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We're so cute.
Previously... I'm home!

..our newlyweds took the next step
into married life.

Ah!

But for some, domestic harmony...

I won't be living in this apartment.
I need some time out.

..was short-lived.

It was the first dinner party
of the experiment.

Here we are on this mad experiment

Seeing things not in our element!

Sarah shared her unfiltered
opinions on Dean.

He asked me if I'd ever slept
with anyone fat before.

He's like a Care Bear.

Sarah's already entered the zone
of being disrespectful

and that's something
that needs to end.

And for Julia-Ruth and Divarni...

The spark is definitely there.

We're literally like yin and yang.

..conflicting accounts
of the honeymoon...

He said how amazing it was.

On what planet?

..left their marriage
hanging by a thread.

The honeymoon was not easy.

They've heard a different story.

It makes no sense.

SHE SOBS

Tonight...

It's the very
first commitment ceremony.

..it's time for the couples
to face the experts.

Can't communicate with you
and you don't listen.

You don't back down.

It's been difficult.

It's been proper difficult.

This isn't going to work.

Tension builds as two couples clash.

No emotional connection,
no communication.

I thought we could build
from the wedding day.

We're just miles apart.

And Sarah's badmouthing...

Do you think that you were rude
while talking about your partner?

..catches up with her.

This man is talking
about how lovely his partner is,

and you are on the other side
of the room

disrespecting him.

It's not me. It's not who I am.

SOBS

That was good.
Right, now get the other one in.

Other one. Oh!

No. Right, put 'em down though,

cos we're all gonna be
BLEEP orange juice.

Can I have this piece of toast?

That one's a bit buttery.

Cholesterol for breakfast.

Yesterday was a lot, wasn't it?
It was a lot.

Yeah. Fun though.
Yeah, we had a really good time.

I felt really confident with you
even before we saw everybody else.

But then when we did see everyone
else

and we saw where they were at,
I was like,

"Oh, actually, we are super strong."

Yeah, it's a nice feeling,
isn't it?

I loved walking into
the dinner party with Bec.

I love showing her off and I walked
in with a big smile on my face.

Bailey and I are really good.
We're happy.

We have gone from strength
to strength every day.

We're very tactile.
Intimacy is great.

The spark for us is flying.

So we're going into
the commitment ceremony

in a really strong position.

The vibe this morning
is a little bit tense.

After last night's dinner party,

Divarni and I spent the night
separately.

We had an argument.

Compared to other couples,
I knew that we were struggling.

It felt like, again,
we were on different pages.

He was trying to just paint
a picture

so no one could see
what was going on.

He's saying it's BLEEP daisies

It wasn't the best feeling to know
that my wife was upset.

How I articulated our issues
was a little bit sugar-coated.

I can admit that.

But that's what I chose to do
because obviously we're a team.

Thank you.

So here we are.

Last night was intense, wasn't it?

Mm. Yeah, I'm sorry
about the crying.

I wasn't planning on doing that.

I got upset at the dinner party
yesterday from the honesty box.

I feel a little bit embarrassed.

Nelly, can you see yourself
falling for me?

It's very hard for me to say.

Yeah. That's fine. Yeah.

Why is it so hard for you to talk
about falling for somebody?

I think I'm so afraid of, um...

..being so emotionally open
and vulnerable to someone.

Like, thinking that they know
who I am and think,

"You know what, I'm not into her."

And then they break my heart.

I can't with it anymore,
it's too much.

Just a lot for week one.
Yeah, of course it is.

It's like,
when that honesty box comes out,

we all know what that entails.

So very courageous of you to show
that emotion and say what you said.

Steven's doing all the right things,

but I still keep getting into my own
head thinking,

"Well, does he like you?
Are you sure about that?"

I don't want to scare him off
or give him the ick.

And I will convince myself

if he doesn't hold my hand
for long enough,

it's because he's not into me.

Even though the poor guy
probably just wants his arm back.

He's clearly telling me
he's being truthful.

Why can't I believe it?

ASHLEY: Looking forward to seeing
the experts today?

Do you think you're going
to get emotional?

Me? I don't get emotional.

What if they poke you
in all the right places?

It hasn't happened for a while so...

HE CHUCKLES

THEY LAUGH

Grace and I, I feel,
are in a really good place.

We're quite, quite stable
at the moment,

so I'm quite happy with where I am.

Is there anything you're looking
to talk to the experts about?

I feel like they might...
I think it could be confronting.

I'm scared.

I wasn't myself on honeymoon,

and it's all been so overwhelming
and so hard.

I don't want to do this. Sorry.

On their wedding day...

..Grace struggled
to find a connection with Ashley.

I was raised like
men are the breadwinners.

Old-school morals, basically.

Yeah...

And the honeymoon brought
her walls up even higher.

OK. Is that enough now?

Yikes.

Oh, I'm not really feeling it.

I feel like everything I'm doing
is wrong

and I don't know why.

In an effort to turn things around,
Grace finally opened up to Ashley.

I just want to explain
the physical touch thing

because I feel like maybe
I'm making it seem like it's you.

I've been this way
since I was a kid.

It's a sensation that I don't like.

It's like skin...

Yeah. ..but it's especially bad
when I'm a bit stressed

and with people I don't know.

I don't mean to project it onto you.

I just hope I don't get upset.

If you do feel emotional,
what is it that I'm supposed to do?

Cos my natural reaction would be to
give you a hug if you're emotional,

but you obviously don't...

You're not going to want that.
So what is it I do?

I might want that. I don't know.
Let's just see.

Let's just cross that bridge.

I am nervous
about seeing the experts.

Obviously, they're going to shine
a light on all the things that,

you know,
sometimes I avoid talking about.

The touching, the PDA,
all of that...

I'm the problem.

That's how I feel, actually.

So that's maybe why I'm nervous.

I'm so sorry you feel sick.

Davide is feeling really unwell.
He's so achy.

That poor man
has got no energy whatsoever.

How are you feeling about seeing
the experts tonight by yourself?

Overall, I'm terrified
about going by myself

and I don't want to go.

I'm sure you're gonna be fine.
Yeah, I got this. Don't worry.

But drink the honey and lemon
ginger tea when it's hot.

It does nothing now it's cold.

A little bit worried

about walking into my first ceremony
without him,

but I think we're really strong,
so it should be fine.

First commitment ceremony today.

What do you think they're gonna say
to us?

I don't really know.

From here, shit gets deeper,
doesn't it?

I want the experts to tell us
where we're going wrong.

We're just not there yet,
in terms of the romantic connection.

It's more than friends,
but at the same time,

she doesn't want to rip
my clothes off.

I said, "You just need to let your
wall down a little bit more."

Like, I'm trying.

I'm being way more open
and vulnerable than I ever would

in any situation.

The thing is,
mine's not by choice.

That vulnerability or, like,
moving to that next stage with you

is just not coming naturally.

And it's not like something
that I'm choosing to do,

and it sounds so shallow.

I think this whole narrative
of like,

oh, you're not my typical type

so like I'm struggling
to feel the romance.

It's not just about, like,

you don't have an undercut,
you know what I mean?

Me having my walls up
isn't by choice.

Like, it's not something
I'm in control of.

Like, I feel like I'm blocked off
and I can't unblock.

It's just, like,
how do I let these walls down?

But at the same time,

I think I'm more willing
to try and get the wall down.

There's a big decision
to make today.

I'm trying to be open
and vulnerable,

but I've had my walls up
for so long, it's going to be

really hard to change
and let my guard down.

I'm trying to, like, give it my all
and be completely open.

And initially,
that attraction wasn't there.

So I'm intrigued to see
what the experts advice is

and what they think is beneficial
for us to do moving forward.

