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What would you do if your spouse suggested opening your marriage to other

lovers? Would you freak out? Would you question your relationship?

Or would you go for it?

The couples living in this mansion went for it, and they're still going for it.

They're real, normal people. They just get to have a lot more fun than the rest

of us.

But they believe the lifestyle makes the bond they share with their partner

deeper and more meaningful.

In fact, here's a video from a couple that's about to join the party.

Hi, I'm Anthony. This is Sabrina. We both live in Dallas, Texas. I'm 25 years

old. She's 23.

I work in sales and marketing.

And I'm a receptionist. Me and Sabrina met 11 years ago in a chat room online.

We're like 14 years old.

What I expect from swing is a little closure on if this is for us or if it

isn't. I'll admit I'm vicarious. I think that's a lot of what's got me into it.

This will be a true test to see if something that we can handle as a couple

or if we can't.

So I'm going to drop Sabrina and Anthony into the wild, uninhibited

swing-a-thon going on inside.

How will they respond?

Will they freak out?

Or will they go for it?

Real couples, real stakes, real sex.

I'm Anna David.

Hold on tight. It's time to swing.

I think I'm expecting in the house is...

It's down to earth cool people.

I'm not a fan of your flashy blonde hair, blue eyes, big tits. Not really my

ideal girl.

Not someone that I would be like, oh my God, I'm really attracted to brunettes

and kind of the southern looking girls, you know, brunettes, redheads, things

like that.

When it comes to the lifestyle, I was very hesitant. I went back and forth on

it a lot. For us, it's brand new and I was, it's intimidating.

You know, uh...

We've known each other since we were 14 years old. Neither one of us have a

secret. The other one doesn't know. I think it's a good thing just to kind of

either get it out of our system or figure out if it's something we

definitely want to do or not before we get married in just a few months.

I'm kind of nervous. I don't want anything to happen that makes us not who

we were coming into this. I don't want anything to change our lives in a bad

way. You really don't know what to expect. You don't know what you're just

going to walk into.

No matter what happens.

We're still Anthony and Sabrina.

We're still the one everybody knew we were going to be together.

I'm curious, but there's a big part of me that's just like, what's it going to

be like?

He definitely let me know that no matter what happened, we were good. So it

started out with just him, and then it was, I became okay with the idea of it.

I love you. I love you.

I'm Anna.

I'm Anthony. Hi, Anthony. This is my fiancee, Sabrina.

Nice to meet you. Hi, nice to meet you.

Welcome. How are you guys doing? Good, good.

Anxious. Yeah?

Anxious, yeah.

Well, we're glad to have you here.

Before I let you loose, let you do your thing, we just have some business to

discuss. Okay.

So, you want to come with me inside?

Yes. Ready? Ready.

Let's do this.

I think the lifestyle keeps our relationship fresh because we can

experience more things. We can see more things. We open our communication up. We

have amazing sex.

Yeah, we do. We had it before, but... Right. We're both exhibitionists.

And when people watch and we're performing, there's a big attraction and

turn on to people complimenting you and commenting when we're going at it. Oh,

yeah. We get a lot of compliments.

Yeah, we do. We're looking at how hot you are, baby.

Now, let's talk.

I used to DJ for people who would have parties and things like that in

Virginia.

I was actually very surprised that they would have a young single guy and not

want to bring him in, and they were just kind of like, no, we just like you

because you're a cool guy. Right, right.

brought on the idea i guess you would say oh okay have you ever been with a

woman or no that's i mean i guess i have a curiosity about that more so than

anything else and you're okay with that the idea i'm a guy my fantasy is about

women like i'm curious about it i want to see if that's something that is just

a fantasy that i like to think about or if it's something that i want to fulfill

Alright, I have a contract here for you guys to sign. Basically, it gives you

permission to hook up with other people during your time here.

We have agreed to take part in a sexual adventure during which all the normal

rules of a monogamous relationship will be temporarily set aside.

Any special rules we have for each other during our time will be written in the

space below.

So, these things that you talked about, why don't you write them down and then

initial next to them?

We're both in the know about every situation that happens.

Okay, so open communication.

