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ISTIA IN AMENPOUR.
>>> I LAST VISITED SHANGHAI IN

>>> I LAST VISITED SHANGHAI IN
1978 WHEN CHINA WAS TRULY

1978 WHEN CHINA WAS TRULY
COMMUNIST AND LOVE WAS RESERVED

COMMUNIST AND LOVE WAS RESERVED
FOR THE REVOLUTION.

FOR THE REVOLUTION.
SEX WAS STRICTLY CONTROLLED.

SEX WAS STRICTLY CONTROLLED.
CONFORMITY WAS THE OPIATE OF THE

CONFORMITY WAS THE OPIATE OF THE
MASSES.

MASSES.
TODAY IS ANOTHER UNIVERSE.

TODAY IS ANOTHER UNIVERSE.
COMMUNISM MEETS CAPITALISM.

COMMUNISM MEETS CAPITALISM.
ATTITUDES TO LOVE AND SEX ARE

ATTITUDES TO LOVE AND SEX ARE
SHIFTING.

SHIFTING.
BUT AS WITH EVERYTHING HERE,

BUT AS WITH EVERYTHING HERE,
IT'S COMPLICATED.

>> IN SHANGHAI LAVISH
PHOTO STUDIOS PROVIDE COSTUME

PHOTO STUDIOS PROVIDE COSTUME
DESIGNER, MAKEUP ARTISTS,

DESIGNER, MAKEUP ARTISTS,
PHOTOGRAPHERS AND FAIRY TALE

PHOTOGRAPHERS AND FAIRY TALE
SETS TO HELP TURN EVERY COUPLE'S

SETS TO HELP TURN EVERY COUPLE'S
FANTASY INTO REALITY.

>> FOR SOME COUPLES, THIS
PHOTO SHOOT WILL BE THE BIGGEST

PHOTO SHOOT WILL BE THE BIGGEST
LUXURY OF THEIR LIVES.

>> FOR YEARS, MARRIAGE AND
RELATIONSHIPS HERE HAVE BEEN

RELATIONSHIPS HERE HAVE BEEN
CONTROLLED BY THREE SACRED

CONTROLLED BY THREE SACRED
PILLARS -- FAMILY, TRADITION,

PILLARS -- FAMILY, TRADITION,
AND STATE.

AND STATE.
I UH'M CURIOUS TO FIND OUT TO

I UH'M CURIOUS TO FIND OUT TO
WHAT EXTENT PEOPLE ARE TAKING

WHAT EXTENT PEOPLE ARE TAKING
BACK CONTROL OF THEIR

BACK CONTROL OF THEIR
RELAT

RELAT
RELATIONSHIPS, THEIR LOVE, THEIR

RELATIONSHIPS, THEIR LOVE, THEIR
DESIRE, AND THEIR SEXUALITY.

DESIRE, AND THEIR SEXUALITY.
>> UNDAUNTED BY CHINA'S

>> UNDAUNTED BY CHINA'S
CONSERVATIVE VALUES.

>> SO THIS IS NORMAL FOR YOU?
>> YEAH, YEAH, YEAH.

>> YEAH, YEAH, YEAH.
>> THE MODELS ARE ALWAYS NUDE.

>> THE MODELS ARE ALWAYS NUDE.
AND HIS PROVOCATIVE IMAGES

AND HIS PROVOCATIVE IMAGES
EXPLORE VARYING FORMS OF SEXUAL

EXPLORE VARYING FORMS OF SEXUAL
IDENTITY AND INTIMACY.

IDENTITY AND INTIMACY.
>> THIS BIT LOOKS KIND OF SWEET.

>> THIS BIT LOOKS KIND OF SWEET.
YOU DON'T MIND DOING THIS FOR

YOU DON'T MIND DOING THIS FOR
THE WORLD TO SEE?

>> I SAT DOWN WITH CHAT WITH
WANAMAL AND TWO OF HIS MUSES,

WANAMAL AND TWO OF HIS MUSES,
WIFE SHIANG AND MODEL BLAIR.

WIFE SHIANG AND MODEL BLAIR.
I ASKED YOUR TWO MODELS WHETHER

I ASKED YOUR TWO MODELS WHETHER
THEY WERE IN LOVE.

THEY WERE IN LOVE.
AND THEY SAID YES, THAT THEY'RE

AND THEY SAID YES, THAT THEY'RE
PARTNERS.

PARTNERS.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT FOR YOU,

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT FOR YOU,
INTIMACY.

>> SO WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT
POSING NUDE FOR YOUR HUSBAND AND

POSING NUDE FOR YOUR HUSBAND AND
FOR THE WORLD?

>> ONE OF THESE IS YOU, THOUGH.
THIS IS YOU.

THIS IS YOU.
>> YOU LOVE DOING THIS KIND OF

>> YOU LOVE DOING THIS KIND OF
MODELING.

MODELING.
>> I THINK FEMALE BODY IS AN

>> I THINK FEMALE BODY IS AN
ART.

ART.
>> WHAT ABOUT YOUR OWN PARENTS?

>> WHAT ABOUT YOUR OWN PARENTS?
>> THEY DON'T KNOW.

>> THEY DON'T KNOW.
>> THEY HAVEN'T SEEN THIS BOOK?

>> THEY HAVEN'T SEEN THIS BOOK?
>> NO, NEVER.

>> NO, NEVER.
AND I'M NEVER GOING TO TELL

AND I'M NEVER GOING TO TELL
THEM.

THEM.
>> WHY?

>> WHY?
>> WELL, BECAUSE CHINA HAVE A

>> WELL, BECAUSE CHINA HAVE A
REALLY CONSERVATIVE HISTORY,

REALLY CONSERVATIVE HISTORY,
RIGHT?

RIGHT?
AND ALL THE WOMEN ARE JUST VERY

AND ALL THE WOMEN ARE JUST VERY
MENTALLY RESTRICTED.

MENTALLY RESTRICTED.
MY PARENTS ARE, LIKE, THEY'RE

MY PARENTS ARE, LIKE, THEY'RE
JUST REALLY, REALLY

JUST REALLY, REALLY
CONSERVATIVE.

CONSERVATIVE.
AND THEY THINK LIKE YOUR BODY IS

AND THEY THINK LIKE YOUR BODY IS
NOT FOR YOUR TO SHOW OTHER

NOT FOR YOUR TO SHOW OTHER
PEOPLE.

PEOPLE.
AMENDMENT YOU CAN'T HAVE SEX

AMENDMENT YOU CAN'T HAVE SEX
BEFORE MARRIAGE.

BEFORE MARRIAGE.
I DON'T THINK I'LL EVER CHANGE

I DON'T THINK I'LL EVER CHANGE
THEIR MIND.

THEIR MIND.
>> WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM YOUR

>> WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM YOUR
PARTNER?

PARTNER?
WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR A GUY?

WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR A GUY?
>> FIRST HE HAS TO BE HANDSOME

>> FIRST HE HAS TO BE HANDSOME
OR YOU CAN JUST NOT HAVE SEX

OR YOU CAN JUST NOT HAVE SEX
WITH HIM.

WITH HIM.
AND I THINK SIZE REALLY MATTERS,

AND I THINK SIZE REALLY MATTERS,
TOO.

TOO.
>> SIZE MATTERS.

>> SIZE MATTERS.
DO YOU MEAN TALL?

DO YOU MEAN TALL?
>> NO, I MEAN THE -- YEAH.

>> NO, I MEAN THE -- YEAH.
WHAT YOU THINK IT IS, YEAH.

WHAT YOU THINK IT IS, YEAH.
>> I SEE YOU TWO VERY INTIMATE

>> I SEE YOU TWO VERY INTIMATE
AND WORK TOGETHER.

AND WORK TOGETHER.
DOES THIS WORK HELP YOUR SEX

DOES THIS WORK HELP YOUR SEX
LIFE?

>> GREAT BEAUTIFUL PARK.
THE WHOLE VILLAGE IS FOLLOWING

THE WHOLE VILLAGE IS FOLLOWING
US AND THAT'S BECAUSE OF YOU.

