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Nowadays children much earlier than we used to.

In any case before me.

Every time I see something, I think about my wife.

We've known each other for 20 years.

Of these 16 years we were together...

and twelve years ago we got married.

In between I was visited by the devil, and I cheated.

They threw me out.

After two days I lay her on my knees, and have asked for forgiveness.

That liked them.

She gave me four weeks beg.

Then she gave me a second chance.

Later she confided to me that they already much earlier had forgiven.

Something happens happen sometimes.

But she wanted not just condone.

Then our marriage even better.

"Next year, we wanted to t finally children.

I have gradually become a good job, and...

they did themselves no longer prove in her profession.

Now she's gone.

She was the first woman I've kissed.

The first one I slept.

She always said that happiness comes to an end.

But it at least I know that happiness is actually possible.

We were fifteen.

Religion was my favorite subject.

Because my parents did not let me baptized, I was exempted.

German, mathematics and geography, were only good for the breaks to bridge.

For in the breaks we learned it lives.

Stefan, from the beginning my best friend.

Everyone called him Spekkie. I sometimes.

In my free time, I made sure that he did not like its stokkie.

In those days Spekkie no other life interpretation.

That would be slow otherwise.

Simone and Lars had it first, and until now far only, couple in our class.

It was rumored that they each even had touched.

Spekkie and for me that was so unattainable as Venus.

Or if... even once.

Worse you so that gelebber?

Streusel was certainly not the most popular in our class.

He had to constantly prove, and there was no girl ever safe for him.

Unfortunately for him, he was very safe for girls.

Missing a piece.

Ellie was called in reality Elrond, because his parents had a passion.

His mother was fourteen times the Lord of The Ring read.

Row.

Everyone respected him. Nobody could do anything against him.

Even he seemed stuttered him not to bother.

T�mai was our class spokesperson, and by far the best in German.

What we found a bit misplaced.

Your shoelace is loose.

Oh, thank you.

Without collar sweaters were then very important.

This trick we had perfected.

It was the most tricked Jana long. That was a habit.

She was simply the easiest victim.

Kerstin fell about nothing special to say.

She was just there. Always.

And I believe that nobody had thought...

whether and why her nice should find. Why should he?

Everyone liked her. Simply.

And then there was...

I. My name is Tristan.

Hi, honey.

Why do not sit well.

Did you later a group? - No, your father.

But it's a little. We eat at seven.

Then I dance. - At seven o'clock?

Is not that a little late. - I always dance lessons at seven.

Oh, that's right. Then the eight hours.

And how was school?

Simply.

Only Tanja... - What about it?

Because 'r boyfriend's an asshole.

Maybe she just did not love you because he is doing, what you do not dare.

My parents were both psychotherapists.

That made our conversations sometimes difficult.

What are you doing? No.

Man, that's too much. It takes ages for it burns well.

Well then we wait a few minutes longer.

Drink your wine or soda?

Beer. - Water.

Why do you eat yet?

Have you thrown back too much?

It could also be that we Just 't were talking.

What are you wearing?

Nothing. Only Ellie told yesterday...

That the only time his parents talked was when...

she had to tell they got divorced.

That's weird, huh?

Tristan...

What would it bring to you... - No. That you can not say.

You again to comment? Start now-not to quarrel.

What is going on, are you crazy?

I'm sorry, honey.

I really am very sorry.

Tristan...

What are you doing here?

It's not as bad as you think.

My parents are divorced. And, do you think you can not do without them?

Only in the first few weeks, it hurts.

And with Christmas.

They're talking to me not even asked. - What should they ask?

"Tristan, we want to separate. Because we find each other assholes.

Or do you have something against, because then we invent something else "That's crazy.

Besides, you have us do. - Yes, but that's just it.

We're moving. - What?

My mother goes to the GGD work. That's...

And the worst is that I should join.

Then you will still your father.

That can not be.

Why not?

He goes to England.

Say...

've never noticed anything?

Although at that time I really others had problems...

I was so incredibly Kerstin like kissed.

But it seemed to me one or somehow inappropriate.

I had indeed not daring.

Who knows now why he's in love is someone...

and especially when it is the first time.

In any case, I thought from that moment nothing else...

than to Kerstin.

And that she does not perceive? - No, not really.

