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hi guys welcome back to our channel if

hi guys welcome back to our channel if

hi guys welcome back to our channel if you're the first time here i am cali and

you're the first time here i am cali and

you're the first time here i am cali and this is my girlfriend ollie today's

this is my girlfriend ollie today's

this is my girlfriend ollie today's video is sponsored by ruin app root app

video is sponsored by ruin app root app

video is sponsored by ruin app root app is the most popular lesbian dating app

is the most popular lesbian dating app

is the most popular lesbian dating app in taiwan so on this app there is a tons

in taiwan so on this app there is a tons

in taiwan so on this app there is a tons of different community one of them is

of different community one of them is

of different community one of them is called let's talk we have collected a

called let's talk we have collected a

called let's talk we have collected a lot of questions on it that people have

lot of questions on it that people have

lot of questions on it that people have asked it's about like

asked it's about like

asked it's about like relationship struggles how to deal with

relationship struggles how to deal with

relationship struggles how to deal with long distance and how to go through

long distance and how to go through

long distance and how to go through breakups so today this video we're going

breakups so today this video we're going

breakups so today this video we're going to answer all of the questions it's

to answer all of the questions it's

to answer all of the questions it's basically

basically

basically a relationship advice from kelly

a relationship advice from kelly

a relationship advice from kelly excelling yes

excelling yes

excelling yes not so sure if we're the best people to

not so sure if we're the best people to

not so sure if we're the best people to answer that

answer that

answer that this app is not just for dating it's a

this app is not just for dating it's a

this app is not just for dating it's a really popular way to get to know

really popular way to get to know

really popular way to get to know friends from lgbt community most of the

friends from lgbt community most of the

friends from lgbt community most of the people still go on the app even though

people still go on the app even though

people still go on the app even though they're in a relationship it's just a

they're in a relationship it's just a

they're in a relationship it's just a perfect place for you to

perfect place for you to

perfect place for you to get some new friends

get some new friends

get some new friends oh didn't you say that your friend met

oh didn't you say that your friend met

oh didn't you say that your friend met on the app

on the app

on the app oh yes like my friends they basically

oh yes like my friends they basically

oh yes like my friends they basically met on the app

met on the app

met on the app and they hung out together like after a

and they hung out together like after a

and they hung out together like after a week and then they started to date like

week and then they started to date like

week and then they started to date like in the months and they have been

in the months and they have been

in the months and they have been together for three years now that app is

together for three years now that app is

together for three years now that app is fully anonymous it's really comfortable

fully anonymous it's really comfortable

fully anonymous it's really comfortable for people to

for people to

for people to talk to strangers i i feel like it if

talk to strangers i i feel like it if

talk to strangers i i feel like it if it's anonymous i think it's better on

it's anonymous i think it's better on

it's anonymous i think it's better on the app there's the settings that you

the app there's the settings that you

the app there's the settings that you can choose you only want to match with

can choose you only want to match with

can choose you only want to match with women it's like you can post a story

women it's like you can post a story

women it's like you can post a story like on instagram if you're interested

