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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:15,321 --> 00:00:17,521 - I'm going to work in Woolworths. 2 00:00:17,521 --> 00:00:20,081 - When I grow up, I want to be an astronaut. 3 00:00:20,081 --> 00:00:22,921 - When I get married, I'd like to have two children. 4 00:00:22,921 --> 00:00:26,241 - My heart's desire is to see my daddy. 5 00:00:26,241 --> 00:00:28,641 - I don't want to answer that. 6 00:00:31,681 --> 00:00:34,361 - This is no ordinary outing to the zoo. 7 00:00:34,361 --> 00:00:36,361 It's a very special occasion. 8 00:00:36,361 --> 00:00:37,961 We've brought these children together 9 00:00:37,961 --> 00:00:39,441 for the very first time. 10 00:00:41,321 --> 00:00:43,961 They're like any other children except that they come 11 00:00:43,961 --> 00:00:46,361 from startlingly different backgrounds. 12 00:00:47,441 --> 00:00:48,961 - Stop it at once! 13 00:00:48,961 --> 00:00:50,601 - We've brought these children together 14 00:00:50,601 --> 00:00:55,601 because we wanted a glimpse of England in the year 2000. 15 00:00:55,641 --> 00:00:58,521 The shop steward and the executive of the year 2000 16 00:00:58,521 --> 00:01:00,761 are now seven years old. 17 00:01:04,601 --> 00:01:08,801 - In 1964, "World in Action" made "Seven Up!" 18 00:01:08,801 --> 00:01:10,841 and we've been back to film these children 19 00:01:10,841 --> 00:01:11,921 every seven years. 20 00:01:14,521 --> 00:01:15,761 They are now 49. 21 00:01:22,601 --> 00:01:24,601 Last week we watched six of our children 22 00:01:24,601 --> 00:01:26,921 grow up from seven to 49. 23 00:01:26,921 --> 00:01:29,721 Tonight, we'll see what happened to the others. 24 00:01:29,721 --> 00:01:33,921 - If I can change the world I'd change it into a diamond. 25 00:01:33,921 --> 00:01:35,441 I don't really think that I've done anything 26 00:01:35,441 --> 00:01:38,081 you can call a great success. 27 00:01:38,081 --> 00:01:41,081 - When I was born, an illegitimate child, 28 00:01:41,081 --> 00:01:45,241 that's something that's only whispered about. 29 00:01:45,241 --> 00:01:49,161 - If I could, I would have two girls and two boys. 30 00:01:49,161 --> 00:01:51,721 At times, you think Christ, what have I done? 31 00:01:51,721 --> 00:01:54,761 - I read the "Financial Times". 32 00:01:54,761 --> 00:01:55,561 - It's very irresponsible 33 00:01:55,561 --> 00:01:58,441 because we all want more money, as much money as we can get. 34 00:01:59,921 --> 00:02:04,521 - Nick, Simon, Lynn, Andrew, John and Neil. 35 00:02:05,841 --> 00:02:08,161 - When I grow up, I want to be an astronaut 36 00:02:08,161 --> 00:02:09,921 but if I can't be an astronaut, 37 00:02:09,921 --> 00:02:12,801 I think I'll be a coach driver. 38 00:02:12,801 --> 00:02:14,241 I tend to think most likely 39 00:02:14,241 --> 00:02:17,041 the answer is I'll be wandering homeless 40 00:02:17,041 --> 00:02:18,521 around the streets of London. 41 00:02:19,441 --> 00:02:20,801 - We'll see if Neil 42 00:02:20,801 --> 00:02:23,721 is still wandering around homeless and alone. 43 00:02:25,761 --> 00:02:29,321 - When I grow up, I'd like to find out 44 00:02:29,321 --> 00:02:31,601 all about the moon and all that. 45 00:02:32,601 --> 00:02:34,321 - Nick, a farmer's son, 46 00:02:34,321 --> 00:02:36,761 grew up in the Yorkshire Dales. 47 00:02:36,761 --> 00:02:38,841 - And I said I was interested in physics and chemistry. 48 00:02:38,841 --> 00:02:40,721 Well, I'm not gonna do that here. 49 00:02:40,721 --> 00:02:42,961 At 14, he was away at boarding school 50 00:02:42,961 --> 00:02:46,041 and at 21, reading physics at Oxford. 51 00:02:46,041 --> 00:02:48,161 - So what career are you gonna pursue? 52 00:02:48,161 --> 00:02:50,001 - It depends whether I'll be good enough 53 00:02:50,001 --> 00:02:51,921 to do what I wanna really do. 54 00:02:53,281 --> 00:02:56,761 I would like, if I can, to do research. 55 00:02:59,041 --> 00:03:01,201 - By 28, he had moved to America 56 00:03:01,201 --> 00:03:03,481 and was doing research into nuclear fusion 57 00:03:03,481 --> 00:03:05,641 at the University of Wisconsin. 58 00:03:05,641 --> 00:03:07,401 - The fusion reaction gives off energy 59 00:03:07,401 --> 00:03:09,201 and produces the power 60 00:03:09,201 --> 00:03:11,921 that would be turned into electrical energy 61 00:03:12,961 --> 00:03:14,481 and sent out to the consumer. 62 00:03:14,481 --> 00:03:15,761 - How hot is it in there? 63 00:03:15,761 --> 00:03:18,241 - In there, it's about 10 million degrees. 64 00:03:19,801 --> 00:03:22,161 - At 35, he was an associate professor, 65 00:03:22,161 --> 00:03:24,761 And at 42, a full professor. 66 00:03:27,041 --> 00:03:29,041 - And I've spent the last year and a half 67 00:03:29,041 --> 00:03:31,121 writing a couple of books. 68 00:03:31,121 --> 00:03:33,001 My ambition as a scientist is to be more famous 69 00:03:33,001 --> 00:03:35,241 for doing science than for being in this film, 70 00:03:35,241 --> 00:03:37,761 but unfortunately, Michael, it's not gonna happen. 71 00:03:39,121 --> 00:03:42,121 - Over the years, Nick's research hit trouble, 72 00:03:42,121 --> 00:03:44,761 and by 49, he's had to abandon it, 73 00:03:44,761 --> 00:03:47,361 because the containers needed to store the hot gases 74 00:03:47,361 --> 00:03:49,121 couldn't be developed. 75 00:03:49,121 --> 00:03:50,001 - Was there a moment 76 00:03:50,001 --> 00:03:52,521 when you realised that all you'd been doing 77 00:03:52,521 --> 00:03:53,681 wasn't gonna work out? 78 00:03:55,201 --> 00:03:58,121 - I think it was more gradual. 79 00:03:58,121 --> 00:04:00,921 I didn't wanna admit it for quite a while. 80 00:04:00,921 --> 00:04:03,001 I mean, I really believed in it. 81 00:04:03,001 --> 00:04:05,881 It was a huge let-down. 82 00:04:06,881 --> 00:04:10,721 So the area that I'm looking at is this times this. 83 00:04:11,761 --> 00:04:15,161 I don't know why I've a compulsion to teach, really. 84 00:04:15,161 --> 00:04:16,401 It was always there in me. 85 00:04:16,401 --> 00:04:17,481 I just wanted to do it. 86 00:04:17,481 --> 00:04:19,521 I thought I'd be good at it. 87 00:04:19,521 --> 00:04:21,841 When I go into a classroom full of undergraduates, 88 00:04:21,841 --> 00:04:23,321 I try and explain to them 89 00:04:23,321 --> 00:04:25,001 why they might wanna try and do it. 90 00:04:25,001 --> 00:04:27,841 That's my little attempt to open a little door for them. 91 00:04:27,841 --> 00:04:30,801 So I'm hoping that you remember me being very stupid 92 00:04:30,801 --> 00:04:33,321 and going, ow, there's arrows coming out of here. 93 00:04:33,321 --> 00:04:34,321 Can we do that? 94 00:04:34,321 --> 00:04:35,601 Any chance of that, okay? 95 00:04:35,601 --> 00:04:37,801 They can get information from a book. 96 00:04:37,801 --> 00:04:38,961 I have to keep them awake 97 00:04:38,961 --> 00:04:41,721 and make the information a bit more interesting than a book. 98 00:04:41,721 --> 00:04:44,241 I'm doomed to do this over and over and over. 99 00:04:45,961 --> 00:04:47,761 Okay, well, I didn't even know it was happening, 100 00:04:47,761 --> 00:04:48,801 so it was interesting 'cause that, you know. 101 00:04:48,801 --> 00:04:51,681 And nobody's ever said that I was a typical engineer. 102 00:04:53,761 --> 00:04:56,921 The undergraduates tell jokes about engineers, 103 00:04:56,921 --> 00:04:58,481 and the only one I can repeat to you 104 00:04:58,481 --> 00:05:02,041 is how you can tell if an engineer is an extrovert? 105 00:05:02,041 --> 00:05:03,841 And the answer is he looks at your shoes 106 00:05:03,841 --> 00:05:05,081 when he's talking to you. 107 00:05:05,081 --> 00:05:08,201 Even though he's clearly a megastar, it's like. 108 00:05:08,201 --> 00:05:10,241 Somebody came up with a theory recently 109 00:05:10,241 --> 00:05:12,521 that a lot of scientists and mathematicians 110 00:05:12,521 --> 00:05:14,281 are just borderline autistic. 111 00:05:15,361 --> 00:05:18,721 I could easily be borderline autistic, you know. 112 00:05:18,721 --> 00:05:20,761 I don't quite get how other people 113 00:05:20,761 --> 00:05:23,561 feel about things sometimes, you know. 114 00:05:23,561 --> 00:05:24,881 - Do you have a girlfriend? 115 00:05:27,841 --> 00:05:30,561 - I don't wan to answer that. 116 00:05:30,561 --> 00:05:34,801 I don't answer those kind of questions. 117 00:05:35,921 --> 00:05:38,521 I thought that one would come up because when I was, 118 00:05:39,841 --> 00:05:41,241 when I was doing the other one, 119 00:05:41,241 --> 00:05:43,241 and somebody said, "What do you think about girls?" 120 00:05:43,241 --> 00:05:44,561 And I said, "I don't answer questions like that." 121 00:05:44,561 --> 00:05:46,361 Is that the reason you're asking it? 122 00:05:47,281 --> 00:05:48,161 I thought so. 123 00:05:52,041 --> 00:05:53,401 The best answer would be to say 124 00:05:53,401 --> 00:05:55,281 that I don't answer questions like that 125 00:05:55,281 --> 00:05:58,521 but, I mean, it was what I said when I was seven, 126 00:05:58,521 --> 00:06:00,401 and it's still the most sensible. 127 00:06:01,241 --> 00:06:02,601 What about them? 128 00:06:02,601 --> 00:06:05,321 - Nick was only 17 when I first met him. 129 00:06:05,321 --> 00:06:07,041 I mean, if he'd been somebody 130 00:06:07,041 --> 00:06:11,521 who had had fixed ideas of a woman's role in marriage 131 00:06:11,521 --> 00:06:15,521 that meant dinner on the table at six every evening. 132 00:06:15,521 --> 00:06:18,801 - Ah, didn't I tell you about that? 133 00:06:18,801 --> 00:06:21,721 - His wife Jackie also taught at the university 134 00:06:21,721 --> 00:06:23,201 and they had a son Adam. 135 00:06:24,081 --> 00:06:26,161 Six years ago, they divorced. 136 00:06:27,521 --> 00:06:29,841 - Well, it was incredibly hard. 137 00:06:32,041 --> 00:06:35,041 What I concluded, and I have talked to other people 138 00:06:35,041 --> 00:06:36,881 about this who've gone through it, 139 00:06:36,881 --> 00:06:38,761 I'm not sure if they feel it as strongly as I did, 140 00:06:38,761 --> 00:06:40,841 but it was like a death. 141 00:06:40,841 --> 00:06:42,321 - Anything could happen. 142 00:06:42,321 --> 00:06:43,521 We could easily drift apart. 143 00:06:43,521 --> 00:06:45,601 There are so many pressures on people. 144 00:06:45,601 --> 00:06:48,801 - If your spouse died, you could look back and think, 145 00:06:48,801 --> 00:06:51,001 well, it was wonderful while it lasted. 146 00:06:51,001 --> 00:06:54,881 But in a divorce, you can't look back and say, 147 00:06:56,321 --> 00:06:58,081 these are all happy memories. 148 00:06:59,321 --> 00:07:00,481 It wasn't my decision. 149 00:07:01,921 --> 00:07:04,121 She went to England. 150 00:07:04,121 --> 00:07:05,081 Her father was ill. 151 00:07:06,161 --> 00:07:07,681 By the time she'd landed, he had died, 152 00:07:07,681 --> 00:07:09,081 and when she came back, 153 00:07:10,281 --> 00:07:12,321 it was like a different person came back. 154 00:07:14,121 --> 00:07:16,281 Was I responsible? 155 00:07:16,281 --> 00:07:18,281 I could have been braver about some things 156 00:07:18,281 --> 00:07:21,081 but if I'd been braver, it might have ended sooner. 157 00:07:21,921 --> 00:07:23,841 You can talk to me by myself outside, 158 00:07:23,841 --> 00:07:25,961 but I'll just meet you by the garage, okay? 159 00:07:27,081 --> 00:07:28,841 All right, bye. 160 00:07:28,841 --> 00:07:30,321 It's enormously hard to deal with. 161 00:07:30,321 --> 00:07:35,321 The worst part of it was seeing how it would affect my son. 162 00:07:36,121 --> 00:07:37,481 - How old was he? 163 00:07:37,481 --> 00:07:38,281 - 10. 164 00:07:39,681 --> 00:07:44,681 When he was first told, he was terribly, terribly upset, 165 00:07:46,001 --> 00:07:48,761 and then he just pulled himself together 166 00:07:49,641 --> 00:07:52,601 and didn't wanna talk about it anymore. 167 00:07:53,921 --> 00:07:55,081 He's made the most of it. 168 00:07:55,081 --> 00:07:56,041 I mean, the best of it. 169 00:07:56,041 --> 00:07:58,481 Made the best that he can of it, I guess. 170 00:07:59,801 --> 00:08:00,681 Take it easy, Adam. 171 00:08:00,681 --> 00:08:02,601 Main thing is not to crash. 172 00:08:02,601 --> 00:08:03,441 - Really? 173 00:08:03,441 --> 00:08:05,241 You don't want me to crash right now? 174 00:08:05,241 --> 00:08:07,001 - How does he deal with it now? 175 00:08:07,001 --> 00:08:11,201 - He doesn't talk to me about it very much at all. 176 00:08:11,201 --> 00:08:12,361 He's a private person. 177 00:08:13,601 --> 00:08:16,841 It's very, very hard for me 178 00:08:16,841 --> 00:08:21,841 to be spending a large part of my time with him not around. 179 00:08:25,801 --> 00:08:26,841 Hi, Graham. 180 00:08:26,841 --> 00:08:27,641 - What you doing? 181 00:08:27,641 --> 00:08:29,641 - What you doing? 