JOE COUGHS

MAEVE: Are you still feeling shit?

Yeah, I feel terrible, to be honest.
I feel like crap.

Joe was feeling poorly,
so I don't know

if he's going to be able to attend
the commitment ceremony.

I'm nervous, you know.

Obviously, like,
it's a commitment ceremony

and I hate feelings,

so I'm guessing we're going
to be talking about

how we feel about each other.

Joe was expressing some feelings
towards us at the dinner party.

I feel exactly the same way.

I'm just not very good
at showing it.

But I'm obviously going to tell
the experts that I really like Joe

because I can't stop smiling
when I talk about him.

Feeling a little bit disappointed.

I came away from the dinner party
feeling the same about Paul

as I did going in.

I agree with Rebecca

saying that Paul and I
was one of the weakest couples.

I'm struggling
with the emotional connection.

Whatever decision I make today
is very important.

I entered this experiment
to find love,

so I'd be gutted
to walk away without it.

I'm 100% needy of the experts.

PAUL: I care very much about Anita,

but opening up
about my emotional feelings

has always been a struggle for me.

My coping mechanism is to put
a barrier up,

and I think that's something

that Anita's found hard
to break down.

I'm not too empathetic
towards her feelings maybe.

It's something I need to improve on.

Anita has compassion and patience.

I'm hoping she stays around
long enough,

and we work together to build
the marriage going forward.

I have no idea what Anita stands.

I have no idea if she's going
to stay or leave.

What do you think about
Sarah and Dean?

He hasn't said much but I know
obviously she said bits to you.

Oh, she did say she got the ick.

Did she? Like, the proper ick.

That's a bit of a sad one,
to be fair,

cos he's such a nice lad.

She said there's no physical
attraction there for at all.

Yeah. There's nothing sexual
for her.

Last night, it was harder
than I thought it was going to be.

Yeah, definitely.

It's hard to see everyone as well,
like, be lovey-dovey. Mm-hm.

Cos I'm the guy, like,

"Comparison is the thief of joy.
I'm not going to compare."

But, yeah, there was definitely
a feeling...

A lot of feelings yesterday.

You can't help that.
No. I won't, but yeah.

I'd obviously said that
I probably would compare.

It obviously would be
the attraction thing

which is, for me, the hardest bit.

And last night was
emotional at points,

so I think, yeah,
today will be the same.

Last night's dinner party has given
me a little bit of a wake-up call.

Mine and Dean's relationship

is not where I would have imagined
it to be.

It is quite hard to see
other couples

being quite all over each other,

and Dean and I aren't like that.

And I think that's making me feel
very emotional.

I'm nervous about it as well,

cos it's kind of putting
everything out there, innit,

and it is so intense.

It's only going to get intenser.

If we're honest,
it can kind of only help.

I like Sarah.
I'm optimistic she'll say stay.

There is reasons
that we are matched.

We're both here to kind of
try and make it work.

So yeah, I'm confident
that she'll stay.

We're all wanting to get somewhere
within this experiment. Yeah.

We're both where we are
and we're like,

"Yeah, we need help."
And that's what they're there for.

So hopefully...

I don't know what the experts could
do to help get that spark.

Looking at the other couples
and feeling that, like, you know,

sexual energy and sexual spark.

I mean, it was like flying through
the room at one point.

I genuinely just don't know
if we're going to get to it.

Today is the very first
commitment ceremony

and we are so excited
to start your journeys with you.

This is where the hard work begins.

It's imperative that all of you
commit to being honest and open.

Honesty is the key to the success
of your marriages.

You're all here to make
a very important decision -

whether to stay
or leave the experiment.

A couple can only leave the
experiment if both write leave.

If just one person wants to stay,

then the couple must stay
in the experiment

and continue
to work on their marriage.

Now, Davide and Joe
cannot be here today due to illness,

but for the rest of you,
let's all get down to business.

Our first couple up to the couch
tonight is Grace and Ashley.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Come and join us, you two.

Hello. Hello.

Why don't you take us back
to the wedding day?

Grace, how did you feel
leading up to the ceremony?

I don't really know
what I was expecting.

I certainly didn't expect it
to hit me

like a tonne of bricks
that it did.

I think I just panicked.

I was, like, I was frustrated
with myself

and, like, berating myself.

And I took myself
on a downward spiral.

Later, there was talk
of Ash's traditional values

and being an old-school gentleman

and I didn't really know
what that meant.

I loved being an independent woman
and I just thought,

"It's dead in the water
before it even starts."

How did that feel for you, Ashley?

It was like a deer in headlights

when sort of Grace was feeling
the way she was.

So that kind of made me spiral
a little bit,

because I said from the very
beginning

I wanted to be unapologetically me.

That's really hard to do

when you're the reason
she's feeling like she is.

It's about terminology, isn't it?
Yeah.

Grace hears, "Old-school gent,"

and she thinks,
"I'm not a tradwife."

Yeah.

I had no idea
it would even be taken that way.

So it completely
kind of wiped me off my feet

because I just wasn't expecting it.

It sounds like
that was quite difficult for you.

And then you went on honeymoon.

On the honeymoon, OK,
so for the first couple of days,

I'm feeling upset.

Everything made me on the brink
of tears.

I'm not the most
touchy-feely person.

And in this moment
when I was feeling so overwhelmed

and so stressed and so anxious,
so vulnerable,

that not wanting to be
touchy-feely...

..it became a huge deal.

And Ash, in wanting
to make me feel better, is like,

"Are you OK? Are you all right?"

And I was like...

It was making me like more and more
and more inside myself.

I was struggling.

Ash, how was that experience
for you?

If someone's feeling down,
I try and make it better.

Cos the way I flirt,
I was always like,

if someone likes you,
they're touching you more.

So I always thought touch was good

and, like, let them know
that you like them,

but that wasn't what she wanted
or needed

and I was kind of making it worse.

Grace, are you able to direct your
own insight back to yourself here

on this one and see where
that lack of comfort

with all the touching comes from?

I don't know anyone else like me.

I don't know anyone else

that doesn't really like the feeling
of like skin on skin.

But I do function as an adult.
Like, I'm a midwife.

I rub people's backs,
I hold people's hands.

But this experiment...

OK.

You're doing great.
Come on, you're doing really good.

..is confronting
because for me it's normal.

I've always been this way.

But then, looking at everyone else
finding it so easy, so natural,

you do start to feel
like a bit of a freak.

And you're like...

And it's made me question,
"What was I thinking?

"Why did I think I could
come into this?"

What did I? Like, it makes me think,
like, what a bizarre thing to do.

PAUL: Or maybe it's a brave thing
to do.

Yeah. OK. Thanks, Paul.

LAUGHTER

You know, we all have different
levels of comfort with touch.

And I think what's important here
is the two of you can start talking

about what those boundaries are.

On this point,
when you both sat here on the couch,

you, Grace,
you were feeling emotional.

Yeah. So Ashley literally...

I just saw him put his hand out
like this,

and he went to touch you,
and he was like,

"Uh-oh, I better not do this.
I better not do this here."

Then he goes... It's one of those,
"Oh yeah. Cool, babe."

And I felt for you in that moment.

Yeah.

But I think it's also important
for you, Ashley,

to be able to say,

"I'm here for you in this moment."

Right? That's right,
to do it verbally.

To do it verbally. Yeah.

I'm very verbal as a person anyway.

If I feel a certain way
or I'm upset with something,

I just come straight out and say it.

So hopefully we can sort of
just keep going like that.

So where would you say
you guys ended up

at the end of the honeymoon
compared with where you started?

Full 180.

Tell us about that.

