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[Clamoring]
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Jean-Baptiste:
My mum's body was maimed.
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I couldn't understand how
they could kill her.
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Then, I was told,
by one young man,
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that my entire family
was killed.
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I had eleven brothers.
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They were --
No one is alive, besides me.
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[Gunfire]
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[Man shouts]
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[Rapid gunfire]
[Man shouting]
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[Rapid gunfire]
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[Shouting]
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[Explosion]
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[Siren wailing]
[Sobbing]
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The two o'clock news,
they said there was a bombing
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and my wife said that
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someone saw Smadar going
down the street.
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You start looking for her.
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Eventually, you find yourself
running in the streets,
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going from hospital
to hospital.
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Later that night, you find
yourself in the morgue
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and you see this sight which you
will never be able to forget
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for the rest of your life.
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[Explosion]
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Newsreader:
Well, certainly the most
devastating attack, so far,
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inside the city walls.
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There could hardly have been
a more pointed prelude
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to the other main event
of the day --
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a huge peace march
in the Irish Republic
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by contingents
from North and South
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who've had enough
of this kind of violence,
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[Glass shattering]
and worse.
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[Flames crackling]
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[Siren wailing]
In 1984,
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we targeted
the Grand Hotel in Brighton,
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where the Conservative Party
were holding a conference.
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Jo:
My sister woke me up and said,
"Which hotel is -- is dad in?
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There's been a bomb in Brighton.
It's on the news."
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Pat:
In that operation,
five people were killed.
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Over 30 people were injured.
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How dareanybody think
their need to be heard
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is so important that
they've killed my father.
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[Bird cawing]
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[Bell tolls]
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Denis:
People talk about,
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"The pen is mightier
than the sword."
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I think that's true,
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but I think that the --
the spoken word
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and the spoken story is even
more powerful than the pen
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because I think it goes
further and deeper
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into the psyche of human beings.
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Sometimes people tell stories
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and all they do is
tell their own story.
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That's not enough.
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You have to tell your own story,
but you also have to hear
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the story of the --
of the enemy.
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You have to tell the story
of the people
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that you have fought with
and argued with,
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and perhaps killed.
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You have to tell those stories.
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A short while ago,
it was confirmed
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that one of the dead is the MP
for Enfield Southgate,
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Sir Anthony Berry,
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who was treasurer
of the royal household.
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I was caught for that operation
and sentenced
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to eight life sentences,
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with a recommendation
that I do fifty years
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before being considered
for release,
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but was released
after 14 years,
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due to the --
the peace process.
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[Camera shutters clicking]
Newsreader: Emotional
family reunion
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for Catholic prisoners,
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[Applause]
most from the
Irish Republican Army.
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Among their number,
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convicted bombers, snipers,
and murderers.
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It was just after Patrick Magee
had been released from prison
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that I actually began to feel
the anger and the rage.
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Reporter:
Patrick Magee,
a convicted IRA bomber,
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walked free from the
Maze Prison in Belfast.
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And, suddenly,
I was back in the day,
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like it was happening,
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and it was
a very scary experience
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because the emotions were --
were of the day, not of 1999,
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and part of that was this
incredible anger and rage.
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You know, how can someone
play God? You know.
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And -- and now he's free
and I'm -- I'm left with it
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and, you know,
no one's need to be heard
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is so great
that they should kill.
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[Irish music plays]
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Getting out, I mean,
the first thing is
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to get your life back
in some semblance of order.
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Then, out of the blue, I was
contacted by Jo Berry.
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I wanted to put more
attention and energy
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to the part of me that must
find alternatives to blaming,
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you know, because then,
I'd stay a victim forever.
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I think Jo wanted to meet me
to understand
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wh-why her father died.
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I thought, one meeting,
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say what I have to say,
which would've been, I suppose,
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a defense of what I did,
in terms of the politics,
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but also, you know, show some
sensitivity towards her
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[Train whistle blows]
and --
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perhaps express regret at the
loss and that would be it.
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We'd --
We'd part and that'd be it.
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[Brakes hissing]
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I remember sitting
in my friend's kitchen
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in -- in Dublin
and knock at the door
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and I knew it was Pat and...
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I'd -- I was in such a state
of anxiety and kind of,
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"Should I be here, even?"
You know,
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doubting whether it was
the right thing to do and --
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and he walked in and I got up
and shook his hand
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and thanked him for coming.
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Part of me was thinking,
"Maybe he won't turn up."
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He said, "No, no,
I want to thank you."
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He was, very, very polite
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and I remember looking at him
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and thinking,
"You've killed.
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You've killed my dad."
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The first hour, Pat talked
a lot about the struggle
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and why he joined the IRA
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and defending his use
of violence.
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Why the IRA bomb
the Grand Hotel?
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It was because
the Conservative Party were --
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were holding
their annual conference
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and were using that hotel.
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I mean, so, therefore,
people in government
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who made the decisions
that had directly affected
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what was happening
in the streets here,
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that were in control
of the oppression,
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you know,
were all there together.
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I mean, it seemed quite obvious,
you know, that this
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presented
a great target for us.
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And I was listening
and asking questions
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and telling him about my father
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and what had happened to me
since then and --
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and after about an hour,
an hour and a half,
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he stopped talking
and he sort of --
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he wiped -- wiped his eye
and -- and he said,
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I don't know what
to say anymore.
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I don't know who --
who I am."
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[Crying]
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[Swallows]
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And, in that moment,
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I think part of me wanted
to run away
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'cause I thought --
I realized
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that this was the beginning
of another journey.
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I mean, I'm still trying to come
to terms with the fact that
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somebody who I've hurt,
I've killed her father,
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is still prepared to come
and listen to me
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and to talk to me
and to respect my point of view.
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He'd opened up
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and it was no longer
just him defending himself,
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you know,
he'd become vulnerable
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and we were starting
something together
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and I didn't know
where it was going to take us.
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But I think there was a --
a need felt, from both of us,
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to meet again,
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as if, you know, we'd left
the conversation short.
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There was more talk about.
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We must've been in similar
circumstances some fifty times.
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It doesn't get easy.
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Teacher training
college established --
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It's lovely.
How old is it?
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Well, it's
100 years old.
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Then, to the right --
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Please welcome Jo Berry
and Pat Magee.
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[Applause]
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Would you class yourself
or -- or would've classed,
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been classed as a soldier
or a terrorist?
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I can understand,
after all the decades
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of misrepresentation,
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while it would be difficult
for people here,
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people in this audience,
to think of me as a soldier
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and feel, perhaps, comfortable
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with the idea
that I'm a terrorist,
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in a post-9/11 world,
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it's meant to explain a lot
and explains nothing.
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A word that my readers
would use is murderer.
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You were charged
with murder
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of several people.
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I had a very
strong experience
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about labels
and what they mean
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when I was at a -- a workshop
in Northern Ireland
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and I was sitting
round the table
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and there was somebody there
who'd been a British soldier,
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Pat had been the IRA,
and somebody who'd been
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in the Loyalist paramilitary
and the UDA.
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I could've been
all their sisters.
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I could've been their mothers.
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I could've been them,
you know.
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And, at that moment,
the labels are gone
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and they're just human beings
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because of what
they've been through.
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Did you ever feel
hatred and revenge?
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Yes, I have felt anger.
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When I felt that kind
of pain, you know,
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just absolute bottom pain,
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I think I had a choice
to not go for the revenge,
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but to end that cycle.
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It's a choice to see the enemy
as a human being,
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rather than as just the --
the enemy.
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Does it not seem,
to Miss Berry,
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that she may be
an apologist
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for one of the most
horrifying crimes
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of this century?
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I'm true to myself
and I trust my inner impulse.
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It seems to be great
psychotherapy for you,
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and it seems to be
a great confessional
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for Dr. Magee,
but I'm not quite sure
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what the rest of us
are getting out of it.
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I think I'm actually
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quite a challenging
option for Pat.
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I actually think he's extremely
courageous to sit with me.
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He said, many times, that
it'd be much easier for him,
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if I'd met him with anger
and with political debate,
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but the fact that I
listened to him,
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gave him respect, right from the
beginning, that was harder.
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You can probably gather,
from what Pat said,
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that, you know, at times,
it is hard to face me
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and the more he knows me,
as a person,
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and the more he knows
about my father,
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the harder it is
to know that he's hurt me.
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He lives with that
contradiction, that difficulty.
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You know, we have this tension
between us of that all the time.
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Well, one thing
that hit me after --
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I couldn't tell you when,
exactly, this happened.
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You talked about your father
and I got more of a picture.
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He was a human being
who had shaped you.
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In other words, all the things
that I admire in you came,
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in some measure,
from your father.
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That meant this was
a fine human being
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and I killed him.
253
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[Camera shutters clicking]
254
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So, that's heavy, you know.
255
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You --
256
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It gives you a measure
of the loss.
257
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[Camera shutters clicking]
258
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And I end up, now,
a very conflicted person.
259
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Um --
260
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Conflicted because,
while I can look at the past
261
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and have an understanding
that we had no other option,
262
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I also know
and carry this heavy burden
263
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that I hurt human beings.
264
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Doesn't matter
that they wore uniforms
265
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and that we can justify --
266
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I can justify actions
in the past.
267
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I hurt human beings
268
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and I carry that,
that burden and...
269
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...meeting you
270
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puts your father there, too.
271
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He's a human being
to me now.
272
00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:23,285
He wasn't
a human being before.
273
00:13:23,388 --> 00:13:24,596
He was a demonized enemy.
274
00:13:24,700 --> 00:13:27,220
He was a, you know,
he was a Tory.
275
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The --
276
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But that's, that's what
you've given me.
277
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[Camera shutter clicking]
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♪♪
279
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♪♪
280
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I think, when you're young,
281
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when you're in your seventeens
and your eighteens,
282
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and you don't have the --
the benefit
283
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of any sort of real maturity,
284
00:14:02,324 --> 00:14:05,396
there's a degree of excitement
to it that we all have
285
00:14:05,499 --> 00:14:08,744
and it's -- you look --
you look back at the violence
286
00:14:08,848 --> 00:14:12,921
and it is very difficult
to say that it was worth it.
287
00:14:13,024 --> 00:14:16,717
Very difficult.
I -- I don't think it was.
288
00:14:16,821 --> 00:14:20,204
I don't think it was worth
3,600 deaths,
289
00:14:20,307 --> 00:14:22,275
in any shape or form.
290
00:14:22,378 --> 00:14:28,729
Forty yearsof killing each
other and hurting each other
291
00:14:28,833 --> 00:14:30,593
before we came to a position
where we said,
292
00:14:30,697 --> 00:14:32,872
"Well, we better get
in a room somewhere
293
00:14:32,975 --> 00:14:34,701
and begin to talk about this."
294
00:14:34,804 --> 00:14:38,498
We started to find agreement
about how we would talk.
295
00:14:38,601 --> 00:14:40,500
Very practical.
It's, "How many days a week?
296
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You know, where would we meet?
297
00:14:42,226 --> 00:14:44,573
Who would be there?
How many people would be there?
298
00:14:44,676 --> 00:14:45,815
What shape would the table be?"
299
00:14:45,919 --> 00:14:47,196
You know all
very practical things.
300
00:14:47,300 --> 00:14:48,508
And people got fed up.
They said,
301
00:14:48,611 --> 00:14:49,992
"These people aren't serious,"
you know.
