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This programme contains strong language, scenes of sexual nature

and nudity, and scenes with discussions of self-harm

I'm nervous. I'm going to take it one step at a time.

In a world saturated with sex... I'm absolutely petrified.

...more young adults than ever are living without it.

The thought of having sex with someone... Scares me.

It gives me the ick. I'm missing out.

Terrified. Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching.

Embarrassing. All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong.

Can you point to the outer labia?

Nope.

Now... Oh, my God!

...12 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy.

Social media, porn, dating apps.

There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom.

Use it by stimulating the area. LAUGHTER

They'll be guided by experts...

You see yourself as... Repulsive.

...to explore all aspects of intimacy...

...and maybe even have sex with a trained therapist...

Do you want to put a condom on?

...or each other.

Get a room, guys.

THEY SHRIEK

I really do need to change my life.

Who will be ready...

Desperate times call for desperate measures.

...to go all the way?

Ahh.

Over the past few days on Virgin Island...

I feel so connected to you. Can I grab your butt?

...learning the dynamics of dating...

This is only phase three?

LAUGHTER

What do we do? You have to stare into my eyes.

...Led to Callum and Katie becoming closer.

Callum, you make me giddy!

Tegan... You ready to look at my ass?

Mm-hm. ..found self-acceptance in surrogate partner therapy...

I'm definitely a lesbian.

I think that's the best I've ever felt.

...and Bertie... You can kind of be all the way up.

And you can use my hips. Yes.

...seems to be getting over his inhibitions.

All that thrusting has made me hurt my bollocks.

Now the group face their biggest challenge yet.

Baring all. Nudity is really the phase that people dread.

There are so many negative messages around bodies

that the thought of, like,

looking at yourself in the mirror can be really daunting.

Noticing if you feel like you want to continue getting undressed.

Lack of body confidence gets in the way of sex.

Learning how to relax around nudity is

an essential step in a sexual connection.

Day seven. Almost the halfway point on Virgin Island...

Oh, no.

Oh, my gosh. ..and for many in the group,

their biggest challenge yet. It's time to face and conquer

the thing that may have been holding you back,

as the next phase is nudity. Please come to this workshop

in as few clothes as you feel comfortable wearing.

This is what I've been most scared for.

It's a crucial stage. Morning. Morning.

What happens today could

define progress for the rest of the retreat.

Have you read your letter?

Yeah. I was hoping we wouldn't be doing this one.

I would like to feel less shameful, anxious,

about going fully undressed.

I just don't think I would

ever be able to do it. How are you feeling?

I'm freaking out. Yeah.

I don't want to do this.

I really hate my body,

and I really hate what I look like, so I'm really scared.

My whole body just now feels really tense.

Good morning, Bertie.

Is it a good morning? Really? LAUGHTER

Even when, like, I've worn a chequered shirt in public,

because I'm worried that the bits, like, near

the buttons expose the skin, I've always worn a vest under that.

That's how self-conscious I've been about my body.

I'm going to put my best sports bra on.

Oh, I just want to hide!

You all right?

Er, as I'll ever be. Yeah.

In front of the experts and their peers...

Here we go, everyone.

...today's workshop is an opportunity for the virgins...

Good morning. Hey, guys. Hello, hello.

...to prove how much confidence they have or haven't gained

at the retreat.

Welcome to the nudity phase of the course.

There are so many negative messages out there

that make us feel horrible about our bodies,

and we really want to help you change that.

Because at the end of the day, if you want to have sex,

you will need to be naked in front of your partner

and that can be very awkward if you don't

feel good about your body. So in a moment,

we're going to start going up to

the mirror one by one and then disrobe.

We believe the more

that they're willing to reveal in this workshop,

the more it can be rewarding, because that barrier of, like,

"Oh, no, I've never done this before," finally is gone.

Learning how to see their bodies as beautiful,

how to take a compliment, and how to say, "This is my body."

Who knows they want to walk first?

For 22-year-old Millie,

body image has been a long-standing challenge.

Hello.

I've never been at peace with my body.

Over the past few years I've just been, like,

that should be toned or that should be slim.

Take your time, sweetheart. It's OK.

Take your time.

And I think

if I'm not liking my own body, how can anyone else?

Yeah.

APPLAUSE

I love your body.

It's OK. You can let the feelings come up.

You can take it in.

I don't really like my boobs.

I just feel like they look weird.

My boobs are very similar to yours.