182 00:08:30,881 --> 00:08:32,681 I had to go to a graduation. 183 00:08:32,681 --> 00:08:34,681 One of my students was getting his PhD 184 00:08:34,681 --> 00:08:37,361 and he insisted I go there with him, 185 00:08:37,361 --> 00:08:41,761 and I looked around, and the person behind me was Chris. 186 00:08:41,761 --> 00:08:42,601 - Hey, Graham. 187 00:08:45,041 --> 00:08:46,801 - Who is my new wife. 188 00:08:47,961 --> 00:08:49,081 Are you okay? 189 00:08:49,081 --> 00:08:51,041 - Did you fall in love quickly? 190 00:08:51,041 --> 00:08:51,961 - Immediately. 191 00:08:53,681 --> 00:08:55,881 - Except that you decided that if I couldn't find you, 192 00:08:55,881 --> 00:08:59,001 I'd failed the test. - I decided it was his work 193 00:08:59,001 --> 00:09:00,041 to find me. 194 00:09:02,521 --> 00:09:04,761 We did shake hands at the end of graduation, 195 00:09:04,761 --> 00:09:07,361 stood up and said who we were, but he immediately forgot. 196 00:09:07,361 --> 00:09:09,601 He couldn't remember who I was. 197 00:09:09,601 --> 00:09:11,401 - Okay, I know who she is, 198 00:09:11,401 --> 00:09:13,041 so I don't have to worry about this anymore. 199 00:09:13,041 --> 00:09:13,881 So I forgot. 200 00:09:15,121 --> 00:09:16,921 I do, that's very me. 201 00:09:18,121 --> 00:09:21,081 She came down to the student union to meet me 202 00:09:21,081 --> 00:09:23,801 and I barely knew what she looked like. 203 00:09:25,161 --> 00:09:27,281 I looked at her, I guess that's her 204 00:09:27,281 --> 00:09:30,321 and I sort of looked and did this, and she did the same. 205 00:09:30,321 --> 00:09:32,441 She did a mirror image of that gesture, 206 00:09:32,441 --> 00:09:35,441 and I thought, I can't explain what that was 207 00:09:35,441 --> 00:09:36,881 but I just felt 208 00:09:36,881 --> 00:09:39,361 very strongly drawn to her by that little gesture. 209 00:09:41,001 --> 00:09:44,001 - And there was no way I would say no 210 00:09:44,001 --> 00:09:46,121 to being married to this man. 211 00:09:46,121 --> 00:09:48,201 I wanted to be with him. 212 00:09:49,841 --> 00:09:51,001 Has he changed my life? 213 00:09:51,001 --> 00:09:52,521 Dramatically. 214 00:09:52,521 --> 00:09:54,881 Have I changed as a person? 215 00:09:54,881 --> 00:09:56,001 I hope so. 216 00:09:56,001 --> 00:09:57,281 - You'll give them a push? 217 00:09:58,241 --> 00:09:59,401 - I don't mean to be superficial, 218 00:09:59,401 --> 00:10:02,641 but I think she's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. 219 00:10:03,601 --> 00:10:05,201 - Is he sexy? 220 00:10:05,201 --> 00:10:07,641 - Oh, man. 221 00:10:08,601 --> 00:10:09,841 Absolutely. 222 00:10:13,201 --> 00:10:14,881 Didn't you have fun with that one? 223 00:10:16,441 --> 00:10:17,921 - Graham was very good about the ducks. 224 00:10:17,921 --> 00:10:18,761 The ducks were-- 225 00:10:18,761 --> 00:10:20,321 - I only have one child, Courtney, 226 00:10:20,321 --> 00:10:22,121 and he only has one child. 227 00:10:22,121 --> 00:10:24,681 There's a symmetry with that. 228 00:10:26,841 --> 00:10:29,641 - Would you ever have wanted a child of your own, 229 00:10:29,641 --> 00:10:30,881 the two of you? 230 00:10:32,241 --> 00:10:34,521 - Well, absolutely, 231 00:10:34,521 --> 00:10:38,401 but it's not exactly practical, so we're just-- 232 00:10:38,401 --> 00:10:39,241 - No. 233 00:10:40,441 --> 00:10:44,441 Of course, Graham has added an element that's just joy. 234 00:10:44,441 --> 00:10:46,521 And I know Nick likes little guys. 235 00:10:46,521 --> 00:10:48,561 He just likes little kids. 236 00:10:50,121 --> 00:10:53,681 - They'd like to come out for a holiday in the country 237 00:10:53,681 --> 00:10:57,521 when we like, when I like to have a holiday in the town. 238 00:10:57,521 --> 00:11:00,201 It is very difficult being in a place 239 00:11:00,201 --> 00:11:04,081 where you're a long way away from all your background, 240 00:11:04,081 --> 00:11:06,401 and you don't have any sort of support network. 241 00:11:06,401 --> 00:11:08,081 - I could try that. - It's frightening. 242 00:11:08,081 --> 00:11:09,521 It's frightening. 243 00:11:09,521 --> 00:11:11,121 - My parents are alive. 244 00:11:11,121 --> 00:11:14,681 They both had very significant health issues. 245 00:11:14,681 --> 00:11:17,841 My father keeps pointing out that old age isn't for sissies. 246 00:11:19,041 --> 00:11:20,281 - You need a secretary. 247 00:11:22,601 --> 00:11:25,521 - Nick has two younger brothers back in England, 248 00:11:25,521 --> 00:11:27,001 Andrew and Christopher. 249 00:11:29,761 --> 00:11:31,761 - Christopher, the deaf one, got divorced, 250 00:11:31,761 --> 00:11:33,961 and he reported to my mother that if Nicky can do it, 251 00:11:33,961 --> 00:11:36,721 then so can I, so that changed. 252 00:11:39,241 --> 00:11:41,041 - Are you missing England? 253 00:11:41,041 --> 00:11:42,441 - I always miss England. 254 00:11:43,641 --> 00:11:46,601 I was really not the sort of person 255 00:11:46,601 --> 00:11:48,361 who should ever have moved very far. 256 00:11:50,241 --> 00:11:51,641 - When he was 42, 257 00:11:51,641 --> 00:11:54,881 we took Nick back to where he had grown up in the Dales. 258 00:11:54,881 --> 00:11:56,281 What did you learn here, do you think, 259 00:11:56,281 --> 00:11:57,801 that you carried with you? 260 00:11:57,801 --> 00:12:00,001 - I sort of feel as if you could look deep 261 00:12:00,001 --> 00:12:01,121 somewhere inside me, 262 00:12:01,121 --> 00:12:04,841 I feel like there's some of this in there somewhere. 263 00:12:04,841 --> 00:12:09,841 I think of it as being magnificent but rather grim, really. 264 00:12:09,921 --> 00:12:13,481 It's very uncompromising, and sometimes it's rather tragic, 265 00:12:13,481 --> 00:12:17,361 but it makes other places you go 266 00:12:17,361 --> 00:12:19,241 seem rather trivial as well. 267 00:12:20,081 --> 00:12:22,601 - We call it one of our Dales rooms. 268 00:12:24,881 --> 00:12:27,761 We have things that reflect the Dales in the room, 269 00:12:27,761 --> 00:12:29,521 we have cards that we framed, 270 00:12:29,521 --> 00:12:33,121 and some of the china from Nick's family 271 00:12:33,121 --> 00:12:35,521 is displayed up here. 272 00:12:40,481 --> 00:12:43,001 - Well, we're driving from Madison to Minneapolis 273 00:12:43,841 --> 00:12:47,081 'cause Chris lives in Minneapolis and I live in Madison, 274 00:12:47,081 --> 00:12:49,961 so we go up and down alternate weekends. 275 00:12:52,601 --> 00:12:54,161 - Does it put a stress on the relationship, 276 00:12:54,161 --> 00:12:56,961 these separations and reuniting? 277 00:12:58,241 --> 00:13:03,201 - I would say absence makes the heart grow fonder, really. 278 00:13:04,521 --> 00:13:06,121 - Chris lives in Minneapolis, 279 00:13:06,121 --> 00:13:08,241 a five-hour drive from Madison, 280 00:13:08,241 --> 00:13:09,761 where she is an associate professor 281 00:13:09,761 --> 00:13:11,441 in the department of education. 282 00:13:13,201 --> 00:13:14,761 - Hey, you wanna see something? 283 00:13:16,041 --> 00:13:18,281 - Work is a big part of both your lives, isn't it? 284 00:13:18,281 --> 00:13:19,361 - It is. 285 00:13:19,361 --> 00:13:21,961 - Yeah, so we're both kind of workaholics. 286 00:13:21,961 --> 00:13:23,681 There's a bit of a comma over there-- 287 00:13:23,681 --> 00:13:26,681 - Is there anything that you would like to change? 288 00:13:28,201 --> 00:13:29,041 - It's all right. - Oh, that would be 289 00:13:29,041 --> 00:13:30,961 really risky business, wouldn't it? 290 00:13:30,961 --> 00:13:33,801 - Well, I thought you had changed a few of them, no? 291 00:13:36,921 --> 00:13:40,601 - You know, you don't mess with Mother Nature 292 00:13:41,881 --> 00:13:43,041 in terms of little things, 293 00:13:43,041 --> 00:13:45,161 like how somebody does their toothpaste, 294 00:13:45,161 --> 00:13:47,361 those silly nonsense things. 295 00:13:47,361 --> 00:13:52,281 He would not just say yes, he immediately attended to it. 296 00:13:52,281 --> 00:13:54,161 I had never been with anybody who did, 297 00:13:54,161 --> 00:13:55,361 so you have to be really careful 298 00:13:55,361 --> 00:13:57,001 with what you ask him to do. 299 00:13:57,001 --> 00:14:00,081 Oh, go easy on the butter, please, all right? 300 00:14:00,081 --> 00:14:00,961 - Okay. 301 00:14:00,961 --> 00:14:04,081 - I mean, I could see it being a slippery slope. 302 00:14:04,081 --> 00:14:07,241 I didn't wanna go that way in terms of my 303 00:14:08,481 --> 00:14:09,481 ordering his life. - She didn't want to make 304 00:14:09,481 --> 00:14:10,481 to many demands. 305 00:14:10,481 --> 00:14:12,721 - I didn't want him to be a different person. 306 00:14:13,681 --> 00:14:15,441 - If I can change the world, 307 00:14:15,441 --> 00:14:17,681 I'd change it into a diamond. 308 00:14:17,681 --> 00:14:20,641 I think this film is extremely important. 309 00:14:20,641 --> 00:14:23,121 It's important to me but it seems to be important 310 00:14:23,121 --> 00:14:24,841 to other people as well. 311 00:14:24,841 --> 00:14:27,761 That doesn't make it an easy thing. 312 00:14:27,761 --> 00:14:30,481 It's an incredibly hard thing to be in, 313 00:14:30,481 --> 00:14:32,641 and I can't even begin to describe 314 00:14:32,641 --> 00:14:36,601 how emotionally draining and wrenching it is 315 00:14:36,601 --> 00:14:39,841 just to make the film and to do the interviews, 316 00:14:39,841 --> 00:14:42,281 and that's even when I am pretending 317 00:14:42,281 --> 00:14:44,921 that nobody else is watching it. 318 00:14:46,561 --> 00:14:51,561 - I think it's a heavy reminder that he's missing his roots. 319 00:14:52,321 --> 00:14:55,201 I mean, there are an awful lot of emotions attached 320 00:14:55,201 --> 00:14:58,321 to having a scrapbook that's as vivid as this. 321 00:15:11,241 --> 00:15:13,241 - I'm going to work in Woolworth's. 322 00:15:14,601 --> 00:15:17,441 - Lynn is the third of our East End girls. 323 00:15:17,441 --> 00:15:20,081 She went to primary school with Jackie and Sue, 324 00:15:20,081 --> 00:15:22,441 but chose to go on to a grammar school. 325 00:15:22,441 --> 00:15:25,121 At 21, she set out on a career 326 00:15:25,121 --> 00:15:26,881 as a children's librarian 327 00:15:26,881 --> 00:15:29,641 in a mobile library in East London. 328 00:15:29,641 --> 00:15:30,721 - Have I stamped yours? 329 00:15:30,721 --> 00:15:31,761 - Yes. - Yes. 330 00:15:31,761 --> 00:15:33,281 I've not stamped yours. 331 00:15:33,281 --> 00:15:34,241 "Sleeping Beauty". 332 00:15:35,281 --> 00:15:38,201 Teaching children the beauty of books 333 00:15:39,201 --> 00:15:41,521 and watching their faces 334 00:15:41,521 --> 00:15:45,241 as books unfold to them is just fantastic. 335 00:15:45,241 --> 00:15:47,641 To work with children of that age, you've got to love them, 336 00:15:47,641 --> 00:15:48,681 and I love children. 337 00:15:51,121 --> 00:15:53,281 - Because of cuts in the education budget, 338 00:15:53,281 --> 00:15:55,241 the mobile library was shut down. 339 00:15:56,121 --> 00:15:59,361 At 42, Lynn was working at Bethnal Green Library. 340 00:16:00,481 --> 00:16:03,241 - You can draw better than I can. 341 00:16:04,681 --> 00:16:05,521 Good morning. 342 00:16:05,521 --> 00:16:07,601 - At 49, she's still there. 343 00:16:07,601 --> 00:16:08,841 - Good morning. 344 00:16:08,841 --> 00:16:09,881 - What about you? 345 00:16:09,881 --> 00:16:11,241 - Good morning. 346 00:16:11,241 --> 00:16:12,641 - Are you gonna say hello? 347 00:16:12,641 --> 00:16:14,361 - Good morning. 348 00:16:14,361 --> 00:16:15,201 How are you? 349 00:16:15,201 --> 00:16:17,361 - How much of your work is with people like this? 350 00:16:17,361 --> 00:16:19,041 - Probably 5%. 351 00:16:19,041 --> 00:16:21,481 It's a very, very small part of it 352 00:16:22,401 --> 00:16:26,121 but probably, currently, the most challenging part of it. 353 00:16:26,121 --> 00:16:27,081 - Elephant. 354 00:16:27,081 --> 00:16:28,241 - He's an elephant. 355 00:16:28,241 --> 00:16:29,881 Where's the elephant? 356 00:16:31,761 --> 00:16:34,921 We still get six other schools 357 00:16:34,921 --> 00:16:37,321 regularly send classes in here. 358 00:16:37,321 --> 00:16:39,401 It's busy most days. 359 00:16:39,401 --> 00:16:43,481 - Well, I know he loves her, and he loves her. 360 00:16:43,481 --> 00:16:46,081 - I don't, I love him. 361 00:16:46,081 --> 00:16:49,481 - I've been married a year in a couple of months. 362 00:16:50,841 --> 00:16:53,081 You do think, Christ, what have I done? 363 00:16:55,841 --> 00:16:58,281 - When she was 19, she married Russ. 364 00:16:59,361 --> 00:17:01,241 - We married young, 365 00:17:01,241 --> 00:17:05,241 but because we wanted to go out and have fun together. 366 00:17:07,641 --> 00:17:09,641 30 years, and we're still together. 367 00:17:09,641 --> 00:17:11,481 He's my soul mate, he's my partner. 