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Keep your chin down and don't forget
this.

Oh God.

Alright, my name is Papa.

Be a man with me.

Do you have any boxing experience?

He's not going to lie to me. He's going
to be fine.

He's Papa.

Woo!

Ethernet is always saying that men
should be stigma and on their grind set.

Go to the gym, work really hard, and
don't sleep.

Sleeping is for weak. On the other side,
we hear that only men are violent.

Masculinity is toxic.

Teach men to don't be aggressive and be
in touch with your feelings.

Women are actually saying that they
would rather be in the forest alone with

bear than a man.

I'm not sure either one is right. So I'm
going to go out and spend the whole day

with the experts.

This is Smiling Sam Alvi.

Man who's been fighting in MMA since
2007.

He actually spends all day at the gym so
he can beat up people for a living. If

anyone can tell me whether that's Toxic
or Sigma Boo, it's him.

I met Sam at his home in Tennessee.

And first thing I noticed, he's big.

Big boy.

I always think I'm big and Tom around an
actual big guy. You see anyone in the

NFL, they just work me. So what are we
doing today?

Oh, man, I got a day for you. We're
starting at the gym. Then we're going to

other gym. Then we're going to the third
gym.

Then we're going to come back here. We
got food for the horses. We got to do a

bunch of stuff here.

Then we're going to pick up my kids.

Then we're going back to the gym.

How many kids do you have? I have six
kids. Six kids. Big muscles, big heart,

big family.

Oh, it's going to be a good day.

Great. So I'm going to 58 gym.

I'm going to be very sore.

And after all that, I found out that Sam
is going to challenge me in the boxing

gym. Sounds delightful.

Oh my God, okay.

So this is your every Monday? Every
Monday, 45 minutes cardio.

And then you work out five times a day?

No, when I'm in camp, I'm in a gym six
to eight hours a day.

When I'm not in camp, it's three to four
hours.

How being physical in the shape is
important.

Be a man.

You know what the average time span a
man can sprint, a man can push himself

hard? About 30 seconds.

If you're going to protect your family,
you have 30 seconds to protect the

family. Or you've got to come to a gym
every now and then.

Push yourself.

If you can give yourself a minute, two
minutes before you get exhausted, that

enough to change the tide. Do you think
women find men that are in shape

attractive? Oh, I hope so.

I hope so because I spent my life trying
to be in shape.

A lot of women say they like the dad
bods.

Dad bods are great.

They would still prefer the six pack.

I was thinking about it last night that,
you know, I'm going to get

uncomfortable. I'm going to be in pain.

I'm going to be embarrassed.

I'm going to do exactly everything that
I don't want to do.

But because I want to be a man, that's
exactly what I got to do. Right.

There we go.

Can you tell me about toxic masculinity?

Is there even such thing? Anything
that's toxic is garbage. They want

ways to insult us.

They want different ways to say we're
wrong. So they're toxic in front of us.

Extend your forearms a little bit.
They're going to say I'm toxicly

because I grunt when I work out and
afterwards you kind of flex a little

That's their definition. If you're proud
of what you're doing, you can be a jerk

and not be masculine.

You can be a jerk and be masculine.

The toxic part is just another way to
claim victim mentality.

I'm going to put on 380.

445.

What the... Hell

yeah.

Yeah, so let's take all this off.

Just remember, if you can't lift it,
everyone's going to see.

No pressure.

Encouragement. Well, I came here with
the expectation that I'm going to

embarrass myself, so let's go. You got
this. You got this.

Okay.

Get up there.

Yeah, my man.

The slow decline. I love it. My man.

Oh, shit.

I mean, he's an animal.

He's like a killing machine, but also at
the same time, smiley, heartwarming

guy. All right, you want to try what I
just did?

What did you do?

I ripped it out for 20.

Did you really do 280?

Oh, of course.

Did you really? No.

It's like a very, very sweet guy that
looks like an animal.

How important is discipline?

It's not just in my career. It's not
just in athletics.

You have to make time to show the world,
to show your kids what it takes to be

that man. What discipline truly is.

It will change your

life. It will make everything else
easier in your life.

Well, are you ready to get punched in
the face a little bit?

We're about 20 % into the day.

There's a chance.

I'm going to shit myself.

Thank you. So, Jim, isn't about spending
your life alone and getting huge

Jocelyn Pratt people. It's about having
discipline, making yourself strong so

you can protect the loved ones. Okay.

No way. I still can't believe that I
lifted as much as him. Technically, you

didn't, though.

Thank you.

So after weightlifting, I asked Sam to
teach me a little bit of fighting

techniques so he doesn't whoop my ass
too much at the end of the day. What are

we doing, sir?

