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On this episode of " Marriage Boot Camp"...

Welcome to the ring of fire.

Have both of y'all had infidelity?

Yeah, but I didn't start it until he started.

If I did to you what you've done to me...

I wouldn't be with you.

This is the only place that I know where to come to get help.

It's the real sad, ugly truth.

I will knock your ass out!

- Don't [ bleep ] touch me! - What's up?!

Five famous couples face a whole new reality.

- Gonna hit me? - They must fight to save their failing relationships

or decide whether to call it quits.

Gretchen: I might love him more than he loves me.

Jenni: I don't want to know what it's like to be without you.

- Kevin: You degrade me. - Traci: Treat me like a child.

Ryan: You make me feel like I'm not a priority.

Tanisha: Stand up and be a man.

Narrator: When reality comes crashing down...

[ bleep ] this place.

...Jim and Elizabeth Carroll are their last chance.

This is "Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars."

Slade: There's a failure to communicate between those two.

- Go be a man. - I put it right there.

All you had to do was just drag it in there.

Does that actually motivate him?

And escalating the volume

isn't gonna help the message sink in any better.

Gretchen: Hearing Tanisha and Clive screaming

and yelling at each other--

- Did you get anxiety? - Are you kidding me? I got major anxiety.

But the point is is that I want to focus on us,

and if I have cray-cray happening over here,

I don't feel like I'm gonna be able to focus on us

because I'm gonna be so focused on keeping her

from not killing me.

That's the only thing they're missing

because you know they love each other.

What is it?

A three-four shot.

It's a new day. You ready? Ready for this?

[ blows air between lips ]

This is what you call a breakfast vodka.

[ Trista laughs ]

- Good morning. - Did you sleep okay?

I literally heard her snoring last night.

Oh, you heard her snoring, too?

You could hear it through the wall.

- You sure it wasn't her? - Oh, right?

Y'all heard us?

[ snores ]

- Oh, wait-- - That that would have been me.

That was the other thing.

- What's up? What's up? - Good morning.

Roger: Clive comes in by himself,

and then he kind of just drops a bombshell on us

about him being deaf.

I like to communicate and talk, have a little joke or laughter,

but sometimes it's hard to kind of communicate.

I woke up one day,

and I realized that my hearing is just fading.

So sometimes I will hear clear, sometimes I won't.

Last night, me and Tanisha had a little situation.

Roger: Did you guys work through that this morning?

Did you talk about it? You're better now?

I really, honestly don't know.

I want to see Clive stand up more for himself.

That's hard for me to watch.

- He went deaf because of her. - It's possible. It's possible.

Later on, she's gonna probably say she sorry.

Like, come on.

- Traci: Can I be Tanisha? - I'm gonna try to be Clive.

Nobody have time for that! I mean, what?

I can't hear you. What?

You need to listen right now!

I can't hear you.

So now you gonna turn your hearing aid off?!

I can't hear you.

I think that you should talk to, you know, Jim and Elizabeth

about those things, and maybe they can be

kind of a moderator for you,

and you can say what you really feel, you know?

I don't-- I don't-- I don't really know.

Jim: Attention, all couples to the Boot Camp room now.

Tanisha: Oh, God, man, listen, man...

Enquirer."

What is it with this damn press? I just can't get away from it.

What kind of man lets his wife sleep around?

You know me personally?

After going through what I went through

yesterday at the press conference,

I really don't want to blow up like that again.

Well, good morning, Boot Campers.

Last night's press conference drill

was about your relationships being under siege.

Elizabeth: And once your issues become public,

they can take on a life of their own.

As you have noticed, we have a newsstand here.

These publications are headlined

with different relationship issues.

So you will pick out all the headlines

that match your problems.

Be honest.

Elizabeth: We're gonna help you fix these

before they become public fodder.

Gretchen and Slade, come on up.

Let's go shopping together, honey.

I'm so excited for this experience.

[ laughs ]

Okay.

"The past" for us.

Mm-hmm, "public opinion."

Sometimes you're not good at communicating.

Ooh, yeah, big one.

That really did surprise me that "money" was pulled,

especially for that couple.

I see you with Louis Vuittons on that are, like, $1,500 shoes.

So what if you get gout and some calluses?

- Just save money. - That's what I'm saying.

Slade: Oh, yes, we're definitely codependent.

Gretchen: Children, big-time.

I'm not getting any younger,

and I know that the doctor told me that my eggs

are plush and plump.

Weren't they talking about healthy follicles?

- The point is-- - Not eggs. You're not a chicken.

Potato, po-tah-to, the point is, is that I'm plushy

and juicy somewhere, and I just don't want to run out

- of plushy, plushy juiciness. - I don't agree with that.

