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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:26,372 --> 00:00:28,067 ♪ It's alright ♪ 2 00:00:28,067 --> 00:00:30,442 ♪ Gonna be okay ♪ 3 00:00:30,442 --> 00:00:34,274 ♪ Just keep on praying till he makes a way ♪ 4 00:00:34,274 --> 00:00:36,608 ♪ He might not come when you want him ♪ 5 00:00:36,608 --> 00:00:38,629 ♪ But he'll be on time ♪ 6 00:00:38,629 --> 00:00:41,103 ♪ It's gonna be alright ♪ 7 00:00:41,103 --> 00:00:44,549 ♪ It's gonna be alright ♪ 8 00:00:44,549 --> 00:00:46,079 - Smells good. 9 00:00:46,079 --> 00:00:48,024 Looks even better. 10 00:00:48,024 --> 00:00:50,058 How are we doing? 11 00:00:50,058 --> 00:00:52,721 - Oh, we are great. 12 00:00:52,721 --> 00:00:53,554 - That's what I want to hear. 13 00:00:53,554 --> 00:00:55,007 - How's breakfast, Jade? 14 00:00:55,007 --> 00:00:56,137 - Good. 15 00:00:56,137 --> 00:00:57,620 - That's good. 16 00:00:57,620 --> 00:00:59,038 All right, babe, enjoy. 17 00:00:59,038 --> 00:01:00,209 - All right. 18 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:06,341 ♪ Gonna be alright ♪ 19 00:01:06,341 --> 00:01:10,718 ♪ Well maybe that's not your testimony ♪ 20 00:01:10,718 --> 00:01:13,816 - Oh baby, thank you for my lunch. 21 00:01:13,816 --> 00:01:14,649 - You're welcome, baby. 22 00:01:14,649 --> 00:01:15,482 Gotta go, 23 00:01:15,482 --> 00:01:17,081 - Mmm, you have a great day. 24 00:01:17,081 --> 00:01:20,992 - Girl, don't start anything with me, round two. 25 00:01:20,992 --> 00:01:23,254 ♪ Gonna be alright ♪ 26 00:01:23,254 --> 00:01:25,963 ♪ Gonna be alright ♪ 27 00:01:25,963 --> 00:01:28,245 ♪ Gonna be okay ♪ 28 00:01:28,245 --> 00:01:31,035 ♪ Just keep on praying till he makes a way ♪ 29 00:01:31,035 --> 00:01:32,731 - You know he can do that by himself. 30 00:01:32,731 --> 00:01:34,568 - I know but that's my baby. 31 00:01:34,568 --> 00:01:35,401 - I know that's your baby 32 00:01:35,401 --> 00:01:38,426 but your baby also needs to be self sufficient. 33 00:01:38,426 --> 00:01:39,259 Okay? 34 00:01:39,259 --> 00:01:40,092 - Okay. 35 00:01:40,092 --> 00:01:42,381 - Come on, I'll race you to the bus stop. 36 00:01:42,381 --> 00:01:43,408 All right, five o'clock? 37 00:01:43,408 --> 00:01:44,241 - Yes. 38 00:01:44,241 --> 00:01:45,907 - All right. 39 00:01:45,907 --> 00:01:46,740 Ooh, mmm, I see why I married you. 40 00:01:46,740 --> 00:01:48,323 Bye, don't be late. 41 00:01:50,707 --> 00:01:55,707 ♪ It might seem dark but your future's looking bright ♪ 42 00:01:56,143 --> 00:01:58,386 ♪ So just hold on. ♪ 43 00:01:58,386 --> 00:02:03,386 ♪ It won't be long ♪ ♪ Blessings Coming ♪ 44 00:02:05,055 --> 00:02:10,055 ♪ Gonna be alright ♪ 45 00:02:10,124 --> 00:02:13,608 ♪ Say, gonna be alright ♪ 46 00:02:13,608 --> 00:02:14,441 - Come on man. 47 00:02:14,441 --> 00:02:15,794 - Why is she steady calling your phone? 48 00:02:15,794 --> 00:02:16,961 Hello, hello? 49 00:02:19,269 --> 00:02:21,372 ♪ It's gonna be alright ♪ 50 00:02:21,372 --> 00:02:25,716 ♪ It's gonna be alright ♪ 51 00:02:25,716 --> 00:02:28,783 Weeping may endure for a night but.. 52 00:02:28,783 --> 00:02:30,324 ♪ Listen to me ♪ 53 00:02:30,324 --> 00:02:31,340 ♪ Joy is coming ♪ 54 00:02:31,340 --> 00:02:34,255 ♪ It's coming in the morning ♪ 55 00:02:34,255 --> 00:02:35,804 ♪ It's gonna be alright ♪ 56 00:02:35,804 --> 00:02:36,716 - Good day to you too. 57 00:02:36,716 --> 00:02:40,133 ♪ Its gonna be alright ♪ 58 00:02:43,487 --> 00:02:45,023 - Hey, Mrs. Anderson. 59 00:02:45,023 --> 00:02:47,025 - Good morning, honey. 60 00:02:47,025 --> 00:02:51,265 ♪ The lord has never failed me yet ♪ 61 00:02:51,265 --> 00:02:52,207 ♪ Its gonna be alright ♪ 62 00:02:52,207 --> 00:02:53,976 - As always, thank you for tuning in 63 00:02:53,976 --> 00:02:58,333 to Mix 99.5, the heart and soul of St. Louis. 64 00:02:58,333 --> 00:02:59,733 This is your girl signing out, 65 00:02:59,733 --> 00:03:01,980 Dee Marie from Be the Voice Live 66 00:03:01,980 --> 00:03:04,081 and I know you guys are out there in those streets 67 00:03:04,081 --> 00:03:06,130 trying to get that last minute turkey 68 00:03:06,130 --> 00:03:08,790 but please slow down because it's cold out there, 69 00:03:08,790 --> 00:03:10,435 they said the snow is coming, 70 00:03:10,435 --> 00:03:11,964 but the most important thing I want to know 71 00:03:11,964 --> 00:03:14,854 who is inviting me over for that Thanksgiving dinner? 72 00:03:14,854 --> 00:03:16,179 'Cause I know y'all's making it. 73 00:03:16,179 --> 00:03:20,512 ♪ Gonna be all, gonna be alright. ♪ 74 00:03:22,738 --> 00:03:26,230 - Tell me why they denied my vacation request. 75 00:03:26,230 --> 00:03:28,032 - First of all, good morning. 76 00:03:28,032 --> 00:03:31,448 - Well, it's not a good morning to me. 77 00:03:31,448 --> 00:03:32,767 - What's going on Renee? 78 00:03:32,767 --> 00:03:36,475 - This stupid office and their stupid rules. 79 00:03:36,475 --> 00:03:38,590 They're gonna deny my vacation request 80 00:03:38,590 --> 00:03:41,505 for the Friday after Thanksgiving? 81 00:03:41,505 --> 00:03:43,342 - Did they say why? 82 00:03:43,342 --> 00:03:46,180 - She's talking about that I don't have enough days, 83 00:03:46,180 --> 00:03:48,756 even after I already told her that you approved it. 84 00:03:48,756 --> 00:03:50,129 - Okay, so who denied it? 85 00:03:50,129 --> 00:03:50,962 - Mary. 86 00:03:52,405 --> 00:03:53,740 - Give me a sec. 87 00:03:53,740 --> 00:03:55,014 Yeah, call her. 88 00:04:00,076 --> 00:04:01,055 - This is Mary. 89 00:04:01,055 --> 00:04:03,775 - Yes, Mary, this is Kelly, your office manager. 90 00:04:03,775 --> 00:04:05,302 I have Renee standing here at my desk 91 00:04:05,302 --> 00:04:08,188 and she stated at you denied her vacation request 92 00:04:08,188 --> 00:04:11,122 after she told you it was already approved by me? 93 00:04:11,122 --> 00:04:12,212 - Yes, Kelly, that's true, 94 00:04:12,212 --> 00:04:14,048 but Renee has already used all 95 00:04:14,048 --> 00:04:16,668 of her personal and vacation days. 96 00:04:16,668 --> 00:04:19,718 - Yes, I understand that, but I approved it. 97 00:04:19,718 --> 00:04:22,031 So I'm telling you as your manager 98 00:04:22,031 --> 00:04:24,909 to place the approval slip in her files, okay? 99 00:04:24,909 --> 00:04:25,742 Thank you. 100 00:04:30,322 --> 00:04:32,342 - How am I ever gonna be successful at my job 101 00:04:32,342 --> 00:04:35,056 if she keeps overriding everything I say? 102 00:04:35,056 --> 00:04:39,458 - You must talk to her and tell her how it makes you feel. 103 00:04:39,458 --> 00:04:41,966 - She's never gonna listen. 104 00:04:41,966 --> 00:04:42,799 Excuse me. 105 00:04:45,231 --> 00:04:46,863 - All done, it's approved. 106 00:04:46,863 --> 00:04:48,025 - That's what I'm talking about. 107 00:04:48,025 --> 00:04:51,362 Ain't nothing like having your girl as a boss. 108 00:04:52,454 --> 00:04:53,990 - Look, I do not understand 109 00:04:53,990 --> 00:04:56,191 how you be out there in all that mess. 110 00:04:56,191 --> 00:04:57,926 - With finances like mine, 111 00:04:57,926 --> 00:04:59,535 you have to go to Black Friday 112 00:04:59,535 --> 00:05:02,035 for that free TV, that Keurig. 113 00:05:04,464 --> 00:05:07,452 - And I'm pretty sure it's Keurig. 114 00:05:07,452 --> 00:05:10,163 - Whatever Kelly, thanks boo. 115 00:05:14,402 --> 00:05:15,350 - Keurig. 116 00:05:18,770 --> 00:05:20,089 - Hey, what was that all about? 117 00:05:20,089 --> 00:05:23,956 - Oh, Mary tried to deny my vacation time. 118 00:05:23,956 --> 00:05:27,324 I had to get my girl Kelly to put her in her place. 119 00:05:27,324 --> 00:05:28,851 - I wish Kelly was my supervisor. 120 00:05:28,851 --> 00:05:29,684 She seem real cool. 121 00:05:29,684 --> 00:05:31,369 - Yeah, that's my girl. 122 00:05:31,369 --> 00:05:34,118 Uh oh, here come your boy Thirsty Rick. 123 00:05:34,118 --> 00:05:35,044 I'm bout to act like I'm doing some work, 124 00:05:35,044 --> 00:05:36,002 you can listen to him. 125 00:05:36,002 --> 00:05:37,046 - You wrong. 126 00:05:37,046 --> 00:05:38,046 - Hey Renee. 127 00:05:38,886 --> 00:05:39,719 - No Rick. 128 00:05:42,872 --> 00:05:45,582 - Why is she always acting busy when I come around? 129 00:05:45,582 --> 00:05:46,415 - Probably 'cause she don't want 130 00:05:46,415 --> 00:05:47,606 to be bothered with you, bro. 131 00:05:47,606 --> 00:05:48,677 Just give it up, Rick. 132 00:06:08,318 --> 00:06:10,326 - So Julie, are you still not wanting to know 133 00:06:10,326 --> 00:06:11,792 if you're having a girl or a boy? 134 00:06:11,792 --> 00:06:14,966 - Oh girl, no, I definitely want to know 135 00:06:14,966 --> 00:06:17,017 and I'm really hoping for a boy. 136 00:06:17,017 --> 00:06:19,861 I just want my family to be complete. 137 00:06:19,861 --> 00:06:21,402 - Oh, that'd be so perfect. 138 00:06:21,402 --> 00:06:22,877 - Right, you have your girl 139 00:06:22,877 --> 00:06:24,884 and your boy done and out of the way. 140 00:06:24,884 --> 00:06:25,717 - That's what I'm talking about. 141 00:06:25,717 --> 00:06:29,050 - Oh, I'm so happy to be a teetee again. 142 00:06:30,094 --> 00:06:31,726 - A teetee? 143 00:06:31,726 --> 00:06:35,134 When are you gonna join the club and be a mommy? 144 00:06:35,134 --> 00:06:36,494 - Right, come join the club. 145 00:06:36,494 --> 00:06:39,576 - Trust me, that won't be happening any time soon. 146 00:06:39,576 --> 00:06:41,569 - Why not, Kelly? 147 00:06:41,569 --> 00:06:45,486 - Tasha girl, me and Stan have too much going on 148 00:06:46,576 --> 00:06:48,111 to be bringing an innocent child 149 00:06:48,111 --> 00:06:50,173 into this mess of a life of ours. 150 00:06:50,173 --> 00:06:51,006 Girl. 151 00:06:51,006 --> 00:06:53,440 - Anyway, how is baby boy doing 152 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:54,783 at his new school girl? 153 00:06:54,783 --> 00:06:56,251 - He is doing so good. 154 00:06:56,251 --> 00:06:58,585 He is making so many new friends. 155 00:06:58,585 --> 00:07:01,119 He even got invited to a birthday party next week. 156 00:07:01,119 --> 00:07:03,992 He is so excited about that. 157 00:07:03,992 --> 00:07:05,023 - That's so good, Tasha. 158 00:07:05,023 --> 00:07:06,943 I'm so happy to hear that. 159 00:07:06,943 --> 00:07:08,297 Yeah. 160 00:07:08,297 --> 00:07:10,350 - I think I'm done with it. 161 00:07:10,350 --> 00:07:12,089 I really need to sit down. 162 00:07:12,089 --> 00:07:12,927 So I'll take it. 163 00:07:12,927 --> 00:07:14,396 - Uh uh, girl, go ahead, I'll take care of this. 164 00:07:14,396 --> 00:07:15,896 - Thank you, girl. 165 00:07:17,023 --> 00:07:21,858 So ladies, what are you asking Santa for for Christmas? 166 00:07:21,858 --> 00:07:24,245 - Girl, I'm not asking Santa for anything, 167 00:07:24,245 --> 00:07:26,767 but I'm asking Jesus for a new husband. 168 00:07:26,767 --> 00:07:28,626 - Kelly, what are you talking about? 169 00:07:28,626 --> 00:07:30,271 - Clearly, there is something 170 00:07:30,271 --> 00:07:31,877 you need to get off your chest. 171 00:07:31,877 --> 00:07:32,710 What is it? 172 00:07:32,710 --> 00:07:35,398 - So y'all know how close me and Stan used to be. 173 00:07:35,398 --> 00:07:38,317 We were like Bonnie and Clyde, baby. 174 00:07:38,317 --> 00:07:39,912 But since I've given my life to Christ, 175 00:07:39,912 --> 00:07:42,600 it's like we can't see eye to eye on anything. 176 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:43,433 Really? 177 00:07:43,433 --> 00:07:44,391 - Girl, it's gotten so bad, 178 00:07:44,391 --> 00:07:46,871 I can't even stand to see him walk in the room. 179 00:07:46,871 --> 00:07:49,274 - Oh my God, so what you gonna do, girl? 180 00:07:49,274 --> 00:07:50,842 - Have you all thought about counseling? 181 00:07:50,842 --> 00:07:53,495 - Girl, please, Stan ain't gonna step foot 182 00:07:53,495 --> 00:07:56,157 in nobody's church, let alone counseling. 183 00:07:56,157 --> 00:07:59,098 - Well go to a counselor that's not at the church. 184 00:07:59,098 --> 00:08:00,073 - I've been married to the man 185 00:08:00,073 --> 00:08:03,517 long enough to know he is not going for it. 186 00:08:03,517 --> 00:08:05,092 - Happy holidays, ladies. 187 00:08:05,092 --> 00:08:07,588 - Mommy, mommy, daddy got me an apron. 188 00:08:07,588 --> 00:08:08,871 - Oh really? 189 00:08:08,871 --> 00:08:09,954 Look at that. 190 00:08:11,251 --> 00:08:14,644 Now you get to help mommy cook in the kitchen. 191 00:08:14,644 --> 00:08:15,818 Will you put it away for me? 192 00:08:15,818 --> 00:08:16,651 - Yes. 193 00:08:16,651 --> 00:08:18,181 - Thank you. 194 00:08:18,181 --> 00:08:19,764 - That is so sweet. 195 00:08:21,070 --> 00:08:23,869 James, you're such a good dad. 196 00:08:23,869 --> 00:08:25,680 - Hey Kelly, tell Stan I said, 197 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:28,093 if he thought last year's turkey was banging, 198 00:08:28,093 --> 00:08:31,335 this year, he's gonna bite his fingers off. 199 00:08:31,335 --> 00:08:33,184 - Hey, if it's better than what it was last year, 200 00:08:33,184 --> 00:08:35,632 I might bite my fingers off too, shoot. 201 00:08:35,632 --> 00:08:37,071 - You just might. 202 00:08:39,149 --> 00:08:40,759 - My God. 203 00:08:40,759 --> 00:08:42,903 - Y'all are still coming to Friendsgiving, right? 204 00:08:42,903 --> 00:08:44,397 - Girl, I guess. 205 00:08:44,397 --> 00:08:45,693 - You better. 206 00:08:45,693 --> 00:08:47,735 And don't forget about the theme this year. 207 00:08:47,735 --> 00:08:49,351 - We are, okay? 208 00:08:49,351 --> 00:08:50,425 Great. 209 00:08:50,425 --> 00:08:51,333 - I gotta go. 210 00:08:51,333 --> 00:08:52,521 Sorry, I got to head out. 211 00:08:52,521 --> 00:08:53,604 - Did I interrupt something? 212 00:08:53,604 --> 00:08:55,289 - Uh uh, no you fine, 213 00:08:55,289 --> 00:08:58,050 I just got to pick up a couple of things before I head home. 214 00:08:58,050 --> 00:08:59,498 - I'm gonna go ahead and head out with Kelly. 215 00:08:59,498 --> 00:09:00,866 Okay. 216 00:09:00,866 --> 00:09:02,783 - Oh don't y'all forget 217 00:09:03,718 --> 00:09:06,377 to mail your check in and your contribution. 218 00:09:06,377 --> 00:09:08,017 - Already done. 219 00:09:08,017 --> 00:09:09,600 - Thank you, much! 220 00:09:10,513 --> 00:09:13,443 - Hey, thanks ladies so much for helping me out today. 221 00:09:13,443 --> 00:09:14,428 - You're welcome. 222 00:09:14,428 --> 00:09:15,650 - All right girl. 223 00:09:15,650 --> 00:09:17,169 - Bye. 224 00:09:17,169 --> 00:09:18,753 - Did I just walk in on something? 225 00:09:18,753 --> 00:09:21,221 Is something going on? 226 00:09:21,221 --> 00:09:22,948 - Nothing, just girl talk. 227 00:09:22,948 --> 00:09:25,535 Did you bring me something? 228 00:09:25,535 --> 00:09:27,832 - We keeping secrets now? 229 00:09:27,832 --> 00:09:31,273 - No, babe, Kelly going through things with Stan. 230 00:09:31,273 --> 00:09:33,663 You know how it is. 231 00:09:33,663 --> 00:09:36,303 - Look, Kelly's not going through anything with Stan. 232 00:09:36,303 --> 00:09:38,263 Kelly going through it by herself. 233 00:09:38,263 --> 00:09:40,476 - Why would you say that? 234 00:09:40,476 --> 00:09:42,243 - Kelly and Stan were doing just fine 235 00:09:42,243 --> 00:09:44,718 before Kelly got all into church like that. 236 00:09:44,718 --> 00:09:46,810 She needs to let that man be. 237 00:09:46,810 --> 00:09:47,767 And you know what? 238 00:09:47,767 --> 00:09:50,351 The same way God was all patient 239 00:09:50,351 --> 00:09:52,583 and long suffering with her, 240 00:09:52,583 --> 00:09:54,751 she need to extend that same graces. 241 00:09:54,751 --> 00:09:58,734 If you remember, Kelly ain't always been saved. 242 00:09:58,734 --> 00:10:01,273 - Mommy, can we bake cookies now? 243 00:10:01,273 --> 00:10:03,882 - Yeah, let's go wash our hands 244 00:10:03,882 --> 00:10:06,465 and we will bake those cookies. 245 00:10:09,214 --> 00:10:10,047 - Hey Boo. 246 00:10:10,047 --> 00:10:10,880 - Hey. 247 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:11,713 - Is everything okay, out here? 248 00:10:11,713 --> 00:10:12,546 - Yes. 249 00:10:12,546 --> 00:10:13,671 - Good, good, good, good. 250 00:10:13,671 --> 00:10:16,562 Oh girl, make sure you check out on the lipstick line. 251 00:10:16,562 --> 00:10:19,698 We got some colors that will pop on you. 252 00:10:19,698 --> 00:10:22,600 Welcome ladies to the grand opening of Nettie Kelly. 253 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,230 I see you divas finally made it. 254 00:10:24,230 --> 00:10:25,129 - Yes we did. 255 00:10:25,129 --> 00:10:26,846 Ebony, this is beautiful. 256 00:10:26,846 --> 00:10:28,088 I love it, girl. 257 00:10:28,088 --> 00:10:29,779 - Eb, this is so nice. 258 00:10:29,779 --> 00:10:30,612 - Well thanks to the finest designers in the city, baby, 259 00:10:30,612 --> 00:10:31,445 Yassss! 260 00:10:34,341 --> 00:10:37,069 - You know, this has Candice name all over it. 261 00:10:37,069 --> 00:10:38,689 - Well, I'm glad you noticed. 262 00:10:38,689 --> 00:10:39,569 - Noticed? 263 00:10:39,569 --> 00:10:41,637 Candice, this looks amazing. 264 00:10:41,637 --> 00:10:43,089 You did your thing, girl. 265 00:10:43,089 --> 00:10:44,828 - Thank you so much, my loves. 266 00:10:44,828 --> 00:10:46,269 Y'all just missed Julie. 267 00:10:46,269 --> 00:10:48,997 - Yeah, she told me she could only stop by for a minute. 268 00:10:48,997 --> 00:10:51,704 You all are coming to the Friendsgiving this year, right? 269 00:10:51,704 --> 00:10:53,132 - Of course we are. 270 00:10:53,132 --> 00:10:55,651 The question is will you be there? 271 00:10:55,651 --> 00:10:57,136 - What's that supposed to me, Ebony? 272 00:10:57,136 --> 00:10:58,544 - So anyway, Eb, 273 00:10:58,544 --> 00:11:01,295 I know this location had to cost a pretty penny. 274 00:11:01,295 --> 00:11:03,319 What you do girl, hit the lottery, didn't tell us? 275 00:11:03,319 --> 00:11:05,199 - Um, excuse me? 276 00:11:05,199 --> 00:11:07,476 Don't worry about how I get what I get, boo. 277 00:11:07,476 --> 00:11:09,424 You just keep on doing you. 278 00:11:09,424 --> 00:11:11,895 Let me get mine how I get mine 279 00:11:11,895 --> 00:11:14,669 and you get yours however you get yours. 280 00:11:14,669 --> 00:11:16,471 And I ain't even gonna charge you for that. 281 00:11:16,471 --> 00:11:19,443 That's stay in your lane, 101. 282 00:11:19,443 --> 00:11:21,409 - Whatever Ebony, you crazy. 283 00:11:21,409 --> 00:11:24,775 - Um, excuse me, I don't even have that much left. 284 00:11:24,775 --> 00:11:26,960 And these are for the people I don't know. 285 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:28,377 Here, drink mine. 286 00:11:30,583 --> 00:11:34,001 Welcome ladies to the grand opening of Nettie Kelly. 287 00:11:34,001 --> 00:11:35,314 Have a mimosa. 288 00:11:35,314 --> 00:11:36,981 Thank you. 289 00:11:38,135 --> 00:11:39,268 - Y'all been wonderful. 290 00:11:39,268 --> 00:11:41,987 Follow your boy on social media, I'm Steve, the comede. 291 00:11:41,987 --> 00:11:42,909 I'm out. 292 00:11:47,733 --> 00:11:51,019 - Keep giving it up for bead-a-bead Steve. 293 00:11:51,019 --> 00:11:52,108 That boy is funny. 294 00:11:53,906 --> 00:11:55,513 Be sure to come out every Wednesday night 295 00:11:55,513 --> 00:11:57,727 here at Lowes Cafe for open mic night. 296 00:11:57,727 --> 00:11:59,049 Be blessed. 297 00:12:03,293 --> 00:12:05,866 - You doing your thing huh? Ole bead-a-bead! 298 00:12:05,866 --> 00:12:06,804 - Come on now man. 299 00:12:06,804 --> 00:12:07,637 - What up James? 300 00:12:07,637 --> 00:12:08,470 - Trying to take over man? 301 00:12:08,470 --> 00:12:09,303 - Yeah. 302 00:12:09,303 --> 00:12:10,766 Scott. 303 00:12:10,766 --> 00:12:12,158 - Hey, you really trying to take 304 00:12:12,158 --> 00:12:13,717 this comedy thing serious huh? 305 00:12:13,717 --> 00:12:16,213 - You doggone, right, I mean, did I do my thing or what? 306 00:12:16,213 --> 00:12:17,678 - He did all right. 307 00:12:17,678 --> 00:12:19,898 - All right, he did great. 308 00:12:19,898 --> 00:12:21,408 - Henry you were laughing, hard. 309 00:12:21,408 --> 00:12:22,286 - He was laughing hard. 310 00:12:22,286 --> 00:12:23,474 - You was dead laughing. 311 00:12:23,474 --> 00:12:24,307 - Don't worry about it Donte, 312 00:12:24,307 --> 00:12:25,140 you know its always one hater out the bunch. 313 00:12:25,140 --> 00:12:25,973 - Come on man, you did your thing bead-a-bead, 314 00:12:29,215 --> 00:12:30,415 I'm just messing with you. 315 00:12:30,415 --> 00:12:33,830 - Hey, hey, hey, hey, you had me dying man. 316 00:12:33,830 --> 00:12:34,674 You a clown boy. 317 00:12:34,674 --> 00:12:37,484 - That's what's up, but excuse me fellas, 318 00:12:37,484 --> 00:12:41,237 I gotta go entertain one of my many fans. 319 00:12:41,237 --> 00:12:44,784 Go do your thing player. 320 00:12:44,784 --> 00:12:46,281 - That dude is hilarious man. 321 00:12:46,281 --> 00:12:47,114 - Yeah. 322 00:12:47,114 --> 00:12:48,057 - Straight up, straight up. 323 00:12:48,057 --> 00:12:49,868 Hey but Stan, I mean you gonna apply 324 00:12:49,868 --> 00:12:52,160 for my old position or what man? 325 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:53,317 - Man you know what man, 326 00:12:53,317 --> 00:12:54,995 it's crazy that you're asking me that right now 327 00:12:54,995 --> 00:12:57,719 cause I have been thinking about it real tough lately. 