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"Youth" by Zhang Cheng

♫ Hey, Shine like the sun ♫

♫ Hey, Strength starting to ignite ♫

♫ The vast sky is open to embrace ♫

♫ We spread our wings and hope to fly ♫

♫ Even if I fall, don't be afraid to smile and keep running ♫

♫ Even if there is trouble, I won't run away, persist till I get old ♫

♫ Even if I've lost everything, I will still be proud ♫

♫ I want to find my life, by myself ♫

♫ Life is too short, know what is important before it's too late ♫

♫ Recall our youthful years ♫

♫ The enthusiasm of youth floating and fluttering in the wind ♫

♫ Don't ask the future how much it knows ♫

♫ Recall our youthful years ♫

♫ The enthusiasm of youth floating and fluttering in the wind ♫

♫ Life is too short, know what is important before it's too late ♫

♫ Recall our youthful years ♫

♫ The enthusiasm of youth floating and fluttering in the wind ♫

♫ Life is too short, know what is important before it's too late ♫

♫ Recall our youthful years ♫

♫ The enthusiasm of youth floating and fluttering in the wind ♫

[Hello Debate Opponent Season 2]

[Episode 17]

I ordered delivery.

I haven't had fried breadsticks for so long.

Fried breadsticks are good!

Let me have one first.

Mom, I would like to talk with you.

About your profession,

we didn't mean to control it.

What we know is limited after all.

We are getting old.

We don't know as much as you about many things.

How about you tell us more about International Trade?

If you can't tell us, then I will think you don't have the reasons to convince us.

I will say. I will say.

Go ahead.

I chose International Trade not only because I like it.

I also have researched a lot.

My major is not only learning superficial things.

What we need to learn are

the policy and principles of foreign trade as well as operational regulations of the international market.

These are certainly useful as long as I work in finance in the future.

In addition, about the employment, those joint venture enterprises

value the graduates of my major a lot.

The professional direction is more and more targeted now.

Yes. Finance is also good.

But "good" doesn't equal to "suitable," right, Mom?

You see a coat you that liked last time, and only has a size S left.

You wear XXL, but you can't buy the S just because it's nice. Right, Dad?

- Yes. - Who wears XXL?

I was just saying that you can't just see what people say on the internet.

I need to study for two more years by myself after all.

You really decided?

Okay. We listen to you then.

You... You two won't try to convince me?

No.

I'm just telling you... When you fail in the future,

don't cry and come back to us.

Daughter, as long as you are confident, we also have confidence in you!

I have confidence for sure, Dad!

Eat. Eat!

[I'm a man of principle. Don't worry. I still have my first kiss. Since your first kiss has been given to me, I will give mine back to you later.]

- Who is it? - Who is it?

Advertisement.

I don't think so.

You remembered to come back? Where did you go last night?

Your dad said he was waiting for you the whole time. I don't know what he meant.

Xiao Bei! Xiao Bei! Where is the toilet paper?

Xiao Bei, you haven't come back?

Other kids come back to help with the housework,

but you only know how to play on the phone and video games every day.

You don't even sweep the floor.

I will go to buy groceries. Help clean the house.

How old are you? You are still so slovenly.

You went out in pajamas! Change your clothes now.

How come you don't know to keep yourself clean during the New Year?

If you keep being like this, how can you find a girlfriend?

I hope you go back to school early!

We should have eaten more in the morning.

If I can't swallow the dinner of Chinese New Year's Eve...

I'm telling you, this is the first time that our daughter has cooked for us.

No matter how disgusting it is, we have to eat it. Even if it's like pig feed, we have to eat.

You hear me?

Pig feed.

Stop eating. Put it back.

Dad, we have cleaned for the whole day.

The house can't be cleaner now.

Since your profession issue has been solved, your mom has one thing less to worry about.

So she started to prepare for the New Year celebration.

How about later you tell her that you want to change professions again?

But she can't leave us without cooking dinner.

What will we have for dinner?

Isn't it just a meal? I will do it!

Wait a second. One more. One more.

One more. one more.

Okay.

Haha.

Finished! Come to eat!

