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On a scale of one to ten, how
strong are your feelings?

Previously...

9.5.
CHEERING

..while the dinner
party brought some couples closer...

Why are you just the best human?

..others grew further apart.

I don't think I can stay.
What am I doing here?

I'm at the point of my life now,

I need to know you want the same
thing.

I haven't got time to waste.

And Nelly and Steven's marriage...

He BLEEP like, two weeks
before he came here.

Oi! ..was rocked by rumours
in the group.

Who has decided to say I was
talking about my sexual activity?

You did. We were all there.

People are starting to BLEEP me off
like that, that, that.

BLEEP! BLEEP!

Wow! Did he just say that?

Tonight...

I get bored saying the same thing

over and over again. You keep saying
that.

Don't antagonise me, then.
Don't raise your voice at me.

Nelly and Steven continue
to clash.

BLEEP idiot!

Why am I liking someone
who's treating me like this?

Ahead of a tense...

We have hit an issue this week.

If this is the way it is,
I can't do this forever.

..and emotional commitment ceremony.

My mindset really hasn't shifted
that much.

Sorry. I've just got to jump in.

It's time
to actually take responsibility.

This week has been awful.
It's been hell.

I don't know who you are.

Oh, they feel, like, weird.
Oh, they're soggy little doggies.

Make me pretty. Paint me like one of
your French girls.

Yes, ma'am.

It's the morning
after an eventful dinner party.

Here's your brew, love.

INDISTINCT

So, last night. I knew something was
going to kick off.

I could feel it in my bones. Just...

It's just Chinese whispers all the
time, man.

It's all going to come out
in the end, do you know what I mean?

Yeah. I felt sorry for Nelly.

To be fair, I didn't expect Steven
to sort of lose his rag. To me,

what that proved last night, though,

those two are so different,
like, emotionally.

Yeah.

Didn't expect the whole night to be
so focused on Nelly and Steven.

I feel like it just kind
of spiralled, didn't it?

And then when all that kicked off,

and Divarni's wife is having
an argument with Steven.

Divarni was just chilling next to
me, just like... It was...

The whole thing was awkward.

If he had just stood up, I feel like
that would have meant the world.

Mm.

Oh. How are you feeling
about last night?

It was intense. Mm-hm. Defo.

What? I was
talking about my sexual activity.

Yeah. You did. No, I was not.

At last night's dinner party,

Julia-Ruth felt let
down by her husband's actions.

Divarni, Maeve, you were there.
So what is it?

Divarni, don't leave me hanging.

No, seriously.

I don't need anyone to, like,
fight my battles.

I can do that. But I think

if I'm calling your name,
I need you to step up and...

And be there.
Yeah. It is what it is.

I knew I should have had your back
at that moment in time,

and I take full accountability
for it.

It's just that he was yelling across

the room, and I just felt like
no-one was defending Nelly.

And, yeah, I was looking for
confirmation from me.

You're my husband.

It was wrong for me not stepping up
and obviously being there for you.

I did feel bad. Going forward,
100% I'm going to be there

for any confrontation
that takes place.

He said what he said,
he's apologised,

but there's no place to hide with
the commitment ceremonies.

I think sometimes he likes to preach

a big game,
but then the actions don't match.

Today's decision is very important,
but I feel like it reflects the week

that Divarni and I have
had together.

It was a bit of a crazy one last
night. It was, wasn't it? I know.

Last night's dinner party, for me,

I could sense that there
was an awkward energy in the room.

Dean and I had our first argument.

I'd made a comment
that Dean didn't like,

so I am very nervous
for the commitment ceremony.

I obviously didn't have a great
time last week,

so I really just want to have
a clean slate

and just move on and not be
in the fighting line.

You know?

I have been making more
of an effort.

I did throw myself into the intimacy
workshop, I have been trying.

I'm not just sort of like

shying away from anything. Yeah,
yeah, yeah.

Do you know what I mean?

You are genuinely such a lovely
person.

You have got a heart of gold.

But I
just think people don't understand.

They haven't seen
that side of you yet.

No. Obviously, we had that blip,
that argument,

but we've dealt with that.

That will be...
It'll be... It'll be fine.

You won't get shouted at tonight.

Walking into the dinner party
was slightly disappointing.

I thought we would
perhaps come together.

Why didn't you want to come to
the dinner party with me?

That was me kind of taking a step
back.

Judge me after six, eight,
ten weeks,

don't judge me after two weeks.

I'm at a point of my life now
where I need to know where I stand.

I need to know you want the same
thing.

Time's precious.

Anita and I have lots of positives.

The most important ones we have are
the values.

Manners, respect,
understanding, compassion.

For me,
that's a great foundation stone.

I'm hoping that that can be built
on.

My only regret off yesterday

was not actually arriving
at the dinner party with Paul.

I didn't want to give them the wrong
impression.

I do adore Paul. He's a gentleman.
He pulls the chairs out,

he puts the chair in.
He's very attentive,

but he's never very clear on stuff.
Paul will go around the houses

and still come back
with two answers.

I'm really unsure of where I stand.

Your decision to go separately
was disappointing.

When I look back and think

that maybe if I'd just said,
we'll go together.

But I just panicked.

We had a good week,
spent time together,

and I thought...perhaps

things were going
in the right direction.

I can see some of the reasons
why they've matched us,

but I'm a great believer
in time's precious.

Well, it's a ten-week experiment.
This is week two.

I take time, don't I?

And I think it's always
been abundant

that you've wanted
to get there quicker.

Yeah.

Today's a massive decision.

All marriages are a work
in progress.

I've said all along
that it takes me time to grow.

And perhaps time
is something she will give me

to find the love
and compassion that's inside me.

Today's commitment ceremony
and my decision is very important.

I said I would put 100%
into the experiment

and try and grow and see
where the relationship goes to.

I've got lots to think about.

Pros and cons of staying.

Pros and cons of leaving. Deep down,
I really don't know what to do.

I feel good going into today.

I would have woke up
feeling much better today

if I knew I'd had
a hot candle wax massage, but...

..you know, today's a new day.

I'm hoping that, like after the week
we've had this week,

we can move forward
in a positive way.

I was just knackered last night,
so we will do that this week.

Everyone's gonna ask you
the question.

Did you give me a massage?

It definitely hasn't been
the smoothest week for Leigh and I.

I think physical intimacy does need
to come.

It's important, you know,

in marriage you've got to commit
to it.

You've got to do your homework,
Leigh.

At the end of the day,

that whole situation with Rebecca
is well and truly put to bed.

I think we're definitely on the same
page now.

Yeah. I hope so.
I've got feelings attached

to this Rebecca situation.
At the commitment ceremony,

I'm hoping to just speak about

what certain feelings might mean
or where they're coming from,

and just get some advice on how
we can move forward.

