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So this is just a weight.

- You just drop it down, okay?
- Okay.

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- Hi.
- Hi!

- Welcome, it's good to see you.
- Good to see you too.

Thanks for joining us, sit down.

- Thank you for having me.
- Yeah.

Well, as you may have been told,

we're going to do
a series of questions

but very conversational,
very simple.

- Let's do it.
- Okay.

What would you like to know
about this project?

Well,
I guess first and foremost,

you know, what even
made you wanna leave

the corporate world
and you know,

leap into the world
of filmmaking

and making a documentary?

This is obviously a huge change,

so you know, what made you
want to do that?

Well, you know,
after 20-plus years

of being a successful
vice president

in a large national corporation,

I was... it was the clock
that did it.

You go through
this inventory of your life

and all the things
you wish you had tried.

I've always wanted to do film.

If I was ever going
to do anything in film,

- it needed to be very quickly.
- Yeah.

I didn't have another
20 years or who knows.

One of the themes
of this whole film

is about storytelling

and how important
storytelling is

so that we learn from the people
that tell stories to us.

A lot of the stories
that I see coming from women

are young women who are blogging

or something like that online.

I see a lot of those.

But I haven't seen
too many older women.

Women who are, you know, over 60

I don't know where I would...
I mean, I could probably

Google one of their stories.

So you don't see it
in front of you?

- No, no.
- Yeah.

I mean yeah, I think
it would be really cool

to see more older women
putting their stories

out there through the internet
or social media.

I mean, that would
definitely be something

I would be interested in seeing.

And I think a certain sense
of like wisdom and insight

into situations would be lost
without those stories.

The whole idea with this project

was to bring those
women's voices to the forefront

and bring them
in front of people

who might be
kind of shocked to hear

what it is that they're doing

and how old they are.

And then,
maybe prompt them to go find

some other women to speak with.

You know, that are older.

Storytelling takes on
different levels

and, you know, different
parameters all the time.

It's so much more
of a connection

to the bigger world,

and the connection
becomes greater

when different people
share their stories.

So thus,
the Beyond Sixty Project.

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We did not live near anyone.

We were in a very isolated area.

The nearest neighbor
was about a mile away.

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Everyone kind of cooperated
with everyone else

back in that day and age.

Back then,
we looked out for each other.

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Forgiveness is the key

to any tragedy
or any misunderstanding

or misfortune that you encounter
in your lifetime.

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Everyone labeled him
as being strange,

different,

not normal,

and then I learned,
after three or four days,

that this person had
a real mental illness problem.

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On May 11th, 1966,

I was leaving the high school
around 3:15,

arrived at the entrance
to my home

at the bottom of the lane

somewhat between
4:00 and 4:15.

And shortly after
getting off the bus,

about 200 or 30 feet
from the bus stop,

I was approached by a man
who came out of the bank

on the left-hand side
from behind a tree.

He had a mask and he had
a sawed-off shotgun.

He grabbed me by the neck and
he pointed the gun to the kids

and he said,
"You're mine, I'm taking you.

Tell them little bastards
to leave

or they're all
gonna die right here."

And he grabbed me by the neck

and drove me
into the woods with him.

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That's women, women's history.

That's all women.

Women, women, women.

That's a lot of women stuff.

Some business.

And I, you know, as the girl...

I mean, I don't know
that this is...

This is not necessarily true,

but I think
in a lot of families,

it's the women
who are the keepers

of the family story.

Um, newspapers, photographs.

So, you know,
I have a lot of stuff,

but it's, you know,
that's why I'm never writing

another biography
like this again,

'cause I can't
go through this again.

But this is sort of the mission,
you know.

This is the mission.

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I started knowing
who these ladies were

before I knew their name.

I was born in Chicago.

We moved to Indianapolis,

which is where both
of my parents had grown up.

So I was three years old.

So we're in this apartment

and it's my grandmother's room,

and I just remember,
as a little girl,

that I would go in that bedroom

and there were
ostrich-feather fans

and opera glasses
and photographs

and you know,
the Shalimar perfume

that my grandmother wore
was still infused

in the fabrics
that were in the drawers.

And we had the silverware

that had Madam Walker's monogram

was the silverware
that we used every day

and the china
for special occasions.

So I knew about Madam Walker

but it was kind of
a larger-than-life figure.

And in some ways, a little bit
of a burden for a kid,

because there were
some people who'd say,

"Oh, you think
you're this and that

because of Madam Walker"
and I'm like,

I don't even really know
what that means.

And so, I didn't
really embrace it,

and my mother, who had grown up
with everybody

identifying her in that way,

didn't want that
to be a burden to me

and so didn't make it
a big deal.

So we didn't sit around
the table

telling Madam Walker stories.

She wanted us to follow
our own dreams,

and my passion was writing.

Something that
I sort of gotten the bug

when I was eight years old,

and they really supported that.

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I still was kind of ambivalent
about Madam Walker honestly,

because this was
the era of afros

and not straightening your hair,

and there were many people
who identified Madam Walker

as the women who invented
the straightening comb

who wanted to make
Black people look white.

So I was like,
I don't really know

that I want to deal with that.

For me,
the irony is that I ended up

telling the Madam Walker story

after many years
as a journalist.

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I think that
the number one responsibility

you have to yourself,
you know, in this lifetime,

however long that may be
none of us know, right,

is to get in touch
with the things

that really inspire you
and make you happy.

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I'm not sure what led me to art
specifically,

I feel like it was
something inside of me

that just was always there.

But I also got,
when I was later in high school,

involved and had an interest
in medicine.

I think my dad was like,
"Oh, you know, I know

you love art but you should be
doing something more practical."

I was like, all right.

Honestly,
I'd go to microbiology class

and my head would be spinning.

But then at a certain point
I was just like,

I really wanna pursue art,

and I remember having
this conversation with my mom.

She was like, "Look, if that's
what you really wanna do,

you know, I support you,
I'll talk to your father."

Even though when she was young,

what she really wanted to do

was she wanted to go
to medical school

and become a doctor.

