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This programme contains strong language, scenes of sexual nature and nudity

I'm nervous! I'm going to take it one step at a time.

In a world saturated with sex...

I'm absolutely petrified.

...more young adults than ever are living without it.

The thought of having sex with someone... Scares me.

It gives me the ick. I'm missing out.

Terrified. Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching.

Embarrassing. All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong.

Can you point to the outer labia?

Nope.

Now... Oh, my God!

...12 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy.

Social media, porn, dating apps.

There are so many negative messages, and we can help them blossom.

Use it by stimulating the area. They'll be guided by experts...

You see yourself as...? Repulsive.

...to explore all aspects of intimacy,

and maybe even have sex with a trained therapist.

Do you want to put a condom on?

Or each other.

Get a room, guys!

THEY ALL SQUEAL

I really do need to change my life.

Who will be ready...

Desperate times call for desperate measures.

...to go all the way?

MAN MOANS

We're going to find out what your core desires are.

The last few days on Virgin Island...

The most important thing is to feel wanted.

...saw the group tune in to their turn-ons.

Turn-ons, especially from the more sexual aspects,

should not be shared in front of everybody.

After initial reservations...

And then you want to line up

so that your dick is connected to my pussy.

Bertie threw himself in.

If I am going on this island to be the same old person,

what am I doing here?

Alex took a big step forward...

Did you feel me fully aroused?

Yeah. ..in overcoming performance anxiety.

I felt really good.

And some of the group took their first tentative steps...

We're doing touch work completely led by you.

...into surrogate partner therapy.

How did that feel? It felt good. It felt really nice.

OK, great.

I feel so connected to you.

However, the next phase will test the group...

Oh, my God, I got goose bumps.

...in a whole new way.

Dating is such an essential skill,

because that's the first step in order to go and have sex.

Building trust and confidence are the most important thing

when it comes to dating, and that's what we're here for.

It's another day on Virgin Island...

Oh! You've got mail.

...and the start of a new two-day phase of the course.

The next phase is dating.

Nothing like a date on a remote island.

This is something

that I have absolutely no experience in whatsoever.

Oh!

I'm going to struggle with this one, I think.

Morning! Morning. Morning, Alex. Have you done much dating?

No, I wouldn't say much, no. How are you guys feeling about it?

It's the worst thing for me.

I just don't know how to make conversation.

Dating just isn't my sort of thing at all.

It's not worked for me in the past

and it's probably one of the reasons I'm still,

you know, solo. Have you done a date before?

No. Not ever. Never in my life. Yeah.

The dating phase - I don't think "positively scared" makes sense,

but it's how I feel.

Or nervously excited.

In an increasingly difficult dating landscape...

...one in five adults in the UK have given up altogether.

Dating is terrifying for this generation,

not knowing how to negotiate consent.

Good morning!

So it is very important for the group to feel empowered

so they feel confident to date.

We all know that dating is hard. Apps are overwhelming.

People ghost each other.

But we're here to make dating fun.

You don't want to look at the first date as, "This is pressure

"and I need to try to get in a relationship with this person."

You want to be flirtatious

and playful and share sexual energy and chemistry,

and we're going to teach you how to do that.

I never got past the first date stage.

They've either ghosted me

or they've decided we're better off as friends.

I wouldn't want to approach a woman.

There's the issue of coming off as creepy, coming off as weird.

I could say something unintentionally wrong

and do something unintentionally wrong.

And before you know it, you have completely ruined everything.

To avoid misreading the signals on a date,

Celeste and Danielle want to help the group

escalate intimacy, with consent.

If you're like, "Can I do this? Can I do this? Can I do this?,"

it completely breaks the mood.

So we want to teach you how to escalate in a very sexy way.

So I need one brave volunteer.

OK.

CELESTE LAUGHS

Consent is essential

in creating trust and escalating intimacy.

Hi.

THEY LAUGH

And we want to make consent sexy

because in order to enjoy the beginning stages of intimacy,

you need to take away the fear of what happens next.

