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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:03,090 --> 00:00:05,310 So, hi everybody. 2 00:00:06,180 --> 00:00:10,500 We're back healing, an awakening retreat this time. 3 00:00:10,500 --> 00:00:20,790 It's the conversation with Scott KBY and, um, I'll bring him right on. 4 00:00:20,820 --> 00:00:21,990 Hi Scott. 5 00:00:22,260 --> 00:00:22,890 Hi grace. 6 00:00:22,890 --> 00:00:23,970 Thanks for having me on here. 7 00:00:24,900 --> 00:00:27,210 Yeah, thank you for coming. 8 00:00:27,900 --> 00:00:36,540 So Scott, you, um, you said to me, and maybe that's a good place to start. 9 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:41,280 You said to me, you know, I just want to talk about the inquiries 10 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,110 because that's what I'm doing now. 11 00:00:44,220 --> 00:00:48,840 And I don't see myself really as a spiritual teacher. 12 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:52,440 So can you comment on that? 13 00:00:53,340 --> 00:00:53,880 I can. 14 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:56,430 I mean, the, the, the change happened for me when I was 15 00:00:56,430 --> 00:00:59,610 working with people in groups, in private sessions a few years ago. 16 00:01:00,165 --> 00:01:02,505 Is that a lot of people that were coming to me were seeking, 17 00:01:02,955 --> 00:01:04,335 uh, enlightenment or awakening. 18 00:01:04,905 --> 00:01:09,415 And, you know, I was doing the best I could, you know, spontaneously 19 00:01:09,420 --> 00:01:13,305 kind of sharing from the direct experience as they say, as teachers do. 20 00:01:14,055 --> 00:01:18,195 But what I found out is that once I started to have a more systematic way of 21 00:01:18,195 --> 00:01:22,035 helping them look in a way that they could actually look in their own experience, it 22 00:01:22,035 --> 00:01:24,555 sort of took the teacher part out of it. 23 00:01:24,735 --> 00:01:26,985 It seemed to like, just cut me outta the picture. 24 00:01:27,375 --> 00:01:29,955 And then I realized that I could actually train other people 25 00:01:29,955 --> 00:01:31,664 to facilitate those inquiries. 26 00:01:32,145 --> 00:01:35,535 And then it became less about the teacher, which thankfully, because it's not 27 00:01:35,535 --> 00:01:39,945 about me and more about everybody being able to look into their own experience 28 00:01:39,945 --> 00:01:43,485 and, you know, cut through some of the stuff that's creating suffering. 29 00:01:43,485 --> 00:01:47,205 And that, it's just a huge, great thing for me to be able, just to 30 00:01:47,205 --> 00:01:49,995 step back and say, look, this work is available to everybody now. 31 00:01:50,085 --> 00:01:52,755 And we have people facilitating it all over the place. 32 00:01:52,755 --> 00:01:54,105 It's not about Scott Kilby. 33 00:01:54,825 --> 00:01:55,815 Like it never was. 34 00:01:56,495 --> 00:01:58,785 But it's just, I feel that feels good to me. 35 00:01:58,875 --> 00:02:00,675 You know, that that's, that that's something that we're 36 00:02:00,675 --> 00:02:02,775 contributing to this whole thing. 37 00:02:04,395 --> 00:02:05,055 Yeah. 38 00:02:05,385 --> 00:02:12,585 Well, it's certainly what, you know, what made me ask you to come onto this retreat? 39 00:02:12,590 --> 00:02:19,125 Because it seemed like, you know, you're not a, a, a traditional, 40 00:02:19,125 --> 00:02:22,755 you're not you, you're not, you're not in any of the traditional healing 41 00:02:22,995 --> 00:02:28,215 fields and yet you're doing something with people that's very practical. 42 00:02:28,215 --> 00:02:36,465 That's supposed to respond to, you know, to, to, um, conditions, 43 00:02:36,495 --> 00:02:41,655 issues, pain that they have that they want to resolve in their lives. 44 00:02:43,065 --> 00:02:47,445 So, you know, I mean, it could be considered to contribute to their healing. 45 00:02:49,335 --> 00:02:49,785 Yeah. 46 00:02:50,055 --> 00:02:52,425 That, that's a good way to say is that, is that all of the 47 00:02:52,425 --> 00:02:54,255 facilitators and I are contributing. 48 00:02:54,750 --> 00:02:59,190 To people healing, but you know, the difference is, is that they're doing that, 49 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:04,290 not by relying on an outside authority, but by actually taking tools inwardly. 50 00:03:04,620 --> 00:03:08,160 And then so, and in some ways the inwards become every everybody's 51 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:11,610 tools, they're everyone's tools that nobody really owns them. 52 00:03:11,670 --> 00:03:14,220 And yeah, so in that way, we're all contributing to that. 53 00:03:14,220 --> 00:03:17,850 And, and, and I feel good about being able to contribute partly to that 54 00:03:17,910 --> 00:03:21,540 instead of what I used to do, which is to sit in front of the room where 55 00:03:21,540 --> 00:03:27,150 all the focus was on me and somehow what I was going to say, you know, 56 00:03:27,155 --> 00:03:28,830 really meant something important. 57 00:03:28,835 --> 00:03:33,420 And, and there was always something in, in that whole situation that fell off for me. 58 00:03:33,540 --> 00:03:37,350 And I couldn't pinpoint it, even if I would try to sort of say, you know, 59 00:03:37,770 --> 00:03:41,160 there's nobody here and there's no teacher on some level, I was setting 60 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:46,140 it up as if there was because of the setup in the room or because of, you 61 00:03:46,145 --> 00:03:51,030 know, but the focus is now shifting to away from me and into so that 62 00:03:51,030 --> 00:03:52,660 everybody can look with these tools and. 63 00:03:53,700 --> 00:03:57,600 Yeah, that, that feels good for me to do that. 64 00:03:57,605 --> 00:03:58,400 Mm-hmm yeah. 65 00:03:58,405 --> 00:03:58,470 Mm-hmm 66 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:08,940 it's like, um, it's, it's a bit like the shift from monarchy to democracy, right? 67 00:04:09,210 --> 00:04:09,540 Yeah. 68 00:04:09,540 --> 00:04:10,170 I love that. 69 00:04:10,230 --> 00:04:14,040 Instead of being, instead of being the king, that tells everybody what 70 00:04:14,260 --> 00:04:21,030 to think, you know, you're actually shifting to enabling everybody. 71 00:04:21,300 --> 00:04:21,690 Yeah. 72 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:23,400 That's the right way. 73 00:04:23,420 --> 00:04:23,760 So yeah. 74 00:04:23,765 --> 00:04:25,140 To realize what's real. 75 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:25,830 Yeah. 76 00:04:26,070 --> 00:04:26,790 What's true. 77 00:04:27,030 --> 00:04:28,230 That's, that's a great way to say. 78 00:04:28,260 --> 00:04:28,500 Yeah. 79 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:30,210 Shifting from mono, 80 00:04:33,390 --> 00:04:36,360 just a quote to me, you know, I'm a former political theorist, 81 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:39,600 so, ah, that explains it. 82 00:04:44,850 --> 00:04:48,630 but Scott, um, so, so let's get back to this. 83 00:04:49,234 --> 00:04:49,525 Okay. 84 00:04:49,544 --> 00:04:53,685 Um, what, what I'd also like to know is how, how did you get there? 85 00:04:53,745 --> 00:04:59,234 I mean, like, you know, you had an awakening experience that was fairly 86 00:04:59,385 --> 00:05:04,695 major, that, that created like a major kind of upheaval in your life and, 87 00:05:05,325 --> 00:05:09,674 you know, shifted you out of your profession into doing something else. 88 00:05:09,765 --> 00:05:13,995 And so why don't you tell us about that? 89 00:05:13,995 --> 00:05:19,965 Because not everybody knows you and also people are always very interested 90 00:05:19,965 --> 00:05:23,844 in what, what's it like to have one of those awaken experiences? 91 00:05:25,065 --> 00:05:27,135 Um, yeah, I mean, I'll talk about the experience. 92 00:05:27,164 --> 00:05:30,104 It was, um, okay. 93 00:05:30,104 --> 00:05:30,465 Yes. 94 00:05:30,465 --> 00:05:34,094 What, what happened to me after sort of inquiring in a certain way? 95 00:05:34,515 --> 00:05:38,235 Although in a less structured way than we do it now is, um, 96 00:05:38,265 --> 00:05:42,735 just the, just the very, Hmm. 97 00:05:43,365 --> 00:05:44,385 How do, how do you describe it? 98 00:05:45,405 --> 00:05:52,650 Uh, It was the loss of, of something that I thought I was, I guess you 99 00:05:52,650 --> 00:05:55,830 could say it was just that that feeling is that whatever Scott was 100 00:05:55,830 --> 00:05:57,660 that was seeking this and seeking that. 101 00:05:57,660 --> 00:06:02,700 And so caught up in that just felt like a complete fiction at that point 102 00:06:02,705 --> 00:06:06,300 mm-hmm and you know, and so that brought a real lightness, like just, it was, 103 00:06:06,305 --> 00:06:08,550 um, it wasn't even a thinking thing. 104 00:06:08,550 --> 00:06:10,440 It's not like I thought I'm having an awakening. 105 00:06:10,445 --> 00:06:11,130 It was not like that. 106 00:06:11,135 --> 00:06:11,240 Yeah. 107 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,280 It was just, it was almost like the absence of that, but, you know, 108 00:06:14,285 --> 00:06:17,340 and, and it was really okay, so there was lots of laughter, lots of 109 00:06:17,340 --> 00:06:20,820 joy and lots of streaming love and everything that that's that true. 110 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:27,600 But the thing, what I found later is that in some ways, not my whole body 111 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:31,680 didn't awaken mm-hmm, , you know, it's like part of it did, um, the, the 112 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,170 head, cause I think a lot of people have kind of like that head awakening, 113 00:06:34,170 --> 00:06:35,910 like you, things get cleared away. 114 00:06:36,630 --> 00:06:39,900 Um, and then, you know, I felt some of that opening in my chest, but I can 115 00:06:39,905 --> 00:06:44,400 definitely say that other parts of my body were still contracted in certain ways. 116 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:47,280 And, and I was completely unconscious of it. 117 00:06:47,820 --> 00:06:51,840 Didn't even know, um, and, and walked around for a while kind of thinking 118 00:06:51,840 --> 00:06:54,510 that I'd had a final waking, like I think a lot of people either seek 119 00:06:54,510 --> 00:06:56,520 for, or claim to have had mm-hmm 120 00:06:56,640 --> 00:07:01,500 And what happened is that I, I began to investigate a little bit deeper and that's 121 00:07:01,500 --> 00:07:05,130 where I saw, well, there's this whole element of deepening that is really rich. 122 00:07:05,159 --> 00:07:06,630 That's so rich. 123 00:07:06,659 --> 00:07:11,159 Mm-hmm um, that to say, this is really just about an experience robs us of that, 124 00:07:11,729 --> 00:07:16,409 you know, it robs us of this deepening experience that goes fully embodied it's 125 00:07:16,409 --> 00:07:20,489 you can feel it in every where you start to feel it in every level of your being, 126 00:07:20,489 --> 00:07:23,159 you know, like always everything mm-hmm 127 00:07:24,059 --> 00:07:27,239 So that's really kind of where the inquiries came into is they came 128 00:07:27,239 --> 00:07:31,200 from my own sort of leftover little stuff, or maybe big stuff that was 129 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:35,130 still, you know, a contraction here or there, or a story here or there an 130 00:07:35,130 --> 00:07:39,150 addiction here or there that I began to investigate with these inquiries. 131 00:07:39,719 --> 00:07:42,630 And, um, you know, they were so effective for me that I started to 132 00:07:42,630 --> 00:07:44,190 wanna share 'em with, with other people. 133 00:07:44,489 --> 00:07:45,479 So that's how. 134 00:07:45,870 --> 00:07:46,320 Basically. 135 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:46,800 Yeah. 136 00:07:47,430 --> 00:07:55,770 So, Scott, um, let me just, uh, kind of follow this, follow this 137 00:07:55,770 --> 00:08:00,300 expression a bit more, um, deepening, you know, deepening of awakening. 138 00:08:01,020 --> 00:08:11,250 Um, suddenly my teacher Ji talk a lot about that still does, um, in the sense 139 00:08:11,250 --> 00:08:19,380 that awakening is, is, is almost like a moment where, you know, something shifts. 140 00:08:22,500 --> 00:08:28,590 Um, and then it's like the realization of that shift. 141 00:08:28,590 --> 00:08:33,030 It's almost like it has to become cellular at every level. 142 00:08:33,539 --> 00:08:33,750 Yeah. 143 00:08:35,789 --> 00:08:41,819 Or it has to like recontract everything that's detract that's contracted, right? 144 00:08:42,150 --> 00:08:42,390 Yeah. 145 00:08:43,215 --> 00:08:54,675 So, and that can take maybe a lifetime who knows, you know, I mean, uh, it's 146 00:08:54,675 --> 00:08:59,685 possible that it's so absolute for people that they there's nothing left. 147 00:08:59,685 --> 00:09:01,155 There's no contraction left. 148 00:09:01,185 --> 00:09:06,255 There's nothing that's still sticky and, you know, potentially 149 00:09:06,255 --> 00:09:09,075 painful or irritating or whatever. 