US AND THAT'S BECAUSE OF YOU.
YOU ARE AN INCREDIBLY POPULAR

YOU ARE AN INCREDIBLY POPULAR
PERSON.

PERSON.
HOW MANY PEOPLE WATCH YOUR SHOW

HOW MANY PEOPLE WATCH YOUR SHOW
EVERY WEEK?

EVERY WEEK?
>> EVERY WEDNESDAY NIGHT, I

>> EVERY WEDNESDAY NIGHT, I
THINK ALL OVER THE WORLD.

THINK ALL OVER THE WORLD.
150 MILLION CHINESE PEOPLE.

150 MILLION CHINESE PEOPLE.
>> ALREADY RENOWNED AS A DANCER

>> ALREADY RENOWNED AS A DANCER
AND CHOREOGRAPHER, SHE SHOT TO

AND CHOREOGRAPHER, SHE SHOT TO
SUPERSTARDOM AS A TV

SUPERSTARDOM AS A TV
PERSONALITY.

PERSONALITY.
ONE OF THE PROGRAMS SHE HOSTS IS

ONE OF THE PROGRAMS SHE HOSTS IS
A DATING SHOW WITH A TWIST.

A DATING SHOW WITH A TWIST.
WHERE IT'S THE PARENTS WHO GET

WHERE IT'S THE PARENTS WHO GET
TO CHOOSE DATES FOR THEIR

TO CHOOSE DATES FOR THEIR
CHILDREN.

CHILDREN.
HOW IMPORTANT IS IS IT FOR

HOW IMPORTANT IS IS IT FOR
PARENTS TO ACTUALLY SEE THEIR

PARENTS TO ACTUALLY SEE THEIR
CHILDREN MARRIED, TO MAKE THEIR

CHILDREN MARRIED, TO MAKE THEIR
CHILDREN HAVE A HAPPY MATCH?

CHILDREN HAVE A HAPPY MATCH?
>> CHINESE PEOPLE IDEA, HAPPY

>> CHINESE PEOPLE IDEA, HAPPY
FAMILY IS A FOUR GENERATION

FAMILY IS A FOUR GENERATION
UNDER ONE ROOF.

UNDER ONE ROOF.
>> THIS SHOWS WHAT LENGTHS

>> THIS SHOWS WHAT LENGTHS
PARENTS WILL GO TO TO FIND A

PARENTS WILL GO TO TO FIND A
GOOD MATCH FOR THEIR CHILD.

GOOD MATCH FOR THEIR CHILD.
>> LOOK.

>> LOOK.
>> DO YOU SEE THE UMBRELLAS

>> DO YOU SEE THE UMBRELLAS
HERE.

HERE.
>> WHAT IS DOES THIS ONE?

>> WHAT IS DOES THIS ONE?
>> A GIRL, BORN IN 1987.

>> A GIRL, BORN IN 1987.
HEIGHT, 1 METERS 67.

HEIGHT, 1 METERS 67.
WORKING FOR THE COMPANY, EVERY

WORKING FOR THE COMPANY, EVERY
MONTH INCOME 10,000.

MONTH INCOME 10,000.
>> Reporter: THIS IS A MARRIAGE

>> Reporter: THIS IS A MARRIAGE
MARKET.

MARKET.
THE IDEA IS A SHANGHAI

THE IDEA IS A SHANGHAI
PHENOMENON THAT'S SPREAD ACROSS

PHENOMENON THAT'S SPREAD ACROSS
CHINA WHERE PARENTS COME TO

CHINA WHERE PARENTS COME TO
ADVERTISE NOT GOODS BUT THEIR

ADVERTISE NOT GOODS BUT THEIR
CHILDREN.

CHILDREN.
>> SO ALL THESE ELDERLY -- WELL,

>> SO ALL THESE ELDERLY -- WELL,
YOU KNOW, MIDDLE AGE PEOPLE,

YOU KNOW, MIDDLE AGE PEOPLE,
THEY ARE HERE TRYING TO SNARE A

THEY ARE HERE TRYING TO SNARE A
MATCH FOR THEIR CHILD.

MATCH FOR THEIR CHILD.
>> YES, YES.

>> YES, YES.
>> FLIERS ARE PINNED TO

>> FLIERS ARE PINNED TO
UMBRELLAS DETAILING EACH CHILD'S

UMBRELLAS DETAILING EACH CHILD'S
BEST SELLING POINTS.

BEST SELLING POINTS.
JOB, INCOME, EDUCATION.

JOB, INCOME, EDUCATION.
MS. LU BORN IN 1984.

MS. LU BORN IN 1984.
1 METER 60 HEIGHT.

1 METER 60 HEIGHT.
WORKING FOR THE FOREIGN COMPANY.

WORKING FOR THE FOREIGN COMPANY.
AND SHE HAS HER OWN APARTMENT.

AND SHE HAS HER OWN APARTMENT.
>> THAT'S MAJOR TO HAVE HER OWN

>> THAT'S MAJOR TO HAVE HER OWN
APARTMENT.

APARTMENT.
>> EXACTLY, A GIRL.

>> EXACTLY, A GIRL.
HER REQUEST MUST BE

HER REQUEST MUST BE
SHANGHAINESE.

SHANGHAINESE.
MUST HAVE APARTMENT AND SAME

MUST HAVE APARTMENT AND SAME
EDUCATION AND ONLY FIVE YEARS

EDUCATION AND ONLY FIVE YEARS
ABOVE HER.

ABOVE HER.
>> WHOA, THAT'S PRETTY PRECISE.

>> WHOA, THAT'S PRETTY PRECISE.
SO SHE WANTS AN EDUCATED

SO SHE WANTS AN EDUCATED
SHANGHAINESE AND FIVE YEARS

SHANGHAINESE AND FIVE YEARS
OLDER AND SPECIFICALLY 10

OLDER AND SPECIFICALLY 10
CENTIMETERS HIGHER THAN HER.

CENTIMETERS HIGHER THAN HER.
DO THE YOUNG PEOPLE KNOW THAT

DO THE YOUNG PEOPLE KNOW THAT
THEIR PARENTS ARE DOING THIS?

THEIR PARENTS ARE DOING THIS?
>> 80% HAVE NO IDEA.

>> 80% HAVE NO IDEA.
MOST OF THE YOUNG KIDS, THEY

MOST OF THE YOUNG KIDS, THEY
FEEL SHAME.

FEEL SHAME.
>> DO THEY?

>> DO THEY?
>> I NEED TO FIND MY OWN LOVE BY

>> I NEED TO FIND MY OWN LOVE BY
MYSELF.

MYSELF.
>> IT IS INCREDIBLE.

>> IT IS INCREDIBLE.
>> AND ALSO THE REWARD.

>> AND ALSO THE REWARD.
AS I'M GETTING OLDER, LOOKING

AS I'M GETTING OLDER, LOOKING
AFTER ME.

AFTER ME.
>> OH.

>> OH.
>> NOTHING FOR FREE.

>> NOTHING FOR FREE.
>> NO FREE LUNCH.

>> NO FREE LUNCH.
NO FREE MARRIAGE.

NO FREE MARRIAGE.
>> EXACTLY.

>> EXACTLY.
>> IS AARON KING.

>> IS AARON KING.
I'M A CONDUCTOR AND COMPOSER FOR

I'M A CONDUCTOR AND COMPOSER FOR
THE RAINBOW CHAMBER SINGERS.

THE RAINBOW CHAMBER SINGERS.
>> THE CHOIR BECAME FAMOUS FOR

>> THE CHOIR BECAME FAMOUS FOR
ITS ORIGINAL AL COMPOSITION.

ITS ORIGINAL AL COMPOSITION.
ONE OF THEIR BIGGEST HITS

ONE OF THEIR BIGGEST HITS
HIGHLIGHTS THE PARENTAL PRESSURE

HIGHLIGHTS THE PARENTAL PRESSURE
YOUNG PEOPLE FACE WHEN IT COMES

YOUNG PEOPLE FACE WHEN IT COMES
TO THEIR LOVE LIVES.