328 00:12:57,719 --> 00:12:58,607 - You should. 329 00:12:58,607 --> 00:12:59,440 - Man, you might as well. 330 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,016 You're the team lead so gone 331 00:13:01,016 --> 00:13:02,927 and climb that corporate ladder dog. 332 00:13:02,927 --> 00:13:04,113 - You sure right. 333 00:13:04,113 --> 00:13:06,112 Cause you got Henry and Steve on. 334 00:13:06,112 --> 00:13:07,211 My potna put my name 335 00:13:07,211 --> 00:13:09,648 on his application, he aint even get hired. 336 00:13:09,648 --> 00:13:12,878 - I'm so glad I didn't put that boy name on my application. 337 00:13:12,878 --> 00:13:17,211 - Scott, Scott, Scott, it wasn't even like that man. 338 00:13:18,252 --> 00:13:19,085 Stanley look, 339 00:13:19,085 --> 00:13:19,918 I really need you to apply for that position man. 340 00:13:22,192 --> 00:13:24,533 And I know where you at, I know that look man, 341 00:13:24,533 --> 00:13:26,261 look I felt like I was disqualified to, 342 00:13:26,261 --> 00:13:28,101 you know for the position I'm at 343 00:13:28,101 --> 00:13:31,864 but I just went for it man, and the rest is history man. 344 00:13:31,864 --> 00:13:32,781 - I guess. 345 00:13:33,874 --> 00:13:35,115 - What's up lames? 346 00:13:35,115 --> 00:13:36,446 - Dog, what's up. 347 00:13:36,446 --> 00:13:39,883 What it be like, what it be like, what it be like? 348 00:13:39,883 --> 00:13:41,775 - Finally showed up, what up dog? 349 00:13:41,775 --> 00:13:42,608 - What's happening, what's happening. 350 00:13:42,608 --> 00:13:43,441 - You missed the show. 351 00:13:43,441 --> 00:13:45,202 - I know, I know man, I had to handle some business. 352 00:13:45,202 --> 00:13:46,271 - I get it. 353 00:13:46,271 --> 00:13:48,141 - I know you did your thing. 354 00:13:48,141 --> 00:13:50,081 - What's up boy? 355 00:13:50,081 --> 00:13:51,414 Big money Tuan. 356 00:13:52,291 --> 00:13:53,628 Man I tell you, when your wife got 357 00:13:53,628 --> 00:13:56,438 that makeup lounge going on. 358 00:13:56,438 --> 00:13:58,467 What kind of loan you had to take out for that one? 359 00:13:58,467 --> 00:13:59,300 - Its one of them loans that 360 00:13:59,300 --> 00:14:00,686 you gotta mind your business on. 361 00:14:04,396 --> 00:14:07,382 - Well I'm glad Tasha's content with her eight to five. 362 00:14:07,382 --> 00:14:08,905 - Hey whoa, hold on now. 363 00:14:08,905 --> 00:14:10,884 You gonna have to keep your eye on Tasha, 364 00:14:10,884 --> 00:14:12,636 cause if she come up with a game plan man, on something, 365 00:14:12,636 --> 00:14:14,635 you gonna be investing in it. 366 00:14:14,635 --> 00:14:16,666 - Hold up, all y'all know each other wives, 367 00:14:16,666 --> 00:14:18,968 and y'all hangout like they do in the movies? 368 00:14:18,968 --> 00:14:19,801 - Sure. 369 00:14:19,801 --> 00:14:20,634 - Yeah. 370 00:14:20,634 --> 00:14:21,875 - So y'all are happily married huh? 371 00:14:21,875 --> 00:14:23,275 - Yeah. 372 00:14:23,275 --> 00:14:25,433 - Man that's not the case with me, man I'll tell ya. 373 00:14:25,433 --> 00:14:27,905 - Don't look at me, I'm happily single. 374 00:14:27,905 --> 00:14:31,763 - You know what I can honestly say, I'm happily married man. 375 00:14:33,753 --> 00:14:35,185 - I thought I was the comedian. 376 00:14:35,185 --> 00:14:36,161 - Okay, wait a minute, wait, wait, wait. 377 00:14:36,161 --> 00:14:37,923 So y'all honestly don't think 378 00:14:37,923 --> 00:14:41,552 that it's possible to be happily married? 379 00:14:41,552 --> 00:14:42,385 No. 380 00:14:42,385 --> 00:14:43,262 - Absolutely not. 381 00:14:43,262 --> 00:14:45,732 I mean you can pretend to be, but you're not. 382 00:14:45,732 --> 00:14:47,712 - Well wait a minute, wait a minute, now wait a minute. 383 00:14:47,712 --> 00:14:48,891 God... 384 00:14:48,891 --> 00:14:50,420 You all really going to sit here 385 00:14:50,420 --> 00:14:52,925 and tell this man that he could not be married? 386 00:14:52,925 --> 00:14:53,883 Happily married? 387 00:14:53,883 --> 00:14:54,716 - Yeah. 388 00:14:54,716 --> 00:14:57,125 - To his wife, his true love. 389 00:14:57,125 --> 00:14:59,129 - Hey look, Jesus, let me tell you 390 00:14:59,129 --> 00:15:00,235 from me and Kelly stand point. 391 00:15:00,235 --> 00:15:01,068 Enlighten me. 392 00:15:01,068 --> 00:15:03,403 - Look man, at one point in our marriage, 393 00:15:03,403 --> 00:15:06,365 I can honestly say that we was happy. 394 00:15:06,365 --> 00:15:09,373 But right now I can't say the same thing. 395 00:15:09,373 --> 00:15:10,676 So check this right, 396 00:15:10,676 --> 00:15:12,482 I just don't understand how is it 397 00:15:12,482 --> 00:15:14,028 that we can go from doing everything 398 00:15:14,028 --> 00:15:15,847 up under the sun together, 399 00:15:15,847 --> 00:15:18,017 to now, its like we hate each other. 400 00:15:18,017 --> 00:15:19,527 Look bro, I can tell you 401 00:15:19,527 --> 00:15:21,767 that she hate the sight of me coming, 402 00:15:21,767 --> 00:15:24,635 and to be honest the feeling is starting to become mutual. 403 00:15:24,635 --> 00:15:26,236 - And you know, I feel you man, 404 00:15:26,236 --> 00:15:28,366 cause you know, everybody know my situation. 405 00:15:28,366 --> 00:15:30,335 Me and EB, she crazy as all get out. 406 00:15:30,335 --> 00:15:31,168 Crazy. 407 00:15:31,168 --> 00:15:32,750 - I mean when we good, we good. 408 00:15:32,750 --> 00:15:35,825 But when she started that woody woo woo, it's bad. 409 00:15:35,825 --> 00:15:36,658 The who? 410 00:15:36,658 --> 00:15:39,287 - Hey, but it's 50, 50, it wight itself out. 411 00:15:39,287 --> 00:15:40,207 So I take it. 412 00:15:40,207 --> 00:15:43,047 - Well shoot, You know my wife, she a workaholic bro. 413 00:15:43,047 --> 00:15:45,053 So that kinda worked out for the both of us. 414 00:15:45,053 --> 00:15:45,981 You know what I mean? 415 00:15:45,981 --> 00:15:49,471 Man I don't know if she happy or not. 416 00:15:49,471 --> 00:15:51,532 So I guess I'm safe. 417 00:15:51,532 --> 00:15:52,940 - Safe? 418 00:15:52,940 --> 00:15:55,681 Man its not safe, matter of fact you tripping. 419 00:15:55,681 --> 00:15:57,791 You better know if your wife happy or not man. 420 00:15:57,791 --> 00:16:01,321 - Hold on, why it always important that they always happy? 421 00:16:01,321 --> 00:16:03,036 What about us? 422 00:16:03,036 --> 00:16:04,691 Man we need to change that mindset. 423 00:16:04,691 --> 00:16:07,216 - Listen, now you talking. 424 00:16:07,216 --> 00:16:10,936 - Well truth be told, the bible did say be careful 425 00:16:10,936 --> 00:16:14,916 how you treat our wives, lest our prayers be hindered. 426 00:16:14,916 --> 00:16:16,097 - Yup. 427 00:16:16,097 --> 00:16:19,457 The liquor most certainly started to kick in. 428 00:16:19,457 --> 00:16:21,988 Man every time this dude get to drinking, 429 00:16:21,988 --> 00:16:23,087 he start quoting scripture. 430 00:16:23,087 --> 00:16:25,880 - Hey, hold, hold, hold, hold, hold on. 431 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:27,028 He aint lying though. 432 00:16:27,028 --> 00:16:28,586 The bible does say that. 433 00:16:28,586 --> 00:16:33,003 - Yup, this most definitely about to be a long night. 434 00:17:03,556 --> 00:17:04,956 - Hey mama. 435 00:17:04,956 --> 00:17:06,634 Hey baby, what you doing? 436 00:17:06,634 --> 00:17:08,269 Nothing just At Style-Taneous Styles 437 00:17:08,269 --> 00:17:09,271 looking for something to wear 438 00:17:09,271 --> 00:17:10,938 to the company Christmas party. 439 00:17:10,938 --> 00:17:13,334 - Oh that's right, that is coming up isn't it? 440 00:17:13,334 --> 00:17:15,275 Send me a picture of your outfit when you get it. 441 00:17:15,275 --> 00:17:17,640 I'm just going to wear something I already have. 442 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:18,966 - Now make sure it's burgundy 443 00:17:18,966 --> 00:17:21,265 because you know that's the color we wearing this year. 444 00:17:21,265 --> 00:17:22,843 - Oh yeah, that's right. 445 00:17:22,843 --> 00:17:25,081 Did you start your Christmas shopping yet? 446 00:17:25,081 --> 00:17:26,723 - Not yet, but I will soon. 447 00:17:26,723 --> 00:17:28,294 I know you're probably already done. 448 00:17:28,294 --> 00:17:30,563 When you get finished, in June? 449 00:17:30,563 --> 00:17:32,014 - Child, you know I don't mess around. 450 00:17:32,014 --> 00:17:32,912 I don't have time to be in the store 451 00:17:32,912 --> 00:17:34,613 with all those crazy folks. 452 00:17:34,613 --> 00:17:36,592 Anyway, I was just calling back from earlier. 453 00:17:36,592 --> 00:17:39,062 Call me when you get done. 454 00:17:39,062 --> 00:17:39,895 - Oh mama. 455 00:17:40,763 --> 00:17:41,763 - Yeah baby? 456 00:17:42,683 --> 00:17:44,392 - Never mind. 457 00:17:44,392 --> 00:17:45,975 - What is it Kelly? 458 00:17:47,190 --> 00:17:48,628 - Nothing. 459 00:17:48,628 --> 00:17:49,878 It's just Stan. 460 00:17:50,805 --> 00:17:52,143 I'm getting really frustrated. 461 00:17:52,143 --> 00:17:54,904 I feel like he's not for me anymore. 462 00:17:54,904 --> 00:17:58,765 - Oh, here we go, singing that same old song. 463 00:17:58,765 --> 00:18:00,293 Did you do what I told you to do? 464 00:18:00,293 --> 00:18:02,422 - Yes, I demanded that he get it together, 465 00:18:02,422 --> 00:18:04,339 but he has not changed. 466 00:18:05,225 --> 00:18:06,058 - No. 467 00:18:06,058 --> 00:18:07,933 You have to tell him that he either 468 00:18:07,933 --> 00:18:10,544 has to get it together or he needs to leave. 469 00:18:10,544 --> 00:18:12,464 I mean, he sitting up in that house, 470 00:18:12,464 --> 00:18:16,182 you serving God and he's disrespecting you and God, 471 00:18:16,182 --> 00:18:17,525 and want to act like the devil himself. 472 00:18:17,525 --> 00:18:19,011 Aint nobody got time for that. 473 00:18:19,011 --> 00:18:21,395 - Right, and do, you know, the other day 474 00:18:21,395 --> 00:18:23,645 I kept calling him over and over again 475 00:18:23,645 --> 00:18:25,563 and he wouldn't answer his phone for nothing. 476 00:18:25,563 --> 00:18:27,435 And when I got home, he was sitting 477 00:18:27,435 --> 00:18:30,184 on the couch with his friends, playing a video game. 478 00:18:30,184 --> 00:18:34,383 He spent all his free time doing that, it's so frustrating. 479 00:18:34,383 --> 00:18:35,352 - That don't make any sense. 480 00:18:35,352 --> 00:18:36,197 You could have been stranded on 481 00:18:36,197 --> 00:18:37,906 the side of the road or anything. 482 00:18:37,906 --> 00:18:39,336 - That's what I'm saying. 483 00:18:39,336 --> 00:18:40,600 - Now did you put blessed oil over 484 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:42,276 the house like I told you? 485 00:18:42,276 --> 00:18:43,829 - No mama, I haven't done that. 486 00:18:43,829 --> 00:18:45,570 - Child, that's what you need to do. 487 00:18:45,570 --> 00:18:48,616 Put it on his pillow, put it in his shoes, 488 00:18:48,616 --> 00:18:51,290 on his toothbrush if you have to. 489 00:18:51,290 --> 00:18:52,443 I mean do what you need to do. 490 00:18:52,443 --> 00:18:55,287 Pray those demons right on up out your house. 491 00:18:55,287 --> 00:18:58,349 - Wait a minute, on his toothbrush mom? 492 00:18:59,757 --> 00:19:03,029 Look, I know you serious but that is hilarious. 493 00:19:03,029 --> 00:19:06,726 I really appreciate you talking to me ma, I do. 494 00:19:06,726 --> 00:19:07,815 But look, I'm going to go ahead 495 00:19:07,815 --> 00:19:10,071 and try to find what I need to get and get on up outta here. 496 00:19:10,071 --> 00:19:12,497 I'll call you later, okay? 497 00:19:12,497 --> 00:19:13,844 All right, baby. 498 00:19:13,844 --> 00:19:15,098 - I love you. 499 00:19:15,098 --> 00:19:17,657 - I love you too, baby. 500 00:19:23,789 --> 00:19:24,622 What? 501 00:19:32,684 --> 00:19:35,290 - This dude is a beast man. 502 00:19:35,290 --> 00:19:36,790 It is no stopping him. 503 00:19:39,634 --> 00:19:41,200 Hey what's up babe, you good? 504 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:42,117 - I'm fine. 505 00:19:43,114 --> 00:19:45,153 - That you most definitely are. 506 00:19:45,153 --> 00:19:47,495 You look real good in that dress girl, fine, fine. 507 00:19:47,495 --> 00:19:49,763 Like a whole snack, come on over and sit down. 508 00:19:49,763 --> 00:19:52,735 - Stan I am not in the mood, okay? 509 00:19:52,735 --> 00:19:54,383 - Yeah, of course you're not. 510 00:19:54,383 --> 00:19:55,592 You're never in the mood. 511 00:19:55,592 --> 00:19:58,072 I wasn't doing nothing but giving you a compliment anyway? 512 00:19:58,072 --> 00:19:59,805 - A compliment? 513 00:19:59,805 --> 00:20:02,209 I could care less about a compliment from you. 514 00:20:02,209 --> 00:20:04,561 I am fearfully and wonderfully made. 515 00:20:04,561 --> 00:20:07,061 I don't need your reassurance. 516 00:20:08,902 --> 00:20:11,228 - Is that what you learned at church today Kelly? 517 00:20:11,228 --> 00:20:14,429 - I'm not about to put up with your sarcasm today. 518 00:20:14,429 --> 00:20:15,450 I'm not gonna do it. 519 00:20:15,450 --> 00:20:16,596 - Look, you the one that came in here 520 00:20:16,596 --> 00:20:17,863 with his little attitude 521 00:20:17,863 --> 00:20:19,503 and being that you just came from church, 522 00:20:19,503 --> 00:20:20,490 I'm just trying to see. 523 00:20:20,490 --> 00:20:21,485 Is that what you learned today? 524 00:20:21,485 --> 00:20:23,789 - What ever Stan, I have every right to have an attitude. 525 00:20:23,789 --> 00:20:25,118 When are you going to get it? 526 00:20:25,118 --> 00:20:26,044 - Get what Kelly. 527 00:20:26,044 --> 00:20:27,629 - That I've changed. 528 00:20:27,629 --> 00:20:28,997 - Oh, have you? 529 00:20:28,997 --> 00:20:31,025 - Yes, but you won't acknowledge it, 530 00:20:31,025 --> 00:20:32,971 look, I'm ready for you to come on. 531 00:20:32,971 --> 00:20:34,846 - Come on and do what, what? 532 00:20:34,846 --> 00:20:36,788 - Quit dragging your feet. 533 00:20:36,788 --> 00:20:39,392 Get your life together and live for God. 534 00:20:39,392 --> 00:20:41,396 - Is that what I was doing when we first got married Kelly. 535 00:20:41,396 --> 00:20:42,705 - No and neither was I, 536 00:20:42,705 --> 00:20:44,356 and what does that have to do with anything? 537 00:20:44,356 --> 00:20:47,457 Look, I'm ready for you to come on. 538 00:20:47,457 --> 00:20:48,958 You're supposed to be the head 539 00:20:48,958 --> 00:20:50,859 and I'm supposed to be following you. 540 00:20:50,859 --> 00:20:53,373 I'm to follow you as you follow Christ, 541 00:20:53,373 --> 00:20:54,859 but you're not even following him. 542 00:20:54,859 --> 00:20:56,979 You make it so hard for me. 543 00:20:56,979 --> 00:20:59,696 - Look, let's just calm down 544 00:20:59,696 --> 00:21:01,404 because I've been in this house all day, 545 00:21:01,404 --> 00:21:02,952 waiting for you to come home from church 546 00:21:02,952 --> 00:21:05,196 so I can enjoy the rest of the day with my wife. 547 00:21:05,196 --> 00:21:06,413 But instead you want to come here 548 00:21:06,413 --> 00:21:07,740 with this whole little attitude. 549 00:21:07,740 --> 00:21:09,695 - You know how your day could have been enjoyed? 550 00:21:09,695 --> 00:21:13,445 If you would've came to church with me, Stan. 551 00:21:15,202 --> 00:21:16,824 - You know what? 552 00:21:16,824 --> 00:21:20,521 I'm just going to go get me something to eat. 553 00:21:20,521 --> 00:21:23,688 - Leave Stan, that's what you do best. 554 00:21:27,551 --> 00:21:28,551 Blessed oil. 555 00:21:29,689 --> 00:21:31,423 Father in the name of Jesus. 556 00:21:31,423 --> 00:21:33,357 God, I come to you right now 557 00:21:33,357 --> 00:21:36,912 praying against all these spirits in my house. 558 00:21:36,912 --> 00:21:39,804 Lord, especially for my husband. 559 00:21:39,804 --> 00:21:41,567 He is allowing the enemy to use him. 560 00:21:41,567 --> 00:21:44,650 I need you to help him to understand. 561 00:21:46,532 --> 00:21:49,953 Oh my God, Mrs. Anderson, what, 562 00:21:49,953 --> 00:21:52,633 how did you get, what, is there something you need? 563 00:21:52,633 --> 00:21:54,540 - It sounds as if there's something you need, honey. 564 00:21:54,540 --> 00:21:56,437 So I'm here to check on you. 565 00:21:56,437 --> 00:21:58,655 - Look, I'm fine, I'm just praying 566 00:21:58,655 --> 00:22:00,538 and about to put blessed oil over this house 567 00:22:00,538 --> 00:22:02,986 and pray these demons up out of my husband. 568 00:22:02,986 --> 00:22:05,628 - Whatever are you going to do that for dear? 569 00:22:05,628 --> 00:22:08,301 - Look, I need to see a change in Stan. 570 00:22:08,301 --> 00:22:09,134 - And you think you're going to see 571 00:22:09,134 --> 00:22:11,556 change by putting blessed oil everywhere? 572 00:22:11,556 --> 00:22:13,510 - I don't know, but I'm willing to give it a shot 573 00:22:13,510 --> 00:22:15,555 because things have gotten too far out of control. 574 00:22:15,555 --> 00:22:20,270 - Sweetheart, please just hear me out, that's all I ask. 575 00:22:20,270 --> 00:22:21,497 - Sure, go ahead. 576 00:22:21,497 --> 00:22:22,539 - All right, now listen. 577 00:22:22,539 --> 00:22:24,364 When I say this, it is coming 578 00:22:24,364 --> 00:22:26,895 from a place of love, all right? 579 00:22:26,895 --> 00:22:28,229 Okay, listen. 580 00:22:28,229 --> 00:22:31,430 The first thing you need to do, honey is to pray. 581 00:22:31,430 --> 00:22:34,487 - Mrs. Anderson, I was praying. 582 00:22:34,487 --> 00:22:35,879 - Yes, I heard you, sweetheart. 583 00:22:35,879 --> 00:22:38,650 It sounded like the prayer of the self righteous, 584 00:22:38,650 --> 00:22:40,739 which availeth not much, honey. 585 00:22:40,739 --> 00:22:45,239 Listen, you must first pray and ask God to change you. 586 00:22:46,210 --> 00:22:47,156 - Change me? 587 00:22:47,156 --> 00:22:48,029 - Yes. 588 00:22:48,029 --> 00:22:51,511 - Trust me, Mrs. Anderson, I have definitely changed. 589 00:22:51,511 --> 00:22:54,424 - Sweetheart listen, you are the one who proclaims 590 00:22:54,424 --> 00:22:56,381 to be the believer in this marriage, right? 591 00:22:56,381 --> 00:22:57,214 - Yeah. 592 00:22:57,214 --> 00:23:01,341 - So that means that you've given God permission to use you. 593 00:23:01,341 --> 00:23:03,258 - Well, I do let him use me. 594 00:23:03,258 --> 00:23:06,256 I serve and worship him faithfully. 595 00:23:06,256 --> 00:23:08,682 - Do you really Kelly? 596 00:23:08,682 --> 00:23:11,536 Listen, the Bible tells us in Romans 12:1 597 00:23:11,536 --> 00:23:13,770 that we are to present our bodies 598 00:23:13,770 --> 00:23:15,847 as a living sacrifice dedicated 599 00:23:15,847 --> 00:23:17,885 to his service and pleasing unto him. 600 00:23:17,885 --> 00:23:18,718 - Now Mrs. Anderson. 601 00:23:18,718 --> 00:23:21,293 - Now that there is the true worship 602 00:23:21,293 --> 00:23:22,780 that you ought to be offering up. 603 00:23:22,780 --> 00:23:23,962 - Okay, so you really don't have 604 00:23:23,962 --> 00:23:25,146 to throw all this word at me 605 00:23:25,146 --> 00:23:27,322 because I know it very well. 606 00:23:27,322 --> 00:23:28,155 Trust me. 607 00:23:29,366 --> 00:23:31,165 - Child you do know your word, 608 00:23:31,165 --> 00:23:34,538 but it's not enough just to know it, now is it? 609 00:23:34,538 --> 00:23:36,902 The Bible tells us to be doers of the word 610 00:23:36,902 --> 00:23:38,906 and not hearers only. 611 00:23:38,906 --> 00:23:41,402 Deceiving your own selves. 612 00:23:41,402 --> 00:23:44,189 - But it's so hard and I'm getting tired of Stan. 613 00:23:44,189 --> 00:23:46,523 It takes two to make a marriage work. 614 00:23:46,523 --> 00:23:48,268 - Well sweetheart I'm not a firm believer 615 00:23:48,268 --> 00:23:51,023 in all them little popular sayings y'all have today. 616 00:23:51,023 --> 00:23:55,495 I don't know if it takes two to make a thing go right. 617 00:23:55,495 --> 00:23:58,453 Will it make things easier, maybe. 618 00:23:58,453 --> 00:24:01,396 But let me tell you what I do believe sweetheart. 619 00:24:01,396 --> 00:24:04,783 I believe that if there's at least one willing vessel 620 00:24:04,783 --> 00:24:07,695 that will allow God to have his way. 621 00:24:07,695 --> 00:24:09,124 Well then you at least have a chance 622 00:24:09,124 --> 00:24:11,644 of seeing things turned around for your good. 623 00:24:11,644 --> 00:24:14,635 - Well you are speaking the truth. 624 00:24:14,635 --> 00:24:16,955 You sure do have a lot of wisdom when it comes to marriage, 625 00:24:16,955 --> 00:24:19,500 how long have you been married? 626 00:24:19,500 --> 00:24:21,073 - I think its been, it seems 627 00:24:21,073 --> 00:24:23,959 like it's been about 2,000 years. 628 00:24:23,959 --> 00:24:27,187 Honey, that man was crazier than a road lizard. 629 00:24:27,187 --> 00:24:30,442 I want to tell you, we had our share of ups and downs. 630 00:24:30,442 --> 00:24:32,542 And you know what, I'd be willing 631 00:24:32,542 --> 00:24:35,434 to be your accountability partner 632 00:24:35,434 --> 00:24:37,836 if you will allow me to. 633 00:24:37,836 --> 00:24:39,372 - I'm willing to do. 634 00:24:39,372 --> 00:24:40,779 - All right, good. 635 00:24:40,779 --> 00:24:42,887 Now your first point of focus is to pray 636 00:24:42,887 --> 00:24:45,554 and ask God to change you, okay? 637 00:24:46,506 --> 00:24:49,637 And oh, may I make one more suggestion honey? 