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♪ your love is like a river ♪

♪ flowing through my veins ♪

♪ your love is the fever ♪

♪ I can't get enough ♪

♪ I'm on fire ♪

♪ we're on fire ♪

♪ our love's too much
for just one heart to take ♪

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All right, Ness, we're leaving.

Oh, come on, you can't wait
ten minutes

for me to buy a flight?

You can't put down
the computer for one second

- and come?
- Okay. All right, all right.

We have to follow
my parents' schedule.

All right, all right.

We're on our way
up to Los Gatos

because my parents are selling
my childhood home.

While we're up there,

we're gonna come out
to Lindsey's family,

and we're gonna tell my parents
about the engagement.

Sorry we don't get
to drive with you.

Yeah.

It's absolutely essential to me
that Vanessa be there

when I come out to my mom,

and that she's there
when we announce our engagement

to Anthony's parents.

I would not do it without her.

Let us know-- text me
when you get a flight.

- Okay.
- Thank you for coming.

Yeah.

I'm pretty surprised
about how quickly

Anthony and Lindsey
want to move on coming out

and telling people
that we're engaged.

It's really wonderful.

It's just the timing
is horrible for me with school

because I'm in finals,

but we all agree that
I should just get a plane ticket

and meet them tonight.

Imagine what your parents
are going through.

Imagine what they're
gonna think

when we tell 'em we're engaged.

God.

As much as she is loving
and accepting of Vanessa,

it's a whole 'nother level when
you say something like this.

Like, we're making
a life commitment.

When we tell my parents
that we're engaged,

it'll be the moment of truth

where we find out,
are they the type of people

who only liked it because
they thought it was a phase?

We should call my mom.

Oh, man, I just want it
to be over with.

It is gonna be tough,
but I'm glad.

It's gonna be such a relief
when it's over.

My mom has known about Vanessa,

but she's thought of her
as my best friend.

I have some nervousness about
what her reaction's gonna be.

I'm about to come out
not only as being polyamorous,

but as engaged
to another woman.

- Hi.
- Hi, mom.

Well, I just wanted to tell you
Anthony and I are

on our way up north right now.

Yeah, because, you know,

his parents are selling
their house, and...

We're only gonna be up there
for a couple days,

but I wanted to set up a time
to see you while we're there.

Anthony's gonna be with me,
and then,

is it cool if
I bring Vanessa too?

- Okay.
- I love you.

- I love you.
- Ciao.

I love you, sweetheart.
Ciao.

Bye.

You've never asked
if it's okay with her before

if Vanessa comes to anything.

- I know.
- You just brought her.

- It's awkward.
I don't--

I've never come out before
like this.

We're announcing
that we're poly.

We're announcing everything
for the first time.

Ready, and go.

Look at the kite go.
Aah!

Devin is having a ball.

There it goes.

Living together has been
really stressful,

so this is our time
to relax, kick back.

I'm really happy that,

you know, it's feeling
more like a family.

Feels like we're all
getting close.

Good.

I'm not a huge beach person.

I don't really like having
the sun beating down on me.

But I'll tolerate the beach
for them.

Ok at your dad.

Have you seen him surf before?

- Yeah.
- I've never seen him surf.

I really look at surfing
as one of my lovers, really.

Right up there with Kamala.
Not quite, but close.

- Did you have fun?
- Mm-hmm.

I did, actually.

Really, I had a good time.
I'm really, um...

I'm really enjoying this.

We're down at the beach

in this loving
family experience,

and it just feels like
this is honestly

how I want to live my life.

I'm not out to my parents yet,

and I know we've talked
about it,

but um, I think it's--
I think it's time.

I think I want to tell them.

I think I'm ready to--

- To come out?
- To come out to them, yeah.

I think it's a bad idea.

I mean, really,
why do they need to know?

Well, partly because--

- I bet they don't even
want to know.

- I bet they don't-- yeah?
- But hold on.

You're living with us now.

You know, I'm not
their daughter,

and it would be
a lot easier for them

to break off a relationship
with me, yeah.

And I don't--
I don't want that to happen.

So...

So that's what worries me.

I want to be honest,
and at the same time

I don't want them not
to care about me anymore.

It just feels to me, Kamala,
like you're pushing for it

because you're out
to your parents, and they know.

But you don't have to have
a relationship with them.

- Tahl and I do.
- Yeah, but I--

Now, hold on.
Now, hold on.

We do have to have
a relationship.

I would like to have
a relationship with him.

You know, Tahl is my lover,

and it would be nice
to not go there and feel like

I'm, you know,
just a random stranger.

You know, it's like--
I think after, you know,

years of being with you guys

that it'd be nice to be
acknowledged as your lover.

I want a deeper relationship
with my parents,

which, as we all agree,

honesty is really
a fundamental part of that.

