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So, hi everybody.
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We're back healing, an
awakening retreat this time.
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It's the conversation with Scott KBY
and, um, I'll bring him right on.
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Hi Scott.
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Hi grace.
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Thanks for having me on here.
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Yeah, thank you for coming.
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So Scott, you, um, you said to me, and
maybe that's a good place to start.
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You said to me, you know, I just
want to talk about the inquiries
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because that's what I'm doing now.
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And I don't see myself really
as a spiritual teacher.
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So can you comment on that?
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I can.
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I mean, the, the, the change
happened for me when I was
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working with people in groups, in
private sessions a few years ago.
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Is that a lot of people that
were coming to me were seeking,
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uh, enlightenment or awakening.
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And, you know, I was doing the best
I could, you know, spontaneously
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kind of sharing from the direct
experience as they say, as teachers do.
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But what I found out is that once I
started to have a more systematic way of
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helping them look in a way that they could
actually look in their own experience, it
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sort of took the teacher part out of it.
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It seemed to like, just
cut me outta the picture.
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And then I realized that I could
actually train other people
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to facilitate those inquiries.
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And then it became less about the teacher,
which thankfully, because it's not
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about me and more about everybody being
able to look into their own experience
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and, you know, cut through some of
the stuff that's creating suffering.
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And that, it's just a huge, great
thing for me to be able, just to
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step back and say, look, this work
is available to everybody now.
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And we have people facilitating
it all over the place.
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It's not about Scott Kilby.
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Like it never was.
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But it's just, I feel
that feels good to me.
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You know, that that's, that
that's something that we're
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contributing to this whole thing.
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Yeah.
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Well, it's certainly what, you know, what
made me ask you to come onto this retreat?
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Because it seemed like, you know,
you're not a, a, a traditional,
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you're not you, you're not, you're
not in any of the traditional healing
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fields and yet you're doing something
with people that's very practical.
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That's supposed to respond to,
you know, to, to, um, conditions,
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issues, pain that they have that
they want to resolve in their lives.
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So, you know, I mean, it could be
considered to contribute to their healing.
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Yeah.
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That, that's a good way to say
is that, is that all of the
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facilitators and I are contributing.
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To people healing, but you know, the
difference is, is that they're doing that,
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not by relying on an outside authority,
but by actually taking tools inwardly.
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And then so, and in some ways the
inwards become every everybody's
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tools, they're everyone's tools
that nobody really owns them.
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And yeah, so in that way,
we're all contributing to that.
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And, and, and I feel good about being
able to contribute partly to that
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instead of what I used to do, which
is to sit in front of the room where
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all the focus was on me and somehow
what I was going to say, you know,
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really meant something important.
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And, and there was always something in, in
that whole situation that fell off for me.
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And I couldn't pinpoint it, even if
I would try to sort of say, you know,
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there's nobody here and there's no
teacher on some level, I was setting
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it up as if there was because of the
setup in the room or because of, you
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know, but the focus is now shifting
to away from me and into so that
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everybody can look with these tools and.
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Yeah, that, that feels
good for me to do that.
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Mm-hmm yeah.
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Mm-hmm
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it's like, um, it's, it's a bit like the
shift from monarchy to democracy, right?
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Yeah.
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I love that.
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Instead of being, instead of being
the king, that tells everybody what
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to think, you know, you're actually
shifting to enabling everybody.
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Yeah.
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That's the right way.
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So yeah.
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To realize what's real.
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Yeah.
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What's true.
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That's, that's a great way to say.
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Yeah.
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Shifting from mono,
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just a quote to me, you know,
I'm a former political theorist,
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so, ah, that explains it.
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but Scott, um, so, so
let's get back to this.
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Okay.
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Um, what, what I'd also like to
know is how, how did you get there?
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I mean, like, you know, you had an
awakening experience that was fairly
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major, that, that created like a major
kind of upheaval in your life and,
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you know, shifted you out of your
profession into doing something else.
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And so why don't you tell us about that?
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Because not everybody knows you and
also people are always very interested
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in what, what's it like to have
one of those awaken experiences?
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Um, yeah, I mean, I'll
talk about the experience.
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It was, um, okay.
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Yes.
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What, what happened to me after
sort of inquiring in a certain way?
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Although in a less structured
way than we do it now is, um,
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just the, just the very, Hmm.
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How do, how do you describe it?
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Uh, It was the loss of, of something
that I thought I was, I guess you
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could say it was just that that
feeling is that whatever Scott was
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that was seeking this and seeking that.
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And so caught up in that just felt
like a complete fiction at that point
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mm-hmm and you know, and so that brought
a real lightness, like just, it was,
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um, it wasn't even a thinking thing.
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It's not like I thought
I'm having an awakening.
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It was not like that.
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Yeah.
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It was just, it was almost like
the absence of that, but, you know,
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and, and it was really okay, so
there was lots of laughter, lots of
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joy and lots of streaming love and
everything that that's that true.
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But the thing, what I found later is
that in some ways, not my whole body
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didn't awaken mm-hmm, , you know,
it's like part of it did, um, the, the
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head, cause I think a lot of people
have kind of like that head awakening,
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like you, things get cleared away.
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Um, and then, you know, I felt some
of that opening in my chest, but I can
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definitely say that other parts of my body
were still contracted in certain ways.
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And, and I was completely
unconscious of it.
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Didn't even know, um, and, and walked
around for a while kind of thinking
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that I'd had a final waking, like
I think a lot of people either seek
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for, or claim to have had mm-hmm
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And what happened is that I, I began to
investigate a little bit deeper and that's
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where I saw, well, there's this whole
element of deepening that is really rich.
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That's so rich.
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Mm-hmm um, that to say, this is really
just about an experience robs us of that,
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you know, it robs us of this deepening
experience that goes fully embodied it's
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you can feel it in every where you start
to feel it in every level of your being,
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you know, like always everything mm-hmm
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So that's really kind of where the
inquiries came into is they came
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from my own sort of leftover little
stuff, or maybe big stuff that was
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still, you know, a contraction here
or there, or a story here or there an
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addiction here or there that I began
to investigate with these inquiries.
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And, um, you know, they were so
effective for me that I started to
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wanna share 'em with, with other people.
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So that's how.
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Basically.
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Yeah.
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So, Scott, um, let me just, uh,
kind of follow this, follow this
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expression a bit more, um, deepening,
you know, deepening of awakening.
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Um, suddenly my teacher Ji talk a lot
about that still does, um, in the sense
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that awakening is, is, is almost like a
moment where, you know, something shifts.
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Um, and then it's like the
realization of that shift.
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It's almost like it has to
become cellular at every level.
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Yeah.
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Or it has to like recontract everything
that's detract that's contracted, right?
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Yeah.
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So, and that can take maybe a lifetime
who knows, you know, I mean, uh, it's
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possible that it's so absolute for
people that they there's nothing left.
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There's no contraction left.
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There's nothing that's still
sticky and, you know, potentially
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painful or irritating or whatever.
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But for most people it
seems that there is.
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And, and so the interesting question
becomes, well, how do I live that?
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Yeah.
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And you know, there's also the little bit
of the, it's so easy to, to be deceived
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when you have an awakening experience.
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Even if it's not like a big bang kind of
thing, even if you have just this powerful
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moment, like a lot of people do where
they mm-hmm really realize there's no
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self, but it's not necessarily filled with
filled with a lot of bells and whistles.
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It's just this sort of subtle recognition.
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There's I think there's a little bit
of deception that can come in that
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says, well, somehow I, this is, this
is a full awakening or a final awaken.
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It's very easy to do.
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Yes.
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So easy to do.
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And I think I did it.
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And so many people that I know who, you
know, some teach and some don't did that.
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Mm-hmm um, and some will admit
to the fact and some won't, you
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know, that's what was going on.
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Um, but yeah, like I love, I
forgot your teacher's name.
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Say that again?
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Goji goji, right?
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Goji.
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Yes.
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I'm familiar.
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So I love that because everything that
was contracted becomes uncontracted,
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that's a great way of saying it really is.
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And that's really, to me, one way of
talking about the deepening is just to,
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but it's, it's such a rich exploration
and in some ways I think how long it
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takes, it almost becomes irrelevant.
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You know, when you're, when you're really
sort of just realizing this is a present
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moment by moment being with, and you,
you're not really playing the time game
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as much after mm-hmm you can investigate
if you're still playing the time game.
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If you're still seeking in time,
you can investigate that mm-hmm and
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then it becomes rather a deepening
that's very natural that happens.
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And there's no, and all of the things
that were really worrisome in the
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beginning, where you were trying to
get somewhere, you know, you're trying
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to get to that place that can all kind
of start to relax where you, and then
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you start, then you start seeing things
shifting in different ways in your life.
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That's what happened for me.
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And, um, yeah.
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So, yeah.
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Great topic.
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So, um, you've been very open
about, you know, addictions and
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having had to kind of, you know,
deal with those in your own life.
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So maybe, maybe could chat,
just tell us a bit about that.
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Like, you know, obviously that's
how the inquiries race started for
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you in a kind of less formal way.
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Yeah.
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And I can, so would you say that was
one of your contractions, one of the
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kind of places where, you know, things
got very contracted and, and, and,
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and like the addictive behavior was a
seeming way out of that contraction.
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Yeah.
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That's exactly what I would say.
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It's it's it's not.
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Okay.
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So yes, that's that's, that
was definitely the case.
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the thing is, is I think this is,
this is an interesting topic because
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someone will say, well, that,
you know, from an absolute sense,
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addiction is just happening and you
could say that about everything.
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Cause that's just obvious at some
point that everything is just
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happening and you, and there could
be no interest in looking at that.
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Right.
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Um, but what I found was is
with the addiction, um, that
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it was like an opportunity.
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It was an opportunity to
see what was actually still
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unconscious in my experience.
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And what I came to found out is that
the contractions were unconscious.
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I, I had not seen that they were there and
I had not seen how they were contributing
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to the outward behavior of addictions.
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And this was even after the
big experience, there were
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things still happening.
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Mm-hmm and I think that's
actually the case for a lot of
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people, but I think sometimes.
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Some sort of experience, some people
will say, Hey, you know, it's all just
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happening and there's an addiction
here, which again, that's fine.
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Except for there's still
something operating there on an
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unconscious level that hasn't been
awoken to, if that's the right.
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It hasn't, but there hasn't
been awakening to that yet.
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Mm-hmm um, in, in addiction.
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So as I began to explore that more,
it was just, again, an even deeper
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relaxation in the midst of those things.
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So that even those things could be,
could begin to relax, not just the
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spiritual seeking, but these other
sort of seeking avenues of addiction.
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Yeah.
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Well seeking wellbeing when
you're not feeling well.
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Right.
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Because that's really the, the
mechanism that drives a lot yeah.
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Of addictive behavior.
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Absolutely.
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Or probably any behavior.
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Yeah.
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yeah, that pretty much sums it up.
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there's not anything else to
say for the rest of the retreat.
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Cause that actually does
sum it up, you know?
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Okay.
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So, um, well, but you could, uh,
you could kind of deepen the, the
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understanding of that maybe yeah.
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Yeah.
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Well, I mean, when it comes
to the addictions, I think
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you're you're right on.
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And I mean, the, the, the, what I came to
see is that every time I was reaching out
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towards something, whether it was money
or sex or, or, um, caffeine or sweets
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mm-hmm , there was something in my body
somewhere mm-hmm that felt contracted
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and dense, and it's almost like that
sensation was screaming out for something.