150 00:09:10,395 --> 00:09:13,455 But for most people it seems that there is. 151 00:09:13,515 --> 00:09:19,845 And, and so the interesting question becomes, well, how do I live that? 152 00:09:22,395 --> 00:09:22,875 Yeah. 153 00:09:22,875 --> 00:09:27,165 And you know, there's also the little bit of the, it's so easy to, to be deceived 154 00:09:27,165 --> 00:09:28,605 when you have an awakening experience. 155 00:09:29,220 --> 00:09:33,630 Even if it's not like a big bang kind of thing, even if you have just this powerful 156 00:09:33,630 --> 00:09:36,450 moment, like a lot of people do where they mm-hmm really realize there's no 157 00:09:36,450 --> 00:09:40,080 self, but it's not necessarily filled with filled with a lot of bells and whistles. 158 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:42,240 It's just this sort of subtle recognition. 159 00:09:43,050 --> 00:09:45,660 There's I think there's a little bit of deception that can come in that 160 00:09:45,660 --> 00:09:50,580 says, well, somehow I, this is, this is a full awakening or a final awaken. 161 00:09:50,580 --> 00:09:51,750 It's very easy to do. 162 00:09:51,810 --> 00:09:51,900 Yes. 163 00:09:52,350 --> 00:09:53,370 So easy to do. 164 00:09:53,910 --> 00:09:54,810 And I think I did it. 165 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:59,130 And so many people that I know who, you know, some teach and some don't did that. 166 00:09:59,135 --> 00:10:03,900 Mm-hmm um, and some will admit to the fact and some won't, you 167 00:10:03,905 --> 00:10:05,220 know, that's what was going on. 168 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:09,210 Um, but yeah, like I love, I forgot your teacher's name. 169 00:10:09,210 --> 00:10:09,900 Say that again? 170 00:10:10,500 --> 00:10:12,030 Goji goji, right? 171 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:12,510 Goji. 172 00:10:12,510 --> 00:10:12,900 Yes. 173 00:10:13,230 --> 00:10:13,710 I'm familiar. 174 00:10:13,890 --> 00:10:18,870 So I love that because everything that was contracted becomes uncontracted, 175 00:10:18,900 --> 00:10:20,970 that's a great way of saying it really is. 176 00:10:21,705 --> 00:10:24,885 And that's really, to me, one way of talking about the deepening is just to, 177 00:10:25,275 --> 00:10:29,325 but it's, it's such a rich exploration and in some ways I think how long it 178 00:10:29,325 --> 00:10:32,625 takes, it almost becomes irrelevant. 179 00:10:32,655 --> 00:10:37,245 You know, when you're, when you're really sort of just realizing this is a present 180 00:10:37,245 --> 00:10:42,075 moment by moment being with, and you, you're not really playing the time game 181 00:10:42,075 --> 00:10:46,515 as much after mm-hmm you can investigate if you're still playing the time game. 182 00:10:46,515 --> 00:10:50,685 If you're still seeking in time, you can investigate that mm-hmm and 183 00:10:50,685 --> 00:10:54,045 then it becomes rather a deepening that's very natural that happens. 184 00:10:54,045 --> 00:10:57,915 And there's no, and all of the things that were really worrisome in the 185 00:10:57,915 --> 00:11:00,255 beginning, where you were trying to get somewhere, you know, you're trying 186 00:11:00,255 --> 00:11:04,485 to get to that place that can all kind of start to relax where you, and then 187 00:11:04,485 --> 00:11:08,985 you start, then you start seeing things shifting in different ways in your life. 188 00:11:08,990 --> 00:11:10,365 That's what happened for me. 189 00:11:10,905 --> 00:11:11,805 And, um, yeah. 190 00:11:11,865 --> 00:11:13,635 So, yeah. 191 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:14,355 Great topic. 192 00:11:18,420 --> 00:11:24,450 So, um, you've been very open about, you know, addictions and 193 00:11:24,450 --> 00:11:29,550 having had to kind of, you know, deal with those in your own life. 194 00:11:30,630 --> 00:11:34,380 So maybe, maybe could chat, just tell us a bit about that. 195 00:11:34,470 --> 00:11:39,480 Like, you know, obviously that's how the inquiries race started for 196 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,420 you in a kind of less formal way. 197 00:11:43,290 --> 00:11:43,620 Yeah. 198 00:11:44,310 --> 00:11:47,400 And I can, so would you say that was one of your contractions, one of the 199 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:53,400 kind of places where, you know, things got very contracted and, and, and, 200 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:59,490 and like the addictive behavior was a seeming way out of that contraction. 201 00:11:59,730 --> 00:11:59,970 Yeah. 202 00:11:59,970 --> 00:12:01,410 That's exactly what I would say. 203 00:12:01,980 --> 00:12:03,300 It's it's it's not. 204 00:12:03,390 --> 00:12:03,750 Okay. 205 00:12:03,750 --> 00:12:07,950 So yes, that's that's, that was definitely the case. 206 00:12:09,765 --> 00:12:12,765 the thing is, is I think this is, this is an interesting topic because 207 00:12:12,765 --> 00:12:16,035 someone will say, well, that, you know, from an absolute sense, 208 00:12:16,335 --> 00:12:18,855 addiction is just happening and you could say that about everything. 209 00:12:18,945 --> 00:12:21,615 Cause that's just obvious at some point that everything is just 210 00:12:21,615 --> 00:12:24,885 happening and you, and there could be no interest in looking at that. 211 00:12:25,305 --> 00:12:25,695 Right. 212 00:12:26,295 --> 00:12:31,995 Um, but what I found was is with the addiction, um, that 213 00:12:31,995 --> 00:12:33,225 it was like an opportunity. 214 00:12:33,765 --> 00:12:36,675 It was an opportunity to see what was actually still 215 00:12:36,675 --> 00:12:38,295 unconscious in my experience. 216 00:12:38,835 --> 00:12:42,495 And what I came to found out is that the contractions were unconscious. 217 00:12:42,495 --> 00:12:46,725 I, I had not seen that they were there and I had not seen how they were contributing 218 00:12:46,725 --> 00:12:49,035 to the outward behavior of addictions. 219 00:12:49,035 --> 00:12:51,795 And this was even after the big experience, there were 220 00:12:51,795 --> 00:12:52,905 things still happening. 221 00:12:52,905 --> 00:12:55,665 Mm-hmm and I think that's actually the case for a lot of 222 00:12:55,665 --> 00:12:56,865 people, but I think sometimes. 223 00:12:57,690 --> 00:13:00,570 Some sort of experience, some people will say, Hey, you know, it's all just 224 00:13:00,570 --> 00:13:03,870 happening and there's an addiction here, which again, that's fine. 225 00:13:04,170 --> 00:13:07,110 Except for there's still something operating there on an 226 00:13:07,110 --> 00:13:10,110 unconscious level that hasn't been awoken to, if that's the right. 227 00:13:10,170 --> 00:13:12,300 It hasn't, but there hasn't been awakening to that yet. 228 00:13:12,810 --> 00:13:14,610 Mm-hmm um, in, in addiction. 229 00:13:15,030 --> 00:13:19,590 So as I began to explore that more, it was just, again, an even deeper 230 00:13:19,590 --> 00:13:22,530 relaxation in the midst of those things. 231 00:13:22,530 --> 00:13:26,760 So that even those things could be, could begin to relax, not just the 232 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:31,290 spiritual seeking, but these other sort of seeking avenues of addiction. 233 00:13:32,040 --> 00:13:32,250 Yeah. 234 00:13:32,310 --> 00:13:35,400 Well seeking wellbeing when you're not feeling well. 235 00:13:35,430 --> 00:13:35,910 Right. 236 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:41,760 Because that's really the, the mechanism that drives a lot yeah. 237 00:13:41,910 --> 00:13:43,350 Of addictive behavior. 238 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:44,460 Absolutely. 239 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:46,890 Or probably any behavior. 240 00:13:47,635 --> 00:13:47,925 Yeah. 241 00:13:50,115 --> 00:13:52,205 yeah, that pretty much sums it up. 242 00:13:54,045 --> 00:13:55,995 there's not anything else to say for the rest of the retreat. 243 00:13:55,995 --> 00:13:58,875 Cause that actually does sum it up, you know? 244 00:13:59,145 --> 00:13:59,715 Okay. 245 00:14:00,255 --> 00:14:04,935 So, um, well, but you could, uh, you could kind of deepen the, the 246 00:14:04,940 --> 00:14:07,755 understanding of that maybe yeah. 247 00:14:08,505 --> 00:14:08,805 Yeah. 248 00:14:09,495 --> 00:14:11,205 Well, I mean, when it comes to the addictions, I think 249 00:14:11,205 --> 00:14:12,195 you're you're right on. 250 00:14:12,195 --> 00:14:17,145 And I mean, the, the, the, what I came to see is that every time I was reaching out 251 00:14:17,145 --> 00:14:23,355 towards something, whether it was money or sex or, or, um, caffeine or sweets 252 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:27,825 mm-hmm , there was something in my body somewhere mm-hmm that felt contracted 253 00:14:27,825 --> 00:14:32,805 and dense, and it's almost like that sensation was screaming out for something. 254 00:14:33,105 --> 00:14:38,085 And it would just keep screaming every day or regularly until it got looked at. 255 00:14:38,265 --> 00:14:41,955 And then once, you know, once I could look at it, then, you know, the outward 256 00:14:41,955 --> 00:14:43,605 movement could start to relax, but. 257 00:14:44,475 --> 00:14:48,015 And yeah, so that's, it was very uncomfortable actually, and was 258 00:14:48,015 --> 00:14:50,535 so uncomfortable that it was just easier to drink some coffee 259 00:14:50,925 --> 00:14:52,875 or reach for something else. 260 00:14:53,355 --> 00:14:53,565 Yeah. 261 00:14:56,655 --> 00:14:58,335 And, you know, um, 262 00:15:03,135 --> 00:15:04,395 how do I say this? 263 00:15:05,625 --> 00:15:11,145 It's that it's that resistance to what's uncomfortable or the evasion 264 00:15:11,145 --> 00:15:14,265 of what's uncomfortable, you know, trying to get away from that. 265 00:15:15,135 --> 00:15:15,425 Yeah. 266 00:15:16,455 --> 00:15:23,325 That, that, um, you know, like a therapist will look at too, or will be 267 00:15:23,325 --> 00:15:29,115 dealing with, because typically what happens is, you know, that when say, 268 00:15:29,115 --> 00:15:36,315 you know, when I work with a client and, uh, there's a painful issue, right. 269 00:15:36,885 --> 00:15:40,635 So they have their usual coping mechanisms. 270 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:43,350 some of which may be addictive. 271 00:15:43,380 --> 00:15:48,900 Others may be more like mental, you know, they go into a story mm-hmm and, 272 00:15:48,900 --> 00:15:54,780 um, they need to understand it or they need to find out why, why the person 273 00:15:54,780 --> 00:15:58,230 did what they did or why they're doing what they're doing and why 274 00:15:58,230 --> 00:15:59,670 they're feeling, what they're feeling. 275 00:16:00,010 --> 00:16:03,810 It's very kind of, Ooh, it just turns in the head. 276 00:16:03,810 --> 00:16:04,200 Right? 277 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:04,680 Yeah. 278 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:12,150 And all this is innovation of what's painful or uncomfortable. 279 00:16:12,510 --> 00:16:12,810 Yeah. 280 00:16:14,700 --> 00:16:23,400 And so what I do a lot with people is just trying to kind of invite 281 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:27,480 them to, to open to that discomfort. 282 00:16:27,750 --> 00:16:27,960 Yeah. 283 00:16:29,610 --> 00:16:35,250 And, you know, I, I, I I've, I assume that that's what you're 284 00:16:35,250 --> 00:16:36,930 doing with the inquiry too. 285 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:41,280 you know, except that maybe it's a bit more structured. 286 00:16:41,280 --> 00:16:45,270 I mean, you, you, you have like a tool where you say, okay, you 287 00:16:45,270 --> 00:16:48,090 look at this, you look at that. 288 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:51,750 Um, you know, yeah, yeah. 289 00:16:52,140 --> 00:16:52,920 That is what we do. 290 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:57,510 And, and let me just, this is very impromptu, but just as an explanation, 291 00:16:57,510 --> 00:17:00,660 this is, this is not, but go ahead. 292 00:17:01,110 --> 00:17:01,530 Perfect. 293 00:17:02,390 --> 00:17:06,270 well, you can't see there's a pink one, an orange one and a blue one. 294 00:17:06,870 --> 00:17:07,500 Okay. 295 00:17:07,589 --> 00:17:12,000 And those represent three aspects of our experience, words, pictures, and energy. 296 00:17:12,510 --> 00:17:12,800 Okay. 297 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,200 So what you're talking about is getting people to sit with energy, 298 00:17:16,204 --> 00:17:19,680 but what's difficult in that is that's not always so easy to do. 299 00:17:20,460 --> 00:17:20,550 Yeah. 300 00:17:20,550 --> 00:17:24,000 Because, because the words in the pictures are stuck to the energy. 301 00:17:24,300 --> 00:17:25,920 So let's say that this is the energy. 302 00:17:26,490 --> 00:17:26,550 Okay. 303 00:17:26,550 --> 00:17:29,550 If we say, if I say to someone drop into the energy, I used to say 304 00:17:29,550 --> 00:17:32,730 this all the time in meetings, I used to say, just drop into that. 305 00:17:33,030 --> 00:17:34,980 And I thought that they were just dropping into that, but what 306 00:17:34,980 --> 00:17:36,540 they were dropping into was this. 307 00:17:37,215 --> 00:17:41,505 Oh Scott, but I, I , I'm going to be flippant. 