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I'd probably say in the morning of a
game, because we've got to be at the

you know, sort of two hours before, and
if you can find a toilet then it's all

best, but the boys are usually in there
either being sick or, you know,

somewhere, so, no. So it's not a locker
room wank fest or anything like that?

No, no.

There goes that fantasy.

I know.

So, Alicia, you've been known to have
bedded several sportsmen.

Can you tell us who they are?

Dwight York, Fabian Barthez.

My ex -boyfriend was Mikel Anton Correa,
premiership Scottish bear. So are you a

football snob or would you do Sunday
League?

I don't know. What's Sunday League? I
don't even know what it is. I guess

a yes.

Now, did you ever have to abstain from
sex because your partner was?

Yeah, yeah. With my ex -boyfriend, he
had the strict rule that if he had a

match, he wasn't going to have sex
beforehand.

And why was that?

Because his manager told him.

I mean, with Dwight York as well, the
manager used to tell him, but he didn't

take any notice of it. And obviously, he
should have sex.

But he was on the bench quite a lot.

So that was a rule for the whole team.
No sex. No sex before a match.

Of all the trainers you've heard about,
who do you think is the strictest? Was

it Alex Ferguson?

Definitely the Manchester guy.

That's Alex Ferguson, isn't it? Yeah,
him.

He's not.

So, John, why do you think sports
trainers, if there's no evidence to back

up, why are they still so strict about
not having sex before a big game?

I think it's power and control, that
it's a way of trying to influence

the sportsman. It's not evidence -based.

I think sportsmen in general are a lot
more sexual than normal, like normal

office workers or whatever.

And also sportsmen can do it.

Like more time as well.

I agree that sportsmen probably are
going to have better sexual function.

Physical activity, increasing physical
activity, is the one lifestyle change

that can really enhance sexual
performance, can enhance erection, and

20 minutes to 40 minutes of exercise
most days of the week, most men, office

workers included, will be better in bed
as a consequence.

And how about in people's everyday
lives? How does sex affect that?

Sex is central to the human experience,
and people who are having a satisfying

sexual life, satisfying intimacy with a
partner, are likely to perform

better, be happier, be nice to know at
work. I think that sex actually has a

very positive effect on many different
aspects of life and on performance, not

negative effect.

Is there an optimum number of orgasms in
any given period for somebody to be

working or performing at their optimum
level? I think that regular sex, regular

orgasms are very beneficial in many,
many ways.

There's a wonderful study called the
Cofilli -Host cohort study where men who

have an orgasm three times a week were
50 % less likely to die at any given age

than those who didn't.

Whilst most men would love to be able to
go home and say, to their partners uh

it's doctor's orders i've got to have
sex three times a week unfortunately i

think it's more likely that it's them
being fit enough to have sex uh three

times a week is a marker for how how
long they're going to live rather than

actually having to have the orgasms
thank you all for coming in that was

so just to

be clear Having an orgasm before sport
is not scientifically proven to

affect your performance, so we'll leave
it up to you.

In general, though, having more orgasms
can lead to better emotional and

physical health.

Now, please remain seated for part four,
when we'll meet a woman who claims she

can give you the ultimate female orgasm.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Now, if you think this sex thing is all
quite simple, men ejaculate and women

go, ooh, ooh, ah, a lot, with none of
that messy business, well, think again.

Hi, so I have a problem. I've been
dating this girl for a little while now.

Every time we're together, fortunately I
know how to help her orgasm.

Fortunately, not the problem, but when
she does, she's sort of a sprayer, a

shooter, and it gets all over the
furniture and stuff, and it's kind of

me out a little.

Is it going to stain the furniture or
the sheets, or what do I do? So I need

help. I'm a little weirded out.

You know, usually the men we get coming
to the store, they're asking us how they

can help their girlfriends ejaculate,
and you should actually just feel like a

total stud.

Plus, you ejaculate and make kind of a
mess every time, and it's not a problem

for her, so you kind of want to suck it
up and deal.

Maybe just invest in some waterproof
sheets. That'll be five cents, please.

Thank you, guys.

Thank you.

They're still very controversial.
According to our next guest, female

ejaculation is not only possible, but
they think it's possible for all women.

please meet International Authority on
Female Ejaculation, Deborah Sundahl, and

female ejaculator, Emma Cannon.

Thanks for joining us.

So, Deborah.

What is female ejaculation?

Female ejaculation is actually prostatic
fluid from the female prostate.

And what is the female prostate?

Same as the male prostate and all women
have one, as do all men.

And how do you target it? It surrounds
the urethra.

and starts at the outside opening of the
body. So it's just very easy to find.

It's simply just inside the vagina.

It also circles the outside of the
urethra, so you can access it there as

So how does female ejaculation happen?

It happens when the female prostate,
which is what the G -spot is, is

stimulated. A lot of women do think that
it is urinary incontinence when they

experience female ejaculation.

The urge to ejaculate feels like the
urge to pee, and that is the last thing

woman wants to do when they're having
sex.

So women have shut down on that urge to
ejaculate, some to the degree that they

don't really want to even have sex
anymore.

So Emma, how about you? Did you have any
idea what it was the first time it

happened to you?

First time it happened to me, I didn't
really have any idea. I was quite

with myself. But then I guess I kind of
just realised that, yes, it was

ejaculation, not any urine.

And what about your boyfriend? What did
he think about it? He thinks it's just

absolutely amazing and loves it, really.
And what is it like? Can you describe

it?

Mind -blowing.

Like you're not on this world anymore
really do you believe that all women can

female ejaculate?

Absolutely, just like all men can now
can you give us three tips for women who

want to try and achieve something like
that the first tip is to Know where your

g -spot is located and for most women
you can actually see it. You just sit

down, spread your labia lips, push out
with your muscles, and take a look at

your G spot.

This is important for women to reclaim
something that we've been told doesn't

exist.

And then secondly, spend some time with
your G spot, feeling it with your

fingers, and see what you feel there.

And then the third...

step is to slowly start to stimulate the
g -spot see if you can notice it grow a

little bit with blood and prosthetic
fluid you may feel that urge to pee and

when you do you simply push out and let
it flow so maybe women should try in the

bathtub first just in case they feel
uncomfortable the bathtub is a great

so is the garden the tiled floor the the
woods Well, thanks. Thank you both so

much for coming.

So here's what we've learned. Every
woman has a G -spot, and the G

-spot is the female prostate. And,
according to Debra, every woman can

ejaculate by massaging their G -spot.
Now, we're not convinced of that last

point, so if you can't, don't feel like
a failure.

Okay, so let's get a quick reminder of
what we've learned about orgasms

There's no such thing as a bad orgasm,
but a better orgasm's worth the effort.

He may prefer the sensation of entering
from behind, where he can thrust deeply.

She might like the control and freedom
of being on top, where she determines

speed, angle, and depth of penetration.

Or try the coital alignment technique.

Starting from the missionary position,
he moves up her body leaving just his

penis tip inside.

He then moves down again, keeping as
much bodily contact as possible.

If you remember only three things from
tonight's show, let them be this.

One, talk to your partner about what
works for you and what doesn't. Work on

your sexual satisfaction together.

Now, this might mean more lube and less
jackhammering, and it definitely means

no more faking.

Two, remember there's more to the female
orgasm than the clitoris.

Explore all your pleasure points.

And finally, while orgasms are a
wonderful thing, they're not the only

We'd all have a much better time in bed
if we could make sex less goal -oriented

and more about good, dirty fun.

So it's time now for you to go and put
into practice everything you've learned.

Join us again next time for more sex.

Good night.

Welcome to Sex, How to Do Everything,
the show where we, Em and Lo, show you

everything you'll ever need to know
about sex.

Our purpose is to get you to have great
sex and more of it.

As sex experts, we get thousands of
inquiries and they all come down to one

thing, how to have better sex.

Well, we know how and we're going to
show you. Each show will focus on

aspects of sex, from the art of
seduction to oral sex, anal sex and

play. Tonight's show is all about sex
toys.

There are literally thousands of
different types of sex toys on the

days. And it seems the Brits are pretty
fond of them. According to a recent

survey, 53 % of Britons regularly use
some sort of sex toy. That's way more

the global average of just 20%. The most
common type of sex toy is the vibrator,

with 49 % of Britons apparently owning
one.

And it's not just women who use
vibrators. One survey revealed 20 % of

saying they've used them too.

Here's what's coming up in tonight's
show.

We explore the sensual world of his and
hers sex toys.

And meet Samantha Roddick, owner of
erotic emporium Coco de Mer.

Plus, roving reporters Georgie and
Dougie investigate the sensual potential

shop -bought and homemade toys.

If you're one of those people who still
think that sex toys are for creepy men

in trench coats, so -called frigid
ladies, and losers who can't get a date,

well, we'd like to invite you into the
21st century.

In 1994, scientists at the World
Congress of Sexology declared that

pleasure, including masturbation, is a
source of physical, psychological,

intellectual, and spiritual well -being.

And an American study by Chicago's
Berman Center found that women who use

vibrators experience higher levels of
sexual desire, higher levels of sexual

satisfaction, and higher rates of
success in achieving orgasm. The great

about this recent sex toy revolution is
that there are now lots of products to

choose from that are well made, long
lasting, safe, ergonomic, nice to look

and they actually get the job done.

Let's take a look at some of the sex
toys on offer.

There's a whole range of toys on the
market.

But not all are created equally.

Some are good, some are bad, and some
are just plain ugly.

So M and Lowe have taken some of the
best of the top -selling toys for him

for her, and put together these
guidelines to getting the best from

The rabbit is one of Britain's best
-selling toys for women.

Make sure yours is free of dangerous,
toxic chemicals called phthalate.

Once inserted, the beads rotate and
vibrate, massaging the sensitive outer

of a woman's vagina.

Positioned carefully, the rabbit's ears
can simultaneously stimulate the

clitoral head and shaft.

The award -winning

Rock Chick is designed to sit against
the clitoris and the G -spot

simultaneously.

The hands -free design allows you to
increase the sensation by rocking

and forwards.

At the same time, the bullet vibrator in
the tip will send vibrations running

from end to end.

Roving reporters Georgie and Dougie test
and rate some of the top sex toys on

the market.

Um, out of ten, probably nine, because
it's

brilliant.

Plus, we set out to design and test the
perfect sex toy for women.

Welcome back. Still to come, we'll be
unveiling the results of the Sex How to

Everything quest to design the grandest,
most perfect sex toy ever.

And we'll find out what turned our
roving reporters, Georgie and Dougie, on

they road -tested some of the top
-selling toys on the market.

Sales of sex toys have exploded in
recent years, with many high street

now doing a nice line in erotic
accessories.

But just what is the regular punter
buying?

We hit the streets of New York and
London to see what people have stashed

their bedside drawers.

So what sex toys do you own? We have one
that's kind of double -sided.

Some of my friends use it together.

I own several cock rings and some butt
plugs.

Yes, I do own a sex toy.

It's called a Rumpet Rabbit.

Well, for the first time about a month
ago, somebody stuck a vibrator up my

arse. And it was the first time ever.
Actually, I quite liked it.

I guess, like, a vibrator. But I haven't
personally used it on myself, you know.

Just a dildo.

It's nice.

a pink regular dildo pocket rocket i
have the rabbit it's really really good

but it's kind of big i have this like
blue one that has like these little like

knobs i have a butt plug it has a tail
on it it's pretty cool what's the

strangest thing you've ever used as a
sex toy

Vegetables are quite handy, like a
pencil.

A couple of months ago, a friend left an
electric toothbrush at my house, and I

ended up using it as a sex toy, and she
continues to use it to clean her teeth.

I've used a carrot, a banana, a
cucumber.

If you want to throw, like, fruit into
the thing, that works well.

The bottom of an umbrella.

A shampoo bottle.

Oh, a water bottle. A chair, a sheet,
and a build -up.

Our next guest makes it her business to
provide women with top -class sex toys.

Her view is that if you're spending 150
pounds on shoes but only 10 pounds on a

sex toy for your vagina, then there's
something seriously wrong with your

priorities. Please welcome to the studio
founder of one of the world's most

luxurious high -class sex emporiums,
Coco de Mer, Samantha Roddick.

Welcome to the show.

So, Sam, how many sex toys do you own
personally?

Do I have to count?

Everything that I make in my shop comes
from a base single desire for me to try

it. So when you go there, you can
probably find a lot of things that I've

innovated. So we paid a visit to your
sex store, Coco de Mer, so let's take a

look.

Welcome to Coco de Mer. Come this way.

So let me show you a couple of my
favorite things.

First off, we have a glass dildo.

And this is really for all those long
-distance lovers.

As you see here, you can put a little
drawing or a photograph of your lover

who works abroad.

And here you have a little mirror. So
when you're fucking yourself, you can

their face.

This is shaped to hit the G spot.

If you imagine it, whenever you put your
fingers in, they curve. There are no

straight lines in nature.

So when you internally put it in, it
curves round to hit your G spot.

Bondage is one of our biggest sellers at
Coco de Mer.

One of the most exquisite pieces that we
have is a human hair whip.

And it has this...

visual of it being a lot um more painful
than it actually is so it creates a

little internal gasp one of the most uh
best sellers

is believe it or not the spanking paddle
right essentially after about five

minutes of proper play with this
instrument

you can get as high as a kite because it
releases so many endorphins within your

body a natural high that won't send you
to rehab

coco de mer is known as the smallest and

most romantic location in london and i
can tell you why simply because we've

multiple marriage proposals within our
shop and i'll show you where in here

We have our little peep room, right?

So you can invite a gentleman in this
room and they can peek at you while

changing.

You can imagine lots of naughty things
that are completely consensual happen

within our changing rooms.

Some of the toys that you sell, they
could pass as art on the coffee table.

They're just beautiful.

Yeah.

Does that make it feel better for women,
do you think? I think it reflects their

degree of sophistication in terms of how
they relate to love.

And, you know, when you, you know, want
to get intimate with something, you

don't want the barrier of something
looking brutally ugly and very cheap.

So how do you persuade people to spend
hundreds of pounds on sex toys when they

weren't used to doing that before?

You provide them something they desire.

A woman shop very differently than men.

Women need to have multifunctional kind
of idea around buying something

expensive. So if they can wear it out
and they can display it, they can have a

multi -use, they can wear it as a piece
of jewellery and it can provide a sexual

function. They're more likely to spend a
lot more money.

So do men come to your store to buy toys
for themselves?

No.

Always as gifts?

Yes, well, always to be shared.

But do you sell toys for men?

Yes. It's just the women buy them for
their boyfriends.

Traditionally... Sex toys have been made
of cheap materials, made under dubious

labor conditions, and not so good for
the environment or your body

How do your toys compare to that?

Well, everything that I make, I try to
keep it locally made.

And then we look at things like our
spanking paddles being sustainable wood,

then our underwear having organic
cottons or hemp and so forth in it. And

really don't believe in pleasure being
procured by somebody. else's pain and I

think that's where the world is going
you know with the consciousness of the

consumer. Is it true that sex toys have
become much more popular in recent

years? I think that everybody's always
like found a way to utilize sex toys

maybe in a sense that the market has
become less taboo and that people are

open about buying them but sex toys have
been a huge market for a long time.

