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[Emma] Previously on "Before the 90 Days."

[Lisa] This is so embarrassing. I'm sorry.

This is my first time I'm buying condoms.

For the past 21 years, I have been with women only.

But Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.

I'm terrified to tell him, because a couple of months ago,

I told him I had a fling with a woman.

And he was disgusted.

He's 20 years younger than I am.

I think I got hair on my chin older than that.

Don't make jokes.

He doesn't love you. That's not what love is.

He wants a ticket to America.

There's an absolute possibility this is gonna

blow up in my face.

But if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,

then what am I willing to take a risk for?

But that's just not what you said.

A couple weeks ago, I realized that he followed thousands

of women, and it turns out that he was talking to one

of the girls.

-Good night. -[Ziad] Good night.

Now seeing how he's acting in person,

it's making me question things.

[Forrest speaking]

Sheena and I have been waiting seven years to meet up

with each other, and I just want everything to go smoothly.

But my mom did not take kindly

to Sheena lying about the money again.

Apology aside, there's still some things that have to be

discussed before we can proceed.

[Lisa] I'm scared that I'm gonna pee all over the floor,

because every time I get nervous, I pee.

I'm gonna see his face, and it's just gonna flow out

of me, drip down my legs, and what an impression

that's gonna be!

I am nervous, and I am excited, and I'm scared to death

because things can be different when he meets you in person.

What if he hides?

What if he changes his mind once I get there?

I don't know what he's gonna think about me.

I don't know if he's gonna be like, "Wow, she's a lot

older than I thought."

Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel

for the first time.

And I am feeling overwhelmed and excited and nervous.

My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns at dinner

the other night, that Daniel could be scamming me,

and I'm not ignoring them.

But all I can think about is how I just wanna touch

his face and feel the dimples in his cheeks

and feel his beard.

I -- I want to pull him in and just kiss him.

These are the wigs I am taking with me.

They're brand new.

I have three 'cause they get ruined very fast.

I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.

Um, my plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.

Just needs to go on my carry-on bag.

Wearing a wig, it's a process, and it's not fun.

It sticks to your hair. It sticks to your skin.

You have rashes. You have all kinds of sores.

It's gonna be stressful to deal with in Nigeria,

but it makes him so happy.

I wanna look beautiful for Daniel,

so I will be keeping it

on all day and all night. I'm sleeping in my wig.

[Faith] So today, mom is going to Nigeria.

I'm pretty nervous.

Not sure how it's gonna go.

She's horrible with directions.

I am hopeful she gets the answers

and the relationship she's hoping for.

But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.

[Lisa] Hi, Faith.

[Faith] I have some toast and coffee for you.

Oh, wonderful. Thank you.

-Yeah, freshly brewed. -Thank you.

-That's the first thing I want. -[Faith] I know.

[Lisa] Alright, listen.

Here's something really important.

The certified letter is coming for the divorce.

[Faith] Yeah.

[Lisa] So you have to go to the post office to mail it.

-That has to be done as soon as... -[Faith] Like, immediately?

Yes.

'Cause the court hearing date that the judge signs the paper

is on the 29th, so that the divorce becomes finalized

on the 29th.

I wanna come clean and tell him that not only --

I was still married, but the divorce is there.

And I wanna show him the papers of the divorce if I've --

[Faith] I'm just -- mom, I --

You not only lied about the fact that, oh,

you didn't just have a fling with a woman.

No, you've been married to women several times.

But you also told him you're not married.

[Lisa] Not only does he not know that I've been with women

for the past 21 years, Daniel doesn't know that I am

technically still married to a woman.

[sighs]

He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started

talking to me, and I said, "Yeah, I'm free to marry."

Because in my heart, I have been free to marry,

because my ex-wife and I have been separated

for over nine years.

We just never got around to signing

the divorce papers until now.

If that happened to me, I would be devastated.

I wouldn't be able to trust that person.

Well, I'm gonna come clean on this trip

and tell him everything.

I'm not gonna accept the marriage proposal

until we have this conversation.

He's gonna know about it beforehand.

-Just trust me. -I'm just -- I'm just worried, ma.

[Lisa] Don't worry. Don't worry.

I got this. Let's get going.

We need to get to the airport.

-[Faith] OK, yeah. -It is getting late, and we need to get going.

-You have a flight to get to. -I do have a flight.

I struggle trusting my mom that she's not gonna somehow

try and get married in there.

Please do not ruin your life and get married to somebody

before you're ready. -I need to grab my phone.

That's the last thing I need.

Would I go against Faith's wishes?

I wanna say no.

But my heart says, "Hold on to Daniel and do it.

Jump with both feet in."

I wanna be Mrs. Daniel. I wanna be with him.

I wanna be a part of him. Um, I wanna be his wife.

So I don't know what I'll do.

I really don't know.

Will you grab one of the suitcases?

-[Faith] Yeah, I can do that. -[Lisa] Woo, here we go.

O-61.

I got three.

O-70.

I met my husband when I was in high school.

I was married to a soldier. He, um, lived up the street.

My husband and I met in junior college.

We loved to skate, so our first date was going skating.

The first date, we went to a fair and, um,

I sort of thought,

"You know, I like him."

I didn't wanna be with anybody else.

That was just -- that was it.

He said, "I wanted you to have a heart ring."

And here it is.

♪ I'm done waiting, no more hesitating ♪

♪ There's nothing wrong to want some more ♪

♪ We got to feel it, got to believe it ♪

♪ There's a whole new world you're looking for ♪

[Jovon] Good afternoon.

-Lemonade. -Oh, boy.

My name is Jovon.

I'm 38 years old, and I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.

-Thank you. -[Jovon] Who's winning?

-Who has a bingo? -I've got several bingos.