She has a head section, I saw immediately.

Not for the first time.

You know...

That man, there on the field, I have it meets bike shed.

Could he a good kisser? I'm not unhappy.

He looks determined only at your breasts. - So what? Let him have fun.

I do not know. I dare all that.

That you can surely learn? - I? Really.

Why not? Do they not all play with your breasts?

Come. That I did not.

I would ridicule. - So little did you not ending.

But not enough.

From that moment my life totally changed.

They really should be better.

Of course I had more women naked, that was the point.

My mother, like my father, always walked naked through the house.

But my mother was my mother.

And I had never paid much attention to donated her body.

And on the beach, I had so 'T seen some.

But those were all... women.

Kerstin was the first girl that I saw.

I will never forget what a world that opened for me.

She was a peer, I saw every day.

I spoke daily...

Kerstin was...

accessible.

All my classmates had their first ejaculation already had.

That I could never cared. I did not need to be ringleader.

And honestly I did not know what I missed.

The beautiful new world of 't become adult

The first time took me really hours.

What you have not spent whole afternoons with others doing.

Unbelievable nevertheless, the time, the energy and ingenuity...

who by me and my former friends invested in self-gratification.

Several times a day, and always at the expense of our dignity.

Trist...

you know... where my...

Sorry. Excuse me.

How I also went as my hormones opspeelde...

I was a bit scared at Kerstin.

I talked to her about everything. The separation of my parents...

The fear of exams, our schoolmates...

everything except what I most interested...

She.

That was very nice. Two weeks before the festival. Super.

Last dance before the break: The tango.

Classic. With a surprise: The ladies choose.

Quiet.

Girls, come on. Not so tough.

A dance is not a marriage bureau. A little self-confidence.

Find men.

A man.

Sophie was earlier, but I would may have the honor?

Tango: Close together stand, winter attitude so...

boys left, right girls... - Dancing?

try it but...

The gentlemen are always gallant. Always. - But they must still choose.

Jana, look at here. Come on, dance.

Sorry. - Look out anyway.

That would be the longest five minutes of my life.

Tristan...

I know that houseplants can better formulation. Insufficient.

The beauty of the life is that's a 't another comes.

The dance teacher had Jana long as my regular partner assigned.

I took the one five after another. My father found a temporary home...

until he really was leaving, and we would celebrate Christmas separately.

Thus passed the days and months pass up to the Christmas holiday.

And I could discover no way Kerstin order for me to win.

Without initiative should show.

Since I was incredibly namely afraid.

Yes, here. Kerstin.

Where is Kerstin anyway?

That is another 's not gone to German.

Incidentally, I would like done. She will be sick.

And suddenly I knew what I had to do.

I would sometimes through the romantic road trying.

Apparently Kerstin what earlier vacation.

To the darkness of their broken marriage to escape...

flew my parents for Christmas like going south.

For the first time, separately.

So I was first with my father for Christmas in Tenerife...

And then on New Year's Eve with my mother on Fuerteventura.

It was not all that good.

It is not so good... But slightly more interest for your degree, and it succeeds you.

If you go on like this, succeed this is not even half.

The holidays came... and went over.

And next week we feared that God the large repeat button was pressed.

A New Year, same shit.

Meanwhile, my father packed his stuff...

and my mother started our move to A different city to prepare.

What I course in advance hate it.

The time flew by, but nothing changed.

I pulled myself now six times per day, and thought it only to Kerstin.

And I made sure not too much time with my parents to spend.

And when I thought about it, everything, but everything... really sucks.

Oh yes. Almost forgot.

Judith Knigge, right?

I'd like your new classmate proposals: Judith Knigge

Fresh from the big city in our farming village descended.

Is not our new teacher? - I sit. Twice.

But I do not like to talk about. - So case closed.

Judith is from now on in this class.

Judith, looking but a place out.

Kerstin invited us to a party.

In expectation of lustful orgies, our gratifying to clip music and eroticism...

we spent half the day in the bath and the wardrobe by.

It was our first major party.

With alcohol, and everything that belongs to it.

And Kerstins father had promised us until midnight alone.

Hey.

Come.

It sucks.

It's okay.

They have at least a kilo needed. - That's what's wrong.

And what heroin there...

