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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:08,600 I'm going to take it one step at a time. 2 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:08,880 I'm going to take it one step at a time. 3 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:10,920 I'm absolutely petrified. 4 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:11,200 I'm absolutely petrified. 5 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:13,240 12 virgins are travelling to a unique island retreat... 6 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:14,960 12 virgins are travelling to a unique island retreat... 7 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:18,520 ..that could change their lives forever. 8 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:19,360 ..that could change their lives forever. 9 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:21,400 This is maybe the strangest day of my life. 10 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,440 Being a virgin at the age of 22 feels very lonely. 11 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:25,440 Being a virgin at the age of 22 feels very lonely. 12 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,480 I've just sort of given up all hope. 13 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:27,680 I've just sort of given up all hope. 14 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,720 In a world saturated with sex, 15 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:31,240 In a world saturated with sex, 16 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:33,280 more young adults than ever are caught in an intimacy epidemic. 17 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,320 more young adults than ever are caught in an intimacy epidemic. 18 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:35,640 more young adults than ever are caught in an intimacy epidemic. 19 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:37,280 The thought of having sex with someone... 20 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:38,320 Scares me. 21 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:39,360 It gives me the ick. 22 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:40,560 I don't feel confident. 23 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,600 I'm missing out. Terrified of the thought of it. 24 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:42,880 I'm missing out. Terrified of the thought of it. 25 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:44,120 Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching. 26 00:00:44,160 --> 00:00:45,760 Embarrassing. 27 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,800 All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong. 28 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:48,600 All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong. 29 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:50,520 Can you point to the outer labia? 30 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:52,720 Nope. 31 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:56,360 Now...Oh, my God! 32 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:57,040 Now...Oh, my God! 33 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,080 ..they're getting a crash course in intimacy. 34 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:00,120 ..they're getting a crash course in intimacy. 35 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,160 Social media, porn, dating apps. 36 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:03,080 Social media, porn, dating apps. 37 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,120 There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom. 38 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:06,480 There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom. 39 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:08,520 Use it by stimulating the area. 40 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:08,800 Use it by stimulating the area. 41 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:10,840 Guided by a team of experts... 42 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:11,080 Guided by a team of experts... 43 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:13,120 You see yourself as... Repulsive. 44 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:13,480 You see yourself as... Repulsive. 45 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,520 ..they'll confront their insecurities... 46 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:15,840 ..they'll confront their insecurities... 47 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:17,880 I'm hiding how upset I actually feel. 48 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:18,400 I'm hiding how upset I actually feel. 49 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:20,200 ..exploring intimacy... 50 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:23,600 ..in every form... 51 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:24,920 Yes, yes. 52 00:01:24,960 --> 00:01:26,840 Good. 53 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:27,880 ..and maybe... 54 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:29,840 Do you want to put a condom on? 55 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:31,880 ..have sex with a trained therapist... 56 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:32,240 ..have sex with a trained therapist... 57 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,040 Desperate times call for desperate measures. 58 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:35,760 THEY CHEER 59 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:37,160 ..or even one another. 60 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:38,360 Why are you nervous around me? 61 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:39,720 I don't know. 62 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:41,600 That's so good. 63 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:43,640 I really do need to change my life. 64 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:44,080 I really do need to change my life. 65 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:45,400 The question is... 66 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:47,080 Get a room, guys! 67 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:49,120 ..who will finally be ready... 68 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:49,560 ..who will finally be ready... 69 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,200 Just, like, get a bit anxious. 70 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:52,880 ..to go all the way... 71 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:55,160 Mm-hm. 72 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:56,240 ..on Virgin Island? 73 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:04,800 In the first phase of the course... 74 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:06,840 Shame really interrupts pleasure. 75 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:08,640 Shame really interrupts pleasure. 76 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:10,680 ..the group confronted their shame. 77 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:10,960 ..the group confronted their shame. 78 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,000 Have I got a lipstick stain? No, you haven't. Excellent. 79 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:13,280 Have I got a lipstick stain? No, you haven't. Excellent. 80 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,280 Bertie made small steps forward... 81 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:17,320 What do you think? Let's go! 82 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:17,560 What do you think? Let's go! 83 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,600 ..but witnessing intimacy 84 00:02:19,640 --> 00:02:19,880 ..but witnessing intimacy 85 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:21,920 stirred up Joy's feelings of religious shame... 86 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:22,720 stirred up Joy's feelings of religious shame... 87 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:24,760 I literally thought that God cursed me with vaginismus 88 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:25,520 I literally thought that God cursed me with vaginismus 89 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,520 to stop me from having sex. 90 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:29,560 ..and Alex revealed the extent of his anxiety. 91 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:30,600 ..and Alex revealed the extent of his anxiety. 92 00:02:30,640 --> 00:02:32,640 Penny for your thoughts? 93 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:33,120 Penny for your thoughts? 94 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:35,160 The main overriding thing is still that worry 95 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:35,440 The main overriding thing is still that worry 96 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,160 of not getting an erection. 97 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:38,480 The phase ended... 98 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:40,520 For me, shame is feeling ugly. 99 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,240 For me, shame is feeling ugly. 100 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:43,320 Sorry. 101 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:45,240 ..with the group letting their shame... 102 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:47,280 ALL CHANTING:Let it go, let it go! 103 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:47,760 ALL CHANTING:Let it go, let it go! 104 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:49,600 ..go up in flames. 105 00:02:49,640 --> 00:02:51,640 CHEERING 106 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:51,880 CHEERING 107 00:02:51,920 --> 00:02:53,880 Now, things are set to escalate... 108 00:02:53,920 --> 00:02:55,920 Imagine that your cock is going inside my vagina. 109 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:56,920 Imagine that your cock is going inside my vagina. 110 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:58,920 ..with the second phase of the course... 111 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:00,240 Good. 112 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:01,600 ..turn-ons. 113 00:03:01,640 --> 00:03:03,640 In society, a lot of people feel ashamed to talk about sex. 114 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,560 In society, a lot of people feel ashamed to talk about sex. 115 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,240 It can be very embarrassing. 116 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,280 Take a moment to look at your vulva. 117 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:09,560 Take a moment to look at your vulva. 118 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:11,600 But to have a really fulfilling sex life, 119 00:03:11,640 --> 00:03:11,920 But to have a really fulfilling sex life, 120 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:13,840 you have to know what turns you on. 121 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:23,640 Good morning. Morning. 122 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,160 Morning! 123 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:27,200 It's the morning of day three on Virgin Island... 124 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:28,480 It's the morning of day three on Virgin Island... 125 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:29,520 Oh! 126 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,560 Here we go, then. 127 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:31,880 Here we go, then. 128 00:03:31,920 --> 00:03:33,920 ..and time for the group to discover what's in store 129 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:34,480 ..and time for the group to discover what's in store 130 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,520 over the next two days. 131 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:36,760 over the next two days. 132 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,800 "The next phase is turn-ons." 133 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:39,160 "The next phase is turn-ons." 134 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:41,200 I think turn-ons might involve a lot of dirty talk. 135 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:42,520 I think turn-ons might involve a lot of dirty talk. 136 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:44,560 It is quite a step up from hugging and stroking people's arms. 137 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:45,680 It is quite a step up from hugging and stroking people's arms. 138 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:47,720 Talking about, like, what turns you on is a private thing, 139 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:49,040 Talking about, like, what turns you on is a private thing, 140 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,080 but I guess nothing is private on this island. 141 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:52,640 but I guess nothing is private on this island. 142 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:54,680 Morning! Good morning. 143 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:56,720 I'm feeling nervous and tense over this. 144 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:58,760 I'm feeling nervous and tense over this. 145 00:03:58,800 --> 00:03:59,960 I'm feeling nervous and tense over this. 146 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,000 It's going to be a very big challenge. 147 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:02,240 It's going to be a very big challenge. 148 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:04,680 Turn-ons, guys. 149 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:06,720 Your aim is to find everyone's turn-ons! 150 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:07,000 Your aim is to find everyone's turn-ons! 151 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:08,920 LAUGHTER 152 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:10,960 Thing is, I know all my turn-ons, 153 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:11,400 Thing is, I know all my turn-ons, 154 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,440 but talking about it feels quite daunting. 155 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:14,560 but talking about it feels quite daunting. 156 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:16,560 If one of the guys gets a boner, like, they're going to be like, 157 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:18,320 "We're so proud of you." Very proud. 158 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:21,600 I'm very nervous. 159 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:23,640 It just all feels like something I'm not allowed to think about. 160 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:24,240 It just all feels like something I'm not allowed to think about. 161 00:04:24,280 --> 00:04:25,640 Like, oh, my gosh. 162 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:27,480 No, no, no, no, no. 163 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:33,240 Are you ready to know your turn-ons? 164 00:04:33,280 --> 00:04:34,360 No. 165 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:35,720 Do you know your turn-ons? 166 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:37,760 Harry Styles. LAUGHTER 167 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:38,040 Harry Styles. LAUGHTER 168 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:40,080 The group may be sexual beginners... 169 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:40,480 The group may be sexual beginners... 170 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:42,520 Hi! 171 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:42,800 Hi! 172 00:04:42,840 --> 00:04:44,840 ..but Celeste and Danielle want them to imagine they're experts 173 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:46,120 ..but Celeste and Danielle want them to imagine they're experts 174 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:48,160 and embrace their turn-ons. 175 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:48,360 and embrace their turn-ons. 176 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:53,720 People get really confused. They're like, "What turns me on? 177 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:54,920 People get really confused. They're like, "What turns me on? 178 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:56,960 "Is it positions or do I need to buy a new toy?" 179 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:58,120 "Is it positions or do I need to buy a new toy?" 180 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,160 But what really turns us on is the feeling that we get during sex. 181 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:02,200 But what really turns us on is the feeling that we get during sex. 182 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:03,400 But what really turns us on is the feeling that we get during sex. 183 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:05,440 We call this our core desires. 184 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:05,640 We call this our core desires. 185 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:08,760 This is the cornerstone of the whole course. 186 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:09,360 This is the cornerstone of the whole course. 187 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,080 Everyone should know their core desires. 188 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:13,080 If you want to have an amazing sex life, 189 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,120 find out what you want to feel during sex and tell your partners. 190 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:16,680 find out what you want to feel during sex and tell your partners. 191 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:18,720 For me, in sex, it's all about feeling very special. 192 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:20,760 For me, in sex, it's all about feeling very special. 193 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:21,040 For me, in sex, it's all about feeling very special. 194 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,080 I want to feel powerful. 