We just agreed that we couldn't
just be strangers

and then husband and wife, like,
there had to be friendship first.

Then it was fun. I was cracking up.
I was laughing so much.

I made a conscious effort
when I did feel in a good place,

like, to try and be
more affectionate.

And then I can see
that she's making a big effort

and I really appreciate it.

And hopefully she sees the same
with the way I'm saying things...

I do. ..and sort of that.

Yeah.

It's quite remarkable, I think,
how much progress

the two of you have made.

Ashley, you're showing such patience
with this woman you've just met

who's showing behaviours
that you don't quite understand.

And for you, Grace, you
are showing incredible bravery.

Yeah. Because you're doing things
so differently

from how you've done them before.

So I think it's brilliant

that the two of you have come
so far already.

I think we're going to go to
a decision.

Let's start with you first, Ashley.

So I honestly feel like
we've come so, so far

and I can't wait to see
how far we can take this

and I'm really excited
to do the rest of this experiment

and see where we go.

So I voted to stay.

Brilliant.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Good job!

And to you, Grace?

I feel really lucky

that I got partnered with someone
so patient,

so tolerant, so willing to learn,
so open-minded.

I'm happy to be here.
And I'm glad that it's with you.

So, yeah, I'm gonna stay.

Ah.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Thank you so much.

This is a really positive journey
that you've taken so far.

Keep doing what you're doing, guys.
You're off to a good start.

Thank you so much. Thanks, guys.
Take a seat.

Well done.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

All right, next up to the couch...

If we can have
Julia-Ruth and Divarni.

Come on up.

APPLAUSE

Welcome.

Hello! Hi.
Welcome. How are we doing?

Good. Good.

It is so good for you both
to be here

because I have so many questions.

Can we start with the wedding?

Oh my God.

Magical. It was wild.

Best wedding ever, I'm not gonna
lie. Best wedding ever.

The vibes were up there.
So much fun.

It was just like, damn,
this person actually exists.

I was stupid excited
and I'm still excited.

Just the true beauty that I saw
in her at the beginning

threw me off.

That's big. Yeah.

And then I'm laughing
and I'm snorting and I'm giggling.

It was a lot of emotions.
It was really great.

The energy was so good.
We were vibing. Yeah.

All right, next day
we go on honeymoon.

Yes. Honeymoon was?

Started off great.

Started off good?

Go on.

I think the... We arrived in Morocco
and that was when it hit me.

"OK, I'm married."

So I did, like,
kind of feel overwhelmed.

And I'm trying to find
some joyous moments

for us to build some sort of,
like, emotional connection.

Can you explain that?

The physical didn't come naturally,
so I'm like,

let's build the...

We're having so much fun
and we're laughing

that, like, maybe that comes
that way,

but everything is really heavy
and deep.

It's always intense.

Can you give an example for us?
Yeah.

So we were on the camels
and I asked you,

"What is your biggest fear?"

And then you spiralled

into the deepest conversation
I've ever had in my life,

which was shocking.

You went on and you were like,

"It's always just been me.
Always end up in these situations

"No one's ever gonna love me
It's always gonna be me by myself."

It was all this dark stuff and I'm
sitting there and I'm like, "Bro..."

Can I ask...
Can I ask you a question, though?

Yeah.

You've just asked
about his deepest fear.

Fears are dark.

I know that fear is a big word,

but I'm feeling overwhelmed
by the amount of information

that is being dumped onto me
continuously.

It feels like trauma dumping.

We talk about deep stuff so much.

There's inappropriate times

where I just feel like
I want to have fun with you.

Divarni, in that moment,

how did you interpret
what was happening?

Answering that question
was very personal to me, for sure,

but it was just me opening up
at that moment,

and I just expressed myself
the way I needed to express myself.

Divarni, do you feel clear

when the right time is to talk
in a deep way

and when to kind of
have a bit of fun?

Do you feel clear in terms of
what Julia-Ruth wants from you?

Sometimes when I communicate,
it can go on and on and on and on.

It's just finding that balance of
choosing a part of that information.

I mean, maybe I can pick it up
and then feed it another time.

Right, right.

All right.
Vital information missed.

Obviously, had the argument
after the camels and it erupted.

Divarni's heightened
and jittery and upset.

And I don't like
how you handled that situation.

You don't back down,
you get more intense,

and you're going at me.

And you did that last night
after the dinner party, too,

and I'm like, "Whoa!"

Like, "OK, this isn't gonna work."

I needed to get things off my chest.

Would you agree, though,
it was explosive?

It was a bit explosive. Yeah.

OK, so that is a major detail.

So we have two issues

of poor communication
that happens on the honeymoon

and, Julia-Ruth,
what you're telling me

is that there's many of these.

So, honeymoon, not so good.

You come back,
you move in to the apartment.

How did you feel about your marriage

when you walked
into the dinner party?

We sat down and had a conversation

and we said, "We're going to be on
the same page at the dinner party."

So, like, if we're getting asked
the questions by people,

"How has your time been?"

The wedding was great.

It's been good
and it's been really bad.

For sure.

But I sit down and talk to people

and then when I tell them how
the relationship's going,

they were like,
"Oh, that's not what I've heard."

And I'm like, "What do you mean
that's not what you've heard?"

It's been, "You've been really good.
Like, smooth sailing."

So I was very confused

because I go around looking
like a dickhead

saying that our relationship's
been turbulent

and he's saying it's been a hiccup.
Fine.

OK.

That's not even remotely close
to what's been going on

in our relationship.

I know that obviously
we went through our shit,

but I was going into
the dinner party hopeful.

You know, I'm curious.

You mentioned there was an argument
last night.

What happened
after the dinner party?

Coming back to the apartment,
I did confront her,

and I was just
getting things off my chest.

You always say you're
getting things off your chest

and it's not fun
because you attack me.

I want us to have the space
so we don't yell at each other.

And that's why I say,

"Go and breathe and come back
to me when you
can talk to me like a person."

You don't talk to me like a person
You go at me.

You don't listen to me. I'm like,
"Should I go to another room?"

And you're going at me.

OK, well, then,
I'm gonna go to another room.

And you get more intense
and more intense and more intense.

You get so heightened,
and I can't communicate with you.

I don't like that.

You get more intense
and more intense and more intense.

You get so heightened
and I can't communicate with you.

I don't like that.

You know what's so interesting
about you two?

You're the most hot and cold couple
in this experiment.

Wedding - Oh, my gosh.

Ten...ten wedding,
I can't believe it.

By the next day, it's like

I don't even know if I want to be
with this person, right?

So what do you want
from this relationship?

So what I want is a companion.

Someone that's very supportive.

Someone that understands me
in a whole entirety.

Obviously, having fun.
That's what I'm looking for.

OK. And you still want
that in Julia-Ruth?

Yes. OK.

Julia-Ruth, what do you want?

I want someone
who's going to go 50-50

or 60-40 at different times
with me in terms of energy.

I don't mind being there for you.

I don't mind you unloading to me.

If anyone, I feel like I've got you.

Let's also enjoy each other.

I want to have that feeling of like

we're laughing so hard that
the physical intimacy kicks off.

We don't have that.

And that's what I said, like,
coming back to the apartment.

I'm very excited because
then I can take you out on dates

and actually have those memorable
moments of actually having fun.

That's why coming and moving into
the apartment was a thrill.

The other thing, Divarni, too

is I think
what's very important,

and I hear Julia-Ruth wanting
as well,

is for you to listen.

Sometimes listening means

I'm going to take a cool-off period.

And then during that period,

reflecting upon what your partner
said, what your partner feels,

what their emotion is.

So, therefore, you're coming back
in a position

where you can actually
resolve the conflict.