Guys, put some drinks ready.

Listen, all... We have a game invented.

That you here in such great mood, have you noticed.

Well, I will give you some questions.

And anyone who has a good question answered...

should a cocktail drink.

Well good.

Who has currently some pants on?

Well?

Good people! Time to party!

Equally brave.

That must be nice.

What? - Why do not you dance with her.

When?

Now, you idiot.

No.

Why not?

That is our duty as a gentleman.

Okay.

Next record.

Really. That was not so scared.

That's fucked up.

Dancing?

Can you do a bit?

Come on, now. Drinking nicely.

Thank you.

Now we are going to start. Dancing.

Look, Christmas...

Your shoelace is loose.

Oh, thank you.

Kerstin...

Yes, of course, come.

Come.

Trist... - Yes?

I must tell you something.

I... I...

'm so scared...

Yes?

That moment passes.

I love you.

I... - Promise me that it always remains. Okay?

Even if you move.

Also... after graduation.

Always.

And even if we are already married, and I mother or grandmother...

Promise?

Promise.

I can not sing. - It's not difficult.

We sing along.

Come on Spekkie!

I'm glad I'm not a fat guy...

because fat is not fine.

I'm glad I'm a scrawny am

because meager means freedom

Harder, Spekkie! Harder!

Yes, Spekkie, louder. You can do it.

About fatties are often made jokes. Fatties have stuffy.

fatties have nothing to wear...

fatties fall outside the law.

fatties have terrible thick legs.

fatties have a double chin.

fatties, weaklings. Fatties, swine.

Performing, stress, not dare swim...

And why I'm glad I 'm no fatso.

A fat man sees with his toes.

Day. My father is probably already at the door.

... Like all people to be free

fatties swallow slimming pills.

fatties have a fat ass.

Simone. - You know how he is.

He's really terrible.

You can for once anyway somewhat longer.

Give me a break.

Yeah, come and make 's really fun. 'Re Really not.

You are very stupid, you know. - Then just stupid. Have fun.

Kerstin day. Thank you. - Bye, Simone.

Okay. Who is appointed by the bottle, which...

which must Jana kisses.

I kiss with anyone. - Why not? A game is a game.

And imagine: Perhaps you will find your secretly loved it.

That is it not the point. It's really about...

it...

always remain so. I'm really happy.

That fucking dad let me disagree with him in the house, the withers.

He's probably jealous that he his daughter not for themselves alone has.

I'm telling you, it is to puke, puke...

That's actually anyway A good idea.

What did you actually do with it?

Crazy, huh?

I am still very nice.

You should really have something to eat.

Bread or something.

Why?

Because it's sour a little suck. Opzuipt.

Nothing is more disgusting than waking up, and vomit in front of others.

So it's good...

You feel so equal better.

What?

Where are the others?

At home, I guess. My dad grabs for two hours one after the other.

Is he angry? - No.

What a mess. - It's okay.

Can happen to anyone.

Thank you.

Although it is not looked...

I was at that time brighter than ever.

At that time I said goodbye by Kerstin.

Somehow I suspected that they not love would be...

on someone puking had lain on her lap.

Oh, my god.

Startle but not.

Now there are three derailed.

Would you like some coffee?

Yes, please.

Come along.

There is not much what I wish back in those years.

But drinking until you drop without a hangover the next morning...

that I miss.

May treasure.

I will but at breakfast ready.

You've done nicely. - You're welcome.

Doin 'any better?

Trist...

Did you a hard time?

What?

Well...

With another man in the house.

Oh, that. I am no longer a child.

For the party, I had the feeling that I Kerstin for me would win.

But since the party I did not believe more in that sense.

The painful recognition that I never A single chance to Kerstin would make...

made me strangely not sadder, but determined.

I had an appointment with the luck.

And lucky me aside.

Now was not the time for Kerstin.

But there are more beautiful daughters. You just have to trust it.

Gay Fielding? - He asks a ring on a grown man.

Hopeless.

It is simply hopeless.

Eat tasty, Judith. Eat good by. Do not mind me.

And when the waiter still some warm will bring, I'm your man.

Sorry.

Before the bell rings I have a personal message.

The theater is some people lack.

At least two. Woman or man, it does not matter.