It's time to eat.

The dinner of Chinese New Year's Eve made by our daughter.

Can we eat them?

Don't be so polite. Sit.

- Sit. - Okay. Sit.

This is Mom's. This is Dad's.

Give it to Mom, Dad.

This exhausted me.

Come on, eat!

Eat.

Move your chopsticks.

You eat.

I have tasted them. They are all nice.

Let me try.

Tastes good.

So tasty!

Daughter, this is so nice. You have worked so hard.

This is probably my talent.

Really nice!

Cheers to our little chef!

Happy New Year!

Dad, no matter how terrible the food is, you can't only drink.

If my mom knows that I indulged you to drink, she will scold me when she comes back.

You can study the major you like,

and then do what you like.

- I'm happy for you. - Listen to what you have said.

But you staged such a big show at home with Third Uncle earlier.

This is what your mom wanted to do. I have always believed

that you should do what you like.

So you were determined to work in a state-owned enterprise when you were young and become successful now.

Childish.

When I played music in those years,

many girls admired me.

- Played music? - Yes.

Dad, we just had these dishes. Are you drunk?

Wait.

Look.

Oh my goodness.

Dad, I didn't know you also had many stories.

At that time, I grouped a band with some friends.

We worked so hard.

It was invincible youth!

Your mom fell for me because of my uninhibited life.

But why did you choose to work in the state-owned enterprise and live a simple life between work and home?

It was all because you were born.

Our time was different from yours.

No matter how good my music is, I still couldn't afford to raise you.

Did my mom agree?

Your mom supports me all the time.

I always thought music was the most important thing for me.

But then I realized that you two were the most important.

[Tuanzi]

Happy New Year, Meaty Tuanzi!

What are you doing? It takes a while for you to answer the phone.

I just cooked a banquet for my parents!

Even if your mom

doesn't agree with your major, you don't need to harass her like this!

Says who? My cooking is amazing.

In addition, my mom agreed with me to choose International Trade!

Really?

How did you brainwash her?

Of course, by my outstanding

resilience and

outstanding explanation.

A series of non-violent measures made her agree.

How about you?

My parents still want me to choose the editing direction.

Although it's up to me in the end,

I still need to convince them.

The more open they are, the more serious I feel about the issue.

I think this depends on yourself.

I also find it hard to decide!

Why do you laugh? It scares me.

Nothing. I just thought of a joke.

If a fat person falls from the 20th floor, what will he become?

Meatball! (T/N: Tuanzi literally means ball in Mandarin)

See you, friend.

Nan Nan, it's time for dinner.

Let's eat.

Your mom and I were both worried about you last night when you went out alone.

Don't be so wilful next time.

If...

As for starting up a company you mentioned, your mom and I have discussed it.

We think...

it's doable.

You mean...

But I must make the precondition clear.

First, starting up a business is risky.

The return on investment of the first year or two...

will be a deficit.

So your mom and I can only take the risk for 2 years.

If there isn't any improvement within 2 years,

then we have to give up.

Dad.

Second, no matter what you have in the future,

we can always discuss it.

You can't just run out.

Third...

Third, let's eat!

Eat.

Eat more. Your dad made it for you specially.

Thank you, Dad and Mom.

He used the soy sauce you bought.

Mom, I'm ready! Let's go.

Don't bring too much specialty food.

You took too much last time. My roommates don't like them.

Come out.

Mom!

Mom!

Your dad and I went to play Mahjong at your Third Aunt's place.

Take a taxi to the train station. Be careful on the way.

I didn't ask you to be so hands-off.

You just gave me ¥100？It takes ¥150 to go to the station.

Should I stop halfway and walk to the station? So stingy.

Xiao Yu, why are you here?

- Hi, Aunt and Uncle! - Your mom isn't driving you to the station?

No. I'm taking a taxi to the station.

Let's go together. We are driving Nan Nan there.

Come on, get in the car!

Thank you, Aunt.

Thank you, Uncle.

Nan Nan, when you arrive at the school, don't forget to air your quilt.

It's been a long holiday. The quilt must be smelly now.