302
00:14:50,096 --> 00:14:51,476
You used to laugh about talks
303
00:14:51,580 --> 00:14:53,478
about talks, about talks,
about talks.
304
00:14:53,582 --> 00:14:55,549
But, actually,
it was really important.
305
00:14:55,653 --> 00:14:56,861
People often say,
"Ooh, they can't talk
306
00:14:56,965 --> 00:14:57,966
'cause there's no trust."
307
00:14:58,069 --> 00:14:59,622
Trust is an outcome
308
00:14:59,726 --> 00:15:01,072
of a context like this,
309
00:15:01,176 --> 00:15:03,281
not a prerequisite for it,
and trust comes
310
00:15:03,385 --> 00:15:06,112
because I say to you, "Will we
meet at 9:00 tomorrow morning?"
311
00:15:06,215 --> 00:15:08,321
And you say, "Um, could we
make it quarter past 9:00?"
312
00:15:08,424 --> 00:15:10,323
I say, "Okay, we'll make it
a quarter past 9:00,"
313
00:15:10,426 --> 00:15:13,119
and, tomorrow morning,
you come at a quarter past 9:00
314
00:15:13,222 --> 00:15:16,570
and I say,
"Okay, I can trust her."
315
00:15:16,674 --> 00:15:18,710
[Tender tune plays]
316
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♪♪
317
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♪♪
318
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♪♪
319
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♪♪
320
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♪♪
321
00:16:07,276 --> 00:16:12,143
♪♪
322
00:16:12,247 --> 00:16:14,559
[Speaking foreign language]
323
00:16:42,898 --> 00:16:47,075
♪♪
324
00:16:47,178 --> 00:16:50,768
[Speaking foreign language]
325
00:18:05,463 --> 00:18:15,163
♪♪
326
00:18:15,266 --> 00:18:24,068
♪♪
327
00:18:24,172 --> 00:18:26,450
They said there was a bombing
in Ben Yehuda Street.
328
00:18:26,553 --> 00:18:28,831
My wife said that someone
saw Smadar going
329
00:18:28,935 --> 00:18:30,937
down the street
and she's worried.
330
00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:33,319
Eventually, you find yourself
running in the streets,
331
00:18:33,422 --> 00:18:35,286
[Siren wailing]
going from hospital to hospital,
332
00:18:35,390 --> 00:18:38,117
from police station
to police station.
333
00:18:38,220 --> 00:18:41,361
Later that night,
you find yourself in the morgue
334
00:18:41,465 --> 00:18:43,536
and the finger is
right between your eyes
335
00:18:43,639 --> 00:18:46,780
and you see this sight which you
will never be able to forget
336
00:18:46,884 --> 00:18:49,749
for the rest of your life.
337
00:18:49,852 --> 00:18:54,063
And your whole life
is changing completely,
338
00:18:54,167 --> 00:18:55,548
from one minute to another.
339
00:18:59,759 --> 00:19:00,932
She was 14 years old.
340
00:19:01,036 --> 00:19:03,314
She was a very sparkling
341
00:19:03,418 --> 00:19:05,937
and vivid
and beautiful young girl.
342
00:19:06,041 --> 00:19:07,732
She was an excellent student.
343
00:19:07,836 --> 00:19:10,459
She was a swimmer.
She was a dancer.
344
00:19:10,563 --> 00:19:12,496
We called her the princess.
345
00:19:12,599 --> 00:19:15,361
What else do you want
to know about her?
346
00:19:15,464 --> 00:19:20,538
♪♪
347
00:19:20,642 --> 00:19:21,919
She was 14.
348
00:19:22,022 --> 00:19:31,135
♪♪
349
00:19:31,239 --> 00:19:34,587
♪♪
350
00:19:34,690 --> 00:19:37,624
[Sigh]
351
00:19:37,728 --> 00:19:40,524
[Birds chirping]
352
00:19:40,627 --> 00:19:49,153
♪♪
353
00:19:49,257 --> 00:19:58,956
♪♪
354
00:19:59,059 --> 00:20:01,061
[Speaking foreign language]
355
00:20:05,204 --> 00:20:11,727
[Sobbing]
356
00:20:11,831 --> 00:20:15,731
I think the -- the natural
and immediate response
357
00:20:15,835 --> 00:20:19,632
is anger, and hatred.
358
00:20:19,735 --> 00:20:21,703
You know, most people
choose this, this way,
359
00:20:21,806 --> 00:20:25,154
this path of revenge
and retaliation
360
00:20:25,258 --> 00:20:29,400
and it's very, very natural
and it's very obvious.
361
00:20:29,504 --> 00:20:33,887
But then, after a while, you
start asking yourself questions.
362
00:20:33,991 --> 00:20:35,199
"How could it be?
363
00:20:35,303 --> 00:20:37,028
What can cause someone
364
00:20:37,132 --> 00:20:39,238
to be that angry, that mad,
365
00:20:39,341 --> 00:20:42,482
that he's willing to kill
himself with little girls?"
366
00:20:42,586 --> 00:20:45,796
[Speaking foreign language]
367
00:21:09,613 --> 00:21:11,718
[Cries]
368
00:21:11,822 --> 00:21:13,513
Nurit:
After our tragedy,
369
00:21:13,617 --> 00:21:16,516
a photographer
from The Washington Post,
370
00:21:16,620 --> 00:21:17,793
she sent it to us.
371
00:21:17,897 --> 00:21:19,347
We didn't know
she took the picture.
372
00:21:23,454 --> 00:21:25,076
This picture right here...
373
00:21:30,634 --> 00:21:35,086
...this is Abir,
daughter of Bassam.
374
00:21:35,190 --> 00:21:36,743
She was shot by
-She was shot by a rubber --
375
00:21:36,847 --> 00:21:38,297
-a rubber bullet.
-rubber-coated metal bullet.
376
00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:39,988
And he just shot her
in the head
377
00:21:40,091 --> 00:21:45,890
from a protected Jeep
by her schoolyard.
378
00:21:45,994 --> 00:21:47,513
We both lost our daughters.
379
00:21:47,616 --> 00:21:50,723
We both paid the highest
price possible.
380
00:21:50,826 --> 00:21:52,863
Our blood is the same color.
381
00:21:52,966 --> 00:21:55,244
Our pain is exactly
the same pain
382
00:21:55,348 --> 00:21:57,143
and the tears
are just as bitter.
383
00:21:57,246 --> 00:21:59,007
[Sobbing]
384
00:21:59,110 --> 00:22:04,219
[Speaking foreign language]
385
00:22:32,420 --> 00:22:34,422
And I think the most important
question that you ask yourself
386
00:22:34,525 --> 00:22:37,045
is what can you do personally,
you know,
387
00:22:37,148 --> 00:22:40,945
to prevent this unbearable
pain from others?
388
00:22:41,049 --> 00:22:47,883
[Speaking foreign language]
389
00:23:04,659 --> 00:23:08,697
And the turning point was
a year later,
390
00:23:08,801 --> 00:23:12,425
when I met
391
00:23:12,529 --> 00:23:15,463
the leader of the
Families Forum,
392
00:23:15,566 --> 00:23:17,982
who invited me over
to watch a meeting
393
00:23:18,086 --> 00:23:20,260
of this group
of crazy people.
394
00:23:20,364 --> 00:23:23,919
I saw people who paid
the highest price possible,
395
00:23:24,023 --> 00:23:28,545
who chose the way of dialogue,
instead of hatred,
396
00:23:28,648 --> 00:23:32,928
but then, I saw the Palestinian
bereaved families coming
397
00:23:33,032 --> 00:23:35,655
down from the buses,
coming towards me,
398
00:23:35,759 --> 00:23:39,107
shaking my hand for peace,
hugging me, crying with me.
399
00:23:39,210 --> 00:23:41,730
I was completely shocked.
400
00:23:41,834 --> 00:23:47,218
I was -- I'm ashamed to say
I was 47 years old at the time.
401
00:23:47,322 --> 00:23:49,876
It was the first time,
ever in my life,
402
00:23:49,980 --> 00:23:54,191
that I met Palestinians
as human beings,
403
00:23:54,294 --> 00:23:57,608
as people who carry
the same burden that I do,
404
00:23:57,712 --> 00:24:01,474
as people who suffer
exactly the same way.
405
00:24:01,578 --> 00:24:03,511
I was completely shocked.
406
00:24:03,614 --> 00:24:09,758
I saw people, human beings,
not as workers in the streets,
407
00:24:09,862 --> 00:24:15,143
not as tourists,
not as news items -- as people.
408
00:24:15,246 --> 00:24:18,008
I discovered people like
Bassam Aramin, who is, for me,
409
00:24:18,111 --> 00:24:20,182
more than a brother today
410
00:24:20,286 --> 00:24:23,185
and the old Rami
could never have met him.
411
00:24:23,289 --> 00:24:24,393
[Horn honks in distance]
412
00:24:24,497 --> 00:24:26,948
♪♪
413
00:24:27,051 --> 00:24:28,397
[Bird cawing]
414
00:24:28,501 --> 00:24:37,130
♪♪
415
00:24:37,234 --> 00:24:45,138
♪♪
416
00:24:45,242 --> 00:24:47,693
♪♪
417
00:24:47,796 --> 00:24:48,970
[Snorts]
418
00:24:49,073 --> 00:24:57,737
♪♪
419
00:24:57,841 --> 00:25:02,397
Finding peace
in communities in conflict
420
00:25:02,501 --> 00:25:05,124
is finding ways
that individuals,
421
00:25:05,227 --> 00:25:09,715
and, even more importantly,
communities,
422
00:25:09,818 --> 00:25:12,303
find ways of repairing
and rebuilding
423
00:25:12,407 --> 00:25:13,719
their relationships
with each other.
424
00:25:13,822 --> 00:25:15,790
How do you repair
425
00:25:15,893 --> 00:25:18,896
that kind of damage
that has been done?
426
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,589
And I think
the only way to do it
427
00:25:21,692 --> 00:25:24,557
is through sharing experiences.
428
00:25:24,661 --> 00:25:28,527
Sharing stories, developing
empathy and understanding.
429
00:25:28,630 --> 00:25:33,497
So it's very human contact
is required.
430
00:25:33,601 --> 00:25:36,017
I think it has to happen
on the community level,
431
00:25:36,120 --> 00:25:37,432
face-to-face level.
