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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:28,289 --> 00:00:31,379 -[LAUGHTER] -[INDISTINCT CHATTER] 2 00:00:31,509 --> 00:00:33,685 I like this. 3 00:00:33,772 --> 00:00:37,254 I like being friends with you. This is fun. 4 00:00:37,385 --> 00:00:39,822 Come on. Come on. 5 00:00:39,952 --> 00:00:42,868 -[BOTH LAUGH] -What? You like this? 6 00:00:42,955 --> 00:00:45,262 -Yes! -You don't like being in a relationship, 7 00:00:45,393 --> 00:00:49,049 -like an official relationship? -Mm... yeah, I did not say that. 8 00:00:49,179 --> 00:00:51,747 Um, I think it's best we don't talk about that. 9 00:00:51,877 --> 00:00:54,793 -We focus on now, me and you. -Okay, let's talk about now. 10 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:58,449 -Okay. -Now is I don't care about labels. 11 00:00:58,580 --> 00:01:00,582 I don't care what we call ourselves, okay? It's... 12 00:01:00,712 --> 00:01:03,237 No, Nate, it's not about labels. It's just like I don't know 13 00:01:03,367 --> 00:01:05,543 where I'm gonna be a year from now. So... 14 00:01:05,674 --> 00:01:08,111 -What, are you quitting your job? -Maybe. 15 00:01:08,242 --> 00:01:11,288 Maybe I'll, you know, teach English abroad. 16 00:01:11,419 --> 00:01:13,725 -Or I'll join the Peace Corps. -The Peace Corps? 17 00:01:13,856 --> 00:01:17,729 -Yes, yes. They need IT people just like everybody else. -[LAUGHS] 18 00:01:17,816 --> 00:01:20,254 Look, I just don't know where I'm gonna be a year from now. 19 00:01:20,384 --> 00:01:24,606 And so I don't want you waiting around for me. It's just not fair to you. 20 00:01:24,693 --> 00:01:30,742 -I don't care. Okay? What I care about is... -Oh. 21 00:01:30,873 --> 00:01:32,483 -Hey, what's up? -MAN: Hey. 22 00:02:07,518 --> 00:02:10,913 -You guys? -MAN: Yeah? You okay? 23 00:02:11,043 --> 00:02:15,526 -You guys? Josh. Josh! -[GASPS] 24 00:02:18,529 --> 00:02:22,316 [SOBBING] 25 00:02:22,446 --> 00:02:24,840 -[SCREECHES] -I'm sorry. 26 00:02:24,970 --> 00:02:30,933 [LAUGHING, SOBBING] 27 00:02:31,063 --> 00:02:32,761 I thought you were shitting in there! 28 00:02:32,848 --> 00:02:37,157 -[LAUGHS] -Oh, my God! 29 00:02:45,861 --> 00:02:48,342 What? What'd I miss? 30 00:02:48,429 --> 00:02:50,996 Uh, well, we were just saying, um, 31 00:02:51,127 --> 00:02:54,739 if it's a girl, we were thinking of calling her Sarah. 32 00:02:54,870 --> 00:02:57,481 -After Aunt Sarah. -Oh, my God! 33 00:02:57,612 --> 00:02:58,961 -What do you think? -I love it! 34 00:02:59,091 --> 00:03:01,137 -You do? -Yes! 35 00:03:01,268 --> 00:03:02,965 JOSH: Oh, I think you have the wrong table. 36 00:03:03,095 --> 00:03:04,793 JESS: Oh, no, no, you have the right table. 37 00:03:04,923 --> 00:03:06,316 The two glasses are for the gentlemen. 38 00:03:06,403 --> 00:03:08,231 -Jess! No! -Yes, yes, yes. 39 00:03:08,318 --> 00:03:11,365 You can show solidarity with me starting tomorrow. 40 00:03:11,495 --> 00:03:14,498 Tonight we're celebrating your... this isn't about me. 41 00:03:14,629 --> 00:03:17,545 -Yes, please, pour, pour. -Okay, fine, fine, fine. 42 00:03:17,675 --> 00:03:20,069 -But tonight we are paying. -We'll see about that. 43 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:23,115 No, if she tries to give you her credit card, please do not take it. 44 00:03:23,246 --> 00:03:26,510 No, don't rope her into this! I'm so sorry, we're the worst. 45 00:03:26,641 --> 00:03:29,513 -You're fine. -Oh, but you know what? Um... 46 00:03:29,644 --> 00:03:33,865 I will have a Diet Coke. I'm not drinking tonight. 47 00:03:33,996 --> 00:03:38,130 -Pregnancy. -WAITRESS: Oh, my God! Congratulations! 48 00:03:38,261 --> 00:03:41,003 What? Oh, oh, she's not gonna tell anyone. 49 00:03:41,133 --> 00:03:44,267 -Look, don't tell anyone. -I'm very trustworthy. 50 00:03:44,398 --> 00:03:47,749 No, no, I just don't want to tell anyone until, like, the third trimester. 51 00:03:47,879 --> 00:03:51,405 Okay. You know what? It's my bad. We can wait until the kid's first birthday 52 00:03:51,492 --> 00:03:53,276 to tell people, it'll be your call. I'm sorry. 53 00:03:53,363 --> 00:03:55,626 -It's fine. I'm sorry. -WAITRESS: This is very sweet. 54 00:03:55,757 --> 00:03:59,848 My siblings would never include me in this type of thing. 55 00:03:59,978 --> 00:04:03,504 -Oh, they... -We're actually not siblings. 56 00:04:03,634 --> 00:04:06,463 They're the new parents. I'm just the vessel. 57 00:04:06,594 --> 00:04:09,423 Ew! No. Oh, my gosh. We are not using the word "vessel." 58 00:04:09,553 --> 00:04:12,687 -That's a little... -Oh, my God. I'm so sorry. 59 00:04:12,817 --> 00:04:14,558 You guys, dessert's gonna be on us. 60 00:04:14,645 --> 00:04:16,212 -No! You don't have to do that! -You don't have to do that. 61 00:04:16,299 --> 00:04:18,258 -No, seriously. I'm an asshole. -No, you're totally fine! 62 00:04:20,825 --> 00:04:23,132 So they're not paying you? 63 00:04:23,263 --> 00:04:28,093 First of all, it is illegal to pay for surrogacy in New York. 64 00:04:28,224 --> 00:04:30,618 Second of all, no, that would be weird! 65 00:04:30,748 --> 00:04:33,838 It's funny, I'm already getting comments from people saying I'm doing it for money. 66 00:04:33,969 --> 00:04:36,972 I'm like, no, are you crazy? There's so many other ways to make money. 67 00:04:37,102 --> 00:04:40,541 -Hm... -I'm doing this because I want to. 68 00:04:40,671 --> 00:04:45,110 And because Josh and Aaron deserve... 69 00:04:45,241 --> 00:04:49,680 -So was I the last to know? -No. No, no. Um... 70 00:04:49,811 --> 00:04:53,075 When I say "people," I mean Jocelyn. 71 00:04:53,205 --> 00:04:57,297 Before I called you and Dad, I talked to Jocelyn, that's it. 72 00:04:57,384 --> 00:05:00,778 And they are reimbursing me for every copay, 73 00:05:00,909 --> 00:05:06,175 every piece of maternity wear, every prenatal vitamin, even food. 74 00:05:06,306 --> 00:05:10,745 -It's all in the contract. -Good. 75 00:05:10,875 --> 00:05:13,574 I mean, it's not a contract, it's an agreement. 76 00:05:13,704 --> 00:05:16,794 But we're being very by-the-book. We each have lawyers. 77 00:05:16,925 --> 00:05:20,581 -Yeah, and they're gonna be great dads. -Okay. 78 00:05:22,409 --> 00:05:25,412 -And you're feeling good? -Mm-hm. Mm-hm. 79 00:05:25,499 --> 00:05:27,631 I feel great. I have no nausea. 80 00:05:27,762 --> 00:05:29,154 -Do you know how lucky you are? -Yes. 81 00:05:29,285 --> 00:05:30,765 I couldn't stop throwing up. 82 00:05:30,895 --> 00:05:33,202 My morning sickness was so bad 83 00:05:33,333 --> 00:05:35,987 I was worried the two of you weren't getting enough nutrients. 84 00:05:36,118 --> 00:05:38,816 I know, Mom, you've told us a million times. [LAUGHS] 85 00:05:38,947 --> 00:05:41,210 -Yeah. -Well... 86 00:05:41,341 --> 00:05:44,866 Now, as life-changing as a fiction writing class can be, 87 00:05:44,996 --> 00:05:49,871 we want to offer, um, a broader range of skills 88 00:05:49,958 --> 00:05:53,178 to help these women in the job market once they've been released. 89 00:05:53,265 --> 00:05:55,267 Now, the largest roadblock to that... 90 00:05:55,355 --> 00:05:58,183 -It isn't allowed in prison. -Yes, exactly. 91 00:05:58,314 --> 00:06:03,014 Um, so that's why we're interested in hiring a team of developers 92 00:06:03,101 --> 00:06:06,496 to customize software that would simulate the internet. 93 00:06:06,627 --> 00:06:08,585 -Hm. -Which we currently don't have the budget for. 94 00:06:08,672 --> 00:06:11,458 I follow. I was thinking, why do you need us? 95 00:06:11,588 --> 00:06:13,373 -[LAUGHS] -Tell me more. 96 00:06:19,988 --> 00:06:22,382 [SIGHS] 97 00:06:32,392 --> 00:06:34,959 Absolutely. And I've tried to partner with them, 98 00:06:35,090 --> 00:06:37,745 and it's just not something that they're interested in. 99 00:06:37,875 --> 00:06:42,619 They only serve men and this is already a male-dominated field. 100 00:06:48,016 --> 00:06:50,714 But you know what? We got really close. That's great. 101 00:06:50,845 --> 00:06:53,587 Next time we'll be closer. I mean, there are so many other potential donors 102 00:06:53,717 --> 00:06:59,070 -who'd be into this. -Jess, Jess. I'm so sorry, but this is not your job. 103 00:06:59,201 --> 00:07:02,422 I think this is a good opportunity for you to refocus. 104 00:07:02,509 --> 00:07:05,033 This project is a great, great idea, 105 00:07:05,163 --> 00:07:11,256 but I think for now it's best if we focus on the basics of what we do. 106 00:07:11,387 --> 00:07:15,522 We're not where I'd like us to be in terms of the gala. 107 00:07:15,652 --> 00:07:18,873 -Okay. -Have you sent out the "save the date" email? 108 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:21,963 I will do that right now. 109 00:07:23,138 --> 00:07:24,269 Yeah. 110 00:07:32,974 --> 00:07:38,501 -Hey, we can just order food. -No, this'll take me like two seconds. 111 00:07:38,588 --> 00:07:41,548 Okay, just don't make it like a whole production. 112 00:07:41,678 --> 00:07:44,942 -Oh, some people just say, "Thank you, Jess." -Thank you, Jess. 113 00:07:45,029 --> 00:07:49,686 -Huh. -Hey, how's, um, Nate? 114 00:07:49,817 --> 00:07:52,515 -Um... -Oh, okay. You don't have to talk about it 115 00:07:52,646 --> 00:07:56,432 -if you don't want to. -No, no, you're fine. Um... 116 00:07:56,519 --> 00:08:00,523 He clearly wants to get married, and I don't think it's that kind of a relationship. 117 00:08:00,654 --> 00:08:03,570 -No, I think he's great. -He is great, he's just boring. 118 00:08:03,657 --> 00:08:07,182 You don't understand, babe. Jess is only attracted to emotionally unavailable men. 119 00:08:07,312 --> 00:08:10,402 Uh, false. I'm also attracted to men who live in different cities from me. 120 00:08:10,533 --> 00:08:15,016 -Yeah, right, right. Geographically unavailable men. -[JESS LAUGHS] 121 00:08:15,146 --> 00:08:18,759 How far along are you? 122 00:08:18,846 --> 00:08:22,327 -I am 32 weeks. -Oh, my God! 123 00:08:22,458 --> 00:08:24,504 -Congratulations! -Thank you. What about you? 124 00:08:24,634 --> 00:08:27,071 -Um, ten weeks. -Oh. 125 00:08:27,158 --> 00:08:29,421 But it's not mine. 126 00:08:29,552 --> 00:08:32,903 Biologically-- biologically it is. 127 00:08:32,990 --> 00:08:35,253 But I... [CLEARS THROAT] 128 00:08:35,384 --> 00:08:39,780 I'm a surrogate for my two best friends. 129 00:08:39,910 --> 00:08:43,087 Oh. Wow. That's really cool. 130 00:08:43,218 --> 00:08:46,308 -I could never do that. -Oh, you know, people say that all the time. 131 00:08:46,438 --> 00:08:48,789 But I'm like, no, I think you could. 132 00:08:48,876 --> 00:08:53,315 I mean, I don't know you. But I feel like anyone could. 133 00:08:53,445 --> 00:08:55,404 Wow. 134 00:09:05,196 --> 00:09:09,374 -Sorry. -No, we're totally fine. 135 00:09:09,461 --> 00:09:11,986 We are gonna be late. 136 00:09:16,425 --> 00:09:21,256 The test came back positive for Down syndrome. Trisomy 21. 137 00:09:21,386 --> 00:09:24,694 As I mentioned, the test is 99 percent accurate. 138 00:09:24,825 --> 00:09:28,611 False positives are extremely rare. 139 00:09:28,742 --> 00:09:34,225 I have a genetic counselor I can recommend who can guide you through your options. 140 00:09:34,356 --> 00:09:37,751 I can also give you the information of a great community center 141 00:09:37,881 --> 00:09:41,189 if you want to learn more about Down syndrome. 142 00:09:44,018 --> 00:09:46,586 There's nothing you did that caused this, 143 00:09:46,716 --> 00:09:52,156 and we have no reason to believe at this point that the fetus isn't perfectly healthy. 144 00:09:52,287 --> 00:09:54,681 It just has an extra chromosome. 145 00:09:57,118 --> 00:09:59,163 If you want to get pregnant again in the future, 146 00:09:59,294 --> 00:10:01,992 we have no reason to believe that you're any more likely 147 00:10:02,123 --> 00:10:05,909 than anyone else to have another child with Down syndrome. 148 00:10:09,913 --> 00:10:13,395 Now, do you have any questions for me? 149 00:10:44,992 --> 00:10:47,734 Josh, you okay in there? 