No secrets.

No secrets.

We've set our rules that we're just going to communicate with each other and

just try and be open to see where it goes.

And if we think something might happen, we need to give the other person a heads

up. We're not going to separate.

We always want to be present, at least.

That's it for the business.

So, you guys, you know, go, like, get refreshed, and then come back down and

join the other swingers.

Jesus.

Walking into the house, it's something that I've never been in, and it's just

this amazing place. Just hearts beating, hearts racing, just wondering, you know,

what's around that corner.

Well, what do you think?

I'm cool. I'm excited.

Yeah. I'm ready to meet them, have a good time, eat, you know, conversate.

Right.

Right now we're really nervous about, you know, what's going to happen. We do

want to see people having sex and doing what they do behind closed doors or in

front of a group of people, but we necessarily don't know what we want to

do yet. We're just kind of nervous about that whole situation.

I'm anxious. Like, I think I want to, like...

I was so nervous before, but now I'm just ready and curious.

Anthony is wanting me to be open. He, in a way, wants to be like, okay, Serena,

let's do this, but he wants me to be comfortable, so it's just intense, very

intense. I think I'm nervous because you just, all eyes are on us, right? You

know, like, we're the new people, like, we don't know anyone.

Yeah, I think knowing that the attention is meant to be on us, it's something

that we...

We signed up for this, so it's something that we want, but it's not something

that we're used to. It's something I don't mind being the center.

I'm not good being the center of attention.

Anthony, he loves it. He can just jump in. And for me, I've got to find a

comfort, especially when you don't have anyone there that you already know.

So it takes me a little bit to warm up. All right. Ready?

Yeah.

Remember the first orgy that we've been into?

Oh, my God.

I was so nervous because we just got into the lifestyle, and we didn't talk

about anything, and then next thing, we started having, what, sex, and remember

it was on the balcony? Oh, yeah.

I can't believe it. I'm glad you didn't fall off the balcony. It would have been

bad.

Why don't we get to vote someone off?

Are you going to be that guy?

Hi. Hi, everybody.

Hola. Hi. Welcome to cold California.

I'm Anthony. How are you guys doing? Hi, Sabrina.

Nice to meet you.

Leah. Leah.

It's relieving to see everyone because it's normalcy. Everyone is normal.

All the nervousness just disappears.

I relax.

Welcome. Thank you. Welcome.

Are you guys excited to be here?

Yeah, definitely. We're like anxious to meet you guys. We're upstairs like, man,

when is this going to happen? Yeah. What do you want to do tonight while you're

here? Any ideas?

You.

She's mostly...

Into girls I guess you would say and I think we're really new so like I would

come in here saying like I don't know if we're comfortable with like full swap

like we're very soft already We like the voyeur side of it. You know we don't

mind people seeing us you know sex on the patio next to the highway We're just

trying to be really open. We don't want to like limit ourselves

over here, so that's okay I've had awesome sex with play partners, but it

doesn't matter how good it's been, it never feels as good as going back to

Mike at the end of the day.

Mike and Megan are awesome. I can see that they were where we are now.

They're going to be the ones that we relate to the most, and I think that

they're a great-looking couple.

Let me ask you a question. How well do you think you know him?

Very well. Very well? Like, very well. This will challenge it.

Anthony and I have a great sex life, but the last thing I ever want to do is

disappoint him, like, are to make him feel like he no longer gets to do

something that he's always wanted to do.

Would you like to play a game?

Oh, Lord.

Uh-oh. Uh-oh. Whoo!

Da-da-da.

So this game's called Blind Recognition. What we're going to do is we're going to

take one of our sexy ladies, we're going to blindfold her, put her in front of

us, and then each one of the guys are going to come in front of the girl. The

girl's going to feel the guy's ass and see if she can guess the correct ass.

If the lady cannot guess the guy's ass... Really?

Lady number one.

Would we not pick a better lady? You told me to stay here.

Damn you.

Lady number one, come on up. All right.

Okay, so no peeking. All right, assume the position.

All right, so guy number one.

Turn around, guy.

Oh. I know who that is.

Right in front of you, babe.

Nope.

Guy number three.