This serves me very well.

SHE LAUGHS

This is my body.

This is my body.

Who's ready?

Callum.

Go on, Cal.

Last time someone's probably seen me naked

is probably, hmm... I don't know.

Maybe when my mum walked in on me while I was changing.

I can't think of any time

that I've been naked in front of someone.

Whenever you're ready.

Anything you want to share about your body?

I've got quite strong shoulders.

Can I take these off?

Oh, please. Yeah? Yeah, I didn't know you were going to.

Yay! You only live once.

Ooh!

SHE LAUGHS

Now you can say this is my whole body.

This is my body.

CHEERING

Woo! LAUGHTER

One by one, each group member steps up...

I'd like to be more muscular.

Can I say you have, like, the perfect proportion.

...to face their reflection.

Can you look in the mirror and say, "This is my body."

This is my body.

While some have the confidence to bare all...

The first thing that I thought was,

"Damn, she's fucking hot."

LAUGHTER

This is my body. I'm confident by myself.

This is my body.

It's my body. It's all mine.

It's my body.

There's mine.

Others can only reveal so much.

The power in your body is very attractive.

Ed, would you like to come up?

I don't like being nude around people.

Mostly down to, like, my scars and my disability.

My disability is Poland syndrome.

I've got a smaller hand,

bent fingers, no knuckle.

Whenever you're ready, you can disrobe.

I don't particularly like any part of my body.

Certain bits stand out more. Scars from surgeries.

A lot of stuff I've done to myself.

My first relationship

fell apart quite, quite badly for me.

I was self-harming.

I've come to terms with the reason I did it

and although people say "no-one will notice",

to me they will.

You don't hear about a lot of males doing it. Yeah.

Um, it's quite a difficult thing.

How would you feel if I just touched your scars with some love?

OK, OK. Yeah.

And see if you can look at yourself. Yeah.

Let's take one more second and you can just say,

"This is my body."

This is my body.

The majority of the group have faced their own reflection.

Bertie, would you like to come up? Bertie is one of the last.

I don't like the way I look without my clothes on.

I tend to not look in the mirror because it's...

...I don't think it's a pretty sight.

Take a moment and look at me, OK?

Yeah.

When you're ready, just a glimpse at the mirror

and if you need to come back to my eyes...

Yeah, good job. You're doing it great.

Can you say, "This is my body."

This is my body.

Katie, would you like to step up?

I've always hated my looks and my body.

Back in school, I really struggled with my confidence.

I don't think there's anything about me that I like.

Especially looks-wise, I really just don't like it.

Um, I was always the monster.

Um, I got bullied really badly,

spat at, had things thrown at me.

Um, social media pages made of me

where they've edited my face onto, like, different,

like, animals and stuff. Um, yeah,

I've always been insecure and just hated the way I look, so.

Thank you.

Hmm.

APPLAUSE

OK, brave woman.

Yeah. You're doing great.

Do you want to start and just say what you see?

Wow. So you want to take a minute and actually see

if you can bring some loving eyes to your body?

Yeah. It's OK.

Do you want to just say, "This is my body."

This is my body.

APPLAUSE

Woo!

I feel like you are the bravest people on the planet.

One more step into self-reclamation and self-love.

Hi, guys. Hi. Hello. Oh, my God, you guys have clothes on.

I know! Who are you?

How's everyone feeling? Terrible. Terrible.

Terrible. I'm just not happy

about revealing my scars and stuff. I really never noticed them.

Also, scars are cool.

I have so many which I love on my body.

I'm, like... CLICKS FINGERS

...and they look sick.

I don't mean like accidental or surgery.

I mean my self-harm scars.

My scars from self-harm and stuff,

I don't think I'll ever be kind of secure with them.

They're kind of a memory of a worse time, really.

Fair play to everyone that went naked. Yeah.

I wish I could have done that.

My boobs would have sagged down to my knees if I took my bra off.

Have you heard that song?

♪ Do your boobs hang low?

♪ Do they wobble to and fro? ♪ Yeah.

♪ Da da-da-da... ♪ Can you tie them in a knot?

# Can you tie them in a bow? ♪

That was really hard.

I didn't enjoy it at all.

It was just mental games in my head. I didn't want to do it, but I knew

I had to, to just take this process one step further.

You're doing really well. This is the phase

that I've been scared about the most,

and now we're in it and I just feel like shit. I know.