150 00:10:47,864 --> 00:10:50,824 [SHOWER RUNNING] 151 00:10:57,569 --> 00:10:59,397 Josh? 152 00:11:00,921 --> 00:11:04,402 -How you doing? -JOSH: Hey. 153 00:11:07,667 --> 00:11:11,714 You know you've been in there for like 45 minutes, right? 154 00:11:11,845 --> 00:11:18,025 -JOSH: Oh. I have? -Yeah. You're gonna be pruney. 155 00:11:18,155 --> 00:11:22,072 [TV PLAYS INDISTINCTLY] 156 00:11:30,298 --> 00:11:34,171 Aaron's on his way back. Do you want to get something for dinner? 157 00:11:34,302 --> 00:11:38,785 -I'm not hungry. -Well, you have to eat something. 158 00:11:39,786 --> 00:11:42,266 Do you think I came across, like...? 159 00:11:42,397 --> 00:11:45,008 What? 160 00:11:45,139 --> 00:11:47,532 Like I actively wanted him to go to work 161 00:11:47,619 --> 00:11:49,186 because I didn't want him around today? 162 00:11:49,317 --> 00:11:52,537 -No, no. -I just don't want to be a burden. 163 00:11:52,668 --> 00:11:54,148 I feel like I've been so much to... 164 00:11:54,278 --> 00:11:57,020 No. Hey, you're not a burden. 165 00:11:57,151 --> 00:11:59,806 I just, like, I want him to be able to process, 166 00:11:59,893 --> 00:12:02,417 you know, without feeling like he's... you know. 167 00:12:02,547 --> 00:12:05,550 -[PHONE VIBRATES] -Yeah. 168 00:12:11,121 --> 00:12:16,039 -[PHONE VIBRATES] -[SIGHS] Oh... 169 00:12:21,262 --> 00:12:23,568 -Hi. -WOMAN: Hi. 170 00:12:23,655 --> 00:12:27,355 -Hey, can we talk later? -What's wrong? 171 00:12:27,485 --> 00:12:30,445 Nothing. Uh... 172 00:12:32,621 --> 00:12:35,885 Josh, are you there? 173 00:12:38,845 --> 00:12:43,023 We can talk later. Just tell me why you're upset. 174 00:12:51,858 --> 00:12:53,860 Hey, Jodi, this is Jess. 175 00:12:53,990 --> 00:12:57,559 Jess. Hi, dear. What's going on? 176 00:12:57,689 --> 00:13:00,344 We just got some news today. 177 00:13:34,988 --> 00:13:39,644 I hate the lines. I think they need to be more prominent. 178 00:13:39,731 --> 00:13:41,733 -Okay. Sure. -Thicker, maybe? 179 00:13:41,821 --> 00:13:45,215 And the color... I don't know. 180 00:13:57,575 --> 00:14:03,016 -Did you guys sleep last night? -Sort of. 181 00:14:07,107 --> 00:14:10,414 Jess? Josh and Aaron! Oh, my God! 182 00:14:10,545 --> 00:14:14,592 -Dave and Kevin! -Alex just told us the good news. Mazel tov! 183 00:14:14,723 --> 00:14:19,075 -Oh, thank you. We're excited. -It's really exciting. 184 00:14:19,162 --> 00:14:21,512 -What week is it? -Uh, 13. 185 00:14:21,643 --> 00:14:24,472 -Oh, wow. -Do we know the gender yet? 186 00:14:24,602 --> 00:14:27,040 -Not yet. -Oh. 187 00:14:27,170 --> 00:14:30,043 Don't ask that. That is... It's just so insane 188 00:14:30,173 --> 00:14:31,740 that we even gender at birth, right? 189 00:14:31,827 --> 00:14:34,351 Yeah. Totally. Um... 190 00:14:34,482 --> 00:14:38,268 Well, it was really good to see you guys. I hope you're doing well. 191 00:14:38,355 --> 00:14:41,489 Oh, yeah, totally. Likewise. And... 192 00:14:41,619 --> 00:14:44,753 -We'll just... -Yeah. How about we see if there's a table outside. 193 00:14:44,884 --> 00:14:46,668 -We were gonna... -We were gonna sit outside. 194 00:14:46,798 --> 00:14:48,757 -Oh, great. -Okay, enjoy. 195 00:14:48,888 --> 00:14:51,716 -See you. Bye. -Good seeing you. 196 00:15:05,817 --> 00:15:10,344 So are you guys gonna go to that community center that Nadine mentioned? 197 00:15:10,474 --> 00:15:14,174 Um... I don't know. We haven't really talked about it yet. 198 00:15:14,304 --> 00:15:18,700 I, um... I mean, I knew somebody with Down syndrome growing up, so... 199 00:15:18,830 --> 00:15:21,877 -You did? -I don't really... yeah. My friend Kelsey's brother. 200 00:15:21,964 --> 00:15:28,014 Oh. Well, um, aren't you curious to get a sense of the community here? 201 00:15:28,144 --> 00:15:32,322 Uh, yeah. We were just... We have to find out when they're open. 202 00:15:32,453 --> 00:15:35,108 It's every afternoon except Sunday. 203 00:15:35,238 --> 00:15:37,284 Mm-hm. 204 00:15:39,373 --> 00:15:42,158 -Hi. -Hi. 205 00:15:42,245 --> 00:15:44,595 -Hi, sorry. Can I help you? -I'm Jess. 206 00:15:44,726 --> 00:15:47,511 -I called you earlier. -Oh, right. Oh, Jess. 207 00:15:47,642 --> 00:15:49,949 -Yes, thank you. Thank you for coming. -Hi. 208 00:15:50,079 --> 00:15:52,386 -And, uh, you're Aaron. Right? -Uh, Josh. 209 00:15:52,516 --> 00:15:55,606 -Oh, Josh. Nice to meet you. Welcome. -Nice to meet you. 210 00:15:55,737 --> 00:15:59,436 An activity session just started, actually, so let's... Oh, hey. 211 00:15:59,567 --> 00:16:01,786 -This is Malik. -Hi, Malik, I'm Jess. 212 00:16:01,917 --> 00:16:04,920 -Hi. -Jess. Josh. He's a great singer. 213 00:16:05,051 --> 00:16:07,053 -[LAUGHS] -Bye, Malik. 214 00:16:07,183 --> 00:16:09,794 -Okay, so just this way. -Okay. 215 00:16:09,881 --> 00:16:13,233 [INDISTINCT CHATTER] 216 00:16:29,945 --> 00:16:32,948 Hi. [CHUCKLES] 217 00:16:38,345 --> 00:16:40,347 What are you guys playing with? 218 00:16:40,477 --> 00:16:42,566 Yeah. 219 00:16:43,437 --> 00:16:45,091 You wanna...? 220 00:16:47,093 --> 00:16:50,444 You put it in here and then... 221 00:16:50,574 --> 00:16:53,577 [INDISTINCT CHATTER CONTINUES] 222 00:16:53,708 --> 00:16:55,666 JESS: I don't know. 223 00:16:58,408 --> 00:17:00,193 Hey! 224 00:17:00,323 --> 00:17:02,934 Hey! What's your name? 225 00:17:03,065 --> 00:17:05,850 Hey, Leon. Can I look in there? 226 00:17:07,678 --> 00:17:09,941 Wait, where am I? 227 00:17:10,072 --> 00:17:11,508 Oh! 228 00:17:12,814 --> 00:17:14,729 Oh, man, you're taking me away! 229 00:17:14,859 --> 00:17:16,557 You're taking me away! 230 00:17:16,644 --> 00:17:18,080 What? Okay. 231 00:17:23,738 --> 00:17:26,175 WOMAN: Leon! 232 00:17:26,306 --> 00:17:29,352 What's all this money on the floor? 233 00:17:30,832 --> 00:17:33,226 There he is! 234 00:17:33,313 --> 00:17:36,185 [INDISTINCT CHATTER] 235 00:17:36,316 --> 00:17:39,710 [ALL SHOUTING] 236 00:17:42,713 --> 00:17:44,933 WOMAN: Wesley, where's yellow? 237 00:17:45,064 --> 00:17:48,241 -Ah! -Where's yellow? 238 00:17:48,371 --> 00:17:51,374 [CHEERING, CLAPPING] 239 00:17:51,505 --> 00:17:53,463 Give me five! 240 00:17:54,986 --> 00:17:57,511 Oh! Are you okay? 241 00:17:57,641 --> 00:18:02,211 -Where? -You can give me five. Yeah. 242 00:18:02,298 --> 00:18:06,520 WOMAN: V! Another easy one. 243 00:18:06,650 --> 00:18:09,349 ALL: W! 244 00:18:09,479 --> 00:18:12,482 -WOMAN: Here we go. -ALL: X! 245 00:18:12,613 --> 00:18:15,181 -WOMAN: Yes, exactly, X! -Good job. 246 00:18:15,311 --> 00:18:17,922 ALL: Y! 247 00:18:18,009 --> 00:18:19,924 WOMAN: And for a Z, you just draw a Z. 248 00:18:20,011 --> 00:18:24,103 ALL: Z! 249 00:18:24,190 --> 00:18:27,193 WOMAN: And then now... 250 00:18:27,323 --> 00:18:31,197 [INDISTINCT CHATTER] 251 00:18:31,284 --> 00:18:34,852 Hi, hi. How's it going? 252 00:18:34,983 --> 00:18:37,855 -Hi, Patrick. -Hi. I'm Jess. 253 00:18:37,986 --> 00:18:39,335 Hi, I'm Rachel. Nice to meet you. 254 00:18:39,466 --> 00:18:41,424 -Josh. -Josh, hi. Sandra. 255 00:18:41,511 --> 00:18:43,905 -I'm Jess. -Sandra. I... 256 00:18:44,035 --> 00:18:46,255 -Excuse us. -Bye, nice to see you. 257 00:18:46,386 --> 00:18:50,738 -Bye. -My son used to come here, but, you know, he's grown now. 258 00:18:50,868 --> 00:18:53,915 But you, uh... you don't wanna get rid of him, do you? 259 00:18:54,045 --> 00:18:56,047 -No. -No, okay. Good to see you. 260 00:18:56,178 --> 00:18:57,701 -Yeah. -You're here. 261 00:18:57,832 --> 00:18:59,834 -Preggers? -Uh, yes, I am. 262 00:18:59,964 --> 00:19:01,923 -Congratulations. -I will actually-- thank you. 263 00:19:02,010 --> 00:19:04,926 -I'll let you guys get caught up and I'll be right back. -Yeah, sure. 264 00:19:05,056 --> 00:19:06,580 SANDRA: Thanks. 265 00:19:06,710 --> 00:19:09,539 -Hey. Hey! -Hi. 266 00:19:09,626 --> 00:19:12,368 Um, I just want to tell you I love your dress. 267 00:19:12,499 --> 00:19:15,806 -Oh, thanks. -Where did you get it from? 268 00:19:15,937 --> 00:19:18,069 We can't-- we have to leave this here. 269 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,202 Play with it-- I know. Okay, two more times. 270 00:19:20,333 --> 00:19:23,814 -I think this is vintage. -Oh, that's amazing. 271 00:19:23,945 --> 00:19:25,990 -Did you get it here? -No, Chicago. 272 00:19:26,121 --> 00:19:28,341 Oh, of course. All the stores here are so picked over, right? 273 00:19:28,428 --> 00:19:30,125 Leon, honey, this has to stay here. 274 00:19:30,256 --> 00:19:32,345 -Hey! -Let's go, my love. Let's go. 275 00:19:32,432 --> 00:19:33,868 We'll do it next time. Out the door. 276 00:19:33,998 --> 00:19:37,306 Bye, Leon! I'm Jess. It was really great to meet you! 277 00:19:37,437 --> 00:19:40,266 WOMAN: Bye, nice to see you, Leon! 278 00:19:41,702 --> 00:19:43,834 It was really nice to meet you. Thank you. 279 00:19:43,965 --> 00:19:46,620 Yeah, anytime. Just give me an email, give me a shout. 280 00:19:46,750 --> 00:19:48,752 Actually, I think we have time for coffee. 281 00:19:48,883 --> 00:19:50,928 -Is there a coffee shop somewhere nearby? -Sure. 282 00:19:51,059 --> 00:19:52,582 -Uh... okay? -That's a great idea. 283 00:19:52,713 --> 00:19:54,062 -Yeah. -You're good with people? 284 00:19:54,193 --> 00:19:55,890 I am, yeah, yeah. Go, go, go. 285 00:19:56,020 --> 00:20:00,851 Well, Jason's... he's in this program at UCLA, 286 00:20:00,982 --> 00:20:06,988 which is great, but it's... it's really hard not having him around. 287 00:20:07,118 --> 00:20:10,861 He's... he's just my Zen master, he's... 288 00:20:10,992 --> 00:20:13,255 He just reminds me to smell the flowers. 289 00:20:13,342 --> 00:20:15,866 He's like, "Here, smell this flower." 290 00:20:15,997 --> 00:20:17,912 You know, not having him here, it's... 291 00:20:18,042 --> 00:20:20,871 Oh, I just... I'm just relapsing into old habits. 292 00:20:21,002 --> 00:20:23,178 I'm sorry, I'm talking your ear off. 293 00:20:23,309 --> 00:20:26,050 No, no. What about your old habits? 294 00:20:26,181 --> 00:20:28,836 Oh, just old anxieties. 295 00:20:28,966 --> 00:20:32,579 I just... I was raised in this very competitive household, 296 00:20:32,709 --> 00:20:35,234 I went to Princeton for like three consecutive programs. 297 00:20:35,364 --> 00:20:37,714 I mean, just imagine this pressure cooker, 298 00:20:37,845 --> 00:20:39,673 and all these people running around terrified, 299 00:20:39,803 --> 00:20:41,805 really having to prove how smart they are. 300 00:20:41,936 --> 00:20:45,896 -My mom is a dean at Yale, so... -So, okay, you know. You know. 301 00:20:46,027 --> 00:20:49,073 All right. So then Jason, he just... 302 00:20:49,204 --> 00:20:51,424 [SIGHS] He just... 303 00:20:51,554 --> 00:20:53,904 He just snapped me right out of it, yeah. 304 00:20:54,035 --> 00:20:57,125 He... he just... 305 00:20:57,256 --> 00:21:00,955 He just taught me everything... everything. 306 00:21:02,652 --> 00:21:05,873 Really realigned. Taught me everything. 307 00:21:06,003 --> 00:21:08,092 Yeah. I'm... 308 00:21:08,223 --> 00:21:09,703 That sounds really New Agey. 309 00:21:09,833 --> 00:21:12,575 Oh, Josh and I met at Sarah Lawrence. 310 00:21:12,706 --> 00:21:15,709 -Oh! Oh. -Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 311 00:21:15,839 --> 00:21:18,799 The hardest part of this pregnancy has been not drinking kombucha. 312 00:21:18,929 --> 00:21:20,888 Yeah. No, no, no. 313 00:21:53,224 --> 00:21:56,184 [PHONE VIBRATES] 314 00:21:58,752 --> 00:22:02,669 Hey. Hey, what's up? Is everything okay? 315 00:22:06,237 --> 00:22:10,024 -How's your mom? -Mm... [LAUGHS] 316 00:22:10,154 --> 00:22:12,896 Um... 317 00:22:12,983 --> 00:22:15,334 I've been avoiding her. 318 00:22:17,248 --> 00:22:20,991 No need to stress her out, you know? 319 00:22:21,122 --> 00:22:24,081 By that I mean no need to stress me out with her stress. 320 00:22:24,212 --> 00:22:26,127 Mm-hm. 321 00:22:29,130 --> 00:22:32,394 Have you been in touch with your friend Kelsey? 322 00:22:34,178 --> 00:22:36,050 Because of her brother with Down syndrome? 