308 00:17:42,255 --> 00:17:45,555 I'm going to say that the energy has to be orange Scott. 309 00:17:45,795 --> 00:17:45,885 Oh, 310 00:17:49,515 --> 00:17:49,815 okay. 311 00:17:49,820 --> 00:17:51,225 You can choose the other colors. 312 00:17:51,765 --> 00:17:52,645 I know what you mean though. 313 00:17:52,645 --> 00:17:52,845 Yeah. 314 00:17:52,845 --> 00:17:54,315 Cause the orange is energetic color. 315 00:17:54,315 --> 00:17:56,026 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 316 00:17:56,535 --> 00:17:56,745 Right. 317 00:17:56,745 --> 00:17:57,285 So, okay. 318 00:17:57,425 --> 00:18:01,185 So, so orange is the energy and the other two are the images 319 00:18:01,185 --> 00:18:03,255 and the, and the thoughts. 320 00:18:03,285 --> 00:18:03,465 Yeah. 321 00:18:03,465 --> 00:18:06,555 Would you say, well, the words and, and the words and pictures. 322 00:18:06,735 --> 00:18:07,005 Yeah. 323 00:18:07,035 --> 00:18:07,325 Okay. 324 00:18:07,995 --> 00:18:09,645 And, and I think you're exactly right. 325 00:18:09,650 --> 00:18:12,435 That's what we do with the inquiries is we wanna really get people to 326 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:15,375 sit with the energy because that's how it can, by letting it be, as 327 00:18:15,375 --> 00:18:16,785 it is, it can start to release. 328 00:18:16,785 --> 00:18:17,925 And that's very powerful. 329 00:18:18,375 --> 00:18:21,195 But what happened in my old talks is I would, I thought people were 330 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:22,695 being with the words and pictures. 331 00:18:22,725 --> 00:18:24,945 I mean, being with the energy yeah. 332 00:18:24,975 --> 00:18:26,805 Who I found out is that were very subtle. 333 00:18:26,805 --> 00:18:30,315 Sometimes very unconscious words and pictures that were 334 00:18:30,315 --> 00:18:32,265 Velcro or stuck to the energy. 335 00:18:33,010 --> 00:18:36,420 But the inquiries, what they do is they, they systematically ask us to look 336 00:18:36,425 --> 00:18:38,790 at, for example, a picture by itself. 337 00:18:39,390 --> 00:18:44,100 Mm-hmm and see if that's the self, if we're looking for a self mm-hmm , that's 338 00:18:44,100 --> 00:18:45,540 one of the things we try to find things. 339 00:18:45,545 --> 00:18:49,620 So if we're trying to find the one who's alone, you know, if that's 340 00:18:49,620 --> 00:18:53,340 your identity, the person who's alone we ask is that picture by 341 00:18:53,340 --> 00:18:55,590 itself, you the one who's alone. 342 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:58,950 And if they say yes, what they're telling us is that there's 343 00:18:58,950 --> 00:19:00,870 energy stuck to that picture. 344 00:19:00,875 --> 00:19:01,860 That's the, what the yes. 345 00:19:01,860 --> 00:19:02,520 Tells us. 346 00:19:02,820 --> 00:19:03,390 Yes. 347 00:19:03,540 --> 00:19:04,110 They're getting that. 348 00:19:04,730 --> 00:19:10,320 So the picture may be a memory or it may be a, a, an act just, just, 349 00:19:10,530 --> 00:19:15,090 you mentioned it could be a kind of, I don't know, like a key memory 350 00:19:15,090 --> 00:19:17,130 that a person has of an event. 351 00:19:17,940 --> 00:19:18,300 Yeah. 352 00:19:18,870 --> 00:19:19,110 Yeah. 353 00:19:19,110 --> 00:19:21,630 Well, we call 'em just words or pictures, but okay. 354 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:25,200 But, but pictures could be anything from very vague shapes 355 00:19:25,205 --> 00:19:27,150 to very specific dad's face. 356 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:30,690 It could be picture, but they're all we call them just pictures, you know, 357 00:19:30,990 --> 00:19:35,250 mm-hmm um, so that tells us that, that there's a pic, that, that it's 358 00:19:35,250 --> 00:19:38,880 hard for them in that moment to sit with the energy, because this picture, 359 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:42,330 whether it's a picture of dad's face or whatever is feeling so important. 360 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:46,170 And that's why we wanna look at that and see if that's the thing that we're 361 00:19:46,175 --> 00:19:48,690 looking for, whatever the picture is. 362 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,680 And once they kind of see that that's actually just a picture, it's not 363 00:19:53,220 --> 00:19:56,970 who they are, then they it's easier than to drop into just the feeling 364 00:19:56,970 --> 00:20:00,090 mm-hmm and sit with that and see. 365 00:20:00,090 --> 00:20:03,570 And then, so even though, but even when we're sitting with that, you know, 366 00:20:03,575 --> 00:20:05,760 there's often some words that go with it. 367 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:08,160 That's another VE or the words are stuck with the energy. 368 00:20:08,190 --> 00:20:08,340 Yes. 369 00:20:08,670 --> 00:20:10,890 So we'll say, well, what are the words coming up? 370 00:20:10,890 --> 00:20:12,540 Or what does the sensation want? 371 00:20:13,140 --> 00:20:16,680 And, and they'll say, well, it's the words are coming up, or this is 372 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,390 familiar and I don't wanna let this go. 373 00:20:19,410 --> 00:20:23,130 So then we have them look at those, um, mm-hmm those words. 374 00:20:23,774 --> 00:20:26,625 to really look at the, the words themselves, not the meaning of 375 00:20:26,625 --> 00:20:30,165 them, but the words to see if that's the self that they're looking for. 376 00:20:30,165 --> 00:20:31,004 Cause that's what we do. 377 00:20:31,004 --> 00:20:32,595 We try to find a self or whatever. 378 00:20:33,465 --> 00:20:38,865 And then, um, and then once the words are peeled off again, so we just 379 00:20:38,865 --> 00:20:41,655 keep peeling those things off so they can really sit with that energy. 380 00:20:41,659 --> 00:20:46,935 And then we ask, you know, is that energy, the one who's, um, alone 381 00:20:46,965 --> 00:20:48,225 or whatever we're looking for. 382 00:20:48,945 --> 00:20:51,824 And uh, and then they say, well, no, now that I've peeled everything 383 00:20:51,824 --> 00:20:53,024 off, it's just that energy. 384 00:20:53,264 --> 00:20:53,534 Okay. 385 00:20:53,534 --> 00:20:55,095 Now can you just be with that? 386 00:20:55,100 --> 00:20:56,054 Can you open to that? 387 00:20:56,395 --> 00:20:59,745 You know, that's really what we do, but that's, that's just part of what 388 00:20:59,745 --> 00:21:03,945 we do, but yeah, it's just like that exactly is being with the energy opening 389 00:21:03,945 --> 00:21:08,264 to that feeling or that sensation mm-hmm but more systematic way. 390 00:21:08,915 --> 00:21:13,995 Mm-hmm mm-hmm and you find that if you use that more systematic 391 00:21:13,995 --> 00:21:19,185 way, that it's easier for people finally to arrive just at that 392 00:21:19,245 --> 00:21:21,975 energy level, at that feeling level. 393 00:21:22,784 --> 00:21:26,205 I instantly saw a difference in my private sessions years ago. 394 00:21:26,344 --> 00:21:28,425 Mm-hmm when I started using the systematic way. 395 00:21:28,425 --> 00:21:31,425 It was just like, we were, I was seeing breakthroughs like so much 396 00:21:31,455 --> 00:21:35,804 faster and so much more like clear for people when I wasn't just sort of 397 00:21:35,810 --> 00:21:39,584 throwing things out spontaneously when I was actually had a, a way of that. 398 00:21:39,590 --> 00:21:43,514 They could look, you know, a way of really tracking their experience 399 00:21:43,844 --> 00:21:44,985 and it was really helpful that way. 400 00:21:44,985 --> 00:21:48,824 So, yeah, I mean, just for me that it's, it's been much more effective 401 00:21:49,215 --> 00:21:52,875 in my own life too, you know, mm-hmm, not just with my clients, but yeah. 402 00:21:54,524 --> 00:21:54,735 Yeah. 403 00:21:54,735 --> 00:22:02,965 I remember, um, I remember seeing on Facebook some time ago, I can't remember 404 00:22:02,969 --> 00:22:11,655 when, um, you are talking about having cancer and, uh, responding to it with that 405 00:22:11,655 --> 00:22:15,405 same, just looking with the same inquiry. 406 00:22:16,125 --> 00:22:16,304 Yeah. 407 00:22:17,685 --> 00:22:21,284 Um, and you know, cancer is something that's very. 408 00:22:22,575 --> 00:22:25,395 fear written for a lot of people. 409 00:22:25,605 --> 00:22:30,585 And the fear is also something that gets generated by the medical system. 410 00:22:30,885 --> 00:22:31,125 Yeah. 411 00:22:32,955 --> 00:22:40,395 So, I mean, I've had cancer myself, so I know , I've been through the, 412 00:22:40,875 --> 00:22:48,405 you know, the, the, the steps of that and, uh, what would be interesting, 413 00:22:48,410 --> 00:22:53,805 I mean, to, to hear you, you know, like how, how did you respond to that? 414 00:22:53,805 --> 00:22:58,755 I mean, how did you, what did that look like effectively? 415 00:22:58,755 --> 00:23:02,325 Like, you know, in reality, how, how did you do this? 416 00:23:02,865 --> 00:23:04,995 How did you use the inquiry for this? 417 00:23:05,385 --> 00:23:05,685 Okay. 418 00:23:05,685 --> 00:23:09,045 So when I was first diagnosed with cancer, when the doctor said it, 419 00:23:09,105 --> 00:23:14,325 there was just a very mild sensation of anxiety that came up and lasted 420 00:23:14,325 --> 00:23:16,395 literally about three or four seconds. 421 00:23:16,575 --> 00:23:18,825 And then there was just a piece mm-hmm okay. 422 00:23:19,145 --> 00:23:19,365 But. 423 00:23:19,845 --> 00:23:20,775 So that was fine. 424 00:23:20,775 --> 00:23:22,635 You know, in other words, I kind of already looked at a 425 00:23:22,635 --> 00:23:23,885 lot of that stuff before then. 426 00:23:23,885 --> 00:23:28,275 Mm-hmm and it just didn't, but definitely somewhere during, uh, 427 00:23:28,875 --> 00:23:32,865 the recovery process, what I noticed that something that did trigger me 428 00:23:32,870 --> 00:23:36,765 was, uh, again, something that was unconscious in me, which is when all 429 00:23:36,765 --> 00:23:40,515 these people tried to come and help me, I was getting emails left and write 430 00:23:40,515 --> 00:23:42,795 about, take this supplement, do this. 431 00:23:42,855 --> 00:23:43,545 Why are you doing that? 432 00:23:43,845 --> 00:23:44,655 Don't do this. 433 00:23:44,985 --> 00:23:49,395 Mm-hmm . And, and what happened was is that, that something within me 434 00:23:49,455 --> 00:23:53,355 that got formed as a childhood, when my dad used to try to take care of 435 00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:58,275 me and it, there was this deficiency story in me that I'm, I'm helpless, 436 00:23:58,275 --> 00:23:59,805 that I can't take care of myself. 437 00:24:00,315 --> 00:24:00,555 Yeah. 438 00:24:01,005 --> 00:24:03,315 I thought it had been seen through, because it was a nowhere on my 439 00:24:03,315 --> 00:24:06,945 conscious radar, but, you know, luckily we have other people 440 00:24:09,985 --> 00:24:11,005 called it up again. 441 00:24:11,005 --> 00:24:11,285 Right. 442 00:24:11,875 --> 00:24:12,165 yeah. 443 00:24:12,975 --> 00:24:13,365 Right. 444 00:24:13,875 --> 00:24:17,025 You know, everybody's my teacher is not just a cliche, right? 445 00:24:17,055 --> 00:24:18,075 No, really. 446 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,120 So it was, it should trigger something in me. 447 00:24:21,450 --> 00:24:26,310 So that's what I did was I got to, what we do with this work is we use relationship 448 00:24:26,310 --> 00:24:28,080 to put a name to what's being triggered. 449 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,600 So for example, we called a Panorama. 450 00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:34,590 So I put a Panorama of those people up around me that were trying to help me. 451 00:24:34,980 --> 00:24:38,910 And I asked, what is that mirroring back about who I am, you know, in 452 00:24:38,915 --> 00:24:42,240 this trigger and what came, the words that came up for me were is 453 00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:43,800 that I can't take care of myself. 454 00:24:44,340 --> 00:24:48,270 Mm-hmm and you know, automatically I got a picture of my dad. 455 00:24:48,750 --> 00:24:50,430 I got the words, I can't take care of myself. 456 00:24:50,430 --> 00:24:51,810 I got that lump in my throat. 457 00:24:52,260 --> 00:24:55,800 So what I did is I looked for the one who couldn't take care of himself. 458 00:24:56,280 --> 00:25:00,720 I looked through the words that pictures and the energy, really looking everywhere 459 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:04,710 to see if I could find it and then, and peeling away, eventually peeling away. 460 00:25:04,715 --> 00:25:05,490 Those words and pictures. 461 00:25:05,490 --> 00:25:08,730 I got to open to that energy that had never been faced. 462 00:25:08,940 --> 00:25:11,790 That particular that had never been faced and felt. 463 00:25:12,629 --> 00:25:14,850 there was a tremendous release from that story. 464 00:25:15,060 --> 00:25:18,510 It's almost like the entire, that little ed of that story that had been 465 00:25:18,510 --> 00:25:24,810 unconscious up until that point just sort of became illuminated and then fell away. 466 00:25:25,260 --> 00:25:28,320 And, you know, again, it just makes life richer then, because 467 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:29,520 then you don't get that trigger. 