If you're really desperate, you see signs everywhere.

You grab every strohalmpje to.

I was suddenly sure I believe my luck with a more experienced girl to look.

Judith.

If they really understood men...

they appreciated me down more than wichtjes in my class who only look at appearance.

And so began my theatrical career.

Who told you that I Was joking?

Here is the apple.

Make room.

He will take the usual distance.

80 Passing I give you.

He boasts of 100, his man can get. Shooter, shooting touch now and do not miss.

Where would we be now...

Yes, Lars, what's going on? - Just a minute.

Properly. One more time. And remember, Tristan...

do not play the king, if you are the king.

Let the others 'submissive' play.

And turn a little to it public.

Well, still photos.

Yes, please.

He boasts of over 100, his husband to be able to touch.

Shooter, shooting touch now and do not miss...

the target. - That's enough, my lord.

It is inhumane to as the fear of a father playing...

if this poor man life and limb forfeit but by a little guilt.

My God, he died dozens of times.

Let him undisturbed in his hut. He has met you.

That time, he and the children of his children, forever remember.

Yes, continue. What is it? Tristan, bet.

I also have it yet written.

Awesome. So we now continue with the man and his son.

Where is he anyway? Lars!

It's not good. - Do not be. Let's see it.

And you go to the locker room and looking costume. Here's the key.

I do not understand something. Yeah, what?

The piece is called Wilhelm Tell. Not Bertha or Gessler...

Something-or forgotten Swiss... - Yes, and?

Why do I have so little text?

We are going to suit them? Yes, yes, go along with you.

Judith? - Yes?

That was class.

Where is that pokkezoon with his Pokke-apple.

Judith ship me my role outside the association to rehearse.

She was very careful. She thought that the implementation I cared.

Frankly showed Tell me completely cold.

I just wanted to be alone with Judith. I wanted to finally overcome my fear.

And I wanted to kiss her.

You think you do not text.

How? - Well, you do not count.

You think only of if you have something to say.

You need to check each word what it means exactly...

and why Gessler pronounce it. You'll see it, there is it better.

So I want. Call it crazy. That I do not belong.

And you put your fate in...

Judith was genius. Suddenly I understood.

Suddenly the whole thing sense.

Why do you hesitate? Your own destiny...

Master of its own destiny... And above all...

Here it is, shooter, your art to show...

The goal is noble, and the price is very high.

The goal is noble, and the price is very high.

Wow, really wow.

Like? - Yes.

Can I kiss you?

No.

Sorry.

- You do not have to apologize. I just do not want you to kiss me.

Then I go home. Thanks for your help.

Ciao, Judith.

Oh, Trist...

You... For next time...

Something you do not ask. You just do.

I'll remember. For the next time.

The cheerful city W�mme had it without my theatrical ambitions do.

The next day I gave up the role.

The German teacher seemed strangely relieved...

and wrote the piece even, so I'm a stupid could play.

I do not know if my own life not a stupid role was.

I felt really good only when I was with the others.

And in their midst could disappear.

I liked it too well that my mother A few days to a seminar was...

and introduced me to those days with my dad to live.

Of course I did not.

Instead I invited everyone to us.

Everyone except Simone, whose father her again did not let go.

No way. Without me.

I can also imagine something more fun.

Do not be so...

sache so-merry. - Why no one laughs?

Hats off to your sensitivity. - Keep Well 's.

Why not. Everyone has equal opportunities.

I'm sure.

I can not even play poker. That's not the problem.

My cut. I'm broke. - We can play with matches.

Yes, very exciting, like to play with dolls.

Where do you see us for? To matches play? We're not babies anymore?

We hear this month what you want?

I do not really nut out.

Can you have fun now Jana nothing to find, and somebody else is broke?

I think it's stupid.

Only one round winner.

And the rest puts his cards.

And that is the deeper meaning of this game?

My god no, do a lot of tits.

If you win. - Very nice.

The three with the worst cards must each play a garment hand.

The cards are ready.

Did you cold?

No.

I have very often think of you.

Yes?

Yes.

You had certainly not expected, huh.

No.

Do you know that most jokes about me you came?

Yeah, and I'm sorry best.

Well, not all.

How... is it forgiven?

Yes, so bad it was not ending.

Jana...