So how do you recommend that people find
out what their toy is made of and where

it came from if it's not listed on the
packaging?

Go to smaller sex shops. I would say
female -based sex shops in North America

and England have a lot more concerns
attached to them. I think women

should be leaders within this field.

So if the person in the shop doesn't
know the answer, shop somewhere else.

definitely.

So do you think the perfect sex toy has
been invented yet, or do you think there

is such a thing as the perfect sex toy?
Well, if I were to make claim of the

perfect sex toy, I'd say it's the hands,
it's the tongue, and it's the cock, and

it's the vagina.

So everything else just adds variety.

Well, thank you so much for joining us.
Let's hear it for Samantha Ruddick.

Here's a look at some more sex toys.

The prostate massager is designed to
internally stimulate a man's prostate

via the rectum, as well as externally
stimulate the area between his testicles

and anus, also known as the perineum.

These areas contain important pleasure
-sensitive nerve endings that control

erection, orgasm, and ejaculation.

Once the lubricated tip of the device
has been slowly inserted into the anus,

will be drawn naturally up the body,
where it's designed to seek out the

prostate gland.

When the man clenches the sphincter
muscles in his anus, the toy will pivot,

giving him a simultaneous prostate and
perineum massage.

The male masturbator is one of the
world's top toys for men.

Once lubricated, the soft, flesh -like
material is designed to mimic the feel

a vagina or anus.

For a made -to -measure fit, the lid can
be turned to adjust the suction until

the man's penis is firmly gripped.

The vibrating cock ring is a great his
-and -hers sex toy.

Once the soft, stretchy ring has been
looped over the base of the man's shaft,

the vibrating micro -bullet should be
positioned upwards.

Switched on, the device will begin to
buzz, stimulating his penis and the

and clitoris of his partner during
intercourse.

Just because toys aren't living flesh
doesn't mean you can forgo safety

precautions. Here are our top safety
tips.

First, sexually transmitted diseases can
be transferred from one person to

another via shared toys.

So either A, dedicate one toy to one
person only. B, make sure it's a non

-porous toy that can be sterilized
before it changes hands or groins. Or C,

a condom on it. One fresh condom per
partner per session.

Next, a sex toy should never be moved
from a bum to a vagina without changing

condoms or sterilizing it first, unless
you're prepared for a pretty nasty

bacterial infection.

Now, don't stick anything up your bum
unless it has a flared base, like this,

it can't get stuck inside.

You could end up at the hospital in need
of a very humiliating emergency

extraction.

Avoid soft jelly rubber toys that
contain toxic softening agents called

phthalates that can seep out. Much
better choices are non -porous materials

can be sterilized, such as steel and
aluminum, seamless acrylic, and our

favorite, 100 % silicone.

And finally, if a toy smells toxic,
starts smoking, has rough seams, gives

rash, or just doesn't feel right, then
for goodness sake, stop using it.

Each week we send our roving reporters,
Georgie and Dougie, out and about to

test the latest in sexual experiences.

To find out what they've been up to this
week, Georgie and Dougie are here in

the studio.

Hi, Georgie. Hi, Dougie.

So what have you been investigating this
week?

This week we've been looking at sex
toys, and we decided to start by seeing

we could come up with ourselves.

Should we take a look?

Yeah.

If you don't want to splash out on
expensive shop -bought toys...

Why not explore the contents of your
fruit and vegetable basket for some low

-cost, high -fibre fun?

Let's launch in with a cucumber, sorry.

It feels enormous.

It feels really, really big.

Shall we start off with an allotment?

Yes.

But no marrows. No marrows. No marrows.

Because of the bumps and ridges, I think
this would feel really nice to just rub

the game in between my lips.

Those ones.

Can you turn it around?

Like that?

Like that, yeah.

And just up and up and down.

And then twist it.

Twist it.

It's very stimulating.

Quite bizarre at the same time as
rubbing a corn on the cob on my pussy.

Let's try your intricately carved
carrot.

Let's pop a Johnny on it, shall we?

Let's pop a Georgie on it.

Thank you, that's so well.

Do I?

It's much more interesting than the
cucumber.

It's yummy but quite smooth and it's
definitely going as it goes in.

It sounds like you're enjoying these
vegetables.

It's something that you're doing that to
me, I think. It just feels quite... I

think we should have the banana for
pudding.

I'm going to go like this.

And if we're thinking about my G -spot,
then this is the ideal position for

stimulating the front wall of my vagina.

Put some lube on the banana.

Yes. Okay, I'm just going to push it in.

Does this give me special powers, like
Banana Man?

Maybe I should be Banana Woman.

The comedy element of bananas, because
they're like your quintessential comedy

fruit, is preventing me from gaining any
sexual satisfaction.

I think I'll take that one out.

That was certainly a great way to get my
five a day. I think you'd have to be

very, very aroused to the point of
really just wanting things inside you to

fully enjoy that.

And also to disassociate with the fact
that when it comes down to it, it is

food.

So what is the appeal of using
vegetables in the bedroom?

If you don't have anything else to hand
and you want to go beyond...

I guess, your partner and what he has or
what she has, then vegetables can come

into it. I think it could be quite fun.

How common do you think it is for women
to use vegetables as DIY

dildos? I think probably more common
when they're on their own. I can

think of a number of times I've gone
scurrying down to the kitchen to see

I've got down there, but probably more
so as a kind of...

a last resort or on your own or do you
think maybe it might feel like too seedy

to go out and buy a real authentic sex
toy and maybe this is just more organic

think that's definitely possible and i
think um yeah there's always something

quite wholesome about it so um which one
was your favorite

I think my favorite was probably, or the
most interesting was probably the corn

on the cob because it was bumpy.

Anything else, the other ones were all
for putting inside and they all ended up

feeling pretty much the same.

Different sizes, but...

sort of another vegetable going in and
the banana seemed like a really bad idea

that seems like that could break the
condom or scratch inside there i just

it made me want to cross my legs seeing
that one happen we wouldn't recommend

that yeah because the sharp edge can
maybe cause a little damage and break

condom and yeah probably not a good idea
so dougie have you ever used any object

from around the house I can remember
back in the 80s, a little massage thing

that my mum had in the cupboard.

And I remember it kind of had a
vibration to it.

Something tells me she didn't just use
it on her shoulders either.

No, I think she did.

You hope she did.

Yeah.

Because it was a big block thing for
massaging the skin, not like a small

vibrator. Yeah, I had my first orgasm
with one of those.

The Hitachi magic wand?

No, it was, well, similar.

It was one that heated up. It was, yeah,
aching joints.

Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you both so much
for coming. We'll see you later.

Lots more still to come on Sex, How to
Do Everything.

After the break, we demonstrate some of
the more unusual sex toys on the market.

And sex toy or dog toy?

Go for it. Test your knowledge in our
exciting new game.

Sex toys.

Keep those batteries on charge. We'll be
back in a few minutes.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Coming up, roving reporters Georgie and
Dougie put popular sex toys to the test.

And we investigate some of the more
unusual models on the market.

Now, with so many sex toys on the
market, there are some weird and

designs, shapes, and sizes out there.

But you're pretty clued up about all
things related to sex, right? When it

to toys for sex and toys for dogs,
surely you'd know which is which.

Well, we hit the streets to find out.

Sex toy or dog toy?

Wrong.

Wrong.

Sex toy. Why?

Don't feel as tough as it would for a
dog toy.

That, I'm afraid, is a dog toy.

You need a much more tapered end if
you're going to be sticking it anywhere

sun don't shine.

Off you go. Yay!

You ready?

Can you find?

I'm going to go find you.

I think that's a dog toy.

Big dog lead. And it's actually a sex
toy. We suppose if you wanted to make

dog your gimp, you could use it, but
that's probably illegal.

Oh, I just got it.

A male sex toy?

You're right.

Yeah, I don't know how you'd use it. Oh,
that's vile.

No, that's a dog toy I'm really bothered
with.

You stick your willy through there.
Yeah. And then you turn the vibrator on.

It's not working.

I think too many people have used it.
Oh.

You're right.

You're right.

Very good.

Use it with lube always.

Thanks. I remember that.

I think it's something that spanks
people, actually.

You know, that would actually work, but
it's more often you use it, a woman

would put it inside her underwear for a
little all -day action.

Yeah, we don't need that one back.

Pick a toy.

Any toy.

Sex.

You're right.

What do you use it for? Get your mom
here, you see.

See? Yeah, see?

Feels pretty good. It's good.

Are you in the mood for sex now?

Yeah.

Tonight we've been looking at sex toys.
Joining us now is a man whose job it is

to test sex toys before they get to
market. So he knows what's fun and what

isn't. Please welcome to the show,
William England.

Hi.

So do you have the best job or what?

Well, apparently so.

It's certainly worn me out.

So what's your number one favorite sex
toy of all time?

Well, so far, probably this, which is
the Root Boy.

It's a prostate massager.

So show us how it works exactly.

Which end goes in where?

That bit goes in first.

In the anus? The vibrating end.

That's where it slips in. And as it goes
in, you can find out exactly,

basically, how your body's working
inside.

And you slip it in, that goes in the
perineum and pushes against it, and

find that your anus will grip onto it.

And that's the vibrating bullet in the
end? That's the vibrating bullet in the

end as well, which you can usually, a
lot of people wait until they're almost

ready to orgasm before turning it on,
which will then push them through the

stratosphere. But all the time it's
going to be stimulating the prostate

And you've got a couple of other
favourites there, right?

Yeah, we have this, which is similar,
but it comes with a ball, and this is

solid, whereas this is very soft.

And what's the other toy you have there?
The other toy is a masturbation aid.

This is called a Tenga.

And basically, you just pull the end
off, it comes ready lubed, and you just

slip it in, and the feeling is
unbelievable.

And that's a one -time use? You can
actually use it and then 20 minutes

use it again, but it's not recommended
for the next day.

Assuming you can get it up 20 minutes
later.

So why do you think straight men are
taking more of an interest in toys these

days? Because they're being encouraged
by their female partners.

It's been very one -sided so far.

And now, especially since Sex and the
City, they're getting their own back.

So what are your top tips for choosing a
toy?

Try to choose toys that either have
instructions on the packaging or the

assistant will tell you.

how to use it. And guys should read the
directions, right? Even though they hate

doing that.

It is paramount.

William, thank you so much for joining
us tonight.

I need to confess I feel really guilty.

I'm really addicted to using sex toys,
and it's really upsetting my partner.

He's feeling a lack of intimacy, feeling
like he's not doing it for me.

But I don't want to stop using the sex
toys.

I don't want to not enjoy sex, and I
don't want to stop using them.

Well, you shouldn't. Plenty of women
need that extra mechanical oomph to get

them over the orgasmic edge.

So there's really no shame in that.

you should try maybe handing over the
controls to her to give her a sense of

power and participation.

And it wouldn't be a terrible idea if
next time you're masturbating, you just

try and teach yourself how to do it with
your own hands. That way you can teach

her that skill, and also if you ever run
out of batteries, you won't be screwed,

or not screwed, as it were.

Thank you very much. Thank you so much.

Let's meet up with our roving reporters
Georgie and Dougie again and see what

else they've been up to.

And now it's time to check out what's on
offer in the store.

Giddy up, big boy.

We went out to buy and try a range of
Britain's most popular sex toys, so you

don't have to.

I knew about rabbits. They've even got
ducks now.

And veritable zoo in here.

We're now going to test drive each one
and give them a score out of 10.

This is a passion flower.

It's a bit like a suction cup that fits
over the female genitals.

And inside it's full of these very soft,
very small spikes.

And it vibrates.

Is that comfortable the way I've
positioned it? It feels fantastic.

So what this is doing is sending
vibrations to the whole of my pussy

the cup -like design.

No, it's good.

You're spot on.

The way that this contrasts with a
vibrator or a toy that you would insert

that this stimulates the external
genitalia, which is what's happening

now, getting you ready and really
building up your arousal to the point of

really wanting something inside you.

So what are you going to give this one
out of ten?

Eleven. Eleven.

It's a big hit. I like this one very
much. I like it too.

So this is a cock ring, but in this case
it's a bull ring. It's got a bull's

head on it.

And it's great for when we're having
intercourse to stimulate both me and

Georgie. And when you turn the vibrator
on, it's stimulating the horns, the

horns here, which is rather like a
rabbit.

So shall we give it a go?

I love it because there's a feeling of
you being inside me and then that

stimulation at the same time, which is
perfect for me.

So, I think this one's going to be a
joint decision.

What should we rate this one out?

10.

What would you say?

I like it. Nine and a half? Nine and a
half.

Okay, we'll go for nine and a half.

So this one is a relatively new design
and it has one button on the end. And

every time the button, it does something
slightly different.

So all these different ways and patterns
of vibrating.

Quite easy to change the settings while
you're holding it inside you.

It's very strong, the vibration, as well
as being a really good size for having

inside, and often you don't get those
two things together.

Very intense.

So how would you rate this one?

I would give this sex toy 10 out of 10.

What's unusual is that for a vibrator
that goes inside, it actually has a

very intense vibration.

It feels almost realistic. It's this
lovely texture. It's quite smooth.

It just works really, really well.
Lovely quality.

Very well made.

So I think we should try something
completely different now.

Okay.

Ah, yeah.

Now this is a vibrator which you can put
onto your tongue.

You can also put it onto your cock and
your finger, yeah.

It comes in different sized stretchy
bands so that you can wear it on any of

these parts of your body.

It's very small and it has different
sleeves that fit over the vibrating

mechanism and you can use it anywhere on
the body.

So, just stretch it and now do it.

This combined with Dougie's exquisite
oral

skills is a definite winner.

Amazing.

Probably nine, because it's brilliant
and it's completely different to

we've ever stumbled across.

Yeah,

nine.

Here, hold that.

Have a go at it.

Oh no!

What do you think of that?

That's a bit wrong.

It's a cock with a huge box attached to
it.

Slowly.

Well, I can say I've never seen anything
like this before.

Definitely unique.

But I think the thing with sex toys is
it's usually you controlling the way

they are going inside you or moving
around on you.

And with this, kind of doing its own
thing.

I couldn't really justify being on the
other end of this.

So our favorite, with a whopping 11 out
of 10, is the passion flower.

So when Georgie brings toys into the
bedroom, like a vibrator or a dildo, do

ever feel intimidated or is it ever off
-putting for you, Dougie?

No, I think I intimidate them. I'm just
kidding.

No, not at all. It's a really great way
to have fun, to have sex play.

It's usually his idea, anyway.

Well, how would you recommend, Georgie,
that women introduce sex toys to their

partners so that they aren't intimidated
or feel like they're going to be

replaced? Some men will feel
intimidated, and if they see something

bigger than them, then they do. They get
really funny about it. But I think

you'd need to probably introduce it
by...

sort of saying, mentioning that you have
one, first of all, because I know a lot

of women sort of secretly have one in
the bedside table, but mentioning you

one or maybe talking about the wonderful
orgasm that you had with your vibrator

when they were away or something, and
then would you like to try it? I think

it's just about them making friends with
your toy and being able to use it as

well as you do, and then it's an
extension of them and their lovemaking.

not a replacement.