Oh, nice.

[Jovon] I work at a nursing home, and I like my job.

Thank you.

You know, old people,

they just say some of the first things that come to their mind.

They have no filters, and it's just pure comedy.

Well, what did you bring us today?

[Jovon] We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.

Ooh, look at all that cheese!

But it's just a low-paying job.

Anybody else need any silverware?

I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.

American women, they want six-pack,

six figures, six inches.

I call them three sixes, and...

Mm. That's good.

Mm, mm.

We hear you're going to the Philippines.

Oh, yeah. It's a trip way overdue.

I'm going to see my wife.

When was the last time you saw her?

Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.

So...this would be actually our first meet.

Oh, OK.

-Really? -Yeah.

My wife is Annalyn.

She's 38 years old...

Hey, boo, it's your wife.

I hope you're having a great day.

♪ Must be something in the air ♪

♪ Yeah, there must be something ♪

We connected online about five years ago, and we've been

married for about two years.

[Annalyn] He said that? No, that's wrong.

We have been in a relationship for six years and we have been

married for almost three years.

Hello, boo, boo.

I love you and I appreciate you.

Mwah!

[laughing]

Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,

we would talk for hours every day,

and he just made me feel like

the happiest that I've ever been.

Maybe a year after we started talking online,

I wanted to meet Annalyn in person, but when COVID hit,

I couldn't no longer travel. There were flight restrictions.

I was kinda feeling hopeless, and I was afraid that

I'm gonna lose him.

And then I was scrolling on social media,

and I saw these couples getting married online.

When Annalyn first brought up online marriages...

I was just like, "What the hell?"

I had doubts, of course.

Because it's unorthodox, but I just had a lot of faith.

When you meet the one that you're supposed to spend

the rest of your life with, you can't even actually

put it into words.

It's like, that's what they say.

When you know you know, it's kind of like that.

[officiant] Alright, place the rings on your fingers

as a symbol of the love that you share

and the commitment that you're making.

How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.

Absolutely not.

But it was still the happiest day of my life.

[officiant] It is now my privilege to pronounce you lawfully wed

as husband and wife.

[guests speaking]

[Jovon] I finally have my perfect wife.

I just need to meet her in person.

never go to the Philippines to see your wife?

Uh, the whole thing is very expensive, so,

you know -- then I have to save up for it.

So that -- that's -- that's mostly the reason why.

Over the years, me and Annalyn have tried

to meet up several times.

But work and finances got in the way.

And having a marriage online has been challenging.

Especially because Annalyn has changed.

When I first met Anna, she was more patient, sweeter.

She just had more positive vibes about her.

I'm like, "Hold on, what's going on here?"

I've always been feisty. He knows that.

And I'm not the typical Filipina.

I don't like being told what to do.

I don't like being controlled.

After a period of time, I had to fight to actually speak,

to be heard.

Lately, it feels like we're fighting more than

we're getting along.

I know we're already committed as man and wife.

But before I apply for that spousal visa and move

Annalyn to the US,

We need to spend physical time with one another to make sure

I made the right choice.

I'm going out there because I love her.

I'm gonna give it everything I got, but I'm worried that

our problems are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.

And if we can't, I don't know how this marriage

is gonna work.

[Sheena] Mm-hmm, yeah. You're so excited, huh?

-[Forrest] Oh, yeah. -Oh, yeah.

I'm gonna go brush my teeth.

I've been waiting seven years to be alone

with Sheena like this.

I'm not saying I can't blow her socks off, but, um...

[Emma] I don't like that we were fighting yesterday,

but there's something else I wanted to, like,

talk to you about that, like, I didn't tell you yet.

What? What's happened?

[upbeat music playing]

[engine hums]

[wind instrument melodically drones]

[speaking in Arabic]

[speaking in Arabic]

[Ziad speaking]

[Emma] I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.

Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him and he would be

like, bringing me coffee in the morning and cuddling

with me, and that's not how it went at all.

We've actually just been completely separate.

Ziad's behavior last night, it's making me a little

suspicious, but I'm trying not to just be in my head

and overthink things.

I want this to be fun, and I want us to

just focus on... the positives.

I'm really determined to turn things around.

[speaking Arabic]

[Emma] Hi.

[Emma] Morning.

This is nice.

Yeah.

Thanks, babe.

Hello!

[speaking Arabic]

[Emma] Thank you.

She's adorable.

-My favorite. -[Ziad speaking]

I don't like eggs, but I'll eat it because

she cooked it.

Do you wanna talk about yesterday?

[Ziad speaking]

I mean, it wasn't really, like, a good start to my trip.

I don't like that we were fighting all day.

Yeah.

[Emma] That's not how I expected, like, my first night to go.

Can you pour me some more tea, please?

Yeah.

I love -- I love the tea here.

Um, but, yeah, so I did wanna say sorry to you.

I wanted to say sorry.

I wanted to say sorry.

[Emma] For... running away from your kiss.

[Ziad speaking]

Walking away from you when you were talking.

I mean, I'm sorry yesterday got, like, really dramatic,

but I think it was just a long day for me because I was

traveling for, like, 20 hours.

[Emma] And it was just, like, a lot going on.

There was, like, a lot in my mind.

Actually, there's something else I wanted to, like,

talk to you about that I didn't tell you yet.

[tense music playing]

What? What is it?

What's happened?

I was just, like, upset the past couple days,

'cause you know how much I love my job.

-Like, I've been there for five years, and... -Yeah, yeah.

Well, I got fired.

I don't know if I wanna talk about it,

'cause I'm gonna cry.

I just need a minute.

[Ziad speaking]

-Sorry. -[Ziad speaking]

[Emma] 'Cause I don't know what I'm gonna do.

[Emma] OK.

OK.