♪

A.
>> SHANGHAINESE HAVE A

>> SHANGHAINESE HAVE A
REPUTATION FOR BEING AMBITIOUS,

REPUTATION FOR BEING AMBITIOUS,
SUCCESSFUL AND UNCOMPROMISING.

SUCCESSFUL AND UNCOMPROMISING.
>> THE REASON I COME TO

>> THE REASON I COME TO
SHANGHAI, IT'S ALL ABOUT MY

SHANGHAI, IT'S ALL ABOUT MY
CAREER.

CAREER.
TO FIND THE RIGHT LONG TERM

TO FIND THE RIGHT LONG TERM
RELATIONSHIP PARTNER FOR ME.

RELATIONSHIP PARTNER FOR ME.
IT'S VERY FAMILIAR TO FIND THE

IT'S VERY FAMILIAR TO FIND THE
RIGHT CEO OR MANAGER IN THE

RIGHT CEO OR MANAGER IN THE
FIRM.

FIRM.
LOVE IS ACTUALLY A SCIENCE. YOU

LOVE IS ACTUALLY A SCIENCE. YOU
HAVE TO LEARN THE THEORY, AND

HAVE TO LEARN THE THEORY, AND
YOU HAVE TO PRACTICE.

YOU HAVE TO PRACTICE.
FOR MY MOM, MY DAD IS HER FIRST

FOR MY MOM, MY DAD IS HER FIRST
LOVE.

LOVE.
THE STORY FOR ME IS INSANE.

THE STORY FOR ME IS INSANE.
I WOULD NEVER MARRY SOMEONE WHO

I WOULD NEVER MARRY SOMEONE WHO
IS MY FIRST LOVE.

IS MY FIRST LOVE.
WITHOUT PRACTICING, HOW CAN WE

WITHOUT PRACTICING, HOW CAN WE
FIND THE RIGHT ONE?

FIND THE RIGHT ONE?
>> ALL THE CHINESE CULTURE, HE

>> ALL THE CHINESE CULTURE, HE
SHOULD CONTROL HIS MOTION.

SHOULD CONTROL HIS MOTION.
CONTROL HIS SEX DESIRE.

CONTROL HIS SEX DESIRE.
I RECEIVED THE SAME EDUCATION.

I RECEIVED THE SAME EDUCATION.
I'M JUST NOT A GOOD GIRL.

I'M JUST NOT A GOOD GIRL.
IN CHINA, UNMARRIED WOMEN OVER

IN CHINA, UNMARRIED WOMEN OVER
27 ARE KNOWN AS SHANGWU, MEANING

27 ARE KNOWN AS SHANGWU, MEANING
LEFTOVERS.

LEFTOVERS.
WHILE UNMARRIED MEN, WANGWUN,

WHILE UNMARRIED MEN, WANGWUN,
MEANING BARE BRANCHES.

MEANING BARE BRANCHES.
WU DI AIMS TO DISSPELL THE

WU DI AIMS TO DISSPELL THE
STIGMA AND HELP THESE YOUNG

STIGMA AND HELP THESE YOUNG
SINGLETONS.

SINGLETONS.
>> CHANGE THE DEFINITION OF

>> CHANGE THE DEFINITION OF
RELATIONSHIP AND THE MARRIAGE.

RELATIONSHIP AND THE MARRIAGE.
INTRODUCE NEW VOCABULARY TO

INTRODUCE NEW VOCABULARY TO
THEM, SUCH AS EMOTION, INTIMACY,

THEM, SUCH AS EMOTION, INTIMACY,
SEX, PLEASURE, BODY CONTACT.

>> THE DAY CAMP TAKES THE FORM
OF WEEKLY SEMINARS, PRIVATE

OF WEEKLY SEMINARS, PRIVATE
TUTORING IN EVERYTHING ON HOW TO

TUTORING IN EVERYTHING ON HOW TO
FLIRT AND HOW TO DRESS FOR A

FLIRT AND HOW TO DRESS FOR A
DATE.

DATE.
I JOINED THE DATING GURU FOR A

I JOINED THE DATING GURU FOR A
TUTORING SESSION AT A LOCAL

TUTORING SESSION AT A LOCAL
BOUTIQUE WITH A COUPLE OF HER

BOUTIQUE WITH A COUPLE OF HER
STUDENTS.

STUDENTS.
27-YEAR-OLD EVE AND 32-YEAR-OLD

27-YEAR-OLD EVE AND 32-YEAR-OLD
STELLA.

STELLA.
HAVE YOU EVER DATED?

HAVE YOU EVER DATED?
>> YES, BUT MOST OF THE TIME ON

>> YES, BUT MOST OF THE TIME ON
THE FIRST DATE, THE BOYS WILL

THE FIRST DATE, THE BOYS WILL
NOT CONTACT WITH ME AGAIN.

NOT CONTACT WITH ME AGAIN.
YES.

YES.
>> TODAY'S MISSION IS WE WANT TO

>> TODAY'S MISSION IS WE WANT TO
FIND A REALLY GOOD DRESS FOR THE

FIND A REALLY GOOD DRESS FOR THE
DATE.

DATE.
>> SO YOU THINK I HAVE A GOOD

>> SO YOU THINK I HAVE A GOOD
CHANCE OF GETTING A DATE?

CHANCE OF GETTING A DATE?
>> YEAH, YEAH.

>> YEAH, YEAH.
.

.
>> I COULD OPEN IT MORE?

>> I COULD OPEN IT MORE?
>> NO, NO, NO.

>> NO, NO, NO.
THIS IS TOO MUCH?

THIS IS TOO MUCH?
YOUR FACE, I MEAN, YOU LOOK

YOUR FACE, I MEAN, YOU LOOK
HORRIFIED.

HORRIFIED.
IT'S JUST A LITTLE BUTTON.

IT'S JUST A LITTLE BUTTON.
>> WE ARE GOOD GIRL.

>> WE ARE GOOD GIRL.
>> I TRY TO TRAIN THEM TO BE BAD

>> I TRY TO TRAIN THEM TO BE BAD
GIRLS.

GIRLS.
>> YES.

>> YES.
>> I'M A LITTLE BIT SHOCKED.

>> I'M A LITTLE BIT SHOCKED.
THEY NOT ONLY LOOK YOUNG, THEY

THEY NOT ONLY LOOK YOUNG, THEY
ACT YOUNG.

ACT YOUNG.
>> YES, YES.

>> YES, YES.
>> WE WILL EDUCATE THEM.

>> WE WILL EDUCATE THEM.
THEY HAVE VERY DECENT PAY.

THEY HAVE VERY DECENT PAY.
>> REALLY?

>> REALLY?
THEY'RE VERY NAIVE.

THEY'RE VERY NAIVE.
>> UNFORTUNATELY, YES.

>> UNFORTUNATELY, YES.
>> OH, LOOK, HERE THEY COME.

>> OH, LOOK, HERE THEY COME.
>> WOW, THAT'S GODDESS.

>> WOW, THAT'S GODDESS.
>> I WOULD ASK YOU GIRLS, DO YOU

>> I WOULD ASK YOU GIRLS, DO YOU
THINK ABOUT ROMANTIC AND LOVE

THINK ABOUT ROMANTIC AND LOVE
SATISFACTION?

SATISFACTION?
DO YOU FEEL YOU'RE MISSING

DO YOU FEEL YOU'RE MISSING
SOMETHING?

SOMETHING?
>> YES.

>> YES.
YES.

YES.
EVERYONE TOLD US STUDY VERY HARD

EVERYONE TOLD US STUDY VERY HARD
TO GO TO A VERY GOOD UNIVERSITY,

TO GO TO A VERY GOOD UNIVERSITY,
TO GET A VERY GOOD JOB, BUT NO

TO GET A VERY GOOD JOB, BUT NO
ONE TELL US THAT HOW TO HAVE

ONE TELL US THAT HOW TO HAVE
VERY GOOD INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

VERY GOOD INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP
WITH THE BOYS.