And hand it over and give them the
remote control.

Yes, yes.

And tell them that vibrators can't
cuddle you after sex either, right?

So what would make the perfect sex toy
for you?

I do like being stimulated externally
and internally at the same time, but

again, rabbits don't really appeal
because I find that too intense. So I

probably a good, strong, quiet
vibration, and then something that

vibrate for popping in at the last
minute.

What would you say to somebody who felt
like it was kind of a seedy thing to do?

I think most women probably have a
friend that

that's a little more open, you know, or
less shy. And I would suggest definitely

going with a girlfriend and just kind of
having fun with it. First of all, just

going to have a look. But I think having
someone with you that is confident

about them or order online.

They can deliver in brown paper
packaging, right? Order online and then,

no embarrassment.

Well, thank you both so much for coming
in again.

We'll see you next time. Thank you.
We'll see you later.

Georgie and Dougie.

Okay, just to summarize what we've
learned there.

First, tell your partner you have a toy
if you'd like them to use it on you.

Also, involve your partner by giving
them the remote control.

And also, finally, experiment with a
vibrating love ring as a couple.

Let's look at some more sex toy fun.

For the more adventurous, here's our
choice of extreme sex toys.

The double -ended dildo is the perfect
his -and -hers extreme sex toy. The

thinner end is for the vagina, the
larger end is for the ends.

This toy can be used in a variety of
positions.

Front to back.

Face to face.

Back to back.

Whichever works best.

The cone, with its revolutionary design,
looks like no other sex toy.

Its innovative shape means it's only
partially penetrative and can be used in

variety of positions.

It's hands -free and designed to
stimulate both men and women.

The cone vibrates and has 16 different
settings with varying speed and pulse

patterns.

The suction cup dildo is a new twist on
a classic sex toy.

Its powerful grip makes it ideal for
using in the shower.

Use a water -resistant, silicon -based
lubricant before enjoying some hands

-free fun.

Whatever position you're in, please
don't go anywhere, as we'll be back

with part four of Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Till to come, we set out to design the
perfect sex toy, plus more his and hers

sex toy advice.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything, the late night show about

be better at getting and giving great
sex.

Sex toys are a multi -million pound
industry, but is there such a thing as

perfect toy?

We set out to design the ultimate sex
toy. We wanted to look at not only what

they can do, but also what they look
like.

We hit the streets of London to discover
what women really want from the perfect

sex toy.

The more natural looking it is, the
better it is, I suppose.

I think simplicity is probably the key.

I think if it's over complicated, you
end up terrifying the person you're

I think that they need to be more
discreet.

I like something a little bit more
visually stimulating.

You know, I'm over 50, so, you know,
lubrication obviously is an issue for

my age. Worse colours, more pretty, less
obvious, more discreet. Now I'm married

to a Jamaican maggot, I don't need one
of those.

Trust me.

We took these words of wisdom to
celebrity designer Fi Dora.

I started looking at exotic flowers.

I mean, they look so phallic, but they
also look really beautiful.

This could be something that's sort of
tied around your wrist, something really

beautiful, like an ornate kind of
bracelet or something.

I sort of split this because this is
that sort of rabbit thing. You could put

lubrication in it that runs through it.
You know, flowers with dew and dripping

out, you know. Now this one, the cock's
a good size, I think.

It's got a little screw here. You could
fill it up with lubricant. It actually

basically comes.

This here, I found, it's something
that's long enough to wear.

I'm just trying to keep it away from
looking anything like a toy, and just to

make it a luxurious and orgasmic,
beautiful evening with oneself.

From these designs, we commissioned a
range of prototypes.

When we got the information in, it was
very two -dimensional, and it's our job

to turn that into the 3D form.

So... Here we're looking at the centre
line for the vibrator, and we're

it's going to finish around about here,
but obviously then we've got to get all

the pipe work back up to the pump.

It's been really great fun working on
this project, and we really hope it

some pleasure to those that use it.

With our prototypes fully operational,
we sought the expert opinion of roving

reporter Georgie.

So, this first one here is called the
multitasker, and straight away I really

like the way that it looks.

But my favorite thing about this, which
I've never come across before, is the

fact that it is self -lubricating.

So I'm going to switch it on, because I
like the vibrations, and see how that

feels.

So with this one, completely different.
And this one, you wear.

And this part at the very end vibrates.

This one is a very beautiful exotic
flower.

Nobody would know that it was actually a
vibrator. And I love this because it

self -lubricates as well.

Deciding which one was my favourite has
been really, really difficult.

But in the end, I have chosen the exotic
flower.

And this is for many reasons, and really
because we were looking at... How they

look, not just how they feel and what
they do.

This one's self -lubricating. You can
wear it. You can adorn your body with

And it just looks really very lovely.

My favorite.

So it seems that while there's no such
thing as the perfect sex toy, in this

case, this one was the winner. Let's get
a quick summary of what we've learned

about sex toys tonight.

Using sex toys is a great way to spice
up your love life.

and there's a huge range of toys to
choose from.

Sex toys don't have to be used alone.

Introducing them into partner sex is a
great way to shake up a stale routine.

Lube is a sex toy too.

Be more than generous, especially with
anal toys.

With any toy, take it nice and slow, and
remember, if it's uncomfortable, just

stop.

And for electric devices, make sure
you've got enough spare batteries before

start.

So we've learned a lot about sex toys
tonight.

Quality counts for a lot, so be willing
to spend a bit more and make sure it's

made out of a good material, like 100 %
silicone.

Keep your toys clean, store them well,
and if you're going to share, slap a

condom on them.

Keep in mind there are plenty of toys
for boys beyond the blow -up doll, as

as great toys couples can play with
together.

And finally, remember, whoever has the
most sex toys wins.

So if you don't have one already, get
shopping. And if you do, it's time to

switch it on right now.

Join us again next time for more sex.

Good night.

Welcome to Sex, How to Do Everything, a
sophisticated sexual adventure designed

to give you more pleasure.

Our purpose is to get you to have better
sex and more of it.

We'll be looking at anal play, sexual
fantasies, kinky fetishes, spanking,

wanking, and fantastic orgasms.

Tonight's show is all about oral sex.

For some, the most intimate sex there
is, and yet for others, it doesn't even

count. The ancient Greeks and the Romans
considered oral sex taboo because the

genitals were thought of as unclean.

Thankfully, we live in more enlightened
times, and yet to this day, not

everyone's a fan. In a recent survey, 25
% of men and women said they rarely or

never give oral sex.

Why is that?

Well, more than half the men said their
partner doesn't like receiving it, and

nearly half the women said they don't
like giving it.

Tonight we're here to help all you men
and women out there get over any

prejudices or bad habits and show you
how to give and get better oral sex.

Here's what's going on in tonight's
show.

We learned the very best oral sex
technique for him and

for her.

Our roving reporters, Georgie and
Dougie, reap the benefits of a

fellatio.

And we discover how it's possible for a
man to give himself a blowjob.

Oral sex isn't just something you can
decide not to be into, like, say,

rope bondage.

For a lot of people, a lack of oral is a
relationship deal breaker.

So here are five great tips on how to
love it more.

One, if going down feels demeaning to
you, try initiating. It'll make you feel

more in charge.

Plus, nine out of ten people agree that
oral feels twice as nice if you don't

have to ask for it.

Two, do unto others as you would have
them do unto you. But if you like oral

more than your partner, then you'll have
to figure out another way to return the

favor. A half -hour massage, perhaps.

Three. If either one of you is
squeamish, whether about giving or

then just hop in the shower first.

But if you'd rather taste your partner
than their shower gel, then wait an hour

or two before heading downtown.

Four, deep throating is not a
requirement.

Ladies, if you're not a professionally
trained circus sword swallower, then

using two hands to extend your own mouth
is fine.

In fact, that's a requirement.

Finally, five.

If you don't like oral simply because
your partner is clueless down there,

make some noise.

Moans of pleasure will clue them into
what feels good. You can even give them

direction. Just don't make it sound like
you're backseat driving.

Now, as experts in sex, we're asked a
lot of questions.

And one of the biggest ones we get from
men about oral sex is, what should I be

doing when I go down on my partner?

So come now into our sex, how to do
everything garden of love, where Laura

Ricardo will show you the right
techniques.

Cunnilingus, or oral sex on a woman, is
all about pleasing her.

And it really is worth making sure you
take your time to learn how to do it

really well.

Here are M and Lowe's top techniques for
great cunnilingus.

Break down her inhibitions and stimulate
her desire for oral sex by nuzzling,

kissing, licking, and sucking the
outlying areas of her vagina.

But remember never to blow into her in
case dangerous air bubbles enter her

bloodstream. Get everything wet with a
wide, flat tongue and lick slowly from

the vaginal entrance to the clitoris.
Lick up and down the center, then the

sides, then from side to side.

Try tracing circles or the alphabet over
her clitoris with your tongue.

With a stiff tongue, shake your head
back and forth, or you could try

for variation.

Key sensitive areas worth paying
attention to are just under the clitoral

the urethral opening, the vaginal
opening, and her perineum, as there are

nerve endings there.

More from Laura and Ricardo later when
they show how to give the finest

fellatio.

I feel absolutely terrible.

My boyfriend was going down on me a
couple of weeks ago and I fell asleep.

But when I woke up, he was still going
for it.

So he doesn't actually know. I haven't
been able to tell him. I'm really not

sure what to do.

Well, you should definitely feel guilty
about it, but don't ever, ever, ever

tell him. Yeah, this is one of those
situations, like when your friend asks

if a bun looks big in jeans, where it's
perfectly acceptable to lie your ass.

So in the future...

Either politely decline any offers of
oral or else have a cup of coffee first.

Thank you very much. Thank you.

Plenty more coming up on Sex, How to Do
Everything. Our intrepid roving

reporters get involved in some tongue
-twisting exercises designed to develop

oral expertise.

And we see if the little art project can
help one lady overcome her indifference

to cunnilingus.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Tonight's show is all about oral sex.

Still to come, we find out why designer
vagina is the latest term on everyone's

lip. And our roving reporter, Georgie,
finds out how kitty tongue licks will

make her boyfriend, Dougie, feel like
the cat that got the cream.

Now, the number one thing most men say
they'd like more of in their sex life is

blowjobs. But before we give you any
more tips, we wanted to find out just

much you know already.

So we hit the streets of New York and
London to find out who has the most

knowledge about giving head.

Can you give us any oral practice?

I'm sort of too embarrassed to go there.

You know, I'm always like, no, don't do
that. Get away.

Wording out the alphabet with your
tongue on the clitoris. Little nibble,

sock. Little pull, little bite, little
push, little blow.

Definitely a blow.

You know, take your time.

Make out like you're enjoying it, even
if you're not.

Yeah, it works. As long as you get all
the way to bed.

Do the ABCs.

Hey.

Hey.

Hey. Do you have any oral sex tips?

Oral sex tips.

Go from the side.

Don't go from the bottom. It gets very
sloppy.

I have a need for time orgasming if I'm
receiving oral sex.

I would say tongue and fingers.

Absolutely.

Requirements.

Do you have any oral sex tips?

Take my dentures out.

Give them a gummy. They'll love that.

Go around the top for quite a while and
then suddenly into, like, more of a deep

break. There's this whole thing at the
moment with, like, deep broken and stuff

like that. See if you can go all the way
to the base. That's always a good idea.

Personally, I think it's all in the end.

And it's not really in the base, so if
you're sticking it all the way down

there, it's just kind of like, you know,
I find myself laying there like, yeah,

what's on TV tonight?

Grab his balls, stick it in his arm,
suck his cock.

It's as simple as that.

I don't need to date anyone. I can suck
my own dick. I can rim my own ass.

You cannot.

Sometimes we'll have another friend join
in and, you know, join maybe a train.

Kind of like a blowjob train.

I'm really good at it.

I think that I feel very confident in
it. You want me to suck my dick on the

street?

I'll suck my dick right here on the
street.

I'm laying on my back, and then one
person's kind of laying on the side, and

then another person's kind of laying on
his side. Can you get the visual of

that? I usually have to do a little bit
of medicine.

I don't know. I guess you're not
familiar with yoga.

I think he still had a couple more
inches to go there. Yeah.

I did like that one tip about lightly
blowing onto the vagina, but folks at

never blow actually into the vagina.
Very dangerous.

But we get a lot of correspondence from
women who dread giving head because

they're worried they're not doing it
right.

Follow these top tips though and you'll
soon be enjoying giving BJs nearly as

much as he likes receiving them.

The best oral comes out of the blue.

For most men, a spontaneous blowjob is
something that would never be refused.

Start off teasing slowly.

Lick from the base to the head in one
stroke or lots of little ones.

Make sure to get the shaft good and wet.

Blow gently from the head of the penis
to the testicles and back.

After the teasing, keep your lips in
constant contact with the penis.

Just breathe in when your mouth is at
the top and breathe out as you move your

lips down the shaft.

Try one hand around the shaft as an
extension of your mouth.

and get your hand and mouth going in the
same motion.

For variation of sensations, try hot tea
followed by iced water in your mouth.

Also arousing is to try stroking his
nipples or perhaps putting a finger up

bottom. Alternatively, keep both hands
free by using a butt plug or anal beads.

As you get near the end, he'll want a
bit more speed, suction and a firmer

All you need to do is decide how to
finish.

With a spit, a swallow, or a handjob.

Another good point is that it's really
important to be in the right frame of

mind. Yes, if you think you're good at
going down, then you probably are.

Now, our informal research has led us to
conclude that when it comes to oral

sex, you are what you eat.

And it's infinitely better to work on
the scent and taste of your naughty bits

from the inside out rather than just
dousing them with irritating perfumes,

soaps, and potions.

So try cutting out coffee, cigarettes,
junk food, and of course drugs.

And definitely cut out the veggie
that'll make anyone's wee smell like

cardboard? Asparagus.

And if you're really serious about
improving your taste down there, you

try cutting back on beer, meat, and
spicy foods too.

But it's not all bad news. Our guinea
pigs in the field tell us that lots of

water and lots of fresh fruit, like
kiwi, strawberries, and most especially

pineapple, can all improve your personal
flavor.

And a daily pinch or two of cinnamon may
help, too.

Sure, the science is a little flimsy on
this topic, but hey, if you follow this

diet, you'll be a lot healthier. And
there's no doubt that will improve your

life.

Now, even in these enlightened times,
some women feel dissatisfied with their

vaginas. The awful term designer vagina
has even entered our vocabulary, for

goodness sake.

One man, though, is making a stand and
helping women feel better about their

bits. All in the name of art.

Vaginas come in all different shapes and
sizes.

No two are the same.

However, not all women love their
vaginas. And as it's not easily

woman's vagina can remain a mystery to
her.

Sadly, as a result, many women feel
uncomfortable about oral sex and avoid

instead of actively enjoying it.