Maybe less pressure on the intimacy,

because I'm tired of hearing
about it.

I'm going to get asked loads
of questions about 9.5 Bay.

Oh, my God! 9.5.
What? You don't like that?

I just didn't think you would

declare your love
for me in that way.

"Declare your love." Jesus!
I'm looking forward to it.

Can't wait for tonight. Yeah. Me,
too. I'm excited. Mm.

I'm a bit anxious about the
commitment ceremony. This week

with Ashley's been up and down.

He thinks I pick up on too much.

And I think he's oblivious to a lot

of the things he says
and how they come across.

I'm not looking forward to
the kind of things

that me and Ash have to share with
the experts.

Yeah, it's intimacy based. Yeah.

That makes me anxious
because I'm private.

I don't like the idea of having

a very personal conversation
quite publicly.

But I will have to on this occasion.

I think it's good
that we're starting to speak.

We've got as far as we can take it,
and we do want help.

I think it's going to help.
It's going to make it better.

Oh, yoi, yoi, yoi.

I think this is going to be

a really big commitment ceremony
for Grace and I.

She's been at me to not speak about
the intimacy side,

but I think we've hit a stage now
where I don't

feel like we're moving forward.

So I'm going to open up
today with the experts.

Last night's dinner party
was very intense.

Other people getting involved
in Nelly and I's relationship

is something I always wanted
to avoid.

But I think for me, going into

the commitment ceremony today, I'm
a little bit up in the air.

Maybe when the pen hits the paper,
I'll actually make a decision then.

This week, there's been way more
downs than there have been ups.

I broke my rib
and Steven stayed out till

the very end of the night, and
he was the last one to come home.

Even though he said he's got making
up to do

and he's going to really work on
that this week,

I still fear that he doesn't
understand why I feel the way I do,

and it makes me feel
really neglected.

Where do I start?

You were discussing
your previous history

on the day that you should have been
at home with me.

When they started bringing
up my dating history,

and who I may
or may not have slept with

before the experiment started,
is totally irrelevant to this.

It's adding more fuel to the fire.
But I think it's just

why is he talking about that
when he should be checking in on me?

Why is that even relevant?

The girls have set you
down and said,

"Oh, this is going around about
Steven." But it's like, "Back off!"

That doesn't...

I don't think this conversation
is going anywhere.

The relationship is going round in
circles.

Fuck me.

Don't get mad at me.
When am I getting mad at you?

It's going round and round in
circles.

I get bored of saying
the same thing over and over again.

You keep saying that.
Because I have to fucking say it.

Don't raise your voice at me.

Don't fucking antagonise me,
then, Nelly. Simple as that.

You're not a child.
You can handle your own emotions.

Yeah, I can handle my own emotions.
And don't shout at me.

Don't fucking antagonise me, Nelly.
You're not a child.

You can... Don't fucking call me...
Don't say I'm not a child as well.

Don't tell me not
to antagonise you.

I'm not antagonising you. You're
doing exactly that. So let's just
not talk.

I'm not antagonising anyone,
so don't speak to me that way.

Let's just not talk. Don't speak

to me that way. OK. Let's just not
talk. Fine.

Sorry?

I said fucking idiot!

That's what I said.

Name-calling is the nastiest
thing ever.

There you go. Don't name call.

I think it's disgusting
when people name call.

Where is your empathy in this?
Where are you thinking,

"You know what, Nells,

"poor girl has had a really
rough week."

And then you've called me
a fucking idiot.

Like that's so rude.

That is a line
that you I can't deal with.

It sucks. I don't want to be here
in this position.

I feel like a bit of a clown.

I feel like I should just go
and put some clown make-up on.

Why am I liking someone
who's treating me like this?

I don't think name-calling me
is making up to me, hon.

It's not.

I think it's disgusting.

It's something
that I'm never going to tolerate.

That is the first and last time
you will speak to me like that.

Welcome to the second
commitment ceremony.

We know this week has brought
some of you closer,

and posed new challenges for others.

Please put your trust in us

and bring your true thoughts
and feelings to the couch.

Let's get started.

First up to the couch,
Maeve and Joe.

All right. Hiya. Hello.

This is very natural body language
right here. Yes. You two together.

And also, you know
there's coordination going on.

It's a vibe. It's my idea as well.
Yeah, it actually is!

It makes us a team as well,
doesn't it?

Everyone knows we're together, so.
So you're a team?

Yeah, of course we are.
Yeah, 100%. I love it.

This week, I came to your apartment.
Yeah. You did.

So this was ultimately
about building self-worth.

And it was changing the script
in your mind,

Maeve, around not believing

when someone tells you
something positive.

Yeah.
I actually don't know how I feel.

I get the compliment.
Obviously, it's nice to hear,

but, like, I actually don't know
what to do after.

Do you remember what I asked you
to say in the exercise?

Joe could even help you out.

I believe it,
I receive it, and I thank you.

That's it.
Yeah. You believe it

and you're appreciative
that the compliment came.

And the more that you do this,

I promise you,
you will rewrite the script.

And it may take some time,

because that negative script has
been ingrained in you for so long.

Like, I'm actually starting to,
like,

believe what he's saying.
He said, obviously,

that I make you feel

more comfortable in social
situations. Yeah.

But then, obviously, like, I believe
that because how we opened up

like yesterday
at the dinner party.

Like, that was a massive thing
for you to do.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I was like so proud of him.

And I think, like, I don't
want to speak on behalf of everyone,

but I do think everyone else
is so proud of him for doing it.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
Did you see that? Yay!

But this is
why I feel the way I do about you.

Because you're just so...

You have my back so much.
And just...

That's why I feel
so strongly about you,

because she's such a great person.

Oh. It's OK.

I've just found, like...
God! Why am I crying?

It's OK.

You want a tissue?

I've just found the whole
thing quite overwhelming.

Just the whole process.
That's where she's just been

such a solid rock for me.

She knows what I've been through
in the past with,

like, the booze and what have you,

but she's just been
so reliable and so strong for me.

She's literally got a heart of gold.
So it's like,

that's why I'm getting emotional

because I've
never actually met someone that's

so selfless in a relationship.

We just know we're there for each
other... Yeah. ..when we need it.

But my sort of...

That's what it's all about. Yeah.
Having each other's back.

You've got to. My sort of biggest
worry in our relationship,

though, is obviously with my past,

the drinking and the drugs
and stuff like that.

She's very much...
Likes to party. Yeah.

Which is absolutely fine,
and I do it now and again.

But my biggest worry is that I don't
want to be like the fun sponge.

Yeah, but you're not going to be.