Are you staying over here, Bertie, or are you going over there?

I'm... was going to stay over here.

I don't want to leave you on your own.

Sometimes I like being in my own company, but... Yeah, no,

I get that.

As long as it's not, like, an awkward silence. Yeah.

It's lunchtime on Virgin Island...

I wanted to be a skinny legend. Goal!

Your weight is the least interesting thing about you.

...and for some of the group,

the nudity phase has brought up deep-seated emotions.

But it's the first thing you see about me.

No. No, it's not. It's not. It's really not.

Your face is the first thing you see. It's people...

And you're also beautiful and your body is great as well. Yes.

So it's like... it's clearly. And your personality is top tier. Yeah.

Today we started the nudity phase and so many of them found a mirror.

For the experts, one person

in the workshop particularly caught their attention.

I was super proud of Katie. When she was a child in school

people called her a monster, so for her to come up and to be only

in her underwear was extremely brave.

Yeah, I'm really looking forward today

to checking in and saying, hey, what's happening here?

She is indicating some deeper emotions with regards

to how she sees herself and her self-worth.

Mm-hm. With Katie's past still shaping her self-image,

she's meeting clinical therapist Abby

to explore what lies beneath.

Everyone I watch on TV or on social media,

they're all these beautiful, skinny model-looking people.

I'm sat here and I'm the complete opposite.

I'm terrified to be naked in front of someone.

I feel like they're going to look at my body

and just pick apart every single bad thing,

like I do.

Hi. Come on in.

My biggest fear if things carry on and I don't lose my virginity

is honestly not being able to have my own family.

I want to hear from your perspective,

what are the things that you want out of this work?

I really, really would like to be more confident.

I feel like I've got zero body confidence

and it's bringing my daily life down. Mm-hm.

I got badly bullied, like,

throughout the whole of secondary school. Mm-hm.

What have they made comments about?

Just, like, how big I am, how ugly I am.

Do you find yourself big or ugly?

You do?

Yeah. I've always hated the way I look. Mm-hm.

And I always put myself down.

Um, I don't like anything

about myself, inside or out... OK. ...so I really do struggle.

Yeah.

What do we know about bullies? Horrible people.

Why is their voice that important to you?

I just feel like because they just align,

like, their thoughts and my thoughts,

they're just... they're the same.

So if I'm thinking it

and they're saying it, then it must be the truth. Mm-hm.

Because you see yourself as... Repulsive.

How does that feel, hearing that out loud?

Sad.

Yeah. Yeah.

You're the furthest thing from repulsive.

You're... you're a human being.

I don't see that, though.

What do you see?

A monster?

Yeah. And I've felt like this for so long.

I genuinely don't think

I've ever looked at myself and been, like, even, yeah, half decent.

Like, not even like a "ooh, we look cute today"?

No.

Change can occur in incremental steps.

Is there any part of your body you appreciate?

My hands.

Take it a step further. Your nails are done.

Yeah. They look really pretty. Can you appreciate the fact

that I like taking care of my hands and my nails

because it makes me feel...

Makes me feel good. OK.

I think the more you practise it and the more you give yourself

that permission to get out of that old language...

It's going to take time. And also, it's a practice.

All right?

Thank you.

This phase is the hardest

for me just because my own body actually terrifies me.

We just took one extra step today, so I'm just hoping

that I can accept it and accept myself.

How was your one-to-one?

Um, I cried a little bit... Aw. ...when I had to bring up,

like, all the old bullying and stuff, but

she just said, say nice things to yourself,

accept all the compliments and... yeah. Really good that you...

Glad you had a good one. Mm. Yeah. If you're happy,

we're happy. Yeah. You look beautiful, by the way.

You're, like, your skin's really glowing.

Thanks. Maybe it's like all the vitamin D

that you're getting every day.

SHE LAUGHS

Hello, mate. Go aim for it, Bertie.

I've tried this on the first day, actually.

Like Katie, this morning's workshop

brought Bertie's body insecurities into sharp focus.

I wouldn't do that. Oh, OK. What do you want...

What do you want to train? I have no idea. Probably the arms.

Bring it behind your head.

That's... that's good. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Go on, Bertie.

BERTIE LAUGHS

Actually, might lie down.

I see myself as very overweight

and not attractive at all on a looks front.

Whenever, if ever, I have sex for the first time,

it would probably be horrendously awkward,

and, yeah, the thought of me having sex

is even making me laugh

because I can just imagine it being so bad.