Firstly, you're so gorgeous. Thank you.

I really want to be closer to you. Mm-hmm.

Yeah?

OK if I touch you? Mm-hmm.

Mmm.

Do you feel me shaking? Yeah. Yeah, you make me nervous.

THEY LAUGH

I'm going to take your leg and put it around my waist.

Like here, is that OK? Yeah.

How are you feeling?

Good.

My heart's beating a bit fast. Yeah, me too.

CELESTE LAUGHS

Thank you so much. Thank you.

Sorry, this is only phase three?

Like, what the hell?

This is what happens when you make dating sexy.

If you go on a first date with someone

and you don't know how to do this,

then you won't be confident when things will escalate.

So, anyone want to be the escalator with Danielle?

Yeah. Yeah?

Eager to learn is 30-year-old Will.

I have no dating history.

I legitimately can't remember the last time I shared a kiss.

I'm desperate to change my life,

but still being a virgin, it's almost impossible.

I definitely use humour to cover the sorrow and frustration.

It's a large part of my personality.

I really love it when you're checking me out.

Eye contact is so sexy.

I can't help but look at the most beautiful person in the room.

Aw! OK, now I want you to say it...

Yeah? ..like you really...

Like you're not shy about it, like it's OK.

I'm not shy about it. Feel it in your cock.

I'm so glad you said cock and not penis.

LAUGHTER

Making it sound sexy is owning that we are here turned on together.

OK. So you running your erotic energy is sexy.

It's difficult to navigate sometimes.

Yeah. Otherwise, I feel like, "Oh, you don't find me attractive."

You say it, but I don't feel it.

Following Will's attempt...

Is it OK if I touch your hair like this?

Mmm.

...a more confident Bertie gives it a go.

Your hand feels very soft. Thank you. Mmm.

Others try it out with each other.

The sun's in my eyes. Is it in yours? No. I can only see your eyes.

Cute.

SHE GIGGLES

And some don't hold back.

Your eyes are so green.

Would you be comfortable sitting on my lap?

I can try it.

I feel so connected to you.

Mmm.

Feeling you on me and feeling you touch me feels amazing.

Can I grab your butt? Yeah, you can.

SHE GIGGLES

How's that? Great.

How did everyone have the confidence to do it?

I just felt really awkward watching.

Genuinely, guys, it felt, like, really good.

This is the one I was most nervous about, and I know why.

I came out of that workshop

feeling a bit like I was a bit of a creep

and peeking through the blinds.

I'm not used to seeing, like, intimacy like live.

As soon as I sat down and looked into your eyes, I was like, "OK."

Yeah! You guys looked really good doing that. Thank you.

It's like an indescribable feeling of, like,

relief that I was able to just lose myself in the moment

and not worry about the performance.

So it's astounding, the progress that I'm making.

However, not everyone is embracing the dating phase.

Just really didn't feel comfortable,

especially when they went on top of each other. I was like...

With the intimacy side of things,

I've struggled to come out of my comfort zone.

I'm more, um, reserved,

um, and more of an anxious person.

Dating, it's not for me.

I'm going to take this off, I'm hot.

It's hot, hot, hot.

It's the dating phase on Virgin Island.

Went on this first date with this guy

and then he was like,

"I'm going to kiss you and then make out with you".

And then he kept biting me. Did you say "make out with you"?

Yeah, well, he went like this. He was like...

Ugh, yeah.

And past experiences have left a mark on many in the group.

So before I came out, I went on a date with someone

and he said, "Oh, let's go for a walk".

But we were wandering around, like, the same area for ages.

It was getting darker and darker. Oh, my God.

And he like cuddled into me and was like,

"Oh, we might have to stay here all night."

And I was like, "I'm not camping here, mate!"

And in the end, we managed to, like, ring the police

to come and, like, pick us up.

That is a dating disaster. Yeah!

My dating horror story was my fault.

I brought Lego onto a date.