WITH THE BOYS.
>> HOW DID YOU GROW UP.

>> HOW DID YOU GROW UP.
WHAT DID YOU SEE BETWEEN YOUR

WHAT DID YOU SEE BETWEEN YOUR
PATIENTS?

PATIENTS?
-- PARENTS?

-- PARENTS?
>> JUST A NORMAL FAMILY?

>> JUST A NORMAL FAMILY?
>> HUGGING, KISSING?

>> HUGGING, KISSING?
>> NO, NO, NO!

>> NO, NO, NO!
>> YOU DIDN'T EVEN GET KISSES

>> YOU DIDN'T EVEN GET KISSES
FROM YOUR PARENTS?

FROM YOUR PARENTS?
>> NEVER.

>> NEVER.
>> NO KISS.

>> NO KISS.
>> SOMETIMES FEEL VERY NERVOUS

>> SOMETIMES FEEL VERY NERVOUS
TO HAVE THE BODY TOUCH.

TO HAVE THE BODY TOUCH.
>> THE BODY CONTACT.

>> THE BODY CONTACT.
>> AND HAVE YOU EVER HAD SEX?

>> AND HAVE YOU EVER HAD SEX?
ARE YOU A VIRGIN?

ARE YOU A VIRGIN?
>> YEAH.

>> YEAH.
>> YOU'RE A VIRGIN?

>> YOU'RE A VIRGIN?
>> YEAH.

>> YEAH.
>> SO THAT'S THE LESSON WE LEARN

>> SO THAT'S THE LESSON WE LEARN
FROM THE PARENTS, RIGHT?

FROM THE PARENTS, RIGHT?
DON'T LET HIM THINK YOU ARE A

DON'T LET HIM THINK YOU ARE A
NEEDY GIRL.

NEEDY GIRL.
DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM BEFORE

DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM BEFORE
THE ENGAGEMENT.

THE ENGAGEMENT.
OTHERWISE HE WILL TREAT YOU AS A

OTHERWISE HE WILL TREAT YOU AS A
BITCH.

BITCH.
>> THE THOUGHT THAT THESE TWO

>> THE THOUGHT THAT THESE TWO
YOUNG WOMEN HAD NEVER BEEN

YOUNG WOMEN HAD NEVER BEEN
HUGGED OR KISSED WAS HEART

HUGGED OR KISSED WAS HEART
BREAKING.

BREAKING.
WHILE I WAS ENCOURAGED TO SEE

WHILE I WAS ENCOURAGED TO SEE
WHAT WU DI WAS TRYING TO TEACH

WHAT WU DI WAS TRYING TO TEACH
HER STUDENTS A WHOLE NEW SET OF

HER STUDENTS A WHOLE NEW SET OF
RULES.

RULES.
>> EMOTION IS THE NEW VOCABULARY

>> EMOTION IS THE NEW VOCABULARY
FOR TODAY'S CHINESE.

FOR TODAY'S CHINESE.
INTIMACY, BODY CONTACT, KISS.

INTIMACY, BODY CONTACT, KISS.
FOR EXAMPLE, SEX.

FOR EXAMPLE, SEX.
CAN WOMEN HAVE SEX ONLY FOR

CAN WOMEN HAVE SEX ONLY FOR
PLEASURE?

PLEASURE?
WELL, THAT'S A SERIOUS QUESTION.

WELL, THAT'S A SERIOUS QUESTION.
I REALLY WANT TO HELP THEM TO

I REALLY WANT TO HELP THEM TO
HAVE A BIG VISION OF THE WORLD.

HAVE A BIG VISION OF THE WORLD.
THE FAMILY CONCEPT THAT I HAD

THE FAMILY CONCEPT THAT I HAD
SINCE CHILDHOOD, FALLING IN

SINCE CHILDHOOD, FALLING IN
LOVE, GETTING MARRIED, HAVE A

LOVE, GETTING MARRIED, HAVE A
BABY, HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS

BABY, HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS
COMPLETELY DIFFERENT TO THE WAY

COMPLETELY DIFFERENT TO THE WAY
I AM NOW.

I AM NOW.
I ACTUALLY HAD MY FIRST MARRIAGE

I ACTUALLY HAD MY FIRST MARRIAGE
AND NOW I AM ON MY FOURTH

AND NOW I AM ON MY FOURTH
MARRIAGE.

MARRIAGE.
AND I HAVE TWO KIDS FROM TWO

AND I HAVE TWO KIDS FROM TWO
DIFFERENT FATHERS.

DIFFERENT FATHERS.
AND ALSO CONTINUOUSLY LIVING A

AND ALSO CONTINUOUSLY LIVING A
WAY THAT'S NOT A TRADITIONAL

WAY THAT'S NOT A TRADITIONAL
FAMILY.

FAMILY.
MOTHER HOOD IS SOMETHING VERY

MOTHER HOOD IS SOMETHING VERY
NEW.

NEW.
I HAVEN'T LEARNED FROM MY

I HAVEN'T LEARNED FROM MY
PARENTS.

PARENTS.
THEY NEVER COME AND CUDDLE ME

THEY NEVER COME AND CUDDLE ME
AND SAY I LOVE YOU.

AND SAY I LOVE YOU.
EXPRESSION OF LOVE IS VERY

EXPRESSION OF LOVE IS VERY
COMMITTED IN MOST CHINESE

COMMITTED IN MOST CHINESE
FAMILY.

FAMILY.
SO WITH MY KIDS I'M TRYING TO BE

SO WITH MY KIDS I'M TRYING TO BE
VERY OPEN.

VERY OPEN.
I'M TRYING TO SHOW THE MAXIMUM,

I'M TRYING TO SHOW THE MAXIMUM,
MY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

MY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
WITH MY DAUGHTER, I WANT TO GIVE

WITH MY DAUGHTER, I WANT TO GIVE
HER THE COMFORT THAT SHE CAN

HER THE COMFORT THAT SHE CAN
TALK TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING.

TALK TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING.
WHENEVER SHE FEELS LIKE REALLY

WHENEVER SHE FEELS LIKE REALLY
DOWN, SHE SAYS OH, MY GOD, I

DOWN, SHE SAYS OH, MY GOD, I
FEEL LIKE IN I LOSE THIS

FEEL LIKE IN I LOSE THIS
BOYFRIEND, I WOULD NEVER FIND

BOYFRIEND, I WOULD NEVER FIND
ANY MAN.

ANY MAN.
I SAID DON'T WORRY, I'VE HAD

I SAID DON'T WORRY, I'VE HAD
ONE, TWO, THREE, FOUR OF THEM.

ONE, TWO, THREE, FOUR OF THEM.
IF IT'S NOT YOURS, IT'S NOT GOOD

IF IT'S NOT YOURS, IT'S NOT GOOD
TO BE THERE.

TO BE THERE.
AND IF IT'S YOURS, IT WILL STAY

AND IF IT'S YOURS, IT WILL STAY
WITH YOU FOREVER.

WITH YOU FOREVER.
>> I FIND THE CITY IS FULL OF

>> I FIND THE CITY IS FULL OF
LIFE.

>> IN THE WORLD'S MOST POPULAR
CITY WHERE SOCIAL DYNAMICS ARE

CITY WHERE SOCIAL DYNAMICS ARE
ALWAYS CHANGING AND URBAN

ALWAYS CHANGING AND URBAN
ISOLATION IS GROWING, MANY

ISOLATION IS GROWING, MANY
PEOPLE RETREAT ONLINE FOR A

PEOPLE RETREAT ONLINE FOR A
PERSONAL CONNECTION.

PERSONAL CONNECTION.
>> ME TEET SWEET CAKE ISN'T JUST

>> ME TEET SWEET CAKE ISN'T JUST
LIVE STREAMING FOR THE LOVE OF

LIVE STREAMING FOR THE LOVE OF
HER FANS.