Jenni and Roger, come shop.

[ grunts ]

I see three right off the bat-- "resentment."

- "The past" and "anger." - Exactly.

"Communication," without a doubt.

- "Fighting." - Oh, "fighting."

Gretchen: You be Jenni. I'm gonna be Roger.

Well, you know, this is what I think.

- I think it's very easy. It's black and white. - Hey, hey, I'm--

No, don't talk to me. Don't talk down to me like that.

I don't respect you.

I'm gonna punch you in the neck right now.

- I'm gonna punch you in the neck. - [ laughs ]

- Quality time together. - "Intimacy," without a doubt.

He means sex.

Roger considers intimacy sex.

I consider it, like, together time, quality time.

Roger: Butt sex.

But sex? So intimacy, but not sex?

Or do you mean the other butt sex?

I meant your butt and sex.

Oh, I'm the only one here that doesn't get laid? Okay.

[ laughs ]

Traci and Kevin, come on up.

My husband has a little bit of a problem of trust...

jealousy.

- You have jealousy, too. - No, I don't.

'Cause I know you ain't going nowhere.

There's some insecurity there.

"The past." "Fighting," yeah.

We debate a whole lot of time. Communication skills suck.

Infidel-- yes, that is. Put that up in there.

I brought the infidelity into our relationship.

I think that bring all this other stuff.

Yeah.

It drove me to drink!

Addiction.

- All right, has that got them? - Yeah.

Okay, y'all can sit down. Trista and Ryan, come on.

Trista: I wouldn't say our marriage is in trouble.

I think we're in a really, really,

really happy place, and we just want to be happier.

Uh... [ clucks tongue ]

Trista: I saw one over here, I know,

and I can't remember where it is.

What you think?

Elizabeth: Even couples that don't appear to have problems

on the surface, once they start going through the Boot Camp,

they come to realize that there are underlying issues

that are affecting their relationships immensely.

Jim: I'm willing to bet that this is the case

with Ryan and Trista, who appear to be the perfect couple.

[ chuckles ] I think just "public opinion"

because, you know, I don't want to let people down.

Traci: They're like the American family.

[ hums "Hail to the Chief" ]

Like a box.

When I met her, I didn't know if I should sing

a Disney song or what, I didn't know.

What song were you gonna sing?

Every last one of them. It would be a medley.

[ laughs ]

"Communication."

"Money." That always stresses me out.

What do you think?

I don't know, that's a pretty good list, I think.

Okay.

Oh, "insecurity," actually. Yeah, insecurity.

Where is it?

"Insecurity."

We got our work cut out for us.

Tanisha and Clive, let's do it.

All right, here we go.

So, you pick first.

All right.

- "Anger." Okay. - Mm-hmm.

- "Trust." - Okay.

"Communication."

"Honesty."

"Infidelity."

"Respect."

And "money."

Take two.

Clive: "Fighting."

All right, so was "insecurity" in there?

That's for you.

Oh, you are very jealous.

I thought she was just gonna take the whole newsstand.

"Self-control," I think we both...

I thought it would have been easier if it was just on wheels

and they could've wheeled it over.

"Past," definitely.

"Selfishness."

That basket was getting real heavy.

We might need two. [ laughs ]

I think you have every single problem.

- I think so. - And two moneys.

Jim: We want you to take some time to discuss these issues

that you've chosen, and then we'll see you back here

to meet them head-on in just a little while.

- Can you just grab yours? - I don't know, I might step outside...

Tanisha: So listen, this is a serious question.

How do you stay faithful past the first two, three years?

Because I have a hard time staying faithful.

Clive: Infidelity has created a big issue for this marriage.

Well, people have different definitions of cheating.

- Kissing? - Cheating.

- Hugging? - Cheater.

I know you ain't talking.

- Me? - Yeah.

- I'm not a cheater. - Clive, don't, don't.

Clive, could you tell Jenni what you did when I allowed you

to go get a private dance?

I tried to have sex with the stripper.

Whoa, whoa, whoa, she took you, and you tried to bang a chick?

- And what happened? - She refused.

But, you know, it was my birthday.

You guys operate by a whole separate set of rules

than I've ever heard of.

I'll be honest with you, Internet porn

is pretty much keeping my relationship together.

What she requires in a relationship

is to be touched and held and loved,

and it's kind of funny 'cause I guess I require that

in one department, and that would be in the bedroom.

Every time, he has to call his best friend Louie

to fix our [ bleep ] laptop.

He broke three [ bleep ] laptops in the house in the past year.

Like you bang me? I have to do something.

- You get it with your hand all the time. - That's right.