432
00:25:37,536 --> 00:25:47,131
♪♪
433
00:25:47,235 --> 00:25:54,311
♪♪
434
00:25:54,414 --> 00:25:57,141
[Singing in foreign language]
435
00:25:57,245 --> 00:26:05,460
♪♪
436
00:26:05,564 --> 00:26:08,705
[Singing in foreign language]
437
00:26:08,808 --> 00:26:11,708
[Man singing]
438
00:26:11,811 --> 00:26:21,131
♪♪
439
00:26:21,234 --> 00:26:31,141
♪♪
440
00:26:31,244 --> 00:26:39,598
♪♪
441
00:26:39,701 --> 00:26:44,568
[Wailing]
442
00:26:44,672 --> 00:26:53,128
♪♪
443
00:26:53,232 --> 00:27:03,138
♪♪
444
00:27:03,242 --> 00:27:13,148
♪♪
445
00:27:13,252 --> 00:27:23,124
♪♪
446
00:27:23,227 --> 00:27:33,134
♪♪
447
00:27:33,237 --> 00:27:43,144
♪♪
448
00:27:43,247 --> 00:27:53,119
♪♪
449
00:27:53,223 --> 00:28:03,129
♪♪
450
00:28:03,233 --> 00:28:11,137
♪♪
451
00:28:11,241 --> 00:28:14,002
♪♪
452
00:28:14,106 --> 00:28:21,527
[Speaking foreign language]
453
00:28:42,065 --> 00:28:50,556
[Continues speaking
foreign language]
454
00:29:01,498 --> 00:29:03,983
[Chickens clucking]
455
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,656
[Speaking foreign language]
456
00:29:31,666 --> 00:29:34,980
[Singing nearby]
457
00:29:53,861 --> 00:29:56,898
[Children laughing nearby]
458
00:29:59,383 --> 00:30:00,660
[Speaking
foreign language]
459
00:33:02,773 --> 00:33:05,707
[Melancholy tune plays]
460
00:33:05,811 --> 00:33:15,165
♪♪
461
00:33:15,269 --> 00:33:24,554
♪♪
462
00:33:24,657 --> 00:33:25,693
[Goat bleats]
463
00:33:25,796 --> 00:33:35,151
♪♪
464
00:33:35,254 --> 00:33:37,808
♪♪
465
00:33:37,912 --> 00:33:40,432
There is pain that is never
going to be completely resolved.
466
00:33:40,535 --> 00:33:43,607
There are people who have been
damaged by these experiences
467
00:33:43,711 --> 00:33:46,058
and they cannot be healed.
468
00:33:46,162 --> 00:33:47,784
And people sometimes
think that if something --
469
00:33:47,887 --> 00:33:50,338
psychological damage
isn't like physical damage.
470
00:33:50,442 --> 00:33:51,995
Of course,
if my leg was cut off,
471
00:33:52,099 --> 00:33:53,065
you can't stick it back
on again,
472
00:33:53,169 --> 00:33:54,411
But if it's psychological,
473
00:33:54,515 --> 00:33:56,172
surely, it must be able
to be healed.
474
00:33:56,275 --> 00:33:57,311
No.
475
00:33:57,414 --> 00:34:00,555
I think there's a general belief
476
00:34:00,659 --> 00:34:05,146
that forgiveness
precludes justice.
477
00:34:05,250 --> 00:34:06,389
And I don't think
that's the case at all.
478
00:34:06,492 --> 00:34:08,563
I think justice
is very important.
479
00:34:08,667 --> 00:34:11,221
It is part
of the healing process.
480
00:34:11,325 --> 00:34:16,951
And to see that someone who has
hurt you has paid the price
481
00:34:17,055 --> 00:34:18,435
is a way of moving on.
482
00:34:18,539 --> 00:34:20,748
So that certainly
happened in Rwanda.
483
00:34:20,851 --> 00:34:22,543
And people
may not stay in jail
484
00:34:22,646 --> 00:34:24,269
as long as some people
would want them,
485
00:34:24,372 --> 00:34:27,720
but that is a practical
solution sometimes.
486
00:34:27,824 --> 00:34:31,586
Concessions have to be made
for the greater good.
487
00:34:31,690 --> 00:34:34,451
Reporter:
Crowded together like
animals in a stockyard,
488
00:34:34,555 --> 00:34:37,316
they wait for trials
to decide their fate,
489
00:34:37,420 --> 00:34:39,974
virtually all accused
of genocide.
490
00:34:40,078 --> 00:34:41,769
Opening new detention centers
491
00:34:41,872 --> 00:34:44,496
has only slightly
eased overcrowding
492
00:34:44,599 --> 00:34:47,223
and there's increasing pressure
on Rwanda's government
493
00:34:47,326 --> 00:34:49,639
to start the long-awaited
judicial process
494
00:34:49,742 --> 00:34:51,917
that will decide guilt
or innocence
495
00:34:52,020 --> 00:34:54,092
for each of these prisoners.
496
00:34:54,195 --> 00:34:56,680
After long debate,
the government has has decided
497
00:34:56,784 --> 00:35:00,615
what kind of justice will apply
to these thousands of suspects.
498
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:02,307
There will be no amnesties,
499
00:35:02,410 --> 00:35:04,688
but there will be
a simplified legal process
500
00:35:04,792 --> 00:35:06,414
to speed up the trials.
501
00:35:06,518 --> 00:35:09,383
[Suspenseful music plays]
502
00:35:09,486 --> 00:35:17,149
♪♪
503
00:35:17,253 --> 00:35:27,159
♪♪
504
00:35:27,263 --> 00:35:37,169
♪♪
505
00:35:37,273 --> 00:35:47,041
♪♪
506
00:35:47,145 --> 00:35:48,525
[Man speaking
foreign language]
507
00:35:48,629 --> 00:35:57,603
♪♪
508
00:35:57,707 --> 00:36:01,228
[Speaking
foreign language]
509
00:36:01,331 --> 00:36:04,541
[Speaking foreign language]
510
00:36:04,645 --> 00:36:12,273
♪♪
511
00:36:12,377 --> 00:36:16,898
[Speaking
foreign language]
512
00:36:17,002 --> 00:36:23,146
[Conversing
in foreign language]
513
00:36:23,250 --> 00:36:24,699
♪♪
514
00:36:24,803 --> 00:36:26,839
[Speaking
foreign language]
515
00:36:26,943 --> 00:36:29,773
[Speaking
foreign language]
516
00:36:29,877 --> 00:36:32,776
[Speaking foreign language]
517
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,400
[Speaking
foreign language]
518
00:36:35,503 --> 00:36:44,547
[Speaking
foreign language]
519
00:36:44,650 --> 00:36:54,142
♪♪
520
00:36:54,246 --> 00:37:03,151
♪♪
521
00:37:03,255 --> 00:37:13,161
♪♪
522
00:37:13,265 --> 00:37:23,137
♪♪
523
00:37:23,241 --> 00:37:33,147
♪♪
524
00:37:33,251 --> 00:37:41,673
♪♪
525
00:37:41,776 --> 00:37:43,157
The problem is,
we can sit here
526
00:37:43,261 --> 00:37:45,228
and deconstruct and criticize --
and people do,
527
00:37:45,332 --> 00:37:47,713
from outside the country,
often --
528
00:37:47,817 --> 00:37:51,130
but, you know trying to find
a better solution
529
00:37:51,234 --> 00:37:52,891
is very difficult.
I don 't think there's --
530
00:37:52,994 --> 00:37:56,515
There isn't any good solution
in a situation like this.
531
00:37:56,619 --> 00:37:58,345
There was no appetite,
532
00:37:58,448 --> 00:38:00,105
either from the government
or survivors,
533
00:38:00,208 --> 00:38:03,004
simply to release everybody
without some form of justice.
534
00:38:03,108 --> 00:38:07,526
So, basically, our Gacaca Courts
did a tremendous job.
535
00:38:07,630 --> 00:38:11,772
To have the community own
the justice,
536
00:38:11,875 --> 00:38:13,532
as they own the pain,
537
00:38:13,636 --> 00:38:15,672
and they were the ones who saw
538
00:38:15,776 --> 00:38:17,812
the people hack
each other to death.
539
00:38:17,916 --> 00:38:19,193
They know who killed who.
540
00:38:19,297 --> 00:38:21,264
So, giving them the opportunity
541
00:38:21,368 --> 00:38:24,198
to solve this problem,
by judging them,
542
00:38:24,302 --> 00:38:26,442
makes the community healed.
543
00:38:26,545 --> 00:38:28,236
You know, nobody's happy
with the situation,
544
00:38:28,340 --> 00:38:29,617
[Chuckling]
that's the problem.
545
00:38:29,721 --> 00:38:31,343
So we end up with, you know,
546
00:38:31,447 --> 00:38:33,000
some of the suspects
and perpetrators
547
00:38:33,103 --> 00:38:35,692
who complain they've been
in prison too long
548
00:38:35,796 --> 00:38:37,245
or that they've been
there without trial
549
00:38:37,349 --> 00:38:38,971
or they've not had
enough defense.
550
00:38:39,075 --> 00:38:40,318
And then, the survivors
are saying, "Well,
551
00:38:40,421 --> 00:38:41,836
what kind of justice is this?
552
00:38:41,940 --> 00:38:43,424
These people, you know,
553
00:38:43,528 --> 00:38:46,531
killed five members of my family
and then what do they do?
554
00:38:46,634 --> 00:38:47,842
Get a couple of years
in some community sentence
555
00:38:47,946 --> 00:38:49,223
and they're back
living next door.
556
00:38:49,327 --> 00:38:51,259
And, by the way,
they've got everything.
557
00:38:51,363 --> 00:38:52,640
They've got their
whole family around them.
558
00:38:52,744 --> 00:38:53,848
I'm still struggling here
559
00:38:53,952 --> 00:38:56,299
without any form
of family support,"
560
00:38:56,403 --> 00:38:58,681
which is very important
in a developing country.
561
00:38:58,784 --> 00:39:01,994
People are still having
the tears flowing
562
00:39:02,098 --> 00:39:03,755
around their cheeks.
563
00:39:03,858 --> 00:39:07,275
The guilt is still choking
the perpetrators.
564
00:39:07,379 --> 00:39:10,589
You can't understand how
a person can get a machete
565
00:39:10,693 --> 00:39:13,005
and open the womb
of a pregnant woman,
566
00:39:13,109 --> 00:39:15,801
bring out the fetus,
and cut it into pieces.
567
00:39:15,905 --> 00:39:19,771
You can't understand
that demonic act.
568
00:39:19,874 --> 00:39:23,775
So we are processing
something which is greater
569
00:39:23,878 --> 00:39:26,605
than the human grief,
the human concept of grief.
570
00:39:26,709 --> 00:39:31,196
It's too early, but the vision
to recover has to be now.
571
00:39:31,299 --> 00:39:33,888
We cannot wait
until our pain is over,
572
00:39:33,992 --> 00:39:36,063
in order to rebuild our nation.
573
00:39:36,166 --> 00:39:37,996
We have to do it now.
574
00:39:38,099 --> 00:39:45,900
♪♪
575
00:39:46,004 --> 00:39:47,695
[Indistinct conversation]
576
00:39:47,799 --> 00:39:57,153
♪♪
577
00:39:57,256 --> 00:40:07,128
♪♪
578
00:40:07,232 --> 00:40:17,138
♪♪
579
00:40:17,242 --> 00:40:27,148
♪♪
580
00:40:27,252 --> 00:40:29,254
♪♪
581
00:40:29,357 --> 00:40:32,153
[Speaking foreign language]
582
00:40:43,648 --> 00:40:49,377
[Conversing
in foreign language]
583
00:40:49,481 --> 00:40:51,656
♪♪
584
00:41:33,801 --> 00:41:38,254
♪♪
585
00:41:38,357 --> 00:41:39,911
I don't understand,
for example,
586
00:41:40,014 --> 00:41:43,570
how one of the killers
of my family,
587
00:41:43,673 --> 00:41:46,469
one of the killers
of my dad, is free.
588
00:41:46,573 --> 00:41:48,022
I can't understand.
589
00:41:48,126 --> 00:41:52,130
I asked him,
"How are you free?"
590
00:41:52,233 --> 00:41:54,304
I mean, the killer of my dad.
591
00:41:54,408 --> 00:41:57,445
And he said,
592
00:41:57,549 --> 00:41:59,965
"I recognize
that I killed people
593
00:42:00,069 --> 00:42:03,624
and I asked for forgiveness,
then, they released me."
