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and welcome back to good day portland

i'm williams uh with me as always

my delightful co-host misty mcallister

and with us in our second hour dr

miranda faraday founder of a new breakup

boot camp that's taking portland by

storm

now correct me if i'm wrong miranda

you're a psychologist a phd yes

right and you provide a six-week health

and wellness program to

heal the recently broken-hearted exactly

when you typically get out of a

relationship

you want one of two things to have the

relationship not be over or to be over

the relationship

and one of those things we can't control

but the other is well within our power

well it sounds like something that could

help someone who maybe can't get over

lost love

well sometimes people hide their true

cells until six months in when you

witness a

screaming way to make him cry but tell

us how this all works

each week has a theme release endurance

teamwork connection

trust and closure and we do a

coordinated activity or exercise in

keeping with the word of the week

people may feel like broken hearts last

forever but i am here to

tell them that it doesn't

okay folks uh we're gonna go to rick for

the weather and when we return

dr miranda faraday will tell us more

about her program

uh miranda she's gonna need your

business card like

right now yeah

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and everyone kept saying how he's this

young financial genius and they're

crediting my reporting for taking down

what turned out to be this massive ponzi

scheme

the reason i didn't see you for three

weeks i'm doing this for us

i'm working really hard to prove myself

and they're finally starting to take

notice

that's great but i need you to take

notice of other things

like what

it's been six months where are we going

right now we're going to dinner ben we

hardly see each other these days

i'm on track to become an editor and

then i get to be the one handing out the

assignments but in the meantime

i kind of gotta write what they tell me

to write and i need someone who is

present i am i'm right here

let's not focus on the time that we

don't spend together and instead enjoy

the time that we do

that's not enough for me ben

something's got to give are you asking

me to choose between you and my career

i'm saying the right answer is you jen i

choose you

i do and i choose my career

i'm sorry that's not enough for me

if i've been

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okay

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well he was looking for my car ages ago

i have no idea where he is

hey you took it for a joyride you're

about right for the night i'm having

i swear it has nothing to do with a

woman who's got a cab with my heart on

the bottom of her shoe

i think they'd charge an extra cleaning

fee for that

i'm sorry to hear that both your car and

your heart are m.i.a

that's all right i didn't really like it

that much anyways thinking about trading

it in for a newer model

the car at the heart i need one of them

to get home so i guess the heart is of

less use at the moment

and the girlfriend ex-girlfriend

actually

but red was great so i guess that

sort of makes up a little for getting

dumped

do you want to talk about it ah i've

heard the story a thousand times

boy meets girl girl gives boy an

unreasonable ultimatum

girl storm's out boy eats both entrees

yeah we all have one of those do tell

comfort me with your pain

you've heard it a million times girl

meets boy girl marries boy

boy leaves girl girl takes up kickboxing

pretends bag is boy

but i feel bad for the bag not so much

for the boy

it's me

hey broken hearts do heal

i've seen it happen thanks

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this letter is your chance to say it all

to that person who broke your heart

it's only two minutes so don't hold back

this is about you now and you

are not the same person who signed up

for this program a month and a half ago

you have overcome obstacles you have

stepped outside of yourself you have

changed

in ways you never thought possible three

two one pens down

how we feeling minus a lot of squares in

it

that's perfect excellent so as closure

week comes to a close

you have to decide at our bonfire do you

send your letter

or do you burn it that's all for today

i'll see you tomorrow oh and remember

the first rule

no cyberstalking your ex you know i'm

right stay off instagram

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chloe hi the phone has been ringing off