And my grandmother, who was,
you know, also very interesting,

she went to
Parsons School of Design

and was in fashion,
the fashion world.

When it came to my mother,
she sort of really pushed her

into getting married
and having a family.

The example of her
not really doing

what she wanted to do

was partially my inspiration

to make sure that I always did
what I wanted to do.

I think in my second year,
I took a sculpture class

and I knew immediately
once I got involved in that

that that's what
I wanted to be doing.

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When I was younger,

there was a lot of messaging
about, you know,

you need to be at this place

by the time you're that age,

or you need to be at that place

by the time you're this age.

I feel like when I was younger,

I kind of sort of
bought into that.

I really believe that

there is no prescription

for how to live your life,

and if there were any times

I was sort of sent down
a path to divert from that,

it usually wasn't
of my own doing.

It was someone saying, you know,

you should do this or, you know,

you can't be an artist,
you'll never make any money,

what's the point of that?

And, um...

somehow, miraculously, I figured
out how to have it all.

Women's voices tend
to be associated more with,

you know, just giving
information and compassion,

and so, we're associated
a lot with healthcare

and, you know, fashion,
cosmetics, and things like that.

And also, telephone systems,

because traditionally,

the operators were all female.

When I was a kid,
that was my favorite toy.

How ironic that I would
grow up to be the voice

on millions of phone systems,

when I used to
just play operator.

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I became
the original voice of Siri

in a very mysterious way.

In other words, I don't know.

I had done some
digital voice recording

for a big company
that became Nuance,

an IVR company text-to-speech,

and so I knew
that I was recording

for some kind of phone system.

At that time,
none of us could picture

that the phone system
would be handheld,

a tiny miniature computer

that would interact with you.

Actually, Apple came in
after the fact.

You know, so...

And I don't know whether
the original creators of Siri

chose my voice
or whether Apple chose my voice.

So that remains a mystery.

The original recordings
were done in July of 2005.

Four hours a day,
five days a week,

and it's very tough
on the vocal cords

in the sense that
it's not creative speaking

and you don't change
the pitch or the tone

or the timbre
or the pacing of your voice.

Everything has to be
read the same.

Everything has to be
read like this.

You're reading like this

and you have a director
and it's very...

It's very controlled
and very restrictive.

I found out
that I was the voice of Siri

because a fellow voice actor
emailed me and said,

"Hey, we're playing around
with his new iPhone,

isn't this you?"

So I went on the Apple site
and I listened

and I said, "Yes."

"Really?"
"Yes, that's me."

So it was very surprising.

On the one hand,
it was extremely flattering

to have been chosen
to be that iconic app,

and it was iconic
because it was the first

concatenated voice
that sounded human

and that was able
to interact with you.

So it was definitely
an iconic thing.

So that was very flattering

and that part of it was great,

but it's kind of disconcerting

to hear your voice

in a device like that

that's on, you know,

distributed to millions
and millions of people,

and without you
really knowing about it.

Because your voice
is very personal.

Your voice is like your face

or your fingerprints.

So on the one side,
it was really cool.

On the other side, it was like
gee, that's kind of weird.

Okay, now I think
I'll make one for Zack.

Okay, so the pod goes down,

go like this,

get the amount of foam
you want by that.

You know, how foamy you want it.

My mother and father
were not your average people.

They were pretty uneducated.

My mother was very childlike
and fantasy oriented.

She starting having me
modeling at three years old.

One of the major lessons

and traumatic moments in my life

was when she had me
on Princess for a Day.

But I didn't realize how
traumatic this experience was

till I start writing
this book about my life.

That's the first thing
I wrote about,

on a quiet deck in Connecticut
in the forest.

And I started crying
and I realized

that this was a very sad thing

that she had me do.

You know, and the lesson was,
you know,

do anything to be known
and to stand out

and you know, lie, do anything.

You know,
I'm not going to be happy

unless you become a princess.

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I guess it was New Year's,
maybe it was '68.

Our wild friend Margaret
invited us.

I came to the party after
they left and she said to me,

"Guess who I met at the party?"
I said, "Who?"

She said, "I met Claude Picasso

and I'm gonna introduce you
to him,

and you're gonna
fall in love with him

and he's gonna
fall in love with you."

And then we went to the city
and Claude opened the door,

and I had never seen anybody
who looked like him.

He was very dramatic looking.

He looked very much
like his father, Pablo Picasso.

And the next day,
Margaret called and said to me,

"Claude asked me
for your phone number."

I said, "Really?"

So about ten minutes later,
he called me

and he said, "I'd like
to take you to dinner."

And I said, "Well, why don't you
come to Brooklyn for dinner?"

Even though I didn't know
how to cook.

He said,
"Well, where's Brooklyn?"

And so I told him how to get
to Brooklyn on the train,

and he came,
and we never left each other

for the next three years.

Well, when I introduced
my mother to Claude,

she said, "Picass-io?"

She had no idea
who he was or who Picasso was.

And then I got her a book
about Picasso's sculptures.

Then she started to realize,

"Oh, now she's a princess.

Yeah, this is what I wanted,
yeah,

She did what I wanted."

I went away
with his sister Paloma

to an island on a vacation.

When I came back, he said,
"I want to marry you.

So let's go to City Hall."

Well, it's like in New York,
you know,

there's a group of people
who have access to each other,

and if you're not
part of their group,

you don't have access
into that world

of very famous artists, wealth,

you know, interest... writers.

And every door had just
flung open in a second.

But I felt something
was very empty.

And so, I began
to feel frustrated

and curious about other people,
other worlds.

I didn't feel... there was
something unreal going on.

And Claude started to get
very upset about all of this

and threatened,
and felt that I was no longer...

My allegiance
was no longer with him.

And he said to me, "The student
eventually leaves the teacher."

'Cause he knew I would leave,
yes.

And I did.

This was taken
probably four weeks

after I was home
and out of the hospital

and back in school.

Probably four weeks.

- That's not much.
- I was in a lot of pain.

- Really?
- Oh my.

You can tell, look at my face.

It's painful looking,
and he thought

that was because I was sad.

I hurt so bad I couldn't hardly
stand to stand on that bridge.

