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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:01,835 --> 00:00:03,902 [Oprah] And now, an OWN SPOTLIGHT. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 4 00:00:39,873 --> 00:00:46,078 [melancholy music playing] 5 00:01:04,197 --> 00:01:05,464 [woman] Mother. 6 00:01:08,668 --> 00:01:11,870 The stars fill my mouth while I speak to the universe 7 00:01:11,971 --> 00:01:15,541 on a tight rope between life and death, 8 00:01:15,642 --> 00:01:18,577 negotiating the promise of an unbreakable heart. 9 00:01:21,514 --> 00:01:23,982 She molds the pieces of the last one, 10 00:01:24,084 --> 00:01:26,752 into a birth canal paved with gold. 11 00:01:29,923 --> 00:01:31,857 While the night plays its finale, 12 00:01:31,958 --> 00:01:35,461 the ocean opens its arms and pace is my breath. 13 00:01:37,297 --> 00:01:39,832 I push, so the pull of waves 14 00:01:39,933 --> 00:01:42,067 crashing already in celebration 15 00:01:42,168 --> 00:01:44,636 of the newest extension of heaven. 16 00:01:44,737 --> 00:01:46,705 [melancholy music continues] 17 00:01:46,806 --> 00:01:50,142 Pushing the form of black women astronauts, 18 00:01:50,243 --> 00:01:52,177 healers and architects. 19 00:01:52,278 --> 00:01:54,713 Living to a soundtrack of little black girls 20 00:01:54,781 --> 00:01:56,715 feeling the opera house with strings 21 00:01:56,816 --> 00:01:59,685 and when pushing the choir of queen singing, 22 00:01:59,786 --> 00:02:02,454 we have overcome pushing a theater 23 00:02:02,555 --> 00:02:05,891 at ballerina's next door with Afros out rocking 24 00:02:05,992 --> 00:02:08,794 so wade in the water, pushing the applause 25 00:02:08,895 --> 00:02:11,797 for the leading actress shining like a new moon. 26 00:02:11,898 --> 00:02:14,433 Under the spotlight was she plants seeds falling 27 00:02:14,534 --> 00:02:17,102 from the hands of a playwright kin to her. 28 00:02:17,203 --> 00:02:19,238 I push from the shoulders 29 00:02:19,305 --> 00:02:21,406 of giants ancestors that left gifts. 30 00:02:21,508 --> 00:02:23,642 They receive no honors for by the river 31 00:02:23,743 --> 00:02:25,477 to run through their daughter's forever. 32 00:02:25,578 --> 00:02:28,614 I push on the lie that I am not infinite. 33 00:02:28,715 --> 00:02:31,116 But this warm has not given the world's renaissance 34 00:02:31,217 --> 00:02:33,719 after Renaissance, when the world's given me sorrow 35 00:02:33,820 --> 00:02:35,554 after ghetto, after brick wall. 36 00:02:35,655 --> 00:02:38,056 I scaled it with the entire nation 37 00:02:38,158 --> 00:02:41,960 tied around my waist, screaming 'go faster' for you. 38 00:02:42,061 --> 00:02:47,032 My beautiful black daughters, I push. 39 00:02:53,540 --> 00:02:54,806 [woman] Video one, take one. 40 00:02:57,677 --> 00:03:02,080 [Dr. Joy] My occupation is kind of hard to put my finger on. 41 00:03:04,050 --> 00:03:07,019 My occupation has been about healing for a long time, um, 42 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:09,555 and I think my existence as a black woman 43 00:03:09,656 --> 00:03:11,690 is directly tied into my purpose. 44 00:03:11,791 --> 00:03:16,295 I think that from the time I was a little girl, 45 00:03:17,463 --> 00:03:19,531 even though I couldn't put my finger on it, 46 00:03:19,632 --> 00:03:23,669 it was a wound that I couldn't quite figure out what it was. 47 00:03:23,770 --> 00:03:26,705 I knew it was there, but I couldn't articulate it 48 00:03:26,806 --> 00:03:28,774 in a way that made sense, even for me. 49 00:03:28,875 --> 00:03:30,542 But I knew it was a deep wound. 50 00:03:30,643 --> 00:03:33,045 [melancholy music playing] 51 00:03:38,952 --> 00:03:41,453 I knew it was a heart wound. 52 00:03:44,624 --> 00:03:47,059 It was a soul wound. 53 00:03:58,805 --> 00:04:00,172 [Sheila Thomas] We've been hurt. 54 00:04:02,175 --> 00:04:07,613 We've been abused and used and thrown out decades 55 00:04:07,714 --> 00:04:13,352 of just not mattering to anyone. 56 00:04:14,854 --> 00:04:18,590 That makes you... It makes you very angry. 57 00:04:18,691 --> 00:04:19,891 Makes you upset. 58 00:04:24,664 --> 00:04:26,064 A lot of us are angry because 59 00:04:26,165 --> 00:04:28,333 of the things that happen in our lives. 60 00:04:28,434 --> 00:04:29,668 The things that we go through, 61 00:04:29,769 --> 00:04:34,006 the way we treat it. We have cause to be angry. 62 00:04:36,209 --> 00:04:41,513 The misuse in abuse of the black woman's body. 63 00:04:44,217 --> 00:04:48,153 It goes way back, goes back hundreds of years. 64 00:04:51,357 --> 00:04:53,158 [thunder rumbling] 65 00:05:01,067 --> 00:05:04,436 [melancholy music continues] 66 00:05:21,688 --> 00:05:23,789 [woman] In your book, 'Fighting Words', 67 00:05:23,890 --> 00:05:27,826 you state, 'Publicly articulating rage' 68 00:05:27,927 --> 00:05:32,698 typically constitutes less a revelation about oppression, 69 00:05:32,799 --> 00:05:34,499 than a discovery of voice. 70 00:05:35,268 --> 00:05:36,101 Ooh. 71 00:05:38,538 --> 00:05:40,539 Well, I'm happy to hear I said that. 72 00:05:40,873 --> 00:05:42,607 [laughing] 73 00:05:43,710 --> 00:05:46,478 Because I actually said that quite some time ago, 74 00:05:46,579 --> 00:05:49,247 and I haven't thought about this in a while. 75 00:05:49,349 --> 00:05:50,916 So this is quite interesting. 76 00:05:51,017 --> 00:05:52,351 Having said that... 77 00:05:53,553 --> 00:05:54,820 [sighs wearily] 78 00:05:54,921 --> 00:05:56,688 The terminology now I think, 79 00:05:56,789 --> 00:05:58,357 would be speaking your own truth 80 00:05:58,458 --> 00:06:00,692 by claiming your own truth 81 00:06:00,793 --> 00:06:05,097 and claiming all parts of yourself, including the rage, 82 00:06:05,198 --> 00:06:08,300 claiming the full range of voice 83 00:06:08,401 --> 00:06:11,503 is claiming the full range of self. 84 00:06:11,604 --> 00:06:13,372 We also have joy, right? 85 00:06:13,473 --> 00:06:15,073 We also have sorrow. 86 00:06:15,174 --> 00:06:16,875 We also have pride. 87 00:06:16,976 --> 00:06:20,379 We also have laughter, right? 88 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:22,547 And so I think we have a right to our anger, 89 00:06:22,648 --> 00:06:26,385 and I think that we should hold on to that right to be angry. 90 00:06:26,486 --> 00:06:31,022 Why would we reject anger when there's so much to be angry about, 91 00:06:31,124 --> 00:06:33,925 that affect us, that affect our children, 92 00:06:34,026 --> 00:06:37,829 that affect our communities, that affect our loved ones? 93 00:06:37,930 --> 00:06:41,666 Why would we want to tamp that down to become a good girl? 94 00:06:41,768 --> 00:06:45,237 If I do begin to assert myself, 95 00:06:45,338 --> 00:06:48,673 if I begin to stand in my own truth, 96 00:06:48,775 --> 00:06:51,977 "Oh, she's aggressive, she's angry, she's violent." 97 00:06:52,078 --> 00:06:53,011 Out of control. 98 00:06:53,112 --> 00:06:55,680 That's all you are, is an angry black woman. 99 00:06:55,782 --> 00:06:58,483 I mean, there's angry white women as angry Spanish women. 100 00:06:58,584 --> 00:07:01,787 I mean, there's angry women. You know, why does it have to be the black woman? 101 00:07:01,921 --> 00:07:03,288 "Angry black woman." 102 00:07:03,389 --> 00:07:04,956 We don't have dibs on it. 103 00:07:05,057 --> 00:07:06,992 When you were labeled that, "angry black woman," 104 00:07:07,093 --> 00:07:08,994 was that one of the things that knocked you back... 105 00:07:09,095 --> 00:07:11,329 That was one of those things that you just sort of think, 106 00:07:11,431 --> 00:07:13,932 "Dang, you don't even know me." 107 00:07:14,033 --> 00:07:15,700 Yeah. 108 00:07:15,802 --> 00:07:18,570 It flies in the face of the reality of who we are. 109 00:07:18,671 --> 00:07:21,039 It is taken such a level 110 00:07:21,140 --> 00:07:23,909 of indomitable strength and courage 111 00:07:24,010 --> 00:07:29,314 to bear the burden of consistently being, 112 00:07:29,415 --> 00:07:34,853 uh, I guess, portrayed as someone less than human. 113 00:07:39,525 --> 00:07:41,827 ♪ Lord, got to get out ♪ 114 00:07:41,928 --> 00:07:44,129 [man] The new Mammy holder dispenses paper towels 115 00:07:44,230 --> 00:07:45,997 with a touch of Southern hospitality. 116 00:07:46,098 --> 00:07:48,467 [man 2] The tax free cash income alone 117 00:07:48,568 --> 00:07:51,169 has been running $150,000 a year. 118 00:07:52,538 --> 00:07:55,040 Society's views toward black women 119 00:07:55,174 --> 00:07:57,742 are framed through these particular images. 120 00:07:59,412 --> 00:08:01,146 The Mammy... 121 00:08:01,881 --> 00:08:02,914 the Jezebel... 122 00:08:04,283 --> 00:08:07,118 the welfare queen, that was relatively new. 123 00:08:07,220 --> 00:08:12,090 But it's the whole notion of punishing black women for, um, 124 00:08:12,925 --> 00:08:14,526 not being abused, 125 00:08:14,627 --> 00:08:18,630 for saying, "We are entitled to the benefits" 126 00:08:18,731 --> 00:08:21,099 "that other people get in this country." 127 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,101 When Social Security started in this country, 128 00:08:23,202 --> 00:08:26,538 black women where one group that were excluded. 129 00:08:26,639 --> 00:08:28,640 So when black women began to claim 130 00:08:28,741 --> 00:08:31,109 and say, "No, we should be included," 131 00:08:31,210 --> 00:08:35,046 they became denigrated as welfare queens. 132 00:08:35,781 --> 00:08:37,849 [speaks indistinctly] 133 00:08:37,950 --> 00:08:42,153 [Dr. Hill-Collins] The Jezebel is the sexualized black woman. 134 00:08:42,255 --> 00:08:45,023 This is the woman who again is supposed to be available 135 00:08:45,124 --> 00:08:49,294 to everyone to serve them, but to serve them differently, 136 00:08:49,395 --> 00:08:51,663 to serve them sexually, 137 00:08:51,764 --> 00:08:54,132 and to then be punished for that. 138 00:08:54,233 --> 00:08:57,502 She's there to be used and to make people comfortable. 139 00:08:57,603 --> 00:08:58,937 What have we got for supper? 140 00:08:59,038 --> 00:09:04,843 You stay here. I'm just gonna get a hot supper. 141 00:09:04,944 --> 00:09:08,213 And then the last one is the, what? 142 00:09:08,314 --> 00:09:09,381 The Mammy, yeah. 143 00:09:09,482 --> 00:09:11,750 The Mammy is the mother for the white family. 144 00:09:11,851 --> 00:09:14,886 That is the all nurturing black woman 145 00:09:14,987 --> 00:09:18,056 who does everything for everybody else, and loves to do it. 146 00:09:18,157 --> 00:09:20,859 She is the fantasy of white America. 147 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:24,796 When we think about those kind of archetypes 148 00:09:24,897 --> 00:09:27,432 that have been imposed on black women, 149 00:09:27,533 --> 00:09:31,102 archetype of the Mammy, of the Sapphire, 150 00:09:31,203 --> 00:09:34,205 of the Jezebel, of the welfare queen, 151 00:09:34,307 --> 00:09:36,775 those are meant to dehumanize us. 152 00:09:36,876 --> 00:09:38,443 You call us welfare queens? 153 00:09:38,544 --> 00:09:39,778 You call us lazy, 154 00:09:39,879 --> 00:09:41,379 you call us bad mothers. 155 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,215 No one else gets those titles. 156 00:09:44,317 --> 00:09:45,383 Why is that? 157 00:09:45,484 --> 00:09:49,054 But if you had that image of Aunt Jemima, 158 00:09:49,155 --> 00:09:52,157 you, um... you were accepted. 159 00:09:52,992 --> 00:09:56,628 And I think that for decades, 160 00:09:56,729 --> 00:09:59,764 all we wanted was to be accepted 161 00:09:59,865 --> 00:10:03,301 and visible instead of invisible. 