I don't know what I'm gonna do.

I don't have any, like, options right now.

Yeah.

I think we definitely started this trip, like,

on the wrong foot. It was like a tornado.

But right now, he is showing me that he cares about what

I'm going through.

I love you, babe. -Yeah, it is...

Like an earthquake, like a -- like a natural disaster.

So like, when I got off the plane, what happened

between us was like an earthquake.

Yeah, yeah...

Yeah, really.

-My future hubby. -[Ziad] Ah.

Do you know what that means?

It's short for husband.

Yeah, hubby.

[Emma] Yeah, exactly.

[traffic noises]

[indistinct street chatter]

[music in foreign language playing]

Wow...

I can't believe the trees. Look how beautiful they are.

[Forrest] I can't believe how hot it is. I'm probably gonna...

[Dev speaking]

[Forrest] I'm gonna have a sunburn in about ten seconds.

♪ Lock away your soul ♪

♪ My heart is racing, oh ♪

-Alright, see you later, Dev. -[grumbling]

-[Molly] See you later. -[indistinct]

[Forrest] I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents

and finally met the girl of my dreams after seven years.

Just being able to touch and hold her hand,

it was so amazing.

Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.

Waka waka.

Yeah?

-Oh, this is incredible. -[Dev] Yeah.

[Forrest] Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.

[Molly] Crazy.

This is definitely controlled chaos.

[sirens wailing]

If I could describe the Philippines in one word,

it'd be hectic.

[horn honking]

It's got people, like, almost running into each other

or running each other over constantly.

-[Molly] Oh, man. -Glad I'm not driving.

Yeah.

But it's got its own, like, charm to it.

[Sheena speaking]

[Molly speaking]

[Sheena speaking]

[Forrest speaking]

[Sheena] Yeah.

[Forrest] Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila,

but we're not staying there because her parents said

we had to pay for it if we did stay.

When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset

because I'm planning on marrying their daughter, and I would be

their son, and to charge family to come stay at their house is

just absurd, especially 'cause we have been saving

for the last seven years, just to afford the plane ticket

to actually just meet her.

Sheena said, "I know it doesn't make sense, but it's what

"my parents want, it's their wishes.

I can't really go around that."

But I'm not paying them money.

-[Sheena] This is the place. -[Forrest] Alright.

[Molly] Alright, we are here.

-[Dev] Here you go, Molly. -[Forrest] That's it.

[Sheena] Oh, wait...

-[Forrest bleep], I got it. -[Molly] Alright, charge.

Sheena is an extreme foodie, and she likes to make sure that

I'm well fed.

Well, that's a cultural thing in my country.

[Molly] Whoa!

-[Molly] Oh, my God. -I can definitely smell him.

-Oh. -[Dev] Can you?

Yeah, you know, yeah, he's a little excited at the top.

-Don't go for that. -Yeah, OK.

[Sheena] So sorry, baby.

This is all I could get for you guys.

You can see that we have two bedrooms here.

The place is nice, it's pretty, but it could

have been a little bit bigger.

-I stake this claim in the name of Forrest. -[Molly] Yes.

-It feels good. -You got your bag, too?

Here, I'll -- I'll throw these in here for you.

It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing

with my parents.

If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down,

I really just hope my parents don't hear us.

-Sheena. -What?

This feels more than online right now.

-Oh. -It's making me more nervous.

Oh, you don't have to be. I'm here right with you.

[Forrest] Oh, I know, I can see.

-Yeah, you're so excited, huh? -[Forrest] Oh, yeah.

-Oh, yeah? -Because I got some good stuff here.

Excuse me, baby.

-Boom. -What is that?

This is something amazing.

And I want you to try it on for me if you want.

-Wow, what, that's -- what's that thing? That's -- -I think it is a cloth...

that goes on your body and accentuates your sexuality.

Oh, that's nice. I love the color.

-[Forrest] Oh, yeah. -That's cool.

[Forrest] And guess -- guess what? There's even more.

What? You have more?

[Forrest] Oh, I have more.

-[Sheena] Oh, wow, I love the color. -I got you a -- a pretty thong.

Wow.

To be honest, I feel quite nervous...

But Forest makes me feel confident of my body.

This is another one for you in case you want to, you know.

Oh, oh, that's pretty. It's cool.

It's beautiful.

-Oh, OK, oh, OK. -[Forrest] Put that one for you.

You're so handsome always.

I'm gonna go brush my teeth.

[Sheena] OK. Go for it, my love.

-Because I want to be minty fresh. -Alright.

Do your thing, my love.

[Forrest] You know, when I was making, like, sexy talk with her, I was

really just trying to, like, put her at ease,

make her laugh, you know, just calm the mood.

I've been waiting seven years to be alone

with Sheena like this, but...

I mean, I'm -- I'm not saying I can't blow her socks off,

but, uh, having sex with Sheena, I feel like it's an important

thing for the both of us to be in the right mindset.

It -- it's -- it's just a big deal.

-I love you. -[Sheena] I love you.

[Forrest] Do you want the lights on or off?

[Sheena speaking]

[Laura] It's absolutely wild...

that I'm finally on the ground here.

I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am

nervous that Birkan won't be as attracted to me in person.

Oh, my God. Here we go.

[upbeat music playing]

So this is the most important day, actually, in my life.

I'm trying to look good, you know, for our big meeting

for the first time.

Everything has to go perfect, so...

Laura rented this Airbnb for us.

Right now, I'm staying with different friends.

That's why Laura couldn't stay with me.

But the privacy of our place is gonna be nice because we have

a lot of things to discuss face-to-face.

It's absolutely wild...

that I'm finally on the ground here.

I'm so excited now!

I just wanna run out of this airport and leave all

my luggage here!

Oh!

