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- Thanks, guys.
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Have a seat, make
yourself comfortable.
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Today, I'm gonna teach
you, I'm gonna talk about,
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and I'm gonna share some
experiences with you,
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about everything you
need to know about game.
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So after this, you'll be
able to approach women,
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talk to girls, have
a great conversation,
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end up having sex with them.
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You're gonna have all that
knowledge after today.
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What's your name?
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Do you remember mine?
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- Yes, Maximilian.
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- I know this is
totally random but
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I was going over there, right?
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I saw you walking
with the shake.
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You have this very
kind of artsy vibe.
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I'm sorry, I'm Justin,
sorry to be rude.
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- Playing it safe is something
a bad-ass motherfucker
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does not know, okay?
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Fuck playing it safe.
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I'm gonna fuck this girl
or I burn it to the ground.
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- Wait with me two seconds.
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- You're scary.
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- You're crazy, you know
you're crazy, right?
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- A lot of men have gone
through a lot of pain barriers
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to hire someone like us and to
put their life in our hands.
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- You're just using me.
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- I'm using you for what?
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- I don't know, for
company or something.
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- So, here's the thing--
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- For a business venture.
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- No, no,
hold on, hold on.
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- It's a system.
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If other guys can make it
work, it's down to you.
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Remember, she's got her system.
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It's called lots of fucking
makeup, push-up bras, lipstick.
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All the things that
enhance what she is not.
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- Most people don't even
know what pickup is.
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Most people don't even know
that there is an industry.
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But actually, this is a
multi-million dollar industry
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that's global, that has
entire communities online.
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And it's a world that's
hidden from women.
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- If people call
this manipulation,
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then I just say,
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okay.
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- Which hotel?
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Let's go to my room.
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- I understand that the
idea that there's a system
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when it comes to meeting a woman
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and attracting women,
that can just like,
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completely get a girl
anytime, it's a scary thing.
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And not only that, society could
look at it in a bad way but
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guess what?
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We're not the mainstream
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nor do we care to
be the mainstream.
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You know, I mean, the less
people that know about it,
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the better it is, right?
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- I don't like the thought
that a girl can be tricked
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and manipulated
into bed, at all.
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But the evidence is
there, that actually,
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they can be.
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- This is all earned.
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Okay, I spent a lotta time
and a lotta sweat and tears
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figuring out how to do this.
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Hold on, say hello
for one second.
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Come here, come here.
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- I'm on the phone with my mom.
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- Let me say hi to your
mom, real quick, real quick.
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- No, it's okay.
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- No, no, no, no, I'm
good with mothers.
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- I'm good with mothers.
- No, it's okay.
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- This idea that if you
learn this programming,
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you can get this girl to react
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in this certain
way, is horrifying.
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- I just ran into him on
the corner of the street.
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- We were looking at each other.
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- We thought each
other were cute.
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- Most men have
this inner desire
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to want to sleep with women
or have sex with women.
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So, when they read things like,
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"You would have a girl
begging to suck your dick."
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Whilst they might
logically think to themself
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that they would not like to
associate themselves with that.
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Deep down, that
appeals to most guys.
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And that's what gets them
to buy pickup products.
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And if you didn't get them
to buy pickup products,
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you don't have pickup companies
making $100 million a year.
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- You guys are all ready?
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Okay, why don't you
go ahead, Tracy?
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- Please describe to me briefly
how you're self-employed.
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- Well, I started out,
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I have my own cleaning service
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and I've been in it
for about three years.
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- For most men dating
is a form of gambling.
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They're rolling the dice hoping
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that they're gonna get lucky.
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If you were getting
on an airplane
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and stuck your head in the
cockpit and said to the pilot,
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"How are you gonna make
sure we get to Dubai?"
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And he quite seriously said,
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"I don't know, maybe we'll
get lucky," and he meant it,
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you'd get the fuck
off the plane.
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Correct?
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How many of you have
ever even had a woman,
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you just didn't care
and she liked you?
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Raise your hand.
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Now, how many women have you
ever had a real crush on them
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and no matter what you did,
they just didn't like you?
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Why?
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There's a reason for it and
it's got to do with energy.
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- Talking to women was one
of my biggest fears in life.
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Before I couldn't even
go up to an old lady
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and ask her for directions.
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And I find out, hey,
there's this whole community
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actually trying to
get better with women
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that have my same problem.
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- When I first started
teaching, I had no idea
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that when a guy came to
talk to you in a bar,
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that had taken courage
to come to do that.
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It wasn't uncommon to meet
someone who was sort of 25
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and had never been with a girl.
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And I'd think,
wouldn't it be nice
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if everybody had the confidence,
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if they see someone
attractive, and you're single,
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to go over and start
a conversation?
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I wanted to help guys have the
confidence to talk to girls.
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But then when you start teaching
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you see this other side of it.
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There's a dark side.
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There really is.
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- I don't think that a
lot of people understand
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that there is this
real subculture,
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and what their teachings are,
and what the beliefs are.
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- When she tells me, "I
have a boyfriend," right?
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Still fucking dead in her
face, I don't give a shit.
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Ignore that, push it over there,
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let's get back to
the conversation.
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- Is that a yoga mat?
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- Yeah.
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- Where can we do
yoga around here?
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You're the first
person I saw with--
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- I do it in the Rec Center.
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- Charming a girl in 60 seconds.
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That became my hallmark.
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Literally in a session I
would get like, 30 numbers
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from very attractive women.
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No, talk for a second.
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- Why?
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- I don't know, 'cause you're
cute, you have good energy.
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Afterwards I coached.
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Sleeping with a woman is
stacking many subtle behaviors
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end to end.
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They would pay me $1,000
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and at the end $2,000
for an afternoon.
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And then we'd go out and
some of them were like,
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"What the fuck?"
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I mean, because I was a machine.
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A lot of confidence,
and alpha male behavior
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and proactivity is
knowing that it's my right
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to go after this girl.
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There was no emotional register.
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I was an executor.
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There were hundreds of women.
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I would sometimes have
three dates a night.
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I mean, it was like full on man.
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Now, I'm settled
down and married.
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I closed that chapter of my life
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and then you guys showed
up with all your equipment
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wanting to like, pry that open.
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I feel like a war criminal and
you're some nosy journalist
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who's coming wanting
to expose me.
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- It still really surprises
me how many people
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have absolutely no idea
this industry even exists.
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I don't know how it's managed
to stay so underground.
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We're talking about a
multi-million dollar industry
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that's all over the world
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with loads and loads
of people teaching.
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And loads and loads of students.
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Entire online
communities of people.
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I guess, because there's
not really an incentive
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for it to come out.
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But it all started back in the
'80s with just this one guy.
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- Meet Ross Jeffries.
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Ross teaches other men
how to get women into bed.
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- I was a very,
very, I would say,
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ungainly teenager and young man.
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I was 6'2 and
weighed 127 pounds.
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I was emaciated and
very low self-esteem,
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and couldn't get a girlfriend.
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I was always the guy
who was the big brother,
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or the best friend.
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I actually used to
keep a scrapbook of
the rejection notes.
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And, it was very painful.
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I remember walking
on Bruin Walk at UCLA
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after like, the fifth or
sixth date cancellation
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and yelling, when am
I gonna solve this?
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Then around 1987 I stumbled
on my first NLP book.
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- Today
I wanna talk about
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neuro-linguistic
programming or NLP
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as conversational hypnosis.
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Some of the ways that
we use hypnosis in NLP
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include anchoring.
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Anchoring is an NLP technique
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you can use to anchor
a person to you
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to believe that you
have certain attributes.
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Motivated, for example.
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Honest, loving, or powerful.
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We can anchor people to
have rapport with us.
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There are all sorts
of uses for anchors.
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Now, my understanding
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is that you're not going
to use this technology
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for anything that you shouldn't.
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- I thought,
this is good stuff.
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I can use this to get
over my own shyness.
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My own difficulty.
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And there's also
some techniques there
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for influence and persuasion.
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But no one had ever applied
it towards seduction.
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I thought, I'm gonna be
the person who did it.
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- Ross, what do
women really want?
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- I don't care what they want.
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I only care what
they respond to.
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There's what women
say they want,
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there's what women
think they want,
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and then there's what
they actually respond to.
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I'm interested in what
works on the street
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when it's time to date and mate.
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And what women
actually respond to
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is not what they say they want.
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- So, what
do they respond to?
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- They really respond to
a guy who's a challenge.
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A guy that's a question mark,
a guy who keeps them guessing.
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In 1988 I self-published
a book called,
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"How To Get The Women
You Desire Into Bed."
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It got me on all
sorts of talk shows.
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It's the subtitle that
really got people.
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"A Down And Dirty Guide
To Dating And Seduction"
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"For The Man Who's Fed Up
With Being Mr. Nice Guy."
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It talked about how
to use self-hypnosis
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and how to use hypnotic
techniques to get
women all excited.
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I'm talking for the
little guy out there
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who gets his head kicked
in and always winds up
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being the buddy, the
big brother and hears,
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"Let's be friends."
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You want a friend, lady?
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Get a dog.
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- And here's the thing.
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- Ross.
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I think you're gonna end
up a very lonely man.
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- When I started this,
there were no cellphones.
251
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There was no
Twitter, no internet.
252
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No Facebook.
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Tapes, we had cassette tapes.
254
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There was no digital nothing.
255
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Our "Speed Seduction" catalog
was literally mailed to you.
256
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We mailed it.
257
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We got on the internet in 1991.
258
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Then I got
seductioncom in 1994.
259
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Back then they had
one search engine.
260
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You pretty much had to
know the URL of the site
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you wanted to go to.
262
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- I was 19 when I got into it.
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I was sitting in a pub called
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The Round Table in
Leicester Square,
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and a friend said to me,
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"Hey, you should read Ross
Jeffries newsletters."
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And then later on he gave me
the cassette to listen to.
268
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My only idea of
how to meet people
269
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would be go to
loud, horrible clubs
270
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and try to dance near people
and hope they notice me.
271
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And, yeah, as we all know,
272
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that doesn't really
work that well.
273
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- My name is Erik Von Markovik,
274
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commonly known to
the world as Mystery.
275
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And we're gonna do
a little experiment.
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Hey Siri,
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show me a picture
of a pickup artist.
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- Here are some
images of a pickup artist
279
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I found on the web.
280
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- They're all of me.
281
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There's one.
282
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There was something
called newsgroups.
283
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And Ross had created
his own newsgroup
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called altseductionfast.
285
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This is before Facebook groups.
286
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Fast Seduction was
his company name
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and there were about 40 members.
288
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When I first got online
and found about newsgroups
289
00:13:00,475 --> 00:13:03,608
I stumbled upon
altseductionfast.
290
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It was a niche, and I
found that fascinating.
291
00:13:06,307 --> 00:13:08,613
Finding out that there was
small burgeoning community,
292
00:13:08,744 --> 00:13:10,485
and I started growing it.
293
00:13:10,615 --> 00:13:13,923
I started responding to
questions that I had answers to.
294
00:13:16,970 --> 00:13:20,408
I had learnt by myself and
gotten a few girls in my life
295
00:13:20,538 --> 00:13:22,018
over the course of a few years,
296
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performing magic in night clubs.
297
00:13:24,542 --> 00:13:26,370
I was actually paid to be there,
298
00:13:26,501 --> 00:13:29,199
to be a point of
interest, right?
299
00:13:29,330 --> 00:13:32,420
I taught other guys up in
Toronto that which I know,
300
00:13:32,550 --> 00:13:34,639
specifically tactics
and strategies
301
00:13:34,726 --> 00:13:37,425
and I did it for
shits and giggles.
302
00:13:37,555 --> 00:13:39,688
That's mid-air appearance.
303
00:13:39,819 --> 00:13:40,820
That's all I'm saying.
304
00:13:40,950 --> 00:13:41,995
There's something to that.
305
00:13:42,082 --> 00:13:44,171
If I say, here, come
join me for a second.
306
00:13:44,301 --> 00:13:46,564
I look away while I do
it, and then look back,
307
00:13:46,695 --> 00:13:48,523
they're more likely to
do it than if I say,
308
00:13:48,653 --> 00:13:50,394
"Come join me for a sec."
309
00:13:50,525 --> 00:13:52,179
If I eyeball her,
"Come join me."
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They'll be like, "No."
311
00:13:53,789 --> 00:13:54,921
But if I say, "Here,
come here for a sec."
312
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Okay.
313
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See that body language?
314
00:13:58,141 --> 00:13:59,273
They're more likely to come.
315
00:14:01,144 --> 00:14:03,320
- The old days of
discovering pickup material
316
00:14:03,451 --> 00:14:05,670
were just like coming
across this secret treasure
317
00:14:05,801 --> 00:14:07,542
that no one else knew about.
318
00:14:09,718 --> 00:14:11,807
You would think, "Wow, I just
learned this secret language."
319
00:14:11,894 --> 00:14:14,288
"I have this special
superpower now
320
00:14:14,418 --> 00:14:16,768
"that none of my friends have."
321
00:14:16,899 --> 00:14:19,293
I noticed I was more
arrogant with women.
322
00:14:19,380 --> 00:14:21,034
I wasn't afraid to talk to them.
323
00:14:21,164 --> 00:14:22,862
That was a big thing for me.
324
00:14:22,949 --> 00:14:25,342
And, I was no longer
intimidated by other men,
325
00:14:25,473 --> 00:14:27,736
because I felt I had a
superpower, in a way.
326
00:14:29,912 --> 00:14:32,088
At least that's what it
was like at the beginning.
327
00:14:38,921 --> 00:14:40,792
- I was up in Toronto and I'd
wanted to live in Hollywood.
328
00:14:40,923 --> 00:14:43,534
So, I created Project Hollywood.
329
00:14:43,665 --> 00:14:46,320
That's a nice town, filled
with beautiful women.
330
00:14:46,450 --> 00:14:48,452
I wanted to meet them.
331
00:14:48,539 --> 00:14:51,238
I had some Hollywood aspirations
that I wanted to pursue.
332
00:15:03,946 --> 00:15:06,862
Project Hollywood
was a collaboration.
333
00:15:06,949 --> 00:15:07,994
I wanted to live in
a nice, big place
334
00:15:08,124 --> 00:15:10,083
and I wanted to
share it with others.
335
00:15:10,213 --> 00:15:11,780
And so, we had five guys
all move in together.
336
00:15:16,393 --> 00:15:18,569
Everyone that lived in that
house was a pickup artist.
337
00:15:20,571 --> 00:15:23,923
We had Papa, we had Owen,
also known as Tyler Durden,
338
00:15:24,053 --> 00:15:25,881
or just TD.
339
00:15:26,012 --> 00:15:30,016
Myself, Herbal T, and Neil
Strauss, AKA. Style.
340
00:15:32,018 --> 00:15:33,323
What's with your picture
in Rolling Stone?
341
00:15:33,454 --> 00:15:34,977
Ew.
342
00:15:35,108 --> 00:15:37,414
Neil was a writer and
went and done interviews
343
00:15:37,545 --> 00:15:39,155
with Courtney Love and
they got on very well.
344
00:15:39,286 --> 00:15:40,678
So, she was invited
to stay with us.
345
00:15:43,768 --> 00:15:45,988
We had a rockstar secretly
living in our house
346
00:15:46,119 --> 00:15:47,250
surrounded by pickup artists.
347
00:15:48,556 --> 00:15:50,036
- One of you guys
348
00:15:50,123 --> 00:15:50,950
- can have that bed.
- I use that bed.
349
00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:52,342
- Hey Neil!
- Yes.
350
00:15:52,473 --> 00:15:53,343
- Don't let me
give anything else
351
00:15:53,430 --> 00:15:55,128
but that bed, alright?
352
00:15:55,258 --> 00:15:57,565
'Cause I'll end up giving
away too much shit, okay?
353
00:15:57,695 --> 00:15:58,522
- Right.
354
00:16:01,264 --> 00:16:03,701
- We lived just two minutes
from Sunset Boulevard.
355
00:16:03,788 --> 00:16:05,660
It's the Hollywood dream.
356
00:16:05,790 --> 00:16:08,358
Beautiful house right by all
the night clubs, restaurants,
357
00:16:08,445 --> 00:16:09,751
lots of social environments
358
00:16:09,881 --> 00:16:12,580
with which to
interact with people.
359
00:16:12,667 --> 00:16:15,626
- Project Hollywood became
the focus of the pickup world.
360
00:16:15,757 --> 00:16:18,194
Everybody who was into
pickup followed it.
361
00:16:18,325 --> 00:16:21,981
You had this whole online forum
of thousands and thousands,
362
00:16:22,111 --> 00:16:24,679
all following what these
guys were doing in Hollywood
363
00:16:24,809 --> 00:16:26,898
and then doing the same thing
in their own towns or cities
364
00:16:26,986 --> 00:16:28,900
and sharing their experiences.
365
00:16:29,031 --> 00:16:31,599
It was essentially a
laboratory for guys to go out
366
00:16:31,729 --> 00:16:33,601
and try different
tactics and techniques.
367
00:16:33,731 --> 00:16:35,429
If you went out and
tried something,
368
00:16:35,559 --> 00:16:37,692
you would write a field
report with the details.
369
00:16:37,822 --> 00:16:39,215
And then, if you got laid,
370
00:16:39,302 --> 00:16:41,174
you'd write what they
called a Lay Report.
371
00:16:43,915 --> 00:16:45,134
- They invited me
to be in that house.
372
00:16:45,265 --> 00:16:46,527
I said, I'm not gonna
live in a frat house.
373
00:16:46,657 --> 00:16:48,007
I'm not a college boy.
374
00:16:48,137 --> 00:16:50,531
They stayed out to all
hours of the night,
375
00:16:50,661 --> 00:16:54,230
they lived a drunken lifestyle,
they were living like bums.
376
00:17:00,410 --> 00:17:02,804
- I always loved living
in a theatrical family,
377
00:17:02,934 --> 00:17:04,675
creating an extended
family with friends.
378
00:17:06,416 --> 00:17:08,070
Project Hollywood worked
for the longest time.
379
00:17:10,072 --> 00:17:11,726
At least up until a point where
380
00:17:11,856 --> 00:17:14,294
a roommate of mine, Herbal T,
381
00:17:14,424 --> 00:17:17,819
ended up having sex with
a girlfriend of mine
382
00:17:17,906 --> 00:17:19,864
that we had just
broken up that day.
383
00:17:21,823 --> 00:17:23,085
I heard it.
384
00:17:23,216 --> 00:17:24,652
It was a room near the kitchen.
385
00:17:26,262 --> 00:17:27,872
It really affected
me emotionally,
386
00:17:28,003 --> 00:17:32,007
and I've never felt jealousy
with that much weight.
387
00:17:32,094 --> 00:17:33,748
I didn't have tools
to handle that.
388
00:17:33,878 --> 00:17:35,750
I was talking about suicide.
389
00:17:35,837 --> 00:17:38,405
Neil took that seriously, as
he would as a good friend,
390
00:17:38,535 --> 00:17:40,407
and he took me to a hospital.
391
00:17:43,845 --> 00:17:44,541
He wrote about that.
392
00:17:45,673 --> 00:17:47,283
That very thing.
393
00:17:47,414 --> 00:17:48,850
But I remember all of it, yeah.
394
00:17:53,376 --> 00:17:55,509
- It's interesting,
really, because you've got
395
00:17:55,639 --> 00:17:57,467
an underground industry
and then you've got
396
00:17:57,554 --> 00:18:01,602
an undercover journalist
exposing this industry.
397
00:18:01,689 --> 00:18:03,082
- Well, when they do an article
398
00:18:03,169 --> 00:18:04,257
on the great fucking
author Neil Strauss,
399
00:18:04,387 --> 00:18:07,042
then I'll fucking have
them do my picture.
400
00:18:07,173 --> 00:18:09,131
Even then I'd have
them do a caricature.
401
00:18:09,218 --> 00:18:11,351
- When Neil wrote
The Game, he knew.
402
00:18:11,481 --> 00:18:12,569
When he was living
among those guys,
403
00:18:12,700 --> 00:18:14,049
he was secretly
writing about them
404
00:18:14,180 --> 00:18:16,791
all the while pretending
to be their friends.
405
00:18:16,921 --> 00:18:19,707
It's a very sociopathic
thing to do, isn't it?
406
00:18:19,837 --> 00:18:21,404
- We're going to do a topic
407
00:18:21,535 --> 00:18:22,927
that Andrea wants to discuss
today 'cause she found
408
00:18:23,058 --> 00:18:25,191
this very interesting book.
409
00:18:25,321 --> 00:18:27,018
- It's called
"The Game" by Neil Strauss.
410
00:18:27,149 --> 00:18:28,150
- This is a
man's bible, right?
411
00:18:28,281 --> 00:18:30,152
- It's got gold pages
and it's even got
412
00:18:30,239 --> 00:18:31,762
a ribbon bookmark here.
413
00:18:31,893 --> 00:18:33,460
The subtitle is
414
00:18:33,590 --> 00:18:35,462
"Penetrating The Secret
Society Of Pickup Artists."
415
00:18:35,592 --> 00:18:37,028
- When the teachers
at the time realized
416
00:18:37,116 --> 00:18:38,987
that this was gonna be a book,
417
00:18:39,118 --> 00:18:41,120
they were quite nervous about
the industry being exposed.
418
00:18:41,250 --> 00:18:42,643
- Disarm the obstacles.
419
00:18:42,773 --> 00:18:45,036
- I wanna know what --
Disarming the obstacles?
420
00:18:45,167 --> 00:18:47,604
This sounds like a frigging
FBI tactical sorta thing.
421
00:18:47,735 --> 00:18:48,779
What's this one?
422
00:18:48,910 --> 00:18:50,999
"Isolate the target."
423
00:18:51,086 --> 00:18:52,740
Like, give me a break.
424
00:18:52,870 --> 00:18:55,003
There is the target, I
must disarm the obstacles.
425
00:18:57,179 --> 00:19:00,182
- "The Game" was really the
book that put pickup on the map.
426
00:19:00,269 --> 00:19:01,618
Before "The Game" came out,
427
00:19:01,749 --> 00:19:03,142
pickup companies were
quite underground.
428
00:19:03,229 --> 00:19:06,232
There were maybe three
or four companies.