the hook

since the segment on good day portland

and bank williams signed up for the

program so that's our best publicity

ever we are at capacity again

so i had to add another session good

maybe soon we can get a dance studio or

something so we don't just share the

space i know

it's all happening are you ready to

leave a session yet

you know why this business works because

i know how to stay in my lane

i handle the business you handle the

clients

well it would be pretty easy for you to

just like

toss your blinker on and change lanes

you know this program like the back of

your hand

mm-hmm you are the heart of the business

and i am the head

but i am sorting through resumes and

there are some great candidates i'll set

up interviews this week

you will not be on your own forever i

promise and then

maybe when the pressure's off you can

take some time for you i take plenty of

time for myself i'm gonna rock well

tonight for a climb

that is not what i mean you need to stop

moving and doing and

climbing and get back out there what

would you say to a client who refused to

move on

i'm not refusing to move on i will get

back out there eventually i'm just

you know success is happening for us

right now and i want to ride that wave

thank you

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hey kim hi

mom and dad okay oh yeah they're fine

i just need you to talk me out of doing

something

oh my greatest skill

darren's engaged i know it's been a year

since we broke up but

it still stings what exactly am i

talking you out of

don't let me call him okay or email

yeah no don't do that or ride my bike by

his house i will literally stand in the

street in front of your bike

oh look at us it's like we're some

sibling lonely hearts club i'll speak

for yourself i'm fine

you just think you're fine ben because

that's what you do after a breakup

ever since serena what do you always

have to bring her up that was like 10

years ago

because it broke you and ever since

you've just been putting a band-aid over

a bullet hole

if not i was almost about to talk to

jenna about taking it to the next level

almost about two yeah big step

so there is this program that helps

people get over a breakup and i want you

to come with me

you remember the last one that just

yelled at you and told you all the stuff

you did wrong

or the walking on hot coals guy that

promised you all this empowerment and

the goals weren't even real

and yeah still paying that one off

but at least i'm trying and like some

people who pretend that they're fine and

then probably

cry in their cereal every morning i

don't even eat cereal

look i just don't want to see you get

taken advantage of okay it gave me some

credit

i i did my research she has a great

reputation

and it's in campbell park you love

campbell park

come on i'm tired of feeling like this

and i don't want to do it alone

and remember helping your sister

your greatest strength yeah yeah yeah

hang on my words come back to on me

fine thank you

look at her resume advanced psychology

degree

was in private practice and she's a

reiki instructor

i don't know what that means but it

sounds like teaching experience to me

sounds great but i mean qualifications

aren't everything we need to find

somebody who

gets what we do i have a good feeling

about her

and what i've learned in my practice is

it's not one size fits all

you can't treat everyone out of a

textbook i

could not agree more i think that too

much talk therapy

instead of real action can keep people

stuck

exactly so i was wondering how do you

feel about

incorporating past life regression into

your program

uh wow well that

is not really what what we do

but you should because we aren't always

dealing with trauma

from this lifetime

okay uh thanks gail

we will be in touch

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thank you namaste

hi hi i'm helen it's my

second go around i guess it takes more

than six weeks to get over a 30-year

marriage

oh my goodness pink williams i watch you

every morning

guess no one's immune from heartbreak uh

yeah i guess not

yeah i'm just gonna

i'm kim hi

i'm here for moral support oh yes my

brother is completely unaffected by his

recent breakup or

any other breakups that may have

happened in the past at least that's the

story we're going with

that's because it's the truth i've been

hi we all go at our own pace

takes as long as it takes no pressure

wow we'll remember that

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it's work i'm gonna take this outside

you're gonna want a muffin hey i'll see

you in the morning leo

you of all the boot camps in all the

world right do you know of many others

uh only the military kind

what are you doing she's trying to

picture you with a buzz cut

and how's that i think you picked the

right boot camp

well you don't sound too thrilled about

it well my sister wanted to go to this

one

i'm here for moral support that and she

knows all my secrets

i mean it's got a pretty good reputation

and you can't beat the view

so well yeah

but miranda's breakup boot camp come on

i cannot be the only one that thinks

this is a little out

there maybe this lady thinks she can

start some new fad make a couple bucks

i've seen it before

but he likes a quick fix he had some

pretty strong feelings about it

strong feelings about a lot of things

like pizza

you want to go grab a slice

maybe you shouldn't knock it before you

try it i don't know the whole

kumbaya circle time chanting with

strangers isn't really my thing

yeah no that's not my thing at all

either so

the excellent thing we're in agreement

so pizza

let's just go in and just just give it a

try

you're not going to save me from this

area say what you're saying no i think

only you can save yourself

come on

okay everybody give bank a little space

and the first thing that you're gonna

learn here is that we don't date on the

rebound yours or anyone else's so

thank you so you're the teacher

the breakup boot camper miranda faraday

you ready for a little kumbaya circle

time

and by the time we reach week three

teamwork you are going to feel like

completely different people and that

will bring us right into week four

connection can i chime in really fast

i'm sorry is that a thing we're allowed

to do here

yes this is an open dialogue

what about fear what about fear well i

don't see it on your list

you have all these buzz words trust

release endurance

but when do we deal with fear because

that's why we're all here right we're

afraid

to deal with life without that person

that just broke our hearts ben

he's right i'm scared to be on my own

and i can't just move on since i have to

see bethany and her new girlfriend every

other week

because of ruth we share custody

it's so hard on the kids going back and

forth

thankfully mine are grown now oh ruth is

a cat

but she's definitely struggling

see fear's a powerful motivator for

people fear

is a symptom trust endurance those are

solutions

and here in my boot camp we choose to

focus on the buzzwords that uplift

yeah perhaps the person with the phd can

continue with the orientation

yeah unless of course you have a

postgraduate degree as well

no no just asking questions she said it

was allowed it's okay we're all just

breaking the ice here but i do think

that you should do one thing

every day that scares you but i call

that empowerment

what are you afraid of heights spiders

dentists yeah but i'm not going to the

dentist every day

no no no one is asking you to do that

but when you face those fears the

heights the spiders the dentists

you feel like you can overcome anything

including a broken heart

and that is empowerment because it's

easy to just be negative and cynical

and and want to tear things down so

this program we're going to focus on the

positive and you will see exactly what i

mean

in our kickstart session on thursday

called release

i'll wait for you outside apologize

you didn't tell me who you were you did

mask

i just wanted to say that i know it

might be weird because you were so

vulnerable with me the other night

but there's no shame in having your

heart broken

my heart's not broken it's gently

bruised

bruises heal faster than breaks maybe

there's an

underlying injury you don't know about

come on i was there i saw you it's not

as

bad as you're making it out to be i i'm

doing great now i'm

processing things moving on in four days

sometimes four days is all you need okay

okay look i i think there's something

you want to say and i think it has

to do with the fact that you're famished

and you really want to take me up on

that pizza offer right now

yeah that's not what i was gonna say i

do wonder if this program is the right

fit for you

are you booting me out of boot camp no i

wouldn't do that

because i can help you but it only works

if you take it seriously so i think that

is something that you need to figure out

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you just can't help yourself you always