We're going to go over a little bit of
the fundamentals of punching.

Tell me about the sparring later. You
said I'm going to spar boxing with

someone. Oh, yeah, you do?

You're going to go against the guy that
beats me up pretty regularly.

Jermaine's a stud.

He's like an actual boxer. He's competed
for Golden Gloves.

He's turning pro any day now.

Dude's good.

You want me to spar with him? Yeah,
you're going to spar with him. You'll be

right. You'll be all right. Oh, okay.

First, are you right -handed or left
-handed?

Right -handed. Right -handed. You're
going to put the right hand in the back.

Now, we're throwing a cross first, which
is your back hand. As I'm throwing that

cross, my hip turns into it.

Yeah, you got the toe off the ground
already.

Boom. The jab is the lead hand.

Can I ask you what was the worst injury
you ever had?

The one that bothered me the most is I
broke my jaw.

My bottom teeth were split open.

Ah!

It was the most scared I'd ever been as
an adult. I had my family, I had my

kids. I was broken and they were putting
me under.

But I know there's a chance that I don't
wake up. And I was not in a position

where if I were to not wake up, that my
family would be okay.

It was terrifying.

First thought in your head is not your
health, not the fact that...

You might die, but the fact that you
might die and your family has nothing.

It was the closest to retiring that I've
ever been. And it was my wife.

I said, well, if you don't fight, what
are you going to do?

That's a good point.

Do you have a plan B now?

I've got an online training program,
SKOOL. I'm smiling and striking.

It's $20 a month, and they get full
access to me. They post clips, and I

critique it, and I do a weekly Bible
study with it. I do a...

I'm at 100 % success rate. Every person
who has fought since training under my

school has won their next fight.

What would be the thing that you would
say to young men who are scared of

fighting, scared of going out, scared of
going into the world, even working out?

Go and find out. It is so much fun. You
go with a bunch of your friends, a bunch

of people that are going to be your
friends. It is such a stress relief.

much fun. And you get that one good shot
for the first time, you'll be bragging

about it for the rest of your life. It
will change the way you hold yourself.

You'll go from slumped shoulders to,
yeah, I landed that.

I broke my hand.

And now for the rest of my life, I get
to brag about how I fought with a broken

hand. I knew what I was risking.

I'm going to overcome it, and I did.

And it's a memory I've got locked in
here that I will be able to spread on

forever more.

Ah, damn.

So, do you think you have enough to
fight me later?

No. Well, let me rephrase.

We're going to be fighting later.

Yay!

Shit. So we are done here. We're going
to go back to my house. We'll get some

lunch and feed some animals. I got some
mulch to lay.

And you'll get to see the other side of
being a man.

Tom spends half of the day at the gym
making himself a fighting machine.

The second half of the day he spends
with his family, taking care of his

kids, and his farm.

Everything he does, working out,
training, getting beat up, beating up,

and losing, is to provide for his
family. One of the toughest guys I ever

just the biggest teddy bear.

Outside of beating people up for a
living, then you do this family stuff

taking care of a house and taking care
of children.

I've been blessed with the life I have.

I'm going to push this way if you can
push it that way.

Okay, I need a reinforcement here.

Ross! I don't know what I did to deserve
it. I think your hard work might have

something to do with it.

Is that someone shooting guns?

Most likely, right? It might be.

Nice. Oh, yeah.

I mean, you have a little heaven here.
You have goats, horses.

Yes, and it's...

It's a ton of work, a lot more work than
I thought it was going to be.

Your children are for sure appreciating
it. Yeah, they absolutely will. I grew

up on a lake, and I didn't take
advantage of it like I wish I would

Now I'm here, and I'm taking advantage
of everything.

I have to make sure my kids do too, so
they don't do the same thing when

older.

How important it is to show your kids
that you're passionate about something.

Isn't that super important?

I hope it's the right decision showing
them how passionate I am about this. But

I hope whatever it is they do, they're
as dedicated to it as I like to think I

am in this one.

Where I wake up every day looking
forward to getting beat up by everyone.

And it's been a great life. It has been
more than I deserve.

Can you introduce yourself?

Yeah. To you?

Yes, to all of us. Okay.

I am McKee Alvey.

I'm Smiling Sam's wife.

When I met Sam, I was 16 years old. On
our first date, he took me to a truck

stop. He showed me his entire weapons
collection that he kept in his trunk at

all times.

And I didn't know any other guys that
carry around grappling hooks and

He started really chasing, fighting, and
he was so committed to it. And then he

worked three jobs, trained eight hours a
day in the gym. And I was like, okay,

wow, he's very serious, he's dedicated.