like on instagram if you're interested

like on instagram if you're interested in the story of somebody posted and you

in the story of somebody posted and you

in the story of somebody posted and you can just swipe right and you will

can just swipe right and you will

can just swipe right and you will probably match with that person and you

probably match with that person and you

probably match with that person and you can just like start talking with them

can just like start talking with them

can just like start talking with them and talk about their struggles the story

and talk about their struggles the story

and talk about their struggles the story that they want to discuss about

we all know that if it's like more

we all know that if it's like more

we all know that if it's like more tomboyish person then like

tomboyish person then like

tomboyish person then like there's a 99 chances that that person is

there's a 99 chances that that person is

there's a 99 chances that that person is a lesbian but for feminine girls like

a lesbian but for feminine girls like

a lesbian but for feminine girls like myself

myself

myself yeah herself not me

yeah herself not me

yeah herself not me like us it's really actually hard to say

like us it's really actually hard to say

like us it's really actually hard to say because

because

because okay you can look at some of the

okay you can look at some of the

okay you can look at some of the features like in a person's appearance

features like in a person's appearance

features like in a person's appearance that oh you might wonder if that person

that oh you might wonder if that person

that oh you might wonder if that person is from lgbt community but in general

is from lgbt community but in general

is from lgbt community but in general there's no

there's no

there's no like specific

like specific

like specific way to say if it's actually true like

way to say if it's actually true like

way to say if it's actually true like there's no even

there's no even

there's no even there's no textbook for this yeah of

there's no textbook for this yeah of

there's no textbook for this yeah of course there's like

course there's like

course there's like kind of like stereotypical features like

kind of like stereotypical features like

kind of like stereotypical features like for example

for example

for example when i was growing up it was always if

when i was growing up it was always if

when i was growing up it was always if somebody has a lot of tattoos that maybe

somebody has a lot of tattoos that maybe

somebody has a lot of tattoos that maybe like there's earrings earrings weird

like there's earrings earrings weird

like there's earrings earrings weird hair color yes then then you you might

hair color yes then then you you might

hair color yes then then you you might wonder but

wonder but

wonder but nowadays i feel like a lot of people do

nowadays i feel like a lot of people do

nowadays i feel like a lot of people do that i feel like the best way to know is

that i feel like the best way to know is

that i feel like the best way to know is based on personality not appearance

based on personality not appearance

based on personality not appearance because so i feel like the bed really

because so i feel like the bed really

because so i feel like the bed really really the best way is to try to

really the best way is to try to

really the best way is to try to like

like

like talk to them like get to know them first

talk to them like get to know them first

talk to them like get to know them first be friends with them and just slowly

be friends with them and just slowly

be friends with them and just slowly see if that person would be

see if that person would be

see if that person would be a lesbian sometimes we get something

a lesbian sometimes we get something

a lesbian sometimes we get something like

like

like i have a gay reader i'm sure yeah on the

i have a gay reader i'm sure yeah on the

i have a gay reader i'm sure yeah on the streets we're like yeah i'm sure she's a

streets we're like yeah i'm sure she's a

streets we're like yeah i'm sure she's a lesbian yeah but you know that's just us