When Bertie came up to the mirror

it is such a hard step for him. He was really proud of himself.

It was a huge deal for him.

Bertie is one of the least experienced in the group.

He's never kissed a girl.

He just needs to connect with his body.

Yeah, I'm really excited to see what we need

to do to feel more connected. It's so foundational

to have body acceptance, and it makes progress possible.

Progress for Bertie could eventually mean having sex

with surrogate partner therapist Kat...

Hi, good afternoon. ..if he can overcome his body issues.

How did you feel about the workshop? When I was wearing my boxers

it was one of the biggest things I've ever done in my life.

I have, um... I have quite

an insecurity about...

...the size.

Hmm. OK. That's what it is.

To build confidence, Kat introduces an exercise

focused on boundaries and consent called "may I, will you."

Um, may I caress your arm?

OK. Yes.

Can I do it on both hands?

No, because that was the ask,

so we want to stay with what you asked. Yeah.

How did that feel? Felt very nice.

May I

suck your dick for five minutes?

HE LAUGHS

Er, no.

Yeah, yeah. "No" is a great answer.

Yeah. Do you want to say a little more?

I think we're not at that stage. Yeah, good job,

good owning, you know.

HE CHUCKLES

But I'm not ruling anything out.

Um,

may I kiss you on the cheek?

Yes.

Thank you.

Will you...

...I feel like I just want you to, like, sit on me.

Er, I've got quite a big bottom, and I don't want to crush you, so.

It's really, really important

that Bertie feels so much more confident with himself,

with his body, and I don't

think he'll feel safe being himself in intimacy

without a lot of permission. And that's something

that surrogate partner therapy can really give.

Just lay back.

All the way. Are you all right?

Yeah. Yeah. I'm all right. OK.

HE CHUCKLES

And guess what?

What? You're not too heavy.

Thank you. Oh.

OK. Um, I have an idea in mind.

It's something that has never happened to me before.

Um...

I was thinking, may I have my first kiss with you?

I've not kissed anyone romantically,

which at 24 is a very strange thing to say

when that is the very, like,

almost the first kind of step in a relationship

and I haven't even done that.

There's no shame. OK. All right. And don't...

I don't want any tongues or anything like that. No. Perfect.

We're just going to do... Just normally. Yep. It's our flip.

And you don't have to, like... You can just kind of relax.

OK. OK.

I don't want them to be too dry or anything.

No, don't worry about it. Right.

OK. OK.

Good. That was my first kiss.

You did great.

Wow. That was fantastic!

That was... Yeah.

That... that. Yeah, um...

Thank you. Thank you so much.

As Bertie's confidence grows...

There we go.

...he feels able to go further.

Mm. Also, side note,

I can tell just from under your pants

that you don't have to worry about size, just so you know.

What? Well, it's, er, it's... it's...

I'll say... It's very stiff at the moment,

but when it's not, that's the problem.

It's OK. You're a grower, not a shower.

HE LAUGHS

Yeah, fair enough.

Very, very well.

Thank you very much, Kat. See you. Love you, bye.

I am feeling absolutely incredible.

I feel like the stress has been evaporated.

The next session I could potentially be getting

my clothes off, maybe even fully naked.

We're making very good progress.

It's day two of the nudity phase on Virgin Island.

We're halfway through now. Yeah.

I can't even think what's going to happen today.

It should be easier. Never say that!

You say that every time. Never say that, Alex!

Building on yesterday's body acceptance,

today's workshop is designed to take the group further...

Oh, my God!

...into more explicit territory.

We have giant genitals on display because we want

to just normalise every different kind of genital.

Welcome.

I don't know where to look.

This workshop is all about getting familiar

with your genitals and to understand where the pleasure centres are

and how to start to get in touch with them.

Any feelings that come up with it as you..?

Yeah, very uncomfortable.

Mm-hm. Yeah. I'm less uncomfortable,

it's more like intrigued, kind of thing.

I feel more comfortable with this side.

Hence why I'm sat here!

First thing I want you to notice

is they all look very different, depending.

We want to invite Jason up. Oh, my God.

If they want to have sex... Didn't even notice.

...the virgins are going to have

to get better acquainted with real live genitals.

I have touched, like,

a penis. Couldn't see it.

It was dark.

I think I'm comfortable with female anatomy

and male anatomy. I mean, maybe men

are a bit more gross, but...