If I don't want to go out,

I'm choosing not to go out
because I'd rather be with you.

Yeah. I think, Joe,

it's very important to hear
what Maeve is saying.

Yeah. What she's telling you is

that she prefers to spend time with
you because of you.

She's giving you a compliment.
Mm-hm.

It's very important
for you to receive

and believe what she is saying.

I've never had calm in my life.

There's always been drama
constantly.

And when I'm with Joe, it's quiet.
He's me calm.

And that's all I've ever wanted.

I know it sounds silly,
but I like it.

It doesn't sound silly at all.

What is better than being able
to spend time

with someone
that you feel safe with,

that gives you strength,

that is helping you to become
a better person.

What's better than that?

Yeah. Yeah.

I think you're amazing.
And I've been in love before...

..and I've been trying
to find love again.

And I genuinely think I am. Well,

I have fallen in love with,
you know.

I'm getting the hot flush.

100%. So there you go.

Oh!

I can't tell you how much you
actually mean to me.

I just honestly, like,
I've never met anyone like you.

Ever. And you know what it is, yeah.

I do love you, too.

Oh, my God!

We are all hot here.

Get this, get this, get this.

I think we should just get right to
a decision.

All right. Yeah,
this is a pretty obvious answer.

You know the way I feel about you.

I do love you.
And I honestly can't wait to see

what the rest of this process,

and hopefully beyond,
has in store for us.

So it's stay.

Oh!

Maeve?

I just honestly want to say, like,

thank you for everything.

Each day I'm learning something new
about myself.

And, honestly, like, I can't

tell you how much
I actually appreciate you.

So, um, I'm staying.

We've seen incredible growth between
the two of you.

We're so incredibly proud of you.

Thank you so much. Well done, guys.
Thank you.

Ah! You're in love!

I know! What the fuck!

Next up...

Julia-Ruth and Divarni.

Hello. Hello, you two. Welcome.

All right. How are you both feeling?
Feeling good?

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Now, I know you had

the values ranking experience
this week. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So why don't you help us understand
what happened there?

Er... Should I go first or...?
Yeah, go for it.

Obviously,
the values was quite different.

So for me, I put children first,

and then I put sex eight,
and then I put looks nine.

So we did differ
in those three categories.

The children part made sense for us

in terms of Divarni, your kid
is everything.

Of course that made more sense.
But I think the bulk of it,

which was concerning or a challenge
for us,

was that you were saying work,
occupation,

money was something

you valued way more
than like sex and looks.

I just was confused as to why was
that low?

I didn't believe it 100%,
if I'm honest.

What do you say to that, Divarni?

When I went into this
challenge 100%,

I did it all authentically.
And that's what made sense to me.

Are we saying here that as a couple,

one of you puts a high priority
on attraction

and sex, and the other doesn't?

Or that you just prioritise
them differently?

I think just prioritise
them differently.

Like, what I said
after the challenge,

it was like, it's beautiful

that we didn't match
in any of the categories.

So even if sex was low,
it doesn't mean

that I don't prioritise that. Do you
know what I mean?

I just feel like it's just something
that's just going

to be a day by day situation.

But I don't think that the values
that was obviously presented

was going to be a deal breaker,
and I don't think it will be.

So these activities are really
a great starting point

for some really good
conversation about

what are our priorities in life,

and where are the similarities
and where are the differences.

And I guess it's how you now bring
that into your relationship.

I feel like we've asked each
other questions

and challenge each other on
where we've sat things.

I feel like we've been trying
our best in terms of that. Yeah.

So aside from the challenges
around differing values,

we also saw at the dinner party
last night some conflict

that you had with Steven,
and your sense

that Divarni wasn't really there
having you back.

I mean, she's a tough cookie,

and I'll, like, always fight my own
battles and that.

But I think if I'm saying Divarni,
and I'm calling your name,

and then you don't step up
and you just sit in quietly.

It was a bit disappointing to not

have your support there
because you were there, but nothing.

And I just got left to hang out
dry by myself.

Yeah. Yeah.

I don't ask for help,

and I just felt like
I was calling for my husband,

and you didn't say anything.

And I felt really exposed
and vulnerable.

Just kind of let it down.
So what stopped you,

Divarni, from supporting her
in that moment?

I think I just felt
like didn't want to fuel the fire.

Um, but generally I do stand up.

But you didn't. No.
And it's had an impact on your wife.

If you had your time over,
what would you do differently?

Definitely stand up.

And then I'll comfort her

to obviously know
that I've got her back.

Yeah. So just some
sort of acknowledgement,

or get up and come to me
or just something.

Mm.

It's not about getting involved
in conflict.

It's about giving
your wife your support.

There are clearly some issues
for the two of you around values.

There was a sense that perhaps
you weren't quite getting to

that point of reading each other
and listening,

and maybe understanding
what each other was needing.

Whether that's the importance of sex

or support in an argument, it's
about talking and communication.

We're going to go to a decision.

Divarni, we'll start with you today.

OK. Obviously, we had a little
hiccup yesterday.

Every relationship
has to go through conflict.

Um, I'm not ready to throw
in the towel yet.

I'm very excited to build

that emotional connection,
and I know that we will get there.

And so my final decision is to stay.

Julia-Ruth? Um...

I feel like the values task shed
a lot of light on our relationship,

and I just want to keep having
some of those tougher conversations.

Hopefully, there's no more conflict
in future.

So, yes, I stay.

Lovely. Thank you, guys.
I hope you have a great week.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you.

Next up on the couch...

..Sarah and Dean.

INDISTINCT

Hello. Hi. Hello. Good to see the
two of you. And you guys.

You, too, as well.
So, guys, how has your week been?

I mean,
the intimacy workshop with yourself.

We went in with an open mind
because that was one of the things

that we have been struggling with is
the intimacy side.

But I have to say, since then we are
still taking baby steps... Yeah.

..but we've been, like, holding
hands... Like, cuddling...

Cuddling, just taking it slow.

I think there's a big pressure build
up because we had done nothing.

So, you know, it's kind of good to
have that workshop

because that just popped that
bubble.

We're like, "Oh, it is OK.
Like, it's my wife.

"Of course I can like, touch her
if I want to." You know?

It's kind of nice to kind
of get that.

We did have a bump in the road.
We had an argument.

Yeah, our first argument.

What are we referring to?

Um, we all went for drinks, kind
of come back to our apartments.

There was a producer there as well.

And then there was like a comment
made.

Yeah, it was a silly comment
that I made.

And he isn't into women, so it's not

as if it was anything...
Do you know, it was silly. And...

What was the comment, Sarah? That
I found him attractive, basically.

That you found
the producer attractive? Yeah. OK.

And was that said
in the presence of Dean?