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And it would just keep screaming every
day or regularly until it got looked at.
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And then once, you know, once I could
look at it, then, you know, the outward
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movement could start to relax, but.
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And yeah, so that's, it was very
uncomfortable actually, and was
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so uncomfortable that it was
just easier to drink some coffee
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or reach for something else.
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Yeah.
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And, you know, um,
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how do I say this?
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It's that it's that resistance to
what's uncomfortable or the evasion
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of what's uncomfortable, you know,
trying to get away from that.
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Yeah.
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That, that, um, you know, like a
therapist will look at too, or will be
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dealing with, because typically what
happens is, you know, that when say,
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you know, when I work with a client
and, uh, there's a painful issue, right.
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So they have their
usual coping mechanisms.
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some of which may be addictive.
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Others may be more like mental, you
know, they go into a story mm-hmm and,
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um, they need to understand it or they
need to find out why, why the person
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did what they did or why they're
doing what they're doing and why
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they're feeling, what they're feeling.
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It's very kind of, Ooh,
it just turns in the head.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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And all this is innovation of
what's painful or uncomfortable.
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Yeah.
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And so what I do a lot with people
is just trying to kind of invite
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them to, to open to that discomfort.
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Yeah.
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And, you know, I, I, I I've, I
assume that that's what you're
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doing with the inquiry too.
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you know, except that maybe
it's a bit more structured.
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I mean, you, you, you have like
a tool where you say, okay, you
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look at this, you look at that.
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Um, you know, yeah, yeah.
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That is what we do.
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And, and let me just, this is very
impromptu, but just as an explanation,
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this is, this is not, but go ahead.
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Perfect.
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well, you can't see there's a pink
one, an orange one and a blue one.
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Okay.
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And those represent three aspects of our
experience, words, pictures, and energy.
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Okay.
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So what you're talking about is
getting people to sit with energy,
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but what's difficult in that is
that's not always so easy to do.
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Yeah.
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Because, because the words in the
pictures are stuck to the energy.
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So let's say that this is the energy.
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Okay.
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If we say, if I say to someone
drop into the energy, I used to say
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this all the time in meetings, I
used to say, just drop into that.
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And I thought that they were
just dropping into that, but what
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they were dropping into was this.
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Oh Scott, but I, I , I'm
going to be flippant.
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I'm going to say that the
energy has to be orange Scott.
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Oh,
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okay.
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You can choose the other colors.
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I know what you mean though.
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Yeah.
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Cause the orange is energetic color.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Right.
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So, okay.
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So, so orange is the energy and
the other two are the images
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and the, and the thoughts.
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Yeah.
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Would you say, well, the words
and, and the words and pictures.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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And, and I think you're exactly right.
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That's what we do with the inquiries
is we wanna really get people to
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sit with the energy because that's
how it can, by letting it be, as
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it is, it can start to release.
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And that's very powerful.
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But what happened in my old talks
is I would, I thought people were
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being with the words and pictures.
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I mean, being with the energy yeah.
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Who I found out is that were very subtle.
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Sometimes very unconscious
words and pictures that were
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Velcro or stuck to the energy.
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But the inquiries, what they do is
they, they systematically ask us to look
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at, for example, a picture by itself.
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Mm-hmm and see if that's the self, if
we're looking for a self mm-hmm , that's
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one of the things we try to find things.
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So if we're trying to find the one
who's alone, you know, if that's
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your identity, the person who's
alone we ask is that picture by
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itself, you the one who's alone.
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And if they say yes, what they're
telling us is that there's
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energy stuck to that picture.
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That's the, what the yes.
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Tells us.
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Yes.
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They're getting that.
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So the picture may be a memory or
it may be a, a, an act just, just,
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you mentioned it could be a kind
of, I don't know, like a key memory
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that a person has of an event.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Well, we call 'em just
words or pictures, but okay.
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But, but pictures could be
anything from very vague shapes
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to very specific dad's face.
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It could be picture, but they're all
we call them just pictures, you know,
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mm-hmm um, so that tells us that,
that there's a pic, that, that it's
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hard for them in that moment to sit
with the energy, because this picture,
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whether it's a picture of dad's face
or whatever is feeling so important.
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And that's why we wanna look at that
and see if that's the thing that we're
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looking for, whatever the picture is.
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And once they kind of see that that's
actually just a picture, it's not
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who they are, then they it's easier
than to drop into just the feeling
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mm-hmm and sit with that and see.
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And then, so even though, but even
when we're sitting with that, you know,
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there's often some words that go with it.
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That's another VE or the words
are stuck with the energy.
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Yes.
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So we'll say, well, what
are the words coming up?
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Or what does the sensation want?
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And, and they'll say, well, it's
the words are coming up, or this is
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familiar and I don't wanna let this go.
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So then we have them look at
those, um, mm-hmm those words.
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to really look at the, the words
themselves, not the meaning of
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them, but the words to see if that's
the self that they're looking for.
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Cause that's what we do.
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We try to find a self or whatever.
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And then, um, and then once the words
are peeled off again, so we just
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keep peeling those things off so
they can really sit with that energy.
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And then we ask, you know, is that
energy, the one who's, um, alone
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or whatever we're looking for.
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And uh, and then they say, well,
no, now that I've peeled everything
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off, it's just that energy.
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Okay.
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Now can you just be with that?
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Can you open to that?
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You know, that's really what we do,
but that's, that's just part of what
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we do, but yeah, it's just like that
exactly is being with the energy opening
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to that feeling or that sensation
mm-hmm but more systematic way.
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Mm-hmm mm-hmm and you find that
if you use that more systematic
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way, that it's easier for people
finally to arrive just at that
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energy level, at that feeling level.
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I instantly saw a difference in
my private sessions years ago.
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Mm-hmm when I started
using the systematic way.
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It was just like, we were, I was
seeing breakthroughs like so much
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faster and so much more like clear
for people when I wasn't just sort of
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throwing things out spontaneously when
I was actually had a, a way of that.
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They could look, you know, a way
of really tracking their experience
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and it was really helpful that way.
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So, yeah, I mean, just for me that
it's, it's been much more effective
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in my own life too, you know, mm-hmm,
not just with my clients, but yeah.
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Yeah.
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I remember, um, I remember seeing on
Facebook some time ago, I can't remember
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when, um, you are talking about having
cancer and, uh, responding to it with that
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same, just looking with the same inquiry.
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Yeah.
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Um, and you know, cancer
is something that's very.
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fear written for a lot of people.
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And the fear is also something that
gets generated by the medical system.
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Yeah.
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So, I mean, I've had cancer myself,
so I know , I've been through the,
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you know, the, the, the steps of that
and, uh, what would be interesting,
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I mean, to, to hear you, you know,
like how, how did you respond to that?
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I mean, how did you, what did
that look like effectively?
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Like, you know, in reality,
how, how did you do this?
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How did you use the inquiry for this?
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Okay.
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So when I was first diagnosed with
cancer, when the doctor said it,
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there was just a very mild sensation
of anxiety that came up and lasted
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literally about three or four seconds.
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And then there was just
a piece mm-hmm okay.
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But.
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So that was fine.
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You know, in other words, I
kind of already looked at a
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lot of that stuff before then.
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Mm-hmm and it just didn't, but
definitely somewhere during, uh,
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the recovery process, what I noticed
that something that did trigger me
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was, uh, again, something that was
unconscious in me, which is when all
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these people tried to come and help
me, I was getting emails left and write
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about, take this supplement, do this.
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Why are you doing that?
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Don't do this.
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Mm-hmm . And, and what happened was
is that, that something within me
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that got formed as a childhood, when
my dad used to try to take care of
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me and it, there was this deficiency
story in me that I'm, I'm helpless,
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that I can't take care of myself.
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Yeah.
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I thought it had been seen through,
because it was a nowhere on my
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conscious radar, but, you know,
luckily we have other people
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called it up again.
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Right.
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yeah.
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Right.
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You know, everybody's my teacher
is not just a cliche, right?
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No, really.
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So it was, it should
trigger something in me.
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So that's what I did was I got to, what we
do with this work is we use relationship
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to put a name to what's being triggered.
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So for example, we called a Panorama.
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So I put a Panorama of those people up
around me that were trying to help me.
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And I asked, what is that mirroring
back about who I am, you know, in
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this trigger and what came, the
words that came up for me were is
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that I can't take care of myself.
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Mm-hmm and you know, automatically
I got a picture of my dad.
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I got the words, I can't
take care of myself.
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I got that lump in my throat.
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So what I did is I looked for the one
who couldn't take care of himself.
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I looked through the words that pictures
and the energy, really looking everywhere
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to see if I could find it and then, and
peeling away, eventually peeling away.
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Those words and pictures.
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I got to open to that energy
that had never been faced.
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That particular that had
never been faced and felt.
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there was a tremendous
release from that story.
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00:25:15,060 --> 00:25:18,510
It's almost like the entire, that
little ed of that story that had been
465
00:25:18,510 --> 00:25:24,810
unconscious up until that point just sort
of became illuminated and then fell away.
466
00:25:25,260 --> 00:25:28,320
And, you know, again, it just
makes life richer then, because
467
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:29,520
then you don't get that trigger.
468
00:25:29,524 --> 00:25:32,159
People are just trying to help, you
know, they're just sending they're
469
00:25:32,159 --> 00:25:35,580
well wishes that, you know, it was
a trigger in me that I had, I had
470
00:25:35,585 --> 00:25:37,560
to recognize for myself and look at.
471
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:38,700
Hmm.
472
00:25:40,139 --> 00:25:40,409
Yeah.
473
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:43,409
But I mean, just little things, like I'll
tell you a little bit about the cancer.
474
00:25:43,860 --> 00:25:46,439
You know, I did have to
go through radiation.
475
00:25:46,439 --> 00:25:47,790
It was, it was a hard decision.
476
00:25:48,179 --> 00:25:51,960
The particular cancer that I had
was really responsive to radiation.
477
00:25:52,290 --> 00:25:54,270
Mm-hmm , it's one of the unusual ones.
478
00:25:54,270 --> 00:25:58,470
That's actually like 95, 90
8% responsive to radiation.
479
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:03,870
And I felt it was in my stomach and
there was a lot of, uh, nausea for about
480
00:26:04,439 --> 00:26:08,520
mm-hmm a month mm-hmm so, one thing
I did is just, I looked for the threat.
481
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,050
That's our anxiety inquiry.
482
00:26:10,810 --> 00:26:14,340
, you know, the, the body is
perceiving some threat, but a lot
483
00:26:14,340 --> 00:26:15,570
of times it's not a real threat.
484
00:26:15,570 --> 00:26:19,560
It's a threat that's being created
by words and pictures, um, that are
485
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:25,110
coming through words about the nausea
or mm-hmm pictures around, you know,
486
00:26:25,439 --> 00:26:27,479
memories of the treatment or something.
487
00:26:27,870 --> 00:26:31,649
So I went to look for the threat
in that, and then I couldn't
488
00:26:31,649 --> 00:26:34,709
find it, you know, and, and not
being able to find that threat.
489
00:26:34,709 --> 00:26:38,399
There was just that sensation
of nausea, which by the way, had
490
00:26:38,399 --> 00:26:42,090
diminished a lot because of the
words and pictures being seen to.
491
00:26:42,090 --> 00:26:44,399
And then yes, just so it's yeah.