429
00:19:06,362 --> 00:19:08,886
And, if you were
outside the industry,
430
00:19:09,017 --> 00:19:10,845
you wouldn't even
know it existed.
431
00:19:10,932 --> 00:19:13,674
- In fact what "The Game"
did was create this industry
432
00:19:13,804 --> 00:19:15,415
that just boomed.
433
00:19:15,545 --> 00:19:17,199
And these people shot to fame
and everybody wanted them
434
00:19:17,330 --> 00:19:19,070
to teach them.
435
00:19:19,201 --> 00:19:20,115
- And I was like, this is
gonna change everything.
436
00:19:20,246 --> 00:19:22,117
No.
437
00:19:22,248 --> 00:19:24,815
But it didn't, it just opened
up people wanting to hire me.
438
00:19:30,952 --> 00:19:32,388
- What's up?
439
00:19:32,519 --> 00:19:33,172
Bruce Wayne with
Justin Wayne Dating.
440
00:19:33,302 --> 00:19:34,564
- What's up?
441
00:19:34,695 --> 00:19:35,783
It's Justin Wayne, and
I have another Q&A.
442
00:19:35,913 --> 00:19:37,219
- My name's Shaun Michael.
443
00:19:37,350 --> 00:19:39,395
For those that know
me, AKA. Discovery.
444
00:19:39,526 --> 00:19:42,964
- I'm Paul Janka, this
is "Beyond The Digits."
445
00:19:43,051 --> 00:19:45,053
- You had dozens of
companies forming,
446
00:19:45,140 --> 00:19:47,142
trying to capitalize on the
popularity of that book.
447
00:19:49,144 --> 00:19:51,451
Any company which had any
association with pickup
448
00:19:51,581 --> 00:19:53,975
or "The Game," was successful.
449
00:19:54,105 --> 00:19:55,237
- Are we all ready to settle in?
450
00:19:56,630 --> 00:19:57,544
Where's Beckster?
451
00:19:57,674 --> 00:20:00,199
I'm here.
452
00:20:00,286 --> 00:20:01,504
You've met, Danny.
453
00:20:01,635 --> 00:20:02,766
- Yeah, yeah, I met 'em all.
454
00:20:02,853 --> 00:20:04,594
- Okay, very good then.
455
00:20:04,725 --> 00:20:05,900
- Take a seat guys.
456
00:20:06,030 --> 00:20:09,251
- Yep, let's all settle in.
457
00:20:09,338 --> 00:20:12,385
- I created a company
called Social Dynamics.
458
00:20:12,472 --> 00:20:16,606
And then, my lead coach,
Tyler Durden, and Papa
459
00:20:16,737 --> 00:20:19,435
decided to take my mailing list,
460
00:20:19,566 --> 00:20:21,089
find out who those people were,
461
00:20:21,220 --> 00:20:23,831
and without telling me,
create their own sales letter.
462
00:20:23,918 --> 00:20:25,920
And they sold to the very people
463
00:20:26,007 --> 00:20:27,574
that were on my customer list.
464
00:20:29,663 --> 00:20:32,796
And the company's name was
RSD, Real Social Dynamics.
465
00:20:32,927 --> 00:20:35,582
- Mystery originally called
his stuff Social Dynamics.
466
00:20:35,712 --> 00:20:39,107
Tyler came along and
with his partner, Papa,
467
00:20:39,238 --> 00:20:41,675
created their own business,
Real Social Dynamics.
468
00:20:41,805 --> 00:20:43,242
They stole it from right
out from under him.
469
00:20:43,372 --> 00:20:45,200
- Jackasses.
470
00:20:45,331 --> 00:20:46,941
Forgiven, it was
a long time ago.
471
00:20:48,856 --> 00:20:50,858
They were studious,
they were industrious.
472
00:20:55,428 --> 00:20:56,951
- Ladies
and gentlemen,
473
00:20:57,038 --> 00:20:59,867
welcome to tonight's
wonderful RSD free tour.
474
00:21:02,130 --> 00:21:03,784
Your speaker this evening
comes from a faraway land
475
00:21:03,914 --> 00:21:06,090
in the middle of the alps.
476
00:21:06,221 --> 00:21:08,658
The 5,000 person cow
town he grew up in
477
00:21:08,789 --> 00:21:11,008
didn't offer much opportunity,
478
00:21:11,139 --> 00:21:14,229
so he chose to get out,
learn to become a man,
479
00:21:14,360 --> 00:21:16,840
and master the skill
of getting with women
480
00:21:16,971 --> 00:21:19,495
who some might call
out of his league.
481
00:21:19,582 --> 00:21:21,192
Now, he's touring the world,
482
00:21:21,323 --> 00:21:22,629
teaching thousands
of men to get laid.
483
00:21:23,978 --> 00:21:27,111
If you want an amazing sex life,
484
00:21:27,242 --> 00:21:30,550
if you want to get your
shit together and thrive,
485
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:34,293
then please give a warm applause
and welcome RSD Maximilian!
486
00:21:48,829 --> 00:21:49,264
- Thanks so much for this
warm, very, very warm welcome.
487
00:21:51,701 --> 00:21:54,051
Thanks for so much for all
of these familiar faces.
488
00:21:54,182 --> 00:21:56,140
Thanks a ton for
all these new faces.
489
00:21:56,271 --> 00:21:57,620
Who would've thought,
who would've thought?
490
00:21:59,666 --> 00:22:03,496
Being good with girls is a
skill just like any other skill.
491
00:22:03,626 --> 00:22:05,324
If you say like,
492
00:22:05,454 --> 00:22:06,716
"Okay, I'm teaching guys
how to get good with women."
493
00:22:06,847 --> 00:22:08,109
People are like,
494
00:22:08,239 --> 00:22:10,198
"Why do you have to put
in some strategies now?"
495
00:22:10,329 --> 00:22:13,810
"That's weird, I don't
like that, that's creepy."
496
00:22:16,204 --> 00:22:17,858
I think Arnold
Schwarzenegger said,
497
00:22:17,988 --> 00:22:19,903
"If everybody likes you,
you're doing something wrong."
498
00:22:20,034 --> 00:22:21,209
You don't wanna be
liked by everybody,
499
00:22:21,296 --> 00:22:23,385
you wanna be loved
by a lot of people,
500
00:22:23,516 --> 00:22:26,519
and hated by a lot of
people, you know what I mean?
501
00:22:26,649 --> 00:22:28,695
- Gentlemen, if you wanna
switch your phones off now?
502
00:22:28,825 --> 00:22:31,741
I mean really properly
off, and no recording.
503
00:22:31,872 --> 00:22:33,656
- Look, we have to take
this gentlemen right here
504
00:22:33,787 --> 00:22:37,486
and turn him into a
master pickup artist.
505
00:22:37,617 --> 00:22:38,966
- And I'm gonna tell you
the three biggest concerns
506
00:22:39,053 --> 00:22:40,620
from my point, and hands
up if you agree with that.
507
00:22:40,750 --> 00:22:43,362
Number one, I'm afraid.
508
00:22:43,492 --> 00:22:45,189
Approach anxiety.
509
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:46,277
That's what it's called.
AA, Approach Anxiety.
510
00:22:46,408 --> 00:22:48,758
You need to learn
how to handle it
511
00:22:48,845 --> 00:22:50,499
or you need to get rid of it.
512
00:22:50,630 --> 00:22:52,936
- I'm sure we can all relate
to the hot girl walking by,
513
00:22:53,067 --> 00:22:55,025
I'm stationary,
and I'm thinking,
514
00:22:55,112 --> 00:22:56,853
"Second one, second
two, second three."
515
00:22:56,940 --> 00:22:58,333
- Obey the three second rule.
516
00:22:58,420 --> 00:23:00,640
You see the girl, three seconds,
you must be approaching.
517
00:23:00,727 --> 00:23:02,337
You might not know what to say.
518
00:23:02,424 --> 00:23:04,513
Your stomach is
eating your testicles
519
00:23:04,644 --> 00:23:06,472
for a bit of encouragement
and nourishment,
520
00:23:06,559 --> 00:23:07,951
but at least you're moving over.
521
00:23:08,082 --> 00:23:09,126
- You need to go out to bars,
522
00:23:09,257 --> 00:23:11,694
you need to go
out to nightclubs,
523
00:23:11,781 --> 00:23:13,914
you need to go out to the
grocery store and talk to women.
524
00:23:17,787 --> 00:23:19,398
- Just have fun.
525
00:23:19,528 --> 00:23:22,749
You see, the best way for
me to really be myself
526
00:23:22,879 --> 00:23:27,188
is to do silly things and do
things that make me have fun.
527
00:23:27,318 --> 00:23:29,016
And sometimes, you get
rejected and that's okay.
528
00:23:30,844 --> 00:23:31,714
Hi, how are you?
529
00:23:35,544 --> 00:23:37,111
And then you do silly
stuff like that.
530
00:23:37,198 --> 00:23:38,286
You can re-approach too.
531
00:23:39,635 --> 00:23:41,507
Sorry for weirding you out.
532
00:23:41,594 --> 00:23:42,812
- That's okay.
533
00:23:42,943 --> 00:23:43,639
- I'm Andrew, by the way.
534
00:23:45,293 --> 00:23:46,468
I promise I'm...
535
00:23:49,732 --> 00:23:50,385
Where are you guys from?
536
00:23:53,170 --> 00:23:56,304
Okay, okay, I'm not that
annoying guy that always...
537
00:23:56,391 --> 00:23:57,784
I don't know why I
wanna talk to you.
538
00:23:57,914 --> 00:23:58,698
I think, I don't know.
539
00:24:00,700 --> 00:24:02,441
Okay, whatever.
540
00:24:02,571 --> 00:24:04,573
And then, if you re-approach
and you suck anyways,
541
00:24:04,704 --> 00:24:05,487
it doesn't matter.
542
00:24:07,707 --> 00:24:08,708
- Who here has
ever been rejected?
543
00:24:08,838 --> 00:24:09,796
Say "I".
544
00:24:09,926 --> 00:24:10,971
- I.
545
00:24:11,101 --> 00:24:13,103
- My God, so loud.
546
00:24:13,234 --> 00:24:14,757
- I actually have got a
really unusual perspective
547
00:24:14,888 --> 00:24:15,802
on the industry.
548
00:24:15,932 --> 00:24:16,977
Mostly, because I'm a girl.
549
00:24:19,109 --> 00:24:22,112
What drew me to be a part of
this was the fascination of it.
550
00:24:22,243 --> 00:24:23,723
I was fresh out of
a psychology degree.
551
00:24:23,853 --> 00:24:25,420
I was really interested
552
00:24:25,551 --> 00:24:28,510
in human interaction
and human behavior.
553
00:24:28,641 --> 00:24:30,425
All of the guys teaching
were really only interested
554
00:24:30,556 --> 00:24:32,209
in what works.
555
00:24:32,296 --> 00:24:34,516
I was more interested
in why it worked.
556
00:24:34,647 --> 00:24:37,432
- Why are men shit with women?
557
00:24:37,563 --> 00:24:41,610
One of the basic ones is 'cause
you're boring to listen to.
558
00:24:41,741 --> 00:24:44,221
But, you can work on it,
it's not about looks,
559
00:24:44,308 --> 00:24:46,049
it's about identity.
560
00:24:46,180 --> 00:24:49,705
You create that, I guarantee
you will have choice,
561
00:24:52,142 --> 00:24:54,275
and that choice is
very, very rewarding.
562
00:24:54,405 --> 00:24:56,103
- A lot of the industry works,
563
00:24:56,233 --> 00:24:58,105
and this is how the stuff
in "The Game" works,
564
00:24:58,235 --> 00:25:01,369
by creating a persona
and teaching somebody
565
00:25:01,500 --> 00:25:03,893
how to be that person.
566
00:25:05,068 --> 00:25:06,243
- This is Max from
Real Social Dynamics.
567
00:25:06,374 --> 00:25:07,723
Today, I'm gonna
talk to you about
568
00:25:07,854 --> 00:25:09,595
how to be a badass motherfucker.
569
00:25:15,514 --> 00:25:17,864
- We're going to be getting
the girls chasing us.
570
00:25:17,951 --> 00:25:21,824
In all our way of being
we'll be conveying to them
571
00:25:21,911 --> 00:25:24,566
that we're accustomed
to beauty, right?
572
00:25:24,697 --> 00:25:26,394
So they're gonna need a lot
more that their looks alone
573
00:25:26,525 --> 00:25:28,178
in order to win us over.
574
00:25:28,309 --> 00:25:30,790
- 'Cause beauty is their
financial value initially.
575
00:25:30,877 --> 00:25:32,008
- Do you see how I've instantly
576
00:25:32,095 --> 00:25:33,793
become the prize
in that statement?
577
00:25:33,923 --> 00:25:35,272
- But it has a shelf life.
578
00:25:37,100 --> 00:25:39,799
From the age of 30 plus,
it starts to depreciate.
579
00:25:39,929 --> 00:25:41,757
- That's the game plan.
580
00:25:41,888 --> 00:25:44,151
That's the narrative
for all pickups.
581
00:25:44,238 --> 00:25:46,196
- You need to choose the target.
582
00:25:46,327 --> 00:25:49,286
But to get to the hot one, you
gotta win over her friends.
583
00:25:49,417 --> 00:25:51,071
Engage everyone in the group.
584
00:25:51,201 --> 00:25:54,074
The little ugly one, the fat
one, everyone gets engaged,
585
00:25:54,204 --> 00:25:55,728
'cause the hot one is used
to getting more interest.
586
00:25:55,858 --> 00:25:57,947
Do the opposite, it's
gonna confuse her, hold on.
587
00:25:58,034 --> 00:25:59,645
She's gonna then want to
interject a little bit more,
588
00:25:59,775 --> 00:26:01,037
then you get to
tease and challenge.
589
00:26:01,168 --> 00:26:03,387
- It does work,
I wish it didn't.
590
00:26:03,518 --> 00:26:06,173
It works because it's not
what girls are used to.
591
00:26:06,303 --> 00:26:09,393
- Lock-in within one
to three minutes.
592
00:26:09,524 --> 00:26:12,788
I wanna lean back against a
wall, or a table, or a bar,
593
00:26:12,919 --> 00:26:14,094
looks like they're gaming me
594
00:26:14,224 --> 00:26:16,400
as opposed to me being
the guy leaning in.
595
00:26:16,531 --> 00:26:18,489
- Your lock-in was like this,
596
00:26:18,620 --> 00:26:21,014
but it shoulda been like this.
597
00:26:21,144 --> 00:26:23,712
Or better, if that's
your target, like this,
598
00:26:23,799 --> 00:26:25,322
where they have to
earn you turning
599
00:26:25,453 --> 00:26:27,107
and showing more interest.
600
00:26:27,194 --> 00:26:29,152
It makes the girl realize
that you've got high value.
601
00:26:29,239 --> 00:26:31,024
It's a high value of
male behavior to do that.
602
00:26:31,154 --> 00:26:34,114
80% of attraction is
Demonstrating Higher Value.
603
00:26:34,244 --> 00:26:35,942
That's what DHVing is.
604
00:26:36,072 --> 00:26:38,988
The art of storytelling and
bragging without bragging.
605
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:40,816
- When people hear
the term pickup
606
00:26:40,947 --> 00:26:43,123
they often think about some
sort of really smooth guy
607
00:26:43,253 --> 00:26:45,516
walking into a bar,
delivering a one liner,
608
00:26:45,647 --> 00:26:47,954
but actually, it's more
of a process, really.
609
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:54,221
- You got Attraction,
Comfort, and Seduction.
610
00:26:57,050 --> 00:26:58,834
- People say
611
00:26:58,965 --> 00:26:59,443
"Just be yourself and say
whatever comes to mind."
612
00:26:59,574 --> 00:27:00,967
If be yourself was working,
613
00:27:01,097 --> 00:27:03,665
you wouldn't fucking be
here in the first place.
614
00:27:03,752 --> 00:27:05,449
- There is a structure
to solid pickup,
615
00:27:05,580 --> 00:27:07,582
a narrative arc
from meeting a girl
616
00:27:07,669 --> 00:27:09,889
to beginning a
sexual relationship.
617
00:27:10,019 --> 00:27:13,675
That arc follows a
series of phases.
618
00:27:13,806 --> 00:27:15,895
- As complex as it might sound,
619
00:27:16,025 --> 00:27:19,028
this is what happens
in normal courtship.
620
00:27:19,159 --> 00:27:20,639
- Each phase has an objective,
I'm gonna name them now.
621
00:27:22,684 --> 00:27:24,294
A1, open.
622
00:27:25,992 --> 00:27:27,471
- I've gotta
be able to open
623
00:27:27,602 --> 00:27:29,691
and I've gotta be able
to stimulate fast.
624
00:27:29,778 --> 00:27:33,260
- An opener is essentially
a conversation starter.
625
00:27:33,390 --> 00:27:34,522
Something silly like,
"You look like a teacher."
626
00:27:34,653 --> 00:27:37,786
But, that's good enough
to start a conversation.
627
00:27:37,873 --> 00:27:38,874
- Hat girl, can I
ask you a question?
628
00:27:39,005 --> 00:27:41,094
You're fun, is this Ed Hardy?
629
00:27:41,224 --> 00:27:42,356
No.
- No, it's Wass.
630
00:27:42,443 --> 00:27:43,879
- Wow, you got good style.
631
00:27:44,010 --> 00:27:45,272
- Ask her.
632
00:27:45,402 --> 00:27:46,099
- Do you do
anything creative?
633
00:27:46,229 --> 00:27:47,491
- No.
634
00:27:47,622 --> 00:27:48,797
- You look like you
do something creative.
635
00:27:48,928 --> 00:27:50,233
- Get off the
phone, get off the phone now.
636
00:27:50,364 --> 00:27:51,974
And introduce yourself to me.
637
00:27:52,105 --> 00:27:53,106
- I'm not on my phone.
- Introduce yourself to me.
638
00:27:53,236 --> 00:27:54,585
- I'm Maximilian.
- I'm Natalie,
639
00:27:54,716 --> 00:27:56,936
nice to meet you.
- Maximilian, hi.
640
00:27:57,066 --> 00:27:59,199
- We've got, what's
known as, the FTC,
641
00:27:59,329 --> 00:28:00,461
False Time Constraint.
642
00:28:02,550 --> 00:28:04,857
If, for instance, I were to
stand up and kick my chair out
643
00:28:04,987 --> 00:28:07,207
as if I was about to go,
that's a false time constraint.
644
00:28:07,337 --> 00:28:09,600
It's not verbal, it's
a non-verbal false
time constraint.
645
00:28:09,731 --> 00:28:10,819
I can only stay a second,
I have my friends here.
646
00:28:10,950 --> 00:28:11,820
May I?
647
00:28:13,387 --> 00:28:15,519
Ask for permission to sit down.
648
00:28:15,606 --> 00:28:18,522
And I'm back, right?
649
00:28:18,653 --> 00:28:20,742
It looks like I'm about to
go and then I can come back,
650
00:28:20,873 --> 00:28:22,309
and, "Okay, get this."
651
00:28:22,439 --> 00:28:23,919
- By the way, I just
noticed before I head off
652
00:28:24,006 --> 00:28:27,009
you have this kind of like
really artistic, creative vibe.
653
00:28:29,533 --> 00:28:31,274
- Something you might say,
654
00:28:31,405 --> 00:28:32,754
something that the pickup
companies might teach you
655
00:28:32,885 --> 00:28:35,104
are these things called negs.
656
00:28:35,235 --> 00:28:38,325
Negs are negative comments
or backhanded compliments
657
00:28:38,455 --> 00:28:40,022
you might say to a girl, like --
658
00:28:40,153 --> 00:28:41,371
- Apart from the sweaty
hands you're pretty cool.
659
00:28:41,458 --> 00:28:43,199
- My God!
660
00:28:43,330 --> 00:28:44,331
- I'm just kidding, I'm just
kidding, I'm just kidding.
661
00:28:44,418 --> 00:28:46,159
- It's so
mean, it's so mean.
662
00:28:46,246 --> 00:28:48,509
- Like you could
say, "Nice shoes."
663
00:28:48,596 --> 00:28:49,423
And where do you go from there?
664
00:28:49,553 --> 00:28:50,163
That's the compliment.
665
00:28:50,293 --> 00:28:51,860
"Nice shoes."
666
00:28:51,991 --> 00:28:53,166
"Thanks, my boyfriend
bought them for me."
667
00:28:53,296 --> 00:28:55,037
And she shuts you down.
668
00:28:55,168 --> 00:28:55,734
- Girls, girls, come here,
- What's your name?
669
00:28:55,864 --> 00:28:56,560
- come here, come here.
670
00:28:56,691 --> 00:28:57,387
Hi, hi, hi.
671
00:28:57,474 --> 00:28:58,824
- Hi, hi.
672
00:28:58,954 --> 00:29:00,564
- Welcome to the
party, my name's Max.
673
00:29:00,695 --> 00:29:01,565
- Max, Gisele.
674
00:29:01,696 --> 00:29:02,610
- I love how you smell.
675
00:29:04,481 --> 00:29:05,961
- Really?
676
00:29:06,092 --> 00:29:07,267
- It reminds
me of my grandma.
677
00:29:08,659 --> 00:29:10,183
- 'Cause when you
first approach a girl,
678
00:29:10,270 --> 00:29:11,880
you're doing most
of the talking.
679
00:29:12,011 --> 00:29:14,927
Now, at some point, you really
have to get it equalized
680
00:29:15,057 --> 00:29:16,929
and get her to invest in you.
681
00:29:17,059 --> 00:29:18,539
Qualification is a tool
you're gonna use here.
682
00:29:18,669 --> 00:29:21,847
I want to get her to
try to prove herself
683
00:29:21,934 --> 00:29:23,457
worthy to me in
different ways, okay?
684
00:29:23,587 --> 00:29:24,937
- Challenge her a little bit.
685
00:29:25,024 --> 00:29:26,286
That's called qualifying.
686
00:29:26,416 --> 00:29:27,591
You get to reward her.
687
00:29:27,722 --> 00:29:30,551
Wow, you do that? Check you.
688
00:29:30,681 --> 00:29:32,118
Guys that don't do
that are the guys
689
00:29:32,248 --> 00:29:33,684
who are not getting laid
690
00:29:33,815 --> 00:29:34,773
because they're just
trying to impress.