HER FANS.
THESE LIVE STREAMS CAN BE VERY

THESE LIVE STREAMS CAN BE VERY
LUCRATIVE.

LUCRATIVE.
HER FANS SHOW THEIR APPRECIATION

HER FANS SHOW THEIR APPRECIATION
BY BUYING HER VIRTUAL GIFTS

BY BUYING HER VIRTUAL GIFTS
WHICH TRANSLATE INTO HARD CASH

WHICH TRANSLATE INTO HARD CASH
FOR PETITE SWEET CAKE.

FOR PETITE SWEET CAKE.
LAST YEAR ALONE SHE EARNED OVER

LAST YEAR ALONE SHE EARNED OVER
$300,000.

$300,000.
.

.
>> TNOW WOMEN START REALIZING

>> TNOW WOMEN START REALIZING
WHAT SOCIAL NORMS ARE AVAILABLE

WHAT SOCIAL NORMS ARE AVAILABLE
TO THEM THAT WEREN'T AVAILABLE

TO THEM THAT WEREN'T AVAILABLE
TO THEM BEFORE.

TO THEM BEFORE.
WOMEN DO HAVE A RIGHT TO EARN

WOMEN DO HAVE A RIGHT TO EARN
THEIR OWN PATHWAY.

THEIR OWN PATHWAY.
>> FOR A BIT OF R&R, I MEAT UP

>> FOR A BIT OF R&R, I MEAT UP
WITH A WELL KNOWN VOICE IN THE

WITH A WELL KNOWN VOICE IN THE
CHINESE MUSIC INDUSTRY.

CHINESE MUSIC INDUSTRY.
IN CHINA, BEFORE SEX WAS

IN CHINA, BEFORE SEX WAS
PERCEIVED AS SOMETHING YOU EVER

PERCEIVED AS SOMETHING YOU EVER
TALK ABOUT IN PUBLIC.

TALK ABOUT IN PUBLIC.
IT IS STILL NOT TALKED AMONGST

IT IS STILL NOT TALKED AMONGST
PEOPLE --

PEOPLE --
>> POLITE COMPANY.

>> POLITE COMPANY.
>> YES.

>> YES.
>> BUT HELEN HAS NEVER BEEN ONE

>> BUT HELEN HAS NEVER BEEN ONE
TO SHY AWAY FROM AN AWKWARD

TO SHY AWAY FROM AN AWKWARD
CONVERSATION.

CONVERSATION.
AND SHE'S PERHAPS BEST KNOWN AS

AND SHE'S PERHAPS BEST KNOWN AS
THE FRONT WOMAN OF SEXY AND

THE FRONT WOMAN OF SEXY AND
PROVOCATIVE INDY ROCK BAND.

PROVOCATIVE INDY ROCK BAND.
>> ONE OF YOUR VIDEOS, ONE OF

>> ONE OF YOUR VIDEOS, ONE OF
YOUR SONGS, BEAUTIFUL BOYS IS

YOUR SONGS, BEAUTIFUL BOYS IS
ALL ABOUT THE IDEA OF SEX

ALL ABOUT THE IDEA OF SEX
WORKERS, RIGHT?

WORKERS, RIGHT?
>> YES.

>> YES.
>> I WANTED TO HAVE A

>> I WANTED TO HAVE A
CONVERSATION ABOUT THE DIFFERENT

CONVERSATION ABOUT THE DIFFERENT
ROLES IN SOCIETY THAT WE

ROLES IN SOCIETY THAT WE
CONSIDER ROLES IN THE SEX TRADE.

CONSIDER ROLES IN THE SEX TRADE.
A YOU HAVE LIKE THE KTV GIRL AND

A YOU HAVE LIKE THE KTV GIRL AND
WE PORTRAY THE CHARACTER AS

WE PORTRAY THE CHARACTER AS
HONESTLY AS WE CAN.

HONESTLY AS WE CAN.
AND THEN AT THE END OF IT, WE

AND THEN AT THE END OF IT, WE
REVEAL THAT IT'S A MAN.

REVEAL THAT IT'S A MAN.
AND WE SHOW THAT IT'S ACTUALLY A

AND WE SHOW THAT IT'S ACTUALLY A
LOVING MAN WITH A FAMILY.

LOVING MAN WITH A FAMILY.
I THOUGHT IT WAS A PRETTY COOL

I THOUGHT IT WAS A PRETTY COOL
PROJECT.

PROJECT.
BECAUSE OF THE DEBATE IT STIRRED

BECAUSE OF THE DEBATE IT STIRRED
UP.

UP.
SOME PEOPLE SAY OH, IT'S

SOME PEOPLE SAY OH, IT'S
DISGUSTING, ET CETERA, ET

DISGUSTING, ET CETERA, ET
CETERA.

CETERA.
CERTAIN PEOPLE WERE SAYING I WAS

CERTAIN PEOPLE WERE SAYING I WAS
CRYING.

CRYING.
LOOK WHAT THIS POOR MAN HAD TO

LOOK WHAT THIS POOR MAN HAD TO
DO IN ORDER TO FEED HIS FAMILY.

DO IN ORDER TO FEED HIS FAMILY.
BUT ONE THING THAT GOT ME WAS

BUT ONE THING THAT GOT ME WAS
UNTIL THEY REALIZED IT WAS A

UNTIL THEY REALIZED IT WAS A
MAN, OH, IT WAS JUST ANOTHER SEX

MAN, OH, IT WAS JUST ANOTHER SEX
WORKER.

WORKER.
>> SO THE WHOLE SEX WORKER TRADE

>> SO THE WHOLE SEX WORKER TRADE
HAS BEEN VERY, VERY PREVALENT.

HAS BEEN VERY, VERY PREVALENT.
>> HAS BEEN.

>> HAS BEEN.
DEFINITELY GOING DOWN NOW

DEFINITELY GOING DOWN NOW
OPINION.

OPINION.
>> WHY IS THAT?

>> WHY IS THAT?
>> JUST A DIFFERENT GENERATION.

>> JUST A DIFFERENT GENERATION.
SOCIETY NO LONGER SEES IT AS

SOCIETY NO LONGER SEES IT AS
BEING KOSHER.

BEING KOSHER.
SECONDLY, THERE'S BEEN A

SECONDLY, THERE'S BEEN A
CRACKDOWN ON THE SEX TRADE IN

CRACKDOWN ON THE SEX TRADE IN
GENERAL.

GENERAL.
SO THAT AVAILABILITY HAS GONE

SO THAT AVAILABILITY HAS GONE
DOWN.

DOWN.
THIRD, IT'S ECONOMICS.

THIRD, IT'S ECONOMICS.
AS WOMEN BECOME THE PRIMARY

AS WOMEN BECOME THE PRIMARY
EDUCATED GROUP IN CHINA, WHICH

EDUCATED GROUP IN CHINA, WHICH
IS REMARKABLE.

IS REMARKABLE.
>> THEY'RE NOT GOING TO CHOOSE

>> THEY'RE NOT GOING TO CHOOSE
THIS OPTION.

THIS OPTION.
PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY CAN

PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY CAN
DO UNTIL THEY'VE BEEN SHOWN THAT

DO UNTIL THEY'VE BEEN SHOWN THAT
IT'S POSSIBLE.

>> I LOVE TO BE ON STAGE.
I LOVE DANCING.

I LOVE DANCING.
S

S
JIN XING IS MY GIVEN NAME.

JIN XING IS MY GIVEN NAME.
I HAD A VERY HAPPY CHILDHOOD

I HAD A VERY HAPPY CHILDHOOD
WITH MY PARENTS.

WITH MY PARENTS.
BUT I'M STILL A BIT DOUBTING WHO

BUT I'M STILL A BIT DOUBTING WHO
AM I.

AM I.
SOMETHING DIFFERENT WITH ME.

SOMETHING DIFFERENT WITH ME.
I CANNOT LIVE MY LIFE WITH MASK.