I've pecked a lad before and that's as far as any

physical contact has ever gone

with me and another lad.

The first thing you'll see is that I am circumcised,

so my foreskin doesn't cover the head or the glans of my penis.

This ridge here, where the head meets the shaft,

this is called the corona.

And this spot here is the frenulum.

And this is also very, very sensitive.

Thanks for going on this tour with me.

I don't like this.

Kat, would you like to come join us?

I've watched pornography and I think the vaginas that I've seen,

I worry that, you know,

mine's not normal.

I think I know what I'm talking about,

but truthfully, I've probably got no bloody idea.

All right.

I obviously know what the female anatomy looks like,

but, um, I wouldn't know where to go, put it that way.

Here is my vulva.

Here's the outer labia.

And then in here you have the inner labia.

And here's the clitoral hood.

And then there's the clitoris.

I don't want to see other people naked.

It doesn't come naturally to everyone.

I don't feel comfortable.

Also, where it feels good to be touched can change

a lot within a sexual experience.

So it's just important to be able to communicate

with your partners about what feels good.

Well done.

APPLAUSE Woo!

Any feelings that come up? I was uncomfortable at first,

but I feel like I've learned a lot. Do you feel

that your comfort level changed a little bit?

A little bit. I still don't know where to look,

but. It is overwhelming,

like, don't get us wrong.

Cheers, guys. Thank you. Bye. Bye. Bye.

That whole thing, I hated.

It made me really uncomfortable just from start to end.

I'm glad they showed a variety of different...

Yeah, that's... that's what I think.

It's the first time I've ever seen a vulva up close

and I rather enjoyed it.

I'd be lying if I said it wasn't weird,

but I actually found it quite useful.

How did you find it, Bertie?

All of a sudden I've gone off a Subway Mega Meat.

Hahaha!

So what did you think about the naked pictures?

I'm not going to lie. From far away, it looked like trees.

It is some kind of wood, isn't it? So. Yeah!

LAUGHTER

Nice.

I don't know if this is just a male thing, but it just seems

like vaginas have got a lot more going on.

I also know now I'll never fully judge

a guy for not finding the clit. There was a couple, I was like,

I need to find it as well.

I was like, OK, cool. Got it.

Thank you to Jason and Kat. Bless them.

I feel, like, a lot more confident moving forward.

It's not just the workshop that is giving Will confidence...

Feeling that touch land in your body.

...as Aisha takes steps to help him

with his fears of premature ejaculation.

What level of arousal did you feel? Really pleasurable.

But, like, I wasn't shooting over free, really. OK.

Meanwhile, Joy is building

up her techniques to overcome vaginismus.

Touch your perineum. Yeah. And if you kind of,

like, come up from the perineum

a little bit, your finger will dip in.

Yeah. Yeah.

What are you noticing as you're doing that?

There is no discomfort.

I didn't clench up in fear,

and I was able to experience a little bit of pleasure.

I've shown, like, myself that I can do it,

even if it's just for that one little thing.

So see how next session goes.

As Joy's confidence builds...

It's more of a practical session today.

Yeah. ..so too does Tegan's work

with surrogate partner, therapist Risdon.

She's showing me her vulva.

This is the vagina. That is hot.

As things escalate from looking...

...into touch.

Hello.

Come sit and we'll chat. Absolutely.

We had talked about doing genital touch today. Yes.

How are you feeling about that? Any..? A little bit of nerves.

Yeah. But which is natural. But no, mainly excited.

Let's get undressed. Cool.

Ooh. Do you mind unzipping me? OK.

OK, great.

I've never been one-on-one with

a woman in a bedroom or anything like that.

Can you pull this off? Yes, I can.

There.

I don't know how to initiate the physical touch myself.

There we go.

And I want that sexual,

romantic, intimate connection.

Start pulling these off.

Mm-hm.

But I don't know how to get to that stage.

How's that? Yeah, yeah. Yeah? Good. OK.

The first thing I'm going to have you do... Mm-hm.

You're looking at me and that's great.

I'm going to have you look at my pussy. Mm-hm.

Notice any feelings that are coming up for you.

It's hot.

THEY LAUGH

I would like you to, with the backs of your fingernails,

run your hands up my thighs, very slowly.

Mm-hm. Go super slow.

Like this? Mm-hm.

See if you can see my vaginal opening.

Mm-hm. Can you see it? Yeah. And with this finger...