Whose pants are coming off? I can hear it.

Go ahead.

Hand. Yeah, I think that might be him.

Okay, take off the blindfold and see your guess.

It's a fun game. It's made everyone more comfortable.

Like, it's a lot of fun.

So it's the guy's turn.

So I will relinquish this to you. We can have the girls come up topless for the

guys. It's boobs?

I don't even know the size.

Okay, that's one. I got you. I got you on one.

He said, I feel you.

Yeah, I feel you too. Yeah, yeah, yeah, go back.

Hmm, okay, and my girl was number two

Our

target

to hit okay When did a

midget come into play?

They're called little people Little people, sorry.

It was definitely fun to fill some boobs. You know, a guy's not going to

have fun filling up a bunch of women, you know? And not getting flat for it.

Little people everywhere.

You know, they'll be making fun of the little people.

I'm an expert in B cup, C cup.

Okay. I'm going to go with number three.

Yay! Yay!

Yeah! Give us the nipples.

It is time for you to get ready for the night. It is Mardi Gras night.

So go put on your best Mardi Gras costume.

What are you wearing?

Let's go.

What are you thinking?

Are you excited, nervous? How did it earlier go?

I think we did really a job of just meeting everyone and getting to know

everybody. Right.

Tonight is... It's Mardi Gras dress up night and Anthony and I are going to be

like sailors.

He's my sailor man and I'm his little slutty sailor girl.

I am just excited to put something on that I cannot wear every day in public.

Are you ready? Are you anxious? Are you nervous? Are you hoping for something to

happen? I'm comfortable with a lot of them that I've spoken with, you know?

I'm confident that...

No matter what, you know?

Yeah, I mean, just kind of keeping each other informed.

What do you think about the newbies?

Uh, they're pretty cool.

If they decide to do this, close your eyes.

They'll do really well. They're about the age we started.

Yeah.

I think she's pretty cute.

It seems like Anthony and Sabrina both want each other to have a good time and,

um... They're not really in it for themselves. They're in it more for each

other. So, you about ready to get this party started?

You're ready to get the party started.

I think we're definitely on the same page. I think we have a very mutual

understanding that we both firmly believe in, and I don't think I've done

anything to even think about going outside of those boundaries. I want that

to be our thing.

I just want to make sure of that.

nothing's changed throughout the day that makes you know have other feelings

towards anything or on the way here we talked a little bit about what we think

should be our limits and we're not going to have to stay side by side but i

definitely am going into this saying that i'm not comfortable with him being

with another woman what do you think about the new couple i'm not sure

they're ready for the lifestyle i think i think he is i don't think she is I

absolutely agree with you. You know what I mean? She wants to explore because he

wants to explore. I think that's because that's what he needs.

And in the end, if they need to take a long time exploring that, then that's

fine as long as they do it slow. I think it'll be good to go.

They'll figure it out. I think we're going to make them learn.

Right.

I think it's going to be fine.

But his height.

For sure.

I think I like this now.

Alright.

Okay.

Who's the closest I've ever come to Mardi Gras?

So walking into the room, I'm definitely noticing Ashley right away.

She's got the nipple pasties on, just underwear and the yellow hat.

She didn't wear much of a costume, but it was definitely a costume.

Everyone had a little different flavor. There were no two people that were the

same.

Look adorable.

Did you have a relaxing day? We did. We did. We had fun. Good. Just remember,

whatever happens is entirely up to you. You can dip your toe in or you can dive

all the way in, just as long as you get a little bit wet.

So, may I propose a toast to our Texas twosome?

May you become a threesome or a foursome or a fourteensome or whatever you want

to become. Cheers. Have a great night.

I'll see you guys in the morning.

Anthony's my leader. Like, Anthony's comfortable in any situation. He can

just jump in. And for me, like, I got to get there. I've got to find someone that

I click with that's going to be comfortable for me. I need to find,

like, a safety other than him.

Hi,

guys. I want to show you a little.

thing that i can do apparently i'm very good at it so if you guys want to follow

me i will show you what is my specialty

i'm going to teach you women how to give an excellent

blow job a blow job hummer whatever you want to call it was one of you women

like to volunteer yes we have a volunteer

I have no idea how this works.