Next Friday night I think,
you know,

if you two would join us.

I've decided to come out
at shabbat

because I've been doing
shabbat dinner

for my entire life.

This is when we all
get together

and talk about family issues.

So... Friday night it is.

You know, you need
to be there, Jen.

They're your parents,
you do what you want.

I'm just letting you know
that it's making me nervous.

I'd be nervous too.
You know?

It kind of ties
my stomach up in knots.

Part of me feels bad
holding stuff back.

And she might not like it.
She might not agree.

That's my weak spot right now

is my parents.

I don't want to break
my mother's heart.

But if you want, you know,

you just sit there quiet,
and I'll bring it up.

Okay, I'm not saying
anything... Hopefully not.

We'll see.

I wish Ness was arriving
with us.

I know.

- Hi.
- Ciao.

Oh, hey.

- Hey.
- Hey.

How are you?

- The house is gonna go bye-bye.
- I know.

Whenever we come up here,

we always stay
with Anthony's family.

- Where's Vanessa? Is she--
- She's coming.

She had a final exam.
She had fly up.

Should we wait for her
for the Martinis,

- or are we going for it?
- So she'll be here tonight?

- No, we can't wait.
- We should not wait.

We should have a Martini.

How could Linds wait
for a Martini?

Let's do it.

When things get
really, really crazy--

- It's Ness!

Let's catch her.
Let's catch Ness.

- Ciao.
- Who's here?

Oh, bella.

In the very beginning,
Anthony's parents were

kind of skeptical about us.

Carolyn, in particular,
was pretty hurt,

but she and I have had
a relationship

since I was a child.

And so, eventually
the transition was okay,

because she loves me,
and eventually,

watching us together, she could
see that the love was real.

- We have a toast.
- We have a toast.

Here's to the happy memories.

Uh, uh, uh... Wait.
We have a toast to make.

- We have a toast to make.
- Ah.

We just had
our three-year anniversary.

I asked Linds and Anth

to make a life commitment
to me...

To have a ceremony
of some kind to marry me too.

So we're calling ourselves
engaged.

I'm all over this.

I know how to do these
weddings and do celebrations.

I mean, it's when
people are in love,

when they decide
to get married,

it's like, oh, yeah,
it's a natural progression.

So it makes total sense.

I mean, I've always felt that
your commitment was sincere,

serious, perhaps more so
than most people that I know.

Why should anybody
who loves each other,

whether it's two people,
three people, five people--

Why should that not be
a good thing

or be celebrated?

What Vanessa's not telling you
is that she also asked us

to get, not rings, but tattoos.

- Tattoos!
- Okay...

That's where I draw the line.

No fuckin' tattoos!

Okay, but listen--
It's a ring tattoo.

And the messaging is

you can't just rip it off
in a fight.

Yeah, but see,
I'm gonna be the asshole here.

Be it.

Everybody goes into a marriage

thinking that's the case,
and then things happen,

perhaps, and there's
a good reason why that marriage

might want to break up.

And now you've got
this damn tattoo on your--

It worked out for you.

If you had got a tattoo,
you'd be fine.

No, I would be fine.

But for a lot of people,
it didn't work out.

And what a bummer to have
this tattoo on your--

That seems like you think
we won't work out.

We may make decisions
at some point

that would look like a breakup,

but what's interesting about
the way that poly can work

is that we stay
in each other's lives.

We're not going
to leave each other

even if the relationships
transition.

We've made that commitment,
and that's the commitment

that they're commemorating
at this time.

Her perspective is
a little bit different,

and now that I think about it,
I agree.

Anthony's parents have been
extraordinary,

and I hope my mom's reaction
will be right on the same page.

A toast
to the eternal threesome.

So now it's okay that we all
sleep in the same bed, right,

when we come over?

Yes.
You have been for a while.

It's the big night.

I've decided to come out
to my parents at shabbat.

Shabbat's a holy day,

an evening of celebration
in the Jewish faith.

And it's a time when, I guess,

we get together and praise God.

Shabbat dinner is something
we've been doing

since I can remember.

I grew up in Zimbabwe,

and my mom was born and raised

in a Victorian-African
community.

I was raised to be very ashamed
of my naked body.

Sex was not discussed.

I'm just, like, so worried
what my mom's gonna think.

God forbid, you know,
she starts

breaking out into tears.

How are you feeling
about tonight?

I'm just getting more used
to the idea.

I'm tired of actually
trying to predict

how your parents are gonna act.

You know, whether
they're gonna be upset

or not upset or--
Just we really won't know

until...
Until we tell them.

Do you think those guys are--

Who do you think
is more nervous?

Um... It might be me.

Michael and I have been
to shabbat a couple of times.

We've been introduced
by Jen and Tahl as

we're just friends.