have to say something

editor of the harvard crimson you went

to an ivy and became a know-it-all

oh stop i was a know-it-all way before

harvard

you know what i'm fine i can do this on

my own i mean

it's obvious you're never gonna deal

with your stuff or is it that i've

already dealt with my stuff and this is

redundant

you don't have to come back on thursday

well

i say we didn't dry sure we can

you've reached miranda's breakup boot

camp please leave your name and number

and someone will get back to you as soon

as possible

thanks miranda hey ed meyers here

listen i was thinking about what you

said and

i think that the program is not for me

but i did want to say thank you and good

luck

and if you change your mind about that

pizza

yeah boy

you got a minute i had some news yeah

yeah sure

dean rossi got a job in austin he's

leaving at the end of the month

so there's an opening for a features

editor the board doesn't know if you're

ready but

i'm working on them you just keep doing

what you're doing whatever it takes

i appreciate the photo confidence leo

really

miranda's break up boot camp i saw this

lady on good day portland

are you doing this well no i've i went

once but just to help my sister out i'm

not gonna go back like she's always into

that self-help

fad stuff no ben you need to go back

i don't need this leo i'm fine no i mean

on assignment you know more than anyone

and once you start digging beneath the

surface sometimes you strike oil

like with that ponzi thing why i don't

know that this is like the ponzi thing

well maybe not but is this the real deal

or is it just some

fad full of empty promises these people

are everywhere

nobody's better than you at finding the

story beneath the story go back

dig around and bring me something good

and if it turns out as well as the last

piece well

that editor job is as good as yours

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hey ben isn't gonna be coming back so

i'll use the extra bag for demonstration

can i talk to you for a sec yeah what's

up there's a voicemail you need to

listen to

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hi um it's dex

you're probably surprised to hear from

me but i uh

noticed you liked one of my photos

online

which was kind of strange uh and i think

we should talk

so can you call me thanks you liked one

of your ex-husband's photos

no not on purpose you were cyberstalking

him

i was curious i kind of like when you're

watching the nature channel and you see

like a snake eating a frog and you just

keep watching that is such a weird

analogy and i don't know what is going

on with you but that is exactly what we

tell our clients not to do

dex does not deserve any more of your

attention i know it was one time chloe

are you gonna call him no he's clearly

thinks that i'm pining over him and if i

call him back it's just gonna

confirm that so no i'm calling him back

tell me that you are not

not what pining over him no i am

totally definitely categorically not

pining over him i don't need to call him

back to prove that so

uh yeah no i'm not calling him back and

you are deleting that app

off your phone

i mean i'm the first one there in the

morning i'm the last to leave at night

i do every assignment that they give me

and he still has to sell me to the board

you've only been at the magazine for two

years these things take time

but i'm so ready i'll do whatever it

takes to prove i'm up to the task

you'll get there just keep doing what

you're doing

ben hey

it's not what it looks like we just went

to lunch

right

you remember emmett from my office yeah

sure your hard feelings right bro

no

we gotta go to work yeah us too

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so at least that wasn't awkward well he

seems perfectly terrible

oh i met him he is he okay

didn't realize i was that replaceable

hey this says way more about her than it

does you

you don't self help me come on you sound

like the boot camp instructor

i'll take that as a compliment she's

very smart lots of five star reviews

come on we can get over this together me

and you

and you and me us team power

healing fine i'll go back with you but

only because i want to take care of you

i want to make sure you don't get sucked

in

yeah i don't think that's the only

reason

thank you miranda

oh hi um refund i'll have chloe cut you

a check

uh no actually um

i've been thinking about it and i'm

ready to do the work it's a pretty big

change from before when you called it a

fad

and said that i was trying to con

vulnerable people out of their hard

earned money

i didn't say that about you specifically

it was implied but not intended

so what changed i'm a man who knows his

flaws

oh do go on okay i ran into my

ex-girlfriend

already on a date that sucks i'm sorry

to hear that

sounds like a textbook rebound yeah i

call me bro

too thanks extra sorry

okay well are you ready to check your

inner cynic at the door

because tonight we sign the pledge have

allegiance

just if not that sounds a little cult

you know that right when

am i signing exactly it's a pledge of

commitment and it's not to me

it's to you if you think you can commit

well i can commit i've been the same

ficus for 10 years

but i never sign anything until i see

the fine friend listen ben

i want you to know that i am committed

to helping you get over your breakup

and i'm committed to helping you get

over yours mmm that's not how this is

gonna work

uh what is it though okay how about

we just lose all preconceived notions we

have about one another

and we start fresh deal

deal good

kick welcome to week one release

punch kick come on

by the way you have anger you have pain

you have

fear accept those emotions and then

release them into that bag just like

that

kim do not go easy on that bag did was

his name go easy on your heart

darren no he didn't not that a girl

let it out let it out what is going on

over here

i just i don't see what good this is

doing i'm a lover not a fighter

less talking more punching

oh come on ben a nine-year-old could

take you do better you're holding on to

tay i don't want to pretend the bag is

jen or someone else from your past yes

okay then why don't you just give it a

hit

bro

yes better thank you ben for joining us

kick out

sorry you're okay let's walk it off

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so i think williams hates me i never