Never borrow a pair of socks in my house, I'm just saying.

Tanisha: Now would be a good time for you

to order your stuff.

If you want me to look a certain way,

do [ bleep ] and call it a day.

- That's what I'm doing, but you up here-- - No, you're not doing it.

- Shut up! - You're not doing it.

[ bleep ] Are they fighting again?

I don't give a [ bleep ] about none of this [ bleep ]!

- I don't care! - So why are you here?!

Oh, my God.

How many things am I gonna fix in your life?!

[ Tanisha shouting indistinctly ]

Oh, Tanisha and Clive are going at it.

- I don't want to go there. - I don't want to go there.

What more do you want from me?!

I'm done talking, man. Don't touch me, man!

- Stop touching me, man! - Don't grab me!

Let's go for a walk. Come on, let's go de-stress you.

I'm gonna punch you.

You're gonna punch me, and I'm gonna slap

- the [ bleep ] out of you. - I [ bleep ] dare you, Clive.

Get the [ bleep ] out of here, man.

- What you gonna do?! - Don't [ bleep ] touch me!

I told you don't touch me, man!

- Have you lost your mind?! - You keep touching me!

Totally breaks my heart.

- Keep that [ bleep ] up. - What are you gonna do?!

I'm gonna knock your ass out. Keep that [ bleep ]--

I'm not-- I'm not-- what's up?!

- What's good?! - What's up, you gonna hit me?!

What the [ bleep ]?!

Narrator: Coming up "on Marriage Boot Camp"...

Welcome to the ring of fire.

- I don't wanna go to hell. - Me neither.

Clive: Keep that [ bleep ] up.

- What are you gonna do? - I'm gonna knock your ass out.

- Keep that [ bleep ]-- - I'm not-- what's up?!

- What's good?! - What's up, you gonna hit me?!

What the [ bleep ]?!

You can hear everything. It's not a quiet conversation.

- Ryan: What's going on, Tanisha? - Get out.

I apologize for interfering with you guys

'cause I know this is your personal issue,

but I can't-- I would feel bad if something happened.

Jim: As Boot Camp directors, sometimes we step in right away

to resolve these things.

Other times, we take a step back

and see if they can resolve themselves.

I heard some, "Don't push me." "I'm gonna knock you out."

I like you guys.

I don't want anything like that to happen.

Maybe this is the time for one of you to just take a walk.

Would you like to take him with you?

Just come with me,

and let's just let it calm down for a second.

You can come back at it later.

Clothing, man. For clothing?

You coming at me for clothing?

If there's a [ bleep ] problem, just fix it.

Be a [ bleep ] wife for once!

- I am not your wife anymore! - You're not?

- No! - All right.

- Come on. - All right.

Can I have y'all for a minute?

Here we go. I'm in trouble again.

I know what you're thinking. This is not my fault.

Why are we thinking it's your fault?

Because you guys came to talk to me first.

Well, we actually came to talk to both of y'all.

Why should I go out there and waste my money

if you gonna look at me and say, "Oh, that doesn't look right"?

Tell me what's going on.

I wasn't able to get everything in order

in time to get here, so I left him

with specific instructions to get everything done,

and I came back home.

Nothing-- nothing was done,

not any initiative to get his hearing aid in time,

none of the clothes, and I had to deal with

getting ready for this and him.

So then we get into an argument.

Let's go find out what he's gonna say about this.

All right.

Hey. Come over here, sweetie.

- Oh, I have to sit next to him? - Yeah. Please.

We kind of got Tanisha's point of view.

- Why are you upset? - She claims that I'm a baby.

If you feel that way because of my whole hearing thing

and you got to keep repeating things, you know,

I may understand that, but for clothing?

Are you okay?

No, it was, like, kind of a big deal.

Do you know how frustrating it is to be with you

with your hearing disability?

It's a burden on our relationship,

and it hurts me to see you go through that.

Jim: Tanisha and Clive are in this vicious cycle

of lashing out and hurting each other.

And because of all this pent-up anger and pain from their past,

a seemingly meaningless little thing

can trigger them into an explosion.

I want to introduce you to a tool called

"what I heard you say."

I want you to repeat back to her,

"What I heard you say is that my hearing problem

is hard on you."

What I heard you say was that, you know,

about my hearing situation and that, you know,

you get very frustrated from it.

So what are you frustrated about?

You know, I got a little hearing situation,

and it's kind of, you know, driving me and you apart.

So mirror back, "What I heard you say is..."

What I heard you say was that you feel

like your hearing impairment

is driving us away from each other.

I sense there's some love here.

I'm not gonna sit here and lie to you.

I am not in love with him.