368 00:17:12,881 --> 00:17:14,281 We respect each other, 369 00:17:15,441 --> 00:17:19,321 hence he's not here, and you will not see him on this film, 370 00:17:19,321 --> 00:17:22,201 because he has always, always felt 371 00:17:22,201 --> 00:17:26,081 that the intrusion into our private life 372 00:17:26,081 --> 00:17:29,241 that this causes is too much. 373 00:17:29,241 --> 00:17:33,321 I wanted white wedding, all trimmings, 374 00:17:33,321 --> 00:17:38,121 and Russ would've been satisfied with very little. 375 00:17:39,281 --> 00:17:40,641 - Are you in love? 376 00:17:42,281 --> 00:17:44,081 - Very, very much. 377 00:17:46,761 --> 00:17:48,241 He knows how much I love him, 378 00:17:48,241 --> 00:17:51,841 and in my heart of hearts, I know how much he loves me. 379 00:17:51,841 --> 00:17:53,921 I put him on the spot sometimes. 380 00:17:55,041 --> 00:17:58,801 If I could, I would have two girls and two boys. 381 00:17:58,801 --> 00:18:00,201 - Yeah, so would I. 382 00:18:02,841 --> 00:18:05,201 - Lynn and Russ have two daughters, 383 00:18:05,201 --> 00:18:06,641 Sarah and Emma. 384 00:18:11,521 --> 00:18:16,001 - Emma's installation coordinator for a window company. 385 00:18:16,001 --> 00:18:17,521 Sarah is an accessories buyer. 386 00:18:19,001 --> 00:18:20,481 It's a family-run business. 387 00:18:23,721 --> 00:18:25,241 - At 42, the girls 388 00:18:25,241 --> 00:18:27,601 were both doing very well at school. 389 00:18:27,601 --> 00:18:28,401 - All right, honey? 390 00:18:28,401 --> 00:18:29,241 - Yeah. 391 00:18:29,241 --> 00:18:30,601 - Neither of the girls went to university? 392 00:18:30,601 --> 00:18:31,401 - No, no. 393 00:18:32,361 --> 00:18:34,121 - Was that disappointing to you? 394 00:18:34,121 --> 00:18:37,121 - No, their choice, we discussed it. 395 00:18:37,121 --> 00:18:38,801 It's what they wanted to do. 396 00:18:38,801 --> 00:18:42,161 They felt that the academic side wasn't for them. 397 00:18:44,081 --> 00:18:47,721 You have to accept that it's their lives, 398 00:18:47,721 --> 00:18:51,681 and you can only guide and be there for them. 399 00:18:51,681 --> 00:18:53,321 - Aw, you boy. 400 00:18:53,321 --> 00:18:54,641 - Where's your drink? 401 00:18:54,641 --> 00:18:56,761 - So you got a grandson? 402 00:18:56,761 --> 00:18:58,881 - He's a lovely lad, he really is. 403 00:19:00,361 --> 00:19:02,281 I'm watching him in the same way. 404 00:19:02,281 --> 00:19:06,481 I mean, from 21 years ago, when I held Sarah up 405 00:19:06,481 --> 00:19:10,201 When she was just born, and now, I am watching Emma now, 406 00:19:10,201 --> 00:19:11,881 and what goes round, comes round 407 00:19:12,761 --> 00:19:15,601 because Emma now says that she says things to Connor 408 00:19:15,601 --> 00:19:18,801 that she can hear me saying to her. 409 00:19:18,801 --> 00:19:19,641 - Rabbits. 410 00:19:19,641 --> 00:19:21,561 - Yeah, you have to look out for their holes. 411 00:19:21,561 --> 00:19:23,201 That still catches me out sometimes 412 00:19:23,201 --> 00:19:24,441 when suddenly I say something 413 00:19:24,441 --> 00:19:26,521 that was purely and utterly me mum. 414 00:19:27,601 --> 00:19:28,441 Sorry. 415 00:19:28,441 --> 00:19:31,561 - So was the arrival of Connor a shock to you? 416 00:19:32,481 --> 00:19:34,721 - No, well, yeah, but, no. 417 00:19:35,881 --> 00:19:39,361 I mean, as soon as Emma was expecting Connor, 418 00:19:40,481 --> 00:19:42,681 got the phone call, "Mum, need to meet you." 419 00:19:43,921 --> 00:19:48,281 So she actually told me face to face that she was expecting. 420 00:19:48,281 --> 00:19:49,121 Fine. 421 00:19:50,641 --> 00:19:51,481 She was 19. 422 00:19:53,041 --> 00:19:53,961 She's old enough. 423 00:19:55,441 --> 00:19:56,761 Probably watching you. 424 00:19:56,761 --> 00:19:57,881 - You'll go to bed as well. 425 00:19:57,881 --> 00:19:59,401 - When she was 34, 426 00:19:59,401 --> 00:20:01,481 Lynn was having health problems. 427 00:20:01,481 --> 00:20:04,281 - Stuck all these tubes up inside me 428 00:20:04,281 --> 00:20:06,361 and discovered that I've got these veins 429 00:20:07,361 --> 00:20:09,401 up here that shouldn't be there. 430 00:20:09,401 --> 00:20:10,521 - In your brain? 431 00:20:10,521 --> 00:20:11,361 - Mm-hmm. 432 00:20:12,721 --> 00:20:14,481 - And what can they do about it? 433 00:20:14,481 --> 00:20:16,481 - Not a lot at the moment. 434 00:20:16,481 --> 00:20:17,321 No change. 435 00:20:18,401 --> 00:20:22,761 It's not going away, but it's no more problems. 436 00:20:22,761 --> 00:20:23,601 Nothing. 437 00:20:24,521 --> 00:20:28,481 I mean, you have the aches and pains of getting older. 438 00:20:31,441 --> 00:20:34,921 I've got bilateral carpal tunnel syndrome in both my wrists. 439 00:20:34,921 --> 00:20:36,561 Guess who had it, my mother. 440 00:20:38,361 --> 00:20:43,361 And that comes and goes, hence, magnetic bracelets, 441 00:20:43,481 --> 00:20:48,481 which help, but you have to overcome it. 442 00:20:49,201 --> 00:20:50,161 What's white? 443 00:20:50,161 --> 00:20:51,001 - Red. 444 00:20:51,001 --> 00:20:52,041 - Yeah, we know that's red. - Yeah, that's red. 445 00:20:52,041 --> 00:20:56,121 - For the last 30 years, bang my head against a brick wall 446 00:20:56,121 --> 00:20:58,361 to maintain children's services, 447 00:20:58,361 --> 00:21:01,441 but this time round, no one's listening. 448 00:21:01,441 --> 00:21:02,801 We've just done purple. 449 00:21:04,001 --> 00:21:08,801 They say that the work that I do that anybody can do it. 450 00:21:08,801 --> 00:21:09,601 - Blue. 451 00:21:11,201 --> 00:21:13,641 - There would be no specialist running it. 452 00:21:14,681 --> 00:21:15,521 One. 453 00:21:16,361 --> 00:21:17,801 I may not have a job. 454 00:21:19,721 --> 00:21:20,641 - Hern loves Tintin. 455 00:21:20,641 --> 00:21:23,521 - Hern absolutely adores Tintin. 456 00:21:23,521 --> 00:21:24,761 Yeah. 457 00:21:24,761 --> 00:21:25,641 It's cost cutting. 458 00:21:27,841 --> 00:21:28,721 - So that's what it's about? 459 00:21:28,721 --> 00:21:29,561 - Yeah. 460 00:21:31,321 --> 00:21:33,561 They would deny that. 461 00:21:33,561 --> 00:21:35,081 Can you speak to me today? 462 00:21:36,361 --> 00:21:37,201 - No. - No? 463 00:21:38,281 --> 00:21:39,121 I see. 464 00:21:40,561 --> 00:21:42,121 - Is it emotionally very demanding 465 00:21:42,121 --> 00:21:44,161 working like this with people like this? 466 00:21:44,161 --> 00:21:48,001 - Yeah, but it's so fulfilling 467 00:21:49,601 --> 00:21:52,961 that, beyond belief. 468 00:21:52,961 --> 00:21:55,361 Azir, can you say it for me? 469 00:21:55,361 --> 00:21:57,041 I know you can. 470 00:21:57,041 --> 00:22:00,321 But are you get, no! 471 00:22:00,321 --> 00:22:02,321 No, you're not gonna do it today. 472 00:22:03,681 --> 00:22:06,641 Azir spoke to me on the phone a couple of years ago. 473 00:22:06,641 --> 00:22:10,721 First time he'd ever spoken to me, and really got me. 474 00:22:10,721 --> 00:22:13,521 It's extremely difficult for him to speak, 475 00:22:13,521 --> 00:22:16,441 and when he does, you know he's making so much effort, 476 00:22:16,441 --> 00:22:17,281 and it gets me. 477 00:22:19,161 --> 00:22:20,001 - Hello. 478 00:22:20,001 --> 00:22:20,841 - Hello. 479 00:22:20,841 --> 00:22:22,161 - Excellent. 480 00:22:23,801 --> 00:22:26,041 Thank you, Azir, thank you. 481 00:22:28,721 --> 00:22:29,521 - You've come a long way 482 00:22:29,521 --> 00:22:30,721 since the back of the van. 483 00:22:30,721 --> 00:22:35,521 - No, no, I was on the back of a bus yesterday. 484 00:22:35,521 --> 00:22:38,761 We took a mobile vehicle out to a school 485 00:22:38,761 --> 00:22:41,041 who was having a book week just round the corner, 486 00:22:41,041 --> 00:22:45,201 and I had forgotten how much it sways. 487 00:22:46,761 --> 00:22:48,001 Where's your stamp? 488 00:22:48,001 --> 00:22:49,761 - Been a hell of a commitment for you, hasn't it? 489 00:22:49,761 --> 00:22:50,601 - Yeah, but. 490 00:22:55,961 --> 00:22:57,281 But it will end. 491 00:22:58,601 --> 00:23:01,001 - But has it been worth it all? 492 00:23:01,001 --> 00:23:02,081 - Yeah, very much. 493 00:23:06,241 --> 00:23:07,241 Come on, speed it up. 494 00:23:07,241 --> 00:23:10,401 All these things that I have said over the years 495 00:23:10,401 --> 00:23:13,001 are flying through my mind at the moment 496 00:23:13,001 --> 00:23:15,121 but, yes, it has been worth it. 497 00:23:19,041 --> 00:23:22,721 And you better cut it 'cause otherwise, I'm gonna cry. 498 00:23:40,721 --> 00:23:43,401 - What do you think about rich people? 499 00:23:43,401 --> 00:23:44,801 - Well, not much. 500 00:23:47,521 --> 00:23:48,681 - Tell me about them. 501 00:23:48,681 --> 00:23:50,281 - Well, they think they can do everything 502 00:23:50,281 --> 00:23:52,361 without you doing it as well. 503 00:23:54,641 --> 00:23:57,201 - Simon was brought up in a children's home, 504 00:23:57,201 --> 00:23:59,081 the only child of a single parent. 505 00:24:00,001 --> 00:24:02,801 - Rich people, they have all different things. 506 00:24:02,801 --> 00:24:03,961 Have everything they want. 507 00:24:03,961 --> 00:24:05,921 Whereas poor people, they don't have nothing, 508 00:24:05,921 --> 00:24:09,801 and they know they haven't got nothing, 509 00:24:09,801 --> 00:24:11,881 and so they know they're missing something. 510 00:24:13,801 --> 00:24:17,041 - What are you missing? 511 00:24:17,041 --> 00:24:22,321 - I'm missing a bike and a fishing rod and. 512 00:24:22,521 --> 00:24:23,681 20 years ago, 513 00:24:25,841 --> 00:24:29,001 when I was born, an illegitimate child, 514 00:24:29,001 --> 00:24:33,121 that's something that's only whispered about. 515 00:24:33,121 --> 00:24:36,841 People feel strongly about it in those days, 516 00:24:36,841 --> 00:24:38,841 but nowadays, it's 517 00:24:41,201 --> 00:24:42,721 it's not a serious matter. 518 00:24:42,721 --> 00:24:45,041 The serious point is whether you stay with somebody 519 00:24:45,041 --> 00:24:46,761 or you leave them. 520 00:24:46,761 --> 00:24:47,681 Since 21, 521 00:24:49,881 --> 00:24:52,681 I've got married, had a couple of kids. 522 00:24:55,841 --> 00:24:58,201 - By 28, he had married Yvonne, 523 00:24:58,201 --> 00:24:59,881 and they had five children. 524 00:24:59,881 --> 00:25:01,241 - Well, I don't think there's anybody else 525 00:25:01,241 --> 00:25:03,841 I could have ever married except Yvonne. 526 00:25:03,841 --> 00:25:06,561 She's been my life, really, because we're together, 527 00:25:06,561 --> 00:25:08,561 we have our children and everything. 528 00:25:10,041 --> 00:25:12,321 - By 35, they were divorced. 529 00:25:16,801 --> 00:25:19,761 At 42, he had married Vienetta. 530 00:25:22,121 --> 00:25:23,921 - We used to go out when we were younger. 531 00:25:23,921 --> 00:25:25,121 - We met in the launderette. 532 00:25:26,361 --> 00:25:27,321 Once a week. 533 00:25:27,321 --> 00:25:29,921 - Once a week at the launderette. 534 00:25:29,921 --> 00:25:30,761 Baked beans. 535 00:25:30,761 --> 00:25:32,001 - Pickles. 536 00:25:32,001 --> 00:25:33,361 - Go and get the water and-- 537 00:25:33,361 --> 00:25:35,401 - One stage, we went to marriage guidance 538 00:25:35,401 --> 00:25:38,081 'cause the pressures of being together 539 00:25:39,281 --> 00:25:41,121 were getting to us because we are 540 00:25:41,121 --> 00:25:42,921 two completely different people. 541 00:25:43,841 --> 00:25:47,561 I'm very laid back, 542 00:25:48,921 --> 00:25:51,241 and she always says if I go any further back, 543 00:25:51,241 --> 00:25:52,201 I'll fall over. 544 00:25:53,841 --> 00:25:55,441 - Oh, look, broccoli. 545 00:25:55,441 --> 00:25:57,121 When two people are together 546 00:25:57,121 --> 00:25:58,961 and you both have separate lives, 547 00:25:58,961 --> 00:26:01,441 it is hard, and there are silly things, 548 00:26:01,441 --> 00:26:04,601 like leaving the toilet seat up or something 549 00:26:04,601 --> 00:26:07,041 or when I put something here, I expect to see it there. 550 00:26:07,041 --> 00:26:08,761 Simon can be really untidy. 551 00:26:08,761 --> 00:26:11,321 He'll take everything off and fling it around the house. 552 00:26:11,321 --> 00:26:12,161 - Sorry, dear. 553 00:26:12,161 --> 00:26:14,001 - Don't get it all mixed up. 554 00:26:15,681 --> 00:26:17,681 - Is he romantic? 555 00:26:17,681 --> 00:26:19,801 - If we've had an argument, and he doesn't know 556 00:26:19,801 --> 00:26:23,401 'cause I will shout, and he'll think, what have I done? 557 00:26:23,401 --> 00:26:25,521 And I'll be here, like now, and I'll be here, 558 00:26:25,521 --> 00:26:27,761 and I'd see him with flowers 559 00:26:27,761 --> 00:26:30,001 and a bottle of wine or something, 560 00:26:30,001 --> 00:26:32,201 and he'll say, "I'm sorry, I don't know what I done, 561 00:26:32,201 --> 00:26:33,321 "but I'm sorry." 