I CANNOT LIVE MY LIFE WITH MASK.
I ONLY LIVE ONCE, I WANT TO BE

I ONLY LIVE ONCE, I WANT TO BE
MYSELF.

MYSELF.
THAT'S IT.

THAT'S IT.
YOU DON'T KNOW THIS WOMAN.

YOU DON'T KNOW THIS WOMAN.
BECAUSE BIOLOGICALLY, I BORN AS

BECAUSE BIOLOGICALLY, I BORN AS
A BOY.

A BOY.
>> SO YOU WERE A MAN?

>> SO YOU WERE A MAN?
>> YES.

>> YES.
I WAS A MAN UP TO 6 OR 7 YEARS

I WAS A MAN UP TO 6 OR 7 YEARS
OLD, I KNOW I SHOULD BE A GIRL

OLD, I KNOW I SHOULD BE A GIRL
LIKE MY SISTER.

LIKE MY SISTER.
I HAVE AN OLDER SISTER.

I HAVE AN OLDER SISTER.
I SAY OKAY, I SHOULD BE LIKE

I SAY OKAY, I SHOULD BE LIKE
HER, I DON'T KNOW HOW WHERE THE

HER, I DON'T KNOW HOW WHERE THE
THINKING COMES FROM.

THINKING COMES FROM.
I JUST KEEP THIS LITTLE THINKING

I JUST KEEP THIS LITTLE THINKING
INTO MY HEART.

INTO MY HEART.
OF COURSE, AFTER I BECOME A

OF COURSE, AFTER I BECOME A
DANCER, I DID MORE AND MORE

DANCER, I DID MORE AND MORE
DISCOVER MYSELF, I SHOULD BE A

DISCOVER MYSELF, I SHOULD BE A
GIRL.

GIRL.
>> BUT AS A 9-YEAR-OLD BOY IN

>> BUT AS A 9-YEAR-OLD BOY IN
THE 1970s, JIN XING WAS ADMITTED

THE 1970s, JIN XING WAS ADMITTED
TO THE CHINESE PEOPLE'S

TO THE CHINESE PEOPLE'S
LIBERATION ARMY.

LIBERATION ARMY.
IT WAS ONLY IN 1995 THAT J

IT WAS ONLY IN 1995 THAT J
JIN XING FINALLY DECIDED TO

JIN XING FINALLY DECIDED TO
FULFILL HER INNERMOST DESIRES.

FULFILL HER INNERMOST DESIRES.
YOU TRANSITIONED AT 27.

YOU TRANSITIONED AT 27.
HOMOSEXUALITY WAS CONSIDERED A

HOMOSEXUALITY WAS CONSIDERED A
MENTAL ILLNESS.

MENTAL ILLNESS.
TRANSGENDER WAS NEVER TALKED

TRANSGENDER WAS NEVER TALKED
ABOUT.

ABOUT.
>> WE NEVER EVEN THINK ABOUT IT

>> WE NEVER EVEN THINK ABOUT IT
IN CHINA.

IN CHINA.
>> YOU DIDN'T EVEN HAVE A NAME

>> YOU DIDN'T EVEN HAVE A NAME
FOR IT.

FOR IT.
>> NO, NO.

>> NO, NO.
>> WAS IT SCARY, THOUGH?

>> WAS IT SCARY, THOUGH?
LET'S FACE IT.

LET'S FACE IT.
CHINA WASN'T KNOWN FOR ITS

CHINA WASN'T KNOWN FOR ITS
TRANSGENDER SURGERY, SEXUAL

TRANSGENDER SURGERY, SEXUAL
REASSIGNMENT.

REASSIGNMENT.
DID YOU KNOW YOU WOULD BE ABLE

DID YOU KNOW YOU WOULD BE ABLE
TO DO THIS SAFELY HERE?

TO DO THIS SAFELY HERE?
>> I WAS THE FIRST CASE.

>> I WAS THE FIRST CASE.
I GAMBLING WITH MYSELF.

I GAMBLING WITH MYSELF.
50% I LEAVE TO THE DOCTOR.

50% I LEAVE TO THE DOCTOR.
50% WAS INSIDE.

50% WAS INSIDE.
>> WAS IT DIFFICULT?

>> WAS IT DIFFICULT?
>> I'M A DANCER.

>> I'M A DANCER.
I CAN BEAR A LOT OF PHYSICAL

I CAN BEAR A LOT OF PHYSICAL
PAIN.

PAIN.
BUT I THINK MOST DIFFICULT IS

BUT I THINK MOST DIFFICULT IS
PSYCHOLOGICALLY.

PSYCHOLOGICALLY.
FACING SOCIETY.

FACING SOCIETY.
THAT'S NEW CHALLENGE.

THAT'S NEW CHALLENGE.
BUT MY SOUL, MY BODY BECOME ONE.

BUT MY SOUL, MY BODY BECOME ONE.
THAT'S WHAT I WANT.

THAT'S WHAT I WANT.
>> WHERE DOES SEXUALITY -- HOW

>> WHERE DOES SEXUALITY -- HOW
DOES IT FIT INTO THIS VERY

DOES IT FIT INTO THIS VERY
TRADITIONAL CULTURE?

TRADITIONAL CULTURE?
>> I THINK CHINESE CULTURE HAS A

>> I THINK CHINESE CULTURE HAS A
LOT OF SPACE FOR TOLERANCE.

LOT OF SPACE FOR TOLERANCE.
BUT WE JUST DON'T TALK ABOUT IT.

BUT WE JUST DON'T TALK ABOUT IT.
THAT'S BIG THING CHINESE AND

THAT'S BIG THING CHINESE AND
WESTERN.

WESTERN.
WESTERN LOVE TO LABELIZE

WESTERN LOVE TO LABELIZE
EVERYTHING.

EVERYTHING.
SOME THINGS IN LIVES YOU CAN NOT

SOME THINGS IN LIVES YOU CAN NOT
EXPLAIN.

EXPLAIN.
JUST LET IT BE.

JUST LET IT BE.
IC I FOLLOW MY HEART.

IC I FOLLOW MY HEART.
>> SO TELL ME ABOUT MATTERS OF

>> SO TELL ME ABOUT MATTERS OF
THE HEART.

THE HEART.
YOU'RE MARRIED.

YOU'RE MARRIED.
>> YES.

>> YES.
>> TO A GERMAN CITIZEN.

>> TO A GERMAN CITIZEN.
>> YES.

>> YES.
>> HOW DID YOU FALL IN LOVE?

>> HOW DID YOU FALL IN LOVE?
>> AT THAT TIME HE HAVE NO IDEA

>> AT THAT TIME HE HAVE NO IDEA
WHO I AM.

WHO I AM.
HE ONLY KNOW I'M A DANCER.

HE ONLY KNOW I'M A DANCER.
SO I TELL ALL MY STORY, I WAS

SO I TELL ALL MY STORY, I WAS
MAN, I WAS TRANSGENDER.

MAN, I WAS TRANSGENDER.
THIS WOMAN IS A HUGE PACKAGE.

THIS WOMAN IS A HUGE PACKAGE.
HE H ECOMPLETELY BROKE AWAY.

HE H ECOMPLETELY BROKE AWAY.
AFTER ONE DAY HE COME BACK.

AFTER ONE DAY HE COME BACK.
YES, I STILL WANT TO DATE YOU.

YES, I STILL WANT TO DATE YOU.
2005 WE MARRIED.

2005 WE MARRIED.
MY PERSONAL OPINIONS, LOVE AND

MY PERSONAL OPINIONS, LOVE AND
MARRIAGE IS SEPARATE THINGS.

MARRIAGE IS SEPARATE THINGS.
MAYBE WESTERN THINGS WE BECOME

MAYBE WESTERN THINGS WE BECOME
LOVE SO MUCH WE MARRY.

LOVE SO MUCH WE MARRY.
BUT IN CHINA, LOVE IS LOVE.

BUT IN CHINA, LOVE IS LOVE.
MARRIAGE IS ANOTHER ISSUE.