691
00:29:34,903 --> 00:29:36,078
- How old are you by the way?
692
00:29:37,688 --> 00:29:39,603
- You shouldn't
ask a lady her age.
693
00:29:39,690 --> 00:29:41,083
- It's fine, it's fine.
I'm not judging you.
694
00:29:41,214 --> 00:29:43,259
- 37.
695
00:29:43,390 --> 00:29:45,087
- You're 37?
696
00:29:45,218 --> 00:29:47,481
- Game works best on
people with insecurities.
697
00:29:47,568 --> 00:29:49,744
It plays on insecurities.
698
00:29:49,875 --> 00:29:51,615
That's why it works.
699
00:29:51,746 --> 00:29:52,921
- If you were
a little taller
700
00:29:53,052 --> 00:29:54,444
I would totally
make out with you.
701
00:29:54,575 --> 00:29:56,969
- It works on girls who are
putting on an act themselves
702
00:29:57,099 --> 00:29:58,884
of being more confident
than they really are.
703
00:29:59,014 --> 00:30:01,843
When a guy cuts through
that to her vulnerable self,
704
00:30:04,063 --> 00:30:07,370
that's where it works
and the power shifts.
705
00:30:07,501 --> 00:30:09,720
- You know when a women really
knows that she wants you,
706
00:30:11,853 --> 00:30:13,899
when she recognizes that
another women likes you too.
707
00:30:14,029 --> 00:30:16,379
That's called a
jealousy plot line.
708
00:30:16,510 --> 00:30:21,080
I used to leave a Gucci
shoe, an old spare Gucci shoe
709
00:30:21,167 --> 00:30:22,603
at the door, and girls
all said, "Whose is that?"
710
00:30:22,733 --> 00:30:24,953
"I don't know, some
girl left it sometime."
711
00:30:26,476 --> 00:30:27,608
Comfort is a natural phase.
712
00:30:27,738 --> 00:30:29,653
I'm not gonna go into
loads of details.
713
00:30:29,740 --> 00:30:31,786
Build an emotional
connection, then a physical.
714
00:30:31,917 --> 00:30:33,222
When you feel that
emotional connection,
715
00:30:33,353 --> 00:30:36,530
that is the moment that
kissing should occur.
716
00:30:36,617 --> 00:30:40,708
If you don't do some sort
of physical escalation then,
717
00:30:40,839 --> 00:30:41,927
you will pay the price later on.
718
00:30:42,057 --> 00:30:44,320
- ABC, always be closing.
719
00:30:44,451 --> 00:30:46,235
What do I mean by
closing though?
720
00:30:46,366 --> 00:30:47,193
What is a close?
721
00:30:47,323 --> 00:30:48,803
It's not just a number.
722
00:30:48,934 --> 00:30:51,066
It's a future plan.
723
00:30:51,197 --> 00:30:54,591
It's bouncing to another bar.
724
00:30:54,678 --> 00:30:56,332
It's many stages.
725
00:30:56,463 --> 00:30:58,334
But always have to be
moving forward and closing.
726
00:30:58,465 --> 00:30:59,727
- Isolating.
727
00:30:59,858 --> 00:31:01,120
- Isolating, exactly.
728
00:31:01,250 --> 00:31:02,730
- And the next
phase is seduction.
729
00:31:05,994 --> 00:31:07,474
S1 is called foreplay.
730
00:31:07,604 --> 00:31:09,693
Just the natural phases.
731
00:31:09,824 --> 00:31:13,175
The next phase is LMR,
Last Minute Resistance.
732
00:31:13,306 --> 00:31:15,047
The point of no return
before sex occurs.
733
00:31:15,177 --> 00:31:17,179
This is that emotional
wiring that says,
734
00:31:17,310 --> 00:31:19,703
"Fuck, if I fuck this
guy, I might get pregnant,
735
00:31:19,834 --> 00:31:21,053
"I might get in trouble."
736
00:31:21,183 --> 00:31:22,619
It's an emotional thing,
it's not rational.
737
00:31:22,750 --> 00:31:23,707
She really wanted to fuck you,
738
00:31:23,838 --> 00:31:25,448
but she's gonna get that sting.
739
00:31:25,579 --> 00:31:28,669
The worst thing you could
do is be Mr. Over Reactive,
740
00:31:28,799 --> 00:31:30,932
Mr. "Okay No Worries,"
and "I thought it was on,"
741
00:31:31,063 --> 00:31:33,021
and make it a big drama.
742
00:31:33,108 --> 00:31:35,545
Sometimes, they might
just do it to see
743
00:31:35,632 --> 00:31:39,506
if your emotional circuitry
is a bit mis-wired.
744
00:31:39,593 --> 00:31:40,986
- You have to know
the difference
745
00:31:41,116 --> 00:31:44,728
between real resistance
and unreal resistance,
746
00:31:44,859 --> 00:31:47,644
AKA. token resistance.
747
00:31:47,775 --> 00:31:49,603
- They might literally,
"Slow this down."
748
00:31:49,733 --> 00:31:50,821
"Yeah, it's not big deal."
749
00:31:50,952 --> 00:31:52,127
"Come on, tell me
about yourself."
750
00:31:52,258 --> 00:31:53,824
Pull her in, create tension.
751
00:31:55,522 --> 00:31:56,915
You grab her and then
push her away gently,
752
00:31:57,045 --> 00:31:58,917
just being playful.
753
00:31:59,047 --> 00:32:01,310
Build that sexual tension
and then escalate again.
754
00:32:01,441 --> 00:32:05,401
- Her logical mind has to
give at least some objections
755
00:32:05,532 --> 00:32:07,577
even though she's
really aroused already
756
00:32:07,708 --> 00:32:10,450
and she actually
wants you to lead her.
757
00:32:10,580 --> 00:32:12,800
- But expect that there is
this last minute resistance.
758
00:32:12,931 --> 00:32:13,975
- If you have enough openers,
759
00:32:14,062 --> 00:32:15,759
you have enough false
time constraints,
760
00:32:15,890 --> 00:32:16,935
you have enough negs,
761
00:32:17,065 --> 00:32:19,981
enough qualifier questions,
762
00:32:20,068 --> 00:32:21,765
and you have enough
comfort building material,
763
00:32:21,896 --> 00:32:24,203
you learn the structure,
anybody can do this.
764
00:32:24,333 --> 00:32:28,033
Open, neg, qualify,
move, comfort.
765
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:29,556
Boom.
766
00:32:29,643 --> 00:32:31,384
Meet the objectives
of each phase
767
00:32:31,514 --> 00:32:35,562
and you get the girl, that's
how that works, right?
768
00:32:37,216 --> 00:32:38,130
- A lot of what these
people are teaching you,
769
00:32:38,217 --> 00:32:41,046
it's almost like the
rat brain experiments
770
00:32:41,133 --> 00:32:44,788
where if the rat goes down one
pathway, you give it a treat,
771
00:32:44,875 --> 00:32:46,225
if it goes down the other,
they give it a shock.
772
00:32:46,355 --> 00:32:47,704
They're treating women
773
00:32:47,791 --> 00:32:49,706
as if they're stimulus
response machines,
774
00:32:49,837 --> 00:32:52,013
using reward and punishment.
775
00:32:52,144 --> 00:32:55,016
Now I'm gonna neg her,
now I'm gonna reward her.
776
00:32:55,103 --> 00:32:57,105
- We're going out with some
friends for dinner now, good.
777
00:32:57,236 --> 00:32:59,107
So, they're busy.
778
00:32:59,238 --> 00:33:01,153
- This is how they think about
people, as lab experiments.
779
00:33:03,938 --> 00:33:05,374
- Try to think outside the box.
780
00:33:05,461 --> 00:33:07,289
Don't just try to use this
tactic or that tactic.
781
00:33:07,376 --> 00:33:09,422
Think, "Okay, what can
I do to fuck this girl?"
782
00:33:09,552 --> 00:33:11,163
"What can I do to learn?"
783
00:33:11,293 --> 00:33:12,816
"What can I do to push the
situation a little bit more?"
784
00:33:12,947 --> 00:33:16,733
"What can I do to win
over the whole club?"
785
00:33:16,864 --> 00:33:18,518
"What can I do to
be fucking awesome?"
786
00:33:18,648 --> 00:33:20,259
"What can I do to have fun?"
787
00:33:20,389 --> 00:33:21,260
- I was at university.
788
00:33:23,218 --> 00:33:25,090
I had an interest in
learning about women
789
00:33:25,220 --> 00:33:26,961
or learning to be
better with women,
790
00:33:27,092 --> 00:33:28,571
and I had this knowledge
on what people did
791
00:33:28,702 --> 00:33:29,572
in online businesses.
792
00:33:31,270 --> 00:33:33,837
So, I had this idea
that what if I contacted
793
00:33:33,968 --> 00:33:36,449
some pickup companies and in
exchange for learning more
794
00:33:36,536 --> 00:33:38,538
about how to be
better with women,
795
00:33:38,625 --> 00:33:40,670
I gave them some
help with marketing.
796
00:33:41,845 --> 00:33:43,108
With those first clients,
797
00:33:43,238 --> 00:33:45,849
it was like working
with your heroes.
798
00:33:45,980 --> 00:33:47,112
I wanted to be like
them, I wanted to have
799
00:33:47,242 --> 00:33:49,810
that level of confidence.
800
00:33:49,940 --> 00:33:51,029
I even changed the way I spoke
801
00:33:51,159 --> 00:33:52,334
to sound a bit more like them.
802
00:33:53,596 --> 00:33:54,989
I was so grateful to be learning
803
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:56,860
about how to pick up
women or just be better,
804
00:33:56,991 --> 00:33:59,080
even just get a girlfriend.
805
00:33:59,211 --> 00:34:01,169
I thought, if I can learn from
these guys how to do that,
806
00:34:01,300 --> 00:34:03,737
it will all be worth
it, and I will help them
807
00:34:03,867 --> 00:34:06,218
as much as they want.
808
00:34:06,348 --> 00:34:07,654
- Hey! Was geht ab?
809
00:34:07,784 --> 00:34:09,003
This is Max from
Real Social Dynamics
810
00:34:09,134 --> 00:34:11,092
and today, we're in
Cologne, Germany.
811
00:34:11,223 --> 00:34:13,529
In this video, I want to talk
about the three easy steps
812
00:34:13,660 --> 00:34:16,750
that you need to do in order
to get from opening the girl,
813
00:34:16,837 --> 00:34:20,928
all the way to engaging in
sexual activities with the girl.
814
00:34:21,015 --> 00:34:23,017
And first and foremost,
most important point here,
815
00:34:23,148 --> 00:34:25,106
is comfort.
816
00:34:25,237 --> 00:34:28,022
You have to be
comfortable with yourself.
817
00:34:28,153 --> 00:34:29,719
If the girl is like,
"I know I'm not."
818
00:34:29,850 --> 00:34:32,026
- Figuring out how to get
customers in an industry
819
00:34:32,157 --> 00:34:35,116
that isn't socially
accepted is very difficult.
820
00:34:35,203 --> 00:34:36,335
You can't just take out
a magazine ad saying,
821
00:34:36,422 --> 00:34:39,425
"Hey, let's teach you
how to pick up women."
822
00:34:39,555 --> 00:34:41,253
Before, you had "The Game",
823
00:34:41,383 --> 00:34:43,820
and lot of people found out
about pickup through that.
824
00:34:43,951 --> 00:34:45,996
Now, what tends to
happen is someone
825
00:34:46,127 --> 00:34:47,215
will be sitting
at their computer
826
00:34:47,346 --> 00:34:49,087
watching some random
YouTube video,
827
00:34:49,217 --> 00:34:50,827
and in the related videos,
828
00:34:50,958 --> 00:34:52,481
you'll see a
thumbnail which says,
829
00:34:52,612 --> 00:34:54,614
"How to get a girl to like you?"
830
00:34:54,744 --> 00:34:55,963
And you will just click it
831
00:34:56,094 --> 00:34:59,532
because, what guy isn't
interested in that?
832
00:34:59,662 --> 00:35:02,100
And you're then presented
with this 20 minute speech
833
00:35:02,230 --> 00:35:05,755
by some pickup instructor,
and you watch it, and you go,
834
00:35:05,842 --> 00:35:07,540
"This is interesting."
835
00:35:07,670 --> 00:35:09,629
And you click on another
video, and it's like,
836
00:35:09,759 --> 00:35:11,370
"How to get laid."
837
00:35:11,500 --> 00:35:14,068
Every pickup seminar you went
to or every pickup company
838
00:35:14,199 --> 00:35:16,244
you saw online would have
infield videos of them
839
00:35:16,375 --> 00:35:20,335
actually using the stuff
that they were teaching.
840
00:35:20,466 --> 00:35:22,903
And you would see them talking
to women in nightclubs.
841
00:35:23,033 --> 00:35:24,383
- I love you.
842
00:35:24,513 --> 00:35:25,993
- You would see
them kissing them,
843
00:35:26,124 --> 00:35:27,821
or taking them home, or even
just flirting with them.
844
00:35:27,908 --> 00:35:29,083
And you would think like,
845
00:35:29,214 --> 00:35:31,868
"Wow, I want to be
able to do that."
846
00:35:31,999 --> 00:35:33,653
And when you saw
someone do that,
847
00:35:33,783 --> 00:35:35,307
that was all the proof you
needed that their stuff worked.
848
00:35:35,437 --> 00:35:38,701
- I saw you walking, you
had this really sexy,
849
00:35:38,788 --> 00:35:40,921
but, artistic vibe going on.
850
00:35:41,051 --> 00:35:42,705
Sorry, I'm Justin,
what's your name?
851
00:35:42,836 --> 00:35:45,012
All right, so, we've already
had over 200 million views
852
00:35:45,143 --> 00:35:48,276
from recording what you call
hidden camera pickup videos.
853
00:35:48,407 --> 00:35:50,974
You just press a simple
button like this.
854
00:35:53,194 --> 00:35:53,977
And the light comes on.
855
00:35:54,108 --> 00:35:55,196
You can see the light here.
856
00:35:55,327 --> 00:35:57,720
And then, I put
this across here.
857
00:35:59,461 --> 00:36:01,768
And yeah, it's actually
recording right now.
858
00:36:01,898 --> 00:36:03,161
- Hey guys, it's Mystery.
859
00:36:03,291 --> 00:36:04,727
- And Beckster.
860
00:36:04,858 --> 00:36:05,946
- And we are here
to tell you about
861
00:36:06,076 --> 00:36:08,296
the Golden Ticket
Pickup Artist event.
862
00:36:08,427 --> 00:36:12,082
Three days, two nights,
August 4th, 5th, and 6th.
863
00:36:12,213 --> 00:36:14,737
This bootcamp will kick you
in the ass and get you going,
864
00:36:14,868 --> 00:36:16,478
will get you started.
865
00:36:18,132 --> 00:36:18,785
- A bootcamp
is where a student
866
00:36:18,915 --> 00:36:22,005
will pay $1,000 to even $3,000
867
00:36:22,136 --> 00:36:24,791
to spend an allotted
amount of time
868
00:36:24,921 --> 00:36:26,749
with a pickup instructor.
869
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:30,013
The pickup instructor will
typically take you infield,
870
00:36:30,100 --> 00:36:32,494
where they will instruct
you to approach women.
871
00:36:32,625 --> 00:36:36,281
But, a bootcamp is
essentially, you pay some money
872
00:36:36,411 --> 00:36:38,108
for two days with an instructor
873
00:36:38,196 --> 00:36:39,327
to learn how to pickup women.
874
00:36:41,068 --> 00:36:42,504
- So, we're gonna
meet the boys now.
875
00:36:42,591 --> 00:36:44,593
I'm gonna take them
infield, get them in set,
876
00:36:44,724 --> 00:36:46,465
get them warmed up,
and then critique them,
877
00:36:46,595 --> 00:36:47,857
and then the real
game can start.
878
00:36:52,079 --> 00:36:52,862
All good?
879
00:36:52,949 --> 00:36:53,733
- Yeah, fuck yeah.
880
00:36:53,820 --> 00:36:54,821
- You look good.
881
00:36:54,951 --> 00:36:56,866
Hey man, you good?
882
00:36:56,953 --> 00:36:58,607
Remember to smile.
- Of course, how are you?
883
00:36:58,694 --> 00:37:01,175
- Approach anxiety is beating
you now, just start walking.
884
00:37:01,306 --> 00:37:03,438
Walk, walk, walk
with me, walk, walk.
885
00:37:03,569 --> 00:37:04,787
Put your hands on down.
886
00:37:04,918 --> 00:37:05,788
Walk, where are you gonna go?
887
00:37:05,919 --> 00:37:06,485
Pick a set.
888
00:37:06,615 --> 00:37:07,355
Come on.
889
00:37:09,836 --> 00:37:12,055
Don't be an excuse artist,
be a pickup artist.
890
00:37:12,186 --> 00:37:13,579
Two set coming.
891
00:37:14,754 --> 00:37:18,627
Guys, open immediately.
892
00:37:18,758 --> 00:37:19,933
Guys.
893
00:37:20,063 --> 00:37:22,327
Guys, open immediately.
894
00:37:22,414 --> 00:37:23,676
- Can I take a piss first?
895
00:37:23,806 --> 00:37:24,154
- I'm absolutely bursting.
- Yeah, yeah, of course.
896
00:37:24,285 --> 00:37:25,243
And then I will open.
897
00:37:26,766 --> 00:37:27,549
- Set, set, set.
898
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:29,769
Set, set, set.
899
00:37:29,899 --> 00:37:31,771
Set, set, set, set, set.
900
00:37:33,163 --> 00:37:33,903
Ready?
901
00:37:34,034 --> 00:37:35,644
Set, set, set.
902
00:37:35,731 --> 00:37:36,428
Two set. Bang!
903
00:37:36,558 --> 00:37:38,604
Go!
904
00:37:38,691 --> 00:37:42,347
"You have the second best
shoes I've seen today."
905
00:37:42,477 --> 00:37:43,652
And then say, "What
are they, leopard?"
906
00:37:51,399 --> 00:37:53,053
"Who are your friends,
are they cool?"
907
00:37:53,183 --> 00:37:54,228
is a good opener.
908
00:37:54,315 --> 00:37:55,925
Go.
909
00:37:56,056 --> 00:37:57,362
"Hey Eric, who are your
friends, are they cool?"
910
00:37:57,492 --> 00:37:59,842
Go, go, don't
think, don't think.
911
00:37:59,973 --> 00:38:02,149
You're thinking, don't think.
912
00:38:02,236 --> 00:38:04,282
All right, you come with me.
913
00:38:06,588 --> 00:38:07,285
At the bar,
914
00:38:09,330 --> 00:38:13,029
say to her, "Don't get me
one, I can get my own."
915
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:15,597
Be larger than life.
Stand up. Smile.
916
00:38:15,728 --> 00:38:16,642
Smile.
917
00:38:16,772 --> 00:38:17,556
Put your arm out, take her.
918
00:38:21,168 --> 00:38:24,998
Right outside, where
that canopy is,
919
00:38:25,128 --> 00:38:26,869
that's where a load of the
boys have bounced two sets
920
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:27,783
two groups of women.
921
00:38:30,177 --> 00:38:32,658
Get your own group, merge it in.
922
00:38:32,788 --> 00:38:35,313
Now we merge all three sets.
923
00:38:35,443 --> 00:38:37,706
We start becoming the
life of the party.
924
00:38:37,837 --> 00:38:38,751
- Okay, let's open this two set
925
00:38:38,881 --> 00:38:40,361
here on the right.
- Go.
926
00:38:44,322 --> 00:38:47,150
From what I saw, it looked
like you were chasing them,
927
00:38:47,281 --> 00:38:49,065
and they knew it, and
then they peeled away.
928
00:38:49,196 --> 00:38:50,110
Did you leave the set?
929
00:38:50,240 --> 00:38:50,937
- Yes.
930
00:38:51,067 --> 00:38:52,417
- Why?
931
00:38:52,504 --> 00:38:53,156
- Because I
have a lot of fear.
932
00:38:53,287 --> 00:38:54,680
- No, go back in.
933
00:38:54,810 --> 00:38:55,768
Remember, always stay
in as long as you can.
934
00:38:55,898 --> 00:38:56,856
- Yes.
935
00:38:56,986 --> 00:38:57,683
- Stay in as long as you can.
936
00:38:57,813 --> 00:38:58,510
Doesn't matter.
937
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:01,339
Why do you wanna
leave on a good note
938
00:39:01,469 --> 00:39:03,776
when you could win the game?
939
00:39:03,906 --> 00:39:04,646
- Yes.
940
00:39:04,777 --> 00:39:05,647
- Go back.
941
00:39:05,778 --> 00:39:06,474
Say, "Guess what?"
942
00:39:06,605 --> 00:39:07,997
"How rude of me."
943
00:39:08,128 --> 00:39:08,607
"I shouldn't have left
you straight away."
944
00:39:11,044 --> 00:39:12,219
A lot of guys leave set
945
00:39:12,306 --> 00:39:14,352
when they're still
in the friend zone,
946
00:39:14,482 --> 00:39:17,050
and they're like, "
I'd like to feed my ego
947
00:39:17,137 --> 00:39:19,095
"by leaving on a nice note
knowing that people like me."
948
00:39:19,182 --> 00:39:20,575
And then, go home alone.
949
00:39:20,706 --> 00:39:22,838
What's the point in that?
950
00:39:22,925 --> 00:39:24,753
Go back in.
951
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:25,711
Show them you got some balls.
952
00:39:25,841 --> 00:39:27,103
That's what they respect.
953
00:39:27,234 --> 00:39:28,627
Someone with some
courage, conviction,
954
00:39:28,757 --> 00:39:30,498
and does what they
wanna do in life.
955
00:39:33,240 --> 00:39:35,155
- Well,
how was last night?
956
00:39:35,285 --> 00:39:36,852
That's what we're
gonna talk about.
957
00:39:36,983 --> 00:39:38,898
Did it look like I was
gaming, or did it look like
958
00:39:39,028 --> 00:39:41,161
I was just enjoying my moments
959
00:39:41,248 --> 00:39:42,902
hanging out with the girls?
960
00:39:43,032 --> 00:39:45,121
- They were slowly
warming up to me,
961
00:39:45,252 --> 00:39:47,776
but not really quick enough,
so I actually left them there.
