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Hello. I'm a man who's attracted to men.
I'm preparing to legally change my gender from female to male.
I'm lesbian now.
I'm homosexual.
I'm bisexual.
I'm lesbian.
I'm an FTM transgender.
I'm gay.
(Queer)
(1. Strange, odd, 2. Homosexual)
(Queer people...)
(whom we see as different are among us.)
(To some, it's a story of differences.)
Ever since I could remember, I think...
I always liked men.
I was in elementary school when I sensed that I liked girls.
At first, the word, "gay," made me uncomfortable.
I can tell people that my significant other is transgender.
I don't identify myself as a woman.
I have dated men.
But the feelings I had for them didn't deepen to the point of love.
(The world sees our lives as different.)
(The world sees our lives as different.)
(I thought it was irrelevant to me, but it became relevant.)
(I thought you would be at least a bit understanding at first.)
(This is a different matter of having a bit of understanding.)
(How am I going to live with this?)
(I don't know where it went wrong.)
(No parents will understand their children on their first try.)
Tears are just falling at the thought of trying...
to persuade your parents?
(We can't have kids.)
(I think you might change your mind later.)
(And another word to describe a different me, "queer")
(And another word to describe a different me, "queer")
(Restricted Area)
(But on a closer look,)
(our stories share more similarities than differences.)
(The ordinary stories of extraordinary us will begin.)
(The ordinary stories of extraordinary us will begin.)
(Hong Seok Cheon, Shin Dong Yeob, Hani)
- Gosh. We only watched the prologue. - Goodness.
- You guys did an amazing job. - Is this how it's going to be? Really?
I thought this would be a fun show.
The prologue was so moving.
When I first got the offer to be on this show,
- I was quite surprised. - Right.
At last.
I realized...
- our society has changed a lot... - Yes.
and that people started to accept these differences little by little.
That crossed my mind. How was it for you when you got the offer?
I was very surprised as well.
I thought that the world was finally ready to see this kind of courage.
I was excited and looking forward to this.
Do you have any friends who would be relevant to this show?
No. I don't know anyone who would be.
You probably haven't figured them out.
(Laughing)
- I'm sure there were a few. - For sure.
- For sure. - I'm sure there were.
- For sure. - I see.
- I'm sure there were some friends... - Yes.
- who liked her when they were in school. - Yes.
When your agency found out that Seok Cheon and I would be...
on the show with you, didn't they try to stop you?
- This could be a bit risky. - Why?
- Aren't you the least risky pair? - Really?
I see. In that sense,
- we are quite safe. - Of course.
But the nature and intensity of the program...
could be serious.
But I do feel that our society has changed a lot...
because people at my agency are interested in the show.
And they are looking forward to this.
A long time ago, after I came out, I hit a rough patch.
Dong Yeob had been there for me in so many ways.
This is what I told him.
"There might be a TV show later on, talking about..."
- "what I'm going through." - That's right. You said that.
- I did. Right? - Yes.
- Gosh. That's right. You did say that. - Yes.
- We thought it wouldn't be possible. - Right.
We weren't sure if people would be willing...
to share their innermost stories on TV.
- Right. - But people are proud to show that on TV.
It's not like...
- We're not keeping it hush-hush. Right. - we're recommending this,
- supporting these relationships blindly, - We're not here to embellish it.
- That's not it. - or encouraging people.
- We're just here to watch. - Right.
It's a chance for us...
to observe different people and different lives.
And it's also a chance for us to focus on their sincerity...
in my opinion.
(Coming out: All the mornings with you)
Gosh. They are so lovey-dovey.
Wake up.
(Wake up. It's morning!)
(Don't bother me.)
Wake up already.
I see. They weren't his fingers.
(The fingers don't give up.)
(Biting)
Why did you bite me?
(I'm going to get even with you!)
(That's not nice.)
Why are you so lazy?
My mom said lazy guys are the worst.
I have never been lazy.
Yes, you have.
I'll help you get up.
Don't you think those pajamas are so sweet?
- Yes. - They are matching pajamas.
(They look so cute.)
(I don't want to get up.)
Stop it.
(Playful)
Don't touch me.
(They seem so lovey-dovey like newlyweds. Who are they?)
We are in a relationship.
It's been about 590 days since we started dating. Right?
It's been about 590 days.
First of all, Min Jun is...
very smart and has fair skin.
And he was popular too.
But now, he's all mine.
(They are in a sweet phase.)
When he works, he's really cool and sexy.
Bo Sung is kind. He's a good driver.
I find him the most lovable...
when he's cleaning a big mess in the house.
What?
What do you call that? Snake Bride?
- Snail Bride. - Snail Bride.
What's Snake Bride?
There was a time when I touched him jokingly.
(When were you certain that he could be your partner?)
Well, I wasn't sure if I could just call our relationship...
a mere friendship,
so I gave him a peck on the lips.
When I did, I felt a spark between us.
(Feeling shy)
That's when I felt this was it.