thought i'd say that

this does feel good though right

have a good night

yo hey how was it i was about what you'd

expect

but i got a good workout which is a win

since you kept me so busy i had to

cancel the gym

so what's the deal i don't know yet

still sussing it out there was one red

flag though

this commitment thing she wants us to

sign huh

well make sure you read the fine print i

intend to okay

keep digging yeah

hey hey uh i just wanted to see

it was really good in there uh just

really feeling it

see once you stop resisting it's not so

bad yeah

oh and starting with release week was

super intense

anybody ever asked for their money back

after this point just

checking out your terms and pretty tough

on refunds

well i'm only tough on them because

miranda

dex you um you didn't call me back

and i i think we should talk uh yeah we

totally

should uh but tonight is not good for me

i

uh i we we have a thing

right and we're late for that

yeah reservations our favorite

restaurant sushi restaurant

uh chef koji keeps the pan rolls coming

they're good

and then after we go to the

overlook and drink some wine and look

out over the city and

plot out our lives

yeah that's us every thursday night

super fun you bet right

okay um so you'll call me to set up a

time

yeah totally um bye

you want to talk about it no

invisible teacher client line huh

but i am kind of involved now if you did

want to talk about it

i promise i wouldn't tell anybody

that was my ex-husband i sort of assumed

hmm

well you know what they say about people

who assume they're very charming

so you're gonna call them no

look i know we don't get to closure

until like week six but

maybe that's why he was here i don't

need closure

oh come on you tell everybody in your

classes to do these things and you don't

believe it yourself

no that's not what look he doesn't get

to just

leave without saying a word and show

back up out of

what were you talking about because that

stuff was very specific

uh i was just mentioning my favorite

place

i know what you're doing what am i doing

well you're turning it back around on me

when the moment was most definitely

about you yeah but you made it about you

when you started getting

super descriptive it was a hypothetical

was it though yeah yeah it was

i would be happy to do that in real life

sometime if you're game

i have to go prep a class that starts

tomorrow

but thank you very much for your help

ben

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tough love but then i leave out the love

part because you can't go too easy on

your clients or they never learn

what we're looking for in our new

instructor simon is someone who can

approach things from a place of kindness

kindness can be mistaken for weakness

and

i'm not weak certainly no question about

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that

well they can't all be good what's that

47 five-star reviews well you know

people are able to get those things

removed when they're particularly

scathing

yeah miranda did say one thing that was

sort of cryptic the other night

almost as if she doesn't believe in the

things that she's doing or

follow them herself hmm sounds like

something worth looking into

uh i have a meeting in the morning so do

you mind covering the feature department

meeting till i get there

uh yeah for sure i can do that it'd be

good practice for you

you know for the future

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welcome to week two endurance i hate it

this week last time

and squats

i mean it sounded like it wasn't one of

my misty

my guy friends even my mum but

but she hates everyone so i can't really

count her i get it bank

my dog hated darren it should have been

my first sign yeah

dogs know kim dogs now

i should have too i'm like such an idiot

but it was this undeniable connection

you know

she got me in a way that no one else

ever has

and you're good somebody else will get

you like that again

one day in relationships we see

what we want to see

this was a lesson you needed to learn on

your own and you did

okay jumping jacks people this is

endurance come on come on come on

like a boss kim

good job i don't understand how this is

supposed to

help somebody get over a breakup

challenging yourself

at a point where your confidence may be

depleted can make you feel

powerful so i

went bungee jumping this weekend

i wanted to face my fear and it was

terrifying

but in a good way ah she's one of the

bad words

never mind him go on well it was either

that or

call roger so i opted for

diving head first towards the concrete

and praying

that the ropes hold well i'm glad you

chose the safe option

i wanted to feel alive which i really

actually haven't felt since my divorce

and now

everything looks different i feel

different

you're really inspiring helen i am

i'm not so wrong you should out of fear

a week maybe i should but i would call

it transcendent

good job remember in this life

you are not alone you have

a support system we'll get more into it

during the trust and teamwork week

but lean on each other here your turn

get

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all of you made it not a single one of

you quit

next time your confidence takes a hit i

want you to remember that and i want you

to relish it well done

helen how you feeling huh yeah

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looks like i need to find myself an end

of the week ritual too

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and my sister's yoga teacher is selling

her studio when she moves at the end of

the summer

it could be the place i mean if new

signups continue like this

and just a definite possibility so

this candidate has two degrees early

childhood education from nyu

and psychology from carnegie mellon

sounds good but i know somebody with an

mba from colombia who would be perfect

this is our business miranda it's too

risky

oh you've been with me every step of the

way since

dax left you know this program better

than me probably

i just don't have your vitality

please between the two of us you are the

most vitalities

that is not a word it could be

in canada there she is

you me you you you climb here i climb

here like all the time

funny i've never seen you i was thinking

about the obstacle course

and yeah it was empowering

i didn't want to lose the momentum good

want to race to the top

i'm more of a slow and steady kind of

climber oh i'm more of a

challenge yourself be your best time

kind of climber kind of figured

always on the move right classes by day

climbing walls by night

uh it's how i manage my stress i guess

it's fine as long as it's not an

avoidance tactic

i manage mine by sitting still

you know your class is a lot more

expensive than you think i've had to go

to the chiropractor

three times since i started my back my

class is very affordable

and i'm sorry about your back what about

your heart

oh strong and sturdy

okay not ready to talk about your stuff

yet that's fine

we'll work on it

i don't have stuff

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i'm getting there

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you want to switch walls yeah sure can i