492
00:26:44,405 --> 00:26:49,620
It's like the treatment can be sometimes
bad or worse than the mm-hmm sometimes
493
00:26:49,620 --> 00:26:52,409
it's that we don't just use this
inquiry with people on their condition.
494
00:26:52,409 --> 00:26:56,310
We use it on the treatment, you
know, the stuff that they . Yeah.
495
00:26:59,639 --> 00:27:00,209
it's crazy.
496
00:27:00,215 --> 00:27:00,510
Isn't it?
497
00:27:00,770 --> 00:27:01,010
I mean,
498
00:27:04,199 --> 00:27:11,430
you know, cancer is such a, um,
cancer's such a teacher, isn't it?
499
00:27:11,430 --> 00:27:13,020
If you let it be.
500
00:27:13,020 --> 00:27:16,020
Yeah, because it's not
just the diagnostic.
501
00:27:16,020 --> 00:27:21,720
It's, it's, it's the whole, I mean,
it's the whole journey from the
502
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:26,550
diagnostic to the treatments, the
various forms of treatments and
503
00:27:28,140 --> 00:27:32,730
because most cancer treatments are
very invasive and, and kind of tough on
504
00:27:32,730 --> 00:27:35,550
the body and tough on the psyche too.
505
00:27:36,450 --> 00:27:42,780
Um, they are really bringing up
a lot of stuff, a lot of people.
506
00:27:42,930 --> 00:27:54,330
And if you allow, if you allow yourself
to who actually let that be an opportunity
507
00:27:54,330 --> 00:28:01,710
to go deeper and to, to, I mean, I would
say to just be with whatever comes up.
508
00:28:03,150 --> 00:28:07,230
um, you would probably
say in inquiry, right?
509
00:28:07,830 --> 00:28:08,070
Yeah.
510
00:28:09,810 --> 00:28:15,870
Then it can actually be, I,
I experience it as incredibly
511
00:28:15,870 --> 00:28:18,410
freeing it's incredibly freeing.
512
00:28:18,410 --> 00:28:18,650
Yeah.
513
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:19,450
Yeah.
514
00:28:20,340 --> 00:28:22,980
And, and, you know, probably what you're
talking about when I'm talking about
515
00:28:22,980 --> 00:28:28,050
are not much different being with is
what we do, you know, mm-hmm we just
516
00:28:28,050 --> 00:28:30,270
do it with a certain question that yes.
517
00:28:30,270 --> 00:28:34,230
Um, that peels stuff apart, but
it's it, a lot of what we do is just
518
00:28:34,230 --> 00:28:38,310
being with stuff, just being, just
be with that picture for a second,
519
00:28:38,700 --> 00:28:40,230
you know, just be with that feeling.
520
00:28:40,620 --> 00:28:44,460
And that's a big part of what we do and,
and it has a incredible healing effect.
521
00:28:44,550 --> 00:28:48,540
I mean, it does, it, it's really hard to
put into words, but it has an incredible
522
00:28:48,545 --> 00:28:53,220
healing effect to really be with what
is, well, you know, what you described
523
00:28:53,220 --> 00:28:59,175
this, this picture of, uh, not being able
to take care of yourself, . I mean, the
524
00:28:59,175 --> 00:29:04,754
feeling I imagined that was, there was
one of, uh, helplessness or powerlessness.
525
00:29:04,814 --> 00:29:05,105
Yeah.
526
00:29:05,155 --> 00:29:06,304
Anger even sucks.
527
00:29:06,375 --> 00:29:06,665
Yeah.
528
00:29:07,574 --> 00:29:08,175
Yeah.
529
00:29:08,324 --> 00:29:15,645
So, so when you, when, when you really,
I mean, the, the, the paradoxical
530
00:29:15,645 --> 00:29:20,595
thing is when you really just allow
the energy to be what it is, it
531
00:29:20,595 --> 00:29:22,995
switches often into its opposite.
532
00:29:23,175 --> 00:29:23,415
Yeah.
533
00:29:24,074 --> 00:29:29,355
You know, like the powerlessness
becomes a, a huge experience of, well,
534
00:29:30,615 --> 00:29:32,564
of course I can take care of myself.
535
00:29:32,570 --> 00:29:33,824
I can do what I want.
536
00:29:33,824 --> 00:29:34,274
Well, yeah.
537
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:39,135
It's just a real, you know, I have
the choice of doing whatever it is
538
00:29:39,135 --> 00:29:45,495
that I feel like doing, or I feel
like trying out in terms of treatment
539
00:29:45,495 --> 00:29:47,895
because, because that's my choice.
540
00:29:48,345 --> 00:29:48,495
Yeah.
541
00:29:49,304 --> 00:29:54,524
And, um, that, that, that
paradoxical thing that when you
542
00:29:54,524 --> 00:29:56,544
no longer resist it, it shift.
543
00:29:57,270 --> 00:30:01,830
You know, it, it, I mean, I, I
understand that energetically, right?
544
00:30:01,830 --> 00:30:10,350
So if you, if you don't resist a
certain energy, it just shifts.
545
00:30:11,190 --> 00:30:14,190
It's the resistance that
keeps it locked into place.
546
00:30:14,340 --> 00:30:15,030
Absolutely.
547
00:30:15,390 --> 00:30:15,690
It's sure.
548
00:30:15,830 --> 00:30:20,640
So, so what you're doing with the
inquiry is just a very neat way of
549
00:30:21,420 --> 00:30:26,280
helping people to get to the point where
they're no longer resisting the energy.
550
00:30:26,670 --> 00:30:27,540
That's exactly right.
551
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:29,160
That's exactly what we're doing.
552
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:30,060
Yeah.
553
00:30:30,060 --> 00:30:30,120
Yeah.
554
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:34,080
And you know, there's so many ways to
talk about that because it's hard to
555
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:37,650
talk about the benefits of this kind
of work or even being with, until you
556
00:30:37,650 --> 00:30:41,070
go through it, mm-hmm , you have to sit
with it and see, you know, but yeah.
557
00:30:41,250 --> 00:30:43,290
There's so many different
ways of looking at that.
558
00:30:43,295 --> 00:30:48,150
Like just the, you know, people not
being feeling like they can't, they
559
00:30:48,150 --> 00:30:52,200
cannot create freely or they can't,
they can't love and communicate
560
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,740
freely is a lot, has to do with
the resistance to core feelings.
561
00:30:56,285 --> 00:30:59,625
they just haven't been met yet or core
stories that haven't really been examined
562
00:30:59,625 --> 00:31:04,395
and, and not in a psychological sense,
but have not really been seen, you know?
563
00:31:04,575 --> 00:31:04,665
Yes.
564
00:31:05,295 --> 00:31:10,935
Um, and so yeah, it, if you look at that
stuff and it, and it tends to be cleared
565
00:31:10,935 --> 00:31:15,945
away, there's obviously gonna be a greater
CAPA, greater ability to, or greater
566
00:31:15,945 --> 00:31:20,145
freedom to create, for example, or greater
freedom to communicate and say, you know,
567
00:31:20,145 --> 00:31:23,745
what you really feel, and what's really
going on for you mm-hmm or wherever that
568
00:31:23,745 --> 00:31:27,465
blockage was, whether it's, you know,
anything, wherever that blockage was,
569
00:31:27,465 --> 00:31:33,885
if you, if you meet it and you face it,
the potential that was blocked is yeah.
570
00:31:34,035 --> 00:31:35,355
Yeah, absolutely.
571
00:31:36,165 --> 00:31:38,715
Well, it's like the atom,
you know, I mean, when the
572
00:31:39,025 --> 00:31:40,965
atom's no longer held and it.
573
00:31:41,655 --> 00:31:44,685
in its, um, kind of usual structure.
574
00:31:44,775 --> 00:31:47,655
It explodes into enormous energy.
575
00:31:47,865 --> 00:31:48,015
Yeah.
576
00:31:48,015 --> 00:31:48,525
Right.
577
00:31:54,825 --> 00:31:55,885
that's a lot of energy.
578
00:31:56,595 --> 00:32:00,915
, it's a lot of energy, but you know, I
mean, we have a lot of energy, right.
579
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:05,145
I mean, if we are no
longer in contraction, wow.
580
00:32:05,145 --> 00:32:08,535
The energy that's set
free is, is enormous.
581
00:32:08,595 --> 00:32:09,255
Oh my God.
582
00:32:09,255 --> 00:32:09,495
Yeah.
583
00:32:09,495 --> 00:32:11,655
I was just saying today,
I just feel so good.
584
00:32:11,655 --> 00:32:14,625
You know, like just being able to walk
around, I feel like I'm a kid again.
585
00:32:14,625 --> 00:32:17,895
I mean, just doing this work, it
just feeling like, you know, you
586
00:32:17,925 --> 00:32:20,715
just, you know, where it's like,
you, you just feel good to be alive.
587
00:32:20,745 --> 00:32:23,565
You just, just walk around, you know,
and, and parts of your body, you didn't
588
00:32:23,565 --> 00:32:26,175
even know were kind of closed off or open.
589
00:32:26,175 --> 00:32:26,865
It's like, wow.
590
00:32:26,865 --> 00:32:27,075
What?
591
00:32:27,075 --> 00:32:29,445
You know, it's awesome.
592
00:32:29,645 --> 00:32:30,765
I mean, yeah.
593
00:32:30,805 --> 00:32:33,165
I mean, if you're willing to
go deep with it, it really is.
594
00:32:33,765 --> 00:32:34,215
Yeah.
595
00:32:40,815 --> 00:32:49,425
and maybe that's the difference between
traditional, um, you know, traditional
596
00:32:49,455 --> 00:32:57,225
advisor non-dual teachings and the,
the current kind of Western versions
597
00:32:57,225 --> 00:33:05,655
of it that people come to to discover,
um, which is that there's something
598
00:33:05,805 --> 00:33:13,095
there's something to be lived in this
life, you know, um, like this discovery,
599
00:33:13,095 --> 00:33:16,905
that, of the potential that's there.
600
00:33:16,905 --> 00:33:22,905
When, when there is, you know, contraction
that's set free, that's liberated.
601
00:33:23,595 --> 00:33:23,805
Yeah.
602
00:33:23,895 --> 00:33:27,345
Um, and in traditional teachings,
603
00:33:30,885 --> 00:33:34,815
that doesn't matter, you know,
because it's at a human level.
604
00:33:34,815 --> 00:33:40,995
It's, it's like not
interesting, but it seems,
605
00:33:44,295 --> 00:33:44,895
I don't know.
606
00:33:44,895 --> 00:33:52,425
It seems like that so many people in
the west who've woken up are looking to,
607
00:33:53,175 --> 00:34:02,235
to, um, like, you know, even at Shanti
people, like at Shanti say it it's all
608
00:34:02,235 --> 00:34:08,025
about how it's lived out, you know,
how, what, what does, what does it mean?
609
00:34:08,025 --> 00:34:14,295
What does it mean in everyday life
to, to live in a way that's no longer
610
00:34:14,295 --> 00:34:22,545
caught by the, by the concepts and the,
the identities that we thought we had.
611
00:34:23,054 --> 00:34:23,355
Right.
612
00:34:27,090 --> 00:34:30,180
you know, the, I think when you say
traditional teaching, you're talking
613
00:34:30,180 --> 00:34:32,700
about Western therapy or therapeutic type.
614
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:37,620
Um, no, I'm talking about traditional
advisor teachings that come out
615
00:34:37,620 --> 00:34:45,181
of Asia, uh, versus what the, the
Western kind of, you know yeah, yeah.