638 00:24:49,637 --> 00:24:50,691 - What's that. 639 00:24:50,691 --> 00:24:51,774 - You know you can't always 640 00:24:51,774 --> 00:24:54,691 take everybody's advice, all right. 641 00:24:56,123 --> 00:24:59,138 Even those who are closest to you. 642 00:24:59,138 --> 00:25:00,377 - Yes ma'am. 643 00:25:00,377 --> 00:25:01,913 - Happy holidays sweetheart. 644 00:25:08,361 --> 00:25:13,361 ♪ Together we walk side by side ♪ 645 00:25:13,925 --> 00:25:18,925 ♪ That's how it was meant to be yeah ♪ 646 00:25:19,499 --> 00:25:22,855 ♪ You see nothing else matters, no ♪ 647 00:25:22,855 --> 00:25:27,743 ♪ Our love is for eternity ♪ 648 00:25:27,743 --> 00:25:32,743 ♪ And you are my shining star, yes ♪ 649 00:25:34,631 --> 00:25:39,631 ♪ Our love will never depart ♪ 650 00:25:39,665 --> 00:25:44,665 ♪ Holding your hand with my hand in yours ♪ 651 00:25:46,174 --> 00:25:51,174 ♪ It is such a wonderful feeling ♪ 652 00:25:51,759 --> 00:25:56,759 ♪ This Christmas holiday we share ♪ 653 00:25:57,651 --> 00:26:02,112 ♪ I believe in you and me ♪ 654 00:26:02,112 --> 00:26:06,189 ♪ I believe in you and me ♪ 655 00:26:06,189 --> 00:26:11,189 ♪ And our love will always be ♪ 656 00:26:13,002 --> 00:26:15,799 ♪ I believe ♪ 657 00:26:15,799 --> 00:26:17,941 ♪ I believe ♪ 658 00:26:17,941 --> 00:26:21,627 ♪ Dance with me baby, step with me sugar ♪ 659 00:26:21,627 --> 00:26:23,796 - And so that will be your total need. 660 00:26:23,796 --> 00:26:26,360 That actually concludes my presentation this morning. 661 00:26:26,360 --> 00:26:27,501 So again, I thank you all 662 00:26:27,501 --> 00:26:29,829 for choosing Erickson insurance agency 663 00:26:29,829 --> 00:26:31,376 for your insurance needs again, 664 00:26:31,376 --> 00:26:33,743 I am Susan Erickson and I will be representing 665 00:26:33,743 --> 00:26:36,364 you guys from the Northern division moving forward. 666 00:26:36,364 --> 00:26:37,872 Thanks again for your time. 667 00:26:37,872 --> 00:26:39,224 - Thank you Mrs. Erickson. 668 00:26:39,224 --> 00:26:41,631 The information you shared was very valuable. 669 00:26:41,631 --> 00:26:42,464 No problem. 670 00:26:42,464 --> 00:26:43,697 - Renee, will you be sure to have 671 00:26:43,697 --> 00:26:46,488 my meeting minutes out by noon tomorrow? 672 00:26:46,488 --> 00:26:48,429 - Sure Mary, I will have 673 00:26:48,429 --> 00:26:51,929 your meeting minutes out by noon tomorrow. 674 00:26:58,436 --> 00:27:00,770 She aint the boss, but she always tell me what to do. 675 00:27:00,770 --> 00:27:02,411 - Renee, Renee, you want 676 00:27:02,411 --> 00:27:04,002 to take a break and go get some lunch? 677 00:27:04,002 --> 00:27:08,293 - Sorry Ricky I have to work on these meeting minutes. 678 00:27:08,293 --> 00:27:11,196 - Come on Renee, you gotta take a break at some point. 679 00:27:11,196 --> 00:27:14,036 - I'm fasting and as a matter of fact, 680 00:27:14,036 --> 00:27:16,203 I'll be fasting all month. 681 00:27:19,289 --> 00:27:20,773 - Renee, right? 682 00:27:20,773 --> 00:27:22,021 - The one and only. 683 00:27:22,021 --> 00:27:23,529 - And you're Kelly's assistant, correct? 684 00:27:23,529 --> 00:27:24,516 - I sure am. 685 00:27:24,516 --> 00:27:25,349 - Great. 686 00:27:25,349 --> 00:27:26,829 I actually wanted to stop by next week 687 00:27:26,829 --> 00:27:27,726 when I'm in the area 688 00:27:27,726 --> 00:27:29,405 and drop her off some more brochures. 689 00:27:29,405 --> 00:27:32,182 So if you could fit me on her schedule, that'd be perfect. 690 00:27:32,182 --> 00:27:34,747 - Okay, I'll take a look at her schedule 691 00:27:34,747 --> 00:27:38,734 and I'll contact you with the time and date. 692 00:27:38,734 --> 00:27:39,816 - Well thank you. 693 00:27:39,816 --> 00:27:40,807 - Mhm. 694 00:27:40,807 --> 00:27:41,640 - Mhm. 695 00:27:52,937 --> 00:27:55,195 - Hey, are you seriously gonna let Gary sit over there 696 00:27:55,195 --> 00:27:56,381 and do nothing while we over working 697 00:27:56,381 --> 00:27:58,406 our butts like we crazy? 698 00:27:58,406 --> 00:27:59,445 - Crazy. 699 00:27:59,445 --> 00:28:01,989 - Well first of all we all know that Gary 700 00:28:01,989 --> 00:28:03,678 hurt his back not too long ago 701 00:28:03,678 --> 00:28:06,085 and he asked to be on light duty for a while. 702 00:28:06,085 --> 00:28:07,080 That's it. 703 00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,079 - For a while, he been on light duty for, 704 00:28:09,079 --> 00:28:11,624 carry the two, for two and a half years. 705 00:28:11,624 --> 00:28:15,881 You know what, I hurt my back too, I'm on light duty too. 706 00:28:15,881 --> 00:28:17,478 - Now see that's your problem Steve, 707 00:28:17,478 --> 00:28:18,762 you always trying to be funny. 708 00:28:18,762 --> 00:28:20,324 Its not the time right now. 709 00:28:20,324 --> 00:28:22,026 Now look, how about y'all stop crying 710 00:28:22,026 --> 00:28:23,446 and complaining all the time man, 711 00:28:23,446 --> 00:28:25,082 and just worry about getting your own job done? 712 00:28:25,082 --> 00:28:27,674 Let's start with that. 713 00:28:27,674 --> 00:28:31,732 - Hey Stan, many hands make light work, ya know? 714 00:28:31,732 --> 00:28:35,367 - Well we got many hands, let's make light work. 715 00:28:35,367 --> 00:28:36,772 And you're out of uniform. 716 00:28:36,772 --> 00:28:38,439 - I'm on light duty. 717 00:28:43,065 --> 00:28:44,023 - Hey, its Stan. 718 00:28:44,023 --> 00:28:45,145 - Hey baby. 719 00:28:45,145 --> 00:28:46,499 - Hi, what's going on with you baby, what's up? 720 00:28:46,499 --> 00:28:50,330 - Nothing, I tried to call you a few times earlier today. 721 00:28:50,330 --> 00:28:52,648 - Yeah, its been a little crazy around here, 722 00:28:52,648 --> 00:28:53,481 its been a little busy. 723 00:28:53,481 --> 00:28:54,314 - Oh. 724 00:28:54,314 --> 00:28:55,147 - Why, what's going on though, what's up? 725 00:28:55,147 --> 00:28:58,194 - Look I know you're busy so I will make it quick okay, umm 726 00:28:58,194 --> 00:28:59,622 You know that lady I be listening to on 727 00:28:59,622 --> 00:29:01,536 the radio all the time, Minister Norton? 728 00:29:01,536 --> 00:29:03,883 - Nah, not really, why what's up with her? 729 00:29:03,883 --> 00:29:07,256 - Anyway, so the girls are going to Chicago 730 00:29:07,256 --> 00:29:08,145 because she's going to be speaking 731 00:29:08,145 --> 00:29:10,459 at a women's conference in a couple of weeks 732 00:29:10,459 --> 00:29:11,732 and they wanted me to go. 733 00:29:11,732 --> 00:29:15,252 So just wanted to clear it with you first. 734 00:29:15,252 --> 00:29:16,881 How long is that for Kelly? 735 00:29:16,881 --> 00:29:19,799 - We leaving on Wednesday and coming back Sunday. 736 00:29:19,799 --> 00:29:21,720 - Hey, look, I don't know about that babe. 737 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,218 - What do you mean you're not feeling it? 738 00:29:23,218 --> 00:29:24,455 - I mean what I said Kelly. 739 00:29:24,455 --> 00:29:27,394 Like that's five whole days you're talking about being gone. 740 00:29:27,394 --> 00:29:29,086 Look babe, I'm a little busy right now. 741 00:29:29,086 --> 00:29:31,028 Can we please just talk about this later when I get home? 742 00:29:31,028 --> 00:29:34,876 - Hold on, I was just calling you to be respectful. 743 00:29:34,876 --> 00:29:36,644 I really don't have to ask you for anything 744 00:29:36,644 --> 00:29:39,802 and furthermore, you know what you sure right, 745 00:29:39,802 --> 00:29:41,584 yes, we can talk about it later. 746 00:29:41,584 --> 00:29:42,846 - All right babe, I love you. 747 00:29:42,846 --> 00:29:44,118 - Love you too. 748 00:29:44,118 --> 00:29:45,118 - All right. 749 00:29:50,488 --> 00:29:51,774 - You're still going right? 750 00:29:51,774 --> 00:29:52,776 - Renee what are you doing 751 00:29:52,776 --> 00:29:54,128 ear hustling in on my conversation? 752 00:29:54,128 --> 00:29:56,690 - Sorry girl, anyway, I needed favor. 753 00:29:56,690 --> 00:29:58,293 - What is it, Renee? 754 00:29:58,293 --> 00:30:01,092 - Well, you know that guy I was telling you about right? 755 00:30:01,092 --> 00:30:03,738 - Which one, and why do you keep playing Rick? 756 00:30:03,738 --> 00:30:05,143 He seems like a really nice guy 757 00:30:05,143 --> 00:30:06,964 and I think he like you for real, for real. 758 00:30:06,964 --> 00:30:08,941 - Who likes nice guys plus 759 00:30:08,941 --> 00:30:11,155 those the ones you gotta watch out for. 760 00:30:11,155 --> 00:30:12,240 - My God. 761 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,576 - Anyway, I'm talking about the one from Michigan. 762 00:30:17,789 --> 00:30:18,871 Girl. 763 00:30:18,871 --> 00:30:20,202 You know what I told you. 764 00:30:20,202 --> 00:30:22,100 - Girl, what is it? 765 00:30:22,100 --> 00:30:25,946 - Well he asked me to go out on a date with him, 766 00:30:25,946 --> 00:30:27,332 for his company party, 767 00:30:27,332 --> 00:30:31,652 so I'm just gonna need maybe two, three days off tops. 768 00:30:31,652 --> 00:30:33,799 - Okay Renee seriously, going forward you're gonna have 769 00:30:33,799 --> 00:30:36,544 to submit your time off requests to human resources. 770 00:30:36,544 --> 00:30:39,629 - Why Kelly, you the head of human resource. 771 00:30:39,629 --> 00:30:42,276 - I know Renee, look I'm working on a new me 772 00:30:42,276 --> 00:30:44,695 and they have guidelines that need to be followed. 773 00:30:44,695 --> 00:30:48,381 So we as in you, are gonna have to follow them. 774 00:30:48,381 --> 00:30:51,019 - Wait a minute Kelly, I don't know what's gotten into you, 775 00:30:51,019 --> 00:30:53,431 this has never been a problem before. 776 00:30:53,431 --> 00:30:55,426 - I know, and listen, 777 00:30:55,426 --> 00:30:56,839 please don't take it personal 778 00:30:56,839 --> 00:30:59,214 because I promise you its not like that. 779 00:30:59,214 --> 00:31:01,780 Look, I'm just trying to change okay, 780 00:31:01,780 --> 00:31:03,149 and I gotta do things different. 781 00:31:03,149 --> 00:31:03,982 - Change? 782 00:31:05,392 --> 00:31:07,783 I don't think I like all this change Kelly, 783 00:31:07,783 --> 00:31:10,906 I don't know what's wrong with you lately, 784 00:31:10,906 --> 00:31:14,841 but friend to friend, I'm not liking it. 785 00:31:14,841 --> 00:31:19,344 I'm not liking it Kelly, what's getting into you? 786 00:31:19,344 --> 00:31:22,364 - And we are back, right here are Mix 99.5, 787 00:31:22,364 --> 00:31:24,153 the heart and soul of St. Louis, 788 00:31:24,153 --> 00:31:25,494 this is your host Dee Marie 789 00:31:25,494 --> 00:31:27,379 right here with Be The Voice Live 790 00:31:27,379 --> 00:31:28,543 and we are at the question 791 00:31:28,543 --> 00:31:30,092 and answer part of our program 792 00:31:30,092 --> 00:31:32,776 and it looks like we have quite a few callers today. 793 00:31:32,776 --> 00:31:34,374 So we're gonna get right to it, 794 00:31:34,374 --> 00:31:37,385 caller number one, are you there? 795 00:31:37,385 --> 00:31:38,428 My name is Claire 796 00:31:38,428 --> 00:31:40,863 and I have a question for Minister Norton. 797 00:31:40,863 --> 00:31:43,851 - Praise God Claire, what's your question today? 798 00:31:43,851 --> 00:31:45,154 My question is, my husband 799 00:31:45,154 --> 00:31:49,110 and I, we are, we were high school sweethearts 800 00:31:49,110 --> 00:31:52,662 however when we got married I wasn't saved. 801 00:31:52,662 --> 00:31:53,495 - Okay. 802 00:31:53,495 --> 00:31:55,350 My husband still likes to party, 803 00:31:55,350 --> 00:31:57,340 he doesn't want to come to church with me, 804 00:31:57,340 --> 00:32:00,604 I just really feel that we're unequally yoked. 805 00:32:00,604 --> 00:32:02,236 And I just want to know if you have any type 806 00:32:02,236 --> 00:32:04,704 of advice that you could offer. 807 00:32:04,704 --> 00:32:06,463 - Fist I wanna say congratulations 808 00:32:06,463 --> 00:32:09,210 on accepting Jesus as your savior, 809 00:32:09,210 --> 00:32:11,913 that is absolutely the best decision 810 00:32:11,913 --> 00:32:13,374 that you could have made. 811 00:32:13,374 --> 00:32:16,486 Second, I want to congratulate you on accepting 812 00:32:16,486 --> 00:32:19,471 your God given assignment in your marriage, 813 00:32:19,471 --> 00:32:23,852 yes you are on assignment in your marriage to be a light 814 00:32:23,852 --> 00:32:26,588 and be obedient to Gods word. 815 00:32:26,588 --> 00:32:31,174 Also you know part of your assignment is to pray 816 00:32:31,174 --> 00:32:34,300 for your husband and his deliverance 817 00:32:34,300 --> 00:32:36,666 and then you also have an assignment 818 00:32:36,666 --> 00:32:39,660 to be the light to your husband. 819 00:32:39,660 --> 00:32:44,660 To be patient, to pray for him and his deliverance, 820 00:32:44,732 --> 00:32:48,038 and then to take all of your frustrations to God 821 00:32:48,038 --> 00:32:51,587 because truly he is the only one that 822 00:32:51,587 --> 00:32:55,130 can change your husbands heart, not you. 823 00:32:55,130 --> 00:32:58,377 Also I wanna recommend that you read 1st Peter, 824 00:32:58,377 --> 00:33:02,210 Ch 3 and just meditate on that, okay? 825 00:33:04,038 --> 00:33:06,166 Thank you so much Minister Norton. 826 00:33:06,166 --> 00:33:08,435 - Oh absolutely, its my pleasure. 827 00:33:08,435 --> 00:33:11,878 I also wanna recommend another book, its an excellent book, 828 00:33:11,878 --> 00:33:15,683 its called Are You Really His Good Thing 829 00:33:15,683 --> 00:33:18,555 by Kyria Williams and Chrissie Appleby. 830 00:33:18,555 --> 00:33:20,924 In that book is an entire section 831 00:33:20,924 --> 00:33:24,207 that is dedicated to those sorts of situations 832 00:33:24,207 --> 00:33:26,766 and Claire I thank you again for calling in 833 00:33:26,766 --> 00:33:28,627 and I hope that helps. 834 00:33:28,627 --> 00:33:29,766 Thank you so much. 835 00:33:29,766 --> 00:33:31,507 - Oh wonderful, God bless you. 836 00:33:31,507 --> 00:33:32,371 Thank you. 837 00:33:32,371 --> 00:33:34,067 - Minister Norton, that was awesome. 838 00:33:34,067 --> 00:33:34,927 - Praise God, praise God. 839 00:33:34,927 --> 00:33:35,804 - So it looks like we still have some callers. 840 00:33:35,804 --> 00:33:36,637 - Okay, okay, wonderful. 841 00:33:36,637 --> 00:33:40,027 - That you can take so, caller number two, are you there? 842 00:33:41,996 --> 00:33:43,075 - Who is it? 843 00:33:43,075 --> 00:33:45,320 It's Ebony. 844 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,181 - Give me a sec Ebony. 845 00:33:47,181 --> 00:33:49,357 Kelly, open the door. 846 00:33:49,357 --> 00:33:50,357 - Oh my God. 847 00:33:54,417 --> 00:33:55,881 Hey Ebony. 848 00:33:55,881 --> 00:33:59,217 - Dang Kelly, what took you so long? 849 00:33:59,217 --> 00:34:03,549 - Girl I am so sorry, but I've been very busy. 850 00:34:03,549 --> 00:34:07,484 - Busy getting lit, girl and you didn't call me? 851 00:34:07,484 --> 00:34:09,709 What kind of friend are you? 852 00:34:09,709 --> 00:34:13,836 - Ebony girl, look, Stan and his friends just left, 853 00:34:13,836 --> 00:34:16,009 they were here celebrating a promotion he just got. 854 00:34:16,009 --> 00:34:18,011 - Please, Stan and his friends? 855 00:34:18,011 --> 00:34:20,090 They would be here getting this mess up too. 856 00:34:20,090 --> 00:34:23,077 - Don't start with me, I'm not in the mood, okay? 857 00:34:23,077 --> 00:34:25,860 - Kelly when are you gonna wake up? 858 00:34:25,860 --> 00:34:26,773 When are you gonna quit letting 859 00:34:26,773 --> 00:34:28,789 this man just walk all over you? 860 00:34:28,789 --> 00:34:31,228 - And what make you think he's walking all over me Ebony? 861 00:34:31,228 --> 00:34:35,390 - First of all you been saved going on four years now. 862 00:34:35,390 --> 00:34:38,179 This man aint thinking about getting himself together. 863 00:34:38,179 --> 00:34:40,346 He's still drinking Kelly. 864 00:34:43,072 --> 00:34:44,720 Girl he smoke. 865 00:34:44,720 --> 00:34:47,252 I just ran into him in the club last week. 866 00:34:47,252 --> 00:34:48,330 Don't you think you deserve a man 867 00:34:48,330 --> 00:34:50,420 that's gonna live for God the way you are? 868 00:34:50,420 --> 00:34:52,842 - Yes, I deserve a man that's living for God, 869 00:34:52,842 --> 00:34:56,106 but unfortunately I'm not married to one right now. 870 00:34:56,106 --> 00:34:59,093 And anyway who's knows what his future holds. 871 00:34:59,093 --> 00:35:00,826 - Girl, nothing. 872 00:35:00,826 --> 00:35:02,999 - Listen you right Ebony I've been saved 873 00:35:02,999 --> 00:35:04,336 for about four years now, 874 00:35:04,336 --> 00:35:06,359 but you know what I've been doing the whole time? 875 00:35:06,359 --> 00:35:07,539 - Girl what? 876 00:35:07,539 --> 00:35:11,056 - I've been lipping God to my husband, not living for God. 877 00:35:11,056 --> 00:35:12,243 - You've been doing what? 878 00:35:13,610 --> 00:35:16,826 - Okay, so look the bible says that we as wives 879 00:35:16,826 --> 00:35:20,451 are to draw our unsaved husbands by the way we live, 880 00:35:20,451 --> 00:35:23,421 not by our words, but by our actions. 881 00:35:23,421 --> 00:35:27,159 - Girl you serious about this Jesus stuff. 882 00:35:27,159 --> 00:35:29,411 My girl is changing for real. 883 00:35:29,411 --> 00:35:30,819 - I am. 884 00:35:30,819 --> 00:35:33,808 I really am, I even have an accountability partner 885 00:35:33,808 --> 00:35:36,045 that helps me out so much. 886 00:35:36,045 --> 00:35:37,456 - Well pray for your girl babe 887 00:35:37,456 --> 00:35:39,815 because I ain't no where near that point. 888 00:35:39,815 --> 00:35:42,231 - Trust me, I will. 889 00:35:42,231 --> 00:35:44,900 But look, I appreciate you coming over 890 00:35:44,900 --> 00:35:47,571 and seeing about little old me, 891 00:35:47,571 --> 00:35:50,683 but girl you see I got all this work to do. 892 00:35:50,683 --> 00:35:53,872 - Girl look I was just coming by to check on you boo. 893 00:35:53,872 --> 00:35:57,482 Make sure Stan aint have you locked in no cage or nothing. 894 00:35:57,482 --> 00:35:59,584 But if you need anything call me okay? 895 00:35:59,584 --> 00:36:01,072 - Okay, I will. 896 00:36:01,072 --> 00:36:02,858 - Oh, Kelly. 897 00:36:02,858 --> 00:36:06,254 Julie invited me to some conference thing, are you going? 898 00:36:06,254 --> 00:36:08,259 - Stan doesn't want me to go. 899 00:36:08,259 --> 00:36:10,119 - Stan don't want you to go, wait a minute, 900 00:36:10,119 --> 00:36:13,524 so now think you his daughter and not his wife? 901 00:36:13,524 --> 00:36:16,032 - No Ebony, he doesn't think that. 902 00:36:16,032 --> 00:36:19,741 Look all you need to know, just understand, 903 00:36:19,741 --> 00:36:23,533 that I'm trying to draw my husband by what I do. 904 00:36:23,533 --> 00:36:25,227 Not by what I say. 905 00:36:25,227 --> 00:36:28,609 - You know what Kelly, let me tell you something baby. 906 00:36:28,609 --> 00:36:30,493 You already know me honey, 907 00:36:30,493 --> 00:36:34,176 I'll never understand nothing like that. 908 00:36:34,176 --> 00:36:35,676 I'm gone, call me. 909 00:36:39,267 --> 00:36:41,415 - Oh my God, I can't believe she's still mad at me. 910 00:36:41,415 --> 00:36:43,323 I need y'all to help me with this apology. 911 00:36:43,323 --> 00:36:45,733 Okay, okay, I can go in there, I can go in there 912 00:36:45,733 --> 00:36:48,756 and I can just be like, please, please, Kelly, please. 913 00:36:48,756 --> 00:36:50,253 - Nah, that's too much begging. 914 00:36:50,253 --> 00:36:51,192 - You right, you right. 915 00:36:51,192 --> 00:36:52,501 I'm not a beggar. 916 00:36:52,501 --> 00:36:55,169 I know I can just write an old school letter, 917 00:36:55,169 --> 00:36:57,714 say I'm sorry and slip it under her door. 918 00:36:57,714 --> 00:37:00,433 - No, no, no, no, much too cowardly. 919 00:37:00,433 --> 00:37:01,515 Make it natural. 920 00:37:01,515 --> 00:37:03,339 - You right, cause I'm not a coward. 921 00:37:03,339 --> 00:37:06,943 I know, take her her favorite cup of coffee 922 00:37:06,943 --> 00:37:08,538 and just apologize. 923 00:37:08,538 --> 00:37:12,714 Old school, I'm sorry best friend, period. 924 00:37:12,714 --> 00:37:14,090 Yes, sounds good to me. 925 00:37:14,090 --> 00:37:15,048 - On my way. 926 00:37:18,605 --> 00:37:19,438 Kelly. 927 00:37:21,088 --> 00:37:22,005 Hey friend. 928 00:37:22,984 --> 00:37:25,146 - Renee, what's going on? 929 00:37:25,146 --> 00:37:27,245 - I just wanted to apologize. 930 00:37:27,245 --> 00:37:29,454 You know, for the other day, 931 00:37:29,454 --> 00:37:32,951 the way I ran up out of your office the other day. 932 00:37:32,951 --> 00:37:34,605 I don't want to seem unappreciative 933 00:37:34,605 --> 00:37:35,975 because I really do thank you 934 00:37:35,975 --> 00:37:38,532 for this opportunity that you're giving me. 935 00:37:38,532 --> 00:37:40,573 It's just this new you, 936 00:37:40,573 --> 00:37:42,128 it's going to take some getting used to. 937 00:37:42,128 --> 00:37:45,959 Now I'm not going to say I like it, but I do respect it. 938 00:37:45,959 --> 00:37:48,610 - Oh Renee, that's sweet, thank you. 939 00:37:48,610 --> 00:37:50,196 Apology accepted. 