(Laughing)
What if only you got the spark?
I think so too.
- Do you want coffee? - Yes.
I'm worried.
What am I going to cook for my friends at our housewarming party?
Buy some meal kits.
(Dumbfounded)
Then it will look like I'm not making any effort.
(Is that so?)
We have some meat.
I have to put them out at room temperature.
Let's cook that when they come over.
(Pork neck and beef ribs)
- And we'll eat the good cut? - Yes.
- I guess they're having friends over. - Really?
- It's a housewarming party. - Yes.
(They are cleaning every inch of the house too.)
Min Jun is cooking. And Bo Sung is cleaning.
- We should put in a new trash bag. - Yes.
(He's good at recycling too.)
Bo Sung, is there anything you want to eat later?
- Yes. - What?
You.
(Look at these kids.)
(They are going to be this blunt?)
That's so sweet.
(Goodness.)
(Studying his face)
(He approaches Min Jun and pokes him on the bottom.)
(They are playful.)
Goodness. They are so lovey-dovey.
(Min Jun prepares breakfast.)
(What's Bo Sung doing?)
Come here.
What?
Bring your lips.
(He figures it out.)
Pout your lips.
(Pecking)
I didn't get any on my lips. Maybe, you didn't put enough on your lips.
There's no color on your lips.
(This time, he dabs it on Min Jun's lips.)
(He wraps it up with a kiss.)
Dong Yeob, it's been a while since you did that, right?
No. Why do you say that?
I do things I can't share on TV.
(He's controlling himself as he's on TV.)
That looks tasty.
- Thanks for cooking, baby. - Sure.
- They are having meat for breakfast. - Meat for breakfast?
(This is tasty.)
What do I have to buy at the supermarket later?
I should call my friends and ask what they want to have.
Then call them now and ask what they want to eat.
Hello?
(Hello?)
Hello.
- Jae Hee. - Yes?
What do you want to eat later?
What do you want me to cook for you?
- Gujeolpan. - Gujeolpan?
- That's the hardest Korean dish to make. - Or the royal hot pot.
(Boiling with annoyance)
(He ends the call mercilessly.)
(Laughing)
What should I cook?
(Getting annoyed)
Then call another friend.
Right. I should call Ji Soo.
- Hello. - Yes.
Is there anything you want to eat later?
(Ji Soo was a man?)
- What can you cook? - He must have other gay friends.
- What can I cook? - Yes.
I can cook anything. Tell me what you want to eat.
I just want Korean food.
What kind of Korean food?
Stew? Like kimchi stew or some soup?
(I see.)
What's wrong with your voice?
I just woke up.
I'm tired.
(Acting cute)
(Clenching)
Why are you suddenly trying to sound cute?
I'm not trying to sound cute.
Are you trying to hit on me?
(I can't believe them!)
(Is he teasing his friend?)
(Or is he serious?)
You should start dating men now.
I'm curious too.
No.
(Boiling with anger)
- Okay. See you later. - Bo Sung seems really bothered.
- He's just a friend. - Okay.
- They can make jokes and all. - Right.
(A suspicious gaze)
- What's the deal with you guys? - What?
- What's the deal with you guys? - He's my friend from high school.
- Really? - Yes.
- They are high school friends. - I have a question.
When you call other guys,
do you say that they are trying to hit on you?
Because they do hit on me.
You're sick.
I want to be nice to you, but you make it impossible for me.
- I do? Why? - Yes.
I want to pet you like this, but I want to smack you too.
- Why? - Because you're annoying.
- They are walking on thin ice now. - Yes.
Of course, he would be jealous.
- Should we get ready now? - Yes.
They use brushes.
They wake up together in the morning...
and talk to each other in a loving manner.
And I bet the viewers have never seen this before.
- Probably. - Even I don't do that on TV.
- Right. - So...
a lot of them might be flustered...
- and find it unfamiliar. - Yes.
I think that's possible.
Even I felt this was new.
"How should I accept this?"
It's definitely new, and we haven't seen this before.
But I think I'll get used to seeing this.
I understand that...
watching 2 men in their early and mid-20s together on TV...
might be awkward.
(Right.)
- But that's the point. - Right.
To them, this is completely natural.
(They visit the supermarket to prepare for the housewarming party.)
What do we need for vegetables?
We need to buy...
There it is.
(Spotting their ingredient)
- Hold on. - And a bag of Cheongyang chili peppers.
- They did makeup to go grocery shopping? - What else?
And we probably have to buy tofu.
Right here.
- Can I try some? - Of course.
Thank you.
(Trying the food)
(Humming in approval)
- Hey, what are you doing? - This is so good.
Are you guys idol stars?
No.
- I'll take this. - Okay.
- Thank you. - Enjoy.
It's okay.
- Can I have one more? - Of course.
- Thank you. - Stop eating.
(I love sampling food.)
Thank you.
By the way, we look like newlyweds grocery shopping.
(Stop it.)
Come here.
(Stop it.)
- What? - People are watching.