616
00:34:45,870 --> 00:34:53,610
People like you, who, who somehow have
had awakening experiences, but who,
617
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:59,760
who, who feel the, the calling to take
them somewhere completely elsewhere?
618
00:35:00,060 --> 00:35:00,360
You know?
619
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:00,660
No.
620
00:35:01,410 --> 00:35:05,010
Yeah, that, that's the thing that
I like is not feeling like I'm
621
00:35:05,010 --> 00:35:06,480
constrained to a certain thing.
622
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:07,920
I wanna be able to explore and.
623
00:35:08,985 --> 00:35:11,925
And find out what works for
me, not what works for somebody
624
00:35:11,925 --> 00:35:12,915
else, what works for me.
625
00:35:12,915 --> 00:35:17,835
Mm-hmm and, and then, and not feel like I
can't go out beyond the bounds of certain
626
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,725
ideas that have been given to me now.
627
00:35:19,725 --> 00:35:21,315
I was always sort of a rebel anyway.
628
00:35:21,375 --> 00:35:24,825
I mean, just growing today, I
learned that I can't fit in the box.
629
00:35:25,155 --> 00:35:28,395
You know, just that feeling of
being that little gay kid, you
630
00:35:28,395 --> 00:35:30,465
tell me it's like this, and I'm
gonna tell you it's not like that.
631
00:35:30,945 --> 00:35:31,005
Yeah.
632
00:35:31,005 --> 00:35:35,235
You know, so that kind of, that, that
thing is in me is really to explore it.
633
00:35:35,295 --> 00:35:39,435
And that's been the fun part of this is
to sort of say, you know, where, where
634
00:35:39,435 --> 00:35:43,545
is even the traditional teaching still
feeling limited to me, where can we now?
635
00:35:43,665 --> 00:35:44,625
Can we go beyond that?
636
00:35:44,625 --> 00:35:49,755
Can we move beyond it and somewhere
else and explore and create.
637
00:35:49,875 --> 00:35:53,835
And yeah, that's definitely
interesting to me.
638
00:35:54,915 --> 00:36:01,545
And, you know, I think O once you are
no longer bound by the, the pictures
639
00:36:01,605 --> 00:36:04,975
and the, and the, um, the words.
640
00:36:07,395 --> 00:36:10,785
the energy will move
where it'll it'll move.
641
00:36:10,785 --> 00:36:14,025
I mean, that's for each
of us to discover, right?
642
00:36:14,415 --> 00:36:14,595
Yeah.
643
00:36:14,805 --> 00:36:19,165
I mean, we can have no idea
about where that's going to move.
644
00:36:19,845 --> 00:36:26,805
like, you know, when I, before I
had the, this, this notion that I
645
00:36:26,805 --> 00:36:30,905
was going to organize this retreat,
I had no idea that I was gonna do.
646
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:32,650
Yeah, right.
647
00:36:33,350 --> 00:36:37,140
And then all of a sudden it
kind of dropped into my space.
648
00:36:38,130 --> 00:36:38,280
Yeah.
649
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:42,850
And it wouldn't leave so
that's how it's.
650
00:36:44,070 --> 00:36:45,660
So I had to do something with it.
651
00:36:45,750 --> 00:36:46,260
Right.
652
00:36:47,190 --> 00:36:48,210
and, and that's awesome.
653
00:36:48,210 --> 00:36:49,110
Cuz look what happened.
654
00:36:49,115 --> 00:36:49,920
I mean, here you are.
655
00:36:50,410 --> 00:36:51,690
I know, right?
656
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:53,490
It's beyond belief.
657
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:55,410
I mean, that's great.
658
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:56,910
That's how it happened.
659
00:36:56,910 --> 00:37:00,960
It reminds me with the treatment
center, you know, that open up around
660
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,110
this work, we opening up a recovery
center in Palm Springs and it's it
661
00:37:04,115 --> 00:37:07,560
happened exactly the same way cuz
I was going around giving talks.
662
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:10,110
Well, I was actually doing these
inquiries with people and people and
663
00:37:10,110 --> 00:37:13,290
some people came up and said, look,
I want to give some money to you so
664
00:37:13,290 --> 00:37:14,760
we can open up this treatment center.
665
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:16,930
And I was like, wow.
666
00:37:18,270 --> 00:37:21,390
You know, like, didn't
see that coming, you know.
667
00:37:21,855 --> 00:37:23,775
And then here I am
about to open the thing.
668
00:37:23,775 --> 00:37:25,634
So it's like, yeah, you, we can't know.
669
00:37:25,815 --> 00:37:27,975
And I think that's what I think
you're, you're totally right.
670
00:37:28,154 --> 00:37:31,665
Is that when these things start to get
seen through and, and the self-limiting
671
00:37:31,665 --> 00:37:37,694
beliefs are not there as much or at
all, then it's like, it feels like you
672
00:37:37,694 --> 00:37:41,234
could just go, it just feels like you
could just go in whatever direction.
673
00:37:41,475 --> 00:37:42,915
And it seems like things just happened.
674
00:37:42,975 --> 00:37:44,835
I don't know how that works.
675
00:37:45,495 --> 00:37:45,915
it just does.
676
00:37:46,935 --> 00:37:47,384
Yeah.
677
00:37:48,134 --> 00:37:51,194
Yeah, yeah.
678
00:37:53,174 --> 00:37:53,535
Huh.
679
00:37:54,015 --> 00:37:57,225
So Scott, this feels like
a kind of natural break.
680
00:38:00,404 --> 00:38:07,335
So what I'd like to do is just go to the
YouTube comment page and see, uh, what
681
00:38:07,335 --> 00:38:11,835
people are putting up in terms of comment
and whether anybody wants to come up to
682
00:38:11,835 --> 00:38:14,475
ask you a question, would that be okay?
683
00:38:14,654 --> 00:38:15,255
That'll be okay.
684
00:38:15,255 --> 00:38:16,734
And let me say one thing
before you do that.
685
00:38:17,550 --> 00:38:22,740
Um, you generously asked me if, if I
would work with somebody one on one with
686
00:38:22,740 --> 00:38:25,320
the inquiries and reluctantly, I said no.
687
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:29,009
And let me explain why mm-hmm , there's
no better way to get a feel of this
688
00:38:29,015 --> 00:38:32,400
work that we're doing than to either
to actually be facilitated in it.
689
00:38:33,060 --> 00:38:35,610
Another good thing is to watch
somebody being facilitated.
690
00:38:35,940 --> 00:38:39,390
But the problem with our time
constraint is that these facilitations
691
00:38:39,390 --> 00:38:41,790
are often at least an hour long.
692
00:38:41,790 --> 00:38:44,640
And if we don't give it that
much nurturing, something could,
693
00:38:44,790 --> 00:38:46,590
could be brought up some energy.
694
00:38:46,590 --> 00:38:49,860
And then the person could sort of
just be left there without being
695
00:38:49,860 --> 00:38:50,940
able me being able to follow through.
696
00:38:50,940 --> 00:38:51,630
And we like this.
697
00:38:51,630 --> 00:38:53,759
We like the support system
that we have for people.
698
00:38:54,180 --> 00:38:56,880
So thank you for the offer to
that, but in case anybody's
699
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:58,560
wondering why I'm not doing that.
700
00:38:58,620 --> 00:38:59,310
That's the reason.
701
00:38:59,910 --> 00:39:00,240
Yeah.
702
00:39:00,240 --> 00:39:02,310
Thanks for, thanks for mentioning that.
703
00:39:02,315 --> 00:39:04,830
Um, I mean, I.
704
00:39:05,700 --> 00:39:09,029
I had asked Scott before the
session, whether he'd be willing
705
00:39:09,029 --> 00:39:14,279
to demonstrate a, a, a, an inquiry
with somebody, even with myself.
706
00:39:14,285 --> 00:39:18,509
I mean, I would've volunteered
cuz I would've been interested.
707
00:39:18,509 --> 00:39:18,870
Right.
708
00:39:19,410 --> 00:39:23,779
But, um, but he said, it's just, you
know, you can't leave somebody hanging.
709
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:28,440
Um, and I w he wouldn't
have the time to do it.
710
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:34,680
So, uh, there are videos that
people can watch aren't there
711
00:39:35,100 --> 00:39:37,560
to, to see how that works.
712
00:39:38,549 --> 00:39:38,880
Yeah.
713
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,850
And we are developing more
videos to, to help that.
714
00:39:41,850 --> 00:39:44,881
Cause we're really trying to teach people
to look on their own mm-hmm and then
715
00:39:44,886 --> 00:39:49,230
we also encourage people to go to living
inquiries.com to meet with facilitators.
716
00:39:49,230 --> 00:39:50,220
Cause the best way to do it.
717
00:39:50,220 --> 00:39:51,600
It's an interactive process.
718
00:39:51,720 --> 00:39:51,839
Yeah.
719
00:39:51,839 --> 00:39:54,930
Facilitators can really take you
deep, but there's also, if you wanna
720
00:39:54,930 --> 00:39:57,600
do it on your own, we're working on
getting more materials out there to
721
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,850
help mm-hmm with that mm-hmm okay.
722
00:40:00,089 --> 00:40:00,509
Okay.
723
00:40:00,900 --> 00:40:07,245
So, um, maybe I should just mention at
this point, the, the way to get those to
724
00:40:07,245 --> 00:40:13,755
those links is to just go to kby.com and
to then go into the living inquiries.
725
00:40:14,205 --> 00:40:14,355
Yeah.
726
00:40:14,355 --> 00:40:16,665
You basically have two choices@kby.com.
727
00:40:16,725 --> 00:40:19,485
You can go towards the, the
addiction work, natural rest,
728
00:40:19,485 --> 00:40:22,275
which will be up in December, or
you can go to the inquiry page.
729
00:40:22,945 --> 00:40:24,555
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
730
00:40:24,565 --> 00:40:25,635
Thank you for mentioning that.
731
00:40:26,265 --> 00:40:27,705
Oh my pleasure.
732
00:40:27,855 --> 00:40:31,185
I mean, I'm happy to bring that
to people because it sounds
733
00:40:31,185 --> 00:40:33,345
like a great, great thing.
734
00:40:34,635 --> 00:40:40,185
Um, I just wanted to ask and I'm sure
people are curious about that too.
735
00:40:40,185 --> 00:40:44,265
So I'm just going to ask it before
I look at the, at the, at the
736
00:40:44,265 --> 00:40:51,915
comments page, um, how, how are you
running the center for recovery?
737
00:40:51,915 --> 00:40:57,345
I mean, where do the inquiries
come into that framework?
738
00:40:57,350 --> 00:41:00,075
Because I imagine you have to meet fairly.
739
00:41:01,650 --> 00:41:08,220
tight medical requirements and
care requirements and whatever.
740
00:41:09,750 --> 00:41:10,080
Yeah.
741
00:41:10,530 --> 00:41:16,350
Um, surprisingly, to set up the
center, you don't have to, um, in
742
00:41:16,350 --> 00:41:19,290
order to take insurance from people
which we intend to do is so that
743
00:41:19,290 --> 00:41:20,700
people can afford to go there.
744
00:41:21,030 --> 00:41:26,060
We have to have, I'll be actually
studying to, uh, get a, get a, uh,
745
00:41:28,770 --> 00:41:32,100
certified as an addiction counselor
as part of the mm-hmm thing.
