesn't turn me on.

It's just like,
it's like a physical masterpiece.

Uh, start by closing your eyes.

Honestly.

Darkroom, close, start like,
like you would

the first time when you're feeling

nervous having sex with somebody
for the first time,

it's like blows
all the sensory pieces off.

So you don't have to feel
like awkward or embarrassed.

Like, you don't have to watch
yourself, your chest heave.

You don't have to do anything.

You put yourself under the covers.

That's how I first started.

Totally under the covers.

Totally like secret, quiet,
just like quietly cumming.

[giggles]

But you know, just start doing it,
the more you touch yourself,

the more comfortable
you feel with yourself,

the more comfortable you'll feel
around other people touching you

and you touching
yourself in front of them.

And just close your eyes, it, it...

the windows to the soul, right?

So just shut the windows, shut the blinds

and relax and enjoy it.

And if you need to do it in secret until

you feel more confident
to not do it in secret.

Maybe pull the covers
back one day and get wild.

[Bree] Beautiful.

[Bree] Well, thank you so much, Lexi.

[Bree] I really appreciate...

-Thank you.
-[Bree] all the answers.

[Bree] Such good information and insight,

[Bree] uh, especially everything you said
regarding the importance of consent

[Bree] and empowerment and agency.

[Bree] I wish that you could give a

[Bree] welcome lecture to
everybody who joins our industry.

[Bree] And I encourage you to keep doing, uh...

-Keep fighting the good fight.
-[Bree] Keep fighting the good fight.

-[Bree] We need to keep doing it.
-Thank you.

[Bree] Alright, everybody,
so we can go ahead

[Bree] and we're going to now do
something that we just talked about,

[Bree] so we'll come off the stage.

[moans]

[moans]

[moans]

[exhales]

[moans softly]

[moans gently]

Yes.

[moans]

[exhales]

[moans]

[exhales]

[moans]

[exhales]

[heavy breathing]

[exhales]

[exhales]

[moaning softly]

[exhales]

[heavy breathing]

[moaning softly]

[heavy breathing]

Oh, fuck.

[moaning softly]

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[moans]

[exhales]

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