Help her out.

Anthony, he wants me to be comfortable, so I think he's sitting there going,

man, I hope she does it, you know, because he's excited by that kind of

stuff. So I think he's hoping that we get there, but at the same time, he

wants me to be in control of this and to stay when I'm ready. So he's patient,

which I'm thankful for.

Okay, can everyone see her penis?

There's three things.

One, keep hydrated.

Two, you have to use your hands. You can't just... So, I'm going to

demonstrate the first move.

It's a very pink head.

I'm going to shut up for a sec.

Concentrate on the head. They like that.

Plus, number two, you've got to use this hand.

Or you can use both.

What do you call that move? Hurricane. We call it the hurricane.

This is the thing with a hurricane. You can't just do this. You can. You can.

You mix it up. But with a hurricane, you twist it.

Okay. Everybody.

With this?

This hand, I don't know if I can do it.

You can cut the balls and do the hurricane with this hand.

You can squeeze them. You can play with them. You can play with the head.

You lick it just to tease them.

Oh, I love how she's got the hair, too. Maybe a little more demonstration, and

then some of this will come.

Where's my fluffer?

Mike does a very good job of loosening people up. He's funny. He's comical. I

love it. Just his commentary alone was kind of breaking the ice for us to just

kind of sit back and relax.

Jason, why don't you get up there, buddy?

Jason, enjoy life.

Make you brush Mike

and

Holly started having sex and it was a pretty big turn on They're so confident

with each other and they could have sex in a room full of people They just had

that connection. It turned me on. It really did. I was ready to go at that

point

Yeah, I got it.

Yes.

Not enough for all of us.

The experience is very different than I imagined. Even though they're having sex

next to us, people are joking and playing and still all engaged with each

other. I'm not ready for that.

So are you ready to be up there?

That's her decision.

Just one more time, maybe. Yeah.

Another drink or two, you know, we'll see.

But sitting here like this with her.

I COULDN'T TELL IF SABRINA WAS FEELING IT OR IF SHE DIDN'T CARE FOR IT MUCH,

BUT I THINK SHE WAS FEELING IT. I THINK SHE WAS GETTING OFF ON IT A LITTLE BIT.

Everyone mentions the Red Room. We hadn't even heard of this room, you

know, so we're curious what the hell the Red Room is. So we're gonna go down

there and see what the Red Room is all about, you know, see where the magic

happens.

Seriously, you guys are like the coolest people, everybody. Look at you. Just

relaxing. Hey,

baby. Bring it in. I think Meg's ready. Bring it in.

There we go. I was done with my clothes. The six-pack. I've had clothes on for

too long. I'm so bored of your clothes.

Now,

down

in the red room, it was a huge turn on. It was like... horn that you can touch

you know it was right there literally i could have reached out and touched if i

needed to it turned me on it really did now you know what to go through thank

you very much

There is no transition from the upstairs, like, joking, fun environment

to we get to the Red Room. It was intimidating for that environment to

change so drastically and be physically, like, sexually open and lay it all out

there. We are definitely not at that yet.

I can tell there's something wrong with Sabrina. I want to, you know, I want to

find out what's wrong with her. So, you know, I want to make sure she's okay.

This is great. Don't get me wrong.

Do you want to hot tub it?

Do you want to hot tub it? Yeah, let's go. Let's do it. So we're going to go

upstairs and kind of regroup and head down to the hot tub.

You all right?

It's hard for me to get you to understand.

I can tell you don't want to be here anymore. No, babe, you're making me mad

because I'm not.

And you're acting like that. And I want to be a part of it.

I want to go to bed now, because now I don't care anymore.

We got upstairs, and I was on the edge of just kind of being frustrated with

just the fact that things weren't going as well as we both had hoped.

If you don't want to do it, don't do it. What am I doing? I haven't done

anything. Did you want to go downstairs?

You didn't. I was curious. You did not want to go downstairs. I was curious,

not curious. Of what it looked like. And the second we got out of there, you

wanted to get out. And I could tell.

