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[Oprah] And now,
an OWN SPOTLIGHT.
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[melancholy music playing]
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[woman] Mother.
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The stars fill my mouth
while I speak to the universe
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on a tight rope
between life and death,
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negotiating the promise
of an unbreakable heart.
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She molds the pieces
of the last one,
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into a birth canal
paved with gold.
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While the night plays
its finale,
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the ocean opens its arms
and pace is my breath.
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I push, so the pull of waves
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crashing already in celebration
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of the newest extension
of heaven.
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[melancholy music continues]
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Pushing the form
of black women astronauts,
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healers and architects.
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Living to a soundtrack
of little black girls
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feeling the opera house
with strings
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and when pushing the choir
of queen singing,
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we have overcome pushing
a theater
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at ballerina's next door
with Afros out rocking
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so wade in the water,
pushing the applause
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for the leading actress
shining like a new moon.
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Under the spotlight
was she plants seeds falling
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from the hands of a playwright
kin to her.
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I push from the shoulders
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of giants ancestors
that left gifts.
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They receive no honors
for by the river
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to run through
their daughter's forever.
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I push on the lie
that I am not infinite.
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But this warm has not given
the world's renaissance
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after Renaissance, when
the world's given me sorrow
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after ghetto, after brick wall.
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I scaled it with
the entire nation
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tied around my waist,
screaming 'go faster' for you.
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My beautiful black daughters,
I push.
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[woman] Video one, take one.
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[Dr. Joy] My occupation is
kind of hard to put my finger on.
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My occupation has been about
healing for a long time, um,
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and I think my existence
as a black woman
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is directly tied into
my purpose.
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I think that from the time
I was a little girl,
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even though I couldn't
put my finger on it,
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it was a wound that I couldn't
quite figure out what it was.
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I knew it was there, but
I couldn't articulate it
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in a way that made sense,
even for me.
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But I knew it was a deep wound.
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[melancholy music playing]
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I knew it was a heart wound.
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It was a soul wound.
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[Sheila Thomas] We've been hurt.
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We've been abused and used
and thrown out decades
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of just not mattering to anyone.
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That makes you...
It makes you very angry.
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Makes you upset.
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A lot of us are angry because
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of the things that happen
in our lives.
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The things that we go through,
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the way we treat it.
We have cause to be angry.
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The misuse in abuse
of the black woman's body.
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It goes way back,
goes back hundreds of years.
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[thunder rumbling]
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[melancholy music continues]
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[woman] In your book,'Fighting Words',
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you state,
'Publicly articulating rage'
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typically constitutes less
a revelation about oppression,
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than a discovery of voice.
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Ooh.
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Well, I'm happy to hear
I said that.
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[laughing]
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Because I actually said that
quite some time ago,
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and I haven't thought
about this in a while.
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So this is quite interesting.
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Having said that...
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[sighs wearily]
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The terminology now I think,
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would be speaking your own truth
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by claiming your own truth
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and claiming all parts of
yourself, including the rage,
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claiming the full range of voice
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is claiming
the full range of self.
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We also have joy, right?
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We also have sorrow.
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We also have pride.
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We also have laughter, right?
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And so I think we have
a right to our anger,
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and I think that we should
hold on to that right to be angry.
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Why would we reject anger when
there's so much to be angry about,
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that affect us,
that affect our children,
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that affect our communities,
that affect our loved ones?
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Why would we want to tamp
that down to become a good girl?
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If I do begin to assert myself,
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if I begin to stand
in my own truth,
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"Oh, she's aggressive,
she's angry, she's violent."
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Out of control.
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That's all you are,
is an angry black woman.
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I mean, there's angry white
women as angry Spanish women.
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I mean, there's angry women. You know,
why does it have to be the black woman?
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"Angry black woman."
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We don't have dibs on it.
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When you were labeled
that, "angry black woman,"
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was that one of the things
that knocked you back...
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That was one of those things
that you just sort of think,
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"Dang, you don't even know me."
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Yeah.
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It flies in the face
of the reality of who we are.
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It is taken such a level
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of indomitable strength
and courage
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to bear the burden of
consistently being,
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uh, I guess, portrayed as
someone less than human.
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♪ Lord, got to get out ♪
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[man] The new Mammy holderdispenses paper towels
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with a touch of
Southern hospitality.
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[man 2]
The tax free cash income alone
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has been running
$150,000 a year.
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Society's views toward
black women
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are framed through
these particular images.
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The Mammy...
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the Jezebel...
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the welfare queen,
that was relatively new.
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But it's the whole notion of
punishing black women for, um,
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not being abused,
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for saying, "We are entitled
to the benefits"
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"that other people get
in this country."
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When Social Security started
in this country,
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black women where one group
that were excluded.
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So when black women
began to claim
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and say, "No,
we should be included,"
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they became denigrated
as welfare queens.
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[speaks indistinctly]
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[Dr. Hill-Collins] The Jezebel
is the sexualized black woman.
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This is the woman who again
is supposed to be available
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to everyone to serve them,
but to serve them differently,
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to serve them sexually,
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and to then be punished
for that.
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She's there to be used and
to make people comfortable.
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What have we got for supper?
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You stay here. I'm just gonna
get a hot supper.
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And then the last one
is the, what?
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The Mammy, yeah.
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The Mammy is the mother
for the white family.
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That is the all nurturing
black woman
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who does everything for
everybody else, and loves to do it.
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She is the fantasy
of white America.
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When we think about
those kind of archetypes
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that have been imposed
on black women,
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archetype of the Mammy,
of the Sapphire,
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of the Jezebel,
of the welfare queen,
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those are meant
to dehumanize us.
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You call us welfare queens?
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You call us lazy,
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you call us bad mothers.
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No one else gets those titles.
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Why is that?
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But if you had that
image of Aunt Jemima,
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you, um... you were accepted.
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And I think that for decades,
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all we wanted was to be accepted
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and visible
instead of invisible.
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So often I ask my audiences,
I said,
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"How many of you
have ever met a Black person
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that isn't Black?"
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The Black person that
will try to be anything...
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All of a sudden,
anything that I can tell you,
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that will convince you
that I'm not Black.
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Well, I have
another word for it...
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It's called
post traumatic slave syndrome.
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As a mother of two Black men...
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the thing that I'm most
afraid of
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is that I'm going to get a call
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saying that someone
killed my sons.
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That terrorizes me.
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Mornings around here
aren't just hectic...
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Oh! They're insane. [laughs]
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And that's why I love these.
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[woman]
Aunt Jemima frozen pancakes.
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They're the perfect solution
to busy weekday mornings.
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♪ Aunt Jemima
Now you're cooking ♪
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[man] Hey, these are terrific.What's the secret?
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Oh, it's an old family secret
handed down
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from generation to generation...
- [laughter]
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...from father to son.
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- By Aunt Jemima.
- The Secret is out.
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I mean, I have yet to meet
a black woman
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who loved being a Mammy.
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[woman] Did your mother work?
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Yes, she did, uh, housework.
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That was her way of income,
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working and cleaning house
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for, uh, the white people
back there.
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Washing and ironing.
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And, um, that was her way
of her income
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and making a living,
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because at the time,
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that was all that
the black woman knew to do...
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at that time.
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Do housework, cook...
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wash, iron...
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They were influenced, too.
Be the Mammy they knew.
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Labels, stereotypes
like Mammy, um,
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are what my colleague
Patricia Hill-Collins
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calls controlling images.
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They boxes that try to contain
and control us.
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And one of the things that I find
most important about these stereotypes
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and these controlling images is,
even when we're trying to defy them
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and not fall into them,
they're controlling us.
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The process of making oneself
invisible or playing small, right?
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Trying not to draw negative
attention to ourselves
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also means that we're not drawing
positive attention to ourselves.
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We're not able to
fulfill our potential.
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So often I ask my audiences, I said,
"How many Black people in my audience,"
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I asked them, "How many of you have
ever met a Black person that isn't Black?"
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The Black person that
will try to be anything...
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"Oh, did I mention how much
Native American I have in me?"
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"Oh, and I understand based on my DNA
now, that my people come from Switzerland."
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All of a sudden,
anything that I can tell you,
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that will convince you
that I'm not Black, right,
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and everybody Black knows that.
Well, I have another word for it...
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It's called
post traumatic slave syndrome.
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Post traumatic slave syndrome
is exactly what it sounds like.
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It's multigenerational trauma,
intergenerational trauma,
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as it relates to people
of African descent.
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Being separated from your
your native land,
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being beaten, being sold,
being raped,
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being experimented on,
any number of things.
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As an enslaved African woman,
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you um... you had no rights to your own
body, no rights at all to your own body.
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And it didn't start
when you were a woman.
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You know, that's the other kind of
mythology when we talk about rapes,
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were thinking about women.
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You think they waited
until they were eighteen?
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You think few girls got to teenage
years without having been raped.
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To imagine being a mother...
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Someone just comes in the middle of
night says, you know we have some visitors.
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They like the young ones.
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So we going to pass her
along, to the visitors that night.
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See you can't wrap your
head around that.
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And we want to
really believe that,
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well that just happened
a couple of times,
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well according to a
mid eighteen hundred census
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or over six hundred thousand
mixed race babies born.
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That's a lot of
sneaking out back.
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The more disturbing pieces are
the fact that you have the institution
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of the church that was complicit,
that with slavery was complicit with
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beyond that, I mean, you look at the
Reverend John Newton for example.
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This was a man who
spent many, many years
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on slave ships,
raping little girls and women.
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This is his own accounts, he said
that I sinned with the high hand,
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and he at the same time,
said that Black people
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were not destined for the next
world, because we didn't have souls.
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[singing "Amazing Grace"]
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This was the same person
who penned Amazing Grace.
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♪ The ♪
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♪ The sound ♪
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♪ that saved ♪
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And it took him a long time to
arrive at "Amazing Grace."
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But that was because he
knew what he done.
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He knew later on,
as he was approaching death.
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That he would be held
accountable for that.
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I don't think anyone sings "Amazing
Grace" more than Black people.
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Somebody singing it this
Sunday, I'm sure, "Amazing Grace."
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But have no idea that the
wretch was him and not them.
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So now they're calling themselves the
wretch when he, in fact, was the wretch.
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It is so difficult to talk
about the misuse and abuse
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of Black women's bodies
by so many different people,
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on so many different levels.
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If slavery is being exposed
to images that tell you
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you are the mule of the world
or you are a Jezebel
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or you are a prostitute or a bitch
or a ho, then slavery is not over.
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So there was an
attempt by, um...
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this structure from the
beginning to take women's bodies,
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Black women's bodies,
and make them not our own.
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[Dr. Joy Degrui]
This one particular physician,
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um, J. Marion Sims.
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J. Marion Sims was a physician
in the mid eighteen hundreds.
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Consider the father of
modern gynecology,
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because he developed the speculum,
which is used for every woman today.
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So much goes through
my head when I think about
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what these men would do
that would bring...
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He had a makeshift hospital in his
backyard in mid eighteen hundreds.