746
00:41:32,100 --> 00:41:34,590
Of course mm-hmm and then so
will my other facilitators, but
747
00:41:34,595 --> 00:41:35,820
we'll be doing my work there.
748
00:41:35,825 --> 00:41:39,540
It's it's rather, which
is doing it guidelines.
749
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:45,510
We will be working with the medical group
for detox and for, to have a doctor, uh,
750
00:41:45,570 --> 00:41:47,040
to deal with some of the medical issues.
751
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:47,850
So yeah, we've got it.
752
00:41:47,850 --> 00:41:47,940
Yes.
753
00:41:48,150 --> 00:41:50,190
There's quite a few things
we have to get in place.
754
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:57,360
Mm-hmm mm-hmm . But it's, it's really,
I mean, it's really exciting to see
755
00:41:57,799 --> 00:42:03,299
somebody like you moving into that field
because you know, the medical field is, so
756
00:42:06,720 --> 00:42:12,360
it needs, it needs, um, people like
you, you know, it needs new input and it
757
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:16,740
needs, uh, input from people that's fresh.
758
00:42:16,740 --> 00:42:23,910
That's that, that isn't too caught in
the contractions of the medical yeah.
759
00:42:24,330 --> 00:42:26,940
Uh, science and, and field.
760
00:42:28,799 --> 00:42:29,070
Yeah.
761
00:42:29,070 --> 00:42:32,549
It's definitely gonna be a different
approach to, to a lot of what's out there.
762
00:42:32,759 --> 00:42:33,029
Yeah.
763
00:42:33,509 --> 00:42:37,410
And I'm really, really excited about
it just to see what, how that unfolds.
764
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:38,430
Yeah.
765
00:42:38,820 --> 00:42:39,240
Right.
766
00:42:39,779 --> 00:42:40,410
Okay.
767
00:42:40,980 --> 00:42:45,360
So Scott, I'll give you a minutes
break or two or three, and I'll look
768
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:51,120
at the, I'll look at the YouTube, uh,
page and see what's happening there.
769
00:43:01,975 --> 00:43:02,195
Um,
770
00:43:07,455 --> 00:43:08,295
okay.
771
00:43:08,295 --> 00:43:09,435
So, um,
772
00:43:23,055 --> 00:43:27,255
I'm just going, I have a friend
who's helping in the background and
773
00:43:27,260 --> 00:43:33,165
she's kind of summing up the comments
from the, from the YouTube page.
774
00:43:34,755 --> 00:43:39,825
So she says, uh, Kathleen
says, just curious, this seems
775
00:43:39,825 --> 00:43:41,325
to be an interview format.
776
00:43:41,385 --> 00:43:43,635
Is this the way the whole thing will be?
777
00:43:46,435 --> 00:43:50,475
And Tamara says she really wants
to hear Scott speak for himself.
778
00:43:52,470 --> 00:43:55,890
uh, Susan also says I would like
Scott to lead the discussion
779
00:43:55,890 --> 00:43:58,200
some more somebody else agrees.
780
00:43:59,370 --> 00:44:00,060
Okay.
781
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:03,299
Sounds like I'm talking too much, Scott
782
00:44:07,229 --> 00:44:12,089
well about the interview format is that
one thing that the, the thing just to
783
00:44:12,089 --> 00:44:15,689
clarify is that I don't do a lot of
what other non-dual teachers do anymore.
784
00:44:15,990 --> 00:44:18,839
Like in other words, I wouldn't
come on here and point to presence.
785
00:44:18,870 --> 00:44:20,220
That's not what I do anymore.
786
00:44:20,220 --> 00:44:22,799
And I mm-hmm, , it's not a
comfortable thing for me anymore.
787
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:27,240
Um, I'm really here to talk about the
subject that is close to your heart
788
00:44:27,330 --> 00:44:30,870
healing and awakening, and to do it in
the context of the work that we're doing.
789
00:44:31,290 --> 00:44:34,500
And in that way, it sort of
is an interview type thing.
790
00:44:34,589 --> 00:44:39,930
Um, so, you know, I would be, I'd be happy
though, to answer anybody's questions
791
00:44:39,930 --> 00:44:41,040
or anything that they wanna know.
792
00:44:41,044 --> 00:44:44,339
It's just that you're not gonna hear
me start just ranting about awakening.
793
00:44:44,339 --> 00:44:45,270
You're not gonna hear that from me.
794
00:44:45,270 --> 00:44:46,080
Cause I don't do that.
795
00:44:46,970 --> 00:44:49,350
I don't, I don't do it, you know?
796
00:44:50,745 --> 00:44:53,085
So, but I'd be happy to talk
about anything, especially
797
00:44:53,085 --> 00:44:55,905
anything that's really specific
that somebody has to talk about.
798
00:44:56,175 --> 00:44:56,955
Yeah.
799
00:44:57,945 --> 00:45:00,885
Well, you know, there are these
comments, as I see on the YouTube
800
00:45:00,885 --> 00:45:04,665
page, there's waking dreams
dream that says thank you, Scott.
801
00:45:04,665 --> 00:45:05,775
You're awesome.
802
00:45:06,735 --> 00:45:11,625
Um, and there are comments
about, uh, people wanting you
803
00:45:11,625 --> 00:45:13,515
to lead the discussion more.
804
00:45:15,825 --> 00:45:20,535
Um, but nobody seems to have a question.
805
00:45:21,185 --> 00:45:21,305
Hmm.
806
00:45:26,025 --> 00:45:29,085
Well, yeah, well, I'll lead a little
bit just to explain a little bit
807
00:45:29,085 --> 00:45:31,785
more about the inquiries for people
who haven't and then if you see
808
00:45:31,785 --> 00:45:35,495
a question just, okay, go ahead.
809
00:45:35,555 --> 00:45:36,225
Um, yeah.
810
00:45:36,435 --> 00:45:41,265
So the first thing about the
inquiries is that, um, what we do
811
00:45:41,270 --> 00:45:45,735
is we try to find things mm-hmm we
assume that something is real.
812
00:45:46,350 --> 00:45:48,810
You start off assuming
that something is real.
813
00:45:48,850 --> 00:45:51,420
And, and a lot of times people
like to look for the self, but we
814
00:45:51,420 --> 00:45:53,040
have them name it a certain way.
815
00:45:53,490 --> 00:45:58,650
It has to feel personal to like, I'm
the black sheep mm-hmm or I, like
816
00:45:58,650 --> 00:46:02,160
we said, I'm the one who's alone,
or often it's a deficiency story.
817
00:46:02,430 --> 00:46:06,270
Like I'm not good enough or I'm
inadequate or I'm unloved or unsafe.
818
00:46:06,780 --> 00:46:09,840
Those are the really core stories
that we carry around as humans.
819
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:12,210
And they have a lot to do with
what we're doing in the world.
820
00:46:12,720 --> 00:46:16,050
Like of trying to be successful, trying
to seek enlightenment, trying to improve
821
00:46:16,050 --> 00:46:19,080
ourselves, trying to get the right
relationship, trying to get the right job.
822
00:46:21,210 --> 00:46:24,870
So what we do is we go looking
for that self in a systematic way,
823
00:46:24,870 --> 00:46:28,410
as I was explaining by looking
at words and pictures and energy
824
00:46:28,620 --> 00:46:32,970
in a literal kind of trying to
pinpoint exactly where that self is.
825
00:46:33,390 --> 00:46:35,430
Mm-hmm and then, and not
being able to find it.
826
00:46:35,430 --> 00:46:38,400
What happens is that you
get to meet energy that has
827
00:46:38,405 --> 00:46:40,230
been unconscious and unmet.
828
00:46:40,845 --> 00:46:43,155
And then in reading that
energy, it shifts through.
829
00:46:43,455 --> 00:46:46,785
And as it shifts through the words
and the pictures shift with it
830
00:46:47,145 --> 00:46:50,265
shifting through means that literally
just sort of seems transparent.
831
00:46:50,985 --> 00:46:54,015
Mm-hmm , and, and it's a literal
not being able to find that self.
832
00:46:54,015 --> 00:46:58,425
And in that you learn how to look
on your own as things come up.
833
00:46:58,605 --> 00:47:02,235
So that you're being with things
with this certain question that
834
00:47:02,235 --> 00:47:06,195
we give you with the inquiry, and
then we have two other inquiries.
835
00:47:06,195 --> 00:47:08,685
And that's really just like
the bare explanation of that.
836
00:47:08,685 --> 00:47:13,095
You really kind of have to dive in
with us and look, um, the, the other
837
00:47:13,095 --> 00:47:16,395
two inquiries are the compulsion
inquiry and the anxiety inquiry
838
00:47:16,755 --> 00:47:21,135
mm-hmm because Rippert SP has a really
good quote and I'm gonna butcher it.
839
00:47:21,135 --> 00:47:26,595
But he says that about 5% of suffering
comes from the belief in a separate self
840
00:47:27,075 --> 00:47:30,675
and 90 to 95% comes from fear and lack.
841
00:47:32,055 --> 00:47:32,835
Ah, okay.
842
00:47:32,835 --> 00:47:36,645
And I really like that, um, because
it really fits in what, with what
843
00:47:36,645 --> 00:47:38,415
we're doing with the anxiety inquiry.
844
00:47:39,570 --> 00:47:44,070
And the compulsion inquiry compulsion
is that movement outward towards
845
00:47:44,070 --> 00:47:48,360
a substance, an activity, a person
in sort of in an addictive way.
846
00:47:48,750 --> 00:47:50,820
Like I'm looking for this
person to fulfill me.
847
00:47:50,820 --> 00:47:52,950
I'm looking for that substance
to make me feel better.
848
00:47:53,310 --> 00:47:55,560
I'm looking for this teacher
to make me enlightened.
849
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:57,780
I'm looking for this program to cure me.
850
00:47:58,950 --> 00:48:00,690
Mm-hmm so that's a compulsion.
851
00:48:00,930 --> 00:48:04,200
It often becomes a compulsion to try
to run away from what's uncomfortable.
852
00:48:04,770 --> 00:48:10,470
So what we do is we look for the urge or
the command, whatever it feels right for
853
00:48:10,475 --> 00:48:13,290
somebody to actually find that thing.
854
00:48:13,290 --> 00:48:16,020
So we might, if I'm working
with somebody on drinking wine,
855
00:48:16,890 --> 00:48:18,060
mm-hmm, drink it every night.
856
00:48:18,060 --> 00:48:22,320
I have them look for the urge to
drink wine mm-hmm . And so they move
857
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,770
through the words and the pictures and
the energy, and they can't find it.
858
00:48:26,310 --> 00:48:27,660
They literally can't pinpoint it.
859
00:48:28,110 --> 00:48:32,730
And when they can't pinpoint it, they
get to meet that energy that has been
860
00:48:32,820 --> 00:48:35,670
unconscious and avoided in the same way.
861
00:48:35,670 --> 00:48:37,350
And that energy can shift through.
862
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:42,870
And in that the compulsion goes
with it as you, and then, and then
863
00:48:42,870 --> 00:48:45,990
we give them the tool so that they
can look in their own life from
864
00:48:45,990 --> 00:48:47,850
that point on, on any compulsions.
865
00:48:48,690 --> 00:48:54,900
And then anxiety is that fear part of what
Rupert said, you know, mm-hmm , um, and,
866
00:48:54,900 --> 00:48:56,310
and lack is kind of the addiction thing.
867
00:48:56,340 --> 00:48:57,060
I lack something.
