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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.BZ 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.BZ 3 00:00:25,776 --> 00:00:28,111 Announcer: The following film is about sex work, 4 00:00:28,111 --> 00:00:31,490 and contains depictions of sex, sexual assault, 5 00:00:31,490 --> 00:00:33,158 and substance use. 6 00:00:33,158 --> 00:00:34,910 Please take care. 7 00:02:01,872 --> 00:02:04,166 My name is Andrea Werhun. 8 00:02:04,166 --> 00:02:07,169 I'm a writer and performer, and I'm... 9 00:02:07,169 --> 00:02:10,046 also a sex worker. 10 00:02:14,134 --> 00:02:15,719 In books, movies, 11 00:02:15,719 --> 00:02:18,180 and every syndicated crime drama imaginable, 12 00:02:18,180 --> 00:02:21,516 sex workers are typically portrayed as victims 13 00:02:21,516 --> 00:02:23,143 or villains. 14 00:02:23,143 --> 00:02:26,146 Shame and stigma can silence us. 15 00:02:26,146 --> 00:02:29,065 It's high time we told our own damn stories. 16 00:02:29,065 --> 00:02:30,859 Here's mine. 17 00:02:32,319 --> 00:02:33,737 In my early 20s, 18 00:02:33,737 --> 00:02:35,530 I worked as an escort. 19 00:02:35,530 --> 00:02:37,407 Clients hired me to a play a role, 20 00:02:37,407 --> 00:02:39,784 and I love to perform. 21 00:02:39,784 --> 00:02:42,162 It wasn't always glamourous. 22 00:02:42,162 --> 00:02:45,832 Can I jizz on your titties, baby? 23 00:02:45,832 --> 00:02:48,335 That costs extra, baby. 24 00:02:50,754 --> 00:02:55,008 And I wasn't always the professional you see here. 25 00:02:56,343 --> 00:02:59,262 Here it comes, baby. 26 00:02:59,262 --> 00:03:00,764 Here it comes! 27 00:03:03,058 --> 00:03:04,809 Andrea: Once upon a time, 28 00:03:04,809 --> 00:03:07,395 Iwas a university student with a dream. 29 00:03:09,731 --> 00:03:13,235 A dream of making more than minimum wage. 30 00:03:13,235 --> 00:03:17,489 I quickly realized the power of a little unzipping. 31 00:03:36,258 --> 00:03:40,720 I went to university to study English literature. 32 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,182 That was my major, and I minored in religion. 33 00:03:44,182 --> 00:03:46,601 The first time I went to a strip club, 34 00:03:46,601 --> 00:03:49,229 what I saw was a kind of sexy church. 35 00:03:49,229 --> 00:03:53,066 I saw these poled priestesses on the stage, 36 00:03:53,066 --> 00:03:57,946 being worshipped by this doting male congregation 37 00:03:57,946 --> 00:04:00,657 who are, you know, being given the opportunity 38 00:04:00,657 --> 00:04:03,952 to go to confession for like, $20 a song. 39 00:04:03,952 --> 00:04:07,747 And so I thought, "I want to do that." 40 00:04:07,747 --> 00:04:10,459 And I did eventually become a stripper. 41 00:04:10,459 --> 00:04:12,252 More on that later. 42 00:04:12,252 --> 00:04:15,463 I had a friend in one of the classes I was taking in school 43 00:04:15,463 --> 00:04:18,550 tell me that I should consider escorting instead. 44 00:04:18,550 --> 00:04:21,761 One night, I noticed that all the stories I'd penned 45 00:04:21,761 --> 00:04:23,346 for my creative writing class 46 00:04:23,346 --> 00:04:26,475 involved the exchange of sex for money. 47 00:04:29,394 --> 00:04:30,937 It became clear... 48 00:04:30,937 --> 00:04:33,857 Ethereal voice: Whoredom is your destiny... 49 00:04:33,857 --> 00:04:34,941 Whoredom is... 50 00:04:34,941 --> 00:04:37,402 ...your destiny! 51 00:04:41,490 --> 00:04:44,534 Andrea: And how does one become a sex worker? 52 00:04:44,534 --> 00:04:47,746 Well, let me show you. 53 00:04:47,746 --> 00:04:49,915 Under the cover of darkness, 54 00:04:49,915 --> 00:04:53,043 I stalked the streets like a cat in heat, 55 00:04:53,043 --> 00:04:55,712 fondling for society's sexy underbelly. 56 00:04:57,672 --> 00:04:58,965 Woman: Password? 57 00:05:03,220 --> 00:05:05,347 Come in. 58 00:05:11,186 --> 00:05:14,814 Cloaked in the darkness of night and little else, 59 00:05:14,814 --> 00:05:18,568 I penetrated a secret set of sinful sluts. 60 00:05:20,403 --> 00:05:21,696 Just kidding. 61 00:05:21,696 --> 00:05:23,865 I looked up escort agencies, 62 00:05:23,865 --> 00:05:25,408 picked the best-looking website, 63 00:05:25,408 --> 00:05:27,786 and sent them an email. 64 00:05:30,163 --> 00:05:33,416 And they contacted me immediately for an interview, 65 00:05:33,416 --> 00:05:34,876 which opened with... 66 00:05:34,876 --> 00:05:36,253 Woman: You got the job. 67 00:05:36,253 --> 00:05:37,629 Oh. 68 00:05:38,630 --> 00:05:40,132 Great. 69 00:05:40,132 --> 00:05:42,425 The agency owners were a suburban couple 70 00:05:42,425 --> 00:05:45,136 - named Trina and Craig. - Here's how it works. 71 00:05:45,136 --> 00:05:47,931 We'll do your advertising for you. 72 00:05:47,931 --> 00:05:49,516 I'll pick you up, drop you off. 73 00:05:49,516 --> 00:05:52,144 You collect the money and text me that it's all good. 74 00:05:52,144 --> 00:05:54,104 I'll start the clock, you do the deed, 75 00:05:54,104 --> 00:05:56,439 and I'll wait outside and let you know when the hour is up. 76 00:05:56,439 --> 00:05:57,983 - Any questions? - Yeah. 77 00:05:57,983 --> 00:05:59,776 Do you provide the condoms? 78 00:05:59,776 --> 00:06:01,570 No. 79 00:06:01,570 --> 00:06:02,988 Okay. Um... 80 00:06:02,988 --> 00:06:05,740 How often should I get an STI test? 81 00:06:05,740 --> 00:06:07,367 Like, every month? 82 00:06:07,367 --> 00:06:10,078 Every month would probably be too much. 83 00:06:10,078 --> 00:06:13,456 And how likely is it that I would get an STI? 84 00:06:13,456 --> 00:06:14,958 Uh, not likely. 85 00:06:14,958 --> 00:06:17,711 That would be very rare. 86 00:06:17,711 --> 00:06:20,130 Andrea: You know, some people get away from sex work 87 00:06:20,130 --> 00:06:21,882 without ever having had an STI. 88 00:06:21,882 --> 00:06:24,718 Me, I had chlamydia, I got gonorrhea, 89 00:06:24,718 --> 00:06:28,930 and then I did a seven-day, you know, round of antibiotics 90 00:06:28,930 --> 00:06:30,307 and they were gone. 91 00:06:30,307 --> 00:06:33,935 And that's because I got tested regularly. 92 00:06:33,935 --> 00:06:36,646 Also, I was wondering, is this legal? 93 00:06:37,731 --> 00:06:39,816 Yes and no. 94 00:06:39,816 --> 00:06:42,319 But the cops have bigger to fry. 95 00:06:42,319 --> 00:06:45,489 And we've never had a run-in with law enforcement. 96 00:06:45,489 --> 00:06:47,073 You're fine. 97 00:06:47,073 --> 00:06:49,159 The fact that she's saying she's been able to run 98 00:06:49,159 --> 00:06:52,829 a successful escorting agency doesn't change the fact 99 00:06:52,829 --> 00:06:56,166 that criminalization impacts us as workers 100 00:06:56,166 --> 00:06:58,084 in a way that it doesn't impact her 101 00:06:58,084 --> 00:07:00,670 as someone who is not sucking cock for money. 102 00:07:00,670 --> 00:07:04,174 How dangerous is this job? 103 00:07:04,174 --> 00:07:06,134 We've been in this business a long time. 104 00:07:06,134 --> 00:07:09,137 You're totally safe, nothing's gonna happen to you. 105 00:07:10,472 --> 00:07:13,850 She is not going to be transparent about the risks 106 00:07:13,850 --> 00:07:16,186 that I face, and the vulnerable situations 107 00:07:16,186 --> 00:07:18,188 she is about to put me in 108 00:07:18,188 --> 00:07:20,232 because she doesn't want to scare me away. 109 00:07:20,232 --> 00:07:22,984 So, what do you want to be called? You need a fake name. 110 00:07:22,984 --> 00:07:25,278 I'd thought about this a lot. 111 00:07:25,278 --> 00:07:29,157 I was taking a romantic poetry class at the time, 112 00:07:29,157 --> 00:07:33,120 and I had fallen head over heels in love 113 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:35,330 with William Blake. 114 00:07:35,330 --> 00:07:38,166 In Visions of the Daughters of Albion, 115 00:07:38,166 --> 00:07:41,336 a virgin goddess named Oothoon walks in woe 116 00:07:41,336 --> 00:07:45,132 when her eye is caught by a marygold. 117 00:07:45,132 --> 00:07:47,425 "I see thee now a flower, 118 00:07:47,425 --> 00:07:49,177 "now a nymph. 119 00:07:49,177 --> 00:07:53,056 "I dare not pluck thee from thy dewy bed." 120 00:07:53,056 --> 00:07:55,976 Pluck thou my flower, Oothoon the mild. 121 00:07:55,976 --> 00:07:58,019 Another flower shall spring. 122 00:07:58,019 --> 00:08:00,772 Because the soul of sweet delight 123 00:08:00,772 --> 00:08:02,983 can never pass away. 124 00:08:02,983 --> 00:08:06,778 Andrea: That virginity is forever. 125 00:08:06,778 --> 00:08:08,697 Marygold! 126 00:08:10,365 --> 00:08:11,783 Nah. 127 00:08:11,783 --> 00:08:13,535 How about Mary Ann? 128 00:08:13,535 --> 00:08:16,788 You kinda look like Mary Ann from Gilligan's Island. 129 00:08:19,416 --> 00:08:20,917 Sure. 130 00:08:20,917 --> 00:08:22,502 Mary Ann. 131 00:08:22,502 --> 00:08:25,255 The Virgin Mary, and her mother, Saint Anne. 132 00:08:25,255 --> 00:08:27,549 Two generations of maternal divinity 133 00:08:27,549 --> 00:08:30,135 to protect me on this whorish path. 134 00:08:30,135 --> 00:08:32,971 I remember signing an agreement, 135 00:08:32,971 --> 00:08:35,724 but I'm not sure what it said. 136 00:08:40,812 --> 00:08:43,899 Trina and Craig couldn't get me on the schedule fast enough. 137 00:08:43,899 --> 00:08:47,152 Trina: His name is Sanjay. He's nice. 138 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:51,823 He's more nervous than you are. Trust me. 139 00:09:07,214 --> 00:09:09,466 Come in, come in. 140 00:09:09,466 --> 00:09:10,717 Hi. 141 00:09:15,889 --> 00:09:18,642 Jacket? 142 00:09:18,642 --> 00:09:21,019 Oh. Thanks. Um... 143 00:09:21,019 --> 00:09:23,313 - I'll be right back. - Sure. 144 00:09:41,582 --> 00:09:43,500 - Hey. - Hi. 145 00:09:47,546 --> 00:09:51,174 So, how long have you been doing this? 146 00:09:51,174 --> 00:09:54,052 Not very long. 147 00:09:54,052 --> 00:09:58,348 Um, this is actually my first appointment. 148 00:09:58,348 --> 00:10:00,100 You're my first client. 149 00:10:00,100 --> 00:10:01,602 Really? 150 00:10:02,895 --> 00:10:04,688 Wow... 151 00:10:06,315 --> 00:10:08,817 That's great. That's great. 152 00:10:25,250 --> 00:10:28,337 He was being kind, he was being respectful, 153 00:10:28,337 --> 00:10:30,714 and we were pleasuring each other. 154 00:10:30,714 --> 00:10:32,966 And I thought, "If this is what it is... 155 00:10:34,426 --> 00:10:36,136 "...that's kinda fun!" 156 00:10:37,596 --> 00:10:41,391 Sanjay leaves me in the room with half an hour left. 157 00:10:41,391 --> 00:10:42,976 Please lock up the room whenever you are done. 158 00:10:42,976 --> 00:10:44,811 Goodnight, Mary Ann. 159 00:10:44,811 --> 00:10:46,688 Goodnight? 160 00:10:49,316 --> 00:10:51,193 Okay, I've just, like, hit the jackpot here. 161 00:10:51,193 --> 00:10:54,029 I get to like, relax in a room by myself 162 00:10:54,029 --> 00:10:56,281 after this momentous occasion 163 00:10:56,281 --> 00:10:59,535 where I feel like I had just lost my whore virginity. 164 00:11:03,372 --> 00:11:05,415 Was it really me? 165 00:11:05,415 --> 00:11:08,335 A new friend, companion, and partner in crime 166 00:11:08,335 --> 00:11:10,337 smiled back at me. 167 00:11:10,337 --> 00:11:13,382 And her name was Mary Ann. 168 00:11:21,056 --> 00:11:22,850 Toronto Sirens. 169 00:11:22,850 --> 00:11:26,103 Man on phone: Well, hi there, - Trina. - It's Chuck from Texas. 170 00:11:26,103 --> 00:11:28,355 You have a gal for me this evening? 171 00:11:28,355 --> 00:11:30,649 Trina: Have I got the girl for you! She's new. 172 00:11:30,649 --> 00:11:34,945 Her name is Mary Ann, and it's her first night. 173 00:11:34,945 --> 00:11:36,154 You're gonna love her. 174 00:11:37,906 --> 00:11:39,658 Yee-haw! 175 00:11:41,451 --> 00:11:43,620 Andrea: Who is next? 176 00:11:47,541 --> 00:11:50,669 So, Mary Ann, do you like Mozart? 177 00:11:50,669 --> 00:11:51,837 Yeah. 178 00:11:51,837 --> 00:11:53,338 Good, good. 179 00:11:53,338 --> 00:11:55,674 Do you like butt play? 180 00:11:55,674 --> 00:11:58,093 Um... 181 00:11:58,093 --> 00:11:59,803 I don't know. 182 00:11:59,803 --> 00:12:02,097 How about rimming? 183 00:12:02,097 --> 00:12:05,309 Uh... I... 184 00:12:05,309 --> 00:12:06,894 I don't know. 185 00:12:06,894 --> 00:12:09,271 Client: Come on. Lick my ass. 186 00:12:09,271 --> 00:12:10,981 Please? 187 00:12:14,818 --> 00:12:18,238 I should have charged him extra for that. 188 00:12:18,238 --> 00:12:19,990 By the time I reached my final client, 189 00:12:19,990 --> 00:12:24,369 I was feeling like a triumphant sexual queen. 190 00:12:26,205 --> 00:12:29,500 Max and I were sucked into a flurry of mutual interests. 191 00:12:29,500 --> 00:12:32,294 Poetry, religion, politics. 192 00:12:32,294 --> 00:12:34,171 When he asked the dreaded-- 193 00:12:34,171 --> 00:12:35,464 What's your story? 194 00:12:35,464 --> 00:12:40,052 Oh, I'm just a travelling painter, 195 00:12:40,052 --> 00:12:41,678 passing through. 196 00:12:41,678 --> 00:12:46,058 Wow. I thought maybe you were in university. 197 00:12:46,058 --> 00:12:47,726 No... 198 00:12:47,726 --> 00:12:49,436 No. 199 00:12:49,436 --> 00:12:52,064 You have a really intellectual vibe. 200 00:12:52,064 --> 00:12:54,566 I've read a lot of books. 201 00:12:55,901 --> 00:12:57,486 Come here. 202 00:13:02,699 --> 00:13:05,953 We had some time left, so I read him some tarot cards. 