I'm sort of chatting occasionally,

but I'm, like, reading the manual, arranging the pieces.

But it's only like a small... Beware of the Lego man!

To help them build more successful relationships...

Something's been put up on the noticeboard. Has anyone read it?

...Some are starting the retreat's most advanced therapy -

working with a surrogate partner.

Oh, Cal's ready for his surrogate partner.

Cool.

I don't feel a hug as much as I probably should do.

Callum is opening up to Kat...

My dad, you know,

whenever I saw him, I'd hug him,

so it brings back some memories of that.

...to move past his issues around grief.

We'll hug and we're going to stay here for just a minute,

and I want you to really slow down and feel your feet on the ground.

As far as like, position,

do you enjoy being on top of someone?

Do you like mixing it up?

Meanwhile, Marianne is overcoming her mistrust of men...

I like just being on top,

because then I can decide if I want to get off or not. Yeah.

...with surrogate partner Andre.

How does that feel? Very safe.

BERTIE: Thank you very much.

Oh, there we go. Much better. Yeah.

And Bertie begins the surrogate partner programme...

Does it feel better to touch back?

Yeah.

...trying to relax more with touch.

I feel a bit awkward, but I'm OK here.

Yeah. Just think about what's comfortable. Yeah.

I do feel like I'm making progress.

It's good to have kind of a beginner's session with it.

And it went well.

As the sessions gain momentum, the experts turn their attention

to Alex's confident display in the workshop earlier.

Alex and Marianne today, how hot was that?

It was so sexy!

I was so proud of them. He took it to the next level.

Some good butt squeezes in there as well.

It's all in there. He just has to learn to trust himself.

But there's still one obstacle holding Alex back.

Hello. Hello.

And Ilil has a plan to help with his erection issues.

We had an idea to continue with the pleasure mapping,

but have it more about building trajectory around... penetration.

Yeah. Does that feel...? Yeah. Yeah.

But there is that sort of gnawing, niggling feeling

at the back of the head that being like a...

Yeah, I'm nervous that I'll lose it again.

The biggest fear is me not being able to experience sex.

I've built up sex as such an important thing

that I can maybe take away the power from it that it has over me.

I'm really willing to do what it takes

and whatever I need to do to change.

So we're going to bring this. Amazing.

And you can take your clothes off like last time.

Cool, cool, cool.

My hands are going to be a little bit cold...

That's OK. ..to start with.

So inhale, your belly rise...

Exhale, letting all the muscles of your pelvic floor relax.

Ahh.

Before long...

Good.

...Ilil feels she can escalate.

How would it feel to take your underwear off,

just so I can see what I'm touching? Yeah. I think that'd be good.

OK.

It's all good.

I want you directing me. Yeah. OK?

So yeah, onto the penis like that, yeah.

OK.

It's like you could almost just stay at the top right there.

Amazing.

Do you want to look and see how hard you are?

I wasn't expecting to be that hard.

Look at that.

Do you want to try to put a condom on?

Yeah, sure.

For Alex, keeping an erection

whilst putting on a condom is the ultimate challenge.

Amazing.

We can also try to change position

because for penetration,

you might have to move around a little bit.

Yeah. On the vagina.

Amazing.

It's OK, you haven't lost your erection.

So good.

Good, I want you to just let this experience

sink into your long-term memory.

Wow. Yeah.

I feel good, I feel confident, I feel glowing.

Thank you so much. You're so welcome!

Oh, my gosh, it's massive.

Yeah. Really, really massive, yeah.

Bye. Bye.

SHE CELEBRATES SILENTLY

Alex did so well in the session,

learning how to focus on sensations and pleasure

rather than being in the head, worried.

And he kept his erection throughout.

I feel like my work with Alex is complete for now,

and I feel like he's ready to move on.

I feel amazing. I feel all the worries I had before coming here

and before with previous partners have just been lifted.

Hello! That was my last session with the Ilil.

I've, like, completed it. No, you haven't completed it, mate.