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So in his makeshift hospital,
and all of these slave owners
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would bring these enslaved
girls and women and say fix them.
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And he'd go, well
what's wrong with them?
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They would they would be women
who were suffering
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from something called
Obstetric fistula.
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Which is a breakdown
of tissue in the vaginal wall,
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usually occurs during childbirth,
where you actually tear all the way
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through the bladder, through
the rectum, and it causes,
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this... gaps which causes
leakage of urine and feces.
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And he'd said, "We'll fix them
because they're not fit for duty."
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Well, obstetric fistula's
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pretty horrible thing to have,
but it will heal.
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You still have leakage, which
is horrible and uncomfortable,
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but it doesn't preclude your
ability, to say, working the fields.
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Doesn't preclude your ability to
clean, feed animals, what have you.
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So what duty, then,
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were they not fit for?
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And that duty was they needed to be
sexually accessible to the slave owner.
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So he said,
fix her J. Marion Sims,
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so she could be fit for duty.
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And that duty, didn't matter that she
was twelve or ten, she's not fit for duty.
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Mississippi appendectomy
is a is a phrase
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that describes the
forced sterilization
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of Black women, mainly
but not only, in the South.
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And the reason why
the phrase is so powerful
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is because it's naming a
practice of deceiving Black women.
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Because often people were admitted
to the hospital and told, for example,
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they had to get their
appendix removed,
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and really they were given a
hysterectomy or tubal ligation.
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This is a culture that wants us to
talk about the political and the cultural.
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Um, much more than talking about
the foundation of it all is exploitation.
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So the economic dimension
is the exploitation
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of Black women's labor
and Black women's bodies.
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It's that fundamental.
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[Cora Mathews]
At the age of fourteen,
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I was in a little town out of Pine
Bluff called Old Timers, Arkansas.
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I began on a plantation.
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There was a job,
there was earning money.
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It wasn't very much.
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But, I was happy that
at the end of the week
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I had money, and
I could go shopping.
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And I remember,
my first week of working.
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I bought myself,
a beautiful yellow dress,
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and, uh, a pair of shoes.
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And I think at the end of the
week, I had about 18 dollars.
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That was the way,
I was taught at that time,
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to, uh, earn money, for myself.
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We had overseers, we had
water boys to bring cold water.
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Some of them were White and then
there we had some that were Black.
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At times, I hated it.
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I wasn't very good at it.
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My uncle tried to teach me
because he would always
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have me beside him on a row.
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I wanted to fill my bag, but you
have to shake it down to make it heavy
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so you have a nice weight when
you're going to have it weighed.
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And every time I would fill my
bag, he would shake it down.
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And that was discouraging
because I wanted a full bag like his.
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And once you fill it up, then
they pay you by the pound.
341
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It was like 50 cents a pound, so you
really had to pick hard to make any money.
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My husband promised
to get me out of there.
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And he did.
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Once I got engaged,
then I didn't go any more.
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My biggest fear is that
the police
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stop one of my sons
and something happens to them,
347
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they get shot or
get beat up, or anything...
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Anything would have happened
to them.
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Slavery did not end.
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If that is a question of not being able
to make decisions about your own life,
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if slavery is a situation
of economic disadvantage
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and not being able to get out of
it from one generation to the next,
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if slavery is being exposed
to images that tell you
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you are the mule of the world
or you are a Jezebel
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or you are a prostitute or a bitch
or a ho, then slavery is not over.
356
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There's this kind of mythology
around slavery
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that slavery officially ended,
and at that point somehow
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the playing field got leveled.
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But what I would submit to you is
that, you know, you had Jim Crow,
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all the lynchings that occurred,
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thousands and thousands of
lynchings occurred post-slavery,
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not during In fact, if
you were to look at right now,
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look at the majority of lynchings that
have gone on and those thousands
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of lynchings that have occurred
all over the United States,
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there's this delusional
paranoia that people of color,
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and principally Black men
would do to White women
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what White men did to Black women.
And the average Black man knew to run.
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Don't even make eye contact
with a White woman, which could
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cause, you know, cause your
death. Wrote a note to a White woman,
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failed to run an errand for a White
woman, startled a White woman,
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All of those would lead to lynching, not
just of Black men, but of the entire family.
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[woman] I hear you have a
problem with these gentlemen
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having a barbecue here at
the lake. What's going on?
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00:24:19,458 --> 00:24:22,793
- Now she don't want to talk.
- [woman] She doesn't want to talk now.
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00:24:22,894 --> 00:24:24,962
It's illegal to have a
charcoal grill in the park here.
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00:24:25,063 --> 00:24:26,597
- [woman] No, it's not, actually.
- Yeah, it is.
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00:24:26,698 --> 00:24:29,433
I just looked at the map that says
this is a designated barbecue area.
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[woman] This woman don't want
to let a little girl sell some water.
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00:24:31,837 --> 00:24:36,006
- Illegally selling water without a permit, yeah.
- [woman] On my property.
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00:24:36,107 --> 00:24:38,809
No, I want
the cops here right now.
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[children crying]
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- Mommy.
- I'm gonna stay right here. I'm gonna stay right here.
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[woman] The copsare right down the block.
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So what I've been thinking
about a lot lately,
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and I'm a mother
and I'm a godmother.
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Something that I feel almost is
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a transgenerational memory,
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the idea that I don't have the
power, really, to protect my children.
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00:25:05,837 --> 00:25:08,739
My biggest fear is that
the police
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00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:13,544
stop one of my sons
and something happens to them,
391
00:25:13,645 --> 00:25:18,082
they get shot or
get beat up, or anything...
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00:25:18,183 --> 00:25:20,084
Anything would have happened
to them.
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00:25:20,185 --> 00:25:23,988
As a mother of two Black men,
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00:25:24,089 --> 00:25:27,958
The thing that I'm most afraid
of is that I'm going to get a call
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saying that someone
killed my sons.
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00:25:32,697 --> 00:25:34,064
That terrorizes me.
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00:25:35,300 --> 00:25:37,868
[man] All right. I've asked
Helen Jones to join us.
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00:25:37,969 --> 00:25:39,336
Okay, Helen, go ahead.
399
00:25:39,437 --> 00:25:41,305
Okay. This is my son,
John Horton
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that was accused
of hanging hisself
401
00:25:43,708 --> 00:25:45,576
in the Men's County Jail
last month
402
00:25:45,677 --> 00:25:48,579
on the 30th. They came
to my daughter's residence
403
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,548
to tell me my son hung hisself.
404
00:25:50,649 --> 00:25:51,749
But they didn't say that my son
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00:25:51,850 --> 00:25:54,251
have scars in his head.
406
00:25:54,352 --> 00:25:59,823
He have, uh, meat showing
to where... a handcuff
407
00:25:59,925 --> 00:26:02,860
was on his wrist to where
it's ate down to the meat.
408
00:26:02,961 --> 00:26:05,162
They didn't mention
none of that, you know?
409
00:26:05,263 --> 00:26:07,464
And then the bruise that's
on my son's head,
410
00:26:07,566 --> 00:26:08,799
you can see it clear as day
411
00:26:08,900 --> 00:26:12,303
where he been hit with
a billy club or a flashlight.
412
00:26:12,404 --> 00:26:14,204
The line's right here.
413
00:26:14,306 --> 00:26:15,839
You could see it clear as day.
414
00:26:15,941 --> 00:26:17,775
I can, I can show you proof.
415
00:26:17,876 --> 00:26:21,512
These lines right here is right
on my baby's head right here.
416
00:26:21,613 --> 00:26:22,813
And I'm just trying
to figure out,
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00:26:22,914 --> 00:26:25,349
how did my son hang hisself
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00:26:25,450 --> 00:26:27,885
after taking a blow
like this to his head,
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00:26:27,986 --> 00:26:30,821
without receiving medical
attention from anybody.
420
00:26:30,922 --> 00:26:32,723
'Cause I know he didn't get
no medical attention.
421
00:26:32,824 --> 00:26:36,026
This is the noose
that came with my baby's body.
422
00:26:36,127 --> 00:26:38,295
This is what was
around his neck.
423
00:26:38,396 --> 00:26:40,731
And this is not the print
that's around my baby neck.
424
00:26:40,832 --> 00:26:43,701
My baby have a mark
around his neck this thin.
425
00:26:43,802 --> 00:26:46,537
So how would, how can he
hang hisself with this?
426
00:26:46,638 --> 00:26:50,374
This came to me and my family,
and I'm just trying to,
427
00:26:50,475 --> 00:26:53,444
how did this get out of evidence
and out of custody...
428
00:27:20,805 --> 00:27:23,874
I have one daughter today.
429
00:27:23,975 --> 00:27:26,877
She's 32, and I have a son
430
00:27:26,978 --> 00:27:30,414
that, you know, that's deceased.
431
00:27:30,515 --> 00:27:34,585
I knew they was doing something to
John because they wouldn't let me see him.
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00:27:34,686 --> 00:27:37,554
And I tried to visit him
numerous times
433
00:27:39,057 --> 00:27:41,325
and they hid him from me and
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00:27:42,794 --> 00:27:46,330
kept lying to me, telling me he
was over here, he was over there.
435
00:27:47,365 --> 00:27:52,336
So if anything, I just
want John to know that
436
00:27:52,437 --> 00:27:55,172
I wish I could have saved him. I
wish I could have helped my son.
437
00:27:57,876 --> 00:27:59,376
That's it.
438
00:28:16,761 --> 00:28:18,228
There's no way I could
get over that.
439
00:28:20,432 --> 00:28:24,401
I would use my dying breath
to get justice for him.
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00:28:26,371 --> 00:28:29,606
So the question is,
how to protect oneself.
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00:28:29,708 --> 00:28:33,477
And how do you raise a child
in a culture that hates your child?
442
00:28:33,578 --> 00:28:35,579
How do you raise your child
in a culture
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00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,916
that will kill your child and
not even think twice about it?
444
00:28:39,017 --> 00:28:42,786
The police state is existing
exactly
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00:28:42,887 --> 00:28:45,856
as it was designed to exist,
446
00:28:45,957 --> 00:28:48,625
and it makes me very angry.
447
00:28:48,727 --> 00:28:52,463
It makes me angry that
Black mothers are gunned down,
448
00:28:52,564 --> 00:28:57,000
people like Wakisha Wilson, or
Kisha Michael or, Michelle Shirley.
449
00:28:57,702 --> 00:29:02,773
Way, stand in the rifle sight.
450
00:29:02,874 --> 00:29:06,176
We raise our children
in the rifle sight.
451
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:13,884
[man] The most disrespected
person in America is the Black woman.
452
00:29:17,455 --> 00:29:20,791
The most unprotected person
in America is the Black woman.
453
00:29:24,095 --> 00:29:27,097
The most neglected person
in America is the Black woman.
454
00:29:30,502 --> 00:29:36,406
Faith is not only believing in
something that you can't see and touch,
455
00:29:36,508 --> 00:29:41,879
but it's really expressing
your true potential,
456
00:29:41,980 --> 00:29:45,816
We were meant to survive
as units of labor.