Yeah, yeah. It was just a comment
that I made.

It was kind of just banter.
..yeah. OK.

And then we'd gone upstairs and
Dean had sort of said, you know...

Yeah, you weren't happy.
And I get it.

When I heard her say that,
I was like,

"Damn, is she ever gonna say
that about me?"

And it kind of just triggered
something in me. Oh. Yeah.

I was like, I don't think I can do
this because I don't know

if you're ever going to feel
that way.

It's like, "Jesus, like,
what am I doing here?

"Like, I just want to hear that said
to me, you know, from my wife."

It has made us stronger, though.
Do you not think?

It kind of has,
because it was our first argument.

I think, Dean, what you have to be
careful of is to not take the blame

for something
that someone else has done.

Yeah, yeah. No, definitely.
I've said that.

Don't forget or diminish your
feelings in all this.

It's OK to feel hurt
and express that.

Just say. Tell me. Say.

Don't pretend
that you're OK all the time.

I'd rather you said.
Do you know what I mean? Yeah.

I think what we'd all rather hear,

Sarah, to be totally honest, is that
you stop doing it.

Yeah, I will. Yeah, absolutely. OK.

You know,
you've said something disrespectful.

You've apologised.

You've said something disrespectful,
you've apologised.

It's time to actually take
responsibility. Yeah. 100%.

Yeah. And to not just say you've got

the hots for some guy.

You know, that's very immature,

sort of 15-year-old behaviour.

You're an adult, and you're
in a serious relationship here.

There's a lot at stake.

It's time to actually take
responsibility. Yeah. 100%.

Yeah. And to not just say you've got

the hots for some guy.
You know, that's very immature,

sort of 15-year-old behaviour.

You're an adult, and you're
in a serious relationship here.

There's a lot at stake.

I completely agree,

and I take full responsibility
and put my hands up.

And I am so sorry, I really am.

I just need to know
why I am behaving like this.

Because before coming here, I was
this ball of sunshine, and I just,

I feel like since I've come here,
I've sort of lost that.

And I don't know why.

Because I'm not a disrespectful
person,

and I don't like the way
that I'm behaving.

I don't. What we're saying is just
be a bit more mindful.

You know, you are in a
relationship... I know. And I wonder

if part of the reason you're able

to say some of these things is maybe
because you're not putting

those boundaries in place

to say this isn't acceptable
behaviour.

It's about for you, Dean, to say,
"These are my boundaries.

"I will not tolerate this."
And for you,

Sarah, to actually do it.
Yeah. He needs to see that.

Yeah.

Let's go to the decisions. Dean?

We have improved.
But then I did have that fear of

if we're going nowhere,
why would I stay?

Mm.

Am I going to leave?
Am I going to run?

I'm here to find out about me
as well as find out about us,

so I think I owe it to myself,

as well as us as a couple, to keep
pushing forward.

So I've decided to stay.

Thank you. And, Sarah,
what's your decision?

Yeah,
I think the absolute world of you.

I think you're an absolute gem.

I apologise again for my actions
and behaviour.

I am learning so much about myself.

This obviously is a really
intense process.

And I'm gonna
give this week my everything,

and I want to continue
to see how it goes.

And so I am also going to stay.

What I'd really
like you guys to take from this.

Sarah, I think just be a bit

more mindful... Yeah, of course.
..about what you're saying.

And, Dean, it's OK to say,
"This is how I want you to treat me,

"and this is not acceptable."

And I think it's important
for you to kind of practise that.

I know it's something I need
to work on.

Yeah. Thanks, guys.
Thank you, guys. Cheers.

Cheers. Thank you. Thank you.

Next up, Keye and Davide.

So nervous, aren't you? Wow!
You're even walking in unison.

This is a good sign, right?
Yeah, definitely.

Fabulous. We're really good.
Yeah. So tell me,

how was Expert Week for you?

You had the challenge
of ask me anything.

It was good.
I think it was questions

that we don't
ask each other every day.

I think the things he said,
they were very positive,

because there were things

that I would
like to change about myself as well.

What are some of those things?

How much you get in your head? Yep.
Um...

Your confidence on your
own appearance.

Like, if you could
see yourself through my eyes.

Yeah.

Cos I don't see myself
as other people see me.

I still see myself as the person
that was,

um,
disregarded or wasn't good enough.

But he makes me feel good
and wanted and enough.

He does that for me very well.
One thing that I see the two

of you do
amazingly is hold eye contact.

Yeah, because it's my anchor.
And I always tell him, if you feel

like you're losing yourself,
find me. And we do that.

We find each other. Beautiful.

I feel like I know the answer
to this already.

But how has intimacy progressed
in your relationship?

I don't know
what you're talking about.

I'm a virgin.
We don't touch one another.

No, we're not for it. No.

Lights out. Dark, with a blindfold.

I am loving this bond.

And I think this is the right time
to go to the decisions.

Sure. Keye first. So...

Oh, every single day
with this man is an absolute joy.

I honestly feel
like I've known him my whole life.

It's insane. Like, it's hard

to put into words how
I actually feel about you

because I've just...I've never felt
like this about anyone.

So just thank you for being you.

And because of that,
my decision is to stay.

Davide? Um...

I haven't felt this safe with
anyone.

I have no fears with you.

Anything is just easy, even standing
in front of you three.

And I just want to keep growing.

And as long as you want me,
I will choose to stay.

Sorry.

Fantastic. All the best
for the rest of the week.

Good luck, guys. Well done, you two.

Next up...

..Grace and Ashley.

Yes. Hello, there. Hiya.
Lovely to see you all.

Right away, the first thing
that I see is Ashley.

Where is your right hand right now?

I'm not touching.
Not touching. But he does,

and it's... We're good.

We're like, yeah,
we're warming up.

Sometimes. We're good. "Sometimes."
It's not really changed.

So you're saying there's been no
improvement with physical intimacy?

It's just still
that judgment of can I can't I?

There's still that doubt.
There's no set of rules.

So it's extremely hard for me
to kind of navigate

as to when it is OK
or when it isn't OK.

I feel differently,
I feel like you just do it,

and if I'm not feeling it,

I just say. That's my interpretation
of how it is.

But then we are
having intimate moments.

I can go from that
to then not being able to touch you.

And it's...it's confusing.

I would love to keep it completely
private in the house.

Lock the doors.
Seal it up between us.

But we have hit issues.

An issue this week that I know

we're not going to navigate
just between us,

I know
that we're going to need help with,

so we are going to have to speak
about intimacy.

I didn't want it being displayed
and picked over and,

you know, bits of it being gossiped
about here, there and everywhere.

But, yeah, we... Yeah, we do need
to speak about it.

You tell the story
because obviously you feel

a bit more thing about it.