I'm in love with you become.

O... I do not want fat friend.

That was a joke.

Really?

I mean, it does not matter anyway...

though you fall off a half pill.

And I'm not exactly Samantha Fox.

No, but...

But...

I think you're beautiful.

Me too, Stefan.

But now I must away.

The next suitor waiting for me.

That was also a joke. We know each other?

Especially now that we have a love couple.

But no one should know.

And now?

You have surely 's rather fucked, huh?

Not so often drunk little guys. - I can not choose.

Won!

We're leaving.

Hey, should not you go home?

Why... Trist...

Why have you never tried?

Yeah, you know...

I'm sure you... They call it, I believe large children's eyes...

Do you love me as a mother?

Every woman wants you to adopt.

But...

the guy who gets me...

a real guy...

I want to beat that look.

That speaks Turkish in you.

Oh, yeah? The Turkish in me your cock immediately cut off.

Oh yeah? Try it but.

Ellie, watch what you say.

You mean... this prick?

Bastard.

There you will pay. Definitely.

Come on.

Throw him wet.

I'll tell you a secret. - Okay.

Stop.

Okay, tell me.

I'll tell you. I'm in love, honestly.

Really?

I knew exactly what I had to do.

Well I get a towel? - Just not how I would arrange.

I...

wanted to be romantic.

Thank you.

Your father?

Does he do that often?

What an asshole.

Lars knows this?

He knows.

And...

he does nothing?

What should he do?

I would not know.

His arm around you...

the bastard state, I do not know.

I can do my own father not indicate?

Why not?

He can also beat his own daughter.

He does not mean it.

He is not happy. - Are you crazy...

you take it before him on too.

Men do that simply. - Go on, or I'll cry.

You think you are better to laugh?

Does he like?

No, but...

He let me choke. He falls to the stupid Judith.

Judith is a good girl.

I know.

Have to do with each other?

We are... - Separated?

No, no, but... - What is it?

He likes her. I can see anyway.

I do not understand. I mean... He's got you anyway.

Yes, but...

I do not want him to bed. Not yet.

Are you with someone to bed?

Did you... - No.

- Yes, I do. Why do you want to know? - Curious.

Right.

And suffer you under? Like it so much?

Sometimes, a little.

For me, kiss more than enough.

All the time he makes it circles to my breasts.

And... do you not like?

For a moment or, but not for hours.

After a while doin 'shrines.

You know what's really nice?

For him awake.

My father was my once in a symposium, Lars and I could sleep.

And so when I woke up the sun...

in his arm...

he snored, and smoke from his mouth and...

pulled his nose.

I was just so happy.

Why? Something I've never experienced.

Absolutely not?

Never mind.

Just wait till you get a look.

Do you live always in fear at home?

Often.

I would never get used.

Never mind.

This was...

one of the finest days of my life.

Thank you.

Thank you.

The next day behaved Simone again quite normal to me.

And in the weeks thereafter.

Because Lars never said anything, I assumed that she had told him nothing.

Why?

Yeah, that...

but... it was on a special way fine.

But... yes...

I would rather just back friends.

Yes, I understand.

It was... fine. You know...

that I had suggested otherwise.

How else?

Something violent.

Trist...

When are you moving?

In a few weeks.

Before that we had but at from our roof go, huh?

Maybe after implementation?

Okay. Where?

Who knows my father goes away, or otherwise to a pub or something.

All right.

All kits?

Your shoelace is loose.

Oh, thank you.

Peeper

Make room.

Keep the usual distance.

80 Passing I give you.

He boasts of 100, his man can get.

Shooter, shoot now touch, and shoot or die.

You stupid boy.

That will be the death of my stupid thingy be.

Have mercy on those stupid boy. Let this be enough.

It is inhumane to as the fear of a father playing...

as this poor man life and limb forfeit but by a little guilt.

Furthermore, all right? - Yes, of course.

What did you think of our son? - Good. Good cast and so.

And, how it goes with you?

Really great.

Beautiful.

I want to see you tomorrow Tristan. Farewell party, and so on.

Great idea. - Good.

Hello. - Hello, good evening.

This is the father of Kerstin, a friend of Tris.

And this is my husband, still, at least.

Hello. Your son's a real talent. - Yeah, you?