lesbian yeah but you know that's just us

lesbian yeah but you know that's just us guessing if you really want to get to

guessing if you really want to get to

guessing if you really want to get to know that person you should just talk to

know that person you should just talk to

know that person you should just talk to them so you don't offend people

i think no i think no

i think no i think no

i think no i think no i think that's a really dangerous way to

i think that's a really dangerous way to

i think that's a really dangerous way to do it

do it

do it yeah you never know like for example

yeah you never know like for example

yeah you never know like for example what's the person's

what's the person's

what's the person's reaction reaction like for example even

reaction reaction like for example even

reaction reaction like for example even if that person supports lgbt doesn't

if that person supports lgbt doesn't

if that person supports lgbt doesn't mean they will be happy about that if

mean they will be happy about that if

mean they will be happy about that if you just confess your love to them if

you just confess your love to them if

you just confess your love to them if they're straight i feel like somebody

they're straight i feel like somebody

they're straight i feel like somebody would take it really seriously and maybe

would take it really seriously and maybe

would take it really seriously and maybe you're if you want to still be friends

you're if you want to still be friends

you're if you want to still be friends with them maybe there is no chance

with them maybe there is no chance

with them maybe there is no chance anymore yeah and yeah it's

anymore yeah and yeah it's

anymore yeah and yeah it's that's not really a good way to do it i

that's not really a good way to do it i

that's not really a good way to do it i think you should know their sexuality

think you should know their sexuality

think you should know their sexuality first imagine if that person is actually

first imagine if that person is actually

first imagine if that person is actually homophobic oh that's it yeah

homophobic oh that's it yeah

homophobic oh that's it yeah hundred percent

hundred percent

hundred percent worse

i mean you will always be a little bit

i mean you will always be a little bit

i mean you will always be a little bit sad you know we're not the best people

sad you know we're not the best people

sad you know we're not the best people here to give you this advice for this

here to give you this advice for this

here to give you this advice for this question

question

question because we were really bad at it we

because we were really bad at it we

because we were really bad at it we would like cry every day and stuff i'm

would like cry every day and stuff i'm

would like cry every day and stuff i'm sure everybody's like that she would

sure everybody's like that she would

sure everybody's like that she would listen to sad music i wouldn't sleep and

listen to sad music i wouldn't sleep and

listen to sad music i wouldn't sleep and i was just yeah she wouldn't eat i think

i was just yeah she wouldn't eat i think

i was just yeah she wouldn't eat i think you should be out there as much as

you should be out there as much as

you should be out there as much as possible because when you're with your

possible because when you're with your

possible because when you're with your friends you you can like

friends you you can like

friends you you can like forget about it for him yeah it's true

forget about it for him yeah it's true

forget about it for him yeah it's true because every time i would think that

because every time i would think that

because every time i would think that oh should i go with my friends because

oh should i go with my friends because

oh should i go with my friends because i'm sure i'm gonna cry in front of them

i'm sure i'm gonna cry in front of them

i'm sure i'm gonna cry in front of them and i don't want to ruin the moment but

and i don't want to ruin the moment but

and i don't want to ruin the moment but then every time after i go out with him

then every time after i go out with him

then every time after i go out with him i don't even think about what happened

i don't even think about what happened

i don't even think about what happened and i was just like having fun with them

and i was just like having fun with them

and i was just like having fun with them but then when you come home you're just

but then when you come home you're just

but then when you come home you're just like it hits you again oh my god so that

like it hits you again oh my god so that

like it hits you again oh my god so that just proves that you shouldn't stay home

just proves that you shouldn't stay home

just proves that you shouldn't stay home alone just go out with your friends as

alone just go out with your friends as

alone just go out with your friends as much as you can

much as you can

much as you can or to stay with somebody and don't be

or to stay with somebody and don't be

or to stay with somebody and don't be alone don't scroll your phone look at

alone don't scroll your phone look at

alone don't scroll your phone look at the picture oh yes

the picture oh yes

the picture oh yes don't look at it yeah the convo i always

don't look at it yeah the convo i always

don't look at it yeah the convo i always first thing i do i remember i delete

first thing i do i remember i delete

first thing i do i remember i delete everything really this is the thing that

everything really this is the thing that

everything really this is the thing that helps me the most are i mostly plug this

helps me the most are i mostly plug this

helps me the most are i mostly plug this i almost walked in i mostly vlog them or