Oh, my gosh, she come early!

Uh, yeah, we will see.

I am gonna wear a dress to meet this man.

I think that will be a lot cuter than the hot mess that

I'm currently wearing.

I'm really proud of the progress that I've made

over the last 14 months, but I still have flaws

and imperfections, and so I am nervous that Birkan won't be

as attracted to me in person.

And I think that's a cute dress.

Alright.

[Birkan speaking]

My hopes are we will get engaged and go to America,

live together, and get married.

But maybe she will hate me. Nobody knows.

This is it?

I can't believe I'm about to meet him.

♪ I wasn't there until you came into my view ♪

♪ Thought I was going insane ♪

[Laura] Oh, my God, here we go.

♪ Seen lies and truths ♪

♪ Now all the crazy I am is for you ♪

[Birkan speaking]

[Laura] I'm good, how are you?

[Laura] Yeah.

[Birkan speaking]

I think everything's perfect right now, yeah.

-Aw, that's really sweet. -Yeah, it was.

I know, I know, yeah.

-So let's go this way. -[Laura] OK.

-These bumps are a pain with suitcases. -[Birkan] Yeah.

[Laura] He looks amazing.

Exactly the aesthetic that I've been describing, which is that

dark romance male main character.

She's perfect. I don't need to look at her.

I don't need, because I feel it, you know?

I'm complete, so we don't need to see.

That's probably the best answer ever.

It's like the best flight I've ever taken.

-[Birkan] Yeah. -[Laura] Seriously.

I'm glad. I'm really glad.

Yeah.

You too.

[Laura] I don't know what's happening.

It's very awkward right now.

I really wasn't expecting that because, you know, it was,

like, great when we first met. He hugged me.

He kissed me.

And then we sit on this train, and it's like he doesn't know

who I am. And I don't know who he is.

I think we're close.

[Laura] I'm hoping that as time moves forward,

that this will turn around, and it will feel

more like it did when we were online.

But right now, something is off, and it's freaking me out.

...talking about, "Your brother, your brother."

I know that Anna is 1,000% unhinged,

like kind of off her rock her a little bit.

-[Jovon] Uh, yeah. -[Ashley] Who is the woman?

♪ Are y'all ready to roll, fully loaded ♪

♪ Y'all ready for woke ♪

♪ Straight up out of the bunker, might jump ya ♪

♪ The zombies out here, they hunt ya ♪

[Ashley] This is nice.

[Jovon] Really?

This is screaming, "I failed a pottery class."

Well, but she doesn't like how you dress, so you gotta do

something else. -Ugh.

♪ Yeah, got your grill ♪

♪ But you wanna kill with your skill ♪

♪ Adrenaline rush through your blood for real ♪

♪ Yeah, if you can feel that, then you can feel us ♪

♪ Now here comes the rush ♪

[Ashley speaking]

[Jovon] Ugh...

[Ashley] It'll -- it'll be fine.

It's gonna be fine.

[Jovon] I'm running some last-minute errands with my sister Ashley

because I'm flying to the Philippines

in a couple of days to meet my wife

for the first time in person.

I'm excited and I'm super nervous because we've been

married for three years.

But we've never been in the same room

or even the same continent with each other.

So are you all packed up? You ready?

Uh, I think I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be.

And, you know, me and Anna's relationship,

it's just been this spiraling,

like, up-and-down, loop-de-loop, rollercoaster ride.

But when things are good, I'm, like, really happy to be

in a relationship. -I think Anna's very funny.

[Jovon] Yeah.

Like, Anna seems like she's a good time.

She's just a lot.

Jovon marrying somebody online was actually wild to me.

I do think they love each other, but I don't know,

like, I wouldn't just call this, like, a -- a normal marriage.

This is something I've never seen or heard of before.

You know, like, Anna actually called me.

[Jovon] You spoke to her?

Mm-hmm.

She called me, like, at work. I'm working.

I'm with -- I'm with customers, and she's just,

you know, talking about, "Your brother, your brother,

I don't know what to do with him."

-Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah. -Rah rah, rah, rah, rah.

-Just rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah. -Yeah.

And I was like, can't even get her off the phone.

Yeah.

She was just talking about that woman.

[Jovon] Uh, yeah.

So who -- who is the woman?

[sighs]

So the woman is just like a friend of mine that I've --

that I've known for a long time.

We communicate so well, and we can stay on the phone

for hours, I think, 'cause we're both having problems

in our, you know, relationship,

it's definitely more easygoing, and it's more positive.

So but what is it that -- that Anna's so, like,

threatened and bothered by her?

Like, what -- what is it?

'Cause I feel like I'm missing something.

Yeah, I mean, there used to be this -- this --

this small thing between us,

but we're better. -Oh, so that, so...

so -- so Jovon, that's not OK. That is no good.

I -- I know, you know, and I'm not...

So that's why she's so upset then.

Yeah.

Me and my friend, we never officially dated,

but there was feelings for one another.

We lost touch for a while, but I reached out

to her because I was going through a rough time

in my marriage,

and I needed someone that knew me and that understood me.

I wasn't trying to hide anything.

So I just came out and told Annalyn I was talking

to this other person.

I don't think it's a big deal, but obviously she does,

because she's extremely pissed off and upset.

I'm not saying she don't have a valid reason to be upset,

but it's just completely platonic,

you know, and she don't have to worry about that.

[Ashley] Have you tried to call her?

[Jovon] I have, but, you know, she -- she blocked me.

[Ashley speaking]

She gets so aggressive. See, this is the problem.

Like, this is -- this is why I had to go

outside of our marriage to talk to somebody else

about our marriage, and it shouldn't be that way.

Obviously, Anna feels disrespected.

And I do get that.

I know that she's 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off

her rocker a little bit,

but I do feel like he presses her buttons.