Sometimes for couples who have been through a lot of turmoil

together like Tanisha and Clive, they'll say

they just don't feel like they love each other anymore,

and that's because those feelings of love

have been masked by anger and resentment.

Hopefully, we can get this thing fixed,

but you've got a lot of work to do to get there.

Ryan: I have a daughter.

- Hey. - There she is.

- Y'all all right? - Yeah, everything's good.

- Everything's great, right? - Everything's good.

Ryan stepped in like Superman. I was like, Lord.

I was like the scaredest Superman of all time.

- [ laughter ] - You shook him up.

Really? I'm not that bad!

Tanisha, I came down here and started crying

- in the bathroom. - Why?

Because you guys really are upsetting me physically.

No offense to anybody, you guys don't know--

you guys only known for a day.

I'm married to a guy who cannot hear.

No, you don't. You're dealing with the fans.

You're dealing with invasive people.

And then your husband has his hearing issue

that he's not taking seriously,

and every chance he starts to slip,

he expects you to pick up all of the pieces,

and I'm tired.

So I apologize if it's hurting your feelings.

But guess what? This is my truth.

And this is the only place that I know

where to come to get help.

I came to Jim and Liz because I felt

like they're our only option.

I don't know what's gonna happen at the end of this thing,

but this is real.

Jim: Attention, Boot Campers,

grab your baskets and meet us outside.

[ coyote howls in distance ]

- You ready, baby love? - Almost.

You want to get the basket or you want me to grab it?

-Yeah. Forgot. - Got it.

- That's Tanisha's. - I know,

I was just gonna hand it to them.

We do not want to go through their list of problems.

Thank you, sir.

Whoa.

[ bleep ]

Tanisha: Oh, my God.

Gretchen: Oh, my gosh, we've entered hell.

- Freaking me out a little bit. - Holy hell.

Scary.

Welcome to the ring of fire.

[ all exclaim ]

- I don't want to go to hell. - Me neither.

Narrator: Coming up on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

Have both of y'all had infidelity?

I didn't start it until he started it.

Don't play get-back. My enemies get back at me.

This issue is your fault. You don't want to have kids.

When you feel this way, it makes me want to let you go.

Tanisha: Oh, my God.

Gretchen: Oh, my gosh, we've entered hell.

- Freaking me out a little bit. - Holy hell.

Scary.

Welcome to the ring of fire.

[ all exclaim ]

- I don't want to go to hell. - Me neither.

Really? Now they're gonna burn us at the cross, like--

[ laughs ] What the hell?

The more unresolved issues you have in your marriage,

the more heat it's gonna bring to the relationship.

Elizabeth: Eventually, this can start a fire,

and if you're not careful, this fire can burn

your relationship completely to the ground.

One at a time, each couple will be standing

inside the ring of fire.

I'll be holding up an issue that you chose earlier,

and together, you will have to decide

who is responsible for this issue in your relationship.

Each half of the ring is fueled

by its own incinerator,

and as you assign blame for an issue,

this is thrown into your incinerator.

Tanisha: I damn near took the whole friggin' newsstand,

and now it has to go in a furnace for one of us?

Oh, [ bleep ], they gonna burn us alive.

Jim: Judging by the size of these flames,

we'll be able to determine which of you

is more responsible for the problems in your relationship.

Let's see how long you can take the heat

of your baggage and your damage.

Gretchen and Slade, suit up.

Where's the extra-small? Over here?

I've been waiting to take him to a ring of fire

for a long time now.

I am ready.

I get in there and box with Slade and just deal it all out.

I love you, but I will knock you out.

Okay, here we go, guys. Who's this issue belong to?

- Gretchen. - Yeah, that's definitely me.

"Public opinion," give that one to Gretchen.

Tanisha: Whoa!

Holy hell, this is hot.

"Resentment."

Okay by me.

- Oh, yeah, we both are screwed. - We're both totally codependent.

Jim: Both of 'em.

Gretchen: We can absolutely feel the heat.

There's a lot of fire coming out of there.

Did we plan to have a child together?

We have planned a lot of things together.

It's not happening.

It's because of your procrastination.

It's your fault. You don't want to have kids.

Did we go to the doctor together and plan on having a child?

We could go to the doctor all day long.

If you don't actually take the thing

and make it happen, it doesn't work.

Slade: 13 years ago is when the vasectomy took place.

The individual I was with really couldn't have any more kids,

and the easiest and simplest thing to do was the vasectomy.

Gretchen: If I could, I would just accidentally

forget to take the pill, but it's not like that.

You make me feel like I'm not important enough to you

to make these things happen.

This issue is your fault.

Don't look at him. Look at me.

Now the latest thing is that you want to get married

before we have kids, and you keep changing the story.