162 00:10:03,402 --> 00:10:05,503 So often I ask my audiences, I said, 163 00:10:05,605 --> 00:10:07,906 "How many of you have ever met a Black person 164 00:10:08,007 --> 00:10:09,374 that isn't Black?" 165 00:10:09,475 --> 00:10:12,444 The Black person that will try to be anything... 166 00:10:12,545 --> 00:10:17,215 All of a sudden, anything that I can tell you, 167 00:10:17,316 --> 00:10:20,518 that will convince you that I'm not Black. 168 00:10:20,620 --> 00:10:21,786 Well, I have another word for it... 169 00:10:21,887 --> 00:10:25,824 It's called post traumatic slave syndrome. 170 00:10:25,925 --> 00:10:28,760 As a mother of two Black men... 171 00:10:28,861 --> 00:10:31,096 the thing that I'm most afraid of 172 00:10:31,197 --> 00:10:32,430 is that I'm going to get a call 173 00:10:32,531 --> 00:10:36,134 saying that someone killed my sons. 174 00:10:36,235 --> 00:10:37,369 That terrorizes me. 175 00:10:40,139 --> 00:10:41,906 Mornings around here aren't just hectic... 176 00:10:42,008 --> 00:10:43,908 Oh! They're insane. [laughs] 177 00:10:44,910 --> 00:10:46,244 And that's why I love these. 178 00:10:46,379 --> 00:10:47,612 [woman] Aunt Jemima frozen pancakes. 179 00:10:47,713 --> 00:10:50,582 They're the perfect solution to busy weekday mornings. 180 00:10:50,683 --> 00:10:53,852 ♪ Aunt Jemima Now you're cooking ♪ 181 00:10:53,953 --> 00:10:55,754 [man] Hey, these are terrific. What's the secret? 182 00:10:55,855 --> 00:10:57,756 Oh, it's an old family secret handed down 183 00:10:57,857 --> 00:10:59,491 from generation to generation... - [laughter] 184 00:10:59,592 --> 00:11:00,925 ...from father to son. 185 00:11:01,027 --> 00:11:03,361 - By Aunt Jemima. - The Secret is out. 186 00:11:03,462 --> 00:11:05,030 I mean, I have yet to meet a black woman 187 00:11:05,131 --> 00:11:06,698 who loved being a Mammy. 188 00:11:19,979 --> 00:11:21,446 [woman] Did your mother work? 189 00:11:22,281 --> 00:11:25,784 Yes, she did, uh, housework. 190 00:11:27,019 --> 00:11:29,888 That was her way of income, 191 00:11:29,989 --> 00:11:32,057 working and cleaning house 192 00:11:32,158 --> 00:11:35,193 for, uh, the white people back there. 193 00:11:35,294 --> 00:11:37,595 Washing and ironing. 194 00:11:37,697 --> 00:11:43,334 And, um, that was her way of her income 195 00:11:43,436 --> 00:11:44,736 and making a living, 196 00:11:44,837 --> 00:11:46,137 because at the time, 197 00:11:47,973 --> 00:11:52,577 that was all that the black woman knew to do... 198 00:11:55,748 --> 00:11:56,815 at that time. 199 00:11:57,450 --> 00:12:00,185 Do housework, cook... 200 00:12:00,853 --> 00:12:03,321 wash, iron... 201 00:12:09,528 --> 00:12:12,430 They were influenced, too. Be the Mammy they knew. 202 00:12:17,503 --> 00:12:22,807 Labels, stereotypes like Mammy, um, 203 00:12:22,908 --> 00:12:25,643 are what my colleague Patricia Hill-Collins 204 00:12:25,745 --> 00:12:27,579 calls controlling images. 205 00:12:27,680 --> 00:12:32,417 They boxes that try to contain and control us. 206 00:12:32,518 --> 00:12:37,789 And one of the things that I find most important about these stereotypes 207 00:12:37,890 --> 00:12:41,993 and these controlling images is, even when we're trying to defy them 208 00:12:42,094 --> 00:12:45,630 and not fall into them, they're controlling us. 209 00:12:45,731 --> 00:12:51,236 The process of making oneself invisible or playing small, right? 210 00:12:51,337 --> 00:12:55,373 Trying not to draw negative attention to ourselves 211 00:12:55,474 --> 00:12:59,878 also means that we're not drawing positive attention to ourselves. 212 00:12:59,979 --> 00:13:03,448 We're not able to fulfill our potential. 213 00:13:03,549 --> 00:13:07,285 So often I ask my audiences, I said, "How many Black people in my audience," 214 00:13:07,386 --> 00:13:11,890 I asked them, "How many of you have ever met a Black person that isn't Black?" 215 00:13:11,991 --> 00:13:15,026 The Black person that will try to be anything... 216 00:13:15,127 --> 00:13:18,129 "Oh, did I mention how much Native American I have in me?" 217 00:13:18,230 --> 00:13:22,100 "Oh, and I understand based on my DNA now, that my people come from Switzerland." 218 00:13:22,201 --> 00:13:26,638 All of a sudden, anything that I can tell you, 219 00:13:26,739 --> 00:13:30,708 that will convince you that I'm not Black, right, 220 00:13:30,810 --> 00:13:33,645 and everybody Black knows that. Well, I have another word for it... 221 00:13:33,746 --> 00:13:36,047 It's called post traumatic slave syndrome. 222 00:13:39,752 --> 00:13:44,289 Post traumatic slave syndrome is exactly what it sounds like. 223 00:13:44,390 --> 00:13:47,992 It's multigenerational trauma, intergenerational trauma, 224 00:13:48,093 --> 00:13:50,128 as it relates to people of African descent. 225 00:13:52,398 --> 00:13:55,533 Being separated from your your native land, 226 00:13:55,634 --> 00:13:59,103 being beaten, being sold, being raped, 227 00:13:59,205 --> 00:14:02,540 being experimented on, any number of things. 228 00:14:05,544 --> 00:14:07,312 As an enslaved African woman, 229 00:14:07,413 --> 00:14:13,351 you um... you had no rights to your own body, no rights at all to your own body. 230 00:14:13,452 --> 00:14:15,920 And it didn't start when you were a woman. 231 00:14:16,021 --> 00:14:18,823 You know, that's the other kind of mythology when we talk about rapes, 232 00:14:18,924 --> 00:14:20,525 were thinking about women. 233 00:14:20,626 --> 00:14:23,862 You think they waited until they were eighteen? 234 00:14:23,963 --> 00:14:28,867 You think few girls got to teenage years without having been raped. 235 00:14:29,702 --> 00:14:34,606 To imagine being a mother... 236 00:14:34,707 --> 00:14:39,010 Someone just comes in the middle of night says, you know we have some visitors. 237 00:14:39,111 --> 00:14:40,945 They like the young ones. 238 00:14:41,046 --> 00:14:45,283 So we going to pass her along, to the visitors that night. 239 00:14:45,384 --> 00:14:47,385 See you can't wrap your head around that. 240 00:14:47,486 --> 00:14:49,220 And we want to really believe that, 241 00:14:49,321 --> 00:14:51,689 well that just happened a couple of times, 242 00:14:51,790 --> 00:14:53,858 well according to a mid eighteen hundred census 243 00:14:53,959 --> 00:14:56,661 or over six hundred thousand mixed race babies born. 244 00:14:59,999 --> 00:15:03,167 That's a lot of sneaking out back. 245 00:15:03,269 --> 00:15:07,538 The more disturbing pieces are the fact that you have the institution 246 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:12,043 of the church that was complicit, that with slavery was complicit with 247 00:15:12,144 --> 00:15:16,247 beyond that, I mean, you look at the Reverend John Newton for example. 248 00:15:16,348 --> 00:15:19,117 This was a man who spent many, many years 249 00:15:19,218 --> 00:15:23,121 on slave ships, raping little girls and women. 250 00:15:23,222 --> 00:15:27,258 This is his own accounts, he said that I sinned with the high hand, 251 00:15:27,359 --> 00:15:31,062 and he at the same time, said that Black people 252 00:15:31,163 --> 00:15:37,602 were not destined for the next world, because we didn't have souls. 253 00:15:39,471 --> 00:15:41,506 [singing "Amazing Grace"] 254 00:15:41,607 --> 00:15:46,110 This was the same person who penned Amazing Grace. 255 00:15:46,211 --> 00:15:49,047 ♪ The ♪ 256 00:15:49,148 --> 00:15:53,484 ♪ The sound ♪ 257 00:15:53,585 --> 00:15:55,186 ♪ that saved ♪ 258 00:15:55,287 --> 00:15:58,356 And it took him a long time to arrive at "Amazing Grace." 259 00:15:58,457 --> 00:16:00,758 But that was because he knew what he done. 260 00:16:00,859 --> 00:16:03,962 He knew later on, as he was approaching death. 261 00:16:04,063 --> 00:16:06,064 That he would be held accountable for that. 262 00:16:07,366 --> 00:16:10,168 I don't think anyone sings "Amazing Grace" more than Black people. 263 00:16:12,204 --> 00:16:15,406 Somebody singing it this Sunday, I'm sure, "Amazing Grace." 264 00:16:15,507 --> 00:16:20,278 But have no idea that the wretch was him and not them. 265 00:16:20,379 --> 00:16:24,215 So now they're calling themselves the wretch when he, in fact, was the wretch. 266 00:16:55,014 --> 00:16:59,250 It is so difficult to talk about the misuse and abuse 267 00:16:59,351 --> 00:17:03,721 of Black women's bodies by so many different people, 268 00:17:03,822 --> 00:17:05,390 on so many different levels. 269 00:17:05,491 --> 00:17:09,527 If slavery is being exposed to images that tell you 270 00:17:09,628 --> 00:17:12,797 you are the mule of the world or you are a Jezebel 271 00:17:12,898 --> 00:17:18,236 or you are a prostitute or a bitch or a ho, then slavery is not over. 272 00:17:20,539 --> 00:17:23,775 So there was an attempt by, um... 273 00:17:23,876 --> 00:17:29,113 this structure from the beginning to take women's bodies, 274 00:17:29,214 --> 00:17:32,750 Black women's bodies, and make them not our own. 275 00:17:35,888 --> 00:17:37,622 [Dr. Joy Degrui] This one particular physician, 276 00:17:37,723 --> 00:17:39,757 um, J. Marion Sims. 277 00:17:39,858 --> 00:17:44,362 J. Marion Sims was a physician in the mid eighteen hundreds. 278 00:17:44,463 --> 00:17:48,633 Consider the father of modern gynecology, 279 00:17:48,734 --> 00:17:55,440 because he developed the speculum, which is used for every woman today. 280 00:17:55,541 --> 00:17:57,508 So much goes through my head when I think about 281 00:17:57,609 --> 00:17:59,577 what these men would do that would bring... 282 00:17:59,678 --> 00:18:02,513 He had a makeshift hospital in his backyard in mid eighteen hundreds. 283 00:18:02,614 --> 00:18:06,684 So in his makeshift hospital, and all of these slave owners 284 00:18:06,785 --> 00:18:10,188 would bring these enslaved girls and women and say fix them. 285 00:18:11,957 --> 00:18:13,891 And he'd go, well what's wrong with them? 286 00:18:13,992 --> 00:18:17,762 They would they would be women who were suffering 287 00:18:17,863 --> 00:18:19,831 from something called Obstetric fistula. 288 00:18:19,932 --> 00:18:22,633 Which is a breakdown of tissue in the vaginal wall, 289 00:18:22,734 --> 00:18:26,003 usually occurs during childbirth, where you actually tear all the way 290 00:18:26,105 --> 00:18:31,209 through the bladder, through the rectum, and it causes, 291 00:18:31,310 --> 00:18:34,979 this... gaps which causes leakage of urine and feces. 292 00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:38,249 And he'd said, "We'll fix them because they're not fit for duty." 293 00:18:39,418 --> 00:18:40,885 Well, obstetric fistula's 294 00:18:40,986 --> 00:18:43,821 pretty horrible thing to have, but it will heal. 295 00:18:43,922 --> 00:18:47,258 You still have leakage, which is horrible and uncomfortable, 296 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:52,396 but it doesn't preclude your ability, to say, working the fields. 297 00:18:52,498 --> 00:18:56,501 Doesn't preclude your ability to clean, feed animals, what have you. 298 00:18:56,602 --> 00:18:58,302 So what duty, then, 299 00:18:58,403 --> 00:19:00,805 were they not fit for? 300 00:19:00,906 --> 00:19:06,277 And that duty was they needed to be sexually accessible to the slave owner. 301 00:19:06,378 --> 00:19:08,813 So he said, fix her J. Marion Sims, 302 00:19:08,914 --> 00:19:11,716 so she could be fit for duty. 303 00:19:11,817 --> 00:19:18,589 And that duty, didn't matter that she was twelve or ten, she's not fit for duty. 304 00:19:21,460 --> 00:19:25,496 Mississippi appendectomy is a is a phrase 305 00:19:25,597 --> 00:19:29,167 that describes the forced sterilization 306 00:19:29,268 --> 00:19:34,138 of Black women, mainly but not only, in the South. 