Experimental sculptor Jamie McCartney
wants to change all that and make women

lose their inhibitions about their
vaginas.

He's been moulding and collecting
women's bits for his Design a Vagina art

project.

I started this project about a year ago.
In that time, I'd managed to cut about

40...

I've discovered that women were just as
uncomfortable with their genitals and

just as sort of nervous about them as
men are.

The reason for doing this was to sort of
show whatever they've got is normal.

Vagina number 40 in Jamie's project and
today's Fannycaster volunteer is 22

-year -old Naomi Warren.

The first time I had oral sex was with
one of my first boyfriends.

I remember him telling me it looked
horribly like an ax wound and he didn't

really want to go down there at all,
which was fine, but I kind of thought

everyone would have that same thought
and not want to go anywhere near me, so

put me off for a while and didn't end up
doing that for a long time. I know a

lot of women have issues. A lot of women
don't want anyone going down near their

vagina at all.

I'm really excited to see what it will
look like in an individual way and

especially I'm looking forward to being
part of the art piece as well.

The first thing we're going to do is
obviously you need to take off your

trousers. Yes, I will.

But just the bottom half.

The stuff that I use is what dentists
use to cast your teeth.

Lovely. It's kind of designed to go on
and in the body fit.

That'd be safe, basically.

It just feels like I've just dived into
a swimming pool full of...

Jelly. I'm trying not to laugh too much
in case it starts wibbling around.

Okay.

That is nice.

Is that better?

Yes. It's like a heat pack.

Lovely.

I could lie here all day now.

That's going to set about two or three
minutes, and then we'll have you after

that.

Okay, right.

It's about ready to take off, so...
Okay.

I'm just going to peel this off.

Take some of this.

That is done.

Excellent. And there.

There's your thing.

It's a girl.

That's really good.

So that's in reverse, so you'll kind of
put the plaster in and that creates

the... Oh, that's awesome.

And surprisingly symmetrical.

After the mould's set... Jamie makes a
plaster cast and adds the finishing

touches. There we have it.

Number 40.

The first panel. So when this is done, I
stick it in the panel and then it's

ready to go up.

It's time for the grand unveiling of
Jamie's designer vagina project at the

Impure Gallery in Brighton.

But is Naomi ready to see her bits
displayed in public?

Hiya.

Hiya. I've come to see the finished
product.

Ah, yes. Well, we've hidden it for now.
Yes.

I might have thought that might be it.

Are you ready?

I think so.

Okay, have a look.

Wow.

Oh, that's great.

What are you thinking?

I like that a lot.

Yeah?

Wow, that's amazing.

I can't believe how different they all
are.

Although I'd have no idea how to find
mine in this.

Yeah, have a good look. Check it out and
see what you think.

So far, Jamie's cast 40 vaginas.

Face -to -face with all of them, can
Naomi recognise her own?

Um, is it the first one?

First one? Yeah. Yeah, bingo.

That's really bizarre. I would never
have thought that that's what it would

like. That's really cool.

Can I touch it? Yeah, go ahead. Is that
wrong?

No, no, go ahead.

Wow,

that's quite bizarre.

I always expected most things to look
kind of this kind of shape.

Yeah. But I've probably just been
reading too much porn. It's nice to know

it's all different and I'm different as
well, so there can't be anything wrong

with me.

Absolutely not. I mean, it's good to
know this is already dispelling that

then, so that it's working.

It was good, actually. I was a bit
worried the past couple of days,

what it was going to look like. But no,
it was really good, and I like the piece

in general. Just seeing the whole
variation has made me feel very normal

my axe wound.

It's great. I don't feel that I'm at all
different to any other women out there,

and everyone's going to be different
anyway.

I'm fine now. I'm going to go away with
a smile on my face today.

Joining us now to talk more about this
subject are sculptor Jamie McCartney and

clinical psychologist Dr. Cecilia De
Felici.

Welcome to the show. Thank you very
much. Thank you. Nice to be here.

Jamie, what do you think the effect of
your work has had on women like Naomi?

I think it's been a really positive
experience for those women that have

back and seen their cast, which isn't
the majority, I must say, because it's

anonymous. It's meant to be, and so they
all go into the pile and get mixed up,

unless they're specifically going to
come back and have a look. But, yeah, I

think it's been a very positive
experience for most women.

one of the things that strikes me about
this piece of work is the fact that

women are going to be able to have a
look at all of these different vulvas

one of the questions i asked jamie
earlier was that do any of the women say

wish mine looked like that do women have
an ideal sort of vulva that they think

they should look like well they do
that's the thing you know women do come

and they see these cars lying around or
the completed piece and they go oh yeah

someone said oh i wish mine was like
that or oh and then all these kind of

misconceptions but oh that must be a
really young girl and that must be a

old person and it's there's no relation
actually in fact the one they always

point out and it must be really young is
actually one of the oldest people in

the thing so there are all these
misconceptions about what genitals are

to look like dr. Cecilia why do you
think so many women are hung up about

vulva and their labia

historically women's sexuality has
always been somewhat persecuted we know

over time and that there's something you
know even the victorians thought it was

unnatural for women to want to have sex
and there was all that lie back and

think of england stuff that we had going
on over here i don't know whether you

have something similar in the states but
you know it's it's Why should you be

ashamed of your body parts? And what I
really loved about Jamie's work is the

fact that it makes it very beautiful and
very accessible because it's not

gynecological. So you can look at a
woman's vulva and it doesn't feel like

you're either looking at porn or looking
at something that's really

gynecological and a bit medical. You can
actually really get a sense of the

beauty of the vulva and how different
they all are. Like faces, they're all so

unique. And how do you think women's
insecurity about the way they look down

there affects their ability to enjoy all
sex?

A lot of women have a real hang -up
about it and they don't want men to go

on them. They think that they're going
to not smell nice or that it's not going

to look nice. And if you don't get
positive feedback the first few times...

I was struck by that beautiful girl. The
guy said it looked like an axe had been

taken to her or something. I mean, how
traumatising is that going to be for a

woman to have that said to her?

You wouldn't want anyone to go near you
if you heard that. So I think the fact

that people aren't generous and they're
not saying, it's beautiful, I love it,

does it feel... good because people
aren't communicating you don't really

and that's why communication and sex is
so important do you think men judge

vaginas as harshly as women do um
actually i don't think so at all i think

is a real misconception men who i've
spoken to and i've shown them you know

pieces and it's all fascinating for them
but everyone has a different idea about

what it is that they like And it's not
necessarily this kind of homogenous

Hollywood pussy that everyone wants to
get butchered to look like. I mean,

be surprised.

Some guys are like, oh, I really like
that. I'd like someone to get my teeth

into. And women don't seem to know this.
So it's quite interesting.

So you just said the word pussy, so I
have to ask. Yes. What words, are there

any words that you hate? Because both of
us.

Can't stand that word. I mean, I think,
well, we're just wondering if you don't

like the word because pussy is kind of a
pejorative term in the States. You

know, you're a pussy.

It's a nasty word. I think over here
it's got much more gentle connotations.

know, it's very sort of playboy, 70s,
80s, you know. Yeah, a bit playboy.

yeah, it's quite nice. There are many
words I really don't like.

Probably, but, you know, I guess I keep
using the same one. So, just to recap

what we've learned. Understand that
vulvas are as different as faces.

And that you should love what you've
got. Hurrah to that!

Well, thank you both so much for joining
us this evening.

Still to come on Sex, how to do
everything.

We find out what happened when our
roving reporter Georgie left boyfriend

at home for the day and attended a
workshop on oral sex with her friend

Stephanie.

And we meet a man whose ability to give
oral sex stretches further than most.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Tonight, we're looking at how to give
and receive better oral sex.

Still to come, our roving reporter
Georgie learns to give boyfriend Dougie

blowjob of a lifetime.

And we debate the pros and cons of the
most well -known number in sex, 69.

69 is great when the guy's on the bottom
and the girl's on top.

I think it can be good depending on who
you've got, because if you've got

someone that's down and that's wrong...

and you're giving them great pleasure,
it's just not fair. You're having your

muff pie, and she's enjoying the
sausage, and if it's the other way

a little more difficult, you know, you
could be in there, but you might be

choking her a little bit if you're on
top.

For me, there are no problems with it.

I wouldn't say it's my favourite
position. I mean... I mean, you look at

feet and stuff, I don't know, I want to
see the face as well.

You can't really shout to them, but
Noah...

No, no,

no, too rough.

It's personal but impersonal, if you
know what I mean.

It's not always the best view.

I'm all about equal rights.

So if you cover all the bases,
everybody's happy. At the end of the

know you're good for another 69.

So, Lo, tell me this. What could
possibly be any better than

providing each other the kind of
stimulation that's almost guaranteed to

orgasm for a lot of people?

Yeah, but simultaneous orgasms in this
position are about as common as

Because it's hard to lose yourself in
the experience of receiving it when

busy giving it. I mean, I like
multitasking at the office, but in bed?

But experimenting with a 69 can make you
feel young again.

Um, do you really want to be having the
kind of sex you had as a teenager?

Okay, well how about this? This is the
real killer.

A 69 is like an all -access pass to your
partner's naughty bits.

Bum, perineum, balls, everything.

Yeah, but you know, Em, that for a lot
of people, watching their partner go

on them is the best part.

With 69, where's the view?

Hey, at least with a 69, you never have
to bicker over who's turn it is.

Good point.

Okay, you win. But I still think a 69 is
kind of like communism.

Good in theory, not so good in practice.

So there you have it. You should
definitely keep the 69 in your

sexual moves.

But only on bank holidays.

To find out more about learning to love
the blowjob, we enlisted the help of our

super sex sleuth, Georgie and Dougie.

Each week, our young lovers go out and
about and test the latest in sexual

experiences. Hi, Georgie. Hi, Dougie.
Hello. Hi. So what have you been up to

this week?

well this week it was all about oral sex
so i went off to meet an

internationally renowned sex instructor
called midori and she taught me and my

best friend a few top tips on oral sex
well let's take a look shall we i've

along today with my friend stephanie to
meet midori and learn how to give great

oral sex today we're going to cover my
class

Joystick Secrets. So first thing we're
going to do is the approach.

And for this, I need one of you guys to
wear this and be my boyfriend.

Yeah, you can be her boyfriend.

Stephanie,

tell me, how does it feel having a cook?

Oh, it feels quite exciting.

You see why we're holding on to them.

So the approach, it'll look something
like this.

Well, how inspiring.

Let's break it down from the top. The
approach, hands on the inner thigh, and

eye contact.

So much about the eye contact. And from
his perspective, I'm all eyes, mouth,

breath, nice view of my body. My butt
looks smaller and my legs look longer.

with the hands on the inner thigh, it's
a very, very sensitive area for men

that's often neglected.

And a nice erogenous zone. You're also
going to be controlling for any

unauthorized thrusting. And you're in
charge of it.

Would you like to try that?

I would like to try that. Great.

Okay. Go for a tiger's prowling
approach.

Keeping the eye contact. Taking your
time. You look great.

Nice undulation.

Good eye contact.

Hands on your thigh.

Good turn on spot.

Very good.

Legs slide along his package.

Yeah, it's a little standing footsie.

And you're going to make a little
turning move.

Legs crossing over. Yep.

And turn.

and pull his cock between your thighs
and squeeze.

How is it for you?

It's really quite sexy.

Good view, huh?

Mm -hmm.

Condoms can be sexy and fun. If anyone
tells you otherwise, they just don't

how to put it on in a fun way. Put it on
your index finger, just like this.

Good. If you see the rim, clearly,
that's correct. If it looks like a

cap where you don't see the rim, then
it's on the wrong way. With the finger

pointing to the back of the throat,
we're going to put the condom rim on the

outside of the teeth so that we're held
between the teeth and the lips.

Now, with your mouth, you're going to
purse your lips, and then using your

power roll it on to the cock there you

go and you don't have to go all the way
in you just need to get it over the head

and once you get it over the head what
you do is then what i call the harmonica

or modification blues harmonica with the
hand

and next more mouth technique so

with lollipop lower lip very fleshy
feels good for both of you just to drag

just dragging along good next

kitty tongue licks okay you know how
kitties when drinking uh milk okay

try it slow try it fast you know the

lip movement for more

Pursing your lips and then more, more.

Got that?

That's a good set of motion.

I think gag reflex is something that's
part of the concern with deep throating

and other oral fest techniques.
Definitely, yeah. Yeah. Put your

your mouth and make a closed mouth yawn.

Hmm.

Your throat opens up. It does.

And relaxes. Get it all the way down
then without having any gouging.

Okay, we've covered a lot of material
today. I want you to do your homework.

And I want really good results.

Do you have any other questions?

I think a question that may be on a lot
of people's lips is when it comes down

to it, spit or swallow?

Maybe some nights you're not in the mood
to swallow.

In which case, let it flow all over you
in a beautiful,

sexy drench.

Let it be a pearl shower.

A pearl shower.

Yeah. Thank you.

Hello. Hello.

Hi. Hi. And how was it? Fantastic. She
was an inspiration.

So what have you learned?

I've learned some great new angles for
taking you deeper into my mouth.

And how to tantalize you with some
tigress moves before I even get there.

Wow. The rest is a surprise for later.

Oh, I definitely need to leave you two
to it now, I think. Bye -bye.

Bye.

I remember Midori saying...

always elongate your body you want your
legs out behind you and i think you fall

into the role of being very feline and
being a tigress and approaching your

the approach was incredible it's very
difficult to

maintain eye contact when her body was
moving in such a sexy way

i think it was a chance for me

to kind of

say i'm doing this for you it's like a
kind of saucy gift and i think that way

he's able to kind of relax and i'm able
to kind of do my thing

well

how lucky am i that was absolutely
delicious

Thank you, Midori.

More importantly, thank you, Geordie.

So, why did you want to take the class
with Midori?

Well, when I heard that these classes
existed, I just had a strong feeling of

wanting to try it. And I think anything
where you can improve on something that

you already love with a passion has got
to be a good thing.

And what was she like as a teacher?

She was so comfortable talking about
sex, and I think that's the first step

made us feel comfortable.

And she's very saucy with it, as well as
just being a really, really good

teacher. Yeah, she made you believe that
that daughter was actually a penis.

Yeah, I know.

So, Dougie, how were her lessons?

I really enjoyed it, if you could tell.

So how important is receiving oral sex
to you?

I love it, and I think Georgie does as
well.

I think it's integral into the whole
lovemaking. It just kind of happens, it

flows, and Georgie does it very well.

So, Georgie, have you ever had any hang
-ups about giving oral sex?

Giving oral sex? No, absolutely not.

Why do you think some women do?

I think that's... often down to a bad
experience and what midori would call

unauthorized thrusting so i think maybe
one experience where you're not feeling

in control and it you know and it goes
too deep and then you kind of think that

that's it and you'll never you're always
kind of on your toes and i think that

really affects a lot of women not
feeling that they know what's going to

next and midori says that she has some
tricks to help people overcome that did

you find that helpful

It was helpful, and I think there are a
couple of things that spring to mind,

and that is if you're about to give head
and you have your, I think the thing

was to have your hands in contact with
the guy's thighs or hair, because that

way you're in control. You're not
holding him down, but the idea is that

want to be on top.