MARRIAGE IS ANOTHER ISSUE.
MARRIAGE, TWO PEOPLE MUST BE

MARRIAGE, TWO PEOPLE MUST BE
WORKING TOGETHER.

WORKING TOGETHER.
>> THAT'S KIND OF LIKE A JOB.

>> THAT'S KIND OF LIKE A JOB.
>> IT IS.

>> IT IS.
>> DO YOU HAVE A GOOD SEX LIFE?

>> DO YOU HAVE A GOOD SEX LIFE?
>> VERY GOOD.

>> VERY GOOD.
VERY GOOD.

VERY GOOD.
MY HUSBAND ONCE TOLD ME, I'M A

MY HUSBAND ONCE TOLD ME, I'M A
VERY HAPPY.

VERY HAPPY.
I'M STILL ATTRACTED BY YOU.

I'M STILL ATTRACTED BY YOU.
I SAID GOOD.

I SAID GOOD.
COME ON.

COME ON.
YOU NEED TO TALK.

YOU NEED TO TALK.
SO WE LAUGHING ABOUT IT.

SO WE LAUGHING ABOUT IT.
>> ARE THERE MANY WOMEN PUBLIC

>> ARE THERE MANY WOMEN PUBLIC
WOMEN LIKE YOU IN CHINA WHO ARE

WOMEN LIKE YOU IN CHINA WHO ARE
AS SASSY, WHO ARE WILLING TO

AS SASSY, WHO ARE WILLING TO
PUSH THE BOUNDARIES AND TALK AS

PUSH THE BOUNDARIES AND TALK AS
BLUNTRY AS YOU DO?

BLUNTRY AS YOU DO?
>> SHANGHAI IS FAMOUS FOR THAT.

>> SHANGHAI IS FAMOUS FOR THAT.
MAKE YOUR LIFE, YOU WANT IT AND

MAKE YOUR LIFE, YOU WANT IT AND
YOU GO FOR IT.

>> THE TRADITION OF CHINESE LOVE
IS ABOUT SACRIFICE.

IS ABOUT SACRIFICE.
IN CHINA, SOMETHING IS LUXURY.

IN CHINA, SOMETHING IS LUXURY.
FAMILY IS SO MUCH MORE

FAMILY IS SO MUCH MORE
IMPORTANT.

IMPORTANT.
AND HAPPINESS IS SOMETHING NOT

AND HAPPINESS IS SOMETHING NOT
100% NECESSARY.

100% NECESSARY.
I THINK THAT IN ORDER TO KNOW

I THINK THAT IN ORDER TO KNOW
HOW TO LOVE, YOU HAVE TO LOVE

HOW TO LOVE, YOU HAVE TO LOVE
YOURSELF FIRST.

YOURSELF FIRST.
THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE.

>> WHAT DO YOU LOVE ABOUT ANGE A
.

.
>>> ONLY ONE.

>>> ONLY ONE.
>>> HOMOSEXUALITY WAS ONLY

>>> HOMOSEXUALITY WAS ONLY
DECRIMINALIZED RECENTLY AROUND

DECRIMINALIZED RECENTLY AROUND
HERE, WHAT IS HARDER TO OVERCOME

HERE, WHAT IS HARDER TO OVERCOME
IS THE JUDGMENT OF THEIR

IS THE JUDGMENT OF THEIR
FAMILIES.

FAMILIES.
>> YOU DIDN'T COME OUT UNTIL YOU

>> YOU DIDN'T COME OUT UNTIL YOU
WERE 31?

WERE 31?
>> YEAH.

>> YEAH.
>> WHAT WAS YOUR MOTHER AND

>> WHAT WAS YOUR MOTHER AND
FATHER THINKING?

FATHER THINKING?
IN CHINA, IT'S OLD FOR A GIRL

IN CHINA, IT'S OLD FOR A GIRL
NOT TO BE MARRIED.

NOT TO BE MARRIED.
>> OH, I WAS MARRIED.

>> OH, I WAS MARRIED.
>> YOU WERE MARRIED?

>> YOU WERE MARRIED?
>> YES, THAT IS FAMOUS IN

>> YES, THAT IS FAMOUS IN
CHINESE HOMOSEXUAL SOCIETY, THIS

CHINESE HOMOSEXUAL SOCIETY, THIS
IS THE WAY WE HELP EACH OTHER.

IS THE WAY WE HELP EACH OTHER.
IT'S A CONVENIENCE.

IT'S A CONVENIENCE.
TO BE CLEAR, YOU GOT MARRIED TO

TO BE CLEAR, YOU GOT MARRIED TO
KIND OF DIVERT YOUR PARENTS'

KIND OF DIVERT YOUR PARENTS'
ATTENTION?

ATTENTION?
>> YEAH, I WAS UNDER A LOT OF

>> YEAH, I WAS UNDER A LOT OF
STRESS AND PRESSURE AS THE ONLY

STRESS AND PRESSURE AS THE ONLY
CHILD, MY DAD WAS ALSO DYING AT

CHILD, MY DAD WAS ALSO DYING AT
THE TIME.

THE TIME.
BUT I KNEW MY PARENTS WISH WAS

BUT I KNEW MY PARENTS WISH WAS
FOR ME TO GET MARRIED --

FOR ME TO GET MARRIED --
>> AND HAVE A BABY.

>> AND HAVE A BABY.
>> THAT IS SO HARD.

>> THAT IS SO HARD.
>> YES, THIS MARRIAGE WAS SO

>> YES, THIS MARRIAGE WAS SO
MUCH MORE COMPLICATED THAN I

MUCH MORE COMPLICATED THAN I
THOUGHT.

THOUGHT.
>> SO WHAT HAPPENED?

>> SO WHAT HAPPENED?
>> WE HAVE BEEN DATING FOR FOUR

>> WE HAVE BEEN DATING FOR FOUR
YEARS.

YEARS.
I THOUGHT, SHE WAS REALLY THE

I THOUGHT, SHE WAS REALLY THE
LOVE OF MY LIFE.

LOVE OF MY LIFE.
I COULDN'T CONTINUE A LIFE WITH

I COULDN'T CONTINUE A LIFE WITH
ALL THE LIES.

ALL THE LIES.
SO I IS DECIDED TO END THE

SO I IS DECIDED TO END THE
MARRIAGE.

MARRIAGE.
>> SO WHAT DID YOU TELL YOUR

>> SO WHAT DID YOU TELL YOUR
MOTHER?

MOTHER?
>> BASICALLY THAT I WAS BORN

>> BASICALLY THAT I WAS BORN
LIKE THIS AND IT WAS NOBODY'S

LIKE THIS AND IT WAS NOBODY'S
FAULT AND THERE WAS NOTHING

FAULT AND THERE WAS NOTHING
WRONG WITH ME.

WRONG WITH ME.
MY OWN MOTHER SHOULD BE ABLE TO

MY OWN MOTHER SHOULD BE ABLE TO
ACCEPT ME AT THE END OF THE DAY.

ACCEPT ME AT THE END OF THE DAY.
>> AND DID SHE?

>> AND DID SHE?
>> SHE DID AFTER 4-1/2 YEARS.

>> SHE DID AFTER 4-1/2 YEARS.
>> WHAT?

>> WHAT?
>> HE SH CAME AROUND AND

>> HE SH CAME AROUND AND
ACCEPTED US LAST YEAR.

ACCEPTED US LAST YEAR.
>> REALLY?

>> REALLY?
>> YEAH.

>> YEAH.
YEAH.

YEAH.
YOU TWO HAVE STRUGGLED MIGHTILY

YOU TWO HAVE STRUGGLED MIGHTILY
TO BE IN LOVE AND TO BE

TO BE IN LOVE AND TO BE
TOGETHER.

TOGETHER.
HOW IMPORTANT HAS YOUR INNER

HOW IMPORTANT HAS YOUR INNER
LIFE BEEN TO YOU, YOUR EMOTIONAL

LIFE BEEN TO YOU, YOUR EMOTIONAL
LIFE, YOUR SEXUAL SATISFACTION?