307 00:19:34,239 --> 00:19:37,808 And the reason why the phrase is so powerful 308 00:19:37,910 --> 00:19:43,447 is because it's naming a practice of deceiving Black women. 309 00:19:43,549 --> 00:19:47,585 Because often people were admitted to the hospital and told, for example, 310 00:19:47,686 --> 00:19:49,487 they had to get their appendix removed, 311 00:19:49,588 --> 00:19:53,357 and really they were given a hysterectomy or tubal ligation. 312 00:19:53,458 --> 00:19:57,595 This is a culture that wants us to talk about the political and the cultural. 313 00:19:57,696 --> 00:20:02,466 Um, much more than talking about the foundation of it all is exploitation. 314 00:20:02,568 --> 00:20:05,570 So the economic dimension is the exploitation 315 00:20:05,671 --> 00:20:08,906 of Black women's labor and Black women's bodies. 316 00:20:09,007 --> 00:20:10,208 It's that fundamental. 317 00:20:16,048 --> 00:20:17,782 [Cora Mathews] At the age of fourteen, 318 00:20:17,883 --> 00:20:24,689 I was in a little town out of Pine Bluff called Old Timers, Arkansas. 319 00:20:28,927 --> 00:20:31,362 I began on a plantation. 320 00:20:35,133 --> 00:20:39,203 There was a job, there was earning money. 321 00:20:39,304 --> 00:20:40,938 It wasn't very much. 322 00:20:41,039 --> 00:20:45,409 But, I was happy that at the end of the week 323 00:20:45,510 --> 00:20:48,980 I had money, and I could go shopping. 324 00:20:50,048 --> 00:20:54,085 And I remember, my first week of working. 325 00:20:54,186 --> 00:20:57,688 I bought myself, a beautiful yellow dress, 326 00:20:58,890 --> 00:21:01,959 and, uh, a pair of shoes. 327 00:21:02,060 --> 00:21:04,528 And I think at the end of the week, I had about 18 dollars. 328 00:21:04,630 --> 00:21:09,700 That was the way, I was taught at that time, 329 00:21:09,801 --> 00:21:15,940 to, uh, earn money, for myself. 330 00:21:21,780 --> 00:21:26,651 We had overseers, we had water boys to bring cold water. 331 00:21:26,752 --> 00:21:30,888 Some of them were White and then there we had some that were Black. 332 00:21:30,989 --> 00:21:32,823 At times, I hated it. 333 00:21:32,924 --> 00:21:34,525 I wasn't very good at it. 334 00:21:34,626 --> 00:21:37,228 My uncle tried to teach me because he would always 335 00:21:37,329 --> 00:21:39,397 have me beside him on a row. 336 00:21:39,498 --> 00:21:42,933 I wanted to fill my bag, but you have to shake it down to make it heavy 337 00:21:43,035 --> 00:21:46,937 so you have a nice weight when you're going to have it weighed. 338 00:21:47,039 --> 00:21:51,809 And every time I would fill my bag, he would shake it down. 339 00:21:51,910 --> 00:21:57,715 And that was discouraging because I wanted a full bag like his. 340 00:21:57,816 --> 00:22:02,420 And once you fill it up, then they pay you by the pound. 341 00:22:02,521 --> 00:22:09,060 It was like 50 cents a pound, so you really had to pick hard to make any money. 342 00:22:14,366 --> 00:22:15,933 My husband promised to get me out of there. 343 00:22:16,034 --> 00:22:17,702 And he did. 344 00:22:17,836 --> 00:22:21,272 Once I got engaged, then I didn't go any more. 345 00:22:22,841 --> 00:22:25,609 My biggest fear is that the police 346 00:22:25,711 --> 00:22:30,781 stop one of my sons and something happens to them, 347 00:22:30,882 --> 00:22:35,119 they get shot or get beat up, or anything... 348 00:22:35,220 --> 00:22:36,387 Anything would have happened to them. 349 00:22:39,091 --> 00:22:41,158 Slavery did not end. 350 00:22:41,259 --> 00:22:45,663 If that is a question of not being able to make decisions about your own life, 351 00:22:45,764 --> 00:22:49,533 if slavery is a situation of economic disadvantage 352 00:22:49,634 --> 00:22:53,637 and not being able to get out of it from one generation to the next, 353 00:22:53,739 --> 00:22:57,641 if slavery is being exposed to images that tell you 354 00:22:57,743 --> 00:23:00,978 you are the mule of the world or you are a Jezebel 355 00:23:01,079 --> 00:23:06,684 or you are a prostitute or a bitch or a ho, then slavery is not over. 356 00:23:09,054 --> 00:23:11,689 There's this kind of mythology around slavery 357 00:23:11,790 --> 00:23:16,560 that slavery officially ended, and at that point somehow 358 00:23:16,661 --> 00:23:18,596 the playing field got leveled. 359 00:23:18,697 --> 00:23:22,666 But what I would submit to you is that, you know, you had Jim Crow, 360 00:23:22,768 --> 00:23:24,101 all the lynchings that occurred, 361 00:23:24,202 --> 00:23:27,071 thousands and thousands of lynchings occurred post-slavery, 362 00:23:27,172 --> 00:23:30,875 not during In fact, if you were to look at right now, 363 00:23:30,976 --> 00:23:35,413 look at the majority of lynchings that have gone on and those thousands 364 00:23:35,514 --> 00:23:38,115 of lynchings that have occurred all over the United States, 365 00:23:38,216 --> 00:23:42,887 there's this delusional paranoia that people of color, 366 00:23:42,988 --> 00:23:45,856 and principally Black men would do to White women 367 00:23:45,957 --> 00:23:51,929 what White men did to Black women. And the average Black man knew to run. 368 00:23:52,030 --> 00:23:55,766 Don't even make eye contact with a White woman, which could 369 00:23:55,867 --> 00:24:00,438 cause, you know, cause your death. Wrote a note to a White woman, 370 00:24:00,539 --> 00:24:05,176 failed to run an errand for a White woman, startled a White woman, 371 00:24:05,277 --> 00:24:10,347 All of those would lead to lynching, not just of Black men, but of the entire family. 372 00:24:13,618 --> 00:24:15,419 [woman] I hear you have a problem with these gentlemen 373 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,254 having a barbecue here at the lake. What's going on? 374 00:24:19,458 --> 00:24:22,793 - Now she don't want to talk. - [woman] She doesn't want to talk now. 375 00:24:22,894 --> 00:24:24,962 It's illegal to have a charcoal grill in the park here. 376 00:24:25,063 --> 00:24:26,597 - [woman] No, it's not, actually. - Yeah, it is. 377 00:24:26,698 --> 00:24:29,433 I just looked at the map that says this is a designated barbecue area. 378 00:24:29,534 --> 00:24:31,735 [woman] This woman don't want to let a little girl sell some water. 379 00:24:31,837 --> 00:24:36,006 - Illegally selling water without a permit, yeah. - [woman] On my property. 380 00:24:36,107 --> 00:24:38,809 No, I want the cops here right now. 381 00:24:38,910 --> 00:24:40,744 [children crying] 382 00:24:40,846 --> 00:24:44,882 - Mommy. - I'm gonna stay right here. I'm gonna stay right here. 383 00:24:47,052 --> 00:24:48,486 [woman] The cops are right down the block. 384 00:24:48,587 --> 00:24:51,689 So what I've been thinking about a lot lately, 385 00:24:51,790 --> 00:24:53,524 and I'm a mother and I'm a godmother. 386 00:24:53,625 --> 00:24:55,526 Something that I feel almost is 387 00:24:55,627 --> 00:24:58,963 a transgenerational memory, 388 00:24:59,064 --> 00:25:05,736 the idea that I don't have the power, really, to protect my children. 389 00:25:05,837 --> 00:25:08,739 My biggest fear is that the police 390 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:13,544 stop one of my sons and something happens to them, 391 00:25:13,645 --> 00:25:18,082 they get shot or get beat up, or anything... 392 00:25:18,183 --> 00:25:20,084 Anything would have happened to them. 393 00:25:20,185 --> 00:25:23,988 As a mother of two Black men, 394 00:25:24,089 --> 00:25:27,958 The thing that I'm most afraid of is that I'm going to get a call 395 00:25:28,059 --> 00:25:32,596 saying that someone killed my sons. 396 00:25:32,697 --> 00:25:34,064 That terrorizes me. 397 00:25:35,300 --> 00:25:37,868 [man] All right. I've asked Helen Jones to join us. 398 00:25:37,969 --> 00:25:39,336 Okay, Helen, go ahead. 399 00:25:39,437 --> 00:25:41,305 Okay. This is my son, John Horton 400 00:25:41,406 --> 00:25:43,607 that was accused of hanging hisself 401 00:25:43,708 --> 00:25:45,576 in the Men's County Jail last month 402 00:25:45,677 --> 00:25:48,579 on the 30th. They came to my daughter's residence 403 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,548 to tell me my son hung hisself. 404 00:25:50,649 --> 00:25:51,749 But they didn't say that my son 405 00:25:51,850 --> 00:25:54,251 have scars in his head. 406 00:25:54,352 --> 00:25:59,823 He have, uh, meat showing to where... a handcuff 407 00:25:59,925 --> 00:26:02,860 was on his wrist to where it's ate down to the meat. 408 00:26:02,961 --> 00:26:05,162 They didn't mention none of that, you know? 409 00:26:05,263 --> 00:26:07,464 And then the bruise that's on my son's head, 410 00:26:07,566 --> 00:26:08,799 you can see it clear as day 411 00:26:08,900 --> 00:26:12,303 where he been hit with a billy club or a flashlight. 412 00:26:12,404 --> 00:26:14,204 The line's right here. 413 00:26:14,306 --> 00:26:15,839 You could see it clear as day. 414 00:26:15,941 --> 00:26:17,775 I can, I can show you proof. 415 00:26:17,876 --> 00:26:21,512 These lines right here is right on my baby's head right here. 416 00:26:21,613 --> 00:26:22,813 And I'm just trying to figure out, 417 00:26:22,914 --> 00:26:25,349 how did my son hang hisself 418 00:26:25,450 --> 00:26:27,885 after taking a blow like this to his head, 419 00:26:27,986 --> 00:26:30,821 without receiving medical attention from anybody. 420 00:26:30,922 --> 00:26:32,723 'Cause I know he didn't get no medical attention. 421 00:26:32,824 --> 00:26:36,026 This is the noose that came with my baby's body. 422 00:26:36,127 --> 00:26:38,295 This is what was around his neck. 423 00:26:38,396 --> 00:26:40,731 And this is not the print that's around my baby neck. 424 00:26:40,832 --> 00:26:43,701 My baby have a mark around his neck this thin. 425 00:26:43,802 --> 00:26:46,537 So how would, how can he hang hisself with this? 426 00:26:46,638 --> 00:26:50,374 This came to me and my family, and I'm just trying to, 427 00:26:50,475 --> 00:26:53,444 how did this get out of evidence and out of custody... 428 00:27:20,805 --> 00:27:23,874 I have one daughter today. 429 00:27:23,975 --> 00:27:26,877 She's 32, and I have a son 430 00:27:26,978 --> 00:27:30,414 that, you know, that's deceased. 431 00:27:30,515 --> 00:27:34,585 I knew they was doing something to John because they wouldn't let me see him. 432 00:27:34,686 --> 00:27:37,554 And I tried to visit him numerous times 433 00:27:39,057 --> 00:27:41,325 and they hid him from me and 434 00:27:42,794 --> 00:27:46,330 kept lying to me, telling me he was over here, he was over there. 435 00:27:47,365 --> 00:27:52,336 So if anything, I just want John to know that 436 00:27:52,437 --> 00:27:55,172 I wish I could have saved him. I wish I could have helped my son. 437 00:27:57,876 --> 00:27:59,376 That's it. 438 00:28:16,761 --> 00:28:18,228 There's no way I could get over that. 439 00:28:20,432 --> 00:28:24,401 I would use my dying breath to get justice for him. 440 00:28:26,371 --> 00:28:29,606 So the question is, how to protect oneself. 441 00:28:29,708 --> 00:28:33,477 And how do you raise a child in a culture that hates your child? 442 00:28:33,578 --> 00:28:35,579 How do you raise your child in a culture 443 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,916 that will kill your child and not even think twice about it? 444 00:28:39,017 --> 00:28:42,786 The police state is existing exactly 445 00:28:42,887 --> 00:28:45,856 as it was designed to exist, 446 00:28:45,957 --> 00:28:48,625 and it makes me very angry. 447 00:28:48,727 --> 00:28:52,463 It makes me angry that Black mothers are gunned down, 448 00:28:52,564 --> 00:28:57,000 people like Wakisha Wilson, or Kisha Michael or, Michelle Shirley. 