Why wouldn't you want...

your kids to be fighters? Is it because
you're trying to protect them, you don't

want them to be exposed to violence, or
you don't want them to get damaged, get

hurt? No, my paycheck relies on me
winning. I'm the sole provider for the

family, and if I lose, my family gets
half as much money.

It's a lot of pressure, and I wouldn't
wish that on anyone, especially not my

kids, where you have to win.

I think that men and women complement
each other, and in your own

you complement each other as well.
There's a lot of give and take, and

lot of supporting each other to get to
where you need to go. He has a job that

he goes out there and he's on his own.
But without a team behind you, you don't

get to that level.

He needs to have a strong team behind
him, and I'm part of that team.

Could you define for us what real men
is?

what real man's supposed to be. My man
is somebody that is strong.

He's the backbone of the family.

He's going to be exactly what the family
needs at the end of the day. And during

the day, he's going to be the one that's
going out there and doing what needs to

be doing, regardless of what's happening
in the family. And he's going to get us

through whatever we're going through.

And he really is my rock.

This is how much pressure real man is
under every single time when he provides

for his family.

Feeding family of seven.

Yeah.

Getting your ass beat up every single
day, multiple times a day. Yeah.

And then a little bit of yard work, a
little bit of homework.

Yeah. No breaks. No breaks.

Today was painful.

But this is rewarding.

Next, Sam is going to take me to jiu
-jitsu.

I do not like jiu -jitsu.

It's hot and sweaty.

You're hugging and rubbing against other
guys. You have their balls in your

face.

People tell me jiu -jitsu is supposed to
be the best thing for a one -on -one

fight. I don't believe it.

But Sam wins fights in jiu -jitsu.

So I guess there's something to it.

I guess what I learned from jiu -jitsu
is humility.

It's not about being able to kick a
guy's ass.

It's about learning your limitations so
you don't think too high of yourself.

Men need to be humble.

Probably most men in today's society
have never been humble on the matter.

They have no real idea how easily their
wallet can be taken. Give me your

wallet. Give me your wallet.

A lot of men are genuinely troubled
emotionally, physically, in being called

that they're worthless.

You come into a room like this, you'll
be around like -minded people. You

have a shared goal to get better, to be
able to defend yourself, defend your

family. You're getting better at
something. Being better at something

more confident in yourself, makes you
more willing to reach out and grow as a

human being.

You really are strong.

The strength will take you a long ways
in martial arts and defending.

Just to take a little thing, little
tweaks, will make you just night and day

different.

I don't like jiu -jitsu.

So we are at the fourth gym for the day.

I've been training, I've been working
out, I've wrestled with three different

guys.

And I'm exhausted.

I believe every man should know how to
defend himself.

So I'm going to learn how to punch, and
I'm going to learn how to receive a

punch.

Definitely more on the receiving end.

Yeah, it's going to be one big ass
whooping.

My friend Jermaine and I, we're going to
get three rounds in, then he's going to

get around with you too. So you get to
watch all of our skill set and just

game planning while we're gone.

And then trying to get petrified. Yeah.
Roger.

You'll be all right. You'll be all
right. Keep your hands up.

You'll be fine.

Oh my goodness.

Like walk through the park for them. I
am now that I'm definitely certain that

I'm gonna get my ass... Whoop!

Punch in the face, that's one thing
that's certain for me today.

Oh, God.

I'm nervous, I'm anxious.

Thank God for this.

Headgear shit.

How the f*** am I gonna fight Jermaine?

Here we are. I'm about to do a boxing
with the guy who's training for Golden

Gloves. But I already come so far, and
I'm not going to be a bitch.

Hopefully.

Don't kill me.

He's doing good. He's got a lot of
heart. He's not scared.

I got my ass whooped.

I have a hole in my teeth.

In my nose I don't think it's broken.

I might have a concussion, however.

But at least I went there and tried my
best.

At least I did that, you know.

He is very unpredictable, which can be
really good in boxing.

The unpredictableness can really just
set up some shots that you wouldn't even

think would come from, like, different
angles. So that was the main key point

playing with him. He's good. You could
tell that there was that potential to

have the real power behind him.

If you were to start training a little
more regularly, he could do this. He

could be a real boxer.

Good job, man. A lot of heart.

So what did I learn today?

Holy shit! I've learned that manhood is
not about being toxic.

It's not about being aggressive.

It's not about hurting people. And it's
not about being a dickhead.

It's about pushing yourself outside of
your comfort zone. Finding your limits

you can protect and provide for your
family.

It's about having power and knowing how
to control it.

Getting punched in the face will give
you perspective.

Men should be humble and kind and also
perfectly capable of whooping ass if you

threaten their family.

Isn't that what we all want for men to
be?