Jovon just needs to say sorry and try and talk to her.

And if they don't know how to talk, then they don't need

to be married.

You're about to see your wife for the first time.

You all don't need to be in the middle of a fight.

I don't know what the [bleep] to do, I don't know what to do.

I heard some interesting things

from your guys' bedroom last night.

Did you guys do the old nookie nookie?

I just wanna prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?

Now -- now you're kinda -- now you're kinda being

really disrespectful.

[chill music playing]

-[Sheena speaking] -[Forrest] Oh, yeah?

[Molly] Hey, guys. We're gonna go down and have

some coffee by the pool.

So uh, we'll be up in a little while.

-Talk to you in a bit. -[Sheena] OK, mom.

[Dev] Later.

[Sheena giggles] Mm!

♪ God, she looks so good in my jacket, jacket ♪

♪ I tried to quit her like a habit, let her go and... ♪

Oh, you're crazy.

Crazy, do you...

[laughing]

I arrived in the Philippines yesterday, and the first night

with the woman of my dreams, Sheena, was amazing.

Oh, man, you're strong. I gotta watch out.

[laughing]

There's a lot of new and fun things I'm finding out being

with Sheena physically.

I found out there's a night Sheena.

And, uh, she's kinda grabby.

-Oh, really? I'm not -- -Very, very --

-You're very, uh, into being physical, night Sheena. -Oh, no, I'm...

Rawr, rawr, rawr.

You know, just finally being able to hold you

and be with you and -- and kiss you,

it just felt awesome.

And I know that I talked of a big game last night

about sex and everything like that, but I -- I really believe

that we should...

um, wait, you know, 'till we know each other a bit more,

you know, in person.

I understand, my love.

I really feel like after seven years, me coming here

to the Philippines and just having sex

with Sheena straight up,

it's not what I want to do. -Yeah, I agree with that.

I just want to get to know you much better.

We'll know when the time is right.

I agree to that.

Also, probably when my mom's not around.

[Sheena] Yeah.

-[Molly] Thank you. -[Dev] We'll see you later.

[Molly] I don't need a coat, that's for sure.

Ooh, nice and cool in here.

I'm excited.

♪ You got a goodness ♪

♪ Step inside, let me light it tonight ♪

So where exactly are we -- you taking us again?

[Sheena speaking]

-Wow. -[Sheena] Spaniards.

I'm ready eat it all.

So I got a little curiosity question to ask you guys.

I heard some interesting things, you know, coming for --

coming from your guys' bedroom last night, the little giggles.

So, uh, did, uh, you guys do the old, uh, nookie nookie?

-[both] No. -[Molly] No?

-[both] No. -[Sheena] No, no.

So why -- why didn't you guys?

Well, just wasn't the right time or place to do that.

Oh, OK.

Well, you guys can always come and talk to us

if you have questions.

[Molly speaking]

Yeah.

[Forrest] My parents are just...

it's a little too much.

It's a little bit rude and awkward for me.

I just wanna prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?

I respect you guys for -- for waiting.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

There are other things that you can do.

If you guys didn't wanna do the nookie nookie,

there's oral sex, there's fondling. -[Sheena] Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Now -- now you're kinda being really disrespectful here, mom.

I get you're trying to be helpful,

but you're pushing too far.

You know, if we wanna talk about sex with you,

we'll come up and ask about it.

OK, excuse me.

I thought it was nice that he was defending her honor.

But I was very shocked by Forrest's reaction.

[Sheena] Thank you very much.

Well, Forrest, uh, why is this, you know, a total 180

from our normal discussions where you're right in there

using the same language, the same talk, saying,

"Yeah, I'm gonna get into that, do that?"

It's drastic, night and day.

I see where this is headed.

Oh, my God, I miss this place.

Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.

Let's not forget, she was lying to him for years, giving all

of her money to her parents instead of saving

for their future.

And I don't know if Forrest will actually

hold her accountable.

But we need to get some answers.

You don't know everything.

I really wanna tell Ziad about my last engagement,

because I think it's the only way

that we could move forward.

[upbeat music playing]

-Ooh, look at the mirrors. -Yeah.

Wait, I wanna check my outfit.

Here, hold that.

We look cute.

I can see you. Can you see yourself?

[Ziad speaking]

[Emma] I'm excited to go shopping.

-It's always crowded? -[Ziad] So -- yeah.

This is an easy place to get lost.

[Ziad] Yeah.

Oh, look at those bags.

Those are cute.

[Ziad speaking]

...they have a thousand stores there.

[Emma] Oh, my gosh, I love all of these clothes.

You can find anything you want.

[Emma] Ooh, look at these rugs. Those are nice.

-[Ziad] Yes. -Oh, wait, there's bags.

-Let's go look at the bags. -[Ziad speaking]

Oh, this is so cute. Can you hold this?

I wanna look at everything.

I think I like these little wallets.

These are cute.

I think I'm gonna buy these three.

[Emma] You're gonna get them?

-Yeah. -Babe!

[Ziad speaking] I think...

Can I give you a kiss?

Air kiss?

-[Emma] Is that OK? -Yeah, that's OK.

-Can I do that from now on? -[Ziad] Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Just give you air kisses whenever I wanna kiss you?

[Ziad] Yeah.

It's really nice to have Ziad offer to buy me things

and buy gifts for me.

That was so romantic.

Because that's never something I've had in the past.

It's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than I was

feeling yesterday.

Where are you taking me, babe?

[Ziad speaking]

[Emma] What is this?

What is that?

[Emma] Snails.

-[Ziad] Snails. -I, like, don't want that.

-[Ziad] Really? -No.

I'm not trying it, no.

I literally would throw up.