I still had ulcers
on the bottom of my feet

about that big around.

- I mean, did everybody know?
- Everybody figured

that it was somebody
from the turnpike,

because the turnpike
opened about ten years

prior to my abduction.

It was the most exciting
and most colorful thing

in this whole area,
and we just assumed

that somebody was coming off
of that network of people

that were new in the area.

It's a new place, new adventure,

and he was just stalking people

and doing terrible things.

No one knew that he lived here.

He said, "Now, tell me
who I am," and I did not know.

He said, "Does 'Bicycle Pete'
mean anything to you?"

He said, "You kids make fun
of me all the time

on the school bus,"

and then I knew who he was.

♪

"Now, your goal is to do
what I tell you to do."

And I go to him one... this is
like the third or fourth day,

I said,
"What is it you want me to do?"

He said,
"Do you know how to drive?"

I said, "Yeah."

I had had no driving training,

but I figured it was
a survival technique.

I have to do this,
I'm gonna have to figure it out.

And his goal
was to get to the golden egg,

and I had no clue what that was.

I'd never heard
that phrase before.

And during the conversation
of three or four days

of him screaming
and yelling at me,

I realized
what the golden egg was.

It was the turnpike,
and I learned that

when we got to Sidneys Knob.

There's a cave there on the top

which overlooks the turnpike.

♪

And inside the cave,
he said "Reach in there

and get me that can,
and don't do nothing else,

'cause I'll shoot you
right in the back."

And I pulled out this can
and it was an old rusty can

and it had been there
a long time.

He took an old rusty
hunting knife

and he charred it open
with the knife and he goes,

"Well, I guess you're gonna
eat today, blue eyes."

And he put three peas on
the blade of a hunting knife

and stuck them in the back of
my throat and turned the knife.

Said, "Can you feel that?"

And I said,
"Yeah, I can feel that."

And he said, "Well,
blood can come at any time,

you better swallow."

And that's the only food that
I recall ever having or seeing.

♪

Every day was more violent
than the day before,

and the more intense it got
when he killed Terry Anderson,

the anger and the beatings
and his demeanor

changed completely on day seven.

And he shot Terry Anderson
within 18 feet of me.

♪

Terry Anderson was an FBI agent

who was sent here for the search
from Philadelphia.

He was 44 years old.

♪

He was the father of four.

♪

And after that happened,

Hollenbaugh's rage
was manifested

to really out of control.

He was running around
talking in tongues.

It was like a raging maniac.

He had such an evil mind
of just killing people.

"You saw me kill one,
I'll kill more."

That was the day... seventh day

that I was with
William Hollenbaugh.

The following day, I was rescued

and Mr. Hollenbaugh was killed.

He was shot immediately
by the officer

who came from behind the house.

And that's end of story here.

♪

I am very lucky
that I graduated from college

at a moment when
doors were opening for women.

When I talk to young women,
they have no idea that there

was time women couldn't get
credit cards in their names,

or when there couldn't be
a women CEO, or you know.

So lots and lots of doors
opened up,

both for me as a woman

and as an African American.

When I was at Columbia,

my advisor Phyllis Garland

was the only Black woman
on the faculty.

We were talking about
what my topic was going to be,

and I gave her
some really clichéd,

unimaginative kinds of topics.

Like Fulton Fish Market,
you know,

something that a girl
who hadn't grown up in New York

would think, "Nobody's
ever done this before!"

And at the end
of the conversation,

Phyl said to me, "You know,
your name is A'Lelia,

do you have any connection
to Madam Walker

and A'Lelia Walker,

Madam Walker's daughter?"

And I'm like,
"Yeah, that's my family."

Because, you know,
I wanted to be me.

I didn't want to be somebody's
great-great-granddaughter only

and that was my only identity.

But I said, "Yeah, that's
my family," and Phyl said,

"That's what you're going
to write your paper about."

So that's the fall of 1975.

I mean, that was, you know,

there was nobody else
saying to me, "A'Lelia,

this is really an
important story and you need

to write a book and somebody's
gonna publish a book."

But Phyl sort of
planted that seed,

so I had begun
to do some research.

I'm still really...
I gotta make money.

I didn't inherit, you know...
I didn't have a trust fund.

So I was able to get
a fellowship from NBC

that NBC sponsored,
and that gave me

a little foot in the door
at NBC.

So when I finished,
I was hired by NBC.

You know,
it was an interesting time

because it was... you never knew

what any day was going to be.

I kept a suitcase packed
in my car.

So you could be, you know,
in the middle of the night,

you get a call and you run
to the private airport

and jump on a plane,
and you didn't know

where you were going to be
for the next week or so.

I flew into Memphis.

At the time, I had a big afro,

and I went to
the rental car place,

and the only car available
was a red Camaro.

So I'm driving from Memphis
to Mississippi.

I've never been
in Mississippi before.

But it's a beautiful spring day.

It's a beautiful place,
the wildflowers are blooming,

I see a cardinal fly across,
I'm thinking,

"Mississippi,
all these horrible things

I've heard about Mississippi,
what a beautiful place.

How ironic this is."

So I arrive in Tupelo
in my red Camaro,

and you know, again,
at that point, no cellphones.

So I needed to make
a phone call.

You have to call
the New York desk

to tell them where you are,

and the one place to make
the phone call was a pool hall

with a Coca-Cola machine

and a bunch of old boys
standing around.

But my camera guys
came in with me,

I made my phone call.

That evening,
we went to cover the rally.

That was probably one
of the pivotal moments for me

that I, you know,
I knew that I was safe

because I was with people
who were watching out for me,

but it was also something
that was very frightening.

But it was really
an experience for me

to say, you know,
you're a journalist.

You're supposed to be able
to go into a war zone,

you're supposed to be able
to go into a place

that's uncomfortable
and you have to figure out

how to navigate it.

I covered the child murders
in Atlanta.

I was the lead producer on that.

I then was a producer on
the Jesse Jackson campaign

and on
the Geraldine Ferraro campaign.

So I was doing, you know,
I was making my way

up the ladder.