195 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:23,600 I want to feel powerful. 196 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:25,640 I want to feel like they're lucky to have me. 197 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:26,760 I want to feel like they're lucky to have me. 198 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:28,800 And for me, I really like to feel like I'm the queen. 199 00:05:28,840 --> 00:05:30,840 And for me, I really like to feel like I'm the queen. 200 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:31,440 And for me, I really like to feel like I'm the queen. 201 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:33,480 People have many different feelings that they want to have during sex, 202 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:34,360 People have many different feelings that they want to have during sex, 203 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:35,920 and all of them are beautiful. 204 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:37,520 We don't shame any of them. 205 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:40,920 So you can just lie down, relax. 206 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:42,040 So you can just lie down, relax. 207 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:44,600 To get them in the mood, 208 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:46,640 Danielle begins with a visualisation exercise. 209 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:47,880 Danielle begins with a visualisation exercise. 210 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:51,520 I want you to start thinking about a fantasy that you might be having. 211 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,560 I want you to start thinking about a fantasy that you might be having. 212 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:55,080 I want you to start thinking about a fantasy that you might be having. 213 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:57,120 It can be something that you saw in a movie 214 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:58,800 It can be something that you saw in a movie 215 00:05:58,840 --> 00:06:00,840 or some erotics that you read, 216 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:02,320 or some erotics that you read, 217 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,360 and then start noticing - 218 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:05,400 and then start noticing - 219 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:07,440 what is the feeling that you want to feel in that moment? 220 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,480 what is the feeling that you want to feel in that moment? 221 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:09,720 what is the feeling that you want to feel in that moment? 222 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,200 You might want to feel loved or precious. 223 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,040 You might want to feel loved or precious. 224 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:18,320 Might want to feel masterful, desired. 225 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,360 Might want to feel masterful, desired. 226 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:20,600 Might want to feel masterful, desired. 227 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:25,520 Whenever you're ready, come back. 228 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:26,720 Whenever you're ready, come back. 229 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:28,280 Sit at the edge of your mat. 230 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:32,280 With their core desires in mind... 231 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:33,680 Thank you. 232 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:35,720 ..the experts want the group to write them down on a stone 233 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:36,480 ..the experts want the group to write them down on a stone 234 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:38,160 and share with each other. 235 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:41,640 Could just play noughts and crosses. 236 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,480 LAUGHTER 237 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:57,600 OK, so who feels like they are ready to come up? 238 00:06:57,640 --> 00:06:58,040 OK, so who feels like they are ready to come up? 239 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,560 I'm going to go. Great. Wonderful. 240 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:03,840 I'm going to go. Great. Wonderful. 241 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:05,880 For Joy, her desires have always been complicated. 242 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:07,800 For Joy, her desires have always been complicated. 243 00:07:07,840 --> 00:07:09,240 When I was in year seven and eight, 244 00:07:09,280 --> 00:07:11,280 I thought it wasn't OK to be gay. 245 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:11,640 I thought it wasn't OK to be gay. 246 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:13,400 Um... 247 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,440 I spoke to a church pastor 248 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:15,680 I spoke to a church pastor 249 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:17,720 and he started going on a rant 250 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:19,760 about gay people being really sexual and slutty and promiscuous. 251 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:21,680 about gay people being really sexual and slutty and promiscuous. 252 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:23,720 And I realised myself that I was bisexual. 253 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:24,360 And I realised myself that I was bisexual. 254 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:28,520 But sex with a woman is like an undiscovered landscape. 255 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,560 But sex with a woman is like an undiscovered landscape. 256 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:31,200 But sex with a woman is like an undiscovered landscape. 257 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:33,240 I do feel a bit guilty for wanting to explore it. 258 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:33,480 I do feel a bit guilty for wanting to explore it. 259 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,080 So I put cherished. 260 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:38,720 So I put cherished. 261 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:40,080 Um... 262 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:42,120 Revered, lost in the moment, free 263 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,080 Revered, lost in the moment, free 264 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,120 and ultimately ravished. 265 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:47,040 and ultimately ravished. 266 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:49,080 Yay! That's my girl. 267 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:49,320 Yay! That's my girl. 268 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,360 APPLAUSE 269 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:51,760 APPLAUSE 270 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:53,040 As others step up... 271 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:54,280 I'll do it. 272 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:55,760 ..some themes emerge. 273 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:57,800 For me, I think the most important thing is to feel wanted. 274 00:07:57,840 --> 00:07:58,760 For me, I think the most important thing is to feel wanted. 275 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:00,040 Feeling wanted... 276 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:01,360 I put wanted. 277 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:02,920 I've mainly put wanted. 278 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:04,960 ..and appreciated are common desires... 279 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:05,360 ..and appreciated are common desires... 280 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:06,880 I want to feel loved. 281 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:08,400 Loved. Everyone wants to feel loved. 282 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:10,040 I've only got pampered on mine. 283 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:11,200 Special. 284 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:13,240 Praised, and then it would feel nice to have a safe space. 285 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:14,600 Praised, and then it would feel nice to have a safe space. 286 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:16,640 ..while some want to be dominated. 287 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:16,920 ..while some want to be dominated. 288 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:18,920 I want to feel on edge and teased. 289 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:20,400 Dominated. 290 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:22,440 I feel like a little bit of a perv telling you this, but, yeah. 291 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:23,040 I feel like a little bit of a perv telling you this, but, yeah. 292 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:24,840 Oh, we love pervs. We love pervs. 293 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:26,240 LAUGHTER 294 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:30,280 So far, only 24-year-old Bertie hasn't stepped up. 295 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:32,040 So far, only 24-year-old Bertie hasn't stepped up. 296 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:36,440 I do a lot of volunteering work in charity fundraising events. 297 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,480 I do a lot of volunteering work in charity fundraising events. 298 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:39,520 I do a lot of volunteering work in charity fundraising events. 299 00:08:39,560 --> 00:08:41,560 I'm the one to try and get a lot of rich people 300 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:42,960 I'm the one to try and get a lot of rich people 301 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:44,560 to give money for charity. 302 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,360 You'll be disappointed in it, but, er... 303 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:48,400 But when it comes to discussing, 304 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:49,160 But when it comes to discussing, 305 00:08:49,200 --> 00:08:50,880 you know, sexual things, 306 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:52,920 I don't see myself as a confident player. 307 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,440 I don't see myself as a confident player. 308 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:56,480 I think turn-ons, 309 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:58,520 I think turn-ons, 310 00:08:58,560 --> 00:09:00,560 especially from the more sexual aspect, 311 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:01,280 especially from the more sexual aspect, 312 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:03,320 should not be shared in front of everybody. 313 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:04,000 should not be shared in front of everybody. 314 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:06,040 It should be kept as a secret between you and your partner, 315 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:07,600 It should be kept as a secret between you and your partner, 316 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:09,680 which is why I wrote, 317 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,720 "I have turn-ons, but I'm not sharing them in front of everyone. 318 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:13,240 "I have turn-ons, but I'm not sharing them in front of everyone. 319 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,280 "It should only be a secret between you and your partner." 320 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:15,880 "It should only be a secret between you and your partner." 321 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:17,480 That's about it, really. 322 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,520 APPLAUSE 323 00:09:19,560 --> 00:09:21,560 APPLAUSE 324 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:21,920 APPLAUSE 325 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:32,520 How are we all feeling? 326 00:09:32,560 --> 00:09:34,160 I really liked it. Yeah. 327 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,200 I was just like, "Oh, wow, this feels a bit different." 328 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:37,520 I was just like, "Oh, wow, this feels a bit different." 329 00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:39,560 Felt something in my nipples as well, you know what I mean? 330 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:39,920 Felt something in my nipples as well, you know what I mean? 331 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:41,960 Oh, yeah? Yeah. Like, it felt a bit... 332 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:42,200 Oh, yeah? Yeah. Like, it felt a bit... 333 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,600 The turn-ons exercise may have worked for some... 334 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:47,280 The turn-ons exercise may have worked for some... 335 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:49,320 When I go home, if I'm ever in a relationship with someone, 336 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:49,640 When I go home, if I'm ever in a relationship with someone, 337 00:09:49,680 --> 00:09:51,680 I'm just going to put it by their bedside table. 338 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:51,960 I'm just going to put it by their bedside table. 339 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:53,040 Turn-ons! 340 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,320 ..but Bertie is just not feeling it. 341 00:09:58,360 --> 00:09:58,760 ..but Bertie is just not feeling it. 342 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,800 I was the only person in the group to not do it. 343 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:01,240 I was the only person in the group to not do it. 344 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:03,280 I didn't want to, like, say things in front of everybody, you know? 345 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:04,440 I didn't want to, like, say things in front of everybody, you know? 346 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:06,480 I do kind of feel like I've been, like, 347 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:07,120 I do kind of feel like I've been, like, 348 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:09,040 the odd one out in the group now. Mm-hm. 349 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:11,080 I feel like I've just taken a bit of a setback after that. 350 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:11,320 I feel like I've just taken a bit of a setback after that. 351 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:14,600 It certainly wasn't the most enjoyable workshop, put it that way. 352 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:15,960 It certainly wasn't the most enjoyable workshop, put it that way. 353 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:18,000 I felt a bit of uncomfortableness, 354 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,440 I felt a bit of uncomfortableness, 355 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:21,480 like, everywhere, really. 356 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:22,560 like, everywhere, really. 357 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:27,280 To help the group discover their turn-ons... 358 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:27,720 To help the group discover their turn-ons... 359 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:29,760 Who's got the one-to-ones today, mate? 360 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:30,040 Who's got the one-to-ones today, mate? 361 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,040 ..they'll all have one-on-ones... 362 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:33,120 You've got Ilil. 363 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:35,160 Ilil? OK. Which one's Ilil? 364 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:35,400 Ilil? OK. Which one's Ilil? 365 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:37,080 She's a sexological body worker. 366 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:38,360 Island vibes. 367 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,400 Ah, thank you. Now, I know. 368 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:40,640 Ah, thank you. Now, I know. 369 00:10:40,680 --> 00:10:42,320 ..starting with Alex, 370 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:44,360 who has struggled to get turned on under the pressure of intimacy. 371 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:45,640 who has struggled to get turned on under the pressure of intimacy. 372 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:48,960 Sex has been a sense of anxiety for me. 373 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,240 Sex has been a sense of anxiety for me. 374 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:52,280 Growing up, my dad was quite emotionally repressed himself. 375 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:53,600 Growing up, my dad was quite emotionally repressed himself. 