323 00:22:36,180 --> 00:22:40,228 -Mm-hm. -Mm... 324 00:22:40,315 --> 00:22:44,798 No, her... her brother died years ago. 325 00:22:44,885 --> 00:22:47,017 -Fuck. -Yeah. 326 00:22:47,104 --> 00:22:48,367 What was his name? 327 00:22:49,977 --> 00:22:52,632 Devon. 328 00:22:52,762 --> 00:22:55,939 Did you have a relationship with him? 329 00:22:56,070 --> 00:22:58,899 He wasn't really somebody you could have a relationship with. 330 00:22:59,029 --> 00:23:01,118 What does that mean? 331 00:23:01,249 --> 00:23:04,426 He didn't seem to know whether you were in the room with him or not. 332 00:23:04,557 --> 00:23:08,387 I'm sure he was aware of your presence, even if he couldn't show it. 333 00:23:08,474 --> 00:23:12,347 -You never met this person, Jess. -Yeah, but... 334 00:23:14,175 --> 00:23:17,134 Okay. You're right. 335 00:23:23,837 --> 00:23:26,927 Aaron was saying... 336 00:23:27,014 --> 00:23:32,759 he doesn't know if we can afford it. 337 00:23:32,846 --> 00:23:34,891 I mean, having a kid with Down syndrome, 338 00:23:35,022 --> 00:23:39,113 it requires a lot. 339 00:23:40,331 --> 00:23:44,031 Okay. Um... 340 00:23:44,161 --> 00:23:47,034 -So are you saying...? -I don't know. 341 00:23:47,164 --> 00:23:52,561 It's like nothing... nothing feels like the right decision. 342 00:23:52,692 --> 00:23:57,218 -I don't know. I don't know. -Okay, you don't have to know right now. 343 00:23:57,348 --> 00:23:59,263 It's only week 13. 344 00:24:10,666 --> 00:24:12,451 Oh... 345 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,052 -Thanks for coming. It was a good turnout. -Yeah. 346 00:24:49,183 --> 00:24:52,403 -Nice harmonizing, by the way. -Oh, thank you. 347 00:24:52,534 --> 00:24:55,145 I wanted to tell you we're having a party here on the 21st. 348 00:24:55,276 --> 00:24:56,451 -Okay. -So... 349 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:00,847 -Hey. -Hey. 350 00:25:00,977 --> 00:25:02,588 I'm going this way too. 351 00:25:02,718 --> 00:25:04,633 Sorry, remind me of your name? 352 00:25:04,764 --> 00:25:07,462 I'm Jess. And you're Bridget, right? 353 00:25:07,549 --> 00:25:09,638 -And Leon? -Good memory. 354 00:25:09,769 --> 00:25:11,771 [LAUGHS] Thanks. 355 00:25:11,901 --> 00:25:14,817 -So what do you do? -Mommy, look. 356 00:25:14,948 --> 00:25:18,995 -[BOTH LAUGH] -Look at these bubbles. 357 00:25:19,126 --> 00:25:21,737 -Um, what do I... -Yeah, what do you do? 358 00:25:21,868 --> 00:25:23,347 -For a living? -Uh-huh. 359 00:25:23,478 --> 00:25:26,133 Oh. I, um... I run a catering business. 360 00:25:26,263 --> 00:25:29,179 -Oh, awesome. -How about you? 361 00:25:29,266 --> 00:25:33,488 JESS: I work for a nonprofit that provides classes for incarcerated women. 362 00:25:33,619 --> 00:25:37,144 -Wow. -Yeah, I'm basically just a glorified social media manager. 363 00:25:37,274 --> 00:25:40,800 And so are you volunteering at the center? 364 00:25:40,930 --> 00:25:44,586 Oh, um, I'm actually just here for information. I'm pregnant. 365 00:25:44,673 --> 00:25:47,371 I'm a surrogate for my two best friends. 366 00:25:47,502 --> 00:25:50,461 -And, um... -That guy you were with last time? 367 00:25:50,592 --> 00:25:55,554 Yeah, yeah. But I'd love to talk to you some more about everything, 368 00:25:55,684 --> 00:25:57,730 if you maybe have time for coffee sometime? 369 00:25:57,860 --> 00:26:00,384 -Well, I'm trying to quit caffeine. -Oh! 370 00:26:01,908 --> 00:26:04,432 Do you remember that kid Leon? 371 00:26:04,563 --> 00:26:08,218 -JOSH: No. -One of the kids from the community center? 372 00:26:08,349 --> 00:26:12,483 JOSH: Oh, okay. Yeah, I don't remember their names. 373 00:26:12,614 --> 00:26:15,225 I actually went back there today. 374 00:26:15,356 --> 00:26:18,011 Aaron, you gotta come. This kid is amazing. 375 00:26:18,141 --> 00:26:20,013 -AARON: Yeah? -Wait. You went back? 376 00:26:20,100 --> 00:26:21,449 JESS: Yeah, I just wanted to. 377 00:26:21,580 --> 00:26:23,451 And I knew you two couldn't take off work. 378 00:26:23,582 --> 00:26:26,715 Plus, I just feel like personally I had a lot 379 00:26:26,846 --> 00:26:31,024 of preconceived notions and so it's good to be there and be like, "Oh!" 380 00:26:31,154 --> 00:26:35,681 I was reading one of the books that the midwife recommended, 381 00:26:35,811 --> 00:26:38,945 and in it, it talks about how until pretty recently it was the norm 382 00:26:39,075 --> 00:26:42,035 to institutionalize children with Down syndrome. 383 00:26:42,165 --> 00:26:45,299 And in those institutions, they didn't teach them to read or write. 384 00:26:45,386 --> 00:26:47,606 They just assumed that they couldn't. 385 00:26:47,736 --> 00:26:50,870 And so a lot of those kids grew up to have problems 386 00:26:50,957 --> 00:26:52,828 because of how they were raised. 387 00:26:52,959 --> 00:26:56,353 And there was a ton of horrific abuse going on. 388 00:26:56,484 --> 00:27:00,401 And that was true for pretty much everyone with Down syndrome. 389 00:27:00,531 --> 00:27:03,622 And then in the '70s, there was this incredible mom 390 00:27:03,709 --> 00:27:05,667 who just did not accept those limitations. 391 00:27:05,798 --> 00:27:09,845 She... she assumed that her son could read if he was taught, 392 00:27:09,932 --> 00:27:13,109 and she was right. 393 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,025 And that one story, that changed the whole community, 394 00:27:16,156 --> 00:27:20,464 and how they perceived, you know, what was possible. 395 00:27:20,595 --> 00:27:22,771 -It was amazing. You guys should read it. -Mm. 396 00:27:22,858 --> 00:27:25,774 Yeah, that's super interesting. 397 00:27:27,820 --> 00:27:30,213 -Uh, dinner's ready. -JESS: Okay. 398 00:27:30,344 --> 00:27:33,173 -Aaron. -Mm, looks good. 399 00:27:49,624 --> 00:27:51,408 Water. 400 00:27:51,539 --> 00:27:54,585 Um... this. 401 00:28:00,069 --> 00:28:02,158 Can I? 402 00:28:07,207 --> 00:28:09,818 -Take that? -Thank you. 403 00:28:12,299 --> 00:28:14,127 Bon appetit. 404 00:28:16,303 --> 00:28:18,174 Thanks, man. 405 00:28:20,089 --> 00:28:22,396 Mm. 406 00:28:22,526 --> 00:28:25,921 -This is so good. Thank you. -I'm glad you like it. 407 00:28:32,362 --> 00:28:36,802 Mm. You know, it would be really cool if we could hang out with Leon's family. 408 00:28:36,932 --> 00:28:39,195 He has the most amazing mom. 409 00:28:39,326 --> 00:28:41,720 Sure. Maybe. 410 00:28:41,850 --> 00:28:44,853 I mean, I was thinking maybe this week. 411 00:29:07,876 --> 00:29:10,792 Hey, Bridget. I'm so sorry to bug you. 412 00:29:10,923 --> 00:29:15,318 Um, but I just wanted to know if you wanted to get together this weekend. 413 00:29:15,449 --> 00:29:18,713 Um, I'm more than happy to come to your neighborhood 414 00:29:18,844 --> 00:29:23,109 or I can meet you on your lunch break, whatever is easiest for you. 415 00:29:23,239 --> 00:29:26,242 Just let me know. Okay, bye. 416 00:29:34,773 --> 00:29:36,470 Oh, this is it. 417 00:29:38,472 --> 00:29:41,214 [KNOCKING] 418 00:29:41,344 --> 00:29:43,520 -Hey. Hi, come on in. -Hey! 419 00:29:43,651 --> 00:29:44,739 -Thank you. -Hi. 420 00:29:44,870 --> 00:29:46,262 -Hi, I'm Josh. -Bridget. 421 00:29:46,393 --> 00:29:47,307 -It's nice to meet you. -Hi, nice to meet you. 422 00:29:47,437 --> 00:29:48,743 -Aaron. -Hi, Bridget. 423 00:29:48,874 --> 00:29:50,179 -Come on in. -Thanks for having us. 424 00:29:50,310 --> 00:29:52,312 -Absolutely. -Oh! Hey! 425 00:29:52,399 --> 00:29:55,271 Um, I know you said not to bring anything, but... 426 00:29:55,402 --> 00:29:57,534 Oh, thank you. 427 00:29:57,621 --> 00:29:59,885 Um, do you guys have chocolate? 428 00:30:00,015 --> 00:30:01,408 Do you have a dietary restriction? 429 00:30:01,538 --> 00:30:03,584 No, no, I just... [MOUTHING] 430 00:30:03,714 --> 00:30:07,283 -Oh, yes, I'm so sorry. -No, no, it's fine. Thank you. 431 00:30:07,414 --> 00:30:09,024 -Hey. -Hi! 432 00:30:09,111 --> 00:30:11,200 -Hey, I'm Dan. -Josh. Thank you for having us. 433 00:30:11,331 --> 00:30:13,550 -Hey, Aaron. Hi. -Aaron, nice to meet you. 434 00:30:13,681 --> 00:30:16,771 -Hey, I'm Jess. -Jess! Hey. 435 00:30:16,902 --> 00:30:19,078 -JESS: Hey! -You are too heavy for this. 436 00:30:19,208 --> 00:30:21,254 Say hi. You wanna give him a hug? 437 00:30:21,384 --> 00:30:25,519 -Hi. How are you? -ALL: Aw! 438 00:30:25,649 --> 00:30:29,784 -Nice to meet you. -Do you wanna give Aaron a hug? 439 00:30:29,915 --> 00:30:33,092 -LEON: Come. -Sure. Where are we going, man? 440 00:30:33,222 --> 00:30:37,009 -DAN: You guys want anything to drink? -Um, what are you having? 441 00:30:37,139 --> 00:30:38,662 -Seltzer. -JESS: I'll have seltzer also. 442 00:30:38,793 --> 00:30:40,142 -Seltzer? -AARON: What are you having? 443 00:30:40,273 --> 00:30:42,536 Beer. Yeah, Josh? 444 00:30:42,666 --> 00:30:46,496 Oh, uh, yeah. Just a water or whatever you're... 445 00:30:46,627 --> 00:30:48,629 -Whatever you guys are having. -You sure? 446 00:30:48,716 --> 00:30:51,284 -Yeah. -BRIDGET: Have a beer, come on. 447 00:30:51,414 --> 00:30:53,286 -You're having a beer? -Don't peer pressure him. 448 00:30:53,416 --> 00:30:55,810 -Yeah. Yeah, I'll have a beer. -Okay. 449 00:30:55,941 --> 00:30:57,420 -Oh, thank you. -They're twist-off. 450 00:30:57,507 --> 00:30:59,727 -Okay. -JESS: He's sharing the blueberries? 451 00:30:59,858 --> 00:31:02,991 -I love it. -Yeah. 452 00:31:03,078 --> 00:31:05,080 Oh, thank you. Thank you so much. 453 00:31:05,211 --> 00:31:10,869 [LEON CHATTING INDISTINCTLY] 454 00:31:10,999 --> 00:31:15,351 DAN: Yeah? You wanna come out and join us out here? 455 00:31:15,438 --> 00:31:17,310 -What's up? -No, thank you. 456 00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:19,051 BRIDGET: "No thank you" on the orange? 457 00:31:19,181 --> 00:31:21,880 -Okay, manners. -I'm gonna try this. 458 00:31:22,010 --> 00:31:24,491 -You want cheese? Okay. -Yes. 459 00:31:24,578 --> 00:31:28,625 -I'm gonna make this a little... -JESS: Oh, okay. Ooh! Okay. 460 00:31:28,756 --> 00:31:30,497 -Look at this. -Mini pizza. 461 00:31:30,627 --> 00:31:33,456 -Happy birthday. -Happy birthday to you! 462 00:31:33,587 --> 00:31:36,155 -Thank you! -JOSH: Happy birthday. 463 00:31:36,285 --> 00:31:38,853 -Is it his birthday? -No. 464 00:31:38,984 --> 00:31:41,987 -It's not his birthday. -He's just joking. 465 00:31:42,074 --> 00:31:43,684 JOSH: It's everybody's birthday. 466 00:31:43,771 --> 00:31:46,165 DAN: What? You want a drink? 467 00:31:46,252 --> 00:31:47,731 -I need this. -You need this? 468 00:31:47,862 --> 00:31:49,690 Another one? Can you eat this one first? 469 00:31:49,820 --> 00:31:53,694 -LEON: Okay. -Okay. Thank you. 470 00:31:53,824 --> 00:31:59,526 Well, the food is great. I mean, Ina Garten would be so lucky to get invited here. 471 00:31:59,656 --> 00:32:02,442 -Bridget hates Ina Garten. -I don't hate her. 472 00:32:02,529 --> 00:32:06,011 I think the whole barefoot thing is a little forced. 473 00:32:06,141 --> 00:32:07,926 -Okay. -She's a little uptight. 474 00:32:08,013 --> 00:32:09,405 -Yeah, okay. -For shoes off. 475 00:32:09,536 --> 00:32:12,104 -And the name Ina. -And the name Ina? 476 00:32:12,234 --> 00:32:14,280 It makes me uncomfortable. 477 00:32:14,410 --> 00:32:18,545 Anyway, moving on. How's that taste? 478 00:32:18,675 --> 00:32:20,242 Oh... 479 00:32:22,592 --> 00:32:24,768 So... [CLEARS THROAT] 480 00:32:24,855 --> 00:32:29,991 Do you guys have any questions for me or...? 481 00:32:30,122 --> 00:32:33,777 -Um... -JESS: Um... 482 00:32:33,864 --> 00:32:39,392 Well, I guess, um, you guys could just tell us what you wish you knew before. 483 00:32:44,397 --> 00:32:50,055 I guess just like logistically, there's just a lot to handle. 484 00:32:50,185 --> 00:32:53,101 I underestimated how much time I would spend on the phone... 485 00:32:53,232 --> 00:32:56,800 -Right. -...advocating and fighting for myself with bureaucrats. 486 00:32:56,931 --> 00:33:01,370 Yeah, I am more tired than I think we've ever 487 00:33:01,501 --> 00:33:04,417 imagined humanly possible. 488 00:33:04,504 --> 00:33:09,422 Well, forgive me if I'm wrong, but isn't all parents? 