940 00:37:50,196 --> 00:37:51,542 - Awwee, so friends for life? 941 00:37:51,542 --> 00:37:53,798 - Of course, you know you're my girl. 942 00:37:53,798 --> 00:37:54,631 - All right. 943 00:37:56,355 --> 00:37:59,037 - Girl, let me go and get back to work. 944 00:37:59,037 --> 00:38:00,080 - Please. 945 00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:01,373 - Now don't say it like that Kelly. 946 00:38:01,373 --> 00:38:03,693 Like I'm not the only one around her doing all the work. 947 00:38:03,693 --> 00:38:04,698 I do everything, you don't want me 948 00:38:04,698 --> 00:38:07,781 to take no lunch, can't eat my chicken, huhh 949 00:38:09,049 --> 00:38:11,037 Oh, I forgot to tell you Mrs. Erickson's 950 00:38:11,037 --> 00:38:13,084 out here to see you, want me to send her in? 951 00:38:13,084 --> 00:38:14,346 - Yes please. 952 00:38:14,346 --> 00:38:15,951 - Okay. 953 00:38:15,951 --> 00:38:17,539 Hello. 954 00:38:17,539 --> 00:38:18,372 Hi. 955 00:38:18,372 --> 00:38:19,205 - Hi. 956 00:38:19,205 --> 00:38:20,038 How are you? 957 00:38:20,038 --> 00:38:20,996 - Good, and you? 958 00:38:20,996 --> 00:38:21,829 - Nice to see you again. 959 00:38:21,829 --> 00:38:23,249 - Same here. 960 00:38:23,249 --> 00:38:25,860 Thank you so much for fitting me into your schedule. 961 00:38:25,860 --> 00:38:26,860 I know you're busy, 962 00:38:26,860 --> 00:38:28,367 but I'm wanting to definitely drop 963 00:38:28,367 --> 00:38:30,405 these brochures off as promised. 964 00:38:30,405 --> 00:38:31,682 - Thank you. 965 00:38:31,682 --> 00:38:32,775 I will get these to Renee 966 00:38:32,775 --> 00:38:34,005 and make sure she puts them in 967 00:38:34,005 --> 00:38:36,055 their mailboxes before this evening. 968 00:38:36,055 --> 00:38:37,474 - Perfect. 969 00:38:37,474 --> 00:38:38,500 Is this you and hubby? 970 00:38:38,500 --> 00:38:40,301 - Yes, that is my baby. 971 00:38:40,301 --> 00:38:42,384 - You guys look so happy. 972 00:38:44,282 --> 00:38:45,512 How long have you been married? 973 00:38:45,512 --> 00:38:47,013 - Seven years. 974 00:38:47,013 --> 00:38:47,846 - Wow. 975 00:38:48,984 --> 00:38:51,592 - I remember Scott and I were happy. 976 00:38:51,592 --> 00:38:52,509 My, my, my. 977 00:38:53,413 --> 00:38:55,410 How things change. 978 00:38:55,410 --> 00:38:58,072 - Mrs. Erickson, are you okay? 979 00:38:58,072 --> 00:39:02,489 - I'm fine, I'm sorry, and please just call me Susan. 980 00:39:03,983 --> 00:39:05,517 We're just going through a divorce right now 981 00:39:05,517 --> 00:39:07,096 and things are really hard 982 00:39:07,096 --> 00:39:09,258 because we're still living in the same home. 983 00:39:09,258 --> 00:39:11,355 - I'm so sorry to hear that. 984 00:39:11,355 --> 00:39:13,066 How long have you all been married? 985 00:39:13,066 --> 00:39:15,346 - Four years and a day. 986 00:39:15,346 --> 00:39:18,466 - Wait a minute, your anniversary was yesterday? 987 00:39:18,466 --> 00:39:19,299 - I shouldn't be bothering you 988 00:39:19,299 --> 00:39:21,057 with my personal issues, I apologize. 989 00:39:21,057 --> 00:39:22,477 - Susan, you are fine. 990 00:39:22,477 --> 00:39:26,496 Listen, I believe nothing happens by coincidence. 991 00:39:26,496 --> 00:39:27,646 - Why do you say that? 992 00:39:27,646 --> 00:39:28,775 Well, my girlfriends and I, 993 00:39:28,775 --> 00:39:31,481 we started a wives' book club recently 994 00:39:31,481 --> 00:39:34,513 and I would love to invite you to the next one. 995 00:39:34,513 --> 00:39:36,044 - I couldn't. 996 00:39:36,044 --> 00:39:39,822 - Susan, listen, marriage is hard work. 997 00:39:39,822 --> 00:39:41,244 That's why we started this book club. 998 00:39:41,244 --> 00:39:43,662 So that we can hold one another accountable 999 00:39:43,662 --> 00:39:47,324 and encourage each other and from the sound of it, 1000 00:39:47,324 --> 00:39:49,444 you don't want your marriage to end. 1001 00:39:49,444 --> 00:39:50,277 Why don't you think about it? 1002 00:39:50,277 --> 00:39:52,284 - I think it's a little too late for that. 1003 00:39:52,284 --> 00:39:53,422 - Trust me. 1004 00:39:53,422 --> 00:39:56,073 I think, I think it will help. 1005 00:39:56,073 --> 00:39:58,301 Have you heard of Minister Norton? 1006 00:39:58,301 --> 00:39:59,134 Tracy Norton? 1007 00:39:59,134 --> 00:40:01,382 - Her name sounds familiar. 1008 00:40:01,382 --> 00:40:04,871 - Okay, so she has a podcast, I listen to it all the time 1009 00:40:04,871 --> 00:40:07,575 and recently she recommended this book. 1010 00:40:07,575 --> 00:40:08,768 Are You Really His Good Thing 1011 00:40:08,768 --> 00:40:11,924 by Kyria Williams and Chrissie Appleby. 1012 00:40:11,924 --> 00:40:14,494 I recommend you pick it up and bring it with you 1013 00:40:14,494 --> 00:40:16,606 when you come to the book club. 1014 00:40:16,606 --> 00:40:19,728 - I'll think about it, I'll consider. 1015 00:40:19,728 --> 00:40:22,525 - Okay, well I'll text you the address 1016 00:40:22,525 --> 00:40:24,902 and I really, really hope you can make it. 1017 00:40:24,902 --> 00:40:26,568 I think it will help you. 1018 00:40:26,568 --> 00:40:27,476 - Thank you so much. 1019 00:40:27,476 --> 00:40:29,262 I really appreciate that. 1020 00:40:29,262 --> 00:40:32,520 - I know we just met, but I'm here for you. 1021 00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,599 I can understand how it could be, you know, 1022 00:40:35,599 --> 00:40:37,356 and I'll keep you in my prayers. 1023 00:40:37,356 --> 00:40:38,332 - Thank you so much. 1024 00:40:38,332 --> 00:40:39,165 - No problem. 1025 00:40:39,165 --> 00:40:40,101 You have a good day. 1026 00:40:40,101 --> 00:40:41,059 - Have a good one. 1027 00:40:41,059 --> 00:40:41,892 You to. 1028 00:40:41,892 --> 00:40:42,975 - Thank you. 1029 00:40:45,261 --> 00:40:46,972 - Hey, what's up with the Mrs. Business woman? 1030 00:40:46,972 --> 00:40:47,843 - Hi baby. 1031 00:40:47,843 --> 00:40:49,115 - What I gotta do, pull a number 1032 00:40:49,115 --> 00:40:51,294 or something just to speak to you? 1033 00:40:51,294 --> 00:40:52,127 You poppin' now 1034 00:40:52,127 --> 00:40:54,751 - Stop acting silly, what are you doing here? 1035 00:40:54,751 --> 00:40:55,929 - Well since I was in the area, 1036 00:40:55,929 --> 00:40:58,287 I decided to stop by and ask you on a date tonight. 1037 00:40:58,287 --> 00:41:01,276 - Stan, you know it's Friday, 1038 00:41:01,276 --> 00:41:05,609 I have church tonight and we're handing out turkeys. 1039 00:41:06,556 --> 00:41:08,070 - See what I mean Kelly? 1040 00:41:08,070 --> 00:41:08,903 What? 1041 00:41:08,903 --> 00:41:10,290 - Its like I got to pull a number just 1042 00:41:10,290 --> 00:41:12,009 to spend some time with my wife. 1043 00:41:12,009 --> 00:41:13,494 - Stan don't be like that. 1044 00:41:13,494 --> 00:41:16,098 Listen, I've been going to Friday night service for years, 1045 00:41:16,098 --> 00:41:18,508 you know I don't like to miss it. 1046 00:41:18,508 --> 00:41:22,258 - I'm sorry that I even came down to ask you. 1047 00:41:23,174 --> 00:41:24,341 - Really Stan? 1048 00:41:28,057 --> 00:41:31,724 Don't nothing and nobody come before my God. 1049 00:41:34,038 --> 00:41:36,463 - Minister Norton you are preaching here today. 1050 00:41:36,463 --> 00:41:38,985 You said something that was so profound, 1051 00:41:38,985 --> 00:41:43,794 you said that as wives our first ministry is at home. 1052 00:41:43,794 --> 00:41:47,030 Can you please talk to our listeners more about that? 1053 00:41:47,030 --> 00:41:48,962 - Absolutely, I would love to. 1054 00:41:48,962 --> 00:41:52,264 You know, we as women must realize 1055 00:41:52,264 --> 00:41:55,041 the season that we're in, in our lives. 1056 00:41:55,041 --> 00:41:58,186 If you are a married woman, there's a season for you. 1057 00:41:58,186 --> 00:42:01,028 If you're unmarried, there's a season for you. 1058 00:42:01,028 --> 00:42:04,096 In the Bible in 1st Corinthians 7:34, 1059 00:42:04,096 --> 00:42:07,953 it talks about the difference between a wife and a Virgin. 1060 00:42:07,953 --> 00:42:11,244 And it says that the unmarried woman cares 1061 00:42:11,244 --> 00:42:14,971 about the things of God and how she may be Holy, 1062 00:42:14,971 --> 00:42:17,640 both in body and in spirit. 1063 00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:19,642 But that the married woman, 1064 00:42:19,642 --> 00:42:22,942 she cares about the things for her husband 1065 00:42:22,942 --> 00:42:24,972 and how she may please him. 1066 00:42:24,972 --> 00:42:26,376 And I want to say something 1067 00:42:26,376 --> 00:42:28,543 to all of your listeners out there today. 1068 00:42:28,543 --> 00:42:32,460 I do not care what your title is in the church. 1069 00:42:32,460 --> 00:42:34,502 I'm not concerned about that. 1070 00:42:34,502 --> 00:42:38,142 What I am concerned about is that you are running 1071 00:42:38,142 --> 00:42:41,390 to the church every time the doors swing open 1072 00:42:41,390 --> 00:42:42,702 and you're volunteering 1073 00:42:42,702 --> 00:42:46,292 for every opportunity that comes by you. 1074 00:42:46,292 --> 00:42:48,920 All the while you are neglecting 1075 00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,881 your family and your husband. 1076 00:42:51,881 --> 00:42:53,797 But your first ministry, 1077 00:42:53,797 --> 00:42:57,380 your first ministry is at home, sweetheart. 1078 00:42:59,296 --> 00:43:00,296 - Oh my God. 1079 00:43:01,297 --> 00:43:02,697 I'm neglecting Stan. 1080 00:43:18,019 --> 00:43:19,635 I'm glad you're still here. 1081 00:43:19,635 --> 00:43:23,150 Look, I'm sorry, I change my mind. 1082 00:43:23,150 --> 00:43:26,114 I would love to go on a date with you tonight. 1083 00:43:26,114 --> 00:43:27,438 - I'm good Kelly. 1084 00:43:27,438 --> 00:43:28,322 You can go ahead and pass out 1085 00:43:28,322 --> 00:43:29,480 your little turkeys or whatever 1086 00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:30,870 I don't want to inconvenience you or nothing. 1087 00:43:30,870 --> 00:43:32,330 You got your little church thing going on, 1088 00:43:32,330 --> 00:43:33,676 so go ahead and do that, its cool. 1089 00:43:33,676 --> 00:43:35,900 - Baby I promise you it's fine, okay? 1090 00:43:35,900 --> 00:43:37,630 - Yeah alright. 1091 00:43:37,630 --> 00:43:39,218 - I love you. 1092 00:43:39,218 --> 00:43:40,051 - Yup. 1093 00:43:43,277 --> 00:43:44,194 - Mm mm mm. 1094 00:43:45,379 --> 00:43:48,129 Again, Holy spirit have your way. 1095 00:43:49,084 --> 00:43:50,834 - Yes, have your way. 1096 00:43:52,241 --> 00:43:54,479 - Renee, get back to work. 1097 00:43:54,479 --> 00:43:55,812 - I'm om lunch. 1098 00:43:57,633 --> 00:44:01,252 - Hey ladies, so we have a visitor. 1099 00:44:01,252 --> 00:44:03,554 - Everybody, this is my girl, Susan, 1100 00:44:03,554 --> 00:44:06,446 Susan, this Tasha, Candice, and Ebony, 1101 00:44:06,446 --> 00:44:07,431 and you already know Julie. 1102 00:44:07,431 --> 00:44:08,264 - Hi. 1103 00:44:08,264 --> 00:44:09,097 - Hey Susan. 1104 00:44:09,097 --> 00:44:09,930 Nice to meet you ladies. 1105 00:44:09,930 --> 00:44:10,763 - Hey. 1106 00:44:10,763 --> 00:44:12,121 - Thanks so much for allowing me to join you all. 1107 00:44:12,121 --> 00:44:14,180 I've actually never been to anything like this, 1108 00:44:14,180 --> 00:44:16,476 so I don't really know what to expect. 1109 00:44:16,476 --> 00:44:18,109 - Girl, let me warn, you can expect 1110 00:44:18,109 --> 00:44:19,773 a whole lot a bougieness. 1111 00:44:19,773 --> 00:44:21,896 - Cut it out Ebony. 1112 00:44:21,896 --> 00:44:24,263 Susan please don't pay her any attention. 1113 00:44:24,263 --> 00:44:27,446 But its okay, we're just glad that you could make it. 1114 00:44:27,446 --> 00:44:29,474 Actually we're just about to get started, 1115 00:44:29,474 --> 00:44:32,413 so feel free to listen in or if you wanna jump 1116 00:44:32,413 --> 00:44:34,532 in at any moment feel free to do so. 1117 00:44:34,532 --> 00:44:35,365 - Thank you. 1118 00:44:35,365 --> 00:44:36,607 - Yeah. 1119 00:44:36,607 --> 00:44:40,099 All right ladies, so go ahead and make yourself comfortable. 1120 00:44:40,099 --> 00:44:42,374 All right ladies so we are on chapter two, 1121 00:44:43,391 --> 00:44:44,224 romance and riches. 1122 00:44:45,729 --> 00:44:47,319 Yes honey. 1123 00:44:47,319 --> 00:44:49,553 - Okay, so Susan, what we do is we read 1124 00:44:49,553 --> 00:44:51,384 a chapter of the book each week. 1125 00:44:51,384 --> 00:44:53,177 At the end of each chapter, 1126 00:44:53,177 --> 00:44:54,823 there are little things that you can do 1127 00:44:54,823 --> 00:44:57,561 to enhance your marriage, you know. 1128 00:44:57,561 --> 00:45:00,186 We come back together, sitting like so, 1129 00:45:00,186 --> 00:45:01,773 and each lady gets a chance to talk 1130 00:45:01,773 --> 00:45:03,583 about what she got out of that chapter. 1131 00:45:03,583 --> 00:45:04,796 - Okay, great. 1132 00:45:04,796 --> 00:45:05,909 I'm just listening. 1133 00:45:05,909 --> 00:45:07,244 - Oh, that's fine. 1134 00:45:07,244 --> 00:45:09,338 All right, so we'll go ahead and begin with you Tasha. 1135 00:45:09,338 --> 00:45:10,849 What'd you get out of this chapter? 1136 00:45:10,849 --> 00:45:13,501 - Okay well, this chapter actually helped me a lot. 1137 00:45:13,501 --> 00:45:14,409 In this section she focused 1138 00:45:14,409 --> 00:45:18,115 on making her obligation as a wife, our first priority, 1139 00:45:18,115 --> 00:45:20,105 over everything we have going on 1140 00:45:20,105 --> 00:45:22,167 and you all know I have a lot going on. 1141 00:45:23,817 --> 00:45:25,115 Whatever. 1142 00:45:25,115 --> 00:45:26,856 There was one thing that really stood out 1143 00:45:26,856 --> 00:45:29,796 to me in this section and I highlighted it. 1144 00:45:29,796 --> 00:45:31,897 The enemy will play on your emotions. 1145 00:45:31,897 --> 00:45:33,545 And have you thinking that withholding sex 1146 00:45:33,545 --> 00:45:36,384 from your husband will teach him a lesson, 1147 00:45:36,384 --> 00:45:38,025 but she pointed out that in the bible, 1148 00:45:38,025 --> 00:45:39,967 it states that by withholding sex, 1149 00:45:39,967 --> 00:45:42,369 we're actually placing them in a tempting state. 1150 00:45:42,369 --> 00:45:43,318 - Whoa, wait a minute. 1151 00:45:43,318 --> 00:45:45,097 What about the wives that don't withhold 1152 00:45:45,097 --> 00:45:47,649 from their husbands and he still ain't no good? 1153 00:45:47,649 --> 00:45:49,354 And out here giving his baby mama money 1154 00:45:49,354 --> 00:45:50,404 that we aint even got? 1155 00:45:50,404 --> 00:45:51,684 - Ebony. 1156 00:45:51,684 --> 00:45:54,516 Come on, that's not the focus right now, okay? 1157 00:45:54,516 --> 00:45:56,636 We'll deal with that in another subject girl. 1158 00:45:56,636 --> 00:45:58,146 - Positive vibes only Ebony. 1159 00:45:58,146 --> 00:46:00,484 - Girl didn't I tell you, a whole lot of bougieness. 1160 00:46:00,484 --> 00:46:05,143 - Anyways, Tasha that was really good, and you know what? 1161 00:46:05,143 --> 00:46:07,975 That was certainly a word for me. 1162 00:46:07,975 --> 00:46:09,295 Ebony. 1163 00:46:09,295 --> 00:46:11,987 What'd you get out of this week's chapter? 1164 00:46:11,987 --> 00:46:13,908 - Skip me, I wasn't feeling it this week. 1165 00:46:13,908 --> 00:46:14,866 - Ebony. 1166 00:46:14,866 --> 00:46:17,417 - Girl look, I be doing all this stuff 1167 00:46:17,417 --> 00:46:19,885 and he act like he still don't see me changing. 1168 00:46:19,885 --> 00:46:22,755 And you already know, I'm not about to be nobody's fool. 1169 00:46:22,755 --> 00:46:25,005 - Ebony, look we all agreed 1170 00:46:25,925 --> 00:46:28,204 that we were gonna take this seriously. 1171 00:46:28,204 --> 00:46:31,193 This is not a journey that you can take lightly. 1172 00:46:31,193 --> 00:46:32,788 Look, we ought to be this way 1173 00:46:32,788 --> 00:46:35,610 as wives whether they notice it or not. 1174 00:46:35,610 --> 00:46:37,636 I mean because, we're not doing 1175 00:46:37,636 --> 00:46:41,300 this unto them, we're doing it unto God. 1176 00:46:41,300 --> 00:46:42,402 - You know what? 1177 00:46:42,402 --> 00:46:43,760 We already said it before, 1178 00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:46,269 let's say it on the count of three again. 1179 00:46:46,269 --> 00:46:48,375 One, two, three. 1180 00:46:48,375 --> 00:46:51,068 We're doing this unto God. 1181 00:46:51,068 --> 00:46:54,413 - Yes, okay ladies let's get back to our book discussion. 1182 00:46:54,413 --> 00:46:55,371 - Thank you Candice. 1183 00:46:55,371 --> 00:46:57,010 - So in section three she talks about 1184 00:46:57,010 --> 00:46:59,224 being good managers of our homes 1185 00:46:59,224 --> 00:47:00,985 and a good example she wrote about 1186 00:47:00,985 --> 00:47:03,311 was the husband being the thermometer 1187 00:47:03,311 --> 00:47:05,772 and the wives being the thermostat. 1188 00:47:05,772 --> 00:47:09,215 Now the thermometer, it just reacts 1189 00:47:09,215 --> 00:47:11,511 to what's happening around it right, 1190 00:47:11,511 --> 00:47:14,028 but that thermostat, that thermostat 1191 00:47:14,028 --> 00:47:16,428 it monitors the environment. 1192 00:47:16,428 --> 00:47:18,578 And if it gets to hot or to cold 1193 00:47:18,578 --> 00:47:22,278 it decides what to do to correct the situation. 1194 00:47:22,278 --> 00:47:23,944 Girl now that's good. 1195 00:47:23,944 --> 00:47:25,657 - No it really is good, though 1196 00:47:25,657 --> 00:47:27,157 because when he comes home with 1197 00:47:27,157 --> 00:47:30,062 an attitude I instantly get one too. 1198 00:47:30,062 --> 00:47:32,388 Look, I don't care what you've been through today, 1199 00:47:32,388 --> 00:47:35,257 don't walk up in my house with an attitude. 1200 00:47:35,257 --> 00:47:36,923 - Now that's what I'm talking about boo. 1201 00:47:36,923 --> 00:47:38,250 No. 1202 00:47:38,250 --> 00:47:40,792 - I'm saying that's how I used to react to it. 1203 00:47:40,792 --> 00:47:43,959 But now I see that I am the thermostat 1204 00:47:45,342 --> 00:47:47,921 and I can just adjust the temperature 1205 00:47:47,921 --> 00:47:49,457 in the environment baby. 1206 00:47:51,977 --> 00:47:54,125 - Can I just cut in here ladies and say something? 1207 00:47:54,125 --> 00:47:55,992 - Sure, go ahead. 1208 00:47:55,992 --> 00:47:59,495 - First of all, what you all are doing here is amazing. 1209 00:47:59,495 --> 00:48:00,722 I mean, I really wish that 1210 00:48:00,722 --> 00:48:03,218 I had met you guys before Scott 1211 00:48:03,218 --> 00:48:05,537 and I got on this page in our marriage. 1212 00:48:05,537 --> 00:48:06,935 - Sweetheart, look, if you want 1213 00:48:06,935 --> 00:48:09,026 your marriage to work, it can, 1214 00:48:09,026 --> 00:48:11,147 nothing is too hard for God. 1215 00:48:11,147 --> 00:48:13,189 - And I know, but you know, 1216 00:48:13,189 --> 00:48:16,290 Scott and I are going through a divorce right now. 1217 00:48:16,290 --> 00:48:19,097 And honestly, I'm just listening 1218 00:48:19,097 --> 00:48:21,882 for when God gives me an instruction 1219 00:48:21,882 --> 00:48:24,318 and blesses me with my next husband. 1220 00:48:24,318 --> 00:48:26,261 - Your next husband? 1221 00:48:26,261 --> 00:48:27,858 - Baby, cause he would give you another one honey. 1222 00:48:27,858 --> 00:48:28,997 - Stop it girl. 1223 00:48:28,997 --> 00:48:31,347 - Susan you married to Scott right now. 1224 00:48:31,347 --> 00:48:33,486 That should be your focus. 1225 00:48:33,486 --> 00:48:36,258 Why is it that we could trust God, 1226 00:48:36,258 --> 00:48:38,405 you know, for jobs, you know, 1227 00:48:38,405 --> 00:48:41,707 we can trust him to watch over and save our kids, 1228 00:48:41,707 --> 00:48:44,638 heal our bodies, but when it comes to relationships, 1229 00:48:44,638 --> 00:48:46,952 most importantly, our marriage, 1230 00:48:46,952 --> 00:48:48,991 we don't believe that he could fix it. 1231 00:48:48,991 --> 00:48:51,241 Girl, God can fix anything. 1232 00:48:52,845 --> 00:48:53,806 That's right. 1233 00:48:53,806 --> 00:48:56,219 - All he needs is a willing vessel, 1234 00:48:56,219 --> 00:49:00,363 a yielded vessel in your house in order for him to work. 1235 00:49:00,363 --> 00:49:02,318 Trust me, I know. 1236 00:49:02,318 --> 00:49:04,430 That's good. 1237 00:49:04,430 --> 00:49:08,729 - I honestly do want our marriage to work. 1238 00:49:08,729 --> 00:49:11,444 I just don't think it can in this state. 1239 00:49:11,444 --> 00:49:13,233 - Oh my God. 1240 00:49:13,233 --> 00:49:15,706 - Honey have y'all tried counseling? 