449 00:28:57,702 --> 00:29:02,773 Way, stand in the rifle sight. 450 00:29:02,874 --> 00:29:06,176 We raise our children in the rifle sight. 451 00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:13,884 [man] The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman. 452 00:29:17,455 --> 00:29:20,791 The most unprotected person in America is the Black woman. 453 00:29:24,095 --> 00:29:27,097 The most neglected person in America is the Black woman. 454 00:29:30,502 --> 00:29:36,406 Faith is not only believing in something that you can't see and touch, 455 00:29:36,508 --> 00:29:41,879 but it's really expressing your true potential, 456 00:29:41,980 --> 00:29:45,816 We were meant to survive as units of labor. 457 00:29:45,917 --> 00:29:49,653 We were meant to survive as commodities 458 00:29:49,754 --> 00:29:52,956 that other people can use for other purposes. 459 00:29:53,057 --> 00:29:55,092 But we were never meant to survive 460 00:29:55,193 --> 00:30:00,030 as fully human beings that are seen as fully human. 461 00:30:03,234 --> 00:30:06,236 If I tell you this secret, do you promise to keep it? 462 00:30:14,946 --> 00:30:19,583 My armor is only flesh, 463 00:30:19,684 --> 00:30:23,787 more human than you could ever imagine. 464 00:30:25,957 --> 00:30:31,128 Feet swollen somewhere between systemic diabetes and years of marching 465 00:30:31,229 --> 00:30:33,964 from the house to the river, across the fields, 466 00:30:34,065 --> 00:30:37,034 through the underground, for women's suffrage, 467 00:30:37,135 --> 00:30:39,002 for civil rights, for Bring Our Kids Home, for gay marriage, 468 00:30:39,103 --> 00:30:41,371 for Black Lives Matter, for Say Her Name. 469 00:30:41,472 --> 00:30:44,541 I'd be lying if I said the blood of my children 470 00:30:44,642 --> 00:30:48,712 and pimped across phone screens didn't make me regret opening my eyes. 471 00:30:48,813 --> 00:30:51,548 Most mornings it's hard to remember a time 472 00:30:51,649 --> 00:30:55,185 when death was beautiful and old age was regular. 473 00:30:55,286 --> 00:30:57,855 I don't remember a day since puberty 474 00:30:57,956 --> 00:31:01,058 when the generational trauma of being held captive 475 00:31:01,159 --> 00:31:03,894 didn't blow its foul breath in my face. 476 00:31:03,995 --> 00:31:09,600 With the passing of cop cars, I see my voiceless sister in the trunk, 477 00:31:09,701 --> 00:31:13,370 bullets destined to rip through my brother, a driver. 478 00:31:13,471 --> 00:31:17,608 It's having six o'clock beers with correction officers who mocked my father, 479 00:31:17,709 --> 00:31:21,712 reaching through the bars of his cage, begging for one more phone call. 480 00:31:21,813 --> 00:31:25,549 It's a mama who needs 15 minutes of his voice like aspirin 481 00:31:25,650 --> 00:31:27,851 at the end of her third double this week. 482 00:31:27,952 --> 00:31:30,854 It's the intuition that makes your toes go numb, 483 00:31:30,955 --> 00:31:36,793 the vision that glazes your face until strangers ask, what you looking so mean for? 484 00:31:43,601 --> 00:31:45,802 I'd be lying if I said it doesn't hurt. 485 00:31:48,106 --> 00:31:50,674 To watch him choose my gentrified beauty. 486 00:31:50,775 --> 00:31:54,945 An another while in my off-brand accent, they say, she just mad. 487 00:31:57,649 --> 00:32:00,717 Like after several thousand years of dying for 488 00:32:00,818 --> 00:32:03,453 and beside my counterpart, I wouldn't be 489 00:32:03,554 --> 00:32:06,356 and I shouldn't be, because I did it out of love. 490 00:32:06,457 --> 00:32:09,092 He owes me nothing, but damn. 491 00:32:10,628 --> 00:32:14,298 Sometimes I wonder if so many lives hadn't been so cruel. 492 00:32:14,399 --> 00:32:15,732 Would he still be mine? 493 00:32:18,269 --> 00:32:22,572 I wonder if his soul recognizes humiliation 494 00:32:22,674 --> 00:32:26,610 of a beaten and raped wife for the master who stole his life? 495 00:32:26,711 --> 00:32:28,912 When he looks at me, I wonder 496 00:32:30,682 --> 00:32:33,750 if his spirit has PTSD. 497 00:32:35,853 --> 00:32:37,521 I wonder if I can cure it. 498 00:32:40,258 --> 00:32:41,825 Would you believe me if I told you 499 00:32:41,926 --> 00:32:44,795 sometimes I go into the shower and just below the volume 500 00:32:44,862 --> 00:32:48,665 of the radio, I tilt my head back and cry my heart out? 501 00:32:48,766 --> 00:32:53,503 Heavy are the eyelids that wake after a thousand nights of morning herself. 502 00:32:53,604 --> 00:32:55,339 There's no way around feeling it. 503 00:32:56,941 --> 00:32:59,009 That's how you get through it. 504 00:33:05,450 --> 00:33:09,686 And sometimes, the only safe place for that is in my dreams. 505 00:33:11,589 --> 00:33:16,593 Sometimes I go to sleep just to lay my head 506 00:33:16,694 --> 00:33:19,830 in the lap of Sojourner and be a woman again. 507 00:33:23,334 --> 00:33:26,403 I am tired of announcing my strength with heartbreak. 508 00:33:29,607 --> 00:33:32,676 And it ain't fair to be this tired. 509 00:33:39,617 --> 00:33:41,818 We're still here and we haven't gone away. 510 00:33:43,821 --> 00:33:49,993 And we are not victims, and we're not damaged. 511 00:33:50,094 --> 00:33:54,097 We have painful wounds from which some of us have healed and others of us have not. 512 00:33:54,198 --> 00:33:58,268 But that doesn't make us damaged goods in any way, shape or form. 513 00:34:00,405 --> 00:34:01,838 It makes us leaders, actually. 514 00:34:03,574 --> 00:34:07,110 I think the label resilient, like most labels, 515 00:34:09,113 --> 00:34:14,618 the effect of that, in part, is tied to who is wielding that label. 516 00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:19,356 In one way, resilient can be wielded and used to describe Black women 517 00:34:19,457 --> 00:34:22,125 as a way to celebrate how you survive oppression. 518 00:34:22,226 --> 00:34:26,129 But it can also be wielded in a way 519 00:34:26,230 --> 00:34:31,835 that fetishizes strength that says, you know what? 520 00:34:31,936 --> 00:34:35,372 You are so strong we really don't have to care about how we treat you. 521 00:35:04,902 --> 00:35:06,470 [melancholy music playing] 522 00:35:16,681 --> 00:35:20,817 [Cora Matthews] I went to a segregated school. All Black. 523 00:35:20,918 --> 00:35:24,121 And my parents had taught us about the difference in the schools 524 00:35:26,157 --> 00:35:30,594 I had heard of the fighting and the Kirsten protest. 525 00:35:30,695 --> 00:35:34,164 To get this undone where we are to school together. 526 00:35:34,265 --> 00:35:38,401 Even when I was going to church, it would get so intense. 527 00:35:46,844 --> 00:35:50,213 I used to hear my father free. 528 00:35:50,314 --> 00:35:52,983 He would pray out loud, you know, 529 00:35:53,084 --> 00:35:57,154 and I always wanted to, uh, pray like he did. 530 00:36:04,529 --> 00:36:08,265 I would hear prayers. That was just heartening 531 00:36:08,366 --> 00:36:14,905 Just touching. It would make you feel that guy was somewhere close. 532 00:36:15,006 --> 00:36:19,476 You could just feel the presence and that inspired me 533 00:36:19,577 --> 00:36:22,779 to trust that same gut and go to go to him in prayer 534 00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,215 and asked that things would get better. 535 00:36:25,316 --> 00:36:28,051 There would be more unity in the world. 536 00:36:30,821 --> 00:36:35,725 I think there's something very deep there when we talk about faith and Black women. 537 00:36:35,826 --> 00:36:38,728 If you think about faith as being committed 538 00:36:38,829 --> 00:36:40,931 to something that's bigger than yourself. 539 00:36:41,032 --> 00:36:43,500 Faith as having hope for the future. 540 00:36:44,635 --> 00:36:46,736 Many Black women have to get up every day 541 00:36:46,837 --> 00:36:49,739 and have faith that they will survive that day, 542 00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:51,908 that their children will survive that day, 543 00:36:52,009 --> 00:36:55,845 and that their children's lives will be better than their lives. 544 00:36:55,947 --> 00:37:01,751 Faith is not only believing in something that you can't see and touch, 545 00:37:01,852 --> 00:37:05,989 but it's really expressing your true potential, 546 00:37:06,090 --> 00:37:10,026 a potential that there's not evidence that anyone else believes in. 547 00:37:13,764 --> 00:37:19,202 There's nothing else around you that is reflecting back at you, who you truly are. 548 00:37:20,671 --> 00:37:22,606 But you know who you are, right? 549 00:37:22,707 --> 00:37:26,743 And so it's a reclamation of your nobility. 550 00:37:26,844 --> 00:37:30,914 It's a reclamation of your inherent worth, 551 00:37:31,015 --> 00:37:34,117 even if the world around you does not believe it, 552 00:37:34,218 --> 00:37:36,620 does not treat you according to that. 553 00:37:36,721 --> 00:37:40,957 Faith is the reason why we're here, because we held onto that 554 00:37:41,058 --> 00:37:43,526 against all evidence to the contrary. 555 00:37:46,230 --> 00:37:48,765 Ended slavery times. 556 00:37:48,866 --> 00:37:53,436 That's what's got them through a lot of the things 557 00:37:53,537 --> 00:37:57,874 that they had to go through. Prayer. Singing. 558 00:38:02,113 --> 00:38:05,915 Can you sing me your favorite gospel song that gets you through? 559 00:38:11,155 --> 00:38:12,122 ♪ Yes ♪ 560 00:38:13,257 --> 00:38:17,427 ♪ Jesus loves me ♪ 561 00:38:18,462 --> 00:38:19,562 ♪ Yes ♪ 562 00:38:20,331 --> 00:38:21,831 ♪ Jesus ♪ 563 00:38:21,932 --> 00:38:24,100 ♪ He loves me ♪ 564 00:38:24,969 --> 00:38:26,102 ♪ Yes ♪ 565 00:38:26,804 --> 00:38:28,204 ♪ Jesus ♪ 566 00:38:28,306 --> 00:38:33,276 ♪ He loves me for the Bible ♪ 567 00:38:33,377 --> 00:38:36,313 ♪ tells me so ♪ 568 00:38:45,790 --> 00:38:46,723 He loves me. 569 00:38:48,192 --> 00:38:53,697 And part of our strength is the knowing that that pain will end. 570 00:38:53,798 --> 00:38:55,265 That we're going to make sure it does. 571 00:38:55,366 --> 00:38:56,900 You ain't gonna hit me no more. 572 00:38:57,001 --> 00:39:01,037 I think what we're going to find out is the tiniest things, 573 00:39:01,138 --> 00:39:05,275 the things that we think are just fleeting, in the big scheme of things, 574 00:39:05,376 --> 00:39:08,111 I think those are going to be what's most amplified 575 00:39:08,212 --> 00:39:10,980 in terms of the value of our lives. 576 00:39:11,082 --> 00:39:14,351 And so I just hope that we don't take it for granted. 577 00:39:17,988 --> 00:39:24,627 The hardest lesson I had to learn in life is stay strong 578 00:39:26,397 --> 00:39:29,132 and knowing that I will make it to the other side. 579 00:39:30,801 --> 00:39:34,871 Learning how to bear with this pain that I'm going through with John 580 00:39:34,972 --> 00:39:40,310 and still be able to be there for the rest of my family that needs me. 581 00:39:40,411 --> 00:39:41,845 It's not a strength that means 582 00:39:41,946 --> 00:39:45,715 that there's no vulnerability and there's no pain, right? 583 00:39:46,951 --> 00:39:50,253 There's wounds and there's pain and there's vulnerability 584 00:39:50,921 --> 00:39:55,592 and we refuse to submit to it. 585 00:39:59,663 --> 00:40:05,135 And part of our strength is the knowing that that pain will end. 586 00:40:05,236 --> 00:40:06,703 That we're going to make sure it does. 587 00:40:06,804 --> 00:40:08,037 You ain't gonna hit me no more. 588 00:40:09,373 --> 00:40:10,740 [melancholy music playing] 589 00:40:17,314 --> 00:40:20,617 All those, you know, generations of being told 590 00:40:20,718 --> 00:40:26,055 what to do, when to do it, how to do it like we did that already. 