It's a little uncomfortable for me. Then get out of it. But I was out there and

told you. I told you that. Then get out of it.

Then leave.

Let's go. Let's go, babe. Let's go.

I'm here for you. I'm not here for me.

I get it. I get it. I get it.

I just do not want to feel like I'm pressuring you into anything. I don't

feel like it. Because I could have sex in front of everybody in this house

right now. I know you can't. I hope not.

Because I know you don't want to.

I can't believe we're fighting.

What? I can't believe we're fighting.

We're not.

Yes, we are.

I tried to come in here as well as Anthony, very open-minded, but...

It was very real all of a sudden, and it was hard to be vulnerable and open up.

It was just a lot of pressure.

All of a sudden, like, you don't want to be intimate with me at all. I do.

Because you're still afraid.

I don't want to put you in a situation that's going to make you uncomfortable.

That's why I haven't made any advances towards you.

I feel like all of a sudden we became this couple that's, like, tense, like,

and so just divided.

She tells me that for the first time ever, she's felt like we were on two

totally different pages.

It really, it kind of hit home. It makes me realize that...

It's not just her. It's not just me. It's us in this situation.

I never need you more than I need you now.

I understand. If I turn on, I want you to go with it. And that is so. You know?

That is so.

Will you please come here?

Yeah.

Come here.

Come here. I love you.

So I have to just be patient with her and let her work her tears out and work

her frustrations out. And then she picked back up like nothing happened.

Eventually get to where we're ready to go down the hot tub Fun

groups with people different experiences every

weekend with what the couples are are we like to reserves No, you know, it's

cool about you guys that we're kind of talking about is that you guys are so

like open with your communication that You guys have such a good, great base to

start with. A lot of people go into lifestyle, it's like they hold things

back, they don't talk to each other.

We actually had a little meltdown upstairs earlier. It took so long to get

out of here was I was holding back because I didn't want to feel like I was

pushing her into something she did not want to do. If anything is happening

that's uncool for one of us, you know, just tap the other person on the

shoulder and say, you know, I need you.

We have our fights, you know, we have it out.

It happens.

Being in the hot tub with Mike and Meg is the first time that we are a couple

with another couple, just getting to know them. We need to get to know a

couple together, especially if we think it's going to go anywhere.

In this lifestyle, like, if everyone, like, early on, like, got it out of

their system, or if they're still trying.

You know what I mean?

Before we ever slept together, I slept with maybe four other people.

Alien. Can I ask you something? Obviously, you went to a lot of men

before him. This is really hard for me, but, like, to let yourself go and

actually get off of a guy, like, did that happen for you, like, the first

time or, like, later?

Um... It wasn't hard because...

I like sex.

I'm not that hard to please.

The reason I ask you that is I've never been able to get out.

Oh. By myself, with anyone else, never.

And so, like, for me, that's really hard. Like, it's not that I don't enjoy

it. Like, it's not that it's been so good I don't like it or want it, but I

can never, never, I've never had a room. I don't know what it feels like. I don't

know anything about it. I think it's very common.

For some reason, I felt like I could connect with her. In my head, I'm going,

this is probably going to be the person that you can talk to about this.

It's intimidating, though. Like, there's times where I get so close. Is it where

you're getting close, and then you get anxiety?

She'll tell me, don't talk about it. Don't talk about it. He's like, come on,

try. I'm like, I feel like that's the guy. I think it's like when you try to

get me to squirt, and you're, like, encouraging me, and the more you

encourage me, it's just like... I can't do it now. The more you think about

trying to do it. And we want him to, and it's hard for me to know that when we

have sex, it's solely for my pleasure.

I want to give her the O. I want to be the one to help her do that, whether

it's by advice or it's by me getting a new technique, something. I want to be

the one that gives her her first O.

Your tits look amazing right now.

I am rock hard right now.

We're kind of ready to get out, but him kissing me just says something.

I literally forgot where I was and that's the first time for me to be that

physical in front of someone.

Oh, yeah.

Sabrina gives great blowjobs, whether it be in the shower, in the bed, or on the

couch. She knows what areas to hit at the right time.

Would you guys like to go inside and maybe do some stuff together?