376 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:55,640 We had sex education in school at year five, 377 00:10:55,680 --> 00:10:56,200 We had sex education in school at year five, 378 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,240 and I talked to my dad about it and he said, 379 00:10:58,280 --> 00:10:58,880 and I talked to my dad about it and he said, 380 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:00,480 "Oh, that's rude. Don't talk about that." 381 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:03,880 I then became so embarrassed to talk or think about sex. 382 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,920 I then became so embarrassed to talk or think about sex. 383 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:06,240 I then became so embarrassed to talk or think about sex. 384 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:08,280 Whenever sex or relationships or anything came on TV, 385 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:09,960 Whenever sex or relationships or anything came on TV, 386 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:12,000 I used to leave the room. 387 00:11:12,040 --> 00:11:12,760 I used to leave the room. 388 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,080 It's estimated that half of modern men 389 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:16,480 It's estimated that half of modern men 390 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:18,520 have experienced performance anxiety. 391 00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:19,680 have experienced performance anxiety. 392 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:21,720 To help Alex, sexological bodyworker Ilil plans to get physical. 393 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:23,760 To help Alex, sexological bodyworker Ilil plans to get physical. 394 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:24,800 To help Alex, sexological bodyworker Ilil plans to get physical. 395 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:26,840 I want to work with him on receiving touch for me 396 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:28,080 I want to work with him on receiving touch for me 397 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:30,120 and recognising when that performance anxiety kicks in, 398 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:31,600 and recognising when that performance anxiety kicks in, 399 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,640 and letting me know what he needs in order to bring arousal up. 400 00:11:33,680 --> 00:11:35,480 and letting me know what he needs in order to bring arousal up. 401 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:37,520 So hopefully the erections will come when he has a lot of pleasure. 402 00:11:37,560 --> 00:11:39,560 So hopefully the erections will come when he has a lot of pleasure. 403 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:40,120 So hopefully the erections will come when he has a lot of pleasure. 404 00:11:41,560 --> 00:11:42,520 Hello! 405 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:46,880 So the idea of today is for us to do 406 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:47,840 So the idea of today is for us to do 407 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:49,880 full-body pleasure mapping. Mm-hm. 408 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:50,320 full-body pleasure mapping. Mm-hm. 409 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:52,360 You're gonna be guiding the whole thing. 410 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:52,680 You're gonna be guiding the whole thing. 411 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,720 Whenever you feel yourself starting to worry about performance, 412 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:56,760 Whenever you feel yourself starting to worry about performance, 413 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:57,560 Whenever you feel yourself starting to worry about performance, 414 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:59,600 you can just say, like, "Can we slow down?" 415 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:00,000 you can just say, like, "Can we slow down?" 416 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:03,520 So take your clothes off. 417 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:07,200 I think I'd like to keep my boxers on. 418 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:07,480 I think I'd like to keep my boxers on. 419 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:08,920 Yeah. OK. 420 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:10,960 Pleasure mapping is an exercise 421 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:11,240 Pleasure mapping is an exercise 422 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:13,280 where Ilil touches Alex all over his body... 423 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:14,080 where Ilil touches Alex all over his body... 424 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,120 So we can start laying down. 425 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:16,680 So we can start laying down. 426 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:18,720 ..including his genitals, 427 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:20,760 so Alex can lie back and concentrate on pleasure. 428 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:22,400 so Alex can lie back and concentrate on pleasure. 429 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:23,840 Is this the touch that... 430 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:25,560 That feels nice, yeah. ..you want? 431 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,040 I've had three people that I would describe as a girlfriend... 432 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:32,080 I've had three people that I would describe as a girlfriend... 433 00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:32,320 I've had three people that I would describe as a girlfriend... 434 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,760 ..but I never had sex with anyone. 435 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:36,760 ..but I never had sex with anyone. 436 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:38,800 The first time I tried, I had a panic attack. 437 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:39,120 The first time I tried, I had a panic attack. 438 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:40,880 I was so nervous, I couldn't get an erection. 439 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:42,840 And, um... 440 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:44,880 ..I then convinced myself that 441 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:45,160 ..I then convinced myself that 442 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,200 sex is something, I guess, scary or nerve-racking. 443 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:48,920 sex is something, I guess, scary or nerve-racking. 444 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,720 It's constantly playing on my mind. 445 00:12:52,680 --> 00:12:54,680 Is this the right speed? Yeah, that's great. 446 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:54,920 Is this the right speed? Yeah, that's great. 447 00:12:57,960 --> 00:12:59,400 Very erotic. 448 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,440 So touching close to your underwear line, 449 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:01,880 So touching close to your underwear line, 450 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:03,600 it's almost, like, teasing you. 451 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:05,040 Yeah. All right. 452 00:13:07,560 --> 00:13:09,040 What are you noticing? 453 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,080 Getting more turned on. Mm-hm. 454 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:11,320 Getting more turned on. Mm-hm. 455 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:13,000 Really getting, like, excited. 456 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,040 Mm-hm. 457 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:15,320 Mm-hm. 458 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:17,360 It felt really nice when you were brushing past my genitals. 459 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:18,000 It felt really nice when you were brushing past my genitals. 460 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:20,040 Would you like me to do that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. 461 00:13:20,080 --> 00:13:20,280 Would you like me to do that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. 462 00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:25,200 And I love when you move like that. 463 00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:27,240 It kind of really lets me know that you're enjoying yourself. 464 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:28,280 It kind of really lets me know that you're enjoying yourself. 465 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:41,000 All right. 466 00:13:42,560 --> 00:13:43,880 Amazing. 467 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:45,800 Amazing, amazing, amazing. 468 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:49,200 I'm gonna take my hand off very slowly. 469 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:49,440 I'm gonna take my hand off very slowly. 470 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:54,080 So, did you feel me fully aroused? 471 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:54,560 So, did you feel me fully aroused? 472 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:55,880 Yeah. 473 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:57,920 Could you feel you fully aroused? Yeah, yeah. 474 00:13:57,960 --> 00:13:58,800 Could you feel you fully aroused? Yeah, yeah. 475 00:13:58,840 --> 00:13:59,920 Amazing. 476 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:04,080 Have you ever felt aroused like that with someone? 477 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:04,720 Have you ever felt aroused like that with someone? 478 00:14:04,760 --> 00:14:06,760 Not like that. Not to the point where I'm, like, 479 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:07,040 Not like that. Not to the point where I'm, like, 480 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:09,080 moving my hips and feeling tingly. 481 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:09,600 moving my hips and feeling tingly. 482 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:11,640 You were very, very erect. Yeah. 483 00:14:11,680 --> 00:14:12,400 You were very, very erect. Yeah. 484 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:13,920 You did so good. Thank you so much. 485 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:16,960 Bye-bye. 486 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,000 I don't think I've ever felt that sort of level of eroticism before. 487 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:20,240 I don't think I've ever felt that sort of level of eroticism before. 488 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,080 She just has such a calming presence. 489 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:23,560 So, yeah, feeling really good 490 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:25,600 and sort of inspires confidence going forward. 491 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:25,880 and sort of inspires confidence going forward. 492 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:32,520 Hey, guys. How did your one-on-one go? 493 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:33,040 Hey, guys. How did your one-on-one go? 494 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:35,080 Good. It went into genital touching 495 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:37,120 and, yeah, that felt really good. 496 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:37,440 and, yeah, that felt really good. 497 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:38,560 I bet! 498 00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:40,600 LAUGHTER 499 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:41,560 LAUGHTER 500 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:51,560 It was really windy last night. Yeah. 501 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,600 Like, for a while, I think, like, my tent was going to blow away. 502 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:54,440 Like, for a while, I think, like, my tent was going to blow away. 503 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,120 Oh, my God. Do a Dorothy! 504 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:57,600 Go to the yellow brick road. 505 00:14:57,640 --> 00:14:59,640 Celeste and Danielle have turned into a tin man and a scarecrow. 506 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:00,160 Celeste and Danielle have turned into a tin man and a scarecrow. 507 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,080 I'll probably be the lion because I'm the cowardly one. 508 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:05,000 I'll probably be the lion because I'm the cowardly one. 509 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:09,280 It's the afternoon on Virgin Island. 510 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:10,200 It's the afternoon on Virgin Island. 511 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:11,520 How does that feel? 512 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:13,440 Yeah, it feels good. 513 00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:15,480 As the one-on-one sessions continue... 514 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:16,040 As the one-on-one sessions continue... 515 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:17,200 It's good. 516 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:19,160 You seem more open to me. 517 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:20,640 It's just baby steps. 518 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:22,680 ..the turn-on phase of the course is gathering pace... 519 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:23,960 ..the turn-on phase of the course is gathering pace... 520 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,000 May I direct you in touching my breasts? 521 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:26,920 May I direct you in touching my breasts? 522 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:28,960 Yes. Yes. 523 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:29,200 Yes. Yes. 524 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,240 And a little more pressure. OK. 525 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:31,440 And a little more pressure. OK. 526 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,320 ..and the group continues to open up to each other. 527 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:37,280 ..and the group continues to open up to each other. 528 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:39,320 When I was at school, all the boys, like, would walk past 529 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:40,720 When I was at school, all the boys, like, would walk past 530 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:42,560 and be like, "Oh, you're all lesbians 531 00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:44,600 "because you go to an all-girls school." Yeah. 532 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:44,920 "because you go to an all-girls school." Yeah. 533 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:46,960 When I was, like, 12, I remember thinking, "Oh, my gosh. 534 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:48,000 When I was, like, 12, I remember thinking, "Oh, my gosh. 535 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,040 "Why has God given me so many gay friends? 536 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:50,320 "Why has God given me so many gay friends? 537 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:51,800 "I now have to convert all of them!" 538 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:53,840 Took me a couple of years to realise that I was, in fact, one of them. 539 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:54,920 Took me a couple of years to realise that I was, in fact, one of them. 540 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,360 Years of sexual anxiety have taken a physical toll on Joy. 541 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:02,320 Years of sexual anxiety have taken a physical toll on Joy. 542 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:03,680 I have vaginismus, 543 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:05,720 this physical and psychological problem. 544 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:06,200 this physical and psychological problem. 545 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:07,800 It causes pain. 546 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:09,840 If I can't insert a finger into my vagina, 547 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:10,840 If I can't insert a finger into my vagina, 548 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:12,880 you know, how can I physically have sex? 549 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:13,200 you know, how can I physically have sex? 550 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:14,840 With guidance from Ilil, 551 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:16,880 she'll learn how to relax her body around touch. 552 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:17,880 she'll learn how to relax her body around touch. 553 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,920 We can actually practise 554 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:20,360 We can actually practise 555 00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:22,400 towards penetration in a very slow process, 556 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,320 towards penetration in a very slow process, 557 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:26,360 creating an alignment between what the head wants to do 558 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:27,760 creating an alignment between what the head wants to do 559 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:29,800 and what the body actually feels comfortable with. 560 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:30,360 and what the body actually feels comfortable with. 561 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:33,200 Hello, beautiful. 562 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:38,680 So our intention for today is if you feel comfortable, 563 00:16:38,720 --> 00:16:39,640 So our intention for today is if you feel comfortable, 564 00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:41,680 we can explore the opening of your vagina. 565 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:41,960 we can explore the opening of your vagina. 