591 00:40:26,157 --> 00:40:29,325 There is a kind of fierce independence 592 00:40:29,427 --> 00:40:35,165 and independence of mind, of will, of tenacity, of knowing. 593 00:40:35,266 --> 00:40:40,937 There is a sense of knowing that Black women have. 594 00:40:41,038 --> 00:40:43,506 It's a silent, quiet, and we know it 595 00:40:43,607 --> 00:40:45,442 because we can look at each other and see it. 596 00:40:46,544 --> 00:40:48,278 It's the reason why we could look and smile 597 00:40:48,379 --> 00:40:50,613 and give that nod because it's a knowing. 598 00:40:55,453 --> 00:40:57,387 You can't take that from us. 599 00:40:57,488 --> 00:40:59,622 That's a spiritual reality. 600 00:40:59,723 --> 00:41:05,261 That is that we were born with, and that has galvanized, 601 00:41:05,362 --> 00:41:08,565 I think, Black women in every spot of the earth. 602 00:41:20,778 --> 00:41:22,145 [instrumental music playing] 603 00:41:28,686 --> 00:41:33,056 [Dr. Melina] Everything was set up for us not to survive. 604 00:41:37,161 --> 00:41:42,565 Our perseverance, our survival, our resilience is a form of rebellion. 605 00:41:42,666 --> 00:41:46,202 Refusing to succumb to the oppressions that we live under. 606 00:41:48,439 --> 00:41:51,674 If you could imagine almost a diamond shaped chart. 607 00:41:51,775 --> 00:41:57,080 The very top of the chart is White men and their arrows. 608 00:41:57,181 --> 00:41:59,716 Moving from that top box to implication here 609 00:41:59,817 --> 00:42:03,953 that White women feel sexism from white men. 610 00:42:04,054 --> 00:42:07,857 And then there's an arrow from the White men 611 00:42:07,958 --> 00:42:13,696 to men of color and men of color feel racism from White men. 612 00:42:13,797 --> 00:42:18,968 They also feel racism from White women and then leading from White women 613 00:42:19,069 --> 00:42:23,773 and men of color are two arrows that lead to a box at the bottom, 614 00:42:23,874 --> 00:42:26,509 and at the bottom is his women of color. 615 00:42:26,610 --> 00:42:30,747 Women of color feel racism from White women, 616 00:42:30,848 --> 00:42:36,019 racism from White men, sexism from White men 617 00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:38,788 and sexism from men of color. 618 00:42:38,889 --> 00:42:42,158 And then when you look at that box of women of color and you look at 619 00:42:42,259 --> 00:42:46,629 where the disproportionate level of injury is, health or otherwise, 620 00:42:46,730 --> 00:42:50,133 you're going to have a box below that and that's Black women. 621 00:42:50,234 --> 00:42:54,737 So Black women then become the oppressed of the oppressed. 622 00:42:54,838 --> 00:42:58,841 We were meant to survive as units of labor. 623 00:42:58,943 --> 00:43:02,879 We were meant to survive as commodities 624 00:43:02,980 --> 00:43:06,082 that other people can use for other purposes. 625 00:43:06,183 --> 00:43:08,318 But we were never meant to survive 626 00:43:08,419 --> 00:43:13,122 as fully human beings that are seen as fully human. 627 00:43:14,491 --> 00:43:17,493 Rebelling against that is a good thing. 628 00:43:24,401 --> 00:43:29,973 I think that there's this notion that you tried to bury us 629 00:43:30,074 --> 00:43:32,642 and only discover we were seeds. 630 00:43:33,911 --> 00:43:37,480 Is a rebellion. 631 00:43:43,621 --> 00:43:47,490 [Dr. Patricia] Rebellion occurs in so many different ways. 632 00:43:47,591 --> 00:43:51,227 Sometimes when a Black woman is sitting there being very quiet, 633 00:43:51,328 --> 00:43:55,865 she is engaged in profound rebellion in her own mind. 634 00:43:55,966 --> 00:43:59,168 Sometimes rebellion is the sister who stands up 635 00:43:59,269 --> 00:44:02,271 and tells you about yourself to your face. 636 00:44:02,373 --> 00:44:06,309 Even though you did not ask her to say anything. 637 00:44:06,410 --> 00:44:10,046 Sometimes a rebellion is working with the rules 638 00:44:10,147 --> 00:44:14,317 within an institution to shift them and tweak them a little bit, 639 00:44:14,418 --> 00:44:17,053 so there's a little more of this and a little less of that. 640 00:44:22,826 --> 00:44:29,065 What I really love about Black women is, um, the way in which we've engaged 641 00:44:29,166 --> 00:44:32,101 in the struggle for power in a way that's very different 642 00:44:32,202 --> 00:44:34,871 to the White male leadership model. 643 00:44:34,972 --> 00:44:38,908 Our very existence, the way that we move through the world, 644 00:44:39,009 --> 00:44:45,114 um, is a refusal of both a White supremacist system or a patriarchal system. 645 00:44:45,215 --> 00:44:50,820 And so we're in the best position to begin to try to imagine 646 00:44:50,921 --> 00:44:54,257 and build something outside of these oppressive systems. 647 00:44:54,358 --> 00:44:58,461 I'm thinking about the small-p politics in communities. 648 00:44:58,562 --> 00:45:01,497 Charlotta Bass who ran for vice president 649 00:45:01,598 --> 00:45:05,134 and said, win or lose, we win by raising the issues. 650 00:45:05,235 --> 00:45:08,638 Women like Barbara Lee, Karen Bass and others 651 00:45:08,739 --> 00:45:12,208 who attempted to kind of bridge community 652 00:45:12,276 --> 00:45:16,379 organizing and kind of the work that needs to be done, that's larger 653 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:21,150 than electoral politics and using electoral politics is a tool. 654 00:45:21,251 --> 00:45:25,021 I'm thinking of Maxine Waters today. 655 00:45:25,122 --> 00:45:29,025 I'm thinking of Shirley Chisholm, who I got to act as in like, 656 00:45:29,126 --> 00:45:30,993 a third grade play. 657 00:45:31,095 --> 00:45:32,829 So we know some of their names, 658 00:45:32,930 --> 00:45:34,430 but we don't know all of their names. 659 00:45:34,531 --> 00:45:39,502 We don't know every Black woman who rose up on a slave plantation and said 660 00:45:39,603 --> 00:45:42,872 we're going to have a work stoppage or we don't know all of the Black women 661 00:45:42,973 --> 00:45:46,209 who, during the civil rights movement, took care of the folks 662 00:45:46,310 --> 00:45:48,878 who were beaten or marched themselves. 663 00:45:58,489 --> 00:46:02,625 Black women can do anything. We can make a meal out of nothing. 664 00:46:02,726 --> 00:46:06,295 We can make music out of sorrow, right? 665 00:46:06,396 --> 00:46:09,632 We can write our feelings and it becomes a poem. 666 00:46:09,733 --> 00:46:13,803 We can transform pain into laughter. 667 00:46:13,904 --> 00:46:15,538 Maybe it's more than creativity. 668 00:46:15,639 --> 00:46:16,539 Maybe it's magic. 669 00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:18,040 Maybe that's the Black girl magic. 670 00:46:21,044 --> 00:46:22,478 [Dr. Patricia] The dignity and struggle 671 00:46:22,579 --> 00:46:25,148 is part of the beauty of everyday life. 672 00:46:25,249 --> 00:46:27,483 But you can't see it when you're in the moment. 673 00:46:27,618 --> 00:46:30,853 I really think the ordinary Black people, Black women... 674 00:46:31,922 --> 00:46:33,189 [Dr. Patricia sighs] 675 00:46:38,195 --> 00:46:41,197 [Dr. Patricia] A small story, and maybe this will give the feel of it. 676 00:46:41,298 --> 00:46:43,566 My first class that I ever taught on Black women, 677 00:46:43,667 --> 00:46:45,601 I taught to eighth grade Black girls. 678 00:46:47,771 --> 00:46:51,674 And I had a course that I'd expose them to kind of famous Black women. 679 00:46:52,810 --> 00:46:54,977 And it's my exercise. I ask them, 680 00:46:56,113 --> 00:46:58,815 "Could you name a Black woman that you really admire?" 681 00:47:00,918 --> 00:47:03,986 They all said, my mother, 682 00:47:05,889 --> 00:47:10,660 my grandmother, my sister. 683 00:47:11,995 --> 00:47:17,066 They all named other Black women that they knew in their lives. 684 00:47:20,237 --> 00:47:23,873 This is a narrative we really have to say more about. 685 00:47:25,042 --> 00:47:27,376 I have a saying in my household, right? 686 00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:31,914 Mama can do anything, right? 687 00:47:32,015 --> 00:47:36,919 So, like, um, somebody's, I don't know, 688 00:47:37,020 --> 00:47:39,889 toy will break and I'll fix it. 689 00:47:39,990 --> 00:47:43,259 And I hand it back and I'll go because Mama and they'll go 690 00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,596 can do anything, right? Because I can. 691 00:47:46,697 --> 00:47:47,997 I can do anything. 692 00:47:48,098 --> 00:47:52,702 Black women can do anything. We can make a meal out of nothing. 693 00:47:52,803 --> 00:47:56,372 We can make music out of sorrow, right? 694 00:47:56,473 --> 00:47:59,709 We can write our feelings and it becomes a poem. 695 00:47:59,810 --> 00:48:02,645 We can transform pain into laughter. 696 00:48:03,547 --> 00:48:05,181 Maybe it's more than creativity. 697 00:48:05,282 --> 00:48:06,182 Maybe it's magic. 698 00:48:06,283 --> 00:48:08,751 Maybe that's the Black girl magic, right? 699 00:48:09,219 --> 00:48:10,386 Black woman magic. 700 00:48:10,487 --> 00:48:12,054 Because I'm not a girl. 701 00:48:12,155 --> 00:48:13,656 Life has either come through us 702 00:48:13,757 --> 00:48:15,057 or life has come to us, 703 00:48:15,158 --> 00:48:18,160 and we've been charged with shaping these lives. 704 00:48:18,262 --> 00:48:21,964 And that is miraculous and divine. 705 00:48:22,065 --> 00:48:25,301 Just like the mothers before us 706 00:48:25,402 --> 00:48:32,174 shaped things and made a way, we, too, will shape things and make a way. 707 00:48:32,276 --> 00:48:36,345 And so, for me, I think about my grandmothers, 708 00:48:36,446 --> 00:48:40,816 and I think about what I learned from the women in my family. 709 00:48:40,918 --> 00:48:43,386 You need to know more about those shoulders 710 00:48:43,487 --> 00:48:48,124 because they were able to bear what few people in recent history 711 00:48:48,225 --> 00:48:49,558 know anything about. 712 00:48:49,660 --> 00:48:52,495 Where are those painful memories? Where did they go? 713 00:48:58,735 --> 00:49:01,771 How did you cope? To deal with that? 714 00:49:05,842 --> 00:49:08,377 How did you learn to love yourself? 715 00:49:08,478 --> 00:49:12,949 And how did you learn to reconcile yourself? 716 00:49:16,453 --> 00:49:19,288 In every single way that we've been harmed 717 00:49:19,389 --> 00:49:23,359 and traumatized throughout history into the present. 718 00:49:23,460 --> 00:49:30,066 Every single point is a site where healing is occurring and has to occur. 719 00:49:30,167 --> 00:49:34,503 I believe that healing, survival, winning, 720 00:49:34,604 --> 00:49:38,774 transforming, all of that is rooted in spiritual work. 721 00:49:38,875 --> 00:49:43,546 Tapping into the Black women's energy 722 00:49:43,647 --> 00:49:49,518 that's gone before us, tapping into divine energy. 723 00:49:49,619 --> 00:49:53,456 Being still and listening to the voices of our foremothers 724 00:49:54,458 --> 00:49:58,928 is what will heal, sustain and win for us. 725 00:49:59,029 --> 00:50:02,398 'Cause the whole point is, how do we heal? And the healing part, 726 00:50:02,499 --> 00:50:05,368 I say to people, I say, "Listen, when I say we need to heal", 727 00:50:05,469 --> 00:50:07,370 that's just not a nice word. 728 00:50:07,471 --> 00:50:08,938 I'm not just saying that. 729 00:50:09,039 --> 00:50:12,942 I'm saying that we must heal, because if we don't heal, 730 00:50:13,043 --> 00:50:16,012 "we actually doom future generations." 