get some water first

sure so boot camp where'd that come from

uh necessity is the mother of invention

necessity for you

you're a phd you had to be making a nice

living

oh never about the money for me it says

on your website

you have 417 healed hearts under your

belt

how many unhealed you know looking for

problems where none exists is a very

unhealthy outlook

or focusing on the negative from time to

time is how we improve

grow which i understand is sort of your

thing

see i pay attention in class

well sometimes but not in my boot camp

look this is how i healed after a broken

heart so now it's how i help others

ah so the business was your rebound

what is this a workout or an

interrogation

wha i'm placing my trust in you and i

just

i kind of want to understand why i

should because

it works you'll see

okay as long as you're not diving into

other people's problems so you don't

have to deal with your own

is that what you think dr freud go

you can have a head start this time so

it's not so embarrassing for you great

here you go again

you're doing great i know i'm on to you

you know

you can tell me the truth this was your

first time wasn't it

yeah he got me as you can see

i'm not so good at being not so good at

things that's why you need to challenge

yourself so that you're not in your head

so much

well i'm a chronic overthinker

it's hard for me to just turn it off

there he is i was waiting for that guy

to get here

okay valet stan ben the one who thought

he was never gonna see me again so he

was completely real

i feel the same way about that i said

miranda

she just listened she didn't try to

analyze or fix me

but that's exactly what you're paying

boot camp miranda to do so

well not tonight tonight we're just a

couple of climbers one

very accomplished climber and one who's

just happy to break any bones

the other night i met you i think serena

did me a favor

didn't she yeah i was always talking

about

maybe almost taking things to the next

level

just jen's problem with me i could never

get past

maybe almost

but why are you smearing me it's not a

smirk

this is exactly where you should be at

this point of the program

well letting go stage

what that means it's working

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so

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well everyone welcome to week three

teamwork

after a breakup we can feel like our

trust is shattered

and that we're alone but we're not

we can rely on other people to help us

through anything so today we are going

to work together

or we are all going to die there is a

bomb

in this room that is big enough to

destroy the entire city

and we have 60 minutes to dismantle it

start the clock the thing of the people

rest in our collective hands

do not let them down start seriously

come on

try to get us right it's not right don't

yell at your partner

lean on them don't make me do math okay

switch places

okay in

relationships just as in life if

something's not working we try a

different tactic

ben how you doing uh

pretty good actually you want to uh i'm

gonna press the big red button

just don't blow up the city

um there's no doorknob

your teammates have encroached on enemy

territory and have been captured

you must rescue them in order to receive

your next clue

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hang in there miranda will save you

and my brother uh yeah sure whatever

tell my mother i love her

i'm not a big fan of small spaces i have

never been

a big fan of small spaces can

okay um

hey hey are you okay yeah i'm i'm

totally not panicking except for the

part where i'm kind of a little bit

panicking

can you just ask me a question or or

distract me or something please

yeah yeah uh i'll save your ice cream

vanilla duck so boring

what's yours chocolate chip cookie dough

way too complicated

i'm a purist we're working on it you

guys making real good progress here

no we're not i know sitting still is not

your favorite activity

it's actually right above being trapped

in small spaces so i'm really killing it

here

oh good oh hey can you not tell anyone

out there about this please because i do

need to maintain some sort of

street cred with them i'm not

so great at letting my guard down ah

see but by telling me that that's

exactly what you're doing

very astute maybe you should be teaching

this class i'm just trying to return the

favor

i'll take care of everybody else

you know you could lay your guard down

too ah

see that's one of my least favorite

activities it's right up there with

failing at pretty much anything and

getting attacked by a shark

well the shark thing's normal and you

don't really strike me as the type who

fails it much

see that's the thing i work really hard

to not feel that much

in my business life at least

and your relationships

i suppose i could have paid those equal

attention

yeah same

oh uh everyone's dead great

well you can't win them all but we

worked together we enjoyed the journey

and

that is the lesson so

smile great thank you

um get home safe i'll see you all next

week

hey uh i had a question shoot

uh about the letter at the end where you

know we burn it or

send it or whatever are there rules

there or can we change who it's for

i mean you're getting a little ahead of

yourself that's week six but you'll be

writing it to the person you need to let

go of the most

yeah just kind of thought serena

what can i tell you that you told me

that at rockwall freudian slip maybe

when you said serena instead of jen

you're a really good listener that's

that's really annoying that's kind of

the job

why the change uh

you know because i was always toeing the

line with jen

i couldn't figure out why i couldn't

really commit

maybe because you never really let go of

year one

i'll see you next week

welcome to week four connection

this week is all about getting back in

touch with our vulnerability

and this here is a safe space where you

can feel that this was my favorite week

last go-round and i have to say

i was pretty darn good at it

this is senora carnejo she is a world

champion on the salsa circuit she's

going to teach us some moves today

uh we are one short today because jess

is out so big i will be your partner

salsa is not only a dance of love it's a

dance of feeling

so i want you to be in your body and

don't worry about how you look

just feel the music with all of your

being we're going to be doing a very

simple dance i created

called la vida de la mor a life of love

is everybody ready

uh i'm sorry this is weird i cannot be

partnered with my brother for this

yeah oh let's switch i'll dance with you

and then condense with miranda

thank you

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trust your partner do not be afraid to

hold on to each other

dance is an unspoken language we say so

much

in silence as we move together to the

music

and step two three four and back two

three four twirl out twirl in

oh sorry sorry that's okay

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and step two three four and back two

three four twirl out swirl in india

try that again

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and step two three four and back two

three four twirl out twirl in

[Music]

and

remember um remember what it's like to

feel

safe in the arms of another person you

get to have that again

we all do

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ben hi hey i know this is sort of

outside of your realm but

i need your help with something and i

don't think i'm equipped to handle it

alone what's going on

well it's kim she wrote her week six

letter early went to drop it off to

darren today to

show me she's doing fine without him and

it did not go well no

where is she i mean her in my place in

10 minutes can i text you the address

yep i'll be right there

weekend in laguna delete

epcot center never happened

mom and dad's 40th wedding anniversary

hey don't don't

delete that we will photoshop them out

make george clooney your date we have a

really good art department at the

magazine

okay but can chris pine be my date

i was so stupid i saw his fiancee and i

burst into tears

i didn't want to wait i wanted him to

know right now

that i'm doing just fine

but we send those letters or we burn

them for us

not for them i really thought it was

okay

yeah sometimes it's so much easier just

to be angry at someone than it is to

forgive them

why is that i guess because when

somebody's wronged us we don't want them

to get away with it

i mean how's that fair why do they get

to be happy that's exactly how i feel

but all that does is steal our joy while

they're out there living their lives

nonetheless

so don't let him have that much power

over you don't let him steal your joy

you're right and i have a potential new

client to meet

so i am gonna go home clean myself up

and continue being hugely successful in

my career

way better

thank you

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it's pretty great back there thanks