This was summer of 1976.

Women had just sued Newsweek

and they had sued NBC and ABC,

because women,
young women were hired

as secretaries or researchers

and they stayed at that level,

and young men would be hired
as associate producers

or desk assistants and then
they would become producers.

And so,
a new bureau chief came in

and he had been replaced

by the first Black woman
bureau chief.

We just really clashed.

This guy really, he was mad
because he had been replaced

by a Black woman.

I was ready to quit.

♪

I feel that these days,
there's probably

a more equal mix, but for sure,

you know, the art world,
like the rest of the world is,

has always traditionally been
more male oriented.

I think that's
no secret to anyone.

I've always wanted to have
a very diverse studio

that's able to explore all
kinds of different techniques,

use all kinds of
different materials.

And this is actually
how big he was.

This is his life size,
like, they very meticulously

recorded all
of his measurements.

And I even had
like xeroxes of his hands

so we knew how big
his hands were.

It's pretty amazing right?

- Stand next... yeah, that's great.
- Look at that.

I mean, I have big hands,
but look at that.

Pretty crazy, right?

Then I had,
you know, one assistant

for a couple of years
and then it just,

you know, we got bigger projects
and needed more people

and it just sort of grew
over the years.

We did a project for Lady Gaga
a couple of years ago

that was part of her
Fame perfume launch.

We've done a few projects
for her.

So now we've got this challenge.

We need to make this
giant transparent egg shape,

like her perfume bottle,

that also sits in a carriage

that she can get in and out of

and there's a scene inside it,
you know.

And it's all attached
to this actual carriage

that is being shipped to us
from Los Angeles.

And when it gets here,

is going to be drawn
by an actual horse.

So it's just like,
whoa, you know,

and all this
has to come together

in like ten days.

All my cumulative experience
and experience making, you know,

all kinds of different things

kind of informed who I am
and what I am today

and what I am interested
in doing

or not interested in doing.

It's fun to have stuff here
in the city

that people can actually see
and experience.

So in Phase 3 of the High Line,

we were asked by Diller Scofidio
& Renfro, the architects,

to help them develop
a rubber material

that resembled the beam forms

and create a couple of levels

and sort of in-and-out areas

so that kids could use it
as a play area.

Underneath all these pieces
of rubber that we made

are part of the original beam
structure of the High Line.

Then they cut through
and made this second level here

so the kids could
sort of go in and out.

They have all these openings

they can climb around,

and then there
are periscopes also

that you can see different views
of the city through.

Even though I always wanted to,
you know,

live in different places
and experience different things,

I never really questioned
what I wanted to do.

You know, so that was always
very crystal clear to me.

♪

♪

Lake Champlain
was always down the hill

and we could see it
from the top of the hill

and we would always walk down
to the lake at look at it

and sometimes
we'd go swimming and stuff.

I ended up working there summers

when I was going
to veterinary school.

I looked at the lake and said,

"I think I want
to swim across that."

That crossing is like
between eight and nine miles.

So we went and did
our little adventure

and swam across Lake Champlain
in August of 1977.

So I think that's the first time
that it entered my head

that I wanted to swim
across something.

♪

My first job as a veterinarian
was in Vermont.

It was in the northern part
of Vermont

in a town called Newport.

There were farms
that I would go to

where I wouldn't be allowed
out of the truck.

I'd be met at the truck
by the famer

and he would tell me
to just leave

and I would counter that with,

"So you're going
to just let the cow die

and not have anyone
look at her?"

And he says that he would
prefer that to having me.

After three years, the
veterinarian I was working for

decided to finally
have a contract drawn up.

Some of the stipulations
in the document

weren't what I was expecting.

The lawyer
that I was consulting said,

"Well, if you take a stand
because you feel this strongly,

what's the worst
that could happen to you?"

And I said,
"Well, I could lose my job,"

and that's exactly
what happened.

I was five months pregnant

so I was going to have a baby
at the end of that year

and I started working out
of my living room,

you know,
taking large animal calls

and having people come see me.

Then toward the end
of that year,

I talked to my in-laws
who ran a business

called Martin's Snack Bar

and said, you know,
what would you think about me

turning that
into an animal hospital?

♪

It was one of those things
where I think the moment

was driven by necessity.

I just was responsive,

I didn't really have
a lot of background

in running a business.

So I basically figured
I'd enrolled

in the school of hard knocks.

Because you do make these
bad decisions or mistakes

because you just don't know
any better.

One example, which is
a very minor example is,

I got employees, and there's
this thing called withholding.

And then,
after a little bit of time,

the government wants
what you withheld, and I said,

"Oh. Where is that?"

We grew steadily.

We started getting busier,

and then I had
a veterinarian call who said,

"Are you looking
for another veterinarian?"

I said to her,
"Oh, what an interesting idea."

So we did keep on growing.

It was always steadily growing,

and it was 15 years

when we decided to expand
into a bigger building.

♪

During my young childrearing
and building the practice,

I wasn't swimming
nearly as much as I do now.

♪

I think back then,
I might have been too busy

to swim as much as I do now.

When I told my husband
I was going to swim

the English Channel, he says,

"Uh, Paula,
that window has closed for you."

And I said,
"What does that mean?"

He says, "Well, you're too old

to do something like that."

I want to say something.

I don't want to make
any mistakes.

It's too important.

Why can't I get
what's in my head

out to my voice?

You mean, our voice.

Our voice.

Begin with the truth.

What if I don't have
anything to say?

What if they listen
to what I have to say

and hate it?

Colette wants.

Colette wants...

you to listen to her,

pay attention to her

and consider her ideas
and opinions legitimate.

Colette wants people
to stop bullshitting her.

Colette wants you
to forget how old she is

and remember how young
her mind is.

♪

This is me in Sweden.

Yeah, that was
the beginning of the year.

So my junior high school
and high school years

were my quest to find people
I belonged with.

People who were like me,

who would accept me.

Because the cheerleaders

and the football players

and the, you know,

the larger population was...

I was nobody,
and so I was always trying to be

accepted and fit in.

I didn't embrace being different

until much, much later
in my life.