566 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:45,240 Sometimes that's been hard because it all, like, closes up. 567 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:46,680 Sometimes that's been hard because it all, like, closes up. 568 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:48,560 Maybe we can see it today. 569 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:54,080 I want you to just start by maybe putting your hands on your vulva. 570 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:55,440 I want you to just start by maybe putting your hands on your vulva. 571 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,240 Would you like to have a look where you're touching? Yeah. 572 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:00,880 Would you like to have a look where you're touching? Yeah. 573 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:02,920 Ilil encourages Joy to explore her body... 574 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:04,080 Ilil encourages Joy to explore her body... 575 00:17:04,120 --> 00:17:06,120 Oh, my gosh, this is so weird. Can you see? 576 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:06,440 Oh, my gosh, this is so weird. Can you see? 577 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:08,480 ..and in doing so, change the way she feels about it. 578 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:09,760 ..and in doing so, change the way she feels about it. 579 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:11,800 Take a moment to look at your vulva and connect to her. 580 00:17:11,840 --> 00:17:13,840 Take a moment to look at your vulva and connect to her. 581 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:14,080 Take a moment to look at your vulva and connect to her. 582 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:16,760 She's beautiful. 583 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,800 It's weird because I feel like she looks ugly. 584 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:19,600 It's weird because I feel like she looks ugly. 585 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:20,960 When I was 12, 586 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:23,000 I had this realisation that I had been masturbating. 587 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:24,880 I had this realisation that I had been masturbating. 588 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:26,520 I went to Christian camp 589 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:28,560 and there was this call to come to the front for prayer, 590 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,120 and there was this call to come to the front for prayer, 591 00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:31,480 for sexual sin. 592 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:33,160 I felt convicted. 593 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:34,680 Like, "Oh, my gosh, they're speaking about me. 594 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:36,080 "I've sinned." 595 00:17:36,120 --> 00:17:38,120 And I told my youth pastor 596 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:38,440 And I told my youth pastor 597 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:40,480 and then she staged an intervention. 598 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:42,000 and then she staged an intervention. 599 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:43,440 Yeah, it's stuck with me. 600 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,480 It's been hard to get that out of my head. 601 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:46,480 It's been hard to get that out of my head. 602 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:48,520 And now I want to be free to explore a sexual side to myself. 603 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:50,320 And now I want to be free to explore a sexual side to myself. 604 00:17:50,360 --> 00:17:52,360 I want to enjoy my life and accept myself. 605 00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:53,600 I want to enjoy my life and accept myself. 606 00:17:55,360 --> 00:17:57,360 So what part are you curious about? 607 00:17:57,400 --> 00:17:58,120 So what part are you curious about? 608 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:00,160 I think I want to just touch the outer labia. 609 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:01,600 I think I want to just touch the outer labia. 610 00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:02,640 Awesome. 611 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:04,680 You can do like that. 612 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:05,000 You can do like that. 613 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:07,040 You can, like, bring a little bit of vibration. OK. 614 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:08,480 You can, like, bring a little bit of vibration. OK. 615 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:11,040 That's quite nice. 616 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:13,080 A bit arousing? Mm-hm. Yeah. Yeah, 617 00:18:13,120 --> 00:18:13,360 A bit arousing? Mm-hm. Yeah. Yeah, 618 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:15,120 Do you want to try it with oil? Yeah. 619 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:19,960 Put it all over your vulva. Mm-hm. 620 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:20,360 Put it all over your vulva. Mm-hm. 621 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:25,280 It does feel totally different. Yeah. 622 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:25,880 It does feel totally different. Yeah. 623 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:27,440 Can you see your opening? Yeah. 624 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:29,480 You can see a tiny dot there? Yeah. 625 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:29,720 You can see a tiny dot there? Yeah. 626 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:31,400 So that's your clit. 627 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:32,840 Oh, that's so interesting. 628 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:34,760 The clit is like a miniature penis. 629 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:36,800 You will feel there's, like, a shaft. 630 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:37,360 You will feel there's, like, a shaft. 631 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:39,400 See if you can feel the shaft. OK. 632 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:39,600 See if you can feel the shaft. OK. 633 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:43,400 Sexological bodywork includes one-way touch... 634 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:45,280 Sexological bodywork includes one-way touch... 635 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:46,520 Can I? Yeah. 636 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:48,120 Here. 637 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:49,800 Oh! 638 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:51,840 ..allowing Ilil, with consent, to help Joy discover pleasure. 639 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:53,880 ..allowing Ilil, with consent, to help Joy discover pleasure. 640 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:54,160 ..allowing Ilil, with consent, to help Joy discover pleasure. 641 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:56,080 So how does it feel? 642 00:18:56,120 --> 00:18:57,680 It feels really good. 643 00:18:57,720 --> 00:18:59,440 I can feel arousal. 644 00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:00,760 That's new. 645 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:08,360 Awesome. 646 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:10,400 Thank you very much for giving me this experience. 647 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:11,400 Thank you very much for giving me this experience. 648 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,280 It's such a precious feeling. 649 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:15,280 It feels... 650 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:16,520 ..really special. 651 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:20,400 It's like she's safe. 652 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:20,640 It's like she's safe. 653 00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:22,200 She's safe. She's good. 654 00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:25,160 You got her. Yeah. 655 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:28,080 And I know what she looks like now as well. 656 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:35,640 Hiya! 657 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:37,480 How was your thingy? 658 00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:39,520 Um, it was really good. 659 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:40,360 Um, it was really good. 660 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,200 Was it? Yeah, it was really good. 661 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:44,240 She was like, "You need to focus on what feels good for you." 662 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:44,800 She was like, "You need to focus on what feels good for you." 663 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:46,840 I think it's just like, "Really?" 664 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:47,080 I think it's just like, "Really?" 665 00:19:47,120 --> 00:19:48,840 I'm allowed?! 666 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:50,880 I feel really good. I feel really good, yeah. 667 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:51,560 I feel really good. I feel really good, yeah. 668 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,600 I just keep learning all these things about myself. 669 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:53,920 I just keep learning all these things about myself. 670 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:55,960 So proud to really connect with my body 671 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:56,280 So proud to really connect with my body 672 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:58,320 and so pleased that I felt like we just had this breakthrough. 673 00:19:58,360 --> 00:19:58,680 and so pleased that I felt like we just had this breakthrough. 674 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:03,480 Joy has leapt forwards, but not everyone is riding high. 675 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:05,520 Joy has leapt forwards, but not everyone is riding high. 676 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:05,840 Joy has leapt forwards, but not everyone is riding high. 677 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:07,880 Bertie, would you like to join us, slash, would you like a blanket? 678 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:08,600 Bertie, would you like to join us, slash, would you like a blanket? 679 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:10,640 Um... Go on, then. 680 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:11,200 Um... Go on, then. 681 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,240 What, "go on, then" to the blanket or "go on, then" to joining us? 682 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:13,920 What, "go on, then" to the blanket or "go on, then" to joining us? 683 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:15,960 I'll see what... I'll see. See how you feel. 684 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:16,400 I'll see what... I'll see. See how you feel. 685 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,120 Yeah. I think it's quite a chill convo at the moment. 686 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:19,680 Yeah, I'll see what I can do. 687 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:21,720 Lovely to talk to you. Nice to talk to you. Yeah. 688 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:22,760 Lovely to talk to you. Nice to talk to you. Yeah. 689 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:24,800 I can socialise, don't worry. I know you can! 690 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:25,080 I can socialise, don't worry. I know you can! 691 00:20:25,120 --> 00:20:26,080 I'm just inviting you to. 692 00:20:26,120 --> 00:20:27,240 I'll see. 693 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:31,080 Da-da-da. 694 00:20:31,120 --> 00:20:31,280 Da-da-da. 695 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,560 Here are the clipboards. 696 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:46,600 It's late afternoon. 697 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:47,000 It's late afternoon. 698 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:48,720 "This questionnaire is multiple choice. 699 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,120 "Please choose all that apply." 700 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,200 To help the group explore the type of person that turns them on... 701 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:54,760 To help the group explore the type of person that turns them on... 702 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:56,840 I've put boobs so far. 703 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:58,880 ..the experts have handed out a list of questions. 704 00:20:58,920 --> 00:20:59,880 ..the experts have handed out a list of questions. 705 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:01,920 HE CHUCKLES Body hair. 706 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:02,240 HE CHUCKLES Body hair. 707 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,280 I like my girls with a full beard, mate. 708 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:05,400 I like my girls with a full beard, mate. 709 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,440 Face shape. I've never thought about this. 710 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:07,920 Face shape. I've never thought about this. 711 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:09,800 What's mine? Sq... 712 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:11,840 Are you calling me a square? 713 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:12,080 Are you calling me a square? 714 00:21:12,120 --> 00:21:13,480 THEY LAUGH 715 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,520 I don't think the colour of hair or the colour of eyes matter, 716 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,560 I don't think the colour of hair or the colour of eyes matter, 717 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,360 I don't think the colour of hair or the colour of eyes matter, 718 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,400 as long as the hair looks presentable. 719 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:22,320 as long as the hair looks presentable. 720 00:21:22,360 --> 00:21:23,960 Great hygiene. 721 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,000 Yeah. Clean hands, clean nails. 722 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:26,200 Yeah. Clean hands, clean nails. 723 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,600 And they've gotta have - I'm gonna put banter. 724 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,640 And they've gotta have - I'm gonna put banter. 725 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:31,920 And they've gotta have - I'm gonna put banter. 726 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:33,720 You know, a bit of banter! 727 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,240 For Marianne, the questionnaire proves revealing. 728 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:38,240 For Marianne, the questionnaire proves revealing. 729 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,440 "Ideal first date setting." 730 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:41,960 "Ideal first date setting." 731 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,000 I just want to go hiking and then have a picnic somewhere, 732 00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:45,240 I just want to go hiking and then have a picnic somewhere, 733 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,160 but then I don't really necessarily want to be alone 734 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,200 with a guy hiking on a first date. Yeah. 735 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:49,600 with a guy hiking on a first date. Yeah. 736 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,640 It depends on how safe I feel, you know? 737 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:51,880 It depends on how safe I feel, you know? 738 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:55,960 A lot goes on in my head all the time 739 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:57,640 A lot goes on in my head all the time 740 00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,680 because I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was about four, 741 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:00,560 because I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was about four, 742 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,200 and there's just a lot of emotions. 743 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,240 Like, I'm never not thinking about safety. 744 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:05,200 Like, I'm never not thinking about safety. 745 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:07,240 Like, when people do one-night stands, in my head, I'm like, 746 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:07,520 Like, when people do one-night stands, in my head, I'm like, 747 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:08,800 "X, Y, Z could go wrong. 748 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,680 "How are you going to an unknown place?" 749 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,720 My brain goes sort of into overdrive. 750 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:12,960 My brain goes sort of into overdrive. 751 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,000 I don't trust men. 752 00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:16,920 I don't trust men. 753 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:18,720 Right. We're done and dusted. 754 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:20,280 High five. 755 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:21,480 Cool. 756 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,480 Yeah, I know it is me, 757 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:25,240 but I don't know how to move forward. 