562 00:26:35,361 --> 00:26:38,081 - Vienetta already had a daughter, Miriam, 563 00:26:38,081 --> 00:26:41,361 and she and Simon have a son, Daniel. 564 00:26:45,041 --> 00:26:47,281 Is there anything of you in him? 565 00:26:47,281 --> 00:26:49,161 - His dashing good looks, yeah. 566 00:26:50,001 --> 00:26:52,761 That's me and his love of sport as well. 567 00:26:54,281 --> 00:26:56,201 He goes to school in Slough, 568 00:26:56,201 --> 00:26:58,721 because that's where they do grammar schools. 569 00:26:58,721 --> 00:27:00,881 He's doing very well there. 570 00:27:00,881 --> 00:27:03,761 They say, "Where's your father then? 571 00:27:03,761 --> 00:27:07,281 "When your mum's out at work, is there your father?" 572 00:27:07,281 --> 00:27:10,401 And I just tell them I ain't got one. 573 00:27:10,401 --> 00:27:12,761 They've got everything. 574 00:27:12,761 --> 00:27:15,921 They've even got what I never had. 575 00:27:15,921 --> 00:27:16,761 - Which is what? 576 00:27:16,761 --> 00:27:17,801 - A father, innit? 577 00:27:17,801 --> 00:27:20,521 So, I mean, they've had everything. 578 00:27:20,521 --> 00:27:23,761 At one stage, they will stop seeing me at all, 579 00:27:23,761 --> 00:27:26,641 but now, bit older, bit wiser, 580 00:27:28,241 --> 00:27:32,921 and I'm a bit older and wiser, and now three of them see me. 581 00:27:35,001 --> 00:27:36,761 Jessica has been very busy herself. 582 00:27:36,761 --> 00:27:39,241 She's got her work, she's got college. 583 00:27:39,241 --> 00:27:40,361 So who do you support? 584 00:27:41,201 --> 00:27:42,761 Your lot comes second. 585 00:27:43,681 --> 00:27:46,601 Jonathan's been in transitional period 586 00:27:46,601 --> 00:27:50,401 with changing jobs and building up his new life. 587 00:27:51,881 --> 00:27:56,641 The two that don't, I can't really see their point of view. 588 00:27:58,321 --> 00:28:00,561 - So what's it like being a grandfather? 589 00:28:00,561 --> 00:28:01,841 - Oh, it's bloody easy, actually. 590 00:28:01,841 --> 00:28:05,281 You can see them all day long and then let them go back. 591 00:28:05,281 --> 00:28:07,001 - And you've got one? 592 00:28:07,001 --> 00:28:07,881 - Two, actually. 593 00:28:09,441 --> 00:28:12,441 One that I see and one that I would only see 594 00:28:12,441 --> 00:28:15,561 if I kept going round to see him. 595 00:28:15,561 --> 00:28:16,721 Otherwise, I wouldn't see him, 596 00:28:16,721 --> 00:28:20,521 so I am waiting for the return visit now. 597 00:28:22,561 --> 00:28:26,601 Before I'm old enough to get a job, 598 00:28:26,601 --> 00:28:30,921 I'd just walk around and see what I can find. 599 00:28:30,921 --> 00:28:32,521 Was gonna be a film star, 600 00:28:32,521 --> 00:28:37,521 but now, I'm gonna be an electrical engineer 601 00:28:37,921 --> 00:28:40,521 which is more to reality, really. 602 00:28:40,521 --> 00:28:43,401 - By 21, Simon was working in the freezer room 603 00:28:43,401 --> 00:28:45,041 of Wall's sausages in London. 604 00:28:46,001 --> 00:28:47,721 - I know I can't stay at Wall's forever. 605 00:28:47,721 --> 00:28:49,361 I mean, it's just not me. 606 00:28:49,361 --> 00:28:51,401 I couldn't stay there for that long. 607 00:28:51,401 --> 00:28:52,601 My mind would go dead. 608 00:28:54,161 --> 00:28:56,441 I'm quite happy to stay there. 609 00:28:56,441 --> 00:28:58,081 Doesn't look like it's gonna close down, 610 00:28:58,081 --> 00:29:02,641 so, I mean, better the devil you know, innit? 611 00:29:02,641 --> 00:29:05,081 - Wall's did close the factory down. 612 00:29:05,081 --> 00:29:07,601 Since then, he has worked near Heathrow Airport 613 00:29:07,601 --> 00:29:08,681 handling freight. 614 00:29:10,561 --> 00:29:13,601 - The only reason I really went there was to work 615 00:29:13,601 --> 00:29:15,401 near to where my son was going to school 616 00:29:15,401 --> 00:29:16,601 so I could drop him off. 617 00:29:19,281 --> 00:29:21,401 - Do you feel you could have done more 618 00:29:21,401 --> 00:29:24,001 with a career with your work? 619 00:29:24,001 --> 00:29:26,641 - If I had pushed myself at school, 620 00:29:26,641 --> 00:29:28,641 probably I could have done a lot better. 621 00:29:29,721 --> 00:29:32,161 - Does that give you pause for thought? 622 00:29:33,161 --> 00:29:35,841 - No, that means I was a lazy sod when I was younger. 623 00:29:37,361 --> 00:29:40,201 Somebody once said that you don't live to work, 624 00:29:40,201 --> 00:29:42,721 you work to live, and that's how it should be. 625 00:29:43,881 --> 00:29:45,441 - Obviously, when children come into foster care, 626 00:29:45,441 --> 00:29:46,921 family and friends are involved as well. 627 00:29:46,921 --> 00:29:49,281 - A couple of years ago, Simon and Vienetta 628 00:29:49,281 --> 00:29:52,281 decided to train as foster parents. 629 00:29:52,281 --> 00:29:54,321 - Went to boarding school when I was young, 630 00:29:54,321 --> 00:29:58,481 and I always felt that was regimental. 631 00:29:58,481 --> 00:30:00,441 It didn't allow for personal care, 632 00:30:00,441 --> 00:30:03,201 for loving from the adult carers, 633 00:30:03,201 --> 00:30:06,641 so I wanted to do something like that for myself 634 00:30:06,641 --> 00:30:07,481 in my own home. 635 00:30:09,641 --> 00:30:10,921 - And we always say to foster carers, 636 00:30:10,921 --> 00:30:13,001 please do not cut the children's hair 637 00:30:13,001 --> 00:30:14,881 without the permission of the parents. 638 00:30:14,881 --> 00:30:16,081 - So what's the toughest thing 639 00:30:16,081 --> 00:30:17,721 about being a foster parent? 640 00:30:18,681 --> 00:30:22,041 - You're taking a chance when you do it 641 00:30:22,041 --> 00:30:25,041 'cause you really don't know what you're getting. 642 00:30:25,961 --> 00:30:28,241 One child had two knives in her hands 643 00:30:28,241 --> 00:30:30,641 because she didn't wanna stay in this country. 644 00:30:32,041 --> 00:30:33,201 Two knives in her hands. 645 00:30:33,201 --> 00:30:34,041 - She threatened you? 646 00:30:34,041 --> 00:30:36,681 - No, she was just a threat to herself. 647 00:30:36,681 --> 00:30:37,601 Some of them come back. 648 00:30:37,601 --> 00:30:38,441 They ring you up and say, 649 00:30:38,441 --> 00:30:40,601 "Hello, auntie, hello, uncle, how are you?" 650 00:30:40,601 --> 00:30:42,761 They come and have Sunday dinner, come and visit us, 651 00:30:42,761 --> 00:30:43,881 which is good. 652 00:30:43,881 --> 00:30:45,441 At least you know you've made a little difference 653 00:30:45,441 --> 00:30:48,441 to that child or that person's life. 654 00:30:48,441 --> 00:30:50,521 - Okay, obviously, we have Heathrow in our borough, 655 00:30:50,521 --> 00:30:52,281 and that gives us extra things 656 00:30:52,281 --> 00:30:54,761 that foster carers might need to do. 657 00:30:54,761 --> 00:30:56,361 - So where are these children coming from 658 00:30:56,361 --> 00:30:58,441 that come to your house? 659 00:30:58,441 --> 00:31:00,201 - Oh, all over the world. 660 00:31:00,201 --> 00:31:01,681 So anywhere. 661 00:31:01,681 --> 00:31:03,281 - Anywhere. 662 00:31:03,281 --> 00:31:04,321 - When they come off the plane, 663 00:31:04,321 --> 00:31:06,921 they expected to be meeting somebody 664 00:31:08,001 --> 00:31:09,721 but that person doesn't turn up. 665 00:31:15,281 --> 00:31:16,081 - Simon. 666 00:31:16,081 --> 00:31:16,921 - How you doing? 667 00:31:16,921 --> 00:31:19,681 - Simon had been at the children's home with Paul, 668 00:31:19,681 --> 00:31:22,921 so we brought Paul back from Australia to reunite them. 669 00:31:23,841 --> 00:31:24,681 - Was it good, though? 670 00:31:24,681 --> 00:31:25,521 - Yeah, yeah. 671 00:31:27,081 --> 00:31:28,921 - You can see Windsor Castle from their house. 672 00:31:28,921 --> 00:31:30,641 - Look at that. 673 00:31:30,641 --> 00:31:32,841 - We don't actually see each other, touch each other, 674 00:31:32,841 --> 00:31:35,321 but we're living each other's lives. 675 00:31:35,321 --> 00:31:37,001 Every seven years, it all comes back 676 00:31:37,001 --> 00:31:40,281 and we get up to this far, and we've done this, 677 00:31:40,281 --> 00:31:42,041 and you've done that. 678 00:31:42,041 --> 00:31:42,881 I remember-- 679 00:31:42,881 --> 00:31:44,001 - When they were 21, 680 00:31:44,001 --> 00:31:45,521 we took them back to where they had spent 681 00:31:45,521 --> 00:31:47,361 some of their formative years together. 682 00:31:47,361 --> 00:31:50,801 - Went over four, doesn't it? 683 00:31:50,801 --> 00:31:51,641 Remember him? 684 00:31:51,641 --> 00:31:52,441 - Yeah. 685 00:31:52,441 --> 00:31:54,921 - He was a real bastard. 686 00:31:54,921 --> 00:31:59,601 I do try to be disciplined but I actually hate discipline. 687 00:32:00,601 --> 00:32:03,681 I believe the school has taught me that. 688 00:32:03,681 --> 00:32:06,641 - There's always been a bit of turmoil inside. 689 00:32:07,521 --> 00:32:10,481 I believe that divorce affects children a lot. 690 00:32:10,481 --> 00:32:13,001 - See, I can get on well with my mother sometimes. 691 00:32:15,681 --> 00:32:17,721 We talk very well with each other, 692 00:32:17,721 --> 00:32:21,561 but it's sometimes not quite as mother and son. 693 00:32:23,921 --> 00:32:27,161 - When he was 34, Simon's mother died of cancer. 694 00:32:29,041 --> 00:32:32,401 - There was so many things I never actually said to my mum, 695 00:32:33,681 --> 00:32:36,281 just things you think about afterwards. 696 00:32:36,281 --> 00:32:38,721 It's too late, because they're not there anymore. 697 00:32:39,841 --> 00:32:41,201 - What sort of things? 698 00:32:42,601 --> 00:32:45,161 - Just I love you every day, you know. 699 00:32:45,161 --> 00:32:46,121 Later on in life, I did realise 700 00:32:46,121 --> 00:32:48,441 that she got depressed as well, 701 00:32:48,441 --> 00:32:50,681 so that was probably a bigger reason 702 00:32:50,681 --> 00:32:53,281 than not being able to look after me. 703 00:32:53,281 --> 00:32:55,281 - My mother wrote to me when I was 21, 704 00:32:55,281 --> 00:32:57,561 and I hadn't really had any contact with her. 705 00:32:57,561 --> 00:33:00,001 When I was 21, she come out and visited, 706 00:33:00,001 --> 00:33:01,081 but I did grow up without her, 707 00:33:01,081 --> 00:33:04,001 so it was like looking at a total stranger. 708 00:33:04,001 --> 00:33:06,161 I didn't recognise her at all, 709 00:33:06,161 --> 00:33:11,161 so there was no real in-depth feeling there. 710 00:33:12,121 --> 00:33:14,841 - Paul, get in there next to him as well. 711 00:33:14,841 --> 00:33:16,641 Come on, let me get you organised. 712 00:33:16,641 --> 00:33:19,601 - Are these two guys very alike? 713 00:33:19,601 --> 00:33:20,441 - Well, I think they're alike 714 00:33:20,441 --> 00:33:22,441 because they don't seem to jump into things. 715 00:33:22,441 --> 00:33:24,601 They'll stand back and have a little look at it. 716 00:33:24,601 --> 00:33:26,241 You make them enjoy themselves, 717 00:33:26,241 --> 00:33:28,161 like when we went for a walk around London yesterday, 718 00:33:28,161 --> 00:33:29,001 I said, "You are coming, 719 00:33:29,001 --> 00:33:30,361 "and you are having a good time doing this," 720 00:33:30,361 --> 00:33:32,801 And he did have a good time doing it, so, 721 00:33:32,801 --> 00:33:36,041 they're both very family-orientated, 722 00:33:36,041 --> 00:33:37,761 and they both married noisy women. 723 00:33:37,761 --> 00:33:38,881 - That's true. 724 00:33:40,801 --> 00:33:41,801 - That works for me. 725 00:33:41,801 --> 00:33:46,801 I had one dream when all the world was on top of me, 726 00:33:47,041 --> 00:33:51,801 and everything was on, and I just about got out, 727 00:33:51,801 --> 00:33:54,881 and everything flew up in the air. 728 00:33:54,881 --> 00:33:59,241 I still look up in the sky, because I don't know any better. 729 00:33:59,241 --> 00:34:03,001 Everything I have, I always think, is that okay? 730 00:34:03,001 --> 00:34:06,001 Is that right that I should have that? 731 00:34:06,001 --> 00:34:07,681 People are undecided about you. 732 00:34:08,921 --> 00:34:12,121 They could be your friend one day and not the next. 733 00:34:13,641 --> 00:34:18,161 I wanted to be a boxer, actor, 734 00:34:18,161 --> 00:34:21,041 but I never actually really wanted them. 735 00:34:22,201 --> 00:34:24,361 I just wanted to be liked. 736 00:34:24,361 --> 00:34:25,881 - Paul actually gets, 737 00:34:25,881 --> 00:34:27,001 that's all he ever wants out of people 738 00:34:27,001 --> 00:34:30,121 is just people to like him for who he is and what he is 739 00:34:30,121 --> 00:34:32,361 without having to put on any false pretences. 740 00:34:32,361 --> 00:34:34,441 I think that's why he doesn't open himself up to people. 741 00:34:34,441 --> 00:34:35,281 - Hello, darling. 742 00:34:35,281 --> 00:34:36,361 - How are you doing? 743 00:34:36,361 --> 00:34:37,441 - Hello. 