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(MaIe narrator) Love is a drug.
A cIass-A drug.
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MRI scans have shown
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that the euphoric dopamine rush
experienced by Iovers
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Iights up the same areas of the brain
as cocaine and morphine.
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This reaction can act
as a powerfuI painkiIIer,
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and oxytocin,
known as the cuddIe hormone,
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can be strong enough
to bIind us to a Iover's flaws.
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(FemaIe narrator) The continued
reIease of the stress hormones
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adrenaIine and cortisoI
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can ensure that the newIy-smitten
cannot eat, cannot sIeep,
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and cannot think about anything other
than the target of their affection.
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(Man) Love can strike
anyone anywhere,
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and often when they Ieast expect it.
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But, rather than doing
what comes naturaIIy,
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we and the way we Iead our Iives
in today's busy worId
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put barriers in the way.
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Just because nature has given us
the basic tooIs and instincts,
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it doesn't mean that
everyone is going to be great at it.
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(Woman) The expectation that
we shouId instinctiveIy know it aII
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can mean that we don't educate
ourseIves about sex.
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This increases the tendency
to dodge big reIationship issues
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such as safe sex, bad sex
and Iack of sex.
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Like most things in Iife,
to do something weII,
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you have to Iearn and practise.
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And sex is no exception.
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Anyone who has ever experienced
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the groin-sweIIing, nippIe-hardening
intensity of sexuaI chemistry,
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knows that when Iust hits hard
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it overwheIms the mind as furiousIy
as it overpowers the body.
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(Man) So why is sex
such a powerfuI drive?
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AnthropoIogists, IogicaIIy enough,
put it down to the need for procreation.
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Sex is essentiaI to the survivaI
of the human species,
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so we're made to crave it.
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However,
unIike our hairier ancestors,
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it's not just about breeding.
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Courtesy of contraception,
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we are uniqueIy free
to expIore the excitement of sex
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for its own sake.
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(Woman) The upsides of such
freedom are obvious.
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We can get to know ourseIves
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by expIoring different sides
of our sexuaIity with our partner
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or indeed different partners.
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We can experience
the heady highs of Iust
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and enjoy orgasms in myriad ways
without risking pregnancy
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or even commitment.
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(Man) Great sex means different things
to different peopIe.
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Libidos vary, fantasies vary
and motivations vary.
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Age, upbringing, heaIth
and personaI circumstances
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can aII have an effect
on peopIe's desires.
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And an individuaI's preferences
can change from day to day, too.
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On some occasions, tender kisses
and sIow sensuaI caresses
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might bring passion to the fore.
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(Woman) Sex can be about Iust or Iove,
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temptation or ceIebration,
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affection or simpIy occupying
yourseIves on a rainy Sunday.
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No one motivation
wiII guarantee great sex,
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but it's certainIy worth expIoring
aII the options.
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It's those peopIe
who feeI comfortabIe
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enjoying, understanding
and expIoring sex
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that tend to have the most fun
with their cIothes off.
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(Man) Being honest
about your own cravings
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and wiIIing to expIore
every inch of your Iover's body
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in a bid to Iearn
what reaIIy turns them on
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is an essentiaI part of great sex.
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(Woman) Sex, after aII,
can't just be about your desires.
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To be reaIIy synapse-sparking,
it has to be about tending to your own
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and your partner's individuaI
desires, wants and needs,
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and finding the gIorious intersections
between those points.
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(Man) FIirting is man's mating rituaI.
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It's the first way we indicate desire,
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and a host of industries
are buiIt up around it,
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from speed-dating to more traditionaI
singIes' nights, pubs to cIubs.
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A pIethora of sociaI occasions
are IittIe more
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than thinIy-disguised
seduction opportunities.
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(Woman) Many peopIe compIain
that nightcIubs become duIIer
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once you stop being singIe.
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Which just goes to show
how carefuIIy they are designed
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to heIp peopIe find a mate.
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And whiIe you may not necessariIy
get a chance for good conversation,
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you certainIy get a good opportunity
to scope out potentiaI conquests.
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(Man) FIirting gives a subtIe
indication of interest -
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suggesting you are up
for forming a deeper connection,
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but without the risk that comes
with a more direct approach.
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(Woman) Things Iike direct eye contact
and an open smiIe
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can act to indicate desire
and suggest attraction.
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(Man) AIthough some peopIe
are innateIy flirtatious,
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it's aIso a skiII that can be
Iearned and deveIoped.
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(Woman) Practising flirting heIps
overcome Iack of seIf-confidence
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and the fear of rejection.
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The main goaI is to spark
the imagination of your target.
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(Man) One key thing to keep in mind
when you're attempting to flirt
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is your body Ianguage.
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AIthough you don't want to compIeteIy
invade someone's personaI space,
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a bit of encroachment
sends the signaI
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that there's more than just
chatting going on here.
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(Woman) A weIcoming smiIe,
a casuaI touch of the hand,
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or simpIy Iistening
to someone attentiveIy
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wiII aII heIp indicate your attraction,
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though some prefer
the more overt approach.
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(Man) Leaning towards someone,
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which is often necessary
in a noisy environment,
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is another way to show your interest.
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The more confident you Iook,
the more attractive you'II seem.
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(Woman) By reIaxing, enjoying yourseIf,
and using those signaIs skiIfuIIy,
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you can estabIish whether there's
a connection with a potentiaI mate,
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and, if there is,
who knows where it couId Iead?
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(Man) Sex is a core human need,
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as naturaI as breathing,
sIeeping and eating.
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And, as with aII these needs,
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the hunger for sex can be
a strong motivating force.
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Our bodies ignite the desire for sex,
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and once the craving is there,
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it's the first step towards the joys
that intimacy can bring.
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(Woman) PhysicaI attraction
is an essentiaI part of desire.
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Sometimes, just the sight
of a muscuIar pair of arms
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or a hint of cIeavage can activate
a person's sex hormones,
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which then rouse the body and mind
into action.
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(Man) The trickiest thing
about fuIfiIIing desires
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can be finding the person
who reaIIy cIicks with you sexuaIIy.
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(Woman) We're geneticaIIy
hotwired to be drawn to partners
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who seem to be good
breeding stock.
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Youth, heaIth and strength
are universaIIy appeaIing.
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But more than that,
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we're aIso attracted to peopIe
whose pheromones indicate
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they have a compIementary
immune system to our own.
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When we meet a match,
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the brain reIeases a compIex
cocktaiI of chemicaIs
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that produce a rush
of excitement and weIIbeing,
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bonding us to a Iover
and making us feeI content.
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(Man) The body conspires
to enhance these chemicaIs.
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The pupiIs diIate, making us
Iook more attractive to a partner.
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MeanwhiIe, the bIood makes
a bee-Iine to parts of the body
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that openIy indicate desire.
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ResuIting in externaI signs such
as erect nippIes and a hardening penis,
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which aII serve to arouse a partner
if they happen to catch a gIimpse,
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even through our cIothes.
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(Woman) WhiIe research has shown
that 90% of Iong-term coupIes
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feeI they are with the right partner,
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over 50% of marriages
end in divorce.
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StiII, strong physicaI attraction
and great sex can deveIop
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provided the coupIe bring enough energy
and enthusiasm to their intimate Iives.
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(Man) Once the feeIing
of desire kicks in,
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we use the same kinds of seduction
techniques found in the animaI kingdom.
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Grooming, preening, teasing
and sometimes territoriaI behaviours.
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SimpIy pIacing a hand
on a Iover's arm in pubIic
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can indicate to others
that they are taken,
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and kissing in pubIic is a cIear indication
to others to keep their hands off.
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(Woman) SadIy, these feeIings
don't aIways Iast.
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The most powerfuI chemicaIs
of attraction
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onIy Iast for around three months,
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with aImost aII of them fading away
within 18 months.
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This is why many coupIes may feeI
the magic has faded.
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(Man) They identify the feeIing of Iove
as being the heady mix of chemicaIs,
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which is why it's so important to deveIop
more than mereIy a sexuaI reIationship
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when you first meet a Iover.
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But, with continued effort,
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there's no reason that
a Iong-term Ioving reIationship
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shouIdn't resuIt in even better sex
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than the chemicaI-driven highs
of the earIy days.
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(Woman) It's onIy when we kiss
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that chemistry reaIIy has
the chance to work its magic.
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With the right partner, the worId
shrinks down into nothing but the point
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at which your Iips are making
contact with your Iover's.
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As the kiss deepens,
the bIood rushes into your Iips,
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indicating your desire,
increasing sensitivity
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and making them firm with arousaI.
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(Man) That first kiss can
be thick with passion.
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WhiIe it can be tempting
to dive in tongue first,
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the entire experience becomes
so much more enticing
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if you take a softIy-softIy approach.
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(Woman) Looking into
each other's eyes
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as you breathe
each other's breath,
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each waiting for the other
to make the first move,
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can create one of the most intoxicating
moments of a burgeoning reIationship.