758 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:30,880 Marianne is very much in her head. 759 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:32,040 Marianne is very much in her head. 760 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,080 She's trying to manage 761 00:22:34,120 --> 00:22:34,360 She's trying to manage 762 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,400 her boundaries, so she won't get hurt. 763 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:37,120 her boundaries, so she won't get hurt. 764 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:40,480 And in that way, she is holding herself back 765 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:40,880 And in that way, she is holding herself back 766 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:42,920 from fully experiencing life. 767 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:43,120 from fully experiencing life. 768 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:46,840 Good to see you. 769 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:47,240 Good to see you. 770 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,280 Danielle wants to try and help Marianne confront her barriers. 771 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,320 Danielle wants to try and help Marianne confront her barriers. 772 00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:51,760 Danielle wants to try and help Marianne confront her barriers. 773 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,800 What do you want for yourself in the retreat? 774 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:54,400 What do you want for yourself in the retreat? 775 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,440 When it comes to sort of intimacy, I always just have... 776 00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:57,400 When it comes to sort of intimacy, I always just have... 777 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,440 My first thought is just safety. 778 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:00,160 My first thought is just safety. 779 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,200 So a lot of what you're trying to do now is really, like, 780 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:03,560 So a lot of what you're trying to do now is really, like, 781 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:05,360 keep yourself in check. 782 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,120 It... 783 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,120 It just feels like 784 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,160 I'm all alone and I have to put up a guard. 785 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:12,480 I'm all alone and I have to put up a guard. 786 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,080 I'm just saying sort of no to everything 787 00:23:14,120 --> 00:23:16,120 and I think my younger self feels quite sad 788 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:16,920 and I think my younger self feels quite sad 789 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:18,720 that I'm still stuck with that feeling. 790 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,040 I feel like I had a lot of issues growing up in South Africa. 791 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:32,480 I feel like I had a lot of issues growing up in South Africa. 792 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,520 In school, I was one of three mixed-race girls, 793 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:35,480 In school, I was one of three mixed-race girls, 794 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,520 and we didn't really know how to fit in because we weren't, like, 795 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:38,280 and we didn't really know how to fit in because we weren't, like, 796 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,320 black enough or the black guys, white enough for the white guys. 797 00:23:40,360 --> 00:23:41,960 black enough or the black guys, white enough for the white guys. 798 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,000 I get viewed as this exotic thing. 799 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,200 I get viewed as this exotic thing. 800 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,440 Sweetheart. 801 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,480 Is it OK if I put my hand on your knee? That's fine. 802 00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:49,360 Is it OK if I put my hand on your knee? That's fine. 803 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,400 It has been sort of, like, a competition with guys. 804 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:52,160 It has been sort of, like, a competition with guys. 805 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:53,520 They would never be in a relationship with us, 806 00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,560 but they just want to, like, get our clothes off. 807 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:55,880 but they just want to, like, get our clothes off. 808 00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:57,920 And so it's really, really hard for me to, like, trust men. 809 00:23:57,960 --> 00:23:59,960 And so it's really, really hard for me to, like, trust men. 810 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:00,280 And so it's really, really hard for me to, like, trust men. 811 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,800 I just feel... 812 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:04,120 I just feel... 813 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,840 Yeah. ..that I'm missing out on things 814 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:07,800 and I can't differentiate, like, 815 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:09,840 what's actual fear and what's just, like... 816 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:10,360 what's actual fear and what's just, like... 817 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,160 Protection. Yeah. 818 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,000 Can I please have a hug? 819 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,040 Oh, I would love to. 820 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:17,280 Oh, I would love to. 821 00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:22,960 Marianne needs to learn to trust that men 822 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,000 Marianne needs to learn to trust that men 823 00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:26,040 don't necessarily want to take advantage of her. 824 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:27,960 don't necessarily want to take advantage of her. 825 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,000 And working with the men to deal with all those issues, 826 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:31,720 And working with the men to deal with all those issues, 827 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,760 that's her biggest challenge on the island. 828 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:35,080 that's her biggest challenge on the island. 829 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,480 Thank you so much. My pleasure. 830 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:45,680 Thank you so much. My pleasure. 831 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,760 I knew I was going to be emotional, but everything sort of hit me. 832 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,560 I knew I was going to be emotional, but everything sort of hit me. 833 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,200 It was nice to have this session because, like, I can just 834 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,720 It was nice to have this session because, like, I can just 835 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:04,760 think more clearly about what's to come, 836 00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:05,360 think more clearly about what's to come, 837 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,400 but that's quite daunting. 838 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:07,600 but that's quite daunting. 839 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,200 Morning. Morning. 840 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:24,400 Morning, Marianne. 841 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:27,520 Another day begins on Virgin Island... 842 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:28,080 Another day begins on Virgin Island... 843 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,280 Oh, got hot dog down my boob. LAUGHTER 844 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:32,560 Oh, got hot dog down my boob. LAUGHTER 845 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,600 That'll be a treat for someone later! 846 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:34,840 That'll be a treat for someone later! 847 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:37,800 ..and it's the turn-ons phase of the course. 848 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:38,720 ..and it's the turn-ons phase of the course. 849 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,760 Nothing like a proper cuppa. 850 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:41,000 Nothing like a proper cuppa. 851 00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,040 This phase is pretty intimidating. 852 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:43,880 This phase is pretty intimidating. 853 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:45,920 I always thought myself as dead playful, dead flirty, 854 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:47,840 I always thought myself as dead playful, dead flirty, 855 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:49,880 but I started being really sheltered. 856 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:50,200 but I started being really sheltered. 857 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,240 So I do feel like I've got a lot to learn. 858 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:52,480 So I do feel like I've got a lot to learn. 859 00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:56,600 I personally feel a bit deflated, 860 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:57,360 I personally feel a bit deflated, 861 00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,960 a bit dejected. 862 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:00,680 I'm lagging behind. 863 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,720 I know it's a marathon and not a sprint, 864 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:03,000 I know it's a marathon and not a sprint, 865 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:04,520 but some people are running. 866 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,080 I'm trudging. 867 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,400 The phase is exposing deep-seated fears. 868 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,280 The phase is exposing deep-seated fears. 869 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,760 When it comes to younger people, around intimacy and touch, 870 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:18,720 When it comes to younger people, around intimacy and touch, 871 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,720 there's just a lot more self-consciousness. 872 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,120 A lot of people are afraid, you know - 873 00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:24,160 "Oh, maybe I'm going to get cancelled or cross a boundary." 874 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:24,960 "Oh, maybe I'm going to get cancelled or cross a boundary." 875 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:26,840 Nowadays, there is a lot of risk 876 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,480 in saying the wrong thing. 877 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,520 Like, if I make a weird, stupid mistake 878 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:30,960 Like, if I make a weird, stupid mistake 879 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,000 talking to a girl, that's done, isn't it? 880 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:33,560 talking to a girl, that's done, isn't it? 881 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:35,120 I don't want to do something wrong. 882 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:36,960 I don't want to do things too fast 883 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,640 or too slow. 884 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,520 If I do come across as a creep in any way, 885 00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,400 shape or form, I don't mean to. 886 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,440 I'm so scared of the thought of that happening. 887 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:45,160 I'm so scared of the thought of that happening. 888 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,520 What do you think we're gonna do? 889 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,240 I have no idea. 890 00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:51,600 Having already worked on discovering their turn-ons... 891 00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:52,680 Having already worked on discovering their turn-ons... 892 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,560 Oh, this is so scary. 893 00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:57,520 ..Celeste and Danielle now want the group 894 00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,560 to feel it in their bodies. 895 00:26:59,600 --> 00:26:59,840 to feel it in their bodies. 896 00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,880 This is a really safe place that we can practise 897 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:02,800 This is a really safe place that we can practise 898 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,840 touching all over each other's bodies. 899 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:05,160 touching all over each other's bodies. 900 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,200 This exercise can definitely get people aroused 901 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:07,800 This exercise can definitely get people aroused 902 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,840 and frankly, I hope it does. 903 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:10,040 and frankly, I hope it does. 904 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,520 OK. 905 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,560 One of the things that really gets in the way of us 906 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:18,360 One of the things that really gets in the way of us 907 00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,400 feeling our turn-ons is inhibition. 908 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:21,000 feeling our turn-ons is inhibition. 909 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,040 And today's workshop is all about letting out your inner animal. 910 00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,080 And today's workshop is all about letting out your inner animal. 911 00:27:25,120 --> 00:27:26,280 And today's workshop is all about letting out your inner animal. 912 00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:32,280 So we're going to do a little demo 913 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,320 and then you'll get a chance to practise with each other. 914 00:27:34,360 --> 00:27:34,560 and then you'll get a chance to practise with each other. 915 00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,040 Sex doesn't have to be this thing that is very curated. 916 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:39,320 Sex doesn't have to be this thing that is very curated. 917 00:27:39,360 --> 00:27:41,360 It can be animalistic and fun. 918 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,240 It can be animalistic and fun. 919 00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,280 Animal game, you don't need much to be good at it. 920 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:44,760 Animal game, you don't need much to be good at it. 921 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:46,800 It's more about connecting with your own impulses 922 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,040 It's more about connecting with your own impulses 923 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,080 and unleashing your inner animal. 924 00:27:50,120 --> 00:27:50,520 and unleashing your inner animal. 925 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:52,560 THEY MOAN 926 00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:53,920 THEY MOAN 927 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:55,960 There's another animal just next to you. 928 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,000 There's another animal just next to you. 929 00:27:58,040 --> 00:27:59,080 There's another animal just next to you. 930 00:27:59,120 --> 00:28:01,120 You can smell. 931 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:01,480 You can smell. 932 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,400 THEY MOAN 933 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,440 THEY MOAN 934 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:09,200 THEY MOAN 935 00:28:16,120 --> 00:28:18,120 THEY MOAN 936 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,160 THEY MOAN 937 00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,120 THEY MOAN 938 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,760 THEY LAUGH 939 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,360 THEY LAUGH 940 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,120 Love-gasm! 941 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,160 THEY LAUGH 942 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:43,920 THEY LAUGH 943 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:45,960 APPLAUSE 944 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:46,480 APPLAUSE 945 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,000 OK. 946 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,040 I'm looking for a brave volunteer. 947 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:51,360 I'm looking for a brave volunteer. 