Well, he has his moments.

I go so slowly off. The best.

Same. - We'll call it, eh?

We'll call.

Ready? - Ready.

Kerstin's father, huh?

Really crazy, it was good.

It was fun, huh?

Go over to celebrate.

We will soon have steps.

Ah, you go out.

Well...

good luck with the girls, then.

And Simone? - Have not decided yet.

My mom wants to invite you for chocolate.

To celebrate the occasion. - This is a little late, is not it?

Daddy, but very briefly.

Darling, what do we say? In the weekend to eleven...

weekdays and up to eight hours. No exceptions.

Simone can stay with us, if that is more convenient.

I'm sure you, dear friend. But we also have beds at home, thank you.

They all go. I am again uitzo... - Honey...

I am sorry

That's too bad. Have a nice evening.

Have fun.

Two days later my father to England.

I saw him back in the holidays.

Also say goodbye at the airport, was not really warm, but at least peaceful.

He just could not do otherwise.

But until many years later, I only understood what he had to say goodbye said:

"There is always enough love available to everyone."

It's not. It is increasingly difficult. What a pity.

Hey, wait.

And?

Did you had? - That you say, yes.

Tell! Tell...

It's a horny guy.

Girl, so we're not married. Come.

Please, Daddy. - No discussion.

Dad, we celebrate Tristan's farewell. - That will give me a concern.

Are you...

Forgive me, but without her it's not fucking real party.

I have no idea what you should discuss.

About a few days away Tristan, and We can not remember celebrating. Please.

Honey, you did unfortunately for yourself ruined.

J�rgen...

You keep your mouth shut.

Speak not tell Mom.

Let her go.

What did you say?

You must let her go.

Do you want me to write the law?

Yes, indeed.

J�rgen!

You're a big motherfucker, do you know that?

Boarding. Right now!

Get out. Tris...

If you do not immediately release the door... - Get out.

Let go. - I will now definitely not.

Please step out.

Boy, that you had previously should imagine.

What do you want? Me 's store?

If you remember me 's touch I give you.

And I will say because you me have beaten...

And I give you because you your daughter again and again stores.

Beautiful anyway, those laws?

Hit me so just one more time. Listen you...

Go home, Dad.

I'm not coming.

Go fine feast, honey. I just need some fresh air.

He will never know what hurt.

That I implore you.

That hurts.

You are the champion.

No idea where Kerstin remains, but... I start anyway.

Tiny...

Friends till death...

Good luck...

Stay as you are.

Thanks for everything.

Well...

Ciao, huh?

Tristie.

Stay who you are, okay?

This is all of us.

Be well, Trist.

Agreed?

Do Kerstin greetings, from me.

And if I do not like...

Who would I be welcome?

Hope to see you soon. - Bye.

There they were. Just a few moments to see...

and then disappeared.

We each had sworn eternal allegiance...

letters and visits, promised...

vacation plans forged.

No idea why.

But I knew then that I most of them would never see again.

In anyway, I believe, to this day, we 't sincerely believed.

Maybe you do not see, to still be faithful.

First just a cup of coffee.

Can I also get one?

Course.

I...

said I to you as soon as possible would visit.

Too soon?

Cold?

Inside we have coffee. You want a cup?

Shall I bring you one here? - Please.

She was the first woman I've kissed.

The first one I've been to bed.

Three days ago she crashed.

How deep should you mourn when someone died?

How I mourn in my words?

Kerstin and I had 16 wonderful years.

When I look at my surroundings...

it seems that even more than you would expect.

I think it is therefore important to realize that happiness is really possible.

Important than the idea that happiness is finite.

I got lucky.

Come sit. The latter is a sissy.

Hasta la Pasta.

Faster.

Tristan is now a freelance journalist.

T�mai with Spekkie married. Three children.

Spekkie married T�mai. Manager an ambitious second division team.

Jana, now 32, unmarried. Art historian. Lives in Offenbach.

Streusel, married. No children. Owner of a car company in Gera.

Elrond lives in Caracas, head of marketing for a major oil company.

Simone, 2 children. Separated, but full hope for the 2nd time married.

Lars, 2 not completed studies. Has its father's funeral has taken over.

Judith lived until the mid 90s in Cologne. Then whereabouts unknown.