You tell the story of
what you want to do,

and then if there's anything
that I want to add to the end,

I can add to show sort of my side of
it.

OK.

So earlier in the week,
Ash is super generous.

We go for a lovely date.

Ash picks up the bill.
It's so lovely.

Somewhere between him
being really generous,

picking up the bill,
and walking home,

I developed this anxiety that I have

to keep Ash sweet
by being affectionate.

Grace, help us understand this.

Can we just clarify the anxiety of
what is the expectation?

This means
that I have to give you sex.

Yeah.

I just develop this anxiety.
We then did another date.

We saw a show.
We had the most amazing dinner.

It was such a good night.

Ash very generously picks
up the tab again.

This is just so hard.

I don't want to do this.
You've got to.

You're not going to move forward
otherwise. OK.

We had spoken about, like,
a contraceptive...

..that we might consider using
at some point.

I said maybe we should look
if they have it.

We bought a contraceptive.

We walked back.

I go to bed.

Ash. What about me?

After the day we've had,
you should want to.

But that anxiety about the grand
gesture and the sort of

transactional nature
kind of played true.

Can I say something? Yeah.

We went on this really nice meal,
went to this show.

I wasn't thinking about sex
or anything.

I'm just... I didn't do
that to have sex with Grace.

I'd done it because it
was something nice to do for her.

You took me to get contraceptive.
I thought the date had gone well,

so I'm annoyed at myself

for getting frustrated,
but I couldn't help it.

Thank you for your vulnerability
in sharing that, Grace.

And also you, Ashley.

So I want to take this notion
of feeling obligated, Grace.

What about your experience
makes you feel

as if a gesture means you having
to cross a boundary of yours?

I don't know. I....I'm just
cautious.

Like, am I always going to be

beholden to being affectionate
to you?

Will it always depend
on my affection?

Will your mood always depend
on that.

I constantly feel like
you're looking

for that bad thing in me.

It's like we went out to get a pizza
and we were really flirty

and touchy and holding hands,

cuddling, like, little pecks,
things like that.

We went back to the apartment,
put the pizza in,

and then I picked Grace up and put
her on the counter

while I was doing the pizza.

And I was
kind of between Grace's legs

and she was rubbing her nose
in my face.

Sorry. Can you stop?
You're actually embarrassing me now.

This is embarrassing.
Where is this going?

But she was, like, rubbing her nose
in my face

and it was quite intimate.

And then I went for a kiss and she
went, "No, no, I'm not doing it."

So it was like,

for what felt
like an intimate moment for me,

was then not right for Grace,

which I understand
and I'm being respectful of.

But I've done a grand gesture,

and you said it makes
you feel uncomfortable,

can't do physical touch because
that makes you feel uncomfortable.

You keep saying,
I can't do physical touch.

You do do physical touch.
There is so much physical touch.

And it's insulting when you say,
I can't do it.

I never get to do it.
It's just so confusing.

I'm not saying that, Grace. You're
putting words in my mouth.

Did anyone else hear it?

I'm hearing it all the time.

You keep saying I can't
do physical touch.

You do do physical touch.
There is so much physical touch.

And it's insulting when you say,
I can't do it.

I never get to do it.
It's just so confusing.

I'm not saying that, Grace. You're
putting words in my mouth.

Did anyone else hear it?

I'm hearing it all the time.

I'm not saying all the time.
I can't really do much more to prove

to you I'm not
the person you're trying to find.

Sometimes I feel like
what Ash brings to the group is not

a reflection
of what's really happening.

It's like an edited version.

With the nails thing, like...
I wouldn't have reacted

if Ash had said it
in a particular way,

but in the retelling of it,

it's always more favourable to Ash,
in my opinion.

Can you clarify the nail thing?
I'd love to.

There was a comment about something
I was wearing.

You look nice. But have you got
a dress you can put on?

Or put on a dress for me?

And I was like, let that go.
Like that's...

Can I...? Can I say
what that was from my side?

Well...

Yeah. Do you mind if I finish?
Sorry.

Yeah. Of course.
Then the nails. We're in bed.

He sees that my nails are overgrown.

He's like,

"I like these done, like,
keep these up."

So I just said,
no-one tells me how to dress,

how to look, how to be. Like,
I'll do that.

A couple of days later,
the same comment.

Haven't you got a dress
you can wear?

There was only the one comment with
the dress.

It was... It was... It was... It
was... OK. It comes up again.

And because we'd already had
a conversation,

I thought we'd settled it
with something else.

I said, not this again. He was like,
but don't you want to wear a dress?

Like, don't you want...? Like, isn't
it...?

What? Wouldn't you want to do it
for me?

I don't understand.
I've never said that.

So you're saying about me making up,

wouldn't you want to wear a dress
for me? I would never say that.

But I thought
that was part of the conversation.

Like, why don't...?
Why does it bother you?

So I booked the date and I knew
where we were going.

I knew we were going to a fancy
restaurant.

It was a surprise for Grace.

She put an outfit on and I said,
you look amazing,

but I know, like,
have you got a dress to put on?

Because I know where we're going.
That was what it was.

I'm not telling you what to wear.
And the nails thing,

I meant, like, do you want
to get your nails done as a treat?

I'm not telling you what to do.
I'm trying really...

OK. You're trying.
And I give you an A for trying,

but I'm going to give you a C
for execution. Mm-hm.

OK. So now you know it wasn't
received well. 100%.

But you know
what your intention was. Yeah.

So what we're talking
about right now is

the difference between impact
and intention.

So my question is

how can you rephrase that to include
your intent?

I'm not really sure
to be honest, Paul.

Like, thinking about it on
the spot now.

So you start it off for me.
I would like to...

Um,
treat you to get your nails done.

To show that I... Care about you.

Reframing as a question,

but also ensuring
that you outline your intent.

I think this is incredibly
important,

because what I hear you saying,
Grace,

is that you have this anxiety
around, well, what is the intention?

But instead, if it is, here's what
I'd like to offer,

because I want to show you
how much I care for you.

Is that fair? Mm-hm.

Grace, it's about understanding

what your triggers are,
what makes you feel comfortable.

You know,
having that open communication

and really building that trust.

Like Paul said, there's something
there about intent.

Because, actually, if Grace can hear
that the intention isn't to control

or to want any sex or affection,
but it's just a kind act,

I suspect her response
will be more positive,

but it does require open
communication and patience as well.

Yeah. Right. I will work on it
and I appreciate it.

So then, Ashley, I would ask you,

what do you believe Grace could do
to help you?

I'm not really sure any more

because I'm struggling with the fact
that if this is the way it is,

I can't do this forever.

I'm truly trying my utmost
to make this work,

and I feel like
I'm always hitting this wall.