594
00:42:03,728 --> 00:42:07,525
And I asked "Who did you ask
for forgiveness,
595
00:42:07,628 --> 00:42:09,803
if it's not me"?
596
00:42:11,356 --> 00:42:13,116
He said he asked
to the government.
597
00:42:13,220 --> 00:42:15,981
He didn't kill the government.
He killed my dad
598
00:42:16,085 --> 00:42:18,294
and now he's free.
599
00:42:18,397 --> 00:42:21,228
If someone decides
to be a killer,
600
00:42:21,331 --> 00:42:25,335
then, he have to accept
the punishment.
601
00:42:25,439 --> 00:42:27,234
And the punishment
for a killer, for me,
602
00:42:27,337 --> 00:42:29,029
is to be killed, too.
603
00:42:32,584 --> 00:42:34,897
If you simply hold tight
604
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:40,868
to the requirement of justice,
come hell or high water,
605
00:42:40,972 --> 00:42:45,217
then you probably won't find it
possible to move forward.
606
00:42:45,321 --> 00:42:47,495
But if you try to move forward,
607
00:42:47,599 --> 00:42:51,396
without attending
to the pain and the hurt
608
00:42:51,499 --> 00:42:54,537
of the injustice
and the trauma of the past,
609
00:42:54,641 --> 00:42:57,126
your move forward
will probably be illusory
610
00:42:57,229 --> 00:42:59,093
and you will carry some
of that difficulties
611
00:42:59,197 --> 00:43:01,337
into the future
and into your relationships,
612
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:03,511
as an individual,
or as a community.
613
00:43:03,615 --> 00:43:05,341
There's a school of thought
that forgiveness
614
00:43:05,444 --> 00:43:09,621
shouldn't even be on the table,
unless someone shows remorse,
615
00:43:09,725 --> 00:43:11,830
is willing to pay back,
in some way,
616
00:43:11,934 --> 00:43:15,558
to repair the harm,
to accept responsibility.
617
00:43:15,662 --> 00:43:17,180
And there are other people
who think, "Actually,
618
00:43:17,284 --> 00:43:18,803
it's got nothing, whatsoever,
619
00:43:18,906 --> 00:43:20,839
to do with the perpetrator,
to do with the offender,
620
00:43:20,943 --> 00:43:22,703
to do with the person
who's hurt me.
621
00:43:22,807 --> 00:43:24,084
It's all within myself.
622
00:43:24,187 --> 00:43:25,603
And, if I'm waiting
623
00:43:25,706 --> 00:43:27,087
for that person
to show remorse --
624
00:43:27,190 --> 00:43:28,398
maybe they're incapable,
625
00:43:28,502 --> 00:43:30,538
maybe they don't have
that muscle --
626
00:43:30,642 --> 00:43:33,611
then I'll be waiting forever
and I'll be forever linked,
627
00:43:33,714 --> 00:43:37,545
ever tied to the perpetrator
and I'll never get beyond it."
628
00:43:37,649 --> 00:43:40,825
[Tender tune plays]
[Birds chirping]
629
00:43:40,928 --> 00:43:43,621
[Bell tolling]
630
00:43:43,724 --> 00:43:51,525
♪♪
631
00:43:51,629 --> 00:43:53,872
"Dear Charles,
my name is Richard Moore
632
00:43:53,976 --> 00:43:56,012
and I live in Derry,
Northern Ireland.
633
00:43:56,116 --> 00:43:59,533
Thirty-three years ago,
on the 4th of May 1972,
634
00:43:59,637 --> 00:44:02,743
I think we came across each
other for the first time."
635
00:44:02,847 --> 00:44:06,298
Richard:
When I was ten years old,
I got out of school, as normal.
636
00:44:06,402 --> 00:44:09,060
I had to pass this
British Army lookout post.
637
00:44:09,163 --> 00:44:10,648
And, as I ran past
the Army post,
638
00:44:10,751 --> 00:44:12,926
a British soldier
fired a rubber bullet.
639
00:44:13,029 --> 00:44:14,548
He said that he fired
the rubber bullet
640
00:44:14,652 --> 00:44:17,137
in the hope that we would
all bugger off home.
641
00:44:17,240 --> 00:44:18,552
Well, I was at the bottom
of the playground
642
00:44:18,656 --> 00:44:19,829
and the Army sanger was there
643
00:44:19,933 --> 00:44:21,935
and what would've
happened is, you know,
644
00:44:22,038 --> 00:44:23,557
young people would've
gathered there at times
645
00:44:23,661 --> 00:44:24,800
and threw bricks
[Laughing] at the sanger.
646
00:44:24,903 --> 00:44:27,630
I've done it meself
in the past.
647
00:44:27,734 --> 00:44:30,840
So it was just a normal day,
about 20 past 3:00,
648
00:44:30,944 --> 00:44:34,844
and, up behind those houses,
there was an Army lookout post.
649
00:44:34,948 --> 00:44:36,328
And, as I ran past the sanger,
650
00:44:36,432 --> 00:44:39,124
that's when the soldier
fired the rubber bullet.
651
00:44:39,228 --> 00:44:42,438
[Birds chirping]
652
00:44:42,541 --> 00:44:46,684
[Gunshot]
653
00:44:46,787 --> 00:44:49,583
I spent about two weeks
in hospital.
654
00:44:49,687 --> 00:44:51,033
Me brother Noel said to me,
655
00:44:51,136 --> 00:44:53,760
"Richard, do you know
what damage was done?"
656
00:44:53,863 --> 00:44:57,349
And that's when he told me
that I lost me right eye
657
00:44:57,453 --> 00:45:00,456
and I would never be able
to see again with me left eye.
658
00:45:00,559 --> 00:45:02,941
[Birds chirping]
659
00:45:05,081 --> 00:45:07,912
It struck me here,
on the bridge of the nose.
660
00:45:08,015 --> 00:45:12,571
I lost this eye and was left
completely blind in me left eye.
661
00:45:12,675 --> 00:45:14,056
I just accepted it.
662
00:45:14,159 --> 00:45:17,369
I just accepted it, as if
663
00:45:17,473 --> 00:45:19,613
they had just told me that
664
00:45:19,717 --> 00:45:21,166
Derry City they lost
the football match
665
00:45:21,270 --> 00:45:23,203
at the weekend or something.
666
00:45:23,306 --> 00:45:24,514
Until that night, really,
667
00:45:24,618 --> 00:45:27,000
and, when I was in bed
that night,
668
00:45:27,103 --> 00:45:29,934
on me own, I cried.
669
00:45:30,037 --> 00:45:34,628
And I cried because I realized,
for the first time,
670
00:45:34,732 --> 00:45:37,907
that I was never going to see
671
00:45:38,011 --> 00:45:39,633
me mammy or me daddy's
faces again.
672
00:45:39,737 --> 00:45:41,497
[Birds chirping]
673
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:47,468
[Wind whistling]
674
00:45:47,572 --> 00:45:49,125
November 2005.
675
00:45:49,229 --> 00:45:51,093
I found out
the soldier's name
676
00:45:51,196 --> 00:45:54,717
and then,
I wrote him a letter
677
00:45:54,821 --> 00:45:57,168
and the letter was
hand-delivered to him.
678
00:45:57,271 --> 00:45:59,377
"Since I was a young teenager,
I have always said
679
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:01,586
that I would like to meet
the soldier who shot me
680
00:46:01,689 --> 00:46:03,484
and now, I can't believe,
after all these years,
681
00:46:03,588 --> 00:46:05,728
that you're sitting,
reading my letter.
682
00:46:05,832 --> 00:46:07,868
Charles, I hope
you will say yes to me.
683
00:46:07,972 --> 00:46:11,216
I'm confident you won't
regret it, in any way.
684
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:12,908
Finally, thanks
for reading this letter
685
00:46:13,011 --> 00:46:14,323
and I look forward
to your response,
686
00:46:14,426 --> 00:46:17,705
if and when it comes.
Richard Moore."
687
00:46:17,809 --> 00:46:22,262
The first day that I found out
his name, everything changed.
688
00:46:22,365 --> 00:46:23,539
He wasn't a soldier, then.
689
00:46:23,642 --> 00:46:25,092
He was Charles.
690
00:46:25,196 --> 00:46:27,336
I'd give him a --
691
00:46:27,439 --> 00:46:29,717
You know, he was
a human being, in a sense,
692
00:46:29,821 --> 00:46:33,583
and that sort of distance
that the term "soldier" creates
693
00:46:33,687 --> 00:46:36,172
was brought a bit closer
by saying "Charles."
694
00:46:36,276 --> 00:46:38,623
I tried to reassure him,
in the letter,
695
00:46:38,726 --> 00:46:40,832
that I wasn't writing
to make him feel guilty.
696
00:46:40,936 --> 00:46:43,628
I wasn't writing to make him
accountable to me.
697
00:46:43,731 --> 00:46:45,906
I also wanted to meet him --
698
00:46:46,010 --> 00:46:47,218
and I told him this
in the letter --
699
00:46:47,321 --> 00:46:48,667
to let him know
700
00:46:48,771 --> 00:46:51,809
that I have
no hatred towards him
701
00:46:51,912 --> 00:46:55,122
and never had any hatred
towards him.
702
00:46:55,226 --> 00:47:02,578
♪♪
703
00:47:02,681 --> 00:47:06,133
I arranged to meet him
on the 14th of January 2006.
704
00:47:06,237 --> 00:47:08,929
♪♪
705
00:47:09,033 --> 00:47:11,449
There was a bit of small talk,
at the start.
706
00:47:11,552 --> 00:47:14,417
But eventually, I said,
"Look, Charles,
707
00:47:14,521 --> 00:47:18,111
in your letter, it said
you felt justified
708
00:47:18,214 --> 00:47:19,837
and I find that hard
to swallow,
709
00:47:19,940 --> 00:47:23,530
that you can justify blinding
a 10-year-old boy."
710
00:47:23,633 --> 00:47:27,051
And he said, well,
what he meant by that was,
711
00:47:27,154 --> 00:47:29,087
when he decided to fire
the rubber bullet,
712
00:47:29,191 --> 00:47:32,953
he felt justified
in firing it.
713
00:47:33,057 --> 00:47:37,337
If he had known the damage
that it was going to cause,
714
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:38,994
then he wouldn't have fired it,
715
00:47:39,097 --> 00:47:43,205
and he was not justifying
what happened to me.
716
00:47:43,308 --> 00:47:51,903
And Charles said, at that point,
"Look, I regret what happened.
717
00:47:52,007 --> 00:47:55,044
I wish I'd never fired
the rubber bullet.
718
00:47:55,148 --> 00:47:59,117
And, if I had known the damage
that I was going to cause,
719
00:47:59,221 --> 00:48:00,291
I wouldn't have fired it."
720
00:48:00,394 --> 00:48:02,949
[Birds chirping]
721
00:48:03,052 --> 00:48:07,539
Now, you could pick holes
in that story, if you wanted.
722
00:48:07,643 --> 00:48:10,715
You could go
down all sorts of roads,
723
00:48:10,818 --> 00:48:13,373
in relation to what Charles
is saying.
724
00:48:13,476 --> 00:48:16,445
What Charles done that day,
725
00:48:16,548 --> 00:48:21,519
only he knows what was
going on in his head.
726
00:48:21,622 --> 00:48:25,523
I'm not saying that what
Charles done was right.