Somebody here is not telling the truth.

She's been pouring her heart out,

and you're not doing anything.

Who's the problem here?

Apparently, it's my issue.

Jim: Light it up.

I feel like I need a can of aloe to take care of the burns.

"Money."

- That's still your issue. - What is my issue with money?

I feel like if I don't go out and work my ass off

every single day, we're not gonna be able

to pay the bills.

I have to be the breadwinner.

And how are you able to do that?

Does anyone else make sure that happens for you?

What does that mean?

I'm intimately involved in everything you do.

Stop helping me. Help yourself.

You're too afraid of the failure

if you go after what you actually want.

That's you, Slade.

[ laughter ]

When you feel this way,

it literally makes me want to let you go.

You guys, this is your fire,

and you can physically feel what this feels like.

We got some work to do.

Jim: Trista and Ryan, let's do it.

- Okay. - All right.

All right there in we had the fewest number of issues

compared to all the other couples.

- Which meant we had less fuel for the fire. - Yeah.

Anybody that pretends that they are the perfect couple

and that there's nothing wrong are lying.

"Insecurity" belongs to?

"Insecurity" belongs to me.

Light 'em up.

Next one?

I have problems putting down my computer, and that's mine.

Jim: Okay.

Tanisha: Ryan and Trista's whole fairy tale?

Clive: They just seem perfect, you know?

I don't get it. You guys don't need help.

Ryan: I didn't know you at all prior to meeting you

and getting married to you,

and so you had your journals around,

and you would be reading them in our room and then shut it

and say you don't want to read that one

because they're filled with all your past relationships.

I shouldn't care, but that makes me think,

well, what's going on?

Trista: I kept the journals because they are my memories.

There're guys that I dated.

They have no relevance in our present life right now.

I closed it because I didn't want to add

to that insecurity by you reading it.

So in your attempt to protect, it made it worse.

"The past," this is my issue.

Jim: Light it up.

"Communication"?

Trista: We don't even necessarily fight,

but when we get into disagreements

that if you do shut me out, if you walk away

and you don't tell me what's wrong...

I internalize it and think that something is really,

truly wrong in our relationship.

And just you know how my mind spins.

I'm a worrywart, and I worry about everything,

especially because my parents were divorced.

You don't want me to be emotionally heated,

yet you don't want me to leave.

I don't want it to spin out of control.

I just need to know,

and then we can face it together.

People get upset. That's normal.

People get angry, and that's normal.

And if you try to suppress it, you're hurting both of you.

Okay, "communication" belongs to...?

- That belongs to me. - Okay.

Tanisha: Honestly, I'm just like, yes,

so they aren't the perfect couple after all.

Okay, Traci and Kevin, let's go.

- Come on. - Tanisha: Give it up, Traci.

Traci: [ bleep ] That's both of us.

[ both laugh ]

'Cause our communication sucks!

Both of 'em.

Okay, next one.

Traci: "The past."

Jim: Okay, so who's "the past" belong to?

Both of us.

Jim: Light 'em both up.

Traci: That's both of us.

Why, though?

You can't just do infidelity and think, okay,

it's gonna be okay and think I'm not gonna react on it.

Narrator: Coming up on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

This is a [ bleep ] horror movie!

Oh, [ bleep ]! Why do you want to roast me?!

You say what you think I want to hear.

- That's not true. - Whatever, I'm-- whatever.

Jenni: First season, we didn't get paid a dollar.

I think we got like 100 bucks a week from the Shore store

to, like, get cigarettes.

It was huge.

I mean, you guys were everywhere.

We filmed it. We went home. Never heard of production again.

Didn't know the name of the show.

All my jobs fired me for leaving 'cause I was like,

"I might be back next week, or I might be back in six weeks."

Went from 20 grand in the bank to 500 bucks

when the "Jersey Shore" aired.

I'm like, I made the biggest mistake of my life.

Those risks turned out to be the best decisions

of her life, really.

Have both of y'all had infidelity?

Yeah, but I didn't start it until he started it.

Don't play get-back. My enemies get back at me.

My enemies get back at me.

I was hurting.

That's not right, though.

Jim: So did you really cheat on him

because you wanted to get back at him,

or did you cheat 'cause you wanted to cheat?

I wanted him to hurt just as much as I did.

I wanted to feel like I am a woman,

that I'm special, that I'm beautiful.

I mean, didn't want to look at me like that.

It wasn't that I wasn't feeling you.

Then why would you give someone else that attention

instead of me?

What you did was wrong. What you did was wrong.

Elizabeth: And you're still punishing each other

for this old, old business.

You're both gonna take it.

Light 'em up.