I'm cool with that.

Taking all four of us into the room, this might be a chance to help her

achieve an orgasm, and I'm excited.

This is the first time I ever was like rubbing on some girl's tits. That's as

far as my experience has gone, so I don't know if that's considered

experience.

Once we move into the bedroom, we can either do me and her or her and her,

whatever she feels comfortable with.

I really just broke out of my shell. It was okay. It was just sex, whatever.

And I'm very glad to be in a situation where we can be with another couple but

still be by ourselves if we want.

See you back.

I feel pretty good about last night. We had a good time. It took a little while,

but we finally loosened up and found somebody we clicked with and, you know,

had a good time.

I think they're really receptive to us and the fact that we were new and how we

felt in those situations.

Waking up this morning, there's a lot of clarity for me.

The red room is definitely way beyond what I'm comfortable with. I'm nervous

telling Anthony that I'm not super excited about this because...

He was the one who I did this before him. I think the whole same room, bed,

sex thing, whatever, it was different.

It was like there were times where it kind of turned me on and times where I

didn't even realize anyone else was there. It was just focused on us.

I like that they weren't pushy about making contact or anything like that.

They did their own thing, we did our own thing. Yeah.

What did you think about the bedroom?

It was a lot.

It's kind of like putting you in the perfect environment to kind of just let

you... Off into the wild.

It was hard because there was so much, so fast. Yeah. Like, you see that stuff

in TV, movie, whatever, when you're actually in there. Like, it was a lot.

Like, I was definitely not comfortable.

Walking down there, like, this is a place where magic happens, you know?

I bet you're hoping magic happens. Well, you know, that's, I guess we lost our

communication.

Yeah. I just thought I would let you, you know, lead the show.

It's never been my thing. I know.

I'm sorry about that. I just, I don't want to seem pushy.

you know i've always needed you to be the leader the one that helps me you

know and i guess you were waiting for me and i expected out of you and then it

just frustrated me yeah we're not matching up 100 maybe we're at 99.9 and

that's that one point of a percent that we need we're gonna figure it out we

have the rest of our lives to do so we're gonna figure it out i don't see

this being like um a life-changing

life-altering thing where we're gonna go down a totally different path.

But I see it as if we want to go to a club or we want to hang out, that would

be our decision. It would be on, you know, like, our terms.

She told us that she's never orgasmed before, ever.

Wow. And she said she gets really close, but then it's almost... I think she used

the word painful.

Painful? Yeah. They definitely liked watching.

Yeah.

She's enjoying it. There's no doubt about that. Listening to her was very

hot. She was definitely liking it. Did you get to play with her at all, Meg?

The curious side of her? Did she check into any of that?

I washed her in the shower.

I asked first, and she said yes. I think it was just kind of overwhelming more

than anything for them last night, for her at least.

It's definitely in the beginning a little harder for her.

the females to get to that point. It sounded like he felt bad because he said

it seems like they only have sex because of him because she can't orgasm. She's

thinking too hard. She's trying too hard or something.

I don't know that this was the right environment for them to do it. She

seemed really nervous in the red room. She was really nervous.

I mean, he didn't have any problem going down and getting his pants off and

getting comfortable, but she kept trying to get him to open up and say, you know,

he wanted more, but he was just like, no way, I'm not going to fall into that

trap.

It was awesome while it was a fantasy, and then once it became real, he got

really nervous about it.

Hello.

Hi. How are you guys?

Good. Good, good. How was last night?

It was fun. It was good.

Was it all good, or what's that little laugh about?

It's just, it was a lot. It was very interesting, a lot to take in, but it

was good. We had fun.

Look, swinging is not for the faint-hearted, you know?

Even couples who have amazing communication, they can bring up new

things that you didn't expect.

That is why we have one of the best sex experts here to talk to. She's a

relationship therapist, and she's waiting downstairs, and...

She'll help you suss out whatever came up. Okay. Sound good? Yeah. Sounds good.

And then you get more time in the swing house. All right.

So it's a win-win. It is. Sounds like it.

All right. Take care. Thank you. Thank you.

Ready? You ready?

Okay. Let's do this.