i almost walked in i mostly vlog them or

i almost walked in i mostly vlog them or at least unfriend them too not because

at least unfriend them too not because

at least unfriend them too not because like i have something against that

like i have something against that

like i have something against that person it's just that i need to like

person it's just that i need to like

person it's just that i need to like disconnect of course if you want like

disconnect of course if you want like

disconnect of course if you want like the easiest way is to

meet a new person

meet a new person

meet a new person don't say that then

don't say that then

don't say that then but it's true like but of course you

but it's true like but of course you

but it's true like but of course you have to make sure you don't love your ex

have to make sure you don't love your ex

have to make sure you don't love your ex anymore and then you can meet the new

anymore and then you can meet the new

anymore and then you can meet the new person because for me it's like i put

person because for me it's like i put

person because for me it's like i put all of my effort and all of my heart in

all of my effort and all of my heart in

all of my effort and all of my heart in every relationships like if i knew the

every relationships like if i knew the

every relationships like if i knew the new person i would forget about my ex

new person i would forget about my ex

new person i would forget about my ex like right away but that's why

like right away but that's why

like right away but that's why but that's for me so if you guys are

but that's for me so if you guys are

but that's for me so if you guys are like that you can do the same but if

like that you can do the same but if

like that you can do the same but if like if if you jump into the next

like if if you jump into the next

like if if you jump into the next relationship but you still think of your

relationship but you still think of your

relationship but you still think of your ex then please don't do that

um we didn't really have like long

um we didn't really have like long

um we didn't really have like long distance stage i mean we did but that's

distance stage i mean we did but that's

distance stage i mean we did but that's like we never met

like we never met

like we never met but i think it will be harder because

but i think it will be harder because

but i think it will be harder because the person who's asking right now it's

the person who's asking right now it's

the person who's asking right now it's like her girlfriend already left her to

like her girlfriend already left her to

like her girlfriend already left her to some place to study so i feel like it

some place to study so i feel like it

some place to study so i feel like it would be harder if you already know that

would be harder if you already know that

would be harder if you already know that person and then

person and then

person and then separate right but we were spending time

separate right but we were spending time

separate right but we were spending time with each other 24 7

with each other 24 7

with each other 24 7 and online yeah online we would we will

and online yeah online we would we will

and online yeah online we would we will text everything that we do we will send

text everything that we do we will send

text everything that we do we will send each other a picture what we're

each other a picture what we're

each other a picture what we're currently doing what we're eating and

currently doing what we're eating and

currently doing what we're eating and not because we were controlling each

not because we were controlling each

not because we were controlling each other just because we wanted to like

other just because we wanted to like

other just because we wanted to like share yeah our life with that person we

share yeah our life with that person we

share yeah our life with that person we will call each other every free time we

will call each other every free time we

will call each other every free time we can call each other at night like the

can call each other at night like the

can call each other at night like the internet is so good right now everything

internet is so good right now everything

internet is so good right now everything is so advanced i think it's easier to

is so advanced i think it's easier to

is so advanced i think it's easier to maintain long distance now i know it's

maintain long distance now i know it's

maintain long distance now i know it's like you can touch each other but one

like you can touch each other but one

like you can touch each other but one thing we did was that she sent me a

thing we did was that she sent me a

thing we did was that she sent me a package from pollen that has like her

package from pollen that has like her

package from pollen that has like her hoodie

hoodie

hoodie and just her stuff

and just her stuff

and just her stuff hugging the hoodie just feels like i'm

hugging the hoodie just feels like i'm

hugging the hoodie just feels like i'm hugging her and stuff like that so i

hugging her and stuff like that so i

hugging her and stuff like that so i think that's a good way to if you miss

think that's a good way to if you miss

think that's a good way to if you miss each other you can just like send things

each other you can just like send things

each other you can just like send things so it would be more realistic than

so it would be more realistic than

so it would be more realistic than online yeah just see what's the most

online yeah just see what's the most

online yeah just see what's the most comfortable for you and then just try

comfortable for you and then just try

comfortable for you and then just try doing it

i always feel like it depends on the

i always feel like it depends on the

i always feel like it depends on the relationship and it depends on the

relationship and it depends on the

relationship and it depends on the like individual or person because

like individual or person because

like individual or person because like every story is different in every

like every story is different in every

like every story is different in every relationship is different sometimes

relationship is different sometimes

relationship is different sometimes people

people

people break up because they weren't actually

break up because they weren't actually

break up because they weren't actually in love with each other in my opinion

in love with each other in my opinion

in love with each other in my opinion that kind of