It's obvious to me that this ring of fire

is something you guys never get out of.

The past, the infidelity, the resentment,

you're just spiraling around,

and your relationship hasn't grown in a long time.

Jenni, Roger, come on up.

Roger: I'm more scared of you than Mike Tyson.

Actually, I would be too.

Elizabeth: All right.

[ sighs ] I'm pretty selfish.

Jenni it is.

So how come y'all can't compromise?

Your career and your selfishness

and your unwillingness to compromise,

frankly, pisses me off.

Who never compromises?

Me.

When I think of intimacy, I think of romance

and being a couple.

When he thinks of it, he's just like,

"I just want to have sex and eat a sandwich after."

- Yeah. I'm a guy. - [ laughter ]

Nothing wrong with a BJ at the end of the night.

See? And this is what I deal with.

And he says it every single day.

Roger's. Light it up.

Why did we hump like jackrabbits when we first met, then?

You started resenting me, and it was a turnoff.

And go.

My current-day resentment all stems

- from our early relationship. - If you don't let go of the resentment,

how am I supposed to be intimate?

If I did to you what you've done to me, would you resent me?

I wouldn't be with you.

- My issue. - No doubt. Put it in.

I mean, honestly and truly, you are the girl

that I am completely in love with

and want to spend the rest of my life with,

but I can't just forget about all that.

You've done bad things to me,

and I really have a hard time to just completely let them go.

Jenni: I was a crazy psycho bitch

in the beginning of our relationship.

I lied to Roger about multiple things.

- Trust. - I did not trust Roger at all.

I withheld information, but I never blatantly lied.

This is not where you want your relationship to be, is it?

No.

Tanisha and Clive, come get in the ring of fire.

Oh, gosh.

Elizabeth: This drill will be a real opportunity

for Tanisha and Clive to refocus their attention

on the issues that plague their marriage

and then take responsibility for them.

Tanisha and Clive are about to get into the ring of fire.

I'm hoping somebody has alerted Los Angeles Fire,

because as a fire professional,

I know that is not gonna be an easy fire to put out.

"Infidelity." Go.

You started off cheating, um--

You are the one that's been doing the cheating

'cause you were never around.

I just feel that you're the one that started everything.

Jim: Whose issue is it?

- It's your issue. - It's my issue?

- It's your issue. - You cannot be faithful.

Fine.

Issue goes here.

Elizabeth: Tanisha.

Oh, whoa!

Holy hell, this is hot.

- Okay, next one. - "Fighting."

- Jim: "Fighting." - That's you.

- I'm calm and laid back. - It's us. It's us.

No, but you go crazy. You blow up at the--

- It's you! - You blow up at the slightest thing!

You proved today that it's all you.

- I told you to not touch me. - I talked to you, Clive--

And you decide to hit me.

It's both of them!

- Next issue. - Oh, my God.

- "Trust." - "Trust."

I think we both have trust issues.

I know that, uh-- this fire's getting higher.

Oh, [ bleep ].

That's a good thing. Keep going.

What are you talking about? You like-- you're Satan.

I felt like it was hell. I'm about to pee.

I think I have to do number two.

My stomach is doing something crazy,

and my weave is getting hot.

My hair's getting hot. [ laughs ] It's my fault.

It's my fault. Just burn it, fine.

I'll just take it, hurry!

Elizabeth: Tanisha!

Oh, [ bleep ]! That's gonna get bigger!

Oh, help, Clive! Oh, my God!

- Don't push me! Don't push me! - You're touching me!

I feel the fire.

I feel it burning.

You have 23 issues left to go.

No! Oh, my God!

They didn't tell me about this!

[ blows sharply, yelps ]

Okay, all right. Here we go, here we go.

- You're wasting time. - "Selfishness."

That don't apply to me.

You're gonna put me in the fire, literally.

Why do you want to roast me?!

Elizabeth: Tanisha!

Oh, [ bleep ]!

This ain't no hope!

This is a [ bleep ] horror movie!

"The past." Mine again, isn't it?

- Elizabeth: Tanisha! - Oh, [ bleep ]!

All right, this is me again! I can't take it!

I am panicking because everything

is going into my furnace, and it is getting hot.

Oh, [ bleep ]! Hurry!

I feel like a shish kebab.

They gonna burn me! I'm gonna taste like pork!

[ laughter ]

Oh, my Father!

Oh, my God, Jesus got me.

- I can't breathe. - This is it.

He done closed the gates, and I'm not allowed in.

I'm happy I'm holding you.

That was nice!

That was noble. That was noble.

Yay, Clive!

Tanisha: That was a big moment for me

because we're not on good terms.

We haven't been on good terms for a long time.