1241 00:49:15,706 --> 00:49:19,402 - Listen, this church, the pastor and his wife, 1242 00:49:19,402 --> 00:49:22,260 they hold these marriage sessions every month called 1243 00:49:22,260 --> 00:49:24,586 Marriage Works If You Work It. 1244 00:49:24,586 --> 00:49:27,003 I really think you should go. 1245 00:49:27,889 --> 00:49:28,775 - And the pastor also has 1246 00:49:28,775 --> 00:49:29,796 a book out now called 1247 00:49:29,796 --> 00:49:32,455 The Marriage Cup and The Covenant, Kelly did you read it? 1248 00:49:32,455 --> 00:49:34,845 - I did, I've been trying to get Stan to read it with me, 1249 00:49:34,845 --> 00:49:37,650 but you know how that is. 1250 00:49:37,650 --> 00:49:39,164 - Do they do counseling at all? 1251 00:49:39,164 --> 00:49:41,051 - You know what I believe they do, 1252 00:49:41,051 --> 00:49:42,494 but I'll find out for you. 1253 00:49:42,494 --> 00:49:43,585 - Please do. 1254 00:49:43,585 --> 00:49:44,810 - Okay. 1255 00:49:44,810 --> 00:49:46,196 It's going to be all right girl. 1256 00:49:52,071 --> 00:49:55,038 Welcome home Mr. Stevenson. 1257 00:49:55,038 --> 00:49:58,304 - Hey now, that's sexy right there. 1258 00:49:58,304 --> 00:50:00,868 - You talking about the food or me baby? 1259 00:50:00,868 --> 00:50:03,886 - Most definitely not the food. 1260 00:50:03,886 --> 00:50:05,053 - Bonappetit. 1261 00:50:06,151 --> 00:50:08,314 - Now look, Kelly, I could get used to this right here. 1262 00:50:08,314 --> 00:50:09,147 - Oh yeah? 1263 00:50:09,147 --> 00:50:10,020 - Yeah. 1264 00:50:10,020 --> 00:50:12,359 - Well good because I just wanted 1265 00:50:12,359 --> 00:50:16,705 a nice romantic dinner with my husband tonight. 1266 00:50:16,705 --> 00:50:17,652 - I'm a tell you what, let me get out 1267 00:50:17,652 --> 00:50:21,118 of these sweaty gym clothes, and I'm a be back to join. 1268 00:50:21,118 --> 00:50:23,400 - Okay, you better hurry up. 1269 00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:25,301 - I'm coming, believe that, 1270 00:50:30,836 --> 00:50:33,122 I don't know what got into her 1271 00:50:33,122 --> 00:50:36,496 but what ever it is I'm most definitely 1272 00:50:36,496 --> 00:50:39,121 about to take advantage of it, I know that much. 1273 00:50:52,834 --> 00:50:54,427 - Baby what are you doing? 1274 00:50:54,427 --> 00:50:56,618 You're supposed to be in the shower. 1275 00:50:56,618 --> 00:50:57,704 - Well you know I was planning on getting 1276 00:50:57,704 --> 00:50:59,410 into the shower until I seen 1277 00:50:59,410 --> 00:51:01,854 that all our money is going down the drain. 1278 00:51:01,854 --> 00:51:03,614 Kelly what is this? 1279 00:51:03,614 --> 00:51:05,339 - Baby, they're small tithes and offering statements, 1280 00:51:05,339 --> 00:51:07,298 put that down okay. 1281 00:51:07,298 --> 00:51:09,686 I'm in here waiting on you. 1282 00:51:09,686 --> 00:51:11,007 - Are you telling me that you 1283 00:51:11,007 --> 00:51:13,359 are giving this church this much money? 1284 00:51:13,359 --> 00:51:17,034 - Stan, I pay my Tithes, and I give a little 1285 00:51:17,034 --> 00:51:19,347 more tithes and offering, why are you tripping? 1286 00:51:19,347 --> 00:51:21,140 - Why am I tripping? 1287 00:51:21,140 --> 00:51:22,515 Kelly this statement say that you been giving 1288 00:51:22,515 --> 00:51:26,183 that church over $10,000 within a year. 1289 00:51:26,183 --> 00:51:27,940 What is wrong with you? 1290 00:51:27,940 --> 00:51:29,319 You lost your mind or something? 1291 00:51:29,319 --> 00:51:31,760 - Baby you really need to calm down for real. 1292 00:51:31,760 --> 00:51:35,410 Look, I got dinner ready, come on boo. 1293 00:51:35,410 --> 00:51:37,015 - Like some thing is certainly wrong with you, 1294 00:51:37,015 --> 00:51:39,543 like them people got you brain washed. 1295 00:51:39,543 --> 00:51:41,238 Do you know that you living in an apartment 1296 00:51:41,238 --> 00:51:42,169 but I you that little preacher, 1297 00:51:42,169 --> 00:51:43,887 he got a nice little lavish home 1298 00:51:43,887 --> 00:51:46,858 with nice cars and taking care of his family. 1299 00:51:46,858 --> 00:51:48,383 But you giving him all our money. 1300 00:51:48,383 --> 00:51:49,292 - I'm not about to go back 1301 00:51:49,292 --> 00:51:51,792 and forth with you about no tithes and offerings. 1302 00:51:51,792 --> 00:51:54,125 You don't even go to church. 1303 00:51:56,505 --> 00:51:58,869 Stan I went and dressed sexy for you, 1304 00:51:58,869 --> 00:52:01,017 I went and got sushi for god sakes, 1305 00:52:01,017 --> 00:52:02,709 trying to set up this whole romantic evening 1306 00:52:02,709 --> 00:52:04,867 and you wanna sit up and argue about some tithes 1307 00:52:04,867 --> 00:52:07,436 and offerings, you are unbelievable. 1308 00:52:07,436 --> 00:52:08,306 I can't believe you. 1309 00:52:08,306 --> 00:52:10,386 - Now see typical Kelly, you always try 1310 00:52:10,386 --> 00:52:12,159 to make it like I'm tripping or something, 1311 00:52:12,159 --> 00:52:13,647 well you aint gonna get it off this time 1312 00:52:13,647 --> 00:52:16,684 cause at the end of the day Kelly, you were wrong. 1313 00:52:16,684 --> 00:52:18,567 You act a complete fool when I go out 1314 00:52:18,567 --> 00:52:21,977 to spend some money, its always we're on a budget, 1315 00:52:21,977 --> 00:52:23,596 we can't spend too much money here. 1316 00:52:23,596 --> 00:52:26,869 I see why now Kelly, cause you spending it at that church. 1317 00:52:26,869 --> 00:52:30,073 - Baby you are not about to make me feel guilty 1318 00:52:30,073 --> 00:52:32,771 about my obedience to God, okay. 1319 00:52:32,771 --> 00:52:35,646 You kill me Stan when you want prayer or 1320 00:52:35,646 --> 00:52:38,021 you want God's favor to help get your out of some trouble, 1321 00:52:38,021 --> 00:52:40,607 then it all good, but the moment God requires 1322 00:52:40,607 --> 00:52:44,891 something from you like money, now its a problem. 1323 00:52:44,891 --> 00:52:47,693 And he the one that blessed you with it in the first place. 1324 00:52:47,693 --> 00:52:49,254 - Wow. 1325 00:52:49,254 --> 00:52:51,997 So instead of you understanding where I'm coming from 1326 00:52:51,997 --> 00:52:52,830 you're really going to sit 1327 00:52:52,830 --> 00:52:55,552 over there and defend this foolishness? 1328 00:52:55,552 --> 00:52:59,094 Kelly, I don't get you like, I don't. 1329 00:52:59,094 --> 00:53:01,385 - I don't want to do this tonight okay. 1330 00:53:01,385 --> 00:53:03,901 We were having such a nice evening. 1331 00:53:03,901 --> 00:53:07,484 Can we please just finish what we started? 1332 00:53:08,326 --> 00:53:10,630 We have a long day tomorrow 1333 00:53:10,630 --> 00:53:13,459 and I just want to enjoy this night 1334 00:53:13,459 --> 00:53:15,507 and not let this ruin it. 1335 00:53:15,507 --> 00:53:17,254 - Well, it's too late for that. 1336 00:53:17,254 --> 00:53:19,437 It's certainly been ruined. 1337 00:53:19,437 --> 00:53:21,443 - Stan are you serious? 1338 00:53:21,443 --> 00:53:23,075 - As a heart attack. 1339 00:53:23,075 --> 00:53:24,825 I'll be on the couch. 1340 00:53:33,208 --> 00:53:34,878 - Look at this. 1341 00:53:34,878 --> 00:53:36,795 Girl look, come on now. 1342 00:53:38,223 --> 00:53:39,723 - Lord have mercy. 1343 00:53:40,603 --> 00:53:41,867 Smell like your mamas, and grandmas, 1344 00:53:41,867 --> 00:53:44,337 and auntie, and all them been in here cooking with y'all. 1345 00:53:44,337 --> 00:53:45,441 - Hey, hey you funny man, 1346 00:53:45,441 --> 00:53:47,452 but hurry up with that sweet potato though. 1347 00:53:47,452 --> 00:53:48,410 - At your service. 1348 00:53:48,410 --> 00:53:49,410 - Thank you. 1349 00:53:50,850 --> 00:53:52,552 - Hey everyone. 1350 00:53:52,552 --> 00:53:53,552 - Hey Tasha. 1351 00:53:55,516 --> 00:53:56,349 - What's up, what's up big man. 1352 00:53:56,349 --> 00:53:58,495 - What's up man. 1353 00:53:58,495 --> 00:54:01,423 - Everything looks so good, and smells so nice. 1354 00:54:01,423 --> 00:54:04,479 Thank you girl, you knew we try honey. 1355 00:54:04,479 --> 00:54:07,022 - Yo, yo, yo, what up with it family. 1356 00:54:07,022 --> 00:54:09,284 - What's going on people. 1357 00:54:09,284 --> 00:54:10,519 - Hey yo, hey J dude. 1358 00:54:10,519 --> 00:54:11,352 - Yes sir? 1359 00:54:11,352 --> 00:54:12,617 - So I hear that the turkey that you got 1360 00:54:12,617 --> 00:54:15,454 is supposed have me biting my fingers off. 1361 00:54:15,454 --> 00:54:17,370 Well I'm here to be the judge of that. 1362 00:54:17,370 --> 00:54:19,252 - Yeah cause you know me big J. 1363 00:54:19,252 --> 00:54:21,917 I'm ready, I got a big old healthy appetite. 1364 00:54:21,917 --> 00:54:23,274 - Five to ten minutes and guess what? 1365 00:54:23,274 --> 00:54:24,107 - What's up? 1366 00:54:24,107 --> 00:54:27,050 - Y'all are gonna be, tasting greatness. 1367 00:54:27,050 --> 00:54:28,238 You feel what I'm saying? 1368 00:54:29,970 --> 00:54:32,556 Hey but, he Stan, is Scott coming or what? 1369 00:54:32,556 --> 00:54:35,029 - Nah man, no Scott man, you know what I'm saying. 1370 00:54:35,029 --> 00:54:37,153 Him and his wife, they're going through it right now, 1371 00:54:37,153 --> 00:54:38,384 he thought it was gonna be a lil fellas night, 1372 00:54:38,384 --> 00:54:40,469 but when I told him it was a couples thing, 1373 00:54:40,469 --> 00:54:42,787 he was Like ah, he'll pass. 1374 00:54:42,787 --> 00:54:45,870 - Ladies, come help me set the table. 1375 00:54:46,770 --> 00:54:49,776 - We don't want you doing anything, we got it girl. 1376 00:54:49,776 --> 00:54:50,609 - Right. 1377 00:54:50,609 --> 00:54:51,526 - Let's go. 1378 00:54:56,723 --> 00:54:58,105 - Now James, look. 1379 00:54:58,105 --> 00:55:00,601 I aint gonna lie, I still got my fingers 1380 00:55:00,601 --> 00:55:03,491 but that turkey was good though. 1381 00:55:03,491 --> 00:55:04,800 - Thank you. 1382 00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,030 - Everything was absolutely amazing. 1383 00:55:07,030 --> 00:55:08,110 True that, true that. 1384 00:55:08,110 --> 00:55:11,725 - But it is my favorite part of the evening. 1385 00:55:11,725 --> 00:55:14,077 We're about to play a new game 1386 00:55:14,077 --> 00:55:16,752 and its inspired by the newly wed game. 1387 00:55:16,752 --> 00:55:18,417 Just a little bit different, right babe? 1388 00:55:18,417 --> 00:55:21,149 - That's right, check this out, so real simple game. 1389 00:55:21,149 --> 00:55:23,609 Each couple gets a note card, okay. 1390 00:55:23,609 --> 00:55:26,864 Now women, you're going to have the note cards first. 1391 00:55:26,864 --> 00:55:29,466 We got men and women on opposite sides of the table. 1392 00:55:29,466 --> 00:55:31,359 Just to make things a little more interesting. 1393 00:55:31,359 --> 00:55:32,390 All right. 1394 00:55:32,390 --> 00:55:35,131 - All right, we're going to ask 10 questions. 1395 00:55:35,131 --> 00:55:36,368 After those 10 questions, 1396 00:55:36,368 --> 00:55:37,280 ladies, you're going to write down 1397 00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,616 what you think your husband would answer. 1398 00:55:39,616 --> 00:55:40,509 Okay. 1399 00:55:40,509 --> 00:55:42,307 - Men, you give the answer 1400 00:55:42,307 --> 00:55:45,344 and ladies we'll see how well you know your man. 1401 00:55:45,344 --> 00:55:46,251 - We got it babes, we got it. 1402 00:55:46,251 --> 00:55:47,084 - We got this. 1403 00:55:47,084 --> 00:55:47,917 - Simple enough, right? 1404 00:55:47,917 --> 00:55:48,750 - Absolutely. 1405 00:55:48,750 --> 00:55:49,583 - Well let's get started. 1406 00:55:51,798 --> 00:55:53,974 - All right, y'all ready? 1407 00:55:53,974 --> 00:55:55,845 - Question number one. 1408 00:55:55,845 --> 00:55:58,845 When and where did y'all first kiss? 1409 00:56:01,283 --> 00:56:02,361 - Easy one. 1410 00:56:02,361 --> 00:56:03,216 - Come on. 1411 00:56:03,216 --> 00:56:04,049 - Let's start with Henry. 1412 00:56:04,049 --> 00:56:04,882 - Yeah let's start with him. 1413 00:56:04,882 --> 00:56:05,715 - Yeah that's easy. 1414 00:56:05,715 --> 00:56:06,548 - Okay. 1415 00:56:06,548 --> 00:56:08,628 - In the bat-mobile on her lunch break. 1416 00:56:13,041 --> 00:56:16,208 - Girl you was getting it in on break? 1417 00:56:17,798 --> 00:56:19,510 - Go ahead and reveal your answer. 1418 00:56:19,510 --> 00:56:21,424 - He is correct. 1419 00:56:28,291 --> 00:56:32,453 - Well for us it was the first day that we met. 1420 00:56:32,453 --> 00:56:35,703 - Dang, my girls are some undercovers. 1421 00:56:37,171 --> 00:56:39,705 - Slow up Ebony because it was actually 1422 00:56:39,705 --> 00:56:42,456 a week after we met at my house. 1423 00:56:42,456 --> 00:56:44,970 - Girl please, same difference. 1424 00:56:44,970 --> 00:56:46,339 - Girl stop it. 1425 00:56:46,339 --> 00:56:50,256 - Come to think of it, I think I remember that. 1426 00:56:51,568 --> 00:56:56,568 - Okay, okay, listen, listen, Donte, what you got to say? 1427 00:56:56,784 --> 00:56:57,617 - Oh yeah. 1428 00:56:59,030 --> 00:57:00,494 Under the mistletoe. 1429 00:57:00,494 --> 00:57:01,827 What? 1430 00:57:01,827 --> 00:57:04,994 - At my family's annual holiday party. 1431 00:57:06,496 --> 00:57:07,329 - The mistletoe. 1432 00:57:07,329 --> 00:57:09,833 - You ole romantic fellow, you. 1433 00:57:09,833 --> 00:57:12,224 - I will never forget that day. 1434 00:57:12,224 --> 00:57:13,641 - Oh my goodness. 1435 00:57:15,763 --> 00:57:18,200 - Okay, Antwan, what about you? 1436 00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:19,112 Oh me? 1437 00:57:19,112 --> 00:57:19,945 - Yeah. 1438 00:57:19,945 --> 00:57:21,362 - I have no idea. 1439 00:57:22,294 --> 00:57:23,542 - Really? 1440 00:57:23,542 --> 00:57:26,109 This guy here, Ebony what did you write? 1441 00:57:26,109 --> 00:57:27,694 - I knew this fool didn't knew 1442 00:57:27,694 --> 00:57:30,944 but yall may as well gone and give us our point. 1443 00:57:32,064 --> 00:57:33,072 - Clueless. 1444 00:57:34,464 --> 00:57:35,580 - She the one that didn't know. 1445 00:57:35,580 --> 00:57:38,057 - You know what, while we're here, just go on and tell us 1446 00:57:38,057 --> 00:57:39,109 when and where it was. 1447 00:57:39,109 --> 00:57:40,332 - Right here. 1448 00:57:40,332 --> 00:57:43,374 - I couldn't tell you when and where it was neither. 1449 00:57:43,374 --> 00:57:44,207 - My God. 1450 00:57:44,207 --> 00:57:47,230 - Wait a minute, y'all not participating? 1451 00:57:47,230 --> 00:57:48,635 - No, we're hosting. 1452 00:57:48,635 --> 00:57:49,624 - So sweet. 1453 00:57:49,624 --> 00:57:52,786 - Anyway, all right next question. 1454 00:57:52,786 --> 00:57:56,580 What one word best describes you in the morning, 1455 00:57:56,580 --> 00:58:01,580 and remember gentlemen, its what she would say about you. 1456 00:58:01,780 --> 00:58:05,057 All right, this time we're gonna start with Antwan. 1457 00:58:05,057 --> 00:58:07,710 - Babe, it's a good pie. 1458 00:58:07,710 --> 00:58:08,928 My baby know I be horny. 1459 00:58:11,437 --> 00:58:13,431 - We may as well go on and end the game, 1460 00:58:13,431 --> 00:58:15,848 cause we already the winners. 1461 00:58:17,099 --> 00:58:18,682 I know my man baby. 1462 00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:22,285 That's my man. 1463 00:58:22,285 --> 00:58:24,952 Donte, what about you? 1464 00:58:24,952 --> 00:58:25,952 - Energetic. 1465 00:58:26,835 --> 00:58:28,925 - Hyper, energetic, its the same thing right? 1466 00:58:28,925 --> 00:58:29,758 - It is. 1467 00:58:31,468 --> 00:58:33,301 Stan, what about you. 1468 00:58:34,656 --> 00:58:36,863 - I'm gonna say hasty. 1469 00:58:36,863 --> 00:58:38,260 - Hasty? 1470 00:58:38,260 --> 00:58:40,285 Why in the world? 1471 00:58:40,285 --> 00:58:42,599 Bro you use the word hasty bro? 1472 00:58:42,599 --> 00:58:44,432 - What you write down. 1473 00:58:45,859 --> 00:58:47,674 - I wrote lost. 1474 00:58:47,674 --> 00:58:49,776 What does hasty even mean Stan? 1475 00:58:49,776 --> 00:58:51,655 - Oh so now you trying to front me out? 1476 00:58:51,655 --> 00:58:54,224 Well it mean rushed, swift, hurried, you know? 1477 00:58:54,224 --> 00:58:57,360 - Okay boy, you better know those synonyms. 1478 00:58:57,360 --> 00:58:58,193 Thank you. 1479 00:58:58,193 --> 00:59:00,720 - Don't encourage him. 1480 00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:02,887 - All right so, you Henry. 1481 00:59:06,550 --> 00:59:07,383 - Cranky. 1482 00:59:09,273 --> 00:59:10,940 - Crabby, extremely. 1483 00:59:12,677 --> 00:59:13,708 - Maybe you need to adjust 1484 00:59:13,708 --> 00:59:15,427 the temperature in the environment. 1485 00:59:17,868 --> 00:59:19,577 - Wait a minute, now listen. 1486 00:59:19,577 --> 00:59:23,267 Y'all already know his attitude changes after that. 1487 00:59:23,267 --> 00:59:24,305 - I'll bet it does. 1488 00:59:25,911 --> 00:59:27,521 - Wait, hold on everybody, hold on. 1489 00:59:27,521 --> 00:59:29,933 Okay now Julie, get your pen 1490 00:59:29,933 --> 00:59:31,948 and your piece of paper ready and write down your answer. 1491 00:59:31,948 --> 00:59:33,889 - Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. 1492 00:59:33,889 --> 00:59:35,908 You need to let us be great man. 1493 00:59:35,908 --> 00:59:37,921 We just here hosting bruh. 1494 00:59:37,921 --> 00:59:39,562 - Right. 1495 00:59:39,562 --> 00:59:42,122 - On to question number three. 1496 00:59:42,122 --> 00:59:43,671 What is the first thing that your 1497 00:59:43,671 --> 00:59:46,559 spouse would do if they won the lottery. 1498 00:59:46,559 --> 00:59:49,229 - That's a good one, that's a good one. 1499 00:59:49,229 --> 00:59:51,891 - So that's what I would do right? 1500 00:59:51,891 --> 00:59:52,724 Right. 1501 00:59:52,724 --> 00:59:56,189 - Right, okay what would she say? 1502 00:59:56,189 --> 00:59:57,352 Pay tithes. 1503 00:59:57,352 --> 00:59:59,571 - Henry you don't even go to church, 1504 00:59:59,571 --> 01:00:01,892 where would you pay tithes to? 1505 01:00:01,892 --> 01:00:02,894 - Baby I can send my money 1506 01:00:02,894 --> 01:00:04,731 through Kelly, or Julie, or James. 1507 01:00:04,731 --> 01:00:07,542 I mean they go to church. 1508 01:00:07,542 --> 01:00:09,541 - The bible says you have to bring 1509 01:00:09,541 --> 01:00:11,972 your tithes, not send them Henry. 1510 01:00:11,972 --> 01:00:14,260 I was gonna try to send mine to. 1511 01:00:14,260 --> 01:00:15,093 - Wow. 1512 01:00:18,036 --> 01:00:20,104 - Trust me, listen to Kelly 1513 01:00:20,104 --> 01:00:23,070 cause she know all about that, don't you? 1514 01:00:23,070 --> 01:00:24,545 - That's what we doing Stan? 1515 01:00:24,545 --> 01:00:25,378 Really? 1516 01:00:25,378 --> 01:00:27,689 - Let's keep the positive vibes going. 1517 01:00:27,689 --> 01:00:30,856 But Stan you're next, what would you do? 1518 01:00:32,743 --> 01:00:35,947 - You know what I'd start up a church 1519 01:00:35,947 --> 01:00:39,883 so I can get rich off all these people paying their tithes. 1520 01:00:39,883 --> 01:00:42,833 - Right, now that's a good idea bro bro. 1521 01:00:42,833 --> 01:00:44,740 - Antwan shut up. 1522 01:00:44,740 --> 01:00:45,573 - You shut up. 1523 01:00:45,573 --> 01:00:48,954 - Okay Kelly, what did you write down? 1524 01:00:48,954 --> 01:00:53,037 - Certainly not that, so again, no points for us. 1525 01:00:55,047 --> 01:00:58,254 - Hey Donte, what you got man? 1526 01:00:58,254 --> 01:00:59,087 - Simple. 1527 01:01:00,196 --> 01:01:04,093 Invest in the indoor golf facility, of course. 1528 01:01:04,093 --> 01:01:07,760 - I know this man, like the back of my hand. 1529 01:01:08,821 --> 01:01:11,135 - That is good, okay. 1530 01:01:11,135 --> 01:01:12,968 Anton, what about you? 1531 01:01:14,186 --> 01:01:16,441 - I'd get like an amusement park, something like that. 1532 01:01:16,441 --> 01:01:18,303 - You know what, that's what's up. 1533 01:01:18,303 --> 01:01:19,362 Ebony, what you write down? 1534 01:01:19,362 --> 01:01:22,779 - Give a majority of it to his baby mama. 1535 01:01:24,568 --> 01:01:26,498 - Come on with all that shade Eb. 1536 01:01:26,498 --> 01:01:27,331 Boy please. 1537 01:01:27,331 --> 01:01:29,007 - You tripping, you need to chill out. 1538 01:01:29,007 --> 01:01:30,523 - All right, all right, all right, check this out. 1539 01:01:30,523 --> 01:01:32,293 We're going to switch it up a little bit, okay? 1540 01:01:32,293 --> 01:01:34,567 Ladies, now y'all in the hot seat. 1541 01:01:34,567 --> 01:01:35,400 Okay. 1542 01:01:35,400 --> 01:01:36,233 Right. 1543 01:01:36,233 --> 01:01:37,499 - Question number one, 1544 01:01:37,499 --> 01:01:39,922 which one of y'all are better with finances? 1545 01:01:39,922 --> 01:01:41,183 Yeah, that's good. 1546 01:01:41,183 --> 01:01:42,504 - Kelly, we'll start with you. 1547 01:01:42,504 --> 01:01:44,626 - Well, I think we all know 1548 01:01:44,626 --> 01:01:48,543 that I am much better at managing the finances. 1549 01:01:51,023 --> 01:01:52,354 - Really Kelly? 1550 01:01:52,354 --> 01:01:54,251 Are you? 1551 01:01:54,251 --> 01:01:56,171 You know, I did believe that to be true 1552 01:01:56,171 --> 01:01:57,490 until I realized how much money 1553 01:01:57,490 --> 01:01:59,132 you was taking out of our household. 1554 01:01:59,132 --> 01:02:00,549 - Oh my goodness. 1555 01:02:02,005 --> 01:02:04,588 - Really Stan, are you serious? 1556 01:02:05,435 --> 01:02:06,602 You know what? 1557 01:02:07,882 --> 01:02:09,215 I'm sorry y'all. 1558 01:02:10,405 --> 01:02:11,655 We about to go. 1559 01:02:12,651 --> 01:02:14,866 No Kelly. 1560 01:02:14,866 --> 01:02:16,792 - It's okay, it's just a lot of 1561 01:02:16,792 --> 01:02:18,351 negative energy coming from over here 1562 01:02:18,351 --> 01:02:21,355 and I do not to ruin the vibe. 1563 01:02:21,355 --> 01:02:23,805 Come on Stan I'm ready to go. 1564 01:02:23,805 --> 01:02:26,541 - Hold up, so now you're just gonna leave me here? 1565 01:02:26,541 --> 01:02:29,154 - No I'm not leaving here Stan, you coming to, 1566 01:02:29,154 --> 01:02:31,821 come on I'm ready to go, please. 