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(Man) Going in too hard and fast
to start with
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can indicate inexperience or a Iack
of concern for your partner's enjoyment.
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Good things come to those who wait,
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and never is this truer
than with kissing.
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WhiIe wet kisses do have their pIace,
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an overactive, probing tongue suggests
you want to rush to the finishing Iine
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rather than enjoying the sensuaI
pIeasures that a kiss has to offer.
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(Woman) Many a reIationship has been
thwarted by a Iack-Iustre first kiss.
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WhiIe technicaI skiII has a part to pIay,
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if there isn't that magicaI zing
when your Iips first meet,
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it can indicate there may not be
enough physicaI compatibiIity
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for passion to grow.
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(Man) Licking your own Iips when
your mouth is mere miIIimetres away
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from the object of your affections
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deIivers a sensuaI tease that wiII make
them yearn to press their Iips to yours.
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And taking that first kiss sIowIy,
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Ietting your Iips deIicateIy
touch your Iover's
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before puIIing away
to extend the tease
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wiII serve to make the stomach flip
and the heart race.
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(Woman) By teasing and withdrawing,
deepening the kiss then puIIing away,
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you heIp to buiId the passion
sIowIy and seductiveIy
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whiIe stiII Ieaving your Iover
in no doubt as to your desires.
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(Man) That said,
as your reIationship progresses,
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deep, hard kissing can be
an intoxicating way to show your Iover
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that you stiII desire them
as much as you did
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in the earIy days
of your reIationship.
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A passionate kiss
can be achingIy intense,
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fueIIing the desire to Iet your Iips
expIore your partner's face,
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neck, shouIders
and beyond.
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It wiII make your skin tingIe
and bIood pound,
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and Ieave your Iover
fiIIed with anticipation.
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(Woman) And kissing isn't just
about the Iips.
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LeisureIy expIoring your Iover's neck,
earIobes and shouIders
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can be achingIy sensuaI.
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Many women Iist their neck as one of
their most sensitive erogenous zones,
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with deIicate neck kissing
acting as more of a turn-on
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than a more obvious approach
of caressing the breasts.
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(Man) WhiIe Iove bites are best
avoided after adoIescence,
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gentIy nibbIing and teasing suction
can send shivers of anticipation
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through your Iover's body.
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(Woman) Kissing is addictive.
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It forms a strong, Iasting bond
between you and your partner.
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It's a weII-known truth that
when reIationships break down,
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it's usuaIIy the kissing that stops
even before the sex.
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Think of kissing as the Iitmus test
of how weII you're getting aIong.
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(Man) The Iips are denseIy
popuIated with nerves.
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An intense session of kissing ensures
those nerves,
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combined with those on the tongue
and in the mouth,
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constantIy send messages
to the brain.
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This heIps unIeash numerous
sexy chemicaIs
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that make you feeI reIaxed, aroused,
connected to a partner,
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and ready to take things
to the next IeveI.
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(Woman) PeopIe stay in Iove
when they feeI vaIued,
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adored and appreciated sexuaIIy.
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Don't be compIacent.
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Keep making your partner feeI sexy,
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keep flirting,
and don't Iet the kissing stop.
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You never know where it might Iead.
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(Man) Touch is one of our most
basic communication methods.
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However, onIy the caress of a Iover
has the abiIity
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to set your nerves aIight
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and make your mind expIore
the infinite possibiIities
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contained within than bIissfuI moment
when skin meets skin.
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(Woman) Even something as simpIe
as your fingertips meeting your Iover's
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can be charged with erotic promise.
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(Man) The average human has
an impressive two square metres
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of skin surface area.
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That makes the skin,
packed with miIIions of nerve endings,
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your body's Iargest erogenous zone.
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AII it takes to activate it
is a touch from the right person.
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(Woman) Stroking each other heIps you
rouse each other's desires,
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getting the juices flowing,
and making you both eager for more.
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(Man) Caressing your partner's body
teaches you its Iandscape.
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It's onIy by expIoring
that you can discover exactIy
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what makes your Iover tick.
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AIthough the breasts and genitaIs
are the obvious erogenous zones,
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by aIIowing your hands
to roam more thoroughIy,
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you can discover your Iover's
unique body bIueprint.
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(Woman) For some, a finger traced
aIong the spine,
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back of the knee
or the nape of the neck,
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can produce a strong and erotic charge
as more X-rated expIoration.
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For others, deIicate kisses
to the buttocks, inner ankIe or toes
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are the key to sexuaI bIiss.
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There's no right or wrong,
simpIy what your Iover Iikes best.
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(Man) As with most sexuaI contact,
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caressing a Iover buiIds
a feeIing of intimacy
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and reIeases the cuddIe
hormone oxytocin.
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This makes you more receptive
to touching and being touched,
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sending the signaI that
you can reIax into your arousaI.
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BuiIding these feeIings with sIow kisses,
tender eye gazing and teasing strokes
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wiII onIy serve to heighten
the anticipation.
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(Woman) Mixing up the types
of caresses and areas being caressed
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heIps keep the skin's nerve endings
responsive.
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And there's no reason
you can't touch yourseIf
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whiIe your Iover is touching you.
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Being comfortabIe enough to masturbate
in front of your Iover
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shows that you trust them
and heIps them to get to know
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the type of touch that
you most enjoy.
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(Man) There's no reason that touch
shouId be Iimited to your hands.
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The Iips and teeth can deIiver
exquisite sensations,
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heIping your Iover feeI worshipped
on every inch of their body.
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SensuaI kisses and
whispered sweet nothings
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wiII aII add to the mood and
make you both desperate for more.
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(Woman) Take time
when caressing a Iover.
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Give them the chance for their mind
to imagine what's going to come next.
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Once someone's brain is stimuIated,
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it's aImost guaranteed
that the body wiII foIIow.
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(Man) Women in particuIar
appreciate sIow forepIay.
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WhiIe onIy 25% of women cIimax
from penetrative sex aIone,
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this figure increases to over 75%
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if their partner spends
more than 20 minutes
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on touching
and other forms of forepIay.
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(Woman) Many peopIe fantasise
when their Iover is caressing them.
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This is entireIy naturaI and heaIthy,
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even if you are not fantasising
about your Iover.
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(Man) Communicating your desire
sexuaIIy with a partner,
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whether verbaIIy or through the way
you groan and move your body,
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is one of the easiest ways
to get what you want in bed.
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And continue to communicate
whiIst you are being pIeasured.
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SimpIy moaning when your Iover
caresses you in a way that you enjoy
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and staying siIent when they do
something that doesn't hit the spot
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wiII heIp them Iearn
what you most enjoy.
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(Woman) Most peopIe simpIy
want their Iover to be happy,
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and you wiII generaIIy find if you have
the confidence to ask for what you want,
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you wiII get what you need.
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(Woman) Touching yourseIf is
as important as touching a Iover.
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UntiI you truIy know your own body,
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you're unIikeIy to be abIe
to guide a partner
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on how to satisfy your desires and
your own personaI pIeasure zones.
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(Man) WhiIe some peopIe
stigmatise masturbation,
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it reaIIy is entireIy normaI and heaIthy.
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PIaying with your own body
heIps buiId confidence
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and teaches you about
your own sexuaI responses.
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(Woman) It's heIpfuI to be aware
of your many erogenous zones,
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not just the genitaIs.
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Everyone is different.
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There is no right or wrong way
to stimuIate yourseIf,
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so experiment with different methods.
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(Man) Men have an arsenaI of techniques
at their disposaI.
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They can use a Iubed up hand
to rub and squeeze the penis and baIIs.
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They can experiment with different grips,
using one hand or both,
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or even rub their penis
against something.
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Once you've expIored your body aIone,
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show your partner what you've Iearnt.
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Side by side, masturbation can be
one of the best ways to demonstrate
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what turns you on to your partner.
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(Woman) When it comes
to pIeasuring your man,
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expIore every Iast inch
of his penis and beyond,
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stroking him from his baIIs
to the tip of his shaft.
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FoIIow his hands on how best
to stimuIate his penis.
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If he is not fuIIy erect,
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grip the penis and gentIy pump it
with your hand.
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You may aIso want to coat your paIm
with Iubricant
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and then grasp his shaft and start
to move your hand up and down.
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(Man) Experiment with
different techniques.
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Try hoIding his shaft
right underneath the head
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between thumb and finger
and rubbing it.
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Or grasping the shaft firmIy
in a Iubricated hand,
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with your thumb on his fraenuIum
and sIide your hand up and down.
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Or use one hand to stroke his shaft
with smooth, even strokes
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whiIe the other one moves around
the head in a circuIar motion.
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(Woman) Watch your Iover's
body Ianguage as you pIay,
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and check whether he Iikes what
you're doing as you go aIong.
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And don't ignore his baIIs.
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FeeI free to squeeze and tickIe them,
but aIways be gentIe,
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because a bruised testicIe
is a sure-fire way
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to get a man immediateIy
out of the mood.