468 00:25:29,524 --> 00:25:32,159 People are just trying to help, you know, they're just sending they're 469 00:25:32,159 --> 00:25:35,580 well wishes that, you know, it was a trigger in me that I had, I had 470 00:25:35,585 --> 00:25:37,560 to recognize for myself and look at. 471 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:38,700 Hmm. 472 00:25:40,139 --> 00:25:40,409 Yeah. 473 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:43,409 But I mean, just little things, like I'll tell you a little bit about the cancer. 474 00:25:43,860 --> 00:25:46,439 You know, I did have to go through radiation. 475 00:25:46,439 --> 00:25:47,790 It was, it was a hard decision. 476 00:25:48,179 --> 00:25:51,960 The particular cancer that I had was really responsive to radiation. 477 00:25:52,290 --> 00:25:54,270 Mm-hmm , it's one of the unusual ones. 478 00:25:54,270 --> 00:25:58,470 That's actually like 95, 90 8% responsive to radiation. 479 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:03,870 And I felt it was in my stomach and there was a lot of, uh, nausea for about 480 00:26:04,439 --> 00:26:08,520 mm-hmm a month mm-hmm so, one thing I did is just, I looked for the threat. 481 00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,050 That's our anxiety inquiry. 482 00:26:10,810 --> 00:26:14,340 , you know, the, the body is perceiving some threat, but a lot 483 00:26:14,340 --> 00:26:15,570 of times it's not a real threat. 484 00:26:15,570 --> 00:26:19,560 It's a threat that's being created by words and pictures, um, that are 485 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:25,110 coming through words about the nausea or mm-hmm pictures around, you know, 486 00:26:25,439 --> 00:26:27,479 memories of the treatment or something. 487 00:26:27,870 --> 00:26:31,649 So I went to look for the threat in that, and then I couldn't 488 00:26:31,649 --> 00:26:34,709 find it, you know, and, and not being able to find that threat. 489 00:26:34,709 --> 00:26:38,399 There was just that sensation of nausea, which by the way, had 490 00:26:38,399 --> 00:26:42,090 diminished a lot because of the words and pictures being seen to. 491 00:26:42,090 --> 00:26:44,399 And then yes, just so it's yeah. 492 00:26:44,405 --> 00:26:49,620 It's like the treatment can be sometimes bad or worse than the mm-hmm sometimes 493 00:26:49,620 --> 00:26:52,409 it's that we don't just use this inquiry with people on their condition. 494 00:26:52,409 --> 00:26:56,310 We use it on the treatment, you know, the stuff that they . Yeah. 495 00:26:59,639 --> 00:27:00,209 it's crazy. 496 00:27:00,215 --> 00:27:00,510 Isn't it? 497 00:27:00,770 --> 00:27:01,010 I mean, 498 00:27:04,199 --> 00:27:11,430 you know, cancer is such a, um, cancer's such a teacher, isn't it? 499 00:27:11,430 --> 00:27:13,020 If you let it be. 500 00:27:13,020 --> 00:27:16,020 Yeah, because it's not just the diagnostic. 501 00:27:16,020 --> 00:27:21,720 It's, it's, it's the whole, I mean, it's the whole journey from the 502 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:26,550 diagnostic to the treatments, the various forms of treatments and 503 00:27:28,140 --> 00:27:32,730 because most cancer treatments are very invasive and, and kind of tough on 504 00:27:32,730 --> 00:27:35,550 the body and tough on the psyche too. 505 00:27:36,450 --> 00:27:42,780 Um, they are really bringing up a lot of stuff, a lot of people. 506 00:27:42,930 --> 00:27:54,330 And if you allow, if you allow yourself to who actually let that be an opportunity 507 00:27:54,330 --> 00:28:01,710 to go deeper and to, to, I mean, I would say to just be with whatever comes up. 508 00:28:03,150 --> 00:28:07,230 um, you would probably say in inquiry, right? 509 00:28:07,830 --> 00:28:08,070 Yeah. 510 00:28:09,810 --> 00:28:15,870 Then it can actually be, I, I experience it as incredibly 511 00:28:15,870 --> 00:28:18,410 freeing it's incredibly freeing. 512 00:28:18,410 --> 00:28:18,650 Yeah. 513 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:19,450 Yeah. 514 00:28:20,340 --> 00:28:22,980 And, and, you know, probably what you're talking about when I'm talking about 515 00:28:22,980 --> 00:28:28,050 are not much different being with is what we do, you know, mm-hmm we just 516 00:28:28,050 --> 00:28:30,270 do it with a certain question that yes. 517 00:28:30,270 --> 00:28:34,230 Um, that peels stuff apart, but it's it, a lot of what we do is just 518 00:28:34,230 --> 00:28:38,310 being with stuff, just being, just be with that picture for a second, 519 00:28:38,700 --> 00:28:40,230 you know, just be with that feeling. 520 00:28:40,620 --> 00:28:44,460 And that's a big part of what we do and, and it has a incredible healing effect. 521 00:28:44,550 --> 00:28:48,540 I mean, it does, it, it's really hard to put into words, but it has an incredible 522 00:28:48,545 --> 00:28:53,220 healing effect to really be with what is, well, you know, what you described 523 00:28:53,220 --> 00:28:59,175 this, this picture of, uh, not being able to take care of yourself, . I mean, the 524 00:28:59,175 --> 00:29:04,754 feeling I imagined that was, there was one of, uh, helplessness or powerlessness. 525 00:29:04,814 --> 00:29:05,105 Yeah. 526 00:29:05,155 --> 00:29:06,304 Anger even sucks. 527 00:29:06,375 --> 00:29:06,665 Yeah. 528 00:29:07,574 --> 00:29:08,175 Yeah. 529 00:29:08,324 --> 00:29:15,645 So, so when you, when, when you really, I mean, the, the, the paradoxical 530 00:29:15,645 --> 00:29:20,595 thing is when you really just allow the energy to be what it is, it 531 00:29:20,595 --> 00:29:22,995 switches often into its opposite. 532 00:29:23,175 --> 00:29:23,415 Yeah. 533 00:29:24,074 --> 00:29:29,355 You know, like the powerlessness becomes a, a huge experience of, well, 534 00:29:30,615 --> 00:29:32,564 of course I can take care of myself. 535 00:29:32,570 --> 00:29:33,824 I can do what I want. 536 00:29:33,824 --> 00:29:34,274 Well, yeah. 537 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:39,135 It's just a real, you know, I have the choice of doing whatever it is 538 00:29:39,135 --> 00:29:45,495 that I feel like doing, or I feel like trying out in terms of treatment 539 00:29:45,495 --> 00:29:47,895 because, because that's my choice. 540 00:29:48,345 --> 00:29:48,495 Yeah. 541 00:29:49,304 --> 00:29:54,524 And, um, that, that, that paradoxical thing that when you 542 00:29:54,524 --> 00:29:56,544 no longer resist it, it shift. 543 00:29:57,270 --> 00:30:01,830 You know, it, it, I mean, I, I understand that energetically, right? 544 00:30:01,830 --> 00:30:10,350 So if you, if you don't resist a certain energy, it just shifts. 545 00:30:11,190 --> 00:30:14,190 It's the resistance that keeps it locked into place. 546 00:30:14,340 --> 00:30:15,030 Absolutely. 547 00:30:15,390 --> 00:30:15,690 It's sure. 548 00:30:15,830 --> 00:30:20,640 So, so what you're doing with the inquiry is just a very neat way of 549 00:30:21,420 --> 00:30:26,280 helping people to get to the point where they're no longer resisting the energy. 550 00:30:26,670 --> 00:30:27,540 That's exactly right. 551 00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:29,160 That's exactly what we're doing. 552 00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:30,060 Yeah. 553 00:30:30,060 --> 00:30:30,120 Yeah. 554 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:34,080 And you know, there's so many ways to talk about that because it's hard to 555 00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:37,650 talk about the benefits of this kind of work or even being with, until you 556 00:30:37,650 --> 00:30:41,070 go through it, mm-hmm , you have to sit with it and see, you know, but yeah. 557 00:30:41,250 --> 00:30:43,290 There's so many different ways of looking at that. 558 00:30:43,295 --> 00:30:48,150 Like just the, you know, people not being feeling like they can't, they 559 00:30:48,150 --> 00:30:52,200 cannot create freely or they can't, they can't love and communicate 560 00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,740 freely is a lot, has to do with the resistance to core feelings. 561 00:30:56,285 --> 00:30:59,625 they just haven't been met yet or core stories that haven't really been examined 562 00:30:59,625 --> 00:31:04,395 and, and not in a psychological sense, but have not really been seen, you know? 563 00:31:04,575 --> 00:31:04,665 Yes. 564 00:31:05,295 --> 00:31:10,935 Um, and so yeah, it, if you look at that stuff and it, and it tends to be cleared 565 00:31:10,935 --> 00:31:15,945 away, there's obviously gonna be a greater CAPA, greater ability to, or greater 566 00:31:15,945 --> 00:31:20,145 freedom to create, for example, or greater freedom to communicate and say, you know, 567 00:31:20,145 --> 00:31:23,745 what you really feel, and what's really going on for you mm-hmm or wherever that 568 00:31:23,745 --> 00:31:27,465 blockage was, whether it's, you know, anything, wherever that blockage was, 569 00:31:27,465 --> 00:31:33,885 if you, if you meet it and you face it, the potential that was blocked is yeah. 570 00:31:34,035 --> 00:31:35,355 Yeah, absolutely. 571 00:31:36,165 --> 00:31:38,715 Well, it's like the atom, you know, I mean, when the 572 00:31:39,025 --> 00:31:40,965 atom's no longer held and it. 573 00:31:41,655 --> 00:31:44,685 in its, um, kind of usual structure. 574 00:31:44,775 --> 00:31:47,655 It explodes into enormous energy. 575 00:31:47,865 --> 00:31:48,015 Yeah. 576 00:31:48,015 --> 00:31:48,525 Right. 577 00:31:54,825 --> 00:31:55,885 that's a lot of energy. 578 00:31:56,595 --> 00:32:00,915 , it's a lot of energy, but you know, I mean, we have a lot of energy, right. 579 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:05,145 I mean, if we are no longer in contraction, wow. 580 00:32:05,145 --> 00:32:08,535 The energy that's set free is, is enormous. 581 00:32:08,595 --> 00:32:09,255 Oh my God. 582 00:32:09,255 --> 00:32:09,495 Yeah. 583 00:32:09,495 --> 00:32:11,655 I was just saying today, I just feel so good. 584 00:32:11,655 --> 00:32:14,625 You know, like just being able to walk around, I feel like I'm a kid again. 585 00:32:14,625 --> 00:32:17,895 I mean, just doing this work, it just feeling like, you know, you 586 00:32:17,925 --> 00:32:20,715 just, you know, where it's like, you, you just feel good to be alive. 587 00:32:20,745 --> 00:32:23,565 You just, just walk around, you know, and, and parts of your body, you didn't 588 00:32:23,565 --> 00:32:26,175 even know were kind of closed off or open. 589 00:32:26,175 --> 00:32:26,865 It's like, wow. 590 00:32:26,865 --> 00:32:27,075 What? 591 00:32:27,075 --> 00:32:29,445 You know, it's awesome. 592 00:32:29,645 --> 00:32:30,765 I mean, yeah. 593 00:32:30,805 --> 00:32:33,165 I mean, if you're willing to go deep with it, it really is. 594 00:32:33,765 --> 00:32:34,215 Yeah. 595 00:32:40,815 --> 00:32:49,425 and maybe that's the difference between traditional, um, you know, traditional 596 00:32:49,455 --> 00:32:57,225 advisor non-dual teachings and the, the current kind of Western versions 597 00:32:57,225 --> 00:33:05,655 of it that people come to to discover, um, which is that there's something 598 00:33:05,805 --> 00:33:13,095 there's something to be lived in this life, you know, um, like this discovery, 599 00:33:13,095 --> 00:33:16,905 that, of the potential that's there. 600 00:33:16,905 --> 00:33:22,905 When, when there is, you know, contraction that's set free, that's liberated. 601 00:33:23,595 --> 00:33:23,805 Yeah. 602 00:33:23,895 --> 00:33:27,345 Um, and in traditional teachings, 603 00:33:30,885 --> 00:33:34,815 that doesn't matter, you know, because it's at a human level. 604 00:33:34,815 --> 00:33:40,995 It's, it's like not interesting, but it seems, 605 00:33:44,295 --> 00:33:44,895 I don't know. 606 00:33:44,895 --> 00:33:52,425 It seems like that so many people in the west who've woken up are looking to, 607 00:33:53,175 --> 00:34:02,235 to, um, like, you know, even at Shanti people, like at Shanti say it it's all 608 00:34:02,235 --> 00:34:08,025 about how it's lived out, you know, how, what, what does, what does it mean? 609 00:34:08,025 --> 00:34:14,295 What does it mean in everyday life to, to live in a way that's no longer 610 00:34:14,295 --> 00:34:22,545 caught by the, by the concepts and the, the identities that we thought we had. 611 00:34:23,054 --> 00:34:23,355 Right. 612 00:34:27,090 --> 00:34:30,180 you know, the, I think when you say traditional teaching, you're talking 613 00:34:30,180 --> 00:34:32,700 about Western therapy or therapeutic type. 614 00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:37,620 Um, no, I'm talking about traditional advisor teachings that come out 615 00:34:37,620 --> 00:34:45,181 of Asia, uh, versus what the, the Western kind of, you know yeah, yeah. 616 00:34:45,870 --> 00:34:53,610 People like you, who, who somehow have had awakening experiences, but who, 617 00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:59,760 who, who feel the, the calling to take them somewhere completely elsewhere? 618 00:35:00,060 --> 00:35:00,360 You know? 619 00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:00,660 No. 620 00:35:01,410 --> 00:35:05,010 Yeah, that, that's the thing that I like is not feeling like I'm 621 00:35:05,010 --> 00:35:06,480 constrained to a certain thing. 