203 00:13:05,953 --> 00:13:08,038 Max was smart and courteous. 204 00:13:08,038 --> 00:13:10,749 Had I just met my ideal client? 205 00:13:12,751 --> 00:13:15,087 I made $700, 206 00:13:15,087 --> 00:13:17,089 and that was life-changing for me. 207 00:13:17,089 --> 00:13:19,258 To go from minimum wage, 208 00:13:19,258 --> 00:13:20,509 where I worked at a cafe 209 00:13:20,509 --> 00:13:23,387 and I might get $700 on two paycheques, 210 00:13:23,387 --> 00:13:26,098 Here I'd made it in one night and had a ball. 211 00:13:28,016 --> 00:13:29,768 My new job was exciting, 212 00:13:29,768 --> 00:13:34,064 but the prospect of telling my friends and family was not. 213 00:13:34,064 --> 00:13:36,775 So I kept my whoring a secret. 214 00:13:43,282 --> 00:13:46,577 Max had been my ideal client when I met him. 215 00:13:46,577 --> 00:13:48,620 The next time I saw Max, 216 00:13:48,620 --> 00:13:51,206 I was selling tickets to a psychology conference 217 00:13:51,206 --> 00:13:55,002 when he showed up in line, and I almost had a heart attack. 218 00:13:55,002 --> 00:13:57,129 I was so freaked. 219 00:13:57,129 --> 00:14:00,340 I revealed that I was not, in fact, 220 00:14:00,340 --> 00:14:03,719 a travelling painter passing through. 221 00:14:03,719 --> 00:14:07,472 And was, of course, a university student. 222 00:14:07,472 --> 00:14:10,309 And that more than that, 223 00:14:10,309 --> 00:14:14,271 what I really wanted to be was a writer. 224 00:14:14,271 --> 00:14:17,274 You could come over, you know, just to write. 225 00:14:17,274 --> 00:14:20,486 You mean, you'd pay me? 226 00:14:20,486 --> 00:14:23,197 Yeah. Why not? 227 00:14:23,197 --> 00:14:26,074 Let's do a two-hour writing session. 228 00:14:28,994 --> 00:14:30,913 Okay. 229 00:14:30,913 --> 00:14:34,750 I thought, "Could my life get any better?" 230 00:14:36,001 --> 00:14:38,837 So I show up to this paid writing session, 231 00:14:38,837 --> 00:14:43,050 and as soon as I get there and we're sitting in his apartment, 232 00:14:43,050 --> 00:14:44,801 he starts asking me questions. 233 00:14:44,801 --> 00:14:46,887 What was your childhood like? 234 00:14:46,887 --> 00:14:51,266 What happened to you to lead you down this path? 235 00:14:51,266 --> 00:14:53,352 Are your parents still together? 236 00:14:53,352 --> 00:14:55,604 Were you abused? 237 00:14:57,564 --> 00:15:00,400 Mary Ann, I deal with people in your field every day. 238 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,653 They either come from a broken home, 239 00:15:02,653 --> 00:15:05,656 or they have a long history of sexual trauma. 240 00:15:05,656 --> 00:15:08,158 You claim you have neither, which... 241 00:15:08,158 --> 00:15:10,369 I find hard to believe. 242 00:15:10,369 --> 00:15:12,329 You just don't fit the mould of someone 243 00:15:12,329 --> 00:15:15,290 who does this kind of work. 244 00:15:18,669 --> 00:15:20,837 Shall we go to the bedroom? 245 00:15:20,837 --> 00:15:23,882 I thought I was here to write. 246 00:15:23,882 --> 00:15:28,387 Come on. 247 00:15:28,387 --> 00:15:31,640 He was trying to enter me. 248 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:34,226 You know, he was trying to open doors 249 00:15:34,226 --> 00:15:37,312 for which he had no key. 250 00:15:37,312 --> 00:15:39,606 He was trying to barge into me 251 00:15:39,606 --> 00:15:42,568 and I did not like it at all. 252 00:16:01,044 --> 00:16:03,004 Max. 253 00:16:03,004 --> 00:16:05,423 I'm not comfortable. 254 00:16:05,423 --> 00:16:07,383 Max: That was great. 255 00:16:08,843 --> 00:16:11,971 Do you want to go home now? 256 00:16:11,971 --> 00:16:13,681 Yeah. 257 00:16:13,681 --> 00:16:17,393 Andrea: I just felt like such a naive baby whore, 258 00:16:17,393 --> 00:16:19,062 to have believed a client 259 00:16:19,062 --> 00:16:22,315 when he said that he wanted a paid writing session. 260 00:16:22,315 --> 00:16:24,442 I would not go into it 261 00:16:24,442 --> 00:16:27,487 without being prepared to have sex. 262 00:16:27,487 --> 00:16:30,240 You don't get any training for this stuff. 263 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:33,785 I mean, you kinda have to walk through the fire 264 00:16:33,785 --> 00:16:36,746 to learn these lessons. 265 00:16:36,746 --> 00:16:40,291 Bottom line, you can't trust clients. 266 00:16:44,963 --> 00:16:48,258 Personally, I don't think there is anything more important 267 00:16:48,258 --> 00:16:49,884 than community. 268 00:16:49,884 --> 00:16:51,636 You know, especially for an industry 269 00:16:51,636 --> 00:16:54,013 that's as isolated as ours. 270 00:16:54,013 --> 00:16:58,685 When sex workers get together and we talk shop, magic happens. 271 00:16:58,685 --> 00:17:01,729 Even if we are experiencing our work in isolation, 272 00:17:01,729 --> 00:17:04,274 we can hear each other and totally understand each other. 273 00:17:04,274 --> 00:17:06,693 My name is SJ Raphael. 274 00:17:06,693 --> 00:17:10,780 I have done everything from escorting to stripping, 275 00:17:10,780 --> 00:17:12,323 cam work, street work. 276 00:17:12,323 --> 00:17:15,201 I was mailing my underwear to weird men overseas 277 00:17:15,201 --> 00:17:17,870 for a really long time, until it didn't become lucrative anymore. 278 00:17:17,870 --> 00:17:19,831 You name it, I've done it. 279 00:17:19,831 --> 00:17:22,750 Andrea: SJ, they are one of my most cherished friends. 280 00:17:22,750 --> 00:17:25,253 We met through advocacy work. 281 00:17:25,253 --> 00:17:28,506 I'm Vixen, I am a former escort. 282 00:17:28,506 --> 00:17:31,175 I've now transitioned into being 283 00:17:31,175 --> 00:17:33,386 a nude online cam girl. 284 00:17:33,386 --> 00:17:37,849 Vixen is a good friend of mine, and we met at an orgy. 285 00:17:37,849 --> 00:17:42,270 My name is Kitoko, and I am a former escort and pro sub, 286 00:17:42,270 --> 00:17:44,230 or professional submissive. 287 00:17:44,230 --> 00:17:45,982 Oh, and a current artist. 288 00:17:45,982 --> 00:17:50,320 Kitoko is an incredibly gifted artist and collaborator. 289 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:52,488 We made a short film together. 290 00:17:52,488 --> 00:17:56,034 I'm Robin. I've been a stripper for five years now, 291 00:17:56,034 --> 00:17:58,912 and I am also a formally trained 292 00:17:58,912 --> 00:18:01,456 animator and illustrator. 293 00:18:01,456 --> 00:18:04,792 Robin is an amazing performer. 294 00:18:04,792 --> 00:18:07,503 We worked at the same strip club. 295 00:18:09,214 --> 00:18:12,258 Being white, cisgendered, and conventionally feminine 296 00:18:12,258 --> 00:18:15,053 has definitely benefited me in this industry. 297 00:18:15,053 --> 00:18:19,015 How have these factors impacted my friends? 298 00:18:19,015 --> 00:18:21,017 Certainly there is that archetype 299 00:18:21,017 --> 00:18:22,435 of what a "whore" should look like, 300 00:18:22,435 --> 00:18:23,728 what a sex worker should look like. 301 00:18:23,728 --> 00:18:25,855 The lingerie, the hair, the makeup, the clothes, 302 00:18:25,855 --> 00:18:28,066 the this, the that. As a gender diverse person, 303 00:18:28,066 --> 00:18:30,151 I present far more femme than I feel 304 00:18:30,151 --> 00:18:32,028 because I make more money doing it. 305 00:18:32,028 --> 00:18:33,696 It's easier for me to get clients, 306 00:18:33,696 --> 00:18:35,073 it's easier for me to have the long blonde hair, 307 00:18:35,073 --> 00:18:36,783 like, put on the dress, like, do the thing, 308 00:18:36,783 --> 00:18:38,743 and then make, you know, the money that I am charging. 309 00:18:38,743 --> 00:18:41,788 The way that I look, the way that I carry myself, 310 00:18:41,788 --> 00:18:45,959 isn't quite a reflection of who I am internally. 311 00:18:45,959 --> 00:18:50,755 But money talks, and I very much curate to the male gaze. 312 00:18:50,755 --> 00:18:52,966 I applied to a a bunch of different agencies 313 00:18:52,966 --> 00:18:56,302 multiple times, like, up to, like 20 times for some of them. 314 00:18:56,302 --> 00:18:58,972 They told me not to expect to be as successful as any of 315 00:18:58,972 --> 00:19:01,432 the, like, white women there or the Asian women there. 316 00:19:01,432 --> 00:19:04,227 They see Black women as like, kind of like, alien. 317 00:19:04,227 --> 00:19:06,604 Like, they're just like, "Who would ever desire you?" 318 00:19:06,604 --> 00:19:10,108 Or like, "We don't know to get people to, like, come book you." 319 00:19:10,108 --> 00:19:13,444 As someone who is mixed race and spent a lot of their time 320 00:19:13,444 --> 00:19:16,281 being told that I am barely Black to begin with, 321 00:19:16,281 --> 00:19:19,742 to walk into a strip club and face this, sort of, 322 00:19:19,742 --> 00:19:23,121 1970s style racism where I am told verbatim 323 00:19:23,121 --> 00:19:26,749 that I am too fat and too Black to work in an establishment 324 00:19:26,749 --> 00:19:28,418 blew me away. 325 00:19:28,418 --> 00:19:31,087 Walking into a change room and seeing that sign on the wall 326 00:19:31,087 --> 00:19:33,381 that just said "No braids, no buns, no Afros." 327 00:19:33,381 --> 00:19:35,967 And the only thing more offensive than that sign 328 00:19:35,967 --> 00:19:38,887 is the fact that it wasn't actually a rule for everyone, 329 00:19:38,887 --> 00:19:40,388 - it was a rule for Black women. - Yeah, 330 00:19:40,388 --> 00:19:43,808 I have never had trouble making money in a club 331 00:19:43,808 --> 00:19:45,351 no matter what my hair looks like. 332 00:19:45,351 --> 00:19:48,021 Customers love the hair, they love the beads, 333 00:19:48,021 --> 00:19:50,356 they love the dreads, they love the locs. 334 00:19:50,356 --> 00:19:52,025 It's managers. 335 00:19:52,025 --> 00:19:55,612 Andrea: We'll get into strip club managers later. 336 00:19:55,612 --> 00:19:57,739 And now, back to escorting. 337 00:19:59,490 --> 00:20:02,327 Western-style narration: And so, Mary Ann kept on whoring. 338 00:20:02,327 --> 00:20:06,789 Lucky lads across the Greater Toronto Area 339 00:20:06,789 --> 00:20:10,960 met the cutest little gal they'd ever seen. 340 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:12,629 And boy... 341 00:20:12,629 --> 00:20:15,215 ...Could that cowgirl ride! 342 00:20:18,468 --> 00:20:21,721 Soon, I had regulars 343 00:20:21,721 --> 00:20:23,890 who booked me regularly. 344 00:20:23,890 --> 00:20:25,808 Mmm. Mary Ann. That's very good. 345 00:20:25,808 --> 00:20:27,727 Mr. McAllister was an English teacher 346 00:20:27,727 --> 00:20:29,687 and a writer in his spare time. 347 00:20:29,687 --> 00:20:32,690 I really like it when you do that. 348 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:38,279 We always had quick sex off the top. 349 00:20:38,279 --> 00:20:41,115 All the character development leads to the inevitable... 350 00:20:41,115 --> 00:20:43,076 Followed by talking about our shared love 351 00:20:43,076 --> 00:20:46,454 of crafting stories. Occasionally, he blurted-- 352 00:20:46,454 --> 00:20:49,165 I'm a lonely man, Mary Ann. 353 00:20:49,165 --> 00:20:51,501 A lonely... 354 00:20:51,501 --> 00:20:53,419 ...lonely man. 355 00:20:55,922 --> 00:20:58,967 Which, over time, became... 356 00:20:58,967 --> 00:21:03,429 I feel like you're my girlfriend, Mary Ann. 357 00:21:04,681 --> 00:21:07,433 I am like your girlfriend. 358 00:21:13,147 --> 00:21:15,775 I prefer new clients to regulars. 359 00:21:15,775 --> 00:21:17,402 People kind of like, fall in love 360 00:21:17,402 --> 00:21:19,237 or think they're falling in love and then suddenly, 361 00:21:19,237 --> 00:21:21,239 they are like, "What about this money? 362 00:21:21,239 --> 00:21:23,032 "Can we, like, throw it away?" 363 00:21:23,032 --> 00:21:24,534 And it's like, that's not the point of this. 364 00:21:24,534 --> 00:21:28,538 Yes, a regular is great until they get possessive. 365 00:21:28,538 --> 00:21:31,875 But they always do! I'm sorry, it always ends like that, right. 366 00:21:31,875 --> 00:21:33,126 Yeah. 367 00:21:33,126 --> 00:21:34,544 Don't be so good at your job, then! 368 00:21:34,544 --> 00:21:35,878 Well... 369 00:21:35,878 --> 00:21:39,048 I definitely broke the number one rule. 370 00:21:39,048 --> 00:21:43,303 I ended up dating my very first client. 371 00:21:43,303 --> 00:21:47,056 And, uh, we're not-- we're not together, 372 00:21:47,056 --> 00:21:49,267 so, probably made the wrong choice there. 373 00:21:49,267 --> 00:21:51,227 It's such an intimate thing. 374 00:21:51,227 --> 00:21:53,438 It's such an intimate booking. 375 00:21:53,438 --> 00:21:57,192 It would be crazy to think that people don't get attached. 376 00:21:57,192 --> 00:22:00,737 That people feel a deep emotional connection. 377 00:22:00,737 --> 00:22:03,031 Personally, I like regulars. 378 00:22:03,031 --> 00:22:05,783 My preference is to have long-term relationships 379 00:22:05,783 --> 00:22:08,245 with my clientele. 380 00:22:08,245 --> 00:22:10,247 For me, it comes down to whether 381 00:22:10,247 --> 00:22:12,249 a clientrespects your boundaries. 382 00:22:12,249 --> 00:22:15,961 We've established that clients can lie to our faces. 383 00:22:15,961 --> 00:22:18,922 But how do they behave beyond the appointment? 