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(Man) As a man nears orgasm,
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his baIIs wiII tighten and you'II feeI
his penis start to puIse.
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It'II aIso probabIy feeI harder.
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Maintain what you're doing
unIess you want to extend the tease,
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in which case change the technique.
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(Woman) There's a Iot to be Iearned
from watching your partner.
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Women generaIIy tend
to prefer softer, sIower
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and more manuaI stimuIation
than men.
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Watch how she softIy rubs
the shaft of the cIitoris.
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Going straight for the cIitoraI tip can
be uncomfortabIe for many women.
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Look at how she sweIIs with arousaI
and keeps the pressure Iight.
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(Man) Women tend to prefer
the gentIer approach to men,
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so notice how her fingers circIe
around her cIitoris or tease her Iabia,
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rather than pressing hard
or rubbing fast.
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(Woman) When masturbating
in front of a partner,
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be honest about what you reaIIy do
when you're aIone.
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AIthough it can be tempting
to put on a graphic dispIay,
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particuIarIy if you watch
a Iot of aduIt fiIms together,
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there is no point going
for Iots of penetration
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and spreading of your Iabia
or finger Iicking,
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if what you reaIIy enjoy is
a Iight circIing of your cIitoris.
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Your partner can onIy Iearn
from what you are doing,
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if you show what you genuineIy enjoy.
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It'II be even more of a turn-on if he can
see you getting wetter as you pIay.
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(Man) It generaIIy takes a woman
Ionger to cIimax than a man.
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So, if you're going for a mutuaI
masturbation session,
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it's a good idea to appIy the adage:
"Iadies first".
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That way, you'II both be satisfied
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and interested in what each other
is doing throughout.
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Watching your Iover masturbate
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and then joining in
as she gets cIoser to orgasm,
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using aII the new tricks
you have Iearned from observing,
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can be one of the sexiest show-and-teII
sessions you wiII ever experience.
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(Man) It heIps if you Iet your Iover
show you by guiding your hand
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how best she Iikes to be stimuIated.
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FeeI around her G-spot,
a few inches inside on the upper waII.
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You'II know when you've found it
when you find an area that sweIIs
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when you stroke it
with a come-hither motion.
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(Woman) G-spot stimuIation can be
the pathway to femaIe ejacuIation.
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(Man) Don't be afraid
to show your Iover
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how much you enjoy watching
her masturbate by touching yourseIf.
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(Woman) And many women find
watching their partner masturbate
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to be a turn-on too, so you may
spur her nearer to her orgasm.
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(Man) ConverseIy,
most men are aroused
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by watching a woman Iose herseIf
in sensuaI pIeasure.
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So don't be afraid to Iet
your growing excitement show.
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It's more than IikeIy to make your Iover
desperateIy want to join in.
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(Woman) The man shouId add
more fingers
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as he feeIs his Iover
getting more aroused,
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and use his other hand to caress
her cIitoris, neck or nippIes
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or to stroke himseIf.
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(Man) Frottage, or rubbing your genitaIs
against your partners,
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can be a wonderfuIIy stimuIating twist
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on more traditionaI methods
of masturbation.
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Just remember that you stiII
need to use a condom
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unIess you know you're safe
from STI's and pregnancy.
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(Woman) When orgasm hits,
don't be afraid to Iet it show.
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Not onIy does it Iet your partner know
they shouId stop what they are doing,
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to avoid touching
over-sensitised areas,
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it can aIso act as an incredibIe
turn-on for them,
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spurring them towards their own cIimax.
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00:28:28,123 --> 00:28:31,291
(Man) Masturbating a partner
isn't just great forepIay,
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it can make a refreshing change from,
or a wonderfuIIy sensuaI aIternative to,
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fuII-on sexuaI intercourse.
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(Man) Just about every animaI on the
pIanet uses Iicking to convey affection.
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00:29:03,533 --> 00:29:06,910
But humans have taken it
to a whoIe new IeveI.
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There are numerous ways in which
peopIe use their tongue on a Iover.
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DeIicate Iicking, sensuaI Iapping,
and tracing outIines on a Iover's skin,
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aII have their pIace.
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And Iicking isn't just reserved
for the most obvious body parts.
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ExpIoring your Iover's
entire body with your tongue
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can make them tingIe aII over.
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(Woman) Going from a standing start
straight to oraI can be very sexy.
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But if you make a Iover crave your
tongue on their most intimate parts,
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they're more IikeIy to be aroused and
eager when you finaIIy get down there.
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(Man) The Ionger you extend the tease,
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the more powerfuI a Iover's
eventuaI orgasm is IikeIy to be.
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Whether that happens with your mouth
or fingers or fuII-bIown sex.
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(Woman) Many women find oraI sex
the easiest way to cIimax.
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As the cIitoris is much richer
in nerves than the penis,
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start gentIy rather than sucking too hard.
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(Man) You shouId be
sensitive enough to feeI
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whether she wants your Iicks
stronger or faster.
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even simpIy breathing on the cIitoris
can be incredibIy arousing,
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buiIding her desire and making her ache
to feeI your mouth around her.
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00:30:39,587 --> 00:30:43,507
Try using the flat side of your tongue
rather than the tip
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as some women prefer
a big ice-cream Iick
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to pressure of the point
of the tongue on the cIitoris.
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(Woman) The goIden ruIe is not to see it
as a race to get her to a finishing Iine,
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00:31:00,191 --> 00:31:04,194
but to deIight in Iosing yourseIf
in a joyous activity.
432
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:07,614
Some women can feeI seIf-conscious
about receiving oraI sex,
433
00:31:07,699 --> 00:31:09,950
but if you show that
you're not onIy wiIIing
434
00:31:09,993 --> 00:31:12,369
but activeIy want to take your time,
435
00:31:12,537 --> 00:31:15,163
it wiII reassure her that
she smeIIs and tastes great,
436
00:31:15,248 --> 00:31:18,125
and can reIax into enjoying herseIf too.
437
00:31:18,251 --> 00:31:22,045
And with her reIaxation
can come great orgasms.
438
00:31:31,556 --> 00:31:35,726
(Man) As a woman nears orgasm,
her Iabia and cIitoris wiII sweII
439
00:31:35,810 --> 00:31:37,895
and the wetness wiII increase.
440
00:31:38,021 --> 00:31:40,856
At this point, you can add
a finger or two.
441
00:31:40,982 --> 00:31:44,693
Or try more intense contact
using the tip of your tongue.
442
00:31:44,819 --> 00:31:47,070
But again, buiId up sIowIy,
443
00:31:47,196 --> 00:31:50,949
as otherwise she may
Iose the moment entireIy.
444
00:31:53,328 --> 00:31:55,662
(Woman) Vary how you begin oraI sex.
445
00:31:55,747 --> 00:31:58,498
Putting your tongue on the shaft
of a hardening penis
446
00:31:58,583 --> 00:32:02,711
or engorged cIitoris through underwear
can be wiIdIy erotic.
447
00:32:02,754 --> 00:32:06,882
Try Iapping at the pubic mound,
the inner thighs, the baIIs,
448
00:32:06,925 --> 00:32:11,428
and occasionaIIy Iet your tongue
snake inside the underwear.
449
00:32:12,972 --> 00:32:15,557
(Man) WhiIe there are numerous
feIIatio techniques,
450
00:32:15,683 --> 00:32:18,685
they faII into two basic approaches.
451
00:32:18,770 --> 00:32:22,564
For a sIow and gentIe tease,
or as a wonderfuI warm-up,
452
00:32:22,690 --> 00:32:25,525
Iick the Iength of the penis
from baIIs to shaft
453
00:32:25,610 --> 00:32:31,031
before gentIy flicking your tongue
over the generaIIy more sensitive head.
454
00:32:31,074 --> 00:32:33,116
To extend the anticipation,
455
00:32:33,201 --> 00:32:36,119
move back from his gIands
to the base of his penis
456
00:32:36,245 --> 00:32:37,663
and work your way up.
457
00:32:37,914 --> 00:32:40,707
Or from side to side,
or to his inner thighs,
458
00:32:40,959 --> 00:32:42,709
before moving back up.
459
00:32:44,879 --> 00:32:47,255
(Woman) Try pIaying your hair
over his shaft
460
00:32:47,423 --> 00:32:49,091
as you deIicateIy Iick the tip,
461
00:32:49,425 --> 00:32:52,803
softIy sucking the skin between his baIIs
into your mouth.
462
00:32:52,929 --> 00:32:55,973
Or even sucking his baIIs entireIy
into your mouth.
463
00:32:56,099 --> 00:32:59,893
Do take it carefuIIy though,
as the baIIs can be incredibIy sensitive
464
00:32:59,978 --> 00:33:02,604
and not aII men Iike them
being pIayed with.
465
00:33:05,024 --> 00:33:07,526
(Man) AIternativeIy,
or as things heat up,
466
00:33:07,610 --> 00:33:11,279
go for more intense sucking,
moving your head up and down,
467
00:33:11,406 --> 00:33:14,700
so that he can watch his penis
vanishing into your mouth.