868
00:48:57,060 --> 00:49:01,950
So I'm looking for something, the
anxiety is the, the fight flight
869
00:49:01,950 --> 00:49:06,810
or freeze response that we have
two things that happen in life.
870
00:49:07,290 --> 00:49:09,990
And a lot of times we get
anxious or fearful around things
871
00:49:09,995 --> 00:49:11,220
that are not really threats.
872
00:49:12,150 --> 00:49:15,120
So in other words, we're
just thinking too much.
873
00:49:16,830 --> 00:49:17,550
we think a lot.
874
00:49:17,550 --> 00:49:18,660
And so we get scared.
875
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:20,970
So what we do is we look for the threat.
876
00:49:22,379 --> 00:49:26,160
So if someone says, okay,
I'm, I'm experiencing anxiety.
877
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,859
We literally look for the
threat in their experience.
878
00:49:29,129 --> 00:49:32,430
We look at the words, the pictures
and the interview to see if they
879
00:49:32,430 --> 00:49:35,250
can pinpoint where the threat is.
880
00:49:35,700 --> 00:49:40,470
And then again, in not being able to find
it, the whole thing just becomes, it just
881
00:49:40,470 --> 00:49:45,149
falls apart and they get a relaxation
from the anxiety and that energy,
882
00:49:45,149 --> 00:49:50,370
again, shifts through and becomes more
creative energy, more potential energy.
883
00:49:50,490 --> 00:49:54,600
They can do something with, instead
of being afraid all the time.
884
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:58,890
Mm-hmm we work with those three inquiries
and we weave them together with people
885
00:49:58,890 --> 00:50:00,540
so that it goes really deep for them.
886
00:50:01,649 --> 00:50:04,259
And ultimately we wanna show them
how to do the looking on their own.
887
00:50:05,069 --> 00:50:07,500
So, yeah, so I led the conversation.
888
00:50:07,529 --> 00:50:08,160
There you go.
889
00:50:08,339 --> 00:50:08,910
Okay.
890
00:50:08,910 --> 00:50:11,189
And I have a few questions for you, Scott.
891
00:50:11,430 --> 00:50:11,700
Okay.
892
00:50:12,240 --> 00:50:15,810
Um, so there's one question from.
893
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:22,020
Gala, um, I'm dealing with
a long term chronic illness.
894
00:50:22,020 --> 00:50:27,720
What are the key questions I should ask
myself gala so that, you know, if you
895
00:50:27,725 --> 00:50:31,770
came to work with me or a facilitator,
what we would do is we would, we
896
00:50:31,770 --> 00:50:35,580
would look to see what deficient
self is hooked into the condition.
897
00:50:35,670 --> 00:50:39,720
First of all, for example, if I'm
suffering from cancer, we might ask,
898
00:50:39,750 --> 00:50:41,940
okay, what does that mirror back about?
899
00:50:41,940 --> 00:50:42,540
Who I am?
900
00:50:43,230 --> 00:50:46,770
And sometimes people will say, well,
that means I'm broken or that I'm
901
00:50:46,770 --> 00:50:50,670
unlovable, or that there's something
wrong with me fundamentally.
902
00:50:51,240 --> 00:50:56,400
So that's the self that you've named
that is connected to the condition.
903
00:50:57,299 --> 00:51:00,900
So we might then look for that self, that
particular self cause that's gonna be
904
00:51:00,900 --> 00:51:04,920
really personal that self, and then we
would take you through it and you would
905
00:51:04,924 --> 00:51:07,170
see that that's not actually who you are.
906
00:51:07,170 --> 00:51:09,940
It's just a display of words
and pictures and energy.
907
00:51:10,589 --> 00:51:12,600
That you've taken yourself to be.
908
00:51:13,470 --> 00:51:16,920
And as that deficiency story
gets seen through an incredible
909
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:20,400
amount of the suffering around
the condition can start to relax.
910
00:51:21,029 --> 00:51:25,379
So then you've got just the
physical sensations and maybe some
911
00:51:25,379 --> 00:51:27,029
more stories even about anxiety.
912
00:51:27,035 --> 00:51:30,270
Cause we might enter into the
anxiety inquiry there because of
913
00:51:30,359 --> 00:51:33,600
the threat of what this condition
may mean for you in the future.
914
00:51:34,049 --> 00:51:35,460
So we would look for the threat.
915
00:51:36,240 --> 00:51:39,000
Um, and so the question
would be where's the threat.
916
00:51:39,990 --> 00:51:43,049
So the question on both inquiries, if
you're doing the unfindable inquiries,
917
00:51:43,319 --> 00:51:46,020
where is this person who's broken?
918
00:51:46,500 --> 00:51:50,730
If I look at each set of words by
itself for each picture and each
919
00:51:50,730 --> 00:51:56,549
energy by itself, where is the person
who's broken or where is the threat?
920
00:51:56,970 --> 00:52:00,480
If I looked at those things
now that's basically how you
921
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:01,350
would do it with this work.
922
00:52:01,350 --> 00:52:02,310
Those are the questions.
923
00:52:02,609 --> 00:52:05,730
However, there's a few
really important nuances.
924
00:52:06,105 --> 00:52:09,855
That we do as facilitators to help
you be with the energy so that
925
00:52:09,855 --> 00:52:11,175
you don't get trapped in the head.
926
00:52:11,175 --> 00:52:12,435
This is not a head inquiry.
927
00:52:12,795 --> 00:52:14,205
It's not an intellectual thing.
928
00:52:14,745 --> 00:52:18,315
So we have ways of keeping you
from getting distracted and from
929
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:19,605
looking at the right things.
930
00:52:20,595 --> 00:52:23,385
And so what I would say to gala is if
you can't do this on your own is just
931
00:52:23,385 --> 00:52:26,625
go work with one of my facilitators,
because a lot of them have been through
932
00:52:27,045 --> 00:52:30,555
pretty serious illnesses or have worked
with people who have, and they know
933
00:52:30,555 --> 00:52:33,105
exactly what to look at with you.
934
00:52:35,505 --> 00:52:36,135
Okay.
935
00:52:36,375 --> 00:52:37,245
Thanks, Scott.
936
00:52:37,935 --> 00:52:40,785
And there's another question from Anna.
937
00:52:40,785 --> 00:52:46,365
Laura, could you explain more about
the effective tool for dissolving
938
00:52:46,365 --> 00:52:49,125
addiction called the compulsion inquiry?
939
00:52:50,175 --> 00:52:50,565
Yeah.
940
00:52:50,805 --> 00:52:53,025
Uh, probably best to give an example.
941
00:52:54,465 --> 00:52:58,485
Um, and I gave the wine example a second
ago, but let's say someone came to me and
942
00:52:58,490 --> 00:53:01,485
they were addicted to, um, pain killers.
943
00:53:02,055 --> 00:53:03,915
So what's happening is, is that.
944
00:53:04,995 --> 00:53:07,080
there's definitely an
energetic component to that.
945
00:53:07,110 --> 00:53:11,220
In other words, their body is
feeling a craving or something
946
00:53:11,790 --> 00:53:13,470
before they take the painkillers.
947
00:53:13,890 --> 00:53:17,700
And also what's happening is right before
they pull, they put their hand into
948
00:53:17,700 --> 00:53:19,410
the cabinet to grab the painkillers.
949
00:53:19,770 --> 00:53:20,760
There's a little ghost.
950
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:25,440
We call the ghost image that comes up and
the images of the image of the pills or
951
00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:27,300
an image of something that looks enticing.
952
00:53:28,170 --> 00:53:33,240
And it's that image and that energy
together, which we call the Velcro effect.
953
00:53:33,870 --> 00:53:38,490
That's what is the compulsion,
that image and that energy, or
954
00:53:38,490 --> 00:53:40,380
perhaps it's words and energy.
955
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:45,870
So what we do is we have people look
for the command to take painkillers.
956
00:53:46,410 --> 00:53:50,370
And so they would look at the mental
picture of the painkillers and see that
957
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:56,190
actually the command to take the pills
is nowhere on the picture, the command
958
00:53:56,190 --> 00:53:57,960
to take it is not on the picture.
959
00:53:58,620 --> 00:54:02,490
The reason that it looks like it's on the
picture is because there's energy stuck.
960
00:54:02,490 --> 00:54:08,355
Uh, So we have them move into feeling just
the energy as best they can by itself.
961
00:54:08,745 --> 00:54:10,935
And we have them sit with
it, quiet very quietly.
962
00:54:10,935 --> 00:54:13,065
We have ways to get them
to get quiet with it.
963
00:54:13,545 --> 00:54:18,765
And we ask where in that energy is
the command to take the painkillers.
964
00:54:19,335 --> 00:54:21,495
And when they're really quiet
with it, they see that there's no
965
00:54:21,765 --> 00:54:23,865
command in there that doesn't have
anything to do with painkillers.
966
00:54:23,865 --> 00:54:27,975
It's just unmet energy that
hasn't been built as they feel it.
967
00:54:27,975 --> 00:54:31,665
And the, it shifts through the
compulsion can start to fall away.
968
00:54:32,535 --> 00:54:36,225
And then we work with people on any
anxiety that comes up through the anxiety
969
00:54:36,230 --> 00:54:40,305
inquiry on the withdrawals or what life
would be like without the painkillers,
970
00:54:41,055 --> 00:54:43,425
the fear based part of it, you know?
971
00:54:43,425 --> 00:54:46,065
So that's how we would,
that's how we work with it.
972
00:54:46,815 --> 00:54:47,475
Okay.
973
00:54:48,225 --> 00:54:48,885
Great spot.
974
00:54:48,945 --> 00:54:54,015
And there's another
question from waking dream.
975
00:54:54,105 --> 00:54:58,155
Um, can the inquiry be
used to address addiction?
976
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,700
Sorry, can the inquiry
use to address addiction?
977
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:05,580
Can it also be used to address aversion?
978
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:07,660
Yes.
979
00:55:07,665 --> 00:55:09,540
Aversion is the anxiety inquiry.
980
00:55:10,350 --> 00:55:12,930
That's another way we talk about it.
981
00:55:15,900 --> 00:55:20,460
Like an attraction and aver
Scott, we lost to try to run.
982
00:55:21,750 --> 00:55:22,740
We lost you there.
983
00:55:22,740 --> 00:55:24,300
Could you just repeat that?
984
00:55:25,350 --> 00:55:25,800
Yeah, I will.
985
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:28,110
Um, yeah.
986
00:55:28,140 --> 00:55:31,560
So avers, we just talk about in
terms of the anxiety inquiry.
987
00:55:32,100 --> 00:55:36,450
So attraction and aversion are two ways
to talk about the compulsion and the
988
00:55:36,450 --> 00:55:40,560
anxiety inquiry, because a compulsion
is a movement towards something
989
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:44,670
attraction towards something in order
to run away from some uncomfortable
990
00:55:44,670 --> 00:55:49,560
feeling, whether we're running towards
a spiritual program or a drug or
991
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:51,450
something else, it's a movement.
992
00:55:51,450 --> 00:55:55,500
Outward aversion is often the feeling
that there's something threatening here.
993
00:55:55,500 --> 00:55:57,840
It's it can be a recoiling or a fight.
994
00:55:58,515 --> 00:56:01,785
Or excuse me, a flight response for
something, an aversion to something.
995
00:56:02,085 --> 00:56:04,575
And that's usually because of
the perception of some threat,
996
00:56:05,265 --> 00:56:06,645
there's some threat somewhere.