(Stop it.)
No. An old lady might collapse if she sees us.
- No. - She will.
Not in Korea yet.
(They are cute.)
"Not in Korea yet." Right.
They are lovey-dovey.
Oh, no. We're so behind schedule.
- Start cooking. I'll set up the table. - Okay.
Even if my friends say it's not good, you have to say it's good.
Sure.
(Ringing)
- They are already here. - His friends are here.
Who is that?
No way. It's Jae Hee.
- Really? - Yes.
(He's happy to see his friend.)
Hello.
(Hello.)
- Jae Hee is here. - Jae Hee? Jae Hee!
- Hey. - It's been a while.
- What are you doing? - I'm cooking.
What are you doing?
- I'm washing the dishes. - She's friends with both of them.
What delicious food are you going to cook for us?
- Kimchi stew. - Kimchi stew?
(Min Jun's anticipated dish, kimchi stew)
- Let me try that. - Okay.
- Hey, see what else I should add. - This.
Let's see.
(Let's see.)
(This is edible, right?)
(Slurping)
(How is it?)
(Tasting)
Hey, this will be good once you add some sugar.
- Sugar? - Yes.
- You need a sweet flavor in kimchi stew. - Just sugar?
- Yes, just sugar. - Right.
How much?
(Pouring)
- This much? - No.
But the sugar just poured out.
Hold on.
Hey, this will be too sweet.
No. It's okay.
(I can salvage this.)
- I'm glad she came first. - Yes.
If your friend came first,
I might have been awkward because I don't know him.
- You? - Yes.
(It looks somewhat tasty.)
- That... - It looks tasty at least.
- It does. But the sugar water is boiling. - Who is it?
(He's here!)
- It's Ji Soo. - Open it. He's my friend.
It's that friend.
He made Bo Sung nervous.
- Why am I opening the door? - Open the door.
(First impressions are important.)
- Hello. - Hello.
- Who are you? - I'm Min Jun's friend.
Min Jun's friend.
(The friend in question shows up bearing gifts.)
Ji Soo.
I didn't buy anything.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Awkward)
(It's so awkward.)
It's awkward.
- Go and sit over there. - It's been so long.
(Long time no see.)
- Which one? - Why do you look like a robot?
- You can sit there. - Okay.
- Can I start? - Yes.
- Thank you for the food. - Thank you for the food.
I cooked the stew. Try it.
You tried it?
He's good at cooking.
(A lot of sugar went into the kimchi stew.)
This is good.
(She didn't mean it.)
- He added too much sugar earlier. - He added too much sugar.
(It's better than he thought.)
It's pretty good.
- He complimented on the food. - Maybe, it's my preference.
You said you wanted to have this, so I cooked it. How is it?
It's just okay.
(Just okay?)
- Just okay? - Yes. It's a compliment coming from me.
Can you introduce us?
Right. Let me introduce you.
This is Ji Soo. He sat next to me in high school.
And this is Jae Hee. She's a close friend of mine.
And this is Bo Sung, my boyfriend.
I saw your photos online when you were a Facebook star.
- A Facebook star? - How was he in high school?
- When he was in high school? - Yes.
He was chatty and kind.
He got along with other friends well.
He was so close to girls.
Is that when you came out?
- When did I come out? - You...
When we got pretty close, you called me at night and said,
"You know I like men, right?"
I was a little taken aback, but I had a hunch earlier.
- There's a feeling you get. - That's true. You get a feeling.
If I'm sleeping, he'd poke me in the side.
I'd think, "That's weird. Why is he doing that?"
After he came out,
I said it didn't matter since he didn't like me in that way.
We're friends,
- so as long as he doesn't like me... - As long as he doesn't like me.
There wasn't anything like that.
I'm really grateful to Ji Soo...
because when I came out,
I think a lot of guys could think,
"Maybe he likes me."
But he wasn't like that at all, so I'm grateful when I think about it.
Every shoe has its pair.
Of the people you know,
did anyone react negatively...
when you came out?
- React negatively? - Yes.
- It couldn't have been all good. - That's true.
When I came out,
my friends were split 5 to 5, or more like 7 to 3.
- Good reactions for the seven? - Yes, good ones.
(Positive reactions were 7.)
They acknowledged it.
Things have changed so much.
We couldn't even dream of this back in my day.
Even when Seok Cheon came out,
most people were already aware.
We had our suspicions confirmed.
We always knew he was different.
That's because I kept dropping hints.
"Please catch on before I have to say it."
It was scary for me to bring it up first,
and I was worried I would be attacked or left by people if I told them.
But I dropped hints here and there,
and the more tactful friends I had...
sensed that I was different.
Some of them asked me what was going on, and that's when I told them.
- It was easier to say something then. - Yes, at that time.
At the time, Song Seung Heon, Seok Cheon, and I...
were filming together often.
It wasn't easy to bring that topic up.
He might not turn out to be gay after all.
It might just be his style.
If he said he wasn't gay, it would've been very rude of us.