727
00:48:25,626 --> 00:48:28,319
I'm not saying
it was justified.
728
00:48:28,422 --> 00:48:29,768
What I'm saying is
729
00:48:29,872 --> 00:48:33,738
that I forgive Charles
for what happened.
730
00:48:33,841 --> 00:48:40,124
In unusual circumstances,
unusual things happen
731
00:48:40,227 --> 00:48:43,472
and there's no question that
Derry and Northern Ireland
732
00:48:43,575 --> 00:48:45,577
was an unusual place.
733
00:48:45,681 --> 00:48:48,132
And I think we're all
very lucky,
734
00:48:48,235 --> 00:48:50,962
if we get through our life
735
00:48:51,066 --> 00:48:53,620
without doing something
we live to regret
736
00:48:53,723 --> 00:48:54,966
for the rest of our lives.
737
00:48:55,070 --> 00:48:57,520
[Birds chirping]
738
00:48:57,624 --> 00:49:00,903
Forgiving Charles wasn't
going to change the past.
739
00:49:01,007 --> 00:49:04,769
It wasn't going to give me
back me eyesight.
740
00:49:04,872 --> 00:49:09,084
But what it did do
is change my future.
741
00:49:09,187 --> 00:49:14,399
I didn't carry all that baggage
of hurt and anger.
742
00:49:14,503 --> 00:49:19,128
And I think it would've
prevented me from operating
743
00:49:19,232 --> 00:49:22,994
and living me life as a fully
functional human being,
744
00:49:23,098 --> 00:49:24,375
in the way that I have.
745
00:49:24,478 --> 00:49:31,347
♪♪
746
00:49:31,451 --> 00:49:35,696
[Bell chiming]
747
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:43,566
♪♪
748
00:49:43,670 --> 00:49:46,155
I do actually believe
that we're all capable,
749
00:49:46,259 --> 00:49:48,502
given the right circumstances,
750
00:49:48,606 --> 00:49:50,608
of doing anything,
just about anything.
751
00:49:50,711 --> 00:49:52,782
It's a rare person
that wouldn't,
752
00:49:52,886 --> 00:49:54,198
when their family is
under threat,
753
00:49:54,301 --> 00:49:56,269
when they are told
754
00:49:56,372 --> 00:49:58,167
and believe that their
neighbors are threatening
755
00:49:58,271 --> 00:49:59,858
and they might take
their family away.
756
00:49:59,962 --> 00:50:02,068
Who knows what any of us
would do?
757
00:50:02,171 --> 00:50:03,483
People actually think that,
you know,
758
00:50:03,586 --> 00:50:04,967
the evil monster is out there
759
00:50:05,071 --> 00:50:06,417
and is different to us.
760
00:50:06,520 --> 00:50:07,659
I've never believed that.
761
00:50:07,763 --> 00:50:08,936
I've always believed
that any of us
762
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:10,421
are actually capable
of doing anything,
763
00:50:10,524 --> 00:50:13,182
under certain circumstances.
764
00:50:13,286 --> 00:50:17,635
What allows one group
of human beings
765
00:50:17,738 --> 00:50:20,603
to annihilate another group
766
00:50:20,707 --> 00:50:24,607
is if they find a way
of dehumanizing them.
767
00:50:24,711 --> 00:50:28,404
Now, you do that by taking
768
00:50:28,508 --> 00:50:31,407
aspects of yourself
that you hate,
769
00:50:31,511 --> 00:50:34,997
that you feel are bad,
despicable,
770
00:50:35,101 --> 00:50:37,517
and you want to disown them,
771
00:50:37,620 --> 00:50:41,072
and you put them
into the victim.
772
00:50:41,176 --> 00:50:46,008
Then, the victim is experienced
as a disease or a scourge
773
00:50:46,112 --> 00:50:48,528
and can be annihilated.
774
00:50:48,631 --> 00:50:53,947
You also, the same way,
extract anything good from them
775
00:50:54,051 --> 00:50:56,432
and attribute that
to yourself --
776
00:50:56,536 --> 00:50:59,918
"I'm civilized
and you're a savage."
777
00:51:00,022 --> 00:51:02,852
For forgiveness to occur,
778
00:51:02,956 --> 00:51:06,373
the process must be put
into reverse, so to speak,
779
00:51:06,477 --> 00:51:11,999
as where the victim has
to see the perpetrator
780
00:51:12,103 --> 00:51:14,899
as not all bad or evil,
781
00:51:15,002 --> 00:51:19,800
and this can occur if they see
that the perpetrator
782
00:51:19,904 --> 00:51:27,808
shows genuine remorse, guilt,
and takes real steps
783
00:51:27,912 --> 00:51:31,916
to repair or rebuild
the damage they've done.
784
00:51:32,019 --> 00:51:33,366
One day, you might forgive,
785
00:51:33,469 --> 00:51:35,161
the next day,
something triggers it,
786
00:51:35,264 --> 00:51:37,024
and you might hate
all over again.
787
00:51:37,128 --> 00:51:39,924
As you move forward again,
something comes to your mind
788
00:51:40,027 --> 00:51:42,133
that takes you back
to what happened in the past.
789
00:51:42,237 --> 00:51:45,792
But gradually, a little bit
further down the line,
790
00:51:45,895 --> 00:51:49,244
you can begin
to let go of the pain.
791
00:51:49,347 --> 00:51:53,524
For me, forgiveness is
difficult, costly, painful,
792
00:51:53,627 --> 00:51:57,459
however, potentially
transformative.
793
00:51:57,562 --> 00:52:00,945
[Birds chirping]
794
00:52:01,048 --> 00:52:05,363
My mum's body was maimed.
795
00:52:08,125 --> 00:52:12,784
She was just in a small ditch
with another woman
796
00:52:12,888 --> 00:52:16,236
and they had just covered
with a little soil
797
00:52:16,340 --> 00:52:18,480
on the top of her body.
798
00:52:18,583 --> 00:52:23,070
She was still clothed,
799
00:52:23,174 --> 00:52:28,110
but she was hit on the head
and the hands were cut.
800
00:52:28,214 --> 00:52:29,939
I was numbed.
801
00:52:30,043 --> 00:52:34,323
I couldn't understand
how they could kill her,
802
00:52:34,427 --> 00:52:38,569
when she was feeding almost
everybody in the village.
803
00:52:38,672 --> 00:52:41,434
When the genocide was
over, '94,
804
00:52:41,537 --> 00:52:44,816
I took about a month
to regain some strength,
805
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:47,578
to come back to see whether
somebody survived
806
00:52:47,681 --> 00:52:50,443
at my village level.
807
00:52:50,546 --> 00:52:53,515
When I reached Butare,
people were just fleeing me.
808
00:52:53,618 --> 00:52:56,656
They didn't want to be the ones
to tell me the bad news.
809
00:52:56,759 --> 00:53:00,384
One of them said, "Please
don't go to your home village."
810
00:53:00,487 --> 00:53:03,283
I said, "Why?"
He said, "No, please don't."
811
00:53:03,387 --> 00:53:06,113
When I reached there,
I was on the main road,
812
00:53:06,217 --> 00:53:07,494
looking at my village.
813
00:53:07,598 --> 00:53:09,703
There was no house.
814
00:53:09,807 --> 00:53:12,292
[Clucking]There were more than ten houses.
815
00:53:12,396 --> 00:53:14,191
All the houses were destroyed.
816
00:53:14,294 --> 00:53:16,917
Even the bricks
were destroyed completely,
817
00:53:17,021 --> 00:53:21,267
were turned into -- to dust.
818
00:53:21,370 --> 00:53:24,028
Then I knew
that the worst happened.
819
00:53:24,131 --> 00:53:25,754
I had 11 brothers.
820
00:53:25,857 --> 00:53:27,756
They had about 65 kids.
821
00:53:27,859 --> 00:53:30,310
No one is alive,
besides me.
822
00:53:30,414 --> 00:53:33,486
Then, I was told,
by one young man,
823
00:53:33,589 --> 00:53:36,282
that my entire family
was killed.
824
00:53:36,385 --> 00:53:39,492
He was ready to take me
where they had put my mum.
825
00:53:39,595 --> 00:53:43,289
Then, I knew
that everybody was dead.
826
00:53:43,392 --> 00:53:44,980
I never thought my family
827
00:53:45,083 --> 00:53:48,121
could be swept away in such
a short period of time.
828
00:53:48,225 --> 00:53:50,744
[Thunder rumbling]
829
00:53:50,848 --> 00:53:53,678
[Melancholy tune plays]
830
00:53:53,782 --> 00:54:00,098
♪♪
831
00:54:00,202 --> 00:54:01,755
My mum was like the grandmother
832
00:54:01,859 --> 00:54:03,861
of all the children
in the village,
833
00:54:03,964 --> 00:54:07,140
so whoever was feeling hungry,
she was ever there,
834
00:54:07,244 --> 00:54:09,487
and most of the kids were
coming rather to see her.
835
00:54:09,591 --> 00:54:12,939
She was simply loving
and generous.
836
00:54:13,042 --> 00:54:14,699
Even the killer
of my mum said
837
00:54:14,803 --> 00:54:19,428
she was feeding him
alongside her own sons.
838
00:54:19,532 --> 00:54:20,705
I just cried.
839
00:54:20,809 --> 00:54:23,225
♪♪
840
00:54:23,329 --> 00:54:24,675
I buried my mum.
841
00:54:24,778 --> 00:54:27,160
I could find the body
of my younger brother.
842
00:54:27,264 --> 00:54:28,886
I buried the body
of my younger brother
843
00:54:28,989 --> 00:54:31,992
and then, I returned
back to Nairobi.
844
00:54:32,096 --> 00:54:33,891
Yes, I was terribly angry.
845
00:54:33,994 --> 00:54:37,308
Angry against everyone,
angry against the leadership,
846
00:54:37,412 --> 00:54:39,241
angry against the church,
847
00:54:39,345 --> 00:54:41,001
angry against the neighbors.
848
00:54:41,105 --> 00:54:44,108
I was angry against anything
and everyone.
849
00:54:44,211 --> 00:54:46,317
They told me the killer
of my brother
850
00:54:46,421 --> 00:54:48,043
was still in the village.
851
00:54:48,146 --> 00:54:51,978
They said he has taken the
clothes from my brother's body.
852
00:54:54,946 --> 00:54:57,949
And they said, "You can come
and take the clothes."
853
00:54:58,053 --> 00:54:59,986
I said, "If I go there,
I will kill him.
854
00:55:00,089 --> 00:55:01,884
I'll make sure he dies."
855
00:55:01,988 --> 00:55:03,161
I said, "Keep the clothes."
856
00:55:03,265 --> 00:55:05,474
Because I knew,
had I gone there,
857
00:55:05,578 --> 00:55:07,476
something wrong
could have happened.
858
00:55:07,580 --> 00:55:09,236
♪♪
859
00:55:09,340 --> 00:55:11,825
I couldn't sleep.
860
00:55:11,929 --> 00:55:15,346
I could sleep and have
a nightmare of him.
861
00:55:15,450 --> 00:55:17,348
I was carrying him all over.
862
00:55:17,452 --> 00:55:19,730
My mind was full of him.
863
00:55:19,833 --> 00:55:23,354
He was in prison,
but I was his prisoner,
864
00:55:23,458 --> 00:55:26,046
because he was tied on me
865
00:55:26,150 --> 00:55:29,153
and I couldn't separate
myself from him.