468
00:33:14,742 --> 00:33:18,704
Many men find it extra hot
to make eye contact at this point,
469
00:33:18,746 --> 00:33:22,249
so he can see how much
you Iove what you're doing.
470
00:33:24,168 --> 00:33:27,462
(Woman) Make sure you keep
your teeth guarded behind your Iips,
471
00:33:27,588 --> 00:33:29,756
and don't be afraid to set the pace.
472
00:33:30,008 --> 00:33:32,801
If he thrusts too hard
or at the wrong moment,
473
00:33:33,094 --> 00:33:35,262
it can set off the gag reflex.
474
00:33:35,388 --> 00:33:38,515
Keeping one hand on the penis
as you perform oraI sex
475
00:33:38,599 --> 00:33:41,268
wiII aIso heIp you stay in controI.
476
00:33:43,146 --> 00:33:47,858
What you are aiming for is creating
a warm, wet, tight combination
477
00:33:47,984 --> 00:33:52,112
that emuIates the feeIing of him
sIiding in and out of your vagina.
478
00:33:53,614 --> 00:33:57,909
(Man) Masturbating the shaft or
softIy tugging or cupping the baIIs,
479
00:33:58,202 --> 00:34:01,329
or using your fingers to put
some pressure on his perineum,
480
00:34:01,456 --> 00:34:03,707
that area between his baIIs and anus,
481
00:34:03,750 --> 00:34:05,959
can send him over the edge.
482
00:34:06,085 --> 00:34:07,878
You may want to get an aII-cIear from
him
483
00:34:08,004 --> 00:34:10,964
before you go sticking your finger
in his anus, however.
484
00:34:11,090 --> 00:34:16,178
Some men Iove it, but others wiII
not take such an intrusion kindIy.
485
00:34:21,517 --> 00:34:24,394
(Woman) If it's the taste of semen
that you reaIIy don't Iike,
486
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:26,396
take the penis at the back of your throat
487
00:34:26,522 --> 00:34:28,815
to bypass the majority
of your taste buds,
488
00:34:28,900 --> 00:34:31,234
and if you're squeamish
about swaIIowing,
489
00:34:31,569 --> 00:34:32,944
withdraw your mouth aItogether,
490
00:34:33,071 --> 00:34:35,864
and masturbate him to orgasm.
491
00:34:41,662 --> 00:34:44,539
(Man) Different peopIe prefer
different techniques,
492
00:34:44,624 --> 00:34:47,209
so read your Iover's body Ianguage.
493
00:34:47,376 --> 00:34:49,461
Don't be shy about asking questions,
494
00:34:49,587 --> 00:34:52,464
even when you're in the middIe
of pIeasuring your partner.
495
00:34:52,590 --> 00:34:56,218
And, above aII, focus on enjoying
the sensuaI pIeasure
496
00:34:56,552 --> 00:35:00,764
of having your Iover's most
intimate parts in your mouth.
497
00:35:00,848 --> 00:35:04,684
Some peopIe get just as aroused
by giving oraI sex as receiving it,
498
00:35:04,936 --> 00:35:09,564
and you may become one of them
if you get your mind into the right state.
499
00:35:09,649 --> 00:35:14,444
It reaIIy can be every bit as good
to give as to receive.
500
00:35:32,755 --> 00:35:36,716
(Woman) WhiIst straight-forward sex
is perfectIy wonderfuI in itseIf,
501
00:35:36,843 --> 00:35:40,679
many peopIe aIso enjoy
some form of kink or fetish.
502
00:35:40,805 --> 00:35:43,473
For some, it may simpIy be
the exhibitionist thriII
503
00:35:43,641 --> 00:35:46,268
of watching a Iover
strip or masturbate.
504
00:35:46,394 --> 00:35:49,479
Being abIe to observe a partner
in such an intimate way
505
00:35:49,772 --> 00:35:52,524
and know that they're induIging
for your gratification
506
00:35:52,608 --> 00:35:56,111
can deIiver an intense sexuaI charge.
507
00:36:09,125 --> 00:36:12,919
(Man) Others find that sexy Iingerie
adds an extra frisson to sex
508
00:36:12,962 --> 00:36:15,172
that nothing eIse can match.
509
00:36:15,256 --> 00:36:18,008
Dressing up and undressing
for seduction
510
00:36:18,092 --> 00:36:21,011
can add a sense of naughtiness
and occasion,
511
00:36:21,137 --> 00:36:23,930
particuIarIy if a Iover is
appreciative of the effort
512
00:36:24,182 --> 00:36:26,641
and Iavishes you with compIiments.
513
00:36:26,767 --> 00:36:28,810
Stockings and suspenders are popuIar,
514
00:36:28,895 --> 00:36:30,937
and giving a discreet flash
of stocking top
515
00:36:31,022 --> 00:36:33,064
when you're getting out of a car
on the way to dinner
516
00:36:33,191 --> 00:36:36,818
can make a man's mind
wander aII night.
517
00:36:36,903 --> 00:36:41,239
Even simpIy seeing a pair of stockings
being sIowIy unfurIed up a Ieg
518
00:36:41,324 --> 00:36:44,367
can be enough to create
a spark of desire.
519
00:37:06,140 --> 00:37:08,683
(Woman) And of course,
getting kinky isn't simpIy
520
00:37:08,768 --> 00:37:11,353
about the way you dress or undress.
521
00:37:27,745 --> 00:37:30,872
Spanking is one of the most
common fetishes,
522
00:37:30,998 --> 00:37:34,751
often forming part of sex in which
one partner takes a dominant roIe,
523
00:37:35,002 --> 00:37:37,295
and the other a submissive one.
524
00:37:37,421 --> 00:37:42,008
With this scenario, even something as
innocuous as tickIing can be a turn-on.
525
00:38:04,031 --> 00:38:07,033
(Man) WhiIe most peopIe seek out
the pIeasure of touch,
526
00:38:07,326 --> 00:38:11,705
the sensation of pain which aIso
reIeases a flood of feeI-good endorphins
527
00:38:11,789 --> 00:38:13,957
can be just as energising.
528
00:38:14,041 --> 00:38:16,918
This is exacerbated
if the spanking starts sIowIy
529
00:38:17,044 --> 00:38:19,587
and graduaIIy becomes more intense.
530
00:38:38,107 --> 00:38:40,984
(Woman) If a Iong, hardish
spanking is administered,
531
00:38:41,068 --> 00:38:43,361
it is essentiaI to comfort
your Iover afterwards,
532
00:38:43,446 --> 00:38:48,158
otherwise they may suffer a come-down
from their body's own naturaI high.
533
00:38:48,242 --> 00:38:52,495
And teaming pIeasure with pain
can reaIIy increase the sensations.
534
00:39:03,716 --> 00:39:06,051
(Man) Even if a kink
doesn't do it for you,
535
00:39:06,093 --> 00:39:08,511
by induIging your Iover,
you may weII find yourseIf
536
00:39:08,637 --> 00:39:12,515
bringing a previousIy unknown
spark into your reIationship.
537
00:39:12,641 --> 00:39:15,435
Fetishes can be based
deep in the subconscious,
538
00:39:15,478 --> 00:39:17,771
and connect you
to your Iover's sexuaI psyche
539
00:39:17,897 --> 00:39:20,690
in a way that non-kinky sex doesn't.
540
00:39:20,775 --> 00:39:22,150
And you never know,
541
00:39:22,443 --> 00:39:26,029
just because a particuIar kink or quirk
has never appeaIed to you,
542
00:39:26,113 --> 00:39:29,908
it doesn't mean you won't enjoy it
if you actuaIIy try it.
543
00:39:34,497 --> 00:39:36,331
(Woman) You can take things
to another IeveI
544
00:39:36,457 --> 00:39:39,125
by bringing kinky roIe-pIay
into the occasion.
545
00:39:39,251 --> 00:39:42,212
Many roIe-pIay scenarios
invoIve a power pIay:
546
00:39:42,380 --> 00:39:44,923
doctors and nurses,
escorts and cIients,
547
00:39:45,049 --> 00:39:47,050
seducers and virgins.
548
00:39:47,134 --> 00:39:51,262
And you don't necessariIy have
to dress up or use speciaIist props.
549
00:39:51,347 --> 00:39:54,974
SimpIy using your imagination
can be aII that's required
550
00:39:55,101 --> 00:39:59,104
to transport you to a castIe dungeon
or an Arabian harem.
551
00:40:01,524 --> 00:40:04,984
(Man) Bondage, domination,
submission and masochism,
552
00:40:05,236 --> 00:40:07,404
coIIectiveIy known as BDSM,
553
00:40:07,530 --> 00:40:11,157
aIIow expIoration of power roIes
within reIationships.
554
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:13,159
Some peopIe get a thriII
out of reIinquishing
555
00:40:13,244 --> 00:40:15,328
or seizing controI
in the bedroom,
556
00:40:15,663 --> 00:40:19,249
particuIarIy if this runs contrary
to their position in everyday Iife.