You certainly don't want it the other
way around. And grabbing on your ears.

Yeah.

So on the whole spit, swallow, or finish
with a handjob, where do you fall?

Oh, it's never occurred to me to spit. I
think that, to me, the idea is

abhorrent and really insulting to the
person that you're giving this wonderful

gift to. And in return, it's a
culmination of the whole process.

Do you agree, Dougie? Would you be
insulted if someone spat?

I think why, you know, why are they
doing that?

I love it that Georgie does what I kind
of, he said to me before, kind of

honoring thing.

It's just beautiful. And I think if you
don't want to swallow it, you shouldn't

have it happen in your mouth because
there's ways of getting almost to the

end and then, you know, nicely finishing
with your hand rather than going, oh.

It's just not nice.

Let's say if Georgie somehow could
miraculously ejaculate semen, you'd do

same for her?

Well, yeah, absolutely.

I mean, I think if you just think about
when, perhaps when I'm performing

cunnilingus on Georgie, I mean, I
don't... I'm producing fluid and so

lot of... I'm not there with a cartoon
on my left or something.

Well,

thank you so much, Georgie and Dougie.
We'll see you next week. Thank you.

you.

A couple years ago, I was in college,
and I was home for the weekend, and I

at my dad's house, and his girlfriend,
who he's incidentally still dating,

offered me a blowjob.

I never received a blowjob. I didn't
really pursue it, and I have never told

dad about that. I just still feel weird
about it.

You shouldn't feel too bad. You didn't
do anything wrong, but you should

probably owe it to your dad to tell him
the truth about his girlfriend's

seriously disturbed...

and probably best to get her in here
because she is the one that needs to

confess. Thank you.

Time now for a quick recap of the
techniques we've learned tonight.

For many men, fellatio is their number
one fantasy.

Start by kissing and licking his penis
to get it good and wet.

Then keep your tongue moving.

alternating between long strokes and
lots of little ones.

Focus on the area between the shaft and
the end of the penis.

When he's approaching orgasm, use more
speed, suction, and a firmer grip.

Guys, let her know when you're about to
climb out, so she can decide whether to

spit, swallow, or finish with a hand
job.

When you go down on her, make sure
everything's good and wet by licking

from the vaginal entrance to the
clitoris. Lick up and down and side to

Trace shapes over the clitoris with your
tongue.

As she gets more turned on, keep a
steady stroke, building up speed and

pressure. And don't forget, patience is
a virtue.

Don't miss part four of Sex, How to Do
Everything.

We'll be joined by one man who never has
to worry whether women like giving

blowjobs. He can do it himself.

That's not easy.

Give it a go and see how far you get
during the break.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Now, we all know manual sex is something
you can do by yourself, in front of a

partner and with a partner.

But what about oral sex?

Surely it takes at least two to tango
when it comes to giving head.

Not for our next guest. Please welcome
to the show, autofilletio expert Al

Eingang.

So Al, how and when did you discover
this unusual ability?

I think I started when I was 11,
probably.

And being a, you know, horny 11 -year
-old, it just seems sort of a natural

thing to do for me. And you think it's
something anyone could do? Well, women

can't. That's for sure.

Definitely not all men.

But I think a surprisingly large number
could if they...

we're willing to put the time and the
effort into it. We always assumed it was

an urban myth when anyone said they
could do this. Like, how is it possible?

It's just a matter of flexibility,
really.

I have a genetic condition that makes me
extra, extra flexible.

Can you show us how you'd get into one
of these positions?

Sure, no problem.

This is the plow position in yoga.

And it's my favorite.

So this is the basic position.

And then you can use your hands up here
to push down.

And it's very helpful to have a wall or
a ledge back here so you can use the

power of your legs to push down.

You are flexible.

Do you have to have a big penis to do
this?

I have a big penis, which I'm very happy
with. I was going to say that, which

begs the question.

The only advantage to having a big penis
is that...

You know, if I have an 8 -inch penis, I
get to it 2 inches sooner than someone

with a 6 -inch penis. So it's a little
bit easier in that sense.

Okay.

Is that enough? Is it hurting?

Those positions look kind of
uncomfortable.

The thing about this and about any other
kind of sex is that it has a kind of an

anesthetic effect.

So you're able to withstand things that
you wouldn't ordinarily do. Well, let's

have a look at you in action.

Solo sucking is an extreme sport.

So my top tip number one is always take
the time to learn to

stretch.

Taking a yoga class is great, but a
stretching class at the gym, maybe not

as good.

And while you're doing it, be careful.
It's easy to get excited and hurt

yourself. Top tip number two, don't
worry too much about penis size.

Having an 8 -inch cock like mine, the
only advantage is that you get to it

quicker. My top tip number three...

There are many different positions, so
if at first you don't succeed, I suggest

trying a simple position like the seated
C that many men find easier.

That was a good short session.

Not quite as long as I usually like.

But it sure felt great.

And all the men out there, if you always
want to know that there's someone who

can give you a great blowjob, I
recommend solar.

Holy shit.

I don't feel quite the same.

Now, before any guys at home pull their
back or...

hurt their neck attempting this. What
tips could you give them if they wanted

try? Yoga is very, very helpful. Any
kind of stretching is helpful, but yoga

especially good because it tends to be
gentler. So if you had to choose between

giving yourself a hand job and giving
yourself a blow job, which is better?

Giving myself a blow job is certainly
more intense.

But, you know, they both have their
charms.

Do you think that you give yourself a
better blow job than someone else could?

You know, if somebody else is giving me
a blow job.

You know, sometimes it's great.
Sometimes there's too much teeth.

their technique isn't all that great
They don't really understand what's

feel best for me and I you know,
obviously know what's gonna feel best

you think more men should taste their
own semen? Oh, absolutely. That's just

inconceivable to me that that a man
could reach Adulthood and not have

his semen. So how does the talent affect
your day -to -day life?

Well, I've been able to make my living
from it for 20 years. Really?

I have seven videos that I made over the
years Are they instructional or erotic?

Erotic. I always felt that if there was
something you were good at, that you

really enjoyed and you can make your
living from it, what could be better

that? And how long does it take you to
orgasm when you do it? I usually spend

least an hour, if not longer, sometimes
two.

Wow. Really?

Yeah. So we have to ask, when you're
giving yourself a blowjob, do you spit

swallow?

Both, depending on the occasion.

And I don't feel insulted if I spit.

Well, Al, thanks so much for coming in
tonight.

Thank you.

So, let's recap what we've learned today
about oral sex.

You can learn to do it better, and you
can learn to like it better.

Think, initiate, reciprocate, and
appreciate.

Also, remember to be safe and wrap your
packages before you give them to anyone

new. And eat pineapple!

Join us again next time for more sex.

Good night.

Welcome to Sex, How to Do Everything,
the show where we, Em and Lo, show you

everything you'll need to know about
sex.

As experts in sex, we get thousands of
inquiries, and they all come down to one

thing, how to have better sex.

Well, we know how, and we're going to
show you.

Over the coming weeks, we'll be bringing
you specialist shows on sex toys, anal

sex, and kinky fetish play.

Tonight's show is all about sex you can
do with your hands.

Horrible term, fingering.

That's why we prefer the term manual
sex, whether on yourself or a partner.

According to a truechristian .com study,
masturbation costs American businesses

at least $3 .14 billion in lost
productivity every month because people

wanking at work.

That's supposed to make us feel guilty.

I know.

Well, there will be no guilt about
getting to know yourself on this show.

guilt whatsoever, only pleasure.

Here's a quick rundown of tonight's not
-so -guilty pleasures.

On tonight's Sex, How to Do Everything,
we explore the sensual world of his and

hers handjobs.

Plus, fun for one in surprising everyday
situations.

Our roving reporters, real -life couple
Georgie and Dougie, investigate

inflatable friends and cyber dildonics.

Later, we meet the woman behind the
world's biggest masturbation event.

and discover what it takes to become the
European wanking champion.

It was discolored, it was distorted,
there was like scarring and everything

this. It was painful.

So tonight we're celebrating the joys of
doing it by hand and showing you that

masturbation is proper sex, not simply
the poor relation of intercourse. So

don't dismiss it. There's no shame in
masturbation and it's honestly not just

for teenagers.

Now, when you talk to people about sex
for a living like we do, you get a

good sense of what people do and don't
do. And one thing we can't believe a lot

of women still don't do is masturbate
regularly.

According to a recent survey by British
scientists, only 37 % of women

masturbate from time to time.

That's not a lot.

But the benefits are numerous for both
women and men.

Number one, it automatically works out
your pelvic floor muscles, which aids

future genital health.

Number two, it releases endorphins which
help fight stress in the blues.

Three, it lets you explain to your
partner how best to give you an orgasm.

it's a great way to indulge the
naughtier fantasies that you'd never

that you don't want to share with a
partner.

Five, with enough practice, orgasm via
masturbation is pretty much guaranteed.

Not always the case with partner sex.

And six, this one's kind of obvious, but
it just feels good.

Hopefully, that's enough to get your
hand down your pants sooner rather than

later. So come with us now to our garden
of love to learn how to give your man

the ultimate handjob.

Here are Em and Lo's top tips on giving
your man a handjob.

Wash your hands.

Manicure your nails and remove any
rings.

Use a man -made lubricant to keep things
slick.

Run your fingers inside his boxes.

Caress his thighs, bottom, and pubic
hair.

Make contact with the genitals, but
lightly and slowly with fingertips.

Switch to a full -handed grip, but only
upward strokes.

Squeeze and pulsate gently.

Closer to orgasm, he may prefer you to
focus on the top half of his penis while

picking up speed.

Here are some of our favorite techniques
for you to try.

Rub the penis between your flat palms.

Cup the balls in one hand.

Start the other hand with an inverted
grip at the base.

When you get to the top, roll your palm
over the head.

Put your hands around the shaft with
your fingers interlocked and your thumbs

overlapping on the opposite side.

Move up and down.

Form an OK signal with your thumb and
index finger.

Twist each hand back and forth up and
down the shaft.

Alternate moves with each hand.

Focus on the underside ridge of his
shaft and massage it with the pads of

thumbs. Cup the head in your palm and
pretend you're polishing the top of a

walking stick.

After his orgasm...

Loosen your grip and resist the urge to
keep playing with his penis because it

will be very sensitive.

Still to come on tonight's masturbation
special, our roving reporters get

familiar with the latest in high -tech
handwork.

And we show you the best techniques when
lending your lady a hand on the road to

orgasm.

Welcome back. Coming up on sex, how to
do everything.

We learn some more manual techniques to
drive your partner wild.

We discover new ways to incorporate
masturbation into your everyday life.

And meet the woman behind the world's
biggest masturbation event.

The craziest thing I've seen was a woman
who was trying to promote the use of a

particular kind of a sex toy that's like
a pogo stick with a dildo on it.

Now, as experts in sex, we get asked a
lot of questions about masturbation. And

the number one question we're asked on
this topic is, how much masturbation is

too much?

To which we reply, as long as you're
showing up for work, you're not rubbing

yourself raw, and you're calling your
mom once a week.

There's no such thing as too much. To
get some idea of numbers, though, we

pounded the streets of London and New
York to find out how often people are

really doing it.

How often do you masturbate?

Um, not often.

Why not? Honestly, because I think it's
more fun with someone else.

A couple times a week?

Once a week, is that often?

Maybe twice a week.

Like, maybe every three days, maybe, or
every other day.

Very rarely, if at all.

I have a degree to very strict Catholic,
and I still have problems with it.

Okay, when you're Catholic, if you think
about it, it's equal to the sin of

actually doing it. So I thought, I might
as well actually do it.

Obviously, you're going to wank every
day, and you're like, I mean, me, I wank

two or three times a day. As long as
it's more than two times a day, I'm

About five times a day.

About five times a day.

What's the weirdest place you've
masturbated in?

In the car on the way to work.

At an English garden shop.

My mom walking in on me, going down on
myself.

I was about 14, and I had a favorite
cemetery.

I couldn't straighten out, though, so
when she walked in, I kind of had to

tip over sideways, and it was very, very
awkward.

And probably everybody's jerked off in a
cemetery, I'm sure, but to me it was,

like, really hot.

Actually, last weekend, in a taxi with
an electric toothbrush.

The swimming pool.

On a bench in my maid's back garden. On
a train from Lancaster to Cambridge.

South Corden train station toilets.

I was over some lady's boobies in a
hospital bar, I was waiting for a train,

had ten minutes to go, so I thought,
fuck it, she has a girlfriend.

She wasn't just only a random lady. That
would be horrible.

Put her in a bed probably.

Try and keep those things indoors, you
know.

Now guys, we're going to let you in on
three steps to unraveling the mystery of

what women want.

Understand and embrace what we're about
to tell you and you will become a sex

god in your woman's eyes.

Okay, step one.

Stop thinking of handwork on her as
foreplay. Think of it as sex.

For many women, it's far more effective
than intercourse in eliciting orgasms.

Think about how much more control and
range of motion you have with your

than your penis.

Then consider how crucial her clitoris
and perhaps her G -spot are to her

orgasms. Step number two, make sure her
orgasm comes first because after an

orgasm is when she's really up for
further stimulation.

And finally, step three, keep up the
manual sex on her during all other forms

sex, whether intercourse, oral, or anal.
We're mostly talking about clitoral

massage here, or also known as clitage,
stimulating the clitoris with your

fingers, leg, or penis.

That will ensure greater pleasure and a
greater chance of orgasm for her. So

here's a quick guide to handwork on her,
courtesy of Laura and Ricardo, over in

the garden.

Just because Manuel plays traditionally
a lonesome part -time, there's nothing

to say you can't bring two to the party.

Make sure your hands are clean and soft,
and your nails are short and smooth.

Use a high -quality water or silicon
-based lubricant to add to her natural

wetness.

Make sure she's aroused and engorged.

by stimulating outlying erogenous zones
working your way in.

Run your fingers through her pubic hair.

Place your hand from her pubic bone to
her perineum and apply pressure.

Stroke her outer and inner labia.

Move your finger from her clitoral head
down to the perineum and back, avoiding

the anus as this can lead to infection.

Try a rapid side -to -side movement
across her clitoral head.

Ask whether she likes it soft or hard.

Then try tracing your finger in a
circular motion around and closing in

clitoral head.

Poke, stroke, and put pressure on
various highly sensitive spots within

vaginal canal, like the G -spot,
perineal sponge, A -spot,

and cul -de -sac to see what she likes.

To find the G -spot, as she lies on her
back, place a pillow under her bottom.

Insert one or two fingers about five
centimetres in and up, as if aiming

the pubic bone.

Feel for a rough, ridged area on the
front or upper wall of the vagina.

Curve your fingers in a come -hither
gesture and massage firmly and steadily.

So remember, don't go in there like
gangbusters. Definitely warm up first.

When it comes to manual sex, we all know
that men's hands are constantly

tinkering away with that thing down
there.

But for women, self -love can be a far
more subtle, intricate, and often

internal experience.