♪

I applied to be
an exchange student

because I wanted to leave home.

I saw it as a way
to get out of Dodge.

I went to Sweden.

I lived in Gothenburg

but it's pronounced in Swedish
Göteborg.

And I didn't mind
being the outsider.

Before I went to Sweden,
I wanted to fit in.

When I came back from Sweden,
I didn't care.

I think being
an exchange student,

even though I made
some errors in judgment

over that year, showed me

using your imagination,

you could accomplish a lot.

That was the first place
I ever went

where I was embraced,

and I wasn't looked down on

for being different.

♪

I ended up getting my degree
in fine arts, in drawing.

I was assisting an art director

on a magazine at Rodale Press.

I worked as an artist,
a board artist

for New Jersey Magazine.

I knew that's not
what I wanted to do

for the rest of my life was art.

I took an acting class
and that was it.

I knew immediately.

I was in the classroom
for an hour

and it was like,
I found my passion.

That's it.

Long story short, I got accepted

into the first graduating class

of the Masters
of Fine Arts program

at the Actors Studio
Drama School

at The New School.

And that's where I went.

I graduated in 1997

and I was the first class that
graduated from that program,

which is now pretty
well established.

All my acting teachers
were trained by Lee Strasberg.

So they had to study with him
and they also had to be

members of the Actors Studio,
which is a very closed club.

Then, we would have
master classes

with people like Estelle Parsons

and John Patrick Shanley,

who is a playwright
that I admire

and was mesmerized by him.

Sydney Pollack and Sidney Lumet

and Sally Field
and Jessica Lange,

and Paul Newman, who I got to do
a scene with in graduate...

I mean, it was like...

You couldn't ask
for anything better.

♪

I try not to say
"I'm sorry" anymore,

and sometimes I do let it slip,

and then I say, "I'm not sorry."

I give myself more permission.

I, uh, I say "no" more

to things I really don't want,

and I say "yes" more

to things I really do want.

We're taught

from a very early age as women

what's wrong with us,

and I try to embrace

what's right with me.

♪

So, that leads me
to where I am now...

a show for the Philadelphia
Fringe Festival.

♪

It's a very special
place to live.

You feel like you're in New York
and not in New York, you know,

and, um, I like it.

I like the contrast, you know.

I guess maybe getting older,
you do want something

sometimes more peaceful.

That might be one of
the indicators of my age.

There was a certain power
to having that name.

And giving up that power,

I didn't know exactly
who I was going to become.

And I knew I wanted to
give the name Picasso up,

and several people said,
"Don't give that up!

You can sell things,
it could be to your advantage."

And there could... there were
advantages to keeping the name.

Andy Warhol couldn't
believe that I was...

Wanted to give up the name.

You know, there was
something that was missing

that I wasn't really

totally connected

with who I really am.

And so, I eventually met
my second husband,

Bill Lavner.

Well, we were working
at the same office.

These neighborhood little
directories, uh, bluebooks.

Bill and I got married,

and we had this...
Uh, we lived in the Village,

and Bill was a publisher,

and we had this

very nice life.

We traveled.

He was brilliant
at frequent flier miles,

so we traveled around the world.

We eventually found
my children's birth parents

and went to Korea.

Now the children were 16 and 14,

and my husband
started to walk funny.

So the next day he went
to St. Vincent's Hospital,

and the operation showed that

he had a tumor on his spine,

and it would have to be removed

in a special operation.

Eventually, we went
to another hospital,

and something happened
during the operation.

There was an accident, and, um,

he was paralyzed.

And, I went home,

poured myself some
hot milk and cognac,

drank it,

went to sleep.

And the next day,
I began my new life.

♪

So I said to my husband,

"Guess what? I'm gonna join
the Sun City Poms."

He looked at me, and he said,

"Over my dead body!"

Well, unfortunately,
he passed away.

♪

I thought, you know,

he said over his dead body,
and maybe that means,

"Okay, now go and join them."

♪

When you are a Sun City Pom,

you gotta be one
tough old broad, really.

If you wanna be on there
and you wanna be on stage

and you wanna perform,

you perform, it doesn't matter
what's wrong with you.

Yes, I hurt.

It kills me to get outta bed.

And it hurts all the way,

but those girls
are waiting for me,

and I have to get there.

Then you get to the block
that's mobbed with people.

Nothing hurts anymore,

'cause you gotta put on
a show for those people.

♪

Well, the Poms started in 1979

as a cheerleading squad

to a women's softball team
called the Sun City Saints.

They were having poor
attendance, I guess,

at these women's softball games,
and I think they figured

if they had some
cheerleaders there,

maybe they'd get
more men to show up.

So the Poms have been around,

well, we'll be celebrating
our 40th anniversary

in a couple of years.

♪

You have to want to do it...

And of course if they didn't,
they wouldn't be there...

And you have the desire
for perfection.

You have this, uh,

desire to perform.

And no matter
what is bothering you,

that desire takes over

because you can be tired,
you can be sick,

you can lay down when it's over,

but you've got to get
through these performances.

♪

I think I started having
symptoms of my arthritis

in my hands when I was about 24.

When the doctor told me that

I would end up in a wheelchair
by the time I was 45,

and it scared me.

I thought,
"I can't let that happen.

That's too young, that's...

I've gotta keep going."

And then, it wasn't till
I turned 62,

the year I retired,

I got up one morning,
and I just fell.

My... I just couldn't
walk anymore.

Today, I am going through
the breast cancer

that I was told I was free
and clear of after 10 years.

It came back and metastasized
into my liver,

and Stage IV.

It's in any type
of situation like this,

you have to have something
that's important to you,

something you like,

that keeps you going.

And you say, "Well,
I'm not gonna give in

and just sit around
and do nothing"

because that's the worst thing
you can do is sit and lay.

♪

And then, um,

I noticed my neighbor Greta,

she would leave
in these nice costumes.

And so, I talked to her,

and she says,
"Well, we do dancing."

And I said, "Oh, I'd love
to get back into dancing."

I said, "I don't know
how well I would do anymore,

but I sure would love
to get back into dancing."