997
00:56:06,975 --> 00:56:10,365
And so for that, we use the anxiety
inquiry and see if you can find the
998
00:56:10,365 --> 00:56:12,855
threat in the words, pictures and energy.
999
00:56:12,855 --> 00:56:18,015
So yeah, almost anxiety inquiry is almost,
almost, almost always completely devoted
1000
00:56:18,015 --> 00:56:20,625
to the aversion aspect of our experience.
1001
00:56:21,585 --> 00:56:22,815
Mm-hmm yeah.
1002
00:56:23,145 --> 00:56:23,535
Okay.
1003
00:56:24,134 --> 00:56:30,285
Um, so there's a related question to,
uh, sorry, the feed's just kind of
1004
00:56:31,065 --> 00:56:33,465
bringing up all kinds of new stuff here.
1005
00:56:34,005 --> 00:56:36,404
Are you okay with, uh,
staying on for a bit?
1006
00:56:36,705 --> 00:56:36,945
Yeah.
1007
00:56:38,745 --> 00:56:43,725
So, um, let's see.
1008
00:56:47,895 --> 00:56:53,815
This YouTube feed sometimes is a bit
confusing, but here's the question.
1009
00:56:53,835 --> 00:56:54,285
Okay.
1010
00:57:00,490 --> 00:57:00,710
Um,
1011
00:57:05,340 --> 00:57:11,430
tomorrow I had your question,
but now I can't find it anymore.
1012
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:15,180
Sorry.
1013
00:57:15,180 --> 00:57:17,670
Something was just removed.
1014
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:29,220
Hmm.
1015
00:57:30,660 --> 00:57:31,320
Okay.
1016
00:57:31,380 --> 00:57:36,750
Um, I think there's a question that
just got removed, but there's another
1017
00:57:36,750 --> 00:57:41,130
one that says, can you point to
how to find your deficiency story?
1018
00:57:41,970 --> 00:57:42,810
Yes.
1019
00:57:43,290 --> 00:57:46,080
You know, the best way to
do it is to, to look at how
1020
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:47,820
relationship reveals it to you.
1021
00:57:48,300 --> 00:57:49,500
We call it the boomerang.
1022
00:57:50,100 --> 00:57:53,490
In other words, if you look, if, if
there's somebody that's triggering
1023
00:57:53,490 --> 00:57:57,090
you outside yourself, or even an
object that's triggering you, like
1024
00:57:57,090 --> 00:57:58,140
it's something you're addicted to.
1025
00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:03,240
If you stop and ask what's this
mirroring back to me about my deficiency.
1026
00:58:03,630 --> 00:58:05,700
You'll, you'll start to feel something.
1027
00:58:06,690 --> 00:58:09,150
And then you can put a name
to that deficiency story.
1028
00:58:09,510 --> 00:58:12,300
Let me give you a couple of examples,
cuz Boomerang's really powerful
1029
00:58:12,300 --> 00:58:13,830
to start putting a name to that.
1030
00:58:14,550 --> 00:58:18,750
Let's say your, your mother and
your sister both trigger you.
1031
00:58:19,380 --> 00:58:21,870
You don't know why it just,
whenever you're around them, you're
1032
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:23,610
so easily fly off the handle.
1033
00:58:24,390 --> 00:58:28,260
If you put, if you put them up in
front of you and you kind of stop
1034
00:58:28,260 --> 00:58:32,100
focusing on their behavior, stop
focusing on how they should be.
1035
00:58:33,195 --> 00:58:34,485
And ask that question.
1036
00:58:34,755 --> 00:58:35,025
What?
1037
00:58:35,025 --> 00:58:36,495
It's like a mirror relationship.
1038
00:58:36,495 --> 00:58:40,725
What are they mirroring back to me
about my identity in this relationship,
1039
00:58:41,235 --> 00:58:45,225
you might find out that you might
say, well, I was the one that's not,
1040
00:58:45,255 --> 00:58:50,445
I'm the one that's not truly loved or
I'm the one that doesn't fit in here.
1041
00:58:51,045 --> 00:58:54,225
Or I'm the one that's just
always not good enough.
1042
00:58:55,185 --> 00:58:56,745
You feel it because it's your story.
1043
00:58:57,525 --> 00:58:59,055
But you have to ask that question.
1044
00:58:59,055 --> 00:58:59,565
What is it MI?
1045
00:58:59,625 --> 00:59:02,805
What is, what is this relationship
mirroring back about who I am.
1046
00:59:03,165 --> 00:59:07,485
If you stay focused on other people,
you won't see the deficiency story.
1047
00:59:07,485 --> 00:59:10,575
You'll only see their, their
problems, their behavior.
1048
00:59:11,115 --> 00:59:14,805
And if you focus on yourself in a way
that is merely mental, if you just
1049
00:59:14,805 --> 00:59:19,485
run the story in your mind, you often
won't get it because you're too in it.
1050
00:59:19,755 --> 00:59:20,685
The story is you.
1051
00:59:21,525 --> 00:59:24,915
But if you ask that question, what
is she mirroring back about me
1052
00:59:25,425 --> 00:59:30,105
and sit quietly with feeling into
the body and you feel that pain.
1053
00:59:30,930 --> 00:59:33,900
There'll be some words that pop
up with that pain, as long as
1054
00:59:33,900 --> 00:59:35,430
you make it an identity question.
1055
00:59:35,430 --> 00:59:39,270
In other words, who am I
in relation to this person?
1056
00:59:39,275 --> 00:59:43,050
Or what is this person mirroring
back about who I am in terms
1057
00:59:43,050 --> 00:59:47,160
of a efficiency and that can
usually eliminate it actually.
1058
00:59:51,330 --> 00:59:52,110
Okay.
1059
00:59:52,800 --> 01:00:00,780
So I now found the, um, the other
question by tomorrow, would you say most
1060
01:00:00,780 --> 01:00:03,510
fear is to do with the fear of death?
1061
01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:07,200
Non-existence yeah.
1062
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:11,070
Ultimately yes, but it looks like other
things at first, you know, it looks
1063
01:00:11,070 --> 01:00:15,060
like, oh gosh, I'm really afraid of
giving the speech tomorrow at work, or
1064
01:00:15,330 --> 01:00:19,230
I'm really afraid of being rejected, but
ultimately underlying all of that is the
1065
01:00:19,235 --> 01:00:23,580
fear of the death of the self or the,
of, of being nobody or none existence.
1066
01:00:23,580 --> 01:00:27,330
I think that's, and that's an inquiry
that we often do with people and
1067
01:00:27,330 --> 01:00:28,920
it has profound effect actually.
1068
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:32,340
if you just kind of go right to the
jugular there and you really look
1069
01:00:32,340 --> 01:00:36,270
to see that that's really ultimately
what, what one is afraid of.
1070
01:00:37,290 --> 01:00:38,400
Yeah, absolutely.
1071
01:00:39,780 --> 01:00:43,380
See, one thing before I forget, I know
that there are people who came to the
1072
01:00:43,380 --> 01:00:48,820
retreat who are really kind of looking
for a more experiential experience here.
1073
01:00:49,290 --> 01:00:52,440
You know, whether it's a teacher pointing
or whatever, and you're probably gonna
1074
01:00:52,440 --> 01:00:57,090
get that over the weekend from a few
people, the way that this work works,
1075
01:00:57,180 --> 01:01:00,780
this is also is highly experiential,
but it takes to be facilitated on it.
1076
01:01:01,050 --> 01:01:04,230
So if, if everybody that we're
listening to, this were in the room
1077
01:01:04,230 --> 01:01:06,000
with me, that would be different.
1078
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:09,870
We could be looking together, but
because I can't see you and I can't
1079
01:01:09,870 --> 01:01:12,630
hear you, I can't interact with you.
1080
01:01:13,050 --> 01:01:16,350
And so therefore we can't
really do this work together.
1081
01:01:16,350 --> 01:01:17,490
I can only talk about it.
1082
01:01:17,850 --> 01:01:22,350
And so you'll probably get other
teachers this weekend who will, um,
1083
01:01:22,860 --> 01:01:24,480
give you less of an interview form that.
1084
01:01:25,635 --> 01:01:29,085
Well, you know, Scott, I, I see
the questions also as a way for
1085
01:01:29,085 --> 01:01:35,085
people to just, um, maybe come to
know more about what you're doing.
1086
01:01:35,265 --> 01:01:35,445
Right.
1087
01:01:35,715 --> 01:01:39,195
And, you know, I, I know
you give weekend retreats.
1088
01:01:39,195 --> 01:01:42,795
So, I mean, during those retreats,
you have a lot of time with people.
1089
01:01:43,665 --> 01:01:49,695
So if they really feel called to
that form of inquiry, then you
1090
01:01:49,695 --> 01:01:54,795
know, I'd encourage you guys to
go and do a weekend with Scott.
1091
01:01:55,935 --> 01:01:56,085
Yeah.
1092
01:01:56,090 --> 01:01:59,325
We also have lots of deepening
courses by facilitators online
1093
01:01:59,955 --> 01:02:01,185
and living inquiries.com.
1094
01:02:01,425 --> 01:02:02,745
So there's lots of stuff going on.
1095
01:02:02,745 --> 01:02:03,435
It's not just me.
1096
01:02:03,435 --> 01:02:05,475
It's we're doing stuff all the time.
1097
01:02:06,615 --> 01:02:06,855
Yeah.
1098
01:02:08,205 --> 01:02:12,855
So here are some more questions.
1099
01:02:13,935 --> 01:02:17,805
Um, let see that I can find them.
1100
01:02:21,390 --> 01:02:22,230
Okay.
1101
01:02:22,230 --> 01:02:28,650
So gala says also, is there any way I
can be helpful to a friend who has an
1102
01:02:28,650 --> 01:02:34,560
addiction and who knows nothing about
inquiry other than being a caring friend?
1103
01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:39,930
Is there anything specific I should
ask or say, you know, strangely, I
1104
01:02:39,930 --> 01:02:43,230
would say the best thing you can do is
to look at whatever you believe about
1105
01:02:43,230 --> 01:02:47,490
yourself, yourself in that role, or even
about your friend, because it's almost
1106
01:02:47,495 --> 01:02:51,270
like when you clean up your side, even
though there aren't really sides, but
1107
01:02:51,270 --> 01:02:55,049
relatively there, are you clean up your
side about what you believe like, or do
1108
01:02:55,049 --> 01:02:59,190
you believe you're responsible or do you
believe, you know, whatever you believe
1109
01:02:59,190 --> 01:03:03,390
about yourself somehow that brings you
just to be present with the person.
1110
01:03:03,390 --> 01:03:06,509
And that's really the greatest gift
is, but it's hard to be present
1111
01:03:06,509 --> 01:03:07,650
if you're trying to fix somebody.
1112
01:03:07,650 --> 01:03:10,200
If you're trying to change them,
if you got a constant judgment of
1113
01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:15,299
them, if you feel like your role is
something conceptual with them, you
1114
01:03:15,299 --> 01:03:19,049
know, just kind of look at yourself
and then that takes care of itself.
1115
01:03:21,855 --> 01:03:22,305
Good.
1116
01:03:22,305 --> 01:03:22,995
Great.
1117
01:03:24,015 --> 01:03:24,855
great answer.
1118
01:03:26,055 --> 01:03:31,875
Um, I see one more
question from SIM Scott.