You know, I have hope.

Ultimately, you know what you both
said?

You want to have someone
who will support you

and I think that's the place
to remain focussed on -

be each other's support. OK?

Can we go to a decision?

Divarni, why don't you take us away?

Julia-Ruth, it's been difficult.

It's been proper difficult
throughout this honeymoon.

But obviously I'm here for a reason.

And I do believe in us.

So my actual decision

is for me to stay.

APPLAUSE

Um...

For me, it's tricky.

The vibes on the wedding day
were unreal.

I just haven't seen you
let your hair loose

and just have a fun,
light-hearted conversation

and just have giggles with me
and create fun memories.

I don't need everything
to be picked apart and to be deep.

We do have some good moments

and I don't like spending time
away from you because I miss you.

So I think I have chosen to stay.

APPLAUSE

All right. Done.
Done. Thank you.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

I think it's going to take a lot
of work for Divarni and I

to fix and restart
or mend our relationship.

I hold on to, so dearly,
the moments from the wedding.

I want to stay because I'm fighting
for those moments.

I've shared how I felt

and I think it's now up to him
how he processes the information.

Next up to the couch...

..Rebecca and Bailey.

APPLAUSE

Hello. Hello. Hello. Hi.

Good to see the two of you.
Thank you.

Looking extremely comfortable
with one another.

I'm absolutely loving this.

OK. So I'm super keen to hear
about your wedding.

Kind of a roller coaster. OK.

Initial reaction
turning round around - stunning.

Absolutely gorgeous.

I feel like the only thing I just
couldn't catch a vibe, I feel like.

I was a bit thrown by it.
Yeah. I was just...

And then throughout the day,

it kind of just followed on that
path for me,

just up and down like a yo-yo.

So it sounds like you were trying
to work out, "What is she feeling?"

Yeah. And, Rebecca, what
was the experience like for you?

I think I had in my mind

I would get to the end of the aisle

and there would be massive
sparks flying,

because that's what I'm used to.

Like, that initial big attraction.

And we didn't have that.

I know that for you it's really
important to have someone

that is very much an alpha male.

And that was something
that was quite difficult for you.

On the wedding day,
I struggled with that

because I couldn't see like
the real Bailey.

And I was like
"Oh, my God, is he...?"

You know,
"Am I going to eat him alive?"

And that made me go into my shell.

I was crying through the vows.
I was very overwhelmed.

Take me to the honeymoon.

Did that get any better?

It changed everything.

We really, really got on.

Yeah, we started talking, laughing.
Tables started turning.

I saw him for who he was,
and I thought,

"Wow, I can really connect
with this person."

You called me a golden retriever.
Yeah.

He's got golden retriever energy.

I've got black cat energy.
I'll take that.

Yeah, we match so well in that way.

So we started to have a little bit
of a giggle, like, yeah,

a little bit of laugh, which I like.
I can connect over.

Bailey is who he is
through and through.

He doesn't put on a show
or anything like that.

He's the definition
of an alpha man. 100%.

He knows how to look after me

whilst allowing me
to just completely be myself.

I go to the gym,
I can carry my bags,

can do things for myself.

Bailey takes away anything
that he can do,

while still making me feel
that I'm capable.

I do like to do the little things,

like going up to the bar
and getting a drink,

carrying your bags, little...

Just little things.
They're only small.

But because she was super
independent,

"I can do everything on my own,"

it kind of felt better
when she put that trust into me

and kind of relinquished

a little bit of that independence
that she has, was nice.

You say that they're small things

but it sounds like they're
small things with a big meaning.

Yeah. And it's not just, like,
little acts of service like that.

It's the little glances across
the room.

Or like the, "Are you OK?"

And that I do it back to him, like,
there is a real connection there.

Yeah.

Well, I think that helps me
to kind of neatly go on

to the next question
around intimacy.

So how are things going in
the intimacy department?

BOTH LAUGH

Like Cheshire cats.

Um, yeah. All good. Yeah.
Really good.

Yeah. Um, very well-matched
in that department.

Um, so no complaints.

I can't stop smiling. Yeah.

Rebecca, do you want to help him
here?

No.
LAUGHS

I'm sweating here, in't I?

No, everything's good
on that front. Yeah, great.

Well, I am so excited
with this union,

and it's just so nice to see
the physical affection

between the two of you.

The way you have each other's back.

Yeah. We're constantly
laughing and joking at home.

Loads of fun. I mean, I asked for,
like, a little bestie,

and that's just what I've got.

Yeah, it's a good feeling.
It's... It feels secure.

So let's go to the decisions.

If we can start with you, Rebecca.

From our wedding day, this is...

I never ever, expected to be
in this position now.

I think more than anything,
I just love how you make me feel.

Yeah. So it's an easy one for me.

It's a stay.

APPLAUSE

Thank you, Rebecca.
And, Bailey, what's your decision?

I'm really enjoying
just getting to know you.

I love just spending time
with you at home,

and I'm looking forward
to that carrying on.

So I've decided to...

I'm upside down. ..stay.

APPLAUSE

So Rebecca and Bailey,
the couple to watch.

I'm excited. Oh gosh!

Look forward to seeing you
next week.

Really appreciate it. Cheers.
Thank you.

APPLAUSE

Next up to the couch...

..Sarah and Dean.

Hello. Hello. Hello there.

So how are we both?

Yeah, nervous. Nervous?
I'm nervous. Are you?

Yeah, I'm good. Oh, you're good?
That's good. All good.

OK, so can we go to the wedding?

Mm-hm.

So the moment you saw Sarah,

what did you think?

Seeing her, I thought
the energy's here and I was like...

She's a beautiful girl as well.

And I was like,
"Yeah, this is good."

You would say
physically attractive - check?

Yeah, yeah. Definitely.
Sexually attractive?

Yeah, I guess... I thought,
"I could have sex with her."

ALL LAUGH

OK.

But it's important to know

because there is a distinction
between the two.

Yeah, yeah. So, OK, Sarah,

how did you feel
going in to the wedding?

I was very nervous,

and I think I had envisioned
in my head

who was going to be at the end
of the aisle.

And what was that vision?

OK, so I'll be honest. Yeah.

Yeah. Um...

Tall.

I love tattoos,
so covered in tattoos.

Probably look like they've
just come out of jail,

I'm not gonna lie.

Because that was your "type"?

OK. What else?

I mean, I do also like a guy that's,
like, into fitness and gym.

So, yeah. I mean, maybe...

..physical as well...

..it wasn't what I thought
it was going to be.

OK.

I don't want to hurt your feelings.
I'm really sorry. No, no.

Yeah, it's got to be honest,
I promise.

You're not gonna hurt my feelings.

Dean, are you OK?

Literally fine.
It's so good It's so good.

OK.

It was an honest start.
We appreciate that.

So let's move to the honeymoon.

Yeah, it was hard. I had a, like,
a wobble

cos I sing a lot and, um,
I was like,

"It can get a little bit grating,
yeah?"

And you was like,
"Yeah, it's a bit..." Yeah.

It was just a lot
of random outbursts of singing.

It was getting just a little bit...

I was like, "I'm getting...
I'm getting irritated by this."

OK. Cos I don't really like
showing my emotions too much.

But if you listen to the song
I'm singing,

that's how I'm feeling.

So I'll be singing like a sad song.

And if you listen to the words,
I'm like, that's how I'm feeling.

So are you saying that
you were sad during the honeymoon?

Uh, yeah. Well, I was at a point.

We had a meal and we was talking,

and I reverted back to, like,

the little fat kid at school
who's trying to fit in, you know?

I've not been that so long because
I've built myself up so much.