Yeah, not in that sort of... No, I know. But seriously?

Yeah, yeah. What did you do?

Do you want...? Quite... like, a lot.

Clearly, if you've completed it.

Yeah.

Sun cream. Do you want some? Oh, no! Why?

It's afternoon on Virgin Island.

What's everyone's type, then?

I like gingers, I like light hair.

Give me every single celebrity male - yum.

I like them all. You like them all?

How are you still a virgin, bless you?

LAUGHTER

To help the group gain confidence in dating...

Hello! Hey! Hey!

...the experts have a new exercise.

How's everyone doing?

Today's challenge is setting up your own dating app profile.

You're going to be put into pairs,

and you're going to support each other

to write a bio,

to answer some prompts, and taking photographs.

It's, like, the worst thing that they could ever ask me to do.

I just hate dating apps.

I just want someone to like me for me

without me having to, like...

...sell myself.

You might be surprised by what comes out of it.

Also, like, "These are my strengths.

"This is what I'm really good at."

How would that feel? Yeah.

I'll try.

Ellen, you'll be good. Don't worry. You got this.

Writing a dating profile can help with self-esteem,

because putting it out there is a brave, courageous step

that they need to learn how to do.

How would you want to pose? I don't know!

Jazz hands? Let's do it.

The way that they support each other is really key.

Giving each other feedback

will help them feel much better about putting themselves out there.

If I was a character in a book,

I'd be described as a ball of energy with a bit of yoghurt on the top!

I love it, I love it. That doesn't even make any sense.

It's perfect. Yeah, it's great, isn't it? Yeah.

Passion of mine - it's like, do I say gaming?

That's what I'm thinking. Do I say gaming?

Do I lie or do I tell the truth?

First date for me looks like...?

For me, anything involving food.

Perfect. You could always say, like, good food...

Good food and great conversation. You make everything so simple!

SHE LAUGHS

While some are comfortable writing positive things about themselves...

I'm just, I've still got quite a lot to get through.

Yeah, that's fine, no rush.

...others are not.

I do think some people will struggle.

People have been taught not to brag, I guess,

and I don't think that'll be any different in this group.

I've just put, like, "I don't really like to sell myself."

And I've tried, you know, um,

trying to, like, be someone that I'm not.

Though Ellen is reluctant...

I must admit, I am kind of really pleased with how this is going.

...Will is all in.

What profile have you gone for?

I put, "(...bro, I'm a forever alone virgin. What the heck?)"

Aw. Thank you.

THEY LAUGH

But his apparent confidence hides a deeper anxiety.

You get to your early thirties still being a virgin,

you've got no woman in your life. It's... it's lonely.

Really lonely.

The few times that I received anything sexual,

I was in college. But I would, like, come really quick.

That knocked my confidence a lot.

My fear of, like, premature ejaculation

has definitely scarred me.

Will came up for making consent sexy,

but he really struggled with that. He relies on humour a lot. Yeah.

Now it's time to take his desire seriously and teach him skills.

Hello. Hello, hello!

So, share with me everything that's happening inside.

It's like a little bit of excitement in my tummy.

Mm-hm. And a little bit in your eyes. That might just be my glasses.

No! So I think, like, because you don't know exactly

how to navigate that space, you use silliness for it.

It's not something I do deliberately.

Yeah. OK. But let's check what silliness does to the connection.

Danielle wants to teach Will how to build a genuine connection.

Would you be happy if I moved you closer, or just me move closer?

So let yourself actually check.

What do you want to do?

Whoa! That's fast for a first date.

We're slowing it down.

I'm sitting on you.

You're letting yourself feel it in your body.

Yeah. Because it's about us connecting.

Mmm.

Do you feel the intensity? Yeah.

That's where you want to stay. You don't want to break intensity.

After taking time to connect...

If I kiss you on your neck?

...Danielle is happy for Will to escalate.

Ah!

Ah!

Mmm.

How did that feel? Yeah, good.

By slowing the pace,

Will finally connects with his emotions.