731 00:50:16,113 --> 00:50:19,215 We have to heal. It's not philosophical, it's real. 732 00:50:19,316 --> 00:50:22,018 And so, I think the best thing we can do 733 00:50:22,119 --> 00:50:26,555 is expand what and how we consider healing 734 00:50:26,656 --> 00:50:31,227 and to understand nothing is too small to contribute to our healing. 735 00:50:31,328 --> 00:50:36,532 And so, I think, let... let a thousand forms of healing proliferate. 736 00:50:36,633 --> 00:50:38,834 Every exchange, that eye contact. 737 00:50:38,935 --> 00:50:42,271 Someone who you're sitting at the bus stop with, that exchange. 738 00:50:42,372 --> 00:50:45,241 The little girl whose mom is at the cash register, 739 00:50:45,342 --> 00:50:46,842 who turns around and looks at you, 740 00:50:46,943 --> 00:50:48,878 how do you beam some love at her? 741 00:50:48,979 --> 00:50:52,448 There's so many ways that I remember that I carry that love with me 742 00:50:52,549 --> 00:50:55,718 that people didn't have to show me love, you know. 743 00:50:55,819 --> 00:51:01,424 That I've felt so, you know, so sort of energized 744 00:51:01,525 --> 00:51:05,628 by just random people showing me that I was valuable. 745 00:51:05,729 --> 00:51:12,635 So I do feel that it's my responsibility not to waste any moments. 746 00:51:12,736 --> 00:51:16,906 I think what we're going to find out is the tiniest things, 747 00:51:17,007 --> 00:51:21,077 the things that we think are just fleeting in the big scheme of things, 748 00:51:21,178 --> 00:51:23,913 I think those are going to be what's most amplified 749 00:51:24,014 --> 00:51:26,782 in terms of the value of our lives. 750 00:51:26,883 --> 00:51:29,885 And so I just hope that we don't take it for granted. 751 00:51:39,262 --> 00:51:43,165 [Dr. Melina] And so then beyond spiritual work, there's each other. 752 00:51:43,266 --> 00:51:47,736 So as we talk about healing, we have to be willing 753 00:51:47,838 --> 00:51:51,440 to see each other and to help each other. 754 00:51:51,541 --> 00:51:57,480 That's part of our healing as well, is seeing each other as pieces of a puzzle, 755 00:51:57,581 --> 00:52:00,116 as parts of a beautiful mosaic. 756 00:52:00,217 --> 00:52:06,155 When Black women win, right, we win. We have to lift as we climb. 757 00:52:06,256 --> 00:52:09,725 It goes back to Black women connecting with each other, 758 00:52:09,826 --> 00:52:12,027 Black women affirming each other. 759 00:52:12,129 --> 00:52:13,662 [projector whirring] 760 00:52:13,763 --> 00:52:16,866 [Jazmine] Resilience is the Black girl magic they can't rip off of me. 761 00:52:21,404 --> 00:52:25,341 I've spent far too many lives perfecting the art of survival. 762 00:52:26,409 --> 00:52:29,578 I have mastered mixing the perfect shades of red 763 00:52:29,679 --> 00:52:33,349 over split lips I chewed silence into. 764 00:52:33,450 --> 00:52:37,319 I tuned my laughter like a violin in office break rooms 765 00:52:37,420 --> 00:52:41,790 to drown out the screaming of token Blackness I couldn't fully swallow. 766 00:52:42,425 --> 00:52:44,660 Like flagpoles and statues, 767 00:52:44,761 --> 00:52:48,497 I have climbed corporate ladders and rang the alarm from the top. 768 00:52:48,598 --> 00:52:52,168 I've been handcuffed on my high horse without flinching. 769 00:52:52,269 --> 00:52:54,103 I've learned what shadows to dust 770 00:52:54,204 --> 00:52:57,606 over swollen eyelids that squint in prayer all night. 771 00:52:58,775 --> 00:53:01,911 For sons with bandannas in their pockets 772 00:53:03,146 --> 00:53:06,282 and for sons with Skittles in their hoodies. 773 00:53:07,984 --> 00:53:11,420 Overlooked for a wife, I married myself 774 00:53:11,521 --> 00:53:15,658 to education and travel, went to bed with wine on my tongue 775 00:53:15,759 --> 00:53:18,394 and Isn't She Lovely playing from my nightstand. 776 00:53:18,495 --> 00:53:22,431 When the terror of burning crosses began to visit me in my sleep, 777 00:53:22,532 --> 00:53:26,635 I urged myself to dream from balconies and every corner of the earth. 778 00:53:26,736 --> 00:53:30,639 Dedicated the sum of my life to the fingertips of ancestors, 779 00:53:30,740 --> 00:53:33,008 touching lands of their wildest visions, 780 00:53:33,109 --> 00:53:35,544 redefining what it means to be grounded. 781 00:53:35,645 --> 00:53:38,214 Reclaiming my roots and my limbs. 782 00:53:38,315 --> 00:53:40,382 These days, I wrap my arms 783 00:53:40,483 --> 00:53:44,887 around great oaks that used to haunt me with visions of blood on their leaves 784 00:53:44,988 --> 00:53:48,224 and nearly break down at the miracle of me, 785 00:53:48,325 --> 00:53:52,094 still standing like a tree that should have been destroyed 786 00:53:52,195 --> 00:53:56,565 by the fires and the floods and the feds a long time ago. 787 00:53:58,468 --> 00:54:05,808 But by some Black girl magic, I'm still here. 788 00:54:05,909 --> 00:54:09,645 You got to have long straight hair, that you're beautiful. 789 00:54:09,746 --> 00:54:10,913 No. 790 00:54:12,582 --> 00:54:14,549 You've got to be beautiful to be skinny. 791 00:54:14,618 --> 00:54:17,253 No. We thick. 792 00:54:17,354 --> 00:54:20,456 We ain't skinny. We chunky. We like meat. We got meat on our... 793 00:54:20,557 --> 00:54:21,824 That's beautiful. 794 00:54:21,925 --> 00:54:24,627 Beyonce got in trouble when she wore the 'fros, 795 00:54:24,728 --> 00:54:25,961 when she walked out with the... 796 00:54:26,062 --> 00:54:27,997 You know, again, she has an image 797 00:54:28,098 --> 00:54:31,300 that White people thought that they were controlling. 798 00:54:31,401 --> 00:54:34,603 Until she says, "No, you don't actually get to control that." 799 00:54:41,578 --> 00:54:47,349 The myth that Black women are not beautiful is just that. 800 00:54:48,018 --> 00:54:50,119 It's a myth. 801 00:54:50,220 --> 00:54:55,224 And only those who fall for it and believe it... 802 00:54:57,193 --> 00:55:01,664 You know, those are the ones that are... are miseducated and are missing out. 803 00:55:01,765 --> 00:55:04,800 You could have a Black person with perfectly high self esteem say, 804 00:55:04,901 --> 00:55:08,137 "Oh, yeah, she would have been really pretty if she wasn't so dark." 805 00:55:08,271 --> 00:55:10,873 That will say to... say to another Black person. 806 00:55:10,974 --> 00:55:12,675 This is a person with high self esteem. 807 00:55:12,776 --> 00:55:14,376 "Yeah, well, of course he was attractive. 808 00:55:14,477 --> 00:55:16,845 He had good hair and he was light-skinned." 809 00:55:16,946 --> 00:55:20,215 The standard of beauty, and this is a really important historical piece, 810 00:55:20,317 --> 00:55:22,918 is to understand that... 811 00:55:23,953 --> 00:55:27,556 [sighs] Again, going back to the 1800s. 812 00:55:27,657 --> 00:55:33,062 With the concept of Caucasian also came the concept of Caucasian beauty. 813 00:55:33,163 --> 00:55:40,169 So beauty and Caucasian were simultaneously placed into a "scientific" category. 814 00:55:40,270 --> 00:55:45,173 Normal human beauty is Caucasian, 815 00:55:45,241 --> 00:55:49,545 so they began to assign beauty with science. 816 00:55:49,646 --> 00:55:56,185 And so therefore, if beauty is equated with Caucasian and whiteness, 817 00:55:56,286 --> 00:56:01,223 then anything outside of that, then, becomes something, 818 00:56:01,324 --> 00:56:06,295 one, that is abnormal and not beautiful. 819 00:56:06,396 --> 00:56:08,931 So anything that has to do with being Black 820 00:56:09,032 --> 00:56:12,701 then becomes relegated to, again, other. 821 00:56:12,802 --> 00:56:15,871 To not normal, not healthy, not beautiful. 822 00:56:15,972 --> 00:56:19,408 You got to have long straight hair, that you're beautiful. 823 00:56:19,509 --> 00:56:20,509 No. 824 00:56:22,379 --> 00:56:24,113 You've got to be beautiful to be skinny. 825 00:56:24,214 --> 00:56:26,849 No. We thick. 826 00:56:26,950 --> 00:56:30,386 We ain't skinny. We chunky. We like meat. We got meat on our... 827 00:56:30,487 --> 00:56:31,587 That's beautiful. 828 00:56:31,688 --> 00:56:36,024 It's the idea of claiming all parts of yourself 829 00:56:36,126 --> 00:56:38,961 and the multiple skin tones and histories 830 00:56:39,062 --> 00:56:42,464 and hair textures of Black women ourselves. 831 00:56:44,501 --> 00:56:49,071 [Dr. Ruha] So the dichotomy isn't simply be white or be natural. 832 00:56:49,172 --> 00:56:51,707 Hair is a side of creativity, right? 833 00:56:51,808 --> 00:56:54,843 So not being able to be pinned down... 834 00:56:54,944 --> 00:56:59,014 People's decisions about what to do with their hair 835 00:56:59,115 --> 00:57:03,986 are based on their own experiences of being treated differently. 836 00:57:04,087 --> 00:57:06,989 I work very close with the CEOs of the company 837 00:57:07,090 --> 00:57:09,792 and they're all white men. And I was asking my mom, 838 00:57:09,893 --> 00:57:11,794 I was like, "Should I get these faux locs? 839 00:57:11,895 --> 00:57:13,495 Like, is that appropriate for work?" 840 00:57:13,596 --> 00:57:16,331 Now, if you're trying to move up, you know, 841 00:57:16,433 --> 00:57:18,434 you don't want upset Mr. Jimmy or Miss Ann. 842 00:57:18,535 --> 00:57:21,303 I mean, you're talking about generations of people 843 00:57:21,404 --> 00:57:24,807 that have been telling you both within the culture and outside the culture, 844 00:57:24,908 --> 00:57:27,309 that there's something intrinsically wrong with your hair. 845 00:57:27,410 --> 00:57:28,477 I thought about it, and I was like, 846 00:57:28,578 --> 00:57:30,612 "Yeah, of course I'm gonna get these faux locs." 847 00:57:30,713 --> 00:57:34,082 Like, to just do what I want to do and be expressive 848 00:57:34,184 --> 00:57:35,484 'cause either people are going to love it 849 00:57:35,585 --> 00:57:37,986 or they're going to hate it, but either way, like, it's... 850 00:57:38,087 --> 00:57:40,722 it's who I am, and I want to embrace that. 851 00:57:43,927 --> 00:57:46,662 [Cora] Short hair is beautiful as well as long hair. 852 00:57:46,763 --> 00:57:48,263 But sometimes we like the long hair. 853 00:57:48,364 --> 00:57:51,266 We want to swing it, you know. 854 00:57:51,367 --> 00:57:55,537 [laughs] Um, what I love about my hair 855 00:57:55,638 --> 00:57:57,706 is that I could practically do anything with it. 856 00:57:57,807 --> 00:58:02,344 Our hair is just strong and beautiful. 857 00:58:02,445 --> 00:58:08,617 We can go from being natural to pressed out. 858 00:58:08,718 --> 00:58:13,856 We're so creative in the way that we can look one way on Monday 859 00:58:13,957 --> 00:58:19,294 and on Tuesday we look completely different than we look on Wednesday. 860 00:58:19,395 --> 00:58:20,462 [inaudible] 861 00:58:26,903 --> 00:58:27,903 [Cora] Black is beautiful. 862 00:58:30,907 --> 00:58:31,773 Simple. 863 00:58:33,443 --> 00:58:34,943 All shades. 864 00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,048 [Sheila] Blackness is so beautiful. 865 00:58:44,487 --> 00:58:47,523 We're talented 866 00:58:47,624 --> 00:58:51,927 because we have the ability to recreate ourselves. 867 00:59:02,438 --> 00:59:03,672 And we're sexy. 868 00:59:05,141 --> 00:59:09,077 You know, the way that a Black woman's hips, 869 00:59:09,178 --> 00:59:13,448 the waist, you know, the lips and the eyes 870 00:59:13,550 --> 00:59:19,254 and the nose that are just so full. That people pay money, 871 00:59:19,355 --> 00:59:24,459 big money, to have our lips and the roundness of our butts. 872 00:59:25,695 --> 00:59:29,364 Just, our bodies... We're just... just beautiful. 873 00:59:29,465 --> 00:59:33,135 In every essence, there's nothing more beautiful than a Black woman. 874 00:59:38,007 --> 00:59:42,778 [interviewer] How do you embrace beauty as a young Black woman? 875 00:59:44,681 --> 00:59:48,984 By telling myself I'm beautiful every day in the mirror. 