I guess doubts, you know,
started coming in

and I was like, "Oh, man, I don't...
I don't like this."

And that was a real low.

And that's when
I spoke to Sarah about it.

That's when I was like,

"Let's just enjoy
getting to know each other."

You know what's interesting?

I think when there
are painful moments,

we try to go past them quickly.

Yeah, probably, man.

You just said something

that touches upon
a moment in childhood.

Yeah. Let's give that respect.

I felt like what?
The fat kid, like back at school.

And what made you feel that way?

Probably feeling, like,
in all honesty,

a bit of rejection.

You know?
And not feeling like I was enough.

And what was it that made you feel

like you were rejected
and not enough?

The physical attraction thing
is something that

kind of, I guess,
hits me more than I think it does.

Yeah, it put my defences up,

you know, like,
that I didn't like it.

Yeah.

So when you both leave
the honeymoon,

are you at all optimistic
about your marriage?

I was stupid cos, like,
we get on so well

and we're always having
a great time,

and there's no one else
I'd rather be with in this.

For me, I was like,
"Yeah, this could be like..."

This could be something.
Yeah. Yeah. 100%.

So were you optimistic at all,
Sarah?

I was optimistic.

We have been matched for a reason
and I can see why.

I think my problem is people I've
dated or been with,

I've always had
that initial attraction.

I've always wanted to rip
their clothes off and just eat them.

Just... Do you know that feeling?

And I'm really struggling
because I don't have that with Dean,

but then I've got everything else.

You wanted someone
who was going to be funny.

You wanted someone who could be
a support system for you.

So, Sarah, you feel as if
Dean is everything that you need?

Oh, that's what I said. I said,

"I'm the husband you need,
not the one you want."

And I don't want him to change.
Like, I...

You know, the singing
and the rapping, it did irritate me.

It did. I mean, the raps
and the songs sort of stopped.

So he's receptive
to modifying his behaviour?

Yeah.

So what behaviour are you modifying?

Is there any modification
that you think that you need?

I don't know.

You feel like you're good?

You're doing everything
appropriately?

I feel like I'm...
I feel like I'm doing everything OK.

I think the communication
is great.

I think the honesty is great
as well.

You're giving it everything,
and that's all I wanted.

Dean, what we've seen here

is you kind of rescuing Sarah
in this.

That says a lot about you

in terms of the kind-hearted person
that you are.

But I think at the moment,

it feels a little bit like, Dean,
you're willing to modify behaviour,

you're willing to reel
in the singing a little bit

and the rapping,

but what we're asking, Sara,
is what are you willing to do?

What are you willing to change?

I don't know.

So I've got something for you.

Oh, God. OK.

You could begin by stopping
the disrespect of your husband.

Let me take you to the dinner party.

OK.

Someone disrespects you,
what are they doing?

Well, they're being rude.

They're being rude. What else?
They're being mean.

Do you think that you were rude

while talking about your partner
at the dinner party?

Oh, it's gonna kill him, this.

I mean, I may be sad you'd given me
the ick

with some things that you'd said.

So in other words,
you disrespected your husband.

I get the challenge
around physical attraction,

but where you absolutely lost me

is when you went around
gossiping about your husband

to other people,
and you were laughing at it.

Was I? I was a joke.
I didn't mean to laugh.

Well, you were. OK. And I thought,

"This man is talking
about how lovely his partner is

"and you are on the other side
of the room disrespecting him."

I don't think I did it that much,
did I?

You know what? Disrespect...
I know, I know.

..one iota of disrespect
is too much.

You are on the other side
of the room disrespecting him.

I don't think I did it that much,
did I?

You know what? Disrespect...
I know, I know.

..one iota of disrespect
is too much.

I'm so sorry.

I'm sorry.

These relationships
are a two-way street.

And really, what I want you
to think about is -

how can I be considerate
to my partner?

Yeah. There's no excuse for saying
what I said yesterday

and I really apologise.

Dean, are you OK?

I was... Kind of caught me off,
that.

Yeah. If I'm being real, yeah,
that caught me off. Yeah, yeah.

I found yesterday
really hard as well.

I'm sorry.

This couch
is a very difficult place,

but it is a place

where relationships are broken
or where they grow.

Now the physical and
sexual attraction is significant,

but the best antidote
is just to say,

how can I every day work on
strengthening my relationship?

And as long as you are
continuing to make progress

week after week after week,

think of where you'll be at the end.

On that note,
I would like to go to a decision.

OK. And I would love to start
with Dean first.

It's obviously been a proper,
like, emotional time, like, together

like, hard and like we're like,

how do we get to that next stage?

Cos how can I make someone
fancy me if they don't?

But I do think we have got
a good base

and I'm hoping it will come now.

I'm still optimistic.

I think this could be something
special, you know,

something different.

So it is a stay.

APPLAUSE

Thank you so much. Sarah.

This journey has just been
so up and down.

I can see all of the reasons
why we've been matched.

And I really wanted
the nice guy and. I've got him

and I just really want it to work
because you're such a nice guy.

So I have decided to stay.

Stay. OK.

APPLAUSE

We applaud that you're staying,

and what I would encourage you
to do

is think about how every day
you can develop something

that is strengthening
your relationship.

Thank you. Cheers. Thank you, guys.

It was really hard to hear what Paul
had to say, and I apologise.

Yeah. I'm sorry. It's not me.
It's not who I am.

And maybe if I did have that spark,

I wouldn't have said anything
like that, cos I wouldn't have.

But there's not the spark there.

So that's... That was the only
reason why I said it.

I haven't meant it maliciously
at all.

I don't want to hurt anyone.

I'm being true to myself,

but then it's coming across
really badly so...

SHE SOBS

Yeah, it's been a really hard week.

Hearing that Sarah has been
disrespecting me

has caught me off-guard.

That is my probably biggest
red flag.

It does hurt me and I can also feel
myself like dwindling my shine

and I don't want to lose me.

You OK?

From here, I think we're at a low,

but I think that's
when you bounce back.

There is so much there.

Like, I'm still willing
to trust and build

but it can never happen again.

Are you joking me?
It can never ever, happen again.

Sarah, are you OK?

Yeah, I just... OK. Yeah.
You know, I just feel bad.

We want everyone to grow, right?

And so anytime we see something,
we'll call it out.

But if you ever disagree,
if there's a disagreement,

hold us accountable
to the disagreement as well.

OK?

Thank you.

Next up to the couch we have Keye.

Hi, Keye. Hello. Good to see you.
Good to see you.

Sad to see that Davide's not here.
Me too.

So how was your wedding?

The wedding was amazing.

I was incredibly nervous,

but then Davide grabbed
both my hands

and said that he'd got us.

It kind of calmed me down and made
me feel really grounded and safe.

Lovely. And in terms of
attraction, would you say that

there was a real attraction there?

Oh, 100%. Have you seen Davide?

ALL LAUGH

We've all seen Davide!

He's got the most beautiful
brown eyes

with these little orange flecks.

Like, his smile
lights up an entire room.

He's just fantastic.

It sounds like you guys got off
to a really brilliant start.

Yeah. So let's move on
to my favourite question.

How's the intimacy
in your relationship?

It's wonderful. Thank you.
It's great.

Thank you.
I love that response. It's great.

It feels like you practised that.

The intimacy or the response?

LAUGHTER

The two of you sound like
you're in a really good place.

And it's so lovely to see
the progress of this relationship.

So we know
that Davide is a man of many words,

and he has very kindly written
a letter for you.

Thank you. OK.

Great.

"Hey there, you beautiful human.

"I have no words to explain how
amazing you are

"and how much I adore you.

"This last week I have seen us
go from strength to strength.