744 00:34:37,441 --> 00:34:39,961 - Do you have any regrets, the two of you? 745 00:34:39,961 --> 00:34:41,241 - Yes, I do. 746 00:34:42,481 --> 00:34:44,841 That we didn't get together earlier. 747 00:34:44,841 --> 00:34:46,761 - I think marriage is good for me. 748 00:34:46,761 --> 00:34:48,961 - What does she give you? 749 00:34:48,961 --> 00:34:50,601 - Hot dinners and a warm bed. 750 00:34:57,441 --> 00:34:59,481 She gives me a balance in my life because 751 00:35:01,201 --> 00:35:04,841 on my own, I would probably be your typical slob. 752 00:35:07,041 --> 00:35:08,361 Men behaving badly. 753 00:35:09,841 --> 00:35:13,841 We do get things done, and we do things together. 754 00:35:13,841 --> 00:35:16,441 'Cause you've multiplied before, so now you divide it. 755 00:35:16,441 --> 00:35:19,201 - Is it tough for the two of you 756 00:35:19,201 --> 00:35:20,521 being in these films? 757 00:35:21,681 --> 00:35:25,561 - I will say that I do love watching everybody else. 758 00:35:25,561 --> 00:35:27,441 I always hated them, to be honest. 759 00:35:27,441 --> 00:35:29,361 By the end of it, I normally hate you. 760 00:35:30,321 --> 00:35:33,041 Direct all of my anger in one place. 761 00:35:44,681 --> 00:35:47,441 - I read "The Financial Times". 762 00:35:47,441 --> 00:35:50,401 - I read "The Observer" and "The Times". 763 00:35:50,401 --> 00:35:52,521 - What do you like about it? 764 00:35:52,521 --> 00:35:54,161 - Well, I like, 765 00:35:54,161 --> 00:35:57,761 I usually look at the headlines and then read about it. 766 00:36:01,841 --> 00:36:04,921 - At seven years old, John, Andrew and Charles 767 00:36:04,921 --> 00:36:07,921 were in a private preparatory school in London. 768 00:36:10,721 --> 00:36:12,441 - What's the point of the programme? 769 00:36:13,761 --> 00:36:14,801 - It's that the point of the programme 770 00:36:14,801 --> 00:36:16,761 is to reach a comparison. 771 00:36:16,761 --> 00:36:17,761 I don't think it is, 772 00:36:19,081 --> 00:36:21,321 because we're not necessarily typical examples. 773 00:36:21,321 --> 00:36:23,401 - And I think that's what people seeing the programme 774 00:36:23,401 --> 00:36:24,241 might think. 775 00:36:24,241 --> 00:36:25,041 - Yes. 776 00:36:25,041 --> 00:36:25,881 - Falsely. 777 00:36:25,881 --> 00:36:27,201 - That's one of the troubles with this sort of programme. 778 00:36:27,201 --> 00:36:29,241 I don't really think that people like us 779 00:36:29,241 --> 00:36:31,921 unless we are being seven and being rather funny, 780 00:36:31,921 --> 00:36:34,441 have very much to say that's very interesting, 781 00:36:34,441 --> 00:36:37,361 'cause we don't know very much. 782 00:36:38,441 --> 00:36:39,961 - We didn't know very much when we were seven, 783 00:36:39,961 --> 00:36:41,881 but we were still quite funny. - At least funny. 784 00:36:41,881 --> 00:36:44,121 - What do you think about girlfriends at your age? 785 00:36:44,121 --> 00:36:44,961 Tell me what you think-- 786 00:36:44,961 --> 00:36:47,681 - I've got one, but I don't think much of her. 787 00:36:47,681 --> 00:36:49,441 They're no longer just bores 788 00:36:51,241 --> 00:36:53,361 who won't play this or something. 789 00:36:53,361 --> 00:36:54,761 - They're the other half of the community 790 00:36:54,761 --> 00:36:57,001 and they're there. 791 00:36:57,001 --> 00:36:59,281 - You can begin to talk to them. 792 00:36:59,281 --> 00:37:02,281 - I don't think I financially come from the same background, 793 00:37:03,121 --> 00:37:06,121 and Andrew didn't go for a haughty deb, 794 00:37:06,121 --> 00:37:08,401 he went for a good Yorkshire lass. 795 00:37:08,401 --> 00:37:10,721 But, I mean, obviously he knew what he wanted. 796 00:37:10,721 --> 00:37:12,761 - Does money concern you a lot? 797 00:37:13,961 --> 00:37:17,041 - No, I think as long as one has enough to be comfortable, 798 00:37:17,041 --> 00:37:20,601 that's really what one should aim for. 799 00:37:20,601 --> 00:37:21,801 - What's the most difficult thing 800 00:37:21,801 --> 00:37:24,681 about keeping the marriage together? 801 00:37:24,681 --> 00:37:26,601 - I don't think it is particularly difficult, actually. 802 00:37:26,601 --> 00:37:30,921 We seem to manage all right, would you say? 803 00:37:30,921 --> 00:37:31,761 - I think so. 804 00:37:31,761 --> 00:37:32,561 We talk, don't we? 805 00:37:33,521 --> 00:37:36,081 - So how is married life? 806 00:37:36,081 --> 00:37:38,761 - Well, I still love him, if that's what you're asking. 807 00:37:40,681 --> 00:37:41,481 - And likewise. 808 00:37:43,681 --> 00:37:45,521 I am going to Charterhouse, 809 00:37:46,721 --> 00:37:51,561 and after that, Trinity Hall, Cambridge. 810 00:37:53,001 --> 00:37:55,361 - Andrew went to Charterhouse and Cambridge 811 00:37:55,361 --> 00:37:56,401 where he read law. 812 00:37:57,401 --> 00:38:01,401 - I'd like to be a solicitor and also fairly successful. 813 00:38:02,761 --> 00:38:04,881 - At 28, Andrew was a solicitor. 814 00:38:05,961 --> 00:38:08,681 What qualities do you think it needs to be successful? 815 00:38:10,121 --> 00:38:12,161 - Well, you have to have a legal ability 816 00:38:12,161 --> 00:38:13,561 in my business, obviously. 817 00:38:14,561 --> 00:38:16,841 - By 35, he had become a partner. 818 00:38:17,801 --> 00:38:18,721 - In a couple of weeks, 819 00:38:18,721 --> 00:38:21,481 we are going be having our legal conference in Dublin. 820 00:38:21,481 --> 00:38:24,121 - At 49, Andrew has left the law firm. 821 00:38:25,121 --> 00:38:27,361 - I've moved to a large industrial gases company 822 00:38:27,361 --> 00:38:31,441 which makes oxygen and nitrogen, hydrogen, things like that. 823 00:38:31,441 --> 00:38:33,761 - Were you taking a chance? 824 00:38:33,761 --> 00:38:37,681 - Yes, I've been at the same firm for over 20 years, 825 00:38:38,681 --> 00:38:43,201 but it's not very challenging, and changing like this, 826 00:38:43,201 --> 00:38:45,641 particularly quite late in your career, 827 00:38:45,641 --> 00:38:47,441 sort of stretches you. 828 00:38:47,441 --> 00:38:50,161 - I think it's not a bad idea to pay for school 829 00:38:50,161 --> 00:38:55,161 because if we didn't, schools would be so nasty and crowded. 830 00:38:55,441 --> 00:38:56,281 - Yes. 831 00:38:56,281 --> 00:38:59,121 - So do I think so, and the people 832 00:38:59,121 --> 00:39:01,201 in the schools wouldn't, and the-- 833 00:39:01,201 --> 00:39:02,841 - And the poor people would come rushing in. 834 00:39:02,841 --> 00:39:05,761 - The man in charge of the school would-- 835 00:39:05,761 --> 00:39:07,041 - Get very angry. 836 00:39:07,041 --> 00:39:08,721 - Would very angry because he would-- 837 00:39:08,721 --> 00:39:10,001 - And he'd get bankrupt. 838 00:39:10,001 --> 00:39:13,961 - He wouldn't be able to pay all the masters 839 00:39:13,961 --> 00:39:16,121 if he didn't get any money. 840 00:39:16,121 --> 00:39:17,521 Education is very important. 841 00:39:19,001 --> 00:39:20,081 I mean, you can never be sure 842 00:39:20,081 --> 00:39:23,921 of leaving your children any worldly goods, 843 00:39:23,921 --> 00:39:25,361 but at least you can be sure 844 00:39:25,361 --> 00:39:27,881 that once you've given them a good education, 845 00:39:27,881 --> 00:39:30,041 that's something that no one can take away. 846 00:39:31,641 --> 00:39:33,641 - Andrew and Jane have two sons, 847 00:39:33,641 --> 00:39:35,761 Alexander and Timothy. 848 00:39:37,921 --> 00:39:39,681 - Alexander's at university. 849 00:39:39,681 --> 00:39:41,481 He's in his first year at Newcastle, 850 00:39:42,921 --> 00:39:44,561 and Timothy's at boarding school. 851 00:39:45,961 --> 00:39:47,241 - I think he'd like to go to university 852 00:39:47,241 --> 00:39:49,921 but I think that's as far as he's got, really. 853 00:39:49,921 --> 00:39:51,441 Maybe even over the summer holidays, 854 00:39:51,441 --> 00:39:53,081 we might start to talk to him about, 855 00:39:53,081 --> 00:39:55,961 are there any universities he would like to go and look at. 856 00:39:57,201 --> 00:39:59,161 - Andrew and Jane live in London, 857 00:39:59,161 --> 00:40:01,561 but they have a second home in the country. 858 00:40:02,681 --> 00:40:04,601 - Well, we bought it about just 859 00:40:04,601 --> 00:40:06,401 when we got married. 860 00:40:06,401 --> 00:40:10,201 It was a 200-year-old barn that we bought in an auction, 861 00:40:10,201 --> 00:40:13,881 completely derelict, nothing in it all except for manure, 862 00:40:15,121 --> 00:40:16,441 and then, slowly over the years, 863 00:40:16,441 --> 00:40:18,441 we've just been converting it. 864 00:40:19,881 --> 00:40:21,281 But it's really taken us up 865 00:40:21,281 --> 00:40:23,001 until fairly recently to do that. 866 00:40:24,201 --> 00:40:25,801 Ollie, come on. 867 00:40:25,801 --> 00:40:27,321 There's a railway line that runs along 868 00:40:27,321 --> 00:40:28,401 the bottom of our land. 869 00:40:28,401 --> 00:40:30,361 There's a foxes' den down there. 870 00:40:30,361 --> 00:40:32,881 We've been seeing a few cubs recently. 871 00:40:34,081 --> 00:40:37,281 - What sort of hobbies does Alexander enjoy? 872 00:40:39,281 --> 00:40:40,241 - Well, on the odd occasion, 873 00:40:40,241 --> 00:40:43,761 he's quite keen on doing what we call dangerous sports. 874 00:40:45,721 --> 00:40:49,441 And we're going to treat him to a balloon ride 875 00:40:49,441 --> 00:40:52,881 sort of in advance of his birthday, which is coming up soon. 876 00:40:52,881 --> 00:40:54,161 - Whoo, here we go. 877 00:40:54,161 --> 00:40:54,961 - See you all. 878 00:40:54,961 --> 00:40:56,801 - See you later. 879 00:40:59,201 --> 00:41:01,361 - I have actually been in a balloon once myself. 880 00:41:01,361 --> 00:41:02,801 It was for my father's birthday, 881 00:41:02,801 --> 00:41:05,721 and it was all going very well until the end, 882 00:41:05,721 --> 00:41:07,761 when we managed to hit some trees and-- 883 00:41:07,761 --> 00:41:08,801 - Oh, don't tell me that now. 884 00:41:08,801 --> 00:41:12,921 We landed on the basket, we landed on its side. 885 00:41:12,921 --> 00:41:15,121 - It's very high. 886 00:41:15,121 --> 00:41:15,961 Very high. 887 00:41:16,921 --> 00:41:19,361 - When we landed, there was a request that 888 00:41:20,881 --> 00:41:23,521 all the ladies go downwind 889 00:41:23,521 --> 00:41:25,401 so that we could land on top of them. 890 00:41:27,681 --> 00:41:29,681 Once I had a talk to Greville, 891 00:41:29,681 --> 00:41:34,681 he was in my house, and I asked 892 00:41:35,201 --> 00:41:37,201 if he could put him out of my house 893 00:41:37,201 --> 00:41:39,481 because he was always getting minuses. 894 00:41:40,881 --> 00:41:42,321 - Do you think life is tougher out there 895 00:41:42,321 --> 00:41:45,841 for your children than it was for you? 896 00:41:45,841 --> 00:41:47,441 - Yes, certainly, I think it's much more 897 00:41:47,441 --> 00:41:48,681 competitive for children. 898 00:41:49,881 --> 00:41:51,321 When I leave this school, 899 00:41:51,321 --> 00:41:54,881 I go to Broadstairs, St. Peter's Court. 900 00:41:54,881 --> 00:41:57,041 If you look back at us sitting on the settee 901 00:41:57,041 --> 00:41:59,561 at the age of seven, and I was saying what was I gonna do, 902 00:41:59,561 --> 00:42:02,481 as if my life was mapped out for me. 903 00:42:02,481 --> 00:42:05,161 Trinity Hall, Cambridge. 904 00:42:06,001 --> 00:42:07,601 You know, you could never get a child doing that now 905 00:42:07,601 --> 00:42:09,281 saying, "I'm going to go to Cambridge." 906 00:42:09,281 --> 00:42:12,161 Things have become less certain as a result. 907 00:42:12,161 --> 00:42:13,841 - And you three on that settee 908 00:42:13,841 --> 00:42:15,921 had huge opportunity. 909 00:42:15,921 --> 00:42:17,241 - We did, absolutely, yeah. 910 00:42:18,561 --> 00:42:22,121 - Well, I think boarding makes you feel self-sufficient 911 00:42:24,121 --> 00:42:25,521 and also teaches you to be away 912 00:42:25,521 --> 00:42:27,201 from your parents and to live with people. 913 00:42:27,201 --> 00:42:29,441 - And who was the big influence in your life 914 00:42:29,441 --> 00:42:32,841 in giving you a sense of proportion and value? 915 00:42:32,841 --> 00:42:34,641 - Well, obviously it's your parents. 916 00:42:35,761 --> 00:42:39,121 They bring you up for the first 18 years of your life. 917 00:42:39,121 --> 00:42:43,361 Well, I have my bath at six o'clock and then go to bed at-- 918 00:42:43,361 --> 00:42:46,201 - Do you ever look back and think 919 00:42:46,201 --> 00:42:48,201 is there anything you would like to have been 920 00:42:48,201 --> 00:42:49,561 different from what it was? 921 00:42:50,721 --> 00:42:52,321 - I think, from my point of view, perhaps, 922 00:42:52,321 --> 00:42:53,561 as the children were growing up, 923 00:42:53,561 --> 00:42:55,361 I would liked to have spent a bit more time 924 00:42:55,361 --> 00:42:58,201 at home with them rather than in the office 925 00:42:58,201 --> 00:43:01,521 but that's something that it's too late to do now. 926 00:43:01,521 --> 00:43:04,281 So everything we say, they'll think, 927 00:43:04,281 --> 00:43:07,321 oh, that's a typical result of the public school system. 