I love you.

Love you.

We would tell a new couple definitely you would want to communicate.

Have a strong relationship.

I think you maybe want to start off like as a newbie couple with a couple that's

kind of seasoned. Sure. To kind of maybe help you understand the rope.

Do what you want to do with life, but if you want your relationship to work too,

and you want to try something new, then you better communicate with each other.

Simple as that.

Hi, welcome.

I'm Dr. Lori Buckley.

I'm here to talk to you about your relationship, about your experience in

the house, and hopefully help you make it better.

So what's the best thing about your relationship?

We just work well together.

You know, we don't fight. We don't argue.

What was your last argument about?

Last night?

Yeah, that was... We are on two different pages.

I'm way more comfortable putting myself out there, telling people my life story

or getting naked in front of people.

She's a little more conservative, so...

He's the one who's made me become comfortable with myself and my body.

Still a work in progress.

It's different when all of a sudden you're in a room with all these people

and six people are naked and getting on and I'm just like, it's interesting.

And it's a view into a whole different world that we're curious about. But I

wasn't ready and I think it put this little tension between us because he's

waiting for me. He was expecting you to be what you're not. I think he had more

expectations for me than I had for myself.

So you've learned something. Yes.

Maybe this isn't for you. I think I'm afraid of disappointing him.

And that's not it at all.

And that's why I know that's how she feels. I don't want you to do something

because you think it's what I want. And if she has reservations about it, then I

am patient enough and willing enough to say, we can hold off, we can do this

later, we can never do this again.

That was something we've never experienced in our relationship, that

whole being on two different pages. And I think that's where a lot of the shock

and hurt...

Well, what I would like now is I would like to spend a little bit of time with

you each alone.

Okay. So why don't I start with you first? I'm already in low-spiraling

time. I might as well keep it up.

Sound good? Love it.

Okay,

Serena, so this is your time to really be able to talk to me about anything

that you want to talk about.

It's your time.

Honestly, I feel like there's so much in my head.

It's hard to like pinpoint what I'm thinking and You don't really even need

to explain it Sabrina You know what there's a lot of women who wouldn't feel

comfortable in this kind of an environment I just don't want to

disappoint him like I Shared this last

night. I've never had an orgasm. I don't know what it's like. I don't know what

it is and

Um, it's frustrating.

It makes you feel about this small sometimes.

What does he say about that?

He just wishes he could help. Like, he wished we knew what to do.

It's not like I hate sex. It's not great for me. I mean, it is. You'd like to be

able to have an orgasm, right? To experience an orgasm. Honestly, it's

painful for me.

Painful how?

Like, it's like it's too much or something.

You know it takes a woman on average 20 to 40 minutes to get fully aroused. Our

body prepares.

We have blood flow, we have cushioning and lubrication and all those wonderful

things that make sex really pleasurable.

All an orgasm is is just a really heightened level of arousal. And if

you're not fully aroused and you're having intercourse, it can be painful.

So I'm wondering, is that part of the pain? That could be. I mean, I don't

know. Yeah.

so but that makes sense yeah so you probably need more time there's still

some more things for you and anthony together to explore and to communicate

so i encourage you to do that i'm very confident with my relationship with

anthony we can get through anything but we're open and and that's important and

i'm i'm not concerned at all hey anthony hello good to see you again good to see

you how are you feeling about

the experience and about Sabrina's reaction to this specific experience.

She just wanted me to kind of take charge, but I didn't want to feel like I

was pressuring.

Yeah, I think it was a no-win situation.

It was. It was. It was very uncomfortable, and it went from a party

to an orgy. You didn't feel totally comfortable with that either.

I didn't. Me being as open as I am, I did not feel like I was comfortable down

there. I couldn't sit comfortably.

I just didn't.

It just was all wrong for me. Yeah, so you two tend to actually be more on the

same page than you both realize, right?

So Sabrina did share with me that she hasn't had an orgasm yet. I'm wondering

how that is for you.

That's rough.

I want to encourage her to do so, but she says it makes it harder for her. So

then I just shut up, you know, and I don't say anything.

Which is true, right? Because like you said, when you feel pressure to perform.