Also, the weather is still very cold now.

Remember to put on more layers. Don't eat anything cold.

She still treats you like a kid.

Xiaoyu, I heard from your mom that you are also on the debate team?

Are you on the same team as Nan Nan?

I... I'm also on a debate team. But we are not on the same team.

She is on the school's team. I'm on another team.

I see.

Do you have any plans for internship?

I'm just in my second year, Aunt.

You see, I almost forgot.

You are preparing for the test for English Majors-8, right?

It's quite difficult. You should prepare for it well.

I just passed the test for English Majors-4.

I didn't do this on purpose.

[Dongzhou University of Finance]

It's to reward you.

Just this?

I took the bus for the whole night in my pajamas to see you.

I also missed you.

I didn't expect you two to be more intense after the New Year Holiday.

You are more and more handsome.

- This is a gift for you. - Thank you.

How about mine?

¥50. Thank you.

Your coke is served for celebrities? So expensive.

Your son's food for the last half a month costs money.

All right. Go on, you two.

I will prepare in the kitchen. It's business hours soon.

There is a message in the group chat.

This topic fits us perfectly.

We all have gone through psychological defensive warfare with family.

We will definitely win.

Nan Bei, I was thinking...

maybe...

let's tell everyone about our relationship.

You were worried in case we...

It wouldn't be good for the debate team. You got over this?

I think...

it will unlikely happen.

I'm sorry that we didn't tell you for so long.

We are together.

What's your reaction? We didn't lie to you. We are really together.

Really.

Yes. What's wrong?

Xiaoyu, do you know there is a feeling?

You really want to get something.

One day you finally get it.

But you always feel...

- I know. I know. - A bit empty.

Ma Nan...

No comments?

You two are always together, aren't you?

Who told you we were in a relationship all this time?

I thought you two were a couple all this time.

Let's forget about it.

Excuse me. I'm late.

What's up? You all look serious.

Nan Bei said that he is together with Xiaoyu.

What does it mean? The two are in a relationship now?

- Why are you so calm? - We are ready.

Let's read the materials.

Come on.

Our opponent this time is Donggang Jiaotong University.

They are awesome. We have to take them seriously.

Also, the competition system has changed a lot.

First of all, for the process of the competition, the traditional parts of making a point, questioning, and rebutals are canceled.

Instead, the first and second debaters choose

elaboration or questioning respectively. If we choose to question,

then the opponent can choose any debater to question.

In this case, we can try what they've got in advance.

Don't be silly. They will make the strongest one to take your challenge.

It's very easy for us to lose this part.

- Make sense. - That's the point.

Also, if we choose to question,

we will have to share the three minutes with our opponents.

At the same time, we are faced with uncertainty from our opponent.

So I suggest all of us choose elaboration instead of questioning.

Also, in history, rarely a team chooses questioning over elaboration.

The biggest change of this competition

is that the audience votes for the winning team.

The audience will vote in every part.

The percentage of the votes will be displayed on the screen right away.

At the end of each part, the number will be frozen.

Then, how can we win?

The total votes will be added up in the end.

Understand?

In other words, no matter which team,

in the whole process of the competition,

if they gain the upper hand of each part,

but they fall behind with the audience votes in the end,

they will still lose the competition.

- Then it leaves a lot of tactical space. - Right.

But is it reliable to leave the judging to the audience?

This is an everlasting argument.

Should debate conquer the opponent or audience?

Or neither. How about focusing on the depth of the topic?

But if focusing on the depth, then it doesn't work to leave the result to the audience.

Because the audience is not concentrated enough.

The debaters will have to get the audience's attention in the end. It's difficult to dig deep.

I think it's okay.

This can marketize debate competitions.

The audience likes to watch the competitions at least.

I'm not very ambitious. I think as long as we can win, everything is okay.

Good point!

Everyone, anyway, this competition to us,

we have no room to choose.

Let's dance in chains.

I hope everyone can try their best.

This is a 3-debater competition. I have already discussed this with Xiao Hao.

Nan Bei, Xiaoyu and Tuanzi. You three attend.