457
00:29:45,917 --> 00:29:49,653
We were meant to survive
as commodities
458
00:29:49,754 --> 00:29:52,956
that other people can use
for other purposes.
459
00:29:53,057 --> 00:29:55,092
But we were never meant
to survive
460
00:29:55,193 --> 00:30:00,030
as fully human beings
that are seen as fully human.
461
00:30:03,234 --> 00:30:06,236
If I tell you this secret,
do you promise to keep it?
462
00:30:14,946 --> 00:30:19,583
My armor is only flesh,
463
00:30:19,684 --> 00:30:23,787
more human than you could
ever imagine.
464
00:30:25,957 --> 00:30:31,128
Feet swollen somewhere between
systemic diabetes and years of marching
465
00:30:31,229 --> 00:30:33,964
from the house to the
river, across the fields,
466
00:30:34,065 --> 00:30:37,034
through the underground,
for women's suffrage,
467
00:30:37,135 --> 00:30:39,002
for civil rights, for Bring Our
Kids Home, for gay marriage,
468
00:30:39,103 --> 00:30:41,371
for Black Lives Matter,
for Say Her Name.
469
00:30:41,472 --> 00:30:44,541
I'd be lying if I said
the blood of my children
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00:30:44,642 --> 00:30:48,712
and pimped across phone screens
didn't make me regret opening my eyes.
471
00:30:48,813 --> 00:30:51,548
Most mornings it's hard
to remember a time
472
00:30:51,649 --> 00:30:55,185
when death was beautiful
and old age was regular.
473
00:30:55,286 --> 00:30:57,855
I don't remember a day
since puberty
474
00:30:57,956 --> 00:31:01,058
when the generational trauma
of being held captive
475
00:31:01,159 --> 00:31:03,894
didn't blow its foul breath
in my face.
476
00:31:03,995 --> 00:31:09,600
With the passing of cop cars, I
see my voiceless sister in the trunk,
477
00:31:09,701 --> 00:31:13,370
bullets destined to rip
through my brother, a driver.
478
00:31:13,471 --> 00:31:17,608
It's having six o'clock beers with
correction officers who mocked my father,
479
00:31:17,709 --> 00:31:21,712
reaching through the bars of his
cage, begging for one more phone call.
480
00:31:21,813 --> 00:31:25,549
It's a mama who needs 15
minutes of his voice like aspirin
481
00:31:25,650 --> 00:31:27,851
at the end of her third
double this week.
482
00:31:27,952 --> 00:31:30,854
It's the intuition that
makes your toes go numb,
483
00:31:30,955 --> 00:31:36,793
the vision that glazes your face until
strangers ask, what you looking so mean for?
484
00:31:43,601 --> 00:31:45,802
I'd be lying if I said
it doesn't hurt.
485
00:31:48,106 --> 00:31:50,674
To watch him choose
my gentrified beauty.
486
00:31:50,775 --> 00:31:54,945
An another while in my off-brand
accent, they say, she just mad.
487
00:31:57,649 --> 00:32:00,717
Like after several
thousand years of dying for
488
00:32:00,818 --> 00:32:03,453
and beside my counterpart,
I wouldn't be
489
00:32:03,554 --> 00:32:06,356
and I shouldn't be,
because I did it out of love.
490
00:32:06,457 --> 00:32:09,092
He owes me nothing, but damn.
491
00:32:10,628 --> 00:32:14,298
Sometimes I wonder if so
many lives hadn't been so cruel.
492
00:32:14,399 --> 00:32:15,732
Would he still be mine?
493
00:32:18,269 --> 00:32:22,572
I wonder if his soul
recognizes humiliation
494
00:32:22,674 --> 00:32:26,610
of a beaten and raped wife
for the master who stole his life?
495
00:32:26,711 --> 00:32:28,912
When he looks at me, I wonder
496
00:32:30,682 --> 00:32:33,750
if his spirit has PTSD.
497
00:32:35,853 --> 00:32:37,521
I wonder if I can cure it.
498
00:32:40,258 --> 00:32:41,825
Would you believe me
if I told you
499
00:32:41,926 --> 00:32:44,795
sometimes I go into the shower
and just below the volume
500
00:32:44,862 --> 00:32:48,665
of the radio, I tilt my head
back and cry my heart out?
501
00:32:48,766 --> 00:32:53,503
Heavy are the eyelids that wake after
a thousand nights of morning herself.
502
00:32:53,604 --> 00:32:55,339
There's no way
around feeling it.
503
00:32:56,941 --> 00:32:59,009
That's how you get through it.
504
00:33:05,450 --> 00:33:09,686
And sometimes, the only safe
place for that is in my dreams.
505
00:33:11,589 --> 00:33:16,593
Sometimes I go to sleep
just to lay my head
506
00:33:16,694 --> 00:33:19,830
in the lap of Sojourner
and be a woman again.
507
00:33:23,334 --> 00:33:26,403
I am tired of announcing
my strength with heartbreak.
508
00:33:29,607 --> 00:33:32,676
And it ain't fair
to be this tired.
509
00:33:39,617 --> 00:33:41,818
We're still here
and we haven't gone away.
510
00:33:43,821 --> 00:33:49,993
And we are not victims,
and we're not damaged.
511
00:33:50,094 --> 00:33:54,097
We have painful wounds from which some of
us have healed and others of us have not.
512
00:33:54,198 --> 00:33:58,268
But that doesn't make us damaged
goods in any way, shape or form.
513
00:34:00,405 --> 00:34:01,838
It makes us leaders, actually.
514
00:34:03,574 --> 00:34:07,110
I think the label resilient,
like most labels,
515
00:34:09,113 --> 00:34:14,618
the effect of that, in part, is
tied to who is wielding that label.
516
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:19,356
In one way, resilient can be wielded
and used to describe Black women
517
00:34:19,457 --> 00:34:22,125
as a way to celebrate
how you survive oppression.
518
00:34:22,226 --> 00:34:26,129
But it can also be wielded
in a way
519
00:34:26,230 --> 00:34:31,835
that fetishizes strength
that says, you know what?
520
00:34:31,936 --> 00:34:35,372
You are so strong we really don't
have to care about how we treat you.
521
00:35:04,902 --> 00:35:06,470
[melancholy music playing]
522
00:35:16,681 --> 00:35:20,817
[Cora Matthews] I went to a
segregated school. All Black.
523
00:35:20,918 --> 00:35:24,121
And my parents had taught us
about the difference in the schools
524
00:35:26,157 --> 00:35:30,594
I had heard of the fighting
and the Kirsten protest.
525
00:35:30,695 --> 00:35:34,164
To get this undone where
we are to school together.
526
00:35:34,265 --> 00:35:38,401
Even when I was going to
church, it would get so intense.
527
00:35:46,844 --> 00:35:50,213
I used to hear my father free.
528
00:35:50,314 --> 00:35:52,983
He would pray out loud,
you know,
529
00:35:53,084 --> 00:35:57,154
and I always wanted to, uh,
pray like he did.
530
00:36:04,529 --> 00:36:08,265
I would hear prayers.
That was just heartening
531
00:36:08,366 --> 00:36:14,905
Just touching. It would make you
feel that guy was somewhere close.
532
00:36:15,006 --> 00:36:19,476
You could just feel the
presence and that inspired me
533
00:36:19,577 --> 00:36:22,779
to trust that same gut
and go to go to him in prayer
534
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,215
and asked that things would
get better.
535
00:36:25,316 --> 00:36:28,051
There would be more unity in
the world.
536
00:36:30,821 --> 00:36:35,725
I think there's something very deep there
when we talk about faith and Black women.
537
00:36:35,826 --> 00:36:38,728
If you think about faith
as being committed
538
00:36:38,829 --> 00:36:40,931
to something that's bigger
than yourself.
539
00:36:41,032 --> 00:36:43,500
Faith as having hope for
the future.
540
00:36:44,635 --> 00:36:46,736
Many Black women have to get
up every day
541
00:36:46,837 --> 00:36:49,739
and have faith that they will
survive that day,
542
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:51,908
that their children will
survive that day,
543
00:36:52,009 --> 00:36:55,845
and that their children's lives
will be better than their lives.
544
00:36:55,947 --> 00:37:01,751
Faith is not only believing in
something that you can't see and touch,
545
00:37:01,852 --> 00:37:05,989
but it's really expressing
your true potential,
546
00:37:06,090 --> 00:37:10,026
a potential that there's not
evidence that anyone else believes in.
547
00:37:13,764 --> 00:37:19,202
There's nothing else around you that is
reflecting back at you, who you truly are.
548
00:37:20,671 --> 00:37:22,606
But you know who you are, right?
549
00:37:22,707 --> 00:37:26,743
And so it's a reclamation
of your nobility.
550
00:37:26,844 --> 00:37:30,914
It's a reclamation of your
inherent worth,
551
00:37:31,015 --> 00:37:34,117
even if the world around you
does not believe it,
552
00:37:34,218 --> 00:37:36,620
does not treat you
according to that.
553
00:37:36,721 --> 00:37:40,957
Faith is the reason why we're
here, because we held onto that
554
00:37:41,058 --> 00:37:43,526
against all evidence to
the contrary.
555
00:37:46,230 --> 00:37:48,765
Ended slavery times.
556
00:37:48,866 --> 00:37:53,436
That's what's got them through
a lot of the things
557
00:37:53,537 --> 00:37:57,874
that they had to go
through. Prayer. Singing.
558
00:38:02,113 --> 00:38:05,915
Can you sing me your favorite
gospel song that gets you through?
559
00:38:11,155 --> 00:38:12,122
♪ Yes ♪
560
00:38:13,257 --> 00:38:17,427
♪ Jesus loves me ♪
561
00:38:18,462 --> 00:38:19,562
♪ Yes ♪
562
00:38:20,331 --> 00:38:21,831
♪ Jesus ♪
563
00:38:21,932 --> 00:38:24,100
♪ He loves me ♪
564
00:38:24,969 --> 00:38:26,102
♪ Yes ♪
565
00:38:26,804 --> 00:38:28,204
♪ Jesus ♪
566
00:38:28,306 --> 00:38:33,276
♪ He loves me for the Bible ♪
567
00:38:33,377 --> 00:38:36,313
♪ tells me so ♪
568
00:38:45,790 --> 00:38:46,723
He loves me.
569
00:38:48,192 --> 00:38:53,697
And part of our strength is the
knowing that that pain will end.
570
00:38:53,798 --> 00:38:55,265
That we're going to make sure
it does.
571
00:38:55,366 --> 00:38:56,900
You ain't gonna hit me no more.
572
00:38:57,001 --> 00:39:01,037
I think what we're going to
find out is the tiniest things,
573
00:39:01,138 --> 00:39:05,275
the things that we think are just
fleeting, in the big scheme of things,
574
00:39:05,376 --> 00:39:08,111
I think those are going to be
what's most amplified
575
00:39:08,212 --> 00:39:10,980
in terms of the value
of our lives.