Here's what I would love you to do.

Ashley, your homework is always
include your intention.

OK. Grace, here's
what I would love for you to do.

Have you ever heard of the
magic ratio?

Hit me with the magic.
The magic ratio.

Every time something happens

in your relationship
where it's challenged,

you want to make sure that there's
at least five positive affirmations.

You don't have to calculate it
five to one, da-da-da.

But just think about how every day
you are continuing to provide

these positive affirmations
to your partner,

because once he receives that,
he'll know "She's in it."

And that's going to give him

the fuel to continue to fight
for the relationship.

Now, you should be doing
the same thing, Ash.

And then you end
up building a stronger relationship.

OK.

Grace, how do you feel right now,
in this moment?

I feel...

I do feel a bit frustrated almost,

because it always comes back to,
like,

like Ashley makes all the effort.

Yeah,
I feel like even coming into this,

Ash was like, I'll let you lead.

Like, I'll let you...

And then I just feel
like Ash just somehow managed

to make it about me being
the problem again.

But I do feel
that there's potential.

When we're good, it is good.

We are moving forward. It's...
It's two steps forward,

one step back. So I think

if we keep going and we keep working
at it, hopefully it'll just connect.

We've got to work at it.
It's just hard.

It is incredibly hard.

And now I'm going to ask you
to do something even harder.

And that is to make a decision.

OK. I thought you were going
to say kiss.

Oh, my God!

Have a kiss! See if it works!

Look at that. Look how you snapped
into that. No, it can be fun.

It definitely can. It can be.
It can be fun.

Yeah.
If we can go with Ashley first.

So, I'm sorry.

And I'm annoyed at myself
for getting frustrated.

I am giving this everything. I have
from the very beginning.

I've said I would. When it's good,

it's absolutely amazing
and I'm really happy.

I genuinely believe
if we can get over this,

we're going to be the strongest
couple,

because I think we're dealing with
so many things

that it'll make us from strength
to strength.

I'm in it as long as you are,

and I'm really willing
to work at it.

So I said to stay.

Grace.

This is really hard.

I'm sorry if it feels like I don't
appreciate you.

I came here for a marriage.
I'm committed.

I really want to make this work.
So...

..stay.

What's that under...? Nail polish.

Of course it's nail polish!
Of course.

All right. Thank you so much

for your honesty
and your vulnerability.

Thank you. Thank you very much.
Thank you.

Next up to the couch...

..Rebecca and Bailey.

Hello. Hello. Hello.
Hello. Lovely to see the two of you.

Lovely to see you, too.
Tell me how your week has been.

Yeah. Another good week for us.
We had our little task,

which was X-Files.
It was nice to open up a bit more.

I think it brought out a vulnerable
side from us both.

I learned a bit about you, and she
does wear her heart on her sleeve.

And she's an emotional girl.
Those are all good qualities.

So I came out
of it in a better place, I think.

Just happier.

Just hearing a bit more of
that deeper side.

Opening up, being comfortable

to talk about anything
and everything

is an important part of
a relationship.

So I would definitely say
that it helped.

Yeah, it felt great to connect
with him on a deeper level.

We did get into have
we broken people's hearts

before and how we feel about
that now.

So I think when you talk on a deeper
level with someone,

and especially when you share
an emotional conversation,

of course it's going
to bring us closer.

There was no conflict around that.
We were just talking on a really

vulnerable level
and came out the other end closer.

Yeah. What I'm seeing here is

that this is a phenomenal
relationship.

There has been no conflict.

There was a scale that you
were given on a scale of one to ten.

No, I don't know
what you're on about.

What's it, Bailey? I don't remember.
It's a scale from one to ten.

Ten being love. Love.

And, Bailey, for you it was a 9.5.

Oh!

I don't know
what the point five is about.

I feel like it's a bit
of me second-guessing myself.

So I probably feel like even
though I liked my answer,

I probably wasn't being true

with myself
because the feeling is there.

And I do love you. I'm a ten!

So, yeah,
it is a ten. And I don't know.

I do love you and I am in love with
you. Yeah. So, yeah, I'm like...

That's so lovely to hear.

And, Rebecca, how was
that for you to hear?

It's so nice. Like, I can't
imagine my life without Bailey.

And I know that he might be more
vocal

when it comes to the love stuff,

and it feels a little bit soon

for me to declare that right now,
but I feel so deeply for him.

Bailey knows how I...

You know how I feel
about you for sure, don't you? 100%.

Yeah. I didn't say to get it back
and, like,

you can go at your own time,

but I wanted to say it, I had to say
it, so... Yeah.

Lovely. I've got a nice, warm,

fuzzy feeling right now,
so this is good. Yay!

So let's go to a decision. Bailey,
if we can start with you first.

You have all the qualities
that I was looking

for in a wife and so many more

that I didn't even realise
that I kind of needed.

So really loving spending time
with you.

Loving to get to know you. And,
yeah,

can't wait
for this journey to carry on.

So it is a resounding stay! Yay!

With a love heart. Oh, let me see.

Oh, that's cute.

Yeah. That's cute.
That's lovely. Lovely.

Rebecca, what's your decision?

I'm so happy with
what you've said to me.

Um, and you know that I feel really,
really strong feelings for you.

And you make life just light
and fun, and...

Yeah, you're just an amazing person.
So 100,000,000% to stay.

I'm really excited to see
where this relationship goes.

Thank you. Wish you all the best
for the rest of the week.

We'll see you next week.
Well done, guys.

Well done, Bailey. Thank you.

Next couple up on the couch...

..Anita and Paul.

Hello. Hi. Welcome.

When we last saw you on the couch,
Anita,

you said leave... Yeah.
And it was all about feeling

that Paul could be doing more
to listen to you.

How have things gone this week?

Um, had your challenge.

That kind of opened the doors
for Paul to ask more questions.

Anita, did you feel
that he was asking you questions

that was helping him to get
to know you better?

Not really.
Nothing of the deep kind of stuff.

What did he ask you about?
Paul asked

do you have the time
and the patience to wait for me?

And I answered, well,
how long is a piece of string?

OK. Paul, can you tell us a bit
more about that?

From my perspective, time makes
all the difference to grow a bond.

It takes me a long time.
My foundation is trust,

respect, values.

And then I build from then,

and Anita has emphasised she doesn't
have that time.

Well, really, nobody does
in this experiment. Sure.

You know, this is a
fast-tracked process.

I feel like I've made an effort,
but when it got to affairs of

the heart,
there's not been a lot of depth.

I sidetracked it slightly,
shall we say.

You've sidetracked it? I think so.

Yeah, I think I have to be honest
with myself.

Yeah, I think I should have
considered that.