962
00:39:47,907 --> 00:39:49,474
I went, opened another set,
963
00:39:49,604 --> 00:39:51,954
sat down with them,
chatted them up.
964
00:39:52,085 --> 00:39:54,174
And then, I could see the
previous set start to warm up.
965
00:39:54,261 --> 00:39:57,090
I kissed one and then the other.
966
00:39:57,177 --> 00:39:59,005
And then, the third friend
was watching from the side,
967
00:39:59,135 --> 00:40:00,920
and I said,
968
00:40:01,050 --> 00:40:01,616
"You're feeling jealous
and left out, aren't you?"
969
00:40:01,703 --> 00:40:02,704
We were kissing.
970
00:40:02,835 --> 00:40:03,531
We were kissing.
971
00:40:03,662 --> 00:40:04,619
They were French.
972
00:40:04,750 --> 00:40:05,446
They were French girls.
973
00:40:06,316 --> 00:40:08,057
Literally.
974
00:40:08,188 --> 00:40:09,537
- We just started fooling
about a little bit.
975
00:40:09,668 --> 00:40:12,932
And then, opened a
nice two German set.
976
00:40:13,062 --> 00:40:14,412
Who was with me?
977
00:40:14,542 --> 00:40:16,457
I think it was Michael,
and Eric was there.
978
00:40:16,544 --> 00:40:17,632
- 'Cause that's the one, I'm
not giving up on this one.
979
00:40:17,763 --> 00:40:20,026
- Exactly, but it's
just to invite them out
980
00:40:20,113 --> 00:40:22,420
to something you're
already doing.
981
00:40:22,550 --> 00:40:25,031
Like, "I'm at the W
Hotel, come get some sun."
982
00:40:25,161 --> 00:40:26,380
When do you call them?
983
00:40:26,511 --> 00:40:28,513
Do you wait the
obligatory two days?
984
00:40:28,643 --> 00:40:29,688
No, no,
985
00:40:29,818 --> 00:40:30,732
- As soon as possible.
986
00:40:30,863 --> 00:40:31,429
- while it's hot.
987
00:40:31,559 --> 00:40:32,212
Show your interest.
988
00:40:32,342 --> 00:40:34,127
You're allowed to,
989
00:40:34,257 --> 00:40:35,694
especially since you got her
contact information, right?
990
00:40:35,824 --> 00:40:37,043
You can show interest.
991
00:40:37,173 --> 00:40:38,261
- Did you kiss?
992
00:40:38,392 --> 00:40:39,524
- No, I didn't.
993
00:40:39,654 --> 00:40:41,351
- No, but
they shared a cigarette,
994
00:40:41,482 --> 00:40:42,744
and that was an intimate thing,
995
00:40:42,875 --> 00:40:44,442
back and forth-ing
the cigarette.
996
00:40:44,572 --> 00:40:46,008
And they were handholding
and arm-in-arm.
997
00:40:52,232 --> 00:40:54,277
- Now, you can't
often sell someone a bootcamp
998
00:40:54,408 --> 00:40:55,931
straight off the bat, right?
999
00:40:56,062 --> 00:40:59,457
To try and demand
$1,000 or $3,000
1000
00:40:59,544 --> 00:41:02,503
from someone who has just heard
about you is very difficult.
1001
00:41:02,634 --> 00:41:04,636
So, what you do in business
is you ease people in slowly.
1002
00:41:06,289 --> 00:41:08,378
You start with free content.
1003
00:41:08,466 --> 00:41:10,337
Then, you sell them
something that's maybe $10.
1004
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,646
You might charge
$10 for a seven-page
guide on text messages
1005
00:41:14,733 --> 00:41:15,908
to send a girl.
1006
00:41:16,996 --> 00:41:18,345
Then, you sell them
something that's maybe
1007
00:41:18,476 --> 00:41:21,870
between $50 to $100 because
that is a small investment.
1008
00:41:22,001 --> 00:41:24,569
Now, they're more likely to
spend more money with you.
1009
00:41:24,699 --> 00:41:27,354
So, then, you pitch them
a $200 to $500 product.
1010
00:41:27,485 --> 00:41:29,965
That might be a live event
that costs that much.
1011
00:41:30,096 --> 00:41:32,141
That might be a more
in-depth video course.
1012
00:41:32,272 --> 00:41:34,796
Once they've spent that
much money with you,
1013
00:41:34,927 --> 00:41:36,406
they will again feel
more comfortable spending
1014
00:41:36,537 --> 00:41:38,365
even more money with you.
1015
00:41:38,496 --> 00:41:42,325
So, then, you can sell them
a $1,000 to $3,000 bootcamp
1016
00:41:42,456 --> 00:41:44,414
because they've been
through the video course.
1017
00:41:44,545 --> 00:41:46,329
They're still not meeting women,
1018
00:41:46,416 --> 00:41:48,157
but they know what
they need to do.
1019
00:41:48,288 --> 00:41:50,159
So, they come on the bootcamp
to get practical experience.
1020
00:41:50,290 --> 00:41:52,466
- Welcome to Daygame.
1021
00:41:52,597 --> 00:41:54,468
Talking to girls,
during the day.
1022
00:41:54,599 --> 00:41:55,687
Day game is different
than night game.
1023
00:41:58,298 --> 00:42:00,866
Here, during the day,
people have shit to do.
1024
00:42:00,996 --> 00:42:02,911
Many guys do like they
try to do the hard stop
1025
00:42:03,042 --> 00:42:05,044
like some girls walking
past, "Hey, excuse me."
1026
00:42:05,174 --> 00:42:06,175
And the girl is like,
"Whoa," freaking out like,
1027
00:42:06,306 --> 00:42:07,220
"What's happening?
1028
00:42:07,350 --> 00:42:08,003
"I can't," "I can't," right?
1029
00:42:08,134 --> 00:42:09,048
You guys got that?
1030
00:42:09,178 --> 00:42:10,571
Like, "No, no, no, no, no."
1031
00:42:10,658 --> 00:42:13,052
So, what I would do much
rather is walking with.
1032
00:42:13,182 --> 00:42:14,357
And when I'm walking with,
1033
00:42:14,488 --> 00:42:15,533
there's a big
difference, as well.
1034
00:42:15,663 --> 00:42:17,404
What does the newer guy do?
1035
00:42:17,535 --> 00:42:20,189
If the girl walks like this,
he's like, "Excuse me."
1036
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,931
She'll see you like totally
creepy, right, behind her.
1037
00:42:23,062 --> 00:42:24,498
And she gets to feel like,
"This guy's following me."
1038
00:42:24,629 --> 00:42:25,804
"What's up?"
1039
00:42:25,934 --> 00:42:26,631
What I would do is I would walk
1040
00:42:26,761 --> 00:42:27,849
one to two steps ahead of her,
1041
00:42:27,980 --> 00:42:29,111
and I chat over
the shoulder like,
1042
00:42:29,242 --> 00:42:30,504
"Yeah, blah,
blah, blah, blah."
1043
00:42:30,635 --> 00:42:31,200
That takes all the
pressure off her.
1044
00:42:31,331 --> 00:42:32,419
You're walking your way.
1045
00:42:32,550 --> 00:42:34,377
She's walking her way.
1046
00:42:34,508 --> 00:42:37,685
- You look very nicely
dressed for Miami Beach.
1047
00:42:37,816 --> 00:42:38,730
Are you from here?
1048
00:42:40,514 --> 00:42:41,646
Hi, I'm Andrew,
nice to meet you.
1049
00:42:41,776 --> 00:42:42,385
- Sophia.
1050
00:42:42,516 --> 00:42:43,561
- Sophia?
1051
00:42:43,691 --> 00:42:44,562
Cool.
1052
00:42:44,692 --> 00:42:45,911
I thought you were cute.
1053
00:42:46,041 --> 00:42:47,869
I guess, I wanted to
come talk to you, but...
1054
00:42:47,956 --> 00:42:49,654
- I'm actually on
my way back to work,
1055
00:42:49,784 --> 00:42:50,829
sorry.
- Yeah, I know.
1056
00:42:50,959 --> 00:42:52,874
I'm sorry.
1057
00:42:52,961 --> 00:42:55,573
It takes a lotta
guts to do this.
1058
00:42:55,703 --> 00:42:57,575
It really does.
1059
00:42:57,705 --> 00:43:01,448
Let's be honest, and it
takes desperate measures.
1060
00:43:01,579 --> 00:43:05,191
I had to be really desperate
to get good with girls
1061
00:43:05,321 --> 00:43:09,412
to find the one in order
for me to come out here.
1062
00:43:09,543 --> 00:43:11,110
Excuse me.
1063
00:43:11,240 --> 00:43:12,502
I think you're very cute.
1064
00:43:12,633 --> 00:43:13,939
You have to talk
to me for a minute.
1065
00:43:14,026 --> 00:43:14,592
- No, I don't.
1066
00:43:14,722 --> 00:43:15,593
- No?
1067
00:43:15,723 --> 00:43:16,594
No, you don't, you're right.
1068
00:43:17,899 --> 00:43:18,900
When I was 18-years-old,
1069
00:43:19,031 --> 00:43:20,598
I went through a
really bad breakup.
1070
00:43:20,728 --> 00:43:23,426
My girlfriend, she
found someone else.
1071
00:43:23,557 --> 00:43:25,820
It was easy, she was
a very beautiful girl.
1072
00:43:25,951 --> 00:43:27,953
And then, when I
wanted her back,
1073
00:43:28,083 --> 00:43:29,955
she said, "No, I already
have someone else."
1074
00:43:30,085 --> 00:43:31,696
And that crushed me.
1075
00:43:31,826 --> 00:43:34,568
It crushed my ego, it
crushed me as a person.
1076
00:43:34,699 --> 00:43:38,180
I had a lot of social anxiety.
1077
00:43:38,267 --> 00:43:41,967
And, for some reason, I
didn't do well with it.
1078
00:43:42,097 --> 00:43:42,968
I started looking up how
to get good with girls.
1079
00:43:43,098 --> 00:43:47,015
I had heard some guy
mention a book about it,
1080
00:43:47,146 --> 00:43:49,148
and I researched it on YouTube.
1081
00:43:49,278 --> 00:43:51,106
And it really resonated with me.
1082
00:43:51,237 --> 00:43:54,196
Hey, these guys
were kind of nerdy
1083
00:43:54,327 --> 00:43:55,981
just like me, and they did it.
1084
00:43:56,111 --> 00:43:56,764
Why can't I do it?
1085
00:43:59,506 --> 00:44:01,856
What I like to do, sometimes,
is to just do silly things
1086
00:44:01,943 --> 00:44:02,814
and be like, hi.
1087
00:44:04,293 --> 00:44:05,251
- Hi.
1088
00:44:05,381 --> 00:44:06,469
- What's up, what are you up to?
1089
00:44:07,122 --> 00:44:09,647
- Heading to tacos.
1090
00:44:09,777 --> 00:44:11,170
- Tacos.
1091
00:44:11,300 --> 00:44:12,475
- Yeah.
1092
00:44:12,606 --> 00:44:13,825
- I like tacos.
- You like them?
1093
00:44:13,955 --> 00:44:15,478
- Yeah.
- Barbara.
1094
00:44:15,565 --> 00:44:16,697
- Barbara,
where are you from?
1095
00:44:16,828 --> 00:44:17,655
- Argentina.
1096
00:44:17,785 --> 00:44:18,786
- I'm Colombian.
1097
00:44:20,353 --> 00:44:21,006
- I really
like your energy.
1098
00:44:21,136 --> 00:44:22,703
- Thank you.
1099
00:44:22,834 --> 00:44:24,009
- Yeah, you would think
that if some random guy
1100
00:44:24,096 --> 00:44:25,706
went up to you like this,
you'd be weirded out.
1101
00:44:25,837 --> 00:44:27,316
- It was weird.
1102
00:44:27,447 --> 00:44:28,927
- How long
are you guys here for?
1103
00:44:29,057 --> 00:44:32,800
I'm leaving in four days,
she's leaving in April.
1104
00:44:32,931 --> 00:44:34,584
- Cool.
1105
00:44:34,715 --> 00:44:35,716
- Right,
you coming or what?
1106
00:44:35,847 --> 00:44:36,761
- You're inviting me?
1107
00:44:36,891 --> 00:44:37,979
- Yeah, sure, why not?
1108
00:44:38,110 --> 00:44:38,676
- Okay, let's do it.
1109
00:44:44,203 --> 00:44:47,162
Honestly, that was
such a poor approach
1110
00:44:47,249 --> 00:44:48,990
that I didn't think
it was gonna work out.
1111
00:44:51,427 --> 00:44:52,733
That, sometimes,
I'm just like, what?
1112
00:44:52,864 --> 00:44:54,126
Sometimes, it's just going up
1113
00:44:54,256 --> 00:44:55,562
and just being
there and saying hi.
1114
00:44:57,782 --> 00:44:59,348
And, literally,
that's all it is.
1115
00:44:59,479 --> 00:45:03,875
To be honest, I
only get about 5%
1116
00:45:03,962 --> 00:45:05,703
of the numbers of the
girls that I go up to.
1117
00:45:05,833 --> 00:45:08,488
It's rare when it
actually works out.
1118
00:45:08,618 --> 00:45:11,143
It's very rare when I
actually meet a girl,
1119
00:45:11,230 --> 00:45:13,667
and she likes me,
and I like her.
1120
00:45:13,754 --> 00:45:17,323
But whenever that
happens, my God.
1121
00:45:17,453 --> 00:45:20,021
Honestly, there's no
other better feeling.
1122
00:45:20,152 --> 00:45:22,197
Spending time with a girl
that you connect with.
1123
00:45:22,328 --> 00:45:23,329
I love it, honestly.
1124
00:45:28,682 --> 00:45:31,772
- This is where I originally
started in Union Square.
1125
00:45:31,903 --> 00:45:33,513
A few years ago,
way back in the day
1126
00:45:33,643 --> 00:45:36,995
in the dark ages of the
seduction community.
1127
00:45:37,125 --> 00:45:38,953
- A lot of times, when you start
talking about dating advice
1128
00:45:39,084 --> 00:45:40,955
and things of this nature,
a lot of women will kind of,
1129
00:45:41,086 --> 00:45:43,044
will have this idea
that it's easy,
1130
00:45:43,131 --> 00:45:45,307
or it just comes natural,
or just be yourself.
1131
00:45:45,394 --> 00:45:48,049
But, in reality, for women,
it does come a lot easier.
1132
00:45:48,180 --> 00:45:50,008
Why?
1133
00:45:50,138 --> 00:45:51,400
Because, culturally, they've
kind of been brought up,
1134
00:45:51,487 --> 00:45:54,229
and, every single day,
guys approach the woman.
1135
00:45:55,753 --> 00:45:57,102
The guys go after the woman.
1136
00:45:57,232 --> 00:45:58,712
The guys pursue the women.
1137
00:45:58,799 --> 00:46:00,192
The guys tell them that
they're attractive.
1138
00:46:00,322 --> 00:46:02,237
The guys hit on the girls.
1139
00:46:02,324 --> 00:46:03,064
Girls don't usually
go out of their way
1140
00:46:03,151 --> 00:46:07,112
to approach guys
and hit on guys.
1141
00:46:07,242 --> 00:46:09,810
So, generally, one way that
you can kind of realize
1142
00:46:09,941 --> 00:46:11,812
if somebody's out here
practicing or not,
1143
00:46:11,943 --> 00:46:14,554
is most guys aren't out
here getting as physical
1144
00:46:14,684 --> 00:46:17,862
with strangers as we will,
as quickly as we will.
1145
00:46:17,949 --> 00:46:20,255
When you're not physically
escalating on that stranger,
1146
00:46:20,386 --> 00:46:22,997
you're emphasizing the fact
that you are a stranger.
1147
00:46:23,128 --> 00:46:23,911
You're actually
- Hi.
1148
00:46:24,042 --> 00:46:25,173
- really fucking cute.
1149
00:46:25,304 --> 00:46:26,087
- Where you going?
- Thank you.
1150
00:46:26,218 --> 00:46:27,175
- Where you going?
1151
00:46:27,306 --> 00:46:28,394
Don't turn me away.
- I'm going to go.
1152
00:46:28,524 --> 00:46:29,787
- Two seconds,
dance with me here.
1153
00:46:29,917 --> 00:46:30,875
Dance with me here,
fuck Barnes & Noble.
1154
00:46:31,005 --> 00:46:32,006
Generally, you wanna
get physical right away,
1155
00:46:32,137 --> 00:46:33,791
make little playful taps
on the arm or whatnot,
1156
00:46:33,921 --> 00:46:36,663
or a little light handhold
where you objectively,
1157
00:46:36,794 --> 00:46:38,534
you wanna hold that as
long as she'll allow it
1158
00:46:38,665 --> 00:46:40,623
and get her used to
your physicality.
1159
00:46:40,754 --> 00:46:43,757
- You know why I'm this
fast with you right now?
1160
00:46:43,888 --> 00:46:44,932
Do you know why?
1161
00:46:45,019 --> 00:46:46,804
You're always touching the girl.
1162
00:46:46,934 --> 00:46:48,153
You're always doing things
as if you're their boyfriend.
1163
00:46:48,283 --> 00:46:49,632
If you saw us a mile away,
1164
00:46:49,763 --> 00:46:50,720
you would think that we
were already a couple
1165
00:46:50,851 --> 00:46:52,244
in the certain
phase of the pickup.
1166
00:46:52,374 --> 00:46:54,724
Maybe 15 minutes in
or 10 minutes in.
1167
00:46:54,855 --> 00:46:55,987
Sometimes, even
sooner than that.
1168
00:46:56,117 --> 00:46:56,770
I don't know if
you've ever heard of--
1169
00:46:56,901 --> 00:46:58,250
- Should
we get a coffee?
1170
00:46:58,380 --> 00:46:59,164
- We're going
to get coffee, yeah.
1171
00:46:59,251 --> 00:47:00,861
Boom, boom, boom.
1172
00:47:00,992 --> 00:47:02,471
- What are we men attracted to?
1173
00:47:02,558 --> 00:47:04,169
What do people say?
1174
00:47:04,256 --> 00:47:05,692
Looks, right?
1175
00:47:05,823 --> 00:47:06,649
That's the basic gist.
1176
00:47:06,736 --> 00:47:08,347
Now, of course,
1177
00:47:08,434 --> 00:47:09,261
you can have an emotional
connection with a girl,
1178
00:47:09,391 --> 00:47:11,306
but the first thing that pops up
1179
00:47:11,437 --> 00:47:14,614
when we find a female
attractive is looks.
1180
00:47:14,701 --> 00:47:17,660
For a girl, she's searching
for something different
1181
00:47:17,791 --> 00:47:19,488
because thousands of years ago,
1182
00:47:19,575 --> 00:47:23,841
what kind of male would be the
best male for her offspring,
1183
00:47:23,971 --> 00:47:25,712
the alpha male.
1184
00:47:25,843 --> 00:47:28,367
This is the strongest guy,
this is the leader guy.
1185
00:47:28,454 --> 00:47:29,803
He knows what's up.
1186
00:47:29,890 --> 00:47:30,717
He's not gonna be
some beta male,
1187
00:47:30,848 --> 00:47:32,675
who will give me weak offspring.
1188
00:47:32,806 --> 00:47:34,025
- It's a known fact
1189
00:47:34,112 --> 00:47:37,463
that women respond to
dominance from men.
1190
00:47:37,593 --> 00:47:39,117
If you read some of
these romance novels
1191
00:47:39,247 --> 00:47:42,033
that are in the apex
of a female's mind.
1192
00:47:42,163 --> 00:47:43,425
The darkest secrets, the
dirtiest, darkest secrets,
1193
00:47:43,556 --> 00:47:46,211
it's always the guy being
dominant, being the alpha male,
1194
00:47:46,341 --> 00:47:49,562
making her do things
she doesn't want to do.
1195
00:47:49,692 --> 00:47:51,520
It's always that way.
1196
00:47:51,651 --> 00:47:53,871
- The following
presentation is controversial
1197
00:47:54,001 --> 00:47:56,090
and may be offensive
to some audiences.
1198
00:47:56,177 --> 00:47:58,005
Viewer discretion is advised.
1199
00:47:58,092 --> 00:48:01,226
- Today, we show an epic
pickup video that shows
1200
00:48:01,356 --> 00:48:04,664
the full process of
approaching two friends.
1201
00:48:04,794 --> 00:48:07,101
Taking them on dates
at two separate times,
1202
00:48:07,232 --> 00:48:10,975
and, eventually,
taking each girl home.
1203
00:48:11,105 --> 00:48:14,892
These girls were perfect
strangers that we just met.
1204
00:48:14,979 --> 00:48:17,024
You will see how to
deal with the girls
1205
00:48:17,155 --> 00:48:20,114
who are not fully
into you right away.
1206
00:48:20,245 --> 00:48:23,074
These type of girls are called
the "Maybe" to "No" girls.
1207
00:48:23,204 --> 00:48:24,771
So, now, we'll talk about
the date with the target.
1208
00:48:24,902 --> 00:48:27,817
As soon as she comes, she starts
talking about her boyfriend
1209
00:48:27,948 --> 00:48:28,949
and all this nonsense,
which made me wonder,
1210
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,125
why the fuck did you even come?
1211
00:48:31,256 --> 00:48:32,953
Lots of times, a girl's gonna
say all kind of shit to you,
1212
00:48:33,084 --> 00:48:34,476
tell you you're a
player, all this stuff.
1213
00:48:34,607 --> 00:48:37,784
Your objective is not to
listen to women at all. Okay?
1214
00:48:37,915 --> 00:48:39,917
Fuck what women say.
1215
00:48:40,047 --> 00:48:41,744
They don't know what
the fuck they want.
1216
00:48:41,831 --> 00:48:43,398
You have to show
them what they want.
1217
00:48:46,271 --> 00:48:48,664
- Some of these guys, they've
had it the other way around
1218
00:48:48,795 --> 00:48:51,102
for so long, so, suddenly,
when they're in a position
1219
00:48:51,232 --> 00:48:54,018
where they can sort of take
a girl down a peg or two,
1220
00:48:54,148 --> 00:48:56,237
and it's them that's got
the power for once, I think,
1221
00:48:56,368 --> 00:48:59,327
sometimes, they can
see it as payback time.