948 00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:57,680 Bertie? I've got an injured foot. 949 00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:58,240 Bertie? I've got an injured foot. 950 00:28:58,280 --> 00:28:59,640 I know it sounds like a lame excuse, 951 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:01,680 but with my foot and everything, it's... 952 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:02,280 but with my foot and everything, it's... 953 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,320 OK. Anyone else? 954 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:04,600 OK. Anyone else? 955 00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,080 Can I do it with you, Marianne? Yeah! 956 00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:08,120 I'm going to go with Marianne. Great, wonderful. 957 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:08,400 I'm going to go with Marianne. Great, wonderful. 958 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,080 Joy takes the opportunity to practise with a woman. 959 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,080 Joy takes the opportunity to practise with a woman. 960 00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:18,400 So just take some nice, deep breaths, 961 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,240 So just take some nice, deep breaths, 962 00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:22,280 in and out. 963 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:23,040 in and out. 964 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,080 When you feel ready, start exploring each other with your hands. 965 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,120 When you feel ready, start exploring each other with your hands. 966 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:28,360 When you feel ready, start exploring each other with your hands. 967 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:35,560 Good. I love that you're staying with the sensation 968 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:36,640 Good. I love that you're staying with the sensation 969 00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,320 and with your own bodies. 970 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,560 THEY GIGGLE 971 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:44,880 THEY GIGGLE 972 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,440 APPLAUSE 973 00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,040 APPLAUSE 974 00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,000 And how was that for you? 975 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,880 Marianne made me feel very safe. 976 00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:58,440 Same! It was very fun. 977 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,600 As more of the group step up... 978 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:03,920 As more of the group step up... 979 00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:05,960 Just follow what your body wants to do. 980 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:06,480 Just follow what your body wants to do. 981 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,800 ..their animal instincts start to emerge. 982 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:11,640 ..their animal instincts start to emerge. 983 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:15,920 Touching and sensing. 984 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,240 Touching and sensing. 985 00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:23,680 Woohoo! APPLAUSE 986 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,880 Woohoo! APPLAUSE 987 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:25,960 Anyone else? 988 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:29,880 Fuck it. 989 00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,920 Yes, Bertie. CHEERING 990 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:32,680 Yes, Bertie. CHEERING 991 00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,720 Up until now, Bertie keeps holding back. 992 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:35,880 Up until now, Bertie keeps holding back. 993 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:37,840 If I don't do it now, I'll regret it later. 994 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:41,040 I think this is the worst time to be a young adult, 995 00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,080 I think this is the worst time to be a young adult, 996 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:43,680 I think this is the worst time to be a young adult, 997 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,720 because if you're someone like me who struggles with 998 00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,240 because if you're someone like me who struggles with 999 00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,280 approaching and talking to women, 1000 00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:49,880 approaching and talking to women, 1001 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:51,560 it's near impossible. 1002 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,160 Right. 1003 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,200 I constantly think about what I could do wrong, 1004 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:56,520 I constantly think about what I could do wrong, 1005 00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:58,560 rather than what I could do right. 1006 00:30:58,600 --> 00:30:58,920 rather than what I could do right. 1007 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,960 But I have to do this because I want to improve my life. 1008 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:02,240 But I have to do this because I want to improve my life. 1009 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,240 Start noticing that there's an animal inside you 1010 00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,280 Start noticing that there's an animal inside you 1011 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:10,520 Start noticing that there's an animal inside you 1012 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,560 and you can rub against them. 1013 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:12,840 and you can rub against them. 1014 00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,440 Mm. 1015 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,200 You can hold. 1016 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:19,760 Oh! BERTIE LAUGHS 1017 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,680 Are you OK? I'm good, yeah. 1018 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,480 Are you sure? Yeah, I'm fine. OK. 1019 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,520 You get in a comfy position. Yeah. 1020 00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:26,120 You get in a comfy position. Yeah. 1021 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,120 That's OK. Yeah? 1022 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:34,440 That's OK. Yeah? 1023 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,480 Let yourself feel how good it feels. 1024 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:37,600 Let yourself feel how good it feels. 1025 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,560 APPLAUSE 1026 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:54,000 APPLAUSE 1027 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,040 Amazing. You want to share a little bit? 1028 00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:56,360 Amazing. You want to share a little bit? 1029 00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,400 I was a bit apprehensive about doing it at first. 1030 00:31:58,440 --> 00:31:59,760 I mean, I thought you were doing a good job. 1031 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:01,800 It just all felt natural and, like, really nice. 1032 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:02,280 It just all felt natural and, like, really nice. 1033 00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:03,840 You've got nice hair to touch as well. 1034 00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,880 All that wax has come in handy. That's what it is. 1035 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:06,160 All that wax has come in handy. That's what it is. 1036 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,200 APPLAUSE 1037 00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,240 APPLAUSE 1038 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:11,080 APPLAUSE 1039 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:12,160 There we go. 1040 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,720 Well done to you. Thank you. 1041 00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,680 So how was that? 1042 00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:23,240 LAUGHTER 1043 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,280 I was still in that, like, "Ooh!" 1044 00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:25,520 I was still in that, like, "Ooh!" 1045 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,080 Like, frisky mood, let's say. 1046 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,120 And I was like, "OK, so I'm gonna just have to calm myself back down 1047 00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:29,960 And I was like, "OK, so I'm gonna just have to calm myself back down 1048 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,520 "and start from Bertie's level." 1049 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,040 All right, Bertie? Hello. How did you find it? 1050 00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:35,760 All right, Bertie? Hello. How did you find it? 1051 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,800 Good, good. You had the right amount of pressure on me that I like. 1052 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:39,000 Good, good. You had the right amount of pressure on me that I like. 1053 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,040 It felt so natural. And I was like, "This is..." 1054 00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:41,520 It felt so natural. And I was like, "This is..." 1055 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,560 Yeah. Oh! 1056 00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:43,840 Yeah. Oh! 1057 00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,800 To say this is one of the bravest things I've done 1058 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,840 would be the understatement of the millennium. 1059 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:48,760 would be the understatement of the millennium. 1060 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,800 This isn't peer pressure or anything like that. 1061 00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:51,360 This isn't peer pressure or anything like that. 1062 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,400 I just feel like I kind of have to participate 1063 00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:55,280 I just feel like I kind of have to participate 1064 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,320 because if I am going on this island 1065 00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:58,160 because if I am going on this island 1066 00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:00,200 to be the same old person 1067 00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:00,480 to be the same old person 1068 00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,520 that I was for all my life, what am I doing here? 1069 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:03,320 that I was for all my life, what am I doing here? 1070 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,480 As the course is going on, I can see people learning and changing. 1071 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,040 As the course is going on, I can see people learning and changing. 1072 00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:11,760 Everybody's trying new things, 1073 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,800 but for some people, therapy is very slow 1074 00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:14,800 but for some people, therapy is very slow 1075 00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,840 and totally goes at the pace of the client. 1076 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:17,240 and totally goes at the pace of the client. 1077 00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:24,560 Bertie may be working things out, 1078 00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:25,160 Bertie may be working things out, 1079 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,200 but discovering turn-ons for some is slow progress. 1080 00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:28,560 but discovering turn-ons for some is slow progress. 1081 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,600 Guys, do you like hairy vaginas? 1082 00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:31,920 Guys, do you like hairy vaginas? 1083 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,960 I actually don't care. Yeah. Each to their own. 1084 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:35,280 I actually don't care. Yeah. Each to their own. 1085 00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,320 When it starts coming out of their knicker line and you're like, 1086 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:37,680 When it starts coming out of their knicker line and you're like, 1087 00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:39,360 "Oh, God, you need to shave." 1088 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:41,200 Oh, no. 1089 00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,240 I don't really look after myself very much, but, you know. 1090 00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:43,680 I don't really look after myself very much, but, you know. 1091 00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:45,640 No-one's seeing it, so... 1092 00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,680 After this, that won't be true. 1093 00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:48,040 After this, that won't be true. 1094 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,080 LAUGHTER 1095 00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,000 LAUGHTER 1096 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,040 Intimacy is challenging for everyone on the island, 1097 00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,680 Intimacy is challenging for everyone on the island, 1098 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:56,720 but for 21-year-old Callum, it's also linked to tragedy. 1099 00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,760 but for 21-year-old Callum, it's also linked to tragedy. 1100 00:33:58,800 --> 00:33:59,040 but for 21-year-old Callum, it's also linked to tragedy. 1101 00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,080 My dad passed away two years ago. 1102 00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:01,400 My dad passed away two years ago. 1103 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,440 He was an alcoholic. 1104 00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:04,240 He was an alcoholic. 1105 00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:05,240 Um... 1106 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,120 I don't really know how to respond to it. 1107 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:10,120 I don't really know how to respond to it. 1108 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,320 I'm living on my own in his house, where he used to live, 1109 00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:14,080 I'm living on my own in his house, where he used to live, 1110 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,120 and probably spend... 1111 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:16,600 and probably spend... 1112 00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:18,640 It's probably about 16 hours a day, gaming. 1113 00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:20,480 It's probably about 16 hours a day, gaming. 1114 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,520 I suppose it is a way to escape everything in the world. 1115 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,520 I suppose it is a way to escape everything in the world. 1116 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,560 I struggle to meet people in person. 1117 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:27,040 I struggle to meet people in person. 1118 00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,080 It makes me feel alone. 1119 00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:30,240 It makes me feel alone. 1120 00:34:33,720 --> 00:34:35,720 The experts want Callum to tackle his grief... 1121 00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:36,400 The experts want Callum to tackle his grief... 1122 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,160 Hi. Hello! 1123 00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,200 ..with clinical therapist Abby. 1124 00:34:41,240 --> 00:34:41,400 ..with clinical therapist Abby. 1125 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:46,680 Are there times in your life where you felt uncomfortable 1126 00:34:46,720 --> 00:34:47,640 Are there times in your life where you felt uncomfortable 1127 00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:49,200 talking about these things? 1128 00:34:49,240 --> 00:34:50,880 Yeah, I think so. 1129 00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:52,840 I'm never really honest or open. 1130 00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:54,560 I think it was when my dad passed 1131 00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,600 that I really started to notice a lot of the stuff about myself. 1132 00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:57,560 that I really started to notice a lot of the stuff about myself. 1133 00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:59,480 Talk to me a little bit about that. 1134 00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,520 HE SIGHS 1135 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:01,800 HE SIGHS 1136 00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,840 I really punished myself about everything. 1137 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:04,080 I really punished myself about everything. 1138 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,120 Yeah, he got admitted to hospital because he'd fallen. 