Poly is about being open
and honest,

and as long as he's
in the closet with his parents,

I lose respect for him.

Oh, shit.

What's up?

I just got a text
from my dad saying that

he just saw us half-naked
on a website.

Yeah. That's weird.

That he just saw us
half-naked-- you?

Me. Me and Jen.

Were-- were you guys--

I'm not half-naked
on any website.

I'd like to see what website
he's talking about,

because I don't--

Well, what website
are you guys on?

- I don't know.
- We're not on a website.

- Not at all?
- No.

- You texted him back?
- I did.

I don't know what
he's talking about.

Yeah.

I get this fucking text
from my dad,

like, out of the blue,
that says

he's just seen Jen and I naked
on a website.

My stomach just, like, goes
right up into my throat.

That's not exactly how
I wanted this to go down.

This just kind of makes it
a little different.

Oh, man, this is not
my favorite part.

This is not your
favorite part of life?

You guys, you guys, you guys,

I want to be the one
that brings it up, okay?

Okay.

So let me at least start
the conversation,

and then you guys can chime in.

If coming out to my mom
destroys the closeness

that we've built,
I will be devastated.

- Ready?
- Yes.

I'm not, but I don't care.

Get back.

Hi.

- Hi.
- Hi. Mwah.

I have my own relationship
with Lindsey's mom.

So, for me, there's
an intimacy at stake

that is also just
my own intimacy with this person

who I haven't been honest with.

I wanted to tell you more
about that documentary film

- about Hillbrook.
- Yeah, tell me.

Well, it was really great--

- Do you have the book?
- Yeah, I have it.

I have it right over here.

Okay.

- Oh, yeah.
- Oh, my God.

Why?

Sitting on the couch
was painful for me.

I kept looking at Lindsey like,
"come on.

Please, let's just go."

You want to hear
what we've been doing lately?

Yes, please.

I got a paper published.

Aside from that, it's Vanessa
going crazy at school.

Yeah.

So we're working on all these
different political arenas.

And so part of our struggle
is to stand up for civil rights.

Just like being gay,
being polyamorous...

Um, and other people that
just are trying to live

a life that is oppressed.

And some of those people that
have been feeling

left out of the mainstream... are us.

Because we are polyamorous.

I'm watching Lindsey
tell her mom this kind of, like,

abstract thing about us,
and I'm like,

"she's not getting it.
She's not getting it."

Vanessa and Anthony and I
are in a triad.

We're committed to each other.

And that involves
all levels of commitment.

Friendship, romantic, intimate.

I mean, we're in love
with each other.

My commitment to Vanessa,
especially now,

because--

Because things have changed
recently...

We're a really solid triangle.

How did it change recently?

Because Vanessa proposed to us,

and we said yes.

Brava. Brava.

I'm proud of you.

- Thank you.
- Yeah.

And we've been researching--

And not exactly
a surprise though.

I mean, because ever since
Lindsey was 18,

she has been so close
to both of you that...

Right.

She couldn't stand
to be away from you.

I'm just so relieved.

I really thought
you might be angry.

And I was just worried
because...

Oh, my God, no. No.

I'm so proud of you,

and I'm so proud of Lindsey
for loving you.

And I love Vanessa.

I think that's what was
making me so emotional just now

is because I feel like,
especially in the last year,

you and I have really
had a friendship

that's, like, cemented.

- And just was worried that...
- Thank you. I agree.

You would be, like--

That-- that us finally
being open with you about this

would somehow hurt that.

And I don't--
I didn't want that.

I'm sorry to underestimate you
like that.

No, I love you,
and I'm-- I'm just--

I'm so proud of you.

So I've gained
another daughter.

Exactly!

- I love you so much.
- I love you too.

You did-- really.

- I did a good job raising you?
- Yes.

I feel total relief.

My mom understands
what we mean.

I think it's totally genuine,

and I just wanted
to thank her immediately forever

for raising me.

Me too.

- I needed this.
- Me too.

Ahh...

Okay, so the next question is,
you know,

are you guys gonna have
children?

I just don't know how the hell
this text came through,

but I can't back out now.

But it totally disrupts
how I wanted to ease into it.

This is like kind of--

I don't know how
they're gonna handle this.

I'm nervous.

- Hi.
- Ah.

- I missed you, Tahl.
- Hello, hello.

- Hello.
- How are you?

Good.

- How was your day?
- Good.

- Come in.
- Hello.

- Hi, Kamala. Good to see you.
- Hello.

I open the door,
and my parents greet me,

and they're like, "hey,"
and they're all cheerful,

and it's not what I expected.

I'm just wondering
if my parents--

Are they just
putting on a show?

So how are you guys?

- Good.
- Yeah, good.

Yeah? When did I see you
last time?