1222
00:48:59,458 --> 00:49:01,286
Revenge.
1223
00:49:01,416 --> 00:49:02,809
- It's a small time window
to get the girl interested,
1224
00:49:02,896 --> 00:49:04,985
but after that point, man,
my game changes completely.
1225
00:49:05,116 --> 00:49:07,379
It's all about
structuring opportunities
1226
00:49:07,466 --> 00:49:08,771
for her to chase me.
1227
00:49:08,902 --> 00:49:10,556
The funny thing is when a woman
1228
00:49:10,686 --> 00:49:12,253
has more power in
a relationship,
1229
00:49:12,384 --> 00:49:14,212
she doesn't know what
the fuck she wants to do.
1230
00:49:14,342 --> 00:49:16,214
And she ends up fucking
cheating on him, breaking up
1231
00:49:16,344 --> 00:49:18,042
for no fucking reason
'cause she's confused,
1232
00:49:18,172 --> 00:49:19,782
and all kind of nonsense.
- That's true.
1233
00:49:19,913 --> 00:49:22,046
- Hey, my relationships
are very fucking dominant.
1234
00:49:24,222 --> 00:49:25,658
Forget all the glitz and
glamor with the initial pickup
1235
00:49:25,788 --> 00:49:27,051
that you see.
1236
00:49:27,181 --> 00:49:28,530
Obviously, I'm being
nice to kind of,
1237
00:49:28,661 --> 00:49:30,968
for my style, it works for me,
1238
00:49:31,098 --> 00:49:32,621
but that's only
the initial pickup.
1239
00:49:32,752 --> 00:49:34,710
But, as long as
they do what I say,
1240
00:49:34,841 --> 00:49:36,625
I treat them really good.
1241
00:49:36,756 --> 00:49:37,626
And then, when they don't,
I will punish their ass
1242
00:49:37,713 --> 00:49:38,758
in multiple ways.
1243
00:49:40,412 --> 00:49:41,413
- They fucking
love that shit.
1244
00:49:41,543 --> 00:49:43,458
- Of course.
1245
00:49:43,589 --> 00:49:47,375
- Sometimes, you see this real
anger come out of these guys.
1246
00:49:47,506 --> 00:49:49,682
- Do not reward bad behavior.
1247
00:49:49,812 --> 00:49:51,989
She stayed out, and then
you were waiting up for her.
1248
00:49:52,119 --> 00:49:53,729
Said you'd come and collect
her, she'll didn't phone you.
1249
00:49:53,816 --> 00:49:56,428
That's like the puppy dog
pissing all over your kitchen,
1250
00:49:56,515 --> 00:49:58,821
shitting, chewing your cushions.
1251
00:49:58,952 --> 00:50:01,694
And you walk in and go, "Have
a little treat, doggie."
1252
00:50:01,824 --> 00:50:03,739
- "Women deserve this."
1253
00:50:03,870 --> 00:50:05,785
"They deserve to be taken down
1254
00:50:05,915 --> 00:50:07,917
"because they've had the
power all this time."
1255
00:50:08,048 --> 00:50:09,658
Because that's their
perception of it.
1256
00:50:09,789 --> 00:50:11,573
In their world, the
women have had the power,
1257
00:50:11,704 --> 00:50:12,792
and they've had nothing.
1258
00:50:12,922 --> 00:50:14,228
They've been the worthless one.
1259
00:50:14,359 --> 00:50:16,796
- Your thought of girl
1260
00:50:16,926 --> 00:50:18,711
is always girl and
men are not equal,
1261
00:50:18,798 --> 00:50:20,539
that is the big problem.
1262
00:50:20,669 --> 00:50:23,194
- I can see other girls while
she can't see other guys.
1263
00:50:23,324 --> 00:50:24,760
- Yeah, we are equal.
1264
00:50:24,847 --> 00:50:25,892
If you do it, I do it.
1265
00:50:26,023 --> 00:50:27,372
- No, you don't.
1266
00:50:27,502 --> 00:50:29,069
That's what I'm saying.
1267
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,071
Like I said, she's talking
big for the camera right now,
1268
00:50:31,158 --> 00:50:33,682
but those were the terms,
obviously, that you agreed to
1269
00:50:33,813 --> 00:50:35,293
in the relationship.
1270
00:50:35,423 --> 00:50:38,818
And at any time, obviously,
you do have your rights,
1271
00:50:38,948 --> 00:50:41,081
and you don't have
to, obviously.
1272
00:50:41,168 --> 00:50:42,691
And if you do wanna see
other people, you can,
1273
00:50:42,822 --> 00:50:44,215
but, then, obviously
you know what happens.
1274
00:50:44,302 --> 00:50:47,218
I do fuck other girls
besides Asian girls too.
1275
00:50:47,348 --> 00:50:48,654
I just like them 'cause
they're obedient.
1276
00:50:48,784 --> 00:50:50,438
Good little dogs.
1277
00:50:50,569 --> 00:50:51,961
- It can become,
for some of them,
1278
00:50:52,092 --> 00:50:55,443
more about the respect of their
male peers in the industry
1279
00:50:55,574 --> 00:50:57,663
than about getting girls.
1280
00:50:59,969 --> 00:51:02,929
And that's a very dangerous
place for it to go, as well,
1281
00:51:03,060 --> 00:51:07,238
because that's when they'll
happily start degrading women
1282
00:51:07,368 --> 00:51:08,587
to sort of show off.
1283
00:51:08,674 --> 00:51:10,284
- Yo, Was geht ab?
1284
00:51:10,415 --> 00:51:11,938
This is Max and Julien
from Real Social Dynamics.
1285
00:51:12,025 --> 00:51:13,809
Welcome to special edition
"Mid weeks with Mad Max"
1286
00:51:13,896 --> 00:51:15,202
where you can ask
us three questions
1287
00:51:15,333 --> 00:51:19,032
that as they are lifestyle,
game, and random.
1288
00:51:19,163 --> 00:51:22,470
- At least in Tokyo,
if you're a white male,
1289
00:51:22,601 --> 00:51:24,864
you can do what you want,
and that's what I realized.
1290
00:51:29,999 --> 00:51:31,784
- Real Social Dynamics
got in trouble
1291
00:51:31,914 --> 00:51:33,612
because one of the
instructors, Julien Blanc,
1292
00:51:33,742 --> 00:51:35,701
uploaded a video on YouTube,
1293
00:51:35,788 --> 00:51:38,791
which had some clips of
him teaching some students.
1294
00:51:38,921 --> 00:51:42,011
In the video, he made some
derogatory comments about women.
1295
00:51:42,142 --> 00:51:45,580
- And I pull her in, and she
kinda laughs and giggles.
1296
00:51:45,711 --> 00:51:47,365
All you have to say to
kinda take the pressure off
1297
00:51:47,452 --> 00:51:49,062
is just yell, "Pikachu,"
or, "Pokemon,"
1298
00:51:49,149 --> 00:51:50,716
or, "Tamagotchi," or something.
1299
00:51:50,803 --> 00:51:52,544
So, that was my opener, I went
1300
00:51:52,674 --> 00:51:54,502
"Pikachu, Pikachu,
Pikachu," like that.
1301
00:51:54,589 --> 00:51:57,810
- And there were some clips
of him grabbing women's heads
1302
00:51:57,897 --> 00:51:59,507
and putting them on his crotch.
1303
00:51:59,638 --> 00:52:01,379
- I'm romping through the
streets just grabbing girls.
1304
00:52:01,509 --> 00:52:04,817
And my opener's like
head, pff, on dick.
1305
00:52:04,947 --> 00:52:07,602
Head on dick, yelling
Pikachu with a Pikachu shirt.
1306
00:52:09,648 --> 00:52:10,953
And it was ridiculous.
1307
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:12,564
I have the infield of
this, it's awesome.
1308
00:52:12,694 --> 00:52:14,696
And then, even going up
to groups and one by one,
1309
00:52:14,827 --> 00:52:17,525
two at the time, and it's
the happiest I've ever been.
1310
00:52:17,656 --> 00:52:21,138
- And that video went online,
1311
00:52:21,225 --> 00:52:22,487
and it spiraled out of control.
1312
00:52:24,010 --> 00:52:25,272
Gossip blogs picked
up on the video.
1313
00:52:25,403 --> 00:52:28,057
And after the gossip
blogs picked up on it
1314
00:52:28,188 --> 00:52:30,190
the news channels
picked up on it.
1315
00:52:30,321 --> 00:52:32,018
- #chokingaroundtheworld.
1316
00:52:32,105 --> 00:52:34,325
And his suggestion that
men should pick up women
1317
00:52:34,455 --> 00:52:35,891
by going and grabbing
them by the throats
1318
00:52:36,022 --> 00:52:37,589
or forcing their heads places
1319
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:39,678
we can't even talk about
on breakfast television.
1320
00:52:39,808 --> 00:52:40,940
- Well, yes,
the suggestion of that
1321
00:52:41,070 --> 00:52:43,247
is clearly, the line
has been crossed.
1322
00:52:43,377 --> 00:52:44,552
- There is no doubt
that he is an incredibly,
1323
00:52:44,683 --> 00:52:46,380
morally reprehensible man.
1324
00:52:46,511 --> 00:52:48,208
Not only is he
offensive to women,
1325
00:52:48,339 --> 00:52:50,079
and has a very
negative view on women,
1326
00:52:50,210 --> 00:52:51,907
but he's offensive
to men, as well.
1327
00:52:52,038 --> 00:52:54,388
Suggesting men want the
same things he wants.
1328
00:53:04,093 --> 00:53:05,834
- I just couldn't
believe that this guy
1329
00:53:05,965 --> 00:53:08,794
was videotaping himself
assaulting women
1330
00:53:08,924 --> 00:53:11,753
and getting away with
it without impunity.
1331
00:53:11,884 --> 00:53:13,494
And then, passing these
disgusting views and methods
1332
00:53:13,625 --> 00:53:14,974
on to other men.
1333
00:53:15,061 --> 00:53:17,672
RSD is not, I knew
that I could not
1334
00:53:17,759 --> 00:53:19,283
go to them for accountability,
1335
00:53:19,413 --> 00:53:20,675
and that the only way to
take someone like him down,
1336
00:53:20,806 --> 00:53:22,547
is public shaming.
1337
00:53:22,677 --> 00:53:24,244
It is to show that anybody
associated with a person
1338
00:53:24,375 --> 00:53:27,378
and an organization like this
is tarnishing their own name.
1339
00:53:27,508 --> 00:53:30,207
I just started Tweeting
away and a fucking hashtag,
1340
00:53:30,337 --> 00:53:32,774
#takedownjulienblanc.
1341
00:53:32,905 --> 00:53:34,863
I didn't know if I was gonna
be able to do anything,
1342
00:53:34,994 --> 00:53:36,865
but I was like, fuck it, I'm
just gonna try it, anyway.
1343
00:53:40,173 --> 00:53:41,566
- I was running an event,
1344
00:53:41,696 --> 00:53:43,481
and there were people
protesting in Australia
1345
00:53:43,611 --> 00:53:46,832
because of my colleague, Julien
Blanc, shit, actually,
1346
00:53:46,962 --> 00:53:48,790
I'm not allowed to
talk about Julien.
1347
00:53:48,921 --> 00:53:49,530
Maybe I could frame it in a way
1348
00:53:49,661 --> 00:53:52,359
where I don't mention Julien.
1349
00:53:52,490 --> 00:53:53,969
I mean, I could just
say, I don't know,
1350
00:53:54,056 --> 00:53:56,276
I was outside a venue.
1351
00:53:56,363 --> 00:53:58,191
And I was standing there,
and I was running that event.
1352
00:53:58,322 --> 00:54:00,672
And I was actually
talking about meditation.
1353
00:54:00,802 --> 00:54:02,282
- Sexual
assault is not okay.
1354
00:54:02,413 --> 00:54:03,152
- You're assaulting
him, you fucking idiots.
1355
00:54:03,283 --> 00:54:05,067
- Sexual
assault is not okay.
1356
00:54:05,198 --> 00:54:06,895
- And this woman runs through
the crowd, and she slaps me.
1357
00:54:07,026 --> 00:54:09,246
Whoa, whoa, whoa.
1358
00:54:09,376 --> 00:54:11,857
The slap was filmed, as
well, so that went viral.
1359
00:54:11,944 --> 00:54:13,119
- Fuck you, fuck --
1360
00:54:15,034 --> 00:54:17,384
I always try to hold eye contact
with people in the crowd.
1361
00:54:17,515 --> 00:54:19,560
I pan from left to
right. Hold eye contact.
1362
00:54:19,691 --> 00:54:21,693
I saw on every single
guy's face, fear.
1363
00:54:24,609 --> 00:54:26,480
- Sexual
assault is not okay.
1364
00:54:26,567 --> 00:54:29,091
Sexual assault is not okay.
1365
00:54:29,222 --> 00:54:29,788
Sexual assault is not okay.
- You guys get in.
1366
00:54:29,918 --> 00:54:31,877
You guys get in.
1367
00:54:32,007 --> 00:54:33,748
- They just wanted
to go to a seminar,
1368
00:54:33,835 --> 00:54:34,706
learning how to be confident.
1369
00:54:34,836 --> 00:54:36,534
Yes, how to pick
up chicks, as well.
1370
00:54:36,664 --> 00:54:39,580
I'm not gonna be like, "I'm
just a meditation guy."
1371
00:54:39,667 --> 00:54:41,713
Yes, we were about to talk,
1372
00:54:41,843 --> 00:54:43,802
also talk about how to pick
up chicks and stuff like that.
1373
00:54:50,243 --> 00:54:52,027
'Cause I was afraid as hell.
1374
00:54:52,158 --> 00:54:54,029
I was afraid as
hell at that moment.
1375
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:55,553
I'm like, what's
gonna happen to me?
1376
00:54:55,683 --> 00:54:56,945
- What are
we supposed to do?
1377
00:54:57,032 --> 00:54:58,686
- We've got
plenty of police--
1378
00:54:58,817 --> 00:55:00,514
- We've been assaulted
once already, earlier on.
1379
00:55:00,645 --> 00:55:03,430
- Yeah, guys, be cool
guys, stay calm, stay calm.
1380
00:55:05,084 --> 00:55:06,825
Be cool guys, there
is no way to any ego.
1381
00:55:06,955 --> 00:55:08,348
You're above this.
1382
00:55:08,479 --> 00:55:10,176
Be a really chill
person, be very adult.
1383
00:55:10,307 --> 00:55:11,960
Just don't be reactive.
1384
00:55:12,091 --> 00:55:15,007
Remember, be assertive, and
react, not reactive, be cool.
1385
00:55:17,575 --> 00:55:18,010
- What's happening,
what's happening?
1386
00:55:18,140 --> 00:55:18,837
- What's happening?
1387
00:55:18,924 --> 00:55:22,231
- Let's go.
1388
00:55:22,362 --> 00:55:24,190
- Walk of
shame, you scumbag!
1389
00:55:26,714 --> 00:55:28,107
- You fucking cunts!
1390
00:55:32,067 --> 00:55:33,112
- Julien was
kicked out of Australia.
1391
00:55:33,242 --> 00:55:34,679
He got banned from
other countries.
1392
00:55:37,072 --> 00:55:38,857
There were protests.
1393
00:55:38,944 --> 00:55:40,728
There were petitions and
hundreds of thousands of people
1394
00:55:40,815 --> 00:55:42,164
signing those petitions.
1395
00:55:42,295 --> 00:55:44,558
I have friends, friends
that didn't know
1396
00:55:44,689 --> 00:55:46,255
I was working in
the pickup industry,
1397
00:55:46,386 --> 00:55:47,387
who signed those petitions.
1398
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:52,174
The emotional outrage, the
emotional reaction people had
1399
00:55:52,261 --> 00:55:54,046
to it was insane.
1400
00:55:54,176 --> 00:55:58,355
- We live in a culture
that is constantly battling
1401
00:55:58,485 --> 00:56:01,793
to teach men how to
treat women with respect.
1402
00:56:01,923 --> 00:56:03,708
We have problems with
it everywhere we look,
1403
00:56:03,838 --> 00:56:05,666
and, then, you do this.
1404
00:56:05,797 --> 00:56:08,103
- It was a horrible,
horrible attempt at humor.
1405
00:56:11,672 --> 00:56:14,109
They were also taken out of
context, in a way, where--
1406
00:56:14,196 --> 00:56:15,676
- How could they be
taken out of content?
1407
00:56:15,807 --> 00:56:17,939
Give me the good use
of choke a woman.
1408
00:56:18,070 --> 00:56:19,767
- You can make anything
look bad in a picture.
1409
00:56:21,595 --> 00:56:25,077
- This is
an abuse hotline,
1410
00:56:25,207 --> 00:56:27,949
a woman's protection pallet
1411
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:29,734
where you're supposed to see
different signs of things
1412
00:56:29,864 --> 00:56:31,213
that are being done to you
1413
00:56:31,344 --> 00:56:32,867
that you should be
careful about as a woman.
1414
00:56:32,998 --> 00:56:35,653
You used it into an
empowerment model
1415
00:56:35,783 --> 00:56:38,307
for some pathetic
man group, right?
1416
00:56:38,438 --> 00:56:39,831
- It just got
everyone hating him
1417
00:56:39,961 --> 00:56:42,311
without even knowing
the background,
1418
00:56:42,442 --> 00:56:46,228
just seeing the clips of
however they've been edited.
1419
00:56:46,315 --> 00:56:49,362
And then, they're like, "
because it was on the news,
1420
00:56:49,493 --> 00:56:50,885
"it was true."
1421
00:56:51,016 --> 00:56:53,932
Which we know is the
opposite, normally.
1422
00:56:54,062 --> 00:56:55,586
It's the opposite.
1423
00:56:55,716 --> 00:56:56,456
- I think you're backing
away from what you teach
1424
00:56:56,587 --> 00:56:58,284
because it's getting
you in trouble.
1425
00:56:58,415 --> 00:56:59,851
- I'm not, again, I apologize.
1426
00:56:59,981 --> 00:57:01,940
And I take
responsibility for it.
1427
00:57:02,070 --> 00:57:04,899
It was something that I never
should have posted online,
1428
00:57:05,030 --> 00:57:06,945
but I do just wanna clarify
that's not what I teach.
1429
00:57:07,075 --> 00:57:08,860
None of my clients do this,
1430
00:57:08,990 --> 00:57:11,340
and I don't make my
clients do this, either.
1431
00:57:11,471 --> 00:57:15,954
- The life of anyone's
attention span is a week or two.
1432
00:57:16,084 --> 00:57:18,086
So, after a week or two, it's
likely to fade away again,
1433
00:57:18,217 --> 00:57:21,481
and there'll be someone
else to pick on.
1434
00:57:21,568 --> 00:57:24,571
Russell Brand or
whatever, I don't know.
1435
00:57:27,008 --> 00:57:28,793
- What the
media did with Julien,
1436
00:57:28,923 --> 00:57:31,404
they would have done with any
of the pickup instructors.
1437
00:57:31,535 --> 00:57:32,797
Just the fact that
someone would record
1438
00:57:32,927 --> 00:57:34,668
themselves picking up women
1439
00:57:34,799 --> 00:57:37,236
and sleeping with them is
questionable in itself.
1440
00:57:37,366 --> 00:57:39,673
A woman doesn't know
that she's being filmed.
1441
00:57:39,804 --> 00:57:41,893
A woman doesn't know that
the person picking her up
1442
00:57:42,023 --> 00:57:44,548
is doing it to prove
something to some students.
1443
00:57:44,678 --> 00:57:47,725
- You think it's fair to me
when you have a girl here
1444
00:57:47,812 --> 00:57:49,988
and you want to
hang out with her?
1445
00:57:50,118 --> 00:57:51,468
- She believes that
she's sleeping with this guy
1446
00:57:51,598 --> 00:57:53,339
because this guys
generally likes her
1447
00:57:53,426 --> 00:57:55,080
and he wants to
have a relationship,
1448
00:57:55,167 --> 00:57:58,692
or wants to have sex with her,
but on a consensual basis.
1449
00:57:58,823 --> 00:58:01,869
She has absolutely no idea
that this is for a business.
1450
00:58:03,784 --> 00:58:05,656
- Up until that point,
if you look at my brand,
1451
00:58:05,786 --> 00:58:07,135
I was the like the new guy,
1452
00:58:07,222 --> 00:58:09,181
I was like funny,
like, "Hey guys!"
1453
00:58:09,268 --> 00:58:10,965
And then people were
like, "Holy shit,
1454
00:58:11,096 --> 00:58:13,359
"There's this young dude
and he just got slapped,"
1455
00:58:13,446 --> 00:58:15,492
"and he's standing there,
and he's not freaking out."
1456
00:58:16,754 --> 00:58:17,755
"He's like cool."
1457
00:58:17,885 --> 00:58:20,105
I got like thousands
of messages,
1458
00:58:20,235 --> 00:58:22,499
like literally
thousands of messages,
1459
00:58:22,586 --> 00:58:24,588
like, "Hey dude, respect."
1460
00:58:32,944 --> 00:58:36,556
- I think if you
take a young guy
1461
00:58:36,687 --> 00:58:39,559
and you couple
camaraderie, hero worship,
1462
00:58:39,690 --> 00:58:42,693
and like the power of the
orgasm, and sexual conquest
1463
00:58:42,823 --> 00:58:46,131
and how much having a
beautiful girl on one's arm
1464
00:58:46,261 --> 00:58:49,134
is like socially validating
in our society and all that,
1465
00:58:49,264 --> 00:58:51,789
put that all together and
it's like an intoxicating brew
1466
00:58:51,919 --> 00:58:53,530
for a young guy to
get caught up in.
1467
00:58:53,660 --> 00:58:55,880
It's so potent.
1468
00:58:56,010 --> 00:58:57,751
The real gold dust is
when you build a business
1469
00:58:57,882 --> 00:58:59,710
like some of these other
guys you've interviewed,
1470
00:58:59,840 --> 00:59:01,450
and not only are you
getting the validation,
1471
00:59:01,581 --> 00:59:03,931
and you're getting a physical
pleasure of conquest,
1472
00:59:04,062 --> 00:59:05,498
but you're also getting paid
1473
00:59:05,585 --> 00:59:06,934
thousands of dollars to do this,
1474
00:59:07,065 --> 00:59:08,414
it's like the perfect storm.