This is the most intimacy I've had in longer than I can remember.

Yeah. Yeah. So there's some sadness that comes?

A great deal, great deal, don't get me wrong. Yeah.

It makes me feel more connected to you when I actually see who you are,

not just, like, the presented self.

You know?

Speaking about how I feel really just makes it more real to me.

I've spent many years getting rather good

at hiding how upset I actually feel.

Um...

I've not been able to, like,

express myself like that with someone before.

It feels good.

As Will opens up about his true feelings...

You need to relax.

Happy now? Yeah.

SHE LAUGHS

...another connection on the island begins to spark.

I like the nails.

You like the nails? Mm-hm.

SHE GIGGLES

What? I like the feeling of arm hair. Do my leg if you want.

Your leg? Yeah. That's got leg hair.

I like it.

I think I could plait this. You could have just one long plait.

What? Have you heard this?

She wants to plait my leg hair. Yeah.

LAUGHTER

Do you think anyone's going to develop any crushes?

Yeah.

Really? Exactly.

Thanks, though.

Thank you.

Hey, guys. Good morning. Morning.

Brekkie. All right, you coming? Yeah.

It's the start of a new day on Virgin Island...

Good morning. Good morning, love.

...and the dating phase is in full swing.

Imagine this a dating app conversation. Mm-hm.

So my first line would be, "What's your opinion on dried fruits?"

Dried fruits? Dried fruits.

Yeah, that's not great. What about dates?

That's good.

Yeah, boom!

It's very bad, but it's good.

I know I've got, like, a lot to learn, a lot to catch up on,

but it's a new day.

One foot in front of the other and keep going forward.

Because I'm so crap at making conversation,

I feel a bit negative about the whole dating thing.

This is a really hard phase for me, dating.

I've tried it in the past and it just hasn't worked for me.

I've been on a few first dates and they've never progressed past

that stage, so I'm doing something wrong, clearly.

I struggle to know how to date and how to flirt.

I don't allow myself to want to look at women that I fancy.

It's something I need to learn to do, I guess,

if I want to pursue a relationship.

I went on this date with a guy that took me to KFC.

Oh...! We went on a walk, we went on like a long nice walk.

That's a dream date for me, that is.

GONG BONGS

This morning, the group will learn what it takes...

Here we go. ...to go on a successful date.

Morning, guys. Hello, welcome. Welcome.

It's just a completely different dating culture

that the younger generation is facing.

Social media, porn, also dating apps.

All of these things can make it hard to feel confident and comfortable.

And so we help them learn how to go out and get what they want

for themselves in the dating world.

So, we're continuing on with our dating phase.

And tonight, drum roll...

MIMICS DRUM ROLL

THEY LAUGH

...you have the chance to practice dating.

Scary.

Just the thought of, you know, being alone with a person

that I like is another level of,

like, nerve-racking.

You feel a lot more pressure to look a certain way,

be a certain person.

It feels like a competition and you have

completely failed compared to everyone else.

Today, we want to give you some skills for this first date,

like running your erotic energy and flirting

while you're having a regular conversation.

What are the four steps of a really good first date?

The four steps are getting to know you,

giving an in-the-moment compliment,

giving and recognising the look,

and leaning into a kiss.

So we're going to demonstrate.

I'm glad we finally were able to get together.

Totally. You know, I was travelling.

Where did you go?

I was hot springing around.

You know, I really love hot springs.

I love hot springs, too. Mm.

Mm...

Sorry, I stopped being able to talk for a minute.

Your eyes were so compelling.

SHE LAUGHS

Mm.

Are you ready?

A long time ago.

I hope you see that you can be connected to your erotic energy

and talk about regular things.

With Celeste and Danielle's dating demo over,

it's time for the group to put it into practice.

Who wants to go first?

I'll give it a go. Yeah? Yeah.

You want to go with Will?

Come on, then, Will.

Will must resist hiding behind humour,

but with Ellen scarred by dating, it won't be easy.

