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Welcome to lesson four.

And have we got a humdinger for you today,

emotional QE.

We have an inordinate amount
of psychologists

that's part of the QE family,

because they find that doing QE

with their clients and their patients...

...accelerates the healing process

and makes it easier,
it kind of smooths out

the emotional bumps that they go through.

So, that's what we're going
to learn today,

how to do emotional QE for yourself.

And then we'll spend a little time
talking about

how to do emotional QE with a partner.

Okay? Good, let's get started.

So, you've been doing this self...

...triangulation, alright?

And we're going to continue to do that,
but we're going to shift a little bit

to incorporate the emotional work
that we have here.

Now...

Emotional conflicts...

Where do they come from?

Where are they going,
how do we work with them?

How long will it take for me
to get healthy?

Is this analysis, or is this...

We don't have to worry about any of that.

And here's the reason why.

The body and the mind

know how to heal themselves

better than any physician can.

Physicians are there
to help and support...

...your natural healing processes.

Unfortunately, many times
physicians get in the way,

through no fault of their own, many times
just out of ignorance, not knowing...

...that your body is different
than anybody else's...

...and that what they do
to help that person...

...can't help you,
actually can make you worse.

Maybe you've had that experience.

Because medicine, for instance,

is based on numbers.

And...

You'll get a medication

based on how you fit
into a certain group,

but if you happen to be different,
that medication can be harmful for you.

Alright, so...

When we do QE,
you can create no harm.

Let me say that again,
you can do no harm...

...with QE, it's impossible.

Why?

Think about it. Why?
Why can't you do any harm with QE?

Because you're not doing anything.

You're not doing anything to that person
or for that person.

You're simply experiencing
your own Eufeeling...

...and that person is in close proximity.

So, what happens is, if they need it,

they are inspired to experience
their own Eufeeling

and do their own healing
in the way that's best for them,

not the way Frank thinks
they should heal, you see?

Very, very important.

And so that's why we see
big changes emotionally.

I am not saying throw out
your physician,

throw out your psychiatrist,
or your psychologist,

your natural path, or chiropractor.

No.

Whatever you have...

Whatever is good for you,
continue to do that.

And you do your QE.

And what happens is, it gets better.

Whatever you do,

when you do QE,
whatever you do, it gets better.

And if it's negative,
it gets pushed aside,

it gets watered down or eliminated.

Here's an example.

If you have to take medication,

the medication will work
more effectively when you do QE...

...and the side effects will be dampened.

Now, we have a lot of cancer patients
who do QE.

Now, let me underscore this,

QE does not cure cancer.

QE does not cure anything.

Remember what QE is.

QE takes us from common consciousness...

...through pure awareness
to experience Eufeeling, that's all QE is.

And when you experience Eufeeling,
your body, your mind

and the chemistry
that coordinates the two...

...start to work in symphony,
they work together.

And that's what we call healing.

So...

Your body will heal more effectively
when you get the proper rest...

...and the proper nutrition
and so on and so forth.

So, you don't want to throw out
those things that help

and say, "I am just doing QE". No.

You do QE to make all of them
more effective

and to eliminate
the negative side effects...

...of those things like chemotherapy.

Many patients say
that the best thing in the world

for the nausea after chemotherapy is QE.

That's important to understand that.

You know?

All of us physicians of all types
and all health care professionals...

...work from the heart, or at least
they should work from the heart...

...out of the human compassion
to help another person heal.

And you can't get...

...more intimate healing...

..than to be with yourself,
to be with Eufeeling,

to allow Eufeeling to work its magic,

as it knows it should in you.

Remember, you cut your finger, right?

What do you have to do
to heal that cut?

Nothing.

Your body takes care of it for you.

It knows everything about taking
care of that, you know nothing...

Maybe, probably...

...about the clotting and all
of that stuff, all of the chemistry.

Nobody knows the complete story
of how that cut heals,

but your body can do it.

And when you do QE, it's going to heal
faster and more completely.

That's all.