For men, self -pleasure is best done at
home, behind closed doors.

But women can afford to be a little more
adventurous.

Here then is a very light -hearted look
at incorporating masturbation into your

everyday life.

First up, the bicycle.

It's environmentally friendly and can
provide hands -free pleasure through a

combination of crotch -on -saddle
friction and bumpy terrain.

You're late for that very important
date.

But why not have some fun on the way and
sample the delights of a black cab's

engine vibrations?

Thanks for the ride, mate.

Next up, a horse.

The clitoris has as many nerve endings
as the penis.

and the labia too becomes engorged with
blood during arousal.

So pressure and friction exerted on both
can lead to orgasms.

You've lied to your boss and taken the
day off sick.

Daytime TV has put your brain on
standby, and you wish to broaden your

Why not try reading?

Your partner has left her celebrity
magazines lying around.

Mmm, celebrities.

And it's not even cheating.

The shower and you're naked.

Always a handy precursor to sex, but
you're on your own.

Except for your hand and some soapy
products.

Cue the inevitable.

Opening your fridge could open a whole
window of masturbatory opportunities.

Find a melon.

Then hollow before carefully inserting
the old chap.

Remember to dispose of care.

Hi, I have a little problem with porn.

I watch a lot of it on my computer. I
have DVDs and I drag off to it like

times a day. I can't really do anything
else without first relieving myself.

And, you know, like I treated my wife as
a sex object in the past.

So I think, you know, she wasn't too
happy about that. But I do it at work,

I look at porn and I download it. And I
even chucked off at work, you know, with

my coworkers in the next cubicle.

We hope you wash your hands afterward.

Yeah, that's just unprofessional and
possibly unhygienic.

Your basic porn consumption is generally
okay.

But it sounds like it is interfering
with your life and living it well.

So try to put yourself on a porn diet.

You can even install some shame software
on your computer that sends a list of

the history of where you visited to your
loved ones. You can try to find a porn

addict support group and maybe read some
feminist literature.

A 2004 study found that a history of
high ejaculation frequency,

that's over 21 times a month, was
related to a decreased frequency of

cancer. Well, scientists in white lab
coats didn't invent prostate massagers

nothing.

Don't be scared. This one's a little
big, but they do come smaller.

Now, they're made to promote prostate
health by massaging the gland directly

the rectum, with this bit here, and
indirectly via the perineum, with this

here. But once users discovered how good
it actually felt to use, it became one

of the most successful male sex toys
ever.

So masturbation is apparently good for
men's health.

And now scientific research has shown
it's good for women too. A recent study

has found women who masturbate score
higher on self -esteem indexes than

who don't. And they also have better
body image and less sexual anxiety.

Our next guest has been promoting the
life -enhancing qualities of

for many years.

Dr. Carol Queen is a pioneering sex
educator and organizer of one of the

most outrageous charity events, the
annual Master Betathon in San Francisco.

This too is science, although it
probably doesn't sound like it while

watching Sadie masturbate. But the fact
that your nerve endings like to be

surprised in masturbation is
incontrovertible. And if it takes you

calm, that's good.

So you organize a masturbate -a -thon
every year in honor of National

Masturbation Month.

That's right. We've been doing this for
several years, and it's...

Sort of what it sounds like. It's a
charity event with masturbation. And

raise money for charity through
masturbating, either by time, by number

orgasms, or just by participating.

So what is the etiquette at the live
masturbate -a -thon in terms of nudity

perhaps clean -up, especially for the
guys and maybe for some of the women who

are female ejaculators?

There are a handful of etiquette rules
that are actually pretty basic. One

Clean up your space when you're
finished.

And we've got materials for people to do
that and people to help.

Don't go grabbing other people.

And put at least some kind of erotic
garb on or non -street clothes wear.

run around the place in your tracksuit
staring at people.

So what's the craziest masturbation
technique you've seen?

at this event. The craziest thing I've
seen was a woman who was trying to

promote the use of a particular kind of
a sex toy that's like a pogo stick with

a dildo on it.

Ouch! Yeah, it was... That doesn't sound
safe.

We asked people to be very cautious.

We hear from a lot of women who worry
that using a vibrator is going to

desensitize them to sex with their
partners, their boyfriends, their

girlfriends, might numb them or damage
them in some way. So what do you say to

them? The kernel of truth to that is
that if you press a vibrator up against

yourself for a length of time, the
pressure of the vibrator starts to make

feel a little numb. And then people go,
oh my God, I'm losing sensitivity, I'm

numb. Not remembering that they have
just had an enormous orgasm, so they

haven't lost sensitivity at all. The
majority of women, maybe 70%, don't come

during partner sex.

So if they are orgasming with a
vibrator, they are not taking away from

partner sex experience. They are
learning how to become more orgasmic,

over time can be transferred into
partner sex.

So how many orgasms would you say you
get in the average masturbation session?

About five.

Yeah, about five.

I'm really easily orgasmic. But I have
to say, I started out being completely

non -orgasmic.

Over time, as I got more and more and
more interested in sexuality, I

on myself more. I mean, I really think
that that is why. I really learned to

take masturbation seriously. And I
learned to take it seriously really from

beginning because that was how I learned
to come.

Wow. I feel like an underachiever. Oh,
no.

Now, where is the strangest place you've
ever indulged in a little self -love?

Probably the strangest place I have ever
masturbated is in a drive -thru in

between ordering and getting up to the
window to pick up my burger.

So I had to really hurry.

And you were driving or in the passenger
seat? No, I was passenger, thank

goodness. Because you have to go around
a curve there. I masturbate and go

around a curve at the same time.

I don't think I'm that good a driver. I
think I might be that good a

masturbator.

So I've been married for six months and
my husband, I really enjoy masturbating.

And he thinks that he should be able to
satisfy me and he wants me to stop

masturbating. What should I do?

Well, you're right to enjoy it and you
should keep on enjoying it.

Tell your husband that studies have
actually shown that the more you

the higher your libido will be, in which
case...

the more sex you'll want to have and the
better sex will be with your husband.

And you can also explain to him that
it's not like you're choosing between

and the other. You're not choosing to
masturbate instead of having sex with

It's just a way that you'd like to have
a little me time, like sitting on the

couch and reading a book.

A really dirty book.

75 cents, please.

Thanks.

Still to come on sex, how to do
everything. We'll be following our

reporters, Georgie and Dougie, as they
find out how technology can lend a hand

with manual sex.

But before we take a short break, a
recent survey revealed British men take

average of 60 strokes to orgasm during
masturbation.

Well, you've now got three minutes to
find out if that's true.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything.

Still to come on tonight's show about
manual sex, we're joined by a man who's

entered the record book for his marathon
masturbation session.

You do what no one else on the continent
can do, and you basically just wank for

as long as you can and try and come as
many times as you possibly can as well.

And we find out from our roving
reporters how new technology can give

meaning to the term mutual masturbation.

Now tonight, what we really want to show
is that masturbation is perfectly

normal. It's actually good for you, and
you should take time to do it more.

But before we look up more ways to do
it, we thought we'd ask you to show us

your best wanking technique.

Just like this.

Keeps everyone happy.

Stop, and then start again.

It depends if I'm reading a magazine.

Yeah, yeah.

Be adventurous.

You can rub the tip of it. Let me start
with a bit of finger action, and if I

could, I'd probably stick it.

Maybe the squid stuff.

Everyone likes a good squid wing.

Make it so you get all down there.
That's where all the sensitive bits are.

Going all the way up and down like that,
and then as you're climaxing, holding

the bottom and going to the top like
that.

My fingernail, I would probably tickle
him.

Tickle him.

And then I'd go like this.

When it comes to giving manual to a
lady, I'd give it like this.

Maybe a bit of this.

On the outside.

Wow.

Maybe a little nosy. A little nose
action in there.

It would be like this.

And it would be like this.

And then it would be like this.

And then like this. Hold on!

I'll do something like this.

Pushing down on the top.

The pleasure would be the top part of
your hand here.

On the clitoris.

Using the thumb inside to push up.

So they're pushing the sexual area on
each other.

What do you think?

To talk about this subject further,
we're joined now in the studio by

psychologist Dr. Cecilia DeFelici.

Welcome to the show.

Thank you very much for having me on.

Now, what are some of the differences
between men and women psychologically

it comes to masturbation?

I think the way that men fantasize about
masturbation is different from the way

that women do. We know that men often
think about repressed or unfulfilled

sexual desires, so naughty things,
things that perhaps they feel a little

guilty about. Whereas we know that women
tend to fantasize about...

experiences that they've really enjoyed,
things that they know, and that really

turns them on as well. And we also know
that men are much more stimulated by

visual stimuli than women are. So they
like a lot of porn. They like to see

of naked women, lots of men on women
action, lots of women on women action.

what are some of the psychological
benefits of masturbation for men and

It keeps you grounded, it keeps you in
touch with yourself, it keeps you in

touch with what's important and
valuable. It also means that your

isn't just about your sexuality, your
libido is about all your creativity, all

of your energy that you're putting out
into the world. So masturbation and

that release, de -stressing, releasing
lots of feel -good hormones into the

brain, all of these things are
incredibly psychologically healthy.

And are there physical benefits too? The
physical benefits are really

interesting. We know, for example, that
if men masturbate a couple of times a

week more than they normally do, which
is their frequency is about three to

five...

what's that should i say orgasms a week
um and if they raise that to between

five and seven it actually has a
cardiovascular um help so that they you

less likely to have heart attack and so
what's great about masturbating is it

lowers your blood pressure so after
you've orgasmed your blood pressure is

and low and that's very very healthy

Now, psychologically speaking, is there
such a thing as too much masturbation or

even too little?

The idea of too much masturbation comes
often from men who feel guilty about the

fact that they're masturbating. And that
might be because they're in a

relationship and they feel that they
shouldn't be masturbating. If they get

caught, they can feel very bad about
that. With too little masturbation, I

that can also be a problem because if
you're not expressing yourself sexually,

if you're not in a relationship, and in
this country there's about 6 million

people who are single, if they're not
expressing themselves sexually,

sexually, then they're kind of losing
out from all the benefits that we just

talked about.

Guilt with masturbation is usually
associated with women.

So why do you think that is?

It's a very good question, isn't it? I
mean, for me personally, I think a lot

it is about the way I was conditioned.
So I do feel guilty about masturbating.

I had a mother who didn't like me to
touch myself. And if she caught me with

hands down my panties when I was a
little girl, she would smack me and tell

off and tell me not to do it. And then
she went through this weird stage where

she sort of sniffed my fingers, which
made me feel so ashamed. Oh, my God.

Even now I feel so ashamed about it. And
then I was packed off to a convent

where we used to have to wear knickers
in the bath and we had to get undressed.

under our dressing gowns and we weren't
allowed to show our bodies. And so I

think I was conditioned really early on
in life not to touch my body, that

touching my body was a really bad thing.
Now, I'm not alone in this. I know that

out there there are thousands of people,
boys as well as girls, who were told by

their parents, don't touch your body.

And so I think guilt actually starts to
become ingrained in you and you feel

guilty about something that you should
never feel guilty about. Your body

belongs to you. It's yours and you can
do what you like with it.

So do you have any masturbation tips to
share with us?

Well, I wish I was better at it myself.

Be relaxed. Find somewhere quiet and
private. Maybe a little glass of wine or

something. Maybe a little bit of
pornography or something to stimulate

that you can start to get it turned on.

And also play with your nipples.

Your nipples have a direct link to your
clitoris. So play with your nipples.

Squeeze them. That will really help as
well. And lots of rubbing and changing

pressure as well.

Well, thank you so much, Cecilia. We
really appreciate you coming.

Each week, our intrepid roving
reporters, Georgie and Dougie, test a

of new sexual experiences and
techniques.

To find out what they've been up to this
week, please welcome Georgie and Dougie

to the studio.

Hi, guys.

So, it's been quite a tricky task coming
up with something for you to do that

wasn't just masturbating at home all
week.

So, what did you come up with?

Well, we went out to find some classic
masturbation aids as well as some

-edge ones, too.

All right, well, let's take a look.

Debbie, a man in a box.

I might not miss you as much as I
thought I would.

You can do anything you want. I like it
every way, every day.

Do me now. I want you inside me.

Deeper, give it to me.

I think she wants it.

I think she wants it.

Hello. Hello. Did I wake you up?

No, I'm still awake.

I can't sleep. I miss you.

I miss you too.

When are you coming home? I've got no
one to play with.

I can't come home for a few days. It's
absolute torture.

I'm counting down the hours.

I'll see you soon.

I love you, darling. Goodbye.

Goodbye.

Inviting Aneth.

Interesting.

Where do you get your scenes done?

I think this is supposed to go in before
I blow.

There we are, 1915.

Vibrate.

Not entirely sure what we're going to be
able to do with this.

It's mouth now and I'm not sure I have
the apparatus to put in here.

Just the whole plastic pill, the smell,
the scary face.

I don't think I'll be trying it. It kind
of looks a bit scary and very, very

vain. He doesn't have an inviting anus.

And he doesn't have any feet, toes.

The breasts are quite good.

It's just not the same. It's not Dougie.
And I think I'd rather wait for the

real thing.

It's OK with you.

So, dolls aren't really for me, and I'm
sure they're not much of a turn -on for

Dougie either.

But there is one thing we picked up the
other day that I am really looking

forward to trying.

The inventors of this gadget claim to
have found a solution to our problem.

Cyber -dildonic.

The theory's been around for over 30
years now, but only recently, due to the

blockchain technology, has the theory
been put into practice.

Once the connection has been
established...

And at the other end, you have complete
control over your vibrator or your

masturbatory sleeve.

Georgie, are you ready to give it a go?

Just try and stop me.

I'm going to put the sleeve on now.

variety of settings, I've noticed.

Can't wait to see you.

Is that good?

It's getting crazy.

Big night, eh?

Okay,

I'm stopping now.

Okay.

Mark's out of ten. Probably, for me,

Three. It was fun getting in contact
with Georgie, but that's just a webcam.

And as far as the masturbatory sleeve
goes, it wasn't that comfortable.

And the only thing that Georgie was in
control of was the vibration.

And that wasn't that great a sensation
anyway.

That was...

really hectic.

There was kind of a lot of things going
on at the same time. There's looking

here and talking and doing this and
controlling the other person. So, for

was fun, but too much going on. Bit of a
three -ring circus.

I think I'll be using these from now on.

So, Dougie, it was pretty clear from
that why somebody wouldn't want to use a

sex doll, but can you think of any
reason why somebody would want to use a

as a masturbation aid?

No. I thought, you know...

It was a massive turn -off. So, Georgie,
you seemed a little bit taken aback by

the size of the doll's appendage. You
weren't even tempted to try it out?

It was just very long and thin.

It was kind of, I think, I think it was
how it was hard and then these great

ropey veins around it. So, no, it was so

far flung from what I'm used to that,
no.

That was more than realistically veiny,
I think.

Now, how much did those dolls cost you?

It was about 60 pounds around that mark.

You were pissed off.