empowerment can

kind of be a mirage at first feels so

good

that you think your work's done but

really you're just getting started

it's a process kind of like two steps

forward ten steps back

well how many steps does it usually take

cause it's like uh i need to buy new

running shoes kind of thing or

uh flip-flop level distance everybody's

different

any steps to take for you

i will let you know when i get there

bit of a work in progress something like

that

we started with one class and now we

have five that run simultaneously

miranda covers them all so you can see

why we need a new

instructor especially now that there's

interest in expanding outside portland

but miranda will go over the nuts and

bolts with you when she gets here

and there is our illustrious leader now

excuse me for a moment

hey duck's called again he won't stop

calling he started talking to me about

how we were all such good friends

playing on my sympathies what did you

say all i could say

that i would relay the message to you

i don't think he's gonna let up what are

you gonna do

i don't know maybe you should hear him

out

once you step out of your comfort zone

it becomes a lot easier

and you say you're not ready to run a

class

he's waiting come on

did a good job with that staff meeting

you're a natural-born leader

you think so i do we're coming around

upstairs too

i can be very convincing when i want to

be i appreciate that about you

so how's the boot camp piece coming

anything i can look at yet

still kind of piecing it together yeah

there's some compiling notes research

background stuff like that

plus there's still a couple of weeks

left in the program

i have to admit it's not at all what i

thought it was gonna be like

uh-oh you're getting involved i can tell

are we gonna have to de-program you

sometimes the truth can be ugly you know

ah it's not like that

listen don't worry about how far along

it is just get me your notes

whatever they are just so i can get an

idea of how they'll best fit in the next

issue

and let's talk deadline later today you

think you can get me some photos

yeah nice

in this day and age where millionaires

are made in the self-help aisle of a

barnes noble

one has to ask oneself can you get over

a broken heart

in six short weeks miranda's breakup

boot camp

in portland oregon seems to think you

can

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so should i call her in for a second

interview nope you are not gonna let up

are you

you've known me since i was 19 have i

ever let up

oh looks like you have a visitor see you

night ben right you

hey uh sorry i i hope this isn't a bad

time i just

needed to talk to you no i was just

heading to rock wall you want to rematch

would you be up for something different

maybe go to one of my favorite places

when i got to shake off the cobwebs

i guess i could be up for something

different this

one time

when i was just out of college i used to

come up here look out at the city and

think i'm gonna make it here

it's so beautiful it's too bad we blew

it all out

we'll save the city next time

can i say something yeah sure

i'm sorry you have to be sorry bro

i misjudged you i called you a cynic and

i didn't give you the benefit of the

doubt that

i give everyone else who takes my

program

after the escape room the other day

you're a good guy ben

you were sort of right about me go on

serena jen

your girlfriend in between it's like for

the last 10 years i've

kept everybody at arm's length

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avoiding

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yeah you maybe

were a little bit right about me too i'm

sorry you say that again so i just want

to make sure i heard that right

don't ruin it

boot camp was my rebound after decks

left i threw myself into it and it

worked

so i just i never really addressed any

underlying issues

yeah but program's helped so many people

let go i speak from experience

never be here if you hadn't dragged it

out of me

so um what's next

why don't we just stay here it's okay to

just stop miranda

you don't have to do anything right now

except be here with me

okay

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welcome to week five trust

ben so i was 24 years old

and i'm shaking i'm so nervous

and i i take the ring box out of my

jacket and i get on one knee and i open

the box

she tells me to get up and then she

can't marry me

which i understand is sort of not how

these things are supposed to go

anyways within three days she's packed

up moving to chicago with dave friedman

her first love

totally derailed my life it was bad

i'd never seen him like that before

or since well the past

isn't prologue you can put your trust in

the next person that they

won't let you fall

you ready

okay three two

one go

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hi dex yeah no sorry i've been