Another important thing is,
what if we asked him, he said he was,
and he suddenly came on to me?
That's why.
Why are you worried about that?
I told you so many times you aren't my type.
I only had eyes for Seung Heon then.
When I came out and told everyone,
they all said they already knew.
You must've dropped a lot of hints.
You can tell by watching him, from his behavior.
How was it for you, Bo Sung?
When did you come out?
For me,
I knew it in middle school.
"Do I like women or men?" was what I was wondering then.
- There was a debate. - Everyone goes through that stage.
Then, I knew for sure when I was 20.
When I was in high school, I was trying more to fit in.
- In high school? - Yes.
Because I didn't have any friends like me.
I just dated women then.
And I'd break up with them after a year.
That's when I knew.
(He discovered his identity at 20 years old.)
That's when I knew, at 20.
So how did everyone react when they found out?
When they found out,
some friends naturally distanced themselves from me.
- Really? - Yes.
How? By avoiding your calls?
At first, yes.
They were shocked that I was dating a man.
That's true. In the beginning, it's like that.
There are always friends who say it's dirty or it doesn't make sense.
That must be so hurtful.
Didn't anyone say anything rude if you told people...
that you were friends with me?
That did happen to me.
As you know, they'd ask who goes where.
Saying it's dirty?
A lot of people said it was dirty.
That's when I always said,
"Even if that were true, they make better money than you,"
"they live better than you,"
"and they're much better looking than you are."
(How refreshing.)
- That happened. - Thank you.
You guys turned out so great.
- It's good to see. - Yes, totally.
Bo Sung and I have lived together...
For how long now?
- It's been over a year. - That's right.
We're thinking about registering our marriage.
- That's a different problem altogether. - Getting married?
Now they're feeling complicated things.
(Flustered)
Her fingers don't know where to go.
This caught me off guard.
Did you tell your parents about this?
- The family has to be involved. - At first, my mom just laughed,
like it was something absurd.
- She laughed? - Laughing or crying, I don't know.
But what my mother said was,
"I hope you don't have a hard time."
There are a lot of people who would leave terrible comments about that.
Yes, she was saying that because she cared about you.
She must've meant...
that you shouldn't pay attention to them and live your life proudly.
- That's right. - Yes.
- What about you, Min Jun? - And Min Jun?
When I was about 20,
I told my mother,
"I'm going to marry a man."
What did she say when you first told her that?
It must've been when you came out.
When I first came out to her in high school?
- Yes, what did your mother say? - She was bedridden for three days.
That's a natural reaction.
That's a normal reaction from a parent.
What about after that?
My mother got up on the third day and said,
"If you live as an LGBTQ person, isn't that really hard?"
That's what she said.
But I think she knew.
There's a woman among my mom's friends...
who's especially close with her.
I talked about that friend and asked my mother,
"If someone told you to marry that friend, could you do it?"
- Straightforwardly. - Yes.
"If they say women have to marry women, could you do it?"
That's what I asked my mother.
- My mother said she couldn't. - She said she couldn't.
So I told my mother,
that's the same for me.
"When I think of women, I think of them the same way you do."
You won her over.
I think she started to think...
that she needed to accept this about me.
(She was able to understand Min Jun's feelings.)
It is the same.
Social status and other factors...
lead people to hide the fact that they're gay.
But to naturally date women,
kiss them, and marry them...
That's as difficult for them...
as it is for Hani to kiss and marry...
a member of EXID.
That sounds so hard.
- That's exactly it. - So hard.
That's how hard it is.
But because of social expectations...
and certain social standards...
Making a choice that you hate so much,
I don't think I could do it.
When I didn't know better,
I thought that if people tried, they could change their sexual orientation.
That's exactly what my parents said.
"Seok Cheon, if you try, you can change this."
- They said this to me. - But that's...
Because they didn't know better.
(Misunderstanding and bias stemmed from ignorance.)
Older people might think that it's something you can fix.
And they would use an expression that implies it's wrong.
But in actuality, that's not the case.
You're just like my father.
Get that hand out of my face.
I congratulate you sincerely,
- but I'm a little worried. - About what?
The two of you.
If you do something like that...
when people don't look favorably on same-sex couples,
- things could get harder for you. - Things could get tough.
- Right. - I did think a lot about that.
I think I'll regret it...
if I don't marry Bo Sung.
I don't think it can be anyone other than Min Jun.
At first, I was against marriage.
But as we lived together,
I found we share the same values, and everything was going well,
so I decided on this.
I hope you change the social perceptions on this issue.
That's right. Break them down.
We genuinely want to do that too.
For anyone who comments badly,
I'm going to add mean comments to their posts too.
- How reliable! - What a good friend to have.
How reliable.
I really congratulate you on your marriage.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
They have a couple of friends who really understand them.
(That's such a relief.)
Honestly, we can cheer for them,
but the path they've chosen won't be easy.
In Korea,
can two men apply for a marriage license?
- Not yet. - No.