that kind of

that kind of friendship is okay yeah afterwards

friendship is okay yeah afterwards

friendship is okay yeah afterwards because they never

because they never

because they never like cared about each other anyway right

like cared about each other anyway right

like cared about each other anyway right yeah for me

yeah for me

yeah for me in general like i feel like i can't like

in general like i feel like i can't like

in general like i feel like i can't like i can't be friends with my ex like

i can't be friends with my ex like

i can't be friends with my ex like myself and i also don't feel comfortable

myself and i also don't feel comfortable

myself and i also don't feel comfortable when my partner is

when my partner is

when my partner is close with their ex it's not about that

close with their ex it's not about that

close with their ex it's not about that that they would get back together or

that they would get back together or

that they would get back together or something or that just genuinely jealous

something or that just genuinely jealous

something or that just genuinely jealous is that it's making me kind of

is that it's making me kind of

is that it's making me kind of uncomfortable that they used to share

uncomfortable that they used to share

uncomfortable that they used to share the same that we share right now

the same that we share right now

the same that we share right now like you know the holding hands and like

like you know the holding hands and like

like you know the holding hands and like just the thought of that

just the thought of that

just the thought of that some person was touching my girlfriend

some person was touching my girlfriend

some person was touching my girlfriend and then now they are

and then now they are

and then now they are still talking to each other it's more

still talking to each other it's more

still talking to each other it's more like that like from for me i think for

like that like from for me i think for

like that like from for me i think for youtube

no no

i think it's mostly about honesty and

i think it's mostly about honesty and

i think it's mostly about honesty and trust like

trust like

trust like how you communicate with each other

how you communicate with each other

how you communicate with each other because in my opinion it's

because in my opinion it's

because in my opinion it's the most important part of relationship

if she supports lgbt then

if she supports lgbt then

if she supports lgbt then that's a good start but it doesn't

that's a good start but it doesn't

that's a good start but it doesn't necessarily mean that you know she's

necessarily mean that you know she's

necessarily mean that you know she's also into girls the opinion about lgbt

also into girls the opinion about lgbt

also into girls the opinion about lgbt in korea is even stronger

in korea is even stronger

in korea is even stronger it's really not that it's really not

it's really not that it's really not

it's really not that it's really not good because

good because

good because when i had my korean girlfriend she

when i had my korean girlfriend she

when i had my korean girlfriend she couldn't even tell her best best best

couldn't even tell her best best best

couldn't even tell her best best best friend

friend

friend nobody knew we were together

nobody knew we were together

nobody knew we were together all of her friends and her family all

all of her friends and her family all

all of her friends and her family all just thought that we were like

just thought that we were like

just thought that we were like international besties

international besties

international besties so i think that you can just keep

so i think that you can just keep

so i think that you can just keep talking to her i feel like everything is

talking to her i feel like everything is

talking to her i feel like everything is like

like

like fate

fate

fate like yeah it's meant to be if she's if

like yeah it's meant to be if she's if

like yeah it's meant to be if she's if you guys are meant to be no matter if

you guys are meant to be no matter if

you guys are meant to be no matter if you can meet each other or not i just

you can meet each other or not i just

you can meet each other or not i just feel like you know she will stay just

feel like you know she will stay just

feel like you know she will stay just talk to her and then first thing you

talk to her and then first thing you

talk to her and then first thing you have to do is to find out if she

have to do is to find out if she

have to do is to find out if she can accept

can accept

can accept like being with girls

like being with girls

like being with girls if yes then of course keep talking to

if yes then of course keep talking to

if yes then of course keep talking to her if you really like her and you would

her if you really like her and you would

her if you really like her and you would want to wait for her there's always a

want to wait for her there's always a

want to wait for her there's always a way to try to like secretly like ask

way to try to like secretly like ask

way to try to like secretly like ask about it starts with lgbt topic and then

about it starts with lgbt topic and then

about it starts with lgbt topic and then like oh have you thought about being

like oh have you thought about being

like oh have you thought about being with a girl yeah if she's straight maybe

with a girl yeah if she's straight maybe

with a girl yeah if she's straight maybe you could change that

you could change that

you could change that that's what she did with her korean yeah

that's what she did with her korean yeah

that's what she did with her korean yeah that's that's what i did to her she's

that's that's what i did to her she's

that's that's what i did to her she's straight she's still straight she just

straight she's still straight she just

straight she's still straight she just was with me because of me not because

was with me because of me not because

was with me because of me not because she likes girls so maybe

she likes girls so maybe

she likes girls so maybe this can work for you too

i

i

i think time doesn't define how much you

think time doesn't define how much you

think time doesn't define how much you can

can

can love a person i just feel like

love a person i just feel like

love a person i just feel like if you know how you feel then you can go

if you know how you feel then you can go

if you know how you feel then you can go into the relationship but if you're like