1139 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,360 Yeah, he got admitted to hospital because he'd fallen. 1140 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,400 He was on the floor for two days and he couldn't get up. 1141 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:10,800 He was on the floor for two days and he couldn't get up. 1142 00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,760 He couldn't reach his phone to tell anyone. 1143 00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,800 Yeah. And the next day, being told that, 1144 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:16,080 Yeah. And the next day, being told that, 1145 00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,120 you know, he's not got long left to live, so... 1146 00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:18,360 you know, he's not got long left to live, so... 1147 00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,320 He died within two weeks. Yeah. 1148 00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:21,560 He died within two weeks. Yeah. 1149 00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:23,600 He got... Oh! It's OK. 1150 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:24,840 He got... Oh! It's OK. 1151 00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:26,680 HE SIGHS Liver cirrhosis. 1152 00:35:26,720 --> 00:35:28,720 Talk about the feeling that comes up around that. 1153 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:29,080 Talk about the feeling that comes up around that. 1154 00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:31,120 I still feel like I failed him. 1155 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:32,080 I still feel like I failed him. 1156 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,120 That's not... It's not for you to take on. 1157 00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:34,960 That's not... It's not for you to take on. 1158 00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,040 Is it reasonable for you to take responsibility of that? 1159 00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:41,640 Is it reasonable for you to take responsibility of that? 1160 00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:42,800 Maybe not. 1161 00:35:45,240 --> 00:35:47,040 What are the thoughts running in your head? 1162 00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,240 Regret. Yeah. 1163 00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,040 I just want to make him proud and not flatten his name. 1164 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,080 I just want to make him proud and not flatten his name. 1165 00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:00,680 I just want to make him proud and not flatten his name. 1166 00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,120 You're making him proud. 1167 00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:13,960 It was really emotional because a lot of it is 1168 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:14,520 It was really emotional because a lot of it is 1169 00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:16,560 shit, basically, that I hate dealing with. 1170 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:17,520 shit, basically, that I hate dealing with. 1171 00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,560 But I've never really had that emotional response 1172 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:20,520 But I've never really had that emotional response 1173 00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:22,560 and spoke properly with someone who understands it, 1174 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:23,640 and spoke properly with someone who understands it, 1175 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:25,680 and it's kind of a fuzzy feeling. 1176 00:36:25,720 --> 00:36:26,600 and it's kind of a fuzzy feeling. 1177 00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,320 I just feel... 1178 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,360 I feel like I want to let off steam. I want to run around. 1179 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:30,840 I feel like I want to let off steam. I want to run around. 1180 00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,240 Hello! Hello. 1181 00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,000 Hello. How did it go? 1182 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:41,160 Very emotional. 1183 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,200 Looking at shit from a different angle, I suppose. 1184 00:36:43,240 --> 00:36:44,080 Looking at shit from a different angle, I suppose. 1185 00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,120 Do you feel good that it's been, like, off your chest? 1186 00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:46,600 Do you feel good that it's been, like, off your chest? 1187 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:47,920 Mm. 1188 00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:49,840 Tell you what, though, it's so hot in the tepee. 1189 00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:51,880 I sweated it all out, so... LAUGHTER 1190 00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:52,240 I sweated it all out, so... LAUGHTER 1191 00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,280 It wasn't tears. It was just sweat coming out of your eyes. 1192 00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:54,600 It wasn't tears. It was just sweat coming out of your eyes. 1193 00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:56,640 Yeah, yeah. It weren't tears, no. 1194 00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:57,080 Yeah, yeah. It weren't tears, no. 1195 00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,360 Are you going to bomb it in? 1196 00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:09,680 Yeah, yeah. 1197 00:37:09,720 --> 00:37:11,200 It's late afternoon... 1198 00:37:11,240 --> 00:37:13,240 He just, like, glided in. 1199 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:14,320 He just, like, glided in. 1200 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,360 ..and many of the group are embracing island life. 1201 00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:17,880 ..and many of the group are embracing island life. 1202 00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:19,440 To be a man, hey? 1203 00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,480 Get your hair wet and just, like, come out and be fine. Yeah, yeah. 1204 00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:21,800 Get your hair wet and just, like, come out and be fine. Yeah, yeah. 1205 00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:23,840 Not need your make-up. No moisturiser. Yeah. 1206 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:24,120 Not need your make-up. No moisturiser. Yeah. 1207 00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,000 Not need to, like, shower. 1208 00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:28,000 Well, I think men need showers. 1209 00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:29,720 I hope they shower. 1210 00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,280 As some take a dip, 1211 00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,320 the experts have decided it's time for others to immerse themselves 1212 00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:36,840 the experts have decided it's time for others to immerse themselves 1213 00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:38,880 in the retreat's most advanced therapy, 1214 00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:39,520 in the retreat's most advanced therapy, 1215 00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:41,560 undertaken by three specialists. 1216 00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:42,760 undertaken by three specialists. 1217 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,800 Surrogate partner therapy works with a surrogate partner and the client, 1218 00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:46,680 Surrogate partner therapy works with a surrogate partner and the client, 1219 00:37:46,720 --> 00:37:48,720 practising with everything from different kinds of touch, 1220 00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:49,640 practising with everything from different kinds of touch, 1221 00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:51,680 through genital touching, oral sex or even intercourse, 1222 00:37:51,720 --> 00:37:53,280 through genital touching, oral sex or even intercourse, 1223 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:54,920 so that people can practise 1224 00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:56,960 the full range of sexual experiences. 1225 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:58,040 the full range of sexual experiences. 1226 00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,080 First is 35-year-old Ellen. 1227 00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:00,800 First is 35-year-old Ellen. 1228 00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:02,440 Hello! Hello. 1229 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:05,560 While all surrogate partner therapy 1230 00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:07,600 is supported by clinical therapist Abby... 1231 00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:08,240 is supported by clinical therapist Abby... 1232 00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:10,280 What I do is therapeutic emotional discussion. 1233 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,320 What I do is therapeutic emotional discussion. 1234 00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:12,640 What I do is therapeutic emotional discussion. 1235 00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,680 ..Kat will be Ellen's surrogate partner therapist. 1236 00:38:14,720 --> 00:38:15,240 ..Kat will be Ellen's surrogate partner therapist. 1237 00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,280 So I do the relationship side. 1238 00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:17,560 So I do the relationship side. 1239 00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:19,520 Doing touch work and relational work's, 1240 00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,560 like, completely led by you. OK. 1241 00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:22,560 like, completely led by you. OK. 1242 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,600 And hands are, like, really important in lesbian sex. 1243 00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:25,880 And hands are, like, really important in lesbian sex. 1244 00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:27,360 Yeah. Yeah. 1245 00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,400 Meanwhile, Tegan will wear it with surrogate partner therapist Risdon. 1246 00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:31,240 Meanwhile, Tegan will wear it with surrogate partner therapist Risdon. 1247 00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,280 And notice the sensation of me touching you. 1248 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,320 And notice the sensation of me touching you. 1249 00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:35,560 And notice the sensation of me touching you. 1250 00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:40,200 How did that feel? 1251 00:38:40,240 --> 00:38:42,240 It felt good. It felt really nice. OK, great. 1252 00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:43,080 It felt good. It felt really nice. OK, great. 1253 00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,120 But before Marianne can consider a surrogate relationship, 1254 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:46,640 But before Marianne can consider a surrogate relationship, 1255 00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,680 she first has to learn to trust men. 1256 00:38:48,720 --> 00:38:49,240 she first has to learn to trust men. 1257 00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,480 It gets to a point where I can feel the energy, 1258 00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:52,800 It gets to a point where I can feel the energy, 1259 00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:54,840 I can feel they want more, and I can't cross the boundary. 1260 00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:56,160 I can feel they want more, and I can't cross the boundary. 1261 00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,200 I just can't. My brain just gets stuck. 1262 00:38:58,240 --> 00:38:59,080 I just can't. My brain just gets stuck. 1263 00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:00,400 I really want to challenge myself. 1264 00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,280 I want to do it with a guy and see how I feel. 1265 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,440 Trust is everything. 1266 00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,480 Out of all my friends, I'm the only virgin. 1267 00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:10,760 Out of all my friends, I'm the only virgin. 1268 00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:12,840 And I do feel lonely. 1269 00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,880 But I do want to be in a relationship with someone. 1270 00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:16,240 But I do want to be in a relationship with someone. 1271 00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,280 If I haven't figured it out by 26 years, 1272 00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:19,080 If I haven't figured it out by 26 years, 1273 00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:20,800 then clearly I do need some help. 1274 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:23,760 First step for Marianne... 1275 00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:25,560 Hello. 1276 00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,600 ..is simply being comfortable in the same room 1277 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:28,240 ..is simply being comfortable in the same room 1278 00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,280 as potential surrogate partner, Andre. 1279 00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:30,920 as potential surrogate partner, Andre. 1280 00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:33,680 How are you feeling now? 1281 00:39:33,720 --> 00:39:35,720 A little bit anxious in my stomach. OK. Um... 1282 00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:36,400 A little bit anxious in my stomach. OK. Um... 1283 00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,440 And that's just because of unknowns and things. Yeah. 1284 00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,400 And that's just because of unknowns and things. Yeah. 1285 00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,040 Working with Marianne, 1286 00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,080 it's very important that we start slowly 1287 00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:44,520 it's very important that we start slowly 1288 00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,560 to build the trust in myself. 1289 00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:47,560 to build the trust in myself. 1290 00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:49,600 I'm going to be moving around the room 1291 00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:50,400 I'm going to be moving around the room 1292 00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,440 and going to be noticing 1293 00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:52,720 and going to be noticing 1294 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,760 how your body is reacting to where I am. 1295 00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:55,840 how your body is reacting to where I am. 1296 00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,880 The idea is just to learn how someone being close to you 1297 00:39:57,920 --> 00:39:59,360 The idea is just to learn how someone being close to you 1298 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,400 can potentially feel. Yeah. 1299 00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:02,440 can potentially feel. Yeah. 1300 00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:04,080 OK. So go ahead and close your eyes. 1301 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,360 And so I've moved. 1302 00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,400 You might feel I'm further away. 1303 00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:16,600 You might feel I'm further away. 1304 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,960 See if there's any noticeable change in sensation. 1305 00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:25,000 See if there's any noticeable change in sensation. 1306 00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:25,880 See if there's any noticeable change in sensation. 1307 00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:30,280 Growing up, I really never saw how a relationship should be. 1308 00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,320 Growing up, I really never saw how a relationship should be. 1309 00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:34,120 Growing up, I really never saw how a relationship should be. 1310 00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,200 My dad just wasn't there. 1311 00:40:36,240 --> 00:40:38,240 And seven, eight years ago, I found out I had a new half-sister. 1312 00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,280 And seven, eight years ago, I found out I had a new half-sister. 1313 00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,320 My dad was sort of collecting many families. 1314 00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:43,360 My dad was sort of collecting many families. 1315 00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:45,480 Yeah. 1316 00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,800 Just noticing what's happening in your body. 1317 00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:50,080 Just noticing what's happening in your body. 1318 00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:53,360 So anything that reminds me of my dad, you're instantly vetoed. 1319 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:54,440 So anything that reminds me of my dad, you're instantly vetoed. 