384 00:22:27,055 --> 00:22:30,267 Sex worker review boards are the domain of hobbyists, 385 00:22:30,267 --> 00:22:33,645 that is, men whose hobby is paying for sex 386 00:22:33,645 --> 00:22:35,105 and writing about it, 387 00:22:35,105 --> 00:22:37,941 employing a variety of colourful acronyms 388 00:22:37,941 --> 00:22:40,485 to degrade sex workers for fun. 389 00:22:41,653 --> 00:22:44,573 So, of course I searched my name. 390 00:22:46,825 --> 00:22:49,286 Client: Mary Ann has a great sex body, 391 00:22:49,286 --> 00:22:53,248 very soft, but firm, if that makes sense. 392 00:22:53,248 --> 00:22:55,792 Client 2: Mary Ann resembled Mary Tyler Moore, 393 00:22:55,792 --> 00:22:58,295 but with slightly bigger boobs. 394 00:22:58,295 --> 00:23:01,048 Client 3: Mary Ann's legs were not memorable 395 00:23:01,048 --> 00:23:03,842 as they are fairly short. 396 00:23:03,842 --> 00:23:07,429 Andrea: It's hard to describe the feeling of reading someone 397 00:23:07,429 --> 00:23:09,514 write about you 398 00:23:09,514 --> 00:23:12,768 and what it's like to have sex with you. 399 00:23:12,768 --> 00:23:15,354 This was, like, a genre of erotica 400 00:23:15,354 --> 00:23:17,689 that was written by men for men. 401 00:23:17,689 --> 00:23:21,985 A user named Don Juan posted my first review on the board, 402 00:23:21,985 --> 00:23:25,447 which was entitled "Wow." 403 00:23:25,447 --> 00:23:28,784 Handsome Don Juan: I had noticed Mary Ann ever since her photos 404 00:23:28,784 --> 00:23:33,705 went up on the Sirens site. My first impression was "Wow." 405 00:23:33,705 --> 00:23:36,708 I would estimate her figure at five foot five, 406 00:23:36,708 --> 00:23:40,712 120 pounds, 34D-24-35. 407 00:23:41,838 --> 00:23:44,633 We started with LFK. 408 00:23:44,633 --> 00:23:48,470 I was gently massaging her breasts when she said... 409 00:23:50,055 --> 00:23:52,683 You intrigue me. 410 00:23:52,683 --> 00:23:55,227 Why, baby? 411 00:23:55,227 --> 00:23:59,398 Most guys want to take a look before they feel. 412 00:23:59,398 --> 00:24:02,901 Andrea: I remember things a little differently. 413 00:24:02,901 --> 00:24:06,363 Don Juan told me he was a plastic surgeon from Florida. 414 00:24:06,363 --> 00:24:09,241 I went to school with Barack Obama, baby. 415 00:24:09,241 --> 00:24:11,201 What do you think of that? 416 00:24:11,201 --> 00:24:15,080 My duty was to act impressed, not to sniff out facts. 417 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:18,208 I suspected the plastic surgeon thing to be true 418 00:24:18,208 --> 00:24:21,128 because Don Juan had a technical fascination 419 00:24:21,128 --> 00:24:22,629 with my breasts. 420 00:24:22,629 --> 00:24:24,047 I don't believe it, baby. 421 00:24:24,047 --> 00:24:27,718 These are too good to be real. 422 00:24:27,718 --> 00:24:31,722 Then we progressed to DFK. 423 00:24:31,722 --> 00:24:33,515 My tongue in her mouth... 424 00:24:33,515 --> 00:24:35,142 Handsome Don Juan: Her tongue in mine... 425 00:24:35,142 --> 00:24:37,728 Our tongues meeting outside of our mouths. 426 00:24:41,273 --> 00:24:45,527 - Hungrily. - Passionately. 427 00:24:46,862 --> 00:24:51,575 It did get her wet. 428 00:24:51,575 --> 00:24:54,286 Real Don Juan: Then she took me into her mouth. 429 00:24:54,286 --> 00:24:56,288 I propped myself up... 430 00:24:56,288 --> 00:24:58,499 Handsome Don Juan: On some pillows to get a better look. 431 00:24:58,499 --> 00:25:02,127 She told me that she wanted to taste me. 432 00:25:02,127 --> 00:25:05,130 Okay, I definitely did not say that, okay? 433 00:25:05,130 --> 00:25:07,090 I didn't say any of this! 434 00:25:07,090 --> 00:25:08,800 Cut, cut, cut, cut. 435 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,385 All right, darling, you're doing great, you're doing fabulous. 436 00:25:10,385 --> 00:25:13,805 However, that's not the line. The line is... 437 00:25:13,805 --> 00:25:15,766 "I want to taste you, 438 00:25:15,766 --> 00:25:18,310 "I want to taste you." 439 00:25:18,310 --> 00:25:21,521 You know, pretend you're eating a, uh, portobello mushroom, 440 00:25:21,521 --> 00:25:23,816 you know, and it's in your mouth, and you can taste it, 441 00:25:23,816 --> 00:25:25,400 and it's swirling around in there. 442 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,611 And then you just enjoy it all. All right, you got it? 443 00:25:27,611 --> 00:25:29,738 Good. Great. Action! 444 00:25:33,492 --> 00:25:37,246 I want to taste you. 445 00:25:38,330 --> 00:25:39,706 Yes! 446 00:25:39,706 --> 00:25:41,917 Handsome Don Juan: We finished with a mind-blowing... 447 00:25:41,917 --> 00:25:43,585 Real Don Juan: CIM? 448 00:25:43,585 --> 00:25:46,004 No. COF? Hmm. 449 00:25:46,004 --> 00:25:47,881 I'm not sure which. 450 00:25:47,881 --> 00:25:49,591 And I really didn't care. 451 00:25:49,591 --> 00:25:52,135 Handsome Don Juan: Whatever it was that Mary Ann did, 452 00:25:52,135 --> 00:25:53,887 oh, baby. 453 00:25:53,887 --> 00:25:57,599 Oh-ho-ho. It was fabulous. 454 00:26:04,273 --> 00:26:07,651 Everything that he says that the did and that he said 455 00:26:07,651 --> 00:26:09,444 just didn't happen. 456 00:26:09,444 --> 00:26:11,238 What do you guys think about reviews? 457 00:26:11,238 --> 00:26:13,782 I don't get to review them. 458 00:26:13,782 --> 00:26:17,369 I needed one review and that launched me. 459 00:26:17,369 --> 00:26:18,620 Mm-hmm. 460 00:26:18,620 --> 00:26:20,706 It can really make or break your career. 461 00:26:20,706 --> 00:26:22,708 The dark side of reviews is that they are definitely 462 00:26:22,708 --> 00:26:25,919 a form of coercion. Clients will take the threat of a bad review 463 00:26:25,919 --> 00:26:27,504 and use it to push your boundaries. 464 00:26:27,504 --> 00:26:29,381 There's, like, so much pressure, 465 00:26:29,381 --> 00:26:31,383 and you feel like you have to consent to everything, and... 466 00:26:31,383 --> 00:26:35,512 It feels like being a product in an Amazon review. 467 00:26:35,512 --> 00:26:37,639 - It's definitely violating. - Yeah. 468 00:26:37,639 --> 00:26:39,850 Andrea: Reviews taught me that sex work is more 469 00:26:39,850 --> 00:26:42,769 than just what happens behind closed doors. 470 00:26:47,649 --> 00:26:52,821 There was something fun about performing this role for people. 471 00:26:54,698 --> 00:26:56,700 And then going back into my regular life. 472 00:26:56,700 --> 00:27:00,704 Mary Ann was me, but obviously heightened 473 00:27:00,704 --> 00:27:03,874 and more curious and more adventurous. 474 00:27:03,874 --> 00:27:06,168 It was sexy, it was sexy 475 00:27:06,168 --> 00:27:09,213 to have this little juicy secret. 476 00:27:22,935 --> 00:27:24,686 My secret life was fun until... 477 00:27:24,686 --> 00:27:27,397 Hey, baby! 478 00:27:27,397 --> 00:27:31,068 Yeah, baby! You lookin' good to me. 479 00:27:31,068 --> 00:27:33,820 Oh, yeah! 480 00:27:34,988 --> 00:27:37,199 Stupid ugly bitch. 481 00:27:37,199 --> 00:27:40,786 Until shame crept in. 482 00:27:43,247 --> 00:27:45,457 There's two sides to a secret. 483 00:27:45,457 --> 00:27:49,378 It can be incredibly emotionally taxing 484 00:27:49,378 --> 00:27:52,214 to hide from people, 485 00:27:52,214 --> 00:27:53,715 especially the people you love. 486 00:27:53,715 --> 00:27:57,928 We all have this internalized whorephobia within us. 487 00:27:57,928 --> 00:28:01,223 This is a prejudice that is, you know, 2,000 years old. 488 00:28:01,223 --> 00:28:04,560 This is nothing new. We are all born out of 489 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,813 this whorephobic muck. And I have it too. 490 00:28:07,813 --> 00:28:10,983 The shame that I felt wasn't in the act. 491 00:28:10,983 --> 00:28:14,403 {\an8}It was the shame of others, and it was inside me, 492 00:28:14,403 --> 00:28:17,281 {\an8}and I could hear its voice, and it was awful. 493 00:28:17,281 --> 00:28:18,949 You think you're so great, huh? 494 00:28:18,949 --> 00:28:21,410 Making all that easy money. 495 00:28:21,410 --> 00:28:23,954 Shame believes that sex workers are lazy. 496 00:28:28,750 --> 00:28:30,836 And disgusting. 497 00:28:30,836 --> 00:28:35,424 What is the difference between a Corvette and a dead hooker? 498 00:28:35,424 --> 00:28:37,426 Shame likes dead hooker jokes. 499 00:28:37,426 --> 00:28:39,678 I don't have a Corvette in my garage! 500 00:28:39,678 --> 00:28:41,305 You're nothing 501 00:28:41,305 --> 00:28:44,141 but a dirty, stinky... 502 00:28:44,141 --> 00:28:46,685 Shame tries to make me hate myself. 503 00:28:46,685 --> 00:28:50,105 Trash whore! 504 00:28:51,606 --> 00:28:54,026 Shame makes you lonely. Like, it really does. 505 00:28:54,026 --> 00:28:56,445 And it's also, like, shame goes hand in hand with fear, too. 506 00:28:56,445 --> 00:28:58,196 That's the thing. It's like, I don't disclose, 507 00:28:58,196 --> 00:29:00,115 or I didn't use to disclose because I don't know 508 00:29:00,115 --> 00:29:01,783 what's gonna happen to me if I do. 509 00:29:01,783 --> 00:29:04,619 During the pandemic, I had to stop full-service sex work 510 00:29:04,619 --> 00:29:07,039 and so I was thinking about creating an OnlyFans, 511 00:29:07,039 --> 00:29:09,833 but I was like, super stressed out because 512 00:29:09,833 --> 00:29:11,501 if I have nudes on the internet, 513 00:29:11,501 --> 00:29:13,712 could that make it impossible for me to, like, 514 00:29:13,712 --> 00:29:18,216 adopt a child, or just pivot and like, teach? 515 00:29:18,216 --> 00:29:20,385 I feel like it's not so much that sex work itself 516 00:29:20,385 --> 00:29:22,846 oppresses me, but like, the stigma that follows it, 517 00:29:22,846 --> 00:29:25,349 um, is like, always a threat. 518 00:29:25,349 --> 00:29:30,020 I have never been very good at hiding. 519 00:29:30,020 --> 00:29:31,855 But I understand that there are risks, 520 00:29:31,855 --> 00:29:34,524 and so I continued to hide, 521 00:29:34,524 --> 00:29:37,194 and it took a great toll on me. 522 00:29:37,194 --> 00:29:41,406 Especially when it came to... 523 00:29:41,406 --> 00:29:42,949 My mom. 524 00:29:45,327 --> 00:29:48,497 You probably never expected we'd be here. 525 00:29:48,497 --> 00:29:50,082 Um, well, 526 00:29:50,082 --> 00:29:53,377 I wouldn't say it's beyond my imagination. 527 00:29:53,377 --> 00:29:55,837 You were always a free spirit. 528 00:29:55,837 --> 00:29:58,757 And I respect that. 529 00:29:59,758 --> 00:30:01,551 I learned from the best. 530 00:30:04,388 --> 00:30:06,056 No, you're more free, 531 00:30:06,056 --> 00:30:08,600 more free than I ever was, 532 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,852 but I'm free in a different way. 533 00:30:10,852 --> 00:30:14,106 Ooh. In what way? 534 00:30:14,106 --> 00:30:16,358 No. This is about you. 535 00:30:16,358 --> 00:30:17,734 It's not about me. 536 00:30:17,734 --> 00:30:19,903 - We were always very close. - Mm-hmm. 537 00:30:19,903 --> 00:30:22,406 - At least I always felt. - Oh, definitely. 538 00:30:22,406 --> 00:30:24,282 Andrea: Yeah. Like, I felt 539 00:30:24,282 --> 00:30:27,411 like I could always be myself around you. 540 00:30:27,411 --> 00:30:29,413 We could always joke around about stuff. 541 00:30:29,413 --> 00:30:30,831 Right. I don't think 542 00:30:30,831 --> 00:30:32,541 there was ever anything we didn't talk about. 543 00:30:32,541 --> 00:30:33,959 That's right, and so, 544 00:30:33,959 --> 00:30:37,713 when it came to doing sex work, 545 00:30:37,713 --> 00:30:39,548 that was the first time in my life 546 00:30:39,548 --> 00:30:43,260 that I really felt like I was keeping a secret from you, 547 00:30:43,260 --> 00:30:47,556 and that was really, really hard for me to do. 548 00:30:48,473 --> 00:30:50,642 My mom is a beautiful angel, 549 00:30:50,642 --> 00:30:53,937 and she's also a very religious person. 550 00:30:53,937 --> 00:30:55,814 She's a Catholic. 551 00:30:55,814 --> 00:30:58,150 There were always pictures 552 00:30:58,150 --> 00:31:02,654 of the Virgin Mary around in my childhood. 553 00:31:02,654 --> 00:31:05,949 I like to joke that she venerates a virgin mother 554 00:31:05,949 --> 00:31:08,410 so she got a whore daughter. 555 00:31:08,410 --> 00:31:10,328 No parent is like, 556 00:31:10,328 --> 00:31:12,998 "I want my kid to become a sex worker!" 557 00:31:12,998 --> 00:31:16,626 It's, like, kind of a nightmare scenario for a parent, right? 558 00:31:19,296 --> 00:31:22,507 I would say you were pretty devastated. 559 00:31:22,507 --> 00:31:24,760 Mm-hmm. Well, I was happy for you 560 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:28,430 that you were not carrying that burden anymore. 561 00:31:28,430 --> 00:31:31,308 You know, you had been set free. 562 00:31:31,308 --> 00:31:33,143 So, I can deal with that. 563 00:31:33,143 --> 00:31:34,478 I can deal with truth. 564 00:31:34,478 --> 00:31:36,021 That's not a problem, 565 00:31:36,021 --> 00:31:39,983 but I do remember not sleeping for about three nights. 566 00:31:39,983 --> 00:31:41,234 You did call me in the middle 567 00:31:41,234 --> 00:31:42,569 - of the night-- - Mm-hmm. 568 00:31:42,569 --> 00:31:43,820 you know, during those first three nights, 569 00:31:43,820 --> 00:31:46,114 and you were concerned about my safety. 570 00:31:46,114 --> 00:31:48,784 Right, and your soul. 571 00:31:50,327 --> 00:31:51,745 And my soul. 572 00:31:59,169 --> 00:32:02,547 En route to our respective appointments with a co-whore, 573 00:32:02,547 --> 00:32:05,717 I mentioned my most regular client, Walter Wack. 574 00:32:05,717 --> 00:32:06,927 He's the worst. 