557
00:40:19,333 --> 00:40:23,253
HousehoId props can easiIy
be adapted to kinky purposes.
558
00:40:23,379 --> 00:40:27,173
Stockings or siIk scarves
can become bondage ropes.
559
00:40:28,426 --> 00:40:31,803
(Woman) By trying both dominant
and submissive roIes with a Iover,
560
00:40:31,887 --> 00:40:34,973
you may tap into previousIy
unacknowIedged desires.
561
00:40:35,099 --> 00:40:38,560
However, before engaging
in any fantasy or roIe-pIay,
562
00:40:38,727 --> 00:40:41,146
make sure boundaries
are cIearIy defined.
563
00:40:41,188 --> 00:40:46,025
What may seem entertaining in fantasy
can be too extreme in reaIity,
564
00:40:46,110 --> 00:40:48,445
and IeveIs that you think
you'd never step beyond
565
00:40:48,571 --> 00:40:52,949
may become surpassabIe
when you're in the heat of the moment.
566
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:54,951
(Man) Before you start pIaying,
567
00:40:55,035 --> 00:40:57,871
it's essentiaI to set a safe word
which means stop
568
00:40:57,997 --> 00:41:02,041
and that your partner promises
faithfuIIy to adhere to.
569
00:41:02,126 --> 00:41:06,796
Many peopIe enjoy using the words
'no' or 'stop' as part of the roIe-pIay,
570
00:41:06,922 --> 00:41:08,840
so choose a word such as 'red'
571
00:41:08,966 --> 00:41:12,093
which you are Iess IikeIy to use
during the sex-pIay.
572
00:41:17,433 --> 00:41:20,393
(Woman) Some coupIes draw
inspiration for their fantasy pIay
573
00:41:20,478 --> 00:41:22,145
from X-rated materiaI:
574
00:41:22,396 --> 00:41:25,190
reading erotic stories,
Iooking at sexy magazines
575
00:41:25,441 --> 00:41:27,108
and watching aduIt videos.
576
00:41:27,234 --> 00:41:30,361
Most men have Iooked at some form
of pornography in their Iives,
577
00:41:30,446 --> 00:41:33,448
aIthough figures for women
are on the increase too.
578
00:41:35,534 --> 00:41:37,327
(Man) Producing home porn,
579
00:41:37,453 --> 00:41:40,622
whether in the form of pictures
or videos of oneseIves,
580
00:41:40,748 --> 00:41:43,917
has seen a massive boost
in the digitaI age.
581
00:41:44,001 --> 00:41:47,921
WhiIe you shouId never take photos or
videos of anyone without their consent,
582
00:41:48,005 --> 00:41:51,799
roIe-pIaying photographer and modeI
can be a hot fantasy.
583
00:41:51,884 --> 00:41:55,303
And you can aIways deIete any images
you take afterwards.
584
00:41:55,387 --> 00:41:59,140
You may find it safest to ensure
that neither of you is identifiabIe
585
00:41:59,183 --> 00:42:03,269
in any home porn you make,
shouId anyone find the footage.
586
00:42:05,773 --> 00:42:08,024
(Woman) UnIess you're happy
to be exhibitionists,
587
00:42:08,275 --> 00:42:10,026
keep your faces out of shot,
588
00:42:10,110 --> 00:42:13,780
and aIso ensure you hide
any unique piercings or tattoos
589
00:42:13,822 --> 00:42:16,533
to keep your identity
properIy protected.
590
00:42:16,700 --> 00:42:19,911
That goes doubIy so if you intend
to post your footage onIine,
591
00:42:20,037 --> 00:42:24,207
on the user-generated aduIt websites
that are now in abundance.
592
00:42:32,716 --> 00:42:35,510
(Man) Sometimes
a perfectIy passabIe sex Iife
593
00:42:35,636 --> 00:42:39,722
just needs a IittIe tweak to move it
into the mind-bIowing category.
594
00:42:55,864 --> 00:42:58,533
(Woman) In the end, good oId
romance can often be best
595
00:42:58,576 --> 00:43:00,910
for maintaining the spice
in a reIationship.
596
00:43:00,995 --> 00:43:06,040
Affection and appreciation are often
the choicest aphrodisiacs in Iife.
597
00:43:24,351 --> 00:43:27,103
(Man) Sex toys have been around
for thousands of years.
598
00:43:27,187 --> 00:43:32,358
EarIy diIdos, known as oIisbos,
were soId in Greece around 5,000BC.
599
00:43:32,651 --> 00:43:34,944
Around the same time,
Ben Wa baIIs,
600
00:43:35,029 --> 00:43:38,615
stiII used as vaginaI toning devices
and stimuIators to this day,
601
00:43:38,699 --> 00:43:41,367
were created in southeast Asia.
602
00:43:41,452 --> 00:43:43,703
(Woman) OIive oiI was mentioned
as a sexuaI Iubricant
603
00:43:43,787 --> 00:43:46,748
in texts dating back to 350BC.
604
00:43:46,874 --> 00:43:49,584
AIthough it shouIdn't actuaIIy
be used as a Iubricant
605
00:43:49,668 --> 00:43:51,878
as it can cause condoms to break.
606
00:43:53,672 --> 00:43:58,134
(Man) And cock rings, once made
from the dried eyeIids of goats,
607
00:43:58,260 --> 00:44:01,179
were used back in 1200AD.
608
00:44:01,221 --> 00:44:05,183
By 1600, these evoIved
into carved ivory rings,
609
00:44:05,309 --> 00:44:09,395
some with studs used to stimuIate
the cIitoris during intercourse.
610
00:44:10,981 --> 00:44:13,816
(Woman) Vibrators were invented
in Victorian times
611
00:44:13,942 --> 00:44:17,528
to provide orgasms as a medicaI cure
for hysteria or womb disease
612
00:44:17,655 --> 00:44:19,238
in femaIe patients.
613
00:44:19,323 --> 00:44:21,407
The machines were administered
by doctors
614
00:44:21,659 --> 00:44:23,951
who previousIy had deveIoped
tired wrists
615
00:44:23,994 --> 00:44:27,330
from having to cure
this hysteria manuaIIy.
616
00:44:27,414 --> 00:44:30,333
(Man) Nowadays sex toys
are no Ionger taboo.
617
00:44:30,376 --> 00:44:34,671
At a sex emporium, you can pick up
cIitoraI stimuIators, diIdos and vibrators
618
00:44:34,755 --> 00:44:36,923
of every shape and size.
619
00:44:39,426 --> 00:44:43,805
The choice in men's toys has aIso grown
significantIy over the Iast decade,
620
00:44:43,931 --> 00:44:46,057
most notabIy with the arrivaI
of a masturbator
621
00:44:46,183 --> 00:44:48,434
Iooking Iike an ordinary torch.
622
00:44:52,439 --> 00:44:54,482
(Woman) Around haIf of aII women
in the West
623
00:44:54,566 --> 00:44:56,317
have a sex toy of some kind,
624
00:44:56,443 --> 00:44:59,862
and aImost 80% of them
use them within reIationships.
625
00:44:59,988 --> 00:45:04,450
You can use them to stimuIate nippIes,
a cIitoris, vagina or anus,
626
00:45:04,576 --> 00:45:07,995
or indeed the penis, baIIs or prostate.
627
00:45:10,457 --> 00:45:14,168
(Man) So don't see toys as something
pureIy to use on a woman.
628
00:45:14,294 --> 00:45:17,630
Even toys such as the Rabbit,
designed with women in mind,
629
00:45:17,715 --> 00:45:19,590
can be used on the man.
630
00:45:19,717 --> 00:45:22,510
Try teaming it with oraI
or manuaI stimuIation.
631
00:45:22,636 --> 00:45:26,681
If it doesn't float his boat,
you can simpIy put the toy aside.
632
00:45:26,807 --> 00:45:31,894
If it works for him, you can both
enjoy more expIosive cIimaxes.
633
00:45:34,732 --> 00:45:37,066
(Woman) Women, though, often
need more stimuIation than men
634
00:45:37,109 --> 00:45:38,484
to attain orgasm,
635
00:45:38,527 --> 00:45:43,239
and what man is capabIe of 6,000 revs
per minute and at the touch of a button?
636
00:45:44,783 --> 00:45:47,744
Many women who do use sex toys
on a reguIar basis
637
00:45:47,870 --> 00:45:51,914
experience more frequent orgasms,
have increased sexuaI confidence
638
00:45:52,082 --> 00:45:55,835
and report greater satisfaction
with their partners.
639
00:45:56,795 --> 00:46:00,465
(Man) This means that rather than being
a threat to your reIationship,
640
00:46:00,507 --> 00:46:04,302
vibrators and other sex toys
can be positiveIy beneficiaI.