into the relationship but if you're like

into the relationship but if you're like oh do i like her or maybe i still love

oh do i like her or maybe i still love

oh do i like her or maybe i still love my ex and don't

my ex and don't

my ex and don't but if you're sure that you like that

but if you're sure that you like that

but if you're sure that you like that person

person

person it doesn't matter if you just broke up

it doesn't matter if you just broke up

it doesn't matter if you just broke up with your ex like a week ago you have to

with your ex like a week ago you have to

with your ex like a week ago you have to be sure about your feelings and that's

be sure about your feelings and that's

be sure about your feelings and that's the most important thing

the most important thing

the most important thing if if you still cry about your ex and if

if if you still cry about your ex and if

if if you still cry about your ex and if you go into the other relationship and

you go into the other relationship and

you go into the other relationship and make that person miserable because they

make that person miserable because they

make that person miserable because they think that they're not good enough then

think that they're not good enough then

think that they're not good enough then of course you shouldn't but if you're

of course you shouldn't but if you're

of course you shouldn't but if you're really true to your feelings and if you

really true to your feelings and if you

really true to your feelings and if you really think that

really think that

really think that this can be this can work then why not

this can be this can work then why not

this can be this can work then why not this is what i did we were together like

this is what i did we were together like

this is what i did we were together like after like a short period of time

after like a short period of time

after like a short period of time after that yeah after breaking up with

after that yeah after breaking up with

after that yeah after breaking up with our exes

our exes

our exes and we're here two years

i know

i know

i know so many people

so many people

so many people who would find you perfect that you

who would find you perfect that you

who would find you perfect that you can't even imagine just for example her

can't even imagine just for example her

can't even imagine just for example her friend we're not making this up her

friend we're not making this up her

friend we're not making this up her friend

friend

friend really really loves that kind of girl

really really loves that kind of girl

really really loves that kind of girl like because she likes a little bit like

like because she likes a little bit like

like because she likes a little bit like more boy's feelings but she also

more boy's feelings but she also

more boy's feelings but she also like wants to be with a true girl yes

like wants to be with a true girl yes

like wants to be with a true girl yes you know and there's so many people that

you know and there's so many people that

you know and there's so many people that probably look for that kind of people

probably look for that kind of people

probably look for that kind of people and they just think they can never find

and they just think they can never find

and they just think they can never find them

them

them but you know here you are

but you know here you are

but you know here you are maybe you should put yourself more out

maybe you should put yourself more out

maybe you should put yourself more out there so yeah i think it's not that

there so yeah i think it's not that

there so yeah i think it's not that nobody would

nobody would

nobody would like find you attractive i think it's

like find you attractive i think it's

like find you attractive i think it's that you just haven't met that person

that you just haven't met that person

that you just haven't met that person yet

okay that's all of the questions we have

okay that's all of the questions we have

okay that's all of the questions we have answered all of them i hope you are

answered all of them i hope you are

answered all of them i hope you are satisfied with our answers it's only our

satisfied with our answers it's only our

satisfied with our answers it's only our opinion so

opinion so

opinion so if you think differently that's okay you

if you think differently that's okay you

if you think differently that's okay you don't have to

don't have to

don't have to like do what we say because we're just

like do what we say because we're just

like do what we say because we're just giving our experiences

giving our experiences

giving our experiences if you have more of this kind of

if you have more of this kind of

if you have more of this kind of questions you can

questions you can

questions you can download ruby app you can go to the

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community there would be an option

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called private key and we would provide

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