So for about three years,

I took really heavy
doses of morphine.

And, um, one day I just woke up

and told myself
I had to come off them.

I just had to find a way

that, you know, I couldn't
get up in the morning without

having those by my bed.

And I was trying to decide

was I takin' 'em
because of an addiction

or because I really hurt?

And then, I finally
got down to one a day.

And then, finally one night
I forgot to take it.

And I woke up in
the morning and thought,

"Oh, I feel pretty good."

So as far as resilience and age

and what keeps you going,

um, I give the Poms
a lot of credit.

Maybe people say, "Ugh,
that doesn't mean anything."

I do.

It's that desire to do things

that keeps us going.

It's a motivation for me.

And some of these elderly ladies

that are 84
and in their early 80s,

and I just look at them and go,

"You're amazing."

And they really do,
they inspire me to keep moving.

And if we forget to unzip
each other when we're done,

then I get home and it's like,

"Oh, my goodness, who am I
gonna get to zip me down?"

Well, usually one of
my neighbors are home.

♪

Few more things,
I gotta get the iPod.

That's the music
that we march to.

♪

See ya at the parade.

♪

♪

- Yup.
- And your daughter too.

And I volunteer a lot
to different places, so

I'm still out there and active,
and that's all that matters.

He had no upbringing,
no rearing,

no love, no compassion,

no one hugged him
and kissed him,

told him they loved him.

You cannot be of sound mind,

make good decisions if you
have hatred in your heart.

I'm in the process of
dedicating the rest of my life

to mental health.

I don't know what inroads
I can make in that project,

but I'm willing to donate
the rest of my life,

and any money that I can
contribute to that cause,

I will definitely do that.

We have to be more accountable

for the mental illness
in our nation.

And if I can be remembered
as one thing and one person,

I want to be remembered
as being giving

and forgiving.

He cannot be responsible
for his actions

when he was treated so poorly.

The system failed him,

and we failed him.

I forgave him

because it's
the right thing to do.

♪

My mother was the fourth
generation of women

in her family to have
worked for the Walker Company,

and I think she grew up
feeling that that was something

she was expected to do...

She majored in chemistry
and business in college...

But she didn't want
to impose that on us.

I grew up wanting to do...
Wanting to be a writer,

not wanting to do

the same thing that
my parents had done.

I was able to approach the story

in a way that was
comfortable for me

to tell Madam Walker's story,

to discover things that
others had really forgotten

or never known about her.

And I really
came to it more through

A'Lelia Walker,
Madam Walker's daughter,

because she had been part
of the Harlem Renaissance.

In the late '60s,

as I was beginning
to discover people like

Zora Neale Hurston
and Langston Hughes,

my grandfather had those books,

he had books
that they had written,

and so I became attached to that

and fascinated by that

because I loved to write
and I loved those writers.

So she was the person that I was
really interested in initially.

Madam Walker
was too complicated.

So while I was on
the Radcliffe College board,

one of the other board members

was a professor
named Nathan Huggins.

And Nathan also happened to be

an advisor for
a series of biographies

that Chelsea House Publishing

had created called
Black Americans of Achievement,

and they needed
a Madam Walker book,

and there had never been
a Madam Walker book,

and he knew that I was
doing some research

on my great-great-grandmother.

Around this time,

Alex Haley had come to us
and asked about

writing a biography
of Madam Walker...

Actually he wanted to do
a fictionalized version.

When we first started,
Haley would say, "Baby!"

You know, "Baby, do this,"
and he said, um,

"Make a file folder,
a manila folder for every year

of your story,

and just drop things
in that folder.

And make some folders for
the characters in your book,

and drop some things
in the folder."

So I now have
thousands of folders

because Alex told me
how to organize it.

I mean, it's just
a little thing,

but it makes such
a huge difference.

So now on my fourth book,

I've got all of this material
that I've been collecting

really for the last
four decades.

At 23, I would
never have thought

I would have anything at all

to do with Madam Walker.

Phyl Garland said
you need to write this story.

Alex Haley came along.

And then I saw
the effect that this

story had on other women.

How inspired other women
were by Madam Walker,

and so that made me want to
know more, made me want to,

to continue to tell the story.

Du Bois is my intellectual hero,

and as I go through this
old issue of The Crisis,

he has Madam Walker's obit,

and Du Bois says
great things about her.

He was just full of praise,
and I thought, well, you know,

I sort of filed that away,
and I thought,

"If my intellectual hero

can find something good
about this person

about whom I'm ambivalent,

then I need to re-examine it."

That her real thrust
was not straightening hair,

but changing hygiene

and helping people
heal scalp disease,

but to understand
that the caricature

that had been created about her
wasn't really accurate.

And then I began
to discover how much

of a political activist she was,

and how much of
a philanthropist she was,

and how much she empowered
women economically.

So she became then,
instead of this,

you know, one little incorrect

nugget that people repeated
over and over again,

she became this
fully-formed human being

who really made
a huge difference for women.

And now I'm at the point where

some of the seeds that I planted

by trying to keep
the story alive

have now come full circle,

and I'm able
to help the company,

and help the brand stay alive,

and now that will
be there after me.

So, that leads me
to where I am now,

and I'm in the process
of writing... rewriting...

A show for the Philadelphia
Fringe Festival.

I had started and stopped,
and started and stopped

this idea of a one-woman show.

It was based on
this whole concept of

me having this duality

in my life.

The thing I'm supposed to do,

and the thing I wanna do.

I'm confronting
things in this play

that I didn't want
to confront before

'cause I thought I
confronted them in therapy,

quite frankly.

But, I embrace them now,

and my age has
given me permission

to say "This is me,"

and "This is where I came from.

This is what I'm doing.

This is how I...

This is my art."

But it will feed
into my resilience

in that I can get back up there.

I can get back on stage,
I can perform again.

And hopefully I'll be able
to do more with that.

And it's just another
one of those things

I can say I did it.

You know, I wrote it,

I produced it.

I got people
to collaborate with me.

And, um, I can check that off.

And maybe I'll write
another one.