No. No. No. I haven't worked out

how to communicate with my dad.

Let Sister Xiao Hao go.

Xiao Hao, then, can you take it?

Okay! Let's stop talking.

Kids, let's start to train!

[Dongzhou University of Finance]

[No smoking]

This relaxing feeling of being an audience is really...

Welcome, everyone, to the Qingguan Cup Debate Competition.

This is also the point competition for the Provincial League.

On my right is the affirmative side today.

The debate team of Donggang Jiaotong University.

They were the regional champion for three years in a row.

Their perspective today is "to be yourself is more important in family relations."

Let's welcome them!

They are strong.

It's hard.

Change to another brand next time. It's too hard.

It's already good that I remembered to buy it for you. Just eat it!

The negative side to challenge them is

the team is showing extraordinary talents in many competitions,

the rising 235 Team.

Let's also applaud them.

This competition applies 2020 Gongye Cup's new system.

No worries. I can help you.

Manage yourself well. Don't make trouble.

The result of this competition will be decided by the audience votes on site.

Every member of the audience can change your mind three times.

Please use your right carefully and make a responsible decision.

Now I announce, the competition officially starts!

Let's welcome the first debater of the affirmative side to make a statement first.

Do you choose to elaborate or question?

- Elaboration. - Totally expected.

- Let's welcome the first debater to elaborate. - Thank you, Chairperson.

Greetings to everyone. I would like to ask you a question first.

In our country, how many relationships can a family have,

including grandparents from both sides, siblings, and parents?

I'm the daughter of my parents.

I'm the granddaughter of my grandpa on my dad's side.

I'm the granddaughter of my grandpa on my mom's side.

I'm also the older sister of my younger brother.

My dad is the son of my grandpa.

He is my mom's husband.

He is the son-in-law of my maternal grandma.

Then...

There is a formula for the number of family relationships.

The number of family relationships equal to the overall family number minus 1 and then divide by 2.

The means within an ordinary family, there are 28 kinds of different family relations.

You are a father; meanwhile, you are also a son, a husband, and a son-in-law.

You are a son; meanwhile, you are also a younger or older brother and a grandson.

We feel that we can handle the complicated family relations

without being deeply troubled. Do you know the reason why?

It's because behind all the decisions,

it's you. You just need to be yourself.

In our opinion, being yourself is the basis of all healthy relationships.

Being yourself, being yourself who plays 28 roles is already not easy.

Throughout history, killing the family, betrayal amongst the family,

which family tragedy wasn't caused by the displacement and missing of family identity?

Do you think I'm willing to get drunk every day?

I'm doing this for this family.

Do you think I'm still willing to be with you?

I'm doing this for this family.

How many family relationships were broken by moral kidnapping

when saying "I'm doing this for this family"?

Let's look at those happy families.

The father is affectionate and the son is dutiful. The senior brother is respectful and the younger brother is friendly.

How can we get a harmonious family if we

don't do our own job well?

I hope we can put down the excuse of "considering for my family" and

take the family responsibility by being yourself.

Don't hurt your family in the name of love.

Thank you.

Shit. What's her approach?

I know what she says is not right, but I can't find the problem.

Calm down. It's a small case.

[Vote Successfully]

[In family relationships, being yourself or for the family, which one is more important? Being yourself 58% vs. For the family 42%]

Sister Xiao Hao, knock her over.

Now, let's welcome the first debater of the negative side.

Do you choose to elaborate or question?

- Elaboration. - Please. - Thank you.

Hi, everyone. Our opponent just said that family relationships are too complicated.

I can't handle it, so I can only be myself.

The argument they provide is called the number of family relations.

The formula is simple and straight, but the number is cold and meaningless.

Of course, I can't be the daughter of my grandpa and I also can't be the wife of my dad.

But can't I take care of them for my grandpa and dad?

Empathy is not replacing someone. Placing yourself in others' position is not copying others.

Are family relationships really so complicated?

For you, your mom was pregnant for 10 months and gave birth to you.

For you, your fathers quit smoking and alcohol, and worked hard.

What I see is simple and straightforward love.