866
00:55:29,256 --> 00:55:37,161
♪♪
867
00:55:37,264 --> 00:55:39,301
♪♪
868
00:55:39,405 --> 00:55:44,651
Forgiving is the most
difficult act to make.
869
00:55:44,755 --> 00:55:46,239
♪♪
870
00:55:46,343 --> 00:55:47,551
It's so painful.
871
00:55:47,654 --> 00:55:49,932
♪♪
872
00:55:50,036 --> 00:55:54,005
It's so hard, especially
when it comes to somebody
873
00:55:54,109 --> 00:55:58,562
who took away the life
of the person you loved most,
874
00:55:58,665 --> 00:56:00,633
the life of the person
who loved you more
875
00:56:00,736 --> 00:56:02,911
than any other person
you might know.
876
00:56:03,014 --> 00:56:05,258
♪♪
877
00:56:05,362 --> 00:56:08,882
[Man singing]
-[Speaks indistinctly]
878
00:56:08,986 --> 00:56:18,892
♪♪
879
00:56:18,996 --> 00:56:24,933
♪♪
880
00:56:25,036 --> 00:56:26,762
Before I entered the prison,
881
00:56:26,866 --> 00:56:31,215
I said, "God,
give me enough strength
882
00:56:31,318 --> 00:56:34,391
so that I won't faint
in front of him."
883
00:56:34,494 --> 00:56:43,365
♪♪
884
00:56:43,469 --> 00:56:44,780
[Creaks]
885
00:56:44,884 --> 00:56:53,133
♪♪
886
00:56:53,237 --> 00:57:03,143
♪♪
887
00:57:03,247 --> 00:57:06,353
♪♪
888
00:57:06,457 --> 00:57:07,631
Then, when he entered,
889
00:57:07,734 --> 00:57:09,840
I felt like a huge power
890
00:57:09,943 --> 00:57:12,221
just pushing me from behind.
891
00:57:12,325 --> 00:57:14,845
When I looked at him,
I hated him most
892
00:57:14,948 --> 00:57:17,123
and I wondered
why I came to see him.
893
00:57:17,226 --> 00:57:19,263
But when I realized
that he was shaking
894
00:57:19,366 --> 00:57:22,991
from the toes
to the hands,
895
00:57:23,094 --> 00:57:25,959
to the mouth, to the lips,
896
00:57:26,063 --> 00:57:27,927
I had some pity on him.
897
00:57:28,030 --> 00:57:31,862
I said, "This guy
might feel what he did."
898
00:57:31,965 --> 00:57:33,380
I asked him how he was --
899
00:57:33,484 --> 00:57:36,936
"Amakuru?" --
"What news?"
900
00:57:37,039 --> 00:57:39,110
Then, I told him,
901
00:57:39,214 --> 00:57:42,182
that I came to know
the truth about my family,
902
00:57:42,286 --> 00:57:45,185
so that I can know how
to give a decent burial,
903
00:57:45,289 --> 00:57:48,361
to whoever he might know,
where he might have been left.
904
00:57:48,465 --> 00:57:50,846
[Speaking
foreign language]
905
00:57:50,950 --> 00:57:53,504
Then, he went back, 1994.
906
00:57:53,608 --> 00:57:55,920
He was just saying,
without stopping,
907
00:57:56,024 --> 00:57:58,820
everydetail of how
my family was killed,
908
00:57:58,923 --> 00:58:02,927
how they fled, who killed
in my village -- everything,
909
00:58:03,031 --> 00:58:04,929
which really made me say,
910
00:58:05,033 --> 00:58:07,345
"This guy [Snaps fingers]
is not cheating me."
911
00:58:07,449 --> 00:58:10,107
For the whole three hours,
I felt he's the only person
912
00:58:10,210 --> 00:58:13,559
who told me the whole truth
I was needing.
913
00:58:13,662 --> 00:58:16,458
Because, without him,
914
00:58:16,562 --> 00:58:20,497
I could have neverknown
what happened to my family.
915
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:22,982
My extended family,
my immediately family --
916
00:58:23,085 --> 00:58:24,397
every detail.
917
00:58:24,501 --> 00:58:28,056
And I could know
how my mother was killed.
918
00:58:28,159 --> 00:58:30,230
No one wanted
to tell me that.
919
00:58:30,334 --> 00:58:32,336
Truth is also liberating.
920
00:58:32,439 --> 00:58:34,303
Because my mind
was always wondering,
921
00:58:34,407 --> 00:58:36,098
"What happened
to my brother?
922
00:58:36,202 --> 00:58:37,548
What happened to my sister?
923
00:58:37,652 --> 00:58:40,620
What happened to my nephew,
to my niece?"
924
00:58:40,724 --> 00:58:42,967
And really knowing
what happened to my family
925
00:58:43,071 --> 00:58:48,939
and I can carry on in life,
which makes me much stronger.
926
00:58:49,042 --> 00:58:53,771
Then, I asked him, in case
my mother came back to life
927
00:58:53,875 --> 00:58:57,534
and was sitting on your side,
what would you tell her?
928
00:59:03,505 --> 00:59:07,854
I wanted him to say
he was sorry.
929
00:59:07,958 --> 00:59:11,168
He told me
that he'd tell her
930
00:59:11,271 --> 00:59:12,376
to give him money.
931
00:59:12,479 --> 00:59:14,896
♪♪
932
00:59:14,999 --> 00:59:17,519
I said, "Why?"
933
00:59:17,623 --> 00:59:20,867
He said he was poor.
934
00:59:20,971 --> 00:59:24,319
Then, I asked him,
"What would you tell my mother,"
935
00:59:24,422 --> 00:59:27,425
if she gives him the money?
936
00:59:27,529 --> 00:59:31,498
Then he said, "I would ask her
to come to visit me."
937
00:59:31,602 --> 00:59:33,742
"What else will you
ask my mother?"
938
00:59:33,846 --> 00:59:35,951
I was hoping,
for the third time,
939
00:59:36,055 --> 00:59:38,816
at least, he will ask
for forgiveness.
940
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:40,749
He was shaking.
941
00:59:40,853 --> 00:59:43,131
To me, he was recognizing
what he did,
942
00:59:43,234 --> 00:59:44,788
but he couldn't express it.
943
00:59:44,891 --> 00:59:46,237
He was too afraid.
944
00:59:46,341 --> 00:59:49,896
♪♪
945
00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:52,796
Then he said, "I would ask
for forgiveness."
946
00:59:52,899 --> 00:59:59,768
♪♪
947
00:59:59,872 --> 01:00:02,046
I told him that I came
to see him
948
01:00:02,150 --> 01:00:05,705
to give him forgiveness
on my own behalf,
949
01:00:05,809 --> 01:00:07,707
on behalf of my family,
950
01:00:07,811 --> 01:00:09,398
and on behalf of my mother.
951
01:00:09,502 --> 01:00:17,475
♪♪
952
01:00:17,579 --> 01:00:19,788
[Thunder rumbling]
953
01:00:19,892 --> 01:00:24,931
♪♪
954
01:00:25,035 --> 01:00:27,900
[Thunder rumbling]
955
01:00:28,003 --> 01:00:31,938
♪♪
956
01:00:32,042 --> 01:00:34,216
Here, in Rwanda,
957
01:00:34,320 --> 01:00:38,911
there are some
remarkable examples
958
01:00:39,014 --> 01:00:44,123
of people who have been
able to,
959
01:00:44,226 --> 01:00:49,128
somehow, have some form
of individual reconciliation
960
01:00:49,231 --> 01:00:51,717
with people that were involved
in killing their families.
961
01:00:51,820 --> 01:00:53,615
But they are a minority,
and I don't think
962
01:00:53,719 --> 01:00:58,344
they're representative of how
the majority of people feel.
963
01:00:58,447 --> 01:01:00,622
Yet, there is a coexistence.
964
01:01:00,726 --> 01:01:02,175
In the experience
of my own wife,
965
01:01:02,279 --> 01:01:06,283
she knows the man
that killed her mother.
966
01:01:06,386 --> 01:01:09,424
She's met him and doesn't feel
hatred, doesn't revenge.
967
01:01:09,527 --> 01:01:11,702
She doesn't interact with him
on a daily basis.
968
01:01:11,806 --> 01:01:13,497
I mean, what do we call that?
969
01:01:13,600 --> 01:01:16,431
I wouldn't say that
there's forgiveness there,
970
01:01:16,534 --> 01:01:19,227
but it's certainly not hatred
and revenge, either.
971
01:01:19,330 --> 01:01:22,299
It's a coexistence that
allows society to function
972
01:01:22,402 --> 01:01:24,681
and I think that's the key
to the future of Rwanda,
973
01:01:24,784 --> 01:01:27,718
that it's held long enough,
974
01:01:27,822 --> 01:01:29,824
through the political
and the community situation,
975
01:01:29,927 --> 01:01:32,896
that it gives a second
generation a chance
976
01:01:32,999 --> 01:01:34,863
to live together without that
division and hatred
977
01:01:34,967 --> 01:01:37,970
that could lead to another
spiral of violence.
978
01:01:38,073 --> 01:01:47,117
♪♪
979
01:01:47,220 --> 01:01:57,127
♪♪
980
01:01:57,230 --> 01:02:06,792
♪♪
981
01:02:06,895 --> 01:02:08,517
Two years ago,
I was giving a lecture
982
01:02:08,621 --> 01:02:13,384
at the American Embassy and,
983
01:02:13,488 --> 01:02:15,283
there was a Palestinian
sitting in the audience
984
01:02:15,386 --> 01:02:16,974
and he kept looking at me
985
01:02:17,078 --> 01:02:18,596
and I knew he wanted
to say something
986
01:02:18,700 --> 01:02:20,840
and I asked him,
"What's going on?"
987
01:02:20,944 --> 01:02:23,118
And he said, "You know, the day
before your son was killed,
988
01:02:23,222 --> 01:02:25,431
I went through that roadblock."
989
01:02:25,534 --> 01:02:28,710
David was killed
by a sniper.
990
01:02:28,814 --> 01:02:32,265
And this beautiful
young man --
991
01:02:32,369 --> 01:02:34,095
David was very tall --
992
01:02:34,198 --> 01:02:36,822
came to the car and he said,
993
01:02:36,925 --> 01:02:38,133
"Look, I have
to look at your papers.
994
01:02:38,237 --> 01:02:39,894
For me, it's like
paying income tax --
995
01:02:39,997 --> 01:02:41,999
I'll do it as fast as I can.
996
01:02:42,103 --> 01:02:43,760
It's my duty."
997
01:02:43,863 --> 01:02:47,902
And they started to talk
and then, he drove away.
998
01:02:48,005 --> 01:02:50,870
And this Palestinian said to me,
"And, you know, Robi,
999
01:02:50,974 --> 01:02:54,943
the next day, when I heard
he was killed, I was so sorry."
1000
01:02:55,047 --> 01:02:59,051
Because that's the human face
of the conflict.
1001
01:02:59,154 --> 01:03:02,226
This pain is the pain
that everybody experiences.
1002
01:03:02,330 --> 01:03:10,303
♪♪
1003
01:03:10,407 --> 01:03:18,139
David -- David was a student
at Tel Aviv University.
1004
01:03:18,242 --> 01:03:23,454
He was 27 and he was
doing his master's
1005
01:03:23,558 --> 01:03:27,251
in the philosophy of education.