Dating is really difficult.

You chat to someone and you've not said anything bad,

but then all of a sudden, they'll just disappear

off the face of the earth.

And I do take it personally.

I've given up and I feel a bit lost.

Yeah.

How are you? Um, I'm good, yeah.

How are you? Just a little nervous.

So, um, what do you enjoy doing in your spare time?

I like writing and drawing and painting.

Cool.

Self portraits?

No, unfortunately, I'm terrible at portraits.

You do have a lot of emotion in your eyes... Do I?

Yeah, they really do glisten.

Yeah. Thanks.

No worries. You've got nice eyes too.

Thank you.

So I want you to notice that you both have the look.

ELLEN: Do we?

I'm still looking for it. It's just my face.

Following Will and Ellen's lead...

You're actually late. Oh, uh...

...others dive in.

How can I make it up to you? Maybe I could buy you a drink or something.

Um, a sex on the beach.

And what's your favourite drink?

Some lean into compliments.

You have such blue eyes.

Thank you. You've got really nice earrings.

Others seal the deal with a kiss.

I think I'd like to do this again.

Oh, my God, I got goose bumps.

OK. Anyone else?

I'd be willing to go up, if anyone wants to go.

Joining Callum...

I'll give it a go.

...is Tegan, who, despite her attraction to women...

Hi. Hi.

...has favoured practising with men on the retreat.

I'm so hung up on being a virgin.

I struggle to talk to people who I fancy in general

because I clam up and I get nervous.

I forget how to talk like a human being

and then they think I'm not interested.

I want to be in a relationship.

I want to settle down with someone.

But I can't at this point.

So... what brings you here?

You bring me here. Yeah. Mm.

Can I... I think we should hold hands. Of course you can.

Yes, absolutely.

SHE SPUTTERS This is where I get awkward.

You're doing great. Keep going.

THEY LAUGH

If you can hold his energy.

This is going to be a feat to not burst into a fit of giggles.

THEY GIGGLE

That was so awkward. Yeah.

My mind just went blank.

Katie, girl... Yeah, Katie! Woo!

Should we talk about...

This side of you, man!

Are you sure you've never been on a date before?

But while Katie is flying,

Tegan has crashed back down to earth.

Hey, munchkin. Hey. You good?

Mm... I don't know.

I really struggle on any sort of first date.

It's awkward. I don't want people paying attention to me.

I just didn't feel quite ready for that.

I'm here for you, you know? I know, thank you.

Tegan's reluctance to practice with women on the retreat

hasn't gone unnoticed.

She's been going up a lot with the guys. Yeah.

Tegan's not pushing outside of that.

Which is a really common experience for young queer women

to feel like they might be a bad person for looking at a woman.

This internalised homophobia, "I'm afraid of being a predator",

all that kind of stuff.

So we need to challenge that.

If I fancy someone, I don't do anything about it.

Part of me feels like looking at women is fundamentally wrong.

When I was in school, any time we got changed after PE,

I would go into the showers and lock myself in there.

That's because I was obviously dealing with

a lot of feelings regarding women.

I didn't want to make them feel uncomfortable.

Hello! Hello!

I've personally got some shame around it.

Surrogate partner therapist Risdon aims to help Tegan

accept and embrace her physical desires.

So today, we're going to do something called directed gazing.

Mm-hm. So you're going to ogle me. OK.

OK. How do you feel?

Nervous. Um, yeah, very nervous about it.

It's important for you to get used to female gays.

Yeah. Let's stand up.

So I just want you to start looking in my eyes. Mm-hm.

Just breathe and see what comes up in your body,

in your feelings. Mm-hm.

Look at my mouth.

Yep. I'm trying.

It's like my head's telling me, like, no, red light.

Like, look away. Mm.

Want to give it a shot again? Yeah, let's give it a shot.

And breathe out.

What are you feeling right now?

I'm feeling some things.

Are you feeling desire? Yes. I can feel it.

Yeah. I'm going to turn around and show you my butt. OK.