876 00:59:50,286 --> 00:59:52,287 It's a good strategy. 877 00:59:53,323 --> 00:59:55,090 [interviewer] And who taught you that? 878 00:59:55,191 --> 00:59:56,959 Myself. 879 00:59:57,060 --> 00:59:59,428 I had to. 880 00:59:59,529 --> 01:00:05,100 I am cross-eyed and people every day ask me, 881 01:00:05,201 --> 01:00:06,868 "What's wrong with your eyes?" 882 01:00:06,970 --> 01:00:08,670 Sometimes it'll get me down. 883 01:00:08,771 --> 01:00:12,674 But I just gotta go to the mirror, tell myself I'm beautiful. 884 01:00:16,846 --> 01:00:19,381 [interviewer] Was it hard to do that initially? To go in front of the mirror 885 01:00:19,482 --> 01:00:21,383 and tell yourself that you're beautiful? 886 01:00:22,385 --> 01:00:23,819 No. 887 01:00:25,188 --> 01:00:30,225 'Cause I was never afraid to come to myself 888 01:00:30,326 --> 01:00:32,294 and tell myself how I'm feeling. 889 01:00:36,666 --> 01:00:39,701 Makes me feel like I'm in power. 890 01:00:39,802 --> 01:00:41,269 I'm able to do what I would like to. 891 01:00:42,805 --> 01:00:44,673 [Dr. Patricia] We believe in your beauty. 892 01:00:44,774 --> 01:00:46,341 We believe in your possibilities. 893 01:00:46,442 --> 01:00:49,244 We believe in your power. 894 01:00:49,345 --> 01:00:55,951 And if you haven't started believing in yourself yet, today is a good day to start. 895 01:00:57,286 --> 01:01:00,656 One thing that I love about myself 896 01:01:00,757 --> 01:01:05,627 is my ability to love people. 897 01:01:05,728 --> 01:01:08,030 That I make people laugh. 898 01:01:08,131 --> 01:01:14,503 - And I also make myself laugh. - That I learned how to spell 899 01:01:14,604 --> 01:01:19,174 Because I go to school and I learn a lot of things. 900 01:01:19,275 --> 01:01:20,509 That I'm artistic. 901 01:01:20,610 --> 01:01:23,145 I like my skin color and my hair. 902 01:01:23,246 --> 01:01:29,017 I like that I am outspoken and I strive for what I want. 903 01:01:32,755 --> 01:01:35,957 [woman] What does the phrase Black Girl Magic mean to you? 904 01:01:36,059 --> 01:01:37,492 The phrase Black Girl Magic 905 01:01:37,593 --> 01:01:41,363 means there's no other thing that is as great to me, personally, 906 01:01:41,431 --> 01:01:42,798 as Black girls. Black girls are just great. 907 01:01:42,899 --> 01:01:45,400 I don't really know how to explain that, but, like, 908 01:01:45,501 --> 01:01:47,469 they're just, so like they said, magical. 909 01:01:47,570 --> 01:01:50,238 It's like, you know, magic's something you want to believe 910 01:01:50,339 --> 01:01:53,008 and it's something you want to see. It's something that you want to be. 911 01:01:53,109 --> 01:01:54,509 You were like, I want to do magic, you know? 912 01:01:54,610 --> 01:01:57,879 And so they're so... It's just something that 913 01:01:57,947 --> 01:02:01,550 you want to look up to and look after and just, you know, be around. 914 01:02:01,651 --> 01:02:06,288 I feel like that's that magic, totally describes a Black girl, for sure. 915 01:02:11,494 --> 01:02:14,963 If we all, but certainly Black women, 916 01:02:15,064 --> 01:02:20,235 are fully human people ourselves, that 917 01:02:20,336 --> 01:02:23,271 would be the greatest gift to the society. 918 01:02:23,372 --> 01:02:27,542 If the beauty and the genius of Black women 919 01:02:27,643 --> 01:02:29,644 were ever recognized 920 01:02:29,746 --> 01:02:36,251 and allowed to flourish, I can only imagine what a contribution that would be. 921 01:02:36,352 --> 01:02:40,789 We cannot allow the experiences of those 922 01:02:40,890 --> 01:02:44,793 upon whose shoulders we stand to be erased from memory. 923 01:02:44,894 --> 01:02:50,732 Someone paid for me to be here, and I am going to acknowledge 924 01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:54,402 those people who suffered so much so that I could be here. 925 01:02:54,504 --> 01:02:56,004 How could I not? 926 01:02:58,841 --> 01:02:59,875 [woman] As a sociologist. 927 01:02:59,976 --> 01:03:02,210 The way that my training has helped me understand 928 01:03:02,311 --> 01:03:05,814 the emotional and mental well-being of Black women 929 01:03:05,915 --> 01:03:09,718 is to understand that if I want, for example, Black girls 930 01:03:09,819 --> 01:03:14,389 to love themselves, I can't just put up posters on the wall 931 01:03:14,490 --> 01:03:20,228 and affirmations as the cure for centuries of racism and sexism. 932 01:03:20,329 --> 01:03:23,265 But I have to create an environment 933 01:03:23,366 --> 01:03:28,203 that shouts love at them so that they can hear it 934 01:03:28,304 --> 01:03:30,372 reverberate in themselves, right? 935 01:03:30,473 --> 01:03:34,242 It makes me think about my grandmother who used to tell me when I was little. 936 01:03:34,343 --> 01:03:37,045 I was so small, in fact, when she would tell me this 937 01:03:38,414 --> 01:03:40,248 that I would be looking up at her hand 938 01:03:40,349 --> 01:03:43,285 as she was holding my hand. She would look down at me 939 01:03:43,386 --> 01:03:46,288 and she would point to her head and she'd go, 940 01:03:46,389 --> 01:03:51,259 Always remember, you're smart and you come from smart people. 941 01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:55,597 She would always do that, and I think, part of what she was trying to do, 942 01:03:55,698 --> 01:03:59,367 well, she was trying to buttress me. She was trying to strengthen me because 943 01:03:59,468 --> 01:04:04,806 she knew that I would enter a world that wouldn't say that I was smart, 944 01:04:04,907 --> 01:04:10,312 that didn't necessarily like me or value me. She told me that my whole life, 945 01:04:10,413 --> 01:04:13,682 and I told it to my grandchildren and my children, 946 01:04:13,783 --> 01:04:17,052 and it's one of those things in our family where we just kind of smile. 947 01:04:17,153 --> 01:04:20,288 It's like an inoculation that was given. 948 01:04:20,389 --> 01:04:26,661 Ever since I was a child, I've always walked in a light 949 01:04:26,762 --> 01:04:30,732 and I hear this from my family and my peers. 950 01:04:30,833 --> 01:04:33,335 It's like I can do anything and be anything. 951 01:04:33,436 --> 01:04:36,805 This little light of mine I'm going to let it shine. 952 01:04:36,906 --> 01:04:39,975 What is the light that is inside of you, 953 01:04:40,076 --> 01:04:42,210 that compels you to shine? 954 01:04:42,311 --> 01:04:45,981 Because that's the beauty I see in you. 955 01:04:46,082 --> 01:04:48,016 Music makes me happy. 956 01:04:48,117 --> 01:04:51,286 A lot of emotions can be expressed through music. 957 01:04:53,055 --> 01:05:00,028 I've been dancing since I was very little. I love how freely I get to move. 958 01:05:00,129 --> 01:05:05,834 It's like you can dance wild and it will be okay. 959 01:05:08,104 --> 01:05:10,038 [woman] What kind of music do you listen to? 960 01:05:11,540 --> 01:05:15,076 - Um, Beyonce. I always say Beyonce. - Beyonce. 961 01:05:15,177 --> 01:05:17,045 - Beyonce. - Beyonce. 962 01:05:17,146 --> 01:05:21,049 Beyonce has done it all. She's Queen Bee 963 01:05:21,150 --> 01:05:23,885 as royalty in this world, and she's, I mean, she is Black. 964 01:05:23,986 --> 01:05:28,023 It's really mind-breaking to see that everybody, 965 01:05:28,124 --> 01:05:30,792 you know, a lot of people, a lot of people love Beyonce. 966 01:05:30,893 --> 01:05:32,294 [woman] What do you love about Beyonce? 967 01:05:32,395 --> 01:05:36,264 That she doesn't care what other people think. 968 01:05:36,365 --> 01:05:39,401 Beyonce got in trouble when she wore the 'fros, 969 01:05:39,502 --> 01:05:42,771 when she walked out with the... You know, again, she has an image 970 01:05:42,872 --> 01:05:46,107 that White people thought that they were controlling. 971 01:05:46,208 --> 01:05:49,577 Until she says no, you don't actually get to control that. 972 01:05:49,679 --> 01:05:54,215 My favorite artist is Willow Smith. 973 01:05:54,317 --> 01:05:57,185 She puts out music because her music has a message. 974 01:05:57,520 --> 01:05:58,887 SZA. 975 01:05:58,988 --> 01:06:01,489 I've been listening to her for years. 976 01:06:01,590 --> 01:06:04,926 One thing I love about SZA is she has so much sex appeal, 977 01:06:05,027 --> 01:06:10,565 and she doesn't try to hide it. Like, I feel like she lets it out and it's amazing. 978 01:06:10,666 --> 01:06:12,968 If you think about our sexuality, 979 01:06:13,069 --> 01:06:16,471 for generations, right, it has been the site 980 01:06:16,572 --> 01:06:19,607 of so much policing, control and theft. 981 01:06:19,709 --> 01:06:25,647 What we see in this generation is an attempt to reclaim that sexuality. 982 01:06:25,748 --> 01:06:29,250 I think the arts have been essential to survival. 983 01:06:29,352 --> 01:06:31,586 There's something powerful about reclaiming terms 984 01:06:31,687 --> 01:06:33,154 and making them mean something different 985 01:06:33,255 --> 01:06:36,658 because then you are controlling the agenda and the discourse. 986 01:06:36,759 --> 01:06:39,627 You are not following behind it, trying to correct it. 987 01:06:44,867 --> 01:06:48,269 [woman] What has been our greatest gift to society 988 01:06:49,105 --> 01:06:50,038 as Black women? 989 01:06:52,208 --> 01:06:56,344 I think if we all, but certainly Black women, 990 01:06:56,445 --> 01:07:01,716 are fully human people ourselves, that 991 01:07:01,817 --> 01:07:04,753 would be the greatest gift to the society. 992 01:07:04,854 --> 01:07:11,092 If the beauty and the genius of Black women as I know it to be, 993 01:07:11,193 --> 01:07:17,165 because I know a lot of Black women were ever recognized 994 01:07:17,266 --> 01:07:23,471 and allowed to flourish, I can only imagine what a contribution that would be. 995 01:07:23,572 --> 01:07:29,978 I think the Black woman's greatest gift to society has been truth-teller, 996 01:07:31,847 --> 01:07:36,985 speaking truth, speaking truth to power. 997 01:07:37,086 --> 01:07:41,489 Black women, I think, have kept this society accountable 998 01:07:41,590 --> 01:07:45,527 because we're not willing to not stand in our truth 999 01:07:45,628 --> 01:07:49,564 and to not speak to truth and not to live what is true for us 1000 01:07:49,665 --> 01:07:52,634 in the best way that we know how. 1001 01:07:52,735 --> 01:07:58,907 I want my greatest gift to society to be my words. 1002 01:07:59,008 --> 01:08:03,711 When I look at myself, I see somebody who speaks her mind, 1003 01:08:04,680 --> 01:08:07,615 who says whatever I need to say. 1004 01:08:07,716 --> 01:08:11,186 As a black woman, my life, 1005 01:08:14,924 --> 01:08:16,991 my life to be a gift to the society. 1006 01:08:17,093 --> 01:08:21,729 Some, I have done something or said something 1007 01:08:22,498 --> 01:08:25,700 that has enhanced somebody's life, 1008 01:08:25,801 --> 01:08:29,337 that have touched somebody's life, that I have lived. 1009 01:08:39,949 --> 01:08:44,886 If I could describe the Black woman in three words. 1010 01:08:44,987 --> 01:08:47,055 I would say beautiful, 1011 01:08:50,459 --> 01:08:51,326 strong, 1012 01:08:56,232 --> 01:08:58,800 excellent. 1013 01:08:58,901 --> 01:09:04,939 Strong, loving, rebellious. 1014 01:09:05,040 --> 01:09:07,108 - Strong. - Strong. 1015 01:09:07,209 --> 01:09:10,178 - Strong. - Strong, independent, and bold. 1016 01:09:10,279 --> 01:09:11,746 Un-bossed. 1017 01:09:11,847 --> 01:09:15,650 - And beautiful. - Beautiful, awesome. 1018 01:09:15,751 --> 01:09:18,820 - Empowered. - [woman] Dynamic. 1019 01:09:18,921 --> 01:09:21,789 - [woman] Loving. - Caring. 1020 01:09:21,891 --> 01:09:24,225 - Hard-working. - [woman] Brave. 