Yeah, it'll happen when it happens. And I'm the rest of my life with her, so we

have... Until I'm no longer and absolutely I want her to just stay

patient when I understand it is frustrating trust me I've been there and

it sucks. It really does because it feels like you're a letdown just being

in the moment Yeah, enjoying it. You know loving there's lots of things that

work for different for different people. I have a lot more to do to To really I

guess nurture and you know coddle her I guess I need to be a lot more

I guess there, you know, and try to maybe understand what she's feeling and

why she's feeling that way. Yeah, empathy.

Empathy. Yeah. Definitely. Yeah. Well, I'm glad to hear that. I'm really glad

to hear that, Anthony. I do want to become a lot more open and just give her

the hug when she needs it.

There's some really great things you two have about your relationship. You know,

all couples...

get on the wrong page sometimes.

In other words, everybody has conflicts.

Embrace the conflict. It's a way for you to grow, learn more about each other,

and make the relationship stronger.

All right.

That's really good advice to me. It's been a pleasure really speaking with

you. Well, thank you. Appreciate it.

It's hard being a new couple. Kind of testing the waters and experimenting can

be really scary.

It's up to...

their play partners to kind of realize that for them and to know when to maybe

push them a little bit to try things or when to back off a little bit.

You guys having fun?

You guys having fun with them? Okay, then I've got bad news, because I have

to take you away.

I know, I know. You guys say your goodbyes. You guys say your goodbyes to

them, and then I'll meet you at the front of the house? Okay. All right.

See you soon.

Bye.

Bye.

That's all we need right there. Thanks for helping us with everything.

The last couple days were very intense because it was a lot. It was a lot to

take in.

SO NICE, BUT THEY ARE ALL VERY COMFORTABLE IN THE WAC STYLE, AND IT WAS

HARD TO BE VULNERABLE AND OPEN UP AND A LITTLE FRUSTRATING. WE WISH YOU GUYS

LUCK IN EVERYTHING. YES, THANK YOU SO MUCH. IT'S ALL ABOUT HAVING FUN. YOU

READY, BABY?

LET'S DO THIS. I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU.

BYE, EVERYBODY. BYE.

Saying goodbye to everybody, it's almost like saying goodbye to a group of

friends, you know? A lot of people look at swingers as a sex-craved community.

It's not. It's a friendship. It's a brotherhood. It's a sisterhood. And with

that, I have a totally different outlook on the swing lifestyle, and it isn't

just about sex. It's about that bond.

Okay, there's just one more thing before you guys go back to your regular life.

Okay. I have the contract you signed.

It gave you permission to explore other people, maybe explore parts of

yourselves.

What we have to figure out is what you want to do with it. I mean, is it

something you want to take it home, copy it, wallpaper your house, or are you

looking for the nearest shredder? I mean, I guess what I'm asking is, was it

a fling, or do you think you want to swing again?

Last night was fun and exciting and a learning experience,

It's all on different pages.

We have agreed that we are going to keep putting ourselves out there. This can

make a relationship or this can break a relationship.

It was a fling.

It was a fling. It was a fling, yes.

Well, let me give it to you then. All right. All righty.

I'll take that back.

And, you know, the lifestyle is not for everyone. And the important thing is

hopefully you learn some new things about your relationship.

Either way, you're a great guest, so thanks for coming. Thank you. Have a

good trip home.

Ready to go home? Yes.

Being here definitely was intimidating, but it was refreshing to know that we

could do that and to know that no matter what, I can count on him, and he's

always going to be there for me, and that's important.

Everything was different than what I'd imagined, and I learned a lot about...

myself and our relationship and the life and the lifestyle clubs and scenes are

very free and every once in a while we might want to go to one and just kind of

let loose where you know you're not going to be judged and get a little

slutty and no one cares but i just don't think it's right for us we're going to

go back to being who we were with just a little better knowledge of each other

the fantasy we had with the swing lifestyle was indeed a fantasy but in

reality we definitely don't need anything right now be codependent on

anything to improve our sex life

We're gonna get back to us sitting on the couch and and bonding as a couple as

a sexual couple