1475
00:59:08,501 --> 00:59:09,894
- Who here likes to
play video games?
1476
00:59:10,024 --> 00:59:11,156
Hands up, yeah, yeah.
1477
00:59:14,072 --> 00:59:16,509
- It was a $1-$2 million
business for a several years,
1478
00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:18,903
but I got off the
merry-go-round in my mid 30s.
1479
00:59:20,687 --> 00:59:22,254
I actually had, prior
to getting married,
1480
00:59:22,384 --> 00:59:24,212
probably six long-term
relationships.
1481
00:59:24,343 --> 00:59:27,433
So, I never was
a guy who thought
1482
00:59:27,564 --> 00:59:28,565
this was the only way to live.
1483
00:59:30,871 --> 00:59:32,743
As I approached marriage,
there was a lot of people
1484
00:59:32,873 --> 00:59:34,266
who felt I had let them down.
1485
00:59:34,353 --> 00:59:35,093
How could you, man?
1486
00:59:35,180 --> 00:59:36,616
What a betrayal.
1487
00:59:36,747 --> 00:59:37,835
I thought you were gonna like,
1488
00:59:37,965 --> 00:59:40,968
you were my hero and
now you've given up.
1489
00:59:41,055 --> 00:59:44,015
But man, yeah, they got
pissed, they didn't like it.
1490
00:59:44,145 --> 00:59:45,930
But it begs the question, like
what they did want me to do?
1491
00:59:46,060 --> 00:59:48,062
Just like ride off on my
horse into the horizon?
1492
00:59:48,193 --> 00:59:50,891
This isn't a good
look at 70, man.
1493
00:59:53,546 --> 00:59:55,896
Well a lot of the unspoken
stuff, or unheralded,
1494
00:59:56,027 --> 00:59:59,378
is the sense of male
community in these places.
1495
00:59:59,508 --> 01:00:00,988
Some of these guys who
are socially isolated
1496
01:00:01,119 --> 01:00:02,773
actually have found
a brotherhood,
1497
01:00:02,903 --> 01:00:05,776
and it's even, it's not
even really about the women.
1498
01:00:05,906 --> 01:00:09,606
It's more about the other men
and the sense of acceptance,
1499
01:00:09,736 --> 01:00:10,563
and joining, and belonging.
1500
01:00:12,304 --> 01:00:13,392
- Look
at these bad boys.
1501
01:00:13,522 --> 01:00:15,307
- One year ago, do
you know that feeling
1502
01:00:15,437 --> 01:00:17,004
when everything is good
1503
01:00:17,135 --> 01:00:19,485
but you don't feel
good with yourself?
1504
01:00:19,616 --> 01:00:20,399
You know what I mean?
1505
01:00:23,010 --> 01:00:25,622
That's kind of hard to say, but,
1506
01:00:25,752 --> 01:00:29,538
I really needed to find
some meaning to my life.
1507
01:00:29,626 --> 01:00:32,629
Something I really wanted
to do, and pursue, and grow.
1508
01:00:33,978 --> 01:00:35,980
You have helped me so much.
1509
01:00:36,067 --> 01:00:37,634
My life has really grown.
1510
01:00:39,723 --> 01:00:40,637
Sorry about that.
1511
01:00:43,117 --> 01:00:45,772
Yeah, that's what I wanted to
say, just thank you everyone,
1512
01:00:45,903 --> 01:00:46,425
and, that's it.
1513
01:00:53,954 --> 01:00:54,999
- Who's up next?
1514
01:00:57,044 --> 01:00:58,655
When you think about
how much students
1515
01:00:58,785 --> 01:01:00,657
idolize their instructors,
1516
01:01:00,744 --> 01:01:03,007
it's hard not to see
pickup companies as cults.
1517
01:01:03,137 --> 01:01:04,878
Because the instructors
1518
01:01:05,009 --> 01:01:06,750
have so much power
over the students.
1519
01:01:06,880 --> 01:01:08,273
So, if you all stand
up for a moment.
1520
01:01:12,451 --> 01:01:14,583
All right, so, I want you
to stretch out for a second.
1521
01:01:14,714 --> 01:01:16,847
Who's seen the film "300"?
1522
01:01:17,717 --> 01:01:19,197
Yeah?
1523
01:01:19,284 --> 01:01:20,459
Remember the war of
cry the Spartans do?
1524
01:01:20,589 --> 01:01:21,373
I'm gonna do that.
1525
01:01:21,503 --> 01:01:22,722
So I'll do that first.
1526
01:01:22,853 --> 01:01:24,332
And then we all do
it together, yeah?
1527
01:01:24,419 --> 01:01:25,290
Cool.
1528
01:01:25,420 --> 01:01:26,726
So Spartans!
1529
01:01:26,857 --> 01:01:28,989
Woo! Woo! Woo!
1530
01:01:29,076 --> 01:01:30,861
So now we do it
altogether, are you ready?
1531
01:01:30,948 --> 01:01:32,384
Spartans!
1532
01:01:32,514 --> 01:01:34,734
- Woo! Woo! Woo!
1533
01:01:35,822 --> 01:01:37,258
- You cannot question them,
1534
01:01:37,389 --> 01:01:38,129
you know, you have
to just follow it.
1535
01:01:40,261 --> 01:01:42,133
These guys build a cult of
personality around themselves,
1536
01:01:42,220 --> 01:01:45,092
and like, there
are some followers
1537
01:01:45,223 --> 01:01:46,354
who might be casual followers,
1538
01:01:46,485 --> 01:01:49,531
but then there are
also like vapid fanboys
1539
01:01:49,662 --> 01:01:50,924
who like, really
believe in this stuff.
1540
01:01:51,055 --> 01:01:53,971
And if anything, like contrary
1541
01:01:54,101 --> 01:01:55,799
to what these guys are saying.
1542
01:01:55,929 --> 01:01:57,148
It's like, "Well, then
you're not a true believer."
1543
01:01:57,278 --> 01:02:01,195
It's like it's so
weird, and very toxic
1544
01:02:01,326 --> 01:02:04,416
you really can't be a
reasonable human being at all
1545
01:02:06,418 --> 01:02:09,595
without getting loads of
hate from that community.
1546
01:02:11,902 --> 01:02:13,425
- The message that I wanna send
1547
01:02:13,512 --> 01:02:17,646
to the whole pickup community
is RSD is like a church
1548
01:02:17,777 --> 01:02:21,781
it's like a Catholic church
or like a Buddhist church.
1549
01:02:21,912 --> 01:02:24,828
People treat RSD
like a religion.
1550
01:02:24,958 --> 01:02:26,830
It helps them to
define who they are,
1551
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:28,222
it helps them to
form their future,
1552
01:02:28,309 --> 01:02:31,008
it helps them to give
them belief systems,
1553
01:02:31,138 --> 01:02:34,446
it gives them like faith in
times of trial and trust,
1554
01:02:34,576 --> 01:02:37,318
it truly is like a
church, almost a cult.
1555
01:02:37,449 --> 01:02:39,843
- One of the appeal, one of
the appeals of the PUA thing,
1556
01:02:39,973 --> 01:02:42,367
is to take disenfranchised men
1557
01:02:42,454 --> 01:02:44,804
and teach them a skill set
1558
01:02:44,935 --> 01:02:47,633
that they can get back and
get a piece of their own.
1559
01:02:47,764 --> 01:02:48,939
- It's a new way of thinking.
1560
01:02:49,069 --> 01:02:52,725
A new way of thinking is
basically not conforming
1561
01:02:52,856 --> 01:02:53,944
to what everyone else is doing.
1562
01:02:54,074 --> 01:02:55,641
- The students
1563
01:02:55,772 --> 01:02:58,209
feel like the instructors
are their saviors
1564
01:02:58,339 --> 01:03:00,167
because the students
started as someone
1565
01:03:00,298 --> 01:03:02,213
very unhappy with their life.
1566
01:03:02,343 --> 01:03:05,303
So they feel like the instructor
came in and saved them.
1567
01:03:05,433 --> 01:03:07,435
They provided them with
a cure to their problem
1568
01:03:07,566 --> 01:03:10,264
and that's why the instructor
becomes their hero,
1569
01:03:10,395 --> 01:03:13,224
and when you have someone
you respect that much,
1570
01:03:13,354 --> 01:03:16,270
that person can tell
you to do anything
1571
01:03:16,401 --> 01:03:18,969
and there's very few things
that you wouldn't do.
1572
01:03:19,099 --> 01:03:20,100
- Well, while you're in
a subway she would say
1573
01:03:20,231 --> 01:03:21,798
she doesn't want to
come to your house.
1574
01:03:21,928 --> 01:03:23,582
- Yeah, she said, "I'm
not coming to your place."
1575
01:03:23,712 --> 01:03:24,365
- How do you get
her to your home?
1576
01:03:24,496 --> 01:03:26,759
- I basically, forcefully,
1577
01:03:26,890 --> 01:03:29,849
but playfully pushed
her into the train.
1578
01:03:29,980 --> 01:03:31,503
- This is what you
call risky eagerness.
1579
01:03:31,633 --> 01:03:32,852
I like to talk about
it, risky eagerness.
1580
01:03:32,983 --> 01:03:34,767
If you didn't do this,
1581
01:03:34,854 --> 01:03:37,030
I don't think it would have
led to sex or anything.
1582
01:03:37,161 --> 01:03:37,944
Go ahead.
- Yeah, yeah.
1583
01:03:41,078 --> 01:03:42,644
- When I first came
into this industry,
1584
01:03:42,775 --> 01:03:44,603
I was just there to be a girl
1585
01:03:44,733 --> 01:03:47,127
for guys to practice
conversation on.
1586
01:03:47,258 --> 01:03:49,347
So they would learn
some conversation skills
1587
01:03:49,434 --> 01:03:52,654
and then they would come
and practice them on me.
1588
01:03:52,785 --> 01:03:55,919
I actually really
despise game, pickup.
1589
01:03:56,049 --> 01:03:59,052
I don't like anything
that uses lies
1590
01:03:59,183 --> 01:04:03,013
or manipulation
to attract women.
1591
01:04:03,143 --> 01:04:06,494
And I feel like there are
aspects of this industry
1592
01:04:06,625 --> 01:04:09,019
that definitely do that.
1593
01:04:09,149 --> 01:04:12,674
And I never wanted to be
anything to do with that.
1594
01:04:15,025 --> 01:04:17,157
And so I stopped
teaching for awhile
1595
01:04:17,288 --> 01:04:19,551
while I get my head
around all this stuff.
1596
01:04:21,335 --> 01:04:22,771
- Quick question,
quick question, can I,
1597
01:04:22,902 --> 01:04:24,077
are those technically galoshes?
1598
01:04:24,208 --> 01:04:26,166
The most success I
ever had with women
1599
01:04:26,297 --> 01:04:28,429
was when I was the
most pathological
1600
01:04:28,560 --> 01:04:31,084
and the absolutely least caring.
1601
01:04:31,215 --> 01:04:31,737
It's a common thing
that men feel,
1602
01:04:34,783 --> 01:04:35,654
what we call it
approach anxiety,
1603
01:04:35,741 --> 01:04:37,351
they get nervous around women.
1604
01:04:37,482 --> 01:04:40,137
So a guy can go up and
he can flub the line,
1605
01:04:40,267 --> 01:04:42,922
or he can stutter, or stammer,
or just get blushed cheeks,
1606
01:04:43,009 --> 01:04:44,750
these are all normal things.
1607
01:04:44,881 --> 01:04:48,101
I just parked in and I don't
know, how does this work?
1608
01:04:48,232 --> 01:04:50,408
What makes someone good and
able to teach in this field
1609
01:04:50,538 --> 01:04:52,497
is through doing this
again, and again, and again,
1610
01:04:52,584 --> 01:04:54,847
you kill that nervousness.
1611
01:04:54,978 --> 01:04:56,718
Which is, I think, a
part of our humanity,
1612
01:04:56,849 --> 01:04:58,851
the excitement and trepidation
1613
01:04:58,982 --> 01:05:01,985
of talking to an
object of our desire.
1614
01:05:02,115 --> 01:05:03,769
What happens when you become
a good player or whatever
1615
01:05:03,900 --> 01:05:05,902
is that all that stuff is muted.
1616
01:05:05,989 --> 01:05:08,861
So you feel nothing
talking to the girl
1617
01:05:08,992 --> 01:05:10,254
but the thing is then
when you get her,
1618
01:05:10,341 --> 01:05:12,821
it's just slightly satisfying.
1619
01:05:12,952 --> 01:05:14,649
There's no emotional resonance.
1620
01:05:14,780 --> 01:05:17,435
It's a penetrating loneliness.
1621
01:05:17,565 --> 01:05:19,219
I think part of my
getting out of that world
1622
01:05:19,350 --> 01:05:21,091
was realizing part of
myself was dying and that--
1623
01:05:21,221 --> 01:05:23,789
And the more I did that,
the I better I became,
1624
01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:26,313
the more I died inside.
1625
01:05:26,444 --> 01:05:29,229
That youthful exuberant, over
excited boy, that 7-year-old
1626
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:30,970
who was excited about the girl,
1627
01:05:31,101 --> 01:05:33,625
and wanted to give her the
flower, as he died and I said,
1628
01:05:33,755 --> 01:05:35,496
but it all doesn't matter
1629
01:05:35,627 --> 01:05:38,847
if you lose that part of
you life is overall flat.
1630
01:05:38,978 --> 01:05:41,154
And I've recovered
that in my marriage
1631
01:05:41,285 --> 01:05:43,809
and in my connection with my
wife, without talking too much.
1632
01:05:43,896 --> 01:05:47,552
But I'm able to
re-find my humanity.
1633
01:05:47,682 --> 01:05:49,032
The really good guys
1634
01:05:49,162 --> 01:05:50,729
in the pickup space have
killed part of themselves off
1635
01:05:50,859 --> 01:05:52,600
in the name of duty.
1636
01:05:52,731 --> 01:05:55,473
They have a hard time moving
their emotional needle.
1637
01:05:55,603 --> 01:05:57,431
The better they get, the
more they've gotta give
1638
01:05:57,562 --> 01:05:59,956
until they've given
all of their humanity
1639
01:06:00,086 --> 01:06:01,609
in the pursuit of this
thing, but what's left?
1640
01:06:04,221 --> 01:06:07,311
It can become empty,
and unfeeling.
1641
01:06:10,618 --> 01:06:12,577
And the longer someone does
that and the deeper they go,
1642
01:06:12,707 --> 01:06:14,318
I think the more
damage they can do.
1643
01:06:16,320 --> 01:06:17,712
- Hey guys, Bruce Wayne.
1644
01:06:17,843 --> 01:06:20,106
And today I'm going to
interview Justin Wayne.
1645
01:06:20,237 --> 01:06:21,760
And we're gonna talk
about how to keep
1646
01:06:21,890 --> 01:06:24,806
multiple hot women in your life.
1647
01:06:24,937 --> 01:06:28,027
But first, we're gonna show
you hidden camera footage
1648
01:06:28,158 --> 01:06:30,987
where Justin picks up women
from the streets of New York,
1649
01:06:31,117 --> 01:06:34,251
makes them his girlfriends,
gets them to tattoo his name
1650
01:06:34,381 --> 01:06:37,515
to show their devoted love,
brings them all together
1651
01:06:37,645 --> 01:06:41,823
and then finally reveals they
were on camera all along.
1652
01:06:41,910 --> 01:06:44,304
And believe it or not, they
all stick around afterwards.
1653
01:06:44,391 --> 01:06:45,479
- What did
I lie to you about?
1654
01:06:45,610 --> 01:06:46,741
Tell me what I
lied to you about?
1655
01:06:46,872 --> 01:06:48,221
- You told me that it's us now.
1656
01:06:48,352 --> 01:06:49,744
- Yes, yes.
1657
01:06:49,831 --> 01:06:52,443
- So why are you loving her?
1658
01:06:52,530 --> 01:06:53,922
- She
feels uncomfortable.
1659
01:06:54,053 --> 01:06:55,576
You said you feel uncomfortable
being around her too?
1660
01:06:55,707 --> 01:06:57,491
You both feel uncomfortable
being around each other?
1661
01:06:57,622 --> 01:06:59,841
- I don't feel
uncomfortable with her.
1662
01:06:59,972 --> 01:07:03,149
I just feel
uncomfortable with...
1663
01:07:03,280 --> 01:07:04,194
- The situation.
1664
01:07:04,324 --> 01:07:05,586
- Yeah.
1665
01:07:05,717 --> 01:07:06,848
- Whoever
doesn't like it,
1666
01:07:06,979 --> 01:07:08,720
you can just walk
away, that's it.
1667
01:07:08,807 --> 01:07:11,723
I'm not forcing anyone to do
anything they don't wanna do.
1668
01:07:11,853 --> 01:07:13,638
That's all I'm gonna say.
1669
01:07:13,768 --> 01:07:15,466
- These girls seriously
hated each other.
1670
01:07:15,596 --> 01:07:17,555
You can see it in their
eyes there's fury,
1671
01:07:17,685 --> 01:07:20,862
like, "How come this other
girl has his name tattooed?"
1672
01:07:20,993 --> 01:07:23,648
"I want him all for myself."
1673
01:07:23,778 --> 01:07:25,954
Justin puts them to
like, puts them like
1674
01:07:26,085 --> 01:07:27,478
"Yo, you guys can't do this,
you have to be friends."
1675
01:07:27,608 --> 01:07:29,480
He's like their
dad or something.
1676
01:07:32,613 --> 01:07:34,572
- If you hit the
momentum going up,
1677
01:07:36,226 --> 01:07:38,532
that's when you
learn the quickest
1678
01:07:38,663 --> 01:07:42,058
and that's why we do a seven
day, seven night residential,
1679
01:07:42,188 --> 01:07:44,016
living with us, live
and breathe with us.
1680
01:07:46,932 --> 01:07:49,195
- We should talk
about San Tropez.
1681
01:07:49,326 --> 01:07:53,765
Project Hollywood but in
San Tropez on a beach.
1682
01:07:53,895 --> 01:07:57,377
We've got a six-bedroom mansion,
we've sold three of 'em,
1683
01:07:57,508 --> 01:07:59,118
we've got three bedrooms left.
1684
01:07:59,249 --> 01:08:01,251
Your fucking game's good,
man, I think you're ready.
1685
01:08:03,253 --> 01:08:04,689
- Almost with
every company I worked with
1686
01:08:04,819 --> 01:08:07,518
it gets to a point where the
numbers become really enticing
1687
01:08:07,605 --> 01:08:08,475
to the pickup company.
1688
01:08:10,564 --> 01:08:11,522
- If we knocked
a grand off the mentorship,
1689
01:08:11,652 --> 01:08:13,001
for anyone that signs up today.
1690
01:08:14,786 --> 01:08:17,093
That's 9,000.
- That's pretty hefty, dude.
1691
01:08:17,223 --> 01:08:18,355
- Once you guys
get the ball rolling, man,
1692
01:08:18,485 --> 01:08:19,399
you're gonna get some
guys that'll drop
1693
01:08:19,486 --> 01:08:22,402
25 grand to work with
you for two weeks.
1694
01:08:22,533 --> 01:08:23,229
- Okay.
1695
01:08:25,101 --> 01:08:26,363
- When this
happens, the instructors,
1696
01:08:26,493 --> 01:08:29,844
or the people who started the
company, the pickup company,
1697
01:08:29,931 --> 01:08:33,500
they start seeing
their customers as
figures and numbers.
1698
01:08:33,631 --> 01:08:35,894
Some of the humanity is lost.
1699
01:08:36,024 --> 01:08:38,984
- So what you can do
is make a payment plan.
1700
01:08:39,115 --> 01:08:42,553
So you can pay 50 euros now,
and 50 euros the next month,
1701
01:08:42,683 --> 01:08:43,815
and the next month,
and the next month,
1702
01:08:43,902 --> 01:08:46,122
and so on, you also
get the bonuses today.
1703
01:08:46,252 --> 01:08:48,298
- With any product
in the pickup business,
1704
01:08:48,428 --> 01:08:51,257
everything is just a case
of how much profit was made.
1705
01:08:51,388 --> 01:08:54,173
What can you spend to
still be profitable?
1706
01:08:54,304 --> 01:08:57,742
- This is for the Lay
Reports, they're the bonus.
1707
01:08:57,872 --> 01:08:59,657
"50 Shades of Max."
1708
01:08:59,787 --> 01:09:01,224
- I hate to talk about this
1709
01:09:01,354 --> 01:09:03,878
but there have been pickup
companies that will hire escorts
1710
01:09:04,009 --> 01:09:07,186
at a bootcamp just so that the
men have a good experience,
1711
01:09:07,273 --> 01:09:10,058
and buy another bootcamp,
or buy more training.
1712
01:09:10,189 --> 01:09:13,366
Let's say it's $1500
for the bootcamp,
1713
01:09:13,497 --> 01:09:17,762
the instructor is paid $700,
you hire an escort for $200,
1714
01:09:17,892 --> 01:09:20,373
you still have $600 remaining.
1715
01:09:20,504 --> 01:09:22,027
None of the companies I've
worked with have ever done that,
1716
01:09:22,158 --> 01:09:25,117
but I'm aware of all
the companies that have.
1717
01:09:25,248 --> 01:09:26,814
If you're involved
in the business,
1718
01:09:26,945 --> 01:09:29,556
instructors will
speak openly about it.
1719
01:09:29,687 --> 01:09:31,297
- When we looked
deeper into RSD,
1720
01:09:31,428 --> 01:09:33,386
they were saying like
when you go into the field
1721
01:09:33,517 --> 01:09:34,822
to practice on girls,
1722
01:09:34,953 --> 01:09:36,955
they actually hire
some of those girls.
1723
01:09:37,085 --> 01:09:38,870
I mean, some of them are
just poor women at the bar
1724
01:09:39,000 --> 01:09:41,307
that they're practicing on.
1725
01:09:41,438 --> 01:09:43,527
But in terms of
their field footage,
1726
01:09:43,657 --> 01:09:47,748
it's like they hire people
to do that, it's not real.
1727
01:09:47,879 --> 01:09:49,707
- This happens a lot.
1728
01:09:49,794 --> 01:09:51,622
This happens a lot, even with
the companies I worked with.