576
00:39:11,082 --> 00:39:14,351
And so I just hope that
we don't take it for granted.
577
00:39:17,988 --> 00:39:24,627
The hardest lesson I had to
learn in life is stay strong
578
00:39:26,397 --> 00:39:29,132
and knowing that I will
make it to the other side.
579
00:39:30,801 --> 00:39:34,871
Learning how to bear with this
pain that I'm going through with John
580
00:39:34,972 --> 00:39:40,310
and still be able to be there for
the rest of my family that needs me.
581
00:39:40,411 --> 00:39:41,845
It's not a strength that means
582
00:39:41,946 --> 00:39:45,715
that there's no vulnerability
and there's no pain, right?
583
00:39:46,951 --> 00:39:50,253
There's wounds and there's
pain and there's vulnerability
584
00:39:50,921 --> 00:39:55,592
and we refuse to submit to it.
585
00:39:59,663 --> 00:40:05,135
And part of our strength is the
knowing that that pain will end.
586
00:40:05,236 --> 00:40:06,703
That we're going to make sure
it does.
587
00:40:06,804 --> 00:40:08,037
You ain't gonna hit me no more.
588
00:40:09,373 --> 00:40:10,740
[melancholy music playing]
589
00:40:17,314 --> 00:40:20,617
All those, you know,
generations of being told
590
00:40:20,718 --> 00:40:26,055
what to do, when to do it, how
to do it like we did that already.
591
00:40:26,157 --> 00:40:29,325
There is a kind of
fierce independence
592
00:40:29,427 --> 00:40:35,165
and independence of mind,
of will, of tenacity, of knowing.
593
00:40:35,266 --> 00:40:40,937
There is a sense of knowing
that Black women have.
594
00:40:41,038 --> 00:40:43,506
It's a silent, quiet, and we
know it
595
00:40:43,607 --> 00:40:45,442
because we can look
at each other and see it.
596
00:40:46,544 --> 00:40:48,278
It's the reason why
we could look and smile
597
00:40:48,379 --> 00:40:50,613
and give that nod
because it's a knowing.
598
00:40:55,453 --> 00:40:57,387
You can't take that from us.
599
00:40:57,488 --> 00:40:59,622
That's a spiritual reality.
600
00:40:59,723 --> 00:41:05,261
That is that we were born
with, and that has galvanized,
601
00:41:05,362 --> 00:41:08,565
I think, Black women in every
spot of the earth.
602
00:41:20,778 --> 00:41:22,145
[instrumental music playing]
603
00:41:28,686 --> 00:41:33,056
[Dr. Melina] Everything was
set up for us not to survive.
604
00:41:37,161 --> 00:41:42,565
Our perseverance, our survival,
our resilience is a form of rebellion.
605
00:41:42,666 --> 00:41:46,202
Refusing to succumb to the
oppressions that we live under.
606
00:41:48,439 --> 00:41:51,674
If you could imagine
almost a diamond shaped chart.
607
00:41:51,775 --> 00:41:57,080
The very top of the chart
is White men and their arrows.
608
00:41:57,181 --> 00:41:59,716
Moving from that top box
to implication here
609
00:41:59,817 --> 00:42:03,953
that White women
feel sexism from white men.
610
00:42:04,054 --> 00:42:07,857
And then there's an arrow
from the White men
611
00:42:07,958 --> 00:42:13,696
to men of color and men of
color feel racism from White men.
612
00:42:13,797 --> 00:42:18,968
They also feel racism from White
women and then leading from White women
613
00:42:19,069 --> 00:42:23,773
and men of color are two arrows
that lead to a box at the bottom,
614
00:42:23,874 --> 00:42:26,509
and at the bottom is his women
of color.
615
00:42:26,610 --> 00:42:30,747
Women of color feel racism
from White women,
616
00:42:30,848 --> 00:42:36,019
racism from White men,
sexism from White men
617
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:38,788
and sexism from men of color.
618
00:42:38,889 --> 00:42:42,158
And then when you look at that
box of women of color and you look at
619
00:42:42,259 --> 00:42:46,629
where the disproportionate level
of injury is, health or otherwise,
620
00:42:46,730 --> 00:42:50,133
you're going to have a box
below that and that's Black women.
621
00:42:50,234 --> 00:42:54,737
So Black women then become
the oppressed of the oppressed.
622
00:42:54,838 --> 00:42:58,841
We were meant to survive
as units of labor.
623
00:42:58,943 --> 00:43:02,879
We were meant to survive
as commodities
624
00:43:02,980 --> 00:43:06,082
that other people can use
for other purposes.
625
00:43:06,183 --> 00:43:08,318
But we were never meant
to survive
626
00:43:08,419 --> 00:43:13,122
as fully human beings
that are seen as fully human.
627
00:43:14,491 --> 00:43:17,493
Rebelling against that is a
good thing.
628
00:43:24,401 --> 00:43:29,973
I think that there's this
notion that you tried to bury us
629
00:43:30,074 --> 00:43:32,642
and only discover we were seeds.
630
00:43:33,911 --> 00:43:37,480
Is a rebellion.
631
00:43:43,621 --> 00:43:47,490
[Dr. Patricia] Rebellion occurs
in so many different ways.
632
00:43:47,591 --> 00:43:51,227
Sometimes when a Black woman
is sitting there being very quiet,
633
00:43:51,328 --> 00:43:55,865
she is engaged in profound
rebellion in her own mind.
634
00:43:55,966 --> 00:43:59,168
Sometimes rebellion
is the sister who stands up
635
00:43:59,269 --> 00:44:02,271
and tells you about yourself
to your face.
636
00:44:02,373 --> 00:44:06,309
Even though you did not
ask her to say anything.
637
00:44:06,410 --> 00:44:10,046
Sometimes a rebellion
is working with the rules
638
00:44:10,147 --> 00:44:14,317
within an institution to shift
them and tweak them a little bit,
639
00:44:14,418 --> 00:44:17,053
so there's a little more of
this and a little less of that.
640
00:44:22,826 --> 00:44:29,065
What I really love about Black women
is, um, the way in which we've engaged
641
00:44:29,166 --> 00:44:32,101
in the struggle for power
in a way that's very different
642
00:44:32,202 --> 00:44:34,871
to the White male
leadership model.
643
00:44:34,972 --> 00:44:38,908
Our very existence, the way
that we move through the world,
644
00:44:39,009 --> 00:44:45,114
um, is a refusal of both a White
supremacist system or a patriarchal system.
645
00:44:45,215 --> 00:44:50,820
And so we're in the best
position to begin to try to imagine
646
00:44:50,921 --> 00:44:54,257
and build something outside
of these oppressive systems.
647
00:44:54,358 --> 00:44:58,461
I'm thinking about the
small-p politics in communities.
648
00:44:58,562 --> 00:45:01,497
Charlotta Bass
who ran for vice president
649
00:45:01,598 --> 00:45:05,134
and said, win or lose,
we win by raising the issues.
650
00:45:05,235 --> 00:45:08,638
Women like Barbara Lee,
Karen Bass and others
651
00:45:08,739 --> 00:45:12,208
who attempted to kind of
bridge community
652
00:45:12,276 --> 00:45:16,379
organizing and kind of the work
that needs to be done, that's larger
653
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:21,150
than electoral politics and
using electoral politics is a tool.
654
00:45:21,251 --> 00:45:25,021
I'm thinking of
Maxine Waters today.
655
00:45:25,122 --> 00:45:29,025
I'm thinking of Shirley Chisholm,
who I got to act as in like,
656
00:45:29,126 --> 00:45:30,993
a third grade play.
657
00:45:31,095 --> 00:45:32,829
So we know some of their names,
658
00:45:32,930 --> 00:45:34,430
but we don't know all of
their names.
659
00:45:34,531 --> 00:45:39,502
We don't know every Black woman
who rose up on a slave plantation and said
660
00:45:39,603 --> 00:45:42,872
we're going to have a work stoppage
or we don't know all of the Black women
661
00:45:42,973 --> 00:45:46,209
who, during the civil rights
movement, took care of the folks
662
00:45:46,310 --> 00:45:48,878
who were beaten or
marched themselves.
663
00:45:58,489 --> 00:46:02,625
Black women can do anything.
We can make a meal out of nothing.
664
00:46:02,726 --> 00:46:06,295
We can make music
out of sorrow, right?
665
00:46:06,396 --> 00:46:09,632
We can write our feelings
and it becomes a poem.
666
00:46:09,733 --> 00:46:13,803
We can transform
pain into laughter.
667
00:46:13,904 --> 00:46:15,538
Maybe it's more than creativity.
668
00:46:15,639 --> 00:46:16,539
Maybe it's magic.
669
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:18,040
Maybe that's
the Black girl magic.
670
00:46:21,044 --> 00:46:22,478
[Dr. Patricia]
The dignity and struggle
671
00:46:22,579 --> 00:46:25,148
is part of the beauty of
everyday life.
672
00:46:25,249 --> 00:46:27,483
But you can't see it
when you're in the moment.
673
00:46:27,618 --> 00:46:30,853
I really think the ordinary
Black people, Black women...
674
00:46:31,922 --> 00:46:33,189
[Dr. Patricia sighs]
675
00:46:38,195 --> 00:46:41,197
[Dr. Patricia] A small story, and
maybe this will give the feel of it.
676
00:46:41,298 --> 00:46:43,566
My first class that I ever
taught on Black women,
677
00:46:43,667 --> 00:46:45,601
I taught to eighth grade
Black girls.
678
00:46:47,771 --> 00:46:51,674
And I had a course that I'd expose
them to kind of famous Black women.
679
00:46:52,810 --> 00:46:54,977
And it's my exercise.
I ask them,
680
00:46:56,113 --> 00:46:58,815
"Could you name a Black woman
that you really admire?"
681
00:47:00,918 --> 00:47:03,986
They all said, my mother,
682
00:47:05,889 --> 00:47:10,660
my grandmother, my sister.
683
00:47:11,995 --> 00:47:17,066
They all named other Black
women that they knew in their lives.
684
00:47:20,237 --> 00:47:23,873
This is a narrative we really
have to say more about.
685
00:47:25,042 --> 00:47:27,376
I have a saying in my
household, right?
686
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:31,914
Mama can do anything, right?
687
00:47:32,015 --> 00:47:36,919
So, like, um, somebody's,
I don't know,
688
00:47:37,020 --> 00:47:39,889
toy will break and I'll fix it.
689
00:47:39,990 --> 00:47:43,259
And I hand it back and I'll go
because Mama and they'll go
690
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,596
can do anything, right?
Because I can.
691
00:47:46,697 --> 00:47:47,997
I can do anything.
692
00:47:48,098 --> 00:47:52,702
Black women can do anything.
We can make a meal out of nothing.
693
00:47:52,803 --> 00:47:56,372
We can make music
out of sorrow, right?