That's so sad.
They've made a decision for their own personal happiness,
but this is standing in their way.
They're blocking off the road...
to my own happiness.
I've asked friends around me...
when they feel the most affected by that.
Let's say the two of us are a couple. Let's say I suddenly fall ill.
So we go to the hospital,
and they ask, "Are you the caretaker?"
In those situations, they can't be each other's legal caretakers.
Even though they've lived together for ten years,
just like a married couple.
- It seems they should have that right. - But they don't.
Just because they're the same sex,
these problems arise.
- Everything is blocked. - A lot of things are, yes.
(A refreshing morning that starts off with the sound of an alarm)
Who is this couple?
- Look, puppies! - They have puppies!
They're so cute.
(Tapping)
(Rustling about)
Kiss me.
(Giggling)
You look so ugly.
The first thing they say to each other is "You look so ugly"?
- We should go to a swimming pool. - They're a real couple, all right.
(Overflowing with love)
Get up.
(Get off me.)
(Chuckling)
Get off me, everybody.
That's so cute.
"Get off me, everybody."
Let's go.
Hello.
We've been dating for about two years.
- I'm Min Ju. - I'm Ji Hae.
I'm preparing to legally change my gender from female to male.
I'm an FTM transgender.
He's changing his legal gender.
(Gender change: To legally change one's gender)
I'm bisexual.
Min Ju is a very positive person,
so when we're together, I get her positive energy.
One of her cons is that she's lazy,
so when we're home together,
all she wants to do is laze around and watch dramas.
(Smiling)
My boyfriend is well-mannered,
has a nice body, is sexy,
doesn't talk much,
and looks very sincere, but once he starts talking,
he has so much charm. That's one of his pros.
And he says he loves me very much.
(Moved)
They're so cute.
When we brush our teeth,
we should put our hands on our hips and brush our teeth.
You know that, right?
(You got something on yourself.)
(Hold my hair, please.)
Hold my hair for me too.
Sure.
She's holding on to that tiny bit.
- Have you ever learned to swim? - No.
- Do you know how? - Oh, actually I have.
You have?
When I was in elementary school, I learned Taekwondo.
And anyone who wanted to learn to swim could learn it too.
I learned how to swim then, as a kid.
(Patting)
- I'm nervous about swimming. - Me too.
I want to swim a lot so my shoulders get broader.
He must like sports.
I'm all done now.
(So pretty!)
I'm all done now.
- I'm fast, right? - So pretty!
- Don't lie. - It's the truth.
Do I really look pretty?
Don't lie.
(Sweet and loving)
Should we try on our bathing suits?
(Gasping)
We have to pack towels and stuff too.
(Ji Hae changes into his swimsuit.)
(Rustling)
- Are you done changing? - Yes.
- Are you done changing? - Yes.
(A dashing man)
- How do I look? - It looks good on you.
- But there's a problem. - What is it?
It looks too empty down there for me.
(Exclaiming)
(Feeling pity)
That's something only he can feel.
Let me see.
(Looking this way and that)
Turn to the side.
Like this?
(Well...)
You shouldn't worry about that.
Should I put something in there?
It looks too empty.
But you're going in the water.
It'll start floating.
When we're doing warmup exercises.
- Warmup exercises. - Take a look.
- It looks fine. - And 1, 2, 3!
(Laughing her head off)
- How is it? - I said it looks fine.
It looks too empty.
No one's going to look at you there.
Should I put one of these in?
(Please don't.)
- Let's put one in. - Stop that.
When the socks get wet, they'll get soggy and heavy.
Socks?
(Stuffing it in)
(Oh, my gosh.)
- How does it look? - What are you doing?
Confidence.
- What do you think? - It's weird and obvious.
It doesn't look good?
This is a serious problem for him.
I can see that.
He said he was transgender before,
but he added some letters to it.
Yes, there are differences.
There is FTM, which stands for "female to male".
Then there's the opposite, MTF,
which stands for "male to female".
- Ji Hae... - Ji Hae...
has gotten breast reduction surgery.
He also exercises a lot,
and he must be undergoing hormone therapy.
(Ji Hae tries jogging vigorously.)
Does it look more natural now?
It looks too obvious. Don't do it.
I'm the only one who looks so empty.
No one will care.
- Will no one look at me? - Definitely not.
Everyone will be busy swimming,
not staring at yours.
I've never looked straight on at someone's crotch like that,
ever.
No one looks straight on.
You must've seen it out of the corners of your eyes though.
(Laughing and clapping)
Just a peek,
even if it wasn't on purpose, just here and there.
You can tell from peeking...
whether someone is well-developed.
You're gay, so you look a lot.
- I do? - At the pool, is that even necessary?
I've never really looked.
But people are walking around in bathing suits,
so sometimes you just see it.
Even when he's swimming, he only watches the backstroke.
(Bursting into laughter)
Men's backstroke.
This is my first time going to a real swimming pool,
not one in an amusement park.