LIFE, YOUR SEXUAL SATISFACTION?
>> I FEEL QUITE SATISFIED ON ALL

>> I FEEL QUITE SATISFIED ON ALL
LEVELS IF OUR RELATIONSHIP.

LEVELS IF OUR RELATIONSHIP.
EMOTIONALLY, AND SEXUALLY.

EMOTIONALLY, AND SEXUALLY.
AND WE SHARE THE SAME SHOES.

AND WE SHARE THE SAME SHOES.
>> HA!

>> HA!
I LIKE IT.

I LIKE IT.
>> YES.

♪ ♪
>>> WHAT WOULD CONFUCIOUS MAKE

>>> WHAT WOULD CONFUCIOUS MAKE
OF A MODERN SHANGHAI FAMILY?

OF A MODERN SHANGHAI FAMILY?
HE IS ONE OF CHINA'S BEST KNOWN

HE IS ONE OF CHINA'S BEST KNOWN
ARTISTS.

ARTISTS.
HE INVITED IN HE TO MEET HIS

HE INVITED IN HE TO MEET HIS
FAMILY.

FAMILY.
WIFE AND FELLOW ARTIST AND SON

WIFE AND FELLOW ARTIST AND SON
SEAN.

SEAN.
>> WHAT IS THE CONCEPT OF RO

>> WHAT IS THE CONCEPT OF RO
LOVE AND PARTNERSHIP IN CHINA,

LOVE AND PARTNERSHIP IN CHINA,
ESPECIALLY IN SHANGHAI TODAY?

ESPECIALLY IN SHANGHAI TODAY?
>> WESTERN PEOPLE SHOW LOVE EACH

>> WESTERN PEOPLE SHOW LOVE EACH
OTHER.

OTHER.
LIKE IN THE MOVIES WE SEE.

LIKE IN THE MOVIES WE SEE.
YOU KNOW.

YOU KNOW.
CHINESE PEOPLE NOT REALLY KISS

CHINESE PEOPLE NOT REALLY KISS
IN THE PUBLIC.

IN THE PUBLIC.
>> DO YOU GUYS KISS IN PUBLIC?

>> DO YOU GUYS KISS IN PUBLIC?
>> NO.

>> NO.
>> YOU ARE CHINESE PEOPLE.

>> YOU ARE CHINESE PEOPLE.
>> BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER.

>> BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER.
THAT'S TRUE.

THAT'S TRUE.
>> SO WHEN HE DECLARED HIS LOVE

>> SO WHEN HE DECLARED HIS LOVE
FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU THINK?
>> I JUST MAKE UP A JOKE.

>> I JUST MAKE UP A JOKE.
I SAY, LIAR, LIAR.

I SAY, LIAR, LIAR.
>> I ALWAYS TELL HER, I'M NOT

>> I ALWAYS TELL HER, I'M NOT
LIAR.

LIAR.
WE LOVE MORE THAN 25 YEARS.

WE LOVE MORE THAN 25 YEARS.
SO, THIS, BELIEVE ME, I REALLY

SO, THIS, BELIEVE ME, I REALLY
LOVE YOU.

LOVE YOU.
>> SO HE HAS BEEN SAYING HE IS

>> SO HE HAS BEEN SAYING HE IS
NOT PRETENDING.

NOT PRETENDING.
WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU HEAR

WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU HEAR
YOUR PARENTS DECLARE THAT --

YOUR PARENTS DECLARE THAT --
>> I HAVE NOT HEARD IT.

>> I HAVE NOT HEARD IT.
THEY RARELY TALK ABOUT STUFF.

THEY RARELY TALK ABOUT STUFF.
I MEAN, LIKE THE EMOTIONAL SIDE

I MEAN, LIKE THE EMOTIONAL SIDE
OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.

OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
>> ARE YOU BLUSHING?

>> ARE YOU BLUSHING?
>> NO, I'M NOT.

>> NO, I'M NOT.
I'M JUST KIND OF LIKE CONFUSED

I'M JUST KIND OF LIKE CONFUSED
AT THIS WHOLE -- I THINK IT'S

AT THIS WHOLE -- I THINK IT'S
THE CONVENTIONAL WAY IN CHINA IS

THE CONVENTIONAL WAY IN CHINA IS
THAT THE CHILD TENDS TO FEEL A

THAT THE CHILD TENDS TO FEEL A
NEED TO KEEP TO THEMSELVES ABOUT

NEED TO KEEP TO THEMSELVES ABOUT
THINGS LIKE THAT.

THINGS LIKE THAT.
EXCEPT IN MY FAMILY, BECAUSE I

EXCEPT IN MY FAMILY, BECAUSE I
THINK WE ARE MORE OPEN ABOUT

THINK WE ARE MORE OPEN ABOUT
THINGS.

THINGS.
>> WHAT DO YOU SHARE?

>> WHAT DO YOU SHARE?
>> ANY SORT OF CLOSE INTIMACY I

>> ANY SORT OF CLOSE INTIMACY I
HAVE HAD.

HAVE HAD.
I TEND TO FEEL HAPPIER IF I'M

I TEND TO FEEL HAPPIER IF I'M
DOING WELL IN THAT REGARD.

DOING WELL IN THAT REGARD.
>> I'M VERY HAPPY THAT HE CAN

>> I'M VERY HAPPY THAT HE CAN
TALK EVERYTHING TO US.

TALK EVERYTHING TO US.
I THINK I'M VERY LUCKY.

I THINK I'M VERY LUCKY.
>> THAT IS VERY LUCKY, ACTUALLY,

>> THAT IS VERY LUCKY, ACTUALLY,
ESPECIALLY TO HAVE YOUR SON TALK

ESPECIALLY TO HAVE YOUR SON TALK
TO YOU AS A MOM ABOUT INTIMATE

TO YOU AS A MOM ABOUT INTIMATE
THINGS.

THINGS.
YOU DON'T JUDGE?

YOU DON'T JUDGE?
>> YEAH.

>> YEAH.
YEAH.

YEAH.
>> I THINK SHE GUIDES US ALONG.

>> I THINK SHE GUIDES US ALONG.
>> MY FAMILY, THE CHILDREN AND

>> MY FAMILY, THE CHILDREN AND
THE NAME, AND EVERYTHING,

THE NAME, AND EVERYTHING,
CHANGING -- SHE WAS MY BOSS.

CHANGING -- SHE WAS MY BOSS.
REALLY.

REALLY.
I JUST FOCUS ON MY ART.

I JUST FOCUS ON MY ART.
>> THIS IS WHAT YOU DO.

>> THIS IS WHAT YOU DO.
>> YEAH, I JUST FOCUS ON MY ART.

>>> SHANGHAI IS A CITY THAT IS
CHARGING IN TO THE FUTURE.

CHARGING IN TO THE FUTURE.
WHILE STILL DEVOTED TO ANCIENT

WHILE STILL DEVOTED TO ANCIENT
TRADITIONS.

TRADITIONS.
ATTITUDES TO LOVE AND SEX HAVE

ATTITUDES TO LOVE AND SEX HAVE
CERTAINLY COME A LONG WAY SINCE

CERTAINLY COME A LONG WAY SINCE
THE DAYS OF PAST, AND WHILE

THE DAYS OF PAST, AND WHILE
THERE'S A MORALE RIGIDITY TO

THERE'S A MORALE RIGIDITY TO
SOCIETY, THERE'S A FLUIDITY TO

SOCIETY, THERE'S A FLUIDITY TO
THE PEOPLE.

THE PEOPLE.
AS THEY NAVIGATE THEIR COMPLEX

AS THEY NAVIGATE THEIR COMPLEX
AND EVER CHANGING ENVIRONMENT,

AND EVER CHANGING ENVIRONMENT,
FINDING THEIR OWN PATHS TO SELF

FINDING THEIR OWN PATHS TO SELF
EXPRESSION.