694
00:47:56,473 --> 00:47:59,709
We can write our feelings
and it becomes a poem.
695
00:47:59,810 --> 00:48:02,645
We can transform
pain into laughter.
696
00:48:03,547 --> 00:48:05,181
Maybe it's more than creativity.
697
00:48:05,282 --> 00:48:06,182
Maybe it's magic.
698
00:48:06,283 --> 00:48:08,751
Maybe that's
the Black girl magic, right?
699
00:48:09,219 --> 00:48:10,386
Black woman magic.
700
00:48:10,487 --> 00:48:12,054
Because I'm not a girl.
701
00:48:12,155 --> 00:48:13,656
Life has either come through us
702
00:48:13,757 --> 00:48:15,057
or life has come to us,
703
00:48:15,158 --> 00:48:18,160
and we've been charged
with shaping these lives.
704
00:48:18,262 --> 00:48:21,964
And that is
miraculous and divine.
705
00:48:22,065 --> 00:48:25,301
Just like the mothers before us
706
00:48:25,402 --> 00:48:32,174
shaped things and made a way, we,
too, will shape things and make a way.
707
00:48:32,276 --> 00:48:36,345
And so, for me, I think
about my grandmothers,
708
00:48:36,446 --> 00:48:40,816
and I think about what I learned
from the women in my family.
709
00:48:40,918 --> 00:48:43,386
You need to know more
about those shoulders
710
00:48:43,487 --> 00:48:48,124
because they were able to bear
what few people in recent history
711
00:48:48,225 --> 00:48:49,558
know anything about.
712
00:48:49,660 --> 00:48:52,495
Where are those painful
memories? Where did they go?
713
00:48:58,735 --> 00:49:01,771
How did you cope?
To deal with that?
714
00:49:05,842 --> 00:49:08,377
How did you learn
to love yourself?
715
00:49:08,478 --> 00:49:12,949
And how did you learn
to reconcile yourself?
716
00:49:16,453 --> 00:49:19,288
In every single way
that we've been harmed
717
00:49:19,389 --> 00:49:23,359
and traumatized throughout
history into the present.
718
00:49:23,460 --> 00:49:30,066
Every single point is a site where
healing is occurring and has to occur.
719
00:49:30,167 --> 00:49:34,503
I believe that healing,
survival, winning,
720
00:49:34,604 --> 00:49:38,774
transforming, all of that
is rooted in spiritual work.
721
00:49:38,875 --> 00:49:43,546
Tapping into
the Black women's energy
722
00:49:43,647 --> 00:49:49,518
that's gone before us,
tapping into divine energy.
723
00:49:49,619 --> 00:49:53,456
Being still and listening to
the voices of our foremothers
724
00:49:54,458 --> 00:49:58,928
is what will heal, sustain
and win for us.
725
00:49:59,029 --> 00:50:02,398
'Cause the whole point is, how
do we heal? And the healing part,
726
00:50:02,499 --> 00:50:05,368
I say to people, I say, "Listen,
when I say we need to heal",
727
00:50:05,469 --> 00:50:07,370
that's just not a nice word.
728
00:50:07,471 --> 00:50:08,938
I'm not just saying that.
729
00:50:09,039 --> 00:50:12,942
I'm saying that we must heal,
because if we don't heal,
730
00:50:13,043 --> 00:50:16,012
"we actually
doom future generations."
731
00:50:16,113 --> 00:50:19,215
We have to heal. It's
not philosophical, it's real.
732
00:50:19,316 --> 00:50:22,018
And so, I think
the best thing we can do
733
00:50:22,119 --> 00:50:26,555
is expand what and how
we consider healing
734
00:50:26,656 --> 00:50:31,227
and to understand nothing is too
small to contribute to our healing.
735
00:50:31,328 --> 00:50:36,532
And so, I think, let... let a
thousand forms of healing proliferate.
736
00:50:36,633 --> 00:50:38,834
Every exchange,
that eye contact.
737
00:50:38,935 --> 00:50:42,271
Someone who you're sitting at
the bus stop with, that exchange.
738
00:50:42,372 --> 00:50:45,241
The little girl whose mom
is at the cash register,
739
00:50:45,342 --> 00:50:46,842
who turns around
and looks at you,
740
00:50:46,943 --> 00:50:48,878
how do you beam
some love at her?
741
00:50:48,979 --> 00:50:52,448
There's so many ways that I
remember that I carry that love with me
742
00:50:52,549 --> 00:50:55,718
that people didn't have
to show me love, you know.
743
00:50:55,819 --> 00:51:01,424
That I've felt so,
you know, so sort of energized
744
00:51:01,525 --> 00:51:05,628
by just random people
showing me that I was valuable.
745
00:51:05,729 --> 00:51:12,635
So I do feel that it's my responsibility
not to waste any moments.
746
00:51:12,736 --> 00:51:16,906
I think what we're going to
find out is the tiniest things,
747
00:51:17,007 --> 00:51:21,077
the things that we think are just
fleeting in the big scheme of things,
748
00:51:21,178 --> 00:51:23,913
I think those are going to be
what's most amplified
749
00:51:24,014 --> 00:51:26,782
in terms of the value
of our lives.
750
00:51:26,883 --> 00:51:29,885
And so I just hope that
we don't take it for granted.
751
00:51:39,262 --> 00:51:43,165
[Dr. Melina] And so then beyond
spiritual work, there's each other.
752
00:51:43,266 --> 00:51:47,736
So as we talk about healing,
we have to be willing
753
00:51:47,838 --> 00:51:51,440
to see each other
and to help each other.
754
00:51:51,541 --> 00:51:57,480
That's part of our healing as well, is
seeing each other as pieces of a puzzle,
755
00:51:57,581 --> 00:52:00,116
as parts of a beautiful mosaic.
756
00:52:00,217 --> 00:52:06,155
When Black women win, right,
we win. We have to lift as we climb.
757
00:52:06,256 --> 00:52:09,725
It goes back to Black women
connecting with each other,
758
00:52:09,826 --> 00:52:12,027
Black women
affirming each other.
759
00:52:12,129 --> 00:52:13,662
[projector whirring]
760
00:52:13,763 --> 00:52:16,866
[Jazmine] Resilience is the Black
girl magic they can't rip off of me.
761
00:52:21,404 --> 00:52:25,341
I've spent far too many lives
perfecting the art of survival.
762
00:52:26,409 --> 00:52:29,578
I have mastered mixing
the perfect shades of red
763
00:52:29,679 --> 00:52:33,349
over split lips
I chewed silence into.
764
00:52:33,450 --> 00:52:37,319
I tuned my laughter like a
violin in office break rooms
765
00:52:37,420 --> 00:52:41,790
to drown out the screaming of token
Blackness I couldn't fully swallow.
766
00:52:42,425 --> 00:52:44,660
Like flagpoles and statues,
767
00:52:44,761 --> 00:52:48,497
I have climbed corporate ladders
and rang the alarm from the top.
768
00:52:48,598 --> 00:52:52,168
I've been handcuffed on my
high horse without flinching.
769
00:52:52,269 --> 00:52:54,103
I've learned
what shadows to dust
770
00:52:54,204 --> 00:52:57,606
over swollen eyelids that
squint in prayer all night.
771
00:52:58,775 --> 00:53:01,911
For sons with bandannas
in their pockets
772
00:53:03,146 --> 00:53:06,282
and for sons with Skittles
in their hoodies.
773
00:53:07,984 --> 00:53:11,420
Overlooked for a wife,
I married myself
774
00:53:11,521 --> 00:53:15,658
to education and travel, went
to bed with wine on my tongue
775
00:53:15,759 --> 00:53:18,394
and Isn't She Lovely
playing from my nightstand.
776
00:53:18,495 --> 00:53:22,431
When the terror of burning crosses
began to visit me in my sleep,
777
00:53:22,532 --> 00:53:26,635
I urged myself to dream from
balconies and every corner of the earth.
778
00:53:26,736 --> 00:53:30,639
Dedicated the sum of my life
to the fingertips of ancestors,
779
00:53:30,740 --> 00:53:33,008
touching lands
of their wildest visions,
780
00:53:33,109 --> 00:53:35,544
redefining what it means
to be grounded.
781
00:53:35,645 --> 00:53:38,214
Reclaiming my roots
and my limbs.
782
00:53:38,315 --> 00:53:40,382
These days, I wrap my arms
783
00:53:40,483 --> 00:53:44,887
around great oaks that used to haunt
me with visions of blood on their leaves
784
00:53:44,988 --> 00:53:48,224
and nearly break down
at the miracle of me,
785
00:53:48,325 --> 00:53:52,094
still standing like a tree that
should have been destroyed
786
00:53:52,195 --> 00:53:56,565
by the fires and the floods
and the feds a long time ago.
787
00:53:58,468 --> 00:54:05,808
But by some Black girl magic,
I'm still here.
788
00:54:05,909 --> 00:54:09,645
You got to have long straight
hair, that you're beautiful.
789
00:54:09,746 --> 00:54:10,913
No.
790
00:54:12,582 --> 00:54:14,549
You've got to be beautiful
to be skinny.
791
00:54:14,618 --> 00:54:17,253
No. We thick.
792
00:54:17,354 --> 00:54:20,456
We ain't skinny. We chunky. We
like meat. We got meat on our...
793
00:54:20,557 --> 00:54:21,824
That's beautiful.
794
00:54:21,925 --> 00:54:24,627
Beyonce got in trouble
when she wore the 'fros,
795
00:54:24,728 --> 00:54:25,961
when she walked out with the...
796
00:54:26,062 --> 00:54:27,997
You know, again,
she has an image
797
00:54:28,098 --> 00:54:31,300
that White people thought
that they were controlling.
798
00:54:31,401 --> 00:54:34,603
Until she says, "No, you don't
actually get to control that."
799
00:54:41,578 --> 00:54:47,349
The myth that Black women
are not beautiful is just that.
800
00:54:48,018 --> 00:54:50,119
It's a myth.
801
00:54:50,220 --> 00:54:55,224
And only those who fall for it
and believe it...
802
00:54:57,193 --> 00:55:01,664
You know, those are the ones that
are... are miseducated and are missing out.
803
00:55:01,765 --> 00:55:04,800
You could have a Black person
with perfectly high self esteem say,
804
00:55:04,901 --> 00:55:08,137
"Oh, yeah, she would have been
really pretty if she wasn't so dark."
805
00:55:08,271 --> 00:55:10,873
That will say to...
say to another Black person.
806
00:55:10,974 --> 00:55:12,675
This is a person
with high self esteem.
807
00:55:12,776 --> 00:55:14,376
"Yeah, well, of course
he was attractive.
808
00:55:14,477 --> 00:55:16,845
He had good hair
and he was light-skinned."
809
00:55:16,946 --> 00:55:20,215
The standard of beauty, and this
is a really important historical piece,
810
00:55:20,317 --> 00:55:22,918
is to understand that...
811
00:55:23,953 --> 00:55:27,556
[sighs] Again,
going back to the 1800s.
