Original subtitles

(bright music)

I will sail the seven seas

Through every storm and breeze

With tropic heat and arctic cold

A precious cargo in the hold

This is the life, the life for me

A sailor gay and the roaring sea

(breathes heavily)

A we could go anywhere, yeah yeah

A we could go anywhere Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah

A we could go anywhere, yeah, let's get it

Yeah, we could go anywhere, we could go to LA

Miami, the Philippines, conversation

Plus the way that you fill them jeans

Got me head first like guillotine

Know what, so what I doze off

Plus single mother on the sofa

Just being in her PJs

- What if something happened?

Are they gonna heal me with roots and kale smoothies?

- Oh would you drop the negativity.

- It blocks the positive flow gran.

- I'm flowing all right, it's called sweating,

down my back and I don't like it one bit.

- You're supposed to be sweating

to get rid of all those calcified toxins you built up

over the years.

- Oh god.

It is really, really hot, I have to get out of here.

- Granny. - Stay right here.

- Please calm down.

- Alright, but never again.

And I want my own water, I aint drinking after no one.

- Okay, I will go get you a water.

- It is clear where the influence is coming from,

are you on drugs too?

- What?

- I smelled something earlier, is that what they're doing?

- Sage mother, that was sage

to get rid of all the bad energy.

Quite frankly I'm thrilled that Jilly's introducing me

to new things and helping me dust off old ones.

You forget,

we nearly lost Jilly and not only to addiction.

- Shush.

- I am sick and tired of pretending that everything is fine

and keeping up appearances.

- What are you trying to prove?

- For the first time nothing.

- What do you mean by that?

Young lady what is that supposed to mean?

- Mother I want to try something new.

- Go shopping, what will my friends think

of you looking like that?

- I don't give a damn.

- Well you make sure you take that mess out of your hair

before you visit me in Richmond because I don't want

you embarrassing me or yourself at the Dominion Club.

- Mother can you not see that for the first time in years

I'm happy?

Can you not see that I've struggled to hold onto some shred

of my offending self after dealing with all

of your crazy rules and you shaming me

when I was pregnant in college, and I forgive you.

- You forgive me?

- And you can thank Jilly for that.

- Look at your life.

What would you be if I hadn't raised you to be

the strong woman that you are today?

- You mean the strong black woman I am?

- Why you have to bring race into everything?

- Because it matters mother.

I'm not other, I'm not you, I'm a strong black woman.

- You did not get where you are by being black only,

you worked hard and you inherited a lifestyle

and a breeding that your father

and I consistently provided you.

- Your lifestyle,

not what I needed.

Your love.

Yeah.

Your love.

- I knew what was best.

- Did you mother?

- Now you question me?

- Why do you loathe yourself?

- Excuse me ma'am?

- Yeah, you never talk about your childhood

or that MacGruder plantation,

or the tobacco farm.

- I have no idea what you're talking about.

- I bet you prayed that I would have inherited

Daddy's blue eyes but instead God blessed me

with yours and your stubbornness.

- Enough.

I never prayed for any such thing.

I prayed for your well being.

- Always the outsides, never my insides.

So you sent Jilly to Hampton instead of Radcliffe

for spite?

- It's what she wanted mother.

- And look what it got her.

- Jilly's addiction is an accidental addiction

due to over prescribed meds, you know that,

that was a low blow.

It could have happened anywhere, in Hampton or Harvard

or Radcliffe, it doesn't matter mother.

But we're trying to get to the bottom of it

through family therapy and peeling the onion.

- While we are peeling this onion and getting to bottom

of things, and spilling the tea, let me be brutally honest

with you, there is nothing to say about growing up

on that wretched tobacco farm, nobody cares

it was a million years ago and for the record,

don't you ever question about how I regard myself.

If I hadn't took care of you out of college

you might have had your own addiction,

or be on welfare by this time,

thanks to that no good radical.

- He's,

his name was Lewis and I loved him.

- You only thought you loved him.

He was taking you on a quick road to nowhere.

- He was fighting for justice

and you never gave him a chance.

- What, a chance to further ruin your reputation?

A chance to get gunned down like he was?

No, I wasn't gonna give him that chance.

- Mother let it go.

- Thank God Magnus stepped up and married you,

and he's been taking care of you and Jilly

from that day.

Although he was never my first choice.

- Yes, we know mother.

Magnus has been living a lie too all this time

but no more.

- What do you mean?

- It's time Jilly knew the truth.