"And I could not be more proud
to have you as my husband,

"my Keye, that I'm falling for.

"I'm sorry that I'm not there
to let you know in person

"how much you mean to me.

"So for sure, I'll stay as long
as you want me to. Davide."

Aw!

APPLAUSE

Powerful words.
Yeah, it means a lot.

It means everything. Yeah.

We know what Davide's response
is to you.

What's your decision? Um...

Davide is finding ways
to make me smile every single day.

I'm honestly loving absolutely
every second

and can safely say
I am falling for him, too.

Which no one tell him
before I get a chance to.

LAUGHTER

So I will, of course, stay.

APPLAUSE

PAUL: Nice, nice.

Thank you so much, Keye.

We love love, so it's so amazing

to see how well the two of you
are matched.

Fabulous. Thank you so much.
Good luck. Thank you. OK.

So frame that.
I am framing it.

Next on the couch,
if we could have...

..Leigh and Leah. Come on up.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Yeah!

Hi, ladies.

LEAH SIGHS

How are you both? Good. Phenomenal.

All right. Can we start
with the wedding?

It was just a mad experience.

Yeah. It was surreal.

So what did you think
when you saw Leigh?

I thought she was really cute.

And obviously she's beautiful.

I think straight away I just
had this, like, thing in my head.

I was like, she's gonna be
an annoying little princess.

I think cos I've seen,
like, princess dress.

And then I seen she has a little
bit of attitude

and I thought,
"Nah, she's all right."

All right.
So, Leah, what did you think?

I think it was just a bit of a shock

because it's like so far
from what I would normally go for

in a romantic sense.

I never go for more feminine women.

It's not just
about physical type,

like hair colour or eye colour
or things like that.

I've never felt physically attracted
to a girly woman.

I can appreciate their beauty.

I can say
that they look stunning,

which Leah absolutely is,

but there's like a persona
of a person in the gay community

that I am usually attracted to,

and Leah is not that person.

Fair enough.
And that's a great explanation.

But I've realised since
being in this experiment with Leah

that I've spent the last
year and a bit,

since I became single,

building myself up from being
really let down by someone,

and I've realised
I've shut myself off

so much from when I was hurt

that I'm now struggling
to turn it back on.

I'm like, I don't know how
to get it going again.

Leigh, what you're telling us
is that,

"Hey, I've had the door shut
and it was bolted shut

"and I'm now just taking
the locks off of the door."

So, challenging to start...
Yeah. ..a marriage like this.

Mm-hm. All right. But now the work
that you need to do is

how do you establish
a stronger emotional connection?

And I think the beauty is
that the result

is going to be positive
no matter what.

Like, it's going to lead to a
better understanding of self. Yeah.

It maybe just leads to,

"You know what, I'm now willing
to open the door all the way."

Right? Mm.

But no matter what,
it's going to be a win.

Yeah. I think the worry is,

like, how do we get
to the next step?

This is a popular question.

How do you get out
of the friend zone?

I find one of the
most productive strategies

is to think about how you would
behave outside of the friend zone

and just behave like that.

That's what I have
actually been trying to do.

Like, I'm a little bit more...

OK, I need to be vulnerable,
I need to be open.

I don't even feel like
you're necessarily, like,

going through these paces, though,

cos you are just being
open and vulnerable.

Yeah. You know what I mean?

I'm still trying. Like,
I'm trying to be like that.

If I'm honest, I feel like

who's more willing
to make this work? 100% me.

Yeah. In my opinion.

You are making more of an effort.
You are being tactile.

You are doing all of these things
and I'm not able to get there.

Leah, if you were not
in the friend zone,

what would your relationship
look like?

I think being more tactile
with one another,

maybe more flirty with one another,

having a snog now and again. OK.

Everything that you've said
that you need

is what I would be

if those natural feelings
were there.

But I've just had a block there.
It's stopping me from doing it

cos I've never wanted
to feel like I'm leading Leah on.

I just don't see it as that deep.

I can have a flirt
and have a snog now and again.

I don't see it that deep.

And it's never going to lead me on.

I overthink it a bit.

She overthinks.
I'm not an overthinker.

At the end of the day, I would
encourage you

to experiment with
what the behaviour is

to be out of the friend zone.

Whatever that is, practise that.

So let's go to the decision.

Leah, you'll go first.

I feel like it has been a tough week
for me this week,

but I'm optimistic
and I'm very hopeful.

I see why we've been matched
in so many different ways,

and I'm happy and grateful
of being matched with her.

So I vote stay.

APPLAUSE

I know that I've been a little
bit difficult to deal with

because my head's been a little bit
all over the place.

You've been so patient

and still throwing yourself
into it 100%

and being completely vulnerable
with me,

even when I haven't been able
to give that back to you.

And so that I'm really grateful for.

Yeah, and I am hopeful
to see where it goes.

So for that reason I wrote stay.

APPLAUSE

Well done to both of you.

Stop overthinking everything.

I'm gonna try. Right?
Just be in the moment.

Thank you so much.
Thank you. Thank you.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Next up to the couch,
if we can have Anita and Paul.

APPLAUSE

Oof! Hey, guys. Hi. Hey, hey.

Hi. How are you both?

OK, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

OK. All right. Yeah.
Let's go to the wedding.

Anita, what were your thoughts?

There was a fun element
straight away.

We kind of laughed nearly all day,
didn't we?

Yeah. Yeah, it was a good day.

All right.

Paul, how was the day for you?

It was excitement, then laughter.

Conversation was very easy.

After talking for a while,

I thought there was potential
to build.

I thought, "OK, now it begins."

Now it begins.

All right, so you're looking forward
to the honeymoon?

Yeah. I thought we could build
from the wedding day.

Anita, are you looking forward
to the honeymoon?

Yeah, because he is a fun guy
to be around.

He did make me laugh nearly all day.

So, yeah, going forward,
I knew we could have a good time.

So as we go into the honeymoon,

you begin to investigate
shared values,

shared outlook on life.

What did you notice that
the two of you shared?

So much. So much? OK. Like what?

We've got the same values.

Same values?
Yeah. Family orientated.

OK. Same morals. All right.

It feels like things are good.

The outside stuff
matched us perfectly,

but when it comes to
the inner deep stuff,

the emotional and the attraction,

we couldn't be so far apart
on the scale.

Paul's a good talker,
but when you pin him down to talk,

he deviates around
the relationship side.

So are you really saying

Paul wasn't emotionally connecting
with you?

No connection,
no emotional connection.

No communication.

Yeah, just miles apart.

OK, OK.

To be fair, I didn't really
give Anita

anything emotional to grip on to.

All my other barriers
are down. Right.

All my cards are on the table.

And I think Anita knows that.
And she saw them.

I struggle to open up emotionally.
It's hard for me.

Paul, when you and I met
on a one-to-one,

I felt like you were quite open.

So I'm wondering,

was there something that you needed
in this interaction

to made you feel a little bit
more able to open up?

I can interact all day.
I can talk to you all day.

When it comes to affairs of the
heart with the opposite sex

in a relationship,
I'm a different beast.

That's when it feels
a bit difficult to do?

It feels extremely awkward
and difficult, yeah.

It sounds like on the honeymoon,
Anita, you were observing Paul

in terms
of his emotional availability.

You have placed him in this box,

but it sounds like you've
permanently placed him in the box

because everyone can become
emotionally available.

Did you feel like

because he's not bringing
that to the table now,

I want nothing to do with him?

No. I put him in that box

because he said he wasn't
in that headspace to be available.

He's on a self-discovery journey
and I'm on a love journey.

So until he's discovered himself

and found out what he actually
really needs in his life...

Are those two mutually exclusive?