575 00:32:06,927 --> 00:32:08,553 Oh, my God. I know. 576 00:32:08,553 --> 00:32:10,514 He's so rough with me. 577 00:32:10,514 --> 00:32:13,350 Yeah. He does this thing where he, like, crunches me up, 578 00:32:13,350 --> 00:32:14,976 and it really hurts my hips. 579 00:32:14,976 --> 00:32:17,354 Yeah, well, he fists me, 580 00:32:17,354 --> 00:32:19,106 and he's rough. 581 00:32:19,106 --> 00:32:20,899 Okay. He's definitely never fisted me. 582 00:32:20,899 --> 00:32:23,485 And he calls me a dirty, stinky cum bucket trash whore. 583 00:32:23,485 --> 00:32:25,904 You name it. Weird guy. 584 00:32:25,904 --> 00:32:28,365 Okay. He's only ever called me nice things. 585 00:32:28,365 --> 00:32:30,742 Well, I guess he likes you. 586 00:32:30,742 --> 00:32:32,160 Violet. 587 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,121 Andrea: I was one of many escorts who saw Walter. 588 00:32:34,121 --> 00:32:35,122 Sarah. 589 00:32:35,122 --> 00:32:36,123 Addison. 590 00:32:36,123 --> 00:32:37,332 Rebecca. 591 00:32:37,332 --> 00:32:39,042 Uh, Andrea. 592 00:32:39,042 --> 00:32:41,545 I mean Mary Ann! 593 00:32:41,545 --> 00:32:45,590 Going to Walter Wack's place was, like, Groundhog Day, 594 00:32:45,590 --> 00:32:47,676 because it was always the same. 595 00:32:47,676 --> 00:32:49,761 His door would be ajar. 596 00:32:49,761 --> 00:32:52,389 He'd yell from the shower, "Come on in!" 597 00:32:52,389 --> 00:32:54,349 There'd be a boom box on the floor 598 00:32:54,349 --> 00:32:55,559 playing the same music. 599 00:32:55,559 --> 00:32:58,687 I always entered on the same song. 600 00:32:58,687 --> 00:33:03,442 I would undress and wait for him to emerge. 601 00:33:03,442 --> 00:33:05,068 We'd have the same sex every time. 602 00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:09,114 One evening, he did something unusual. 603 00:33:09,114 --> 00:33:11,533 He booked me twice in one night, 604 00:33:11,533 --> 00:33:15,454 bookending five appointments total, 605 00:33:15,454 --> 00:33:17,873 and by that fifth appointment, 606 00:33:17,873 --> 00:33:20,834 I was pretty sore. 607 00:33:20,834 --> 00:33:23,462 Walter was doing his usual plow, 608 00:33:23,462 --> 00:33:25,756 crunching up my hips. 609 00:33:25,756 --> 00:33:28,050 I was in pain, 610 00:33:28,050 --> 00:33:29,384 trying to be a trooper, 611 00:33:29,384 --> 00:33:30,969 get to the end, 612 00:33:30,969 --> 00:33:35,057 but finally, I felt like it was necessary 613 00:33:35,057 --> 00:33:36,933 to say something to him. 614 00:33:36,933 --> 00:33:39,061 And I was kind of scared to say something to him, 615 00:33:39,061 --> 00:33:43,774 because... it meant going off script. 616 00:33:45,484 --> 00:33:47,736 But I said, 617 00:33:47,736 --> 00:33:50,655 "Walter, you're my fifth appointment of the night, 618 00:33:50,655 --> 00:33:52,449 and it kind of hurts." 619 00:33:55,452 --> 00:33:57,871 And he said... 620 00:33:59,998 --> 00:34:01,958 "That just makes me want to fuck you harder." 621 00:34:04,795 --> 00:34:05,962 And so he did. 622 00:34:08,340 --> 00:34:10,759 Ten minutes of torture left. 623 00:34:10,759 --> 00:34:14,471 He called me every horrible name he'd called Sarah, 624 00:34:14,471 --> 00:34:16,848 but I was afraid to leave. 625 00:34:16,848 --> 00:34:19,851 You never have to see him again. 626 00:34:19,851 --> 00:34:21,936 Andrea: Walter was blacklisted... 627 00:34:21,936 --> 00:34:25,315 for me, not for the other girls. 628 00:34:25,315 --> 00:34:27,400 If someone has had a client blacklisted, 629 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:28,818 then there should be transparency 630 00:34:28,818 --> 00:34:30,654 so that everyone at the agency can choose 631 00:34:30,654 --> 00:34:32,656 whether they want to see that person or not. 632 00:34:32,656 --> 00:34:34,324 These guys, they're repeat offenders. 633 00:34:34,324 --> 00:34:37,118 They eventually do the same thing to every single one of us, 634 00:34:37,118 --> 00:34:39,162 and it's not fair that we don't get to decide 635 00:34:39,162 --> 00:34:40,705 if that happens to us or not. 636 00:34:40,705 --> 00:34:42,582 We're not trying to even punish the predator. 637 00:34:42,582 --> 00:34:44,292 We just want to not see them. 638 00:34:44,292 --> 00:34:46,419 We don't want to have to be prey. Yeah. Like-- 639 00:34:46,419 --> 00:34:48,129 But if, you know, sex work were decriminalized, 640 00:34:48,129 --> 00:34:51,466 we'd actually maybe be able to build a relationship 641 00:34:51,466 --> 00:34:53,718 with law enforcement if that's what we wanted to do. 642 00:34:53,718 --> 00:34:55,470 Or at the very least, labour, you know, sort of rights-- 643 00:34:55,470 --> 00:34:57,472 - Labour. - You know, which involves 644 00:34:57,472 --> 00:34:59,933 workplace safety, and this is a workplace safety issue. 645 00:35:01,643 --> 00:35:04,521 Andrea: Exchanges like this one were rare. 646 00:35:04,521 --> 00:35:07,607 I worked at the same agency as Andrea, 647 00:35:07,607 --> 00:35:09,401 and we never met. 648 00:35:09,401 --> 00:35:12,487 And a part of me thinks it's by design. 649 00:35:12,487 --> 00:35:16,700 We were two opinionated girls. 650 00:35:16,700 --> 00:35:19,869 The conversation would have never stayed surface level. 651 00:35:19,869 --> 00:35:23,331 Having us have too much knowledge 652 00:35:23,331 --> 00:35:28,169 is never a good thing in terms of an agency perspective. 653 00:35:28,169 --> 00:35:29,879 Like, knowledge is power, 654 00:35:29,879 --> 00:35:32,132 and they don't want us to have that kind of power. 655 00:35:34,968 --> 00:35:36,344 Being an escort, 656 00:35:36,344 --> 00:35:40,390 you don't only see people physically naked. 657 00:35:40,390 --> 00:35:42,434 It's emotionally naked. 658 00:35:42,434 --> 00:35:46,479 To find out how much hate and negativity 659 00:35:46,479 --> 00:35:50,233 people carry within themselves, 660 00:35:50,233 --> 00:35:51,401 it affects your soul. 661 00:35:53,028 --> 00:35:56,406 Andrea: We're supposed to keep your secrets, 662 00:35:56,406 --> 00:35:57,824 and that includes the secret 663 00:35:57,824 --> 00:36:01,202 of how you truly behave, you know. 664 00:36:01,202 --> 00:36:03,580 And that's why we experience so much violence from people, 665 00:36:03,580 --> 00:36:05,373 because there's this assumption 666 00:36:05,373 --> 00:36:07,917 that we're not going to tell anyone. 667 00:36:07,917 --> 00:36:09,878 We don't have anyone to turn to. 668 00:36:09,878 --> 00:36:11,379 There's no one to protect us. 669 00:36:15,884 --> 00:36:18,511 My mom was concerned about my safety, 670 00:36:18,511 --> 00:36:20,972 and she was right to be concerned. 671 00:36:22,557 --> 00:36:25,310 On the day that I graduated university, 672 00:36:25,310 --> 00:36:27,562 - we went out to lunch. - Mm-hmm. 673 00:36:27,562 --> 00:36:29,397 We sat down at the table, 674 00:36:29,397 --> 00:36:32,609 and the first thing that you said was, 675 00:36:32,609 --> 00:36:34,277 "When you going to quit that job of yours?" 676 00:36:34,277 --> 00:36:35,528 Right. 677 00:36:35,528 --> 00:36:38,657 And I'm like... ..."Okay. 678 00:36:40,408 --> 00:36:41,576 By my next birthday," 679 00:36:41,576 --> 00:36:43,370 which was a year from then, 680 00:36:43,370 --> 00:36:44,829 and you said... 681 00:36:46,373 --> 00:36:47,749 "I'd like to have that in writing." 682 00:36:47,749 --> 00:36:49,626 Yeah. 683 00:36:49,626 --> 00:36:53,254 Andrea: And so I signed a contract with my mother. 684 00:36:53,254 --> 00:36:54,756 "I, Andrea Werhun, 685 00:36:54,756 --> 00:36:57,592 "vow to stop hooking on my 24th birthday. 686 00:36:57,592 --> 00:36:59,552 You have it in writing." 687 00:36:59,552 --> 00:37:02,097 I had one year of whoring left. 688 00:37:09,270 --> 00:37:10,438 With these appointments, 689 00:37:10,438 --> 00:37:11,690 these hour-long appointments 690 00:37:11,690 --> 00:37:12,857 with people you've never met before, 691 00:37:12,857 --> 00:37:15,652 it's like I'm a comet 692 00:37:15,652 --> 00:37:19,864 entering the stratosphere of somebody else's world, 693 00:37:19,864 --> 00:37:21,992 and then I get to see them naked. 694 00:37:21,992 --> 00:37:23,410 And then I get to have sex with them, 695 00:37:23,410 --> 00:37:24,619 and I get to make them come. 696 00:37:24,619 --> 00:37:26,288 And I, like, hit the Earth, 697 00:37:26,288 --> 00:37:27,998 and I'm gone. And that's it. 698 00:37:27,998 --> 00:37:29,582 You get to the core of a person, 699 00:37:29,582 --> 00:37:31,584 and then you're gone. 700 00:37:31,584 --> 00:37:34,129 There's just, like, something really fascinating 701 00:37:34,129 --> 00:37:37,007 about how close you can get to a person 702 00:37:37,007 --> 00:37:38,633 in such a short period of time 703 00:37:38,633 --> 00:37:40,760 and the level of intimacy that you can feel 704 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,513 with someone you've never met before 705 00:37:43,513 --> 00:37:45,015 and then just be gone. 706 00:37:48,852 --> 00:37:51,479 You know, you have sex with a few hundred clients, 707 00:37:51,479 --> 00:37:53,565 and you start to notice a few patterns. 708 00:37:53,565 --> 00:37:58,320 So I think I could teach a class on sex work. 709 00:37:59,863 --> 00:38:01,364 No matter what you call them-- 710 00:38:01,364 --> 00:38:03,575 clients, johns, tricks-- 711 00:38:03,575 --> 00:38:05,827 the men who pay for sex have a bevy of reasons 712 00:38:05,827 --> 00:38:08,830 for procuring the services of a professional. 713 00:38:08,830 --> 00:38:11,666 {\an8}Take your travelling businessman, for instance, 714 00:38:11,666 --> 00:38:13,627 {\an8}tired and in need of a relaxing, 715 00:38:13,627 --> 00:38:15,337 {\an8}no-strings-attached fu-- 716 00:38:16,630 --> 00:38:18,381 {\an8}However, many of our clients 717 00:38:18,381 --> 00:38:20,008 {\an8}are very much attached. 718 00:38:21,301 --> 00:38:22,844 {\an8}Shocking, I know. 719 00:38:22,844 --> 00:38:24,429 {\an8}Here's a line I often heard. 720 00:38:24,429 --> 00:38:26,181 {\an8}I'm just paying you for a service. 721 00:38:26,181 --> 00:38:27,515 {\an8}It's not like we're having 722 00:38:27,515 --> 00:38:29,434 {\an8}a passionate affair or anything. 723 00:38:29,434 --> 00:38:31,102 {\an8}Then why not tell your wife? 724 00:38:32,395 --> 00:38:34,898 {\an8}Having a wife is too good a deal 725 00:38:34,898 --> 00:38:36,399 {\an8}to screw up with a truth bomb like, 726 00:38:36,399 --> 00:38:38,860 {\an8}"When I tell you I'm staying late at the office, 727 00:38:38,860 --> 00:38:41,071 {\an8}"I'm really doing lines of coke 728 00:38:41,071 --> 00:38:43,657 {\an8}with an escort in a motel room off the highway." 729 00:38:44,866 --> 00:38:46,701 {\an8}Perhaps I seem like some kind 730 00:38:46,701 --> 00:38:49,371 {\an8}of husband-humping femme fatale, 731 00:38:49,371 --> 00:38:51,706 {\an8}the heartless, scheming villain 732 00:38:51,706 --> 00:38:53,083 {\an8}of the story, 733 00:38:53,083 --> 00:38:54,834 {\an8}but my madam would always say... 734 00:38:54,834 --> 00:38:57,170 {\an8}I think we save marriages. 735 00:38:57,170 --> 00:38:59,047 {\an8}It's safer for men to see an escort 736 00:38:59,047 --> 00:39:02,592 {\an8}than have an affair with the secretary at the office. 737 00:39:02,592 --> 00:39:03,802 {\an8}It's a lot less mess. 738 00:39:06,596 --> 00:39:07,722 But-- 739 00:39:07,722 --> 00:39:09,099 Enough about them. 740 00:39:09,099 --> 00:39:10,850 How about our clients with disabilities? 741 00:39:10,850 --> 00:39:13,937 My client Paul was a favourite of mine. 742 00:39:13,937 --> 00:39:16,189 His legs may have been paralyzed, 743 00:39:16,189 --> 00:39:17,774 but my word, 744 00:39:17,774 --> 00:39:21,403 that tongue was limber. 745 00:39:21,403 --> 00:39:22,570 {\an8}And of course, 746 00:39:22,570 --> 00:39:23,738 {\an8}the lazy bachelor, 747 00:39:23,738 --> 00:39:25,991 {\an8}sometimes too lazy. 748 00:39:27,534 --> 00:39:29,619 {\an8}Do you watch hockey? 749 00:39:29,619 --> 00:39:30,829 {\an8}Sort of. 750 00:39:30,829 --> 00:39:32,872 I see you're a big fan. 751 00:39:32,872 --> 00:39:35,542 Oh, yeah, ever since I was a kid. 752 00:39:35,542 --> 00:39:37,627 How old are you? 753 00:39:37,627 --> 00:39:39,212 - Why don't you guess? - Twenty-seven? 754 00:39:42,549 --> 00:39:44,009 I'm older. 755 00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:47,137 Andrea: A whiff of his dick 756 00:39:47,137 --> 00:39:49,764 conveyed notes of cheese and black mold. 757 00:39:50,932 --> 00:39:53,101 Why didn't I ask Gus to hit the showers? 758 00:39:53,101 --> 00:39:56,771 Why did I let his curdled cheese string into my mouth? 759 00:39:56,771 --> 00:39:58,523 Man: We've got Mary Ann in the head zone. 760 00:39:58,523 --> 00:40:00,609 She appears to be struggling, Bob. 761 00:40:00,609 --> 00:40:01,901 She sure is, Tim. 762 00:40:01,901 --> 00:40:03,778 And the blow job 763 00:40:03,778 --> 00:40:05,655 comes to an end. 764 00:40:05,655 --> 00:40:07,616 - Is that it? - Mary Ann is now going 765 00:40:07,616 --> 00:40:08,950 into the cowgirl position. 766 00:40:08,950 --> 00:40:10,827 Oh! And it looks like Gus has got 767 00:40:10,827 --> 00:40:12,495 some stubble going on down there. 