1729
01:09:51,709 --> 01:09:54,581
The instructor would hire
actors for the infield videos.
1730
01:09:54,712 --> 01:09:56,714
And that is clearly unethical.
1731
01:09:56,844 --> 01:09:58,846
That is clearly unethical.
1732
01:09:58,977 --> 01:10:01,371
- Things have been become
completely corrupt.
1733
01:10:01,501 --> 01:10:03,242
If that company is saying,
1734
01:10:03,373 --> 01:10:05,462
"We're offering 9 out
of 10 success with women."
1735
01:10:05,592 --> 01:10:06,811
This company's
gonna have to offer
1736
01:10:06,898 --> 01:10:08,639
10 out of 10 success with women.
1737
01:10:08,769 --> 01:10:10,989
Then where do you draw the line?
1738
01:10:11,119 --> 01:10:14,819
- I'll tell you with Neil, his
first six months were harsh.
1739
01:10:14,949 --> 01:10:17,822
But the next six
months, he had 70 girls.
1740
01:10:17,909 --> 01:10:19,476
70,
1741
01:10:19,563 --> 01:10:21,565
70,
1742
01:10:21,652 --> 01:10:23,523
in six months.
1743
01:10:23,610 --> 01:10:25,786
- It's like, "He kisses
a girl on the street,
1744
01:10:25,873 --> 01:10:27,135
"must have been an actress!"
1745
01:10:27,223 --> 01:10:29,312
- Yes, I've heard some
people use actresses.
1746
01:10:29,442 --> 01:10:31,139
I never heard escorts though.
1747
01:10:31,270 --> 01:10:34,839
- "Of course those are just
actresses, yeah, thank God."
1748
01:10:34,969 --> 01:10:36,667
"Now I don't have to
take action myself."
1749
01:10:36,797 --> 01:10:38,234
If they were actresses
1750
01:10:38,364 --> 01:10:40,888
I would have paid good
better looking actresses.
1751
01:10:41,019 --> 01:10:43,326
- So no, we don't entertain
any of that stuff.
1752
01:10:46,720 --> 01:10:49,593
- What the customers believe
is going on is they think
1753
01:10:49,723 --> 01:10:51,682
any time a pickup instructor
goes and speaks to women,
1754
01:10:51,812 --> 01:10:53,423
it goes incredibly well.
1755
01:10:53,553 --> 01:10:55,338
That's the myth.
1756
01:10:55,468 --> 01:10:56,382
- You're the best, I love you!
1757
01:10:56,513 --> 01:10:57,818
I will not kiss you though.
- Goodbye.
1758
01:10:57,949 --> 01:10:58,863
Goodbye.
- Kiss you on the cheek.
1759
01:11:01,387 --> 01:11:03,084
- Rejection! Rejection!
- Flirty boy, my God.
1760
01:11:03,171 --> 01:11:04,738
- Rejection!
1761
01:11:04,869 --> 01:11:06,914
- The reality is, these
pickup instructors
1762
01:11:07,045 --> 01:11:10,135
spend an entire day filming
themselves approaching women
1763
01:11:10,266 --> 01:11:13,443
and speaking to them, and
98% of those interactions
1764
01:11:13,573 --> 01:11:14,444
would not go well.
1765
01:11:16,402 --> 01:11:18,361
So what they will do, they
will take just the shots
1766
01:11:18,448 --> 01:11:21,277
that went well and what you see
while you are at the seminar
1767
01:11:21,407 --> 01:11:24,671
is just success, after
success, after success.
1768
01:11:24,802 --> 01:11:25,890
You just make the assumption
1769
01:11:26,020 --> 01:11:27,935
that's just how it
goes every time.
1770
01:11:28,066 --> 01:11:31,199
You have no concept that
there were 95 other shots
1771
01:11:31,330 --> 01:11:32,331
that they are not showing you.
1772
01:11:32,462 --> 01:11:34,290
And I would never
have known that
1773
01:11:34,420 --> 01:11:35,465
had I not worked with them.
1774
01:11:38,685 --> 01:11:39,643
They are no longer my heroes.
1775
01:11:42,907 --> 01:11:44,517
That was a very
strange experience
1776
01:11:44,648 --> 01:11:47,128
because you go from putting
these people on a pedestal,
1777
01:11:47,259 --> 01:11:49,827
and thinking they have
their entire lives together,
1778
01:11:49,914 --> 01:11:51,524
and they are the way
they are on stage.
1779
01:11:51,655 --> 01:11:52,525
But that's just a performance.
1780
01:11:55,441 --> 01:11:56,486
- Yeah, they want me to
do another Hot Seat there.
1781
01:11:56,573 --> 01:11:57,835
- Really? Sick.
1782
01:11:57,965 --> 01:11:59,706
- Well, it's money.
1783
01:12:00,838 --> 01:12:02,492
- Yeah.
1784
01:12:02,622 --> 01:12:04,058
- The rest of the time
they spend stressing out
1785
01:12:04,189 --> 01:12:06,931
about the business,
about videos,
1786
01:12:07,018 --> 01:12:08,802
how they're gonna
do a live event.
1787
01:12:08,933 --> 01:12:11,588
But the students don't
see that side of it.
1788
01:12:11,718 --> 01:12:13,851
The students aspire
to be something
1789
01:12:13,981 --> 01:12:15,940
that isn't actually real.
1790
01:12:16,070 --> 01:12:17,115
- When teachers
are charging people
1791
01:12:17,245 --> 01:12:18,986
thousands to come
and do their course,
1792
01:12:19,117 --> 01:12:22,729
and they're guaranteeing
them results,
1793
01:12:22,860 --> 01:12:24,688
well, there's a huge
incentive for them
1794
01:12:24,818 --> 01:12:27,168
to push to get those results.
1795
01:12:27,299 --> 01:12:28,169
- Come with us!
1796
01:12:28,300 --> 01:12:29,127
- What are you doing?
1797
01:12:29,257 --> 01:12:30,258
My God.
1798
01:12:30,346 --> 01:12:31,521
- You're going with Jens and us.
1799
01:12:31,651 --> 01:12:32,652
You're partying with us.
1800
01:12:35,133 --> 01:12:37,483
Jens, we're gonna make her
fuck you tonight, how's that?
1801
01:12:37,614 --> 01:12:39,442
We're gonna get
you laid tonight.
1802
01:12:39,572 --> 01:12:42,009
She's like, "I
gonna--"
1803
01:12:42,140 --> 01:12:43,184
Fuck you, Jens.
1804
01:12:43,315 --> 01:12:45,012
Fuck you, Jens, man!
1805
01:12:49,190 --> 01:12:50,931
- You know what?
1806
01:12:51,062 --> 01:12:52,411
Jamba Juice basically has
the best juices in New York
1807
01:12:52,542 --> 01:12:54,065
it's right over there.
1808
01:12:54,195 --> 01:12:55,632
Let's take them there
quickly, we have to go now.
1809
01:12:55,762 --> 01:12:56,981
But let me show you where
it is, let's go, tour guide.
1810
01:12:57,111 --> 01:13:00,332
Hey Bruce, Jamba
Juice is over there.
1811
01:13:00,419 --> 01:13:01,507
Yeah, yeah, we're
at Jamba Juice.
1812
01:13:05,293 --> 01:13:06,991
- When you're
walking a girl home,
1813
01:13:07,121 --> 01:13:10,951
she's going to maybe start
putting up all these defenses.
1814
01:13:11,038 --> 01:13:11,996
Particularly if someone's
had a few drinks or something
1815
01:13:12,083 --> 01:13:14,694
let their inhibitions
go a little bit,
1816
01:13:14,781 --> 01:13:17,610
and maybe they find
themselves going home
1817
01:13:17,741 --> 01:13:18,655
with a guy that
they've just met.
1818
01:13:21,309 --> 01:13:23,311
- Yeah,
rooftop here, boom.
1819
01:13:23,442 --> 01:13:24,835
It's a public
place, you will see.
1820
01:13:24,965 --> 01:13:25,836
Let's go.
1821
01:13:27,011 --> 01:13:28,839
It's a public place.
1822
01:13:28,969 --> 01:13:29,970
- They might start
to sober up a bit
1823
01:13:30,101 --> 01:13:31,885
and think, "Hang on a
minute, what am I doing?
1824
01:13:32,016 --> 01:13:33,974
"I don't do this."
1825
01:13:34,105 --> 01:13:37,891
Game will teach a guy how to
handle that sort of situation
1826
01:13:38,022 --> 01:13:41,634
but not with the girl's
best intentions, of course.
1827
01:13:41,721 --> 01:13:43,723
- With pickup advice it
would get very specific too
1828
01:13:43,854 --> 01:13:44,637
to a single line.
1829
01:13:44,768 --> 01:13:46,465
Lines like, "Don't worry,
1830
01:13:46,596 --> 01:13:48,641
"we're just gonna go
back to an after party."
1831
01:13:48,728 --> 01:13:50,251
But there is no after party.
1832
01:13:50,382 --> 01:13:52,645
It's just a line to get that
girl back to your house.
1833
01:13:52,776 --> 01:13:53,559
- You don't believe us?
1834
01:13:53,690 --> 01:13:54,908
There's a door man right there.
1835
01:13:55,039 --> 01:13:56,170
There's a door man right
there who works here.
1836
01:13:57,128 --> 01:13:58,172
All right?
1837
01:13:58,303 --> 01:13:59,826
Let's talk to the door man.
1838
01:13:59,957 --> 01:14:01,437
- The girls stopped and they
were looking at us like,
1839
01:14:01,524 --> 01:14:03,395
"Wait, the juice
place is in there?"
1840
01:14:07,138 --> 01:14:09,357
I tried to bullshit, like, yeah,
of course, it's right here.
1841
01:14:09,488 --> 01:14:11,229
- And then my
target was just like
1842
01:14:11,359 --> 01:14:13,144
"No, I'm not going in there."
1843
01:14:13,274 --> 01:14:14,798
She's playing hard to get.
1844
01:14:14,885 --> 01:14:16,016
- So they won't say to
the girl in the club,
1845
01:14:16,147 --> 01:14:18,671
"Do you wanna come
home with me?"
1846
01:14:18,802 --> 01:14:20,499
They'll say, "Do you wanna
go and get an ice cream?"
1847
01:14:20,630 --> 01:14:22,066
Or something like that,
1848
01:14:22,153 --> 01:14:24,111
and then they will just
walk her to their house.
1849
01:14:24,242 --> 01:14:25,852
A lot of guys will say, "You're
just creating a situation
1850
01:14:25,983 --> 01:14:27,463
"in which she feels
more comfortable."
1851
01:14:27,550 --> 01:14:29,073
"It's what she
wants to do anyway."
1852
01:14:29,203 --> 01:14:30,422
"You're just helping
her to do that"
1853
01:14:30,553 --> 01:14:32,642
"because she's got so
many mental blocks"
1854
01:14:32,772 --> 01:14:33,947
"that are gonna get in the way."
1855
01:14:37,429 --> 01:14:38,517
- So, it's your......?
1856
01:14:38,604 --> 01:14:40,171
- This is my bedroom.
1857
01:14:40,301 --> 01:14:41,694
Yeah, this is my bedroom,
come inside, let's go.
1858
01:14:41,825 --> 01:14:43,914
Let's make love in my bedroom.
1859
01:14:44,001 --> 01:14:44,784
- This is your?
1860
01:14:44,871 --> 01:14:46,090
- Hey, come on.
1861
01:14:46,220 --> 01:14:47,700
It's okay, it's okay,
everything's fine.
1862
01:14:47,787 --> 01:14:50,007
This is not a bedroom, okay?
1863
01:14:50,094 --> 01:14:53,227
- But then they'll maybe
keep pushing to a point
1864
01:14:53,358 --> 01:14:54,533
where she's not
comfortable with it.
1865
01:14:56,361 --> 01:14:58,189
And then she'll feel
like she's gone so far,
1866
01:14:59,756 --> 01:15:01,279
and she's not
comfortable anymore,
1867
01:15:01,366 --> 01:15:03,760
but, it's too late to go back,
or a situation like that.
1868
01:15:03,890 --> 01:15:05,588
And I think, then, you're
in a situation where
1869
01:15:08,460 --> 01:15:11,855
it's up to the guy's
morals to do what's right.
1870
01:15:11,985 --> 01:15:14,248
In that situation where
he's got a girl in his house
1871
01:15:16,250 --> 01:15:17,948
with the best will in the world,
1872
01:15:18,035 --> 01:15:19,558
I think some guys will just
not do the right thing.
1873
01:15:24,650 --> 01:15:25,956
- My name is Jackie Speier,
1874
01:15:26,086 --> 01:15:28,436
I'm a congresswoman
from California.
1875
01:15:28,567 --> 01:15:31,222
I have been in Congress
now about 10 years.
1876
01:15:31,352 --> 01:15:35,443
And I focus in on issues
around violence against women.
1877
01:15:37,489 --> 01:15:41,667
I'm always amazed at how
we don't know everything.
1878
01:15:43,974 --> 01:15:46,280
And that something like this
pickup industry is going on
1879
01:15:46,411 --> 01:15:49,022
without our knowledge.
1880
01:15:49,109 --> 01:15:53,026
When you start to
evaluate the products,
1881
01:15:53,157 --> 01:15:56,682
whether it's books, or
classes, or training.
1882
01:15:56,769 --> 01:15:57,465
- All the
fucking mistakes.
1883
01:15:57,596 --> 01:15:59,250
- You begin to realize
1884
01:15:59,337 --> 01:16:02,209
that it's a very predatory
industry against women.
1885
01:16:02,340 --> 01:16:03,820
- Whether or not
you're gonna fuck her.
1886
01:16:03,950 --> 01:16:06,866
- I think that
it's very important
1887
01:16:06,997 --> 01:16:10,348
to raise everyone's
awareness about this.
1888
01:16:10,435 --> 01:16:14,570
It's astonishing to me that
this industry is as widespread
1889
01:16:16,572 --> 01:16:17,616
as it appears to be.
1890
01:16:20,053 --> 01:16:23,143
The subculture that is being
created and this industry,
1891
01:16:23,274 --> 01:16:25,493
let's face it, it's
all about money,
1892
01:16:25,624 --> 01:16:29,846
is this expectation that this
woman is mine for the taking.
1893
01:16:31,630 --> 01:16:34,285
And I just need to
use these techniques
1894
01:16:34,415 --> 01:16:35,591
and I will conquer her.
1895
01:16:37,897 --> 01:16:41,901
But, in the process of doing
that if there is not consent,
1896
01:16:42,032 --> 01:16:43,511
you have a rape.
1897
01:16:43,642 --> 01:16:44,904
You have a sexual assault.
1898
01:16:52,782 --> 01:16:54,479
- 9-1-1, who is this?
1899
01:16:54,610 --> 01:16:56,524
- Hi, I'm calling
1900
01:16:56,655 --> 01:16:58,483
because my friend has just been.
1901
01:16:58,570 --> 01:17:00,441
- I can't
hear you, your friend what?
1902
01:17:00,572 --> 01:17:01,747
- Has been raped.
1903
01:17:01,834 --> 01:17:03,444
- Are you
guys together right now?
1904
01:17:03,531 --> 01:17:04,271
- Yes.
1905
01:17:04,402 --> 01:17:05,185
- Where at?
1906
01:17:06,578 --> 01:17:08,014
- We're downtown,
1907
01:17:08,145 --> 01:17:10,190
I don't know what
apartment building.
1908
01:17:10,321 --> 01:17:13,324
- Okay, is
the suspect still there?
1909
01:17:13,454 --> 01:17:14,499
- Yes.
1910
01:17:14,630 --> 01:17:16,153
- Yeah,
1911
01:17:16,283 --> 01:17:17,676
I really need to know
where you guys are at.
1912
01:17:17,763 --> 01:17:18,459
Let me know when you
have the address, okay,
1913
01:17:18,590 --> 01:17:20,244
so we can send
somebody right away.
1914
01:17:20,374 --> 01:17:21,201
- Okay.
1915
01:17:23,029 --> 01:17:24,944
- Do you
know this guy's name?
1916
01:17:25,031 --> 01:17:27,555
- Do you know
what his name was?
1917
01:17:27,686 --> 01:17:30,254
- I don't
know his name.
1918
01:17:35,172 --> 01:17:38,392
- In the fall of 2013,
1919
01:17:38,523 --> 01:17:41,091
a couple of young men moved into
1920
01:17:41,221 --> 01:17:43,136
one of the properties I manage.
1921
01:17:43,223 --> 01:17:48,011
And I noticed all of a sudden
a lot of early morning traffic
1922
01:17:48,141 --> 01:17:50,056
coming and going, the tempo
of the building changed,
1923
01:17:50,187 --> 01:17:53,059
the vibe in the
building changed.
1924
01:17:53,190 --> 01:17:56,193
And usually that signaled
like some kinda crime spree,
1925
01:17:56,323 --> 01:17:58,543
like car breaks or something.
1926
01:17:58,630 --> 01:18:02,982
Then, I saw an incident
where two young women
1927
01:18:03,113 --> 01:18:04,505
were walking out and
one of the young women
1928
01:18:06,769 --> 01:18:07,944
was just walking out like this
1929
01:18:09,641 --> 01:18:11,469
and I just had a
really sinking feeling
1930
01:18:11,599 --> 01:18:13,166
that something bad had happened.
1931
01:18:14,646 --> 01:18:16,039
I checked the video
1932
01:18:16,169 --> 01:18:19,390
and I did have the
young woman on camera.
1933
01:18:19,520 --> 01:18:22,132
And I started watching
crimemappingcom,
1934
01:18:22,262 --> 01:18:26,919
and then I saw a report
of rape in the area.
1935
01:18:27,006 --> 01:18:29,792
So I contacted the police
department and asked
1936
01:18:29,879 --> 01:18:31,619
please have a detective call me
1937
01:18:31,750 --> 01:18:34,144
so we can check the video,
and if there's any evidence
1938
01:18:34,274 --> 01:18:35,275
turn it over to the police.
1939
01:18:43,283 --> 01:18:46,591
- Two young women went
out for a fun girl's night
1940
01:18:46,722 --> 01:18:48,593
in the Gaslamp District.
1941
01:18:48,680 --> 01:18:51,248
At bar time closing
around 2:00 in the morning
1942
01:18:51,378 --> 01:18:52,510
while waiting for their Uber
1943
01:18:52,640 --> 01:18:54,077
they were approached by two men.
1944
01:18:54,207 --> 01:18:57,733
The men appeared to be
nice looking, friendly.
1945
01:18:57,863 --> 01:18:59,169
And they invited 'em back
1946
01:18:59,299 --> 01:19:01,519
to an after party
at their apartment.
1947
01:19:01,606 --> 01:19:02,607
Just a few blocks
from where they
1948
01:19:02,738 --> 01:19:04,174
were waiting for the Uber.
1949
01:19:04,304 --> 01:19:06,132
Once they got to the apartment
1950
01:19:06,219 --> 01:19:09,005
one of the women was led
to a bedroom with one male.
1951
01:19:09,092 --> 01:19:12,573
She recalls taking
a sip of something.
1952
01:19:12,704 --> 01:19:15,925
Next thing she knows is
everything was kinda hazy.
1953
01:19:16,055 --> 01:19:17,883
Ultimately, the friend
1954
01:19:18,014 --> 01:19:20,494
and the second male
entered the apartment
1955
01:19:20,581 --> 01:19:24,672
where the friend saw a third
male lying on the couch.
1956
01:19:24,760 --> 01:19:26,892
The friend and the second male
went into another bedroom.
1957
01:19:26,979 --> 01:19:28,938
Where they proceeded
to have a beer
1958
01:19:29,068 --> 01:19:30,026
and engage in conversation.
1959
01:19:32,768 --> 01:19:34,900
At some point, the victim's
friend got a little nervous.
1960
01:19:35,031 --> 01:19:36,380
She didn't understand
where her friend was.
1961
01:19:36,510 --> 01:19:37,990
She wanted to check up on her.
1962
01:19:38,077 --> 01:19:39,513
She walked through apartment,
1963
01:19:39,644 --> 01:19:41,820
opened up the other bedroom door
1964
01:19:41,951 --> 01:19:45,302
and saw her friend
lying face down,
1965
01:19:45,389 --> 01:19:48,305
unconscious, in a pool of vomit
1966
01:19:48,435 --> 01:19:52,091
with her dress off. She saw the
first male that they had met
1967
01:19:52,222 --> 01:19:54,877
on the street along
with a third male,
1968
01:19:55,007 --> 01:19:56,835
the one who had been
observed on the couch,
1969
01:19:56,966 --> 01:20:00,491
standing there naked,
erect and laughing.
1970
01:20:05,409 --> 01:20:09,543
We get a lot of cases that
involve alcohol, unfortunately.
1971
01:20:09,674 --> 01:20:12,633
When someone is so intoxicated
1972
01:20:12,764 --> 01:20:16,637
that they cannot consent it's
called rape by intoxication.
1973
01:20:16,768 --> 01:20:19,510
They are extremely
difficult cases to prove
1974
01:20:19,597 --> 01:20:23,862
because a lot of times the
only people who have evidence
1975
01:20:23,993 --> 01:20:24,994
are the victim
and the defendant.
1976
01:20:25,124 --> 01:20:27,953
Because of the
victim's intoxication,
1977
01:20:28,084 --> 01:20:31,217
the defendant can
write the story.
1978
01:20:31,304 --> 01:20:35,569
The victim in this case had
no idea who these males were.
1979
01:20:37,354 --> 01:20:40,836
The only information she
had was from her friend
1980
01:20:40,966 --> 01:20:44,535
who had seen one of the
male's driver's license.
1981
01:20:44,665 --> 01:20:47,451
When the victim's friend
and one of the perpetrators
1982
01:20:47,538 --> 01:20:50,454
were in the bedroom
she asked his name
1983
01:20:50,584 --> 01:20:53,761
and he told her that
his name was Jonas Dick.
1984
01:20:53,849 --> 01:20:57,287
And she did not believe
that his name was Dick.
1985
01:20:57,417 --> 01:21:00,203
And he showed her
his driver's license.
1986
01:21:00,333 --> 01:21:02,248
The victim went online,
1987
01:21:02,379 --> 01:21:04,163
through a lot of her
own investigation
1988
01:21:04,294 --> 01:21:09,125
was able to locate a
Jonas Dick from Kansas
1989
01:21:09,255 --> 01:21:10,604
on this website
called RSD Nation.