622 00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:07,920 I wanna be able to explore and. 623 00:35:08,985 --> 00:35:11,925 And find out what works for me, not what works for somebody 624 00:35:11,925 --> 00:35:12,915 else, what works for me. 625 00:35:12,915 --> 00:35:17,835 Mm-hmm and, and then, and not feel like I can't go out beyond the bounds of certain 626 00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,725 ideas that have been given to me now. 627 00:35:19,725 --> 00:35:21,315 I was always sort of a rebel anyway. 628 00:35:21,375 --> 00:35:24,825 I mean, just growing today, I learned that I can't fit in the box. 629 00:35:25,155 --> 00:35:28,395 You know, just that feeling of being that little gay kid, you 630 00:35:28,395 --> 00:35:30,465 tell me it's like this, and I'm gonna tell you it's not like that. 631 00:35:30,945 --> 00:35:31,005 Yeah. 632 00:35:31,005 --> 00:35:35,235 You know, so that kind of, that, that thing is in me is really to explore it. 633 00:35:35,295 --> 00:35:39,435 And that's been the fun part of this is to sort of say, you know, where, where 634 00:35:39,435 --> 00:35:43,545 is even the traditional teaching still feeling limited to me, where can we now? 635 00:35:43,665 --> 00:35:44,625 Can we go beyond that? 636 00:35:44,625 --> 00:35:49,755 Can we move beyond it and somewhere else and explore and create. 637 00:35:49,875 --> 00:35:53,835 And yeah, that's definitely interesting to me. 638 00:35:54,915 --> 00:36:01,545 And, you know, I think O once you are no longer bound by the, the pictures 639 00:36:01,605 --> 00:36:04,975 and the, and the, um, the words. 640 00:36:07,395 --> 00:36:10,785 the energy will move where it'll it'll move. 641 00:36:10,785 --> 00:36:14,025 I mean, that's for each of us to discover, right? 642 00:36:14,415 --> 00:36:14,595 Yeah. 643 00:36:14,805 --> 00:36:19,165 I mean, we can have no idea about where that's going to move. 644 00:36:19,845 --> 00:36:26,805 like, you know, when I, before I had the, this, this notion that I 645 00:36:26,805 --> 00:36:30,905 was going to organize this retreat, I had no idea that I was gonna do. 646 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:32,650 Yeah, right. 647 00:36:33,350 --> 00:36:37,140 And then all of a sudden it kind of dropped into my space. 648 00:36:38,130 --> 00:36:38,280 Yeah. 649 00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:42,850 And it wouldn't leave so that's how it's. 650 00:36:44,070 --> 00:36:45,660 So I had to do something with it. 651 00:36:45,750 --> 00:36:46,260 Right. 652 00:36:47,190 --> 00:36:48,210 and, and that's awesome. 653 00:36:48,210 --> 00:36:49,110 Cuz look what happened. 654 00:36:49,115 --> 00:36:49,920 I mean, here you are. 655 00:36:50,410 --> 00:36:51,690 I know, right? 656 00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:53,490 It's beyond belief. 657 00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:55,410 I mean, that's great. 658 00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:56,910 That's how it happened. 659 00:36:56,910 --> 00:37:00,960 It reminds me with the treatment center, you know, that open up around 660 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,110 this work, we opening up a recovery center in Palm Springs and it's it 661 00:37:04,115 --> 00:37:07,560 happened exactly the same way cuz I was going around giving talks. 662 00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:10,110 Well, I was actually doing these inquiries with people and people and 663 00:37:10,110 --> 00:37:13,290 some people came up and said, look, I want to give some money to you so 664 00:37:13,290 --> 00:37:14,760 we can open up this treatment center. 665 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:16,930 And I was like, wow. 666 00:37:18,270 --> 00:37:21,390 You know, like, didn't see that coming, you know. 667 00:37:21,855 --> 00:37:23,775 And then here I am about to open the thing. 668 00:37:23,775 --> 00:37:25,634 So it's like, yeah, you, we can't know. 669 00:37:25,815 --> 00:37:27,975 And I think that's what I think you're, you're totally right. 670 00:37:28,154 --> 00:37:31,665 Is that when these things start to get seen through and, and the self-limiting 671 00:37:31,665 --> 00:37:37,694 beliefs are not there as much or at all, then it's like, it feels like you 672 00:37:37,694 --> 00:37:41,234 could just go, it just feels like you could just go in whatever direction. 673 00:37:41,475 --> 00:37:42,915 And it seems like things just happened. 674 00:37:42,975 --> 00:37:44,835 I don't know how that works. 675 00:37:45,495 --> 00:37:45,915 it just does. 676 00:37:46,935 --> 00:37:47,384 Yeah. 677 00:37:48,134 --> 00:37:51,194 Yeah, yeah. 678 00:37:53,174 --> 00:37:53,535 Huh. 679 00:37:54,015 --> 00:37:57,225 So Scott, this feels like a kind of natural break. 680 00:38:00,404 --> 00:38:07,335 So what I'd like to do is just go to the YouTube comment page and see, uh, what 681 00:38:07,335 --> 00:38:11,835 people are putting up in terms of comment and whether anybody wants to come up to 682 00:38:11,835 --> 00:38:14,475 ask you a question, would that be okay? 683 00:38:14,654 --> 00:38:15,255 That'll be okay. 684 00:38:15,255 --> 00:38:16,734 And let me say one thing before you do that. 685 00:38:17,550 --> 00:38:22,740 Um, you generously asked me if, if I would work with somebody one on one with 686 00:38:22,740 --> 00:38:25,320 the inquiries and reluctantly, I said no. 687 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:29,009 And let me explain why mm-hmm , there's no better way to get a feel of this 688 00:38:29,015 --> 00:38:32,400 work that we're doing than to either to actually be facilitated in it. 689 00:38:33,060 --> 00:38:35,610 Another good thing is to watch somebody being facilitated. 690 00:38:35,940 --> 00:38:39,390 But the problem with our time constraint is that these facilitations 691 00:38:39,390 --> 00:38:41,790 are often at least an hour long. 692 00:38:41,790 --> 00:38:44,640 And if we don't give it that much nurturing, something could, 693 00:38:44,790 --> 00:38:46,590 could be brought up some energy. 694 00:38:46,590 --> 00:38:49,860 And then the person could sort of just be left there without being 695 00:38:49,860 --> 00:38:50,940 able me being able to follow through. 696 00:38:50,940 --> 00:38:51,630 And we like this. 697 00:38:51,630 --> 00:38:53,759 We like the support system that we have for people. 698 00:38:54,180 --> 00:38:56,880 So thank you for the offer to that, but in case anybody's 699 00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:58,560 wondering why I'm not doing that. 700 00:38:58,620 --> 00:38:59,310 That's the reason. 701 00:38:59,910 --> 00:39:00,240 Yeah. 702 00:39:00,240 --> 00:39:02,310 Thanks for, thanks for mentioning that. 703 00:39:02,315 --> 00:39:04,830 Um, I mean, I. 704 00:39:05,700 --> 00:39:09,029 I had asked Scott before the session, whether he'd be willing 705 00:39:09,029 --> 00:39:14,279 to demonstrate a, a, a, an inquiry with somebody, even with myself. 706 00:39:14,285 --> 00:39:18,509 I mean, I would've volunteered cuz I would've been interested. 707 00:39:18,509 --> 00:39:18,870 Right. 708 00:39:19,410 --> 00:39:23,779 But, um, but he said, it's just, you know, you can't leave somebody hanging. 709 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:28,440 Um, and I w he wouldn't have the time to do it. 710 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:34,680 So, uh, there are videos that people can watch aren't there 711 00:39:35,100 --> 00:39:37,560 to, to see how that works. 712 00:39:38,549 --> 00:39:38,880 Yeah. 713 00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,850 And we are developing more videos to, to help that. 714 00:39:41,850 --> 00:39:44,881 Cause we're really trying to teach people to look on their own mm-hmm and then 715 00:39:44,886 --> 00:39:49,230 we also encourage people to go to living inquiries.com to meet with facilitators. 716 00:39:49,230 --> 00:39:50,220 Cause the best way to do it. 717 00:39:50,220 --> 00:39:51,600 It's an interactive process. 718 00:39:51,720 --> 00:39:51,839 Yeah. 719 00:39:51,839 --> 00:39:54,930 Facilitators can really take you deep, but there's also, if you wanna 720 00:39:54,930 --> 00:39:57,600 do it on your own, we're working on getting more materials out there to 721 00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,850 help mm-hmm with that mm-hmm okay. 722 00:40:00,089 --> 00:40:00,509 Okay. 723 00:40:00,900 --> 00:40:07,245 So, um, maybe I should just mention at this point, the, the way to get those to 724 00:40:07,245 --> 00:40:13,755 those links is to just go to kby.com and to then go into the living inquiries. 725 00:40:14,205 --> 00:40:14,355 Yeah. 726 00:40:14,355 --> 00:40:16,665 You basically have two choices@kby.com. 727 00:40:16,725 --> 00:40:19,485 You can go towards the, the addiction work, natural rest, 728 00:40:19,485 --> 00:40:22,275 which will be up in December, or you can go to the inquiry page. 729 00:40:22,945 --> 00:40:24,555 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 730 00:40:24,565 --> 00:40:25,635 Thank you for mentioning that. 731 00:40:26,265 --> 00:40:27,705 Oh my pleasure. 732 00:40:27,855 --> 00:40:31,185 I mean, I'm happy to bring that to people because it sounds 733 00:40:31,185 --> 00:40:33,345 like a great, great thing. 734 00:40:34,635 --> 00:40:40,185 Um, I just wanted to ask and I'm sure people are curious about that too. 735 00:40:40,185 --> 00:40:44,265 So I'm just going to ask it before I look at the, at the, at the 736 00:40:44,265 --> 00:40:51,915 comments page, um, how, how are you running the center for recovery? 737 00:40:51,915 --> 00:40:57,345 I mean, where do the inquiries come into that framework? 738 00:40:57,350 --> 00:41:00,075 Because I imagine you have to meet fairly. 739 00:41:01,650 --> 00:41:08,220 tight medical requirements and care requirements and whatever. 740 00:41:09,750 --> 00:41:10,080 Yeah. 741 00:41:10,530 --> 00:41:16,350 Um, surprisingly, to set up the center, you don't have to, um, in 742 00:41:16,350 --> 00:41:19,290 order to take insurance from people which we intend to do is so that 743 00:41:19,290 --> 00:41:20,700 people can afford to go there. 744 00:41:21,030 --> 00:41:26,060 We have to have, I'll be actually studying to, uh, get a, get a, uh, 745 00:41:28,770 --> 00:41:32,100 certified as an addiction counselor as part of the mm-hmm thing. 746 00:41:32,100 --> 00:41:34,590 Of course mm-hmm and then so will my other facilitators, but 747 00:41:34,595 --> 00:41:35,820 we'll be doing my work there. 748 00:41:35,825 --> 00:41:39,540 It's it's rather, which is doing it guidelines. 749 00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:45,510 We will be working with the medical group for detox and for, to have a doctor, uh, 750 00:41:45,570 --> 00:41:47,040 to deal with some of the medical issues. 751 00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:47,850 So yeah, we've got it. 752 00:41:47,850 --> 00:41:47,940 Yes. 753 00:41:48,150 --> 00:41:50,190 There's quite a few things we have to get in place. 754 00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:57,360 Mm-hmm mm-hmm . But it's, it's really, I mean, it's really exciting to see 755 00:41:57,799 --> 00:42:03,299 somebody like you moving into that field because you know, the medical field is, so 756 00:42:06,720 --> 00:42:12,360 it needs, it needs, um, people like you, you know, it needs new input and it 757 00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:16,740 needs, uh, input from people that's fresh. 758 00:42:16,740 --> 00:42:23,910 That's that, that isn't too caught in the contractions of the medical yeah. 759 00:42:24,330 --> 00:42:26,940 Uh, science and, and field. 760 00:42:28,799 --> 00:42:29,070 Yeah. 761 00:42:29,070 --> 00:42:32,549 It's definitely gonna be a different approach to, to a lot of what's out there. 762 00:42:32,759 --> 00:42:33,029 Yeah. 763 00:42:33,509 --> 00:42:37,410 And I'm really, really excited about it just to see what, how that unfolds. 764 00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:38,430 Yeah. 765 00:42:38,820 --> 00:42:39,240 Right. 766 00:42:39,779 --> 00:42:40,410 Okay. 767 00:42:40,980 --> 00:42:45,360 So Scott, I'll give you a minutes break or two or three, and I'll look 768 00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:51,120 at the, I'll look at the YouTube, uh, page and see what's happening there. 769 00:43:01,975 --> 00:43:02,195 Um, 770 00:43:07,455 --> 00:43:08,295 okay. 771 00:43:08,295 --> 00:43:09,435 So, um, 772 00:43:23,055 --> 00:43:27,255 I'm just going, I have a friend who's helping in the background and 773 00:43:27,260 --> 00:43:33,165 she's kind of summing up the comments from the, from the YouTube page. 774 00:43:34,755 --> 00:43:39,825 So she says, uh, Kathleen says, just curious, this seems 775 00:43:39,825 --> 00:43:41,325 to be an interview format. 776 00:43:41,385 --> 00:43:43,635 Is this the way the whole thing will be? 777 00:43:46,435 --> 00:43:50,475 And Tamara says she really wants to hear Scott speak for himself. 778 00:43:52,470 --> 00:43:55,890 uh, Susan also says I would like Scott to lead the discussion 779 00:43:55,890 --> 00:43:58,200 some more somebody else agrees. 