So don't go in, but just put the finger,

like, right on the bottom of the hole.

Mm-hm.

Yeah.

That's nice. Mm-hm.

Mm. That's nice.

All right. I'm going to come cuddle you.

I was nervous about giving pleasure, but,

yeah, I feel like a lot of those nerves have dissipated now.

Mm.

RISDON HICCUPS

Hiccup.

Yeah!

Do you know what?

You fingered me and I got the hiccups!

Guess we've got to get back up, haven't we? Mm-hm.

Oh, I'm buzzing! It was the first time

I had my fingers inside another woman.

I feel like a whole new person. You do? Yeah. Yeah!

I don't think I've felt happier being on the island right now

than right now.

I feel it's big. I feel it's big.

It's a massive step forward for me.

Bye. See you. Bye.

That's a big barrier that I've had in my way

and I feel like I'm a big step closer to losing my virginity.

The sun is shining on Virgin Island...

I hope you know which way we're going.

No. We're going down here.

...and for the last afternoon of the nudity phase,

clothing is optional.

We asked a group to take nude photos in pairs.

Who's going first? I'll take your picture.

Go on. All right.

It's all about the good shots, Jason. You do you.

This is all about having fun.

Oh, my God. Here we go.

The goal is to help them feel relaxed around their bodies

and feel comfortable with nudity.

For some of the group... There we go!

...improved body confidence is on full display.

That's it. Yeah. Ready?

I've never felt this sexy in my life.

Please say you didn't laugh until after.

That just felt empowering.

And I was like, "Massive slay to me."

Smile.

I thought there was some power there,

some sort of strength, and I think maybe I hadn't seen myself

in that light before.

Good.

I'm getting sexy vibes.

Not bad.

OK, take the bra off. Woo!

I don't mind being nude in, like, the ocean.

And I wanted to prove to myself I could at least do it.

Three, two, one.

SHE EXCLAIMS

But for others, baring all for the camera is still a step too far.

Let's try this, I guess.

HE GROANS

Oh! Shit. Not that.

That's how you do it.

I didn't feel like getting naked today.

And I'm glad that Callum told me

he wasn't going to get his willy out

because, after the morning workshop,

I think we've seen enough of those for one day.

After a tough time in yesterday's mirror workshop...

Oh, that's cute.

...Katie's showing tentative signs of progress.

I wish I could show you. It looks really good.

I know, I'd love to be able to see!

Your boobs look so good.

It's just been a bit scary.

But these little steps are making me, like, open up.

CAMERA WHIRS

Oh! That's it.

Like, Katie... This is going to be very underwhelming,

I'm telling you now,

cos, like, I'm still in clothes, so...

I ain't getting undressed here.

...the nudity phase has exposed some of Ed's body insecurities.

I'm just glad this phase is nearly over.

Anything's easier than this one.

My scars and my disability, there's certain things,

especially with intimacy,

where I do feel like it's going to

negatively impact it.

The scars are embarrassing. It makes even, like, just cuddling

with someone a little bit more awkward.

It feels like I kind of stalled in life.

I feel a bit like a kid, to be honest.

Having built up a relationship with Ed at the retreat...

Hello!

How are you? Better than this morning. That's good.

...expert Kat feels she can relate to his body issues

from her own personal experience.

I noticed that Ed had scars,

and that's something he was really insecure about coming in,

and I also do.

And so it felt really powerful to, like, share that space.

I think something that's really important

for you to practise is, like, really coming to people as equals. OK.

And I saw your scars.

It was confronting for me because it's a part of myself

that I still can feel so much shame around.

I get that. But when I see them on you,

I don't have any judgment. Like, I only feel so much

love and compassion

and it creates more of a sense of care.

It just felt really comforting to...

...not feel alone with it, if that makes sense.

Do you feel comfortable taking off your shirt?

Yeah.

I'm going to take my bra off too. OK.

KAT EXHALES

OK. How are you feeling now?

A little bit nervous.

Yeah. Just start by looking and breathing.

And is it OK if I touch you?

Yeah.

Will you touch me also?

Can we sit down? Yeah.

Will you touch my scars while I touch yours?

Yes? Does that feel OK? Yeah. Yeah? OK.

I have got one on my chest as well.

The worst one is the one down on my arm.

That one. Mm-hm. That's what made me stop.

Mm-hm.

I'm always worried about people touching mine

and not knowing how it feels to them.