1320 00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,400 Trust-wise, I'm very sceptical. 1321 00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,600 What was, like, kind of going on in your head? 1322 00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:03,440 What was, like, kind of going on in your head? 1323 00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:05,280 By the end, 1324 00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,320 I liked it. Hmm. 1325 00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:07,560 I liked it. Hmm. 1326 00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,600 It just felt warm by the end. 1327 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:10,520 It just felt warm by the end. 1328 00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,560 I felt, if I'm being honest, more sort of turned on 1329 00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,000 I felt, if I'm being honest, more sort of turned on 1330 00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,040 with the second one that was there, for some reason. 1331 00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:16,320 with the second one that was there, for some reason. 1332 00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:18,360 Yeah. Wonderful. OK, great. 1333 00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:19,000 Yeah. Wonderful. OK, great. 1334 00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,040 I feel a lot more relaxed, yeah. Good. 1335 00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:22,840 I feel a lot more relaxed, yeah. Good. 1336 00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:24,520 After the exercise... 1337 00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,560 Want a hug? I would love a hug. 1338 00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:28,600 ..Marianne is clearly calmer. 1339 00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:28,800 ..Marianne is clearly calmer. 1340 00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:31,880 It helps that you smell like salted caramel. 1341 00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:32,160 It helps that you smell like salted caramel. 1342 00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,000 Mm. Do I really? Yeah. 1343 00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:36,040 It's very, like... I like that. 1344 00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:36,240 It's very, like... I like that. 1345 00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,280 I'm feeling a lot more reassured working with a guy. 1346 00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:41,040 I'm feeling a lot more reassured working with a guy. 1347 00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,080 He's very lovely and I felt very relaxed. 1348 00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:43,600 He's very lovely and I felt very relaxed. 1349 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,800 It has helped my brain not be as... 1350 00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:48,840 It has helped my brain not be as... 1351 00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:49,080 It has helped my brain not be as... 1352 00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:50,560 ..fearful. 1353 00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:52,120 I'm really proud of myself. 1354 00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:57,800 Hi! Hi, Marianne. Welcome back! 1355 00:41:57,840 --> 00:41:58,040 Hi! Hi, Marianne. Welcome back! 1356 00:41:58,080 --> 00:41:59,600 How did your one-to-one go? 1357 00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:01,360 It was good. 1358 00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:02,880 Hell, yeah. Nice, dude. 1359 00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:04,920 How many people can actually fit in this bed? That's the real question. 1360 00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:05,320 How many people can actually fit in this bed? That's the real question. 1361 00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,360 Bertie, do you want to come join us in the bed? 1362 00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:08,160 Bertie, do you want to come join us in the bed? 1363 00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,720 Um... Actually, please do. 1364 00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,760 It's an open invitation. 1365 00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:12,000 It's an open invitation. 1366 00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:13,120 All right. No worries. 1367 00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,080 After getting back on track earlier, 1368 00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:17,360 After getting back on track earlier, 1369 00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,400 the experts don't want Bertie to lose momentum again. 1370 00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:21,200 the experts don't want Bertie to lose momentum again. 1371 00:42:21,240 --> 00:42:22,440 Bertie jumped up. I thought he was 1372 00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:24,480 going to use his foot as an excuse, but he didn't. 1373 00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:24,760 going to use his foot as an excuse, but he didn't. 1374 00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:26,640 And he was so good. 1375 00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,680 He seemed so sensual, so, like, um, animalistic. 1376 00:42:28,720 --> 00:42:30,720 He seemed so sensual, so, like, um, animalistic. 1377 00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:31,240 He seemed so sensual, so, like, um, animalistic. 1378 00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:33,280 It's really important that he feels successful. Yeah. 1379 00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:33,760 It's really important that he feels successful. Yeah. 1380 00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:37,320 When it comes to dating and sex, 1381 00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:39,000 When it comes to dating and sex, 1382 00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,040 I just want to be able to be more confident 1383 00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:41,320 I just want to be able to be more confident 1384 00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,360 in myself and know what I'm doing. 1385 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:43,640 in myself and know what I'm doing. 1386 00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:45,680 Because the thought of me approaching 1387 00:42:45,720 --> 00:42:47,240 Because the thought of me approaching 1388 00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,280 a woman and asking them out, it would make them think, 1389 00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:50,480 a woman and asking them out, it would make them think, 1390 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:52,520 "Oh, God, this is embarrassing. 1391 00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:52,800 "Oh, God, this is embarrassing. 1392 00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:54,840 "What have I done to deserve being asked out by Bertie?" 1393 00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:55,880 "What have I done to deserve being asked out by Bertie?" 1394 00:42:58,240 --> 00:43:00,240 To help boost his confidence... Good afternoon. Good afternoon. 1395 00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:01,080 To help boost his confidence... Good afternoon. Good afternoon. 1396 00:43:02,240 --> 00:43:04,240 ..Celeste wants to push Bertie's boundaries. 1397 00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:05,760 ..Celeste wants to push Bertie's boundaries. 1398 00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,800 How was the workshop for you? I know I got a few things wrong, 1399 00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:08,720 How was the workshop for you? I know I got a few things wrong, 1400 00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:10,760 but that was the first time I didn't really feel uncomfortable. 1401 00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:12,360 but that was the first time I didn't really feel uncomfortable. 1402 00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,080 I was super proud and impressed, 1403 00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:16,120 and I think we can use this session to just do more kinds 1404 00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:17,280 and I think we can use this session to just do more kinds 1405 00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:19,320 of practices that will be helpful for you. 1406 00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:19,680 of practices that will be helpful for you. 1407 00:43:19,720 --> 00:43:21,640 Sounds good. ..to get more technique together. 1408 00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,760 Good job I brushed my teeth, then! 1409 00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:28,920 Celeste starts... 1410 00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,960 So try to, like, lay me back. 1411 00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:31,400 So try to, like, lay me back. 1412 00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,320 Like this? Yeah, exactly. 1413 00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,360 ..simulating the missionary position... 1414 00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:36,080 ..simulating the missionary position... 1415 00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:38,120 How am I going to do this? It'll be awkward at first. Yeah. 1416 00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:38,480 How am I going to do this? It'll be awkward at first. Yeah. 1417 00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:40,520 So don't worry about that, OK? OK. 1418 00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:40,800 So don't worry about that, OK? OK. 1419 00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,840 ..teaching Bertie the basics. 1420 00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:43,120 ..teaching Bertie the basics. 1421 00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,160 And then you want to line up so that your dick is connected to my pussy. 1422 00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,200 And then you want to line up so that your dick is connected to my pussy. 1423 00:43:47,240 --> 00:43:47,800 And then you want to line up so that your dick is connected to my pussy. 1424 00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:49,840 Oh, God. OK. OK! 1425 00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:50,600 Oh, God. OK. OK! 1426 00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,080 Right. Right? 1427 00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:53,560 Like this? Yeah, exactly. 1428 00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,080 CELESTE LAUGHS 1429 00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:00,680 And you'll need to hold up some of your weight. 1430 00:44:00,720 --> 00:44:01,480 And you'll need to hold up some of your weight. 1431 00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:02,880 Yeah. Sorry. No, it's OK. 1432 00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,920 And if you want me to show you what I mean, I'm happy to do that. 1433 00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:05,440 And if you want me to show you what I mean, I'm happy to do that. 1434 00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,480 That's fine. You can if you want to. Well, if you lie down... 1435 00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:08,360 That's fine. You can if you want to. Well, if you lie down... 1436 00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:12,440 OK, so if I'm on top of you... Yeah. 1437 00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:12,920 OK, so if I'm on top of you... Yeah. 1438 00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:14,960 See how, like, I'm not all the way down? 1439 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:15,280 See how, like, I'm not all the way down? 1440 00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,320 Yeah, no. It's just a little too much pressure on the chest. 1441 00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:18,520 Yeah, no. It's just a little too much pressure on the chest. 1442 00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:24,440 But when you thrust, 1443 00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,480 I want you to imagine that your cock is going inside my vagina. 1444 00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:27,960 I want you to imagine that your cock is going inside my vagina. 1445 00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:29,120 Like... This? 1446 00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,160 Yes, exactly. Yes, yes! 1447 00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:31,720 Yes, exactly. Yes, yes! 1448 00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,040 You want to try doggy? Let's try it. OK! 1449 00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,880 Then you get between my legs. Yep. 1450 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:41,280 Then you get between my legs. Yep. 1451 00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:42,800 And you pull me up. 1452 00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:44,640 Exactly! 1453 00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:46,520 You can kind of be all the way up. 1454 00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:48,560 Yes. Yes. Yes. 1455 00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:48,800 Yes. Yes. Yes. 1456 00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,840 Good. Yeah. Like that. 1457 00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:52,680 Good. Yeah. Like that. 1458 00:44:52,720 --> 00:44:53,680 Oh... 1459 00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,840 Thank you very much. I feel light-headed. 1460 00:44:57,880 --> 00:44:58,120 Thank you very much. I feel light-headed. 1461 00:44:58,160 --> 00:44:59,960 Oh, yes. I bet! 1462 00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:02,000 You are an absolute miracle worker. 1463 00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:04,040 I ain't leaving. And thank you very much. 1464 00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:04,360 I ain't leaving. And thank you very much. 1465 00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:06,400 I'm just going to be rooting you on in every moment. 1466 00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:07,200 I'm just going to be rooting you on in every moment. 1467 00:45:07,240 --> 00:45:08,760 Yeah. I'm proud of you. 1468 00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:14,960 Oh, Bertie, boy! Hiya. Hello. How was it? 1469 00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,040 Oh, Bertie, boy! Hiya. Hello. How was it? 1470 00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:18,080 Good. Celeste taught me how certain sexual positions work. 1471 00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,120 Good. Celeste taught me how certain sexual positions work. 1472 00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:21,640 Good. Celeste taught me how certain sexual positions work. 1473 00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,680 Wow. Ooh! So, uh... Yeah. 1474 00:45:23,720 --> 00:45:23,920 Wow. Ooh! So, uh... Yeah. 1475 00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:25,960 I feel very happy at the moment. 1476 00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:26,760 I feel very happy at the moment. 1477 00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,800 It's amazing what a what a bit of, um, 1478 00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,360 It's amazing what a what a bit of, um, 1479 00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:31,520 rolling round on the floor 1480 00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:33,560 doing different sexual positions can do to one's mentality. 1481 00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:34,240 doing different sexual positions can do to one's mentality. 1482 00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,280 But I've made progress, and I'm proud of myself for that. 1483 00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:38,320 But I've made progress, and I'm proud of myself for that. 1484 00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:39,160 But I've made progress, and I'm proud of myself for that. 1485 00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,200 And I'm thankful for everything that Celeste has taught me. 1486 00:45:41,240 --> 00:45:42,160 And I'm thankful for everything that Celeste has taught me. 1487 00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:45,160 Oh, my God. 1488 00:45:47,720 --> 00:45:49,720 All that thrusting has made me hurt my bollocks. 1489 00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:51,240 All that thrusting has made me hurt my bollocks. 1490 00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:54,680 Just going to have to sleep on my back tonight. 1491 00:45:54,720 --> 00:45:55,720 Christ almighty. 1492 00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:58,120 Next time... 1493 00:45:58,160 --> 00:45:59,320 Look at my pussy. 1494 00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:01,240 I'm definitely a lesbian. 1495 00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:03,280 The dating phase panics Ellen. 1496 00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:03,640 The dating phase panics Ellen. 1497 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,120 I just don't feel like I'm good enough. 1498 00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:06,520 MOANING 1499 00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,000 Alex ups his game. 1500 00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:09,800 Do you want to see how hard you are? 1501 00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:11,520 And things heat up... 1502 00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,560 Cheers. ..with island dates. 1503 00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:13,920 Cheers. ..with island dates. 1504 00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:15,640 I'm so nervous still. Why? 1505 00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,120 I think it's cos it's you. 118808

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