780 00:43:59,370 --> 00:44:00,060 Okay. 781 00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:03,299 Sounds like I'm talking too much, Scott 782 00:44:07,229 --> 00:44:12,089 well about the interview format is that one thing that the, the thing just to 783 00:44:12,089 --> 00:44:15,689 clarify is that I don't do a lot of what other non-dual teachers do anymore. 784 00:44:15,990 --> 00:44:18,839 Like in other words, I wouldn't come on here and point to presence. 785 00:44:18,870 --> 00:44:20,220 That's not what I do anymore. 786 00:44:20,220 --> 00:44:22,799 And I mm-hmm, , it's not a comfortable thing for me anymore. 787 00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:27,240 Um, I'm really here to talk about the subject that is close to your heart 788 00:44:27,330 --> 00:44:30,870 healing and awakening, and to do it in the context of the work that we're doing. 789 00:44:31,290 --> 00:44:34,500 And in that way, it sort of is an interview type thing. 790 00:44:34,589 --> 00:44:39,930 Um, so, you know, I would be, I'd be happy though, to answer anybody's questions 791 00:44:39,930 --> 00:44:41,040 or anything that they wanna know. 792 00:44:41,044 --> 00:44:44,339 It's just that you're not gonna hear me start just ranting about awakening. 793 00:44:44,339 --> 00:44:45,270 You're not gonna hear that from me. 794 00:44:45,270 --> 00:44:46,080 Cause I don't do that. 795 00:44:46,970 --> 00:44:49,350 I don't, I don't do it, you know? 796 00:44:50,745 --> 00:44:53,085 So, but I'd be happy to talk about anything, especially 797 00:44:53,085 --> 00:44:55,905 anything that's really specific that somebody has to talk about. 798 00:44:56,175 --> 00:44:56,955 Yeah. 799 00:44:57,945 --> 00:45:00,885 Well, you know, there are these comments, as I see on the YouTube 800 00:45:00,885 --> 00:45:04,665 page, there's waking dreams dream that says thank you, Scott. 801 00:45:04,665 --> 00:45:05,775 You're awesome. 802 00:45:06,735 --> 00:45:11,625 Um, and there are comments about, uh, people wanting you 803 00:45:11,625 --> 00:45:13,515 to lead the discussion more. 804 00:45:15,825 --> 00:45:20,535 Um, but nobody seems to have a question. 805 00:45:21,185 --> 00:45:21,305 Hmm. 806 00:45:26,025 --> 00:45:29,085 Well, yeah, well, I'll lead a little bit just to explain a little bit 807 00:45:29,085 --> 00:45:31,785 more about the inquiries for people who haven't and then if you see 808 00:45:31,785 --> 00:45:35,495 a question just, okay, go ahead. 809 00:45:35,555 --> 00:45:36,225 Um, yeah. 810 00:45:36,435 --> 00:45:41,265 So the first thing about the inquiries is that, um, what we do 811 00:45:41,270 --> 00:45:45,735 is we try to find things mm-hmm we assume that something is real. 812 00:45:46,350 --> 00:45:48,810 You start off assuming that something is real. 813 00:45:48,850 --> 00:45:51,420 And, and a lot of times people like to look for the self, but we 814 00:45:51,420 --> 00:45:53,040 have them name it a certain way. 815 00:45:53,490 --> 00:45:58,650 It has to feel personal to like, I'm the black sheep mm-hmm or I, like 816 00:45:58,650 --> 00:46:02,160 we said, I'm the one who's alone, or often it's a deficiency story. 817 00:46:02,430 --> 00:46:06,270 Like I'm not good enough or I'm inadequate or I'm unloved or unsafe. 818 00:46:06,780 --> 00:46:09,840 Those are the really core stories that we carry around as humans. 819 00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:12,210 And they have a lot to do with what we're doing in the world. 820 00:46:12,720 --> 00:46:16,050 Like of trying to be successful, trying to seek enlightenment, trying to improve 821 00:46:16,050 --> 00:46:19,080 ourselves, trying to get the right relationship, trying to get the right job. 822 00:46:21,210 --> 00:46:24,870 So what we do is we go looking for that self in a systematic way, 823 00:46:24,870 --> 00:46:28,410 as I was explaining by looking at words and pictures and energy 824 00:46:28,620 --> 00:46:32,970 in a literal kind of trying to pinpoint exactly where that self is. 825 00:46:33,390 --> 00:46:35,430 Mm-hmm and then, and not being able to find it. 826 00:46:35,430 --> 00:46:38,400 What happens is that you get to meet energy that has 827 00:46:38,405 --> 00:46:40,230 been unconscious and unmet. 828 00:46:40,845 --> 00:46:43,155 And then in reading that energy, it shifts through. 829 00:46:43,455 --> 00:46:46,785 And as it shifts through the words and the pictures shift with it 830 00:46:47,145 --> 00:46:50,265 shifting through means that literally just sort of seems transparent. 831 00:46:50,985 --> 00:46:54,015 Mm-hmm , and, and it's a literal not being able to find that self. 832 00:46:54,015 --> 00:46:58,425 And in that you learn how to look on your own as things come up. 833 00:46:58,605 --> 00:47:02,235 So that you're being with things with this certain question that 834 00:47:02,235 --> 00:47:06,195 we give you with the inquiry, and then we have two other inquiries. 835 00:47:06,195 --> 00:47:08,685 And that's really just like the bare explanation of that. 836 00:47:08,685 --> 00:47:13,095 You really kind of have to dive in with us and look, um, the, the other 837 00:47:13,095 --> 00:47:16,395 two inquiries are the compulsion inquiry and the anxiety inquiry 838 00:47:16,755 --> 00:47:21,135 mm-hmm because Rippert SP has a really good quote and I'm gonna butcher it. 839 00:47:21,135 --> 00:47:26,595 But he says that about 5% of suffering comes from the belief in a separate self 840 00:47:27,075 --> 00:47:30,675 and 90 to 95% comes from fear and lack. 841 00:47:32,055 --> 00:47:32,835 Ah, okay. 842 00:47:32,835 --> 00:47:36,645 And I really like that, um, because it really fits in what, with what 843 00:47:36,645 --> 00:47:38,415 we're doing with the anxiety inquiry. 844 00:47:39,570 --> 00:47:44,070 And the compulsion inquiry compulsion is that movement outward towards 845 00:47:44,070 --> 00:47:48,360 a substance, an activity, a person in sort of in an addictive way. 846 00:47:48,750 --> 00:47:50,820 Like I'm looking for this person to fulfill me. 847 00:47:50,820 --> 00:47:52,950 I'm looking for that substance to make me feel better. 848 00:47:53,310 --> 00:47:55,560 I'm looking for this teacher to make me enlightened. 849 00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:57,780 I'm looking for this program to cure me. 850 00:47:58,950 --> 00:48:00,690 Mm-hmm so that's a compulsion. 851 00:48:00,930 --> 00:48:04,200 It often becomes a compulsion to try to run away from what's uncomfortable. 852 00:48:04,770 --> 00:48:10,470 So what we do is we look for the urge or the command, whatever it feels right for 853 00:48:10,475 --> 00:48:13,290 somebody to actually find that thing. 854 00:48:13,290 --> 00:48:16,020 So we might, if I'm working with somebody on drinking wine, 855 00:48:16,890 --> 00:48:18,060 mm-hmm, drink it every night. 856 00:48:18,060 --> 00:48:22,320 I have them look for the urge to drink wine mm-hmm . And so they move 857 00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,770 through the words and the pictures and the energy, and they can't find it. 858 00:48:26,310 --> 00:48:27,660 They literally can't pinpoint it. 859 00:48:28,110 --> 00:48:32,730 And when they can't pinpoint it, they get to meet that energy that has been 860 00:48:32,820 --> 00:48:35,670 unconscious and avoided in the same way. 861 00:48:35,670 --> 00:48:37,350 And that energy can shift through. 862 00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:42,870 And in that the compulsion goes with it as you, and then, and then 863 00:48:42,870 --> 00:48:45,990 we give them the tool so that they can look in their own life from 864 00:48:45,990 --> 00:48:47,850 that point on, on any compulsions. 865 00:48:48,690 --> 00:48:54,900 And then anxiety is that fear part of what Rupert said, you know, mm-hmm , um, and, 866 00:48:54,900 --> 00:48:56,310 and lack is kind of the addiction thing. 867 00:48:56,340 --> 00:48:57,060 I lack something. 868 00:48:57,060 --> 00:49:01,950 So I'm looking for something, the anxiety is the, the fight flight 869 00:49:01,950 --> 00:49:06,810 or freeze response that we have two things that happen in life. 870 00:49:07,290 --> 00:49:09,990 And a lot of times we get anxious or fearful around things 871 00:49:09,995 --> 00:49:11,220 that are not really threats. 872 00:49:12,150 --> 00:49:15,120 So in other words, we're just thinking too much. 873 00:49:16,830 --> 00:49:17,550 we think a lot. 874 00:49:17,550 --> 00:49:18,660 And so we get scared. 875 00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:20,970 So what we do is we look for the threat. 876 00:49:22,379 --> 00:49:26,160 So if someone says, okay, I'm, I'm experiencing anxiety. 877 00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,859 We literally look for the threat in their experience. 878 00:49:29,129 --> 00:49:32,430 We look at the words, the pictures and the interview to see if they 879 00:49:32,430 --> 00:49:35,250 can pinpoint where the threat is. 880 00:49:35,700 --> 00:49:40,470 And then again, in not being able to find it, the whole thing just becomes, it just 881 00:49:40,470 --> 00:49:45,149 falls apart and they get a relaxation from the anxiety and that energy, 882 00:49:45,149 --> 00:49:50,370 again, shifts through and becomes more creative energy, more potential energy. 883 00:49:50,490 --> 00:49:54,600 They can do something with, instead of being afraid all the time. 884 00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:58,890 Mm-hmm we work with those three inquiries and we weave them together with people 885 00:49:58,890 --> 00:50:00,540 so that it goes really deep for them. 886 00:50:01,649 --> 00:50:04,259 And ultimately we wanna show them how to do the looking on their own. 887 00:50:05,069 --> 00:50:07,500 So, yeah, so I led the conversation. 888 00:50:07,529 --> 00:50:08,160 There you go. 889 00:50:08,339 --> 00:50:08,910 Okay. 890 00:50:08,910 --> 00:50:11,189 And I have a few questions for you, Scott. 891 00:50:11,430 --> 00:50:11,700 Okay. 892 00:50:12,240 --> 00:50:15,810 Um, so there's one question from. 893 00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:22,020 Gala, um, I'm dealing with a long term chronic illness. 894 00:50:22,020 --> 00:50:27,720 What are the key questions I should ask myself gala so that, you know, if you 895 00:50:27,725 --> 00:50:31,770 came to work with me or a facilitator, what we would do is we would, we 896 00:50:31,770 --> 00:50:35,580 would look to see what deficient self is hooked into the condition. 897 00:50:35,670 --> 00:50:39,720 First of all, for example, if I'm suffering from cancer, we might ask, 898 00:50:39,750 --> 00:50:41,940 okay, what does that mirror back about? 899 00:50:41,940 --> 00:50:42,540 Who I am? 900 00:50:43,230 --> 00:50:46,770 And sometimes people will say, well, that means I'm broken or that I'm 901 00:50:46,770 --> 00:50:50,670 unlovable, or that there's something wrong with me fundamentally. 902 00:50:51,240 --> 00:50:56,400 So that's the self that you've named that is connected to the condition. 903 00:50:57,299 --> 00:51:00,900 So we might then look for that self, that particular self cause that's gonna be 904 00:51:00,900 --> 00:51:04,920 really personal that self, and then we would take you through it and you would 905 00:51:04,924 --> 00:51:07,170 see that that's not actually who you are. 906 00:51:07,170 --> 00:51:09,940 It's just a display of words and pictures and energy. 907 00:51:10,589 --> 00:51:12,600 That you've taken yourself to be. 908 00:51:13,470 --> 00:51:16,920 And as that deficiency story gets seen through an incredible 909 00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:20,400 amount of the suffering around the condition can start to relax. 910 00:51:21,029 --> 00:51:25,379 So then you've got just the physical sensations and maybe some 911 00:51:25,379 --> 00:51:27,029 more stories even about anxiety. 912 00:51:27,035 --> 00:51:30,270 Cause we might enter into the anxiety inquiry there because of 913 00:51:30,359 --> 00:51:33,600 the threat of what this condition may mean for you in the future. 914 00:51:34,049 --> 00:51:35,460 So we would look for the threat. 915 00:51:36,240 --> 00:51:39,000 Um, and so the question would be where's the threat. 916 00:51:39,990 --> 00:51:43,049 So the question on both inquiries, if you're doing the unfindable inquiries, 917 00:51:43,319 --> 00:51:46,020 where is this person who's broken? 918 00:51:46,500 --> 00:51:50,730 If I look at each set of words by itself for each picture and each 919 00:51:50,730 --> 00:51:56,549 energy by itself, where is the person who's broken or where is the threat? 920 00:51:56,970 --> 00:52:00,480 If I looked at those things now that's basically how you 921 00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:01,350 would do it with this work. 922 00:52:01,350 --> 00:52:02,310 Those are the questions. 923 00:52:02,609 --> 00:52:05,730 However, there's a few really important nuances. 924 00:52:06,105 --> 00:52:09,855 That we do as facilitators to help you be with the energy so that 925 00:52:09,855 --> 00:52:11,175 you don't get trapped in the head. 926 00:52:11,175 --> 00:52:12,435 This is not a head inquiry. 927 00:52:12,795 --> 00:52:14,205 It's not an intellectual thing. 928 00:52:14,745 --> 00:52:18,315 So we have ways of keeping you from getting distracted and from 929 00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:19,605 looking at the right things. 