Why is it complicated?

Even like the opponent said, you have 28 kinds of family relationships.

They are also 28 pieces of love, aren't they?

Throughout history, were people who killed the family also not loners?

Were people who betrayed the family not selfish?

What's the problem in the end?

Our opinion is that they are focusing too much on themselves.

Our opponent said that "the father is affectionate, the son is dutiful, the older brother is respectful, and the younger brother is friendly"

is the model of family harmony.

But the right way should be

"the father loves the son, the son respects the father, the older brother and younger brother love each other."

The father considers the child, the child considers the father. The older brother considers the younger brother and the younger brother considers the older brother.

This is the family we want, isn't it?

The crow feeds its parents. The lamb is suckled on its knees.

This is the truth that all creatures know.

Family affection makes altruism which seems not to conform with natural selection

to become the strongest bond to connect family relationships firmly.

We think in family relationships

that it's more important to think for the family instead of just yourself.

Because as long as you think for them from the bottom of your heart,

we can be called a family.

Thank you.

[Vote successfully]

[In family relationships, being yourself or for the family, which one is more important? Being yourself 37% vs. For the family 63%]

"An eye for an eye."

She questioned in the middle of elaboration.

Xiao Hao is great.

I didn't expect Sister Xiao Hao could present in this emotional style.

My heart is going to melt.

It looks really good.

But we sacrificed the rational statement in order to win.

Don't worry. There is no judge in this competition.

My opponent said to consider for the family is altruism.

Is altruism certainly good in family relationships?

Not necessarily. Everyone has read O. Henry's "The Gift of the Magi."

The husband sold his watch to buy a comb for his wife.

The wife cut her hair to buy a watch band for her husband.

This is a beautiful relationship, of course.

But does the beautiful love make the story a classic?

No. It's the bitterness of the love.

The root of the bitterness is that they both forget

being themselves is the basis of their relationship.

The relationship between people is like a line between two dots.

Should we first have two dots before we are able to connect them with a line?

If we are all like the couple. We have all lost our own "dot".

What we can get in the end is the comb without hair and the watch band without a watch.

We always say "for your own good." The "good" is usually what we think.

We keep making the same dish just because the child said it was tasty.

Because I like James Cameron,

my girlfriend bought the collector's edition of "The Terminator" by saving her living expenses.

But what I like is Avatar!

The most miserable thing is I have to watch "The Terminator" together with her.

So, everyone, why can't we admit that

no one can completely understand another one?

Even if you are his wife, her husband, parent, or kid, it's always impossible!

So since we can't, why can't we just be ourselves?

In family relationships, there are not so many major conflicts of principle.

There are always trifles.

Being yourself and expressing your own requirements fully.

Keep the diversity in the family relationships, and living with differences.

These problems and conflicts won't deteriorate too much and can't be solved

because of no communication.

Do we have to sacrifice our most precious thing

to exchange for a present that the other doesn't need? Don't do it!

Be yourself is more important.

Thank you.

[In family relationships, being yourself or for the family, which one is more important? Being yourself 59% vs. For the family 41%]

It's getting more intense now.

Oh no. The elaboration Xiaoyu has prepared

doesn't fit his arguments.

Now, it's the time for the second debater of the negative side.

May I know if the second debater will choose to elaborate or question?

Xiaoyu! Xiaoyu!

Xiaoyu!

May I know, the second debater?

I choose to question.

She changed her mind.

It's only three minutes. The effect of questioning won't be as good as elaboration for sure.

What is Xiaoyu thinking about?

Trust her. She knows what she is doing.

No she doesn't. Stop eating.

Now, let's invite the second debater of the negative side

to question any debater on the affirmative side.

The time is three minutes.

- Hi, Opponent. - Hi.

You said because everyone is different,

- we don't know exactly what is good for others, right? - Yes.

But shouldn't my family know me the best?

I love my mom's egg fried rice the most. She knows about it. Why did you say that she doesn't know?

Your mom knows that you like her egg fried rice. Isn't it because you

expressed your preference, so she would know it?

So in your definition, sincerity is being yourself. If you consider it for your family, then it has to be fake?