812
00:55:27,657 --> 00:55:33,062
With the concept of Caucasian also
came the concept of Caucasian beauty.
813
00:55:33,163 --> 00:55:40,169
So beauty and Caucasian were simultaneously
placed into a "scientific" category.
814
00:55:40,270 --> 00:55:45,173
Normal human beauty
is Caucasian,
815
00:55:45,241 --> 00:55:49,545
so they began to assign
beauty with science.
816
00:55:49,646 --> 00:55:56,185
And so therefore, if beauty is
equated with Caucasian and whiteness,
817
00:55:56,286 --> 00:56:01,223
then anything outside of that,
then, becomes something,
818
00:56:01,324 --> 00:56:06,295
one, that is abnormal
and not beautiful.
819
00:56:06,396 --> 00:56:08,931
So anything that has to do
with being Black
820
00:56:09,032 --> 00:56:12,701
then becomes relegated to,
again, other.
821
00:56:12,802 --> 00:56:15,871
To not normal,
not healthy, not beautiful.
822
00:56:15,972 --> 00:56:19,408
You got to have long straight
hair, that you're beautiful.
823
00:56:19,509 --> 00:56:20,509
No.
824
00:56:22,379 --> 00:56:24,113
You've got to be beautiful
to be skinny.
825
00:56:24,214 --> 00:56:26,849
No. We thick.
826
00:56:26,950 --> 00:56:30,386
We ain't skinny. We chunky. We
like meat. We got meat on our...
827
00:56:30,487 --> 00:56:31,587
That's beautiful.
828
00:56:31,688 --> 00:56:36,024
It's the idea of claiming
all parts of yourself
829
00:56:36,126 --> 00:56:38,961
and the multiple skin tones
and histories
830
00:56:39,062 --> 00:56:42,464
and hair textures
of Black women ourselves.
831
00:56:44,501 --> 00:56:49,071
[Dr. Ruha] So the dichotomy
isn't simply be white or be natural.
832
00:56:49,172 --> 00:56:51,707
Hair is a side
of creativity, right?
833
00:56:51,808 --> 00:56:54,843
So not being able
to be pinned down...
834
00:56:54,944 --> 00:56:59,014
People's decisions about
what to do with their hair
835
00:56:59,115 --> 00:57:03,986
are based on their own experiences
of being treated differently.
836
00:57:04,087 --> 00:57:06,989
I work very close
with the CEOs of the company
837
00:57:07,090 --> 00:57:09,792
and they're all white men.
And I was asking my mom,
838
00:57:09,893 --> 00:57:11,794
I was like, "Should I get
these faux locs?
839
00:57:11,895 --> 00:57:13,495
Like, is that appropriate
for work?"
840
00:57:13,596 --> 00:57:16,331
Now, if you're trying
to move up, you know,
841
00:57:16,433 --> 00:57:18,434
you don't want upset
Mr. Jimmy or Miss Ann.
842
00:57:18,535 --> 00:57:21,303
I mean, you're talking
about generations of people
843
00:57:21,404 --> 00:57:24,807
that have been telling you both within
the culture and outside the culture,
844
00:57:24,908 --> 00:57:27,309
that there's something
intrinsically wrong with your hair.
845
00:57:27,410 --> 00:57:28,477
I thought about it,
and I was like,
846
00:57:28,578 --> 00:57:30,612
"Yeah, of course I'm
gonna get these faux locs."
847
00:57:30,713 --> 00:57:34,082
Like, to just do what I want
to do and be expressive
848
00:57:34,184 --> 00:57:35,484
'cause either people
are going to love it
849
00:57:35,585 --> 00:57:37,986
or they're going to hate it,
but either way, like, it's...
850
00:57:38,087 --> 00:57:40,722
it's who I am,
and I want to embrace that.
851
00:57:43,927 --> 00:57:46,662
[Cora] Short hair is beautifulas well as long hair.
852
00:57:46,763 --> 00:57:48,263
But sometimes
we like the long hair.
853
00:57:48,364 --> 00:57:51,266
We want to swing it, you know.
854
00:57:51,367 --> 00:57:55,537
[laughs] Um, what I love
about my hair
855
00:57:55,638 --> 00:57:57,706
is that I could practically
do anything with it.
856
00:57:57,807 --> 00:58:02,344
Our hair is just strong
and beautiful.
857
00:58:02,445 --> 00:58:08,617
We can go from being natural
to pressed out.
858
00:58:08,718 --> 00:58:13,856
We're so creative in the way that
we can look one way on Monday
859
00:58:13,957 --> 00:58:19,294
and on Tuesday we look completely
different than we look on Wednesday.
860
00:58:19,395 --> 00:58:20,462
[inaudible]
861
00:58:26,903 --> 00:58:27,903
[Cora] Black is beautiful.
862
00:58:30,907 --> 00:58:31,773
Simple.
863
00:58:33,443 --> 00:58:34,943
All shades.
864
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,048
[Sheila] Blacknessis so beautiful.
865
00:58:44,487 --> 00:58:47,523
We're talented
866
00:58:47,624 --> 00:58:51,927
because we have the ability
to recreate ourselves.
867
00:59:02,438 --> 00:59:03,672
And we're sexy.
868
00:59:05,141 --> 00:59:09,077
You know, the way that
a Black woman's hips,
869
00:59:09,178 --> 00:59:13,448
the waist, you know,
the lips and the eyes
870
00:59:13,550 --> 00:59:19,254
and the nose that are just so
full. That people pay money,
871
00:59:19,355 --> 00:59:24,459
big money, to have our lips
and the roundness of our butts.
872
00:59:25,695 --> 00:59:29,364
Just, our bodies...
We're just... just beautiful.
873
00:59:29,465 --> 00:59:33,135
In every essence, there's nothing
more beautiful than a Black woman.
874
00:59:38,007 --> 00:59:42,778
[interviewer] How do you embrace
beauty as a young Black woman?
875
00:59:44,681 --> 00:59:48,984
By telling myself I'm beautiful
every day in the mirror.
876
00:59:50,286 --> 00:59:52,287
It's a good strategy.
877
00:59:53,323 --> 00:59:55,090
[interviewer] And who
taught you that?
878
00:59:55,191 --> 00:59:56,959
Myself.
879
00:59:57,060 --> 00:59:59,428
I had to.
880
00:59:59,529 --> 01:00:05,100
I am cross-eyed
and people every day ask me,
881
01:00:05,201 --> 01:00:06,868
"What's wrong with your eyes?"
882
01:00:06,970 --> 01:00:08,670
Sometimes it'll get me down.
883
01:00:08,771 --> 01:00:12,674
But I just gotta go to the
mirror, tell myself I'm beautiful.
884
01:00:16,846 --> 01:00:19,381
[interviewer] Was it hard to do that
initially? To go in front of the mirror
885
01:00:19,482 --> 01:00:21,383
and tell yourself
that you're beautiful?
886
01:00:22,385 --> 01:00:23,819
No.
887
01:00:25,188 --> 01:00:30,225
'Cause I was never afraid
to come to myself
888
01:00:30,326 --> 01:00:32,294
and tell myself how I'm feeling.
889
01:00:36,666 --> 01:00:39,701
Makes me feel like I'm in power.
890
01:00:39,802 --> 01:00:41,269
I'm able to do
what I would like to.
891
01:00:42,805 --> 01:00:44,673
[Dr. Patricia] We believein your beauty.
892
01:00:44,774 --> 01:00:46,341
We believe
in your possibilities.
893
01:00:46,442 --> 01:00:49,244
We believe in your power.
894
01:00:49,345 --> 01:00:55,951
And if you haven't started believing in
yourself yet, today is a good day to start.
895
01:00:57,286 --> 01:01:00,656
One thing
that I love about myself
896
01:01:00,757 --> 01:01:05,627
is my ability to love people.
897
01:01:05,728 --> 01:01:08,030
That I make people laugh.
898
01:01:08,131 --> 01:01:14,503
- And I also make myself laugh.
- That I learned how to spell
899
01:01:14,604 --> 01:01:19,174
Because I go to school
and I learn a lot of things.
900
01:01:19,275 --> 01:01:20,509
That I'm artistic.
901
01:01:20,610 --> 01:01:23,145
I like my skin color
and my hair.
902
01:01:23,246 --> 01:01:29,017
I like that I am outspoken
and I strive for what I want.
903
01:01:32,755 --> 01:01:35,957
[woman] What does the phraseBlack Girl Magic mean to you?
904
01:01:36,059 --> 01:01:37,492
The phrase Black Girl Magic
905
01:01:37,593 --> 01:01:41,363
means there's no other thing
that is as great to me, personally,
906
01:01:41,431 --> 01:01:42,798
as Black girls. Black girls
are just great.
907
01:01:42,899 --> 01:01:45,400
I don't really know how
to explain that, but, like,
908
01:01:45,501 --> 01:01:47,469
they're just, so like
they said, magical.
909
01:01:47,570 --> 01:01:50,238
It's like, you know, magic's
something you want to believe
910
01:01:50,339 --> 01:01:53,008
and it's something you want to see.
It's something that you want to be.
911
01:01:53,109 --> 01:01:54,509
You were like, I want
to do magic, you know?
912
01:01:54,610 --> 01:01:57,879
And so they're so...
It's just something that
913
01:01:57,947 --> 01:02:01,550
you want to look up to and look
after and just, you know, be around.
914
01:02:01,651 --> 01:02:06,288
I feel like that's that magic, totally
describes a Black girl, for sure.
915
01:02:11,494 --> 01:02:14,963
If we all,
but certainly Black women,
916
01:02:15,064 --> 01:02:20,235
are fully human people
ourselves, that
917
01:02:20,336 --> 01:02:23,271
would be the greatest gift
to the society.
918
01:02:23,372 --> 01:02:27,542
If the beauty and the genius
of Black women
919
01:02:27,643 --> 01:02:29,644
were ever recognized
920
01:02:29,746 --> 01:02:36,251
and allowed to flourish, I can only
imagine what a contribution that would be.
921
01:02:36,352 --> 01:02:40,789
We cannot allow
the experiences of those
922
01:02:40,890 --> 01:02:44,793
upon whose shoulders we stand
to be erased from memory.
923
01:02:44,894 --> 01:02:50,732
Someone paid for me to be here,
and I am going to acknowledge
924
01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:54,402
those people who suffered
so much so that I could be here.
925
01:02:54,504 --> 01:02:56,004
How could I not?
926
01:02:58,841 --> 01:02:59,875
[woman] As a sociologist.
927
01:02:59,976 --> 01:03:02,210
The way that my training
has helped me understand
928
01:03:02,311 --> 01:03:05,814
the emotional and mental
well-being of Black women
929
01:03:05,915 --> 01:03:09,718
is to understand that if I
want, for example, Black girls
930
01:03:09,819 --> 01:03:14,389
to love themselves, I can't
just put up posters on the wall
931
01:03:14,490 --> 01:03:20,228
and affirmations as the cure for
centuries of racism and sexism.