930 00:52:20,595 --> 00:52:23,385 And so what I would say to gala is if you can't do this on your own is just 931 00:52:23,385 --> 00:52:26,625 go work with one of my facilitators, because a lot of them have been through 932 00:52:27,045 --> 00:52:30,555 pretty serious illnesses or have worked with people who have, and they know 933 00:52:30,555 --> 00:52:33,105 exactly what to look at with you. 934 00:52:35,505 --> 00:52:36,135 Okay. 935 00:52:36,375 --> 00:52:37,245 Thanks, Scott. 936 00:52:37,935 --> 00:52:40,785 And there's another question from Anna. 937 00:52:40,785 --> 00:52:46,365 Laura, could you explain more about the effective tool for dissolving 938 00:52:46,365 --> 00:52:49,125 addiction called the compulsion inquiry? 939 00:52:50,175 --> 00:52:50,565 Yeah. 940 00:52:50,805 --> 00:52:53,025 Uh, probably best to give an example. 941 00:52:54,465 --> 00:52:58,485 Um, and I gave the wine example a second ago, but let's say someone came to me and 942 00:52:58,490 --> 00:53:01,485 they were addicted to, um, pain killers. 943 00:53:02,055 --> 00:53:03,915 So what's happening is, is that. 944 00:53:04,995 --> 00:53:07,080 there's definitely an energetic component to that. 945 00:53:07,110 --> 00:53:11,220 In other words, their body is feeling a craving or something 946 00:53:11,790 --> 00:53:13,470 before they take the painkillers. 947 00:53:13,890 --> 00:53:17,700 And also what's happening is right before they pull, they put their hand into 948 00:53:17,700 --> 00:53:19,410 the cabinet to grab the painkillers. 949 00:53:19,770 --> 00:53:20,760 There's a little ghost. 950 00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:25,440 We call the ghost image that comes up and the images of the image of the pills or 951 00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:27,300 an image of something that looks enticing. 952 00:53:28,170 --> 00:53:33,240 And it's that image and that energy together, which we call the Velcro effect. 953 00:53:33,870 --> 00:53:38,490 That's what is the compulsion, that image and that energy, or 954 00:53:38,490 --> 00:53:40,380 perhaps it's words and energy. 955 00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:45,870 So what we do is we have people look for the command to take painkillers. 956 00:53:46,410 --> 00:53:50,370 And so they would look at the mental picture of the painkillers and see that 957 00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:56,190 actually the command to take the pills is nowhere on the picture, the command 958 00:53:56,190 --> 00:53:57,960 to take it is not on the picture. 959 00:53:58,620 --> 00:54:02,490 The reason that it looks like it's on the picture is because there's energy stuck. 960 00:54:02,490 --> 00:54:08,355 Uh, So we have them move into feeling just the energy as best they can by itself. 961 00:54:08,745 --> 00:54:10,935 And we have them sit with it, quiet very quietly. 962 00:54:10,935 --> 00:54:13,065 We have ways to get them to get quiet with it. 963 00:54:13,545 --> 00:54:18,765 And we ask where in that energy is the command to take the painkillers. 964 00:54:19,335 --> 00:54:21,495 And when they're really quiet with it, they see that there's no 965 00:54:21,765 --> 00:54:23,865 command in there that doesn't have anything to do with painkillers. 966 00:54:23,865 --> 00:54:27,975 It's just unmet energy that hasn't been built as they feel it. 967 00:54:27,975 --> 00:54:31,665 And the, it shifts through the compulsion can start to fall away. 968 00:54:32,535 --> 00:54:36,225 And then we work with people on any anxiety that comes up through the anxiety 969 00:54:36,230 --> 00:54:40,305 inquiry on the withdrawals or what life would be like without the painkillers, 970 00:54:41,055 --> 00:54:43,425 the fear based part of it, you know? 971 00:54:43,425 --> 00:54:46,065 So that's how we would, that's how we work with it. 972 00:54:46,815 --> 00:54:47,475 Okay. 973 00:54:48,225 --> 00:54:48,885 Great spot. 974 00:54:48,945 --> 00:54:54,015 And there's another question from waking dream. 975 00:54:54,105 --> 00:54:58,155 Um, can the inquiry be used to address addiction? 976 00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,700 Sorry, can the inquiry use to address addiction? 977 00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:05,580 Can it also be used to address aversion? 978 00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:07,660 Yes. 979 00:55:07,665 --> 00:55:09,540 Aversion is the anxiety inquiry. 980 00:55:10,350 --> 00:55:12,930 That's another way we talk about it. 981 00:55:15,900 --> 00:55:20,460 Like an attraction and aver Scott, we lost to try to run. 982 00:55:21,750 --> 00:55:22,740 We lost you there. 983 00:55:22,740 --> 00:55:24,300 Could you just repeat that? 984 00:55:25,350 --> 00:55:25,800 Yeah, I will. 985 00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:28,110 Um, yeah. 986 00:55:28,140 --> 00:55:31,560 So avers, we just talk about in terms of the anxiety inquiry. 987 00:55:32,100 --> 00:55:36,450 So attraction and aversion are two ways to talk about the compulsion and the 988 00:55:36,450 --> 00:55:40,560 anxiety inquiry, because a compulsion is a movement towards something 989 00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:44,670 attraction towards something in order to run away from some uncomfortable 990 00:55:44,670 --> 00:55:49,560 feeling, whether we're running towards a spiritual program or a drug or 991 00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:51,450 something else, it's a movement. 992 00:55:51,450 --> 00:55:55,500 Outward aversion is often the feeling that there's something threatening here. 993 00:55:55,500 --> 00:55:57,840 It's it can be a recoiling or a fight. 994 00:55:58,515 --> 00:56:01,785 Or excuse me, a flight response for something, an aversion to something. 995 00:56:02,085 --> 00:56:04,575 And that's usually because of the perception of some threat, 996 00:56:05,265 --> 00:56:06,645 there's some threat somewhere. 997 00:56:06,975 --> 00:56:10,365 And so for that, we use the anxiety inquiry and see if you can find the 998 00:56:10,365 --> 00:56:12,855 threat in the words, pictures and energy. 999 00:56:12,855 --> 00:56:18,015 So yeah, almost anxiety inquiry is almost, almost, almost always completely devoted 1000 00:56:18,015 --> 00:56:20,625 to the aversion aspect of our experience. 1001 00:56:21,585 --> 00:56:22,815 Mm-hmm yeah. 1002 00:56:23,145 --> 00:56:23,535 Okay. 1003 00:56:24,134 --> 00:56:30,285 Um, so there's a related question to, uh, sorry, the feed's just kind of 1004 00:56:31,065 --> 00:56:33,465 bringing up all kinds of new stuff here. 1005 00:56:34,005 --> 00:56:36,404 Are you okay with, uh, staying on for a bit? 1006 00:56:36,705 --> 00:56:36,945 Yeah. 1007 00:56:38,745 --> 00:56:43,725 So, um, let's see. 1008 00:56:47,895 --> 00:56:53,815 This YouTube feed sometimes is a bit confusing, but here's the question. 1009 00:56:53,835 --> 00:56:54,285 Okay. 1010 00:57:00,490 --> 00:57:00,710 Um, 1011 00:57:05,340 --> 00:57:11,430 tomorrow I had your question, but now I can't find it anymore. 1012 00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:15,180 Sorry. 1013 00:57:15,180 --> 00:57:17,670 Something was just removed. 1014 00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:29,220 Hmm. 1015 00:57:30,660 --> 00:57:31,320 Okay. 1016 00:57:31,380 --> 00:57:36,750 Um, I think there's a question that just got removed, but there's another 1017 00:57:36,750 --> 00:57:41,130 one that says, can you point to how to find your deficiency story? 1018 00:57:41,970 --> 00:57:42,810 Yes. 1019 00:57:43,290 --> 00:57:46,080 You know, the best way to do it is to, to look at how 1020 00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:47,820 relationship reveals it to you. 1021 00:57:48,300 --> 00:57:49,500 We call it the boomerang. 1022 00:57:50,100 --> 00:57:53,490 In other words, if you look, if, if there's somebody that's triggering 1023 00:57:53,490 --> 00:57:57,090 you outside yourself, or even an object that's triggering you, like 1024 00:57:57,090 --> 00:57:58,140 it's something you're addicted to. 1025 00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:03,240 If you stop and ask what's this mirroring back to me about my deficiency. 1026 00:58:03,630 --> 00:58:05,700 You'll, you'll start to feel something. 1027 00:58:06,690 --> 00:58:09,150 And then you can put a name to that deficiency story. 1028 00:58:09,510 --> 00:58:12,300 Let me give you a couple of examples, cuz Boomerang's really powerful 1029 00:58:12,300 --> 00:58:13,830 to start putting a name to that. 1030 00:58:14,550 --> 00:58:18,750 Let's say your, your mother and your sister both trigger you. 1031 00:58:19,380 --> 00:58:21,870 You don't know why it just, whenever you're around them, you're 1032 00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:23,610 so easily fly off the handle. 1033 00:58:24,390 --> 00:58:28,260 If you put, if you put them up in front of you and you kind of stop 1034 00:58:28,260 --> 00:58:32,100 focusing on their behavior, stop focusing on how they should be. 1035 00:58:33,195 --> 00:58:34,485 And ask that question. 1036 00:58:34,755 --> 00:58:35,025 What? 1037 00:58:35,025 --> 00:58:36,495 It's like a mirror relationship. 1038 00:58:36,495 --> 00:58:40,725 What are they mirroring back to me about my identity in this relationship, 1039 00:58:41,235 --> 00:58:45,225 you might find out that you might say, well, I was the one that's not, 1040 00:58:45,255 --> 00:58:50,445 I'm the one that's not truly loved or I'm the one that doesn't fit in here. 1041 00:58:51,045 --> 00:58:54,225 Or I'm the one that's just always not good enough. 1042 00:58:55,185 --> 00:58:56,745 You feel it because it's your story. 1043 00:58:57,525 --> 00:58:59,055 But you have to ask that question. 1044 00:58:59,055 --> 00:58:59,565 What is it MI? 1045 00:58:59,625 --> 00:59:02,805 What is, what is this relationship mirroring back about who I am. 1046 00:59:03,165 --> 00:59:07,485 If you stay focused on other people, you won't see the deficiency story. 1047 00:59:07,485 --> 00:59:10,575 You'll only see their, their problems, their behavior. 1048 00:59:11,115 --> 00:59:14,805 And if you focus on yourself in a way that is merely mental, if you just 1049 00:59:14,805 --> 00:59:19,485 run the story in your mind, you often won't get it because you're too in it. 1050 00:59:19,755 --> 00:59:20,685 The story is you. 1051 00:59:21,525 --> 00:59:24,915 But if you ask that question, what is she mirroring back about me 1052 00:59:25,425 --> 00:59:30,105 and sit quietly with feeling into the body and you feel that pain. 1053 00:59:30,930 --> 00:59:33,900 There'll be some words that pop up with that pain, as long as 1054 00:59:33,900 --> 00:59:35,430 you make it an identity question. 1055 00:59:35,430 --> 00:59:39,270 In other words, who am I in relation to this person? 1056 00:59:39,275 --> 00:59:43,050 Or what is this person mirroring back about who I am in terms 1057 00:59:43,050 --> 00:59:47,160 of a efficiency and that can usually eliminate it actually. 1058 00:59:51,330 --> 00:59:52,110 Okay. 1059 00:59:52,800 --> 01:00:00,780 So I now found the, um, the other question by tomorrow, would you say most 1060 01:00:00,780 --> 01:00:03,510 fear is to do with the fear of death? 1061 01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:07,200 Non-existence yeah. 1062 01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:11,070 Ultimately yes, but it looks like other things at first, you know, it looks 1063 01:00:11,070 --> 01:00:15,060 like, oh gosh, I'm really afraid of giving the speech tomorrow at work, or 1064 01:00:15,330 --> 01:00:19,230 I'm really afraid of being rejected, but ultimately underlying all of that is the 1065 01:00:19,235 --> 01:00:23,580 fear of the death of the self or the, of, of being nobody or none existence. 1066 01:00:23,580 --> 01:00:27,330 I think that's, and that's an inquiry that we often do with people and 1067 01:00:27,330 --> 01:00:28,920 it has profound effect actually. 1068 01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:32,340 if you just kind of go right to the jugular there and you really look 1069 01:00:32,340 --> 01:00:36,270 to see that that's really ultimately what, what one is afraid of. 1070 01:00:37,290 --> 01:00:38,400 Yeah, absolutely. 1071 01:00:39,780 --> 01:00:43,380 See, one thing before I forget, I know that there are people who came to the 1072 01:00:43,380 --> 01:00:48,820 retreat who are really kind of looking for a more experiential experience here. 1073 01:00:49,290 --> 01:00:52,440 You know, whether it's a teacher pointing or whatever, and you're probably gonna 1074 01:00:52,440 --> 01:00:57,090 get that over the weekend from a few people, the way that this work works, 1075 01:00:57,180 --> 01:01:00,780 this is also is highly experiential, but it takes to be facilitated on it. 1076 01:01:01,050 --> 01:01:04,230 So if, if everybody that we're listening to, this were in the room 1077 01:01:04,230 --> 01:01:06,000 with me, that would be different. 1078 01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:09,870 We could be looking together, but because I can't see you and I can't 1079 01:01:09,870 --> 01:01:12,630 hear you, I can't interact with you. 1080 01:01:13,050 --> 01:01:16,350 And so therefore we can't really do this work together. 