[Ziad speaking]

This is the grossest thing I've ever seen

in my whole life. It's a slimy snail.

-And you just sucked it down. -[Ziad] For me...

[Emma] That's, like, really gross.

What's, like, the weirdest food you've ever tried?

Like, snails would be weird.

I love sushi.

Yeah, it's...

Are we compatible?

[Ziad] Mm-hmm.

[Emma] Thank you.

Can you hold my other bag, actually?

[Ziad] Uh-huh.

What else can we do, like, while we're here?

-[Ziad speaking] -[Emma] I love horses.

I think we have to choose this one.

-I like the white ones. -[Ziad] Give me your hand.

-[Emma] Wait. -Just one by one.

One by one.

Oh, my gosh, this is so romantic.

-Yeah. -[Emma] This is like a romantic love ride.

[Ziad] Yeah.

[both chuckle]

[Emma] I'm happy that we had a better day today.

[Emma] Yesterday was, like, really hard for me.

It, like, brought up old feelings.

'Cause, you know, I've been lied to a lot,

like, in my past --

like, with past boyfriends. -[Ziad] Uh-huh.

So when -- when you kinda lied to me, it was like,

a trigger for me.

Yeah...

- Your bad -- your bad experience -- -Do you not care about my past?

Yeah, but don't you wanna know about my life?

Just, like, things I've been through,

don't you wanna know about me?

Yeah, I know -- I know everything about your life.

You don't know everything.

-No, I know everything. I know your family. -No, you don't.

I know, uh, where you live, I know... -[Emma] I know, but there are

things that, like, I -- that have happened in my life

that you don't know about.

-Like, I've got... -[Ziad speaking]

I wanna be vulnerable.

I wanna share, you know,

details about who I am and my past.

And I really wanna be able to tell Ziad about

my last engagement, because I think it's

the only way that we could move forward.

But for him to shut me down, it does make me wonder if Ziad

just doesn't wanna talk about the past because maybe he has

something that he's hiding or that he doesn't

wanna tell me.

Since I've gotten to Morocco,

I've just felt really rejected by him.

And so now I'm just feeling

a little concerned about everything.

[Molly] I need you to be able to look me in the eye.

Why have you lied to us all along?

They would say bad things to me.

-They would say bad things to other people. -OK.

And it affects me emotionally, mentally, drains me every day.

I, uh-uh, no, I need that direct answer as to why you continue

to hide it.

[tense music playing]

[phone ringing]

[phone continues ringing]

Hello, Jovon.

What do you want now?

[Jovon] I'm leaving for the Philippines tomorrow

to meet with my wife Anna for the first time.

But me and Anna, we haven't spoken to each other

in about a week.

My sister talked to Annalyn, and she actually unblocked me.

But she's still really upset that I'm back in touch

with a friend I once had feelings for.

There's so much riding on this trip.

Anna being this angry, it's just not good.

I mean, you know, Anna, don't -- don't be so aggressive.

I'm not being aggressive.

I'm dealing with so much over here by myself.

I'm dealing with your problems.

I'm dealing with my problems.

And sometimes I don't feel like I'm being emotionally

supported by you.

So you know, I kinda felt like I was just a little bit

desperate just to -- just to be understood and just heard.

I mean, but like, who could afford therapy right now?

She's not taking any accountability that,

you know, she played a part in why I reached out

to a friend.

I need to be able to rely on my wife,

but she makes it impossible.

Even when I'm, like, at work and you're going through

something, I always try to be there

for you emotionally, you know? -OK, OK.

OK, listen.

I try, but I don't see you trying for me.

When -- when do you show up for me in that way?

I know you've made, you know, some sacrifice by waiting for me

for this long, and I do apologize,

and I do take accountability for what I've done.

OK?

I can stop, but can we at least work

on our communication?

OK.

[Jovon] OK.

That's all I want, boo. That -- that's it.

[Annalyn] With Jovon coming out to the Philippines,

I do feel like

I could let go of some negative feelings about this situation.

But even though he agreed that he's not gonna talk to that

woman anymore, do I believe it?

No, not really. So I will definitely

talk about this again in person.

[Jovon] Do you think we can, like, move past it?

-Like, when we see each other? -[Annalyn] I don't know, maybe.

[upbeat music playing]

-[Forrest] Whoa, look at this place. -[Sheena speaking]

-[Molly] Oh. -[Dev] 1588.

Man, that is old. It's old.

Wow, look at that.

Yes.

[Sheena speaking]

[Molly] Oh, my goodness.

Oh, yes.

[Sheena speaking]

Goodness.

Yes. Oh, my god.

-[Sheena] Yeah, it's really cool. -[Molly] Look at this.

[all] Hi!

[Sheena speaking]

-Oh, that smells so good. -Wow, [indistinct].

[Sheena speaking]

[Molly speaking]

Hello, oh!

[Sheena speaking]

OK, thank you, thank you.

Yum. Oh, thank you.

[Molly] Soup's up and slurp's up, huh?

[Sheena] Yeah...

[Forrest] So the louder the best, right?

-[Sheena] Yeah, yes. -Here I go.

Yeah, you are the king of slurp, Forrest.

I made sure to get it on my glasses.

-That's the -- that's the key. -[Sheena speaking]

[Molly] Yeah.

Well, Sheena...

I wanted to -- to thank you for your apology yesterday.

I mean, that really showed a lot, um, to me.

But I did -- I did want to...

uh, ask you about a few things.

OK?

And I need you to be able to look me in the eye,

and I need you to be truthful with me 100%.

You lied to us about giving your parents the money.

This was supposed to be you saving up money

so you could come to America to be a family with us.

These were the plans all of these years.

And then for it to just find out now,

before we come here,

that hasn't been happening.

Why have you lied to us all along?