489 00:33:09,552 --> 00:33:13,600 -Uh-huh. -Hm. 490 00:33:17,125 --> 00:33:19,998 -JESS: And do you love his school? -BRIDGET: Yeah, we do. 491 00:33:20,085 --> 00:33:21,434 We really... we love it. 492 00:33:21,564 --> 00:33:24,437 It take us a really long time to find some... 493 00:33:24,567 --> 00:33:28,049 something I think that fit. Um... 494 00:33:28,180 --> 00:33:31,966 And don't get me wrong, it's extremely expensive. 495 00:33:32,097 --> 00:33:35,709 -Oh, is public school horrible for...? -BRIDGET: No, I don't mean that. 496 00:33:35,839 --> 00:33:39,539 I've heard great things. It's just once we found something we connected with, 497 00:33:39,669 --> 00:33:45,327 -we just... stayed. -Yeah, yeah. 498 00:33:45,458 --> 00:33:50,680 And you guys love the community center. Do you have fun there? 499 00:33:50,811 --> 00:33:54,684 Do I have fun? Um... I think it's great for Leon. 500 00:33:54,815 --> 00:33:57,339 -Mm-hm. -It's been wonderful for him. 501 00:33:57,470 --> 00:34:02,344 And, you know, Sandra's... she's incredibly... 502 00:34:02,431 --> 00:34:05,304 well connected, she's very well informed. 503 00:34:05,391 --> 00:34:10,396 We got a... we got a great pediatrician rec from her, so yeah. 504 00:34:14,878 --> 00:34:19,709 -Can I get you anything else? -No, but the food is spectacular. Thank you. 505 00:34:19,796 --> 00:34:21,885 Leon, did all the cooking. Right, Leon? 506 00:34:22,016 --> 00:34:23,365 -Yeah. -Yeah. 507 00:34:23,496 --> 00:34:24,888 -AARON: Good job, man. -Wonderful chef. 508 00:34:25,019 --> 00:34:26,629 You're a little chef? 509 00:34:30,198 --> 00:34:34,115 So do you not like Sandra? 510 00:34:34,246 --> 00:34:39,120 What-- why would you say that? 511 00:34:39,207 --> 00:34:42,036 -Oh... -No! No, no, no! I mean, she's great. 512 00:34:42,167 --> 00:34:45,866 Look, we don't have a lot in common. Um... 513 00:34:45,996 --> 00:34:49,304 -But no. -Please say more. 514 00:34:49,435 --> 00:34:54,004 -I... Oh, my God. -[LAUGHS] 515 00:34:54,135 --> 00:34:58,574 You know, I just sometimes feel like she... 516 00:34:58,705 --> 00:35:01,621 sort of uses her son like some sort of literary device. 517 00:35:01,751 --> 00:35:05,973 Like some sort of magical realism trope, like, um... 518 00:35:06,060 --> 00:35:08,932 You know, like he's some sort of unicorn. 519 00:35:09,063 --> 00:35:12,414 -Leon, honey. You finished? -Yeah. 520 00:35:12,501 --> 00:35:17,245 Yeah? Okay. Well, you out of here? 521 00:35:17,376 --> 00:35:22,424 -DAN: I got it. -Okay. I actually think she used the term 522 00:35:22,511 --> 00:35:27,212 "magical creature" once. And so I just... I... 523 00:35:27,342 --> 00:35:31,781 I don't know, I find her approach... 524 00:35:31,912 --> 00:35:33,870 objectifying. 525 00:35:35,045 --> 00:35:37,265 Mm-hm. Yeah. 526 00:35:39,702 --> 00:35:41,835 [LAUGHS] 527 00:35:41,965 --> 00:35:45,665 Look at all those hearts! 528 00:35:45,795 --> 00:35:48,537 Don't you like hearts? You like rainbows better? 529 00:35:48,668 --> 00:35:51,149 -Yes. -Yeah. Me too. 530 00:35:55,675 --> 00:35:57,894 That's good? You like this one? 531 00:35:58,025 --> 00:35:59,809 Hold on, I wanna see your face. 532 00:35:59,940 --> 00:36:01,637 I will wait. 533 00:36:01,768 --> 00:36:04,988 [PLAYING NOTES] 534 00:36:11,473 --> 00:36:15,347 -This one... this. -This one? All right. 535 00:36:15,477 --> 00:36:17,610 -[PLAYS MELODY] -Wait. 536 00:36:17,740 --> 00:36:20,003 I do it. 537 00:36:20,134 --> 00:36:22,397 -Let me try this. -Okay. 538 00:36:22,528 --> 00:36:25,008 -Try that one. Yeah. -This one? All right. 539 00:36:25,095 --> 00:36:27,837 -Tell me when to go. -Okay. 540 00:36:27,968 --> 00:36:32,190 [PLAYING NOTES] 541 00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:35,802 -He can play, right? -In house. In house. 542 00:36:35,889 --> 00:36:38,544 -In house? Yeah? -In house. 543 00:36:38,631 --> 00:36:41,286 Okay. Wanna do that one? 544 00:36:41,373 --> 00:36:44,463 -[MUSIC PLAYS] -AARON: Very good. 545 00:36:44,593 --> 00:36:47,683 -JESS: That's so good. -[LEON SINGS] 546 00:36:47,814 --> 00:36:50,991 [JESS SINGS] 547 00:36:51,121 --> 00:36:53,994 Um, guys, I think I'm just gonna take the subway. 548 00:36:54,081 --> 00:36:56,431 What, you sure? The Uber's a minute away. 549 00:36:56,562 --> 00:36:59,695 Yeah, but I have nausea, it's morning sickness. 550 00:36:59,826 --> 00:37:01,697 I don't really wanna be in the car, so... 551 00:37:01,784 --> 00:37:05,658 -But I love you. -I love you too. 552 00:37:05,788 --> 00:37:09,531 -See you. Love you. -Feel better. Yeah. Love you too. 553 00:37:17,844 --> 00:37:21,761 WOMAN ON COMPUTER: ...educated decision based on what life 554 00:37:21,891 --> 00:37:25,112 actually looks like for people living with Down syndrome in 2019. 555 00:37:25,243 --> 00:37:31,423 And so part of my job is to help them get these pamphlets out, 556 00:37:31,553 --> 00:37:34,252 get this current information out. 557 00:37:34,382 --> 00:37:38,299 And the thing that I love about the pamphlet is it does not say, 558 00:37:38,430 --> 00:37:41,781 "Down syndrome's amazing." No, what it does say 559 00:37:41,911 --> 00:37:47,526 is these are medical risks for people living with Down syndrome. 560 00:37:47,656 --> 00:37:52,139 Here is also this super beautiful baby, because that's Down syndrome. 561 00:37:52,270 --> 00:37:54,881 It's both sides of... it's honest. 562 00:37:55,011 --> 00:37:58,276 It's an honest and real representation of... 563 00:38:01,888 --> 00:38:04,499 JOSH: You were the one who said it's fine, it's the second trimester. 564 00:38:04,630 --> 00:38:06,675 AARON: And if I could take it back, I would. 565 00:38:06,806 --> 00:38:10,636 -JOSH: Too late. -AARON: Of course I know it's too late. 566 00:38:12,594 --> 00:38:17,295 Jess? Hey, is the... is the buzzer not working? 567 00:38:17,425 --> 00:38:20,167 Um, no, your Australian neighbor let me in. 568 00:38:20,298 --> 00:38:22,691 I'm actually gonna go grab a tea real quick. Do you guys want anything? 569 00:38:22,822 --> 00:38:24,476 Yeah, I'll make some tea. 570 00:38:24,606 --> 00:38:25,912 No, you need your alone time. 571 00:38:26,042 --> 00:38:28,218 No, we'd actually love to talk to you, um, now. 572 00:38:28,349 --> 00:38:29,829 So, what kind of tea do you want? 573 00:38:29,959 --> 00:38:33,659 No, no, I'm okay. Um... 574 00:38:33,789 --> 00:38:35,878 -Hey! -Hey. 575 00:38:36,009 --> 00:38:39,882 -Earl Grey okay? -No, Aaron, I'm really good. 576 00:38:40,013 --> 00:38:43,321 -Everything okay? -Mm-hm. 577 00:38:46,933 --> 00:38:48,674 AARON: So, um... 578 00:38:50,284 --> 00:38:51,851 We've been talking. 579 00:38:51,981 --> 00:38:53,548 And... 580 00:38:54,810 --> 00:38:57,465 You want an abortion. 581 00:39:01,208 --> 00:39:04,342 Yes, we want an abortion. 582 00:39:07,693 --> 00:39:11,436 -Okay. -Yeah? 583 00:39:11,566 --> 00:39:15,396 What do you mean? Of course. 584 00:39:15,527 --> 00:39:20,358 -I'm so sorry. -For what, babe? 585 00:39:33,153 --> 00:39:36,548 Mm-hm. 586 00:39:36,678 --> 00:39:39,507 Okay, yeah. That's fine. 587 00:39:42,031 --> 00:39:44,338 Okay, 8am. Okay. 588 00:39:46,862 --> 00:39:49,778 Thank you so much. All right, see you Tuesday. 589 00:39:49,865 --> 00:39:52,912 8am. Thank you. Bye. 590 00:39:56,306 --> 00:39:58,004 Hey, guys? 591 00:39:59,179 --> 00:40:02,704 Guys. Hey. 592 00:40:02,791 --> 00:40:05,098 What do you want to get for dinner? 593 00:40:05,228 --> 00:40:07,274 Um... 594 00:40:12,018 --> 00:40:16,109 -I'm easy. Whatever you want. -What do you want? 595 00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:19,329 Um... can we do Thai? 596 00:40:19,460 --> 00:40:21,244 -Thai it is. -Absolutely. 597 00:40:21,331 --> 00:40:24,030 -Yeah. -Okay. 598 00:40:53,015 --> 00:40:55,975 [SIGHS] 599 00:40:56,105 --> 00:40:59,021 Open your mouth, close your eyes. Give me your tongue. 600 00:40:59,152 --> 00:41:03,548 -[ALL SHOUTING] -Oh, my goodness! I can't believe you! 601 00:41:03,678 --> 00:41:05,506 -He's a daredevil. -Should I try? 602 00:41:05,637 --> 00:41:07,334 -Yeah. -I don't know if I can. 603 00:41:07,465 --> 00:41:10,772 I think it's gonna be too sour. 604 00:41:10,903 --> 00:41:13,775 [LAUGHS] 605 00:41:13,906 --> 00:41:15,168 -It's so sour. -Should she try it again? 606 00:41:15,298 --> 00:41:17,083 -Yeah. -Yeah? Oh! 607 00:41:17,170 --> 00:41:18,911 I don't like it. 608 00:41:20,260 --> 00:41:21,957 I have a surprise! 609 00:41:22,088 --> 00:41:25,047 Oh, my gosh! 610 00:41:28,094 --> 00:41:33,012 There was this one mom that I did really connect with. 611 00:41:33,099 --> 00:41:36,624 And Leon and her son really hit it off, but... 612 00:41:38,104 --> 00:41:41,890 she lived all the way in Washington Heights. 613 00:41:42,021 --> 00:41:46,329 So I did set up a few playdates, but honestly I just... 614 00:41:46,460 --> 00:41:49,245 -couldn't get there. -Hm. 615 00:41:49,376 --> 00:41:54,207 -Just like such a bad mom. -Oh, yeah. You're the worst mom. 616 00:41:54,337 --> 00:41:56,775 [LEON CHATTERING] 617 00:41:56,862 --> 00:41:59,734 I kind of am. [LAUGHS] 618 00:41:59,865 --> 00:42:02,694 Definitely gonna call Child Protective Services. 619 00:42:02,781 --> 00:42:06,828 -[LAUGHS] -I am letting an iPad raise my child half the time. 620 00:42:06,959 --> 00:42:10,745 [ANIMAL SOUND EFFECTS] 621 00:42:10,832 --> 00:42:13,792 Whoa, whoa, whoa. What did he press? 622 00:42:13,922 --> 00:42:15,576 -I don't know. -Hold on. 623 00:42:17,404 --> 00:42:20,450 Yeah. Um... 624 00:42:20,581 --> 00:42:24,933 I just need to ask a hypothetical question. 625 00:42:25,064 --> 00:42:27,283 Dad, are you still there? 626 00:42:28,807 --> 00:42:30,591 Um, when you guys were pregnant with me, 627 00:42:30,722 --> 00:42:33,551 did you do any prenatal testing? 628 00:42:35,161 --> 00:42:37,511 Really? 629 00:42:37,642 --> 00:42:40,688 Um, what would have done 630 00:42:40,819 --> 00:42:43,299 had it come back positive for sickle cell? 631 00:42:43,386 --> 00:42:45,475 Would you have aborted me? 632 00:43:02,841 --> 00:43:06,453 Oh, do you remember that law firm that you were clerking at 633 00:43:06,540 --> 00:43:08,673 -when you and Josh first started dating? -Yes. 634 00:43:08,803 --> 00:43:12,590 -[LAUGHS] -Do I remember? 635 00:43:12,720 --> 00:43:14,722 Well, um, I looked them up. 636 00:43:14,853 --> 00:43:16,898 And I know that they represented Exxon, 637 00:43:17,029 --> 00:43:22,600 but they also were on the good side of the Supreme Court gay marriage case. 638 00:43:22,730 --> 00:43:24,819 So they're not all bad. 639 00:43:24,950 --> 00:43:26,255 I don't understand. 640 00:43:26,342 --> 00:43:29,563 Maybe you could try to get a job there. 641 00:43:29,694 --> 00:43:33,523 Look, I know that you said money was such a major factor. 642 00:43:33,654 --> 00:43:38,267 And I get part of what makes Bridget's life possible is that they have money. 643 00:43:38,398 --> 00:43:42,228 Look, the firm that I'm at now is the perfect firm for me. 644 00:43:42,358 --> 00:43:47,015 You know, and it's not easy to just get a job at another law firm. It's... 645 00:43:50,018 --> 00:43:54,675 I... I'm just thinking of options. 646 00:43:56,068 --> 00:43:59,071 Jess, I just want you to know that we've... 647 00:43:59,201 --> 00:44:02,161 we've considered all of this, we thought about all the possible options. 648 00:44:02,291 --> 00:44:04,467 You know, it's not a decision that we just made flippantly. 649 00:44:04,598 --> 00:44:07,079 No, I know. I know. 650 00:44:10,343 --> 00:44:13,172 -Is everything okay? -Yeah. 651 00:44:13,302 --> 00:44:16,436 Yeah, just... I'm fine. 652 00:44:19,178 --> 00:44:21,615 [KNOCKING ON DOOR] 653 00:44:21,746 --> 00:44:23,922 -Hey. -Hey. 654 00:44:25,140 --> 00:44:28,927 Okay. So, um... 655 00:44:29,057 --> 00:44:32,626 What we are about to do means nothing. Okay? Do you promise? 656 00:44:32,713 --> 00:44:34,149 -Yeah, yeah. -It doesn't change anything between us. 657 00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:35,368 We are not getting back together. 658 00:44:35,498 --> 00:44:36,412 -Okay. -Okay, great. 