We haven't slept together in a while.

Well, I just tried to step up to the plate.

I saw the fire, and I was just trying

to protect you and your weave.

Elizabeth: You know what the harsh reality is here?

All of this stuff, it might be Tanisha's

got the fire going here,

but when you become one in marriage,

both of you guys own this problem.

When you're married, you are both affected

by every problem brought into the marriage,

and any attempt to assign blame

adds fuel to the fire of conflict.

Regardless of who the problem is,

they both have to take responsibility for fixing it,

or they're both gonna get burned.

This right here is your marriage.

You gonna fight for this?

You gonna fight for your marriage?

- I don't give up. - No, we don't give up.

Are you going to take all these issues and work on them?

I'm willing to.

Same thing here.

Jim: Step out.

This exercise has shown you that if you have an issue,

you both have an issue because when you get married,

you become one, and these issues are now our issues.

The blame part of it is irrelevant.

Kevin: Yeah, we definitely create our own fires.

Traci: Yeah.

Don't let them mo-fos start.

Right.

Jim: Go back inside, get cooled off,

and we'll see you for evaluations.

- Oh, jeez. - Evaluation?

- Evalua-- - Okay.

Slade: Everyone says that I got my ass

handed to me tonight.

- Ryan: Totally. - See?

Yeah, you were way too hard on him about the kids thing.

- He's totally right. - Really?

- Yeah - Oh, I totally disagree.

I know you do.

You made it sound like tonight that I'm delaying the process.

I feel like right now, you are, yes, I do.

Every time that I talk about wanting to have a baby,

you say, "But we have to do this,

and this has to be first, and I want to get married."

This is really important to me, and I don't feel

like you're taking the steps necessary to fix the issues

that we have in order for that to get resolved.

I'm determined to have that again.

Do you have some bitterness and malice?

We never let go of, you know, the betrayal.

There's still some freshness to it.

- Want some ice? - No.

You saw that I was afraid, and you stepped in.

Clive, if you were like that with everything,

we wouldn't [ bleep ] be here.

I would be at home [ bleep ] the [ bleep ] out of you.

You know what, babe, words don't mean much to me anymore.

I feel like a lot of times, you say what you think

I want to hear and especially in front of other people,

- and I don't like that. - That's not true.

I feel like that a lot.

Whatever I'm-- whatever, I'm-- I gotta go.

'Cause I'm gonna just say things that I don't want to say.

Narrator: Coming up on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

Their fighting affected me today.

- You guys are not professionals. - I was scared, though.

You all have your issues. Put a muzzle on it.

If you don't let go,

you will destroy everything that you have.

It's our first evaluation, and honestly,

I don't know what's about to happen

because Lord knows our relationship

is a hot rotisserie mess.

Today we focused on what problems you think you have

in your marriage as represented by these magazine covers.

Elizabeth: Y'all's goal here is to work through

as many of these issues as you possibly can,

and we're gonna give you the tools to do just that.

So on your TV shows, you get nightly ratings

to tell you how well or how poorly you're doing.

Here at the Marriage Boot Camp,

we do things a little differently.

Each night ends with an evaluation.

I think the last few days, Slade and I have nailed it

and me especially in the ring of fire.

I must say I really brought it, and we opened up,

and we were raw, and I'm hoping

that they're gonna give us a good evaluation.

Gretchen and Slade, you're up. Gretchen?

Gretchen: I need to say something real quick.

I'm really surprised how much their fighting affected me.

What's up?!

Let's go for a walk. Come on, let's go de-stress you.

As I evaluated it, it has a lot to do with my past.

I've been in relationships like that,

and hearing Tanisha and Clive scream like that

gives me major anxiety.

Can I jump in here? I don't like that.

I was scared, though. I was scared.

I came to get help from professionals.

And that's why I didn't go in there.

You guys are not professionals, and the truth of the matter is,

- you all have your issues. - Right.

So I would rather take direction from them.

Gretchen, the white Oprah, puts her two cents in,

and I'm like, "Why are you giving your input?

The last time I checked, the only experts here

are Jim and Elizabeth.

Put a muzzle on it, seriously."

Jim: As tough as it is to hear sometimes,

a large part of Boot Camp is hearing feedback from your peers

and learning from each other.

Elizabeth: Gretchen and Slade,

something's not adding up for us with you two.

Seems like you guys got into a relationship,

and you've been very clear and concrete

about what you want-- you want children,

and you want financial security.

We have planned a lot of things together.

It's not happening.

It's because of your procrastination.

It's your fault.

You got into a relationship with a man

- who didn't want any more children... - No, that's not true.

but agreed to have children with you.

Wait, help me understand that.