928 00:43:07,321 --> 00:43:09,041 - Yeah. 929 00:43:09,041 --> 00:43:11,481 - When we were seven and 14 and 21, 930 00:43:11,481 --> 00:43:14,321 we were fairly prepared to say what we thought, 931 00:43:14,321 --> 00:43:18,001 but we have become more guarded over the years. 932 00:43:19,081 --> 00:43:21,121 - What are you guarded about? 933 00:43:22,161 --> 00:43:23,841 - I'm guarded about being guarded. 934 00:43:26,281 --> 00:43:29,281 - Here we go, ooh! 935 00:43:29,281 --> 00:43:31,321 - So did you ever fall on the ladies? 936 00:43:31,321 --> 00:43:32,761 - No, the lady fell on me. 937 00:43:34,441 --> 00:43:36,441 But it was my wife, so that was good. 938 00:43:37,681 --> 00:43:42,361 - When I leave school, I am going to the Dragon School, 939 00:43:42,361 --> 00:43:46,841 I might and mum is, and I might go to, 940 00:43:46,841 --> 00:43:49,681 after, I might go to Charterhouse, Marlborough. 941 00:43:50,601 --> 00:43:52,001 I don't particularly want to be rich 942 00:43:52,001 --> 00:43:53,801 but I'd like to have enough money. 943 00:43:55,201 --> 00:43:56,841 - Charles went to Marlborough 944 00:43:56,841 --> 00:43:59,281 and then onto Durham University. 945 00:43:59,281 --> 00:44:02,881 Since 21, he's taken no further part in these films. 946 00:44:04,081 --> 00:44:09,081 - When I leave this school, I'm going to Colet Court, 947 00:44:11,841 --> 00:44:14,641 and then I will be going to Westminster boarding school 948 00:44:14,641 --> 00:44:15,601 if I pass the exam, 949 00:44:17,561 --> 00:44:21,561 and then we think I'm going to Cambridge and Trinity Hall. 950 00:44:25,481 --> 00:44:27,201 - John went to Westminster, 951 00:44:27,201 --> 00:44:29,721 then onto read law at Christ Church, Oxford. 952 00:44:32,401 --> 00:44:36,561 - I'm thinking of following a legal career 953 00:44:36,561 --> 00:44:38,361 with a view to ending in parliament. 954 00:44:39,281 --> 00:44:40,281 Might be at the bar. 955 00:44:42,441 --> 00:44:43,601 - Doing what? 956 00:44:44,801 --> 00:44:46,481 - Perhaps chancery practise. 957 00:44:46,481 --> 00:44:47,361 I now have a career. 958 00:44:47,361 --> 00:44:48,721 I'm a barrister. 959 00:44:50,441 --> 00:44:53,761 Other than that, life chugs along in varying degrees. 960 00:44:53,761 --> 00:44:55,401 Well, in a sense, not very much has changed 961 00:44:55,401 --> 00:44:57,521 in my career over the last 14 years. 962 00:44:57,521 --> 00:45:00,321 I'm still a barrister, I still wear a curly white wig. 963 00:45:01,561 --> 00:45:03,641 The only visible difference, I suppose, 964 00:45:03,641 --> 00:45:06,241 is I wear a silk gown, because I am now a QC. 965 00:45:07,241 --> 00:45:08,921 - Are you ambitious? 966 00:45:08,921 --> 00:45:09,961 - Yes. 967 00:45:09,961 --> 00:45:11,361 - What for? 968 00:45:11,361 --> 00:45:14,241 - Fame and power. 969 00:45:16,521 --> 00:45:18,281 - What sort of power? 970 00:45:18,281 --> 00:45:19,801 - Political power. 971 00:45:19,801 --> 00:45:21,441 I would quite like to go into politics, 972 00:45:21,441 --> 00:45:24,441 but, I mean, that's easier said than done. 973 00:45:26,761 --> 00:45:27,561 - Meet Morris. 974 00:45:27,561 --> 00:45:29,601 - I have actually thought about whether I shouldn't try 975 00:45:29,601 --> 00:45:32,681 and get myself onto the candidates' list 976 00:45:34,121 --> 00:45:35,081 but who knows? 977 00:45:35,081 --> 00:45:40,081 I haven't written myself off as a potential politician, 978 00:45:40,281 --> 00:45:41,681 even though I am already 49. 979 00:45:44,521 --> 00:45:47,241 I worry about the quality of our democracy. 980 00:45:47,241 --> 00:45:49,921 I worry in particular about this government, 981 00:45:51,521 --> 00:45:53,201 not because they're socialists 982 00:45:53,201 --> 00:45:54,201 and they're to round us all up 983 00:45:54,201 --> 00:45:58,121 and take us off to Trafalgar Square in tumbrels 984 00:45:58,121 --> 00:45:59,481 to face the guillotine. 985 00:45:59,481 --> 00:46:00,321 Far from it. 986 00:46:00,321 --> 00:46:04,041 In fact, Tony Blair is a very good conservative, 987 00:46:04,041 --> 00:46:07,961 as I see it, but rather because of the insidious damage 988 00:46:07,961 --> 00:46:10,081 they're doing to our constitution. 989 00:46:10,081 --> 00:46:13,761 - Rich children always make fun of poor children, I think. 990 00:46:13,761 --> 00:46:14,641 - Yes. - Yes. 991 00:46:14,641 --> 00:46:17,761 - It's very irresponsible because we all want more money, 992 00:46:17,761 --> 00:46:19,161 as much money as we can get. 993 00:46:20,241 --> 00:46:22,601 The acquisition of sacks and sacks of money 994 00:46:22,601 --> 00:46:26,481 is not something that I set much importance by. 995 00:46:27,481 --> 00:46:30,121 I'm not money-minded, I would say, in that sense. 996 00:46:30,121 --> 00:46:33,361 I mean, obviously it's nice to have a fair amount of money, 997 00:46:33,361 --> 00:46:38,121 and money does enable you to go on nice holidays, 998 00:46:38,121 --> 00:46:40,041 buy nice things, so on and so forth, 999 00:46:40,041 --> 00:46:42,561 but as a goal in itself, no. 1000 00:46:42,561 --> 00:46:46,161 I mean, who wants to be the richest corpse in the graveyard? 1001 00:46:47,041 --> 00:46:48,921 - By the time he was 34, 1002 00:46:48,921 --> 00:46:52,281 John had a house in London and another in the country. 1003 00:46:52,281 --> 00:46:53,801 - I seem to spend an awful lot of my time 1004 00:46:53,801 --> 00:46:56,481 gardening furiously, trying to tame the wilderness 1005 00:46:56,481 --> 00:46:58,361 that we inherited there. 1006 00:46:58,361 --> 00:46:59,881 I'd have laughed if 10 years ago, 1007 00:46:59,881 --> 00:47:03,881 you'd have told me that I would spend most of my time 1008 00:47:03,881 --> 00:47:06,241 digging herbaceous borders and things, 1009 00:47:06,241 --> 00:47:09,161 but that's what I seem to do, and I enjoy it. 1010 00:47:10,001 --> 00:47:12,081 One good thing about having quite a large house 1011 00:47:12,081 --> 00:47:12,921 in the country now 1012 00:47:12,921 --> 00:47:15,561 is that I have taken up playing the piano. 1013 00:47:15,561 --> 00:47:18,201 - It's a very nonchalant little theme, 1014 00:47:18,201 --> 00:47:19,441 butter wouldn't melt in its mouth, 1015 00:47:19,441 --> 00:47:22,121 so take it very quietly and let it present itself. 1016 00:47:23,721 --> 00:47:24,561 Off. 1017 00:47:24,561 --> 00:47:25,561 - A couple of years ago, 1018 00:47:25,561 --> 00:47:27,681 I did start again and even practising, 1019 00:47:27,681 --> 00:47:30,841 but I am afraid I've lost an awful lot of dexterity. 1020 00:47:42,081 --> 00:47:43,441 Whether it's old age and arthritis, 1021 00:47:43,441 --> 00:47:45,281 or whether it's falling off horses too many times, 1022 00:47:45,281 --> 00:47:47,241 I don't know but, I mean, I don't feel I've got quite 1023 00:47:47,241 --> 00:47:49,521 the dexterity in my fingers. 1024 00:47:52,481 --> 00:47:54,081 - Certainly, I can never tell the difference 1025 00:47:54,081 --> 00:47:55,961 between you playing and the CD playing 1026 00:47:55,961 --> 00:47:57,481 when I'm out of the room. 1027 00:47:57,481 --> 00:47:59,161 Yeah, very good, very good. 1028 00:47:59,161 --> 00:48:00,361 - Well, she's very diplomatic. 1029 00:48:00,361 --> 00:48:01,761 - No, no. 1030 00:48:01,761 --> 00:48:03,401 - When boys go round with girls, 1031 00:48:03,401 --> 00:48:06,161 they don't pay attention to what they're doing. 1032 00:48:06,161 --> 00:48:08,681 Since my grandmother had an accident 1033 00:48:08,681 --> 00:48:11,241 because a boyfriend was kissing his girlfriend 1034 00:48:11,241 --> 00:48:13,441 in the street. 1035 00:48:14,761 --> 00:48:17,681 - By 35, John had married Claire, 1036 00:48:17,681 --> 00:48:20,241 the daughter of a former ambassador to Bulgaria. 1037 00:48:21,321 --> 00:48:24,361 - It is coincidental that we met 1038 00:48:24,361 --> 00:48:27,761 but it's obvious that the Balkan connection 1039 00:48:27,761 --> 00:48:30,521 was a strong mutual interest. 1040 00:48:36,161 --> 00:48:40,241 - We have a charity, Friends of Bulgaria, 1041 00:48:40,241 --> 00:48:43,121 which started in 1991, 1042 00:48:43,121 --> 00:48:44,801 which actually made quite a lot of money 1043 00:48:44,801 --> 00:48:48,281 which we invested in medicine and took out to Bulgaria. 1044 00:48:48,281 --> 00:48:51,281 We support some children's homes in Stara Zagora, 1045 00:48:51,281 --> 00:48:53,801 an institution for disabled children, 1046 00:48:53,801 --> 00:48:56,561 and we make donations to other charities. 1047 00:48:56,561 --> 00:48:59,281 People who go on about the government 1048 00:48:59,281 --> 00:49:00,881 butchering the national health service 1049 00:49:00,881 --> 00:49:02,441 I think should come over to Bulgaria 1050 00:49:02,441 --> 00:49:06,681 to see what being kept short of necessary supplies 1051 00:49:06,681 --> 00:49:08,961 and funds really does mean. 1052 00:49:08,961 --> 00:49:10,921 We've been told that in some places, 1053 00:49:10,921 --> 00:49:13,841 it's impossible to do even operations, 1054 00:49:13,841 --> 00:49:15,001 albeit they have the operating theatres 1055 00:49:15,001 --> 00:49:16,841 and they have excellent doctors 1056 00:49:16,841 --> 00:49:18,601 for want of simple anaesthetics. 1057 00:49:19,841 --> 00:49:21,561 Up till then, there'd been no provision 1058 00:49:21,561 --> 00:49:25,001 for education of disabled children, 1059 00:49:25,001 --> 00:49:29,041 so we started what was called a Parallelca, 1060 00:49:29,041 --> 00:49:32,121 which is parallel education for the disabled, 1061 00:49:32,121 --> 00:49:33,641 and we've now got two classes here. 1062 00:49:33,641 --> 00:49:34,721 What is your name? 1063 00:49:35,561 --> 00:49:38,401 - My name Desis Desteanna. 1064 00:49:38,401 --> 00:49:40,121 - Cristo Christoff. 1065 00:49:41,601 --> 00:49:44,041 Claire and I have been giving prizes 1066 00:49:44,041 --> 00:49:47,761 to the most talented children in this town. 1067 00:49:49,041 --> 00:49:51,121 The school that we're in was actually built by my family 1068 00:49:51,121 --> 00:49:54,521 at the end of the 19th century 1069 00:49:54,521 --> 00:49:57,681 and they also used to present prizes 1070 00:49:57,681 --> 00:50:00,401 to the best children from the school each year 1071 00:50:00,401 --> 00:50:03,961 right until the advent of communism in 1944. 1072 00:50:05,241 --> 00:50:08,681 I come from a very old family 1073 00:50:08,681 --> 00:50:11,681 with big traditions of service to this country, 1074 00:50:11,681 --> 00:50:14,441 and, really, when I come here, 1075 00:50:14,441 --> 00:50:17,441 I feel very proud of them because I feel, in so many ways, 1076 00:50:17,441 --> 00:50:19,241 they've helped build Bulgaria. 1077 00:50:21,801 --> 00:50:23,761 This church is quite interesting. 1078 00:50:23,761 --> 00:50:28,121 It was built by my great-great-great grandfather in 1834. 1079 00:50:29,961 --> 00:50:32,881 They say he made off with eight tonnes of gold, 1080 00:50:32,881 --> 00:50:35,561 and even today, the mountains here 1081 00:50:35,561 --> 00:50:37,041 are full of treasure hunters 1082 00:50:37,041 --> 00:50:39,161 who keep digging up all the caves and everything 1083 00:50:39,161 --> 00:50:41,121 in the hope of finding the treasure. 1084 00:50:41,961 --> 00:50:42,961 I wish I could find it. 1085 00:50:42,961 --> 00:50:47,361 I mean, once I'd refunded my equitable life pension fund, 1086 00:50:47,361 --> 00:50:51,801 I reckon if I shoot the horses, shoot the wife 1087 00:50:51,801 --> 00:50:54,881 and only drink Bulgarian wine, 1088 00:50:54,881 --> 00:50:58,841 I may be able to retire age 94 or something. 1089 00:50:59,681 --> 00:51:02,441 Straw Macanessy got three minuses in a day. 1090 00:51:03,961 --> 00:51:05,081 He's a pest. 1091 00:51:05,081 --> 00:51:07,841 It has to be said that I bitterly regret 1092 00:51:07,841 --> 00:51:09,761 that the headmaster of the school 1093 00:51:09,761 --> 00:51:10,921 where I was when I was seven 1094 00:51:10,921 --> 00:51:15,281 pushed me forward for this series, 'cause every seven years, 1095 00:51:15,281 --> 00:51:19,081 a little pill of poison is injected into-- 1096 00:51:19,081 --> 00:51:20,241 - Oh, no. 1097 00:51:20,241 --> 00:51:22,921 - Well, it's the truth. 1098 00:51:22,921 --> 00:51:25,881 There are times when I have felt appearing on this 1099 00:51:25,881 --> 00:51:29,321 may get causes near to my heart a bit of publicity 1100 00:51:29,321 --> 00:51:31,841 and certainly, when you came to Bulgaria 1101 00:51:31,841 --> 00:51:34,321 for the "35 Up" programme, 1102 00:51:34,321 --> 00:51:38,001 that did lead to us getting quite significant assistance 1103 00:51:38,001 --> 00:51:40,281 which possibly we wouldn't have got. 1104 00:51:40,281 --> 00:51:43,521 Well, I think it's a very good system. 