659 00:44:36,543 --> 00:44:37,587 Okay. 660 00:44:54,213 --> 00:44:57,259 -Hm? -Mm... 661 00:44:57,390 --> 00:44:59,174 [GRUNTS] 662 00:45:03,744 --> 00:45:08,183 You... want some scrambled eggs? 663 00:45:10,055 --> 00:45:13,319 Let's just stay like this for a little bit. 664 00:45:13,449 --> 00:45:14,973 Okay. 665 00:45:28,334 --> 00:45:31,424 Thank you for this. 666 00:45:35,341 --> 00:45:40,085 I am here for you. 667 00:45:45,090 --> 00:45:47,440 -Hey. -Hm? 668 00:45:52,184 --> 00:45:53,925 How are you doing? 669 00:45:54,012 --> 00:46:00,018 Hm? No, like... like how are you really doing? 670 00:46:00,148 --> 00:46:05,240 -Uh... -Look, it's just that if I know what you are going through, 671 00:46:05,371 --> 00:46:09,201 then I'll have a better chance of being there for you. 672 00:46:09,331 --> 00:46:13,031 Uh... 673 00:46:13,161 --> 00:46:16,817 I actually don't think that's true. 674 00:46:16,948 --> 00:46:20,342 What? Wait, whoa, whoa, whoa. Whoa, whoa, whoa. 675 00:46:20,473 --> 00:46:24,129 -You don't think I can handle it? -No. 676 00:46:24,259 --> 00:46:26,740 No, I actually don't. 677 00:46:29,395 --> 00:46:33,051 -Really? -Yes. 678 00:47:12,481 --> 00:47:14,875 Hey. 679 00:47:15,006 --> 00:47:17,008 Thank you so for letting me stay with you guys. 680 00:47:17,138 --> 00:47:20,272 Oh, stop it. You can stay as long as you want. 681 00:47:20,402 --> 00:47:23,710 It'll be nice to have the extra childcare. 682 00:47:23,797 --> 00:47:26,191 [LAUGHS] 683 00:47:26,321 --> 00:47:32,284 Also, thank you for not asking me how I'm doing. 684 00:47:32,414 --> 00:47:34,416 Is that your way of saying you want me to ask how you're doing? 685 00:47:34,503 --> 00:47:38,464 No, no. It just means... you're not like scrutinizing me. 686 00:47:38,594 --> 00:47:42,120 I don't feel like I have to pretend like I'm okay around you. 687 00:47:42,250 --> 00:47:44,426 Good. 688 00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:55,698 What if I were to like have this kid on my own? 689 00:47:55,785 --> 00:47:58,788 You know? If I moved somewhere around here. 690 00:47:58,919 --> 00:48:01,356 -Would you help me? -Well... 691 00:48:01,487 --> 00:48:05,056 Jess, I'm not sure I'm well versed on Down syndrome. 692 00:48:05,186 --> 00:48:09,451 I know, but I'm not asking you to be like a physical therapist or anything. 693 00:48:09,538 --> 00:48:12,454 I'm just asking you, would you have my back? 694 00:48:12,585 --> 00:48:15,675 Of course I would. Yes, of course. 695 00:48:15,805 --> 00:48:17,590 Thank you. 696 00:48:18,634 --> 00:48:20,288 Eat those crackers. 697 00:48:20,419 --> 00:48:22,203 I mean, I shouldn't do it. 698 00:48:22,290 --> 00:48:24,771 It's probably a bad idea. You think it's a terrible idea. 699 00:48:24,902 --> 00:48:27,426 -I didn't say that. -But that's what you think, right? 700 00:48:27,556 --> 00:48:30,429 It's not for me to decide. 701 00:48:32,474 --> 00:48:34,389 What do you think, Winston? 702 00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,130 -[COUGHS] -Oh. 703 00:48:36,261 --> 00:48:39,786 -Oh, sweetie. -Little baby boy. 704 00:48:47,837 --> 00:48:49,665 WOMAN: Jessica? 705 00:48:51,145 --> 00:48:53,452 -Hi! -MAN: Hi, Jess. 706 00:48:53,582 --> 00:48:56,542 Hey, Dad. Um, one second. 707 00:48:56,672 --> 00:49:00,415 -[CLEARS THROAT] Hey. -Hey! 708 00:49:00,546 --> 00:49:02,548 Didn't know you guys were gonna be here. 709 00:49:02,678 --> 00:49:06,204 I'm sorry, what, am I not allowed to come and visit my grandbaby? 710 00:49:06,334 --> 00:49:11,383 Oh, well, she's at swim class, so... 711 00:49:11,513 --> 00:49:16,562 -[CLEARS THROAT] -You haven't been returning my calls. 712 00:49:16,692 --> 00:49:18,999 I know, I'm sorry. 713 00:49:19,130 --> 00:49:23,308 Well, you know, when you do that I get seriously worried. 714 00:49:23,438 --> 00:49:27,225 Um... serious question for you, 715 00:49:27,355 --> 00:49:31,011 as the trustee of my trust. 716 00:49:31,142 --> 00:49:34,058 Could I take out a hundred grand to put down...? 717 00:49:34,145 --> 00:49:35,450 -[LAUGHS] -Oh. 718 00:49:35,581 --> 00:49:37,931 It's for a down payment on a house. 719 00:49:38,018 --> 00:49:42,457 I'm thinking somewhere in Connecticut, halfway between here and where you guys live. 720 00:49:42,588 --> 00:49:46,331 -What is wrong? -Why are we talking about real estate right now? 721 00:49:46,461 --> 00:49:48,768 I mean, you can understand why we're a bit-- 722 00:49:48,898 --> 00:49:50,857 Yeah, Josh and Aaron don't want to have the kid. 723 00:49:50,988 --> 00:49:54,469 So I'm considering... 724 00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,603 I'm thinking about ways that I can adopt... 725 00:49:57,733 --> 00:50:00,649 -I mean, not adopt-- -No. No. 726 00:50:00,736 --> 00:50:04,479 I'm not giving you the money for this. 727 00:50:04,610 --> 00:50:07,874 But you always said it was for a down payment. 728 00:50:07,961 --> 00:50:11,486 I mean, in terms of mortgage, I will still be working. 729 00:50:11,617 --> 00:50:14,272 I would work part-time where I currently work, 730 00:50:14,402 --> 00:50:19,016 or I would freelance, and I'd have child support from Josh and Aaron. 731 00:50:19,146 --> 00:50:22,323 Are you factoring in maintenance costs? 732 00:50:22,454 --> 00:50:24,195 -Are you factoring in-- -Yes! Yes, I am. 733 00:50:24,282 --> 00:50:27,633 -Child support? -Yeah. No, I get it. 734 00:50:27,763 --> 00:50:31,680 It's the ultimate, um, stereotype. 735 00:50:31,811 --> 00:50:34,161 The single black mother. No, I get it. I get that. 736 00:50:34,292 --> 00:50:37,512 It's something that you guys have worked your entire lives to avoid. 737 00:50:37,599 --> 00:50:40,950 And it's... it's a real thing. I hear it. 738 00:50:41,038 --> 00:50:45,738 But I can't spend my entire life just avoiding being a stereotype. 739 00:50:45,868 --> 00:50:48,436 That can't be the deciding factor in everything. 740 00:50:48,567 --> 00:50:50,699 MOTHER: When your grandparents made this trust for you, 741 00:50:50,830 --> 00:50:56,618 this was not what they envisioned for it. To put it lightly. 742 00:50:56,749 --> 00:51:01,841 You have a trust because your grandparents saved every penny, 743 00:51:01,971 --> 00:51:05,845 and they worked very, very, very hard. 744 00:51:05,975 --> 00:51:09,283 Harder than you can even fathom. 745 00:51:09,414 --> 00:51:12,721 Okay. I acknowledge that. 746 00:51:12,852 --> 00:51:16,725 Okay? And I acknowledge the fact that I will never know 747 00:51:16,812 --> 00:51:19,250 what Grandma and Grandpa went through. 748 00:51:19,380 --> 00:51:22,340 But isn't one of the objectives of their hard work 749 00:51:22,470 --> 00:51:25,473 that I would be able to choose, that I'd be able to do what I want? 750 00:51:28,215 --> 00:51:34,134 The choice to be a single mother of a special needs child? 751 00:51:34,265 --> 00:51:37,833 I don't know. Maybe. Maybe that's what I want. 752 00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:42,403 -Jess. -Your have an exceptional career, okay? 753 00:51:42,534 --> 00:51:44,710 And I know you're not happy right now, 754 00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:48,061 but I think if you sacrifice your work, you will regret it. 755 00:51:48,192 --> 00:51:50,759 Mom, I'm not happy there. I'm not. 756 00:51:50,890 --> 00:51:53,414 And okay, yeah, maybe it looks cool 757 00:51:53,545 --> 00:51:57,157 that I'm working at this fancy nonprofit that does important work. 758 00:51:57,288 --> 00:51:58,941 But the more I think about it, the more I'm like, 759 00:51:59,072 --> 00:52:00,682 -do we actually do important work? -Yes. 760 00:52:00,813 --> 00:52:03,990 Or... or do we make wealthy donors likes yourselves 761 00:52:04,121 --> 00:52:07,602 feel less guilty for their privileged existences? 762 00:52:07,689 --> 00:52:09,387 MOTHER: Well, forgive me for my privilege, 763 00:52:09,517 --> 00:52:11,606 but your organization makes a difference. 764 00:52:11,737 --> 00:52:15,132 I am just a glorified web designer, Mom. Anyone could do that for them. 765 00:52:15,219 --> 00:52:17,221 Oh, I am so tired of you underselling yourself. 766 00:52:17,308 --> 00:52:20,006 You are a brilliant designer. You're a brilliant marketer. 767 00:52:20,137 --> 00:52:23,314 You're a brilliant technician. And you care about the causes. 768 00:52:23,444 --> 00:52:24,837 JESS: You're describing every chick in Brooklyn. 769 00:52:24,967 --> 00:52:26,752 MOTHER: Go to law school. 770 00:52:26,882 --> 00:52:28,536 -Make a difference that way. -Oh, my God! 771 00:52:28,667 --> 00:52:31,452 -I'm not going to law school. -Oh, that's too drastic? 772 00:52:33,324 --> 00:52:35,413 Start your own nonprofit. 773 00:52:35,543 --> 00:52:39,199 Mom, having this child is making a difference in an real and tangible way. 774 00:52:39,330 --> 00:52:42,333 Honey, think practically. Okay? 775 00:52:42,463 --> 00:52:46,641 -You're being... academic... -No, Mom, I am being practical. 776 00:52:46,772 --> 00:52:51,385 Because the public school system needs parents like me to lobby for change. 777 00:52:51,516 --> 00:52:54,693 Most of the parents who have children with DS, they're working class. 778 00:52:54,823 --> 00:52:56,956 They don't have time or the resources to do this. 779 00:52:57,086 --> 00:52:59,741 You don't have the time, you don't have the resources, 780 00:52:59,872 --> 00:53:03,571 and having one kid is a drop in the bucket. 781 00:53:03,702 --> 00:53:08,576 You know, honey, what you are talking about is... is healthcare inequality, right? 782 00:53:08,707 --> 00:53:10,883 -Hm. -So in an ideal world, 783 00:53:11,013 --> 00:53:13,799 everybody would have access to genetic testing. 784 00:53:13,929 --> 00:53:16,367 So that we could eradicate Down syndrome? 785 00:53:17,585 --> 00:53:19,935 Yes. 786 00:53:23,287 --> 00:53:25,593 Oh, my God. 787 00:53:25,724 --> 00:53:28,292 You have to see the parallels. That's eugenics. 788 00:53:28,379 --> 00:53:31,643 -Oh, Jess, God no! -Yes, yes, yes, it is. 789 00:53:31,730 --> 00:53:35,560 Yes, it is. They used to think that Mongolian blood was the cause for Down syndrome. 790 00:53:35,690 --> 00:53:38,737 You are not telling me anything that I don't know. Okay? 791 00:53:38,824 --> 00:53:42,436 The fact: people with Down syndrome 792 00:53:42,567 --> 00:53:45,787 have a much more difficult life. 793 00:53:45,918 --> 00:53:48,529 Okay, but where do we draw the line? 794 00:53:50,183 --> 00:53:54,927 We... we draw the line... 795 00:53:55,057 --> 00:53:57,059 at Down syndrome. 796 00:53:57,190 --> 00:54:00,715 Okay. This is gross. I can't be here right now. 797 00:54:00,846 --> 00:54:02,891 -FATHER: Jess. -MOTHER: Jess, you do not have the luxury 798 00:54:03,022 --> 00:54:06,417 of thinking about this much longer. 799 00:54:18,298 --> 00:54:20,692 MOTHER: You know, when I was 20, 800 00:54:20,822 --> 00:54:23,434 I was dating this guy, it was before I met your dad. 801 00:54:23,564 --> 00:54:25,523 And I got pregnant. 802 00:54:25,653 --> 00:54:29,048 And I was overwhelmed and I was terrified to tell Grandma. 803 00:54:29,178 --> 00:54:32,443 And the prevailing sentiment was that it was a decision that one regrets 804 00:54:32,573 --> 00:54:34,096 for the rest of their lives. 805 00:54:34,227 --> 00:54:37,665 And I thought about having a kid with some guy. 806 00:54:37,796 --> 00:54:40,189 And when I think back to that now, 807 00:54:40,320 --> 00:54:45,325 I made the best possible decision. 808 00:54:45,456 --> 00:54:47,893 Mom, I've had an abortion. 809 00:54:49,764 --> 00:54:54,943 -Oh, Jess. -Dad, it's okay. It's okay. I'm fine. 810 00:54:55,074 --> 00:54:56,728 You know you could've come to me with that, right? 811 00:54:56,858 --> 00:54:59,470 JESS: Yes, of course. I just... it was... 812 00:54:59,557 --> 00:55:02,690 I was 23, and I had my therapist and... 813 00:55:02,821 --> 00:55:07,129 a week later I was fine. Look, that's not the issue here. 814 00:55:07,216 --> 00:55:10,959 -Then what is the issue? -It's-- "This fetus has Down syndrome, 815 00:55:11,090 --> 00:55:12,570 let's throw it out with the garbage." 