1567 01:02:35,570 --> 01:02:36,487 - Hey Stan. 1568 01:02:37,627 --> 01:02:39,269 - Alright yall. 1569 01:02:39,269 --> 01:02:40,632 Y'all have a good night. 1570 01:02:40,632 --> 01:02:41,778 Alright. 1571 01:02:41,778 --> 01:02:42,945 Bye. 1572 01:02:48,683 --> 01:02:51,602 - I cannot believe that you humiliated me in front 1573 01:02:51,602 --> 01:02:53,880 of our friends like that, what is wrong with you? 1574 01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:54,713 - What's wrong with me? 1575 01:02:54,713 --> 01:02:55,546 I can't believe that you've 1576 01:02:55,546 --> 01:02:58,138 been humiliating me behind my back. 1577 01:02:58,138 --> 01:02:59,488 - How am I humiliating you Stan? 1578 01:02:59,488 --> 01:03:00,321 - What you mean Kelly? 1579 01:03:00,321 --> 01:03:02,925 - You know what, you are unbelievable. 1580 01:03:02,925 --> 01:03:04,192 I just came home the other day and you 1581 01:03:04,192 --> 01:03:06,736 and your boys was in the house smoking and drinking. 1582 01:03:06,736 --> 01:03:07,569 - And your point Kelly? 1583 01:03:07,569 --> 01:03:08,695 - That's my house Stan. 1584 01:03:08,695 --> 01:03:09,528 - Yours? 1585 01:03:09,528 --> 01:03:11,036 - Yes, you know what you do what ever 1586 01:03:11,036 --> 01:03:12,867 you want to do when you want to do it, 1587 01:03:12,867 --> 01:03:14,732 I'm tired of the disrespect Stan. 1588 01:03:14,732 --> 01:03:16,534 - Hold on who you think you talking to? 1589 01:03:16,534 --> 01:03:19,161 Oh so you my mama now? 1590 01:03:19,161 --> 01:03:21,536 - Nah, nah, nah, Stan aint ruin the vibe, 1591 01:03:21,536 --> 01:03:24,416 that was Ebony over here with all that woody woody woo. 1592 01:03:24,416 --> 01:03:27,296 Getting all negative and now its just spread like wild fire. 1593 01:03:27,296 --> 01:03:28,425 Look. 1594 01:03:28,425 --> 01:03:30,633 - So its negative cause I'm speaking the truth huh? 1595 01:03:30,633 --> 01:03:31,466 - Yes. 1596 01:03:31,466 --> 01:03:32,521 - Don't get mad at me cause you a fool 1597 01:03:32,521 --> 01:03:35,673 for your baby mama and you the only one who don't know it. 1598 01:03:35,673 --> 01:03:37,715 - Stop it please. 1599 01:03:37,715 --> 01:03:40,715 You guys are disrespecting each other and its not cool. 1600 01:03:40,715 --> 01:03:42,058 - You know what Julie you right. 1601 01:03:42,058 --> 01:03:42,988 We shouldn't bring this vibe 1602 01:03:42,988 --> 01:03:45,304 into your home, it is Friendsgiving. 1603 01:03:45,304 --> 01:03:46,970 Kelly aint the only one leaving, 1604 01:03:46,970 --> 01:03:47,803 I'm gone too, I'm outta here. 1605 01:03:47,803 --> 01:03:48,636 I can't stand her 1606 01:03:50,169 --> 01:03:53,490 - that's that 5050 I was telling y'all about. 1607 01:03:53,490 --> 01:03:54,557 Right there. 1608 01:03:54,557 --> 01:03:56,000 Antwan, let's go. 1609 01:03:56,000 --> 01:03:56,833 - Antwan. 1610 01:04:09,149 --> 01:04:09,982 I'm sorry. 1611 01:04:09,982 --> 01:04:14,649 - Well we can stay and finish the game if you guys want. 1612 01:04:19,593 --> 01:04:22,111 - Stan, I have every right to have 1613 01:04:22,111 --> 01:04:24,118 a say so in what goes on in this house, 1614 01:04:24,118 --> 01:04:26,649 look I've been holding so much in for so long, 1615 01:04:26,649 --> 01:04:28,832 I'm not doing it anymore, I'm tired. 1616 01:04:28,832 --> 01:04:29,720 - But when we were smoking 1617 01:04:29,720 --> 01:04:31,952 and drinking together it wasn't a problem. 1618 01:04:31,952 --> 01:04:33,584 - You doggone right its a problem. 1619 01:04:33,584 --> 01:04:35,289 Look that was our life style before Stan 1620 01:04:35,289 --> 01:04:36,911 but I'm not living like that anymore, 1621 01:04:36,911 --> 01:04:38,694 why can't you get that through your head? 1622 01:04:38,694 --> 01:04:39,773 - You do understand this is my house 1623 01:04:39,773 --> 01:04:41,274 just as much as yours, right? 1624 01:04:41,274 --> 01:04:42,127 So you can't be telling me what 1625 01:04:42,127 --> 01:04:44,346 I can and cannot up in here Kelly. 1626 01:04:44,346 --> 01:04:45,304 And you most definitely aren't going 1627 01:04:45,304 --> 01:04:46,607 to be taking no money out of here neither. 1628 01:04:46,607 --> 01:04:48,035 - Look, I said, what I said. 1629 01:04:48,035 --> 01:04:50,134 - And I'm saying what I'm saying. 1630 01:04:50,134 --> 01:04:52,524 Look, I've been dealing with you, with your whole change 1631 01:04:52,524 --> 01:04:54,168 and I don't say nothing to you about it, 1632 01:04:54,168 --> 01:04:55,535 but then you want to pull this up on me? 1633 01:04:55,535 --> 01:04:57,087 Like what more is it that you want from me Kelly? 1634 01:04:57,087 --> 01:04:59,404 - What more I want, I want you to listen to me Stan. 1635 01:04:59,404 --> 01:05:00,237 - Man look. 1636 01:05:00,237 --> 01:05:04,652 - See look at you, that's what I'm talking about Stan. 1637 01:05:04,652 --> 01:05:06,316 I'm trying so hard. 1638 01:05:06,316 --> 01:05:07,436 To be a good wife to you. 1639 01:05:07,436 --> 01:05:09,369 When you told me I couldn't go out of town, 1640 01:05:09,369 --> 01:05:12,319 I didn't go out of respect for you as my husband. 1641 01:05:12,319 --> 01:05:14,316 But you, baby it's so unfair 1642 01:05:14,316 --> 01:05:15,806 because you do whatever you want to do 1643 01:05:15,806 --> 01:05:16,870 whenever you want to do it 1644 01:05:16,870 --> 01:05:18,406 and I'm tired of it Stan. 1645 01:05:18,406 --> 01:05:21,011 I'm sick of your mess, I deserve so much better. 1646 01:05:21,011 --> 01:05:22,353 - You're tired of and you sick of my mess? 1647 01:05:22,353 --> 01:05:23,186 - Yes. 1648 01:05:23,186 --> 01:05:24,019 - And you deserve better? 1649 01:05:24,019 --> 01:05:24,852 - Yes I do. 1650 01:05:24,852 --> 01:05:26,138 - You know what Kelly, you right 1651 01:05:26,138 --> 01:05:27,999 and I've been doing some serious thinking. 1652 01:05:27,999 --> 01:05:31,399 You just not the same woman that I married seven years ago. 1653 01:05:31,399 --> 01:05:33,760 You all into this whole new religious stuff 1654 01:05:33,760 --> 01:05:35,320 and you always trying to force it on me 1655 01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:37,403 and I'm just not with it. 1656 01:05:38,551 --> 01:05:42,218 - Okay, look babe you right, I'm sorry okay. 1657 01:05:43,903 --> 01:05:45,713 Look, we ain't getting nowhere. 1658 01:05:45,713 --> 01:05:47,045 It's like we talking at each other 1659 01:05:47,045 --> 01:05:49,628 and not to each other baby. 1660 01:05:49,628 --> 01:05:52,617 Look yes, I decided to serve God and prayerfully 1661 01:05:52,617 --> 01:05:55,664 you will to one day, but that has to be your decision. 1662 01:05:55,664 --> 01:05:57,668 - Exactly Kelly my decision 1663 01:05:57,668 --> 01:05:59,530 and that's just not it right now. 1664 01:05:59,530 --> 01:06:00,944 Look I can't do this no more. 1665 01:06:00,944 --> 01:06:03,527 - You can't do what anymore, Stan what you talking about? 1666 01:06:03,527 --> 01:06:07,136 - Us Kelly, this marriage, its just not gonna work. 1667 01:06:07,136 --> 01:06:08,711 - Wait, wait, hold up. 1668 01:06:08,711 --> 01:06:09,669 You don't know if you want 1669 01:06:09,669 --> 01:06:11,471 our marriage to work, are you serious? 1670 01:06:11,471 --> 01:06:14,208 - Look like I said Kelly, we on two different pages. 1671 01:06:18,676 --> 01:06:20,245 You just said that you deserve better 1672 01:06:20,245 --> 01:06:21,976 and you do, cause the truth of the matter 1673 01:06:21,976 --> 01:06:24,750 is our marriage is not what it once was. 1674 01:06:24,750 --> 01:06:26,267 We're unequally yoked. 1675 01:06:26,267 --> 01:06:28,670 Aint that what your bible said? 1676 01:06:28,670 --> 01:06:32,087 - Hold up babe, Stan, Stan hold up, Stan. 1677 01:06:36,667 --> 01:06:41,250 Baby look I am so sorry, look I want out marriage okay. 1678 01:06:42,099 --> 01:06:43,636 No Stan when I said I want better, 1679 01:06:43,636 --> 01:06:45,281 I want better with you babe. 1680 01:06:45,281 --> 01:06:47,214 - Kelly don't do this. 1681 01:06:47,214 --> 01:06:48,427 I want a divorce. 1682 01:06:48,427 --> 01:06:49,260 - What? 1683 01:06:50,164 --> 01:06:52,504 Wait hold on, Stan. 1684 01:06:55,979 --> 01:06:57,345 - Sweetheart. 1685 01:06:57,345 --> 01:06:58,606 Now tell me what happened. 1686 01:06:58,606 --> 01:07:00,740 - I can't, I can't do it anymore. 1687 01:07:00,740 --> 01:07:02,363 I give up. 1688 01:07:02,363 --> 01:07:04,177 I've been giving my all, I've been praying, 1689 01:07:04,177 --> 01:07:06,094 I've been fasting, I've been submitting, 1690 01:07:06,094 --> 01:07:07,622 I've been doing everything that the bible tells 1691 01:07:07,622 --> 01:07:11,678 me to do as a wife but its like he's forgotten about me. 1692 01:07:11,678 --> 01:07:13,786 - Who do you feel has forgotten you sweetie? 1693 01:07:13,786 --> 01:07:17,311 - God, Mrs. Anderson, he is punishing me for something, 1694 01:07:17,311 --> 01:07:18,882 I just don't know what it is. 1695 01:07:18,882 --> 01:07:21,179 - Oh Kelly listen to me. 1696 01:07:21,179 --> 01:07:24,116 Okay, anytime storms in life come your way, 1697 01:07:24,116 --> 01:07:27,242 don't always assume that you're being punished. 1698 01:07:27,242 --> 01:07:30,447 As long as you're walking up right before God, 1699 01:07:30,447 --> 01:07:32,292 it's either one of two things. 1700 01:07:32,292 --> 01:07:35,700 He's either testing you or baby he is showing you off. 1701 01:07:35,700 --> 01:07:38,317 - I know what it is, I've been too nice to him. 1702 01:07:38,317 --> 01:07:39,982 Letting him walk all over me. 1703 01:07:39,982 --> 01:07:41,761 I should have been mean and cruel 1704 01:07:41,761 --> 01:07:43,415 like any other wife would have been. 1705 01:07:43,415 --> 01:07:45,757 - Not a wise wife Kelly. 1706 01:07:45,757 --> 01:07:48,416 Honey listen, you are doing the right thing right now, 1707 01:07:48,416 --> 01:07:50,748 I know it don't feel like it but you are, 1708 01:07:50,748 --> 01:07:53,207 you are being obedient to the word of God. 1709 01:07:53,207 --> 01:07:54,957 Well look what my obedience has gotten me. 1710 01:07:54,957 --> 01:07:56,269 Headed to divorce court 1711 01:07:56,269 --> 01:07:57,666 - Divorce court? 1712 01:07:57,666 --> 01:08:00,171 Who told you to go to divorce court? 1713 01:08:00,171 --> 01:08:01,083 That is the first thing 1714 01:08:01,083 --> 01:08:03,793 that comes to mind among marriages these days. 1715 01:08:03,793 --> 01:08:04,922 We don't even get to experience 1716 01:08:04,922 --> 01:08:07,356 the fullness of God and all his promises 1717 01:08:07,356 --> 01:08:10,273 because we just give up too easily. 1718 01:08:11,544 --> 01:08:14,398 Why don't you turn in this bible 1719 01:08:14,398 --> 01:08:17,439 to 1st Peter, Ch 3. 1720 01:08:17,439 --> 01:08:21,106 - Mrs. Anderson, right now is not the time. 1721 01:08:22,930 --> 01:08:26,379 - Right now is the perfect time, honey. 1722 01:08:26,379 --> 01:08:30,046 Come on, turn to 1st Peter, Ch 3. 1723 01:08:31,383 --> 01:08:34,449 And I want you to read verses one and two. 1724 01:08:34,449 --> 01:08:35,866 Come on, come on. 1725 01:08:39,567 --> 01:08:41,567 - Wives in the same way, 1726 01:08:43,285 --> 01:08:46,535 submit yourselves to your own husbands. 1727 01:08:48,168 --> 01:08:52,399 So if any of them do not believe the word, 1728 01:08:52,399 --> 01:08:55,232 they may be won over without words 1729 01:08:57,171 --> 01:08:59,657 by the behavior of their wives when they 1730 01:08:59,657 --> 01:09:02,740 see the purity and reverence of your lives. 1731 01:09:05,260 --> 01:09:06,976 - That's right, see there? 1732 01:09:06,976 --> 01:09:09,605 Now you are doing exactly that honey. 1733 01:09:09,605 --> 01:09:12,402 What the word of God instructs you to do. 1734 01:09:12,402 --> 01:09:14,863 So whatever happens out of all this baby, 1735 01:09:14,863 --> 01:09:16,946 it is supposed to happen. 1736 01:09:18,162 --> 01:09:20,697 Look you're right when you say you can't handle this, 1737 01:09:20,697 --> 01:09:22,857 that its too much for you to bare. 1738 01:09:22,857 --> 01:09:25,724 Because this is not your battle. 1739 01:09:25,724 --> 01:09:28,364 Honey this battle belongs to the lord. 1740 01:09:28,364 --> 01:09:30,197 - But what about Stan? 1741 01:09:31,113 --> 01:09:33,280 You know like, I have you. 1742 01:09:35,567 --> 01:09:38,374 Here you're talking to me and you helping me 1743 01:09:38,374 --> 01:09:40,874 but who, who's gonna help him? 1744 01:09:42,439 --> 01:09:43,439 Who's gonna. 1745 01:09:45,874 --> 01:09:48,130 Who's gonna be there for him? 1746 01:09:48,130 --> 01:09:50,879 - Well that's your next prayer. 1747 01:09:50,879 --> 01:09:52,079 Okay? 1748 01:09:52,079 --> 01:09:53,737 You need to start to pray and ask God 1749 01:09:53,737 --> 01:09:55,932 to send him someone into his life 1750 01:09:55,932 --> 01:09:59,375 who can speak godly wisdom to him. 1751 01:09:59,375 --> 01:10:00,354 Okay? 1752 01:10:00,354 --> 01:10:01,187 - Yeah. 1753 01:10:01,187 --> 01:10:02,831 - And you know what? 1754 01:10:02,831 --> 01:10:05,484 I want you to take this journal 1755 01:10:05,484 --> 01:10:07,391 and I want you to write your thoughts 1756 01:10:07,391 --> 01:10:10,210 in this journal every single day. 1757 01:10:10,210 --> 01:10:14,830 And anytime God answers a prayer, write that in here too. 1758 01:10:14,830 --> 01:10:15,830 - Thank you. 1759 01:10:16,735 --> 01:10:18,982 - Well sweetheart, we all could 1760 01:10:18,982 --> 01:10:21,116 use a little guardian angel sometimes. 1761 01:10:25,270 --> 01:10:26,103 - Scott. 1762 01:10:27,026 --> 01:10:30,844 You've been quiet the whole ride here, what's wrong? 1763 01:10:30,844 --> 01:10:32,991 - One minute you're talking about a divorce. 1764 01:10:32,991 --> 01:10:35,513 Now you got us in a counseling session with a pastor. 1765 01:10:35,513 --> 01:10:38,956 I don't even know him, you don't either. 1766 01:10:38,956 --> 01:10:39,789 - You remember I told you 1767 01:10:39,789 --> 01:10:41,522 I was going to the book clubs, right? 1768 01:10:41,522 --> 01:10:43,084 - Said something about it. 1769 01:10:43,084 --> 01:10:45,403 - Well they've actually been helping. 1770 01:10:45,403 --> 01:10:49,986 And I just, looks lets just, we'll talk about it later. 1771 01:10:53,120 --> 01:10:54,214 - Hello, Scott and Susan. 1772 01:10:54,214 --> 01:10:55,596 Very nice to meet you both. 1773 01:10:55,596 --> 01:10:58,502 - Nice to meet you too pastor. 1774 01:10:58,502 --> 01:11:01,175 So the reason that I arranged this session is 1775 01:11:01,175 --> 01:11:03,026 because my husband and I, 1776 01:11:03,026 --> 01:11:06,822 Scott we're currently going through a divorce. 1777 01:11:06,822 --> 01:11:07,897 Okay. 1778 01:11:07,897 --> 01:11:09,986 - However, we're still living in the same home. 1779 01:11:09,986 --> 01:11:10,854 - Okay, all right. 1780 01:11:10,854 --> 01:11:11,938 So share with me some 1781 01:11:11,938 --> 01:11:14,721 of the details and background information. 1782 01:11:14,721 --> 01:11:15,634 - Sure. 1783 01:11:15,634 --> 01:11:18,476 So Scott and I have been married for four years. 1784 01:11:18,476 --> 01:11:20,252 I was a customer service representative 1785 01:11:20,252 --> 01:11:24,514 at a rental car company and he was a frequent customer. 1786 01:11:24,514 --> 01:11:28,647 He asked me out one day, but I wasn't interested. 1787 01:11:28,647 --> 01:11:30,460 - You wasn't interested? 1788 01:11:30,460 --> 01:11:33,087 - No, initially I wasn't interested Scott, you know that. 1789 01:11:33,087 --> 01:11:34,863 - Yeah, yeah okay. 1790 01:11:34,863 --> 01:11:37,046 - However, he was very persistent. 1791 01:11:37,046 --> 01:11:40,166 So I finally gave in and we went to dinner. 1792 01:11:40,166 --> 01:11:42,914 He was such a gentleman. 1793 01:11:42,914 --> 01:11:45,628 He wowed me with his conversation 1794 01:11:45,628 --> 01:11:47,330 and things were really great. 1795 01:11:47,330 --> 01:11:48,364 I mean, we started spending more 1796 01:11:48,364 --> 01:11:50,918 and more time together and we clicked, 1797 01:11:50,918 --> 01:11:53,561 almost a perfect relationship. 1798 01:11:53,561 --> 01:11:55,311 Until things changed. 1799 01:11:56,278 --> 01:11:57,958 After he cheated. 1800 01:11:57,958 --> 01:11:59,961 - You would just skip to some cheating stuff, wouldn't you? 1801 01:11:59,961 --> 01:12:01,532 - But that is what happened. 1802 01:12:01,532 --> 01:12:04,425 - No things changed way before I cheated. 1803 01:12:04,425 --> 01:12:07,270 You act like you can't just get past it. 1804 01:12:07,270 --> 01:12:09,337 Like I said, I did it. 1805 01:12:09,337 --> 01:12:12,489 She forgave me, now she's still just going on with it. 1806 01:12:12,489 --> 01:12:14,806 Like I said, man, things changed way before I cheated. 1807 01:12:14,806 --> 01:12:16,246 - What changed Scott? 1808 01:12:16,246 --> 01:12:17,686 - Everything. 1809 01:12:17,686 --> 01:12:20,470 We had way more sex before we got married than we do now. 1810 01:12:20,470 --> 01:12:22,172 - And I wasn't saved then either. 1811 01:12:22,172 --> 01:12:23,673 - What does that have to do with anything? 1812 01:12:23,673 --> 01:12:24,506 - Everything. 1813 01:12:24,506 --> 01:12:25,798 - Saved women can't have sex? 1814 01:12:25,798 --> 01:12:27,115 - Whatever. 1815 01:12:27,115 --> 01:12:29,458 - When it's time for intimacy, she used to come to bed, 1816 01:12:29,458 --> 01:12:31,772 looking all sexy and beautiful. 1817 01:12:31,772 --> 01:12:33,945 Now she come to bed all wrapped up 1818 01:12:33,945 --> 01:12:35,937 with this helmet looking thing on, 1819 01:12:35,937 --> 01:12:37,417 looking like a linebacker. 1820 01:12:37,417 --> 01:12:39,010 - A linebacker what? 1821 01:12:39,010 --> 01:12:40,210 Seriously? 1822 01:12:40,210 --> 01:12:42,298 You're not looking to hot yourself. 1823 01:12:42,298 --> 01:12:44,001 - She only look like this when she going out, 1824 01:12:44,001 --> 01:12:45,316 she don't look like this all the time. 1825 01:12:45,316 --> 01:12:47,412 Like when we at home, she don't look like this. 1826 01:12:47,412 --> 01:12:49,745 This aint the same woman in the crib. 1827 01:12:49,745 --> 01:12:51,242 You have no sex appeal at the crib, 1828 01:12:51,242 --> 01:12:53,919 but you go out you looking all good. 1829 01:12:53,919 --> 01:12:57,764 - I am so sorry, clearly we can never resolve 1830 01:12:57,764 --> 01:13:01,050 anything because it always ends up in argument. 1831 01:13:01,050 --> 01:13:02,682 We obviously need some help. 1832 01:13:02,682 --> 01:13:05,015 - Yeah, she needs some help. 1833 01:13:05,994 --> 01:13:06,919 - God. 1834 01:13:06,919 --> 01:13:09,812 - Scott, Susan, what I hear right now is nothing 1835 01:13:09,812 --> 01:13:13,753 that I don't hear on an every session basis 1836 01:13:13,753 --> 01:13:15,802 as I counsel lots of couples. 1837 01:13:15,802 --> 01:13:17,196 Scott I'm a start with you. 1838 01:13:17,196 --> 01:13:20,390 As the husband and in Gods order he's made you 1839 01:13:20,390 --> 01:13:22,640 the leader of your marriage 1840 01:13:23,729 --> 01:13:26,788 and for you the two things you need to focus on 1841 01:13:26,788 --> 01:13:30,801 is protecting and providing for your wife. 1842 01:13:30,801 --> 01:13:31,828 And unfortunately what happens 1843 01:13:31,828 --> 01:13:34,562 in infidelity is that you broke trust. 1844 01:13:34,562 --> 01:13:38,283 And once you break trust its difficult to get it back. 1845 01:13:38,283 --> 01:13:42,292 Because trust is not given Scott, its actually earned. 1846 01:13:42,292 --> 01:13:44,715 And trust is time tested 1847 01:13:44,715 --> 01:13:47,880 and in order for it to be earned, you got to get 1848 01:13:47,880 --> 01:13:49,462 to a point where you give her what 1849 01:13:49,462 --> 01:13:53,129 she needs and not what you want her to have. 1850 01:13:54,408 --> 01:13:56,712 And Susan as it relates to your faithfulness 1851 01:13:56,712 --> 01:13:59,124 God puts a tremendous, big responsibility on 1852 01:13:59,124 --> 01:14:02,747 the wife to care for her husbands needs as well. 1853 01:14:02,747 --> 01:14:06,489 And so as it relates to you, listen to Scott. 1854 01:14:06,489 --> 01:14:08,522 What I hear form Scott is not anything 1855 01:14:08,522 --> 01:14:11,692 out of the ordinary that I hear from men all the time. 1856 01:14:11,692 --> 01:14:13,969 What he wants is to enjoy his wife, 1857 01:14:13,969 --> 01:14:15,771 and the way God has set things up, 1858 01:14:15,771 --> 01:14:19,646 he can only enjoy that level of intimacy with you 1859 01:14:19,646 --> 01:14:21,366 and with you alone. 1860 01:14:21,366 --> 01:14:23,862 Scott and Susan are you both willing to put forth 1861 01:14:23,862 --> 01:14:28,862 the effort that's needed in order for this marriage to work? 1862 01:14:28,923 --> 01:14:29,756 - Yeah. 1863 01:14:29,756 --> 01:14:30,835 - Yes. 1864 01:14:30,835 --> 01:14:35,125 - Okay, well if you are, if you would mind joining hands. 1865 01:14:35,125 --> 01:14:37,230 We'll touch and agree together 1866 01:14:37,230 --> 01:14:40,194 and I go before the lord in prayer. 