The reason why that I happen to give my money

to my parents,

is because...

I mean, I completely understand giving your parents

money, needing to help your family.

That's what family does.

But my issue with it is that you lied.

...my parents, my mom happened to

guilt tripping me from time to time.

If I don't give them money, she makes me feel that I'm such

a selfish person and it hurts me a lot.

[Molly] OK, but if I'm asking you a direct question, I need

that direct answer.

And even now, you haven't given me a direct answer

as to why you continued to hide it.

Watching Sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful.

I -- I'm wanting to step in and defend her and protect

Sheena, but at the same time, I don't understand what fear

she had of telling me.

[Sheena speaking]

They would say bad things to me.

They would say bad things to other people.

-OK. -And it affects me emotionally.

And mentally drains me every day.

Uh-uh, no.

And it makes me feel so bad.

No, no.

Sheena, I'm not asking you that.

I'm asking you why you did not tell us?

-[Sheena] I couldn't handle them myself anymore because it's... -[Forrest] Sheena.

I can't, Sheena, I can't understand all what you're saying.

-I am sorry. -[Molly speaking]

See, there's your manipulation with the tears.

-Please put your tissue down. -[indistinct]

I'm trying to have Sheena acknowledge actions that

she did that weren't acceptable.

So even if she did have good reason to give it all

to her parents, what's the motivation

for hiding it? We gotta get answers.

[sobbing]

[Lisa] Oh my God, this is really happening!

Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God,

oh my God, oh my God!

I can't believe I'm doing this.

[both speaking Igbo]

Mm-hmm.

Oh my god, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God.

[Faith] Here he is. Awesome.

-Here we go. -[Faith] Yeah.

Here goes everything.

♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh ♪

Thank you.

Oh, my gosh.

I'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life, Daniel,

in Nigeria for the very first time.

-What am I doing? -[Faith] I don't know, mom.

What are you doing?

Certainly not what I would be doing.

It still feels surreal to me that after 21 years

of only being with women, I'm traveling across the world

to meet a man.

And I love him.

I love him.

You're gonna see when I come home how excited

and happy I am.

You're gonna see when I talk to you there how happy I am.

And you're gonna be happy for me.

I just, I don't want it to ruin your heart.

[Lisa] I'm gonna pee my pants.

[Faith] Oh, God, please don't.

[Lisa] Here we go.

Alright, you remember the rules.

Don't get married on the trip, even when the divorce

comes through. -[Lisa] Yes.

And I will come clean about everything.

It'll be a foundation.

-[Faith] And if you have questions... -I will ask them.

-[Faith] I love you. -[Lisa] I love you, too.

-I'm gonna miss you so much. -Stay safe.

Oh, God.

This is the biggest risk I've ever taken, flying across

the world to another country, to Nigeria, Africa, to be with

a man I have never met before. I can't believe I'm doing this!

Oh, my God. This is really happening!

Oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God,

oh, my God, oh, my God!

I can't believe I'm doing this!

Happy dance, happy dance.

I hope Daniel will accept me for everything that I am

and who I am, and that he will become my sixth

and final spouse.

[ethereal wind music playing]

[music in foreign language plays]

[music continues]

[both speaking Igbo]

[Daniel speaking]

[speaking Igbo]

♪ It's like fire burning up ♪

[Daniel speaking]

♪ Like fire, feel the heat ♪

[Daniel speaking]

[speaking Igbo]

Mm-hmm.

[percussive music plays]

[speaking Igbo]

[speaking Igbo]

[Daniel speaking]

[both speaking Igbo]

And if I should make it to America, this will change

my life to good.

[speaking Igbo]

[Turkish folk music playing]

[Laura] I feel so bad you're dragging my suitcases.

[Birkan] Yes.

[Laura] It feels like it got colder.

It gets cold or gets hot. No straight weather.

[Laura] Wow!

[music continues]

-Here we are. -[Laura] Oh, we're here?

[Birkan] Here you go. I will take this.

-[Laura] Thank you. -[Birkan] You're welcome.

[Laura] After all of this excitement, anticipation, and buildup

of coming to Türkiye and meeting Birkan face to face,

it's starting off a little bit awkward,

but I'm still so happy

to be finally standing here with him.

It just feels so right.

I'm excited to see this.

-[Birkan] Here you go. -Oh, you want me to go first?

-Yeah, of course. -[Laura] OK.

-Oh my God, this is huge. -Yeah.

This is way bigger than it looked in pictures.

This is amazing.

This kitchen is bigger than almost my every house, so.

This is incredible.

-[Birkan] You like it? -[Laura] Oh, my God, I love this.

-I'm gonna move here. -[Birkan] You can see the sea.

[Laura] Everything? Oh, my God.

Wow.

This is amazing.

I'm so excited to finally be here

and to finally be doing this.

-Yeah, that's worth it. -Yeah, I know.

So how about you change and we will see...

That sounds awesome. Let's do that.

-Let's do that. -Alright.

OK.

[Laura] This is incredible.

I would love to, like, live right there, like,

with this view every day. -[Birkan] Yeah.

-[Laura] I do too. -[Birkan] Yeah.

-I love that. -Yeah, I love it.

-That's, like, really profound. -Yeah, I love that phrase.

[Laura] Birkan has so many, like, random comments for things,

and he has a way of taking things that are just very simple

and creating this,

like, giant philosophical discussion around it.

It's really pretty now that the sun's gone down.

Yeah, when the darkness comes,

the light...

shines out.

Sometimes it's a little exhausting,

'cause I'm like, "Oh, my God, it's just the sunset."

-I guess we gotta go this way. -[Laura] Go back this way?

Yeah.

[Laura] I feel like a walking zombie right now.

[Birkan speaking]

[Laura] Not me?