816 00:55:12,657 --> 00:55:14,049 MOTHER: Jess, I am not saying that. 817 00:55:14,180 --> 00:55:17,792 I do not support some dystopian society. 818 00:55:17,923 --> 00:55:21,361 If Josh and Aaron wanted to raise this child, 819 00:55:21,448 --> 00:55:25,496 and you were gonna be the godmother, 820 00:55:25,626 --> 00:55:28,194 that would be great. 821 00:55:32,154 --> 00:55:35,984 Okay. Well, maybe we should just call it a night. 822 00:55:37,551 --> 00:55:38,900 Do you want to come home for dinner? 823 00:55:39,031 --> 00:55:41,033 I think I'm gonna stay here 824 00:55:41,163 --> 00:55:44,297 and help put Winston to bed. 825 00:55:44,384 --> 00:55:50,956 Well, we're gonna talk tomorrow? Hm? 826 00:55:51,086 --> 00:55:55,352 Maybe tomorrow you'll feel like discussing this in a more adult way. 827 00:55:55,439 --> 00:55:58,442 Okay, Mom, no, I am an adult. I am an adult. 828 00:55:58,572 --> 00:56:02,446 Okay? I'm an adult and I'm having an adult-- 829 00:56:02,576 --> 00:56:04,883 You are not having an adult conversation. 830 00:56:05,013 --> 00:56:07,842 You are acting like you're not making a decision 831 00:56:07,973 --> 00:56:11,368 that's going to affect all of our lives immensely. 832 00:56:11,498 --> 00:56:15,546 Okay? What happens after you're gone? Who's gonna provide for this child when you go? 833 00:56:15,676 --> 00:56:19,506 Okay? Don't act like-- don't pretend that my thinking about this doesn't matter! 834 00:56:19,637 --> 00:56:21,290 Of course what you think matters! 835 00:56:21,421 --> 00:56:23,205 Why do you think I'm so desperate to get your approval? 836 00:56:23,336 --> 00:56:25,817 Well, you're not gonna get my approval, not like this. 837 00:56:25,904 --> 00:56:28,602 This girl has a Masters degree from Columbia University! 838 00:56:28,733 --> 00:56:31,213 Okay, a piece of paper that tells everyone else that I'm better than them. 839 00:56:31,344 --> 00:56:34,129 -Right, Mom? -Karen! 840 00:56:45,140 --> 00:56:48,143 [EXHALES] Mm... 841 00:56:56,500 --> 00:56:58,806 [EXHALES] 842 00:57:13,038 --> 00:57:16,955 -Hey, I'm so sorry about the email thing. -It's okay. 843 00:57:17,085 --> 00:57:20,828 Yeah, but I know it makes us look bad. Um, should I send an email 844 00:57:20,959 --> 00:57:23,178 following up to clarify or fix that mistake? 845 00:57:23,309 --> 00:57:26,007 -No, that'll just draw more attention to it. -Okay. 846 00:57:26,138 --> 00:57:30,577 -Um, but I am sorry. -It's okay. Don't worry about it. 847 00:57:51,293 --> 00:57:54,862 Hey, sorry, we close for lunch at 4, but we open for dinner at 5. 848 00:57:54,949 --> 00:57:57,343 -Is your manager around? -What can we help you with? 849 00:57:57,474 --> 00:58:01,608 I'm just wondering how you accommodate someone unable to walk up the stairs? 850 00:58:01,739 --> 00:58:04,219 Um, we'll do whatever we can to help them. 851 00:58:04,350 --> 00:58:09,573 But how? This is a hypothetical. No one's with me. But how? 852 00:58:09,703 --> 00:58:12,314 Could you hold on one second? 853 00:58:12,445 --> 00:58:14,665 Hey, how can I help you? 854 00:58:14,795 --> 00:58:17,624 You can make your restaurant wheelchair accessible. 855 00:58:17,755 --> 00:58:21,846 I mean, it's illegal, if you've ever heard of the Americans with Disabilities Act. 856 00:58:21,976 --> 00:58:24,936 -So... -Uh... 857 00:58:25,066 --> 00:58:28,940 -Thank you for the feedback. -Mm-hm. 858 00:58:29,070 --> 00:58:32,073 It's definitely something we're working on. 859 00:58:34,162 --> 00:58:36,904 We're working on installing a ramp. 860 00:58:36,991 --> 00:58:40,038 And in the meantime? 861 00:58:40,168 --> 00:58:44,129 We're more than happy to lift anyone up the steps. 862 00:58:44,259 --> 00:58:47,698 You're gonna lift someone? And how are they able to let you know that 863 00:58:47,828 --> 00:58:50,657 if they're just passing by? 864 00:58:50,788 --> 00:58:55,444 Thank you for the feedback. Is there anything else we can do for you? 865 00:58:55,575 --> 00:58:59,144 -Hey! How are you? -Okay. 866 00:58:59,274 --> 00:59:01,842 -What's up? -You know. 867 00:59:01,973 --> 00:59:04,323 Can I, um... can I take your coat or...? 868 00:59:04,410 --> 00:59:07,718 -No, it's okay. Can I have water? -Okay. Come in, yeah. 869 00:59:07,848 --> 00:59:11,112 -Can you get her some water? -Yeah, of course. 870 00:59:17,162 --> 00:59:19,294 -Thank you. -AARON: Mm-hm. 871 00:59:21,862 --> 00:59:23,647 JESS: Mm. 872 00:59:29,130 --> 00:59:34,483 I just... I just want you to know that we don't want this to be the end of... We... 873 00:59:34,614 --> 00:59:37,008 We want to try again with you. 874 00:59:37,095 --> 00:59:39,793 If that's something you're interested in. 875 00:59:39,924 --> 00:59:43,797 Whenever-- whenever you're ready. 876 00:59:43,928 --> 00:59:48,019 Okay? I mean it. And no... no pressure. You've already-- 877 00:59:48,149 --> 00:59:50,935 Josh, I... 878 00:59:51,065 --> 00:59:54,155 I know that you're trying to be thoughtful right now, 879 00:59:54,286 --> 00:59:56,984 and I appreciate it, I just, um... 880 00:59:57,115 --> 00:59:59,378 I can't think that far into the future. 881 00:59:59,508 --> 01:00:02,773 JOSH: Okay. 882 01:00:02,903 --> 01:00:05,514 Please tell us what's wrong. 883 01:00:05,645 --> 01:00:09,518 Nothing's wrong. No, nothing's wrong. Um... 884 01:00:16,134 --> 01:00:19,137 Look, I know that this is... 885 01:00:20,834 --> 01:00:23,010 not what you planned for. 886 01:00:23,097 --> 01:00:25,883 But... 887 01:00:26,013 --> 01:00:29,930 what if we were co-parents? 888 01:00:30,061 --> 01:00:32,585 I could share some of the responsibility. 889 01:00:32,716 --> 01:00:36,633 I could move into an apartment within walking distance from here. 890 01:00:36,763 --> 01:00:38,635 Financially too. 891 01:00:42,943 --> 01:00:46,077 Look, why don't I give you some time to consider that? 892 01:00:46,207 --> 01:00:48,993 -Okay? Just sleep on it. -AARON: Wait, Jess. Can you-- 893 01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:53,171 Is that even realistic? I mean, in all fairness-- 894 01:00:53,301 --> 01:00:57,175 I would make it work. 895 01:00:57,305 --> 01:00:59,743 Look, I know that... 896 01:00:59,873 --> 01:01:02,093 Okay, getting a sister-wife is not what you bargained for. 897 01:01:02,180 --> 01:01:04,008 Jess, when we made this decision, 898 01:01:04,138 --> 01:01:06,532 we took into consideration the fact that we could lean on you, 899 01:01:06,663 --> 01:01:09,753 and that you'd be a huge part of our support system if... 900 01:01:09,840 --> 01:01:11,929 we had the child. 901 01:01:14,235 --> 01:01:16,411 Okay. Forget what I just said. 902 01:01:16,542 --> 01:01:19,066 Um... 903 01:01:19,197 --> 01:01:23,984 What if... what if you just got a monthly contribution to help pay for everything? 904 01:01:24,115 --> 01:01:28,032 And I would still just be "Aunt Jess," off to the side, not breathing down-- 905 01:01:28,119 --> 01:01:30,121 -AARON: No, we couldn't ask that of you. -No, I know. 906 01:01:30,251 --> 01:01:33,733 I know you're not asking that of me, but... 907 01:01:33,864 --> 01:01:36,649 maybe I'm telling you that the money is coming your way, 908 01:01:36,780 --> 01:01:40,740 should you decide to have this kid. 909 01:01:40,871 --> 01:01:44,744 You've said that it was all about financial factors, so... 910 01:01:47,660 --> 01:01:49,183 We don't have time to sleep on it. 911 01:01:49,314 --> 01:01:52,534 Your appointment is day after tomorrow. 912 01:01:52,665 --> 01:01:56,147 Um... uh, no. 913 01:01:58,192 --> 01:02:00,238 Um... 914 01:02:05,504 --> 01:02:10,639 I... I postponed the appointment. 915 01:02:14,992 --> 01:02:18,517 -You postponed the appointment? -Yes. 916 01:02:18,647 --> 01:02:21,650 I can be in charge of the timing. It's okay. 917 01:02:24,523 --> 01:02:27,047 Look... 918 01:02:27,178 --> 01:02:31,748 Doesn't... doesn't Bridget seems happy? 919 01:02:31,878 --> 01:02:35,186 -And Sandra too. -BOTH: No. No. 920 01:02:35,316 --> 01:02:38,711 Honestly. I mean... And so what if they are? 921 01:02:38,842 --> 01:02:43,498 It's a self-selecting population, you know? 922 01:02:43,629 --> 01:02:46,719 Look, the parents who are having a really, really hard time, 923 01:02:46,850 --> 01:02:50,505 the ones who maybe wish that they had... 924 01:02:50,636 --> 01:02:52,551 They're not the ones going to these meet-ups 925 01:02:52,681 --> 01:02:56,381 or the ones writing books about it. It's... 926 01:02:56,511 --> 01:03:00,124 And of that group, how do we know they're not just, like, faking happiness? 927 01:03:00,254 --> 01:03:04,868 Okay. Parenting is hard. 928 01:03:04,998 --> 01:03:07,479 It is not easy. I'm not saying that. 929 01:03:07,609 --> 01:03:11,831 Look, there's a reason you have gravitated towards Leon, 930 01:03:11,962 --> 01:03:17,576 okay, and not some of the other kids who are way less high-functioning than he is. 931 01:03:17,706 --> 01:03:24,539 Okay, this kid is not gonna be like that kid that you grew up with. 932 01:03:24,670 --> 01:03:28,543 It's not gonna be like Devon. Things are changing so much. 933 01:03:28,674 --> 01:03:30,763 Leon is where things are headed. 934 01:03:30,850 --> 01:03:32,852 JOSH: Yeah, and the more intelligent the kids are, 935 01:03:32,983 --> 01:03:37,509 the more aware they are of their... their limitations. 936 01:03:37,596 --> 01:03:39,946 Look, that's in the book you gave us. 937 01:03:40,077 --> 01:03:43,254 Oh, I didn't know that you read that. 938 01:03:43,384 --> 01:03:45,299 Yeah, Jess. 939 01:03:45,430 --> 01:03:48,128 Look, let's say Leon wants to be a musician. 940 01:03:48,259 --> 01:03:52,698 Then it's his mom's job to tell him that that's not a realistic possibility. 941 01:03:52,785 --> 01:03:54,874 To constantly be the bearer of bad news-- 942 01:03:54,961 --> 01:04:00,445 -No, Leon could be a musician. -JOSH: Come on, it's not the same thing. 943 01:04:00,575 --> 01:04:04,536 The kids in the Special Olympics know that they are in the Special Olympics. 944 01:04:04,666 --> 01:04:08,757 -Josh, that's not helpful. -And they don't care. They like the Special Olympics. 945 01:04:08,845 --> 01:04:13,023 I'm pretty sure they're not like, "Oh, the Special Olympics." 946 01:04:13,153 --> 01:04:16,461 Okay, so Leon won't be the next Alicia Keys. Who cares? 947 01:04:16,591 --> 01:04:18,419 JOSH: That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is 948 01:04:18,550 --> 01:04:21,727 I want our child to have a fulfilling life. 949 01:04:21,858 --> 01:04:24,599 JESS: Okay. Okay. Um... 950 01:04:24,730 --> 01:04:30,649 I think you're more so talking about the ego of the parents. 951 01:04:30,779 --> 01:04:34,696 Right? About being able to brag about your kid. 952 01:04:34,827 --> 01:04:37,134 'Cause lots of people with DS have fulfilling lives. 953 01:04:37,264 --> 01:04:40,877 I mean, there's a teacher at the center who's an adult who has DS 954 01:04:41,007 --> 01:04:43,096 and she seems pretty fulfilled. 955 01:04:43,227 --> 01:04:47,100 I'm pretty sure she doesn't wish she'd never been born. 956 01:04:47,231 --> 01:04:50,538 -All right. You know who Richard Dawkins is? -Of course. 957 01:04:50,669 --> 01:04:54,629 Well, he said it's-- it's actually immoral, it's unethical 958 01:04:54,716 --> 01:04:58,068 to not terminate a fetus with DS. 959 01:04:58,198 --> 01:04:59,678 You know, it's not like we're the first people to-- 960 01:04:59,808 --> 01:05:03,377 -He is alt-right. -No he's not. 961 01:05:03,508 --> 01:05:07,033 -He is blatantly anti-Islam. -He is against all religion. 962 01:05:07,164 --> 01:05:09,383 He's atheist, which last I checked, so were you. 963 01:05:09,514 --> 01:05:11,908 Okay, I think we're exhausted, so why don't we just call this a night. 964 01:05:12,038 --> 01:05:14,562 No, no, but you could try not to make it inflammatory. 965 01:05:14,693 --> 01:05:16,782 JESS: No, I know, "Pregnant bitches be crazy." 966 01:05:16,913 --> 01:05:20,220 Will you stop putting words in our mouths, Jess! 967 01:05:22,179 --> 01:05:25,660 Maybe Richard Dawkins is not alt-right, 968 01:05:25,747 --> 01:05:29,490 but what he is expressing there is eugenics. 