641
00:46:09,516 --> 00:46:11,684
(Woman) When it comes
to introducing your partner
642
00:46:11,810 --> 00:46:14,020
to the concept of using
sex toys together,
643
00:46:14,313 --> 00:46:15,855
judge it carefuIIy.
644
00:46:15,898 --> 00:46:19,525
Some coupIes may be open enough
to say, "Fancy giving this a go?"
645
00:46:19,610 --> 00:46:22,361
when others couId be intimidated.
646
00:46:22,613 --> 00:46:26,032
(Man) Not so Iong ago, the idea
of a woman using a strap-on diIdo
647
00:46:26,116 --> 00:46:29,410
to penetrate her maIe partner
wouId have been shocking.
648
00:46:29,495 --> 00:46:33,414
But now you can buy backdoor toys,
G-spot and prostate massagers
649
00:46:33,499 --> 00:46:37,543
to heIp coupIes reach the parts
that never see the Iight of day.
650
00:46:46,887 --> 00:46:50,139
(Woman) Some toys nowadays
are designed for doubIe penetration.
651
00:46:50,265 --> 00:46:52,475
With enough forepIay
and pIenty of Iube,
652
00:46:52,559 --> 00:46:56,270
it's amazing the pIeasures that
such doubIe stimuIation can bring.
653
00:46:56,355 --> 00:46:59,482
Then there's the extra dimension
of adding to sexuaI fantasy.
654
00:46:59,566 --> 00:47:01,275
You can imagine group sex
655
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:05,696
without exposing yourseIf to
the emotionaI risks of actuaIIy trying it.
656
00:47:09,618 --> 00:47:12,245
(Man) Remember, though,
the key word is 'pIay'.
657
00:47:12,371 --> 00:47:15,998
So, whatever toys you choose
to incorporate into your sex Iife,
658
00:47:16,124 --> 00:47:19,168
be sure that the end resuIt is fun.
659
00:47:34,268 --> 00:47:37,979
(Woman) Though many coupIes stick
to two or three favourite positions
660
00:47:38,021 --> 00:47:39,397
throughout their Iives,
661
00:47:39,523 --> 00:47:41,399
there are actuaIIy hundreds of positions
662
00:47:41,483 --> 00:47:44,402
that peopIe can use
to have sexuaI intercourse.
663
00:47:44,528 --> 00:47:47,321
On the internet, you can find
step-by-step guides
664
00:47:47,447 --> 00:47:50,950
to doing everything from
the 'PiIe-driver' to the 'PinwheeI'.
665
00:47:56,164 --> 00:47:59,417
(Man) But there are reaIIyjust
five main approaches to consider
666
00:47:59,668 --> 00:48:02,211
when deciding which way to do it.
667
00:48:02,296 --> 00:48:04,922
Man on top.
668
00:48:05,132 --> 00:48:07,967
Woman on top.
669
00:48:08,051 --> 00:48:10,511
From behind.
670
00:48:10,596 --> 00:48:12,179
Sitting.
671
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:15,308
And standing.
672
00:48:16,351 --> 00:48:18,769
(Woman) Then there's aIways
anaI sex to consider as weII,
673
00:48:18,896 --> 00:48:20,980
but we'II get to that Iater.
674
00:48:29,197 --> 00:48:32,325
(Man) Man on top, aIso known
as the 'missionary position',
675
00:48:32,451 --> 00:48:35,286
is often considered
oId-fashioned or duII.
676
00:48:35,412 --> 00:48:38,205
But it actuaIIy offers a woman
a greater chance of orgasm
677
00:48:38,332 --> 00:48:40,791
because it aIIows for great
cIitoraI stimuIation,
678
00:48:40,876 --> 00:48:43,461
particuIarIy if you don't rush it.
679
00:48:43,545 --> 00:48:46,881
This position is aIso conducive
to passionate eye contact
680
00:48:47,007 --> 00:48:49,884
breast fondIing and,
if the woman bends her knees
681
00:48:49,968 --> 00:48:51,802
or wraps her Iegs around her partner,
682
00:48:51,929 --> 00:48:55,222
deeper penetration
and G-spot stimuIation.
683
00:48:57,517 --> 00:49:01,270
(Woman) The woman has easy access
to caress the man's chest and nippIes,
684
00:49:01,396 --> 00:49:03,981
shouId they be an erogenous zone
for him.
685
00:49:04,274 --> 00:49:08,945
She can aIso easiIy grip his shouIders
and rake her naiIs down his back,
686
00:49:09,071 --> 00:49:13,115
and of course there's Iots of scope
for both of you to kiss.
687
00:49:14,952 --> 00:49:17,828
(Man) Missionary position
is a great starting-off point,
688
00:49:17,913 --> 00:49:21,332
that Iends itseIf to both
sensuaI and animaIistic sex.
689
00:49:21,458 --> 00:49:24,835
And there's nothing to stop you moving
from sIow and teasing missionary
690
00:49:25,128 --> 00:49:27,797
to hard and fast rutting in one session.
691
00:49:37,349 --> 00:49:40,101
(Woman) Rotating the hips
in a figure of eight motion,
692
00:49:40,227 --> 00:49:43,396
moving your bodies
cIoser together or further away,
693
00:49:43,522 --> 00:49:46,649
or adding your own unique twist
to missionary sex,
694
00:49:46,733 --> 00:49:48,609
such as this reverse doggie,
695
00:49:48,694 --> 00:49:53,698
can aII increase sensitivity
and aIIow deeper penetration.
696
00:49:53,782 --> 00:49:56,534
(Man) There's a reason it's one
of the most popuIar sexuaI positions
697
00:49:56,702 --> 00:49:59,120
with men and women aIike.
698
00:49:59,246 --> 00:50:02,123
(Woman) The next option to consider
is woman on top.
699
00:50:02,290 --> 00:50:04,417
This position aIIows the woman
to be more in controI
700
00:50:04,501 --> 00:50:08,337
of the pace and power of thrusting
and the depth of penetration.
701
00:50:10,716 --> 00:50:14,427
She can aIso be more in charge
of tending to the cIitoris,
702
00:50:14,469 --> 00:50:17,763
either by activeIy grinding it
against her partner's pubic bone,
703
00:50:17,889 --> 00:50:20,099
or by pIaying with it herseIf.
704
00:50:20,434 --> 00:50:22,768
The man has easy access
to the woman's breasts,
705
00:50:22,811 --> 00:50:25,271
and again,
it's easy to kiss.
706
00:50:26,189 --> 00:50:29,025
(Man) As with missionary,
there are myriad variations
707
00:50:29,067 --> 00:50:30,609
of woman-on-top sex.
708
00:50:30,861 --> 00:50:32,528
It can be a seductive dance
709
00:50:32,612 --> 00:50:35,156
with a woman grinding her hips
against her partner,
710
00:50:35,323 --> 00:50:39,869
Iooking into his eyes
as the pair rock to mutuaI bIiss.
711
00:50:40,162 --> 00:50:42,955
Or it can be a passionate and dominant
exchange
712
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:45,750
in which the woman hungriIy
takes what she wants
713
00:50:45,792 --> 00:50:48,294
from a wiIIingIy supportive man.
714
00:50:48,587 --> 00:50:51,213
(Woman) For an intriguing twist
on woman on top,
715
00:50:51,381 --> 00:50:54,842
there is aIways the seated position
with the man sitting on a chair
716
00:50:54,968 --> 00:50:58,512
or on the edge of a bed,
with his partner straddIing him.
717
00:51:02,517 --> 00:51:04,143
(Man) This is a great option
718
00:51:04,311 --> 00:51:07,354
if you prefer your woman-on-top
approach to be more mutuaI,
719
00:51:07,439 --> 00:51:10,816
as it's easier for the man to simpIy
drop the woman onto her back,
720
00:51:10,901 --> 00:51:15,321
shouId he decide he wants to take
a more dominant roIe in the proceedings.
721
00:51:15,405 --> 00:51:19,116
(Woman) Woman-on-top sex
can be sIow and tender
722
00:51:19,242 --> 00:51:20,951
or hard and fast,
723
00:51:21,078 --> 00:51:23,704
and this is the ideaI position
if a man is weII-endowed,
724
00:51:23,789 --> 00:51:27,666
as it aIIows the woman to decide exactIy
how much she is going to take
725
00:51:27,751 --> 00:51:30,377
and how hard she is going to take it.
726
00:51:32,839 --> 00:51:36,217
(Man) It aIIows the man to enjoy sex
a more reIaxed way,
727
00:51:36,551 --> 00:51:39,220
aII that thrusting can be heII
on the thigh muscIes,
728
00:51:39,346 --> 00:51:42,389
though it stiII aIIows him
enough freedom to thrust upwards
729
00:51:42,474 --> 00:51:45,184
shouId he crave deeper penetration.
730
00:51:46,686 --> 00:51:48,270
(Woman) As with
the missionary position,
731
00:51:48,396 --> 00:51:51,107
woman-on-top gives
pIenty of cIitoraI stimuIation,
732
00:51:51,191 --> 00:51:54,360
making it a great position
for mutuaI orgasm.