1119
01:03:31,875 --> 01:03:37,395
Can you say something about stopping the
search for enlightenment and whether that
1120
01:03:37,395 --> 01:03:39,825
is something that happens on its own?
1121
01:03:40,635 --> 01:03:47,625
Um, in other words, is, is there anything
one has to do or does it just happen?
1122
01:03:48,765 --> 01:03:51,525
It, you know, I, I might have once
said that it just happens now.
1123
01:03:51,525 --> 01:03:52,275
I know better.
1124
01:03:52,675 --> 01:03:55,515
And, and the way that is, because
we're ending that search with people
1125
01:03:55,755 --> 01:03:57,105
in these inquiries all the time.
1126
01:03:57,345 --> 01:04:01,605
It's a matter of being able to effectively
look at what, what is the assumption?
1127
01:04:02,025 --> 01:04:06,075
In other words, a lot of times this
is the reason the work got developed
1128
01:04:06,075 --> 01:04:09,135
is that people would call me up in
private session and they would say, I'm
1129
01:04:09,135 --> 01:04:10,845
seeking enlightenment, can you help me?
1130
01:04:11,355 --> 01:04:14,655
But what I heard was there's
something wrong with me.
1131
01:04:15,885 --> 01:04:17,175
That's what I heard them saying.
1132
01:04:18,105 --> 01:04:20,865
And the, and the belief was is that
if they would get to the awakening,
1133
01:04:20,865 --> 01:04:23,444
then they, then everything that
they thought that was wrong with him
1134
01:04:23,984 --> 01:04:25,935
would be washed away or something.
1135
01:04:26,205 --> 01:04:30,015
So what we did I started doing is
see if we could find that self who
1136
01:04:30,015 --> 01:04:33,045
there's something wrong with, or find
that self that's not good enough.
1137
01:04:33,375 --> 01:04:36,315
And when they couldn't find
that they lost interest in
1138
01:04:36,315 --> 01:04:37,694
enlightenment, the seeking guy.
1139
01:04:38,714 --> 01:04:41,475
So that's, so it's, it's not a
matter of just waiting around like
1140
01:04:41,714 --> 01:04:44,685
grace, like somehow you're gonna
catch a cold, you know, you're gonna
1141
01:04:44,685 --> 01:04:45,884
catch enlightenment or something.
1142
01:04:46,035 --> 01:04:49,694
It's a matter of really looking at what
the beliefs that are operating there.
1143
01:04:50,174 --> 01:04:53,325
And one of the beliefs is that there's
such a thing called enlightenment as
1144
01:04:53,325 --> 01:04:55,754
something inherent and true and real.
1145
01:04:56,085 --> 01:04:59,595
Like we have people look for enlightenment
all the time, not like to try to
1146
01:04:59,595 --> 01:05:02,565
find it and be enlightened, but to
see that it's just an empty concept.
1147
01:05:02,984 --> 01:05:04,845
But as, as long as you think
it's more than an empty
1148
01:05:04,845 --> 01:05:06,285
concept, you'll be chasing it.
1149
01:05:06,285 --> 01:05:10,365
Like you would chase a, a bottle
of whiskey as an alcoholic or
1150
01:05:10,785 --> 01:05:12,105
whatever else it would just know.
1151
01:05:12,105 --> 01:05:14,055
It's not, it's not like
catching a cold at all.
1152
01:05:14,355 --> 01:05:16,125
Just, you gotta look at an effective.
1153
01:05:16,755 --> 01:05:18,495
Direct way at the right things.
1154
01:05:18,585 --> 01:05:21,805
And then the stuff will fall
apart for you and, and you and
1155
01:05:21,805 --> 01:05:23,055
the, and the seeking can relax.
1156
01:05:25,424 --> 01:05:26,535
Scott, thank you.
1157
01:05:26,540 --> 01:05:29,055
That's, uh, that's such a great answer.
1158
01:05:29,325 --> 01:05:35,595
Um, you, you know, because it's true
that the search for enlightenment can
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01:05:35,600 --> 01:05:43,845
be just another way of, of running
away from the experience whatever's
1160
01:05:43,845 --> 01:05:50,174
there, you know, it can be a way
of, uh, fixing, fixing one's life.
1161
01:05:52,154 --> 01:05:58,125
And so it, it it's like it's a
searching that, that, that doesn't,
1162
01:05:58,125 --> 01:06:05,235
that doesn't stop and, and, you know,
, it's a, it's a good idea to look at
1163
01:06:05,235 --> 01:06:11,205
that, that idea itself, that search
itself and put that to inquiry too.
1164
01:06:11,565 --> 01:06:11,805
Yeah.
1165
01:06:11,895 --> 01:06:13,275
Take a look at it, right?
1166
01:06:13,275 --> 01:06:13,575
Yeah.
1167
01:06:13,904 --> 01:06:14,415
Yeah.
1168
01:06:14,595 --> 01:06:18,720
That's uh, Sounds to me
like a very fruit move.
1169
01:06:19,650 --> 01:06:20,100
yeah.
1170
01:06:20,230 --> 01:06:22,600
It's it's making so for now
1171
01:06:27,120 --> 01:06:28,920
so I think that's a good way.
1172
01:06:29,370 --> 01:06:31,710
Good time to, to stop.
1173
01:06:31,710 --> 01:06:34,109
I don't see any more comments.
1174
01:06:34,109 --> 01:06:36,870
Let me just look one
more time or question.
1175
01:06:38,660 --> 01:06:38,879
Um,
1176
01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:46,930
okay.
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01:06:53,009 --> 01:06:53,850
Yes.
1178
01:06:54,120 --> 01:07:00,480
So somebody else had the same question
as MF Sam about the enlightenment.
1179
01:07:00,480 --> 01:07:06,900
So, um, and AYA asked you for
the answer you gave to, um,
1180
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:09,450
obviously that's, that's a big one.
1181
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:11,100
That's a big one.
1182
01:07:11,220 --> 01:07:14,580
It's a big one for anybody who's
into non-dual spirituality.
1183
01:07:15,480 --> 01:07:16,740
Yeah, it's a big one.
1184
01:07:16,740 --> 01:07:16,980
Yeah.
1185
01:07:16,980 --> 01:07:18,990
And so we're looking
at that kind of stuff.
1186
01:07:18,990 --> 01:07:19,290
Every day.
1187
01:07:19,290 --> 01:07:23,009
We have whole courses devoted
just to undoing that search.
1188
01:07:23,009 --> 01:07:23,759
So, yeah.
1189
01:07:23,759 --> 01:07:24,959
We're yeah.
1190
01:07:25,319 --> 01:07:28,649
I always could say before, before we
get off here, grace, that I hope that
1191
01:07:28,649 --> 01:07:31,770
this is a wonderful retreat for you,
cuz I you've been lovely to work with.
1192
01:07:31,830 --> 01:07:35,009
And um, I just hope it really
goes well and everybody gets
1193
01:07:35,009 --> 01:07:36,419
something out of it, you know?
1194
01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:38,250
No, thank you, Scott.
1195
01:07:38,580 --> 01:07:44,669
And thank you so much for, uh, for
coming and agreeing to, to be with us.
1196
01:07:45,720 --> 01:07:54,750
And uh, you know, I think everybody
needs to find what, what works for them.
1197
01:07:55,140 --> 01:07:55,290
Yeah.
1198
01:07:55,709 --> 01:07:59,819
And I'm sure the inquiries can
be very powerful and can work
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01:07:59,825 --> 01:08:02,100
for whoever feels drawn to them.
1200
01:08:02,100 --> 01:08:07,080
So if you do feel drawn to them,
explore them, you know, explore them
1201
01:08:07,084 --> 01:08:12,120
more, go to Scott's website, look at
some of the, uh, some of the videos.
1202
01:08:12,900 --> 01:08:15,120
And, um, who knows?
1203
01:08:15,120 --> 01:08:19,950
You might find some of the people
on the retreat in your next weekend.
1204
01:08:22,500 --> 01:08:23,910
Scott, are you still there?
1205
01:08:28,140 --> 01:08:28,529
I'm here.
1206
01:08:29,010 --> 01:08:29,359
Hello?
1207
01:08:29,365 --> 01:08:29,819
Hello, Scott.
1208
01:08:29,819 --> 01:08:30,120
Can you hear me?
1209
01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:31,920
Yeah, you, you disappeared
there for a bit.
1210
01:08:33,470 --> 01:08:33,760
okay.
1211
01:08:34,470 --> 01:08:34,960
Thank you.
1212
01:08:35,580 --> 01:08:36,870
Thank you very much.
1213
01:08:37,350 --> 01:08:42,630
And, um, thank you for taking,
taking the additional time to ask
1214
01:08:42,630 --> 01:08:44,670
the question to answer the questions.
1215
01:08:45,029 --> 01:08:45,840
Yeah, my pleasure.
1216
01:08:46,439 --> 01:08:47,970
Lovely to meet you, Scott.
1217
01:08:48,180 --> 01:08:48,630
You too.
1218
01:08:49,080 --> 01:08:49,649
Yeah.
1219
01:08:50,069 --> 01:08:51,029
Good conversation.
1220
01:08:51,029 --> 01:08:51,689
I liked it.
1221
01:08:55,140 --> 01:08:55,830
bye Scott.
1222
01:08:55,990 --> 01:08:56,480
Bye-bye.
1223
01:08:59,490 --> 01:09:03,149
So, um, this ends the session with Scott.
1224
01:09:03,240 --> 01:09:04,710
Thank you for attending.
1225
01:09:05,310 --> 01:09:09,210
If you are watching this
session, uh, on YouTube.
1226
01:09:09,944 --> 01:09:17,595
um, you find, you found somehow the, the
video, this is a session which is part of
1227
01:09:17,595 --> 01:09:21,675
the ongoing healing and awakening retreat.
1228
01:09:22,125 --> 01:09:27,885
If you want to find out more about the
retreat, uh, you will do so by going on
1229
01:09:27,885 --> 01:09:37,814
the website, www.healingandawakening.com,
I'm grace BBE.
1230
01:09:37,965 --> 01:09:43,995
And, um, thank you everybody for
participating for your good questions that
1231
01:09:44,000 --> 01:09:51,255
helps God also talk more about how these
inquiries work, uh, for more specific
1232
01:09:51,345 --> 01:09:54,315
issues and in, in a more specific way.
1233
01:09:55,065 --> 01:09:59,505
And I'll see you back in, uh,
a bit less than an hour for the
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01:09:59,505 --> 01:10:03,225
conversation with Gina lake.
1235
01:10:03,735 --> 01:10:06,405
And, um, just wanted to add.
1236
01:10:06,945 --> 01:10:11,505
Uh, to the comments about some
people wanting to hear more
1237
01:10:11,505 --> 01:10:13,215
from Scott and less from me.
1238
01:10:13,724 --> 01:10:16,605
Um, I didn't do false advertising.
1239
01:10:16,605 --> 01:10:20,565
I said it was going to be
conversations, not just interviews.
1240
01:10:20,955 --> 01:10:30,495
So I'm happy to, um, have people who are
on these conversations to speak to you.
1241
01:10:30,555 --> 01:10:34,934
And, um, there's also an aspect
of it just being a conversation
1242
01:10:35,595 --> 01:10:37,095
between me and those persons.
1243
01:10:37,099 --> 01:10:42,465
So that's how I presented it
and that's how you get it.
1244
01:10:42,795 --> 01:10:46,485
So, um, I'll see you back soon.
1245
01:10:46,934 --> 01:10:47,655
Bye bye.
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