1021 01:09:25,294 --> 01:09:31,766 Divine. I think that Black women are divine. 1022 01:09:31,901 --> 01:09:37,705 I think Black women are the closest that there is on this earth to God. 1023 01:09:39,008 --> 01:09:44,012 Um, I think that 1024 01:09:49,118 --> 01:09:52,353 we submit. We're vessels. 1025 01:09:55,858 --> 01:09:58,693 We're filled. Um... 1026 01:10:04,366 --> 01:10:07,202 To be one of self-fashioning, 1027 01:10:07,303 --> 01:10:12,340 to be one of experimenting with new ways 1028 01:10:12,441 --> 01:10:15,843 of being in the world and relating to one another. 1029 01:10:15,945 --> 01:10:19,180 Um, that pushes forward. 1030 01:10:19,281 --> 01:10:25,520 And there's not one that uses history as an anchor that weighs us down. 1031 01:10:25,621 --> 01:10:28,423 I just want Black women to be more free, 1032 01:10:28,524 --> 01:10:31,993 and to just go after, you know, whatever 1033 01:10:33,162 --> 01:10:37,732 they want to go after. 1034 01:10:37,833 --> 01:10:39,267 A legacy of... 1035 01:10:41,637 --> 01:10:44,505 ...dreams realized. 1036 01:10:44,607 --> 01:10:48,209 The legacy is the unbroken intergenerational 1037 01:10:48,310 --> 01:10:55,083 commitment to black womanhood, and making sure it doesn't end with me, 1038 01:10:55,184 --> 01:10:59,854 and recognizing all that went into creating that legacy. 1039 01:11:03,792 --> 01:11:07,762 As a Black mother, 1040 01:11:07,863 --> 01:11:11,299 Black grandmother as a Black wife, 1041 01:11:11,400 --> 01:11:14,869 as a Black social scientist, a Black professor, 1042 01:11:15,938 --> 01:11:19,540 um, a Black social activist, 1043 01:11:20,409 --> 01:11:23,911 I think it's critical that 1044 01:11:25,281 --> 01:11:30,618 I mind this lane that speaks 1045 01:11:30,719 --> 01:11:34,656 about our history and our reality. 1046 01:11:34,757 --> 01:11:39,193 We cannot allow the experiences of those 1047 01:11:39,295 --> 01:11:43,264 upon whose shoulders we stand to be erased from memory. 1048 01:11:43,365 --> 01:11:48,169 I stand on shoulders that have allowed me to be all of those things, 1049 01:11:48,270 --> 01:11:53,508 to be the mother that I am and the professor and the professional person that I am. 1050 01:11:53,609 --> 01:11:59,414 Someone paid for me to be here, and I am going to acknowledge 1051 01:11:59,515 --> 01:12:03,184 those people who suffered so much so that I could be here. 1052 01:12:03,285 --> 01:12:04,419 How could I not? 1053 01:12:06,288 --> 01:12:11,926 I think that very critical piece to our being well 1054 01:12:12,027 --> 01:12:17,532 is knowing our own stories, and knowing and creating our own narrative. 1055 01:12:17,633 --> 01:12:22,704 And the only way that can happen is if we ensure that it happens. 1056 01:12:22,805 --> 01:12:26,841 There's no culture in the world that will readily 1057 01:12:26,942 --> 01:12:30,211 and deliberately erase their history. 1058 01:12:30,312 --> 01:12:32,046 We can't erase ours. 1059 01:12:32,147 --> 01:12:34,148 If your life is narrated through 1060 01:12:34,249 --> 01:12:37,585 someone else's words and lens, then it's not your life. 1061 01:12:37,686 --> 01:12:40,555 You have to be able to give words to it, 1062 01:12:40,656 --> 01:12:45,326 give names to it and not allow it to be distorted 1063 01:12:45,427 --> 01:12:47,562 through someone else's lens. 1064 01:12:47,663 --> 01:12:50,031 By telling our own story, 1065 01:12:50,132 --> 01:12:54,469 saying names like Zora Neale Hurston and reading Octavia Butler 1066 01:12:54,570 --> 01:13:00,575 and talking about women like Septima Clark and Fannie Lou Hamer, and others 1067 01:13:00,676 --> 01:13:05,580 whose names you may not know. And, we can't lose the stories 1068 01:13:05,681 --> 01:13:09,751 that our own mothers, the stories of our own grandmothers and daughters, 1069 01:13:09,852 --> 01:13:13,588 documenting our own narratives like when we talk about 1070 01:13:13,689 --> 01:13:16,791 the Black Lives Matter moment is absolutely 1071 01:13:16,892 --> 01:13:19,327 a Black women's moment in history. 1072 01:13:19,428 --> 01:13:22,597 We have to uplift the women who were on the ground, 1073 01:13:22,698 --> 01:13:25,133 who were the primary forces leading that work. 1074 01:13:28,303 --> 01:13:31,005 The reason why it's so important that we continue to write 1075 01:13:31,106 --> 01:13:35,777 Black women into history and we refuse the invisiblizing 1076 01:13:35,878 --> 01:13:40,548 of our experiences is because what we remember 1077 01:13:40,649 --> 01:13:43,951 is directly tied to what we create in the future. 1078 01:13:44,052 --> 01:13:48,790 But if I don't remember that, if I don't recall those experiences, 1079 01:13:48,891 --> 01:13:53,094 then I'm very likely to contribute to a world that reproduces it 1080 01:13:53,195 --> 01:13:55,430 and allow other people to reproduce it. 1081 01:13:55,531 --> 01:14:00,168 And if you control the corporations and you control the media 1082 01:14:00,269 --> 01:14:02,770 and you control higher ed, you control all of that, 1083 01:14:02,871 --> 01:14:06,441 you really can't ignore what Black women say. 1084 01:14:06,542 --> 01:14:09,177 It's kind of at your leisure to listen to them, 1085 01:14:09,278 --> 01:14:13,181 if you're that powerful. Black women have to look at all the different ways 1086 01:14:13,282 --> 01:14:16,484 that different groups have suppressed that knowledge. 1087 01:14:16,585 --> 01:14:18,786 White men certainly are running the game here, 1088 01:14:18,887 --> 01:14:20,154 elite white men. 1089 01:14:20,255 --> 01:14:23,024 I mean, that there's no surprise there. 1090 01:14:23,125 --> 01:14:27,361 We cannot relinquish the power to define ourselves. 1091 01:14:27,463 --> 01:14:30,031 This is the power of self-definition. 1092 01:14:30,132 --> 01:14:34,869 It fundamentally says if you don't tell your own story, somebody else will. 1093 01:14:36,004 --> 01:14:38,439 [woman] If you could talk to your 14-year-old self, 1094 01:14:41,043 --> 01:14:45,146 and send her a love letter, and tell your 14-year-old self 1095 01:14:45,247 --> 01:14:48,015 something you've never told her bit you've always wanted to tell her, 1096 01:14:49,685 --> 01:14:50,585 what would you say to her? 1097 01:14:57,059 --> 01:14:59,260 I would tell my 14-year-old self, 1098 01:15:01,630 --> 01:15:08,002 be strong, trust in God in all things, and lean not 1099 01:15:08,103 --> 01:15:12,173 to your own understanding. Follow his guidance. 1100 01:15:14,343 --> 01:15:17,144 And, Cora, I love you. 1101 01:15:22,518 --> 01:15:25,019 To not take things so seriously, 1102 01:15:25,120 --> 01:15:27,855 to relax a little more, um... 1103 01:15:29,758 --> 01:15:31,859 get a passport and go see the world. 1104 01:15:33,929 --> 01:15:36,097 You don't have to stress the small stuff. 1105 01:15:37,165 --> 01:15:38,566 No one's perfect. 1106 01:15:39,902 --> 01:15:42,303 You are enough and you're good enough. 1107 01:15:43,772 --> 01:15:46,841 None of the things that I'm worrying about right now 1108 01:15:46,942 --> 01:15:49,710 are going to matter in the long run, 1109 01:15:49,811 --> 01:15:52,580 so to just relax 1110 01:15:53,515 --> 01:15:54,482 and be chill. 1111 01:15:58,320 --> 01:15:59,320 Be kind... 1112 01:16:01,490 --> 01:16:02,390 and loving... 1113 01:16:07,996 --> 01:16:08,896 to everyone. 1114 01:16:14,570 --> 01:16:19,740 And always love yourself. 1115 01:16:22,344 --> 01:16:23,411 Love yourself. 1116 01:16:31,553 --> 01:16:32,720 Be you. 1117 01:16:35,924 --> 01:16:37,358 Educate yourself. 1118 01:16:39,094 --> 01:16:40,361 Stay strong. 1119 01:16:41,563 --> 01:16:43,030 Don't settle for nothing. 1120 01:16:46,168 --> 01:16:47,535 And reach for the sky. 1121 01:16:53,508 --> 01:16:56,811 [Dr. DeGruy] I always tell people, "Tell your story." 1122 01:16:56,912 --> 01:16:59,313 "It's really important." 1123 01:16:59,414 --> 01:17:01,882 And those generations of wisdom, 1124 01:17:02,918 --> 01:17:05,219 those generations of long suffering, 1125 01:17:06,221 --> 01:17:10,057 those long days of not knowing 1126 01:17:10,158 --> 01:17:12,860 what tomorrow was going to bring, 1127 01:17:12,961 --> 01:17:15,997 so much power, so much wisdom there, 1128 01:17:17,299 --> 01:17:20,034 so much healing. 1129 01:17:20,135 --> 01:17:22,403 [Jazmine Williams] Sis... 1130 01:17:24,940 --> 01:17:28,275 Have you ever been so madly aware of your beauty 1131 01:17:28,377 --> 01:17:30,811 that you have a shout out to God 1132 01:17:30,912 --> 01:17:33,314 for making you in her perfect image? 1133 01:17:33,415 --> 01:17:36,384 Have you ever been so aware of your magic 1134 01:17:36,485 --> 01:17:41,389 that you walk into a room full of other black women and see theirs too? 1135 01:17:41,490 --> 01:17:45,993 Do you grin from ear when yo see your reflections walking down the street, 1136 01:17:46,094 --> 01:17:49,563 skin glowing like she just walked out of a rain forest, 1137 01:17:49,665 --> 01:17:51,165 where she bathes in a waterfall 1138 01:17:51,266 --> 01:17:53,467 lit by a rainbow smile, 1139 01:17:53,568 --> 01:17:56,003 like she eats prayer for breakfast, 1140 01:17:56,104 --> 01:17:57,805 and meditation for lunch. 1141 01:17:57,906 --> 01:18:00,441 Hair that sings praises for her maker 1142 01:18:00,542 --> 01:18:03,411 with the ever so slight turn up her chin. 1143 01:18:03,512 --> 01:18:05,579 Sis... 1144 01:18:05,681 --> 01:18:10,418 have you ever been so satisfied with the way you shine after a storm? 1145 01:18:10,519 --> 01:18:14,555 That you laugh at the thought of you ever having been nervous at all? 1146 01:18:16,224 --> 01:18:19,593 Do you even notice how hard you hustle? 1147 01:18:19,695 --> 01:18:23,531 How you make your manifestations look as natural as breathing. 1148 01:18:23,632 --> 01:18:26,434 Like you were born to balance the world on your head 1149 01:18:26,535 --> 01:18:28,235 while building empires upon it. 1150 01:18:28,336 --> 01:18:30,705 Sis... 1151 01:18:30,806 --> 01:18:32,740 Has anyone's hold you lately 1152 01:18:32,841 --> 01:18:35,710 how fine you look in graduation caps? 1153 01:18:35,811 --> 01:18:40,848 How stunning you are turning the key to the home you secure for your family, 1154 01:18:40,949 --> 01:18:43,184 how you sit like a gym on stages 1155 01:18:43,285 --> 01:18:45,553 discussing your lived experiences. 1156 01:18:45,654 --> 01:18:49,390 Do you know that you are a visionary 1157 01:18:49,491 --> 01:18:52,026 with foresight worth decades? 1158 01:18:52,127 --> 01:18:54,361 Because time is the only currency 1159 01:18:54,463 --> 01:18:56,697 that does your value justice. 1160 01:18:56,798 --> 01:18:58,365 Do you know that you are priceless? 1161 01:18:59,935 --> 01:19:03,170 Have you heard that you would need 1162 01:19:03,271 --> 01:19:05,639 a mirror about the size of the ocean 1163 01:19:05,741 --> 01:19:08,109 to see all of your light in its entirety? 1164 01:19:08,210 --> 01:19:10,811 Even with all the miracles you spin, 1165 01:19:10,912 --> 01:19:13,514 you are still effortless in your glory. 1166 01:19:13,615 --> 01:19:18,018 Did you know that you're my role model, 1167 01:19:18,954 --> 01:19:21,355 that I live for your wisdom and grace? 1168 01:19:26,695 --> 01:19:29,430 You've given me quotes to live and die with. 1169 01:19:29,531 --> 01:19:31,799 I go to war with the fire you put in me. 1170 01:19:31,900 --> 01:19:34,835 You were always my standard of excellence. 1171 01:19:40,609 --> 01:19:44,612 You were always my standard of beauty. 1172 01:19:59,694 --> 01:20:04,932 [woman vocalizing] 1173 01:20:05,033 --> 01:20:06,233 ♪ Ooh ♪ 1174 01:20:06,334 --> 01:20:10,371 [woman vocalizing] 95196

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