Absolutely. So,

Georgie, how did the Cyber Dildonics
work out for you?

For me, anything with wires and
computers in the bedroom is just not

coming from. I found it quite abhorrent.

You're not a tech geek?

I am.

Absolutely not. I've just bought my
first computer ever. I'm so far from

excited about technological advances
when it comes to masturbation.

It was really fun to try. I kind of
thought, wow, this is really cutting

But when it came down to it, it was
just... And what did it feel like for

of you? What was the actual sensation
and why was it uncomfortable?

How was it uncomfortable? I mean, I put
plenty of lube on and used plenty of

lube in the device, but...

It was really weird.

It's like a big purple slug. It's like
sliding into a big purple slug.

Well, I wouldn't know what that feels
like.

Now, could it be useful for, you know,
some couples are shy about phone sex.

They don't know what to say. If they're
in that situation, would this be

something that might be helpful to them?

I think if they're shy about phone sex,
then actually being there.

on the webcam is probably going to be
difficult for them as well. But there's

also, you can write to each other at the
same time, but how you're supposed to

hold something, masturbate and write
saucy messages at the same time is quite

beyond me. Do you, Georgie, do you
prefer to masturbate in front of each

or do you prefer to masturbate each
other when you're together?

Both, for different reasons, I think.
But certainly it's not just when we're

away from each other. I think it's...

brilliant way of letting your partner
know how you want to be touched and i

think you can feel shy at first but then
if you do it together it's i think it's

very sexy and it's this is this is what
works for me it's been wonderful meeting

you again thank you so much and good
luck with the next investigation big

for our roving reporters georgie and
dougie

Let's remind ourselves of some of those
manual techniques we've been learning

about tonight.

Start with clean hands, short nails and
lots of lube.

For him, use a full -handed grip and cup
his balls with your other hand.

Pick up speed as he approaches orgasm.

After he ejaculates, loosen your grip
and resist the temptation to keep

For her...

Stroke the outer and inner labia before
stimulating the clitoral head using side

-to -side or circular motions.

Find a G -spot about 5 centimeters in on
the front wall of the vagina.

Feel for a rough, ridged area and
massage it firmly and steadily.

Still to come on Sex, How to Do
Everything.

We're joined by a man who could outwank
us all, the European record holder for

the longest ever masturbation session.

If people wanted to take your lead and
become the new champion, do you have any

tips for them?

Practice. Lots and lots of practice. I
put 13 years of dedication and hard work

into my choice here.

Keep practicing what you've been
learning. We'll be right back.

Welcome back to the final part of
tonight's Sex, How to Do Everything.

Now we're going to meet a man with a
remarkable claim to fame.

Ladies and gentlemen, please put your
hands together and welcome Mr. Daniel

Craig, Britain's record -breaking
masturbator.

Also joining us is sexual physician Dr.
John Dean.

Welcome to the show, gentlemen.

Hi.

So, Daniel.

Yes. How do you win the title of
European Masturbation Champion?

you do what no one else in the continent
can do and you basically just wank for

as long as you can and try and come as
many times as you possibly can as well

and how long was that and how many times
did you manage to do seven orgasms in

seven and a half hours that sounds so
painful what are the effects of doing

for seven and a half hours um i mean
during the time it was Slightly painful,

but afterwards, for the next couple of
weeks, it was discolored, it was

distorted, there was scarring and
everything like this. It was painful,

better now.

So what made you take part in a
masturbate -a -thon?

A friend got me onto the idea of it, and
it was to raise money for this HIV

foundation. And I thought, OK,
brilliant, I couldn't run a marathon for

miles, but I can sure knock one off
quite well.

You know your skill set.

So if you were going to...

teach someone how to have the perfect
wank, what would you tell them?

I would have to show them. I'd have to
sit them down and start off in front of

them myself and show them how to tease
themselves until they go from flattered

into the erect position, how to start
off slowly, just to slowly build

up and pumping back and forth.

Occasionally, if you want to, get your
left hand involved, you know, straight

yourself, tweak your nipples, grab your
balls, do whatever it is, stick a thumb

up your bumhole, whatever gets you off,
and just show them how to do it and do

it and do it, and then eventually
just...

Show them how the speed, you speed up
before you come.

And just slightly, you know, give it a
little squeeze, give it a shake.

it is that does it for you, just try and
explain to them just to find out for

themselves.

And are you planning on defending your
title?

I'd love to. I'd absolutely love to go
and see if there's any up -and -comers

who think they can take off my crown.
But I don't think anyone's really brave

enough to try.

No one can touch that record, literally.

The person who came second after me was
four hours behind me.

So you could have stopped after five
hours? I didn't want to. I wanted the

record. Wow.

If people wanted to take your lead and
become the new champion, do you have any

tips for them?

Practice. Lots and lots of practice. I
put 13 years of dedication and hard work

into my trophy there.

So for everybody, but it is different
for everybody. What works for me

necessarily work for another gent
walking down the street. So just explore

yourself as much as you can. Spend some
good time to get to know you.

What's better, wanking or sex with a
partner?

Good sex always beats good masturbation,
every time.

What about good wanking and bad sex?

Oh, then the wanking wins.

I have met girls and I've been like,
look, please stop.

I'll finish myself off, which is
normally what the woman says in most

I've had it the other way around.

Now, Dr. John Dean, do you approve of a
masturbation marathon?

I don't think I really have a view on a
masturbation marathon, although I think

that raising money for charitable causes
is commendable.

But can masturbating for that long be
healthy? Are there any negative effects?

No, I don't think it is.

Masturbation is a perfectly healthy
activity.

It is something which everybody, every
infant, every child is left to their own

devices and not pressured to stop.

doing it by their parents will do quite
happily.

Masturbation is healthy as long as it
doesn't take over your life. And I

with the amount of time, effort, and
probably training that Daniel put into

that's not healthy. And I'm sure he
agrees with me, it's not healthy either.

So, you're a champion when it comes to
yourself. Do you think you're equally as

good at masturbating women?

Better. I spend a lot more time and
practice on women than I have on myself.

No way. That's a lot of time.

It is. When I started wanking myself, I
started reading porn. I started reading

all about sex.

I started reading The Joy of Sex when I
was 11 because I really wanted to find

out the complete intimacy of a woman
because I've heard so many women

complaining that their fellas can't do
it properly.

I mean, I'm a hairdresser, so I stand
there and listen to women all day

complaining about their boyfriends,
their men, how they can't do it, how

toys are always so much better. So I
don't want to be one of those boyfriends

one of those men that all the women are
complaining about.

So can you talk us through it with your
technique on women?

It clearly depends on the woman, because
some women only come from clitoral

stimulation. So if I find out they're
clitoral stimulated, then I put my hand

between the legs, take a quick little
rub.

If I get a slight sign back, if there's
a slight change in breath, how they're

speaking, or a slight coloration on
their chest, then I think, okay, we're

okay here.

Sometimes it doesn't work. Sometimes it
tickles. They start giggling or

something like this, which is quite
funny.

So then, okay, I'll go for penetration.

Penetration orgasm.

With your hands? With my fingers, yeah.
One, two fingers, however many the

individual girl can do.

Some girls I've met, you can go five
fingers and go for hours and hours and

hours and nothing will happen.

Some girls I've met who just can't
physically have an orgasm. No matter

do, they've never been able to produce
themselves.

I can't do it to them, and that's the
most frustrating thing in the world.

You can imagine how frustrating it is
for her.

Yeah.

Thank you very much.

Thanks so much for joining us today.
Pleasure.

Manual sex is not just foreplay. It is
sex, and it's often crucial to a woman's

orgasm. And masturbation is a good
thing, and it's good for you, too.

So do it often.

As long as it doesn't take over your
life, good night. Join us again next

for more sex.

Welcome to Sex, How to Do Everything,
the show where we, Em and Lo, show you

everything you should know about sex.

Our purpose is to get you to do it
better and have more of it.

As experts in sex, we get thousands of
inquiries, and they all come down to one

thing, how to have better sex.

Well, we know how, and we're going to
show you.

Over the course of this series, we'll be
bringing you specialist shows on

everything from the art of seduction to
oral sex, anal sex, and kinky fetish

play.

Tonight's show is all about orgasms, a
subject close to my heart.

Now, the average male orgasm lasts 8
seconds, while the average female orgasm

lasts 20 seconds.

89 % of men say they achieve orgasm most
of the time. I knew it wasn't 100%. I

know. But here's the bad news. The
number for women is only 42%. So our aim

to get all of you out there to
experience regular orgasms.

Tonight, we're aiming for 100 % for both
men and women.

Here's what's coming up in tonight's
show.

You'll be receiving exclusive training
from Laura and Ricardo, who will show

how to perform specific sexual
techniques to improve orgasms for both

women.

You'll be meeting our very own Sex, How
to Do Everything roving reporters,

Georgie and Dougie, a real -life young
couple who are going to bravely road

a new medical procedure.

the claims to improve the female orgasm
and you'll be getting a comprehensive

guide to what some people believe is the
ultimate orgasm for women female

ejaculation so here's a few things we
think you should know first an orgasm is

an orgasm is an orgasm different people
climax in different ways there's no

right or wrong way to have an orgasm so
don't get too hung up on different types

as long as what you're doing feels good
to you That's all that matters.

Next, porn movies are a terrible place
to learn about orgasms. That piston

thrusting that you see in those films,
it's not the one route to everyone's

climax. And yours doesn't have to be
this screaming, moaning, hair -tossing

affair. Yours might just be a slight
whimper and a little rolling back of the

eyes in the head.

Also, when we talk about orgasms during
sex, we don't just mean during

intercourse. Plenty of women require the
kind of stimulation that a penis just

isn't capable of.

Some women need oral sex, some women
need handwork, and some need their

battery -operated friend to get the
permanent smile on their face. And

no shame in that.

Finally, no faking.

Because when you fake, you give your
partner a false impression of what turns

you on. And then how are they ever going
to make the earth move for you?

Now, as experts, we find that what women
want to know is, how do I have an

orgasm? And what men want to know is,
how do I give women orgasms?

Which is why the focus of tonight's show
is on women. That said, we think

everyone, women and men, could benefit
from taking a bit of the mystery out of

orgasm. So come with us now to our
Garden of Pleasure, where Laura and

begin to unveil the secrets to better
loving orgasms and all.

Here are Emmen Lowe's tips on how
orgasms can be improved with just a few

techniques.

Delaying climax for him will help make
sure she's fully aroused and ready for

orgasm, and heighten sexual tension for
both of you.

Men can learn to delay the moment of
orgasm by practicing on their own.

Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm.

Then back off until you're under
control. Then repeat.

Then try this with your partner.

When approaching orgasm, stop for a
moment.

Try changing positions.

Or switch to manual or oral sex to delay
climax and increase the power of the

eventual orgasm.

At the point of climax, enhance the
sensation of your orgasm.

by using your hands to spread the energy
released during sex throughout your

bodies.

And always remember to breathe.

Many people hold their breath at the
point of orgasm.

But breathing deeply ensures plenty of
blood is flowing to those sensitive

endings, heightening every sensation.

As we've already said, all good sex
doesn't have to end in a big bang. But

tonight, we're here to show you how it
can.

There'll be more from Laura and Ricardo
later when they show us some of the best

positions and techniques for women and
men to achieve orgasm. So, stick around

because we'll be meeting a woman who
says she can teach us how to have the

ultimate orgasm. And we investigate the
claim that a little prick can make a big

impact on your vagina.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything, the only show guaranteed to

better at sex, if you pay attention.

Still to learn on Sex, How to Do
Everything, our young couple of sex

investigators, Georgie and Dougie,
examine the new G -Shot procedure to

the female orgasm.

Laura and Ricardo give us a second
lesson in orgasmic lovemaking, and we

the secret to what some people think is
the ultimate female orgasm.

Female ejaculation.

Since we're asked about orgasms all the
time, we thought we'd turn the tables

and ask just how important orgasms are
to you. And whether there is any

difference between the great British
orgasm and the big O in the Big Apple.

How important is it for you to always
have an orgasm during sex?

I would say it's imperative, really.

I can go without.

I'm fine with it. It's nice, but it's
not going to affect what I think of them

or the sex, I don't think. I'll just not
do it and have a ham sandwich or

something. It doesn't always happen,
right?

How important is it?

Pretty important.

I try to, every time.

The end result is very important.

Otherwise, I'll just be like, come on,
you know, what am I supposed to do now?

How important is it for your partner to
have an orgasm during intercourse?

Extremely important.

If she's not happy, then I'm not happy.
Depends which partner I've got, male or

female. But for the female, I think it's
very important.

I think it's important for both sexes to
be orgasmed.

If I come, that's important to me. If he
comes, that's fine.

Have you ever faked an orgasm? Yeah, I
have, yeah. I ain't gonna lie.

Sometimes you've got to, just to make
him feel better about himself.

Only because it was awkward and it was
going on for a bit long.

Well, guys, it's hard to fake. If you're
having a good time, you're having a

good time. Faked an orgasm.

That would be rather tricky and
complicated, but no, no.

Have you ever faked an orgasm?

Yeah. Yeah.

I hope not with me.

I tended to, um, kind of...

exaggerate or embellish when I was the
formulator.

Do the shit about it.

Are you kidding me? All the time.

So there's a whole lot of faking going
on on both sides of the pond.

Now listen, we're no fans of fancy terms
for different types of orgasm. For us,

an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. But
we do think the more you know about a

woman's body, the more chance you'll
have of finding the key spots that might

get her off.

So we decided to ask the red -blooded
American male, where is the G -spot, the

most famous spot of all?

Let's see, if I was extending myself
into the area, I would try to attempt to

get there.

Is it general?

and vibrates. That's actually going in
the tushy.

That's going in the tushy? Yeah. This is
the vaginal canal right here. Well, is

this a guy or a girl?

I guess it's in there. I don't know.

Well, you've actually gone in the
bladder, so you probably want to back

aim more towards the vaginal canal.

I don't even know where to start. It
kind of looks like the Grand Canyon.

We'll give you a hint.

Can you pinpoint the G -spot fault?

Yes. My daughter turned away.

That's pretty good.

I'd say that's a little bit too far
inside.

It's where my experience has shown it to
be for me.

Not on me, but for me. Your wife could
point you in either direction.

But actually, what feels best for her
might be up higher.

She's a screamer, what can I tell you?

Nice!

Right in this area here.

That's really good. I'm impressed.

Oh, hell.

There.

Way off, buddy. Way, way off. I don't
even know what that is.

Here's a vaginal canal.

Okay. She spots about one or two inches
inside on the front wall.

Okay. Right around there.

I hope this is not going to be shown in
America.

It's going to ruin my reputation.

So it seems like a lot of you out there
still need a quick anatomy lesson.

So the G spot, it lies about two inches
inside the vaginal canal on the upper

front wall. Now the G spot usually
responds to firm, steady pressure in a

hither gesture.

Now, for some women, this leads to
orgasms galore. But for others, it's

an annoying sensation. It feels a bit
like you have to wee. And for still

others, it's downright uncomfortable.

Now, if you are in the latter category,
there are some other great spots for you

to look out for.