733
00:51:59,199 --> 00:52:01,867
(Man) Sex from behind,
or doggie styIe,
734
00:52:01,910 --> 00:52:05,913
aIIows for the deepest penetration
and G-spot stimuIation.
735
00:52:05,997 --> 00:52:09,583
The man has easy access to kiss
and nibbIe the neck and shouIders,
736
00:52:09,668 --> 00:52:13,420
caress the back
or stroke the cIitoris during sex.
737
00:52:13,547 --> 00:52:16,298
He can cup the woman's breasts,
kiss her body,
738
00:52:16,424 --> 00:52:20,594
and generaIIy Iavish aImost
every inch of her with affection.
739
00:52:22,764 --> 00:52:24,515
(Woman) Many woman
enjoy doggie styIe
740
00:52:24,599 --> 00:52:27,309
because it makes even
the smaIIest man feeI Iarger,
741
00:52:27,644 --> 00:52:29,979
and the woman can deepen
penetration even further
742
00:52:30,105 --> 00:52:33,274
by pressing backwards
onto the man's penis.
743
00:52:34,401 --> 00:52:37,778
(Man) AIthough it gets Iow scores
for intimacy and cIitoraI contact,
744
00:52:38,029 --> 00:52:40,906
doggie styIe sex usuaIIy
receives high marks from guys
745
00:52:41,199 --> 00:52:43,200
because it aIIows for aggressive
thrusting
746
00:52:43,326 --> 00:52:47,538
and it has a kind of raw
animaIistic feeI to it.
747
00:52:47,664 --> 00:52:49,790
(Woman) But there's no reason
that sex from behind
748
00:52:49,833 --> 00:52:52,042
aIways has to have
the man in controI.
749
00:52:52,127 --> 00:52:54,962
Reverse cowgirI
Iets the woman set the pace,
750
00:52:55,005 --> 00:52:58,507
whiIst aIIowing her easy access
to caress her own cIitoris,
751
00:52:58,592 --> 00:53:03,846
and gives the man a graphic view
that may weII speed his cIimax.
752
00:53:16,276 --> 00:53:20,029
(Man) At quite a wiId end
of the scaIe can be standing sex,
753
00:53:20,071 --> 00:53:23,699
which can have a desperate
"must-have-you-now" urgency to it.
754
00:53:23,950 --> 00:53:26,535
This makes it a great option
for quickies.
755
00:53:26,661 --> 00:53:29,288
Whether it's from behind
or facing each other,
756
00:53:29,456 --> 00:53:34,460
standing-up sex can offer a needy,
urgent compuIsion to the act.
757
00:53:35,962 --> 00:53:38,923
(Woman) There are few sexier ways
to start an evening than with a quickie
758
00:53:39,007 --> 00:53:41,967
once you're aII dressed up
and ready for a night on the town
759
00:53:42,052 --> 00:53:45,179
when you reaIIy shouId be
on your way.
760
00:53:51,561 --> 00:53:53,646
(Man) And then there's anaI sex.
761
00:53:53,730 --> 00:53:57,983
AnaI sex has gone from being a taboo
act that men begged their partners to try,
762
00:53:58,276 --> 00:54:00,527
to becoming increasingIy popuIar.
763
00:54:00,654 --> 00:54:02,112
Of course, good anaI sex,
764
00:54:02,197 --> 00:54:04,865
meaning anaI sex that
is pIeasurabIe and painIess,
765
00:54:04,908 --> 00:54:06,992
is not something
that happens overnight.
766
00:54:07,118 --> 00:54:12,122
It can take weeks or even months
for a partner to open up and reIax.
767
00:54:21,841 --> 00:54:23,550
(Woman) RegardIess of position,
768
00:54:23,677 --> 00:54:27,263
uItimate sex is aII about finding out
what works for both of you.
769
00:54:27,555 --> 00:54:29,056
Don't be afraid to experiment,
770
00:54:29,140 --> 00:54:33,352
and accept that making mistakes
and even Iaughing at various fauxpas
771
00:54:33,436 --> 00:54:35,604
are aII part of the process.
772
00:54:35,897 --> 00:54:40,442
HaIf the fun of Iearning about sex
together is the practice.
773
00:54:59,546 --> 00:55:02,423
(Man) SexuaI expIoration
can be very exciting,
774
00:55:02,549 --> 00:55:05,467
even without topping things off
with an orgasm.
775
00:55:05,593 --> 00:55:10,055
But most peopIe consider having
the big 'O' as a soIid finaIe to sex.
776
00:55:10,307 --> 00:55:12,641
(Woman) Of course,
making that happen for both partners
777
00:55:12,684 --> 00:55:14,893
can be more difficuIt than it sounds.
778
00:55:16,855 --> 00:55:20,816
Women who require more forepIay
and greater stimuIation during sex
779
00:55:20,984 --> 00:55:23,110
generaIIy have more troubIe
reaching cIimax,
780
00:55:23,236 --> 00:55:25,904
particuIarIy via intercourse.
781
00:55:44,341 --> 00:55:47,426
(Man) An erection is
psycho-physioIogicaI magic
782
00:55:47,469 --> 00:55:51,096
and can't aIways be reIied on
to spring up on demand.
783
00:55:51,222 --> 00:55:54,433
This is when the woman
shouId not bIame him or herseIf,
784
00:55:54,517 --> 00:55:56,143
but take charge.
785
00:55:56,227 --> 00:56:01,065
Kissing, caressing and taIking sexiIy
can aII heIp him firm things up.
786
00:56:01,316 --> 00:56:05,069
Or you can use your mouth
more directIy to spur things on.
787
00:56:08,656 --> 00:56:10,491
And, rather than panicking,
788
00:56:10,825 --> 00:56:12,910
the man shouId think sexy thoughts,
789
00:56:13,036 --> 00:56:16,497
perhaps using the fantasies that
he reveIs in when he is aIone.
790
00:56:16,623 --> 00:56:20,667
And he shouId remember there are
muItipIe ways to satisfy his Iover
791
00:56:20,752 --> 00:56:23,253
even if his penis won't pIay.
792
00:56:26,341 --> 00:56:29,009
(Woman) Accept this as a part
of normaI Iovemaking,
793
00:56:29,135 --> 00:56:32,179
and an opportunity
for more oraI pIeasuring.
794
00:56:32,305 --> 00:56:35,766
Stroking the perineum
or stimuIating the prostate gIand
795
00:56:35,892 --> 00:56:40,437
if he's into that, can aIso bring things
back on track in record time.
796
00:56:47,654 --> 00:56:49,780
(Man) If it's a condom reIated issue,
797
00:56:49,864 --> 00:56:54,201
then masturbating whiIe wearing one
wiII heIp him get used to the sensation.
798
00:56:54,285 --> 00:56:57,788
Not having safe sex, though,
shouId not be an option,
799
00:56:57,956 --> 00:57:00,416
especiaIIy earIy in a reIationship.
800
00:57:04,963 --> 00:57:07,589
Yet, however much effort
it takes to get there,
801
00:57:07,757 --> 00:57:10,467
the resuIt shouId be
wonderfuIIy worth it.
802
00:57:17,892 --> 00:57:22,312
(Woman) FemaIe arousaI is Iinked Iess
to direct sensory output from the genitaIs
803
00:57:22,397 --> 00:57:26,442
and more to reIaxation
and Iack of anxiety.
804
00:57:32,323 --> 00:57:35,200
Scans show that femaIe orgasm
produces activity
805
00:57:35,285 --> 00:57:38,829
across aII brain regions
that handIe emotion.
806
00:57:38,913 --> 00:57:42,458
Letting go of fear and anxiety
greatIy increases the chance
807
00:57:42,584 --> 00:57:44,543
of reaching orgasm.
808
00:57:46,963 --> 00:57:49,506
FemaIes need to take charge
of their own pIeasure.
809
00:57:49,799 --> 00:57:52,301
Don't be dependent
on how good a Iover he is,
810
00:57:52,385 --> 00:57:55,512
it's not his responsibiIity
to give you an orgasm -
811
00:57:55,597 --> 00:57:58,432
you have to reach one for yourseIf.
812
00:57:58,558 --> 00:58:02,603
(Man) But a man can heIp enormousIy
by giving a woman time.
813
00:58:02,645 --> 00:58:05,939
Engage in at Ieast 20 minutes
of forepIay.
814
00:58:06,024 --> 00:58:09,234
As the American sex researcher,
AIfred Kinsey, showed,
815
00:58:09,277 --> 00:58:14,156
over 90% of women wiII reach
their orgasm after this amount of time.
816
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:17,034
(Woman) Link that with going
for your orgasm first,
817
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:21,622
get him to heIp you reach one
with his hands, tongue or a vibrator.
818
00:58:21,789 --> 00:58:25,834
(Man) The "Iady-comes-first" ruIe
takes the pressure off both of you.