That doesn't mean you shouldn't put
some salve, or a band-aid on it,

or anything like that.

Alright?

So, your body knows how to do it,

QE just helps your body do it better,
that's the best way to look at it.

Now, emotionally...

Emotionally it's hard,
physically you can see it

or you can feel it, it's right there.

It's physical.

But what's the mind?

It's mental.

It's customary, you can't grab hold
of an emotion.

It can grab a hold of you.

So, how do we deal with it?

The same way we deal
with physical concerns

we deal with emotional concerns.

And that is, we become aware
of Eufeeling.

End of story.

Then we let Eufeeling,
or if you will, your body

take in that Eufeeling.

Your mind enriched and...

...filled with the harmony of Eufeeling
to do the healing.

Now, as I am talking
about this emotional concern...

My mother...

...was in the mid-stage of Alzheimer's...

...when I discovered QE.

She was at this mid-stage of Alzheimer's

and, emotionally, she was having
some problems,

you know, this up and down
and anger kind of thing...

...just in spurts.

And she was going to a neurologist
and they had their own medication

and so on and so forth.

I discovered...

...Eufeeling and how to share it
with other people

or how to make it available,
so other people could take joy from that.

And every day, during my lunch hour,

once I found out my mom's diagnosis,

I spent about 45 minutes
of that lunch hour with her...

...doing QE.

Now...

I just did it as a matter of course.

And after about 3 weeks,

she had to go back

to the doctor, to the neurologist...

...and...

...check her medication,
check her progress and everything.

And...

So, a remarkable change here,
three weeks.

Her emotions had levelled out...

...and her Alzheimer's seemed
to be reversing itself.

Now, they didn't say that,

they just cut back on her medication.

And so I continued to do it.

And...

And what happened was,

they actually stopped giving her
her Alzheimer's medication.

And I didn't get a diagnosis...

...but I can tell you
that her interaction with me...

...was so wonderful,
it was actually...

Between that time and the time she died
about three years later...

...was the most precious time
we had in our whole lives.

She was just very open, and warm,
and interactive.

And she could travel more,
she got around better.

So, not only did it help her emotionally,
it helped her with this problem...

...Alzheimer's.

It also increased her quality of life

in so many other ways, physically...

...and so on.

And so, this...

...emotional QE is very close...

...to my heart for that reason,
but we've had so many people...

...just respond so quickly.

And, as I mentioned, psychologists,

they love to tell stories,
their QE as successes.

And so we're gonna pass that on to you.

The technique is very simple,
like everything we do in QE,

and it requires no effort
and has immediate results.

So...

Without further ado, anymore chitchat,

what do you say we learn emotional QE.
Is that okay with you?

Good. Alright.

Now...

You remember the self-triangulation
that you did?

We're gonna start on that level. Okay.

And...

You've been doing this now
since our last lesson.

And you've been doing it regularly,

so the triangulation process,

especially for the physical,

it's second nature, it's coming along,
you're getting used to it.

It's not
that you have to keep practicing it.

It's just that....

Becoming aware of Eufeeling
we have at the back of our mind,

we should hold on to it
or push out thoughts.

And the practice sessions are
homework, if you will.

They just let us know that it's okay.

We don't have to do anything like that.

We just become aware of Eufeeling.

If it's not there,
become aware of it again.

Alright, so let's turn that
towards emotions now.

So what we're gonna do
before we start...

Find yourself a nice comfortable seat,
as usual,

and then...

...you're going to bring up
an emotional concern.

Now, we're only going to spend
a few minutes with this,

because I am demonstrating
or we're getting an idea

of how to do emotional QE.

So, don't pick the biggest
emotional problem in your life right now.

That will take a little bit longer,
maybe 10 or 15 minutes.

But we're only going to do this
for a few minutes, because I want you

to see how it moves, I want you to get
the flavor of emotional QE.

Okay?

Alright.

So...

Find some concern,
let's say a mid-range concern.

If 0 to 10, 10 being unbearable,

find something around a four,
a five, or a six.

Now, let's close our eyes...