busy

what time yeah i'll meet you there

um i'm glad you agreed to meet i i'm

starting to think you weren't going to

to be honest i wasn't but i think it's

finally time for you and i to talk i

agree

and i um i didn't want you to hear this

news from anyone else i'm getting

married

in june i'm i'm sorry if that's hard for

you to hear

actually i'm i'm happy for you hmm

really well you have no idea

how much i appreciate you saying that

yeah i you know i was so mad

for so long i mean you left without

saying anything

but i was dreading this moment and now i

don't

i don't understand why i mean i i know

why i was

dreading it but this

this is not the reaction i thought i was

gonna get

you're not mad i wasn't expecting it

either but no i'm not

mad at all

i just see very clearly now that you and

i were not right for each other

wow i'm i'm

kind of speechless yeah it's crazy i i

talk about it all the time that we

we create these scenarios in our head

and we build this whole world around it

and

it doesn't you know i just i feel

lighter yeah

me too congratulations

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hi hey

hi uh sorry they said i could just come

back here

yeah yeah please uh come in

so what's up let me guess

you didn't see me in 48 hours you kind

of missed me

smooth now you have to say it alone i

can tell these things

can you interesting because what i was

actually gonna say

was that i wanted to thank you for your

friendship the other night

my friendship um i'm friend-zoned

you are my client and you just got out

of a relationship

how's the article coming hey hi uh

um but it's coming along uh working on

it right now i know you

sorry

oh i'm sorry i thought you were someone

else

my mistake uh i need a first draft by

tomorrow for the print copy and

we'll send the online version to the web

team later yep

working away good deal

you want to get out of here uh grab a

bite i only have an hour before my next

class but

if it's a quick friendly bite

sure excellent i know just the place

okay

street meat what's wrong with street

meat this guy's an institution he's been

on this corner for decades no nothing

it's just not what i was expecting

ah come on it'll be a snob i'm not being

a snob you said you had an hour i had to

do the best i could with what i had

beef with mustard please usual for me

thank you so don't talk until you try it

oh you're one to talk okay i'll admit

it's off to a rocky start but you can't

say that i'm not embracing it

this is so good right

no you've actually been doing very well

and so have i

especially with dex this morning you saw

dex

i did and i am

i closed the book i don't know why i

wanted to tell you that but

after the other night i just he did this

this is progress

i could tell you were holding on to

something you learned anything in week

one that was uh that was release week by

the way

hmm well we go to our own pace and i

just took like

a few years longer than everyone else so

i would maybe not put that in the

brochure

so later on do you want to go sit in

silence again

see what else that drums up

sorry we just agreed to be friends

did we hmm i said you were my client

and how you're on the rebound and i'm

kind of on the rebound so

yeah this would be a terrible idea i

won't tell anybody if you want

i gotta go oh come on

friends friends friends

friends

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ben that was a close one next time let

me know when she's coming by the office

i didn't know she just stopped by well

anyways

rest assured that extra dedication is

not going unnoticed

well when i first started at harvard i

thought i wanted to be pre-med really

yeah well until they took us to an

operating suite

and i took one look at the surgery and i

fainted

stop oh it gets worse there was a girl

in this class that i really wanted to

impress

and i i fainted on her

and i broke her tibia oh

that's embarrassing yeah it is it is

so i shifted my focus to journalism and

i found my calling there pretty quick

happy accident

yeah i liked that my words could

educate and inspire protect

very happy accident kind of like

stumbling across this crazy boot camp

and meeting this instructor who just

will not let you

avoid your stuff well sometimes that

instructor comes across a student who

calls her out on her stuff too

i love my job but i'm on track for this

promotion

and i've been thinking that i never

really figured out that whole

work life balance thing hmm

me there really which is awful because i

talk about it in class

all the time i was thinking about

something else you said in class

maybe not all rebounds are bad

like maybe they

lead you away from the wrong thing so

you can go towards

the right one exactly

i felt it that first night and i think

you did too

maybe rebounds show us how we really

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feel

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and then he kissed me like he

kissed me well you certainly had a day

didn't you

yes i did i am speechless

and you know me i am never speechless

but it was a mistake he's a client i

just i got caught up in the moment

that's a good thing that is a great

thing

i haven't seen you like this in a long

time

i really like her you like him

why couldn't he have just stayed a

random stranger outside of a restaurant

why did he have to join my class

i gotta tell you something

you were right i i really needed this

class

see should take my advice more often

very smart

i know oh i crossed a line well

whatever you decide at least you're

finally over dex

and i don't think that would have

happened if it weren't for ben

my job is to help my clients not confuse

them i can't make this about me

i get that but you get to be happy again

too

remember that

oh there you are what's going on with

you man

what are you talking about i just read

your first draft it's all over the place

uh there's no point of view you're

straddling the line

i don't understand what this boot camp

is all about uh where's the

conviction like take a stand

oh boy it's just the first draft well

good

because i don't think you even believe

what you're writing here this is not you

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ah i don't know what to say to him

you're gonna have to talk to ben

sometime

i'll see him in class tomorrow no what

are you waiting for

why don't you just kick him out of class

and ask him out on a date already

or better yet just wait the session's

almost over

okay say we do give it a shot we'd be

doing the exact thing i tell my clients

not to do what's that

transfer your feelings from one person

to the next wait you still have feelings

for dex

no no but what if i'm just a band-aid

for ben

and what if a sinkhole opens up and

swallows the studio hole and what if

they're pointless

no they are preparation for a sinkhole

no you know what i mean people change

their minds all the time

huh love is a risk and you're just gonna

have to consider

is ben worth the risk you

sound like someone oh what is it a

teacher

man i knew it just sounded so natural

you're not good at it

no on how to handle love and breakups

and the heart

and all of those things you could get

paid for it

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hey miranda for the bonfire do we only

burn our letters

because darren left this sweatshirt at

my place and i'm sick of looking at it

and i'm definitely not going back there

to return it no you can burn

whatever you like it's it's anything to

help you let go this ceremony's about

you

thanks good to know

miranda i'd love to have you back on the

show i could talk about my experience we

could delve a bit deeper than last time

yeah i know you're thinking about

expanding locally but

you have the potential to go national

your books

merchandising let's get you some real

explosion

i would love that thank you

ben i think

i think he's coming around

look i really need to talk to you about

something um after

class yeah stream me for dinner

it's on me sounds good i'll meet you

there

welcome to week six closure

you are not the same person who signed

up for this class

a month and a half ago you have grown

you have changed

you have overcome obstacles

this letter is your chance to say it all

to the person who broke your heart the

person who put you here

it's only two minutes so don't hold back

this is about you

now three

two one pens down

how we feeling this letter is way better

than the last one good and tomorrow

night at the bonfire you will make the

decision

do you send it

or do you burn it

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i'm heading home here's some stuff they

left at the studio i don't know whose

this is

that's ben's i'll give it to him later

cool see you tomorrow

all right

bad or phenomenon

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there you are i got your chili dog you