768 00:40:12,495 --> 00:40:15,999 It must be scraping the shit out of her you-know-what, Bob. 769 00:40:15,999 --> 00:40:19,627 Mary Ann is determined to ride this john through the pain. 770 00:40:19,627 --> 00:40:21,838 - Wow. - She is working for the money 771 00:40:21,838 --> 00:40:24,049 - tonight, boys. - Mary Ann is dismounting. 772 00:40:24,049 --> 00:40:25,425 - Your turn. - Bob: And it looks 773 00:40:25,425 --> 00:40:28,845 like Gus is remaining in the reclined position. 774 00:40:28,845 --> 00:40:30,347 He's going soft. 775 00:40:31,973 --> 00:40:34,309 Mary Ann's got her hand on the stick. 776 00:40:36,478 --> 00:40:37,937 He shoots! 777 00:40:37,937 --> 00:40:41,274 She scores! Mary Ann has done it again, 778 00:40:41,274 --> 00:40:42,776 proving why she's one of the most valuable escorts. 779 00:40:44,361 --> 00:40:46,613 Yes! Yes! 780 00:40:46,613 --> 00:40:51,159 And finally, there are the heartbroken newly single men 781 00:40:51,159 --> 00:40:53,578 in need of a bosom to cry on. 782 00:40:54,704 --> 00:40:56,164 {\an8}I don't want to play games. 783 00:40:57,958 --> 00:41:01,378 {\an8}I just want sex. 784 00:41:01,378 --> 00:41:03,004 {\an8}Andrea: I heard that Jeremy had seen 785 00:41:03,004 --> 00:41:04,381 {\an8}every escort at the agency but me. 786 00:41:04,381 --> 00:41:06,716 Excuse me. What? 787 00:41:06,716 --> 00:41:08,176 Andrea: He was a typical finance guy-- 788 00:41:08,176 --> 00:41:09,928 You got to be kidding me! 789 00:41:09,928 --> 00:41:11,930 Andrea: Drunk, volatile, loves hookers. 790 00:41:11,930 --> 00:41:13,098 Is he always like that? 791 00:41:13,098 --> 00:41:15,141 Jeremy: Oh, for fuck's sake! 792 00:41:15,141 --> 00:41:16,601 For as long as I've known him. 793 00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:21,898 Jeremy was legendary for his multi-hour appointments. 794 00:41:21,898 --> 00:41:24,734 My co-whore Violet held the record-- 795 00:41:24,734 --> 00:41:26,903 36 hours. 796 00:41:26,903 --> 00:41:28,446 When she finally had to go, 797 00:41:28,446 --> 00:41:31,408 she was promptly replaced by another girl, 798 00:41:31,408 --> 00:41:34,703 and now, it was my turn to get to know the legend. 799 00:41:34,703 --> 00:41:36,246 What's your sign? 800 00:41:36,246 --> 00:41:37,455 Scorpio. 801 00:41:39,290 --> 00:41:40,542 Me too! 802 00:41:40,542 --> 00:41:42,419 Andrea: We had a lot in common. 803 00:41:42,419 --> 00:41:44,504 Around the five-hour mark, I asked... 804 00:41:44,504 --> 00:41:46,381 So, do you have any children? 805 00:41:48,008 --> 00:41:50,343 Jeremy: My kid's birthday party. 806 00:41:50,343 --> 00:41:52,554 Drunk here. 807 00:41:52,554 --> 00:41:54,514 Really drunk in this one. 808 00:41:57,934 --> 00:42:00,228 That stupid fucking bitch! 809 00:42:01,939 --> 00:42:03,982 She's ruined my life! 810 00:42:03,982 --> 00:42:06,985 - Everything's gone! - Okay. 811 00:42:06,985 --> 00:42:08,153 - It's ruined! - Okay. 812 00:42:08,153 --> 00:42:12,574 Jeremy, you are a Scorpio, remember? 813 00:42:12,574 --> 00:42:14,993 And Scorpios are ruled by Pluto. 814 00:42:14,993 --> 00:42:17,162 That's the planet of transformation, 815 00:42:17,162 --> 00:42:19,540 of life and death and rebirth. 816 00:42:19,540 --> 00:42:24,169 If anyone could change their life, 817 00:42:24,169 --> 00:42:25,545 it's you. 818 00:42:25,545 --> 00:42:28,507 Though sex workers aren't officially therapists, 819 00:42:28,507 --> 00:42:30,008 we try our best. 820 00:42:31,551 --> 00:42:33,011 Let's do some coke. 821 00:42:38,308 --> 00:42:41,270 Andrea: There's a certain suspension of reality 822 00:42:41,270 --> 00:42:43,939 in the time an escort and her john share. 823 00:42:47,693 --> 00:42:50,195 The time allotted is a sacred space 824 00:42:50,195 --> 00:42:51,989 in which both parties feel free 825 00:42:51,989 --> 00:42:55,075 to be themselves without judgment. 826 00:42:56,493 --> 00:42:57,494 What do you like? 827 00:42:57,494 --> 00:42:58,829 Andrea: I like sex. 828 00:43:00,289 --> 00:43:01,707 Jeremy: I don't know about that. 829 00:43:01,707 --> 00:43:03,417 Andrea: Oh, no! 830 00:43:06,837 --> 00:43:09,756 Jeremy demanded I cuddle him all night. 831 00:43:09,756 --> 00:43:11,383 Paid to sleep? 832 00:43:11,383 --> 00:43:13,427 A sex worker's dream. 833 00:43:17,556 --> 00:43:18,807 Man: Mary Ann. 834 00:43:21,310 --> 00:43:22,519 Mary Ann. 835 00:43:23,729 --> 00:43:26,732 Mary Ann, that's very good. 836 00:43:26,732 --> 00:43:28,108 Andrea: When I told Mr. McAllister 837 00:43:28,108 --> 00:43:29,735 I was leaving the biz, 838 00:43:29,735 --> 00:43:31,945 from the high horse of a john in the arms of a whore, 839 00:43:31,945 --> 00:43:33,322 he said... 840 00:43:33,322 --> 00:43:34,781 You know, Mary Ann, 841 00:43:34,781 --> 00:43:36,783 it'll be hard for you. 842 00:43:36,783 --> 00:43:38,410 Dating, that is, 843 00:43:38,410 --> 00:43:42,414 you know, having worked in this industry. 844 00:43:43,916 --> 00:43:45,375 What makes you say that? 845 00:43:47,044 --> 00:43:51,089 Well, a lot of people don't respect pr... 846 00:43:53,634 --> 00:43:56,386 Men are too jealous. 847 00:43:57,804 --> 00:44:00,682 Men don't respect... 848 00:44:01,683 --> 00:44:02,643 Women like you. 849 00:44:07,981 --> 00:44:10,234 I never told you this, 850 00:44:10,234 --> 00:44:11,693 but I have a boyfriend. 851 00:44:16,907 --> 00:44:18,283 You do? 852 00:44:23,956 --> 00:44:26,792 We have been together for... 853 00:44:26,792 --> 00:44:27,960 Thirteen years. 854 00:44:30,587 --> 00:44:32,547 How did we meet? 855 00:44:32,547 --> 00:44:34,174 Well, we met in university, 856 00:44:34,174 --> 00:44:35,801 last year of university. 857 00:44:35,801 --> 00:44:37,427 You came to a house party at my house. 858 00:44:37,427 --> 00:44:42,057 That was the first time I met you, and yeah. 859 00:44:42,057 --> 00:44:44,810 Then I kind of chased you a little bit 860 00:44:44,810 --> 00:44:46,979 for a few weeks. 861 00:44:46,979 --> 00:44:49,481 I knew, "Okay. This guy's a philosophy major." 862 00:44:50,983 --> 00:44:52,442 "He's got to be pretty bright. 863 00:44:52,442 --> 00:44:55,279 Maybe I'll just take a chance and tell him." 864 00:44:55,279 --> 00:44:57,906 So I said, "I'm an escort," 865 00:44:57,906 --> 00:45:00,534 and you were like, "Cool." 866 00:45:00,534 --> 00:45:03,412 Yeah. 867 00:45:03,412 --> 00:45:05,831 I thought that you were an interesting person. 868 00:45:05,831 --> 00:45:07,165 I did think it was cool. 869 00:45:07,165 --> 00:45:09,918 It was something unique and different, 870 00:45:09,918 --> 00:45:13,338 so I wasn't going to allow that 871 00:45:13,338 --> 00:45:16,425 to affect my interest in you. 872 00:45:17,676 --> 00:45:18,844 So mature. 873 00:45:20,679 --> 00:45:23,015 Why didn't it bother you? 874 00:45:23,015 --> 00:45:25,475 I see sex work as a job. 875 00:45:25,475 --> 00:45:28,770 It's a job where you use your body and you use your mind, 876 00:45:28,770 --> 00:45:30,230 like any other job. 877 00:45:30,230 --> 00:45:32,190 People use all sorts of different body parts 878 00:45:32,190 --> 00:45:33,692 to do their labour, 879 00:45:33,692 --> 00:45:37,070 and we're not concerned about it unless it's sexual. 880 00:45:37,070 --> 00:45:39,364 There's something about sex that-- 881 00:45:39,364 --> 00:45:41,533 I guess because it's so closely tied to love-- 882 00:45:41,533 --> 00:45:43,785 that people feel like it has to be controlled, 883 00:45:43,785 --> 00:45:48,582 you have to possess your partner or own them in some sense, 884 00:45:48,582 --> 00:45:50,918 and that it isn't real love unless you do 885 00:45:50,918 --> 00:45:52,669 or real commitment unless you do. 886 00:45:53,795 --> 00:45:55,714 Hello? 887 00:45:55,714 --> 00:45:57,049 Trina on phone: Time's up. 888 00:45:57,049 --> 00:45:58,508 Okay. Thanks. 889 00:46:09,186 --> 00:46:21,365 ♪ The light shines down the valley ♪ 890 00:46:21,365 --> 00:46:24,284 ♪ The wind blows up the alley ♪ 891 00:46:24,284 --> 00:46:27,371 ♪ Oh and I wish I was lying ♪ 892 00:46:27,371 --> 00:46:30,082 ♪ In the arms of Mary ♪ 893 00:46:33,293 --> 00:46:37,256 ♪ She took the pains of boyhood ♪ 894 00:46:37,256 --> 00:46:40,801 ♪ And turned them into feel good ♪ 895 00:46:40,801 --> 00:46:43,595 ♪ Oh and I wish I was lying ♪ 896 00:46:43,595 --> 00:46:45,764 ♪ In the arms of Mary ♪ 897 00:46:45,764 --> 00:46:50,227 ♪ Mary was the girl who taught me all I had to know ♪ 898 00:46:50,227 --> 00:46:53,730 ♪ She put me right on the first mistake ♪ 899 00:46:53,730 --> 00:46:58,193 ♪ Summer wasn't gone and I learned all she had to show ♪ 900 00:46:58,193 --> 00:47:02,281 ♪ She really gave all a boy could take ♪ 901 00:47:03,657 --> 00:47:05,325 So long, Mary Ann. 902 00:47:23,134 --> 00:47:24,886 The perennial Marygold, 903 00:47:24,886 --> 00:47:26,471 plucked from its dewy bed, 904 00:47:26,471 --> 00:47:29,390 must die, and so did I. 905 00:47:29,390 --> 00:47:33,561 Mary Ann the whore lived, died, and was born again... 906 00:47:33,561 --> 00:47:34,938 on a farm. 907 00:47:39,150 --> 00:47:42,111 I had been working on a farm for a couple seasons 908 00:47:42,111 --> 00:47:44,656 before you came to live with me there. 909 00:47:44,656 --> 00:47:46,950 Andrea: In a way, I went to the farm 910 00:47:46,950 --> 00:47:50,703 to escape my shame, 911 00:47:50,703 --> 00:47:55,124 to prove to myself that I was more than just a prostitute, 912 00:47:55,124 --> 00:47:57,710 but shame was with me. 913 00:47:57,710 --> 00:48:01,214 Hey, saggy titties. 914 00:48:01,214 --> 00:48:03,716 After my second season on the farm, 915 00:48:03,716 --> 00:48:05,927 I needed to stop. 916 00:48:05,927 --> 00:48:07,929 I think you enjoyed it, 917 00:48:07,929 --> 00:48:09,055 but it's not your life. 918 00:48:09,055 --> 00:48:10,556 It's not the life you want, 919 00:48:10,556 --> 00:48:11,557 and that's fine. 920 00:48:11,557 --> 00:48:14,310 - It wasn't exactly my calling. - Yeah. 921 00:48:14,310 --> 00:48:16,187 On top of the physical toll it was taking, 922 00:48:16,187 --> 00:48:18,273 I was not making any money. 923 00:48:18,273 --> 00:48:19,774 I was broke. 924 00:48:19,774 --> 00:48:22,110 Broke? You're a joke. 925 00:48:22,110 --> 00:48:25,446 You're a washed-up whore with no prospects. 926 00:48:25,446 --> 00:48:26,864 What are you gonna do, 927 00:48:26,864 --> 00:48:30,702 put "proficient at blowjobs" on your résumé? 928 00:48:35,456 --> 00:48:39,168 So I decided to become normal. 929 00:48:39,168 --> 00:48:41,254 I moved back to the city 930 00:48:41,254 --> 00:48:43,756 and landed an entry-level nine to five. 931 00:48:43,756 --> 00:48:46,551 I worked during my lunchbreaks, evening overtime, 932 00:48:46,551 --> 00:48:49,929 and still never kept up or did things quite right. 933 00:48:51,097 --> 00:48:52,682 It was hell. 934 00:48:52,682 --> 00:48:56,978 Commuting in rush hour to a job that I hate... 935 00:48:56,978 --> 00:48:58,855 I would rather fuck a stranger. 936 00:49:01,149 --> 00:49:03,401 Rosalie: When you tried a regular job, 937 00:49:03,401 --> 00:49:06,195 you'd come home, and you'd be crying. 938 00:49:06,195 --> 00:49:08,865 Yeah. That's no life. No. 939 00:49:08,865 --> 00:49:12,535 Andrea: So I quit and got a gig as a bike courier. 940 00:49:12,535 --> 00:49:14,245 There was no résumé required, 941 00:49:14,245 --> 00:49:16,623 but there was snow and ice. 942 00:49:16,623 --> 00:49:18,291 I was falling off my bike, 943 00:49:18,291 --> 00:49:20,251 getting my tire caught in sewer grates, 944 00:49:20,251 --> 00:49:22,962 car doors being jut out in front of me, 945 00:49:22,962 --> 00:49:24,339 and so I wondered, 946 00:49:24,339 --> 00:49:26,215 what was more dangerous, 947 00:49:26,215 --> 00:49:28,176 working as a bike courier-- 948 00:49:28,176 --> 00:49:29,636 or as a stripper? 949 00:49:31,220 --> 00:49:34,807 I think, like, work in general is exploitative. 950 00:49:34,807 --> 00:49:36,768 It's hard to be empowered under capitalism 951 00:49:36,768 --> 00:49:39,145 when we're all basically purchasing 952 00:49:39,145 --> 00:49:40,647 our survival. 953 00:49:40,647 --> 00:49:42,482 So, I'm disabled and neuro-divergent, 954 00:49:42,482 --> 00:49:44,567 and sex work was a really good fit for me, 955 00:49:44,567 --> 00:49:47,654 because it allowed me to build a practice 956 00:49:47,654 --> 00:49:50,114 that was specific to my needs. 957 00:49:50,114 --> 00:49:52,367 Sex work, for me, gave me a way 958 00:49:52,367 --> 00:49:54,118 to, like, do more than survive. 959 00:49:54,118 --> 00:49:55,536 It gave me a way to live. 960 00:49:55,536 --> 00:49:57,455 Do you feel like sex work is something 961 00:49:57,455 --> 00:50:00,541 that compliments your artistic practice? 962 00:50:00,541 --> 00:50:02,168 Yeah, definitely. I don't think 963 00:50:02,168 --> 00:50:05,338 that I could be an artist without sex work. 964 00:50:05,338 --> 00:50:07,173 Like, I'm not a nepo baby. 965 00:50:07,173 --> 00:50:08,675 I wish I was. 966 00:50:08,675 --> 00:50:11,511 My artistic skills make a lot of sense in sex work. 967 00:50:11,511 --> 00:50:13,930 Like, it is a performance. 968 00:50:13,930 --> 00:50:15,515 It's gendered performance. 969 00:50:17,517 --> 00:50:20,853 Andrea: I had deliberately worded my agreement with my mom 970 00:50:20,853 --> 00:50:24,649 to refer strictly to hooking. 