...and bring up this emotional concern,
whatever it is.

Now...

I want you to bring up
the situation around.

For instance, if it's,
"I don't have enough money for the rent."

So, that's the situation,
I don't have enough money for the rent.

Now, what are the emotions
attached to it?

Okay.
So, you have...

...whatever it is, it could be anger,

could be frustration, grief.

Whatever that is,

just allow those emotions
to come up in your awareness.

Allow them to become as strong
as they're going to get.

Take your time, eyes closed.

Just let those emotions
come up and get strong.

Again, you haven't chosen a huge problem,
just a mediocre one.

And when the emotions are
as strong as they're going to get,

then grade them 0 to 10.

And remember that number...

...because we're going to do a post-test.

Okay.

Now...

Take your contact,

your A and B contact,
make sure it's comfortable.

Now become aware of contact A,

everything that you can become
aware of in contact A.

Become aware of contact B.

A and B at the same time.

And as soon as you do,

there's that little pause,

a little stutter, a little stop
in the thinking, just briefly.

And Eufeeling is there,
become aware of Eufeeling.

And when thoughts return,
when you find yourself...

...the mind wandering...

...just become aware of Eufeeling again.

And again, every time
that the mind wanders,

become aware of Eufeeling.

Now, after a minute or two..

...of becoming aware of Eufeeling,
of self-triangulation,

let your awareness easily go back...

...to the emotions and the situation...

...the negative emotions,
just don't dwell on them now,

just let your mind
easily go back to them.

Like checking in
to see if they're still there.

Like a mother checking to see
if a child is still asleep in bed.

And then, self-triangulation.
A, B and Eufeeling.

Thoughts come, return to Eufeeling.

And after a minute or so,
after a minute and a half,

just check in...

...with your emotions,

your situation and the emotions
attached to it.

And then continue back to Eufeeling.

And after a minute or so again,

just easily let your awareness
slip back to your emotions and situation.

Then back to triangulation.

Back to Eufeeling.

Okay, now...

Just allow your mind to wander,
just let it go...

...wherever it wants to go.

And we'll take a minute or so
before we allow our eyes to open.

So, just let your mind wander.

And with eyes still closed,

let's go back and grade...

...the emotions, do your post-test,

do the exact same thing that you did...

...to get the pre-test number.

Do that again...

...and come up with your post-test number.

And almost always we see
a significant drop.

Sometimes just a little bit
to begin with...

...but when we're done with today's lesson
do the post-test again...

...and you'll see it'll drop down
even more, because remember,

QE continues to work.

Okay, let your eyes open easily.

Good, good. Very good.

So...

The process here is quite simple.

Become aware of Eufeeling
for a minute or two.

I should say, do your pre-test,
it's good to get in that habit.

Bring up your emotions,
whether they're tested or not,

just bring them up...

...and allow them to come
into your consciousness,

whatever the negative emotion
or situation is,

then let it go.

Then you do the triangulation,
self-triangulation

for a minute and a half, two minutes,
something like that.

Eufeeling.

Then Eufeeling, oh I am thinking.

Okay, back to Eufeeling.
Contact A, B, Eufeeling.

Right? Okay.

And then, after another
couple of minutes,

just easily let your awareness go back

to the negative emotions
and the situation.

Just check in with it, let me see.

Yeah, there they are, okay.
And then go back

and triangulate with the self again.

Alright?

And you can do that
for as many repetitions as you like.

I would give it at least three.

And then just ease out.

Three repetitions

it takes you about five or six minutes
and that's good.

Now...

You can do this anytime.

Anytime.

And in our advanced work,

we're going to actually...

...make this triangulation a lot simpler.

I won't go into it now,
surprise you with it later,

but it's going to be so simple
that you can do it

walking around with your eyes open...

...and you can do this technique.

And, in fact, I'll give you
a something similar technique to that.

Alright, good. So, that's how we do

the self-triangulation
for emotional concerns.

For ourselves that is.

But now...

What about helping someone else
with emotional concerns?