969 01:05:29,577 --> 01:05:33,233 It's in the clothes of a civilized argument, but that is eugenics. 970 01:05:33,320 --> 01:05:36,323 My grandparents lost their entire families to eugenics. 971 01:05:36,454 --> 01:05:38,108 I think I know a thing or two about it. 972 01:05:38,238 --> 01:05:40,501 -To say that this is the same-- -Oh, and I couldn't possibly 973 01:05:40,632 --> 01:05:43,940 understand because black people have never experienced eugenics. 974 01:05:44,070 --> 01:05:46,507 A little help here? 975 01:05:46,638 --> 01:05:49,380 Okay, great! Thank you so much. 976 01:05:49,510 --> 01:05:51,251 -JOSH: I don't know-- -This is so stupid. 977 01:05:51,382 --> 01:05:54,994 If you are now defining life as having begun-- 978 01:05:55,125 --> 01:05:56,778 No, I'm not going pro-life on you. 979 01:05:56,909 --> 01:05:59,956 I just... I want you to actually think about this choice. 980 01:06:00,043 --> 01:06:04,047 We have. We have. I don't know how to convince you that we-- 981 01:06:04,177 --> 01:06:09,704 -What-- what do you want? -I want-- I want you... 982 01:06:09,835 --> 01:06:14,448 I want you to start grieving this child that you have in your mind, 983 01:06:14,579 --> 01:06:17,408 and then start preparing for this kid. 984 01:06:17,538 --> 01:06:23,588 Start reading, start engaging with people when we go to the Playhouse. 985 01:06:23,718 --> 01:06:27,244 We have been, Jess, we've-- 986 01:06:27,331 --> 01:06:31,683 Look, we want to be the parents that everyone expects us to be, 987 01:06:31,813 --> 01:06:36,993 that finds a way to turn this into a gift, who writes the memoir. 988 01:06:37,080 --> 01:06:39,169 But we're just, we're strong enough. 989 01:06:39,299 --> 01:06:40,997 Yes, you are! You can be! 990 01:06:41,127 --> 01:06:45,436 Okay, fine, then we are terrible people. Okay? 991 01:06:45,566 --> 01:06:48,004 I feel like that is what you want me to say. 992 01:06:48,134 --> 01:06:50,310 And so now that we've said it, can we just move on? 993 01:06:50,441 --> 01:06:53,444 -No, that is a cop-out. -JOSH: Look, Jess. 994 01:06:53,574 --> 01:06:56,534 As gay men, our whole lives, 995 01:06:56,664 --> 01:07:00,538 we have made do with the cards we've been dealt and not complained about it. 996 01:07:00,668 --> 01:07:06,544 Okay? It's like ingrained in us that we should be grateful for the crumbs that we have. 997 01:07:06,674 --> 01:07:10,026 And I'm not saying that we deserve pity, I'm not. 998 01:07:10,113 --> 01:07:14,639 I'm just saying that we do deserve to be like everyone else. 999 01:07:14,769 --> 01:07:17,685 Okay? And not have to apologize for it. 1000 01:07:17,816 --> 01:07:21,559 We are not some scummy rare outlier here. 1001 01:07:21,689 --> 01:07:25,215 The majority of couples in our situation do decide to terminate, 1002 01:07:25,302 --> 01:07:29,349 and just like them we deserve to try again, 1003 01:07:29,480 --> 01:07:32,439 we deserve to try and have a kid who's... 1004 01:07:32,570 --> 01:07:35,921 -Yeah. -A kid who's perfect. 1005 01:07:36,008 --> 01:07:40,056 -No, a kid who's normal. -AARON: Josh, that's not the right word. 1006 01:07:40,186 --> 01:07:42,536 [JOSH GRUNTS] 1007 01:07:47,802 --> 01:07:51,589 Right. Yeah. 1008 01:07:51,719 --> 01:07:58,378 You have this idea of this chill, little, quiet kid wearing Steven Alan clothes. 1009 01:07:58,509 --> 01:08:01,425 You can't stand the thought of being in some fancy restaurant 1010 01:08:01,555 --> 01:08:05,603 and having everybody look over at you because your slobbering retard child 1011 01:08:05,733 --> 01:08:07,561 is throwing a tantrum. No, that's how most 1012 01:08:07,692 --> 01:08:10,521 of the fucking bougie people in this city think, right? 1013 01:08:10,651 --> 01:08:12,827 That's why this city is so full of stairs everywhere. 1014 01:08:12,958 --> 01:08:15,134 Let's keep everyone out who's less than some Aryan ideal. 1015 01:08:15,265 --> 01:08:17,702 Because, what, we think that we'll never grow old 1016 01:08:17,832 --> 01:08:20,705 and lose our mobility, or God forbid, our mental ability? 1017 01:08:20,792 --> 01:08:23,621 JOSH: Yes, Jess, the system is fucked. That is not our fault. 1018 01:08:23,708 --> 01:08:25,971 But when you say that it's a financial issue, 1019 01:08:26,102 --> 01:08:29,757 what you really mean is you're not willing to give up any aspect of your lifestyle. 1020 01:08:29,888 --> 01:08:33,979 -You guys are rich! -Okay, I think we've said everything we need to say, Jess. 1021 01:08:34,066 --> 01:08:36,155 We've made our decision. 1022 01:08:41,682 --> 01:08:43,945 I'm making mine. 1023 01:08:44,076 --> 01:08:48,036 I may have to hold you to that contract that we wrote. 1024 01:08:49,734 --> 01:08:53,129 Jess, the only way you can sue us is if we don't cover medical expenses, 1025 01:08:53,259 --> 01:08:55,218 which we are doing, 100 percent for you. 1026 01:08:55,348 --> 01:08:57,176 -You know what? The lawyer -cautioned us about-- -100 percent. 1027 01:08:57,263 --> 01:08:59,439 Aaron, I know that it is a gentlemen's agreement 1028 01:08:59,526 --> 01:09:02,312 or whatever, I'm not talking about suing you. 1029 01:09:02,442 --> 01:09:05,402 I'm talking about holding you to this as human beings. 1030 01:09:05,532 --> 01:09:08,100 What do you mean, contractually I have to have an abortion? 1031 01:09:08,231 --> 01:09:09,667 -What are you gonna do, tie me down? -Jess, of course! 1032 01:09:09,797 --> 01:09:11,364 You're absolutely right. If you want to have the kid-- 1033 01:09:11,451 --> 01:09:14,715 I know that! Don't you think I fucking know that?! 1034 01:09:22,114 --> 01:09:25,596 Yeah, so... obviously, 1035 01:09:25,726 --> 01:09:28,120 I could have the kid if I wanted to, 1036 01:09:28,251 --> 01:09:31,732 and Josh would have to pay me child support. 1037 01:09:31,863 --> 01:09:35,693 We'd have a real Jerry Springer situation on our hands. 1038 01:09:35,823 --> 01:09:41,394 Obviously, I don't want to have to get lawyers involved if we don't have to. 1039 01:09:41,481 --> 01:09:44,789 Come on, Jess, that is not what you want, Jess. 1040 01:09:44,919 --> 01:09:48,140 -That cannot possibly be what you want. -I don't know. 1041 01:09:50,490 --> 01:09:53,754 I'm just saying, like, think about it. 1042 01:09:58,977 --> 01:10:01,719 -JESS: I'm gonna go. -AARON: Wait, Jess, we have to finish this conversation. 1043 01:10:01,849 --> 01:10:04,548 No, I think we've said everything we need to say. 1044 01:10:08,639 --> 01:10:12,512 Hi. Hey, how's it going? 1045 01:10:15,211 --> 01:10:18,475 [SIGHS] Yeah. Oh, shit, shit. 1046 01:10:18,605 --> 01:10:20,825 I didn't realize how late it was. I'm so sorry. 1047 01:10:20,912 --> 01:10:26,700 Um, I just... can I take you out to dinner sometime this week? 1048 01:10:26,787 --> 01:10:30,574 There's this incredible place called Otway in Clinton Hill 1049 01:10:30,704 --> 01:10:35,970 that, I mean, it has the most amazing pumpkin dish that I've ever had in my life. 1050 01:10:40,453 --> 01:10:42,716 [LAUGHS] 1051 01:10:45,371 --> 01:10:48,113 -So? -[BOTH LAUGH] 1052 01:10:48,244 --> 01:10:50,855 -It's good. -What? 1053 01:10:50,985 --> 01:10:53,814 -Uh no, it is-- -It's good. 1054 01:10:53,945 --> 01:10:56,556 It is more than good. It is amazing. 1055 01:10:56,687 --> 01:11:00,430 Look, I'd be happy if I was sitting in a McDonald's right now. 1056 01:11:00,517 --> 01:11:03,171 I'm just so happy to be out of the house. 1057 01:11:03,302 --> 01:11:06,392 -[GLASS DINGS] -Excuse me. 1058 01:11:12,659 --> 01:11:17,055 Uh, so I have a question for you, and I need you to be honest with me. 1059 01:11:17,185 --> 01:11:20,406 Okay. 1060 01:11:20,537 --> 01:11:24,018 Do you think that I could do this on my own? 1061 01:11:24,149 --> 01:11:27,761 Have this child? I mean, you've probably picked up on the fact 1062 01:11:27,892 --> 01:11:30,634 that Josh and Aaron don't want to... 1063 01:11:30,764 --> 01:11:35,073 I am so sorry. I am vomiting all of this on you. 1064 01:11:35,203 --> 01:11:39,207 Uh, I mean, I... I don't know. 1065 01:11:39,338 --> 01:11:43,777 -[LAUGHS] Yeah. -Right. 1066 01:11:43,908 --> 01:11:47,215 Maybe I should spend some more time with Leon. 1067 01:11:47,346 --> 01:11:51,524 You know, I could babysit and then you and Dan could have a date night. 1068 01:11:51,655 --> 01:11:55,441 We... he already has so many babysitters and... 1069 01:11:55,572 --> 01:11:59,619 he's on a pretty, you know, tight schedule. 1070 01:11:59,750 --> 01:12:06,539 -Yeah, but I'd like to. -I really appreciate it, but I'd rather not. 1071 01:12:06,670 --> 01:12:09,150 Oh, yeah. Oh, of course. 1072 01:12:09,237 --> 01:12:11,805 Um... oh, my God. 1073 01:12:11,936 --> 01:12:15,069 I... I probably just came off very Sandra-like. 1074 01:12:15,200 --> 01:12:18,377 No, with a very like, "Let me observe him in his natural habitat." 1075 01:12:18,508 --> 01:12:20,858 -Really? -And that's so gross. I'm so sorry. 1076 01:12:20,988 --> 01:12:23,295 It's really okay. 1077 01:12:25,993 --> 01:12:30,694 Do you think that I... I don't know, that I would be up to the task? 1078 01:12:30,824 --> 01:12:33,871 I mean... Well, just think about it and get back to me. 1079 01:12:33,958 --> 01:12:36,613 No, I really don't need to think about. I just-- I don't know, Jess. 1080 01:12:36,743 --> 01:12:38,919 It's-- it's truly your decision. 1081 01:12:39,050 --> 01:12:41,661 -Yeah, I know, but what do you think? -I don't think anything. 1082 01:12:41,792 --> 01:12:44,795 I think I don't know you well enough. I don't know your finances. 1083 01:12:44,925 --> 01:12:47,667 -I can tell you my finances. -That's really not the point. 1084 01:12:48,886 --> 01:12:52,455 I have a lot on my plate. 1085 01:13:10,690 --> 01:13:14,564 I mean, I don't mean to sound self-aggrandizing, 1086 01:13:14,694 --> 01:13:19,482 but why am I alive if not to do something like this? 1087 01:13:19,569 --> 01:13:21,266 You don't sound that way at all. 1088 01:13:21,397 --> 01:13:27,838 It is... it is so commendable, what you're doing. 1089 01:13:30,710 --> 01:13:34,192 I just have to find a way to handle it financially. 1090 01:13:34,322 --> 01:13:37,717 Well, there's a whole support network out there. You know that. 1091 01:13:37,848 --> 01:13:40,198 And I'm here to help in any way possible. 1092 01:13:40,328 --> 01:13:42,766 Thank you, really. 1093 01:13:42,896 --> 01:13:46,378 Oh, you know some people, they say the soul 1094 01:13:46,509 --> 01:13:49,773 is formed at conception. 1095 01:13:52,340 --> 01:13:54,952 -Who says that? -Hindus. 1096 01:13:55,039 --> 01:13:57,650 The Talmud, you know, it says it happens at birth. 1097 01:13:57,781 --> 01:14:01,654 And Islam says it happens somewhere in the middle. 1098 01:14:01,741 --> 01:14:06,267 -But it happens. -Why are you telling me this? 1099 01:14:06,398 --> 01:14:10,141 Oh, I thought you'd find it interesting. 1100 01:14:10,271 --> 01:14:16,974 I'm just saying I'm so happy, I think you're making the right decision. 1101 01:14:20,630 --> 01:14:26,331 Um, I... I actually have to get going. 1102 01:14:26,462 --> 01:14:31,684 Uh... I'm sorry, I-- I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. 1103 01:14:31,771 --> 01:14:35,993 No, no, I just... I have to go to work, so... 1104 01:14:37,734 --> 01:14:42,086 JESS: I think it's best if I take a leave of absence 1105 01:14:42,173 --> 01:14:44,741 while I figure this out. 1106 01:14:44,871 --> 01:14:48,701 -Okay. -But I do wanna come back. 1107 01:14:48,832 --> 01:14:54,751 And when I come back, if I were to move somewhere out of the city, 1108 01:14:54,881 --> 01:14:58,798 do you think I would be able to work remotely? 1109 01:15:01,409 --> 01:15:03,455 I don't know, Jess. 1110 01:15:03,586 --> 01:15:07,503 Let's talk about it when you get back. 1111 01:15:10,462 --> 01:15:13,770 I'm just... I'm just saying I am here for you. 1112 01:15:13,857 --> 01:15:16,816 -Okay? -Thank you. 1113 01:15:16,947 --> 01:15:21,952 And I think that we... we can do this. 1114 01:15:22,082 --> 01:15:25,608 We can do this here. Together. 