I didn't mean this. What I mean is when "be yourself" is in conflict with "for family,"

- "be yourself" is a more realistic choice. - My dad really likes to eat chicken leg.

But every time when he chooses to give it to me, may I know is he being himself or thinking for me?

- He does it for you! So— - But isn't it also out of his real intention?

Is his choice fake?

Take a step back. Opponent, you are right.

But I'm afraid that other more important things are not as simple as you think.

For example, I'm urged to get married by my parents. Should I stay true to myself or to conform to my parents

and get married in a rush?

It's not a foul to re-question with a rule of this competition.

They want to use re-question to lead the pace.

Xiaoyu won't be tricked. She will question him back.

- Why do parents urge you to get married? - Maybe your parents want grandchildren?

- What you said is urging you to have baby. - My opponent, you are too young.

To get married and have kids is the same phrase. They are two steps of one thing.

To get married and have kids is the happiness of life. Your parents want you to be happy. Isn't it wrong?

My parents hope I can be happy so they urge me to get married, but urging me to get married becomes the most unhappy thing in my life.

My opponent, I think this is a perfect interpretation of "for other's sake is not as good as being yourself"!

This boy is good.

What's the key problem of urging you to get married? Is it caused by your parents' concern for you?

They just hope that you have someone to take care of you

when you are far away from home. What's wrong with this?

But you don't want to get married. isn't it a problem?

- So as long as we have different opinions, there is definitely a problem, right? - You don't think so?

Then the state of harmony in diversity doesn't exist?

Harmony in diversity is the ideal state of course.

But doesn't a family problem take place because

- of the family members' different opinions? - No.

It's okay to be different. What's terrible is that you can't understand the differences between family members.

Because you can't understand and are causing the family problems,

is being yourself still the most important thing?

Even if it's true, isn't being yourself, as a basis of any healthy relationship, more important?

Our first debater has just refuted the importance of this basis. May I ask for the more important criteria of your side?

It's still the basis! May I ask your criteria?

Being yourself or considerate of the family, the one which can solve the problem is more important.

So my opponent, being myself is good for solving problems.

Your side considers the family, this is escaping from the problem!

Very good! So my opponent,

you agree with our criteria. Right?

Thank you, my opponent.

We didn't win this part again.

I think we are okay.

Although we suffered a little loss, we also gained a big advantage.

[In family relationships, being yourself or for the family, which one is more important? Being yourself 52% vs. For the family 48%]

Although it looks quite positive for us,

the opponent has taken the criteria and the comparative consensus.

This is tricky for us now.

We can set criteria in the questioning part,

it makes the free debate more assured.

The result of the competition is based on all the votes of each parts.

The result of each part is not very important.

Then whether we win or lose depends on...

It all depends on the free debate now.

If the opponents give up the discussion on the essence,

and only talk about the methodology to solve family problems,

it will make us lose more battlefields.

We must pull them back.

We should take the current advantage,

to dominate the battleground of methodology.

Overturn their argument!

Xiaoyu.

Next is the free debate of this competition.

Let's talk in turn. The time of each side is 4 minutes.

Starting from the affirmative side. Please.

If you have a violent husband, should you stand out bravely to be yourself

or be tolerant for the so-called harmony?

Remember, everyone, when you meet domestic violence, call the police, get divorced, and divide the property.

Start the whole process. This is taking responsibility for yourself and your family.

Doesn't the husband's violence indicate the bad result of just considering for oneself but neglecting the family?

If one person's personality is irritable and stubborn,

do you still think being himself is good for his family?

According to your opinion, if one person is gentle and nice, then being himself is good for the family?

Do we have more good people or bad people?

Is your side questioning about being yourself, or discriminating against character flaws?

Can the phenomenon of sisters helping brothers at all cost be counted as a disadvantage of "considerate of the family"?

The appearance of this phenomenon is related to an abnormal family relationship and cognition—

Don't avoid this question. Please directly answer me. Can this be counted as a disadvantage?

- I don't think so. - Why?

Every woman helping her brothers at all costs is betraying herself and her own family.