Ever since I was young, I wanted to go to a pool,
but there was my chest, and they wanted me to wear a women's bathing suit.
You must've really hated the women's bathing suit part.
- Of course I did. - So you must not have gone.
I only wanted to go.
I never even thought, "Let's go."
If I were alone, I wouldn't have the courage to go to a swimming pool.
I only have the courage now because I'm with you.
- That's why I'm so scared now. - I bet.
Once I get more muscle, I won't even wear a rashguard.
I'm just going to go topless.
I'm so nervous.
(At the pool in Cheonan)
This is going to be fun.
- Hello. - Hello.
Is it your first time here?
- Yes. - I'll go over the basics with you then.
First, the man can take this key...
and go to the changing room on the first floor.
The woman can go to the second floor.
But...
I'm in the process of changing my gender from female to male.
So the changing rooms are a problem.
- I see. - My birth certificate hasn't changed yet.
(Seok Cheon has turned to stone.)
It hasn't changed yet.
So that employee has to decide which changing room to assign.
How will he do that?
That's so complicated.
You're not uncomfortable both using the second-floor changing room then?
You don't want to go into the women's changing room?
(Ji Hae and Min Ju become quiet.)
Of course.
- So that's how it is. - So that's a problem.
I thought you were a couple,
so I thought it would be fine to guide you as a man and a woman,
but because this time might overlap with others using the pool,
I will need to go through some confirmation processes first.
I'll help you with entry after seeing your passport or ID card.
- Then we'll have to go back home. - We'll have to get them from home.
I'm afraid that will be necessary even if it's inconvenient for you.
(What?)
- Then we'll show them to you later. - All right.
So they're going home?
- They couldn't go to the pool? - But they were so excited.
There are so many things that are inconvenient.
(Sighing deeply)
There are a lot of things you can't take for granted.
Are you feeling okay, honey?
I did anticipate this,
but everything is inconvenient.
It's because we haven't finished your legal gender change.
That's why you're going through...
so many difficult things.
For MTF transgenders,
once they finish going through their legal gender change,
they can go to women's bathhouses too.
They can shower as women in the swimming pools.
But in our case,
changing genders doesn't change anything.
Whenever there's a situation like this,
I want to get gender-affirming surgery for my genitals too.
- Gender-affirming surgery for genitals? - Yes.
(Min Ju feels more concerned since she knows how Ji Hae feels.)
Hello?
Yes, I'm calling from the pool...
- which you visited earlier. - Hello.
This is the first time we've experienced this kind of situation,
so we need to confer before we make any final decisions.
I'm calling to say you should come back another time.
- What? - So we can't come back today?
Yes, I think that will be difficult. I'm sorry.
- They were denied entry. - All right.
I'm sorry. See you again next time.
All right.
Gosh.
(One phone call makes even their smallest hope vanish.)
Wait a minute, this is...
They were so excited, trying on their bathing suits earlier.
So even if they brought their IDs,
they still wouldn't be allowed in.
- That's very... - That must be so painful.
Changing rooms, bathrooms,
saunas, swimming pools, etc.
When transgender people go to these places,
these kinds of problems often crop up.
They're always running into walls.
Right, and they have to think of ways to get around those obstacles.
You said you were going to make me dinner tonight.
What are we going to eat?
What are you making for me today?
Since you've had no energy lately...
- I'm going to make you abalone porridge. - Abalone porridge.
We're also having sliced raw octopus.
- You know how to make abalone porridge? - She's cooking for him.
Yes.
But you haven't made it before.
It'll be fine. Trust me.
If you use these, you'll get a lot of guts to use.
- About three of them, right? - Or eight.
Why are you suddenly making me abalone porridge?
You seem to be low on energy lately,
so it's to give you more energy.
- Isn't that impressive? - What will I do with more energy?
With more energy, be energetic!
(Giggling)
What do you mean by that?
- Be energetic with more energy. - I'm making it for you.
- I'm so moved. - So moved.
Here you go.
- Thank you. - Are you a married couple?
- Yes. - Yes.
(Giggling)
Have a fun life!
- Thank you. - Thank you.
- We must be a married couple. - We're newlyweds.
I'll make abalone porridge for you.
(Sighing)
They're alive.
- They're moving. - They have to clean them first.
- Look, the dirt's coming off. - That's right.
We have to go to the bathhouse too.
I can't go there.
Oh, no.
We went once a long time ago.
I guess that was our first and last time.
That's true.
For the two of them to go to the bathhouse together,
they'll have to go to the women's bath,
but Ji Hae can't do that.
Because they started dating when they were both women.
I'll just scrub your back for you at home.
That sounds great.
We just do this, and then boil.
(Working hard)
It's starting to look like porridge.
(Adding the finishing touch)
(Dropping the egg on top)
We're done cooking.
Min Ju, thank you for the meal.
No problem.
- It looks so tasty. - Eat up.
I gave you a lot of abalones,
so you can have more energy.
(Taking a bite)
(Eyes widening, brows furrowing)
- Is it really good? - Yes.