1115 01:15:25,695 --> 01:15:27,174 -No! -What? 1116 01:15:27,305 --> 01:15:29,699 No! Oh, my God! Nate, no! 1117 01:15:29,829 --> 01:15:31,527 I don't-- I don't even know... 1118 01:15:31,614 --> 01:15:35,182 I don't know if I'm having this child. 1119 01:15:35,313 --> 01:15:39,839 I just... I need space-- I need space and time, 1120 01:15:39,926 --> 01:15:41,972 and that is why I'm going to Connecticut. 1121 01:15:42,059 --> 01:15:44,017 That's totally fine. I don't mind moving there too. 1122 01:15:44,148 --> 01:15:46,759 No, I'm not talking about moving! Fucking stop! Oh, my God! No! 1123 01:15:46,846 --> 01:15:52,025 I'm talking about going there, going there for a week. 1124 01:15:52,156 --> 01:15:54,375 That's it. 1125 01:15:58,205 --> 01:16:00,817 -Hey, hey, hey, I'm sorry. -Please don't. 1126 01:16:00,947 --> 01:16:03,733 Okay, okay. 1127 01:16:13,830 --> 01:16:16,702 WOMAN: Jess! Jess! 1128 01:16:16,833 --> 01:16:20,401 -Oh! Mrs. Friedberg, hi! -Jess! 1129 01:16:20,532 --> 01:16:22,360 -Call me Sarah. -Hi. 1130 01:16:22,490 --> 01:16:27,974 -How's your mom? -She's good. You know, she's busy as usual. 1131 01:16:28,105 --> 01:16:31,587 -Um, how's Emily? -Great. 1132 01:16:31,674 --> 01:16:36,417 She was just appointed executive director not-for-profit, Rhizome. 1133 01:16:36,548 --> 01:16:39,856 Oh. Oh, tell her I said congratulations. 1134 01:16:39,986 --> 01:16:43,163 I will, I will. How are you? 1135 01:16:43,294 --> 01:16:47,820 I'm good. Um... you know... 1136 01:16:47,951 --> 01:16:51,084 -Yeah, I'm pregnant. -Oh, my-- oh, my God! 1137 01:16:51,215 --> 01:16:55,698 -Oh! Mazel tov! -Oh, thank you. 1138 01:16:55,828 --> 01:16:58,962 Your mom has not kept me properly informed. 1139 01:16:59,092 --> 01:17:01,051 When did you get married? 1140 01:17:01,181 --> 01:17:03,531 Um, it's actually a bit of a unique case. 1141 01:17:03,662 --> 01:17:07,884 Yeah, the surrogacy was for my two best friends... 1142 01:17:07,971 --> 01:17:10,495 -Oh, that's beautiful. -Yeah. 1143 01:17:10,626 --> 01:17:13,063 They discovered the fetus has Down syndrome 1144 01:17:13,193 --> 01:17:16,806 and they no longer want her, yada yada yada. 1145 01:17:16,936 --> 01:17:20,026 Oh, my God. I... 1146 01:17:20,157 --> 01:17:22,289 I... 1147 01:17:22,420 --> 01:17:25,510 Oh, uh... I'm so sorry. 1148 01:17:25,641 --> 01:17:29,470 Um, my heart goes out to you. 1149 01:17:29,601 --> 01:17:33,213 Well, there's to be sorry for. You know? 1150 01:17:33,344 --> 01:17:37,870 There are a lot worse things in the world. 1151 01:17:37,957 --> 01:17:42,745 Right. I didn't mean to imply... 1152 01:17:42,875 --> 01:17:46,139 -It's fine. -Do you need a ride? 1153 01:17:46,270 --> 01:17:50,143 No, uh, my sister should be here soon. 1154 01:18:13,471 --> 01:18:17,040 [DOOR OPENS] 1155 01:18:17,170 --> 01:18:20,826 Sorry. I didn't wanna knock in case you were napping. 1156 01:18:20,957 --> 01:18:23,176 No, that's fine. 1157 01:18:23,307 --> 01:18:25,962 -[GRUNTS] -So Josh and Aaron called me. 1158 01:18:26,092 --> 01:18:28,834 -Mm-mm. -They wanted to make sure you were okay. 1159 01:18:28,921 --> 01:18:33,230 -Said they've been trying. -Did you tell them that I'm fine? 1160 01:18:33,360 --> 01:18:35,145 They want to talk in person. 1161 01:18:35,275 --> 01:18:37,538 There's nothing to talk about. 1162 01:18:37,669 --> 01:18:42,326 -What does that mean? -I've made up my mind. 1163 01:18:42,456 --> 01:18:45,938 But don't they deserve to know that? 1164 01:19:01,649 --> 01:19:05,001 -Do you watch Shark Tank? -No. 1165 01:19:05,131 --> 01:19:07,394 -Sh. -[WHISPERS] Sorry. No. 1166 01:19:07,525 --> 01:19:10,093 We're obsessed with it for some reason. 1167 01:19:10,223 --> 01:19:12,748 There's a new episode on tonight. 1168 01:19:12,835 --> 01:19:15,228 -Is he down? -Yeah. Yes. 1169 01:19:15,359 --> 01:19:17,100 What's wrong? 1170 01:19:17,230 --> 01:19:22,496 Our visitors seem to be waiting in the driveway. 1171 01:19:22,627 --> 01:19:24,281 They're 45 minutes early. 1172 01:19:24,411 --> 01:19:27,850 -Was I supposed to make food for them? -No. 1173 01:19:30,156 --> 01:19:32,376 [SIGHS] 1174 01:19:32,463 --> 01:19:35,074 Just give me a second. 1175 01:19:44,214 --> 01:19:46,303 JOSH: Hey, uh... 1176 01:19:46,433 --> 01:19:52,439 Sorry we're so early. I thought there would be traffic or... 1177 01:19:52,570 --> 01:19:55,268 Um... 1178 01:19:55,399 --> 01:19:59,316 Winston is sleeping inside, so we should talk out here. 1179 01:20:00,665 --> 01:20:03,537 Okay, um... 1180 01:20:09,892 --> 01:20:12,024 You guys wanted to talk. 1181 01:20:12,155 --> 01:20:15,201 Yeah, we wanted to know how you're doing. 1182 01:20:15,332 --> 01:20:18,291 -Are you okay? -I'm great. 1183 01:20:26,996 --> 01:20:30,651 Have you guys changed your minds? 1184 01:20:30,782 --> 01:20:33,437 Well, we thought about the possibility of adoption. 1185 01:20:33,567 --> 01:20:35,656 We found this great organization of people-- 1186 01:20:35,787 --> 01:20:38,964 I know about that. It's... 1187 01:20:39,095 --> 01:20:41,924 Hm. I don't know. 1188 01:20:44,404 --> 01:20:48,191 So I have decided to have this kid on my own. 1189 01:20:49,975 --> 01:20:52,325 And I don't want you to be a part of the child's life. 1190 01:20:52,456 --> 01:20:54,850 I'll have my lawyer contact your lawyer, 1191 01:20:54,980 --> 01:20:57,287 but basically, in the state of Connecticut-- 1192 01:20:57,417 --> 01:20:59,158 Jess, why don't we go inside? Or we can come back later 1193 01:20:59,289 --> 01:21:01,378 if you don't feel up to this right now. 1194 01:21:01,508 --> 01:21:03,336 JESS: What makes you think I don't feel up to this? 1195 01:21:03,467 --> 01:21:05,817 Your... your attitude, how you're talking to us. 1196 01:21:05,948 --> 01:21:07,514 -JOSH: Okay, all right. -We're trying to figure out exactly 1197 01:21:07,645 --> 01:21:09,386 what the best way to proceed forward with you-- 1198 01:21:09,516 --> 01:21:11,040 JESS: You came to my house, so... 1199 01:21:11,127 --> 01:21:13,172 -To talk to you, for you. -Would you let me finish 1200 01:21:13,303 --> 01:21:17,176 -what I have to say? You interrupted me. -Please. Please. 1201 01:21:17,307 --> 01:21:22,138 Great, so my lawyer will contact your lawyer soon. 1202 01:21:22,225 --> 01:21:26,272 But basically, in the state of Connecticut, you do not need the father's name 1203 01:21:26,403 --> 01:21:30,015 to be on the birth certificate, you only need the mother's name. 1204 01:21:30,146 --> 01:21:32,452 Is that okay with you? 1205 01:21:32,583 --> 01:21:34,541 Look, this is what you wanted, right? 1206 01:21:34,672 --> 01:21:39,590 To pretend the child does not exist? So pretend the child does not exist. 1207 01:21:39,677 --> 01:21:42,767 Okay, all right. Um... 1208 01:21:42,898 --> 01:21:48,033 I just want to say that we support whatever decision you make here. 1209 01:21:48,164 --> 01:21:51,602 But-- but when you say no involvement-- 1210 01:21:51,732 --> 01:21:53,909 That is exactly what I mean. 1211 01:21:54,039 --> 01:21:56,607 I think no contact is best. 1212 01:21:56,737 --> 01:21:59,001 I just don't think it's a good idea for a child 1213 01:21:59,131 --> 01:22:03,092 to be around adults who think that something is wrong with her, 1214 01:22:03,222 --> 01:22:05,485 that she is broken because of her chromosomal situation. 1215 01:22:05,616 --> 01:22:08,140 -AARON: Jess. -No, I know, I know you would never say that 1216 01:22:08,227 --> 01:22:11,274 in front of her, and obviously I would never repeat it. 1217 01:22:11,361 --> 01:22:13,754 But children, they pick up on energy. 1218 01:22:19,412 --> 01:22:21,414 I mean, come on, you can't just come here and be like, 1219 01:22:21,545 --> 01:22:24,548 "We wanna be her godfathers," as if... 1220 01:22:24,678 --> 01:22:26,332 as if everything is hunky-dory. 1221 01:22:26,419 --> 01:22:27,812 -We're not trying to come here like that! -Jess. 1222 01:22:27,943 --> 01:22:31,076 -Okay. -I am so not comfortable 1223 01:22:31,207 --> 01:22:34,775 with this no contact thing. Okay? 1224 01:22:34,906 --> 01:22:37,953 And why is that what you want? I mean... 1225 01:22:38,083 --> 01:22:43,567 Hey, I'm sorry. I know this is never going to be... 1226 01:22:43,697 --> 01:22:47,701 like it was, but why don't you want our support at least? 1227 01:22:47,832 --> 01:22:49,660 -JOSH: Jess. -AARON: Jess, where are you doing? 1228 01:22:49,747 --> 01:22:52,184 There's a child in there taking a nap, 1229 01:22:52,315 --> 01:22:54,970 and we are being loud. 1230 01:23:01,454 --> 01:23:04,675 Look, what I'm proposing is what you guys wanted, right? 1231 01:23:04,805 --> 01:23:07,852 So why don't you just go back to Williamsburg and leave me the fuck alone. 1232 01:23:07,983 --> 01:23:12,683 Jess, hey. It's me, Josh. 1233 01:23:12,813 --> 01:23:18,950 I've made a decision that you don't agree with, but it's still me. 1234 01:23:22,519 --> 01:23:28,220 Look, I would be related to this kid. Okay? 1235 01:23:28,351 --> 01:23:32,877 -It would be ours. -And? 1236 01:23:33,008 --> 01:23:36,141 Even if you got full custody, there may come a day 1237 01:23:36,272 --> 01:23:40,928 when the child wants to have contact with-- 1238 01:23:41,059 --> 01:23:44,976 Are you just gonna pretend that we don't exist? That's not fair. 1239 01:23:48,197 --> 01:23:51,243 Look, whatever happens, 1240 01:23:51,374 --> 01:23:55,247 we are gonna be a part of this kid's life. We just-- we are. 1241 01:24:05,083 --> 01:24:09,044 JOSH: Jess! Where are you going? 1242 01:24:12,960 --> 01:24:14,440 You're right. 1243 01:24:16,355 --> 01:24:18,357 You are absolutely right. 1244 01:24:20,142 --> 01:24:24,146 Having this child would link me to you forever. 1245 01:24:40,118 --> 01:24:44,601 [SOBBING] 1246 01:24:46,516 --> 01:24:48,909 Oh, Jess. 1247 01:24:52,348 --> 01:24:54,219 Jess... 1248 01:24:54,350 --> 01:24:58,484 [SOBBING] 1249 01:26:35,277 --> 01:26:38,932 -Hey. -Hey. 1250 01:27:30,854 --> 01:27:33,248 Oh. Thanks. 1251 01:27:38,644 --> 01:27:42,909 -Oh, that's... that's horrible. -[LAUGHS] 1252 01:27:50,569 --> 01:27:55,400 I made an appointment for an abortion tomorrow. 1253 01:27:55,487 --> 01:27:58,316 -Will you come with me? -Mm-hm. 1254 01:28:01,058 --> 01:28:04,888 -Are you okay to miss work? -Jess. 1255 01:28:06,019 --> 01:28:07,847 Thank you. 1256 01:28:16,334 --> 01:28:19,946 -Do you want some yogurt? -I'm okay. 1257 01:28:56,896 --> 01:28:59,334 [LAUGHING] 1258 01:29:02,075 --> 01:29:05,078 -Oh! -Hey! 1259 01:29:06,602 --> 01:29:09,561 [BOTH LAUGHING] 1260 01:29:12,347 --> 01:29:14,827 -You okay? -Yeah. I just... 1261 01:29:14,914 --> 01:29:18,570 There's a sliding part over here, right? 1262 01:29:18,701 --> 01:29:22,269 -Oh, God. -[LAUGHTER] 1263 01:29:26,273 --> 01:29:29,451 Whoo! 1264 01:29:29,538 --> 01:29:31,757 -Was it that bad? -Yeah, I just said fuck it. 1265 01:29:31,888 --> 01:29:35,631 -[LAUGHTER] -Yeah. 1266 01:29:37,415 --> 01:29:41,854 Oh! Oh! 1267 01:29:44,204 --> 01:29:46,076 Three, two, one. 1268 01:29:46,206 --> 01:29:49,253 -Whoo! -[LAUGHTER] 1269 01:29:49,384 --> 01:29:51,603 -Not too bad. -It's not too bad! 1270 01:29:51,690 --> 01:29:53,736 -It's good, right? -It's a little cold. 1271 01:29:53,866 --> 01:29:57,435 [INDISTINCT] 1272 01:29:59,698 --> 01:30:02,397 -[INDISTINCT] -Oh yes! 1273 01:30:02,527 --> 01:30:05,704 -[LAUGHTER] -If I don't warm up... 1274 01:30:05,835 --> 01:30:07,402 Yeah, I feel like this is one of those situations 1275 01:30:07,532 --> 01:30:09,186 where I have to be there to warm it up. 1276 01:30:09,316 --> 01:30:11,406 -So... don't do that. -Why? 1277 01:30:11,536 --> 01:30:14,060 -Don't do that. -This is it. The river! 1278 01:30:14,147 --> 01:30:16,106 -[LAUGHTER] -Go down there. 1279 01:30:16,236 --> 01:30:18,108 -You might want... What? -Go down there. 1280 01:30:18,238 --> 01:30:21,416 -It gets really warm. -You're about to feel it 1281 01:30:21,546 --> 01:30:25,332 -in like three seconds. -[LAUGHTER] 1282 01:30:25,463 --> 01:30:27,378 Ooh! 1283 01:30:29,032 --> 01:30:31,556 [INDISTINCT] 1284 01:30:31,687 --> 01:30:34,211 It's so pretty out today. 1285 01:30:56,929 --> 01:31:00,280 [WATER RUNNING] 98611