Probably the first time
I realized the real power in this...

...I was with a friend of mine

and she got a call from her daughter.

Her daughter had gone away, left...

...her home, and went cross
the United States to a school.

She was in her second year,
having a very hard time with it.

Her mother answers the phone

and in just a few seconds
she's just turned white.

And I said, "What's the matter?"

And she just shook her head
and she said, "It's my daughter".

And then she listened a little bit longer.

And then she puts the phone down
and she says to me...

"She wants to kill herself."

"She wants to kill herself"
is what she said.

And I said...

"My goodness..."

"Have her do QE."
"She's too upset."

So, I said, "Will she talk to me?"

And so...

And so, she did, she agreed
to talk to me.

I talked to her on the phone
and what I did was

I became aware of Eufeeling.

And then, I asked her to become aware,

to describe her feelings,
she was very upset,

just describe her feelings
when I was aware of Eufeeling.

And then, as she described them,

after a little while, a couple,
three minutes on the phone,

I said, "Can you close your eyes
and describe them?"

Now she starts settling down
and I am still aware of Eufeeling.

So, I am doing QE but she doesn't...

She's just a part of this, and then...

...as I talk to her and have her bring up
the emotions and pay attention to them,

and close her eyes
finally when she could keep them closed,

in a very short time,

the urge to kill herself,

that suicidal tendency was gone.

Now, did I say, "Oh, QE cured her..."?

No. Of course, we suggested
she get help.

But the thing is, for that moment,

she was absolutely safe.

And she went on from there

to become healthier
and healthier at school, actually

got a post-graduate degree in psychology.

But here it was just the ability...

...to be with Eufeeling myself
and to allow her

to become aware of her problem...

...and then slowly
experience Eufeeling herself,

although, she wasn't aware
that was happening at that point...

...just to experience Eufeeling herself,
close her eyes, that's what happened.

Become aware of the problem,
close them.

And this gentle revolution, revolving

from Eufeeling to the problem

allowed that to heal in her.

Now, that's way more work
than it takes to do

emotional QE with your partner
and basically here's how you do it.

You ask your partner to bring up
their emotional concern.

Tell them, and this is very important,

don't tell me what your problem is,
I don't want to know,

I shouldn't know.

This does two things, many times
people don't want to share their problems,

and rightly so, especially
if they don't know you very well.

They don't have to with QE,
it's going to work anyhow.

Tell them to keep
the problem to themselves

and grade it 0 to 10.

And then have them tell you the number.

Now, if the number's up
at nine or ten,

you're going to want to do
this shared session with them.

You're going to want to do it
for a longer period of time.

Possibly even 30 minutes or so,
just depending on the upset.

Certainly, if I was with this
young lady who wanted to kill herself,

we would've spent at least
45 minutes or so until she's settled down,

doing QE, the triangulation.

So...

If it's higher up the scale,
spend a little longer time with them.

But here's what you do,
you become aware of Eufeeling.

I am sorry, before you start, you say,
"We're going to be doing Eufeeling...",

remember, this is very important,

"...just let your mind wander
wherever it wants to go."

Okay? Just let your mind wander
wherever it wants to go.

Then you begin doing QE, you triangulate.

And that's it. You don't have
to do anything else.

You don't have to run
them through it, because...

...the emotions will come on their own

and then they'll just quietly dissipate.

Now, there's one thing,
especially with emotion,

but it also happens with physical.

During the QE session...

...you might find that
your partner's condition is getting worse.

Maybe they had that sore shoulder
and during the session it gets worse

or they have an emotional concern
and all of a sudden they start crying

and the emotion gets stronger.

That's okay. That's part
of the healing process.

When it really needs to heal deeply

and quickly,

which is what QE does,

then many times it will flare up,
but it will never damage them.

For instance, the emotions won't be more
than they can handle, won't be damaging.

The physiology will feel,
"Oh my God, it's uncomfortable",

but there's no damage going on,
it's all part of the healing process.

And as soon as you start doing QE,
that'll settle right down,

emotionally or physically.