1105 00:51:43,521 --> 00:51:45,641 I suspect that why this programme 1106 00:51:45,641 --> 00:51:48,001 is compelling and interesting for viewers, 1107 00:51:48,001 --> 00:51:50,121 and I quite see why it is, is because, really, 1108 00:51:50,121 --> 00:51:53,281 it's like "Big Brother" or I'm a celebrity, 1109 00:51:53,281 --> 00:51:54,401 get me out of here! 1110 00:51:54,401 --> 00:51:57,041 It is actually real-life TV 1111 00:51:57,041 --> 00:52:00,641 and with the added bonus that you can see people grow old, 1112 00:52:00,641 --> 00:52:02,161 lose their hair, get fat. 1113 00:52:04,001 --> 00:52:06,441 Fascinating, I'm sure, but does it have any value? 1114 00:52:06,441 --> 00:52:08,001 That's a different question. 1115 00:52:19,041 --> 00:52:21,241 - Well, we pretend we've got swords, 1116 00:52:21,241 --> 00:52:24,041 and we make the noise of the swords fighting, 1117 00:52:24,041 --> 00:52:26,841 and once somebody stabs us, we go, ahh! 1118 00:52:28,201 --> 00:52:30,681 - Neil grew up in a Liverpool suburb. 1119 00:52:30,681 --> 00:52:33,801 He had dreams of going to Oxford, but didn't get in. 1120 00:52:34,681 --> 00:52:37,201 Instead, he went to Aberdeen University, 1121 00:52:37,201 --> 00:52:39,201 but dropped out after the first term. 1122 00:52:41,081 --> 00:52:44,361 At 21, he was working on a building site 1123 00:52:44,361 --> 00:52:46,081 and living in a squat. 1124 00:52:47,281 --> 00:52:50,121 - I would like to be somebody in a position of importance, 1125 00:52:50,121 --> 00:52:51,521 I have always thought 1126 00:52:52,601 --> 00:52:54,441 but I don't think I'm the right sort of person 1127 00:52:54,441 --> 00:52:56,241 to carry the responsibility for whatever it is. 1128 00:52:56,241 --> 00:52:58,121 I always thought well I'd love to be, 1129 00:53:00,041 --> 00:53:04,281 possibly love to be in politics or something like this. 1130 00:53:06,001 --> 00:53:08,361 - By 28, he was homeless, 1131 00:53:08,361 --> 00:53:10,561 wandering around the west coast of Scotland. 1132 00:53:12,441 --> 00:53:15,241 - If the money runs out, well, then, for a few days, 1133 00:53:15,241 --> 00:53:17,881 there's nowhere to go to, and that's all you can do. 1134 00:53:17,881 --> 00:53:20,761 I simply have to find the warmest shed I can find. 1135 00:53:22,121 --> 00:53:24,161 - How do people regard you here? 1136 00:53:25,361 --> 00:53:28,081 - Well, I'm still known as an eccentric. 1137 00:53:31,441 --> 00:53:33,521 I'm not claiming that I feel as though 1138 00:53:33,521 --> 00:53:36,881 I am in some sort of nirvana, 1139 00:53:36,881 --> 00:53:39,361 but I am claiming that if I was living 1140 00:53:39,361 --> 00:53:40,921 in a bedsit in suburbia, 1141 00:53:40,921 --> 00:53:43,561 I'd be so miserable, I'd feel like cutting my throat. 1142 00:53:45,081 --> 00:53:47,921 - At 35, we found him living in a council estate 1143 00:53:47,921 --> 00:53:50,161 on the most northerly part of Britain, 1144 00:53:50,161 --> 00:53:51,401 the Shetland Islands. 1145 00:53:52,281 --> 00:53:54,601 - It's an environment which sustains me, 1146 00:53:54,601 --> 00:53:56,201 it's one in which I can survive. 1147 00:53:57,281 --> 00:53:58,281 The reason I don't feel safe 1148 00:53:58,281 --> 00:54:00,281 is because I think I am getting more and more used 1149 00:54:00,281 --> 00:54:03,881 to this lifestyle, which eventually, 1150 00:54:03,881 --> 00:54:05,121 I shall have to give up. 1151 00:54:06,961 --> 00:54:08,721 - And what would you like to be doing, 1152 00:54:08,721 --> 00:54:10,761 say, in seven years? 1153 00:54:10,761 --> 00:54:12,761 - I can think of all kinds of things I'd like to be doing. 1154 00:54:12,761 --> 00:54:17,441 The real question is, what am I likely to be doing? 1155 00:54:23,201 --> 00:54:25,361 - What are you likely to be doing? 1156 00:54:25,361 --> 00:54:26,841 - That's a horrible question. 1157 00:54:28,401 --> 00:54:30,801 I tend to think the most likely answer 1158 00:54:30,801 --> 00:54:32,321 is that I'll be wandering homeless 1159 00:54:32,321 --> 00:54:34,361 round the streets of London, 1160 00:54:34,361 --> 00:54:36,561 but with a bit of luck, that won't happen. 1161 00:54:41,641 --> 00:54:45,721 Can I just point out some of the considerable disadvantages? 1162 00:54:45,721 --> 00:54:48,121 First of all, they are geographically-- 1163 00:54:48,121 --> 00:54:50,881 - By 42, Neil had moved to London 1164 00:54:50,881 --> 00:54:53,881 and was a Liberal Democrat on Hackney Council. 1165 00:54:53,881 --> 00:54:54,721 - Public transport. 1166 00:54:54,721 --> 00:54:56,361 While I was in Shetland, I felt very strongly 1167 00:54:56,361 --> 00:54:59,081 that I should become involved in politics, 1168 00:54:59,081 --> 00:55:01,281 simply because I felt I was not achieving anything 1169 00:55:01,281 --> 00:55:03,361 in the ways I really wanted to. 1170 00:55:09,041 --> 00:55:11,801 - So, didn't expect to see you driving, Neil. 1171 00:55:12,801 --> 00:55:14,121 - Well, neither, 1172 00:55:14,121 --> 00:55:16,401 if you'd asked me that question a few years ago, 1173 00:55:16,401 --> 00:55:18,601 I would have been surprised 1174 00:55:18,601 --> 00:55:22,441 but it was my brother's wife's car, and fortunately, 1175 00:55:22,441 --> 00:55:25,201 she was about to change vehicles at the time, 1176 00:55:25,201 --> 00:55:27,321 and they let me have it without charge, 1177 00:55:27,321 --> 00:55:30,201 which was really a very magnanimous gesture. 1178 00:55:32,721 --> 00:55:35,361 - At 49, Neil has left London, 1179 00:55:35,361 --> 00:55:37,521 moved to Cumbria in the north west of England 1180 00:55:37,521 --> 00:55:40,441 and become a member of the local district council. 1181 00:55:41,921 --> 00:55:42,761 - Fairly simple. 1182 00:55:42,761 --> 00:55:45,121 It was a committee decision, majority decision. 1183 00:55:45,121 --> 00:55:47,521 His own group on the establishment committee 1184 00:55:47,521 --> 00:55:48,761 agreed with the decision. 1185 00:55:49,801 --> 00:55:51,601 Councillor Hughes. 1186 00:55:51,601 --> 00:55:53,041 - Well, for Councillor Niland's information, 1187 00:55:53,041 --> 00:55:55,921 Councillor Cook has reconsidered his opinion 1188 00:55:55,921 --> 00:55:57,321 he ventured at that meeting. 1189 00:55:58,561 --> 00:56:00,001 I'm a Liberal Democrat, 1190 00:56:00,001 --> 00:56:02,921 I'm standing for the county council for this seat 1191 00:56:02,921 --> 00:56:06,641 which is 400 square miles in size, 1192 00:56:06,641 --> 00:56:09,321 so it's a huge, a huge constituency, 1193 00:56:09,321 --> 00:56:11,801 and this is only one of the 84 seats. 1194 00:56:11,801 --> 00:56:13,161 - Who has the seat at the moment? 1195 00:56:13,161 --> 00:56:15,801 - It's a conservative councillor at the moment. 1196 00:56:15,801 --> 00:56:16,761 - Big majority? 1197 00:56:16,761 --> 00:56:18,201 - Significant. 1198 00:56:18,201 --> 00:56:19,801 There's a lot of work for me to do, 1199 00:56:19,801 --> 00:56:21,481 if not this time, maybe next time. 1200 00:56:21,481 --> 00:56:23,801 - What are the chances this time? 1201 00:56:23,801 --> 00:56:24,921 - I'm doing my best. 1202 00:56:27,001 --> 00:56:30,201 Funnily enough, when I first came up here, 1203 00:56:30,201 --> 00:56:33,121 I was considering giving it up altogether, 1204 00:56:33,121 --> 00:56:36,961 but after only about two days, I just got involved again, 1205 00:56:36,961 --> 00:56:39,281 so maybe it's impossible to give up politics. 1206 00:56:41,081 --> 00:56:43,201 - I have a great deal of respect for the Liberal Democrats, 1207 00:56:43,201 --> 00:56:45,201 but I think that I won't vote for them this time 1208 00:56:45,201 --> 00:56:46,841 because I'll vote for Mr. McClain. 1209 00:56:46,841 --> 00:56:50,281 And in particular, he's keen on to preserve our way of life 1210 00:56:50,281 --> 00:56:52,281 in the country with hunting, in particular. 1211 00:56:52,281 --> 00:56:53,801 - Well, it's gonna very disadvantage us 1212 00:56:53,801 --> 00:56:55,801 because we have changed our farming policy 1213 00:56:55,801 --> 00:56:57,921 since foot and mouth or any type of dairy cows. 1214 00:56:57,921 --> 00:56:59,521 - Certainly more people vote, 1215 00:56:59,521 --> 00:57:02,081 perhaps they see the impact on their lives more starkly 1216 00:57:02,081 --> 00:57:03,681 than people do in the city. 1217 00:57:03,681 --> 00:57:05,521 I found in London, many parts of London, 1218 00:57:05,521 --> 00:57:08,681 there was a huge apathy because it seemed, 1219 00:57:08,681 --> 00:57:09,801 like they used to say, 1220 00:57:09,801 --> 00:57:10,961 "It doesn't matter who you vote for, 1221 00:57:10,961 --> 00:57:12,561 "the government always gets in." 1222 00:57:13,761 --> 00:57:15,361 - When I saw you seven years ago, 1223 00:57:15,361 --> 00:57:19,241 you seemed content, happy in London, so why the change? 1224 00:57:19,241 --> 00:57:21,681 - I neither felt that I was satisfying 1225 00:57:21,681 --> 00:57:23,121 the community around me, 1226 00:57:23,121 --> 00:57:25,881 nor did I feel I was satisfying myself, 1227 00:57:25,881 --> 00:57:28,921 and that was obviously not an ideal situation. 1228 00:57:28,921 --> 00:57:31,521 - At 42, when Neil first arrived in London 1229 00:57:31,521 --> 00:57:34,841 from the Shetland Islands, he lodged with Bruce. 1230 00:57:34,841 --> 00:57:36,201 - He was a model host, 1231 00:57:36,201 --> 00:57:38,801 although he did always insist on measuring 1232 00:57:38,801 --> 00:57:40,881 the amount of bathwater that was in the bath, 1233 00:57:40,881 --> 00:57:43,321 and I am not quite sure why that was. 1234 00:57:43,321 --> 00:57:46,041 - He'd find the fridge a bit noisy, so he would turn it off, 1235 00:57:46,041 --> 00:57:48,841 or if I had to Hoover, he'd walk round the block or-- 1236 00:57:48,841 --> 00:57:53,081 - No, I accept that I wasn't the model lodger in every way 1237 00:57:53,081 --> 00:57:55,441 and, however, that only emphasises 1238 00:57:55,441 --> 00:57:56,281 how patient you actually were. 1239 00:57:56,281 --> 00:57:57,761 - No. 1240 00:57:57,761 --> 00:57:59,881 - I've had little contact with Bruce. 1241 00:57:59,881 --> 00:58:02,081 We've exchanged one or two letters, 1242 00:58:02,081 --> 00:58:05,801 but maybe ours was a friendship which flourished 1243 00:58:05,801 --> 00:58:07,361 and it was a genuine friendship 1244 00:58:07,361 --> 00:58:11,081 in the circumstances in which we found ourselves in London. 1245 00:58:11,081 --> 00:58:12,561 - I think that's what happens in life, 1246 00:58:12,561 --> 00:58:14,121 that people you're close to, 1247 00:58:14,121 --> 00:58:16,641 and then circumstances drift you apart, 1248 00:58:16,641 --> 00:58:18,441 and you find other people, 1249 00:58:18,441 --> 00:58:22,201 and you wonder now and again what's happening to them 1250 00:58:22,201 --> 00:58:25,521 and hope they're all right, but that's what happens in life. 1251 00:58:28,361 --> 00:58:30,521 - In the winter, if you lived in the country, 1252 00:58:30,521 --> 00:58:31,961 well, it was just all wet, 1253 00:58:31,961 --> 00:58:34,481 and there wouldn't be anything for miles around. 1254 00:58:37,201 --> 00:58:41,841 I feel, especially sometimes when I'm on my own, 1255 00:58:41,841 --> 00:58:44,641 that I'm losing touch with the way other people live. 1256 00:58:46,921 --> 00:58:48,881 - Do you worry about your sanity? 1257 00:58:53,241 --> 00:58:55,721 - Other people sometimes worry about it. 1258 00:58:56,601 --> 00:58:57,561 - Like who? 1259 00:59:02,361 --> 00:59:05,841 - As I said, I sometimes can be found 1260 00:59:05,841 --> 00:59:08,841 behaving in an erratic fashion. 1261 00:59:09,681 --> 00:59:12,641 Sometimes, I get very frustrated, very angry 1262 00:59:12,641 --> 00:59:13,761 for no apparent reason, 1263 00:59:13,761 --> 00:59:15,441 for a reason which won't be apparent 1264 00:59:15,441 --> 00:59:17,521 to other people around me. 1265 00:59:17,521 --> 00:59:19,521 - Do you ever think you're going mad? 1266 00:59:19,521 --> 00:59:21,041 - I don't think it, I know it. 1267 00:59:27,281 --> 00:59:29,481 We're not allowed to use the word mad but... 1268 00:59:31,961 --> 00:59:34,841 I think most people are mad here, really. 1269 00:59:34,841 --> 00:59:36,641 - How's your health? 1270 00:59:36,641 --> 00:59:38,001 - It's probably very good at the moment, 1271 00:59:38,001 --> 00:59:40,481 and living in this rural setting 1272 00:59:40,481 --> 00:59:43,241 is obviously healthier than living in the middle of a city. 1273 00:59:43,241 --> 00:59:44,481 There is less stress. 