932
01:03:20,329 --> 01:03:23,265
But I have to create
an environment
933
01:03:23,366 --> 01:03:28,203
that shouts love at them
so that they can hear it
934
01:03:28,304 --> 01:03:30,372
reverberate
in themselves, right?
935
01:03:30,473 --> 01:03:34,242
It makes me think about my grandmother
who used to tell me when I was little.
936
01:03:34,343 --> 01:03:37,045
I was so small, in fact,
when she would tell me this
937
01:03:38,414 --> 01:03:40,248
that I would be looking
up at her hand
938
01:03:40,349 --> 01:03:43,285
as she was holding my hand.
She would look down at me
939
01:03:43,386 --> 01:03:46,288
and she would point
to her head and she'd go,
940
01:03:46,389 --> 01:03:51,259
Always remember, you're smart
and you come from smart people.
941
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:55,597
She would always do that, and I
think, part of what she was trying to do,
942
01:03:55,698 --> 01:03:59,367
well, she was trying to buttress me.
She was trying to strengthen me because
943
01:03:59,468 --> 01:04:04,806
she knew that I would enter a world
that wouldn't say that I was smart,
944
01:04:04,907 --> 01:04:10,312
that didn't necessarily like me or
value me. She told me that my whole life,
945
01:04:10,413 --> 01:04:13,682
and I told it to my
grandchildren and my children,
946
01:04:13,783 --> 01:04:17,052
and it's one of those things in our
family where we just kind of smile.
947
01:04:17,153 --> 01:04:20,288
It's like an inoculation
that was given.
948
01:04:20,389 --> 01:04:26,661
Ever since I was a child,
I've always walked in a light
949
01:04:26,762 --> 01:04:30,732
and I hear this from
my family and my peers.
950
01:04:30,833 --> 01:04:33,335
It's like I can do anything
and be anything.
951
01:04:33,436 --> 01:04:36,805
This little light of mine
I'm going to let it shine.
952
01:04:36,906 --> 01:04:39,975
What is the light that is
inside of you,
953
01:04:40,076 --> 01:04:42,210
that compels you to shine?
954
01:04:42,311 --> 01:04:45,981
Because that's the beauty
I see in you.
955
01:04:46,082 --> 01:04:48,016
Music makes me happy.
956
01:04:48,117 --> 01:04:51,286
A lot of emotions can be
expressed through music.
957
01:04:53,055 --> 01:05:00,028
I've been dancing since I was very
little. I love how freely I get to move.
958
01:05:00,129 --> 01:05:05,834
It's like you can dance wild
and it will be okay.
959
01:05:08,104 --> 01:05:10,038
[woman] What kind of musicdo you listen to?
960
01:05:11,540 --> 01:05:15,076
- Um, Beyonce. I always say Beyonce.
- Beyonce.
961
01:05:15,177 --> 01:05:17,045
- Beyonce.
- Beyonce.
962
01:05:17,146 --> 01:05:21,049
Beyonce has done it all.
She's Queen Bee
963
01:05:21,150 --> 01:05:23,885
as royalty in this world, and
she's, I mean, she is Black.
964
01:05:23,986 --> 01:05:28,023
It's really mind-breaking
to see that everybody,
965
01:05:28,124 --> 01:05:30,792
you know, a lot of people,
a lot of people love Beyonce.
966
01:05:30,893 --> 01:05:32,294
[woman] What do youlove about Beyonce?
967
01:05:32,395 --> 01:05:36,264
That she doesn't care
what other people think.
968
01:05:36,365 --> 01:05:39,401
Beyonce got in trouble
when she wore the 'fros,
969
01:05:39,502 --> 01:05:42,771
when she walked out with the...
You know, again, she has an image
970
01:05:42,872 --> 01:05:46,107
that White people thought
that they were controlling.
971
01:05:46,208 --> 01:05:49,577
Until she says no, you don't
actually get to control that.
972
01:05:49,679 --> 01:05:54,215
My favorite artist
is Willow Smith.
973
01:05:54,317 --> 01:05:57,185
She puts out music because
her music has a message.
974
01:05:57,520 --> 01:05:58,887
SZA.
975
01:05:58,988 --> 01:06:01,489
I've been listening to her
for years.
976
01:06:01,590 --> 01:06:04,926
One thing I love about SZA
is she has so much sex appeal,
977
01:06:05,027 --> 01:06:10,565
and she doesn't try to hide it. Like, I
feel like she lets it out and it's amazing.
978
01:06:10,666 --> 01:06:12,968
If you think about
our sexuality,
979
01:06:13,069 --> 01:06:16,471
for generations, right,
it has been the site
980
01:06:16,572 --> 01:06:19,607
of so much policing,
control and theft.
981
01:06:19,709 --> 01:06:25,647
What we see in this generation is
an attempt to reclaim that sexuality.
982
01:06:25,748 --> 01:06:29,250
I think the arts have been
essential to survival.
983
01:06:29,352 --> 01:06:31,586
There's something powerful
about reclaiming terms
984
01:06:31,687 --> 01:06:33,154
and making them mean
something different
985
01:06:33,255 --> 01:06:36,658
because then you are controlling
the agenda and the discourse.
986
01:06:36,759 --> 01:06:39,627
You are not following
behind it, trying to correct it.
987
01:06:44,867 --> 01:06:48,269
[woman] What has beenour greatest gift to society
988
01:06:49,105 --> 01:06:50,038
as Black women?
989
01:06:52,208 --> 01:06:56,344
I think if we all,
but certainly Black women,
990
01:06:56,445 --> 01:07:01,716
are fully human people
ourselves, that
991
01:07:01,817 --> 01:07:04,753
would be the greatest gift
to the society.
992
01:07:04,854 --> 01:07:11,092
If the beauty and the genius of
Black women as I know it to be,
993
01:07:11,193 --> 01:07:17,165
because I know a lot of Black
women were ever recognized
994
01:07:17,266 --> 01:07:23,471
and allowed to flourish, I can only
imagine what a contribution that would be.
995
01:07:23,572 --> 01:07:29,978
I think the Black woman's greatest
gift to society has been truth-teller,
996
01:07:31,847 --> 01:07:36,985
speaking truth, speaking
truth to power.
997
01:07:37,086 --> 01:07:41,489
Black women, I think, have
kept this society accountable
998
01:07:41,590 --> 01:07:45,527
because we're not willing
to not stand in our truth
999
01:07:45,628 --> 01:07:49,564
and to not speak to truth and
not to live what is true for us
1000
01:07:49,665 --> 01:07:52,634
in the best way
that we know how.
1001
01:07:52,735 --> 01:07:58,907
I want my greatest gift
to society to be my words.
1002
01:07:59,008 --> 01:08:03,711
When I look at myself, I see
somebody who speaks her mind,
1003
01:08:04,680 --> 01:08:07,615
who says whatever I need to say.
1004
01:08:07,716 --> 01:08:11,186
As a black woman, my life,
1005
01:08:14,924 --> 01:08:16,991
my life to be a gift
to the society.
1006
01:08:17,093 --> 01:08:21,729
Some, I have done something
or said something
1007
01:08:22,498 --> 01:08:25,700
that has enhanced
somebody's life,
1008
01:08:25,801 --> 01:08:29,337
that have touched somebody's
life, that I have lived.
1009
01:08:39,949 --> 01:08:44,886
If I could describe the
Black woman in three words.
1010
01:08:44,987 --> 01:08:47,055
I would say beautiful,
1011
01:08:50,459 --> 01:08:51,326
strong,
1012
01:08:56,232 --> 01:08:58,800
excellent.
1013
01:08:58,901 --> 01:09:04,939
Strong, loving, rebellious.
1014
01:09:05,040 --> 01:09:07,108
- Strong.
- Strong.
1015
01:09:07,209 --> 01:09:10,178
- Strong.
- Strong, independent, and bold.
1016
01:09:10,279 --> 01:09:11,746
Un-bossed.
1017
01:09:11,847 --> 01:09:15,650
- And beautiful.
- Beautiful, awesome.
1018
01:09:15,751 --> 01:09:18,820
- Empowered.
- [woman] Dynamic.
1019
01:09:18,921 --> 01:09:21,789
- [woman] Loving.- Caring.
1020
01:09:21,891 --> 01:09:24,225
- Hard-working.
- [woman] Brave.
1021
01:09:25,294 --> 01:09:31,766
Divine. I think that
Black women are divine.
1022
01:09:31,901 --> 01:09:37,705
I think Black women are the closest
that there is on this earth to God.
1023
01:09:39,008 --> 01:09:44,012
Um, I think that
1024
01:09:49,118 --> 01:09:52,353
we submit. We're vessels.
1025
01:09:55,858 --> 01:09:58,693
We're filled. Um...
1026
01:10:04,366 --> 01:10:07,202
To be one of self-fashioning,
1027
01:10:07,303 --> 01:10:12,340
to be one of experimenting
with new ways
1028
01:10:12,441 --> 01:10:15,843
of being in the world
and relating to one another.
1029
01:10:15,945 --> 01:10:19,180
Um, that pushes forward.
1030
01:10:19,281 --> 01:10:25,520
And there's not one that uses history
as an anchor that weighs us down.
1031
01:10:25,621 --> 01:10:28,423
I just want Black women
to be more free,
1032
01:10:28,524 --> 01:10:31,993
and to just go after,
you know, whatever
1033
01:10:33,162 --> 01:10:37,732
they want to go after.
1034
01:10:37,833 --> 01:10:39,267
A legacy of...
1035
01:10:41,637 --> 01:10:44,505
...dreams realized.
1036
01:10:44,607 --> 01:10:48,209
The legacy is the unbroken
intergenerational
1037
01:10:48,310 --> 01:10:55,083
commitment to black womanhood,
and making sure it doesn't end with me,
1038
01:10:55,184 --> 01:10:59,854
and recognizing all that went
into creating that legacy.
1039
01:11:03,792 --> 01:11:07,762
As a Black mother,
1040
01:11:07,863 --> 01:11:11,299
Black grandmother as a
Black wife,
1041
01:11:11,400 --> 01:11:14,869
as a Black social scientist,
a Black professor,
1042
01:11:15,938 --> 01:11:19,540
um, a Black social activist,
1043
01:11:20,409 --> 01:11:23,911
I think it's critical that
1044
01:11:25,281 --> 01:11:30,618
I mind this lane that speaks
1045
01:11:30,719 --> 01:11:34,656
about our history
and our reality.
1046
01:11:34,757 --> 01:11:39,193
We cannot allow
the experiences of those
1047
01:11:39,295 --> 01:11:43,264
upon whose shoulders we stand
to be erased from memory.
1048
01:11:43,365 --> 01:11:48,169
I stand on shoulders that have
allowed me to be all of those things,
1049
01:11:48,270 --> 01:11:53,508
to be the mother that I am and the professor
and the professional person that I am.
1050
01:11:53,609 --> 01:11:59,414
Someone paid for me to be here,
and I am going to acknowledge
1051
01:11:59,515 --> 01:12:03,184
those people who suffered
so much so that I could be here.