I would have had to be quicker
in being emotionally vulnerable.

Mm-hm. Paul, when you were starting
to come into the experiment,

you were quite clear
that you were ready for love.

So I'm wondering what changed
for you.

Maybe I wasn't brave enough.

Fear of opening up.

Being in a vulnerable space.

It's kind of alien to me
because it always ended in failure.

Hence why I'm sitting on the sofa.

So, Anita, how's all of this landing
for you?

Disappointed.

The outside is great,

and I can see why we've been paired
and matched up.

But, like, he's like a huge onion.

He's got loads of layers to him.

And the deeper layers,

we are just on two totally
different pages.

Yeah.

I'm ready. That's why I'm here.

I don't think truly
Paul has actually been ready.

Paul and I are...

..good friends.

But that's not what I came for.

I came looking for love and...

Yeah.

Yeah. That's a very
observant comment, I think.

You came to find love.
And I came to find myself.

I'm going to go to a decision.

Anita, to you first.

I know I said I was a bolter last
week,

and I took your advice on board.

I spent more time with Paul,
but I'm still not convinced...

..we can get on the same path. Um...

I think the world
of Paul, I really do, genuinely,

from the bottom of my heart.
I really do.

My mindset really hasn't shifted

that much, so I've decided to...

..leave.

And to you, Paul. My turn. Yeah.

Um. It's with...

..great understanding.

Great respect.

Back to the golf course. Leave.

All right. You certainly look like

a couple of people
who have a lovely friendship.

Yeah, 100%. I enjoyed her company.
She's a good girl.

We are, obviously, the three of us,

very disappointed for both of you
that you didn't find

what you were looking for here.
But we are certainly buoyed by

the thought that you both learned
a thing or two about yourselves

that, hopefully,
you can now take back into the world

and, hopefully, into future
relationships,

knowing more about what you want
and what you don't want, for sure.

So thank you so much
for all your honesty and openness.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Came here for a wife.

I came here for love.
That was the intention.

It's all right. It's all right.

I think from Anita's perspective,

it needs to be instant.

I just wanted time to find
that love.

I wish I could have been able
to get vulnerable much quicker.

My pace was a bit slower,
my emotion was not very deep,

and I have to take responsibility
for that.

Next up to the couch...

..Leigh and Leah. Come on.

Hello. Hello. Good to see you both.
Good to see you.

How are you? Wobbly week.
Wonky wobbly week.

A wonky, wobbly week. Yeah. Yeah.

All right.

So where I would love to begin is
when you heard this one was coming.

Oh. We definitely need it.
And I was excited for it.

I just didn't know what to expect.
Yeah.

Well, I weren't expecting the table
of sex toys, put it that way.

We took a handful of stuff.

I would like to have done the wax
candle thing.

She did pinky promise. I did pinky
promise that we'd do it last night.

But I'll be honest,
it was a really long day,

and we were both tired by the time
we got home.

It wasn't the best time for me to
get in massage mode.

Like, I could have had a massage.

OK.
Another thing I've done wrong then.

What was the intention of taking
the sex toys?

To maybe go the next step? Or,
like, see what happens with them?

Was that your intention, Leigh?

I wasn't massively thinking,

"Oh, my God, can't wait to get into
bed and use all these later."

Being that we're not even at
that base yet.

Me and Leah have kissed a few times,

but I think we've got a lot to come
before we even get to that point.

What's holding you back?

Um...

There's been this huge light shone
on mine and Leah's intimacy.

And when this pressure has come in,
it just kind of feels a bit, like,

"Can we just, like, appreciate all
of the good that we do have

"for a second and not, you know,

"shine this light on the little bits
that are missing,

"and that will come naturally."

Because the intimacy on a physical
level could come

when we deepen
that emotional connection.

So let's go to something else

that I saw creep up. That you,
Leigh, were voicing concern

with regard to an interaction

that you thought Leah and Rebecca
had.

There was a moment where I felt Leah
was being overfamiliar with Rebecca.

I mean, now we've realised
in a way it was quite positive

because there's obviously
feelings there,

otherwise I wouldn't have reacted
that way.

OK. Have you investigated
those feelings?

I have tried to.

I've been with people in the past
that have been overly flirty

and disrespectful in front
of my face, so I'll take that

there was part of that

that was a trigger
for me from my past.

But I wouldn't feel this way about
a friend.

I wouldn't feel those feelings
of jealousy.

I wouldn't, you know, be bothered
when we're arguing

and get my back up and get
argumentative in the moment,

because if I didn't care
to that degree, I wouldn't do that.

So I've identified
that there are feelings there.

So for me that's positive.

You have this feeling of jealousy.

What is the fear of that feeling.

Like, not being enough,

because I've had that in the past.

So if you have those fears,
what's the desire?

To be enough and to be respected.
Not for you just to be enough,

but for your partner to exhibit
that you are enough?

Yeah. That's what you want. Yeah.

You want to make sure Leah feels
like you are enough.

Personally, like, it's nice to know
that she has got feeling in there.

She doesn't say things like
that a lot.

You know, Leigh, Leah adores you...

..and she wants to be affirmed.

Yeah. An affirm could be,

"I do like you. I do care about
you." It could be a hug.

It could be whatever it may be,
but the key is

that you're consistently
affirming your partner.

Yeah, I'll make more of an effort.
I feel like

I do that with you, quite a lot.
Yeah. You do.

But moving forward, I accept
that that's important to you.

And I will make an effort
to do that.

OK. Let's go to a decision.

Leigh? It's been a wobbly week.

It has been a wobbly week.
Although it's been difficult,

I think it's become
so much more apparent

that there definitely
is something there.

So, yeah, I want to continue to see
where it goes,

and I want to discover more levels
of you and us.

So I chose to stay.

I think for me, I do believe there's
definitely something there.

I've taken the arguments
really positively

because it's shown that you have

got some kind of feeling there.
So I wrote stay.

Wonderful.

Let's take the pressure off
the physical intimacy

and let's work on building
the emotional intimacy.

Yeah, I'd love that. All right.
Does that sound fair?

Yeah. All right.

This is good. Thank you. Thank you.

Our next couple on the
couch tonight -

Nelly and Steven.

Hello, you two. Hello.
You all right?

Well, last night's dinner party

was rough... You're telling me.
..for you guys.

And, certainly, just looking at

the two of you now,
it's looking pretty frosty.

So what has transpired
in the last 24 hours?

Um, so we had the dinner
party last night.

There was a lot of opinions
in the room,

which I really appreciated,

because I feel
like I needed my support system

to vocalise how I was feeling.

When we got home, we said we weren't

going to talk about it,
but I just said to him,

"Please, if I ever talk about my
feelings,

"just hear me and listen to me."