1081 01:01:16,350 --> 01:01:17,490 I can only talk about it. 1082 01:01:17,850 --> 01:01:22,350 And so you'll probably get other teachers this weekend who will, um, 1083 01:01:22,860 --> 01:01:24,480 give you less of an interview form that. 1084 01:01:25,635 --> 01:01:29,085 Well, you know, Scott, I, I see the questions also as a way for 1085 01:01:29,085 --> 01:01:35,085 people to just, um, maybe come to know more about what you're doing. 1086 01:01:35,265 --> 01:01:35,445 Right. 1087 01:01:35,715 --> 01:01:39,195 And, you know, I, I know you give weekend retreats. 1088 01:01:39,195 --> 01:01:42,795 So, I mean, during those retreats, you have a lot of time with people. 1089 01:01:43,665 --> 01:01:49,695 So if they really feel called to that form of inquiry, then you 1090 01:01:49,695 --> 01:01:54,795 know, I'd encourage you guys to go and do a weekend with Scott. 1091 01:01:55,935 --> 01:01:56,085 Yeah. 1092 01:01:56,090 --> 01:01:59,325 We also have lots of deepening courses by facilitators online 1093 01:01:59,955 --> 01:02:01,185 and living inquiries.com. 1094 01:02:01,425 --> 01:02:02,745 So there's lots of stuff going on. 1095 01:02:02,745 --> 01:02:03,435 It's not just me. 1096 01:02:03,435 --> 01:02:05,475 It's we're doing stuff all the time. 1097 01:02:06,615 --> 01:02:06,855 Yeah. 1098 01:02:08,205 --> 01:02:12,855 So here are some more questions. 1099 01:02:13,935 --> 01:02:17,805 Um, let see that I can find them. 1100 01:02:21,390 --> 01:02:22,230 Okay. 1101 01:02:22,230 --> 01:02:28,650 So gala says also, is there any way I can be helpful to a friend who has an 1102 01:02:28,650 --> 01:02:34,560 addiction and who knows nothing about inquiry other than being a caring friend? 1103 01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:39,930 Is there anything specific I should ask or say, you know, strangely, I 1104 01:02:39,930 --> 01:02:43,230 would say the best thing you can do is to look at whatever you believe about 1105 01:02:43,230 --> 01:02:47,490 yourself, yourself in that role, or even about your friend, because it's almost 1106 01:02:47,495 --> 01:02:51,270 like when you clean up your side, even though there aren't really sides, but 1107 01:02:51,270 --> 01:02:55,049 relatively there, are you clean up your side about what you believe like, or do 1108 01:02:55,049 --> 01:02:59,190 you believe you're responsible or do you believe, you know, whatever you believe 1109 01:02:59,190 --> 01:03:03,390 about yourself somehow that brings you just to be present with the person. 1110 01:03:03,390 --> 01:03:06,509 And that's really the greatest gift is, but it's hard to be present 1111 01:03:06,509 --> 01:03:07,650 if you're trying to fix somebody. 1112 01:03:07,650 --> 01:03:10,200 If you're trying to change them, if you got a constant judgment of 1113 01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:15,299 them, if you feel like your role is something conceptual with them, you 1114 01:03:15,299 --> 01:03:19,049 know, just kind of look at yourself and then that takes care of itself. 1115 01:03:21,855 --> 01:03:22,305 Good. 1116 01:03:22,305 --> 01:03:22,995 Great. 1117 01:03:24,015 --> 01:03:24,855 great answer. 1118 01:03:26,055 --> 01:03:31,875 Um, I see one more question from SIM Scott. 1119 01:03:31,875 --> 01:03:37,395 Can you say something about stopping the search for enlightenment and whether that 1120 01:03:37,395 --> 01:03:39,825 is something that happens on its own? 1121 01:03:40,635 --> 01:03:47,625 Um, in other words, is, is there anything one has to do or does it just happen? 1122 01:03:48,765 --> 01:03:51,525 It, you know, I, I might have once said that it just happens now. 1123 01:03:51,525 --> 01:03:52,275 I know better. 1124 01:03:52,675 --> 01:03:55,515 And, and the way that is, because we're ending that search with people 1125 01:03:55,755 --> 01:03:57,105 in these inquiries all the time. 1126 01:03:57,345 --> 01:04:01,605 It's a matter of being able to effectively look at what, what is the assumption? 1127 01:04:02,025 --> 01:04:06,075 In other words, a lot of times this is the reason the work got developed 1128 01:04:06,075 --> 01:04:09,135 is that people would call me up in private session and they would say, I'm 1129 01:04:09,135 --> 01:04:10,845 seeking enlightenment, can you help me? 1130 01:04:11,355 --> 01:04:14,655 But what I heard was there's something wrong with me. 1131 01:04:15,885 --> 01:04:17,175 That's what I heard them saying. 1132 01:04:18,105 --> 01:04:20,865 And the, and the belief was is that if they would get to the awakening, 1133 01:04:20,865 --> 01:04:23,444 then they, then everything that they thought that was wrong with him 1134 01:04:23,984 --> 01:04:25,935 would be washed away or something. 1135 01:04:26,205 --> 01:04:30,015 So what we did I started doing is see if we could find that self who 1136 01:04:30,015 --> 01:04:33,045 there's something wrong with, or find that self that's not good enough. 1137 01:04:33,375 --> 01:04:36,315 And when they couldn't find that they lost interest in 1138 01:04:36,315 --> 01:04:37,694 enlightenment, the seeking guy. 1139 01:04:38,714 --> 01:04:41,475 So that's, so it's, it's not a matter of just waiting around like 1140 01:04:41,714 --> 01:04:44,685 grace, like somehow you're gonna catch a cold, you know, you're gonna 1141 01:04:44,685 --> 01:04:45,884 catch enlightenment or something. 1142 01:04:46,035 --> 01:04:49,694 It's a matter of really looking at what the beliefs that are operating there. 1143 01:04:50,174 --> 01:04:53,325 And one of the beliefs is that there's such a thing called enlightenment as 1144 01:04:53,325 --> 01:04:55,754 something inherent and true and real. 1145 01:04:56,085 --> 01:04:59,595 Like we have people look for enlightenment all the time, not like to try to 1146 01:04:59,595 --> 01:05:02,565 find it and be enlightened, but to see that it's just an empty concept. 1147 01:05:02,984 --> 01:05:04,845 But as, as long as you think it's more than an empty 1148 01:05:04,845 --> 01:05:06,285 concept, you'll be chasing it. 1149 01:05:06,285 --> 01:05:10,365 Like you would chase a, a bottle of whiskey as an alcoholic or 1150 01:05:10,785 --> 01:05:12,105 whatever else it would just know. 1151 01:05:12,105 --> 01:05:14,055 It's not, it's not like catching a cold at all. 1152 01:05:14,355 --> 01:05:16,125 Just, you gotta look at an effective. 1153 01:05:16,755 --> 01:05:18,495 Direct way at the right things. 1154 01:05:18,585 --> 01:05:21,805 And then the stuff will fall apart for you and, and you and 1155 01:05:21,805 --> 01:05:23,055 the, and the seeking can relax. 1156 01:05:25,424 --> 01:05:26,535 Scott, thank you. 1157 01:05:26,540 --> 01:05:29,055 That's, uh, that's such a great answer. 1158 01:05:29,325 --> 01:05:35,595 Um, you, you know, because it's true that the search for enlightenment can 1159 01:05:35,600 --> 01:05:43,845 be just another way of, of running away from the experience whatever's 1160 01:05:43,845 --> 01:05:50,174 there, you know, it can be a way of, uh, fixing, fixing one's life. 1161 01:05:52,154 --> 01:05:58,125 And so it, it it's like it's a searching that, that, that doesn't, 1162 01:05:58,125 --> 01:06:05,235 that doesn't stop and, and, you know, , it's a, it's a good idea to look at 1163 01:06:05,235 --> 01:06:11,205 that, that idea itself, that search itself and put that to inquiry too. 1164 01:06:11,565 --> 01:06:11,805 Yeah. 1165 01:06:11,895 --> 01:06:13,275 Take a look at it, right? 1166 01:06:13,275 --> 01:06:13,575 Yeah. 1167 01:06:13,904 --> 01:06:14,415 Yeah. 1168 01:06:14,595 --> 01:06:18,720 That's uh, Sounds to me like a very fruit move. 1169 01:06:19,650 --> 01:06:20,100 yeah. 1170 01:06:20,230 --> 01:06:22,600 It's it's making so for now 1171 01:06:27,120 --> 01:06:28,920 so I think that's a good way. 1172 01:06:29,370 --> 01:06:31,710 Good time to, to stop. 1173 01:06:31,710 --> 01:06:34,109 I don't see any more comments. 1174 01:06:34,109 --> 01:06:36,870 Let me just look one more time or question. 1175 01:06:38,660 --> 01:06:38,879 Um, 1176 01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:46,930 okay. 1177 01:06:53,009 --> 01:06:53,850 Yes. 1178 01:06:54,120 --> 01:07:00,480 So somebody else had the same question as MF Sam about the enlightenment. 1179 01:07:00,480 --> 01:07:06,900 So, um, and AYA asked you for the answer you gave to, um, 1180 01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:09,450 obviously that's, that's a big one. 1181 01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:11,100 That's a big one. 1182 01:07:11,220 --> 01:07:14,580 It's a big one for anybody who's into non-dual spirituality. 1183 01:07:15,480 --> 01:07:16,740 Yeah, it's a big one. 1184 01:07:16,740 --> 01:07:16,980 Yeah. 1185 01:07:16,980 --> 01:07:18,990 And so we're looking at that kind of stuff. 1186 01:07:18,990 --> 01:07:19,290 Every day. 1187 01:07:19,290 --> 01:07:23,009 We have whole courses devoted just to undoing that search. 1188 01:07:23,009 --> 01:07:23,759 So, yeah. 1189 01:07:23,759 --> 01:07:24,959 We're yeah. 1190 01:07:25,319 --> 01:07:28,649 I always could say before, before we get off here, grace, that I hope that 1191 01:07:28,649 --> 01:07:31,770 this is a wonderful retreat for you, cuz I you've been lovely to work with. 1192 01:07:31,830 --> 01:07:35,009 And um, I just hope it really goes well and everybody gets 1193 01:07:35,009 --> 01:07:36,419 something out of it, you know? 1194 01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:38,250 No, thank you, Scott. 1195 01:07:38,580 --> 01:07:44,669 And thank you so much for, uh, for coming and agreeing to, to be with us. 1196 01:07:45,720 --> 01:07:54,750 And uh, you know, I think everybody needs to find what, what works for them. 1197 01:07:55,140 --> 01:07:55,290 Yeah. 1198 01:07:55,709 --> 01:07:59,819 And I'm sure the inquiries can be very powerful and can work 1199 01:07:59,825 --> 01:08:02,100 for whoever feels drawn to them. 1200 01:08:02,100 --> 01:08:07,080 So if you do feel drawn to them, explore them, you know, explore them 1201 01:08:07,084 --> 01:08:12,120 more, go to Scott's website, look at some of the, uh, some of the videos. 1202 01:08:12,900 --> 01:08:15,120 And, um, who knows? 1203 01:08:15,120 --> 01:08:19,950 You might find some of the people on the retreat in your next weekend. 1204 01:08:22,500 --> 01:08:23,910 Scott, are you still there? 1205 01:08:28,140 --> 01:08:28,529 I'm here. 1206 01:08:29,010 --> 01:08:29,359 Hello? 1207 01:08:29,365 --> 01:08:29,819 Hello, Scott. 1208 01:08:29,819 --> 01:08:30,120 Can you hear me? 1209 01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:31,920 Yeah, you, you disappeared there for a bit. 1210 01:08:33,470 --> 01:08:33,760 okay. 1211 01:08:34,470 --> 01:08:34,960 Thank you. 1212 01:08:35,580 --> 01:08:36,870 Thank you very much. 1213 01:08:37,350 --> 01:08:42,630 And, um, thank you for taking, taking the additional time to ask 1214 01:08:42,630 --> 01:08:44,670 the question to answer the questions. 1215 01:08:45,029 --> 01:08:45,840 Yeah, my pleasure. 1216 01:08:46,439 --> 01:08:47,970 Lovely to meet you, Scott. 1217 01:08:48,180 --> 01:08:48,630 You too. 1218 01:08:49,080 --> 01:08:49,649 Yeah. 1219 01:08:50,069 --> 01:08:51,029 Good conversation. 1220 01:08:51,029 --> 01:08:51,689 I liked it. 1221 01:08:55,140 --> 01:08:55,830 bye Scott. 1222 01:08:55,990 --> 01:08:56,480 Bye-bye. 1223 01:08:59,490 --> 01:09:03,149 So, um, this ends the session with Scott. 1224 01:09:03,240 --> 01:09:04,710 Thank you for attending. 1225 01:09:05,310 --> 01:09:09,210 If you are watching this session, uh, on YouTube. 1226 01:09:09,944 --> 01:09:17,595 um, you find, you found somehow the, the video, this is a session which is part of 1227 01:09:17,595 --> 01:09:21,675 the ongoing healing and awakening retreat. 1228 01:09:22,125 --> 01:09:27,885 If you want to find out more about the retreat, uh, you will do so by going on 1229 01:09:27,885 --> 01:09:37,814 the website, www.healingandawakening.com, I'm grace BBE. 1230 01:09:37,965 --> 01:09:43,995 And, um, thank you everybody for participating for your good questions that 1231 01:09:44,000 --> 01:09:51,255 helps God also talk more about how these inquiries work, uh, for more specific 1232 01:09:51,345 --> 01:09:54,315 issues and in, in a more specific way. 1233 01:09:55,065 --> 01:09:59,505 And I'll see you back in, uh, a bit less than an hour for the 1234 01:09:59,505 --> 01:10:03,225 conversation with Gina lake. 1235 01:10:03,735 --> 01:10:06,405 And, um, just wanted to add. 1236 01:10:06,945 --> 01:10:11,505 Uh, to the comments about some people wanting to hear more 1237 01:10:11,505 --> 01:10:13,215 from Scott and less from me. 1238 01:10:13,724 --> 01:10:16,605 Um, I didn't do false advertising. 1239 01:10:16,605 --> 01:10:20,565 I said it was going to be conversations, not just interviews. 1240 01:10:20,955 --> 01:10:30,495 So I'm happy to, um, have people who are on these conversations to speak to you. 1241 01:10:30,555 --> 01:10:34,934 And, um, there's also an aspect of it just being a conversation 1242 01:10:35,595 --> 01:10:37,095 between me and those persons. 1243 01:10:37,099 --> 01:10:42,465 So that's how I presented it and that's how you get it. 1244 01:10:42,795 --> 01:10:46,485 So, um, I'll see you back soon. 1245 01:10:46,934 --> 01:10:47,655 Bye bye. 104281

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