What's that?

It was good. It was...

Yeah, I felt the desire.

Tegan is progressing rapidly, so Risdon escalates.

I think you're hot. Thank you.

I think you're hot too.

I want you to look at my breasts.

And breathe. Yeah. Yep. Let it open up.

You're doing so good. And let it out the mouth.

Everything you're feeling is perfect.

And when you're ready, look at my pussy.

Mm-hm... OK.

Mm-hm.

You're doing really good. Thank you.

You ready to look at my ass? Mm-hm.

I got this. You got it? Yeah.

I'm definitely a lesbian.

Sorry.

I'll see you soon. Yes. Yeah. Thank you. Bye.

I feel like such a teenager, like a horny teenager right now.

It was very erotic. I'm coming to accept that that's OK. That's good.

Happy? Yum-yum-yum! Happy? I'm very happy.

What'd you get up to? I had my boobs out.

Ah!

We looked at each other. Like, I looked at her breasts.

Very nice breasts, by the way. And, yeah,

I think that's the best I've ever felt. Oh!

I'm not losing the smile for the rest of the day.

It's late afternoon on Virgin Island.

A lot comes with a date. It's not just

"hi, how are you? Blah-blah-blah" There's a lot to it.

With the practice dates coming up, romance is in the air.

I don't ask people out.

I've never been asked out. You should ask people out.

No, cos I'm actually scared of rejection, thanks.

Ask me out right now.

No, cos I know the answer already.

Well, if you don't ask, you never know.

Will you got a date with me? Yes. Oh.

THEY LAUGH

Where should we go? Uh...

You'd have to take a boat to get to where we want to go.

It's kind of like a campsite. Oh. Yeah.

There's a bed on the shore. Sounds quite yummy.

THEY LAUGH

Whey. Nice photo, Bertie. That's such a good photo, Bertie.

It's day two of the dating phase.

Some answers are more light-hearted than others.

I'm a kind and caring person who loves enjoying the company of... Oh!

Aw, Bertie.

And the group are reading each other's dating app profiles.

"I love music, pink and men."

THEY LAUGH

Who's that one? That's Katie. Oh, right, OK.

"My turn-on is men who smell good,

"nice hands and slow tickles.

"The relationship scale I get an A-plus in is cuddles."

You are all very good.

I would swipe right on all of you.

But for one person, the exercise has touched a raw nerve.

Ellen, how did the dating app stuff go?

I hated it. I feel like even when I've put

what I thought were my best photos

or whatever, or I've written a thing about me,

it's not worked, and I'm just done with them.

Dating makes her really nervous. She doesn't like the apps.

She's very uncertain on what to do.

Yeah, Ellen was very stressed that like,

"this is the worst thing you could ask me to do."

When I have gone on dates and things,

it's been really hard, because I...

I'm scared of being intimate with someone.

I find trusting people quite hard.

So when we've got to the intimacy side of things,

I've sort of pulled back a lot.

Surrogate partner therapist Kat

hopes to nurture a connection with Ellen.

Hello. Hello. How are you doing? I'm OK.

But first, she must feel safe enough to lower her defences.

My suggestion today is to do a game called May I Will You.

So, like, "May I rub your feet? Will you rub my feet?"

And everything is always for the asker.

Does that feel OK? Yeah.

The exercise should

build trust between Ellen and Kat.

OK. May I kiss your neck?

Yes.

Yeah. I just feel, like, a bit anxious.

Yeah.

I just found dating hard. Like, I just...

Yeah. I just don't feel like I'm, like, good enough.

I mean, you're definitely good enough.

And you definitely deserve love,

and are worthy of love and pleasure.

OK. Yeah? Yeah.

After a false start, they begin again.

May I nuzzle your whole body over your clothes?

Um... Yeah. OK.

And is it OK if breasts are included?

Yeah. I really... That's something that is one of my turn-offs.

Does that feel OK? Yeah. Do you have magic powers?

I feel safe.