I think the reason
why we're so willing

to allow ourselves

to buy in to someone else

and let ourselves go

is because we don't have
that self-esteem.

We don't believe in...
We don't think we deserve it.

We don't... we don't think
we're good enough.

And I don't know
where that comes from.

I guess it comes
from our upbringing.

Where else could it come from?

But the older I get,
the more I see

that I am worth it.

So, I don't... I don't
lose myself anymore.

I know myself,

and I trust myself.

♪

I've really lived by my gut
in a lot of ways,

and I feel like that's what's
led me to this place today

is just sort of following
my gut instincts,

and always trying to get
involved as much as possible

in things that really

are gratifying
and satisfying to me

on a personal level,

and make me happy.

I'm working on
a series of pieces

that are inspired by

the illustrations of

a German biologist
named Ernst Haeckel.

A lot of them are
based on sea creatures.

So they're inspired by him,
but I think they're also

inspired by my childhood,

you know,
growing up on the beach

and seeing all these cool,
crazy sea anemones,

and sea urchins, and jellyfish.

So I'm sort of trying to

translate those
into the third dimension.

I guess in another ten years,

I don't see my life
being that much different

than it is now,
only I hope to be

less involved
in the commercial work.

So, I don't feel that

I'm ever gonna really retire.

My retirement is gonna be
doing my own work.

♪

Starting in 2009,

I was helping a friend train

'cause that was her goal,
to swim the English Channel.

One of the other support people

was on the pebbly beach
and said to me,

"Are you gonna swim
the Channel?"

And I said to her, "No!

Why would you ask me
a question like that?"

You know, 'cause... I don't know
why I reacted like that.

And she said,

"Because I think you can do it."

And so then I started to say,

"Really? Somebody else thinks
I can do something?"

The time that I
selected with my pilot

for my English Channel
swim attempt,

uh, was chosen as
September 7 to 14, 2016.

Was there ever a point
during your practicing

leading up to the swim

that you didn't think
you could do it?

Oh, many points,

because it's not an easy swim
by any means,

and I'd had, um,

people I knew
who weren't successful.

One of the things that makes it
such a hard swim is that

you never know
where you are, you know?

So, are you almost done,
or are you only part way?

It's just a horrible thing.

And I remember swimming

and looking to the left

where there was the vast ocean,

and sometimes you'd see
the big... the big ships,

and then looking to the right
and seeing my little boat

next to me, and I would think,

"That's all right, I don't need
to know where I am, I'm fine."

Near the end, when we were
in the pitch black

and the small boat was with us,

and the crew was shining
a spotlight on the cliff wall,

my support swimmer would say,

"Can you see the light?
You see the light?

Go for that."

And then I'd say, "Okay."

And then I would go over,
and she said

the last 200 meters I swam,
I swam, um, doggie paddle.

She said, "Some of your clients
might like to hear that."

I remember telling people
that it felt like crawling.

And so, in a way, you are
crawling in the water

when you're doing
the doggie paddle.

And then when I got to there

and slapped my hand
on the face of the cliff,

it was just, um,

a wonderful feeling,
it was just like, "Oh."

And then my friend that
was next to me, you know,

squealed in delight
and says that,

"You are an English Channel
swimmer, Paula!

You've made it!"

♪

So, I became stronger.

And I had to take care of all
the finances and everything,

and he was amazing.

He inspired everybody.

I'm gonna start to cry.

He helped other people
from Mount Sinai Hospital.

He was funny.

He read.

He gave me all
the information that I needed

'cause he would read
and listen to NPR every day.

He taught me more about patience

and love.

I didn't understand...
I understand even more now,

'cause he died three years ago,

and I even understand more now
about some of the lessons

he tried to teach me.

My most poignant
memories of Bill are

when he would hug me.

He couldn't use his hands,
but he would

take all his strength to hug me.

And it was almost...

I almost couldn't bear it

because it was so poignant

and so touching.

Except, you know, I embraced it,

but at the same time,
sometimes I wanted to pull away

'cause it was painful.

So I finally revealed myself

almost exactly
two years later in 2013.

One of the struggles that I had
during those two years,

I said, "Well, this
could go one of two ways.

You know, 'Oh, let's get her,
she's Siri.'

'Oh, let's not get her,
she's Siri, she's everywhere.'"

Corporations really seem
to be quite possessive

of their digital voices.

They don't really want people to

associate a person,

a face with the device.

They want people
to imagine, you know,

whoever they wanna imagine
that they're talking to.

Well, it was kind of
a strange thing because,

I never aspired to fame.

I call myself
"accidentally famous."

So, it was a struggle
for me because I basically

am more of an introvert
than an extrovert.

Siri really jolted me
out of my comfort zone,

and made me realize that
I was capable of doing

a lot more than maybe
I was doing at that point.

Suddenly, after not being
on camera for many years,

after the Siri revelation,
I was on camera a lot,

and I discovered that
it was something that I did

fairly comfortably.

And just reminded myself that,

"Well, you know,
maybe you should just

get out a little more

and do more of
this type of stuff."

So, thus the Siri Sings Band,

you know, and things
like that, so.

But I think as far
as women aging,

there's something calming
about reaching the 60s.

All of a sudden,
you can just... I find myself,

I'm more able to say "no"

to things that I don't
wanna do, you know.

It's like, "You know,
I really hate that.

You know what?
I'm just not gonna do it."

I can't do too much in here,

but I can do a little bit.

Wow.

So.

Okay.

I don't wanna
break another light.

So, is that enough?

- You still got it.
- Okay.

Where does my
resilience come from?

I just have to think
that I'm darn lucky.

I very often think,

"Wonder what it's like to die.

What do you feel like

in the days or hours
before you die?"

I'm curious.

When that time comes...

I say this, I don't know
if I'll follow through on it...

But I say I won't have any fear

because I've had
such a good life.

So, being 63 is
such a blessing to me.

My mother died when she was 46.

My grandmother died
when she was in her 40s.

And so, I really sort of
sweated that for a while.

Like, "Am I gonna
make it past there?"

Because it seems that
the women in my family

tended to die young.