- But is it really good? - Yes.
(Happy)
It's so delicious.
Really.
The abalone is so tender.
- It's really good. - It's really good.
Really.
They're so pretty together.
(Proud of them)
Min Ju,
I want to legally change my gender from female to male.
When I told you I wanted to change my legal gender to male,
how did you feel?
At first, what I thought was,
"Really? Is that necessary?"
And that's because...
I hadn't talked with you about this topic seriously yet,
so I didn't know you wanted to become a man, honestly.
I thought we could just live the way we were living.
I wondered if it was necessary to change your gender.
In any case, if I change my gender from female to male,
- I become transgender. - Right.
But for me,
as I'm sure it was for many people,
I didn't feel comfortable hearing that.
"You're a tranny?"
That doesn't feel nice.
But what I'm curious about...
is when you completely transition to being male,
what's the first thing you want to do?
The very first thing.
When you become a Korean male.
What do you want to do first?
(Thinking deeply)
- I was curious about that too. - Maybe start with military service?
(Chuckling)
For example,
marry me?
(Bursting into laughter)
It seems like there was a right answer before she asked the question.
The answer is already set.
(For example,)
(marry...)
(me?)
No, not that.
Well...
(Snorting with laughter)
- That's disappointing. - Not that.
(Thinking for a while)
When you go to the hospital,
there's a figure of a woman drawn on my chart.
It says "Yu Ji Hae, female."
There's a female drawing on my chart, and it says "female" on it.
Even if I go to the hospital,
they ask me if the gender on my ID card is wrong.
The first thing I'll do...
- is go to the hospital and change my ID. - Go to the hospital.
I want it to show a male figure.
That must be a life trauma for him.
That's right.
Everyone feels natural about it.
(Feeling sorry)
Honestly,
as your partner,
I can understand you broadly and support you with warmth,
but our parents and families might not be able to do that.
This is how I did it.
I didn't tell them I wanted to change my legal gender at first.
I told my mother I just wanted gender-affirming top surgery first.
She said no, so I insisted on doing it.
So I got top surgery...
and then told my mother that I could now get my uterus removed...
and change my legal gender to male.
My mother said she wouldn't allow that.
I told her that until now,
it's been so hard for me to live as a woman.
"Mom, you don't know how that feels, do you?" Then my mom said...
that she respected me.
That's a true parent.
That's why I'm so grateful to my mother.
I'm amazed by that.
That's so impressive.
Min Ju, what do your parents...
think about your sexual orientation?
(Hesitating)
Before I started dating you, I only dated men.
My parents probably never dreamed...
that I liked other genders.
But after meeting you...
and bringing you home to meet my parents as my partner...
I said you were a woman, even if you seemed like a man.
They asked me if I was lying.
"How can he be a woman? He's definitely a man."
That's what they said at first.
They weren't opposed to it, per se,
but they weren't supportive.
They just respect me.
- They respect it but don't like it. - They don't like it.
But for me,
I've dated countless women in the past...
Countless women?
- He has to be careful what he says. - You're so full of yourself.
I've dated countless...
You've dated countless men, and I've dated countless women.
It's not countless for me.
- It's more than ten though. - It's not.
(Snorting)
You want me to count? Now?
You know all of them? Should I count them all?
No, first of all,
I'll take out the "countless".
I've dated a lot of women,
but none of them told their parents about me,
which I found disappointing. But when we started dating,
I didn't even ask you to say anything, but you told your parents on your own.
(Smiling)
That moved me.
I was never embarrassed.
So that's when you fell for me?
Yes, you were so impressive.
Other couples, regular couples,
don't find it moving when they tell each other's parents...
that they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. That's just how it is.
- I'm sure it is. - It is.
I just told them without thinking that I was dating you,
and it upsets me a little that it's something you would find moving.
She's got a deep heart.
- Min Ju does. - Yes.
We didn't eat any of the octopus.
Because of the swimming pool incident,
because of me,
we couldn't go in.
Right now, I'm neither male nor female.
You're mid-male.
(Giggling)
Later, once I legally change my gender,
I'll just enter the men's changing room.
For me, honestly,
if I were to live your life,
I would change my gender.
The gender I want, the work I want to do, I'm going to achieve all of these.
You can do it.
Do it all.
(Giggling)
They're so adorable.
To support so reliably beside him.
"Do everything you want to do. Go everywhere you want to go."
(That's so beautiful!)
Hani keeps saying beside me that it's so impressive...
how they support each other with what they tell one another.
Regardless of them being LGBTQ,
the way they care for one another...
is so adorable to watch,
the way they think of each other, take care of each other, and support.
That's so visible. It was lovely to see.
What I found very moving...
is that telling your parents honestly...
about your partner...
is a really hard thing to do in this world.
(I see.)
It's really hard.
Gay couples,
transgender and bisexual couples...
They are all people loving each other...
as a human being to a human being.
It's good to see something like that,
- and it's beautiful to see. - It really is.