971 00:50:24,649 --> 00:50:26,109 I left stripping out of it. 972 00:50:28,486 --> 00:50:30,113 Alright. So, you work seven-hour shifts, 973 00:50:30,113 --> 00:50:31,322 minimum three days a week, 974 00:50:31,322 --> 00:50:33,324 three shows per night. 975 00:50:33,324 --> 00:50:35,243 Lap dances are $20 per song. 976 00:50:35,243 --> 00:50:38,871 Champagne room, $400 per hour per girl. 977 00:50:38,871 --> 00:50:42,959 Now, whatever happens in the champagne room... 978 00:50:44,544 --> 00:50:46,546 Stays in the champagne room. 979 00:50:46,546 --> 00:50:48,131 There's a security guard at the entrance there 980 00:50:48,131 --> 00:50:50,466 to keep an eye on the time so there's no discrepancy 981 00:50:50,466 --> 00:50:53,511 with the, uh, song counts, because sometimes-- 982 00:50:53,511 --> 00:50:55,430 rarely here-- 983 00:50:55,430 --> 00:50:56,723 customers, 984 00:50:56,723 --> 00:50:59,809 uh, they try and rip off the dancers. 985 00:51:01,352 --> 00:51:03,104 So-- 986 00:51:03,104 --> 00:51:05,148 you want to start tonight? 987 00:51:05,148 --> 00:51:07,650 Andrea: I texted with Maurice about my stripper name. 988 00:51:11,613 --> 00:51:13,364 {\an8}Sophia means wisdom. 989 00:51:13,364 --> 00:51:14,949 {\an8}The Holy Spirit. 990 00:51:14,949 --> 00:51:16,576 {\an8}The divine feminine. 991 00:51:21,914 --> 00:51:24,751 I'm not the best pole dancer in the world, 992 00:51:24,751 --> 00:51:27,962 so I had to learn how to work my angles. 993 00:51:27,962 --> 00:51:31,049 For me, there is nothing more powerful than nudity, 994 00:51:31,049 --> 00:51:35,553 eye contact, and a smile paired with a few signature moves. 995 00:51:35,553 --> 00:51:37,639 Fireman! 996 00:51:37,639 --> 00:51:41,225 The Twirl 'n' Squat. 997 00:51:41,225 --> 00:51:42,685 The Floater! 998 00:51:43,895 --> 00:51:45,104 And Hollywood. 999 00:51:46,731 --> 00:51:47,941 Oh, and ATC. 1000 00:51:47,941 --> 00:51:49,233 That's ass to crowd! 1001 00:51:49,233 --> 00:51:50,735 Man: Oh, yeah. 1002 00:51:50,735 --> 00:51:53,029 But I wasn't always the professional you see here. 1003 00:51:57,325 --> 00:51:59,494 On my second shift, 1004 00:51:59,494 --> 00:52:01,496 I meet a guy named Bob Abrams. 1005 00:52:01,496 --> 00:52:04,248 He called me over to him, and he said, you know, 1006 00:52:04,248 --> 00:52:05,500 "Sit down and have a drink with me. 1007 00:52:05,500 --> 00:52:06,918 I'll make it worth your while." 1008 00:52:06,918 --> 00:52:10,004 So, what brings you here tonight? 1009 00:52:10,004 --> 00:52:14,467 Man: You are so fucking hot. 1010 00:52:14,467 --> 00:52:16,177 Do you know what it's like having two kids at home? 1011 00:52:16,177 --> 00:52:17,512 Of course you don't. 1012 00:52:17,512 --> 00:52:20,431 Andrea: Yeah. Oh, my. 1013 00:52:20,431 --> 00:52:22,350 I love you. You're fucking awesome. 1014 00:52:23,977 --> 00:52:26,354 Andrea: His wife at home with their newborn, 1015 00:52:26,354 --> 00:52:27,897 Bob Abrams smelled of a man 1016 00:52:27,897 --> 00:52:30,567 who had everything handed to him. 1017 00:52:36,030 --> 00:52:37,615 We got wasted. 1018 00:52:37,615 --> 00:52:40,994 Up in the VIP, I gave Bob a passionate lap dance. 1019 00:52:56,801 --> 00:52:58,261 Bob took his dick out. 1020 00:52:59,554 --> 00:53:01,097 You are so hot. 1021 00:53:02,307 --> 00:53:04,267 Fuck. Let's fuck. 1022 00:53:05,810 --> 00:53:07,312 No. No. 1023 00:53:09,772 --> 00:53:12,066 We finally called it a night at 15 songs. 1024 00:53:13,401 --> 00:53:15,903 He wanted to see me again. 1025 00:53:15,903 --> 00:53:18,740 Bob emailed me to arrange our next meeting. 1026 00:53:18,740 --> 00:53:20,783 More on that later. 1027 00:53:21,993 --> 00:53:24,037 Soon, I had regulars at the strip club, 1028 00:53:24,037 --> 00:53:26,748 and Ron was the cream of the crop. 1029 00:53:29,417 --> 00:53:31,127 Hello, mysterious man. 1030 00:53:32,253 --> 00:53:33,421 Hello, Andrea. 1031 00:53:35,006 --> 00:53:37,800 Andrea: Ron is one of my regulars. 1032 00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,844 He was known at the club by the other dancers 1033 00:53:39,844 --> 00:53:42,180 as being Sophia's guy. 1034 00:53:42,180 --> 00:53:43,931 We'd sit on a couch, 1035 00:53:43,931 --> 00:53:45,600 watch the game, 1036 00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:46,934 eat a burrito. 1037 00:53:46,934 --> 00:53:48,603 All the while, 1038 00:53:48,603 --> 00:53:50,104 baby, I'm being paid. 1039 00:53:50,104 --> 00:53:51,231 It was so good. 1040 00:53:51,231 --> 00:53:52,440 We'd get to the VIP. 1041 00:53:52,440 --> 00:53:53,733 I'd take my shoes off. 1042 00:53:53,733 --> 00:53:55,068 He'd give me a foot rub. 1043 00:53:55,068 --> 00:53:56,653 Ron: You were wearing those ridiculous heels. 1044 00:53:56,653 --> 00:53:58,112 - What do you call them? - Pleasers. 1045 00:53:58,112 --> 00:53:59,864 Ron: Pleasers. Right. And so you were complaining 1046 00:53:59,864 --> 00:54:02,200 about your feet being sore from wearing those all day, 1047 00:54:02,200 --> 00:54:04,369 so I just naturally started giving you a foot rub. 1048 00:54:04,369 --> 00:54:06,704 And that became, like, a regular thing, 1049 00:54:06,704 --> 00:54:08,748 and I took it really seriously, 1050 00:54:08,748 --> 00:54:10,667 because one time, I said, you know, 1051 00:54:10,667 --> 00:54:11,960 "Is this your first foot rub today?" 1052 00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:14,295 And you said, "Well, no." 1053 00:54:14,295 --> 00:54:15,797 So the next day, I went to YouTube 1054 00:54:15,797 --> 00:54:17,757 and started searching how to give foot massages. 1055 00:54:17,757 --> 00:54:19,092 I was like, "I'm going to give you 1056 00:54:19,092 --> 00:54:20,551 a really good foot massage if I can." 1057 00:54:20,551 --> 00:54:23,930 So... I started bringing in the creams, 1058 00:54:23,930 --> 00:54:27,266 you know, getting really, you know, professional about it. 1059 00:54:27,266 --> 00:54:29,560 You are one of the good ones. That is for sure. 1060 00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:31,646 What do you think is the secret 1061 00:54:31,646 --> 00:54:36,526 to the long-term relationship that we have here? 1062 00:54:36,526 --> 00:54:37,819 Ron: You're a good listener as well as having 1063 00:54:37,819 --> 00:54:39,445 a lot of stories to tell, 1064 00:54:39,445 --> 00:54:41,656 and I mean, in seven years, 1065 00:54:41,656 --> 00:54:43,783 I've gone through some major life events. 1066 00:54:43,783 --> 00:54:45,618 And there's been things that I've wanted to talk about 1067 00:54:45,618 --> 00:54:47,745 that I didn't feel comfortable talking about 1068 00:54:47,745 --> 00:54:49,831 to, you know, family or friends. 1069 00:54:49,831 --> 00:54:53,626 Andrea: Ron is an ideal customer in a few ways. 1070 00:54:53,626 --> 00:54:56,879 You know, he understands the context. 1071 00:54:56,879 --> 00:55:00,675 He knows he's going to see you for a set period of time 1072 00:55:00,675 --> 00:55:02,760 for X amount of money, 1073 00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:04,429 and on top of that, 1074 00:55:04,429 --> 00:55:06,347 he's kind. He's respectful. 1075 00:55:06,347 --> 00:55:09,434 Ron: Well, to me, kindness and respect are my core values, 1076 00:55:09,434 --> 00:55:10,852 and I don't really understand-- 1077 00:55:10,852 --> 00:55:13,438 I mean, I've read your stories and heard stories 1078 00:55:13,438 --> 00:55:15,189 about clients who are not that way. 1079 00:55:15,189 --> 00:55:18,067 Andrea: If only all customers could be like Ron. 1080 00:55:20,236 --> 00:55:21,821 I actually really don't even know this guy, 1081 00:55:21,821 --> 00:55:23,740 - if I'm being honest. - Oh, really? 1082 00:55:23,740 --> 00:55:25,825 One night, I was chatting up Stavros, an artist... 1083 00:55:25,825 --> 00:55:28,703 So, yeah. We actually met at an ultimate Frisbee tournament. 1084 00:55:28,703 --> 00:55:31,789 Okay. A couple of nerds. I like that. 1085 00:55:31,789 --> 00:55:34,208 ...and his friend Mark, a doctor. 1086 00:55:34,208 --> 00:55:35,710 Stavros: Pretty much. 1087 00:55:35,710 --> 00:55:38,296 Mark: So, Sophia... 1088 00:55:38,296 --> 00:55:39,756 Who touched you? 1089 00:55:41,549 --> 00:55:43,760 Um, what? 1090 00:55:44,552 --> 00:55:46,054 Who touched you? 1091 00:55:46,054 --> 00:55:48,139 What happened in your childhood to bring you here? 1092 00:55:50,683 --> 00:55:52,226 Andrea: Apparently, Mark would rather examine 1093 00:55:52,226 --> 00:55:54,604 my emotional wounds than my dance moves. 1094 00:55:54,604 --> 00:55:58,233 Um, that's an incredibly inappropriate question. 1095 00:55:58,233 --> 00:55:59,484 Dude. 1096 00:56:00,818 --> 00:56:02,820 Andrea: Asking sex workers 1097 00:56:02,820 --> 00:56:06,824 to divulge previous traumatic experiences, 1098 00:56:06,824 --> 00:56:08,409 that's called trauma porn. 1099 00:56:09,744 --> 00:56:11,829 The questions run the gamut. 1100 00:56:11,829 --> 00:56:13,539 They may seem kind of innocent, 1101 00:56:13,539 --> 00:56:14,999 you know, like... 1102 00:56:16,626 --> 00:56:18,127 Andrea and Max: What was your childhood like? 1103 00:56:19,879 --> 00:56:23,257 Andrea: "What happened along the way to make you this way?" 1104 00:56:24,717 --> 00:56:27,178 "What broke you?" 1105 00:56:27,178 --> 00:56:29,931 You think something's wrong with me 1106 00:56:29,931 --> 00:56:33,559 that I'm doing this for money, 1107 00:56:33,559 --> 00:56:35,311 that I am broken. 1108 00:56:37,939 --> 00:56:40,024 It doesn't make any sense why anyone would feel entitled 1109 00:56:40,024 --> 00:56:41,901 to ask us about our childhoods-- 1110 00:56:41,901 --> 00:56:44,028 - No. None of your business. - Especially in a situation-- 1111 00:56:44,028 --> 00:56:47,031 especially in a situation where we're being hired 1112 00:56:47,031 --> 00:56:48,616 - to be sexy. - Mm. 1113 00:56:48,616 --> 00:56:51,202 Andrea: You know, it suggests that, like, 1114 00:56:51,202 --> 00:56:53,121 our trauma is part of the sex appeal. 1115 00:56:53,121 --> 00:56:55,790 Yeah. Would you ask that of your server? 1116 00:56:55,790 --> 00:56:57,709 You know, would you ask that of, like, your dentist? 1117 00:56:57,709 --> 00:56:59,585 Like, I wouldn't do that. 1118 00:56:59,585 --> 00:57:00,878 I don't have to be a victim, 1119 00:57:00,878 --> 00:57:02,922 but now, I feel like you are victimizing me, 1120 00:57:02,922 --> 00:57:04,340 because you are trying to take things from me 1121 00:57:04,340 --> 00:57:06,217 that I didn't offer to you. You're trying 1122 00:57:06,217 --> 00:57:07,927 to take things from me. You're trying to take, you know, 1123 00:57:07,927 --> 00:57:09,554 my emotional labour. You're trying to elicit-- 1124 00:57:09,554 --> 00:57:11,389 What, do you want me to cry? Do you want me to sit here 1125 00:57:11,389 --> 00:57:13,891 and cry and tell you about-- Like, that's predatory. 1126 00:57:15,268 --> 00:57:17,103 Andrea: One night, I was riding high 1127 00:57:17,103 --> 00:57:20,940 on a '70s set guaranteed to give any boomer a boner. 1128 00:57:36,998 --> 00:57:38,916 Fancy a dance in the VIP? 1129 00:57:38,916 --> 00:57:40,835 Soon as I finish this beer. 1130 00:57:40,835 --> 00:57:43,087 Andrea: So, what brings you here tonight? 1131 00:57:43,087 --> 00:57:44,922 Well, you know, cat's away. 1132 00:57:44,922 --> 00:57:46,799 Andrea: Our banter was solid, until... 1133 00:57:46,799 --> 00:57:49,594 So, um... 1134 00:57:49,594 --> 00:57:52,263 What's the worst thing that's ever happened to you here? 1135 00:57:53,556 --> 00:57:55,183 Andrea: How do I actually respond 1136 00:57:55,183 --> 00:57:57,477 to people who are asking me for trauma porn? 1137 00:57:57,477 --> 00:58:00,355 Sometimes, I deflect. 1138 00:58:01,731 --> 00:58:04,525 And sometimes, I answer the question. 1139 00:58:04,525 --> 00:58:07,487 You know, I'll look a person in the eye and say, "Rape." 1140 00:58:07,487 --> 00:58:09,447 Rape? Yeah. 1141 00:58:09,447 --> 00:58:10,907 That doesn't happen here. 1142 00:58:14,744 --> 00:58:16,120 Andrea: I told him my story. 1143 00:58:18,289 --> 00:58:19,540 Remember Bob? 1144 00:58:20,583 --> 00:58:22,335 Bob shows up at the club. 1145 00:58:22,335 --> 00:58:26,047 It's, like, a Monday night at 6:00 PM. 1146 00:58:26,047 --> 00:58:28,216 We go up to the VIP, and it's early enough 1147 00:58:28,216 --> 00:58:30,718 that there isn't even security up there. 1148 00:58:30,718 --> 00:58:32,679 We're alone. 1149 00:58:32,679 --> 00:58:34,222 Can I take it out? 1150 00:58:36,683 --> 00:58:40,228 Andrea: I do my job, which is to get naked by the third song. 1151 00:58:42,730 --> 00:58:44,691 Let's fuck. 1152 00:58:44,691 --> 00:58:48,403 - No. - Oh, come on. Why not? 1153 00:58:48,403 --> 00:58:49,862 I don't want to. 1154 00:58:49,862 --> 00:58:51,322 It'd be fun. 1155 00:58:51,322 --> 00:58:54,242 I don't have any condoms. 1156 00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:00,665 But he doesn't listen. 1157 00:59:02,333 --> 00:59:03,835 He takes my hips, 1158 00:59:03,835 --> 00:59:06,254 forces me down, 1159 00:59:06,254 --> 00:59:08,464 and puts his raw dick inside me. 1160 00:59:10,925 --> 00:59:12,427 Don't do that again. 