And he said, yeah, and he would.

And then this morning we were
talking,

and then it turned into an argument,

which ended with Steven calling me
a fucking idiot.

I allowed frustrations to get
the better of me.

I didn't mean it directed at you.

I mean, it's just the whole

situation is just idiotic to me.

Like, everything that's led up to it
this week has

just been so frustrating and saying,

going around in circles, I didn't.
Sorry. Can I just be clear?

Did you call the situation an idiot
or Nelly?

I'm meant to say the whole situation
for me is.

He said, "You're a fucking idiot."

I was trying to work out that the
whole situation is idiotic to me.

But what you actually...
Fucking idiot. Yeah.

And that's just how it come out.

It's not just how it came out.

It's how you chose to say it.

You're a grown man...

..in control of the words
that come out of your mouth.

He said, "You're a fucking idiot."
Yeah.

And I said I was trying to work out

that the whole
situation is idiotic to me.

But what you actually said...

Fucking idiot. Yeah. Yeah.
And that's just how it come out.

It's not just how it came out.
It's how you chose to say it.

You're a grown man

in control of the words
that come out of your mouth.

Is this something that's new
for you,

coming out with a bit of an outburst
like this,

or is that a pattern you've noticed
in yourself?

Totally new to me.
I'm a very calm character.

I'm a very cool character.

I find it very hard
to actually lose my rag.

And the reason, obviously, for that,

which I've opened up
to Nelly a few bits about,

obviously, my attack when I was 20,

and I found it very hard then
to lose my temper with people.

For many, many years I felt broken
because I can't feel those emotions.

OK. I can see what's happening here.

You've had trauma and you bring

that into the relationship,
and that counts to a point.

But it doesn't excuse it

because the bottom line here is
you've said something

that's really hurt Nelly.

Are you understanding the impact

of your words
and behaviour this week on Nelly?

Yeah, absolutely.

I think this week my
marriage hadn't been a priority.

Getting the news my stepdad,

who's basically raised me,
is in hospital.

So for me...

You OK.

So for me this week,
I've just not been able to think of

the marriage,
when you've potentially,

like, broken your rib.

I didn't come home because
I was with the guys.

That was my outlet.

Are you saying, then,
that the events of this week

and the way
that you've responded are purely

a function of you having a lot

of stress in your life outside of
the experiment?

1,000,000% it's out of character
for me.

Well,
it's certainly surprising to us,

and it's been really hard
to watch this week.

Um, and now, you know,
seeing how much pain you're in,

I think it does help us understand
a little bit.

You know, this is not the Steven
that we know.

And, Nelly, you're probably thinking
this is not the man I married.

Yeah, I think I'm just thinking,
well, which one are you?

Is this you?

Because if it is, then we can shake
hands and we can go.

We can split from here.

Or are you the Steven on
the honeymoon?

Because we were so happy.

My concern here is that, Steven,
your behaviour this week

has fed into Nelly's
existing insecurities.

Yeah.

Yeah. Is that right? Yeah.

I just feel like, um...

..I don't know whether I can open
up, like,

how I was on the honeymoon,

because I did,
and I feel like I got burned.

So it's the same story.

What's the point?
This week has been awful.

It's been hell.

Just... I don't know who you are.

Steven, you're the one with
the answers here.

It is that stress.
What you saw on the honeymoon,

what you saw on the wedding day,
that's me.

It's been so long
since I've actually met someone

who I've connected with

and vibed with to the point
where I'm like, "Oh, shit.

"This is a great feeling."
I've not heard that before.

I know because I'm allowing myself

to be vulnerable
and emotional for a change.

Thank you.
This is not something I'm used to.

Nelly, I'm curious about
what you need

from Steven to start to feel
that things are back on track.

I just need the words
that he said this week.

He needs to put them into action.
I just need to feel like you care.

It's very clear that this week,
Steven,

through your actions,

you've communicated to Nelly
that you don't care.

How do you actually feel about her?

I like you. I really like you.
And, of course,

my actions this week

would suggest otherwise,
but the like is there,

otherwise I wouldn't be here.

This is real. I'm in it.

I would love to be
on that path for the love.

That's what I'm here for.
I'm still willing to fight for this

because that honeymoon thing
that we had,

that's me. That's us.

This week is not me.

It's not us.

With that,
we're going to go to a decision,

and we're going to start
with Steven.

So for me, as hard
as this week has been emotionally,

after this morning,
I thought I'd pushed

Nelly back even further
because of me being an idiot.

But I'm not going to give up
on something over

the first real hurdle
we've had. And this time next week,

it won't be me being an absolute
A-hole to this person next to me.

It'll be back to what you saw last
week, and everything,

hopefully, going forward to
what we want

for the future
because that's what I want.

So I'm going to stay.

Thank you. And to you, Nelly.

So, obviously, this week
has been really,

really difficult for me. Um...

Everything in my body was telling me
to run.

It... Honestly,
if I'm honest with you,

I've been 50 over 50 for like,
the whole...

Especially after today.

It's been really, really hard
for me.

I would just feel like I would
be doing a disservice to both of us

if I've not given you a chance
to show me that you do care.

So I've said, I want to stay
for now.

OK. OK.

OK.

Steven,

you've got some heavy lifting
to do this week.

This is all about showing
up for Nelly,

showing her who you really are.

Showing her how much she matters,
supporting her. Yeah.

The spotlight is on you,
my friend. I appreciate it.

Thank you very much.
Thanks, guys. Thank you.

Thank you so much. Well done.

Steven's obviously going through
a lot. It's really sad,

and his dad's a priority
at the moment.

But I'm sorry, this week has been
awful. It's been hellish.

I need to see Steven
affirm me, support me,

show up for me.

He really needs to show me
that he cares

because if he doesn't,
then it's just words

and he's not backing it
up with action.

I just need a bit more.

VOICEOVER: Next time...

I'm not going to tell the
story your way.

..Grace and Ashley continue to
clash.

It's like talking
to a brick wall, Ash.

And as the experiment
hits its next phase.

It's in-laws week. Brilliant.
Oh, God.

Hi. Are you all right?
Nice to see you again.

Will hard truths from loved ones...

This has probably been the hardest
week.

..spell more trouble for the couple?

I just don't want you to tell me how
to look, how to be.

I don't need it. I would agree.

Don't tell me what to wear.

And it's time
for six more courageous singles...

When I have my happily ever after.

..to take the ultimate gamble
on love.

Today is now or never.
Everything is riding on this.

But will an overprotective mum...

Here's my Abby.

I will not see her hurt again.

..derail the first
new couple's big day?

Last thing I want is to be upset

by some arrogant person
that comes along.

I am the one that vets everybody.
I'm the bad guy.

Beware!

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