That's what I think.
It's not that different from watching "My Little Old Boy".
(Giggling)
(The day I want to remember forever: July 6, 2020)
Where should I call first?
(Ka Ram is lost in thought in the morning.)
Should I try here first?
What are you doing?
We agreed to call these places today.
I don't know where to start.
Let's start at the top and call all of them.
We'll have to call around to several places anyway.
- I'm a little worried. - Why?
They won't reject us just because we're a lesbian couple, will they?
No. That's why you have to be confident when you're asking.
If you act hesitant,
they'll assume you're asking for something odd.
- So I have to be confident? - Yes.
Should we try?
(Worried)
I'm a bit nervous.
(Nervous)
What are they trying to do?
Yes, thank you for calling.
Hello, we wanted a consultation with a wedding planner.
(A consultation with a wedding planner?)
All right.
We're a lesbian couple, but is this possible regardless?
- Wedding planning. - A wedding.
- Just a moment. - Yes.
All right.
- She's flustered. - Yes.
(Will it be possible?)
The one picking up the call was flustered.
(Very nervous)
She's going to ask someone.
She didn't hang up, right?
No, she didn't.
- Hello? - Yes.
We'll need to confirm first...
before we go ahead with booking your appointment.
I see.
We don't have a date in mind.
If you tell us possible dates,
we'll cater to your schedule.
All right. Let me just check this,
and call you back on this number. Thank you.
Yes, thank you.
I don't think she'll call back.
She said she'll confirm and call us back.
But what she's confirming...
Is it confirming the number of guests...
or is it confirming that same-sex weddings are allowed there?
Don't you think it'd be the former?
But who is she checking with...
to see if same-sex weddings are allowed?
She's just an employee,
so it seems like she's going to check because she doesn't really know.
But I'm not sure this is something that needs to be double-checked.
If the company presidents change the way they think a bit,
it will all be possible.
Let's try someplace else.
(What about this time?)
Hello.
Hello, we wanted to get a consultation with a wedding planner.
We are a lesbian couple.
Does that matter?
(Silence)
No, it's fine.
First, we'll find out which planner we can assign to you,
then connect you to the planner.
- All right. - We'll send you some simple questions,
like your desired date, in a text.
If you can reply to that,
we can provide you with services that align with your responses.
(What a relief.)
- It turned out well. - That's so positive.
- All right. Thank you. - Thank you.
She wasn't fazed at all.
She was so cheerful throughout.
Let's add it to the list.
- Next place? Here? - Let's call the next place.
(Ka Ram and Seung Eun gain courage from the positive reaction.)
Yes, hello.
Hello, we'd like a consultation with a wedding planner.
I see. Could I have the names of the bride and groom?
We are a lesbian couple. Does that matter?
(Pausing)
Is that so?
Actually, we are no longer providing consultations...
to same-sex couples.
Oh, really?
- Yes. - Why is that?
Problems with family members and parents who don't approve...
kept arising.
So there wasn't a single couple that went through with the wedding?
No, not yet.
All right. I understand.
All right.
I think she just didn't want to take us on as clients.
There are a lot of parents who approve.
Even for heterosexual couples,
there are plenty of parents who don't approve of marriage.
This makes me fearful again for no reason.
There are plenty of other places.
But the other place we called reacted so positively to us.
This is something...
(The MCs' hearts have grown heavy too.)
where we can say we support a beautiful love in our head.
I've only thought about it in these vague terms,
but in reality, there are so many obstacles,
and so many difficulties encountered.
(In reality, there are so many obstacles and so many difficulties.)
Earlier, Ji Hae mentioned...
that everything is inconvenient.
- That's right. - Now I see what he means.
They're confident in their love,
but they know that's not obvious to everyone.
Every time they call, they already anticipate this.
There are obstacles they faced in reality...
and in actual situations,
but for me, I kept thinking...
that the nervousness they feel while they call places,
the inability to dream about things in advance,
I find that wall...
- to be so tangible as well. - That's true.
But it's so strange.
I had given up on these things.
- But these couples are aiming for them. - That's right.
As I was watching this,
I wondered,
"Is there a difference between Gen Z and the old generation here too?"
I'm kind of an older generation gay.
- I'm an older generation gay. - Old Gay.
Old Gay.
Right now...
They want to change...
their gender legally,
regardless of whether it's possible.
It's thanks to the old generation of gays that this is possible for them.
To me, coming out is...
To me, coming out is...
To me, coming out is...
a piece of cake.
A turning point in my life.
It's just telling the truth.
It's the heaviest burden I bear.
It's a gateway to becoming the real me.
It can be poison or medicine.
The more time passes, the more I know...
that it's not something to be embarrassed about.
I believe it is not something anyone should be embarrassed about.
Before I came out,
I was very worried as I went through life.
But after I came out,
I realized it wasn't that big a deal.
You don't say it so you hear what you want from others.
Coming out makes me more like myself.
(What is coming out to us?)
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