1990
01:21:13,477 --> 01:21:15,566
The victim did some
further computer research
1991
01:21:15,653 --> 01:21:18,830
where she found that Jonas
Dick was also an instructor
1992
01:21:18,961 --> 01:21:21,398
on a website called
efficientpickupcom.
1993
01:21:23,966 --> 01:21:27,883
There was another male,
also on efficientpickupcom
1994
01:21:28,013 --> 01:21:30,494
as an instructor, and
that was Alexander Smith.
1995
01:21:33,584 --> 01:21:35,716
The victim recognized
Alexander Smith
1996
01:21:35,847 --> 01:21:38,154
to be one of the perpetrators,
1997
01:21:38,241 --> 01:21:39,459
one of the individuals who
assaulted her on that evening.
1998
01:21:42,201 --> 01:21:45,857
The victim then read
through a lot of these blogs
1999
01:21:45,944 --> 01:21:49,382
that were a part of
efficientpickupcom
and one of the blogs
2000
01:21:49,469 --> 01:21:52,995
that she came across
was a blog by Alex Smith
2001
01:21:53,125 --> 01:21:56,085
and it was titled
"LR, Lay Report."
2002
01:21:56,215 --> 01:21:58,783
"Run a Train With
Bootcamp Student."
2003
01:21:58,870 --> 01:22:02,918
She located further a
blog by Jason Berlin
2004
01:22:03,048 --> 01:22:04,876
who was a bootcamp student.
2005
01:22:05,007 --> 01:22:08,836
Mr. Berlin went
into great detail
2006
01:22:08,967 --> 01:22:10,795
about what happened
in that room.
2007
01:22:13,189 --> 01:22:17,802
- So they, yeah, kinda
put it out there.
2008
01:22:17,933 --> 01:22:19,456
Wrote a confession
and put it online
2009
01:22:19,586 --> 01:22:21,414
for the whole world to see.
2010
01:22:57,015 --> 01:22:59,235
- This incident
occurred at a time
2011
01:22:59,322 --> 01:23:01,977
where I was questioning my
life and was very confused.
2012
01:23:04,022 --> 01:23:08,026
I did not have many friendships
or romantic relationships.
2013
01:23:08,113 --> 01:23:11,682
I became impatient
and embarrassed when
I was unsuccessful
2014
01:23:11,812 --> 01:23:14,554
in developing friendships
and relationships with women.
2015
01:23:16,252 --> 01:23:18,602
I then made the biggest
mistake of my life
2016
01:23:18,732 --> 01:23:21,170
and began paying
thousands of dollars
2017
01:23:21,257 --> 01:23:23,389
for what I naively
believed was a mentorship.
2018
01:23:33,530 --> 01:23:35,010
- I don't know how new this is.
2019
01:23:35,140 --> 01:23:36,098
Apparently, the
pickup artist industry
2020
01:23:36,228 --> 01:23:38,187
has been around for a long time.
2021
01:23:39,927 --> 01:23:44,323
But the callousness
of these individuals,
2022
01:23:44,454 --> 01:23:47,065
especially Mr. Smith
and Mr. Dick,
2023
01:23:47,196 --> 01:23:50,721
who were creating this company
2024
01:23:52,810 --> 01:23:57,119
and teaching people how to
essentially overcome obstacles,
2025
01:23:58,946 --> 01:24:00,296
taking advantage of
women and raping them,
2026
01:24:02,602 --> 01:24:04,691
is something that
I had never seen.
2027
01:24:04,822 --> 01:24:07,477
I mean, the fact that
they have this vocabulary
2028
01:24:07,564 --> 01:24:11,872
and this mindset, and that
they're teaching it to people.
2029
01:24:12,003 --> 01:24:13,483
And then they brag about it.
2030
01:24:13,570 --> 01:24:14,875
That's what's so
disturbing to me.
2031
01:24:15,006 --> 01:24:16,442
Is that they find it funny.
2032
01:24:16,573 --> 01:24:19,663
I mean, if you saw the victim
2033
01:24:19,793 --> 01:24:22,231
and the friend talked about how
2034
01:24:22,361 --> 01:24:24,494
when she was leaving
in her pool of vomit
2035
01:24:24,581 --> 01:24:27,671
they were laughing at her.
2036
01:24:27,801 --> 01:24:30,587
And then went onto a
website, bragging about it.
2037
01:24:30,674 --> 01:24:31,501
And saying, "This is
fucking hilarious."
2038
01:24:35,157 --> 01:24:36,158
They think it's hilarious.
2039
01:24:45,776 --> 01:24:49,127
- The majority of
teachers are teaching
2040
01:24:49,258 --> 01:24:53,523
some form of process
that's quite unemotional.
2041
01:24:57,266 --> 01:24:59,398
You know, put in this input,
you'll get this output.
2042
01:25:01,008 --> 01:25:03,924
And in the process
of dehumanizing women
2043
01:25:04,055 --> 01:25:06,927
they are also
dehumanizing themselves
2044
01:25:07,058 --> 01:25:10,540
by becoming unemotional
and treating people badly.
2045
01:25:13,369 --> 01:25:16,502
And not feeling any remorse
or guilt about that.
2046
01:25:18,765 --> 01:25:20,115
Not having any empathy.
2047
01:25:24,119 --> 01:25:27,818
It dehumanizes everybody in the
process, not just the girls,
2048
01:25:27,948 --> 01:25:28,601
but also the student too.
2049
01:25:31,082 --> 01:25:32,475
That's why I do want
to be a part of this.
2050
01:25:34,781 --> 01:25:37,915
Because I think it does need
to be shown for what it is.
2051
01:25:38,045 --> 01:25:40,787
As a warning to potential
students and to girls.
2052
01:25:45,270 --> 01:25:46,924
- I think what has been lost
2053
01:25:47,011 --> 01:25:51,189
is that men don't have
real mentors anymore.
2054
01:25:52,886 --> 01:25:55,889
We have school teachers,
and we have parents
2055
01:25:56,020 --> 01:25:58,805
who often have such
busy schedules,
2056
01:25:58,892 --> 01:26:00,720
they don't have
time for their kids.
2057
01:26:00,851 --> 01:26:02,766
And what we're left with
are books and the internet
2058
01:26:02,896 --> 01:26:03,593
just to learn how life works.
2059
01:26:06,073 --> 01:26:08,598
We don't have the
strong father figures
2060
01:26:08,685 --> 01:26:10,556
we used to have 50
or 100 years ago.
2061
01:26:12,341 --> 01:26:14,386
Growing up, I had a
lack of that in my life.
2062
01:26:14,517 --> 01:26:16,345
My friends too,
2063
01:26:16,475 --> 01:26:18,129
growing up they had the
lack of that in their lives.
2064
01:26:18,260 --> 01:26:19,913
Not only friends from
the pickup industry,
2065
01:26:20,044 --> 01:26:21,959
but friends in general.
2066
01:26:24,657 --> 01:26:25,745
That's my personal opinion.
2067
01:26:28,574 --> 01:26:31,969
- Some instructors, I
feel like they're unhappy.
2068
01:26:32,099 --> 01:26:33,623
I don't feel like
they're really happy.
2069
01:26:33,710 --> 01:26:36,191
I looked at them inside.
2070
01:26:36,321 --> 01:26:38,541
Like, I look at their actions
and they're not really,
2071
01:26:41,370 --> 01:26:42,284
they're not really there.
2072
01:26:43,937 --> 01:26:48,246
And so, I need to pause,
relax and ask myself.
2073
01:26:49,116 --> 01:26:50,292
Why am I here?
2074
01:26:51,380 --> 01:26:53,599
- What game or pickup
can do for some people
2075
01:26:53,730 --> 01:26:54,557
is to create this way
2076
01:26:56,341 --> 01:27:00,432
of having physical
closeness with a girl,
2077
01:27:02,173 --> 01:27:03,566
but without having to
actually be intimate
2078
01:27:03,696 --> 01:27:05,437
or put any feelings at risk.
2079
01:27:05,568 --> 01:27:07,874
Without actually
having to feel at all.
2080
01:27:08,005 --> 01:27:11,704
But, if you don't allow
yourself to feel pain,
2081
01:27:11,835 --> 01:27:13,010
then you're not gonna
be allowing yourself
2082
01:27:13,140 --> 01:27:15,230
to feel love either.
2083
01:27:15,360 --> 01:27:17,014
And I think if you really
look at these people
2084
01:27:17,101 --> 01:27:18,450
is there any love in their life?
2085
01:27:21,105 --> 01:27:24,021
There's lots of women,
but is there any love?
2086
01:27:24,151 --> 01:27:27,111
- The dating game as
practiced nowadays,
2087
01:27:27,242 --> 01:27:31,028
which is quite aggressive, I
think, it's a loveless pursuit.
2088
01:27:33,030 --> 01:27:34,771
People are out for themselves.
2089
01:27:34,901 --> 01:27:36,990
People are trying to get laid
or they're evaluating people.
2090
01:27:37,121 --> 01:27:39,558
It's quite a
mercenary environment.
2091
01:27:41,778 --> 01:27:43,910
And now that I'm married I
have a lot of love in my life.
2092
01:27:44,041 --> 01:27:46,652
My whole life is infused
and surrounded by love.
2093
01:27:46,739 --> 01:27:49,438
Having dated all these women,
many of 'em cosmetically
2094
01:27:49,568 --> 01:27:51,701
very sexy and stunning like.
2095
01:27:51,831 --> 01:27:53,311
The thing that's rare
is not good looks.
2096
01:27:53,442 --> 01:27:55,270
The thing that's
rare is character.
2097
01:27:55,400 --> 01:27:59,491
How do they show
discipline and boundaries?
2098
01:27:59,622 --> 01:28:01,014
How do they respond
to disappointment?
2099
01:28:01,145 --> 01:28:02,625
How reliable are they?
2100
01:28:02,712 --> 01:28:04,583
How do they handle money?
2101
01:28:04,670 --> 01:28:07,238
And actually, when you
think of people lasting
2102
01:28:07,369 --> 01:28:09,196
you see old people,
they're just skeletal.
2103
01:28:09,327 --> 01:28:11,851
You know, their skin's sagging,
they're hobbling along.
2104
01:28:11,982 --> 01:28:13,418
What determines success in
the long run is character
2105
01:28:13,549 --> 01:28:14,854
and not cosmetics.
2106
01:28:17,422 --> 01:28:19,729
Young guys often get
distracted by cosmetics
2107
01:28:19,859 --> 01:28:20,556
to the detriment of their lives.
2108
01:28:24,603 --> 01:28:26,736
- Guys want you to given
them this magic wand
2109
01:28:26,866 --> 01:28:28,912
that will make girls
find them attractive.
2110
01:28:28,999 --> 01:28:32,785
Because they don't realize
that it's an option for girls
2111
01:28:32,916 --> 01:28:35,397
to find them attractive
for who they really are.
2112
01:28:35,484 --> 01:28:37,573
And actually, the girl
who finds them attractive
2113
01:28:37,703 --> 01:28:40,489
for who they really are is
going to be the right person
2114
01:28:40,619 --> 01:28:41,228
for them as well.
2115
01:28:42,969 --> 01:28:44,231
We're so conditioned to feel
2116
01:28:44,362 --> 01:28:47,539
that we should be
something different.
2117
01:28:47,670 --> 01:28:50,803
And I feel like this is sort
of perpetuating that and going,
2118
01:28:50,934 --> 01:28:52,327
"Actually, you're
not good enough."
2119
01:28:52,414 --> 01:28:54,720
"You need to be like
this alpha character"
2120
01:28:54,851 --> 01:28:56,940
"that can get any
girls he wants."
2121
01:28:57,070 --> 01:28:58,985
If you've created
a false personality
2122
01:29:00,900 --> 01:29:03,381
you're only gonna ever
have a false love.
2123
01:29:05,688 --> 01:29:07,429
And maybe you don't care.
2124
01:29:07,559 --> 01:29:08,386
Maybe at the moment,
you don't care.
2125
01:29:08,517 --> 01:29:10,562
And, you're not
bothered about love.
2126
01:29:13,522 --> 01:29:16,089
You're bothered about getting
lots of girl's numbers.
2127
01:29:17,526 --> 01:29:18,440
But one day, you will.
2128
01:29:20,398 --> 01:29:21,312
It's a human instinct.
2129
01:29:23,227 --> 01:29:24,097
- That's why you interviewed me.
2130
01:29:24,228 --> 01:29:25,447
You said, "You're the one guy
2131
01:29:25,577 --> 01:29:27,840
"you've met who's
made the leap."
2132
01:29:27,971 --> 01:29:30,060
I'm fascinated in 10
years how all these like,
2133
01:29:30,147 --> 01:29:34,847
hard-hitting PUA gurus resolve.
2134
01:29:34,978 --> 01:29:37,372
How do they bridge to
the next stage of life?
2135
01:29:37,502 --> 01:29:39,243
You know, Ross Jeffries
would be interesting
2136
01:29:39,330 --> 01:29:42,942
'cause I think he whimpered
into middle and late age,
2137
01:29:43,029 --> 01:29:44,727
and I think that's a lesson.
2138
01:29:46,816 --> 01:29:47,991
- Someone once said
to me, "Ross Jeffries,
2139
01:29:48,121 --> 01:29:49,296
"I thought you were
an urban myth."
2140
01:29:51,298 --> 01:29:52,125
Fucking funny
2141
01:29:55,607 --> 01:29:56,869
Ross Jeffries is a character.
2142
01:29:57,000 --> 01:29:57,566
And frankly, I'm
tired of playing him.
2143
01:30:00,133 --> 01:30:04,877
It's one thing to do
it when you're 30, 40.
2144
01:30:04,964 --> 01:30:06,662
But, when you're 58 years
old, it gets draining.
2145
01:30:08,315 --> 01:30:09,229
Do you understand?
2146
01:30:13,582 --> 01:30:16,149
So, over here is my bookshelf.
2147
01:30:16,236 --> 01:30:19,152
And this is the clunky
little piece of shit book
2148
01:30:19,283 --> 01:30:21,459
I self-published back in 1988.
2149
01:30:24,549 --> 01:30:25,594
It's pretty shameful.
2150
01:30:27,726 --> 01:30:28,684
Well, there's a lot of humor,
2151
01:30:28,814 --> 01:30:30,642
but there's a lot
of anger in it too.
2152
01:30:30,773 --> 01:30:32,818
I was misogynistic back then.
2153
01:30:32,905 --> 01:30:34,472
I had a lot of anger.
2154
01:30:34,603 --> 01:30:36,953
A lot of frustration.
2155
01:30:37,083 --> 01:30:39,129
Not anymore, I've grown too
old to have those attitudes.
2156
01:30:39,259 --> 01:30:41,827
No, I've matured out of it.
2157
01:30:45,396 --> 01:30:49,095
This is the most
embarrassing memento.
2158
01:30:49,226 --> 01:30:52,447
This was taken
sometime in 1988 or so.
2159
01:30:52,534 --> 01:30:55,885
You can see, I look a
little different nowadays.
2160
01:30:56,015 --> 01:30:58,148
I actually think
I'm better looking.
2161
01:30:58,278 --> 01:31:00,280
I like to think of how
my life woulda been
2162
01:31:00,411 --> 01:31:03,022
if, knowing what I know now,
2163
01:31:03,153 --> 01:31:04,459
I could go back in
time and implant it
2164
01:31:04,546 --> 01:31:06,156
in that young guy's head.
2165
01:31:06,286 --> 01:31:08,071
I think my life would be
tremendously different.
2166
01:31:09,725 --> 01:31:11,988
But those kinda what-ifs
don't do any good.
2167
01:31:12,118 --> 01:31:15,470
The what-ifs are
what-ifs in the future,
2168
01:31:15,600 --> 01:31:16,558
and in the immediate present.
2169
01:31:16,688 --> 01:31:18,037
Those are the ones that do good.
2170
01:31:20,518 --> 01:31:21,954
Girls, what are you doing?
2171
01:31:27,264 --> 01:31:31,137
I started a subculture
and an industry.
2172
01:31:31,268 --> 01:31:34,924
I am not responsible for
where people have taken it.
2173
01:31:35,054 --> 01:31:36,708
They've taken it in their
own perverted direction.
2174
01:31:39,319 --> 01:31:42,409
Anyone with the advent of
YouTube and Facebook can pop up
2175
01:31:42,497 --> 01:31:43,933
and claim to be a guru.
2176
01:31:44,063 --> 01:31:47,197
And I think there's a
lot of cruelty in it,
2177
01:31:47,327 --> 01:31:51,157
and misogyny, and all
the things I grew out of.
2178
01:31:51,288 --> 01:31:52,028
And I think there's,
2179
01:31:56,206 --> 01:31:58,164
a lot of it lacks compassion.
2180
01:31:58,295 --> 01:32:00,993
A lot of these guys are just
out to shark and consume
2181
01:32:01,080 --> 01:32:02,691
the people who they're teaching.
2182
01:32:02,821 --> 01:32:05,563
They're vultures, I
call them vultures.
2183
01:32:05,694 --> 01:32:09,611
Devourers of hope, they
devour the hope of men,
2184
01:32:11,830 --> 01:32:13,658
and, take their money, and
leave them empty shells.
2185
01:32:14,833 --> 01:32:16,095
And there are many people.
2186
01:32:18,097 --> 01:32:21,318
Believe me, I could have a
million or so in my pocket
2187
01:32:21,448 --> 01:32:23,233
that I could sorely
use right now
2188
01:32:23,363 --> 01:32:25,757
had I been willing to play
ball with the major companies.
2189
01:32:25,888 --> 01:32:28,325
They all came to
me, except for one.
2190
01:32:28,455 --> 01:32:30,066
Except for Real Social Dynamics,
2191
01:32:30,196 --> 01:32:31,937
they all came to me at one
time or another and said,
2192
01:32:32,068 --> 01:32:34,157
"Would you endorse
our seminars?"
2193
01:32:34,287 --> 01:32:35,462
"We'll give you 50% commission."
2194
01:32:35,593 --> 01:32:36,507
I said, "No, go fuck yourself."
2195
01:32:38,901 --> 01:32:41,599
And, I have a
conscience, I have to
2196
01:32:44,297 --> 01:32:46,212
express my passion,
and I can't do that
2197
01:32:46,343 --> 01:32:47,562
if I'm endorsing something
I don't believe in.
2198
01:32:49,912 --> 01:32:50,913
Here's what I would add.
2199
01:32:53,089 --> 01:32:54,220
Caveat Emptor.
2200
01:32:54,351 --> 01:32:55,047
Let the buyer beware.
2201
01:32:57,484 --> 01:32:58,311
Let the buyer beware.
2202
01:33:00,487 --> 01:33:01,271
That's what I'd add.
2203
01:33:04,535 --> 01:33:05,492
Let the buyer beware.
2204
01:33:15,111 --> 01:33:15,894
What's the matter?
2205
01:33:19,202 --> 01:33:20,420
Come here baby, it's okay.
2206
01:33:20,551 --> 01:33:21,726
She doesn't like the camera.
2207
01:33:24,773 --> 01:33:27,036
Come here, Tazzle,
come here kitty.
2208
01:33:29,125 --> 01:33:31,170
You're gonna have some
chow, what are you gonna do?
2209
01:33:31,301 --> 01:33:32,215
Come on.
2210
01:33:33,477 --> 01:33:35,479
Yes, she's my little cutie.
2211
01:33:35,610 --> 01:33:36,480
Isn't she a beauty?
2212
01:33:39,004 --> 01:33:40,615
Tell me you don't think
that's a beautiful cat.
2213
01:33:42,399 --> 01:33:43,400
Are you recording sound?
2214
01:33:45,402 --> 01:33:47,883
So, this is Tazzleberry.
2215
01:33:48,013 --> 01:33:50,320
Taz is a Maine coon cat.
2216
01:33:50,407 --> 01:33:52,888
I've had her 16 years,
she's an old lady.
2217
01:33:54,672 --> 01:33:56,456
Maine coon cats tend
to be very large.
2218
01:33:56,587 --> 01:33:58,720
They're like one of the
larger breeds of cats.
2219
01:33:58,850 --> 01:34:01,157
But Taz was the
runt of the litter.
2220
01:34:01,287 --> 01:34:04,377
She's seen daddy through a
lot of interesting times.
2221
01:34:04,508 --> 01:34:05,552
Pernilla Jones, come here.
2222
01:34:07,380 --> 01:34:08,991
My other kitty.
2223
01:34:09,121 --> 01:34:11,428
Come here Pernilla.
2224
01:34:11,558 --> 01:34:12,559
Pernilla is a tortoiseshell cat.
2225
01:34:15,780 --> 01:34:17,042
You're a naughty no-no.
2226
01:34:17,173 --> 01:34:18,000
Tell you that.
2227
01:34:19,479 --> 01:34:21,743
So Pernilla is quite jealous
2228
01:34:21,873 --> 01:34:24,528
when I talk to my
lady on the phone.
2229
01:34:24,615 --> 01:34:26,138
Pernilla is not happy about it.
2230
01:34:26,269 --> 01:34:28,401
She tries to knock the
phone out of my hand.
2231
01:34:31,056 --> 01:34:32,928
Come up here, get some brushies.
2232
01:34:34,886 --> 01:34:38,673
I've had, or rather, Pernilla's
had me about three years.
2233
01:34:38,760 --> 01:34:40,065
She's my cat wife.
2234
01:34:40,196 --> 01:34:41,719
I think she thinks
we're married.
2235
01:34:41,850 --> 01:34:45,897
She's extremely jealous,
doesn't like women to come over.
2236
01:34:47,812 --> 01:34:50,772
I am a huge cat lover,
2237
01:34:50,859 --> 01:34:52,687
I think cats are
miraculous creatures.
2238
01:34:54,384 --> 01:34:56,125
They're beautiful
and mysterious.
2239
01:34:56,255 --> 01:34:59,389
They don't listen unless
they feel like it.
2240
01:35:04,002 --> 01:35:04,699
Bye Taz.
2241
01:35:07,310 --> 01:35:08,354
See you later kiddo.
2242
01:35:11,793 --> 01:35:13,664
She doesn't care.
2243
01:35:13,795 --> 01:35:16,145
Yeah, what were
we talking about?
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