So, with you, I feel like I can be vulnerable as well.

And, like, I'm not alone.

Am I all right to touch your face?

Thank you, Kat.

Knowing that we've both got scars,

and possibly for similar reasons,

I didn't feel any, like, body issues at all -

I completely forgot that I have any -

and I felt really good about myself.

Go, Jason! Woo!

This morning I was like... I looked in the mirror,

I went, "Katie, your eyebrows look really good today."

That's brilliant. And also, I feel like

after yesterday's exercise, that's what you need.

And obviously it's all positive things, so I'm, like, clocked on.

It's all mental.

While Katie makes tentative progress on her body image...

Jason, your hair looks lovely!

Yay!

...the experts want her to take the plunge

and move on from her past.

I'm going to be seeing Katie today, and the things that people have said

to her about her body and her looks are truly destroying

of a person's sense of dignity.

I would love to bring Katie to the mirror, if she feels ready,

and to start to find something

that brings her joy would be, I think, a big step. Yeah.

Aisha plans to revisit the mirror exercise one last time.

Social media is really hard for bullying.

People will just constantly

pick you apart and make you feel more insecure.

I've had a lot of things posted on me.

I was scrolling through once and someone had asked,

"Who's the ugliest girl in school?"

and this person had written my full name.

That was really difficult.

Hello!

And just feeling which piece of clothing wants to come off.

Um...

...let's do my top. OK, great.

I really don't like this. I feel like...

...I've got so much bad, like, skin and stuff,

so much hatred for myself. Mm-hm.

See if you can remember being with your body and not hating it.

That must have been so nice.

Young Katie did not care

what others thought or what others said.

Yeah. And she didn't hate herself. Yeah.

Sometimes, Katie, what happens is

when we live with people who torment us,

we can actually carry their voice

in our head and we think it's ours... Mm-hm.

...but it's not ours.

Noticing if you feel like you want to continue getting undressed

or if you feel good as you are.

Um, I could take the shorts off. OK.

This is so weird. OK.

What's happening now? I'm sick of just hating every part

and just looking at the bad parts of myself.

How do you want your body to feel?

I wish that I would have let go

of nasty things created of me on social media.

Yeah. I've screenshotted it and I've still got

the pictures on my phone from many, many years ago. Wow!

Cos I like to look back at them and make myself feel bad again.

What would letting it go have looked like?

Not even thinking about it ever again

because they don't deserve it... Yeah.

...and I don't deserve it. Yeah.

After years of criticism shaping how Katie sees herself...

Would you like to do it dressed or undressed? Dressed.

OK, great.

...now Aisha challenges her to push back.

My hair. Ah-ha.

It's so dead,

but it grows really quickly.

My stomach. I hate how big it big is,

but it fuels me every single day.

You're rocking right now, Katie.

My boobs are very droopy,

but I feel like they suit my body. Yeah!

I want to be a mum so bad.

So, yeah, milk. Yeah.

Comfort for my babies. Wow. Beautiful.

Thank you so much. See you later, Katie. See you later.

I really loved how relaxed and comfortable I felt.

This new growth and self-exploration

that I've found has just changed my entire life.

I would love to be able

to just carry that on, so I'm really happy.

As the sun sets on the nudity phase...

Everybody, come on over!

...the experts have gathered to give the group one final opportunity

to shed their inhibitions.

You've just finished the nudity phase

and we are so proud of you.

So many of you got naked and felt a more comfortable

relationship with your body and...

As, like, a culmination and celebration of this phase,

we all take a little group swim together.

You can undress to your level of comfort.

I will be going full naked.

Who's brave enough?

CHEERING He's thinking about it!

Bertie, you're taking your shoes off!

One, two, three!

ALL YELP

Woo!

CHEERING

When we jumped in the sea naked, it was so freeing.

The nudity phase is awesome.

I have absolutely no idea why I did that,

but, hey, I'm absolutely glad that I did.

It is definitely one of the biggest things I've ever done.

I feel like I've ended the phase on a high.

I've learned how to be a little bit nicer to myself.

Every single person is different

and every single body is different.

It's crazy to think about,

but right here, right now, yeah, I feel like I could do anything.

Next time...

Hit my hand with the dick.

LAUGHTER

...things get hands on...

You can put your finger inside.

I'm just curious!

...as a special guest arrives for the playtime phase...

Mmm.

...and a fantasy... Get on your knees. ..becomes reality.

Good boy.