Well, a man who has a vasectomy is basically saying

to the world, "I don't want to have any more children."

That's interesting. I never thought of it that way.

There's less permanent ways to make that statement.

Slade, you come across as fake.

It's interesting you have that opinion, though,

'cause I don't think any of them that have spent

any time with me would say that.

Gretchen and Slade have been accused in the media

of having a staged relationship for the sake of popularity.

If they are genuinely in this relationship for the long haul,

which we hope they are,

then they need to take a hard look

at how far apart they are in the bigger issues in life.

Trista and Ryan.

I see you guys growing old together,

but not growing emotionally together.

You're so afraid that looking at your problems

might lead to divorce, like your mom.

I worry about everything,

especially because my parents were divorced.

You've just been avoiding them.

In this case with Trista and Ryan,

small, deep-rooted issues can grow into a big ugly problem

if they ignore them and don't face them head-on.

And even though they may look like the perfect couple,

they realize that they have some issues they need to fix.

Traci and Kevin.

You guys have so much unresolved bitterness and resentment.

Have both of y'all had infidelity?

Yeah, but I didn't start it until he started it.

Y'all have just let it build and build and build.

You haven't dumped it, and that's gonna be

your biggest challenge during the Boot Camp.

What I hear from the two of you is,

"He did this, so I did this."

"Well, she did this, so I did this."

You're just missing the whole point.

We need to help Traci and Kevin break the cycle

of trying to get back at one another.

Otherwise, this could lead to even more infidelity,

or worse, to divorce.

You guys can sit down. Jenni and Roger.

They used to be where you're at,

but then they let this resentment start growing,

and you're making the same mistake

by having old resentments toward her.

You lie about things, and frankly, it pisses me off.

And if you don't let go of them,

you will destroy everything that you have.

If it was just in the past, I really think I can do that.

It's still happening, and that's where I drag that resentment on.

[ bleep ], like, I just don't want to tell you

'cause I don't want to deal with your attitude.

Okay, since he doesn't know the real you,

you're gonna learn that lying by omission really doesn't work.

Roger needs to let go of Jenni's past lies, and in turn,

Jenni needs to start trusting Roger more

and being more open and truthful

or this relationship is going to always struggle.

Tanisha and Clive, stand up.

I can't take any more negativity tonight.

I can't take any more drama tonight.

We need a good evaluation,

and I'm hoping that Jim and Elizabeth gives it to us.

[ laughs ] I doubt that.

Shut up.

What do you think you accomplished so far?

I... saw Clive in another light tonight.

He stepped in to protect me.

I'm happy I'm holding you!

That was nice!

I so want to do you right now.

[ laughter ]

- We could start right here. - Oh, my God, Clive!

You're a freak. Stop it. You're a creep.

- [ mumbles indistinctly ] - [ laughs ]

Today I pulled you into your first one-on-one

because, girl, you got triggered again.

How many things am I gonna fix in your life?!

- Stop touching me, man! - Don't grab me!

And so instead of you two bonding together through that,

you split apart.

Tanisha, anger is very often

a secondary emotion to hurt,

and until you start responding to some of your triggers

from that vulnerable place, it's going to be hard to grow.

On the positive side now, on the ring of fire,

I thought you guys were both honest and open,

and so I think if you had the same tools

to learn about marriage and being in a relationship,

you would dominate those things, too.

- Thank you. Thank you. - Thank you, guys.

So you survived the first two days

of the Marriage Boot Camp, but it gets tougher.

We're gonna throw you into some stuff

that you're gonna say, "No, I quit."

Don't.

Continue to give 100%, and I promise you

you're gonna see the fruit, all right?

And we will see you guys tomorrow.

[ Roger grunts ]

Roger: I'm anxious to get to the next step,

and I fully expected these first few days

to be really tough love, and that's what I want.

I feel like I'm a guy that needs to be punched

directly in the face to get it, you know what I mean?

So why, when I do that, you get angry?

Well, it's a little different.

I'm really mad Gretchen was making a couple of statements

about how uncomfortable our fight made her.

My husband and I have real-life issues.

Who the [ bleep ] are you to tell me what the [ bleep ]

to do when you got problems of your own, boo?

Don't throw stones when you live in a glass house.

Narrator: Next time on "Marriage Boot Camp"...

Every couple has hot buttons.

- I can't stand fake people. - You can be a [ bleep ].

Your ass don't cook at all, but you can eat.

[ bleeping ]

Jim: We need you to identify Clive's body.

I'm sorry! Get up!

[ vomits ]

I love you so much.

I might love him more than he loves me.

Traci said she's leaving.

Get out, thank you.

We should have never signed up for this.