How can this be called "considerate of the family"?

Xiaoyu really likes to focus on logic.

Because she is unreasonable.

The appearance of this phenomenon is caused by the abnormal value because of the long-term family environment and family education.

It's not a simple choice about "being ourselves" or "considerate of the family."

In the end, valuing sons over daughters is the root of this phenomenon.

2013, there was an old father in Jiangxi Province living extremely frugally to help his son get married.

But he was abused by his son as a result.

If he was willing to "be himself." could this tragedy be avoided?

It's human nature to be considerate of our own children. You don't blame the greedy son

but to blame the father who devoted himself to his son. Don't you feel guilty?

- Is "considerate of the family" a kind of compromising and tolerance? - No.

"Considerate of the family" is a kind of mentality instead of concrete behavior.

So your opinion is that "considerate of the family" is just thinking about the family,

but you can do things for yourself?

Both sides are about the same now. It's difficult to tell the result now.

It's good for us.

What we emphasize about the phrase "considerate of the family" is a way to improve communications based on empathy.

The husband of an old couple likes eating fish head but the wife likes eating fishtail.

They give each other what they like.

As a result, neither of them get what they like.

Why "considerate of the family" doesn't improve communication, but instead is wasting our affection in silence?

My opponent, it's a love story. Don't you feel it's sweet?

If they only want to be themselves, then where can we find such a touching story?

There are still many love stories. All of them can be very touching.

But if we flaunt blind devotion as a love story,

is it the biggest misunderstanding about true love?

Do you mean you want to get true love by giving up fish heads for the rest of your life?

I'm willing to do this. True love is not easy to get after all.

If I can't eat the fish head, I can still eat hotpot, barbecue, and ice cream. Right?

Me, too.

Ew, public display of affection.

You will get used to it.

I'm already 30 years old.

Ten years ago, for my own good, my dad stopped me from buying Bitcoin. He said it was a fraud.

Therefore, I no longer have financial freedom.

Why do we harm our family in the end out of good intention?

Coincidently ten years ago, I also wanted to start up my business when I was in high school.

Nobody was able to convince me. I lost everything consequently. Why did I deserve such a bad ending even though I tried to be myself?

If I don't do things for myself first, I eat whatever and want whatever,

it seems very peaceful, but no one in the family really understands what I want.

How can the family do what is really good for me?

I think you can be yourself first.

So "being ourselves" is the precondition of "being considerate of the family," right?

Is the precondition more important?

My opponent, don't you remember the criteria that we confirmed?

I feel Xiaoyu was pushed back to the criteria.

We still miss a bit. Continue rebutting.

We need to find a breakthrough point to pull the topic back to the core argument.

A mama's boy is always considerate of his mom's feelings. Can he be counted as a good man?

I don't think he is always considerate of his mom. Instead, he thinks what his mom says is always right.

His mom... His mom can't be right about everything.

If he thinks his mom is always right, isn't it a problem?

It is a problem. So I never agreed that a mama's boy was right.

On the contrary, she wants his son to live as what she likes. Is it for her son's own good?

It's just to satisfy herself.

- No worries. I'm not. - Piss off!

When we choose a major for college, I want to study literature while my parents want me to study finance,

should I give up my own dream for my parents?

At this time, your parents should respect your own will.

Being considerate of the family more, communicate, and understand each other more.

When your own will is in conflict with your family,

if being considerate to the family is more important, should you just follow their will?

- Not necessarily. - My opponent, you are not certain about everything.

Then, what is more important?

In this case, no matter if it's you or your family, if all of you can think for each other, there won't be a problem.

Likewise, no matter if it's you or your parents, if everyone just cares about oneself, the problem is unavoidable.

Doesn't it prove that being considerate of the family is more important?

The other way round, the fewer family conflicts, the better family relationship. Right?

Does avoiding conflict certainly benefit the family relationship?

Sometimes bickering can be fun in the family, right?

So, is it a symbol of a good family relationship to have many conflicts?

Fantastic!

Should I wear long underwear pants for my mom when the weather gets cold?