- It's foolish, she's gonna resent you.

- No she's gonna resent you mother

when I tell her how you treated her real father.

- My real father?

Mom?

Gran?

Somebody say something.

- Your father has loved you from the day you were born

like you were his,

- His what?

You can't even say it.

- Only did what we knew was best.

- Oh my god.

- [Mom] Jilly.

- No, don't follow me.

- Jilly.

(birds chirp)

Jilly, I'm so sorry.

- [Jilly] How could you?

- Daddy begged me years ago to tell you the truth

but I was

I was afraid.

- Of what?

- Afraid of

my mother and unraveling everything she arranged.

- You mean unraveling a lie?

- I was pregnant honey.

Senior in college, I didn't have anyone to confide in

nobody.

But your father.

- Which one?

- The only one you've ever known.

- Where's my real dad?

- I loved him.

We loved each other.

His name was Lewis.

- Was?

- Honey,

he was a brilliant community activist.

And they gunned him down.

(cries)

They murdered him.

Case is still unsolved.

We were so young.

And your grandmother,

she wanted me married no matter what.

- [Gran] That's right.

I say we forgive and forget and when in the future.

- No it's not that simple Gran.

It's not that simple.

(cries)

(soft music)

(owl hoots)

- I owe you an apology.

I know I can be a bitch sometimes but honey,

it's worked for me.

I know I made a whole lot of mistakes along the way

but honey, I have tried to make up for it

by being the best grandmother to Jilly.

- I know.

- Well,

honey,

would you please forgive me.

I never meant to hurt you.

- Me too mother.

- Oh daughter.

- Jilly, Jilly, we were so worried about you.

- I, have something to say.

- Oh, oh.

Okay what is it?

- No more family secrets.

Or lies.

- No more, no, promise.

- Promise.

- No more.

- I'm

I'm pregnant.

- Oh my god.

- Are you sure?

- Yes.

And Paul and I are keeping the baby.

And if you want to be a part of our lives then fine.

But all of the hurt and all of the lying,

all of that stops tonight.

If I fall,

then I'm going to fall forward.

Mom, I, I can't imagine how you and daddy kept this secret

all these years.

My love for both of you is unchanged.

And Gran, where would our family be without you?

- A family that is growing by the minute.

- [Mom] Come sit on mommy's lap.

- Darling, I want my great grandchild

to be named Xyla or Alistair.

- I think my grandchild's name should be,

- Paul.

And if it's a girl it will be Faith Adanash-chewa.

- Adana?

- Adanash means to rescue or save.

- Oh honey it's,

- If you insist dear.

(soft music)

- Daddy, it's mother's day.

- Yeah, why are we here Magnus?

- Yes, why are we here, my feet are killing me?

- Well, it'll only take a second,

remember what the pastor said today,

love is patient, love is kind.

- Yes, but the pastor also said,

- Ta-da!

(laughs)

- Oh my- - Daddy!

- When did you do this?

- This is amazing?

Daddy I'm sorry for what I said earlier.

- Oh that's okay.

- This is great.

- [Gran] Oh my god,

- Look at your pictures sweetheart,

Magnus how did you do all this without us?

- Well I had a little help from the man upstairs.

- Oh Magnus, there's something I don't tell you

often enough, you are a remarkable husband and father

and son in law.

And granny's gonna take her shoes off now.

- Dr, Hashi, oh my goodness.

- Hi, good to see you.

- Hi, good to see you.

And I also wanted to come and give you your diploma Jilly.

- Thank you Professor.

I'm so sorry for.

- Jilly, I'm so proud of you, what you're doing

takes hard work and a lot of courage.

- Thank you Professor.

- Whenever you're ready maybe we can work together

and spread awareness around our campus,

maybe even the community.

- yeah, I'd like that a lot.

Let me run it by a few people first.

- Of course, of course, well I don't want to keep

my husband waiting so, I'm gonna run,

thank you for brunch again, so good to see you.

- Thank you for everything.

- Very nice to see you.

- Good to see you.

(laughs)

- Look at this.

- So awesome,

- Amazing sweetheart.

(laughs)

- I cannot believe I finally have my diploma.

- Yes you do.

- And you earned it.

- That's right.

- I have my diploma.

(laughs)

- She got it.

- Oh honey.

I knew you would.

- Oh wait and you two had nothing

to do with this whole thing?

- Nothing.

- [Mom] Nothing right mother?