left these at the studio

i can explain can you because you had

plenty of opportunities and you never

mentioned

any article look it's not like i wasn't

willing to depress ben you could have

just asked me for an interview

miranda this whole thing has been a lie

was there even a jen or a serena was kim

in on this

kim didn't know anything about this look

i didn't even know i was writing it when

i joined the group

but you saw an opportunity to bring me

down and you seized it no miranda

everything that i've told you from the

beginning has been the truth except for

the part about writing an expose

on my business it's not what you think

what i think is that maybe journalism

wasn't your calling

you should have been an actor because

that was a killer performance

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so

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uh

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oh

you've really done it this time haven't

you come on let's open this

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hey you okay i'm fine

no you're not fine and that's okay

miranda why don't you go home take the

rest of the day off

i can't it's uh it's kickstart day for

this class hey we're partners

i've got this plus if

we're gonna buy that yoga studio i

should really work on my teaching skills

are you sure i'm sure go home

clear your head see you at the bonfire

tonight

okay i think i know things with ben

didn't go the way you wanted

but it was a big step and you inspire

everyone to be better

to believe in their own power that's

what i'm going to do

we are going to expand this business

together

yeah we are we're gonna need like ten

more instructors but i'll do for now

i'll see you at the bonfire tonight

thank you

hey miranda can i talk to you for a

second sure

i swear i didn't know about the article

and i'm furious with him

i know you didn't kim and i don't hold

any of it against you thank you

um but i will say this miranda i know he

joined the group for the wrong reason

and he can be combative and annoying but

you really did change him i don't know

about that

hey he's a different person

and it's 100 because of you

i would love to believe that but

we should go join the group

and while we had three good years

together and

two not so good years

i set you free and i set myself free

so that's everyone actually there is one

more

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sometimes teacher learns a thing or two

i'm not going to read it out loud but i

will say

to this person thank you for your

lessons

and i release you

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now it's time for the big decision do

you burn your letters

end this right or

do we send them kim

i gave darren his letter in person but

this'll do

bethany i wish all the best for you

and your new girlfriend and i am

comforted by the fact that ruth will

always love me more than her

first time around i burned my letter but

this time

i'm sending it roger is getting a piece

of my mind

hi girl i think

one second

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i thought he brought that so he had

something to sit on celebrities you know

this uh this was katherine's favorite

chair of my house

i can't look at it without seeing a mean

face

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good riddance catherine stop shouting at

waiters

someone else will get me

[Music]

we're in the midnight oil are we yeah we

asked for conviction that's what i'm

gonna give you

great it'll be on your desk in the

morning i can't wait to read it

i've seen army cadets do this course and

you are blowing them out of the water

now keep going

three weeks in and your class loves you

more than any of my classes have loved

me

margaret is turning a color i've never

seen before yeah maybe give her a break

before the next one but keep with the

inspiring words to the rest

look what you are accomplishing after

this a broken heart will feel like a

hangnail

whoa nine missed calls yeah i've got

five it's the office i hope everything's

okay

i'll call them

hi it's chloe what's going on

no i don't know anything about it we

didn't give any interview

is it online no okay

we'll pick one up fenn's article

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we live in a cynical world it's easy to

assume that everyone has ulterior

motives because negativity sells

bad news takes the super highway and

good news rides the pony express

so when i joined miranda's breakup boot

camp little did i know

that in six short weeks i would be a

completely different man

each carefully crafted step of boot camp

brought me back to the man i used to be

before i had my heart broken by the

woman i once thought i'd marry

the man who once believed in possibility

and goodness

in love as this article walks you

through the steps i took to find my way

back to myself

i invite the reader to give this program

a shot or two

because healing is yours for the taking

and dr miranda faraday has found a

step-by-step guide

to get you there

you want me to hold down the fort yes

please

it's good looks good to me

back again do you know where i can find

ben upstairs

executive floor with the other editors

he got the promotion

he did right by you threatened to quit

if i didn't print his article word for

word

but good or bad all i ask for is the

truth negativity sounds a bit better

gets more clicks but

i think this is gonna be pretty good for

you eighth floor

corner office lots of windows thank you

they'll give the corner office to anyone

these days

i like your article i'm glad

sort of wrote it for an audience who won

yeah well my phone has been ringing off

the hook now i'm in a real situation

because of you

sorry about that in my defense not the

worst problem to have

it's not so bad

i really am sorry miranda about

everything

i know and if there are only a way for

you to make it up to me

um my article wasn't enough it was a

very good starting point

but i was thinking something more along

the lines of

you know maybe seen my rebound

i was in the market for one of those and

then i met this really smart doctor and

she said those are terrible

ow a work in progress

and aside from helping me to get over

she who

shall remain nameless uh your program

helped you to find love again as well

with ben here who wrote

what i have to say was a fantastic

article in advantage monthly magazine

about

his own experience at your boot camp

she's very good at what she does

thank you um it was a job

but once you realize that you can commit

to the work i guess anything's possible

you see misty the sooner one begins the

work the sooner one can get over the guy

who

pretended to be a pilot and catfished

her on the internet i know and

she will and coming this fall dr miranda

faraday's

new book miranda's breakup boot camp

will be available in all good bookstores

and online retailers so be on the

lookout for that

meanwhile you can sign up for her

classes at her brand new studio

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downtown

i wonder what it is

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for the first time

um oh good because we need you for the

wedding

oh wow bad well good one and to think

we were strangers just a few years ago

i'm getting married today

you look ridiculously in love because we

are

one perfect wedding premieres next

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