That was what, a month ago?

Yeah, maybe a month ago.
Three weeks, month.

- So what, shall we start?
- Yeah.

It's a little bit concerning
that they're not just talking

about the text.

So I'm just sitting back
and watching

how it's gonna unfold.

I feel like the getaway driver,

if it has to come down to that.

As much as I don't subscribe
to religion,

this might have been
a really bad idea.

You want to go back to Africa?

Yeah, actually,
that would be great

to go through Zimbabwe again.

- I've never been to Africa.
- Oh, yeah?

Oh, you should first go
on safari there.

I'd love to take Devin.

He would just absolutely
love it.

- Yeah, he would love it.
- Love that.

There was, like, a politeness
that was going on,

and it was very uncomfortable
for me,

because we were just
leaving something unsaid.

I think we were all
leaving it up to Tahl

to start this conversation.

- It was a Portuguese colony.
- Oh.

And then she moved to Rhodesia.

- How old were you?
- Seven.

I'm looking across the table.

I'm like,
"when you gonna do it?"

Can I have some of that
red wine?

Is it like a punch?

It's sort of like
a punch, yeah.

Like a fruit punch
kind of thing.

Tahl's, like, just avoiding it.

It's like he's pushing food
around and eating slowly

to not have to deal with it.

I look at Jen,
and she's just like,

"oh, maybe we're gonna
get through the night

and nobody's gonna say
anything."

Okay, anybody like
a little more?

- I'm-- I'm done.
- I'm good.

Done?

So, um...

Talk about the elephant
in the room here?

Who sent you that website?

Or what was the website
that you looked at?

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Um...

So...

First of all,
I love you guys a lot.

You know that.

I don't know
the website you texted.

That was, like,
wife swapping or something?

Something like that, yeah.

I don't know what that is.
Um...

So about three years ago, um,
Jen and I--

We were just kind of exploring.

We met Michael and Kamala.

And we have since really
fallen in love with them.

And so we are in a relationship

with Michael and Kamala.

My dad's being quiet,
and I can just see

the wheels turning in his head.

Here are my lovers.

He's probably just like,

"what the fuck
did my son just tell me?"

This is actually called
polyamory,

which means "multiple,"
"poly."

And then "amory" means "love."

We actually really love them,
and, um...

That being said,

we've actually since
moved into their house.

You're not living
in your own home?

No. We're living
with Michael and Kamala.

How can your relationship
be strong

when you're not
a proper couple?

Honestly,
it's really good for me.

Jen and I's relationship,

it just seems to be
getting better and better.

Okay, Tahl, that I think
it's a good thing-- I don't.

It goes against everything
I've been brought up with.

But the way we live
and the way I lived

isn't necessarily
what suits you.

Yeah.

You're my child.

You know that I adore you.

- Mm-hmm.
- And you're an adult.

You must do whatever
is best for you.

And you're my oldest son,
and I--

And what can I tell you

I-- I'm here for you.

Thank you, mom.

That's very sweet.

I know you guys disagree,
but I just thank you.

Thank you.

It's my son.

Yeah.

This woman's love is so big.

It was inspiring.

Thank you, dad.

You're our big boy.

Um, I'd like us
to deepen our relationship.

You know, I want it
to be a relationship

where I can tell you guys
everything.

And I know you don't agree--

I don't know if I always
want to hear everything.

I told you.
I said.

I'm like, "they just
don't want to know, Tahl."

I really don't always.

I mean, I appreciate it,

but I don't really
always want to know.

Thank you, mom.

- Can I give you a hug?
- Yes. I need it.

Give you a hug too.

Aw.

What a relief.

Oh, my God,
just... Oh!

Thank you, mom.

- Ah, where did I go wrong?
- Aw, no.

Really, like,
I'm enjoying my life so much.

Thanks, dad.

I'm really proud
what you've done

with your life up to now.

And, Jen, you've been
so supportive of Tahl as well.

So... I really love you
for that and yourself.

Oh-- oh, my God.
Can I have a hug, please?

Yes.

Oh, my God.

I...Um...

It was just such a wonderful
gift that she gave me.

You know, then, even
in the middle of her upset,

she just looked right at me
and told me

she still cares about me,
and that's--

That's what I needed to hear.

Wow, I didn't expect
the dinner to end like this.

Should we have ice cream?

We should have ice cream.

Get out the dessert.

It felt really good.

It felt good to be honest.

It felt good to tell them.

It felt good to inform them

and make them
a bigger part of my life.

That was a lovely dinner.
Thanks, mom.

It was so nice to see, you know,
the emotions come up,

and the acceptance,
and the love.

Bye, dad

it was beautiful.

Drive carefully.

- Thank you.
- Thank you.

- All right.
- Okay.

Let's have sex and go to bed.

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