They're on different paths.

Are they, Anita?

I have no idea.

What we're saying is
that the two can exist together,

so you can be on a journey
to find love

and you can also find yourself
on that journey as well.

Yeah. OK. All right.

Honeymoon is done.

Yep. You move into the apartments.

Ish.

Ish?

For about ten minutes.
What happened?

Went into the apartments,
and I just thought,

"I just don't know
if I can do this."

The thing that tipped me
over the edge,

it was like a make or break thing
in my head.

It was just like, "Paul, what's
the name of my two children?"

And he just went...

That was the communication thing.

And the lack of interest
in me was kind of like, well...

SHE SCOFFS

And was that because Paul
hadn't asked you

the names of your children?

I've spoke about my children.
I've actually said their names.

Right. The grandchildren as well,
I've spoke about them.

So you felt like Paul
just wasn't listening to you,

and because he wasn't listening,
he wasn't truly interested in you?

Yeah. OK.

In my brain, there's no real point
of pursuing it.

OK. It's interesting.

So, Paul, what's your take?

I have my children's tattooed names

and dates of birth on my arm
for a reason,

cos I can't remember nothing.

I talk constantly
and I put all my cards on the table

cos that's how I operate.

I volunteer the information.

How Anita operates is she likes
to be asked the information.

So...

At the end of the day,
why are you here?

To find love.

Well, what does that mean to you?

A partner in crime.

Somebody to walk alongside us.

Still be holding hands
when we're 80.

Somebody who's there for you.

Now, Paul, what do you want?

Invariably, I want to find
a partner, I want to find love.

I want to cry with somebody.
Laugh with someone.

So how is what you just said, Paul,
and what you just said, Anita,

different in terms of
what you're looking for?

Or is it the same?

I want love.

Is what you described
what Paul just described?

Yeah. OK, so what's the problem?

Ultimately, you both said

you want to have someone
who will support you.

And I think that's the place
to remain focussed on

is be each other's support.

Can we go to a decision?

Anita.

Paul's a lovely man.

He's the gentleman I asked for,

who he really is attentive.

I'm totally seeing
why you matched us up...

..but I still feel
that I'm missing something.

So for that reason...

..I wrote leave.

I'm missing something.

So for that reason...

..I wrote leave.

So, Paul?

Um...

For me, it's about building
that trust and respect,

building that emotional bond.

I'm sorry it wasn't happening
at the start.

I do apologise for that.

I feel a little bit inadequate
that I didn't provide that.

That's alright.

But it's the start of the journey.
I'm going to stay.

CHEERING

Yes, Paul!

So if one person writes stay,

then the couple must stay

and continue to work
on their relationship.

Now let me give you my opinion.

The miscommunication is
in the listening

and the asking of the questions.

If those are done,
this relationship becomes stronger.

So are you prepared
to give this a go?

Yep.

SMALL CHEER

APPLAUSE

Paul, are you prepared
to give this a go?

Yes.

CHEERING

SHE EXHALES

Paul, clearly, you
have homework to do here.

Yep. And, Anita, if you think about

what can you be doing to strengthen
the relationship.

Thank you, both. Thank you.
Thanks very much.

Thank you, guys. Thank you.

I wrote leave because
what's the point in wasting time?

I'm hoping that Paul takes the
expert's advice

and he has listened this time.

Doesn't listen much to me, so
hopefully he has a light bulb moment

and thinks,
"Yeah, I've got to try opening up."

Rejection is a very difficult thing
to cope with.

A little bit disappointed
that she doesn't want to try.

It's only been eight days. Really?

I'm hoping Anita can look
at the differences we've got

and work together to build
the marriage going forward.

Next up to the couch...

..we have Maeve.

CHEERING

Hiya. Hi, Maeve.
You all right? Yeah.

Lovely to see you. How are you?

Of course, Joe's not feeling
very well,

so we're just really keen to know

how the whole process
has been for you.

So take me back to the wedding.

What were your first impressions
of Joe?

I was a little bit intimidated.

Like, I couldn't
make eye contact with him.

He was looking at me,
and I was just like...

Like, I couldn't look at him.

What do you think was going on there
for you?

He's very good looking
and I'm just thinking, like,

"Oh, my God, he's not going
to find me attractive whatsoever."

Feels was quite sad
to hear you say that.

Because I've always got
that self doubt about us,

do you know what I mean?

Cos I always go on
like I'm loud and confident,

but I am quite, like, shy inside.

And when I saw him I thought,
"Nah, he's not gonna like us."

Sounded like you felt
a bit intimidated when you saw Joe.

Yeah.

And then you went on honeymoon?

Yeah. What happened?

I argued with him,
and he said something,

and I took it out of context
completely.

I could feel myself getting angry
with him,

and I had to take myself out
of the situation

because I thought,
"I don't want to be angry at you."

Do you think
because you felt quite intimidated

that made you think, "OK, let
me kind of ruffle feathers here?"

Yeah. I could feel myself
bubbling up, thinking,

"I'm gonna kick off.
I'm gonna kick off."

So you felt quite triggered
in that moment? Mm-hm.

OK.
I could feel myself liking him

and I was thinking,

"I don't want to go through
the heartache again.

"I don't want to go through
the shit times again."

I can't do it. I can't, I can't...

Like, I'm trying to be vulnerable
but I really struggle doing that.

I don't want people
to see that side.

And how did you resolve
the argument with Joe?

You know, when I said I want someone
to speak to us softly,

like, when I'm having bad moments,
that's exactly what he did.

My heart...

Aw!

And, like, I'm just so grateful
that that's what he did,

cos I know I'm not an easy person
to be around when I'm like that.

He's so nice. There's so much more
to him than what he looks like

He's absolutely incredible.

Yeah. I was getting in my head.

I was thinking, "Oh, my God,
I like him. I like him.

"What am I going to do here?"

I don't want to be nasty to him.

I'm feeling too much in my head

because I struggle liking people.

Because you feel that, what?

I don't know, I just feel like
it's always going to end bad.

I think he's too good for me.

I mean, it's quite heartbreaking
to hear you say that.

Yeah. That you feel
he's too good for you.

Well, he is.

No. No, he's not. No...

OVERLAPPING CHATTER

He adores her so much.

Maybe there might be things
that Joe could do differently

to help you to feel more secure.

He doesn't do anything wrong.
You know what I mean?

So Joe's perfect?

I'm not... No one's perfect.

If you do nothing wrong,
you're perfect.

Well, he's... Oh, I don't...

Well, he's perfect to me so far.

OK, but now let's talk about
your part in this.

Because you, Maeve,
are the classic self sabotager.

But that comes
from having low self-worth.

Low self-worth comes from
lots of places

but in particular
from horrible relationships

where we have been trounced on

time and time again.

And then you look at yourself
and you say, "You know what,

"I'm not worthy to have a great
relationship."

And we also place people on
pedestals

and that's what you're doing.

You're saying, "I'm not worthy
to be with someone that perfect."

You need to love on yourself more.

SHE SCOFFS

You do.

What do you do to love on yourself?

I don't know. Nothing.

Everyone's on a path here.

And so what I hope for you
in this path

is that you find your self-worth.

This is more important
than your relationship with Joe.

You understand this? Yeah.

OK.

Let's go to the decisions, Maeve.

Oh.

I've had a bit of a roller coaster
of emotions,

like, with this journey,

and I've been vulnerable
as much as I can be,

but obviously I want to be
a bit more vulnerable

and I want to give myself
a little bit more self-love.

That's the main one.

So what I have decided is
that I'm gonna stay.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

So hold on, hold on. Wait.

Joe obviously can't be here,

but he has let us know his decision.