- No, no, it's true, it's true,

every email you sent your busy dad I saved,

I wanted to do something special to somehow

make up for my absence.

- [Jilly] You didn't have to.

- No I need to say this.

Your recovery has been a wake up call for me.

For all of us.

Each one of these photos has opened my eyes

to who you really are, not who we wanted you to be.

And how gifted you are.

This whole process has made me slow down and take a look

at myself, as a father and a husband and ask

what I could do better.

I guess it was me who couldn't let go of

who I thought you should be.

Put to much pressure on you to live up

to our expectations.

- Hold on, some healthy expectation are just fine.

(laughs)

the kids nowadays, they don't have discipline,

zero consequences, I think you can sit around

have quality family time around a dinner table

without those fandangled devices.

- Yes mother I think they're called cell phones.

- That's, whatever, those fandangled things.

- Well, I can't take back the past Jilly,

but I can change the future.

And from now on it's family first.

Again.

(laughs)

- [All] Group hug.

(kisses)

- Wow, I don't know what happened up in those woods

but things changed more than one way here.

(laughs)

- Well, you know maybe you should come with us

next time daddy.

- Yes, - I would like that.

- Next time, honey I'm not going back out there

with those snakes and that nasty goose

that kept chasing me around.

- Goose?

Well I aint scared.

- Well good, then I will book the yurt for next July.

- Oh, okay.

Alright, let me show you my favorite.

- Okay, - okay.

- Now hurry up 'cause we.

(women gasp)

- [Mom] Jilly, oh Jilly, that's the picture you put

on the timer honey, it's gorgeous.

- You got me, I can't believe that's me.

- And it is mother, look at how beautiful you are.

- [Gran] Beautiful.

- [Dad] You're my sunshine Jilly.

- Thank you dad.

(moans)

- Mine too.

- Paul.

What are you doing here?

(laughs)

Listen I know we have a lot to talk about.

- We do but before all that,

I gotta do this,

(gasps)

(gasps)

Jilly would you be my wife?

- Yes, yes.

(laughs)

(cheers)

(laughs)

- I love you.

(soft music)

(waves crash)

So I've decided to write about our journey as a family

and my accidental addiction.

And how we overcame it.

- Honey are you sure?

- Yeah, recovery is for life.

- You can say that again.

- But I can't write my story alone,

so I was wondering if you would write it with me mom.

- Me?

Honey I haven't written anything in forever,

I couldn't possibly.

- Ah, ah, ah, oh come on, we're trying new things right?

- It would mean a lot to me.

Come on.

- Oh come on Jackie.

Writing is like riding a bike or braiding hair,

you never forget how.

- Okay, I guess I can give it a whirl.

- Okay.

(laughs)

okay mom.

- Little, little, little.

- Little dap.

Oh.

(laughs)

That's the spirit.

Okay, now don't leave me out,

because back in the day I was an expert typist

and I could type 65 words a minute.

Trying to take a nap.

- It's my girl.

(laughs)

So mother you're not going to come in.

- Oh no, you know I can't stand all that salt.

- Alright, well try not to overheat

under all that fabulosity.

(laughs)

- You sweet, I'm just gonna sit here

with my great grandbaby, isn't that right Faith?

(laughs)

- Hi you guys, hey, you guys?

(waves crash)

- Oh I'm gonna get you, there you go, here you are,

here you go,

you want another one?

That's orange.

Hey, don't throw it down over there, put it inside.

(laughs)

(soft music)

Hmm.

(sighs)

(laughs)

Come on girl, come on baby baby, let's go for a walk.

Gran, Gran's gonna teach you all about life baby.

And then,

we gonna have a discussion about glamping,

I can tell you everything you need to know about glamping.

Yeah, you're gonna love it,

it's not as bad as it sounds okay?

Well first of all let's see what we can do here.

Yeah, there you go.

Oh, here comes a wave, here it comes, here it comes.

Wee.

You got it.

(inspiring music)

I was afraid of clanging my own dins

But now I'm willing to fly my tears I filled fountains

Left me empty inside

Finally it came to me

I was being my worst enemy

And the battles I've been fighting were against me

Positivity, shift me, moved me

I rock this brand new attitude

Dancing to this rhythm of life

I'm a lady

So life better treat me accordingly

Just like a queen wearing my crown

I deserve it

I'm a lady

So life better treat me accordingly

Just like a queen wearing my crown

I deserve it

It's like I found a little secret

and I can't keep it to myself