1867 01:14:40,194 --> 01:14:42,465 Lord God, we thank you for our time today. 1868 01:14:42,465 --> 01:14:45,214 We thank you for speaking specifically to my heart 1869 01:14:45,214 --> 01:14:49,797 about what you wanted both Scott and Susan to hear God. 1870 01:14:53,316 --> 01:14:54,400 - Hey. 1871 01:14:54,400 --> 01:14:56,698 You finished with the microwave? 1872 01:14:56,698 --> 01:14:57,615 - Yeah bru. 1873 01:15:02,426 --> 01:15:03,505 Hey man, let me get that man. 1874 01:15:03,505 --> 01:15:07,005 I don't even like my food that hot anyway. 1875 01:15:10,404 --> 01:15:12,840 - Man, guess what Gary just made him do. 1876 01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:13,673 - What? 1877 01:15:13,673 --> 01:15:14,506 - He was at the microwave, 1878 01:15:14,506 --> 01:15:15,339 Gary made him take his food out 1879 01:15:15,339 --> 01:15:16,858 the microwave and it wasn't even done warming up. 1880 01:15:16,858 --> 01:15:18,010 - Stop it bro. 1881 01:15:18,010 --> 01:15:19,858 - You letting Gary take your lunch money. 1882 01:15:21,058 --> 01:15:23,644 - Real funny man, aint nobody scared of no Gary. 1883 01:15:23,644 --> 01:15:24,637 - What's wrong with you boy? 1884 01:15:24,637 --> 01:15:28,155 Why he sitting all up with is tail tucked between his leg? 1885 01:15:28,155 --> 01:15:29,322 You all right? 1886 01:15:30,897 --> 01:15:33,209 - Hey look bruh, I left Kelly man. 1887 01:15:33,209 --> 01:15:34,042 - What? 1888 01:15:34,042 --> 01:15:34,875 - Say what? 1889 01:15:34,875 --> 01:15:36,097 - What? 1890 01:15:36,097 --> 01:15:38,759 - I just couldn't do it no more, so I left. 1891 01:15:38,759 --> 01:15:41,821 - So y'all thinking about getting a divorce? 1892 01:15:41,821 --> 01:15:43,751 - Listen, man, she said out her own mouth 1893 01:15:43,751 --> 01:15:45,804 the other day that she deserved better 1894 01:15:45,804 --> 01:15:48,013 and she fed up with me and I'm fed up with her. 1895 01:15:48,013 --> 01:15:49,428 - Well I know what you shouldn't be doing 1896 01:15:49,428 --> 01:15:51,697 is sitting here and beating up yourself about it. 1897 01:15:51,697 --> 01:15:54,013 I mean, from everything you're saying, 1898 01:15:54,013 --> 01:15:55,121 if she didn't change too much for you 1899 01:15:55,121 --> 01:15:56,689 and you can't deal with it, 1900 01:15:56,689 --> 01:15:58,244 then you need to do what you need to do, 1901 01:15:58,244 --> 01:16:00,877 but our break almost over, 1902 01:16:00,877 --> 01:16:03,096 you know, we only get 30 minutes. 1903 01:16:03,096 --> 01:16:06,490 We outta here and I'll see you later. Mr. Stevenson, sir. 1904 01:16:20,368 --> 01:16:22,326 - What's up Stan? 1905 01:16:22,326 --> 01:16:23,466 - What's going on with you? 1906 01:16:23,466 --> 01:16:25,985 - You mind if I sit here for a minute and rap with you? 1907 01:16:25,985 --> 01:16:27,068 - Not at all. 1908 01:16:28,135 --> 01:16:29,741 - I don't mean to get in your business man, 1909 01:16:29,741 --> 01:16:31,204 but I couldn't help but to overhear 1910 01:16:31,204 --> 01:16:34,231 your conversation with your guys right. 1911 01:16:34,231 --> 01:16:36,151 And I have some advice for you. 1912 01:16:36,151 --> 01:16:38,337 - All right, what's up what's that? 1913 01:16:38,337 --> 01:16:42,036 - Your story, it reminds me so much of my own bro. 1914 01:16:42,036 --> 01:16:43,885 But you see the only difference is 1915 01:16:43,885 --> 01:16:46,476 it was me that gave my life to God 1916 01:16:46,476 --> 01:16:48,877 and my wife stayed out of the world. 1917 01:16:48,877 --> 01:16:49,968 - Hey man, that's crazy. 1918 01:16:49,968 --> 01:16:53,472 Like that's the exact way that I feel, man. 1919 01:16:53,472 --> 01:16:56,640 - Let me ask you something Stan. 1920 01:16:56,640 --> 01:17:00,733 Have you ever asked your wife how she feels? 1921 01:17:00,733 --> 01:17:02,160 - Be honest with you I haven't. 1922 01:17:02,160 --> 01:17:03,366 Like there ain't no reason to 1923 01:17:03,366 --> 01:17:05,430 cause I already know how she feel man. 1924 01:17:05,430 --> 01:17:06,319 Look, check this out. 1925 01:17:06,319 --> 01:17:09,199 When I say to my wife, like she has completely changed, 1926 01:17:09,199 --> 01:17:10,614 like, I mean it. 1927 01:17:10,614 --> 01:17:13,078 Me and my wife, we used to do everything together, 1928 01:17:13,078 --> 01:17:16,137 go to the clubs, party, hang out, drink, smoke 1929 01:17:16,137 --> 01:17:17,735 or whatever the case may be. 1930 01:17:17,735 --> 01:17:21,898 But now she is totally different man and I mean that. 1931 01:17:21,898 --> 01:17:25,089 - You know, I met my wife in the club, 1932 01:17:25,089 --> 01:17:29,639 but I was deep in the dope gang, running the streets. 1933 01:17:29,639 --> 01:17:33,092 But then I went to the penitentiary for seven years 1934 01:17:33,092 --> 01:17:36,118 and that's when I gave my life to God. 1935 01:17:36,118 --> 01:17:37,651 You know, man, my wife hung in there 1936 01:17:37,651 --> 01:17:40,954 with me the whole time I was locked up. 1937 01:17:40,954 --> 01:17:42,202 But you know she thought I was playing 1938 01:17:42,202 --> 01:17:44,113 because that's what brothers do. 1939 01:17:44,113 --> 01:17:47,113 When they go to jail, they find God. 1940 01:17:48,065 --> 01:17:50,585 And when they get out, they leave God in there. 1941 01:17:50,585 --> 01:17:53,919 - We all know them kind, now don't we? 1942 01:17:53,919 --> 01:17:55,854 - That wasn't the case with me. 1943 01:17:55,854 --> 01:17:57,021 I was serious. 1944 01:17:57,910 --> 01:18:02,226 When I came home, I was a completely changed man. 1945 01:18:02,226 --> 01:18:04,998 And when she saw this change in me bro, 1946 01:18:04,998 --> 01:18:06,662 she thought I was trying to be a preacher, 1947 01:18:06,662 --> 01:18:08,674 but I'm like, baby, no, I'm just trying to, you know, 1948 01:18:08,674 --> 01:18:10,674 I'm just living for God, 1949 01:18:11,771 --> 01:18:12,643 but she didn't want to hear it. 1950 01:18:12,643 --> 01:18:14,331 She thought she be getting in the way of my calling. 1951 01:18:14,331 --> 01:18:15,331 So she left. 1952 01:18:16,869 --> 01:18:17,752 - That's crazy, man. 1953 01:18:17,752 --> 01:18:20,325 Like that's the exact same way that I feel. 1954 01:18:20,325 --> 01:18:22,097 Like don't get me wrong or nothing. 1955 01:18:22,097 --> 01:18:24,502 I love the new woman that Kelly becoming. 1956 01:18:24,502 --> 01:18:27,504 But then again, I just feel like she deserves better. 1957 01:18:27,504 --> 01:18:29,415 And I can't give her that right now, man. 1958 01:18:29,415 --> 01:18:32,080 - Stan what you mean, bro? 1959 01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:35,696 You can't be that better for your wife? 1960 01:18:35,696 --> 01:18:36,904 - Hey look Gary I aint gonna even lie to ya. 1961 01:18:36,904 --> 01:18:40,831 I don't even know if I can or a how to be it. 1962 01:18:40,831 --> 01:18:43,498 - Stan, listen man can't you see 1963 01:18:44,976 --> 01:18:47,296 that's just the enemy's way of distracting you 1964 01:18:47,296 --> 01:18:49,590 for what all God called you to be. 1965 01:18:49,590 --> 01:18:52,814 See, look, when you give your life to God, 1966 01:18:52,814 --> 01:18:55,385 he becomes your GPS system 1967 01:18:55,385 --> 01:18:56,961 and all you got to do bro, 1968 01:18:56,961 --> 01:18:58,628 is just be obedient to his voice. 1969 01:18:58,628 --> 01:18:59,545 He got you. 1970 01:19:01,115 --> 01:19:02,976 - Hey man, that's deep. 1971 01:19:02,976 --> 01:19:03,809 Hey well tell me something, 1972 01:19:03,809 --> 01:19:04,749 so how long have you and your wife, 1973 01:19:04,749 --> 01:19:07,029 y'all been divorced now? 1974 01:19:07,029 --> 01:19:09,568 - Stan, I can happily say me and my wife 1975 01:19:09,568 --> 01:19:13,153 have been back together now four and a half years. 1976 01:19:13,153 --> 01:19:14,664 Let me ask you a question. 1977 01:19:14,664 --> 01:19:17,028 You ever heard of this lady named Minister Norton? 1978 01:19:17,028 --> 01:19:18,720 - Have I heard of Minister Norton? 1979 01:19:18,720 --> 01:19:21,930 Yes, man like that's all my wife listen to, 1980 01:19:21,930 --> 01:19:24,021 all day, all night. 1981 01:19:24,021 --> 01:19:26,312 - My wife is Minister Norton. 1982 01:19:26,312 --> 01:19:27,518 - Straight up? 1983 01:19:27,518 --> 01:19:30,493 That's great man, that's a small world man. 1984 01:19:30,493 --> 01:19:34,126 - But listen, bro, let me tell you what we did. 1985 01:19:34,126 --> 01:19:36,622 My pastor wrote this book. 1986 01:19:36,622 --> 01:19:40,158 It's called The Marriage Cup and The Covenant. 1987 01:19:40,158 --> 01:19:42,325 I got a copy of that book. 1988 01:19:43,174 --> 01:19:45,656 I really would like for you to read it 1989 01:19:45,656 --> 01:19:48,998 and prayerfully, it'll help you understand what God 1990 01:19:48,998 --> 01:19:52,714 ordained married to be and not to be. 1991 01:19:52,714 --> 01:19:54,378 Don't take for granted, 1992 01:19:54,378 --> 01:19:58,211 your wife praying and her faithfulness to God. 1993 01:19:59,606 --> 01:20:03,939 I'm gonna keep you and your situation in my prayers. 1994 01:20:05,282 --> 01:20:07,586 - All right Gary man, I appreciate that, bro. 1995 01:20:07,586 --> 01:20:08,646 - No problem. 1996 01:20:16,023 --> 01:20:17,888 Ladies, I promise as soon 1997 01:20:17,888 --> 01:20:21,221 as Ebony gets here, we will get started. 1998 01:20:23,543 --> 01:20:24,739 - Yall, I'm so sorry. 1999 01:20:24,739 --> 01:20:27,301 I couldn't find my keys no where. 2000 01:20:27,301 --> 01:20:28,134 - Oh my God, girl. 2001 01:20:28,134 --> 01:20:30,716 You lose those keys more than anybody I know. 2002 01:20:30,716 --> 01:20:32,865 - Girl, we're gonna get you one of them clap things. 2003 01:20:32,865 --> 01:20:36,478 - Girl no, what I need it that shirt, better late than ugly. 2004 01:20:36,478 --> 01:20:37,867 I shouldn't even be here. 2005 01:20:37,867 --> 01:20:39,397 - Let's get started. 2006 01:20:39,397 --> 01:20:40,888 - I ain't all the only one y'all waiting on 2007 01:20:40,888 --> 01:20:42,216 I see, where Kelly at? 2008 01:20:42,216 --> 01:20:44,216 - Well, just between us. 2009 01:20:46,104 --> 01:20:47,779 Kelly called me the other day 2010 01:20:47,779 --> 01:20:49,639 and she asked me to pray with her 2011 01:20:49,639 --> 01:20:51,936 and she also asked me not to say anything 2012 01:20:51,936 --> 01:20:54,307 but I figured since we're all girls, 2013 01:20:54,307 --> 01:20:59,307 we all could just pray together about her situation. 2014 01:20:59,393 --> 01:21:01,276 What situation? 2015 01:21:01,276 --> 01:21:02,576 - Don't say nothing y'all. 2016 01:21:02,576 --> 01:21:03,591 Okay. 2017 01:21:03,591 --> 01:21:05,091 - Stan left Kelly. 2018 01:21:05,997 --> 01:21:07,319 What? 2019 01:21:07,319 --> 01:21:08,152 - Are you serious? 2020 01:21:08,152 --> 01:21:08,985 - Yes. 2021 01:21:08,985 --> 01:21:12,815 - Girl wait a minute, you mean Kelly left Stan? 2022 01:21:12,815 --> 01:21:15,207 - Stan left Kelly, and check this out, 2023 01:21:15,207 --> 01:21:17,897 he said he didn't want to be with her anymore 2024 01:21:17,897 --> 01:21:19,912 because he's not ready to change 2025 01:21:19,912 --> 01:21:22,057 his life the same way that she had. 2026 01:21:22,057 --> 01:21:23,357 - You know what, I don't feel 2027 01:21:23,357 --> 01:21:25,167 sorry for her, that what she get. 2028 01:21:25,167 --> 01:21:27,569 - Why would say such a thing? 2029 01:21:27,569 --> 01:21:30,027 - Girl look, I told Kelly a long time ago 2030 01:21:30,027 --> 01:21:31,989 that their relationship was not gonna work. 2031 01:21:31,989 --> 01:21:33,861 She's so submissive. 2032 01:21:33,861 --> 01:21:37,567 The bible says this, and the bible says that, 2033 01:21:37,567 --> 01:21:40,101 girl that stuff is for women back in the bible days, 2034 01:21:40,101 --> 01:21:41,638 that is not for women today. 2035 01:21:43,146 --> 01:21:44,630 - Girl look, I stopped by the other day 2036 01:21:44,630 --> 01:21:47,220 because she hadn't been answering the phone for me. 2037 01:21:47,220 --> 01:21:49,387 Girl, Stan and his potnas had just left, 2038 01:21:49,387 --> 01:21:51,626 girl they had stuff everywhere. 2039 01:21:51,626 --> 01:21:55,192 - I remember a time when Stan was laid off from work. 2040 01:21:55,192 --> 01:21:58,722 - Girl, Stan used to always be laid off. 2041 01:21:58,722 --> 01:22:01,090 - I called Kelly just to ask her if she can loan me 2042 01:22:01,090 --> 01:22:03,930 some money until Friday when I got paid. 2043 01:22:03,930 --> 01:22:08,510 - Oh, James and Julie needed to borrow money? Hmm 2044 01:22:08,510 --> 01:22:10,056 - Be quiet Ebony. 2045 01:22:10,056 --> 01:22:14,736 Y'all know she told me to let her discuss it with Stan? 2046 01:22:14,736 --> 01:22:17,221 - That's probably why she was so mad last week when 2047 01:22:17,221 --> 01:22:20,574 she told Ebony she wasn't taking the book seriously. 2048 01:22:20,574 --> 01:22:23,187 - Right, talking about some, Ebony, 2049 01:22:23,187 --> 01:22:26,463 we all agreed not to take this journey lightly. 2050 01:22:26,463 --> 01:22:27,296 - Stop. 2051 01:22:28,152 --> 01:22:31,091 - You ladies ought to be ashamed of yourselves 2052 01:22:31,091 --> 01:22:33,886 and you all are supposed to be her friends? 2053 01:22:33,886 --> 01:22:36,149 And you, she told you something 2054 01:22:36,149 --> 01:22:39,789 in confidence so that you can pray for her. 2055 01:22:39,789 --> 01:22:42,908 Not broadcast her business to everybody. 2056 01:22:42,908 --> 01:22:46,691 Kelly is going through a dark season in her life right now. 2057 01:22:46,691 --> 01:22:50,395 And all you all can do is sit around and talk about her? 2058 01:22:50,395 --> 01:22:54,000 You may say that the word is for the old days, 2059 01:22:54,000 --> 01:22:57,638 but honestly I have never seen the righteous forsaken. 2060 01:22:57,638 --> 01:22:59,848 And it's working in my life. 2061 01:22:59,848 --> 01:23:01,672 If you all are her friends, 2062 01:23:01,672 --> 01:23:03,974 she definitely don't need enemies. 2063 01:23:09,299 --> 01:23:10,382 - Who is she? 2064 01:23:11,435 --> 01:23:13,140 Girl anyway, she don't come around here 2065 01:23:13,140 --> 01:23:14,789 and try to tell us how we discuss our friend. 2066 01:23:14,789 --> 01:23:18,302 Kelly is our friend and she the new kid on the block. 2067 01:23:18,302 --> 01:23:21,719 Anyway onto the next chapter of the book. 2068 01:23:22,816 --> 01:23:23,899 Girl please. 2069 01:23:25,286 --> 01:23:27,953 Oh, there's power in submission. 2070 01:23:28,825 --> 01:23:31,478 I guess Kelly found out all about that power huh? 2071 01:23:31,478 --> 01:23:32,311 - Ebony. 2072 01:23:33,433 --> 01:23:35,472 I feel horrible. 2073 01:23:35,472 --> 01:23:36,639 Susan's right. 2074 01:23:39,731 --> 01:23:43,033 We should just pray for Kelly. 2075 01:23:43,033 --> 01:23:46,307 Man, I know this is gotta be hurting her. 2076 01:23:49,436 --> 01:23:50,531 - This is Kelly. 2077 01:23:50,531 --> 01:23:51,364 - Put her on speaker. 2078 01:23:51,364 --> 01:23:52,197 - No, sh. 2079 01:23:55,021 --> 01:23:55,854 Hello? 2080 01:23:57,661 --> 01:23:58,494 Oh honey. 2081 01:23:59,785 --> 01:24:01,683 Okay sweetie, yeah. 2082 01:24:01,683 --> 01:24:03,116 Yeah, okay, yup. 2083 01:24:03,116 --> 01:24:04,074 I'm on my way. 2084 01:24:04,074 --> 01:24:04,907 - What's going on? 2085 01:24:04,907 --> 01:24:06,456 - What she say? 2086 01:24:06,456 --> 01:24:08,004 What did she say. 2087 01:24:08,004 --> 01:24:11,504 - Candice, first we need to know, Candice. 2088 01:24:18,111 --> 01:24:19,611 - This is not you. 2089 01:24:20,763 --> 01:24:23,368 Have you even left the house? 2090 01:24:23,368 --> 01:24:25,785 - I can't eat, I can't sleep. 2091 01:24:27,874 --> 01:24:29,457 I can't do nothing. 2092 01:24:31,477 --> 01:24:33,326 Candice, why did it end up like this? 2093 01:24:33,326 --> 01:24:36,946 Like this is not supposed to be the end result. 2094 01:24:38,914 --> 01:24:40,195 Oh my God! 2095 01:24:40,195 --> 01:24:41,028 - Are you sure? 2096 01:24:41,028 --> 01:24:42,195 Yes. 2097 01:24:44,167 --> 01:24:46,711 What are you guys doing here? 2098 01:24:46,711 --> 01:24:49,362 - Kelly, we came over as soon as we heard what happened. 2099 01:24:49,362 --> 01:24:50,741 How could he just walk out of your life 2100 01:24:50,741 --> 01:24:52,962 like this as good as you've been to him? 2101 01:24:52,962 --> 01:24:54,331 Where is he at? 2102 01:24:54,331 --> 01:24:56,434 Matter of fact, where's his clothes at? 2103 01:24:56,434 --> 01:24:59,157 - Sweetheart I am so sorry. 2104 01:24:59,157 --> 01:25:01,736 Is there anything I can do? 2105 01:25:01,736 --> 01:25:04,736 - No, there's nothing nobody can do. 2106 01:25:06,789 --> 01:25:09,887 Look, I'm just going to continue to pray for him. 2107 01:25:09,887 --> 01:25:10,847 - Okay, hold on. 2108 01:25:10,847 --> 01:25:13,378 Enough is enough, you mean to tell me 2109 01:25:13,378 --> 01:25:15,077 that you still want to pray for this man 2110 01:25:15,077 --> 01:25:17,973 after he walked out of your life that easy Kelly? 2111 01:25:17,973 --> 01:25:20,805 Girl you saved now, God has a better husband 2112 01:25:20,805 --> 01:25:22,341 in store for you, someone that's saved 2113 01:25:22,341 --> 01:25:24,277 and not still out here in these streets. 2114 01:25:24,277 --> 01:25:27,087 - Maybe Stan is a stumbling blocking in your way 2115 01:25:27,087 --> 01:25:29,295 and God just had to remove him. 2116 01:25:29,295 --> 01:25:30,375 - You Know what Kelly, we have 2117 01:25:30,375 --> 01:25:32,643 been through a lot of things together 2118 01:25:32,643 --> 01:25:36,317 and I have just never seen you play this role before. 2119 01:25:36,317 --> 01:25:37,712 Never. 2120 01:25:37,712 --> 01:25:40,351 - The submitting, and that loyalty stuff, 2121 01:25:40,351 --> 01:25:43,689 you know men now a days, they take that for granted. 2122 01:25:43,689 --> 01:25:45,309 - I know you said that God told 2123 01:25:45,309 --> 01:25:47,018 you your marriage would work, 2124 01:25:47,018 --> 01:25:49,094 but clearly he isn't speaking of this one. 2125 01:25:49,094 --> 01:25:50,096 Couldn't have been. 2126 01:25:50,096 --> 01:25:52,442 - There is nothing in scripture 2127 01:25:52,442 --> 01:25:56,376 that says to be this way only if your husband is saved. 2128 01:25:56,376 --> 01:25:58,993 Yes, God did tell my marriage would work, 2129 01:25:58,993 --> 01:26:01,552 thank you for reminding me of that Tasha. 2130 01:26:01,552 --> 01:26:04,144 Look, if God said it I'm gonna believe him 2131 01:26:04,144 --> 01:26:06,644 because it shall come to pass. 2132 01:26:07,994 --> 01:26:11,744 You know what, I'm going through a real rough 2133 01:26:13,015 --> 01:26:15,181 time right now and the last thing 2134 01:26:15,181 --> 01:26:18,039 I need around me is non believers. 2135 01:26:18,039 --> 01:26:18,872 Look. 2136 01:26:18,872 --> 01:26:19,705 - No. 2137 01:26:19,705 --> 01:26:21,456 - Please, y'all just let yourselves out. 2138 01:26:21,456 --> 01:26:23,395 - You can be a fool all you want, don't call me. 2139 01:26:23,395 --> 01:26:25,453 - Ebony get out of my house. 2140 01:26:25,453 --> 01:26:26,703 - I'm so sorry. 2141 01:26:30,192 --> 01:26:35,192 ♪ Oh I know if I leave ♪ 2142 01:26:35,471 --> 01:26:39,405 ♪ I'll take a chance at being alone ♪ 2143 01:26:39,405 --> 01:26:44,405 ♪And honestly I'm afraid cause I don't wanna live that way♪ 2144 01:26:46,167 --> 01:26:50,064 ♪ See late at night when you hold me close ♪ 2145 01:26:50,064 --> 01:26:52,704 ♪ Baby I feel so safe ♪ 2146 01:26:52,704 --> 01:26:56,583 ♪ And its a cold cruel world out there ♪ 2147 01:26:56,583 --> 01:27:01,583 ♪ And baby I'm leaning on faith ♪ 2148 01:27:02,570 --> 01:27:05,703 ♪ Can we get to love ♪ 2149 01:27:05,703 --> 01:27:09,328 ♪ Can we get to love ♪ 2150 01:27:09,328 --> 01:27:12,700 ♪ Can we get to love ♪ 2151 01:27:12,700 --> 01:27:16,336 ♪ Can we get to love baby ♪ 2152 01:27:16,336 --> 01:27:19,948 ♪ Can we get to love ♪ 2153 01:27:19,948 --> 01:27:23,094 ♪ Get to love ♪ 2154 01:27:23,094 --> 01:27:26,132 ♪ Can we get to love ♪ 2155 01:27:26,132 --> 01:27:30,494 ♪ Can we get to love ♪ 2156 01:27:30,494 --> 01:27:33,998 ♪ Can we get to, get to love ♪ 2157 01:27:33,998 --> 01:27:34,958 ♪ Can we get to ♪ 2158 01:27:34,958 --> 01:27:37,272 - Y'all I just feel so bad for Kelly. 2159 01:27:37,272 --> 01:27:38,880 - Girl so do I. 2160 01:27:38,880 --> 01:27:40,875 Y'all know this is the first time that Stan's 2161 01:27:40,875 --> 01:27:43,048 not here for her companies Christmas party? 2162 01:27:43,048 --> 01:27:45,256 - She seems to be holding up pretty good though. 2163 01:27:45,256 --> 01:27:47,009 - Girl you know how it is. 2164 01:27:47,009 --> 01:27:48,568 She is in the presence of company, 2165 01:27:48,568 --> 01:27:50,008 she got to put on her game face. 2166 01:27:50,008 --> 01:27:50,841 - That's true. 2167 01:27:50,841 --> 01:27:53,825 - Why are y'all over here looking all gloomy in the face? 2168 01:27:53,825 --> 01:27:57,137 I mean come on, its Christmas eve, snap out of it already. 