This is important to remember this.

So, if you're doing QE

and your partner becomes
very uncomfortable, let's say emotionally,

then just ask them,
"Would you like to take a short break?"

And they'll tell you,
"No, let's continue",

or they might say, "Yes, let's do it".
Take a minute, or two, or three.

Just have them take a break,

take a few deep breaths and stretch,
maybe drink a little water,

then go right back into it.

Because during that time
a lot of healing will take place,

it'll just get out of the body,
out of the mind.

Then you go back in, you'll find out
that it'll be quieter at that point.

So, that's very important,
especially with the emotional work.

And remember, we can't
do any harm with QE.

As long as you're doing QE, and that means
as long as you're doing nothing.

Of course, you can do harm
with a system that imposes your will

or creates some energy onto a person,

if we don't know that person,
or that energy, or whatever.

So, we're safe with this.

Okay, so do the triangulation
with your partner

and then, at the end, just make sure
to take a little more time...

...transitioning.

Especially, many partners will
close their eyes during a QE session.

And while you learned it standing up,

you can now do QE with your partner
sitting down if you like.

Personally, I like to start standing up
and if I am going to spend more time,

then I'll have them move
to a sitting position.

So, then afterwards, just have them
take a little more time coming out.

Also, and this is important,
when you're doing QE,

especially for yourself,

don't lie down, don't do it.

Your partner can lie down,
especially if they're feeling very bad

or if they can't sit up, that's fine.

We've had a lot of...

...terminally ill
or critically ill patients,

burned patients and accident patients

who can't sit up

and, in fact, lying down was just fine.

But when you're doing QE,

when you become aware, the best position
is either standing or sitting.

And when you're doing
self-triangulation...

...it's best to just sit,

standing is even a little bit hard,

so kind of follow
those rules a little bit.

How do you know when your partner...

When QE or Eufeeling is doing its work
within your partner?

This is a good question.

There are four general indicators. One...

You might see a little
gentle swaying with your partner...

...that can happen, they can sway, twist,

or just some bottling movement like that.

Just keep an eye on them,

they might be disoriented
and they might tend to fall.

You don't need to fall down
with QE in order to heal.

Standing up is just fine.

And as an initiator,
you just want to make sure

that your partner is always comfortable.

Number two,

you'll see a change in their breathing.

They might take kind of a sigh.

(exhaling)

That's an indication that Eufeeling
is doing its job.

Or they may become very shallow breathing.

Maybe you notice this within yourself
while you're doing

your self-triangulation,
breathing stops all together.

That's an indication
that you're so deeply at rest

that you don't need oxygen
for that period of time.

Don't worry, you'll always start
breathing again, as you need it.

But this QE, this experience is so deep

that people will often stop breathing
for a short period of time,

because they just don't need
that much oxygen.

The body is so harmonious, working so well

that it can take a break
and that's very healing.

So...

Healing aspect of QE,
emotionally or physically...

...is it can flare up like this

and it can settle down really quickly,
we're just easy about it.

As an initiator, we're not forcing,
we're not trying

and we don't want to get wrapped into,
"Oh my God, are they going to heal?"

I did this one time.

Early...

...when I first discovered QE,

a magazine came to do an article
and take some pictures.

They were there and I am thinking,

there's only me, the photographer
and the reporter.

So, I said to the reporter,
"So, do you have a problem?"

And she says, "Yeah, my neck,"

"I was in an accident six months ago
and it stopped moving."

So, I said, "Okay, we'll do QE".

So, I am doing QE,
after a couple of minutes

I stopped doing QE and she didn't have
any of the swaying or anything, nothing.

And I said...

- "How is that, better?"
- "No".

Okay, so let's do it a little longer.
So, we did QE a little longer.

And I am thinking, you know,
this is going to be a pretty bad interview

if nothing happens here,

and so my ego starts
to get involved in this.

And I started saying to myself,

"Okay, Eufeeling. Get in there Eufeeling!
Do your job, come on!"