1052
01:12:03,285 --> 01:12:04,419
How could I not?
1053
01:12:06,288 --> 01:12:11,926
I think that very critical
piece to our being well
1054
01:12:12,027 --> 01:12:17,532
is knowing our own stories, and
knowing and creating our own narrative.
1055
01:12:17,633 --> 01:12:22,704
And the only way that can happen
is if we ensure that it happens.
1056
01:12:22,805 --> 01:12:26,841
There's no culture in
the world that will readily
1057
01:12:26,942 --> 01:12:30,211
and deliberately erase
their history.
1058
01:12:30,312 --> 01:12:32,046
We can't erase ours.
1059
01:12:32,147 --> 01:12:34,148
If your life is narrated through
1060
01:12:34,249 --> 01:12:37,585
someone else's words and lens,
then it's not your life.
1061
01:12:37,686 --> 01:12:40,555
You have to be able
to give words to it,
1062
01:12:40,656 --> 01:12:45,326
give names to it and
not allow it to be distorted
1063
01:12:45,427 --> 01:12:47,562
through someone else's lens.
1064
01:12:47,663 --> 01:12:50,031
By telling our own story,
1065
01:12:50,132 --> 01:12:54,469
saying names like Zora Neale
Hurston and reading Octavia Butler
1066
01:12:54,570 --> 01:13:00,575
and talking about women like Septima
Clark and Fannie Lou Hamer, and others
1067
01:13:00,676 --> 01:13:05,580
whose names you may not know.
And, we can't lose the stories
1068
01:13:05,681 --> 01:13:09,751
that our own mothers, the stories of
our own grandmothers and daughters,
1069
01:13:09,852 --> 01:13:13,588
documenting our own narratives
like when we talk about
1070
01:13:13,689 --> 01:13:16,791
the Black Lives Matter
moment is absolutely
1071
01:13:16,892 --> 01:13:19,327
a Black women's moment
in history.
1072
01:13:19,428 --> 01:13:22,597
We have to uplift the women
who were on the ground,
1073
01:13:22,698 --> 01:13:25,133
who were the primary forces
leading that work.
1074
01:13:28,303 --> 01:13:31,005
The reason why it's so
important that we continue to write
1075
01:13:31,106 --> 01:13:35,777
Black women into history
and we refuse the invisiblizing
1076
01:13:35,878 --> 01:13:40,548
of our experiences
is because what we remember
1077
01:13:40,649 --> 01:13:43,951
is directly tied to what
we create in the future.
1078
01:13:44,052 --> 01:13:48,790
But if I don't remember that, if I
don't recall those experiences,
1079
01:13:48,891 --> 01:13:53,094
then I'm very likely to contribute
to a world that reproduces it
1080
01:13:53,195 --> 01:13:55,430
and allow other people
to reproduce it.
1081
01:13:55,531 --> 01:14:00,168
And if you control the corporations
and you control the media
1082
01:14:00,269 --> 01:14:02,770
and you control higher ed,
you control all of that,
1083
01:14:02,871 --> 01:14:06,441
you really can't ignore
what Black women say.
1084
01:14:06,542 --> 01:14:09,177
It's kind of at your leisure
to listen to them,
1085
01:14:09,278 --> 01:14:13,181
if you're that powerful. Black women
have to look at all the different ways
1086
01:14:13,282 --> 01:14:16,484
that different groups have
suppressed that knowledge.
1087
01:14:16,585 --> 01:14:18,786
White men certainly are
running the game here,
1088
01:14:18,887 --> 01:14:20,154
elite white men.
1089
01:14:20,255 --> 01:14:23,024
I mean, that there's
no surprise there.
1090
01:14:23,125 --> 01:14:27,361
We cannot relinquish the power
to define ourselves.
1091
01:14:27,463 --> 01:14:30,031
This is the power
of self-definition.
1092
01:14:30,132 --> 01:14:34,869
It fundamentally says if you don't
tell your own story, somebody else will.
1093
01:14:36,004 --> 01:14:38,439
[woman] If you could talkto your 14-year-old self,
1094
01:14:41,043 --> 01:14:45,146
and send her a love letter,
and tell your 14-year-old self
1095
01:14:45,247 --> 01:14:48,015
something you've never told her
bit you've always wanted to tell her,
1096
01:14:49,685 --> 01:14:50,585
what would you say to her?
1097
01:14:57,059 --> 01:14:59,260
I would tell my
14-year-old self,
1098
01:15:01,630 --> 01:15:08,002
be strong, trust in God
in all things, and lean not
1099
01:15:08,103 --> 01:15:12,173
to your own understanding.
Follow his guidance.
1100
01:15:14,343 --> 01:15:17,144
And, Cora, I love you.
1101
01:15:22,518 --> 01:15:25,019
To not take things so seriously,
1102
01:15:25,120 --> 01:15:27,855
to relax a little more, um...
1103
01:15:29,758 --> 01:15:31,859
get a passport
and go see the world.
1104
01:15:33,929 --> 01:15:36,097
You don't have to stress
the small stuff.
1105
01:15:37,165 --> 01:15:38,566
No one's perfect.
1106
01:15:39,902 --> 01:15:42,303
You are enough
and you're good enough.
1107
01:15:43,772 --> 01:15:46,841
None of the things that
I'm worrying about right now
1108
01:15:46,942 --> 01:15:49,710
are going to matter
in the long run,
1109
01:15:49,811 --> 01:15:52,580
so to just relax
1110
01:15:53,515 --> 01:15:54,482
and be chill.
1111
01:15:58,320 --> 01:15:59,320
Be kind...
1112
01:16:01,490 --> 01:16:02,390
and loving...
1113
01:16:07,996 --> 01:16:08,896
to everyone.
1114
01:16:14,570 --> 01:16:19,740
And always love yourself.
1115
01:16:22,344 --> 01:16:23,411
Love yourself.
1116
01:16:31,553 --> 01:16:32,720
Be you.
1117
01:16:35,924 --> 01:16:37,358
Educate yourself.
1118
01:16:39,094 --> 01:16:40,361
Stay strong.
1119
01:16:41,563 --> 01:16:43,030
Don't settle for nothing.
1120
01:16:46,168 --> 01:16:47,535
And reach for the sky.
1121
01:16:53,508 --> 01:16:56,811
[Dr. DeGruy] I always
tell people, "Tell your story."
1122
01:16:56,912 --> 01:16:59,313
"It's really important."
1123
01:16:59,414 --> 01:17:01,882
And those generations of wisdom,
1124
01:17:02,918 --> 01:17:05,219
those generations
of long suffering,
1125
01:17:06,221 --> 01:17:10,057
those long days of not knowing
1126
01:17:10,158 --> 01:17:12,860
what tomorrow
was going to bring,
1127
01:17:12,961 --> 01:17:15,997
so much power,
so much wisdom there,
1128
01:17:17,299 --> 01:17:20,034
so much healing.
1129
01:17:20,135 --> 01:17:22,403
[Jazmine Williams] Sis...
1130
01:17:24,940 --> 01:17:28,275
Have you ever been
so madly aware of your beauty
1131
01:17:28,377 --> 01:17:30,811
that you have a shout out to God
1132
01:17:30,912 --> 01:17:33,314
for making you
in her perfect image?
1133
01:17:33,415 --> 01:17:36,384
Have you ever been so aware
of your magic
1134
01:17:36,485 --> 01:17:41,389
that you walk into a room full of
other black women and see theirs too?
1135
01:17:41,490 --> 01:17:45,993
Do you grin from ear when yo see
your reflections walking down the street,
1136
01:17:46,094 --> 01:17:49,563
skin glowing like she just
walked out of a rain forest,
1137
01:17:49,665 --> 01:17:51,165
where she bathes in a waterfall
1138
01:17:51,266 --> 01:17:53,467
lit by a rainbow smile,
1139
01:17:53,568 --> 01:17:56,003
like she eats prayer
for breakfast,
1140
01:17:56,104 --> 01:17:57,805
and meditation for lunch.
1141
01:17:57,906 --> 01:18:00,441
Hair that sings praises
for her maker
1142
01:18:00,542 --> 01:18:03,411
with the ever so slight
turn up her chin.
1143
01:18:03,512 --> 01:18:05,579
Sis...
1144
01:18:05,681 --> 01:18:10,418
have you ever been so satisfied
with the way you shine after a storm?
1145
01:18:10,519 --> 01:18:14,555
That you laugh at the thought of
you ever having been nervous at all?
1146
01:18:16,224 --> 01:18:19,593
Do you even notice
how hard you hustle?
1147
01:18:19,695 --> 01:18:23,531
How you make your manifestations
look as natural as breathing.
1148
01:18:23,632 --> 01:18:26,434
Like you were born to balance
the world on your head
1149
01:18:26,535 --> 01:18:28,235
while building empires upon it.
1150
01:18:28,336 --> 01:18:30,705
Sis...
1151
01:18:30,806 --> 01:18:32,740
Has anyone's hold you lately
1152
01:18:32,841 --> 01:18:35,710
how fine you look
in graduation caps?
1153
01:18:35,811 --> 01:18:40,848
How stunning you are turning the key
to the home you secure for your family,
1154
01:18:40,949 --> 01:18:43,184
how you sit like a gym on stages
1155
01:18:43,285 --> 01:18:45,553
discussing your lived
experiences.
1156
01:18:45,654 --> 01:18:49,390
Do you know
that you are a visionary
1157
01:18:49,491 --> 01:18:52,026
with foresight worth decades?
1158
01:18:52,127 --> 01:18:54,361
Because time
is the only currency
1159
01:18:54,463 --> 01:18:56,697
that does your value justice.
1160
01:18:56,798 --> 01:18:58,365
Do you know that
you are priceless?
1161
01:18:59,935 --> 01:19:03,170
Have you heard
that you would need
1162
01:19:03,271 --> 01:19:05,639
a mirror
about the size of the ocean
1163
01:19:05,741 --> 01:19:08,109
to see all of your light
in its entirety?
1164
01:19:08,210 --> 01:19:10,811
Even with all the miracles
you spin,
1165
01:19:10,912 --> 01:19:13,514
you are still effortless
in your glory.
1166
01:19:13,615 --> 01:19:18,018
Did you know
that you're my role model,
1167
01:19:18,954 --> 01:19:21,355
that I live for your wisdom
and grace?
1168
01:19:26,695 --> 01:19:29,430
You've given me quotes
to live and die with.
1169
01:19:29,531 --> 01:19:31,799
I go to war with the fire
you put in me.
1170
01:19:31,900 --> 01:19:34,835
You were always
my standard of excellence.
1171
01:19:40,609 --> 01:19:44,612
You were always
my standard of beauty.
1172
01:19:59,694 --> 01:20:04,932
[woman vocalizing]
1173
01:20:05,033 --> 01:20:06,233
♪ Ooh ♪
1174
01:20:06,334 --> 01:20:10,371
[woman vocalizing]
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