And I can tell you he has decided
to stay.

That's good.

Well, Maeve, I hope you grow to love
yourself as much as we all love you.

Right, can I go now?
You can now.

Thanks, Maeve.

APPLAUSE

WHISPERING: Imagine if the fucker
said leave.

THEY GIGGLE

Next on the couch,
Nelly and Steven.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Hi. Hello. Hello, hello.

Welcome. Lovely to see
the two of you.

Lovely to see you.
So let's start from the beginning.

How was your wedding?

Wedding was amazing. Yeah?

Couldn't have asked
for a better day, to be honest.

I was a little bit concerned
when I turned around

and saw six guys walking towards me.

I thought,
"Hang on, where's the wife?"

Um... But yeah,
once I saw her being carried

in on a dolly and saw her face,
my first word was just, "Wow."

Yeah, that was nice.
Just like a portrait.

Oh, my God.
Like, this is going to be my wife.

Like, this is the person I'm going
to say "I do" to and give my all to.

So yeah, I was really
in that moment, then.

That's when I was like,
"OK, I'm ready."

And, Nelly,
what was your experience?

As soon as I saw Steven,
I just felt really calm.

I just got a really nice vibe
from him.

For me, it was really important

that my partner would value family
a lot

because I'm really close to mine.

So that was amazing to see.

Yeah. It was really, really special.
It was really nice.

Sounding absolutely amazing.

I'm very hopeful that you're going
to say the same thing

about the honeymoon.
Were sparks still flying?

Yeah. We had such an amazing time.
Yeah.

And where did you go?
To Jamaica.

We just literally just felt
that whole Jamaican aura.

We didn't bicker
and just got on so well.

We laughed a lot. Yeah, we just had
a really good time.

We get on, we have a similar
sense of humour,

we are really playful
with each other.

It's exactly what I wanted.

But I always just think, like,

well, when's something
going to go wrong?

It sounds like there's a part of you
that's thinking

this is too good to be true.

Yeah. Exactly that.

Kind of waiting
for something to happen,

and it freaks me out a little bit
that it hasn't.

Why aren't we arguing?
Why haven't you irritated me?

Why haven't I irritated you?

I end up trying to look
for something.

So, for example,

I love how affectionate you were
on our honeymoon.

Like... Yeah. And then I'd come
back to the apartment,

and I would kind of think,

"He's not given me a kiss
this morning."

And then I get in my head and think,

"Yeah, it's cos
he doesn't like you."

And then he will give me a kiss
and I think,

"Oh, that was nice.
He does like me."

And it's just constant.

And I even feel saying this now,
I'm thinking

"Oh, my God. This is going to give
him the ick

"and it's going to push him away."

It's just constant.

And I even feel saying this
now I'm thinking,

"Oh, my God. This is going to give
him the ick

"and it's going to push him away."

Do you know why you do that? No.

Your last three relationships,
how did those end?

They all cheated on me. Right.

So they betrayed your trust.

Whenever our trust is betrayed
over and over again,

we develop what's called
a hypervigilance for red flags.

Because you have to learn
to protect yourself. OK.

So you now are in this mode
of self-protection.

But you know what the problem is

when you're just looking
for red flags?

You don't see the green ones.

You miss all the beautiful
green ones. Yeah.

And so the best advice
I can give on this

is become hypervigilant
about green flags.

OK. Retrain your brain.

And that's how you do it.

Obviously on the reassurance,

that comes a little bit harder
for me.

I get frustrated myself
cos I know I should give a lot more.

Exactly. Yeah.
I was going to say this.

You have to actually say it,

and it's very important
for you to be consistent.

And what you know is that
you do have to reassure

and you have to do that
consistently.

And, Nelly,
at the dinner party yesterday,

we saw you get quite emotional...
Yeah.

..when it came to the honesty box

and you worrying
about being too much.

I just kind of worry
that if I show too much emotion...

In my last relationship,
I would be too emotional sometimes.

Or if I get tearful, it was,

"Oh, for God's sake,
you're crying again."

Sometimes I think I shouldn't
give those emotions

cos what if that happens again?

And then, yeah, the tears
kept leaking from my face.

I really applaud the fact
that you did that,

and I could see that
wasn't an easy thing for you to do.

I would like to also say, though,

that it is really important for you
to be kinder to yourself,

and I would encourage you
to acknowledge that, actually,

it's all right to show emotion.

It says a lot more
about your ex-partners

that they weren't able to hold that.

What I'm seeing here
is that Steven can.

He can be there for you.
And. we're seeing that right now.

Yeah.

I feel it.

I do. Thank you.

Sorry. Tell me. What are you like?

Trying to poke you in the eye.

APPLAUSE

Steven, how was it for you to hear
Nelly be so vulnerable yesterday?

In a weird sense, it's pleasing.

Obviously, I never want to see
the person I'm with, like, cry.

It shows that she cares.

It shows that she's willing
to be vulnerable.

But I've kept little memories
and little moments to then

on those random days
where maybe she's feeling

a little bit too much
in her head

to be like, "Well, look, here's
what this week's meant to me.

"Here's our week
in a small little bag."

The reassurance I'll give,
I like to do it through action

and not purely through words
all the time.

She walked in the other day

and I had a little bit
and I thought,

picked her up, gave her a kiss
and sort of...

Tackled me to the floor,
but I loved it. That's what I want.

It's fun. It's playful.
I want stuff like that.

You two sound like you're falling
for each other.

You can definitely say you're on
the path for that

cos there's been nothing wrong.

So you're on the path?
Yeah, you're on the path. Yeah. 100%

I am. I'm just gonna have to say it.

I probably would say I feel like I'm
a little bit more ahead of Steven.

And I'll agree to that, cos she's
allowed herself to be vulnerable.

So she's taken
those extra couple of steps.

I haven't yet. So until I make
that step and jump ahead,

then we can start walking,
like, hand-in-hand again.

SHE LAUGHS

Can we go to a decision?

Well, I am really grateful
to have been matched

with you in this process
and I love being around you.

I am looking forward
to doing this journey with you,

and I really want to know
a little bit more about you.

Um, so I put stay.

CHARLENE: Stay.

APPLAUSE

And, Steven what's, your decision?

It's leading in the right direction
for me

and I'm saying I'm fully committed
to opening up a little bit more.

But, yeah, I'm fully in.

I've been fully in
since I see you in that dolly.

So, yeah, for me, it's 100% stay

with a little smiley face.

I put smiley as well. See?

I think the two of you are just made
for each other.

I'm so excited
to see where this goes,

and we wish you all the best
for the rest of the week.

Thank you. I appreciate that.
Yeah, thank you so much.

Thank you. Woo!

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

I'm really glad that, actually,
Paul highlighted what I'm doing

because I knew I was doing it,

but I didn't know how to stop it.

Thank you.

100% I'm going to be focusing
on the green flags more.

I feel better. Yeah,
I feel more reassured already.

Next time...

Hello.

..it's experts week.

Do I have permission
to remove your robe?

While some couples
lean into physical intimacy...

Oh! I hope you know where the key
is for that.

..Anita's patience with Paul
wears even thinner.

Surely you should know
what you want by now.

Are you expecting me to be fully
committed after two weeks?

I need to know
where this relationship's going.

No, I'm not hanging around.

And an unwanted interference
in one couple's marriage...

Other people don't need
to know my shit,

cos you'll see a side of me
which you probably won't like.

I'm not having you say that

I was trying to come between your
relationship. I'm not.

Couldn't give a flying fuck,
if I'm completely honest.

I'm here for my relationship.

..causes two husbands to collide.

Telling people
just basically fuck off.

You're not part of this
relationship, so see yourself out.

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