2169 01:27:57,137 --> 01:28:00,408 - Ebony, we're just really feeling sad for Kelly right now. 2170 01:28:00,408 --> 01:28:02,552 - Girl, feeling sorry for Kelly for what? 2171 01:28:02,552 --> 01:28:05,012 - You know this is her favorite holiday 2172 01:28:05,012 --> 01:28:06,907 and Stan's not even here with her. 2173 01:28:06,907 --> 01:28:09,426 - Girl, well whatever, life goes on. 2174 01:28:09,426 --> 01:28:11,170 And anyway from my understanding, 2175 01:28:11,170 --> 01:28:12,620 wasn't she just praying and asking 2176 01:28:12,620 --> 01:28:14,913 God for a new husband for Christmas? 2177 01:28:14,913 --> 01:28:17,553 And girl with all these fine, 2178 01:28:17,553 --> 01:28:19,717 successful men in here, girl, 2179 01:28:19,717 --> 01:28:21,492 she might be getting her prayers answered. 2180 01:28:21,492 --> 01:28:24,202 - Goodness Ebony just stop. 2181 01:28:24,202 --> 01:28:26,948 - Oh Lord, here come Ms suchy much. 2182 01:28:26,948 --> 01:28:29,044 - She looks so beautiful. 2183 01:28:29,044 --> 01:28:30,266 - Must be her husband. 2184 01:28:30,266 --> 01:28:32,212 - I just love when marriages work out. 2185 01:28:32,212 --> 01:28:34,629 - Girl, I need another drink. 2186 01:28:36,196 --> 01:28:37,029 - Hey Scott. 2187 01:28:37,029 --> 01:28:37,862 - What's up. 2188 01:28:37,862 --> 01:28:39,603 - Man this is my beautiful wife Susan. 2189 01:28:39,603 --> 01:28:41,769 - Nice to meet you Susan. 2190 01:28:41,769 --> 01:28:43,901 That's Donte, and that's my man James. 2191 01:28:43,901 --> 01:28:44,843 - Nice to meet you. 2192 01:28:44,843 --> 01:28:46,291 - Pleasure to meet you all. 2193 01:28:46,291 --> 01:28:48,860 Babe, I'm gonna go to the rest room, be right back. 2194 01:28:48,860 --> 01:28:51,888 - All right, okay, all right. 2195 01:28:51,888 --> 01:28:55,392 - Good God, please tell me she got a sister. 2196 01:28:55,392 --> 01:28:58,092 A cousin, friend, anybody. 2197 01:28:58,092 --> 01:29:00,492 - Gentlemen, gentlemen, have we purchased 2198 01:29:00,492 --> 01:29:02,857 our raffle tickets yet? 2199 01:29:02,857 --> 01:29:05,038 - No sweetie I haven't, my name is Steve. 2200 01:29:05,038 --> 01:29:05,952 Steve. 2201 01:29:05,952 --> 01:29:06,785 - How much are they? 2202 01:29:06,785 --> 01:29:09,726 - Only one for 150, and five for 600. 2203 01:29:09,726 --> 01:29:12,739 - No sweetie, one for 150, five for 600? 2204 01:29:12,739 --> 01:29:14,335 No, I'm talking about the raffle tickets. 2205 01:29:14,335 --> 01:29:15,836 - And so am I. 2206 01:29:15,836 --> 01:29:18,138 - My wife already purchased our tickets, so thank you. 2207 01:29:18,138 --> 01:29:19,950 - You must be James. 2208 01:29:19,950 --> 01:29:20,783 - I am. 2209 01:29:20,783 --> 01:29:21,616 - Julies husband. 2210 01:29:21,616 --> 01:29:22,861 - Nice to meet you. 2211 01:29:22,861 --> 01:29:24,361 - Nice to meet you. 2212 01:29:24,361 --> 01:29:25,296 - You as well. 2213 01:29:25,296 --> 01:29:28,570 - And thank you so much for that annual contribution. 2214 01:29:28,570 --> 01:29:32,294 - Listen we're blessed to be a blessing. 2215 01:29:32,294 --> 01:29:34,886 - Raffle tickets, we sell raffle tickets. 2216 01:29:34,886 --> 01:29:36,969 - Oh my God, fellahs, hi. 2217 01:29:38,627 --> 01:29:41,049 You don't know how happy I am to see y'all, 2218 01:29:41,049 --> 01:29:42,944 thank you so much for coming again this year. 2219 01:29:42,944 --> 01:29:45,015 - Of course, why wouldn't you think we wanna come? 2220 01:29:45,015 --> 01:29:46,736 - Well you know, things have been kinda crazy 2221 01:29:46,736 --> 01:29:48,800 and given the circumstances, I just wasn't sure. 2222 01:29:48,800 --> 01:29:53,146 - Hey Kelly, you and Stan are our friends 2223 01:29:53,146 --> 01:29:55,412 and we're going to support you all no matter what, okay? 2224 01:29:55,412 --> 01:29:58,957 - Oh, Donte, Thank you, that is so sweet. 2225 01:29:58,957 --> 01:30:00,612 Thank you, I appreciate that. 2226 01:30:00,612 --> 01:30:01,466 - Hey Kelly. 2227 01:30:01,466 --> 01:30:02,299 - Yeah? 2228 01:30:02,299 --> 01:30:03,767 - Stan normally volunteer for the raffle auction 2229 01:30:03,767 --> 01:30:06,020 every year, so who gonna do it this year? 2230 01:30:06,020 --> 01:30:07,715 - I asked my daddy to it. 2231 01:30:07,715 --> 01:30:09,293 - Man, your dad is old. 2232 01:30:09,293 --> 01:30:11,283 - Henry don't clown my daddy, I know it won't 2233 01:30:11,283 --> 01:30:14,032 be like last time, but trust me it'll be fine. 2234 01:30:14,032 --> 01:30:15,653 - Excuse me, hi everyone. 2235 01:30:15,653 --> 01:30:17,914 Would you excuse Mrs. Stevenson for just a second, 2236 01:30:17,914 --> 01:30:20,349 we're gonna go ahead and get started with the raffles. 2237 01:30:20,349 --> 01:30:22,138 - Okay, I'll catch up with you guys later, all right? 2238 01:30:22,138 --> 01:30:22,971 - All right. 2239 01:30:22,971 --> 01:30:23,804 - Later Kelly. 2240 01:30:23,804 --> 01:30:24,637 - See you. 2241 01:30:24,637 --> 01:30:25,594 - Call her daddy old? 2242 01:30:25,594 --> 01:30:27,094 - I'm just saying. 2243 01:30:28,212 --> 01:30:29,436 Just saying man. 2244 01:30:29,436 --> 01:30:31,198 - If I can have everyone's attention please, 2245 01:30:31,198 --> 01:30:33,120 we're gonna start our raffle drawing now. 2246 01:30:37,620 --> 01:30:38,784 - Oh hey Susan. 2247 01:30:38,784 --> 01:30:40,464 - Julie, how are you? 2248 01:30:40,464 --> 01:30:42,659 - I am ready for my bundle of joy. 2249 01:30:42,659 --> 01:30:44,848 - I see, how adorable. 2250 01:30:44,848 --> 01:30:46,155 - Thank you. 2251 01:30:46,155 --> 01:30:48,461 Susan, I really wanted to apologize 2252 01:30:48,461 --> 01:30:51,472 for how we acted at our last book club meeting. 2253 01:30:51,472 --> 01:30:54,125 We have all acknowledged that we were wrong, 2254 01:30:54,125 --> 01:30:56,210 and we've even apologized to Kelly. 2255 01:30:56,210 --> 01:30:58,384 - That's so good to hear because honestly 2256 01:30:58,384 --> 01:31:01,608 the apology to Kelly is what's most important. 2257 01:31:01,608 --> 01:31:04,698 I mean you guys have known her far longer than I have 2258 01:31:04,698 --> 01:31:06,260 and I just, I was shocked to hear 2259 01:31:06,260 --> 01:31:07,830 you guys speak of her in that manner. 2260 01:31:07,830 --> 01:31:08,663 That's all. 2261 01:31:08,663 --> 01:31:10,327 - Oh my God, we shouldn't have, 2262 01:31:10,327 --> 01:31:12,810 and I promise we will never do so again. 2263 01:31:12,810 --> 01:31:15,064 - We're good girl, because true, 2264 01:31:15,064 --> 01:31:18,813 genuine friendship is so hard to find these days, 2265 01:31:18,813 --> 01:31:21,716 and Julie you all really do have something special. 2266 01:31:21,716 --> 01:31:22,832 - Thank you Susan. 2267 01:31:22,832 --> 01:31:23,888 - Your welcome. 2268 01:31:23,888 --> 01:31:25,844 - And I see that you and hubby 2269 01:31:25,844 --> 01:31:28,173 has decided to work things out. 2270 01:31:28,173 --> 01:31:30,477 - We have and let's just say, 2271 01:31:30,477 --> 01:31:33,176 I'm a adjusting the temperature in my environment. 2272 01:31:33,176 --> 01:31:35,724 - Well okay, girl that is what I'm talking about. 2273 01:31:35,724 --> 01:31:37,161 - Yes. 2274 01:31:37,161 --> 01:31:38,457 - Congratulations girl. 2275 01:31:38,457 --> 01:31:39,538 - Thank you girl. 2276 01:31:45,609 --> 01:31:47,725 - Kelly, what's wrong? 2277 01:31:47,725 --> 01:31:48,902 - Sorry. 2278 01:31:48,902 --> 01:31:51,052 It's just not the same without him being here. 2279 01:31:51,052 --> 01:31:52,949 I miss him so much Susan. 2280 01:31:52,949 --> 01:31:54,437 - I'm so sorry Kelly. 2281 01:31:54,437 --> 01:31:56,309 You are such a strong woman. 2282 01:31:56,309 --> 01:31:59,709 - You are but you don't have to be strong for us. 2283 01:31:59,709 --> 01:32:01,220 - Susan's right. 2284 01:32:01,220 --> 01:32:03,755 We all have our breaking point. 2285 01:32:03,755 --> 01:32:05,825 But listen, we're are your girls. 2286 01:32:05,825 --> 01:32:09,075 So it is okay not to be okay sometimes. 2287 01:32:10,681 --> 01:32:13,681 - I mean, you know I've been praying 2288 01:32:15,572 --> 01:32:17,655 and asking God to help me 2289 01:32:19,172 --> 01:32:22,362 because I thought it was going to be different. 2290 01:32:22,362 --> 01:32:25,465 I didn't know it was going to turn out like this. 2291 01:32:25,465 --> 01:32:26,457 Oh Kelly. 2292 01:32:26,457 --> 01:32:28,554 - Look at me, I'm alone. 2293 01:32:28,554 --> 01:32:29,887 - No you're not. 2294 01:32:30,775 --> 01:32:32,882 Listen, listen to me. 2295 01:32:32,882 --> 01:32:34,921 I don't care how it looks. 2296 01:32:34,921 --> 01:32:36,377 You keep trusting God 2297 01:32:36,377 --> 01:32:38,967 and you believe that whatever your heart desires, 2298 01:32:38,967 --> 01:32:43,088 if it is in God's will, he will give it to you. 2299 01:32:43,088 --> 01:32:46,150 Kelly you were there for me in my darkest season. 2300 01:32:46,150 --> 01:32:47,921 And I'm going to be here for you in yours. 2301 01:32:47,921 --> 01:32:49,921 - Yes, we all are Kelly. 2302 01:32:51,074 --> 01:32:54,259 - Girl, just to shed a little light, 2303 01:32:54,259 --> 01:32:55,457 didn't you just pray 2304 01:32:55,457 --> 01:32:57,878 and ask God for a new husband for Christmas? 2305 01:32:57,878 --> 01:33:01,326 And girl with all these fine men in here. 2306 01:33:01,326 --> 01:33:04,435 You better dry your face and come get your prayers answered. 2307 01:33:04,435 --> 01:33:06,018 - Oh my God, Ebony. 2308 01:33:07,062 --> 01:33:08,645 Girl you are crazy. 2309 01:33:09,662 --> 01:33:13,425 I can always depend on you for a good laugh. 2310 01:33:13,425 --> 01:33:15,701 I really appreciate y'all. 2311 01:33:15,701 --> 01:33:19,712 I do, you're my girls and I don't know how 2312 01:33:19,712 --> 01:33:22,897 I would have gotten through this without y'all. 2313 01:33:22,897 --> 01:33:24,199 I love you all so much. 2314 01:33:24,199 --> 01:33:26,116 We love you too. 2315 01:33:29,476 --> 01:33:31,309 - Thank y'all so much. 2316 01:33:32,792 --> 01:33:34,462 - Kelly, you need to get out here, 2317 01:33:34,462 --> 01:33:37,281 you need to see this, come on y'all, let's go. 2318 01:33:37,281 --> 01:33:39,393 - What in the world, Renee, hold on. 2319 01:33:39,393 --> 01:33:41,086 What's going on? 2320 01:33:41,086 --> 01:33:44,919 - All right and the last ticket number is 311. 2321 01:33:46,712 --> 01:33:47,545 307. 2322 01:33:48,395 --> 01:33:49,931 That's me! 2323 01:33:50,962 --> 01:33:53,497 - All right, all right, all right. 2324 01:33:53,497 --> 01:33:55,055 That's it, that's it, that's it. 2325 01:33:55,055 --> 01:33:56,515 You got it, you got it. 2326 01:33:56,515 --> 01:33:57,638 All right, make sure you check 2327 01:33:57,638 --> 01:34:00,922 with Mary to get your prize at the end of the night. 2328 01:34:00,922 --> 01:34:04,159 And to the rest of y'all we appreciate y'all for coming out, 2329 01:34:04,159 --> 01:34:05,436 thanks for the support 2330 01:34:05,436 --> 01:34:08,786 because this event is very, very dear to my wife 2331 01:34:08,786 --> 01:34:10,169 so we appreciate y'all, now party on, 2332 01:34:10,169 --> 01:34:12,839 and, a Merry Christmas to y'all. 2333 01:34:13,672 --> 01:34:15,382 - Girl see, I told you he was here. 2334 01:34:15,382 --> 01:34:16,434 What you gonna do? 2335 01:34:19,360 --> 01:34:21,573 - Can't believe he came. 2336 01:34:27,258 --> 01:34:28,216 - What's up with it? 2337 01:34:28,216 --> 01:34:29,633 - Catch up with yall in a minute. 2338 01:34:32,823 --> 01:34:34,672 Merry Christmas Mrs. Stevenson. 2339 01:34:34,672 --> 01:34:36,997 - Stan what are you doing here? 2340 01:34:36,997 --> 01:34:39,665 - Hey, what am I not welcome this year? 2341 01:34:39,665 --> 01:34:41,007 Well I did say I would be 2342 01:34:41,007 --> 01:34:43,511 the raffle ticket announcer, right? 2343 01:34:43,511 --> 01:34:45,220 So I'm just here to honor that. 2344 01:34:45,220 --> 01:34:46,389 And plus besides, you know this party wouldn't 2345 01:34:46,389 --> 01:34:50,442 be nothing without old Stan the man right? 2346 01:34:50,442 --> 01:34:52,695 - Is that the only reason why you came. 2347 01:34:52,695 --> 01:34:56,963 - Of course, what other reason would I be here? 2348 01:34:56,963 --> 01:34:59,837 - Thanks for honoring your commitment. 2349 01:34:59,837 --> 01:35:04,023 - Kelly, Kelly, sweetheart, sweetheart, I'm kidding. 2350 01:35:04,023 --> 01:35:05,940 Seriously, I miss you. 2351 01:35:07,238 --> 01:35:10,237 - I um, You do? 2352 01:35:10,237 --> 01:35:11,706 - I do. 2353 01:35:11,706 --> 01:35:14,621 And I have some things I'd like to say to you. 2354 01:35:14,621 --> 01:35:16,001 - I'm listening. 2355 01:35:16,001 --> 01:35:18,125 - Can we step outside. 2356 01:35:18,125 --> 01:35:19,770 - Sure. 2357 01:35:19,770 --> 01:35:20,770 - After you. 2358 01:35:22,858 --> 01:35:24,324 - So why did you have to bring me 2359 01:35:24,324 --> 01:35:26,436 out here to talk, it's freezing. 2360 01:35:26,436 --> 01:35:27,549 - Look, I know babe, I just wanted 2361 01:35:27,549 --> 01:35:29,111 to get you away from the noise. 2362 01:35:29,111 --> 01:35:30,119 I just got a few things on my chest 2363 01:35:30,119 --> 01:35:31,823 I wanted to get off, that's all. 2364 01:35:31,823 --> 01:35:33,156 - I'm listening. 2365 01:35:34,446 --> 01:35:35,988 - All right so Kelly. 2366 01:35:35,988 --> 01:35:39,386 Never in a million years, would I have thought 2367 01:35:39,386 --> 01:35:41,476 that my mindset would change the way they that it did 2368 01:35:41,476 --> 01:35:43,661 like in the short span of time. 2369 01:35:43,661 --> 01:35:45,546 You know the same week that I had left 2370 01:35:45,546 --> 01:35:49,313 this guy, my job, he had sat down, spoke to me 2371 01:35:49,313 --> 01:35:50,874 and he I gave him this book to read, 2372 01:35:50,874 --> 01:35:52,554 he invited me to come out to his church. 2373 01:35:52,554 --> 01:35:53,387 - Okay. 2374 01:35:53,387 --> 01:35:54,220 - Now the name of the book is called 2375 01:35:54,220 --> 01:35:55,732 The Marriage Cup and The Covenant. 2376 01:35:55,732 --> 01:35:57,821 - Oh wait, hold on. 2377 01:35:57,821 --> 01:35:58,957 You mean to tell me the book I've been trying 2378 01:35:58,957 --> 01:36:01,713 to get you to read with me Stan? 2379 01:36:01,713 --> 01:36:04,076 - I knew that book had sounded familiar. 2380 01:36:04,076 --> 01:36:04,909 - Oh my God. 2381 01:36:04,909 --> 01:36:06,343 It's too cold for you to be playing. 2382 01:36:06,343 --> 01:36:08,318 - Hey well everything happens in God's timing right. 2383 01:36:08,318 --> 01:36:09,310 - You right. 2384 01:36:09,310 --> 01:36:10,470 - So anyway like I was saying, 2385 01:36:10,470 --> 01:36:12,550 like the book is so powerful Kelly. 2386 01:36:12,550 --> 01:36:14,391 You know, you read the book 2387 01:36:14,391 --> 01:36:17,277 but what got me is the way they speak on the roles 2388 01:36:17,277 --> 01:36:19,654 and responsibility of a husband and a wife. 2389 01:36:19,654 --> 01:36:20,487 - Yeah. 2390 01:36:20,487 --> 01:36:21,930 - And when I was reading the part about a wife, Kelly, 2391 01:36:21,930 --> 01:36:23,407 like you was doing everything that 2392 01:36:23,407 --> 01:36:25,677 you were supposed to do in our marriage, it was me. 2393 01:36:25,677 --> 01:36:26,797 Like I wasn't leading the way 2394 01:36:26,797 --> 01:36:29,168 I should have been leading you. 2395 01:36:29,168 --> 01:36:31,956 So, but anyway, the crazy part 2396 01:36:31,956 --> 01:36:34,925 about it is the author of the book is actually 2397 01:36:34,925 --> 01:36:37,530 the pastor of the church the guy invited me to go out to. 2398 01:36:37,530 --> 01:36:38,965 - Wow, did you go? 2399 01:36:38,965 --> 01:36:40,245 - Yes, I had to go, like, 2400 01:36:40,245 --> 01:36:42,715 cause I had to speak to him like, personally, 2401 01:36:42,715 --> 01:36:44,755 like in that very moment, 2402 01:36:44,755 --> 01:36:49,115 and I really understood my role more as a husband. 2403 01:36:49,115 --> 01:36:51,034 So I even joined the church. 2404 01:36:51,034 --> 01:36:52,992 - Wait a minute, you joined the church Stan? 2405 01:36:52,992 --> 01:36:54,721 - Yes I joined the church. 2406 01:36:54,721 --> 01:36:56,643 That's not even the crazy part about it. 2407 01:36:56,643 --> 01:36:59,640 - What's the crazy part Stan? 2408 01:36:59,640 --> 01:37:02,602 - I gave my life to Christ Kelly. 2409 01:37:02,602 --> 01:37:04,202 - Wait a minute. 2410 01:37:04,202 --> 01:37:05,784 You gave your life to Christ? 2411 01:37:05,784 --> 01:37:06,853 - Yes. 2412 01:37:06,853 --> 01:37:07,686 - Really? 2413 01:37:07,686 --> 01:37:08,519 - I did. 2414 01:37:08,519 --> 01:37:09,424 - Baby, that's so good. 2415 01:37:09,424 --> 01:37:12,473 - To be honest, like the real reason I'm here Kelly is 2416 01:37:12,473 --> 01:37:14,853 because on this past Sunday 2417 01:37:14,853 --> 01:37:17,152 the message was about forgiveness. 2418 01:37:17,152 --> 01:37:19,504 So I just simply came here and ask you for your forgiveness. 2419 01:37:19,504 --> 01:37:20,653 - I forgive you. 2420 01:37:20,653 --> 01:37:24,520 - And if you don't want to forgive me, I totally get that. 2421 01:37:24,520 --> 01:37:26,243 - I forgive you. 2422 01:37:26,243 --> 01:37:27,883 - You do? 2423 01:37:27,883 --> 01:37:30,216 - I said I forgive you baby. 2424 01:37:31,508 --> 01:37:33,443 Merry Christmas, Mr. Stevenson. 2425 01:37:33,443 --> 01:37:35,538 - Merry Christmas Mrs. Stevenson. 2426 01:37:37,246 --> 01:37:38,079 Thank you Jesus. 2427 01:37:40,227 --> 01:37:41,144 Aw. 2428 01:37:42,680 --> 01:37:43,513 - Oh my God. 2429 01:37:43,513 --> 01:37:44,945 Merry Christmas. 2430 01:38:04,450 --> 01:38:07,117 - Antwan, it reads, do understand 2431 01:38:08,549 --> 01:38:12,882 that forgiveness and trust are two different things. 2432 01:38:14,308 --> 01:38:16,550 Just because you might forgive, 2433 01:38:16,550 --> 01:38:21,448 does not mean trust is going to automatically be restored. 2434 01:38:21,448 --> 01:38:23,448 I really like this book. 2435 01:38:24,901 --> 01:38:26,312 Learning your husband's style 2436 01:38:26,312 --> 01:38:28,895 of communicating is beneficial. 2437 01:38:29,780 --> 01:38:31,930 - That's what I'm talking about right there. 2438 01:38:31,930 --> 01:38:33,013 Keep reading! 2439 01:38:34,014 --> 01:38:35,900 Nah, nah, here, I'll read. 2440 01:38:35,900 --> 01:38:37,232 It said learning your husband's 2441 01:38:37,232 --> 01:38:40,069 style of communicating is beneficial. 2442 01:38:40,069 --> 01:38:42,688 Okay, every man is not the same. 2443 01:38:42,688 --> 01:38:45,717 However, one thing they all have in common 2444 01:38:45,717 --> 01:38:49,214 is that they all want to be respected. 2445 01:38:49,214 --> 01:38:51,478 Speaking to him as if he is 2446 01:38:51,478 --> 01:38:54,702 a child will not be received very well. 2447 01:38:54,702 --> 01:38:56,008 Amen to that. 2448 01:38:56,008 --> 01:39:00,654 Many times we, y'all have a valid point and are right 2449 01:39:00,654 --> 01:39:02,854 in what y'all are trying to communicate, 2450 01:39:02,854 --> 01:39:06,119 conversely, meaning at the same time, 2451 01:39:06,119 --> 01:39:08,187 the way y'all communicate at times 2452 01:39:08,187 --> 01:39:10,354 is where the challenge is. 2453 01:39:11,270 --> 01:39:14,054 This is one heck of an author. 2454 01:39:14,054 --> 01:39:15,406 Where's your highlighter? 2455 01:41:55,040 --> 01:41:56,457 - Mrs. Anderson? 2456 01:41:58,316 --> 01:41:59,149 Hello? 2457 01:42:06,955 --> 01:42:08,363 - Excuse me. 2458 01:42:08,363 --> 01:42:10,859 Are you the lady that lives downstairs? 2459 01:42:10,859 --> 01:42:12,860 - Yes, hi, I'm Kelly Stevenson. 2460 01:42:12,860 --> 01:42:14,159 - Are you okay? 2461 01:42:14,159 --> 01:42:16,931 - Yes, I'm just looking for Mrs. Anderson. 2462 01:42:16,931 --> 01:42:18,031 Her apartment is empty 2463 01:42:18,031 --> 01:42:19,539 and she didn't tell me she was moving. 2464 01:42:19,539 --> 01:42:20,847 - I'm sorry, who? 2465 01:42:20,847 --> 01:42:23,222 - Mrs. Anderson, she lives here. 2466 01:42:23,222 --> 01:42:26,734 - No, this apartment has been vacant now for over a year. 2467 01:42:26,734 --> 01:42:27,799 - Excuse me? 2468 01:42:27,799 --> 01:42:31,815 - No one has lived here in over a year. 2469 01:42:31,815 --> 01:42:34,260 - Okay, so it couldn't have possibly been vacant 2470 01:42:34,260 --> 01:42:36,865 because I've spent time with her here 2471 01:42:36,865 --> 01:42:40,904 talking many times over this past year. 2472 01:42:40,904 --> 01:42:43,000 - No, Mrs. Stevenson, right? 2473 01:42:43,000 --> 01:42:43,833 - Yes. 2474 01:42:43,833 --> 01:42:44,666 - Okay. 2475 01:42:44,666 --> 01:42:46,184 Mrs. Stevenson, you may want 2476 01:42:46,184 --> 01:42:48,250 to give the leasing office a call. 2477 01:42:48,250 --> 01:42:50,945 I know it's the holidays, so you may have to wait a week, 2478 01:42:50,945 --> 01:42:53,587 but give them the call, they may be able 2479 01:42:53,587 --> 01:42:55,170 to help you out with the situation. 2480 01:42:55,170 --> 01:42:58,601 - Okay, but I know I'm not crazy. 2481 01:42:58,601 --> 01:43:01,690 Are you 100 % certain that no one has lived 2482 01:43:01,690 --> 01:43:03,455 in this apartment in the past year? 2483 01:43:03,455 --> 01:43:05,955 - I am 200 % certain dear. 2484 01:43:07,591 --> 01:43:11,128 Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. 2485 01:43:14,418 --> 01:43:17,168 - Wow, God you are truly amazing. 172087

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