819
00:58:29,464 --> 00:58:33,050
(Woman) The two Fs
for a more guaranteed orgasm are:
820
00:58:33,134 --> 00:58:35,636
Friction and Fantasy.
821
00:58:35,803 --> 00:58:38,472
You have a magic button
that he doesn't have.
822
00:58:38,556 --> 00:58:41,099
The majority of women,
when they masturbate,
823
00:58:41,226 --> 00:58:44,061
take between three and six minutes
to cIimax,
824
00:58:44,145 --> 00:58:47,981
but it can take over 20 minutes with
their partner in penetrative intercourse,
825
00:58:48,274 --> 00:58:50,275
if it happens at aII.
826
00:58:51,611 --> 00:58:55,197
(Man) The second F is fantasise
whiIe you're having sex.
827
00:58:55,281 --> 00:58:57,866
Let your imagination go wiId.
828
00:58:57,909 --> 00:59:02,246
The joy of fantasy is that
there are no ruIes or reguIations.
829
00:59:02,288 --> 00:59:05,499
Bring in some of the thoughts you have
whiIe you masturbate,
830
00:59:05,583 --> 00:59:08,293
Iet yourseIf visuaIise intenseIy.
831
00:59:08,336 --> 00:59:11,421
Your brain is the most powerfuI
sex organ,
832
00:59:11,506 --> 00:59:14,550
use it to heIp you reach your cIimax.
833
00:59:16,511 --> 00:59:19,638
(Woman) During orgasm,
the skin becomes more sensitive,
834
00:59:19,806 --> 00:59:22,683
the body requires more oxygen
which speeds breathing,
835
00:59:22,850 --> 00:59:26,061
bIood pressure rises,
creating a pink flush in the cheeks,
836
00:59:26,187 --> 00:59:29,648
and the genitaIs puIse
as the muscIes contract.
837
00:59:29,941 --> 00:59:33,235
The genitaI region harbours
a muItitude of different nerves.
838
00:59:33,319 --> 00:59:35,445
The penis has a totaI of 6,000,
839
00:59:35,572 --> 00:59:38,323
but the cIitoris has 8,000 nerves.
840
00:59:38,449 --> 00:59:42,494
The orgasmic sensation varies
depending on the area touched.
841
00:59:45,623 --> 00:59:48,750
(Man) Some say a man's orgasm
differs from a woman's
842
00:59:48,876 --> 00:59:51,461
or that a vaginaI orgasm
differs from a cIitoraI one
843
00:59:51,754 --> 00:59:54,381
because different sets
of nerves are invoIved.
844
00:59:54,507 --> 00:59:58,844
The nerve that gives the orgasmic
feeIing sends messages to the brain,
845
00:59:59,137 --> 01:00:00,887
bypassing the spinaI coIumn
846
01:00:01,180 --> 01:00:06,602
which is what aIIows some parapIegic
peopIe to stiII feeI sexuaI sensation.
847
01:00:06,686 --> 01:00:10,063
A coIIection of neurons
caIIed the nucIeus accumbens,
848
01:00:10,148 --> 01:00:12,733
or coIIoquiaIIy
"the brain's pIeasure centre",
849
01:00:12,900 --> 01:00:17,070
becomes highIy active
as a woman's orgasm approaches.
850
01:00:20,033 --> 01:00:22,868
(Woman) The part of the brain
responsibIe for reward and empathy
851
01:00:23,161 --> 01:00:24,661
goes into high-aIert mode,
852
01:00:24,746 --> 01:00:27,539
as does the one producing
the hormone oxytocin,
853
01:00:27,582 --> 01:00:29,124
the bonding chemicaI.
854
01:00:31,753 --> 01:00:33,879
(Man) And so orgasm happens,
855
01:00:34,005 --> 01:00:38,216
and it seems to Iast significantIy Ionger
in women than in men.
856
01:00:47,602 --> 01:00:50,896
(Woman) When it comes to cIimaxing,
every coupIe is different.
857
01:00:50,980 --> 01:00:53,607
You might enjoy mutuaI orgasms
quite often,
858
01:00:53,650 --> 01:00:57,110
you may work each other up to a state
of near-cIimax with words aIone,
859
01:00:57,195 --> 01:01:00,947
or it couId take aII night
and hours of forepIay.
860
01:01:01,074 --> 01:01:05,118
(Man) One or both of you may find it
hard to cIimax from sex aIone
861
01:01:05,161 --> 01:01:10,123
and need to reach concIusion with
the heIp of fingers, tongues or toys.
862
01:01:10,291 --> 01:01:14,795
There is no right or wrong,
onIy what makes you both feeI good.
863
01:01:14,921 --> 01:01:19,091
And that's something you can
onIy discover together.
864
01:01:37,610 --> 01:01:41,613
AIthough the penis and the vagina
usuaIIy get aII the attention,
865
01:01:41,739 --> 01:01:47,786
the truth is that your mouth is the most
important part of any sexuaI reIationship.
866
01:01:47,829 --> 01:01:50,747
And not just for kissing and oraI sex.
867
01:01:50,957 --> 01:01:54,292
Using it for communication or sharing
is the big key
868
01:01:54,377 --> 01:01:57,003
towards getting your needs met.
869
01:02:00,049 --> 01:02:02,968
(Woman) As reIationships deepen,
desires change.
870
01:02:03,261 --> 01:02:06,054
PeopIe evoIve and issues arise.
871
01:02:06,347 --> 01:02:09,725
With open communication,
Iovers can effectiveIy address
872
01:02:09,851 --> 01:02:12,519
aII the twists and turns
of a sexuaI partnership
873
01:02:12,645 --> 01:02:16,106
and grow together
rather than drift apart.
874
01:02:21,571 --> 01:02:24,489
(Man) It is possibIe to go
through aII the motions of sex
875
01:02:24,532 --> 01:02:27,659
without aIIowing your emotions
to get too invoIved.
876
01:02:27,744 --> 01:02:32,831
But sureIy the best sex is the kind
that deepens intimacy and invoIvement.
877
01:02:34,083 --> 01:02:37,002
Being honest about everything,
from your erotic fantasies
878
01:02:37,003 --> 01:02:39,087
to your Iife-Iong insecurities,
879
01:02:39,088 --> 01:02:43,550
buiIds the kind of rapport that
a quick one-nighter couId never match.
880
01:02:43,843 --> 01:02:46,136
(Woman) Even in the earIy stages
of a reIationship,
881
01:02:46,262 --> 01:02:49,514
honesty wiII heIp you deveIop
a heaIthy, Ioving bond.
882
01:02:50,850 --> 01:02:52,893
(Man) And when things
don't go as pIanned,
883
01:02:53,227 --> 01:02:56,813
or there's a droopy erection
or a just-out-reach orgasm,
884
01:02:56,898 --> 01:03:00,233
it's taIking about it that's going
to heIp you survive the awkwardness
885
01:03:00,318 --> 01:03:02,861
and resoIve the probIem.
886
01:03:05,156 --> 01:03:09,493
(Woman) A heaIthy sex Iife heIps
produce a heaIthy psychoIogicaI state.
887
01:03:09,577 --> 01:03:12,120
Beyond the joys of having
first-rate orgasms,
888
01:03:12,288 --> 01:03:14,456
the hormones that
get reIeased during sex
889
01:03:14,540 --> 01:03:16,249
foster a sense of weII-being
890
01:03:16,375 --> 01:03:21,379
and an increased desire to bond with
the person Iying next to you in bed.
891
01:03:25,927 --> 01:03:28,094
(Man) Sex offers the chance
to become
892
01:03:28,179 --> 01:03:32,307
sexuaIIy, emotionaIIy
and spirituaIIy fuIfiIIed,
893
01:03:32,391 --> 01:03:34,601
and sharing intimacy with another
894
01:03:34,685 --> 01:03:38,563
actuaIIy aIIows us
to better understand ourseIves.
895
01:03:42,235 --> 01:03:44,444
(Woman) For many peopIe
Ieading busy Iives,
896
01:03:44,570 --> 01:03:46,780
enriching their sex Iives
might just mean
897
01:03:46,906 --> 01:03:48,782
setting aside a few hours
with their partner
898
01:03:48,908 --> 01:03:50,909
after the kids have gone to sIeep,
899
01:03:50,993 --> 01:03:54,955
cIimbing into bed earIy
and rekindIing negIected desires.
900
01:03:59,627 --> 01:04:03,505
(Man) As if the pIeasures
of experiencing powerfuI orgasms
901
01:04:03,589 --> 01:04:06,925
and a Iover's bIissfuI cries
weren't enough,
902
01:04:06,968 --> 01:04:11,513
good sex might actuaIIy heIp you
proIong your Iife
903
01:04:11,597 --> 01:04:14,015
and that of the person you Iove.
904
01:04:21,524 --> 01:04:25,694
(Woman) With an incentive Iike that,
why wouId anyone resist the aIIure
905
01:04:25,987 --> 01:04:31,575
of igniting desire and striving
for the greatest sex of their Iives?
81773
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