"Don't make a fool out of me,
come on Eufeeling!"

And we stopped again, she says,
"No, I think it's even worse".

(laughing)

I said, "Alright, let's go
just one more time."

And I said to myself...

"Frank, you've already botched
this whole thing so badly."

"It doesn't matter, just enjoy
Eufeeling for yourself."

And I experienced Eufeeling

for another two or three minutes,
I was in bliss actually.

And then when we stopped, she goes,
"Wow! It works, I can turn my neck!"

See? It doesn't work
when you add something to it.

Whenever ego is involved,
and I'll expand on this a little bit later

in the advanced section,
what ego does and how we overcome that.

So...

The breathing and the swaying
are two parts of it.

The third part is, your partner
might get very warm,

they generate a lot of heat.

And then you might find

that their body's just relaxed.

Maybe under your fingers
you'll feel muscles just relax.

So, those four things. The breathing,
the swaying, the heat and the relaxation.

And I have to say,
if they're really deeply in it

and Eufeeling is taking over,

you'll see a little spittle
drop down their chin onto their chest.

Now, I am kidding!

So, those four things are good indicators,
but they don't have to be there.

In fact, one woman came to me
with a problem,

she had this terrible headache,

she couldn't grip with her left arm.

I knew this was neurological.

And the grip strength wasn't there,
she had this...

...sort of sinus pressure,

but a headache in the back,
not from the sinuses

and just felt terrible,
she was totally white, she said

that she had been menstruating
for about six weeks...

...without stopping.

And so, I did QE with her
for about three, four minutes.

And she says no change,
she didn't sway,

she didn't get warmer,
she didn't do any of those things.

And so I did QE a little bit longer,
for another four, five minutes.

No change whatsoever.

And I said, "Well".
I wasn't involved in her healing

and I knew that I experienced Eufeeling

and it was easy,

and I felt some relaxation
and some good feeling,

so I knew I did my job...

...just to become aware of Eufeeling.

She was responsible for her own healing.

Even though she asked me for help,
that was all the help I could provide,

is Eufeeling for her at that point,
so she decides...

I said, "Now I can't do
much more for you today, go home."

"And give me a call in the morning,
we'll set up another appointment."

She went home,
but she called me that night.

And she says, "On my way home,
my sinuses"

"just broke loose and started flushing".

She said that it was so bad
she almost had to pull over.

She said...

"The mucus got on the steering wheel
and I was sliding..."

No, okay. It didn't get that bad.

But she said it just cleared out

and her sinuses were all clear.

She said, "Now that I am home,"

"my headache's gone
and the strength in my arm is perfect."

I got another call
from her the next morning.

She said, "I stopped menstruating".

See? All that...

...but no changes in her
while we were doing the session,

no changes at all.

And if I were trying,
if I were in that trying mode,

I would force, try to make it happen
or try to get involved in,

but I know that I did all that I could do.

And that is, I did nothing.

Experience Eufeeling and then let it
take care of itself there.

It's a very gentle and beautiful process.

So, that's how you do...

...emotional QE for yourself

and for a partner.

And some of the things to look for
when you're sharing with a partner.

Alrighty.

So, we have finished this lesson four.

And that then brings us
right on up against the lesson five.

And in lesson five I am going to show you

how to do remote QE, QE at a distance.

And guess what?

You probably use remote QE
more than any other form,

because you can reach out
and touch somebody

on the other side of the Earth
or in the next room.

And guess what?

Remote QE works just as good...

...as being right there
and touching that partner.

So, it's an exciting
and an expanded application...

...of QE and I am really looking forward
for you and I

getting together to learn that.

In the meantime,

do some emotional QE.

I'd like to see you do at least
one sharing with a partner,

three or four, if you can do it,
would be really good.

And do a lot of emotional work,
a lot of emotional QE,

the self-triangulation at home,
get in about 10 minutes.

It doesn't have
to be emotional every time,

but at least add it in there
two, or three, or four times

before we get back together

and you and I go through a remote QE.

See you then.

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