Does wearing long underwear pants count as a family relationship?

- No? - Okay, it can be.

This is the way your mom shows her care to you.

But you just go against your parent in order to be yourself. You take her care as conflict.

A good family turns into a chaotic drama, don't you feel that it's a pity?

As long as my side pointed out all kinds of disadvantages of "being considerate of the family," your side just says

this is an unhealthy family relationship instead of the fault of "being considerate of the family."

Then may I ask what on earth is "being considerate of the family"?

That's what I wanted!

I think it's compromise and tolerance.

- Then what's the essence of "being ourselves"? - Principle and insistence.

Therefore, what we are really discussing today is based on the following two common views.

In the intimate relationship such as family,

compromising or insistence, which one is more important. Right?

I agree.

He admits!

He knows what he is talking about.

[In family relationships, being yourself or for the family, which one is more important? Being yourself 51% vs. For the family 49%]

Now is the last part of this competition, concluding remarks.

The time for each side is 3 minutes and a half.

Let's start from the negative side.

Thank you, Chairperson.

Hi, everyone. I think what our opponent said is right.

What we are discussing today

is that in family's intimate relationships,

to compromise or to insist, which one is more important?

But it seems that we haven't figured out one question.

Why do we compromise?

Also, why do we insist?

Our opponent will say that we insist because we want to be ourselves, to independent, and keep our dignity intact.

But when we go out to study, has our family relationship become better?

Think about it carefully.

Who initiated the phone call last time when you talked to your parents?

In our chat history with our parents, are the money transfer records the most frequent?

We talk less and less with our parents.

Our parents have already changed their powerful orders into careful questions.

Is this really what we want? No.

It shouldn't be.

Weren't our parents young before?

Didn't they have youth?

They also permed their hair in bell-bottomed pants

while carrying a radio. They wanted to be a singer, to group a band, and to realize their dreams.

What made them change the hair back to a crew cut,

to put on a shirt,

and go between home and work every day?

It's me.

It's us!

It's everyone in the family.

I asked my dad once after he got drunk.

Giving up your own dream for me,

do you regret it?

I always thought music was my most important thing.

But then I realized

that you two were the most important.

So, I cut my hair

and sold the guitar and earned money to raise you.

Dad,

do you regret about it?

Do you regret being my son?

He asked back with smile,

"Do you regret being my son?"

I was stunned.

I saw the family photo in front of me.

My grandparents spent their remaining years in comfort.

My parents have already walked most of their lives together.

The whole family had a happy and peaceful life.

We didn't answer each other on that day.

But I won't forget

that evening for the rest of my life.

We don't advocate that you should sacrifice yourself in a family conflict.

But can you think about your family's feelings more

when you deal with this most important relationship in your life?

To understand their situations more.

Because one day,

we will become them.

Thank you.

What are we going to eat? We must have some nice food this time!

I don't know if I should hope for you to win or lose if we keep eating like this.

I will eat whatever you want.

Don't display affection in public anymore!

I succeed in both my love and career, okay?

Xiaoyu!

Gong Chen!

Gong Chen!

Who is he?

He is Xiaoyu's Prince Charming in the high school.

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''To Be Continued'' - Singer: Zhang Xi

♫ All the joy is secretly seeping in ♫

♫ Some sadness can be comforted but not able to explain ♫

♫ The love I miss will become part of my silence ♫

♫ The crowd of lost souls moves back and forth ♫

♫ Counting the Christmas fireworks ♫

♫ Write a love song for you ♫

♫ Won't be able to finish singing and continue ♫

♫ Take all your memories, all your messages ♫

♫ Delete everything ♫

♫ Write a love song for you ♫

♫ Won't be able to finish singing and continue ♫

♫ I will fill the holes in my heart ♫

♫ With just our memories ♫

♫ Write a love song for you ♫

♫ Won't be able to finish singing and continue ♫

♫ I will fill the holes in my heart ♫

♫ With just our memories ♫

♫ Write a love song for you ♫

♫ Won't be able to finish singing and continue ♫

♫ I will fill the holes in my heart ♫

♫ With just our memories ♫