1274 00:59:48,641 --> 00:59:52,201 I ended up with a former council flat, 1275 00:59:52,201 --> 00:59:55,201 which is nothing luxurious, but I was lucky to get it, 1276 00:59:55,201 --> 00:59:59,601 and as soon as I could see the view out of my window, 1277 00:59:59,601 --> 01:00:02,761 across the stream and trees and the hills in the background, 1278 01:00:02,761 --> 01:00:05,001 I knew I was in the right place. 1279 01:00:07,001 --> 01:00:08,881 I know that many people 1280 01:00:08,881 --> 01:00:12,921 say they feel closer to God in the countryside. 1281 01:00:12,921 --> 01:00:14,921 I wouldn't wanna be simplistic about it, 1282 01:00:14,921 --> 01:00:19,121 but because one is much closer to natural life, 1283 01:00:20,321 --> 01:00:23,841 one's therefore much closer to the springs of life. 1284 01:00:23,841 --> 01:00:25,681 Yes, I'd say I believed in God. 1285 01:00:25,681 --> 01:00:27,001 - Are you religious? 1286 01:00:28,281 --> 01:00:30,761 - Well, I go to church with me parents on Sundays. 1287 01:00:31,601 --> 01:00:34,361 I don't know even now whether I do believe in God or not. 1288 01:00:34,361 --> 01:00:35,881 I've thought an awful lot about it, actually, 1289 01:00:35,881 --> 01:00:38,201 and I still don't know. 1290 01:00:38,201 --> 01:00:40,041 - How has he been treating you? 1291 01:00:41,201 --> 01:00:43,481 - Well, I said to somebody last week 1292 01:00:43,481 --> 01:00:46,561 that I preferred the Old Testament to the New Testament, 1293 01:00:46,561 --> 01:00:48,921 because in the Old Testament, 1294 01:00:48,921 --> 01:00:50,321 God is very unpredictable, 1295 01:00:51,961 --> 01:00:56,281 and that's, I think, how I see him in my life. 1296 01:00:57,321 --> 01:01:00,081 ♪ My Jesus ♪ 1297 01:01:00,081 --> 01:01:02,161 ♪ My saviour ♪ 1298 01:01:02,161 --> 01:01:05,881 ♪ Lord, there is none like you ♪ 1299 01:01:05,881 --> 01:01:09,081 ♪ Tower of refuge and strength ♪ 1300 01:01:09,081 --> 01:01:12,041 - I bring Jim and Ann 1301 01:01:12,041 --> 01:01:16,001 and Bruce and Julia and-- 1302 01:01:16,001 --> 01:01:16,801 - Doreen. 1303 01:01:16,801 --> 01:01:18,361 - And Doreen as well and also. 1304 01:01:18,361 --> 01:01:21,041 I was first a lay reader in London. 1305 01:01:22,121 --> 01:01:24,361 After completing a little more training, 1306 01:01:24,361 --> 01:01:26,801 I was re-licensed by the bishop of Carlisle. 1307 01:01:27,761 --> 01:01:30,481 Nature's lovely, nature's made by God, but it's lovely. 1308 01:01:30,481 --> 01:01:33,001 Gives me the peace of mind to accept 1309 01:01:33,001 --> 01:01:36,281 when things don't go the way they want to. 1310 01:01:36,281 --> 01:01:38,841 Politics can be a very bruising game. 1311 01:01:38,841 --> 01:01:41,561 I will maintain my faith, I will continue to trust in God. 1312 01:01:41,561 --> 01:01:43,041 - Yes. 1313 01:01:43,041 --> 01:01:46,281 - I'm absolutely sure that my faith 1314 01:01:46,281 --> 01:01:48,481 has helped me through these difficult times. 1315 01:01:49,881 --> 01:01:51,441 - Would you ever see having a career 1316 01:01:51,441 --> 01:01:52,521 in the church? 1317 01:01:52,521 --> 01:01:54,481 - While I have a dedication to the church, 1318 01:01:54,481 --> 01:01:55,441 I haven't experienced 1319 01:01:55,441 --> 01:01:58,241 what I'd call a calling into the priesthood 1320 01:01:58,241 --> 01:02:00,441 or anything of that kind, 1321 01:02:00,441 --> 01:02:02,561 so the answer is no at the moment. 1322 01:02:03,401 --> 01:02:05,841 When I grow up, I wanna be an astronaut, 1323 01:02:05,841 --> 01:02:07,921 but if I can't be an astronaut, 1324 01:02:07,921 --> 01:02:09,841 I think I'll be a coach driver. 1325 01:02:11,121 --> 01:02:13,401 If the state didn't give us any money, 1326 01:02:13,401 --> 01:02:15,281 it would probably just mean crime, 1327 01:02:15,281 --> 01:02:18,161 and I am glad I didn't have to steal to keep myself alive. 1328 01:02:22,841 --> 01:02:24,441 - Neil spends one day a week 1329 01:02:24,441 --> 01:02:26,361 doing voluntary work for Oxfam. 1330 01:02:26,361 --> 01:02:29,361 - Bernard, can you tell me why people keep putting non. 1331 01:02:29,361 --> 01:02:31,201 I enjoy doing this, it's relaxing. 1332 01:02:31,201 --> 01:02:34,241 I love books, and I enjoy the company here as well. 1333 01:02:36,601 --> 01:02:39,321 I'd much rather have a full-time job where I was being paid, 1334 01:02:39,321 --> 01:02:41,921 but because of the council work I do, 1335 01:02:41,921 --> 01:02:44,641 I really want a job in the rest of my time 1336 01:02:44,641 --> 01:02:46,121 that isn't too stressful. 1337 01:02:46,121 --> 01:02:47,881 Well, these are all 6.99 new, 1338 01:02:47,881 --> 01:02:49,881 so I am putting them in at 1.99. 1339 01:02:49,881 --> 01:02:52,841 I get just over 200 pound a month allowance 1340 01:02:52,841 --> 01:02:54,441 for being a councillor. 1341 01:02:54,441 --> 01:02:56,561 On top of that, I get nine pound a week 1342 01:02:56,561 --> 01:02:58,241 Jobseeker's Allowance, 1343 01:02:58,241 --> 01:03:00,641 and because I am entitled to the Jobseeker's Allowance, 1344 01:03:00,641 --> 01:03:04,681 I get my housing benefits as well, which pays my rent. 1345 01:03:04,681 --> 01:03:06,321 I did some teaching of French 1346 01:03:07,161 --> 01:03:08,721 to young children last year for a while, 1347 01:03:08,721 --> 01:03:11,201 and that was very useful income while I did it. 1348 01:03:11,201 --> 01:03:16,201 When I go home, I come in, and mummy gives me a cup of tea. 1349 01:03:17,041 --> 01:03:19,321 I don't think I was really taught 1350 01:03:19,321 --> 01:03:22,361 any sort of policy of living at all by my parents. 1351 01:03:22,361 --> 01:03:24,521 This is probably the biggest mistake. 1352 01:03:24,521 --> 01:03:26,681 I was just left to fend for myself in a world 1353 01:03:26,681 --> 01:03:29,441 which they seem completely oblivious of. 1354 01:03:29,441 --> 01:03:31,201 What I'd like most of all would be, 1355 01:03:33,601 --> 01:03:37,121 would be to be able to do something for my parents 1356 01:03:37,121 --> 01:03:42,121 when they're older, to be there when the time's necessary. 1357 01:03:45,121 --> 01:03:47,681 Well, my father died five years ago, 1358 01:03:49,121 --> 01:03:50,561 I do feel, however, 1359 01:03:50,561 --> 01:03:53,441 that I'm a little nearer to my mother since then, 1360 01:03:54,361 --> 01:03:57,441 but both geographically and possibly emotionally, 1361 01:03:57,441 --> 01:03:59,201 it's never been an easy relationship, 1362 01:03:59,201 --> 01:04:02,601 and I am not claiming that everything is healed now 1363 01:04:02,601 --> 01:04:06,841 but I feel I can speak to my mother. 1364 01:04:06,841 --> 01:04:08,441 - Do you miss your dad? 1365 01:04:10,281 --> 01:04:13,281 - I had a great relationship with my father 1366 01:04:13,281 --> 01:04:15,081 when I was much younger. 1367 01:04:16,961 --> 01:04:20,921 My relationship with him did deteriorate as I got older. 1368 01:04:22,681 --> 01:04:25,641 I sometimes felt that he made the wrong decision 1369 01:04:25,641 --> 01:04:28,321 in advice he'd given me or things he'd done 1370 01:04:28,321 --> 01:04:31,761 but then, obviously, he had his own life to lead 1371 01:04:31,761 --> 01:04:34,161 and just a few months before he died, 1372 01:04:34,161 --> 01:04:36,081 we went together to a cricket match. 1373 01:04:36,081 --> 01:04:38,961 Well, we had what I knew would probably 1374 01:04:38,961 --> 01:04:40,641 be the last long talk we would have 1375 01:04:40,641 --> 01:04:43,081 because he was dying at the time then, 1376 01:04:43,081 --> 01:04:45,281 and I felt that we were both relaxed 1377 01:04:45,281 --> 01:04:47,361 because we were doing something we enjoyed doing, 1378 01:04:47,361 --> 01:04:51,761 which was relaxing in the sunshine and watching sport 1379 01:04:51,761 --> 01:04:55,401 so I felt that some way of some bridging of the gap 1380 01:04:55,401 --> 01:04:56,601 did take place that day. 1381 01:04:57,601 --> 01:05:01,521 When I get married, I don't want to have any children, 1382 01:05:01,521 --> 01:05:05,521 because they are always doing naughty things 1383 01:05:05,521 --> 01:05:08,921 and making the whole house untidy. 1384 01:05:08,921 --> 01:05:12,481 I always told myself that I would never have children. 1385 01:05:15,241 --> 01:05:16,681 - Why? 1386 01:05:16,681 --> 01:05:19,801 Because, because well, 1387 01:05:19,801 --> 01:05:23,921 because children inherit something from their parents, 1388 01:05:23,921 --> 01:05:27,761 and even if my wife were the most high-spirited 1389 01:05:27,761 --> 01:05:30,801 and ordinary and normal of people, 1390 01:05:30,801 --> 01:05:33,281 the child would still stand a very fair chance 1391 01:05:33,281 --> 01:05:37,961 of being not totally full of happiness 1392 01:05:37,961 --> 01:05:42,361 because of what he or she will have inherited from me. 1393 01:05:42,361 --> 01:05:43,641 No, I've never married 1394 01:05:43,641 --> 01:05:48,561 and I don't have a girlfriend at the moment, and I've, 1395 01:05:48,561 --> 01:05:50,241 it's one of the regrets of my life, actually, 1396 01:05:50,241 --> 01:05:54,281 that I've not met somebody of the other sex 1397 01:05:54,281 --> 01:05:58,041 I thought I could have a more permanent relationship with, 1398 01:05:59,401 --> 01:06:04,321 but I'm probably not the easiest of people to get on with. 1399 01:06:06,121 --> 01:06:09,121 I did have one girlfriend for close on two years, 1400 01:06:09,121 --> 01:06:12,041 so maybe I'm not as completely hopeless a character 1401 01:06:12,041 --> 01:06:15,601 as might appear to be the case. 1402 01:06:15,601 --> 01:06:18,161 - Do you miss a physical side, 1403 01:06:18,161 --> 01:06:19,921 a sexual side in your life? 1404 01:06:19,921 --> 01:06:22,721 - Well, I am a physical person, 1405 01:06:22,721 --> 01:06:24,921 so I imagine I could be happy 1406 01:06:24,921 --> 01:06:28,961 in a lasting relationship with somebody 1407 01:06:28,961 --> 01:06:32,001 but you have to make do with the reality, 1408 01:06:32,001 --> 01:06:34,281 and there are many things that might have happened 1409 01:06:34,281 --> 01:06:36,281 in my life that haven't happened, 1410 01:06:36,281 --> 01:06:40,561 and there is little point in being regretful 1411 01:06:40,561 --> 01:06:43,121 and angry about that. 1412 01:06:44,841 --> 01:06:46,521 - You seem to have such much stronger 1413 01:06:46,521 --> 01:06:50,401 sense of purpose to your life than you've had before. 1414 01:06:50,401 --> 01:06:54,761 - I see that life comes once, and it's quite short, 1415 01:06:54,761 --> 01:06:57,361 and you have to appreciate what's good in it, 1416 01:06:57,361 --> 01:07:00,281 and if I could just tell a short story. 1417 01:07:00,281 --> 01:07:03,401 I was just sunbathing and a butterfly 1418 01:07:03,401 --> 01:07:04,841 landed quite close to me, 1419 01:07:04,841 --> 01:07:07,161 beautiful wings, deep red colours 1420 01:07:07,161 --> 01:07:09,281 and white sort of circles on them 1421 01:07:09,281 --> 01:07:13,521 and these creatures don't last very long 1422 01:07:13,521 --> 01:07:15,601 but it landed very close to me. 1423 01:07:15,601 --> 01:07:17,441 It didn't seem frightened. 1424 01:07:17,441 --> 01:07:19,081 And it just seemed to delight 1425 01:07:19,081 --> 01:07:21,201 in opening and closing its wings 1426 01:07:21,201 --> 01:07:24,361 and just actually being beautiful for that period of time, 1427 01:07:24,361 --> 01:07:27,041 enjoying the sunshine, and perhaps, 1428 01:07:27,041 --> 01:07:29,321 there isn't actually any more to life than that 1429 01:07:29,321 --> 01:07:31,081 than just being what you are, 1430 01:07:31,081 --> 01:07:34,281 realising that life goes on all around, 1431 01:07:34,281 --> 01:07:36,641 and there are millions of other living creatures 1432 01:07:36,641 --> 01:07:39,001 who all have to find their paths as well. 1433 01:07:45,081 --> 01:07:46,161 - Whee! 1434 01:07:48,881 --> 01:07:52,601 - At the end of their very special day in London, 1435 01:07:52,601 --> 01:07:55,681 after their trip to the zoo and the party, 1436 01:07:55,681 --> 01:07:58,681 we took our children to an adventure playground 1437 01:07:58,681 --> 01:08:01,481 where they could do just what they liked. 1438 01:08:02,881 --> 01:08:06,361 Those from the children's home set about building a house. 1439 01:08:18,001 --> 01:08:18,881 There's Nicholas. 1440 01:08:25,641 --> 01:08:28,001 And Tony. 1441 01:08:32,761 --> 01:08:33,561 Andrew. 1442 01:08:37,681 --> 01:08:38,521 John. 1443 01:08:44,081 --> 01:08:44,921 And Bruce. 1444 01:08:52,041 --> 01:08:52,881 Suzie. 1445 01:08:58,841 --> 01:09:00,201 Jackie and her friends. 1446 01:09:06,801 --> 01:09:09,361 Give me a child until he is seven 1447 01:09:09,361 --> 01:09:11,001 and I will give you the man. 1448 01:09:20,281 --> 01:09:23,161 This has been a glimpse of Britain's future. 110440

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