1006
01:03:27,355 --> 01:03:29,840
And he was called up
to go to reserves,
1007
01:03:29,944 --> 01:03:32,670
like most everybody here.
1008
01:03:32,774 --> 01:03:35,570
And he came to talk to me
and he said to me, "What to do?"
1009
01:03:35,673 --> 01:03:37,330
Because he was
in such a quandary.
1010
01:03:37,434 --> 01:03:39,954
You see, we look at the world
with black and white.
1011
01:03:40,057 --> 01:03:41,921
Nobody sees the gray.
1012
01:03:42,025 --> 01:03:44,510
Nobody understands
what this kid,
1013
01:03:44,613 --> 01:03:47,962
who belonged to the peace
movement and was torn --
1014
01:03:48,065 --> 01:03:49,998
what shall he do?
1015
01:03:50,102 --> 01:03:53,622
And then he goes
and I was filled with dread.
1016
01:03:53,726 --> 01:03:55,832
And then, he gets killed
by some guy
1017
01:03:55,935 --> 01:04:00,043
who had seen his uncle
very violently killed
1018
01:04:00,146 --> 01:04:01,838
when he was a small child.
1019
01:04:01,941 --> 01:04:03,943
So this man,
this Palestinian man,
1020
01:04:04,047 --> 01:04:07,257
went on a path of revenge
and David was in the way,
1021
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:09,949
and nine other people,
and he killed them all.
1022
01:04:10,053 --> 01:04:11,778
[Siren chiming]
1023
01:04:11,882 --> 01:04:15,886
[Horn blares]
[Siren chiming]
1024
01:04:15,990 --> 01:04:19,994
They asked me if I wanted
to go to his trial
1025
01:04:20,097 --> 01:04:22,410
and I had no desire
to do that at all.
1026
01:04:22,513 --> 01:04:24,584
I don't --
It doesn't give me --
1027
01:04:24,688 --> 01:04:27,380
There's no punishment.
1028
01:04:27,484 --> 01:04:28,968
Will that bring back David,
1029
01:04:29,072 --> 01:04:31,177
if I feel good about the fact
that he's rotting in jail
1030
01:04:31,281 --> 01:04:37,252
and his mother is sitting
in Silwad without him?
1031
01:04:37,356 --> 01:04:39,220
She's lost a child,
also, in a way.
1032
01:04:39,323 --> 01:04:44,121
So what joy could that bring me,
that he's sitting in jail?
1033
01:04:44,225 --> 01:04:45,778
No.
I don't even--
1034
01:04:45,882 --> 01:04:49,437
I didn't even get involved
in that side of it at all.
1035
01:04:49,540 --> 01:04:51,646
The memory for me is David
sitting down there
1036
01:04:51,749 --> 01:04:54,856
and going like this
when he drove off.
1037
01:04:54,960 --> 01:04:57,997
That's much more
important for me.
1038
01:04:58,101 --> 01:05:00,344
It's strange because,
when the army came to tell me
1039
01:05:00,448 --> 01:05:01,725
that David had been killed,
1040
01:05:01,828 --> 01:05:04,245
the first -- apparently --
thing I said is,
1041
01:05:04,348 --> 01:05:07,317
"You may not kill anybody
in the name of my child."
1042
01:05:07,420 --> 01:05:09,906
[Birds chirping, cawing]
1043
01:05:14,462 --> 01:05:17,879
One of the projects that we did
in the Parents Circle --
1044
01:05:17,983 --> 01:05:20,778
you know, we are 500 families
of Palestinians and Israelis --
1045
01:05:20,882 --> 01:05:23,747
we understood that
we shared the same pain.
1046
01:05:23,850 --> 01:05:25,611
We thought that it would be
very important
1047
01:05:25,714 --> 01:05:28,269
to share each other's
historical narrative
1048
01:05:28,372 --> 01:05:29,822
and personal narrative,
1049
01:05:29,926 --> 01:05:33,584
in order to understand
the other's point of view.
1050
01:05:33,688 --> 01:05:39,452
And we decided that we would go
to the Holocaust Museum.
1051
01:05:39,556 --> 01:05:42,731
We invited 70 Palestinians
to first come
1052
01:05:42,835 --> 01:05:46,045
and stay overnight
in East Jerusalem,
1053
01:05:46,149 --> 01:05:47,564
so that they wouldn't have
the indignities
1054
01:05:47,667 --> 01:05:49,566
of coming through the
checkpoint the next day
1055
01:05:49,669 --> 01:05:53,328
and that we could meet them
at the Holocaust Museum
1056
01:05:53,432 --> 01:05:54,743
in a dignified manner.
1057
01:05:54,847 --> 01:05:56,953
[Indistinct conversations]
1058
01:05:57,056 --> 01:05:59,196
Then, the next day,
we went to this village
1059
01:05:59,300 --> 01:06:01,233
which existed before 1948.
1060
01:06:01,336 --> 01:06:03,097
It's called Ekbeba.
1061
01:06:03,200 --> 01:06:06,790
Two of the Palestinian families
from our group come from there.
1062
01:06:06,893 --> 01:06:09,103
And, when we got there,
1063
01:06:09,206 --> 01:06:10,656
there was nothing left
of this village.
1064
01:06:10,759 --> 01:06:13,486
It was wiped out completely.
1065
01:06:13,590 --> 01:06:14,901
And, suddenly, Umm Jamil,
1066
01:06:15,005 --> 01:06:18,905
who's the mother
from Dheisheh refugee camp,
1067
01:06:19,009 --> 01:06:22,737
stood there
and she started to cry.
1068
01:06:22,840 --> 01:06:25,084
And we looked at her and we
said, "What's the matter?"
1069
01:06:25,188 --> 01:06:26,913
And she looked down
and she said, "You see here?
1070
01:06:27,017 --> 01:06:29,123
This is the well that I used
1071
01:06:29,226 --> 01:06:32,367
to draw water out of
as a child."
1072
01:06:32,471 --> 01:06:35,784
And then, we could understand
this longing, you know, this,
1073
01:06:35,888 --> 01:06:37,994
"Why do people walk
around with keys
1074
01:06:38,097 --> 01:06:41,859
to doors that are
no longer there," you know?
1075
01:06:41,963 --> 01:06:43,102
And you could understand,
1076
01:06:43,206 --> 01:06:44,793
with empathy,
this pain of longing
1077
01:06:44,897 --> 01:06:47,417
and, as Jews, we need
to understand that, you know?
1078
01:06:47,520 --> 01:06:50,109
We came out of Toledo,
in Spain,
1079
01:06:50,213 --> 01:06:53,457
and walked around with keys
around our neck for generations.
1080
01:06:53,561 --> 01:06:57,530
For me, reconciliation is
to be able --
1081
01:06:57,634 --> 01:06:59,084
not to forget your pain.
1082
01:06:59,187 --> 01:07:02,984
It's to be able to create
kind of a package,
1083
01:07:03,088 --> 01:07:04,641
where you put your pain there,
1084
01:07:04,744 --> 01:07:08,886
you specific this pain
in a specific place,
1085
01:07:08,990 --> 01:07:12,821
and you don't allow this pain
to control your mind
1086
01:07:12,925 --> 01:07:15,617
and your feeling
and your daily life
1087
01:07:15,721 --> 01:07:18,517
and to bring you to madness.
1088
01:07:18,620 --> 01:07:20,864
Three years ago --
or four years.
1089
01:07:20,967 --> 01:07:23,073
I'm not good at time --
1090
01:07:23,177 --> 01:07:27,353
they caught the sniper
who killed David.
1091
01:07:27,457 --> 01:07:29,045
His name was Tha'ir.
1092
01:07:29,148 --> 01:07:32,876
And I decided that I
couldn't do this work,
1093
01:07:32,979 --> 01:07:35,430
if I wasn't willing
to go on a path
1094
01:07:35,534 --> 01:07:38,399
and so I wrote a letter
to the family.
1095
01:07:38,502 --> 01:07:42,127
And, about two weeks ago,
I came home at about 11:00
1096
01:07:42,230 --> 01:07:43,438
and I found an email
1097
01:07:43,542 --> 01:07:45,785
from a friend of mine
in America,
1098
01:07:45,889 --> 01:07:49,513
who said that the sniper
and --
1099
01:07:49,617 --> 01:07:52,240
had written me a letter,
but not directly,
1100
01:07:52,344 --> 01:07:55,692
and that the letter
was printed in Ma'an,
1101
01:07:55,795 --> 01:07:58,350
which is the Palestinian
news service.
1102
01:07:58,453 --> 01:08:03,286
And I discovered a letter
filled with...
1103
01:08:03,389 --> 01:08:09,809
justification for killing
and that my son was a murderer
1104
01:08:09,913 --> 01:08:12,122
and that he could have
nothing to do with me
1105
01:08:12,226 --> 01:08:15,539
and didn't want me
anywhere near his family
1106
01:08:15,643 --> 01:08:19,025
and would not write me
a letter directly.
1107
01:08:19,129 --> 01:08:23,237
The next morning, I got up very
early and I turned on the BBC
1108
01:08:23,340 --> 01:08:26,309
and, suddenly,
I heard Jo Berry on the radio,
1109
01:08:26,412 --> 01:08:28,621
together with Pat Magee,
1110
01:08:28,725 --> 01:08:31,659
discussing their journey
to reconciliation.
1111
01:08:31,762 --> 01:08:34,386
So I thought,
"What you're doing is right,"
1112
01:08:34,489 --> 01:08:37,389
and I went away
and I wrote another letter.
1113
01:08:37,492 --> 01:08:40,081
And I think I would like
to read you that letter.
1114
01:08:40,185 --> 01:08:43,015
"Tha'ir, how ironic.
1115
01:08:43,119 --> 01:08:45,259
The people who most wanted
to protect me
1116
01:08:45,362 --> 01:08:48,952
from your words in your letter
were my Palestinian friends
1117
01:08:49,055 --> 01:08:52,335
and other bereaved parents
in our group.
1118
01:08:52,438 --> 01:08:55,890
You said that David went
to the army to kill.
1119
01:08:55,993 --> 01:08:58,237
This young man spent most
of his time helping
1120
01:08:58,341 --> 01:09:01,930
to make a difference,
educating towards democracy,
1121
01:09:02,034 --> 01:09:04,726
and who anguished
about going to serve said,
1122
01:09:04,830 --> 01:09:06,797
'If I go, I will treat all
with respect
1123
01:09:06,901 --> 01:09:08,696
and so will my soldiers.'
1124
01:09:08,799 --> 01:09:11,940
I think that these are not
words of a violent man.
1125
01:09:12,044 --> 01:09:14,943
You claim that you killed
ten soldiers and civilians
1126
01:09:15,047 --> 01:09:17,222
in order to end
the occupation.
1127
01:09:17,325 --> 01:09:19,603
Do you think that you made
a difference?
1128
01:09:19,707 --> 01:09:21,571
I'm well aware,
from your family,
1129
01:09:21,674 --> 01:09:23,814
and have shared the story
all over the world,
1130
01:09:23,918 --> 01:09:25,644
of your uncle,
who was violently killed
1131
01:09:25,747 --> 01:09:27,784
by Israeli soldiers
in front of you
1132
01:09:27,887 --> 01:09:29,682
when you were a small child,
1133
01:09:29,786 --> 01:09:32,927
and of the uncle you lost
in the Second Intifada.
1134
01:09:33,030 --> 01:09:35,723
I think there was a definite
longing for revenge.