There's the A spot, deep inside the
vaginal canal, again on the upper wall,

way past the G spot. For some women,
it's great for lubrication.

Then there's the perineal sponge, which
can be stimulated on the back wall of

the vagina, kind of opposite where the G
spot is. spot is, or you can get to it

indirectly via the perineum. And of
course, let's not forget the all

clitoris. The clitoral head is just the
tip of the iceberg of the clitoris,

which is actually a network of nerves
which extends throughout her entire

genital region.

It's very, very important for many
women's orgasms.

Another good anatomy tip, your pelvic
floor muscles wrap around all your good

bits down there. And if you exercise
them through kegels, they actually can

really help your orgasms. So here's how
to do your kegels. You know when you

have to wee and you hold it? Well,
squeeze those muscles. Contract,

contract, and hold. Do several
repetitions throughout the day, and

notice a difference in the power of your
orgasms.

Most men like the sensation of deep
penetration.

A great position for this is the doggy.

This sensation can be improved if she
leans forward into the half -doggy.

Her vaginal canal lengthens, and you can
thrust even deeper.

Be careful not to thrust too deep,
though, as you might hit the cervix.

Be gentle.

and aim downwards towards her G spot.

Use your free hands to stimulate her
clitoris or bottom.

The cowgirl, with her on top, is the
most female orgasm friendly position.

You can improve your cowgirl technique
by

leaning back, which will bring his penis
to the front wall of your vagina, and

he may just hit your G -spot.

Then, try leaning forward and grinding
your hips back and forth.

This will give you more labial and
clitoral stimulation.

So ladies, you can see the importance of
taking charge of your own orgasm. You

should never feel bad about doing
whatever you have to do to get to your

Now, if you input the word sex into a
well -known search engine, it comes up

with about 747 million entries.

And that means there are an awful lot of
sexual experiences, techniques, and

products out there to investigate.

So we thought we needed a hand and have
recruited our very own Sex How To Do

Everything roving reporters to try some
of them out for us.

Yep. Our adventurous young couple,
Georgie and Dougie, will be road testing

everything you can imagine, along with
some things you probably can't. So let's

meet our intrepid sex list, Georgie and
Dougie. Welcome to the show.

Hello.

So what did you decide to road test this
week?

Well, this week I wanted to try a
controversial procedure. It's designed

enhance the female orgasm, and it's
called the G -Shot. Should we take a

Yes.

What can we do for you?

I'm here to try your G -Shot. Do you get
clitoral orgasm? Yes.

What about vaginal orgasm?

That's more unusual.

I tend to need self -stimulation in
order to have an orgasm. Fine, okay.

This is the model of a female pelvis.

Somewhere at the front of the vaginal
wall, there is a very sensitive area.

So what we do is...

We give an injection to that area to
enlarge it to about the size of a 10p

We use a special collagen specifically
designed for this process.

Is there anything you want to ask me
before we go to the next stage?

Normally, before enlargement, how big?

A few millimeters.

How long do I have to wait before we can
have sex?

Four hours. After that, you can have
sex. Four hours.

Wow.

That's great.

Thank you. We're going to the
examination room now.

Okay. Thank you. Thank you.

I'll see you later.

Can I get on the bed?

A little bit nervous right now,
obviously.

Georgie is in there having the procedure
done.

And, yeah, quite excited to see her
after.

Check she's okay and then...

If everything's okay, have some fun
later.

Hello, lovely.

How's that?

Fine. Yeah? Yeah. Straightforward?

Very straightforward. No pain?

No. No.

No.

You feel nothing yet? Second, like
having any injections.

Oh, Georgie, four hours to go. What are
we going to do?

I

think

that with my enhanced G -spot...

I certainly have a lot more awareness of
where it is. I think it's much easier

to locate it manually as well. And in
this way, I feel that

orgasm will be a lot easier to achieve,
or certainly the kind of orgasms that

derive from internal stimulation.

Which position works best for the G
-spot?

I would say any angle.

where the front wall of your vagina is
stimulated by the penis, so from behind,

certainly. This is what we
affectionately like to call doggy style.

If it's fingers, it would be a come
-hither action. It's a sort of anything

stimulates the front wall of the vagina.
So that certainly was very, very

intensely pleasurable and a surge of
sensation.

First of all, we have to ask, why did
you want to get this done?

I thought that it would be a great
opportunity to try something that I

ever heard of before and something that
sounded new and exciting and that could

possibly be like a magic orgasm button,
I guess. So I just wanted to try that.

Why would you let someone come near your
vagina with such a big needle?

I think it was, it just seemed like an
exciting opportunity to try it.

And what was sex like the first time
after the injection?

It was very exciting because we had this
new thing to try.

It was kind of let's get back and kind
of road test this and see if it works.

It was exciting in that way, but apart
from I guess it was slightly heightened

sense, but it was more the kind of...

Being able to get our hands on each
other again, I think. So big question,

you have an orgasm? Not right after I'd
had it done, well, four hours after I

had it done.

Probably just because of the procedure,
it kind of needed a little time.

And have your orgasms felt different
since then?

A couple of them were far more intense,
with more of an internal, deep,

resonating kind of orgasm.

But it's not the magic orgasm button I
thought it would be. So how did it make

your body feel different?

Certainly a greater awareness of my G
-spot.

But in other ways, I would say it's
probably I'm finding that my

clitoral sensation is somewhat
decreased. I don't know if that's

with it.

That's a bummer. Yeah.

So were there any other negative side
effects?

Yeah, I sometimes have a sensation of
needing to pee.

Quite often, actually.

Not certainly since the procedure.

But not negative.

I mean, even that in itself can be
quite... So, Dougie, how did it feel

differently for you?

I would say there was no difference. It
was still fantastic having sex with

Georgie, as you can see.

Yes, we can.

And no difference to me.

But it was great fun.

Would you do it again?

No, I don't think I would. Why not? I
think once is enough. I think because

quite invasive.

And there are other ways which are more
nurturing and can be part of foreplay

between two people or just to do with
encouraging people to explore themselves

more. And there are certainly a myriad
of other ways of doing it rather than in

that procedural kind of way.

So can you give us a recap?

Yes, the G -Short is available on Harley
Street.

It costs £800 and it has been documented
in some women that it may draw more

attention to the G -Spots and increase
vaginal orgasms. But I would say

prolonged arousal and taking time to
gently explore and it will burst into

anyway. Yeah, we would say with the
possible side effects, we definitely

wouldn't recommend it ourselves.

Yeah, there are definitely a lot more
natural ways that you can work on

improving your orgasm. Well, thank you
so much, Dougie and Georgie, for giving

it a shot, so to speak.

Well, we look forward to seeing you next
time. Thank you.

Still to come on Sex, How to Do
Everything, we ask a famous seducer of

if their lust for love left them with
legs of lead.

We'll also show you why the cat is a
great alternative to the doggy. That's

coital alignment technique.

And we'll whet your appetite with what
some claim is the ultimate orgasm,

ejaculation.

Welcome back to Sex, How to Do
Everything, a comprehensive guide to,

to do everything better. And tonight
we're having better orgasms. Lots of

So in the next half hour, we'll uncover
the immense power of the orgasm.

Our evening class continues with Laura
and Ricardo showing us the CAT. That's

the coital alignment technique. And it's
one of the best ways for women to

climax.

We get the results of our field study
into how orgasm affects sporting

performance.

And we learn how to achieve what some
people think is the ultimate female

orgasm.

Marina Lindbergh is the creator of the
Orgasm Diet, which she claims has

her to orgasm over 100 times a day.

Before she discovered this diet and
wrote her book, Marina rarely had

But by eating lots of protein, dark
chocolate, and tons of fish oil, Marina

she has raised her testosterone levels.
And this, she believes, is one of the

keys to becoming super orgasmic.

So we've heard that you can climax
within 10 seconds. Is that true? Yeah.

I can have like 50 in a row.

Like that.

That was fast.

No, I'm fast.

I'm fast. That's what I'm saying. I come
on penetration.

So you wrote a book called The Orgasm
Diet so you could share the love. Tell

about this diet and how you came upon
it. I started doing things to be more

healthy and eat better, and I became
spontaneously orgasmic. So I isolated

elements and figured out what was
causing it and then told other women,

tried it and had the same result.

So what are some of the foods that are
part of this diet?

Well, mostly it's fish oil. It's high in
omega -3 fatty acids, EPA and DHA.

We evolved eating a lot of omega -3
fatty acids in our diet.

So I'm a vegetarian, I don't eat fish,
and I eat a lot of soy. Does that mean

that my sex life should be terrible?

Not exactly, but you really do want to
cut out tofu, soy milk, things like

and substitute something else.

Why? What's the effect?

It kills your testosterone.

So what's your personal best?

Definitely low hundreds, I would say.
Maybe high hundreds. I could keep going.

could have another one right now, too.

Yes, please.

I'll have to sort of get in the right
mood because I'm excited about talking

with you, so I have to sort of relax and
think about men.

I wasn't sure I was going to be able to

do it.

That was it?

Yeah, I mean, it's not that. I'm used to
hiding them.

So do you ever just abstain for a day?

Well, after I ovulate for two days, the
ability goes away. Or if I'm coming down

with a cold, it goes away too.

And you think definitely any woman can
gain this power?

She has to have good testosterone to
begin with, good total testosterone, but

will help. And, yeah, it's that easy.

Well, thanks, Marina, for coming.

No pun intended.

My pleasure. I enjoyed it.

Now, if you don't fancy fish oil, try
our simpler route to orgasm.

Let's see how Ricardo and Laura get to
grips with the big cat in our little old

love jungle.

The cat, as you may know, stands for
coital alignment technique, and it's the

best way for a lot of women and the only
way for some to achieve orgasm during

intercourse.

One of the best positions for the female
orgasm is the cat or coital alignment

technique.

Start in the missionary position.

Put your arms under her armpits and hold
her shoulders to create as much full

body contact as you can.

Pull your body up towards her head with
your body gently resting on hers until

your pelvises are aligned.

She then tips her pelvis away until only
the tip of the penis is still in her

vagina.

Much of the shaft and base of the penis
will now be pushing against her external

genitalia and clitoris.

She then tilts her hips up at the same
time as you move down and your whole

penis fully enters her.

Repeat this hip rocking action, keeping
as much full -on contact as possible.

The goal is to keep a constant pressure
rubbing the area between her pubic bone

and her vaginal opening.

The bitch of a position to get the hang
of, but well worth the effort if you put

in the time to figure it out. Amen,
sister.

So the orgasm. We talk about it, read
about it, and there are probably

of people having one right now.

But when we are having that special
moment, what is actually happening to

bodies and how do we feel afterwards?

We took to the streets to ask you if
having an orgasm makes you perform

outside the bedroom.

It's great. You wake up, you feel a bit
more positive about the day.

An orgasm in the morning does inspire my
writing.

It really helps me with my art, yeah.

You just go into work and you're so much
more, you know, ecstatic and happy.

I was a small man, so... But what of
that hoary old chestnut that sex before

sport inhibits an athlete's performance?

Olympic gold medal winner Linford
Christie agrees. He reckons not having

makes you more aggressive.

But legendary footballer and womanizer
George Best said it never affected his

performance. So we decided to settle the
debate once and for all by testing

ordinary people's sporting prowess
before and after Climax.

Just for fun, of course.

South London, an international athletics
arena.

Four people, three men and a woman
competing in the ultimate physical

against each other and themselves.

testing their body's athletic
performance both pre - and post -orgasm.

Me, personally, I don't think sex or any
sport event actually matters.

My last orgasm I had was about seven
days ago, and it was with someone.

My last orgasm was three days ago with
my current boyfriend, who I'm with now.

It was a bum fella.

The last time I had an orgasm is about a
week ago now, last Friday, and

depressingly, I gave it to myself.

We've met the contestants. Now let the
pre -orgasm games begin.

On your marks, get set, go.

The contestants first took part in a 60
-metre hurdles dash, immediately

followed by about as intense circuit
trends.

Exertion's over, let's look at the
contestants' pre -orgasmic combined

and circuit times.

Coming in first is amateur boxer Oliver,
followed by Sunday League footballer

Andy, with keen jogger Debbie and couch
potato Anthony lagging behind.

Post -race, our contestants are allowed
one hour to get back to their pre -race

fitness level.

Then it's over to the pavilion, where
there's no more rest for the wicked.

Time for them to unburden themselves.

All in the name of science.

While they get busy, here are some facts
about the orgasm.

The longest recorded female orgasm was
43 seconds and consisted of 25 separate

contractions.

The average time for a man to recover
from his orgasm and be able to have sex

again is 30 minutes.

This is known as the refractory theory.

After periods of abstinence, an
ejaculation can be up to six

just over a teaspoonful.

Post -orgasm, how will our contestants
fare as once more we put them through

their sporting paces?

Will it be with heavy legs and heavy
hearts, or will there be a newfound

in their step?

Go! And they're off.

Thrusting forward over the hurdles,
there appears to be no adverse effects.

Well, maybe for some.

Sex machine Oliver, on the other hand,
seems full of vim and vigor.

And to think this man has come twice in
the last six hours.

Quite remarkable.

And so to the reckoning.

Has there been a change in our
contestant's performance post -orgasm?

all of the men's post -orgasm
performances were slower.

Whereas our female contestant, Debbie,
actually improved her performance post

-orgasm by five seconds.

So men who want to up their game should
maybe think about delaying their orgasms

till after the sporting event.

And women, if you want your man to help
with anything strenuous, then make sure

you ask him, please sex.

Completely shagged out.

It's hard work.

Just, yeah, really, really, really
tired.

A bit tired.

Been a handjob took out of me.

To tell us more about their orgasms and
how well they perform, please welcome an

actress and model who has scored with
many sporting legends, Alicia Duval.

a man who was integral to Wales' 2008
Six Nations winning squad, Lee Byrne,

sexual physician, Dr. John Dean, who is
here to tell us how an orgasm affects

your performance in everyday life.

Welcome to the show.

So, John, what do you make of our
unscientific findings, the ones that

just seen?

Well, I think they're the happiest
research subject that I've ever seen.

But how about the results? Is there any
truth in the results?

This is a subject that has been
researched and...

The evidence is that sporting
performance is not significantly

So, Lee, how about you? Do you believe
in sex before sport?

Well, some coaches do have a ban on sex
before games, but certainly rugby

doesn't happen, you know.

I certainly wouldn't believe in having
sex before games, and every time I've

done it, I've gone out and had a man on
the mat, so it can't be that bad, I

suppose.

We've heard that the Welsh have been
doing pretty well this year. They won

Grand Slam. Was sex before sport
anyone's secret weapon?

No, obviously the girlfriends and the
wives were banned from the hotel, so it

was quite difficult. Obviously there's
other ways to do it, like masturbate, so

I suppose that's what we were doing.

Obviously we won the Grand Slam, so we
couldn't have done it anyhow.

So a good wank before the game is maybe
in order.

You've done it before a game?

I have to confess, yeah, I have, yeah.
And what's the shortest time before a

game that you've met?