I really liked it when your chest was,

like, on... on me.

Like, yeah,

I was kind of like a bit turned on.

Well, a lot turned on.

Can I touch your chest? OK.

Is that OK, like, me doing that?

The exercise

is helping Ellen embrace desire for the first time.

I also want to kiss you,

but I think it's a bit too much to start with.

You think it's too much for you? For me?

Like, for you.

It feels OK for me.

Just relax.

Thank you. Yes. See you soon. Thank you very much. OK.

I was kind of, like, getting a bit, like, aroused.

And I've not had that excitement before,

but that's what I want.

Vaginas and boobs.

Hi. How was your one on one? It was dreamy.

It was, like, so nice. And, yeah,

I had to go and check that my knickers were still OK.

THEY LAUGH

Yeah. I feel on top of the world right now.

On top of Virgin Island. Yeah!

OTHERS APPLAUD

It's early evening,

and before the dating phase of the course concludes,

the group must face their fears head-on...

Hello. How are you doing? I'm good. I'm glad it's you.

Oh! I'm glad it's you.

...with practice dates.

You're not going to grab the seat? Oh, sorry. Yeah.

Hang on, hang on. Oh!

I've fallen for you already.

THEY LAUGH

Please take a seat. Thank you.

Wow, this looks so nice.

Shall we crack the bubbly? I would love that.

Cheers. Cheers.

So, how did you, um...

I love it when you kind of look in my eyes while we're doing it.

I can't help it. They're very addictive.

Yours are too.

Thank you. No problem.

HE LAUGHS

The phase has given Alex a newly-found confidence...

You got a bit of fluff. Oh, there we go.

Make a wish.

There you go.

I'm just going to have an olive.

...and taught Tegan how to be more comfortable in her skin.

Have you heard the olive theory?

The perfect couple,

one person loves olives, the other hates them.

Oh! So I hate olives.

Know what that means, don't you? We're a perfect match.

Stop it, Tegan.

Even Ellen's more relaxed than ever.

How would you feel if I...

You want to feed me, don't you? Yeah, yeah.

I want to feed you a strawberry. Erm... Yeah?

Beautiful. You did it! Yay!

But for Callum and Katie...

I'm so nervous still.

That's not good. Why?

I think it's cos it's you. Why are you nervous around me?

I don't know.

The date appears to have moved beyond practice.

Um...

Wow.

THEY LAUGH

Oh, my God, what do we do? You have to stare into my eyes.

SHE GIGGLES

Without giggling. Callum, you make me giddy.

Compose.

We're very zen right now. Mm-hm.

Got a bug on you.

That feels nice. I'm a good masseuse.

I wouldn't call it that.

Like...

No, that's even more! I'm trying my best!

I had a really good time.

I think she enjoyed it as well, cos we are both very giggly.

I was really nervous,

cos I've never been on a date before,

so this was my first one.

But Callum was a good person to go on a date with.

I feel like the past few days, like, it's all just adding

up and I've come out like with a new, like...

I feel like I've just been really happy.

I would definitely go on a date with Callum again.

As the sun goes down on the dating phase...

Prosecco. Oh, yes, please! OK.

...it's time to celebrate.

Let's raise a glass.

This is the end of the dating phase.

And I want you to take a look at yourselves,

because you've done so well and we are so proud of you.

Chin-chin.

All in all, I had a really good time.

We learnt some really good techniques and I feel confident.

Phase three!

THEY CHEER

There's so many little tricks and skills I've picked

up that I definitely think I've seen progression.

Cheers. Cheers.

I feel a bit more confident about dating.

However, I'm a bit nervous about what's to come.

If you thought the first three phases were hot...

LAUGHTER

...just wait to see what's coming next. Woo!

Next time...

You only live once. Woo!

The most revealing phase yet.

I love your body.

And the one-on-ones...

How does that feel? Sad.

...challenge the virgins to go even further.

Put the finger on the bottom of the hole.

Mm-hm.

It's hot. THEY GIGGLE