And so I feel like every year

is a blessing
and an opportunity.

My idea about
senior citizens changed

after my mom died,

after watching the last
two years of her life,

watching my dad care for her,

watching how seniors are treated
in the healthcare system,

and without an advocate
how dismissed they can be,

how important it is
to advocate for seniors.

I don't know, resilience it's...

It's part of being a woman,

part of being not willing
to give up the ghost

and just stay in a corner

and be what people
think you should be.

The only way that we grow

is when we have
to deal with something

and solve a problem
and get past something,

even if it's failure.

Failure is a great impetus!

I began to understand things
on a deeper level about my life

and what created me,

and what I created myself.

You know, the challenge
of learning to write,

now I have a great
appreciation of writing

and understanding of that,

being able to write something.

I'm not the greatest writer,

but a wrote a decent book
that people seem to like

and read quickly.

Um...

♪

It's like... I guess
put a frame around

what happened to me and why,

and so now I can go on to, um,

not a new book,
but a new chapter in my life.

Well, I've been
traveling a lot...

♪

Because I was like...

There was a certain
level of imprisonment

with my husband's
being paralyzed.

I was also paralyzed
in a certain way.

Even though he tried
to give me a lot of freedom,

it was limited.

And I did do some traveling,

but I've been flying
like a bird.

♪

I've begun to date a little,

which is, um,

at first very shocking.

The first date I went
on very, you know,

within in the last six months,
I wasn't ready till then,

I was like, like 14 years old.

I was nervous, you know.

But the great thing is
how I'm different than 14

is that I know right away

what I like and don't like,

and if I'm interested
in somebody or I'm not.

And I don't, you know,
have any qualms about

saying "no,"

which I did
when I was much younger.

♪

I think you get definitely
better with age and experience.

Absolutely.

I mean, how could you not?

How could you not get better
with age and experience?

At the age of 60, you know,

you could be conceivably

only at your halfway point,

or a little bit past
your halfway point in life,

so that's a lot of
time left to do stuff.

But I think I would
tell my younger self that,

um, it'll get better in a week.

Whatever you're dealing with,

give it that good
week's worth of patience,

and things will be better
one way or the other.

I would say you
are absolutely right

to have tried to do
the best job that you could do

in whatever job you had,

that you should always go
one step farther,

that you need to deliver
not just enough, but more.

But there seems to be
this desperate need

to hold on to youth
as much as we possibly can,

and I don't know that
that's a very healthy thing.

I don't think we wanna
hold on to our youth,

we just wanna hold on to maybe

our youthful attitudes.

I don't see myself retiring.

I see myself as

maybe being able
to pick and choose

a little more selectively
about what I do.

I see myself teaching,

still teaching.

I don't wanna
ever stop teaching.

I don't wanna ever stop acting.

I always say I wanna die
one of three ways:

on stage,
in front of a classroom,

or having sex.

I realize about myself,
I know myself so much better.

I have such a creative spirit,

and I will always
have to create.

So what will happen
to me is unknown...

but I'm very open
to the unknown.

And that... as long as
you're not afraid of that,

I think things can happen.

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Where do you see
yourself when you're 60?

- Ooh, that's a good question.
- That's a ways away from now.

That's... that's
a little bit away.

Yeah.

Hopefully I'm still doing
really cool things.

I mean, I don't ever see myself
officially retiring,

or, you know,
being done with working.

I love having things to do,

and so even if I'm 60,

hopefully I'm still
healthy and good to go,

but I'd love to still be able to

run businesses,
help other people.

I still see myself working.

I don't know what
it's gonna be like.

That's really scary.

I think that... and I was not

born when my mom was born,
so I don't know

how women before
perceived aging,

but I feel like now because
things change so rapidly,

I feel so unsure

about what the world
will be like

and where I will be
in the world.

And that is so daunting to me
that when I hear that question,

I'm like, "But, what is
the world gonna be like?"

That would change everything.

It could change everything
for me in the next five years.

Yeah, I would say I'm curious,

but I definitely haven't
sat down and thought about it.

And anything,
any fears about aging?

When I was younger,
I was really scared

to turn 30.

- Really?
- I was really scared,

um, and I think it was
just my own vanity,

you know, of aging,

of who I was gonna be
at the age of 30.

What was my life
accomplishment at that point?

I don't know,
I feel like I think about...

I almost have... I think about
too much, like obsession

with what am I going to feel

when I'm five,
ten years from now?

What am I gonna feel
when I'm 40?

How am I going to get there?

And is it going to be
what I want it to be?

I get really frustrated when
people talk about age as, um,

as being this bad thing,

because everyone gets older.

Everyone experiences that,

and if not, then that's even

- more tragic.
- Well, it's much better,

much better
than the alternative.

Yes, exactly.

I really resent that

women's value is so
perceived by their age.

- Yes, I agree.
- I think that older people

in general underestimate it,

'cause they've
gone through so much,

and you have so much
to learn from them.

- Yeah.
- That's what I found

with my grandparents, so...

I love it when
I see women of any age,

especially, like,
above 60 saying

"No, I refuse to go under.

I refuse to become
'invisible.'"

I'm gonna be louder.

I'm gonna really advocate
for myself and women like me.

When I get older,
am I just gonna lose

my voice to tell stories too?

So, yeah, I mean,
I think it's really awful

because I think that
there's so much

to hear from older women.

Young people have to stop

thinking that older women are

just jaded and not
interested in their lives...

- Right.
- And older women have to

meet us halfway too,
and not think that we're just

stupid and attached
to our phones,

and always thinking
about the internet.

We are smart, we care,
we want to know.

We want to empathize
with your experience too.

I think that is, yeah,

it's like my thesis
statement about everything.

Do you feel like you've learned

from the women
that you've interviewed?

Absolutely!

You know, each of these
series of interviews

have given me more insight into

who I am and what I'm doing,

and why I did this.

And it gives me
this stronger sense of

how important
women's stories are.

Because if they can affect me,

they're gonna affect other
people that hear the stories,

and affect in a positive way

that will make you
think about yourself,

and really challenge how
you think about anything.

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