1161 00:59:12,427 --> 00:59:17,599 Because I don't have a good sense of my boundaries yet, 1162 00:59:17,599 --> 00:59:19,684 I do continue to dance for him, 1163 00:59:19,684 --> 00:59:22,562 and it happens two more times. 1164 00:59:29,736 --> 00:59:31,613 Then he stops the dances. 1165 00:59:32,822 --> 00:59:35,074 And I'm putting my clothes back on. 1166 00:59:35,074 --> 00:59:37,368 What's the matter, babe? 1167 00:59:37,368 --> 00:59:38,578 You look so sad. 1168 00:59:38,578 --> 00:59:41,581 Andrea: And I say to him, 1169 00:59:41,581 --> 00:59:43,958 "I'm disappointed in myself 1170 00:59:43,958 --> 00:59:47,295 for letting you transgress my boundaries." 1171 00:59:48,421 --> 00:59:51,382 And obviously, there's such a big element there 1172 00:59:51,382 --> 00:59:52,884 of victim blaming, 1173 00:59:52,884 --> 00:59:54,510 as if it's my fault, 1174 00:59:54,510 --> 00:59:55,720 and he replies... 1175 00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:58,348 Why? Do you have something? 1176 01:00:02,226 --> 01:00:05,313 Oh, yeah. That's disturbing, 1177 01:00:05,313 --> 01:00:07,357 and I'm really sorry that happened to you. 1178 01:00:07,357 --> 01:00:11,277 - Thanks. - Yet, you came back. 1179 01:00:11,277 --> 01:00:14,656 I mean, it was an isolated incident. 1180 01:00:15,782 --> 01:00:17,200 Most guys are fine. 1181 01:00:19,244 --> 01:00:23,081 So, you want to go to the VIP? 1182 01:00:23,081 --> 01:00:26,167 Yeah. No. Not after that story. 1183 01:00:26,167 --> 01:00:28,169 I am thoroughly turned off now. 1184 01:00:29,420 --> 01:00:30,463 So why'd you ask? 1185 01:00:30,463 --> 01:00:33,174 Christ. I didn't think you'd been raped. 1186 01:00:33,174 --> 01:00:35,093 You don't look like the type. 1187 01:00:35,843 --> 01:00:37,428 Andrea: The type? 1188 01:00:37,428 --> 01:00:40,098 What type of person looks like they've been raped? 1189 01:00:40,098 --> 01:00:42,433 And what type of person asks that question? 1190 01:00:42,433 --> 01:00:43,810 Dude. 1191 01:00:43,810 --> 01:00:47,146 Come on. Something must have happened. 1192 01:00:47,146 --> 01:00:50,149 Women don't just become strippers. 1193 01:00:50,149 --> 01:00:53,194 Man, I thought we were having fun. 1194 01:00:53,194 --> 01:00:56,531 You really want me to relive my trauma for your entertainment? 1195 01:01:00,368 --> 01:01:01,494 You know what? 1196 01:01:01,494 --> 01:01:02,954 Let's go to the VIP. 1197 01:01:02,954 --> 01:01:04,372 Now? 1198 01:01:04,372 --> 01:01:06,165 Yeah. Why not? 1199 01:01:14,173 --> 01:01:17,677 Look. I don't want a dance. 1200 01:01:17,677 --> 01:01:19,262 I want to apologize. 1201 01:01:21,514 --> 01:01:25,435 The only reason I asked you that question before 1202 01:01:25,435 --> 01:01:28,563 is because I was sexually abused as a child 1203 01:01:28,563 --> 01:01:32,317 and I was wondering if you were, too. 1204 01:01:35,111 --> 01:01:38,156 I'm sorry. I just thought 1205 01:01:38,156 --> 01:01:41,117 maybe you were as well 1206 01:01:41,117 --> 01:01:44,245 and I-- I don't know. 1207 01:01:44,245 --> 01:01:47,081 Andrea: Mark is a doctor. 1208 01:01:47,081 --> 01:01:49,500 He's not a sex worker. 1209 01:01:49,500 --> 01:01:52,587 There's people in every industry 1210 01:01:52,587 --> 01:01:56,090 who have experienced some form of abuse. 1211 01:01:56,090 --> 01:01:59,093 I would guess that it's pretty equal across the board. 1212 01:02:00,011 --> 01:02:02,889 Uh, yeah. 1213 01:02:02,889 --> 01:02:04,182 I hope you can forgive me, 1214 01:02:04,182 --> 01:02:06,851 and you don't have to dance for me. 1215 01:02:09,938 --> 01:02:11,231 Andrea: I don't know all the reasons 1216 01:02:11,231 --> 01:02:14,400 why people ask us these questions, 1217 01:02:14,400 --> 01:02:15,860 but I wish they wouldn't. 1218 01:02:21,866 --> 01:02:25,453 It didn't really occur to me what had happened was rape 1219 01:02:25,453 --> 01:02:30,083 until I realized I hadn't told my boyfriend about it, 1220 01:02:30,083 --> 01:02:31,835 which is always kind of a flag, 1221 01:02:31,835 --> 01:02:33,253 because it usually suggests to me 1222 01:02:33,253 --> 01:02:35,422 that there's some type of shame 1223 01:02:35,422 --> 01:02:38,174 and I'm afraid of talking about it. 1224 01:02:38,174 --> 01:02:42,137 I took the week off from work. 1225 01:02:42,137 --> 01:02:45,765 I talked to the manager 1226 01:02:45,765 --> 01:02:47,434 who hired me. 1227 01:02:47,434 --> 01:02:50,186 I think this is your fault. 1228 01:02:50,186 --> 01:02:52,355 There's security buttons in the booth for a reason. 1229 01:02:52,355 --> 01:02:54,357 If you felt uncomfortable, you should have hit the button. 1230 01:02:54,357 --> 01:02:58,862 You didn't, so that's on you. 1231 01:02:58,862 --> 01:03:01,948 Robin: Well, you go from "You can touch me here and here" 1232 01:03:01,948 --> 01:03:04,284 to something shoved inside you, 1233 01:03:04,284 --> 01:03:05,827 and it happens so quickly. 1234 01:03:05,827 --> 01:03:09,039 Men know that people aren't coming to the rescue 1235 01:03:09,039 --> 01:03:10,707 to sex workers. 1236 01:03:10,707 --> 01:03:13,168 Girls-- a lot of Black girls, particularly-- 1237 01:03:13,168 --> 01:03:14,461 are told to keep their head down. 1238 01:03:14,461 --> 01:03:16,212 You're not supposed to have any issues, 1239 01:03:16,212 --> 01:03:18,340 because it's not worth your job. 1240 01:03:18,340 --> 01:03:21,634 The more money a man seems to spend, 1241 01:03:21,634 --> 01:03:26,473 the more important he tends to become versus performers. 1242 01:03:26,473 --> 01:03:30,810 Did I think about reporting the incident to the police? 1243 01:03:30,810 --> 01:03:35,899 Ms. Werhun, the alleged incident occurred at a strip club. 1244 01:03:36,900 --> 01:03:38,360 Now, first things first. 1245 01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:41,363 What kind of decent woman works at a strip club? 1246 01:03:41,363 --> 01:03:43,907 - The kind that needs money. - Money! 1247 01:03:43,907 --> 01:03:46,326 And would you say that money is a prime motivator 1248 01:03:46,326 --> 01:03:49,454 - in your life? - Well, I need money to eat 1249 01:03:49,454 --> 01:03:52,415 and pay my rent and clothe myself, so yes. 1250 01:03:52,415 --> 01:03:55,710 Fascinating. Now, let me get this straight. 1251 01:03:55,710 --> 01:03:57,587 Did you write this book? 1252 01:03:57,587 --> 01:03:58,964 Yes. 1253 01:03:58,964 --> 01:04:02,509 Your Honour, Ms. Werhun's book is called Modern Whore, 1254 01:04:02,509 --> 01:04:04,177 and as she's clearly stated, 1255 01:04:04,177 --> 01:04:08,556 she is a modern whore motivated by money. 1256 01:04:08,556 --> 01:04:10,600 Ms. Werhun, is it possible 1257 01:04:10,600 --> 01:04:12,936 that you fabricated a rape allegation 1258 01:04:12,936 --> 01:04:15,939 against a married family man who earns six figures 1259 01:04:15,939 --> 01:04:20,193 just so you'd have another story to tell, you know-- 1260 01:04:20,193 --> 01:04:23,697 for the money? 1261 01:04:25,031 --> 01:04:26,574 I got an email from Bob 1262 01:04:26,574 --> 01:04:29,786 asking when he could come in and see me again. 1263 01:04:29,786 --> 01:04:33,248 Smiley face, as if nothing had happened. 1264 01:04:33,248 --> 01:04:35,417 I responded back, 1265 01:04:35,417 --> 01:04:37,544 "Do not come to the club ever again." 1266 01:04:41,715 --> 01:04:45,302 On those nights where something did happen to me-- 1267 01:04:45,302 --> 01:04:47,345 - Mm-hmm. - I don't have to be afraid 1268 01:04:47,345 --> 01:04:48,763 for a single second that you're going to feel 1269 01:04:48,763 --> 01:04:53,226 like I must have done something to provoke it 1270 01:04:53,226 --> 01:04:57,063 or that I, you know, deserved it. 1271 01:04:57,063 --> 01:04:59,274 - Mm-hmm. - A lot of sex workers, 1272 01:04:59,274 --> 01:05:00,900 when they are open with their partners 1273 01:05:00,900 --> 01:05:03,445 about what they do, they get that kind of attitude. 1274 01:05:03,445 --> 01:05:06,406 You've never, ever, ever, ever been like that with me. 1275 01:05:06,406 --> 01:05:08,241 - Mm-hmm. - So, thank you. 1276 01:05:08,241 --> 01:05:09,826 Yeah. You're welcome. 1277 01:05:10,952 --> 01:05:12,454 And yeah. For a lot of people, 1278 01:05:12,454 --> 01:05:15,415 that reaction might be a fear reaction. 1279 01:05:15,415 --> 01:05:18,168 The response to trying to reduce the harm 1280 01:05:18,168 --> 01:05:21,504 is to coerce the person to not do sex work 1281 01:05:21,504 --> 01:05:24,424 or not put themselves in situations in the future 1282 01:05:24,424 --> 01:05:26,551 where those things are possible. 1283 01:05:26,551 --> 01:05:29,137 A few years later, I saw Bob at the club again. 1284 01:05:31,139 --> 01:05:33,183 He was with an entourage of people. 1285 01:05:38,480 --> 01:05:42,275 In that moment, I didn't feel like I could do anything. 1286 01:05:42,275 --> 01:05:45,320 I felt... frozen. 1287 01:05:48,573 --> 01:05:50,450 It goes without saying that the strip club 1288 01:05:50,450 --> 01:05:52,118 is a booze-drenched environment. 1289 01:05:53,578 --> 01:05:55,622 It's a bar, after all, and a pick-up line. 1290 01:05:55,622 --> 01:05:57,332 Hey, can I buy you a drink? 1291 01:05:57,332 --> 01:05:59,668 Um, yeah. 1292 01:05:59,668 --> 01:06:04,255 I was probably having upwards of 12 drinks a night at work, 1293 01:06:04,255 --> 01:06:08,009 and when I wasn't at work, 1294 01:06:08,009 --> 01:06:09,761 you know, I was partying, too. 1295 01:06:12,430 --> 01:06:15,642 I had a habit 1296 01:06:15,642 --> 01:06:19,187 of getting blackout drunk 1297 01:06:19,187 --> 01:06:20,480 and hitting my head. 1298 01:06:23,984 --> 01:06:25,193 For the first time in my life, 1299 01:06:25,193 --> 01:06:26,987 I was having seizures. 1300 01:06:28,154 --> 01:06:29,322 Ah! 1301 01:06:29,322 --> 01:06:31,574 Ah! 1302 01:06:31,574 --> 01:06:33,410 May I have another? 1303 01:06:33,410 --> 01:06:36,496 Why did I keep doing this to myself? 1304 01:06:37,998 --> 01:06:40,750 Late one night, I was drunk and riding my bike home 1305 01:06:40,750 --> 01:06:44,546 with a shopping bag dangling from my handlebars. 1306 01:06:44,546 --> 01:06:45,964 It got caught in the front wheel. 1307 01:06:45,964 --> 01:06:48,591 I flew off the bike. 1308 01:06:55,181 --> 01:06:59,394 I had suffered a traumatic brain injury, 1309 01:06:59,394 --> 01:07:00,770 a pretty bad one. 1310 01:07:00,770 --> 01:07:03,732 I'd scraped the entire left side of my face, 1311 01:07:03,732 --> 01:07:05,942 and if I hadn't been wearing a helmet, 1312 01:07:05,942 --> 01:07:08,111 I would be dead. 1313 01:07:08,111 --> 01:07:09,821 Given my history of seizures, 1314 01:07:09,821 --> 01:07:12,407 I was eventually diagnosed with epilepsy, 1315 01:07:12,407 --> 01:07:14,159 and alcohol was a trigger. 1316 01:07:14,159 --> 01:07:16,786 Andrea, if you have another drink, 1317 01:07:16,786 --> 01:07:18,788 you might have a seizure and die. 1318 01:07:20,457 --> 01:07:22,459 You want to write another book, don't you? 1319 01:07:24,419 --> 01:07:26,796 I was scared shitless by that comment, 1320 01:07:26,796 --> 01:07:30,550 so I haven't drank ever since. 1321 01:07:30,550 --> 01:07:33,470 Six weeks later, I was back at the club, 1322 01:07:33,470 --> 01:07:36,556 no alcohol, much less confidence. 1323 01:07:40,393 --> 01:07:41,978 Fancy a dance in the VIP? 1324 01:07:42,938 --> 01:07:45,148 Yeah. Yeah. I'll pass. 1325 01:07:46,441 --> 01:07:48,568 Come back in 15 minutes. 1326 01:07:48,568 --> 01:07:50,195 Maybe I'll change my mind. 1327 01:07:52,697 --> 01:07:53,907 Okay. 1328 01:07:53,907 --> 01:07:56,451 Strippers face a lot of rejection... 1329 01:07:56,451 --> 01:07:58,244 in lingerie, no less. 1330 01:08:00,163 --> 01:08:02,916 Sober sex work is always a really interesting topic 1331 01:08:02,916 --> 01:08:04,292 for me to speak on, 1332 01:08:04,292 --> 01:08:05,794 because I have done sex work 1333 01:08:05,794 --> 01:08:09,673 for my entire adult life and part of my youth, 1334 01:08:09,673 --> 01:08:13,843 and I've done it under the sort of auspice of sobriety now. 1335 01:08:13,843 --> 01:08:15,303 But I've also done it, you know, 1336 01:08:15,303 --> 01:08:16,972 while being an intravenous drug user, 1337 01:08:16,972 --> 01:08:19,974 while being, you know, someone that was a heavy drinker, 1338 01:08:19,974 --> 01:08:21,601 while being someone that, you know, 1339 01:08:21,601 --> 01:08:24,270 has done various other sorts of substances 1340 01:08:24,270 --> 01:08:26,231 and also hired exclusively to do 1341 01:08:26,231 --> 01:08:27,607 a lot of, like, pay-to-party events, 1342 01:08:27,607 --> 01:08:30,318 because men hate to do drugs alone. 1343 01:08:30,318 --> 01:08:31,611 What do you think of the stereotype 1344 01:08:31,611 --> 01:08:33,697 that we all use drugs to do our jobs? 1345 01:08:33,697 --> 01:08:34,864 I think that goes hand in hand 1346 01:08:34,864 --> 01:08:36,282 with a lot of different tropes 1347 01:08:36,282 --> 01:08:37,826 that come along with sex work. 1348 01:08:37,826 --> 01:08:40,203 Substance users are villains or villainized in society, 1349 01:08:40,203 --> 01:08:41,871 and so, of course, we are villains because we are 1350 01:08:41,871 --> 01:08:43,915 sex workers. So it sort of, like, ties in with that. 1351 01:08:43,915 --> 01:08:47,752 What are some of the pros and cons of sober sex work? 1352 01:08:47,752 --> 01:08:50,171 Start with the pros. My judgment is clearer. 