I don't know where he comes up with all of this.

I mean, it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes,

but ultimately I like it and I wouldn't change it.

[Birkan sighs]

How was your day?

Yeah, it was good.

I enjoyed it. How about you?

I mean, I'm exhausted.

-[Birkan] Yeah. -I traveled a ton to get here, but it was really fun to see

some of the sights and...

I'm exhausted, and I have got

to get some sleep. -[Birkan] OK.

[Laura] You wanna go to bed?

Actually, it's just 9 o'clock,

and I have no sleep. -[Laura] OK.

So why don't you go some sleep, and I will watch some TV...

[Laura speaking]

-[Birkan] Have a nice night. -[Laura] Alright.

-Good night. -Good night.

[indistinct TV audio]

[ping]

Um, Michal just has been blowing up my phone

since I got here.

He tracked my flight, texted me, like, as soon as I landed

to say, "I saw you landed." And then he just

kinda checked up on me.

I said, "Everything's good."

And then he was like,

"Your tone is less than excited, my dear."

So I think it's interesting that he can pick up on that.

But I just have a lot of things to process right now.

Him just staying out there watching TV,

it's just, I don't know, different, maybe,

than what I was expecting.

I feel like it's not, like, this super great magical moment.

It just feels off. I don't know how to explain it.

It just feels off.

It is so ironic and kind of concerning that I'm getting

more attention from Michal than I am from the man

that I flew halfway around the world to meet.

And so I feel like there's something really wrong.

And I don't know, maybe he's hiding something,

or maybe he's just not attracted to me in person.

But either way, I'm just kind of questioning why

I'm even here at this point.

Does this story make any sense to you at all?

-No. -It doesn't make any sense to me.

Forrest, does it make sense to you?

I wanna end this now. You're acting all hostile.

-I'm not -- -[Forrest] Yeah, you are.

Forrest.

[honking]

...where they had [indistinct] they kept all these promises -- -[Forrest] Sheen.

...and told me that they will do anything.

We can't understand you.

You have to speak.

You have to be strong and you have to speak clearly.

I -- I need you to really, please, point blank.

You were giving your parents money.

Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?

...that if I happen not to give them money,

they would say bad things.

-It makes -- -[Sheena] And I am so -- I was so afraid [indistinct].

Does this story make any sense to you at all?

Honestly, when you try to look at it and without the tears

and without the... -[Sheena speaking]

-No. -It doesn't make any sense to me at all.

The pieces aren't just lining up.

I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.

It's very concerning because...

Oh, you were scared.

Forrest would have -- Forrest would have come to me

and said, "Mom, I gotta get on a freaking plane right now.

I gotta go over there and save her."

But it sounds to me,

you obviously weren't that scared that you couldn't tell

him and that you could put up with it all that years

and hide it.

Forrest, does it make sense to you?

A lot of it, yeah.

I understand that if you love your parents, and you want

to have love from them, you would try to do anything

to make them love you. -Forrest.

It's hard to say no to a parent, especially when --

[Forrest] Especially -- mom...

it's hard for me to say no to you.

It's hard for me to stick up for her against you.

I -- I believe Sheena is not trying to lie

or use things as excuses.

I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say.

And she gets so overwhelmed, all she can get is "Blah,"

you know, diarrhea of the mouth.

I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena

if I just sat there and watched her flounder.

Obviously, she knows she did wrong.

What's your goal here?

Just to stay here and keep beating her down?

I think what we have to do...

is we need to get Sheena away from her parents...

'cause ultimately the root of this nasty tree

is the parents.

Sheena, I need -- we need to hear from you

that you're ready to...

move forward and confront your parents about what

we're gonna do from now on.

Which is what she should have done to set up with you.

-[Forrest] Yeah. -Years and years ago.

Yeah, and we could sit there

and we could talk about the past.

And he said, she said, he could do that.

She cannot do that. It's time to move forward now.

Forrest?

I wanna end this now.

I don't even wanna talk about the parents anymore.

I don't wanna talk about anything.

-You're acting all hostile. -I'm not --

[Forrest] Yeah, you are.

And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.

You're causing me a lot of stress.

We tried to have a nice dinner,

and our nice dinner turned into...

[Forrest speaking]

I now see that Forrest is too deep.

He's just got the blinders on, only wanting to believe her.

Now he sees us as the big bad -- bad nasties that attacked

his poor Sheena.

But still I have to always protect Forrest because I know

that he really loves her

and I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.

[Emma] Next time on "Before the 90 Days."

[Jovon] I'm about to meet my wife for the first time.

[Annalyn] Come on.

This is like ordering something online and you're just excited

to unpack the package.

Oh my God.

-[Birkan speaking] -A little bit, yeah, actually.

Before I came to Türkiye,

I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.

I have some, like, loose skin in places that I am looking

to have removed.

But I'm immediately regretting having Birkan come with me.

I will just show you some pictures.

Every day, you follow new girls.

Just girls, girls, girls, girls,

girls, girls, girls, girls, yeah.

I downloaded this extension on my laptop,

and it shows you who people follow.

This morning, I saw that he was still following

thousands of women.

So since we've been dating, have you talked romantically

to any other girls?

Sheena and I had a discussion about going by ourselves

to meet your parents and how it's important that I meet them

before mom and dad meet them. -Mm-hmm, Mm-hmm.

[Molly] I can't even imagine what her parents would try and do

if Forrest went over there by himself.

I need to be there with -- with Forrest.

Sheena, your parents are going to do the same line that

they've used on you all along.

Now the story changes again.

I still don't know if this isn't something that you're

involved in either.

[upbeat music playing]

I love him with everything I am, but he doesn't know that

I've been married five times and I'm still married

to a woman.

[Daniel speaking]

[Lisa] What are you doing?