1135
01:09:35,826 --> 01:09:38,346
I also think that you
will find out, with time,
1136
01:09:38,450 --> 01:09:41,004
that there is no revenge
for a loved one.
1137
01:09:41,107 --> 01:09:44,525
The wisest reaction I had
to the words of your letter came
1138
01:09:44,628 --> 01:09:46,803
from my wonderful son Eran,
1139
01:09:46,906 --> 01:09:49,530
who I thought
would be terribly angry.
1140
01:09:49,633 --> 01:09:51,290
'Well,' he said, 'Listen, Mum,
1141
01:09:51,394 --> 01:09:53,741
perhaps this is the
beginning of a dialogue.'"
1142
01:09:53,844 --> 01:09:56,468
What revenge could I take
to bring David back?
1143
01:09:56,571 --> 01:10:00,782
You could take anything
from me, and everything,
1144
01:10:00,886 --> 01:10:03,578
if I could just,
once more, see him
1145
01:10:03,682 --> 01:10:05,304
and once more talk to him.
1146
01:10:05,408 --> 01:10:07,651
[Swallows]
1147
01:10:07,755 --> 01:10:09,964
So, I'm very worried
1148
01:10:10,067 --> 01:10:12,691
and reluctant to use
the word forgiving.
1149
01:10:12,794 --> 01:10:15,314
Is it giving up
your right to justice?
1150
01:10:15,418 --> 01:10:17,661
Does it mean that it's okay,
what they did,
1151
01:10:17,765 --> 01:10:19,387
or they can do it again?
1152
01:10:19,491 --> 01:10:21,734
Or do you forget?
1153
01:10:21,838 --> 01:10:23,115
I don't know, you know?
1154
01:10:23,219 --> 01:10:25,600
I don't know.
I don't know.
1155
01:10:25,704 --> 01:10:29,742
I know that the sniper is
on the list to be freed,
1156
01:10:29,846 --> 01:10:32,607
you know, for Gilad Shalit,
for the soldier.
1157
01:10:32,711 --> 01:10:35,783
And I know, absolutely,
here, I'm being honest,
1158
01:10:35,886 --> 01:10:39,787
they must release him,
if it will bring back this kid.
1159
01:10:39,890 --> 01:10:44,550
Firstly, nohuman life --
1160
01:10:44,654 --> 01:10:47,588
the sanctity of human life
is much more important
1161
01:10:47,691 --> 01:10:50,694
than any small revenge
that I might take.
1162
01:10:50,798 --> 01:10:54,526
And, you know, when you think
about the generations
1163
01:10:54,629 --> 01:10:57,701
of children and grandchildren
of these prisoners,
1164
01:10:57,805 --> 01:11:00,428
who are so angry
and want revenge,
1165
01:11:00,532 --> 01:11:01,809
then what is more dangerous --
1166
01:11:01,912 --> 01:11:04,915
releasing them back
into the community
1167
01:11:05,019 --> 01:11:07,504
or facing further generations,
1168
01:11:07,608 --> 01:11:09,403
two or three generations,
of revenge?
1169
01:11:09,506 --> 01:11:13,717
So I say -- and I've said it
on television, many times --
1170
01:11:13,821 --> 01:11:17,100
that you must release
the prisoners.
1171
01:11:17,203 --> 01:11:19,413
I often say people make
the mistake that they think
1172
01:11:19,516 --> 01:11:21,069
politics is about agreeing
with each other.
1173
01:11:21,173 --> 01:11:22,933
It's not.
Politics is about how
1174
01:11:23,037 --> 01:11:25,142
we disagree with each other
without killing each other.
1175
01:11:25,246 --> 01:11:27,938
Because these are issues
of relationships,
1176
01:11:28,042 --> 01:11:29,492
they're only ever going
to be solved
1177
01:11:29,595 --> 01:11:31,114
by people talking
with each other.
1178
01:11:31,217 --> 01:11:33,806
In other words,
force and violence
1179
01:11:33,910 --> 01:11:36,775
is never going to bring
a resolution of the problem.
1180
01:11:36,878 --> 01:11:45,162
♪♪
1181
01:11:45,266 --> 01:11:51,514
♪♪
1182
01:11:51,617 --> 01:11:54,931
This is a place where
Israelis and Palestinians
1183
01:11:55,034 --> 01:11:58,314
are meeting each other
for peace.
1184
01:11:58,417 --> 01:11:59,970
You know, you can always
cross the wall.
1185
01:12:00,074 --> 01:12:02,525
You can go under the wall.
You can go behind the wall.
1186
01:12:02,628 --> 01:12:04,527
You can go
above the wall.
1187
01:12:04,630 --> 01:12:08,531
This wall cannot stop
two kinds of people --
1188
01:12:08,634 --> 01:12:10,187
the one determined
suicide bomber
1189
01:12:10,291 --> 01:12:12,742
will find a way
to go through,
1190
01:12:12,845 --> 01:12:15,089
and the one determined
peacemaker
1191
01:12:15,192 --> 01:12:17,471
will find a way
to go through.
1192
01:12:17,574 --> 01:12:21,095
But I think the basic reason
behind it all is prevention
1193
01:12:21,198 --> 01:12:24,926
of any kind of dialogue
and knowing each other.
1194
01:12:25,030 --> 01:12:27,239
And this is something that,
for me, as a peacemaker,
1195
01:12:27,343 --> 01:12:29,448
is essential to go to,
1196
01:12:29,552 --> 01:12:31,899
even at the price
of breaking the law.
1197
01:12:32,002 --> 01:12:34,557
♪♪
1198
01:12:34,660 --> 01:12:36,559
Am I afraid?
1199
01:12:36,662 --> 01:12:38,871
[Laughs]
1200
01:12:38,975 --> 01:12:41,736
No, I'm not afraid.
1201
01:12:41,840 --> 01:12:44,394
As I said earlier, the worst
thing already happened.
1202
01:12:44,498 --> 01:12:48,605
♪♪
1203
01:12:48,709 --> 01:12:57,407
[Indistinct conversations]
1204
01:12:57,511 --> 01:13:07,141
♪♪
1205
01:13:07,244 --> 01:13:13,423
♪♪
1206
01:13:13,527 --> 01:13:15,529
Man:
It's easy to say,
"Forgive and forget."
1207
01:13:15,632 --> 01:13:17,565
It's very hard
to achieve that.
1208
01:13:17,669 --> 01:13:22,432
It is not improbable that one
of the Palestinians today
1209
01:13:22,536 --> 01:13:24,296
would've been killed by me
ten years ago.
1210
01:13:24,400 --> 01:13:25,608
Then he wouldn't be with us,
1211
01:13:25,711 --> 01:13:28,507
or I wouldn't be here
with you today
1212
01:13:28,611 --> 01:13:31,924
to do this --
this joint activity.
1213
01:13:32,028 --> 01:13:38,897
♪♪
1214
01:13:39,000 --> 01:13:40,761
[Speaking
foreign language]
1215
01:13:40,864 --> 01:13:42,556
[Speaking
foreign language]
1216
01:13:42,659 --> 01:13:46,007
♪♪
1217
01:13:46,111 --> 01:13:49,632
[Speaking foreign language]
1218
01:13:49,735 --> 01:13:50,805
[Speaking
foreign language]
1219
01:13:50,909 --> 01:13:53,359
[Speaking
foreign language]
1220
01:13:53,463 --> 01:13:55,189
[Speaking foreign language]
1221
01:13:55,292 --> 01:13:58,123
[Speaking
foreign language]
1222
01:14:14,864 --> 01:14:17,694
[Speaking
foreign language]
1223
01:14:21,077 --> 01:14:22,734
[Whistling]
[Clamoring]
1224
01:14:22,837 --> 01:14:27,670
[Calling]
1225
01:14:27,773 --> 01:14:30,051
[Whistling]
1226
01:14:30,155 --> 01:14:34,608
[Calling]
1227
01:14:34,711 --> 01:14:36,920
[Whistling]
1228
01:14:37,024 --> 01:14:38,991
[Cheering and applause]
1229
01:14:39,095 --> 01:14:47,137
[Whistling]
[Singing]
1230
01:14:47,241 --> 01:14:50,486
[Whistling]
[Singing]
1231
01:14:50,589 --> 01:14:55,732
[Chanting in foreign language]
[Clapping]
1232
01:14:55,836 --> 01:15:00,426
[Whistling]
[Chanting continues]
1233
01:15:00,530 --> 01:15:03,706
[Whistling]
1234
01:15:03,809 --> 01:15:13,129
♪♪
1235
01:15:13,232 --> 01:15:15,890
♪♪
1236
01:15:15,994 --> 01:15:17,133
Rami:
This is a mission.
1237
01:15:17,236 --> 01:15:20,481
This is something
that I have to do.
1238
01:15:20,585 --> 01:15:24,312
This is the reason for me to
get out of bed in the morning.
1239
01:15:24,416 --> 01:15:30,595
This is the meaning of my life
after the death of my daughter.
1240
01:15:30,698 --> 01:15:35,082
We can change this endless cycle
of violence,
1241
01:15:35,185 --> 01:15:37,291
the only way out is the ability
1242
01:15:37,394 --> 01:15:41,502
to listen
to the pain of the other.
1243
01:15:46,852 --> 01:15:51,098
When all the other extremities
are passed away,
1244
01:15:51,201 --> 01:15:52,651
and you go beyond the story
1245
01:15:52,755 --> 01:15:56,897
to where there is nothing left
but the two people,
1246
01:15:57,000 --> 01:16:00,556
and you feel that what you are
meeting is the other person,
1247
01:16:00,659 --> 01:16:06,147
then I think reconciliation,
forgiveness, bonding
1248
01:16:06,251 --> 01:16:09,185
and even love begins
to happen.
1249
01:16:09,288 --> 01:16:12,153
[Suspenseful-melancholy
music plays]
1250
01:16:12,257 --> 01:16:21,128
♪♪
1251
01:16:21,231 --> 01:16:31,138
♪♪
1252
01:16:31,241 --> 01:16:38,628
♪♪
1253
01:16:38,732 --> 01:16:42,252
[Speaking foreign language]
1254
01:17:28,229 --> 01:17:31,129
[Singing]
1255
01:17:31,232 --> 01:17:41,139
♪♪
1256
01:17:41,242 --> 01:17:51,149
♪♪
1257
01:17:51,252 --> 01:18:01,124
♪♪
1258
01:18:01,228 --> 01:18:11,134
♪♪
1259
01:18:11,238 --> 01:18:21,144
♪♪
1260
01:18:21,248 --> 01:18:31,120
♪♪
1261
01:18:31,223 --> 01:18:41,130
♪♪
1262
01:18:41,233 --> 01:18:51,140
♪♪
1263
01:18:51,243 --> 01:19:01,150
♪♪
1264
01:19:01,253 --> 01:19:11,125
♪♪
1265
01:19:11,229 --> 01:19:21,135
♪♪
1266
01:19:21,239 --> 01:19:31,145
♪♪
1267
01:19:31,249 --> 01:19:41,121
♪♪
1268
01:19:41,224 --> 01:19:51,131
♪♪
1269
01:19:51,234 --> 01:20:01,141
♪♪
1270
01:20:01,244 --> 01:20:11,116
♪♪
1271
01:20:11,220 --> 01:20:17,916
♪♪
1272
01:20:22,024 --> 01:20:28,133
♪♪
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