1353 01:08:50,171 --> 01:08:55,343 I'm a lot less susceptible to my boundaries being pushed, 1354 01:08:55,343 --> 01:08:56,886 but then it's also, like... 1355 01:08:57,804 --> 01:09:00,473 I have to listen to their bullshit. 1356 01:09:00,473 --> 01:09:03,059 I can't, you know, numb the conversation. 1357 01:09:03,059 --> 01:09:04,894 I have to be engaged. 1358 01:09:04,894 --> 01:09:06,980 Another pro, I guess you remember everything, 1359 01:09:06,980 --> 01:09:09,149 but another con is that I remember everything, you know? 1360 01:09:10,567 --> 01:09:14,112 Bob returned... again. 1361 01:09:14,112 --> 01:09:17,657 He had started to earn a reputation at the club 1362 01:09:17,657 --> 01:09:20,535 for becoming belligerently drunk. 1363 01:09:20,535 --> 01:09:21,995 Want to give me a beer? 1364 01:09:21,995 --> 01:09:25,290 Andrea: You know, he's becoming a very rowdy customer. 1365 01:09:26,666 --> 01:09:29,044 This time, things were different, 1366 01:09:29,044 --> 01:09:32,172 because I was sober, 1367 01:09:32,172 --> 01:09:34,841 and I felt like I was finally in a position 1368 01:09:34,841 --> 01:09:36,926 to be able to hold him accountable. 1369 01:09:36,926 --> 01:09:39,054 You know, I wasn't afraid anymore, 1370 01:09:39,054 --> 01:09:44,309 so I went to one of my better managers, Phil, 1371 01:09:44,309 --> 01:09:47,020 and I told him I wanted him out. 1372 01:09:48,813 --> 01:09:51,024 Well, I say we make sure that he settles up, 1373 01:09:51,024 --> 01:09:54,069 because, uh, I don't want to get in the way of anyone's money. 1374 01:09:54,069 --> 01:09:56,571 Then I'll inform him that he's no longer welcome 1375 01:09:56,571 --> 01:09:58,156 in the club. 1376 01:09:58,156 --> 01:10:00,116 Andrea: I told the gals what was going on. 1377 01:10:00,116 --> 01:10:02,953 Do you want me to throw piss in his face? 1378 01:10:02,953 --> 01:10:05,955 Andrea: There's nothing like stripper support. 1379 01:10:05,955 --> 01:10:07,290 Is this forever? 1380 01:10:08,458 --> 01:10:10,293 Yes. 1381 01:10:10,293 --> 01:10:11,461 Fuck you, man, 1382 01:10:11,461 --> 01:10:12,921 and your fucking place! 1383 01:10:12,921 --> 01:10:15,382 Andrea: Phil was being a good manager, 1384 01:10:15,382 --> 01:10:19,302 and for that, I'll always be grateful. 1385 01:10:19,302 --> 01:10:23,306 When you don't consider a sex work workplace a real workplace, 1386 01:10:23,306 --> 01:10:26,559 it's going to be run by a different kind of law. 1387 01:10:26,559 --> 01:10:31,064 It's going to be run by a law that's outside law enforcement, 1388 01:10:31,064 --> 01:10:32,357 for better or worse. 1389 01:10:35,777 --> 01:10:37,279 I think the victim trope is prominent 1390 01:10:37,279 --> 01:10:41,950 because some people would prefer us that way. 1391 01:10:41,950 --> 01:10:45,912 Being a victim is a convenient title 1392 01:10:45,912 --> 01:10:48,832 when what you want to do is actually victimize us. 1393 01:10:48,832 --> 01:10:50,959 We can never get away from it. 1394 01:10:50,959 --> 01:10:54,421 The law also identifies us as victims. 1395 01:10:54,421 --> 01:10:57,132 It takes consent out of the matter. 1396 01:10:57,132 --> 01:10:58,675 It makes the assertion 1397 01:10:58,675 --> 01:11:02,012 that everything that we do for money is by coercion. 1398 01:11:03,805 --> 01:11:05,682 We're either victims 1399 01:11:05,682 --> 01:11:08,310 who have no ability to make choices for ourselves 1400 01:11:08,310 --> 01:11:09,811 or we're villains, 1401 01:11:09,811 --> 01:11:12,480 and the only choices we make are bad and harmful. 1402 01:11:12,480 --> 01:11:15,066 And all we want to do is hurt people, 1403 01:11:15,066 --> 01:11:17,360 particularly men. 1404 01:11:17,360 --> 01:11:21,698 But I don't think that sex workers are even permitted 1405 01:11:21,698 --> 01:11:25,702 the grace of having our work considered labour, 1406 01:11:25,702 --> 01:11:27,037 and I think that's wrong. 1407 01:11:36,629 --> 01:11:38,173 You know, there's things that I do 1408 01:11:38,173 --> 01:11:41,134 that keep me grounded and remind me of who I am. 1409 01:11:41,134 --> 01:11:42,719 A lot of that has to do with writing 1410 01:11:42,719 --> 01:11:45,430 and creative expression in general and performing 1411 01:11:45,430 --> 01:11:47,390 and being silly, being a little ham. 1412 01:11:48,600 --> 01:11:50,143 I'd like to be... 1413 01:11:51,144 --> 01:11:52,520 An artist. 1414 01:11:52,520 --> 01:11:54,731 I'd love to make a living with my art. 1415 01:11:56,066 --> 01:11:59,402 But I can't afford it, yet, 1416 01:11:59,402 --> 01:12:02,489 and so until that day-- 1417 01:12:05,075 --> 01:12:06,326 I work. 1418 01:12:08,954 --> 01:12:11,581 So long as the laws don't protect us, 1419 01:12:11,581 --> 01:12:13,500 the stigma against sex workers remains. 1420 01:12:13,500 --> 01:12:16,252 I can see your cellulite, whore! 1421 01:12:17,754 --> 01:12:20,090 Alright, bud. That's it. Night's over. 1422 01:12:20,090 --> 01:12:22,342 What are you doing, man? I paid $10 for this beer. 1423 01:12:22,342 --> 01:12:24,844 - I'm not going anywhere. - You've been nursing this beer 1424 01:12:24,844 --> 01:12:26,554 for almost two hours, my man. Let's go. 1425 01:12:26,554 --> 01:12:28,390 - No. No. Come on! No! - Let's go. 1426 01:12:28,390 --> 01:12:31,434 Shame: I'll get you! This is not the last of me! 1427 01:12:34,854 --> 01:12:39,818 When it comes to my own shame in sex work, 1428 01:12:39,818 --> 01:12:41,361 I don't have any. 1429 01:12:41,361 --> 01:12:42,779 The reality is, 1430 01:12:42,779 --> 01:12:45,073 not only have I fucked for money, 1431 01:12:45,073 --> 01:12:48,326 I'm currently naked on the internet. 1432 01:12:49,828 --> 01:12:51,371 I have no shame. 1433 01:12:51,371 --> 01:12:53,957 Let's be fucking for real. 1434 01:12:53,957 --> 01:12:56,626 But when I fell in love 1435 01:12:56,626 --> 01:12:59,838 and what I did for work 1436 01:12:59,838 --> 01:13:03,425 was going to affect him 1437 01:13:03,425 --> 01:13:05,593 and how his family saw me, 1438 01:13:05,593 --> 01:13:08,346 that was the first time I felt shame. 1439 01:13:08,346 --> 01:13:11,766 There's whorephobia against the sex workers ourselves, 1440 01:13:11,766 --> 01:13:15,979 which, you know, brings us the closest to violence, 1441 01:13:15,979 --> 01:13:18,940 and then there's all this sort of, like, stigma by proxy-- 1442 01:13:18,940 --> 01:13:20,275 - Yeah. - That the people around us 1443 01:13:20,275 --> 01:13:22,652 have to experience just by loving us. 1444 01:13:22,652 --> 01:13:24,446 Oliver: Mm-hmm. Yeah. People might have 1445 01:13:24,446 --> 01:13:28,325 a perfectly happy relationship with a sex worker, 1446 01:13:28,325 --> 01:13:32,412 and then they encounter some kind of outside stigma. 1447 01:13:32,412 --> 01:13:34,331 And they can't overcome it. 1448 01:13:35,749 --> 01:13:37,625 And they're missing out because of that. 1449 01:13:37,625 --> 01:13:40,170 Yeah. Yeah! 1450 01:13:41,588 --> 01:13:44,257 You taking the risk 1451 01:13:44,257 --> 01:13:47,510 and being brave and being open 1452 01:13:47,510 --> 01:13:49,804 has forced me to come to terms 1453 01:13:49,804 --> 01:13:52,724 with how I talk about it 1454 01:13:52,724 --> 01:13:55,477 and how open I am about it as well. 1455 01:13:55,477 --> 01:13:57,187 And is that a good thing? 1456 01:13:57,187 --> 01:14:01,650 Yeah, of course. Yeah. I think being truthful is important, 1457 01:14:01,650 --> 01:14:04,819 and I think being honest is important. 1458 01:14:04,819 --> 01:14:07,155 I'm, you know, sitting here on camera 1459 01:14:07,155 --> 01:14:09,783 because I hope that one day you can be face out 1460 01:14:09,783 --> 01:14:12,452 and not be assaulted, you know, 1461 01:14:12,452 --> 01:14:14,037 just because someone knows you're a sex worker 1462 01:14:14,037 --> 01:14:15,955 or not be stalked online or not be harassed 1463 01:14:15,955 --> 01:14:20,835 or, you know, banned from apartments 1464 01:14:20,835 --> 01:14:23,838 and banned from other types of work 1465 01:14:23,838 --> 01:14:26,758 and banned from, you know, social spaces, 1466 01:14:26,758 --> 01:14:28,009 which has definitely happened to me. 1467 01:14:28,009 --> 01:14:29,302 I think that that's the power 1468 01:14:29,302 --> 01:14:30,804 of, like, sex worker storytelling. 1469 01:14:30,804 --> 01:14:32,347 It's, like, reminding the public 1470 01:14:32,347 --> 01:14:34,265 that, like, we're actually just, like, human. 1471 01:14:34,265 --> 01:14:38,395 It's not like sex workers are these big, bad monsters. 1472 01:14:38,395 --> 01:14:39,813 Like, we're just people, 1473 01:14:39,813 --> 01:14:42,399 and, like, we deserve, like, very basic rights. 1474 01:14:42,399 --> 01:14:45,193 We need to tell our stories so that it normalizes sex work 1475 01:14:45,193 --> 01:14:48,154 and so that it normalizes the quest for safety in our work 1476 01:14:48,154 --> 01:14:50,115 and the quest for respect in our work and the quest for, 1477 01:14:50,115 --> 01:14:52,075 you know, basic, like, human dignity and human rights. 1478 01:14:52,075 --> 01:14:54,661 I would like sex workers-- 1479 01:14:54,661 --> 01:14:55,912 at least, like, full service-- 1480 01:14:55,912 --> 01:14:58,289 to kind of be seen like a chiropractor. 1481 01:14:58,289 --> 01:15:00,333 Not everybody believes in it. 1482 01:15:00,333 --> 01:15:02,544 But like, the people who love it love it. 1483 01:15:02,544 --> 01:15:03,962 That's right. That's right. 1484 01:15:03,962 --> 01:15:06,423 - And they swear by it. - And they swear by it. 1485 01:15:06,423 --> 01:15:08,008 I'm so grateful 1486 01:15:08,008 --> 01:15:12,595 that despite your own misgivings about my work... 1487 01:15:13,805 --> 01:15:15,181 You still love me. 1488 01:15:15,181 --> 01:15:16,433 Of course. 1489 01:15:19,936 --> 01:15:23,023 I just want to thank you for... 1490 01:15:25,317 --> 01:15:27,694 ...not abandoning me. 1491 01:15:27,694 --> 01:15:30,322 I could never abandon you. 1492 01:15:30,322 --> 01:15:31,531 Would not happen. 1493 01:15:33,116 --> 01:15:34,743 When you were born, I remember 1494 01:15:34,743 --> 01:15:38,955 just looking at you all night. 1495 01:15:40,081 --> 01:15:42,542 I would just watch you while you were sleeping. 1496 01:15:44,127 --> 01:15:46,713 I think I like being looked at. 1497 01:15:47,922 --> 01:15:49,549 Maybe that's part of it. 1498 01:15:50,967 --> 01:15:53,303 I think I associate it with love and care. 1499 01:15:53,303 --> 01:15:54,721 Yeah. 1500 01:15:54,721 --> 01:15:57,932 The greatest privilege of my life is being loved by you. 1501 01:15:57,932 --> 01:15:59,976 - Thank you, honey. - So thank you. 1502 01:15:59,976 --> 01:16:02,646 Thank you. That makes my life worthwhile. 1503 01:16:04,397 --> 01:16:06,524 Love you, Mommy. 1504 01:16:11,363 --> 01:16:15,075 This is the part of the film where the sex worker 1505 01:16:15,075 --> 01:16:18,453 is usually punished for her deviant ways 1506 01:16:18,453 --> 01:16:21,581 or saved from whoring by a white knight. 1507 01:16:21,581 --> 01:16:26,169 Eternally, we play the role of victim or villain. 1508 01:16:26,169 --> 01:16:27,754 We need a new archetype. 1509 01:16:29,130 --> 01:16:30,548 If the femme fatale-- 1510 01:16:30,548 --> 01:16:33,510 Is a bold, sexually powerful villainess 1511 01:16:33,510 --> 01:16:36,304 who destroys men to get what she wants, 1512 01:16:36,304 --> 01:16:40,767 the femme vitale is her positive opposite, 1513 01:16:40,767 --> 01:16:45,021 a person who loves themself and fights for their community. 1514 01:16:46,272 --> 01:16:49,693 They are loved and give love, 1515 01:16:49,693 --> 01:16:51,653 pleasure, joy. 1516 01:17:04,249 --> 01:17:06,876 When sex workers tell our own stories, 1517 01:17:06,876 --> 01:17:09,754 we become the heroes, not the victims, 1518 01:17:09,754 --> 01:17:11,423 of our own journeys. 1519 01:17:12,799 --> 01:17:16,803 I have a story that would remain hidden 1520 01:17:16,803 --> 01:17:21,099 if I let shame take over my life, 1521 01:17:21,099 --> 01:17:23,310 and shame is antithetical to truth. 1522 01:17:25,520 --> 01:17:26,980 Despite the odds, 1523 01:17:26,980 --> 01:17:29,190 sex workers are here. 1524 01:17:29,190 --> 01:17:33,111 We are alive and always will be. 1525 01:17:33,111 --> 01:17:36,531 One day, we will grow like wildflowers, 1526 01:17:36,531 --> 01:17:38,742 unruly and free. 1527 01:17:57,552 --> 01:18:05,518 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1528 01:18:06,811 --> 01:18:08,813 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1529 01:18:10,857 --> 01:18:12,609 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1530 01:18:12,609 --> 01:18:19,699 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1531 01:18:21,701 --> 01:18:23,453 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1532 01:18:25,163 --> 01:18:27,290 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1533 01:18:28,833 --> 01:18:30,627 ♪ Ooh ooh ooh ♪ 1534 01:18:36,049 --> 01:18:38,134 ♪ Ah ah ah ♪ 1535 01:18:41,304 --> 01:18:45,433 ♪ Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh ♪ 1536 01:19:03,243 --> 01:19:07,831 ♪ Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh ♪ 109051

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